Are we boring? Nah, we get way too many social invites. Everyone else is just typically louder so we're observing, interjecting at our own pace and having a great time and then some genius asks why we're so quiet...
@@Quetzalcoatl-Dragon_97 I know, right? For some it's really just their natural volume. Personally I'm hypersensitive to sound so possibly it's just my perception but then again, I do have an ENFP friend who increases his volume when he's trying to convince people that he's right. Ha!
I didn’t know I was Infj until I was 53. I thought there was something wrong with me. Nobody understood where I was coming from and I had the hardest time trying to explain my point of view. And when I did, the look on their face told me to be quiet. How wonderful it was when I found Myers Briggs! Now I don’t worry that I’m so quiet and love being home alone. It really was life altering for me to find out that there was a reason my mind works the way it does. Thanks, Frank
yes i totally relate to this. i am INTJ & it was the same wonderful effect on me when i learned that fact. i now move along with a lot more confidence!! it's very freeing !! too bad it took that to get here but at least we got there!!
I was 60 when I found out there was an answer to my weirdness. It was like a huge weight was lifted off my shoulders! I don't have to fit in or try to be acceptable...I am me and that's acceptable.
I can't speak for INFJ's but I remember being called boring when I was seventeen for not living a reckless lifestyle. This was the start of a downward spiral as I spent the next few years trying to prove this person wrong and in the process lost myself in the crowd. Now I realise they did not have my interests at heart and were just wanting to endorse their own behaviour. I now no longer care if someone thinks i'm boring. It's a matter of perspective. I think all people are made in the image of God and are therefore intrinsically both unique and creative INFJ or not.
@@adoseofmandi Hi, No worries, I'm 46 now, married with 3 boys so a lot of water under the bridge since then but I still vividly remember the day so words are powerful. If I can help someone younger to know their worth and not make the mistakes I did then I'm glad to share. God bless.
Hopefully, now that you are other mature age and that experience is behind you, you realize that and following a cautious path you were making the wise choice. INFJs are vulnerable because we care so much for what other people want and need, even if it is not in our best interests. We want to please. We want to achieve. Unfortunately, we often make the mistake of perceiving another's point of view as something desirable. The trick for the infj is learning that they have to be faithful to their own point of view. One's own point of view is all that matters, after all. It is most especially true in the infj because of our peculiar talents.
I understand, I'm a teenager right now and I know I'm not boring but I can't help but feel like I am or like I'm wasting my youth because I'm not being reckless.
@@emilys5014 It's difficult to swim against the tide especially in school or college. Just be careful how much influence you let your peers have on you. I hope you are able to find friends of good character to share your journey. It sounds like you are already making good decisions which you won't regret. If the time comes that you need to take a risk then own it but don't be pressured to be foolhardy because of other's expectations. God bless.
I am often jealous of introverted feelers. They are very charming because they seem to be really themselves and they say what they wanna say in their own way. And people really admire them.
any other infj's who usually have a deep feelings for someone just by making eye contact for a couple of minutes? it really not good for me because If something that I don't like happens, I feel like I got betrayed :/
I can’t stand not seeing a persons eyes, it drives me insane and puts me on edge especially meeting people online, I don’t care about how you look, just so long as I can your eyes I’m fine.
LetsTalkAboutFeelings ::: That’s definitely some over-analyzing for sure. 😂 Honestly though, I can kinda relate but in the sense that for me, I try to not fall into my “INFJ” stare because it always makes people feel uncomfortable so I often have to look away and it kills me inside because I wanna look but I don’t want to seem like some psycho stalker. Could you imagine two INFJs staring at each other? Lol it would be amazing. The big thing is just realizing the difference between staring and just looking. I know I kinda look away and don’t let people see my eyes when I’m feeling vulnerable and can’t hide the emotion in my eyes at that moment. Yaknow?
@@LetsTalkAboutFeelings the reference is to 1 of the 5 love languages from the book The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. Similar to MBTI and Ennegram, it's based off a quiz that helps you identify your love language preferences - in other words, how you prefer to express and receive love to/from others. The 5 love languages are 1) physical touch, 2) quality time, 3) acts of service, 4) words of affirmation, and 5) (tangible) gifts. You can probably foresee what your individual preferences would be, but I suggest taking the test to have a better understanding to respond to the above question.
@@AwakenOhSleeperGaming I agree with the way you described how you are conscious about how others feel uncomfortable with our studious stares. I intentionally try to be secret about how I observe others...almost like an undercover cop incognito.😚🎶😏😚🎶😇
I was a little taken aback when I saw the word snowflake attached to an infj because in my experience an infj may seem shy or delicate but they can mop the floor with you. By the time we've met someone for about 15 minutes we pretty much have already figured out what could bring them to their knees and what would make them smile in gratitude. Thank God our empathy makes us want to leave them smiling and feeling good about themselves. Great video, Frank. Sincerely, The Lunatic I'm looking for.😁
Regarding myth number 5 - being fake, I definitely say that’s a myth, yet I often feel that my extroverted feeling is a wall that I can’t help putting in front of me when I interact with someone I don’t know or am not comfortable with. I don’t tend to share my real thoughts and feelings in such cases. This is really hard to explain. I go into this auto-mode where I’m very very nice and laugh a lot and try to engineer a nice conversational experience. The problem is my brain seems to turn off and the other person is not able to get to know me. It’s not fake, because I really care and am interested in people, but it’s just not reflective of anything that really goes on in my mind. It feels like I’m trying too hard. I wish I could explain it better!
My goodness, I have been doing that since 6th grade and up to now, I tend to wonder if I would still be considered genuine, towards my few friends, if I explained to them that I put on a front at times in order to get the best outcome possible. It doesn't take me a lot of effort to do that and often feels natural but, at the same time I feel some guilt that I'm not displaying my innermost feelings through my facial expressions. Is that considered an INFJ sort of thing? I am a bit confused as to whether I fall under being an ISFJ or INFJ.
I'm a senior in highschool right now and honestly this is how I am everytime I have to work with someone I don't know. I kind of put on that "let's get to business face" and get everyone going because I wouldn't be able to survive an awkward silence.
I don't think that I've ever been fake except one time when I applied for a job at a fancy shmancy flower shop and actually tried to impress the owner with a performance beyond what I could have maintained long-term. I knew how to talk and act really polished, but it wasn't me and I could tell from the look on the faces of the owner and staff that they knew it was an act. Other than that, I am always me. But that doesn't mean that anyone knows me really well, though they might think they do. I let out some of my personality. How comfortable I feel with them determines how much they get to see. I surprised the music director of my church one time, after asking her what she thought of a poem I wrote about Moses. It's an epic, 400 verses. She said, "It's amazing." I really valued her opinion because she was very creative and expert. She provided backup music for famous singers. I wanted to know what she meant by that, so I bluntly asked her, "What do you mean? When people share stuff with me that I think is weird, I will say it's amazing or it's interesting. Do you mean it's amazing good or amazing bad?" She looked at me steadily for a few moments before she answered, as if she had never really seen me before. That nice polite woman with the bland expression on her face had more going on in her head than she had guessed. Finally, she said, "It's good, Lanny."
I actually loathe being this type. It's horrendous at best, rare or not. I'm clumsy beyond words, I lose like everything in the blink of an eye, I attract weird people, I overthink and overanalyze EVERYTHING before making any freakin decisions...it's disturbing...and I find it horrendously difficult to control my temper when I'm overwhelmed and Jeez, am I easily overwhelmed. I hate it.
I used to be like that too. But with the extremes in weaknesses, there's a lot of extremes in strengths too. The weaknesses pushed me into a deep depression, the strengths helped me help myself & get through, grow as a person, put some mechanisms in place to control my emotional reactions & avoid spiraling. Admittedly it took 5 years of hard work but now I'm doing what I love & speeding towards my goals. Most important of all, I learned how to be happy & how to protect my happiness. Also, the overanalyzing helped me in therapy a lot and with the guidance of my therapist, I could successfully find my patterns and isolate them without bias. It is a lot of hard work and time consuming but the results are worth it.
Hey - I also have a very similar sorta experience to you where I really hate myself for being "clumsy" or "incompetent" or "scatterbrained" and "sensitive" BUT, just know that every, and I mean EVERY disadvantage can be turned into an advantage, and that you, no matter how hard it may seem, will be able to find the light in your darks. Excuse the next very INFP sentence, but: After every winter is spring, after every rainfall is a rainbow, and behind every storm cloud is a silver lining and behind that is the sun and moons and stars. You got this. Stay strong.
You know...before I got into MBTI and finding out what Ni is, I used to struggle telling people exactly what I'm doing. It used to be my "Spider Web" in which I weave together several points of information and see what it has laid out for me. And despite being right 9 outta 10 times, I never say I'm predicting the future. I just frankly tell them that based on what I've heard, this could happen and I'm just warning you. Do what you want with it. Heheh.
4:55 - Yes, I'm an INTJ, wife's INFJ, both are accused of being pretty outgoing. We laugh amongst ourselves about this as we enjoy a nice quiet evening in our cave...
I have to say that being an infj is oftentimes being a protector. I was dreaming that I was at a party and there was a hot cup of coffee on a table and a few children running around the room. All the adults were just talking and laughing but I never kept my eyes off of the children and the cup. I always felt like I have to be aware of dangers to the people around me. Sure, I can be a melted snowflake on the floor but, I do get to know people very quickly and the only reason I would ever use something against them to hurt them would be under distress. If I felt like I was being cornered and abused or if I saw someone abusing someone else. That's when I say a line or two and suddenly that person knows that I know them and that I can hurt their feelings badly so they walk away. I think one of the strongest aspects of an infj is being a protector. So, don't pick on anyone when I'm around.😁carlyflake
I feel very protective of people, too, especially children. One time, I was walking past McDonald's and I saw a little girl around four years old, sitting by herself in a car parked at the curb. And the window was rolled down! I thought, "Who left this kid out here by herself? Probably is having a visit with her divorced Dad." One that was self-absorbed. I couldn't imagine that the mother would do this. Someone could have snatched that child and been gone with her in just seconds. I sat at a picnic table to keep watch over here until her Dad came back and then I was going to have words with him. Everything was fine until I saw her head go down because she was crying. I couldn't stand to not do something to comfort her. I went to the car and stood there with my hands behind my back so that people could see I was not touching the car door. I asked her, "Are you here with your Daddy? Where is he?" In a few minutes, her mother was standing next to me, and a boy who looked about nine or ten years old, carrying bags of food. She should have been there right away, whether her order was ready or not. I asked, "Are you her mother?" She narrowed her eyes and said, "Yes, and I was watching you the whole time." I said in disgust, "You should have been watching your kid. You shouldn't have left her alone in the car!" (She should at least have left her older brother with her, instead of taking him with her to help her carry the bags of food.) She snapped at me that it was none of my business. The little girl stopped crying when her mother and I were arguing. She looked surprised. If nothing else, at least she knew that someone cared about her distress and tried to help her. I walked away from the encounter thinking that neglected or abused children are everybody's business. I was on my way to church, which was across the street, to attend a class about getting involved in children's ministry, and then I realized that it had been a test. What would have been the point of getting involved in teaching Sunday school or looking after babies in the nursery, if I could have walked past a child who was in danger, without doing anything to protect them?
With regard to being psychic (and adding to what you said about Ni), I think it may also come from the processing of information that more extroverted types miss since they aren't silently taking it all in and creating an outcome from it. So we aren't psychic as much as extra observant :D
I totally agree, except for the tunnel vision as it is depicted in this video. To the INFJ, the world is a 3 (or sometimes 4) dimensional, a world made up of more and more systems; like a 3 dimensional spider web. We link the completely different systems into larger systems. We don't have tunnel vision, we see the systems web. But you are right in that all we are capable of multiple outcomes, when we are passionate about a specific idea, which takes all of the above in account. We without a doubt believe that we KNOW we are correct . Having said that, again because of our system spiderweb it is possible for us to completely believe we are 100% right of the far distant implications of all our possibilities. The craziness comes when we try to layer or create a way that completes a larger system to amalgamate all of our possible outcomes .And God help those who have to listen to us go through this process and then hear our "great revelation" about the near and distant future 😁 One more thing, in another video you mentioned dating and soulmates: I agree with your statement about how tedious we find dating. But I don't think I fall into the solemate trap. And here is why: around 25 years ago I came to the conclusion that my true solemate, someone like me so I can totally relate to and can totally relate to me, I would never meet. They would value their own private time, be working on their own system spiderweb and researching, pondering etc their own reality. There would be like 1000 to 1 that we would never meet. So I, liking my independence above all things was quite fine with this life long future epiphany. I will be 49 yrs old July 24, 2019 and am glad that I had this knowledge early in life and that I didn't give up my independence. Even though I outwardly appear as an extrovert when required, and very understanding and caring when required. I do have a small group of friends who I charish deeply, I love them for who they are and they know they can totally be themselves around me, as I can with them. However, I would never say this outloud, when I get home, I am happy for the visit, but deep down I feel that somehow I know that yes I can be myself, I am painfully aware that the visit and my bonds with my friends is, for the lack of a more suitable explanation , I know these relationships are one sided. It sounds so cruel and I don't want it to be like that, but truly there are so many things on so many levels that I know would be difficult to understand, and its not that I can't explain things well. At my place of employment I now officially train all new staff and refresh classes too. I also teach Excellence in Facilitation. When I am training staff i can immediately understand how exactly that person learns. Or in my larger Facilitation courses, I am extremely good at answering questions that an individual might have because they are struggling with a concept. I know how to first make sure they don't feel stupid and then I can change my expectation so that individual can comprehend. Once other students see this non judgement it allows for more students to ask questions thus ensuring a greater level of understanding and I have a 98% pass rate. p.s. I work for a very large organization.
FJ, I truly enjoyed this video, fist bumps and all! :) My experience as a INFJ... Thoughts: We are not Snowflakes. Actually we are stronger than most people think, because looks are deceiving; we do not conform to what society's standards are for 'normalcy'. Honestly, sometimes I wish I was not an INFJ because of feeling like an outsider, not a rare commodity. INFJs are authentic individuals and are rarely fake. We are very passionate in our ways. We like to be truthful and cherish truthfulness and sometimes this gets us into trouble, because most people hate to hear the truth. And I wish I was psychic; I would play the lotto and vanish forever. Get away from the energy draining suckers. lol Now being timid and shy, no way, we mainly like to be around interesting people and/or surroundings on our terms because of how much energy we absorb from others. Also I think we have the most complex functioning minds, kind of like a deep matrix or fast whirlwind, working at the same time. Our mind process differently which makes it hard for us to communicate our thoughts verbally, thus staying quiet.
wow i love your post... i think you are exactly correct. sometimes ppl think INFJ's aren't "strong" because of their gentle ways but i think they are one of the strongest types. deep inside they have a real fortitude. i love & respect that. i've had an INFJ sig other & really value all their great characteristics, esp over the years grow to love & appreciate them more & more... be glad you are INFJ!!
Introverted intuition is absolutely a super power in that we have access to a multidimensional perspective. Not just about the future, but about the meaning of life and seeing “outside the box”. There’s something very special about being able to follow ones intuition and always being in the right place at the right time where synchronicity dances with fate. In theory, anyway 😏
Thanks for busting THOSE MYTHS. I am living with a roommate who is INFJ and life is good. I cook sometimes, or make him fresh popcorn, he throws the trash sometimes, or brings ice cream. Never argued. Talking is nice and easy. No one has to say what has to be done, most of the time one of us wants to do something and turns out it was already done by the other. Equal care for home and private space. No one counts who did what. Good flow, understanding and communication, no resentment. Easy.
I'm special and boring. I'm really sad that I'm not Dumbledore though, so I become super emotional. At least I'm Trelawney #psychic. I realise this comment is giving the appearance of being extrovert but remember I'm rare and special. I shouldn't really comment cause I'm ShY aNd TiMiD. Gosh James, I'm so fake. 💥✨💥✨💥✨💥✨💥✨🐶✨
I'm an ENFP in an INFJ facebook group (so stalkery!) And yeah, it's interesting to see a group of Infjs together. Most of the messages there, are a lot like your comment section. Oddyly Loveable INFJS.
When I took the Myers Briggs test, the results were INTJ. I found an INTJ thread where we were all laughing about the things we had in common. An ENFP "stalked" us and he was so cute, saying how intrigued he was by the inscrutable INTJs. I loved it that he joined in on the thread. I looked up which personality profiles are best for INTJs as a spouse. ENFP was one of them. I started reading it and then thought with surprise, "This is Connor!" (My grandson). I thought we got along so well because grandparents and grandchildren are natural allies, but it's also because our personalities go together. He was so curious about so many things, right from the day after he was born. He soaked up like a sponge all the things I taught him (except reading because he's dyslexic) and we had long, interesting conversations about many things. It was only recently that I realized that I am actually INFJ. I saw another INFJ comment that he tested as INTJ. I have a lot of traits in common with INTJs, but I always thought I was on the light end of the spectrum.
INFJs are sensitive to the emotional vibes people give off, like super tuned into it, and they act as resonators even without trying. Further, because they're resonators, they try to avoid resonating negative emotions that others might pick up on and then then further resonate (which can cause a chain reaction of negativity), hence they often wear a poker face when faced with negative emotions. They usually don't want to say anything that people will misunderstand, and will care about what impact their words have on others (e.g. what the result will be), and so cautious ones will spend a lot of effort selecting the right words. It's not being 'fake' so much as it is just trying to prevent themselves from being caught up in unnecessary entanglements, choosing instead to look at the morality of the situation as being based on the results of their actions. This can come across to others (particularly Fi users who do not value Fe) as being 'fake', when in fact the INFJ often does not have ulterior motives.
On being fake... yes i try to keep peace but authenicity and honesty are very important to me. I look for common ground with people to be authentic when communicating. Usually I can find SOMETHING to communicate honestly with them about. It isn't often that i meet someone... try to find a common ground and end up thinking... "well, I've got nothin." I stay extra quiet in those times.
I have a lot of general knowledge because I have a lot of interests and was always a reader. I can usually find some interest in common with other people and hold a conversation with them. But some people make me feel brain dead. I can't think of a single thing to say to them. Usually, this is when I sense that they expect me to entertain and amuse them. I get away from them as quickly as possible.
i have never really understood the hype about infj rarity, well i can but i wouldn’t attach my identity to it. i believe that all humans are individual and it was nice to find out how I process the world, and how others do too. it’s a tool for bettering yourself. and i really resonate with your response to infjs ‘being emotional and up in their feelings’, like i have no idea what im feeling half the time, and can be quite logical too, but it’s just that my Fe values others emotions and an environment in a general sense. and tbh I think it’s my Fe that makes me timid, even though it’s an extroverted function. im so aware of others and fear doing wrong to them it makes me hold back a bit. thanks for listening to my ted talk
Me, either, I wasn't acted like extrovert that written about INFJ's, I mostly was absorbed into negative emotions and feelings and I even didn't know what I feeling, just like negative mixed fog full of negativity that I was experiencing, than I was entering places, and then I talk, mostly then depends on my mood, but polite manner, Fe makes me so aware so literally I am extremely introverted 91% and not talking so much because so many things happening in my mind, especially my thoughts
This is really good. My INFJ bud is neither too extravert or introvert. She isn’t shy and she has her times when she wants to be alone. Basically everything seems to work well. Also, they are not fake unless they want to deceive you and are immature I noticed. The immature ones give half truth but it’s easy to see behind that facade. My INFJ bud is good at guessing things and she has done it before but I don’t believe that she is psychic in any way because of one guess. I on the other hand need more then one possible route or outcome to look forward to since anything can happen. Thanks FJ!
I always wondered why I was a different person around different friends and then I discovered I was an INFJ and we are good chameleons. I have also found I am usually right with my predictions/ gut feelings, so I am starting to trust them more. Here in UK we have Brexit drama going on- I have been saying for months there with be a second referendum- we’ll see if I am right....
_Thank you,_ Juliette! :) I wish I could say I was cool, but to be completely honest I only stole a character form Charles Dickens... :( But I love Maggie Smith. She's very cool!
@@JF-yv9nt Thank you so much! I don't wanna whine or anything, but this is not a great time for me, and you cheered me up a little bit! :) You know, I love them too. I'm a sucker for those TV series produced by BBC. I've been watching a lot of them lately. Those and western movies. :P Have a nice day, Juliette!
The reading deal is almost automatic for an Infj, or at least for me personally. I can sense a mood of a crowd, or zone it into one person. It's that same reason it's a tendency to have the deep stare. If I sense someone being off, or feeling down I am capable of turning into the class clown to pull them out of a mood depending on how much I care. Other than that time is spent trying to shield myself from them. It all really depends on the circumstances really. Fake, or actually a caring person. Leave it to the peasants to judge I gather.
Speaking of rare snowflakes, it's actually snowing where I am right now... like the sweater. It makes me think of a song, but pretty much everything makes me think of a song lol. And yeah, like what you said about shyness... just last night had to deal with a drunk chick calling me shy, when really I just didn't wanna deal with her drunken stupidity...
“INFJs can come across as fake”. As an INFP (Fi user), I used to see my fiancé’s NiFe that way. At times, it seemed to me that he was blind to his own emotions and agreeable to a fault. While I still think INFJs can risk overextending themselves socially and betraying their values, I’ve seen my fiancé maneuver situations with seemingly supernatural grace and foresight. Moreover, I’ve learned a lot of Fe skills from him. Thanks INFJs :)
A couple of months ago, my mother was mad at me and said, "You're "different," and she didn't mean it as a compliment, but I took it as one. I called her on her birthday, and during our chat, when I said I didn't like to cook, she graciously said, "Well, there's nothing wrong with that. I know ladies who don't like to cook, but they're good at other things." Wow! That is the first time she ever sounded like she accepts me being different from her and from the rest of my siblings.
The story of my life - people often mistake my quietness for timidity. Boy do they get a shock when they realise that I am very capable of standing up for myself. I like to tell them that I can’t even spell the word timid. Except I think I just did 🤔
Hi Frank. I am a new suscriber and have thoroughly enjoyed and been changed somehow by listening to your candid ramblings for the past few dsys. I am an INFJ, and in some ways have found myself getting free “therapy” here on youtube - it’s been great. I wondered if this is an INFJ problem or just me - but the biggest triggers for me for feeling anxiety or depression tend to be when I look in hindsight over my day and can only see the ways in which my choices lead to an inefficient outcome, even though in my mind I KNOW what efficiency would look like. I have an extreme aversion to commenting on anything publicly so this is probably the 4th time I have tried to comment on one of your videos, I hope I actually press send this time - it might help me to get over myself, and climb out of the Ni Ti loop...but again, commenting feels inefficient, so if you’re reading this, I don’t know what that means - I guess it means I pressed the send button. Um, so I might as well tell you thanks for making me laugh a lot in the past few days - because I will probably never comment again. Or maybe I will, who knows.
Personally, I would argue that we are considered rare (special) (myth 1) because of our ability to slide back & forth along the Introv/Extrov continuum (myths 3&4) to fit into various situations (myth 5). I believe we often mistype for these same reasons and are not easily identified as INFJs in the population...thus "rare."
I learned my personality traits early in life and accepted them with comfort. They have served me (and the world) well. Often I'd reply to questions about my personality by saying, "I'm a paranoid optimist." And, "they" would often label me as weird. I love it.
As an isfp, I don’t agree with you on the first myth! Infj’s are special and not at all boring!! They’re one of the most interesting people! 🤗 like I see you’re saying they might not be rare... but everything else is not true!! 🤪
I can predict unwholesome social trends and, many times, they have come true, but I am thankful that it took longer than I thought it would. Also, things can happen to disrupt those trends. Prayer can be powerful.
I went through a phase in elementary school where I was convinced that I was a witch who could predict the future. In reality, I just watched the show Charmed too much. 💁🏻♀️ Glad u busted those myths (with sweet editing to boot). Learning more about my Enneagram type (4w3) also helped me reconcile the fact that a lot of INFJ generalizations don’t quite ring true for me. That said, it’s also made me far more aware of my faults than MBTI ever has...and maybe I could do without that. 😂
i agree with the extroverted introvert thing. ive always felt a bit confused by it as im not extroverted in the slightest but i do feel like im capable of seeming it on rare occasions. i feel a random burst of confidence but normally dont act on it also, admittedly i can get obnoxious, mostly while drinking and in a comfortable environment with trusted friends/family
I feel a LOT but I show nothing. I end up thinking it’s just too tiring to express it. I think we feel the most out of anyone else, but almost never show it. Keeping it to ourselves in our own little world to play out in our heads. Don’t even get me started with asking about my weird expression on my face after going 5 questions deep in something that I can’t describe. Asking me “what’s wrong?” Or “what are you thinking about?” Only for me to reverse uno card your ass and you end up telling me what’s wrong or on your mind and at the same time I’m juggling with what I’m thinking about but paying closer attention to you so I just drop what I was thinking so I can listen.
I felt a lot of things intensely as a child, but in our dysfunctional home, I had to learn to hide those feelings. I had a non-expressive face and a boring voice. When I got older, I had to learn to put inflection in my voice and move more when I talk, so that I could look normal, otherwise people thought I didn't like them. A bit of vivacity was good for getting bigger tips, when I was a waitress. Voice inflections are a part of me, now, though sometimes I still drone on like a college professor when I give people an impromptu and unasked for seminar on history or some other topic that interests me.
I think a lot of the reason some of these myths exist as well is because people equate personal experience to their type and can’t adequately differentiate what is cognitive and what is choice/behavior. Good editing!
Yes, sometimes I have felt like Cassandra, the prophetess whom nobody believed. Particularly in regards to my daughter. Some people have actually listened to me, but it's been uphill with the kid. I wanted to spare her pain, so I tried to warn her about some stuff. She'd answer, "I hafta make my own mistakes!" I'd rather learn from other people's mistakes. She boasts on Facebook that she went through the School of Hard Knocks. Well, that's due to dropping out of regular school in Grade 7 and running around on the streets because she didn't want to obey anyone's rules. If you're going to drop out of school, let it be the School of Hard Knocks.
We are no more rare than an anyone else. We are all unique and thus, everyone is rare. From: a psychic non-shy non-rare INFJ who has learned not to wear her emotions on her sleeve, but who lives in a cave and is authentic . :) I enjoy you.
And on January 20,2019, @0300 PST, the morning of the long-awaited & anticipated Super Blood Full moon Lunar Eclipse, I am awake and able to be here for the posting of this Very Special All Knowing All Telling Video posted by none other than the Infamous Frank James. How Super Special is that? And #7 to like. Using the discernment and discretion I have been granted from In God We Trust, I predict this video will get many more views, likes, & comments. Carpe' Diem & Godspeed!
@Frank James I especially enjoyed this one. 😊 Most of my life, I have had to tell people, "I am not shy. I just stay quiet until there is something that I want or need to say. That is not the same thing as being afraid/intimidated to speak my mind and/or speak up for myself."
My friend also thought I could predict future lmao. And yes sometimes people (even my friends) always got confused with my own thinking. They said I had unique mind. Keep going on make great content~
Great video and love how you broke down how some of the myths of INFJ. As for the rarity I think we might be a rare personality not because we are "amazing or special" but how we think, study and view people or situations so naturally. I was surprised to find out over the years that many of my closest friends were INFJ's. Being in a room with 6 other INFJ's it's amazing how in depth our conversations become. 🤘🏻
Really interesting. I had an ISTJ roommate in college and she was very social and comfortable in large groups, but always need to retreat afterward and balance out with alone time (she made sure to schedule this into her day)
dude 😁 I've always felt like the most boring person in the universe 😅 which isn't an insult 😉 and I've often been accused of being too dispassionate, emotionally. I am extremely introverted, it's just that I'm very focused and engaging in intimate settings. I find that Ns are more likely to interpret my extroverted feeling as fake 😒 There is nothing mystical about infj predictions but 😃 my most impressive one involved meeting my sister's girlfriend. About 30 seconds in, I was shaking her hand and thinking "I like her and I think they will be together for a long time... but she will eventually leave my sister for a man". Unfortunately 😢 that happened 7 yrs later and I still wonder what it was that made me think that, so specifically. My sister has had many girlfriends over the years and that was the only relationship that ended that way. I shared my concerns with my best friend right after I met her, so I know I'm not embellishing retroactively.
Mithra Semiramis Wow. That’s such a cool story. INFJs and their prophetic tendencies make me jealous af :) I hope your sister is alright though. I know it was *years ago, but it’s somewhat sad.
My brother brought his girlfriend over when I was staying at my sister's place. I heard Sherry talking in the kitchen and I thought, "She sounds just like Mom. I think that Johnny's going to marry her." He did. The funny thing is, though, that Johnny thought she was too loud when he first met her. She was dating his friend and they joined Johnny and my sister and her husband for dinner in a restaurant. Johnny is a very quiet introvert. Sherry is very outgoing and she talked quite a bit to the waiter, asking him about the food, pointing at it, and Johnny was so embarrassed that people at other tables could hear her. Afterwards, he said to my sister and her husband, "Boy, I sure feel sorry for the guy who marries her." Lololol! They are still married forty years later.
I think that we can accurately predict how a stranger is going to behave eventually because there is something about them that reminds us of someone we have dealt with before. A lot of men I met after my divorce reminded me of my ex-husband. I knew they were not bad men, but it was likely to be a lot of work to maintain my own personality and tastes, if I got into a relationship with any of them, due to their controlling tendencies. There were also men who reminded me of an ex-boyfriend who was a toxic narcissist. One in particular was very focussed on his clothes. His style was different than the other guy, but their depth of interest was the same. This man was handsome and I knew he liked me. A lot of women would have probably leaped at the chance to go on a date with him. I was a waitress and he always left a decent tip. One day when he came in, I sensed that he had finally worked up the courage to ask me for a date, but I would rather a guy not ask, than to have to tell him no, though I will say no when required. I knew exactly how to put him off. When I served the couple at the table next to him, regulars whom I had chatted with before, I worked it into the conversation that I wanted to get married again and adopt a couple of children. This was true, actually. Lol! That guy got good service, as usual, but he looked ticked off when he paid his bill and HE DIDN'T LEAVE A TIP! He never came into the restaurant anymore, after that.
11:02 !!! For so many years my anxiety made me suffer immensely thinking I already know what is to happen in the future. My mind is literally blown right now I am so grateful for your channel 🙏🏼
“INFJs can let go of emotions that aren’t serving them...I think” Well, in my case, yessiree dude you think right! I’ve never found the words to describe it so well!
Your humor is on par! I find your articulation of the personality type on par. Though there are variables within our experiences that transform our personalities. I can't predict the future as an infj but I can narrow down the results based on observation and variables. I am not fake, I'm aware of my surroundings, capable of articulating my opinions based on those I'm around. I am neither shy nor timid though I do rather find quiet personal time rejuvenating, yet other times I enjoy watching and participating in social engagements expanding my experience and understanding. I find laughter and joy the most exhilarating experiences, taken in doses. People compliment me as rare though I see myself as aware. I always enjoy your videos as a allow me to giggle and recognize the simplicity of who I am!
"It's not like each one of them is freaking Dumbledore or something...they're not shooting lasers out of their eyes..." HAHAHA 😂😂😂 As always, thanks for the laugh! Also...I can 100% relate to what you mentioned about "IJ's" being capable of presenting as an extroverted introvert...that's definitely me. I've been trying to get my thoughts out into the world more lately and a lot of my friends and family were confused when I admitted that I'm really quite introverted (and socially anxious) by nature. ...I tend to hide in my shell at home until I'm ready to go out and "face the world"...in which case, I present more extroverted whenever possible in attempt to "fit in." 😱 You're getting pretty creative with your editing these days, I like it! 🤓 Keep up the good work, Frank! ~Katy
Thanks for an MBTI video! I have to admit I have fallen off that obsession a bit and starting focusing more on The Big 5. Its nice to remember and appreciate where my love for personality assessment started! 😊
My step mom and half sister called me "fake", I used to don't care, but now I can explain it, thanks to you. Also now I can be sure that I'm not a psychic like everyone around me thinks about who I am, except for my boss who thinks that I'm a great asset for the company as I always see few more years ahead. My intuition keeps on saying that I'm not a psychic, I can only see patterns and the result in the future. Without you, FJ, I'd never know the simple logical explanation why we INFJs have the ability to do that, thanks again, and stay superb ;)
Most special, or specialist. Sorry slight grammar nerd. Couldn't get it out of my head until I posted. Love your channel. Thank you so much for helping me find myself. These last two weeks of understanding why I feel the way I do, have changed me for the better. #INFJ
Me too. Lol. However, I am told by others that personality wise I'm not boring. I just don't do typical social stuff that people my age do. Been a theme my whole life. I rather just stay home and learn something new by myself.
I think in our younger state when we’re still getting a grasp on who we are, we can be considered fake because our hope is to find someone to connect with so we try to do things that don’t scare us too much in order to fit in. Having said that, when you find a group of friends with a common interest/headspace/goal etc, you are genuinely THE most authentic person in the room and you don’t have to hide anything. The other well developed INFJs I know are some of my most trusted friends because I know they’re never going to be fake or speak about something they don’t understand. If we’re seeking information, it’s so we can make an informed decision about a situation, for example, whether or not to trust someone. We don’t use the information to tear someone apart. Also, I kinda like being a bit “psychic”. Sometimes I play little games with myself to see what I think actually could happen haha. So random, but actually really fun! You should try it some time!
I honestly think infjs are special but so are every other type. You just gotta find the uniqueness in each type. I am Infj and I dont want others to feel like were more awesome but I think each type needs to grasp their own uniqueness and wear it with confidence.
10:40 I don't know why but I am enjoying as slowly Frank's hair gets worse and worse throughout the video as he keeps Messing with it.😂 He be "triggered" by these myths. 😂
Thank you for posting this I always think there is a problem with my personality because I get so much criticism but now that I'm learning about my personality im beginnings to feel comfortable with it and not try to "fix" it
Every time I think, it’s mostly of possible situations that could possibly happen in my life or to the world, and then I find solutions or ways to help myself to solve or get out of the problem lol. One of my imaginations actually happened, so I was thankful to myself for actually thinking abt the situation because I had a solution for it.
It's a very good thing to think ahead about what we should do in various situations. If we haven't done that, when taken by surprise, we might not think of a solution in time. When I was fourteen, walking home after dark, next to a field, nobody else around, a car slowed down and my heart nearly stopped, as I thought it might be someone who would want to kidnap me. But the driver just slowed down to turn a corner. It was a good thing that happened because it got me thinking what I would do in that situation. I decided I would go to the nearest house and ask for help. I had just arrived at the end of the field, where a row of houses started, when a man slowed down his car and asked if I wanted a ride. I said no. He then drove ahead and parked his car across the sidewalk, so I could not get past him. I hopped over the fence of the first house, went to the back door, and told the man who answered that someone was trying to pick me up. He ran outside to chase them off, but he had already left. That nice man offered to drive me home and I took him up on his offer, asking him to let me off at the end of my road. I wish I had always been that smart in my teens.
That's interesting. I used to want to pick just one outcome but when I realized that wasn't good enough I got really into intuiting probabilities for outcomes and how to shift those probabilities as well or transform something to get a new outcome. I would agree at base Ni tries to understand and solve though.
I have been told I am mature all of my life, so much so that while all my female classmates were learning about how other people have FEELINGS (shocking I know guys) and how to think about other people (I don’t think it worked very well long term aha) I was in class still, with the males. My teacher knew my personality very well, he was a VERY good teacher. Knowing that I didn’t need to be told to be respectful I skipped the long circle sessions. YAY US! *perks of being an Infj !!!
I wonder if you're exceptional. Though I am an INFJ, I didn't even begin to grow up until I was 31 and it took a good kick in the pants to get me going in that direction, when my marriage broke up. In my teens, the older girls in the church thought I was a ditz. When I was 21, my pastor's mother smirked at me and said I wasn't ready to get married. That made me mad and I was married by the end of that year. I should not have been in such a hurry, but the hormones were raging and I thought I had found the right guy.
I feel like the reason why INFJs online are "boring" is because when MBTI communities get together, often the only thing they talk about is what makes them a certain MBTI type. So maybe there is sort of this pressure to conform to the characteristics that are expected of the INFJ type (or whatever type), so they only talk about what they have in common, and maybe even limit their behavior so that no one would question whether they truly are INFJs or if they're impostors/mistyped. In reality, I think they're a lot more different, and interesting than what they appear to be, but maybe these people just subconsciously decide to appear somewhat uniform to one another that they come across as rather boring.
First of all, I enjoy the edits Frank. I am both introverted and shy 🤷🏻♀️ But once I am comfortable with someone and I’m a comfortable environment I become extraverted. I’ve even told I’m psychic... it’s cause I’m always right! Hah.
i am exactly like this too :) but i can pretend to be extroverted anytime i want too (maybe you can too). (but i don't bother to pretend as much as i get older.)
I think Anti-INFJ is new anti-Virgo now. I remember there were some forums and communities criticized, mocked, and hated Virgos in early 2000's when I was a tween. Now, I see a bunch of anti-Advocate/INFJ comments or videos anywhere. Not just UA-cam here. Le sighs... Sometimes, I feel that people just take Myers-Briggs too personally. Hmm...
Are we boring? Nah, we get way too many social invites. Everyone else is just typically louder so we're observing, interjecting at our own pace and having a great time and then some genius asks why we're so quiet...
Why are they so loud?
@@Quetzalcoatl-Dragon_97 I know, right? For some it's really just their natural volume. Personally I'm hypersensitive to sound so possibly it's just my perception but then again, I do have an ENFP friend who increases his volume when he's trying to convince people that he's right. Ha!
I know the feeling...
Chloe H. Ahh I can totally relate to this!
“Why are you so quiet”is such a loud way of exposing ignorance and close mindedness. It makes me roll my eyes and smile now. Before, it cut deep
I didn’t know I was Infj until I was 53. I thought there was something wrong with me. Nobody understood where I was coming from and I had the hardest time trying to explain my point of view. And when I did, the look on their face told me to be quiet. How wonderful it was when I found Myers Briggs! Now I don’t worry that I’m so quiet and love being home alone. It really was life altering for me to find out that there was a reason my mind works the way it does. Thanks, Frank
Lisa Barnes I was 54 so I hear you. It’s made me relax more and enjoy who I am.
Oh God.. that look 😂
yes i totally relate to this. i am INTJ & it was the same wonderful effect on me when i learned that fact. i now move along with a lot more confidence!! it's very freeing !! too bad it took that to get here but at least we got there!!
Same. I took test 2yrs ago at 50. It has also helped me relate to my 17yr old daughter who also took the test at school and is INFJ.
I was 60 when I found out there was an answer to my weirdness. It was like a huge weight was lifted off my shoulders! I don't have to fit in or try to be acceptable...I am me and that's acceptable.
I love how your humor comes out through your editing techniques
It really does! ✨
Plus his humor is so Pewdiepie like 🤣🤣
Or the ease I apparently happen to feel when he just says he's gonna do an ad and then not one splitsecond later it just comes over and I like it!....
I can't speak for INFJ's but I remember being called boring when I was seventeen for not living a reckless lifestyle. This was the start of a downward spiral as I spent the next few years trying to prove this person wrong and in the process lost myself in the crowd. Now I realise they did not have my interests at heart and were just wanting to endorse their own behaviour. I now no longer care if someone thinks i'm boring. It's a matter of perspective. I think all people are made in the image of God and are therefore intrinsically both unique and creative INFJ or not.
Colin Burmingham hi, if you don’t mind me asking, how old are you?
@@adoseofmandi Hi, No worries, I'm 46 now, married with 3 boys so a lot of water under the bridge since then but I still vividly remember the day so words are powerful. If I can help someone younger to know their worth and not make the mistakes I did then I'm glad to share. God bless.
Hopefully, now that you are other mature age and that experience is behind you, you realize that and following a cautious path you were making the wise choice. INFJs are vulnerable because we care so much for what other people want and need, even if it is not in our best interests. We want to please. We want to achieve. Unfortunately, we often make the mistake of perceiving another's point of view as something desirable. The trick for the infj is learning that they have to be faithful to their own point of view. One's own point of view is all that matters, after all. It is most especially true in the infj because of our peculiar talents.
I understand, I'm a teenager right now and I know I'm not boring but I can't help but feel like I am or like I'm wasting my youth because I'm not being reckless.
@@emilys5014 It's difficult to swim against the tide especially in school or college. Just be careful how much influence you let your peers have on you. I hope you are able to find friends of good character to share your journey. It sounds like you are already making good decisions which you won't regret. If the time comes that you need to take a risk then own it but don't be pressured to be foolhardy because of other's expectations. God bless.
I am often jealous of introverted feelers. They are very charming because they seem to be really themselves and they say what they wanna say in their own way. And people really admire them.
Yeah, I get what ur saying. A little too generalized maybe, but sometimes I'd prefer beeing an introverted feeler too ^^
Haha i am jealous of Fe.
@@brittanys8217 why?
I do this, though? Granted, I seem to be straddling that murky grey-area between INFJ and INFP that people swear doesn't exist, and yet it does.
@@Julia-ey4zd Fi is intense and awkward.
I feel comfortable here, it’s not so... lonely ?
Better than just leaving the tv on for background noise
@@sorrychangedmyusername3594 I do that.
any other infj's who usually have a deep feelings for someone just by making eye contact for a couple of minutes? it really not good for me because If something that I don't like happens, I feel like I got betrayed :/
I can’t stand not seeing a persons eyes, it drives me insane and puts me on edge especially meeting people online, I don’t care about how you look, just so long as I can your eyes I’m fine.
LetsTalkAboutFeelings ::: That’s definitely some over-analyzing for sure. 😂 Honestly though, I can kinda relate but in the sense that for me, I try to not fall into my “INFJ” stare because it always makes people feel uncomfortable so I often have to look away and it kills me inside because I wanna look but I don’t want to seem like some psycho stalker. Could you imagine two INFJs staring at each other? Lol it would be amazing. The big thing is just realizing the difference between staring and just looking. I know I kinda look away and don’t let people see my eyes when I’m feeling vulnerable and can’t hide the emotion in my eyes at that moment. Yaknow?
@@LetsTalkAboutFeelings the reference is to 1 of the 5 love languages from the book The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. Similar to MBTI and Ennegram, it's based off a quiz that helps you identify your love language preferences - in other words, how you prefer to express and receive love to/from others. The 5 love languages are 1) physical touch, 2) quality time, 3) acts of service, 4) words of affirmation, and 5) (tangible) gifts. You can probably foresee what your individual preferences would be, but I suggest taking the test to have a better understanding to respond to the above question.
@@AwakenOhSleeperGaming I agree with the way you described how you are conscious about how others feel uncomfortable with our studious stares. I intentionally try to be secret about how I observe others...almost like an undercover cop incognito.😚🎶😏😚🎶😇
LetsTalkAboutFeelings i was just thinking about this today!!!
I was a little taken aback when I saw the word snowflake attached to an infj because in my experience an infj may seem shy or delicate but they can mop the floor with you. By the time we've met someone for about 15 minutes we pretty much have already figured out what could bring them to their knees and what would make them smile in gratitude. Thank God our empathy makes us want to leave them smiling and feeling good about themselves. Great video, Frank. Sincerely, The Lunatic I'm looking for.😁
Yesshh
😆👏🏽 Stop telling our secrets! Why is this so painfully true? People really don't know. 😏
I never really expect people to make me really laugh but your edits always catch me off guard 😂
Regarding myth number 5 - being fake, I definitely say that’s a myth, yet I often feel that my extroverted feeling is a wall that I can’t help putting in front of me when I interact with someone I don’t know or am not comfortable with. I don’t tend to share my real thoughts and feelings in such cases. This is really hard to explain. I go into this auto-mode where I’m very very nice and laugh a lot and try to engineer a nice conversational experience. The problem is my brain seems to turn off and the other person is not able to get to know me. It’s not fake, because I really care and am interested in people, but it’s just not reflective of anything that really goes on in my mind. It feels like I’m trying too hard. I wish I could explain it better!
Nonono you explained it perfectly I’m the same exact way
My goodness, I have been doing that since 6th grade and up to now, I tend to wonder if I would still be considered genuine, towards my few friends, if I explained to them that I put on a front at times in order to get the best outcome possible. It doesn't take me a lot of effort to do that and often feels natural but, at the same time I feel some guilt that I'm not displaying my innermost feelings through my facial expressions. Is that considered an INFJ sort of thing? I am a bit confused as to whether I fall under being an ISFJ or INFJ.
I RELATE TO THIS SO HARD THANK YOU FOR PUTTING IT INTO WORDS
I'm a senior in highschool right now and honestly this is how I am everytime I have to work with someone I don't know. I kind of put on that "let's get to business face" and get everyone going because I wouldn't be able to survive an awkward silence.
I don't think that I've ever been fake except one time when I applied for a job at a fancy shmancy flower shop and actually tried to impress the owner with a performance beyond what I could have maintained long-term. I knew how to talk and act really polished, but it wasn't me and I could tell from the look on the faces of the owner and staff that they knew it was an act.
Other than that, I am always me. But that doesn't mean that anyone knows me really well, though they might think they do. I let out some of my personality. How comfortable I feel with them determines how much they get to see.
I surprised the music director of my church one time, after asking her what she thought of a poem I wrote about Moses. It's an epic, 400 verses. She said, "It's amazing." I really valued her opinion because she was very creative and expert. She provided backup music for famous singers.
I wanted to know what she meant by that, so I bluntly asked her, "What do you mean? When people share stuff with me that I think is weird, I will say it's amazing or it's interesting. Do you mean it's amazing good or amazing bad?" She looked at me steadily for a few moments before she answered, as if she had never really seen me before. That nice polite woman with the bland expression on her face had more going on in her head than she had guessed. Finally, she said, "It's good, Lanny."
I actually loathe being this type. It's horrendous at best, rare or not. I'm clumsy beyond words, I lose like everything in the blink of an eye, I attract weird people, I overthink and overanalyze EVERYTHING before making any freakin decisions...it's disturbing...and I find it horrendously difficult to control my temper when I'm overwhelmed and Jeez, am I easily overwhelmed. I hate it.
I used to be like that too. But with the extremes in weaknesses, there's a lot of extremes in strengths too. The weaknesses pushed me into a deep depression, the strengths helped me help myself & get through, grow as a person, put some mechanisms in place to control my emotional reactions & avoid spiraling. Admittedly it took 5 years of hard work but now I'm doing what I love & speeding towards my goals. Most important of all, I learned how to be happy & how to protect my happiness. Also, the overanalyzing helped me in therapy a lot and with the guidance of my therapist, I could successfully find my patterns and isolate them without bias. It is a lot of hard work and time consuming but the results are worth it.
Hey - I also have a very similar sorta experience to you where I really hate myself for being "clumsy" or "incompetent" or "scatterbrained" and "sensitive" BUT, just know that every, and I mean EVERY disadvantage can be turned into an advantage, and that you, no matter how hard it may seem, will be able to find the light in your darks.
Excuse the next very INFP sentence, but:
After every winter is spring, after every rainfall is a rainbow, and behind every storm cloud is a silver lining and behind that is the sun and moons and stars. You got this. Stay strong.
Same! But we do need to try to find our strengths so we don't feel like this.
yeah, like why can't i be an ENFP or ESFJ. they don't have an identity crisis every 2 minuets... at least i dont think
Yes I attract weird people. But I love weird people. Normal people are boring
Seriously impressed with your evolving style mate. Content as always is fab. The FJ train is gathering steam!
thanks, David :)
You know...before I got into MBTI and finding out what Ni is, I used to struggle telling people exactly what I'm doing.
It used to be my "Spider Web" in which I weave together several points of information and see what it has laid out for me. And despite being right 9 outta 10 times, I never say I'm predicting the future. I just frankly tell them that based on what I've heard, this could happen and I'm just warning you. Do what you want with it. Heheh.
I clicked off a PewDiePie video for this
Good choice!
thank you JH Plays, very cool
It was a good decision
srsly did the same hahahaha
I am so proud of this community
Lol people: You can predict the future!!!
Infj: nope just calculated a possible outcome to best of my knowledge. 🤗 lol
Whatever you are psychic if you're always right imo
4:55 - Yes, I'm an INTJ, wife's INFJ, both are accused of being pretty outgoing. We laugh amongst ourselves about this as we enjoy a nice quiet evening in our cave...
I have to say that being an infj is oftentimes being a protector. I was dreaming that I was at a party and there was a hot cup of coffee on a table and a few children running around the room. All the adults were just talking and laughing but I never kept my eyes off of the children and the cup. I always felt like I have to be aware of dangers to the people around me. Sure, I can be a melted snowflake on the floor but, I do get to know people very quickly and the only reason I would ever use something against them to hurt them would be under distress. If I felt like I was being cornered and abused or if I saw someone abusing someone else. That's when I say a line or two and suddenly that person knows that I know them and that I can hurt their feelings badly so they walk away. I think one of the strongest aspects of an infj is being a protector. So, don't pick on anyone when I'm around.😁carlyflake
yess that is such an INFJ thing that's (one reason) why i love you guys so much!!
I feel very protective of people, too, especially children. One time, I was walking past McDonald's and I saw a little girl around four years old, sitting by herself in a car parked at the curb. And the window was rolled down! I thought, "Who left this kid out here by herself? Probably is having a visit with her divorced Dad." One that was self-absorbed. I couldn't imagine that the mother would do this. Someone could have snatched that child and been gone with her in just seconds.
I sat at a picnic table to keep watch over here until her Dad came back and then I was going to have words with him. Everything was fine until I saw her head go down because she was crying. I couldn't stand to not do something to comfort her. I went to the car and stood there with my hands behind my back so that people could see I was not touching the car door. I asked her, "Are you here with your Daddy? Where is he?"
In a few minutes, her mother was standing next to me, and a boy who looked about nine or ten years old, carrying bags of food. She should have been there right away, whether her order was ready or not. I asked, "Are you her mother?" She narrowed her eyes and said, "Yes, and I was watching you the whole time." I said in disgust, "You should have been watching your kid. You shouldn't have left her alone in the car!" (She should at least have left her older brother with her, instead of taking him with her to help her carry the bags of food.) She snapped at me that it was none of my business.
The little girl stopped crying when her mother and I were arguing. She looked surprised. If nothing else, at least she knew that someone cared about her distress and tried to help her.
I walked away from the encounter thinking that neglected or abused children are everybody's business. I was on my way to church, which was across the street, to attend a class about getting involved in children's ministry, and then I realized that it had been a test. What would have been the point of getting involved in teaching Sunday school or looking after babies in the nursery, if I could have walked past a child who was in danger, without doing anything to protect them?
Every time a myth is busted, fj whips that hair. #yougogirl
we need more myths ^^
^^ Can this comment plz go on the friskiest ponies wall?
With regard to being psychic (and adding to what you said about Ni), I think it may also come from the processing of information that more extroverted types miss since they aren't silently taking it all in and creating an outcome from it. So we aren't psychic as much as extra observant :D
I totally agree, except for the tunnel vision as it is depicted in this video. To the INFJ, the world is a 3 (or sometimes 4) dimensional, a world made up of more and more systems; like a 3 dimensional spider web. We link the completely different systems into larger systems. We don't have tunnel vision, we see the systems web. But you are right in that all we are capable of multiple outcomes, when we are passionate about a specific idea, which takes all of the above in account. We without a doubt believe that we KNOW we are correct . Having said that, again because of our system spiderweb it is possible for us to completely believe we are 100% right of the far distant implications of all our possibilities. The craziness comes when we try to layer or create a way that completes a larger system to amalgamate all of our possible outcomes .And God help those who have to listen to us go through this process and then hear our "great revelation" about the near and distant future 😁
One more thing, in another video you mentioned dating and soulmates: I agree with your statement about how tedious we find dating. But I don't think I fall into the solemate trap. And here is why: around 25 years ago I came to the conclusion that my true solemate, someone like me so I can totally relate to and can totally relate to me, I would never meet. They would value their own private time, be working on their own system spiderweb and researching, pondering etc their own reality. There would be like 1000 to 1 that we would never meet. So I, liking my independence above all things was quite fine with this life long future epiphany. I will be 49 yrs old July 24, 2019 and am glad that I had this knowledge early in life and that I didn't give up my independence.
Even though I outwardly appear as an extrovert when required, and very understanding and caring when required. I do have a small group of friends who I charish deeply, I love them for who they are and they know they can totally be themselves around me, as I can with them. However, I would never say this outloud, when I get home, I am happy for the visit, but deep down I feel that somehow I know that yes I can be myself, I am painfully aware that the visit and my bonds with my friends is, for the lack of a more suitable explanation , I know these relationships are one sided. It sounds so cruel and I don't want it to be like that, but truly there are so many things on so many levels that I know would be difficult to understand, and its not that I can't explain things well. At my place of employment I now officially train all new staff and refresh classes too. I also teach Excellence in Facilitation. When I am training staff i can immediately understand how exactly that person learns. Or in my larger Facilitation courses, I am extremely good at answering questions that an individual might have because they are struggling with a concept. I know how to first make sure they don't feel stupid and then I can change my expectation so that individual can comprehend. Once other students see this non judgement it allows for more students to ask questions thus ensuring a greater level of understanding and I have a 98% pass rate. p.s. I work for a very large organization.
I can be psychic
FJ, I truly enjoyed this video, fist bumps and all! :) My experience as a INFJ... Thoughts: We are not Snowflakes. Actually we are stronger than most people think, because looks are deceiving; we do not conform to what society's standards are for 'normalcy'. Honestly, sometimes I wish I was not an INFJ because of feeling like an outsider, not a rare commodity. INFJs are authentic individuals and are rarely fake. We are very passionate in our ways. We like to be truthful and cherish truthfulness and sometimes this gets us into trouble, because most people hate to hear the truth. And I wish I was psychic; I would play the lotto and vanish forever. Get away from the energy draining suckers. lol Now being timid and shy, no way, we mainly like to be around interesting people and/or surroundings on our terms because of how much energy we absorb from others. Also I think we have the most complex functioning minds, kind of like a deep matrix or fast whirlwind, working at the same time. Our mind process differently which makes it hard for us to communicate our thoughts verbally, thus staying quiet.
You're spot on
wow i love your post... i think you are exactly correct. sometimes ppl think INFJ's aren't "strong" because of their gentle ways but i think they are one of the strongest types. deep inside they have a real fortitude. i love & respect that. i've had an INFJ sig other & really value all their great characteristics, esp over the years grow to love & appreciate them more & more... be glad you are INFJ!!
yesss
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I’m brutally honest
Introverted intuition is absolutely a super power in that we have access to a multidimensional perspective. Not just about the future, but about the meaning of life and seeing “outside the box”. There’s something very special about being able to follow ones intuition and always being in the right place at the right time where synchronicity dances with fate. In theory, anyway 😏
Thanks for busting THOSE MYTHS.
I am living with a roommate who is INFJ and life is good. I cook sometimes, or make him fresh popcorn, he throws the trash sometimes, or brings ice cream. Never argued. Talking is nice and easy. No one has to say what has to be done, most of the time one of us wants to do something and turns out it was already done by the other. Equal care for home and private space. No one counts who did what. Good flow, understanding and communication, no resentment. Easy.
Lava lamp!
i love lamp
It makes me wanna set up mine!
I'm special and boring. I'm really sad that I'm not Dumbledore though, so I become super emotional. At least I'm Trelawney #psychic. I realise this comment is giving the appearance of being extrovert but remember I'm rare and special. I shouldn't really comment cause I'm ShY aNd TiMiD. Gosh James, I'm so fake. 💥✨💥✨💥✨💥✨💥✨🐶✨
wow you are a living myth
Hahahha you are so funny
I'm an ENFP in an INFJ facebook group (so stalkery!) And yeah, it's interesting to see a group of Infjs together. Most of the messages there, are a lot like your comment section. Oddyly Loveable INFJS.
When I took the Myers Briggs test, the results were INTJ. I found an INTJ thread where we were all laughing about the things we had in common. An ENFP "stalked" us and he was so cute, saying how intrigued he was by the inscrutable INTJs. I loved it that he joined in on the thread.
I looked up which personality profiles are best for INTJs as a spouse. ENFP was one of them. I started reading it and then thought with surprise, "This is Connor!" (My grandson). I thought we got along so well because grandparents and grandchildren are natural allies, but it's also because our personalities go together. He was so curious about so many things, right from the day after he was born. He soaked up like a sponge all the things I taught him (except reading because he's dyslexic) and we had long, interesting conversations about many things.
It was only recently that I realized that I am actually INFJ. I saw another INFJ comment that he tested as INTJ. I have a lot of traits in common with INTJs, but I always thought I was on the light end of the spectrum.
INFJs are sensitive to the emotional vibes people give off, like super tuned into it, and they act as resonators even without trying. Further, because they're resonators, they try to avoid resonating negative emotions that others might pick up on and then then further resonate (which can cause a chain reaction of negativity), hence they often wear a poker face when faced with negative emotions. They usually don't want to say anything that people will misunderstand, and will care about what impact their words have on others (e.g. what the result will be), and so cautious ones will spend a lot of effort selecting the right words. It's not being 'fake' so much as it is just trying to prevent themselves from being caught up in unnecessary entanglements, choosing instead to look at the morality of the situation as being based on the results of their actions. This can come across to others (particularly Fi users who do not value Fe) as being 'fake', when in fact the INFJ often does not have ulterior motives.
This is absolutely my favorite channel on all of UA-cam.
i'm honored
On being fake... yes i try to keep peace but authenicity and honesty are very important to me. I look for common ground with people to be authentic when communicating. Usually I can find SOMETHING to communicate honestly with them about. It isn't often that i meet someone... try to find a common ground and end up thinking... "well, I've got nothin." I stay extra quiet in those times.
I have a lot of general knowledge because I have a lot of interests and was always a reader. I can usually find some interest in common with other people and hold a conversation with them. But some people make me feel brain dead. I can't think of a single thing to say to them. Usually, this is when I sense that they expect me to entertain and amuse them. I get away from them as quickly as possible.
i have never really understood the hype about infj rarity, well i can but i wouldn’t attach my identity to it. i believe that all humans are individual and it was nice to find out how I process the world, and how others do too. it’s a tool for bettering yourself. and i really resonate with your response to infjs ‘being emotional and up in their feelings’, like i have no idea what im feeling half the time, and can be quite logical too, but it’s just that my Fe values others emotions and an environment in a general sense. and tbh I think it’s my Fe that makes me timid, even though it’s an extroverted function. im so aware of others and fear doing wrong to them it makes me hold back a bit. thanks for listening to my ted talk
Me, either, I wasn't acted like extrovert that written about INFJ's, I mostly was absorbed into negative emotions and feelings and I even didn't know what I feeling, just like negative mixed fog full of negativity that I was experiencing, than I was entering places, and then I talk, mostly then depends on my mood, but polite manner, Fe makes me so aware so literally I am extremely introverted 91% and not talking so much because so many things happening in my mind, especially my thoughts
This is really good. My INFJ bud is neither too extravert or introvert. She isn’t shy and she has her times when she wants to be alone. Basically everything seems to work well. Also, they are not fake unless they want to deceive you and are immature I noticed. The immature ones give half truth but it’s easy to see behind that facade. My INFJ bud is good at guessing things and she has done it before but I don’t believe that she is psychic in any way because of one guess. I on the other hand need more then one possible route or outcome to look forward to since anything can happen. Thanks FJ!
My carefully crafted illusion has been shattered now that everyone will know I am not a special snowflake. Thanks Frank.
Lol!
I always wondered why I was a different person around different friends and then I discovered I was an INFJ and we are good chameleons. I have also found I am usually right with my predictions/ gut feelings, so I am starting to trust them more. Here in UK we have Brexit drama going on- I have been saying for months there with be a second referendum- we’ll see if I am right....
INFJ BRO!!!
INFJ HERE!
FJ, all you need is an IN.
You may be wrong for all I know. But you may be right...
_Thank you,_ Juliette! :)
I wish I could say I was cool, but to be completely honest I only stole a character form Charles Dickens... :(
But I love Maggie Smith. She's very cool!
@@JF-yv9nt Thank you so much! I don't wanna whine or anything, but this is not a great time for me, and you cheered me up a little bit! :)
You know, I love them too. I'm a sucker for those TV series produced by BBC. I've been watching a lot of them lately.
Those and western movies. :P
Have a nice day, Juliette!
The reading deal is almost automatic for an Infj, or at least for me personally. I can sense a mood of a crowd, or zone it into one person. It's that same reason it's a tendency to have the deep stare. If I sense someone being off, or feeling down I am capable of turning into the class clown to pull them out of a mood depending on how much I care. Other than that time is spent trying to shield myself from them. It all really depends on the circumstances really. Fake, or actually a caring person. Leave it to the peasants to judge I gather.
Speaking of rare snowflakes, it's actually snowing where I am right now... like the sweater. It makes me think of a song, but pretty much everything makes me think of a song lol. And yeah, like what you said about shyness... just last night had to deal with a drunk chick calling me shy, when really I just didn't wanna deal with her drunken stupidity...
“INFJs can come across as fake”. As an INFP (Fi user), I used to see my fiancé’s NiFe that way. At times, it seemed to me that he was blind to his own emotions and agreeable to a fault. While I still think INFJs can risk overextending themselves socially and betraying their values, I’ve seen my fiancé maneuver situations with seemingly supernatural grace and foresight. Moreover, I’ve learned a lot of Fe skills from him.
Thanks INFJs :)
Frank, I can't believe you'd punch a dog like that.
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Myths or not frank E Boy.. Some how eventually we get picked out in almost every social group for being different....
A couple of months ago, my mother was mad at me and said, "You're "different," and she didn't mean it as a compliment, but I took it as one. I called her on her birthday, and during our chat, when I said I didn't like to cook, she graciously said, "Well, there's nothing wrong with that. I know ladies who don't like to cook, but they're good at other things." Wow! That is the first time she ever sounded like she accepts me being different from her and from the rest of my siblings.
The story of my life - people often mistake my quietness for timidity.
Boy do they get a shock when they realise that I am very capable of standing up for myself.
I like to tell them that I can’t even spell the word timid. Except I think I just did 🤔
Hi Frank. I am a new suscriber and have thoroughly enjoyed and been changed somehow by listening to your candid ramblings for the past few dsys. I am an INFJ, and in some ways have found myself getting free “therapy” here on youtube - it’s been great. I wondered if this is an INFJ problem or just me - but the biggest triggers for me for feeling anxiety or depression tend to be when I look in hindsight over my day and can only see the ways in which my choices lead to an inefficient outcome, even though in my mind I KNOW what efficiency would look like. I have an extreme aversion to commenting on anything publicly so this is probably the 4th time I have tried to comment on one of your videos, I hope I actually press send this time - it might help me to get over myself, and climb out of the Ni Ti loop...but again, commenting feels inefficient, so if you’re reading this, I don’t know what that means - I guess it means I pressed the send button. Um, so I might as well tell you thanks for making me laugh a lot in the past few days - because I will probably never comment again. Or maybe I will, who knows.
Personally, I would argue that we are considered rare (special) (myth 1) because of our ability to slide back & forth along the Introv/Extrov continuum (myths 3&4) to fit into various situations (myth 5). I believe we often mistype for these same reasons and are not easily identified as INFJs in the population...thus "rare."
I learned my personality traits early in life and accepted them with comfort. They have served me (and the world) well. Often I'd reply to questions about my personality by saying, "I'm a paranoid optimist." And, "they" would often label me as weird. I love it.
Ohhhh! Now I understand the difference between Ne and Ni... simply put and makes total sense now. A+
As an isfp, I don’t agree with you on the first myth! Infj’s are special and not at all boring!! They’re one of the most interesting people! 🤗 like I see you’re saying they might not be rare... but everything else is not true!! 🤪
INFJ emotional? Put three ENFPs in a room (I'm a ENFP)
Oh! There are other ENFPs here! 😁 that's awesome.
ane oipasam
HahahXD
Three ENFP s? Lol my bestie is ENFP. Such fun.
Interesting. I mean some may be more in tune with psychic abilities... their probably the persons open to the metaphysical side of life.
Every time I predict the future or what's gonna happen next, I hope from the bottom of my heart that "I'm wrong this time".
Never was I wrong.
Mood
I can predict unwholesome social trends and, many times, they have come true, but I am thankful that it took longer than I thought it would. Also, things can happen to disrupt those trends. Prayer can be powerful.
But it just may be a lunatic you're looking for. ;)
🎼🎶🎵🎶🎵 love that song!
applause! You are the best at explaining how the infj mind works.... I liked that part about infjs being "fake"... so true
I went through a phase in elementary school where I was convinced that I was a witch who could predict the future. In reality, I just watched the show Charmed too much. 💁🏻♀️
Glad u busted those myths (with sweet editing to boot). Learning more about my Enneagram type (4w3) also helped me reconcile the fact that a lot of INFJ generalizations don’t quite ring true for me. That said, it’s also made me far more aware of my faults than MBTI ever has...and maybe I could do without that. 😂
Holly N **Reads comment. Can’t get The Smiths’ How Soon is Now out of her head.**
002themoon Lol! To this day, they’re one of my favorite bands. I am huuuuman and I need to be loooOooOved...😂
Holly N Lol. It’s a great song! And I like their stuff.
I did the exact same thing!!!
i agree with the extroverted introvert thing. ive always felt a bit confused by it as im not extroverted in the slightest but i do feel like im capable of seeming it on rare occasions. i feel a random burst of confidence but normally dont act on it
also, admittedly i can get obnoxious, mostly while drinking and in a comfortable environment with trusted friends/family
I feel a LOT but I show nothing. I end up thinking it’s just too tiring to express it. I think we feel the most out of anyone else, but almost never show it. Keeping it to ourselves in our own little world to play out in our heads.
Don’t even get me started with asking about my weird expression on my face after going 5 questions deep in something that I can’t describe. Asking me “what’s wrong?” Or “what are you thinking about?” Only for me to reverse uno card your ass and you end up telling me what’s wrong or on your mind and at the same time I’m juggling with what I’m thinking about but paying closer attention to you so I just drop what I was thinking so I can listen.
I felt a lot of things intensely as a child, but in our dysfunctional home, I had to learn to hide those feelings. I had a non-expressive face and a boring voice. When I got older, I had to learn to put inflection in my voice and move more when I talk, so that I could look normal, otherwise people thought I didn't like them. A bit of vivacity was good for getting bigger tips, when I was a waitress.
Voice inflections are a part of me, now, though sometimes I still drone on like a college professor when I give people an impromptu and unasked for seminar on history or some other topic that interests me.
I think a lot of the reason some of these myths exist as well is because people equate personal experience to their type and can’t adequately differentiate what is cognitive and what is choice/behavior.
Good editing!
thanks, Michelle, and good point about cognitive processing vs behavior
11:00 They rarely thank us for being right, though.
They just want us to listen to THEM about the problems they created by NOT listening to us!
Yes, sometimes I have felt like Cassandra, the prophetess whom nobody believed. Particularly in regards to my daughter. Some people have actually listened to me, but it's been uphill with the kid. I wanted to spare her pain, so I tried to warn her about some stuff. She'd answer, "I hafta make my own mistakes!" I'd rather learn from other people's mistakes. She boasts on Facebook that she went through the School of Hard Knocks. Well, that's due to dropping out of regular school in Grade 7 and running around on the streets because she didn't want to obey anyone's rules. If you're going to drop out of school, let it be the School of Hard Knocks.
We are no more rare than an anyone else. We are all unique and thus, everyone is rare. From: a psychic non-shy non-rare INFJ who has learned not to wear her emotions on her sleeve, but who lives in a cave and is authentic . :) I enjoy you.
And on January 20,2019, @0300 PST, the morning of the long-awaited & anticipated Super Blood Full moon Lunar Eclipse, I am awake and able to be here for the posting of this Very Special All Knowing All Telling Video posted by none other than the Infamous Frank James. How Super Special is that? And #7 to like. Using the discernment and discretion I have been granted from In God We Trust, I predict this video will get many more views, likes, & comments. Carpe' Diem & Godspeed!
@Frank James I especially enjoyed this one. 😊 Most of my life, I have had to tell people, "I am not shy. I just stay quiet until there is something that I want or need to say. That is not the same thing as being afraid/intimidated to speak my mind and/or speak up for myself."
My friend also thought I could predict future lmao. And yes sometimes people (even my friends) always got confused with my own thinking. They said I had unique mind. Keep going on make great content~
I’ve been told my psychic
is it introverted intuition or paranoia?
Always Introverted Intuition. Stop doubting yourself
Mightytoon1 one possible future outcome sounds to me like paranoia - our worst quality perhaps
paranoia is the extroverted Ne shadow function 😛
why not both
Great video and love how you broke down how some of the myths of INFJ. As for the rarity I think we might be a rare personality not because we are "amazing or special" but how we think, study and view people or situations so naturally. I was surprised to find out over the years that many of my closest friends were INFJ's. Being in a room with 6 other INFJ's it's amazing how in depth our conversations become. 🤘🏻
Really interesting. I had an ISTJ roommate in college and she was very social and comfortable in large groups, but always need to retreat afterward and balance out with alone time (she made sure to schedule this into her day)
Our intuition comes from us observing things and seeing patterns. Which is why we are usually right with our guesses of the future.
I'm callin BS on #2. INFJs are super emotional. Not a myth. For example, everyone that read this just got a little defensive
LOL
Um aha, caught me.
😭😭😿😿 how could you say that about me? 😉
@@kellylyons1038 haha. Sry...
/door slam/
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dude 😁 I've always felt like the most boring person in the universe 😅 which isn't an insult 😉 and I've often been accused of being too dispassionate, emotionally.
I am extremely introverted, it's just that I'm very focused and engaging in intimate settings. I find that Ns are more likely to interpret my extroverted feeling as fake 😒
There is nothing mystical about infj predictions but 😃 my most impressive one involved meeting my sister's girlfriend. About 30 seconds in, I was shaking her hand and thinking "I like her and I think they will be together for a long time... but she will eventually leave my sister for a man". Unfortunately 😢 that happened 7 yrs later and I still wonder what it was that made me think that, so specifically. My sister has had many girlfriends over the years and that was the only relationship that ended that way. I shared my concerns with my best friend right after I met her, so I know I'm not embellishing retroactively.
Mithra Semiramis
Wow. That’s such a cool story. INFJs and their prophetic tendencies make me jealous af :)
I hope your sister is alright though. I know it was *years ago, but it’s somewhat sad.
My brother brought his girlfriend over when I was staying at my sister's place. I heard Sherry talking in the kitchen and I thought, "She sounds just like Mom. I think that Johnny's going to marry her." He did.
The funny thing is, though, that Johnny thought she was too loud when he first met her. She was dating his friend and they joined Johnny and my sister and her husband for dinner in a restaurant. Johnny is a very quiet introvert. Sherry is very outgoing and she talked quite a bit to the waiter, asking him about the food, pointing at it, and Johnny was so embarrassed that people at other tables could hear her. Afterwards, he said to my sister and her husband, "Boy, I sure feel sorry for the guy who marries her." Lololol! They are still married forty years later.
I think that we can accurately predict how a stranger is going to behave eventually because there is something about them that reminds us of someone we have dealt with before.
A lot of men I met after my divorce reminded me of my ex-husband. I knew they were not bad men, but it was likely to be a lot of work to maintain my own personality and tastes, if I got into a relationship with any of them, due to their controlling tendencies.
There were also men who reminded me of an ex-boyfriend who was a toxic narcissist. One in particular was very focussed on his clothes. His style was different than the other guy, but their depth of interest was the same. This man was handsome and I knew he liked me. A lot of women would have probably leaped at the chance to go on a date with him. I was a waitress and he always left a decent tip.
One day when he came in, I sensed that he had finally worked up the courage to ask me for a date, but I would rather a guy not ask, than to have to tell him no, though I will say no when required. I knew exactly how to put him off.
When I served the couple at the table next to him, regulars whom I had chatted with before, I worked it into the conversation that I wanted to get married again and adopt a couple of children. This was true, actually.
Lol! That guy got good service, as usual, but he looked ticked off when he paid his bill and HE DIDN'T LEAVE A TIP! He never came into the restaurant anymore, after that.
One day I'll write about INTJ myths, so tired of those.
Great video!
11:02 !!! For so many years my anxiety made me suffer immensely thinking I already know what is to happen in the future. My mind is literally blown right now I am so grateful for your channel 🙏🏼
“INFJs can let go of emotions that aren’t serving them...I think”
Well, in my case, yessiree dude you think right!
I’ve never found the words to describe it so well!
Your humor is on par! I find your articulation of the personality type on par. Though there are variables within our experiences that transform our personalities. I can't predict the future as an infj but I can narrow down the results based on observation and variables. I am not fake, I'm aware of my surroundings, capable of articulating my opinions based on those I'm around. I am neither shy nor timid though I do rather find quiet personal time rejuvenating, yet other times I enjoy watching and participating in social engagements expanding my experience and understanding. I find laughter and joy the most exhilarating experiences, taken in doses. People compliment me as rare though I see myself as aware. I always enjoy your videos as a allow me to giggle and recognize the simplicity of who I am!
"It's not like each one of them is freaking Dumbledore or something...they're not shooting lasers out of their eyes..." HAHAHA 😂😂😂
As always, thanks for the laugh!
Also...I can 100% relate to what you mentioned about "IJ's" being capable of presenting as an extroverted introvert...that's definitely me. I've been trying to get my thoughts out into the world more lately and a lot of my friends and family were confused when I admitted that I'm really quite introverted (and socially anxious) by nature. ...I tend to hide in my shell at home until I'm ready to go out and "face the world"...in which case, I present more extroverted whenever possible in attempt to "fit in." 😱
You're getting pretty creative with your editing these days, I like it! 🤓
Keep up the good work, Frank!
~Katy
从未有过一个人如此的理解我，一直以为自己头脑有问题，思考的方式和想法与身边大多数人都不一样，在这里看到这么多人和我有着一样的思考感受，有种融入被接纳的感觉。希望世界的infj 能够看到你的频道❤❤❤
'thanks for sitting through that' ... Anytime for you man. Except when its like 2 minutes of sad cancer patients. Can't do that one.
Being INFJ is a blessing
You opened an almost new world for me, thank you! Greetings from INFJ from Russia :)
Thanks for an MBTI video! I have to admit I have fallen off that obsession a bit and starting focusing more on The Big 5. Its nice to remember and appreciate where my love for personality assessment started! 😊
4:44 "what AM I saying?" LMAO me all day every day! Love your videos, I feel so understood haha.
Lol. I love the energy. INFJ videos tends to get most clicks ☺️
Thank you for existing
My step mom and half sister called me "fake", I used to don't care, but now I can explain it, thanks to you. Also now I can be sure that I'm not a psychic like everyone around me thinks about who I am, except for my boss who thinks that I'm a great asset for the company as I always see few more years ahead. My intuition keeps on saying that I'm not a psychic, I can only see patterns and the result in the future. Without you, FJ, I'd never know the simple logical explanation why we INFJs have the ability to do that, thanks again, and stay superb ;)
Most special, or specialist. Sorry slight grammar nerd. Couldn't get it out of my head until I posted. Love your channel. Thank you so much for helping me find myself. These last two weeks of understanding why I feel the way I do, have changed me for the better. #INFJ
Starting my morning off right with more infj stuff!! Loved the editing and effects in this video!
thanks, Jessica!
My sweet husband is an INFJ. I am so happy to find you and am learning A LOT of important things. Thank you!!!
I'm boring, and I'll admit it
Me too. Lol. However, I am told by others that personality wise I'm not boring. I just don't do typical social stuff that people my age do. Been a theme my whole life. I rather just stay home and learn something new by myself.
I think in our younger state when we’re still getting a grasp on who we are, we can be considered fake because our hope is to find someone to connect with so we try to do things that don’t scare us too much in order to fit in.
Having said that, when you find a group of friends with a common interest/headspace/goal etc, you are genuinely THE most authentic person in the room and you don’t have to hide anything. The other well developed INFJs I know are some of my most trusted friends because I know they’re never going to be fake or speak about something they don’t understand. If we’re seeking information, it’s so we can make an informed decision about a situation, for example, whether or not to trust someone. We don’t use the information to tear someone apart.
Also, I kinda like being a bit “psychic”. Sometimes I play little games with myself to see what I think actually could happen haha. So random, but actually really fun! You should try it some time!
Oh my god! I also like how you experiment with the visuals and sounds.
I honestly think infjs are special but so are every other type. You just gotta find the uniqueness in each type. I am Infj and I dont want others to feel like were more awesome but I think each type needs to grasp their own uniqueness and wear it with confidence.
Those visual effects are siiiick, bro.
When you INFJ but an ambivert but the test does not really account for that, though I am closer to an introvert than an extrovert.
I felt so attacked when you said they’re kinda boring because I am LOL
10:40 I don't know why but I am enjoying as slowly Frank's hair gets worse and worse throughout the video as he keeps Messing with it.😂
He be "triggered" by these myths. 😂
Thank you for posting this I always think there is a problem with my personality because I get so much criticism but now that I'm learning about my personality im beginnings to feel comfortable with it and not try to "fix" it
Every time I think, it’s mostly of possible situations that could possibly happen in my life or to the world, and then I find solutions or ways to help myself to solve or get out of the problem lol. One of my imaginations actually happened, so I was thankful to myself for actually thinking abt the situation because I had a solution for it.
It's a very good thing to think ahead about what we should do in various situations. If we haven't done that, when taken by surprise, we might not think of a solution in time. When I was fourteen, walking home after dark, next to a field, nobody else around, a car slowed down and my heart nearly stopped, as I thought it might be someone who would want to kidnap me. But the driver just slowed down to turn a corner.
It was a good thing that happened because it got me thinking what I would do in that situation. I decided I would go to the nearest house and ask for help. I had just arrived at the end of the field, where a row of houses started, when a man slowed down his car and asked if I wanted a ride. I said no. He then drove ahead and parked his car across the sidewalk, so I could not get past him. I hopped over the fence of the first house, went to the back door, and told the man who answered that someone was trying to pick me up. He ran outside to chase them off, but he had already left.
That nice man offered to drive me home and I took him up on his offer, asking him to let me off at the end of my road. I wish I had always been that smart in my teens.
Lady Frisky Pony! Ty! And honestly I'm more weird than special. Emotional? Lol we're magicians. What you see, is only what we want you to.
Add on to #5: Being good at customer service whilst hating customer service....... Paradox....
That's interesting. I used to want to pick just one outcome but when I realized that wasn't good enough I got really into intuiting probabilities for outcomes and how to shift those probabilities as well or transform something to get a new outcome. I would agree at base Ni tries to understand and solve though.
I have been told I am mature all of my life, so much so that while all my female classmates were learning about how other people have FEELINGS (shocking I know guys) and how to think about other people (I don’t think it worked very well long term aha) I was in class still, with the males. My teacher knew my personality very well, he was a VERY good teacher. Knowing that I didn’t need to be told to be respectful I skipped the long circle sessions. YAY US! *perks of being an Infj !!!
I wonder if you're exceptional. Though I am an INFJ, I didn't even begin to grow up until I was 31 and it took a good kick in the pants to get me going in that direction, when my marriage broke up. In my teens, the older girls in the church thought I was a ditz. When I was 21, my pastor's mother smirked at me and said I wasn't ready to get married. That made me mad and I was married by the end of that year. I should not have been in such a hurry, but the hormones were raging and I thought I had found the right guy.
I feel like the reason why INFJs online are "boring" is because when MBTI communities get together, often the only thing they talk about is what makes them a certain MBTI type. So maybe there is sort of this pressure to conform to the characteristics that are expected of the INFJ type (or whatever type), so they only talk about what they have in common, and maybe even limit their behavior so that no one would question whether they truly are INFJs or if they're impostors/mistyped. In reality, I think they're a lot more different, and interesting than what they appear to be, but maybe these people just subconsciously decide to appear somewhat uniform to one another that they come across as rather boring.
First of all, I enjoy the edits Frank. I am both introverted and shy 🤷🏻♀️ But once I am comfortable with someone and I’m a comfortable environment I become extraverted. I’ve even told I’m psychic... it’s cause I’m always right! Hah.
i am exactly like this too :) but i can pretend to be extroverted anytime i want too (maybe you can too). (but i don't bother to pretend as much as i get older.)
All the mistakes in that comment lol ugh
d doyle same I’m a loner weirdo and it’s ok lol
I think Anti-INFJ is new anti-Virgo now. I remember there were some forums and communities criticized, mocked, and hated Virgos in early 2000's when I was a tween. Now, I see a bunch of anti-Advocate/INFJ comments or videos anywhere. Not just UA-cam here. Le sighs... Sometimes, I feel that people just take Myers-Briggs too personally. Hmm...