Frank James Where and how did you learn all this you are so spot on it’s incredible. There is so much crap on the internet that is wrong about Infjs but you’re understanding and explanations seem so real. Thank you.
Frank James I am acutely aware of my withered tiny SE. To exemplify this-I would make the most horrible eye witness to a crime. “Ah, officer, there was a person, a man, I think. No, i can just say it was a human person, but bigger than a kid, smaller than those really extra tall basketball guys. White? It’s ok to guess right? Weapon? You wanted me scoping him out lookin him up and down-are you crazy? There was a car that he got into. Kind? It had four wheels, I’m pretty sure. It rolled anyway. How am I supposed to know how many doors it had? It wasn’t mine. It was an average car color and no way I could tell what brand car. I didn’t have enough time to think to try to find something on it to read. I am pretty sure it was a dude though. Actually, maybe a chick with short hair. I think that should get you started” In short, commit a crime in front of me and you’re golden!
Okay, so all that said, what if you are definitively an INFJ but have managed through a life of practice to develop a really good Se? Like, until very recently, I operated intricate machines that require extreme attention to detail. I can remember things about people and places that make others think I have a photographic memory (I don't, the memories fade over time). This is the only thing I've found about myself that doesn't line up perfectly with my identified personality type. My Se is in fact nearly as good as my Ni, perhaps slower to process, but not by much, and my Ni is clearly my preferred method.
I’m so glad I found your channel. It’s amazing how these short videos make me feel less alone in my infj head and feel like there are people who get it. Thanks for sharing and making these videos!
Sadie René I agree completely! I just came across his videos today, and I've dropped everything to watch 6 or 7 in a row now. It's amazing to feel understood and not alone!
Anyone else wake up slowly in the morning like, "Oh shit. Still doing this consciousness in a personality/body thing. Ok." And then gradually remember your "identity". ?
Jourdan S it happens for me, but before remembering my identity I realize it's part of my identity to question my identity. then I get slightly confused, then I remember I need to get back at work and the distraction we call real life .
Wow, I can't believe other people have these thoughts! I have thought this thought my entire life! I keep waiting for it to go away, but it never does. Each day is such a shock, like the first time...I've never settled into life.
Me: *I’m not a planner I just go with the flow.* Also me: *has next 7 days planned out in my head that prepare me for the next month I’ve planned out in my head which will prepare me for the next 12 months that will prepare me for the process of life for the next 5 years* Also also me: the next 5 years isn’t planned out though it’s just how its going to happen. Idk how I know I just do. idk
Since discovering what an INFJ is, and that I am an INFJ to my very core, I have spent the last 3 days listening to you tell me about myself. It's freaky and every now and again I have to keep checking myself like "is he just convincing me I have all these traits?" I don't know how to describe how unsettling/comforting it is to feel like someone I've never met knows me better than I know myself, especially after 30 years of feeling like a total enigma and outsider. Thanks for all the work you do.
I hope you don't mind me commenting on all your videos. I'm binging them and finding myself relating to everything you are talking about lol. I feel like most INFJ channels/videos miss the mark, like maybe they aren't really INFJ's or they don't understand our functions well but everything you're talking about it so freaking relatable.
@@purplepartytigerd1598 It's not weird at all, he's stated that he appreciates the feedback, plus it helps his algorithms. I comment on them all too for those reasons!
Frank you’re a smart young man. I’m a smart old man. I wish I was a smart young man. BTW, you are a very perceptive INFJ. it’s all about the big picture. You’re on the right path.
My life get's ruined by big picture by my constantly helping because I'm a "Humanitarian" and then I forget to do my laundry or whatever, then I isolate and take care a bunch of my shit and then I go out and take on the big world again... I love the snow shot... the black and white so beautiful
Probably one of the largest obstacles I've faced in my life is helping others on their problems before managing whatever tasks for school or life I had to. But we're us. So we feel like that person was placed in our path SO we can help them. It's an interesting journey.
@@justinfalzon6854 Great way to think about it. I think we are very spiritual and think everything and every person crosses our path for a learning, lesson or helping ourselves or others.
"If you had told me where this was going I wouldn't have made those mistakes." YES!!! I worked under a teacher who wouldn't tell me the end goal and therefore leave out details assuming I could magically read her mind on where a project was going. Yet her lack of communication was always my fault. Hated that woman 😡
My boss wouldnt tell me my sales targets this year. He said he would let me know how I was progressing. That almost sent me spiralling.I have been spending my year evaluating myself by last year's target because I need my own benchmark. I cant take someone else's word at how I am doing.
This is why I got stuck in math. We got to pi and ai felt like I was missing something but no one would answer my why? Why? Why? They said this IS, now do it. Wish I would have had google back in the day. I probably would have become a quantum physicist. Numbers are part of the big picture. Dang you math teachers!!
Wow! You hit the nail on the head again! The scariest thing in the world for me is to release that control that I cannot know. I feel like I have to know. It drives me insane. I want to be prepared. My Se must be tiny. I'm not real sure how to live in the present. My daughter (ISTP) and I watched this together. She was laughing at my look of horror when you mentioned that we need to accept that we can't know everything.
Frank James what if two intuitives were using their intuition on each other at the same time, and it made like a convergence or a bridge like how Harry Potter and Voldemort's spells did...
Haha that happened with me and my INTJ friend. So, we were talking bout a topic and at the same time (in our thoughts) we came to the same conclusion. Now keep in mind he and I have a system of patterns (Ni) on each other's behaviours and thoughts processes. And so, we just basically looked at each other then laughed knowing the same conclusion of the topic without having to verbalise it.
My husband is an ISFP (doesn't worry or focus on the future) and I'm an INFJ. He doesn't care about long term ideas really at all and obviously I'm the complete opposite. YAY OUTSIDE BUT SPRING PLEASE
do you find that there's nothing more 'entertaining' than to spectate those that you've previously sized up, during the times when you leave your safe zone?
I'm the MOM. My INFJ son is 30 now and it's been quite a ride with my special guy. These videos are spot on. And I hope he doesn't feel so alone when sharing. I'm an ENFJ and I tried to help when and where I could, but at the end of the day, I can paint him the big picture, and I can walk with him through patterns and help him identify.... but I cannot help him find the inner peace he needs until he can understand he can't know everything. Bless him for trying. He's a visionary genius.
Ugh i needed this. Ive started a new job and i dont understand the context of what im doing and im just completely miserable - too many cracked eggs ahhhhh
Is this a grocer job? If so take your time and do with care then things will improve. Surviving swarms of spiteful yuppies requires a lot of care unfortunately but that has been my experience so far.
Haha this is so true about losing control... if I don't get enough time alone to work out the patterns I start to feel like I'm losing my whole identity / understanding of the world. Also my Ni will keep grinding when I don't have enough Se, trying to squeeze all the juice out of one slice so to say. Kinda in that situation at the moment when I can only throw my best guess at what the truth is and it's frustrating because I can't prepare myself for what's going to happen next...trying to deal with it by just pouring feelings into creative outlets 😊
Yes, yes, and yes. Spirituality is the one thing that keeps me grounded. And I cant tell you how badly I want a literal mathematical equation for existence, bringing science and spirit together lol.
I need to mention how much I appreciate you look right into the lens and not yourself on a screen. Way more impactful with just that difference. People rarely do that these days. So, with that and the accuracy of what you’re saying, it LITERALLY feels like I’m looking into a mirror.
Thanks, Frank, for your insight- that is why I was asking myself the meaning of life and death when I was 8. I needed to try to understand the big picture. :) I liked your recipe analogy. We need to have a grasp of the finished product. "Okay so this is who they are and where they are going, now i need to hear and respect their current needs." I stopped watching tv in November 2016. Sometimes I see something so obvious and others just don't see it, and I begin to question their intelligence/ethics. That is all I should say about the way things are going in this country. I will say that minimalism, renewable resources, and living off the grid is going to be necessary. I am hoping we will learn from our mistakes. Radical acceptance is accepting the limits of our human knowledge and control, asking for Help form a higher power and doing everything we can within reason. Wise idea to refocus on connecting with nature- it touches my heart, reminds me that I so want the best for everyone and everything. It puts it all back in perspective. Just my ideas, not telling anyone else what to do. Thanks again.
I work with a Ne dominant individual and am frequently frustrated by the new puzzle pieces being thrown at me on a regular basis. Your description of Ne vs. Ni is excellent!! I also love the sound effect you used for Se as it relates to the INFJ cognitive stack. Well Done!!
Of all the videos I've watched. This is the most simplified of what an INFJ really abt. Now i understand back in skool, y geometry subject is the easiest for me n ther hardest for the rest. Instantly categories the patterns when others cant even see one.
Yeah geometry was my favourite i wud finish it even before teacher taught it in the class 😬 and the look on his face when i said i really like it 😲 coming from my maths teacher it was a little puzzling coz he should know some of the kids like it but now i know better he was not an infj 😉
You seem like a completely different person compared to some of your older videos (an INFJ thing I'm sure). You have really helped me lately with your insights. Thank you for being so generous.
I am growing and understanding more about myself and other INFJ’s thanks to these videos .Thank you so much for the time, effort and self that you put into these videos .
Wow. I was just thinking about this thing, and here you are talking about it. I’m having a hard time getting myself, and seeing the big picture of myself. But I have a personal relationship with Jesus, because that’s the only way I can be free. I’m not so good at explaining this, but the reason I can cope with my thoughts and feelings is because I have Jesus in my life. It has really been a source of strength for me. And I must say that what you’re saying about focusing on the here and now is so true. I feel that its going to be very hard for me to do that. But I have done it before, so it’s not entirely impossible. We had snow here too, and I too love the way it looks and feels. It’s just like you said, it’s quiet and beautiful.
You used the theme of my life in your title. This is the third video this morning of yours I have watched. I feel a relief after, thank you. I sure hope you are going to make your major in college/career in psychology. THE WORLD NEEDS THERAPY! It is good for the soul, if the therapist is good(and human). Blessings and Love.
This is great! So relatable and authentic! INFJs really are apart of a strange breed, and sometimes it is really hard for us to integrate ourselves into other social groups. So glad that I found this channel!
Probably why I'm so obsessed with the question of what the heck we're all doing here anyway, and find it weird that not everyone is so bothered by this pretty big mystery ... Got super into spirituality too, but am also finding all the weird synchronicities (and patterns) that have come up as a result of my new 'awakening' leading me to ponder other ideas such as simulated reality theory... Not sure if these things are mutually exclusive though. Who knows. Great video, puts so much into perspective again, thank you!
INFJ. LOVE your videos! I can relate so much. Thank you. This forest for trees thing is so real, in more ways than one. In life drawing class I was lost trying to do a landscape drawing that included trees because I couldn't break the overall view of the "forest" (really more of a grove) into manageable pieces that I could represent on page. I am an OK artist, quite good at drawing people and individual subjects, but when I tried to "zoom in" I could only focus on individual leaves and branches and got overwhelmed with thinking "I've got to draw thousands of these things I am never going to do this I can't possibly even start..." and my brain went into meltdown. All internal, of course. From the outside it probably just looked like I was lazy and didn't want to do the assignment.
Thank you FJ for explaining the functions as I have not been exposed to that concept before. Thanks for inviting this INTJ to listen in on your evaluation of our shared functions. And yes, I am a very pattern oriented, and a phenomenal conspiracy theorist. So, I am considered somewhat looney but just wait long enough...I am nearly always right. But the lack of facts will derail me once in awhile. Not good with details, and in general, I don't notice details. But when I am motivated, few people can lock into and focus on details like I do. It takes all my attention. Thank goodness because it became very important, life saving in fact, for most of my career. This was a great video.
Hello F J you bring truth in your words! I had a job wherein the training was at a minimum, in a specialized time-sensitive capacity. The pressure was unbelievable. Management was constantly on my back for quick results. I had to quit because it was making me physically ill. I don't care how hard I tried putting everything together in my mind the outcome was negative. I did not have time to intake all of the big picture on this job. I felt as if I was in a fog blindly trying to fight my way out. And as a perfectionist it was unbearable trying to figure out what to do to meet my goals. Working at the speed of light, putting 110% of what I knew and getting results that were horrible. Quitting was the best thing that happened to me, even though family members thought I was fired.lol Sometimes, one has to do something drastic for self-preservation. Now I can sleep better at night with peace. BTW Thinking of taking meditation classes, for spirituality. I had a great experience in college when a substitute instructor introduced the class to meditation. It was the best mind experience I ever had for clarity, relaxation and peace of mind. Thanks for another one of your spot on analyses on the INFJs.
I am so happy I found your channel. So much of my life I have felt like a freaking Martian and now I am really starting to gain an understanding of who I am. Thank you for doing this!
Love your videos Frank keep them coming. I too have just ended a long term relationship, and am exploring spirituality more than I ever have before in my life. I am finding the time spent researching spirituality is helping me to stop in the forest and sit under a tree and live in the moment. Still thinking about the big picture but feeling every moment I can on a daily basis.
Peace F_J . Something tells me a lot of INFJ's may do poorly in things like Algebra. Unless they have a teacher who explains the "why/what for" part, of course.
I found maths really intuitive and easy 😊 I spoke to another INFJ friend who said that she did the same as me, she would work out how to do something before the teacher fully explained... in general the INFJs I know have been good at maths if they are generally academic
B Same, Math was super easy, a little too easy. My first math teacher in high school was very suspicious of me and often thought I was cheating. It was very annoying because I sat by myself away from everyone... So who was I cheating off of?
Actually, I always loved math. I loved the fact that I could approach a problem from many angles and still get the same answer. It was nice having an absolute. I grew up to be a math teacher and computer engineer.
4 years of depresssion about everything without knowing why. that test and your videos helped me more then any therapist did in such a short time. thanks a lot.🥲
Is this why I love snow above all things? All my life snow has been magical. I'm 52 and I walk out to snow and I'm 10 again. Always been the odd duck. I'm beginning to understand why. Thank you Sir and thank you for the snow. I'm a hospice nurse and today's probably going to be rough .. Your walk thru the snow put a smile on my face and light in my heart.
Yeeesssss. Sometimes people wonder how I do things that were supposed to take a long time to finish so quickly, but they don’t know that I have thought the quickest route to solution and analyzed them thoroughly just so I could go back to doing nothing or go back to my own world 🙃
I couldn't show my work in math because I could work out the answer easier in my head. The formula out on paper was extremely frustrating challenge as a child.
Hey. I gave been banging my head against a wall trying to figures out a complicated and emotionally abusive relationship I am in and how our circle of friends contribute to the support or lack of it and at the same time trying to understand how to deal with partner being skizophrenic and !!#?&@!!AHHHH!@$#(!! ..... Anyway... I want to thank you for sharing your insight and allowing me to see my situation as it is being an INFJ and that I am creating my own hell. I feel liberated in understanding why I stick around and how I really don't need to see the big picture in order to walk away. I enjoy your channel. Please keep it up!
SO true! My faith has helped me soooo much with my weaknesses, underdeveloped functions, depression, disappointments, and well, getting me out of the prison of my mind. Jesus saves and heals everything ❤ Also, after 2 years in Egypt and living mainly in Canada, while I LOVE when it's snowing...I don't like interacting with it afterwards...I'm slightly traumatized by our very long winters...
I just found your channel and watching you is so hipnotizing. You make so much sense of what I see in myself. Thanks for the insight! and why do you never smile? wait, it think it is because you are on serious ,mode. You are being a true INFJ.
Your discussion was succinct and straight forward. I needed that exposition. You did it for me. I now know that my suspicion of INFJ was correct over the INTJ from MBTI test over 50 years ago. Thanks.
I have used this exact phrase - I can't see the trees for the forest - several times. People usually look at me like I'm insane. I was shocked to see the title of this video. For me, I get so wrapped up in the whole picture that I get panicked and can't just focus on the details, the singular step I can do right now. This leads to paralysis. Thanks for sharing your insights. Glad to know I am not alone.
As an intuitive (INTP) i definitely relate to the big picture conceptual thing. Especially when I talk to high Si or Se users, it’s like they wanna grab onto a particular phrase or word I said instead of listening to the big picture statement I have to say. It can be really awkward cause often I’m not aware of the specific phrase/word I said since I’m more focused on conveying a general “vibe” (conceptual idea). I guess the way we intuitives think is “zoomed out” from what’s really happening, while sensors just wanna stay “zoomed in”. This has caused a lot of frustration and miscommunication for me, for example when doing group projects with a bunch of other sensors.
Oh my god.. see I cannot find the words to describe these thoughts.. spirituality has brought many many realizations to me. Being present, exploring my mind, using my mind instead of it using me, being authentic and many many more things. Sharing my thoughts through text is easier than speaking them. More time to articulate and think. So happy i found you! I couldn’t find many intj pages on UA-cam or any social media for that and now look at all of us comig out the wood works
I don't normally comment on videos, but dude thank you, this stuff is gold. You've helped me understand why I grind my gears and get frustrated when I'm told to do specific tasks before being made aware of the big picture.. Cheers for helping me connect two pieces of the proverbial puzzle :)
I wish I could articulate my thoughts the way you do! I've found regular quick meditations help me develop my extraverted sensing and living in the present. I love being "big-picture" oriented most of the time but definitely not when in a cynical-downward spiral-mood.
What you said around 7:45 is totally me... I've been doing a bunch of introspection and trying to "figure out" my life and my future and it's been driving me insane. I know my end goal, but getting there... I want to be in control and know everything so I can be prepared for it all. Accepting that I cannot know the big picture is gonna be rough, but I think it's going to be the next big thing I try to work on in my life. One of your videos was on my recommended page, and I've been watching through your videos this evening. I can't tell you how amazing it feels to know I'm not alone in my thoughts and thought processes. In closing, thank you so much for existing and sharing your thoughts 😂
I'm currently doing my PhD in architecture and urban design. Typically during projects I will go for the 'big picture' first, then work my way back to justify that concept/pattern. But with a PhD, you have to let the details/literature/precedent govern the direction - not my gut instinct. It was all backwards to what I was used to. It takes so much discipline to switch thinking like this, but I am still working towards that initial concept that was inspired by the Anthropocene, climate change and the effects on coastal communities - the big picture stuff - which lets me see through the day to day obfuscations that the world throws our way. -___- Another way I deal is to take on a persona while dealing with the details. I imagine myself as a 1950's pulp detective solving a crime, my research is the leads that I am looking for. I don't know why that helps, but it does.
I've just stumbled upon a couple of your videos today as my urge to go deeper into figuring me out has led me to how I function as an INFJ. I have to say I'm unraveling certain aspects of myself in a way that just gets me. Your perspective on this information is truly amazing and eye opening. I absolutely love it and YOU!! 🙏🏽🙌🏾😆💖💜✨ and I've totally been working on my stare 😅👀🌀✨
This made me laugh. So many times in serious conversations (especially political) when somebody points out an issue, I always think to myself, your pulling me into the middle of a forest fire and saying, "we need to put out this tree"
This us so true, 100% on the "drops of information". On another note, I abhor how I email a coworker with a direct question/request, then they email me back with all the little details on how they need to do their job-then give answer at the end.
Yep. I definitely have the introverted intuition thing. A problem for me is understanding too much and feeling caught in the middle of seemingly conflicting ideas. I can sometimes see both as being valid. Also learning new concepts all the time trying to figure out the point of existence. I think I start to understand until I learn something else and then it's back to the drawing board. Thinking myself into a corner like painting yourself into one then looking around like shit, this isn't right either lol.
I just came across your channel and am mind blown... not only do I feel understood, but it also feels as if you're in my head. Beautifully creepy. Thank you!
Spiritually; yes indeed. My Catholic faith is my bedrock. Perhaps something else would work for you. But yes, find your spirituality. And yes I love the snow. So cold and pure.
True true video! And one thing I took from this video better than anything was the tree in the forest analogy. Because I never could figure out how I could answer that MBTI question of “Are you a detailed or big picture thinker”. I’d always say both. But now I see that I’m just an organized thought person. Also... I just noticed that I love the snow for the very same reasons. Simple palette and quiet. Easy to experience. Easy to take in. I’m proud of you for pinpointing the WHY in your preferences. I would love to hear MORE of those observations in your videos so I can learn how to observe mine in that way and pinpoint my WHY so I can better communicate what I enjoy and who I am with other people. I sometimes have the worst times trying to explain them.
This is really accurate, I know that you articulated the way my mind has been since the start. I thought that was a normal thing and nothing was different about me people thought about that, I was completely wrong. Congrats on the 20,000 subscribers not sure if it was the same video but I just heard that's huge you're definitely cool and attractive. That is a really great catch line 🌻🍄🌼 BTW.
The recipe line was so good!! I’m not learning how to just accept life as it comes and be more present. Focusing on being responsible for achieving my personal goals and upholding values regardless of a greater understanding is what I’m trying rn.
Thanks for letting us INTJs watch this too. I love my big picture view and wouldn’t trade it for the world. But it sure can make getting my hands dirty in the moment difficult. When I was a bride, my husband would read me letters and I quickly learned to make him read me who it was from first because I couldn’t focus on what was going on when I didn’t know who it was about. I can’t imagine trying to do the carpentry work you were asked to without being oriented first. For me, “I need to be oriented” is nearly a daily phrase. And giving me the ultimate big picture is part of why I adore Jesus!
I don't know why I didn't see this post until now...but this describes me exactly. I think the most interesting one you mentioned has to do with a job and not being shown the big picture. Exactly. This is probably why I have hated a lot of my jobs.you do such a God job at describing how we think 😊
My favorite job I ever had was being the Coordinator for a Mentoring and Retention Program for my college. I loved this job. I was consistently helping people with my programs main goal: staying at the college and having no major issues in all aspects of that college. It did frustrate me when I failed though. No matter what, about 17% of the first year kids just couldn't do college, or at least my college, it was quite different from other institutions of learning. Ever since I left college, I've been having trouble finding another job like this. Most jobs don't have a single overall goal (that they can tell you) and the jobs that do, get taken up by either Ne doms or other Ni doms. Honestly, what's frustrating me now, is finding a new job. My last job I had a manager who was asshole. He wasn't even my supervisor, I think that botheres him, because he constantly belittled my job, but then again he belittled everyone. People would come to work happy Monday to Wednesday, then he showed up Thursday through Sun and sucked all of the happiness and joy from people's souls. It was very depressing, and I couldn't deal with it that for more than 6 months.
I guess I'm way late to the show but you have no idea how relieving it has been to know that I'm not alone and going crazy in my head. I've watched your show and everything I think, feel, do and have done all makes sense now. Thank you so much!!
Yea this is happening at work and it’s so frustrating. When you’re in accounting, it’s not always ideal to see the forest and not the trees. You have to work so hard to focus on the details which causes you to stay in the present for so long that it drives you up a wall. Thank you for this video!! It helps me feel a bit better because I understand myself and I’m not gonna beat myself about it cause this who I am and I can’t change that
Cool video! I have found when balancing my feminine and masculine energy I became more balanced and can live in the moment and be aware of everything within and around me. As well I can feel into each part, also the trees and the forest at once. Quite and awakening experience. I appreciate your video. I love snow too!
I relate so much to your videos and I can't thank you enough for putting yourself out there and talking about this. Even the hard to swallow pill bits. I do often get lost in the big picture and forgo the small details and it will inevitably bite me in the behind. I have become a spiritualist light worker. I.e. I read tarot for people for free. I have even thought about making my own UA-cam channel, but that Perfectionist Paralysis sets in, so I put it on the back burner. I've also seen how connected everything is, however I do focus a bit on the past and much more on the future than I do on the present. I recently had a healthy dose of Karma due to overlooking how I came off to someone in the past. I was not very nice, to put it mildly. They have returned into my life in a different way, and I didn't realize until the other day (Good ole Ni lightning bolt style) that I had interactions with them before. Now I've been trying to read them and it has not been going well. Honestly, it's driving me nuts because I can't tell if they remember me or not. It was a few years ago. I want to make it right, but I don't want to dig up past resentment either if I remind them.
I’m so happy I’ve chosen not to watch news all together. You ask how being big picture oriented is ruining my life; it’s in any way that you just mentioned already. The world is slowly falling apart because of humanity and I work in preschool, hoping that I can make the slightest difference for even just a few kids that might have ended up depressed in the future. I wish to see the people around me more in detail and I wish to enjoy my relationship, not constantly wondering if I ever chose the right partner. That last part is the one ruining me the most.
I love your videos. I am a classic INFJ. I am older than you and as far as spirituality goes, I MUST SAY (and thus is not a plug for Christianity), but the Bible has GREATLY answered my big picture questions. You want to have an apiphany of the universe and what it entails, read the Bible. It will blow your mind, my friend! It frees INFJ's from their tortured spirit and our wanting ....no...needing to see the big picture. Go for it!
The functions are our spiritual gifts for the Lord, especially Ni which can be considered the gift of discernment so you are so right! We must seek God in his word when we can't get the big picture as easily
Well said - I wholeheartedly agree. It's amazing what can be found in the Bible when one takes the time to look :) I moved from new age-related spirituality, to Islam, to Christianity, and the last was the only one to answer all of my pressing questions.
Couldn't agree more. However it should be said that all personality types can find a certain redemption in Jesus Christ and that's why He's all the more important. There's so much I could say about it but yeah, amen sis.
I'm a true INFJ and the bible is the silliest book I've ever read! I can't imagine an INFJ liking all the injustice and immature wraths God bestows upon his people (more like innocent victim's). I'm famous for puzzling together a bigger picture. However, I don't see a bigger picture in a book that contradicts itself. Anyway, it's not that great of a fictional piece. I have to say, "Boo to the bible!" It's filled with murders and written by homophobes.
I am a new subscriber and am enjoying your podcasts. I appreciate your comments about spirituality. There has always been a longing to know more about God for me. ( Never doubted His existence) I believe He gives us the desire of our hearts in our search. We can truly be ourselves with Him who knows us intimately ....more than we can know ourselves. And loves us infinitely. Will give us a new name in the future that describes exactly who we are. What we understand “darkly” now will one day be made very clear. We can trust Him to have a special purpose for us now and in the future. I feel honored that He has gifted INFJ’s with our unique talents to use for Him. There are so few of us, it makes me feel truly blessed.
Wow this is so spot on. Especially at 7:40. I hate not knowing the direction of my life and I feel like everything needs to have a purpose. People always constantly remind me that I can't predict the future or "that's life!" which drives me crazy lol.
This is actually the best explanation I've seen so far. Thanks for adding the examples with the jigsaw puzzle and the recipe. I also can't just get into the car and turn on the GPS and follow directions. I need to look on Google maps and see the whole route at once, and then look at where all the turns are. If I haven't seen the whole map, following directions given one by one will make me really nervous.
Wow!!! That was an eye opener for me. When someone tells me to do one step of a process, I have no problem doing it but I ALWAYS want to know what the end goal is so i can proceed to do the task and get it towards the goal. When I don't hear what the main goal is I get so frustrated and irritated and it's like how can I do this one step without knowing what I am doing. I think part of it is also that whatever the end goal is, might alter how I handle the task at hand. I never understood why I was like that and you just nailed it here for me.
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Frank James
Where and how did you learn all this you are so spot on it’s incredible. There is so much crap on the internet that is wrong about Infjs but you’re understanding and explanations seem so real. Thank you.
What state do you live in? Just curious from the snow.
Frank James I am acutely aware of my withered tiny SE. To exemplify this-I would make the most horrible eye witness to a crime. “Ah, officer, there was a person, a man, I think. No, i can just say it was a human person, but bigger than a kid, smaller than those really extra tall basketball guys. White? It’s ok to guess right? Weapon? You wanted me scoping him out lookin him up and down-are you crazy? There was a car that he got into. Kind? It had four wheels, I’m pretty sure. It rolled anyway. How am I supposed to know how many doors it had? It wasn’t mine. It was an average car color and no way I could tell what brand car. I didn’t have enough time to think to try to find something on it to read. I am pretty sure it was a dude though. Actually, maybe a chick with short hair. I think that should get you started”
In short, commit a crime in front of me and you’re golden!
Okay, so all that said, what if you are definitively an INFJ but have managed through a life of practice to develop a really good Se? Like, until very recently, I operated intricate machines that require extreme attention to detail. I can remember things about people and places that make others think I have a photographic memory (I don't, the memories fade over time). This is the only thing I've found about myself that doesn't line up perfectly with my identified personality type. My Se is in fact nearly as good as my Ni, perhaps slower to process, but not by much, and my Ni is clearly my preferred method.
Genius.
Me: I don’t try to categorize people.
Also, me: Extremely intrigued by personality tests and other people’s results.
Truee
Samee
Just for information collection
Lol same here haha 😂😂
I am bugging my friends to take the tests after I did it;)
"Tell me what we're making or I'm not cracking one more egg! " I laughed so hard, it's soooo true and relatable
I read this to my partner and he laughed and said that's so you.
.... Mom!
Same!
I lost it haha so relatable!
This hit it on the nail!
Why did I even take all those psych electives at university when I could have just watched a 12 min yt video to understand myself O.O
LOL this is one of my favorite comments yet XD
A BIG "ditto!!!" :D
oof feels...
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I’m so glad I found your channel. It’s amazing how these short videos make me feel less alone in my infj head and feel like there are people who get it. Thanks for sharing and making these videos!
Sadie René I agree completely! I just came across his videos today, and I've dropped everything to watch 6 or 7 in a row now. It's amazing to feel understood and not alone!
I just came across his videos today and I'm so happy and they make me feel less alone in this world
It’s nice being understood and also belong us understand ourselves and improve and grow 😩😩😩 this channel is everything
We should get together, I’m also an infj
One thing for sure about INFJ’s, we love hearing about ourselves.
Real 😭💀
I'm not cracking one more egg until I know what we're making MOM :')
Anyone else wake up slowly in the morning like, "Oh shit. Still doing this consciousness in a personality/body thing. Ok." And then gradually remember your "identity". ?
Jourdan S it happens for me, but before remembering my identity I realize it's part of my identity to question my identity.
then I get slightly confused, then I remember I need to get back at work and the distraction we call real life .
Wow, I can't believe other people have these thoughts! I have thought this thought my entire life! I keep waiting for it to go away, but it never does. Each day is such a shock, like the first time...I've never settled into life.
This is too good definitely with you guys!!
I have moments in the middle of the day where suddenly it hits me, "This is existence..."
Lol, this kind of happens to me when I'm feeling burnt out by life.
Nothing makes me more depressed than feeling like things are random
Hahaha 🤣 me in a nut shell. Chaos and meaningless randomness = sad INFJ
Fr
But nothing is random, at all.
Me: *I’m not a planner I just go with the flow.*
Also me: *has next 7 days planned out in my head that prepare me for the next month I’ve planned out in my head which will prepare me for the next 12 months that will prepare me for the process of life for the next 5 years*
Also also me: the next 5 years isn’t planned out though it’s just how its going to happen. Idk how I know I just do. idk
Since discovering what an INFJ is, and that I am an INFJ to my very core, I have spent the last 3 days listening to you tell me about myself. It's freaky and every now and again I have to keep checking myself like "is he just convincing me I have all these traits?"
I don't know how to describe how unsettling/comforting it is to feel like someone I've never met knows me better than I know myself, especially after 30 years of feeling like a total enigma and outsider. Thanks for all the work you do.
I hope you don't mind me commenting on all your videos. I'm binging them and finding myself relating to everything you are talking about lol. I feel like most INFJ channels/videos miss the mark, like maybe they aren't really INFJ's or they don't understand our functions well but everything you're talking about it so freaking relatable.
Nah you're good, keep commenting! Glad you're picking up what I'm putting down ;)
I'm doing it too, and I felt like I would come off as being weird, but hey, he said its okay. Now I feel better. :D
@@purplepartytigerd1598 It's not weird at all, he's stated that he appreciates the feedback, plus it helps his algorithms. I comment on them all too for those reasons!
YEEESSSSS exactly
Same
Frank you’re a smart young man. I’m a smart old man. I wish I was a smart young man. BTW, you are a very perceptive INFJ. it’s all about the big picture. You’re on the right path.
My life get's ruined by big picture by my constantly helping because I'm a "Humanitarian" and then I forget to do my laundry or whatever, then I isolate and take care a bunch of my shit and then I go out and take on the big world again... I love the snow shot... the black and white so beautiful
Probably one of the largest obstacles I've faced in my life is helping others on their problems before managing whatever tasks for school or life I had to. But we're us. So we feel like that person was placed in our path SO we can help them. It's an interesting journey.
The sprinkles on the cake is when those same people start shaming you for not doing the laundry, lol. It's great.
@@justinfalzon6854 Great way to think about it. I think we are very spiritual and think everything and every person crosses our path for a learning, lesson or helping ourselves or others.
0:36 INFJ dilemma: trying to please everyone by saying "we love everyone", but retract because some people may not like that statement.
"If you had told me where this was going I wouldn't have made those mistakes." YES!!! I worked under a teacher who wouldn't tell me the end goal and therefore leave out details assuming I could magically read her mind on where a project was going. Yet her lack of communication was always my fault. Hated that woman 😡
My boss wouldnt tell me my sales targets this year. He said he would let me know how I was progressing. That almost sent me spiralling.I have been spending my year evaluating myself by last year's target because I need my own benchmark. I cant take someone else's word at how I am doing.
This is why I got stuck in math. We got to pi and ai felt like I was missing something but no one would answer my why? Why? Why? They said this IS, now do it. Wish I would have had google back in the day. I probably would have become a quantum physicist. Numbers are part of the big picture. Dang you math teachers!!
Wow! You hit the nail on the head again! The scariest thing in the world for me is to release that control that I cannot know. I feel like I have to know. It drives me insane. I want to be prepared. My Se must be tiny. I'm not real sure how to live in the present. My daughter (ISTP) and I watched this together. She was laughing at my look of horror when you mentioned that we need to accept that we can't know everything.
I've started to accept that I can't know everything.
Let me know in the comments how your life is being ruined by being so big picture oriented!
I fell into a k-hole of Illuminati conspiracy theory.
Frank James what if two intuitives were using their intuition on each other at the same time, and it made like a convergence or a bridge like how Harry Potter and Voldemort's spells did...
Haha that happened with me and my INTJ friend. So, we were talking bout a topic and at the same time (in our thoughts) we came to the same conclusion. Now keep in mind he and I have a system of patterns (Ni) on each other's behaviours and thoughts processes. And so, we just basically looked at each other then laughed knowing the same conclusion of the topic without having to verbalise it.
My husband is an ISFP (doesn't worry or focus on the future) and I'm an INFJ. He doesn't care about long term ideas really at all and obviously I'm the complete opposite.
YAY OUTSIDE BUT SPRING PLEASE
do you find that there's nothing more 'entertaining' than to spectate those that you've previously sized up, during the times when you leave your safe zone?
I'm the MOM. My INFJ son is 30 now and it's been quite a ride with my special guy. These videos are spot on. And I hope he doesn't feel so alone when sharing. I'm an ENFJ and I tried to help when and where I could, but at the end of the day, I can paint him the big picture, and I can walk with him through patterns and help him identify.... but I cannot help him find the inner peace he needs until he can understand he can't know everything. Bless him for trying. He's a visionary genius.
ps: Part of the beauty of The Universe is that it is a mystery. We will know ... in time.
Ugh i needed this. Ive started a new job and i dont understand the context of what im doing and im just completely miserable - too many cracked eggs ahhhhh
It really is a frustrating feeling, isn't it?
I can't even comprehend how to do something from one detail to another? Do people just start without knowing what the purpose of it all is? da fukk...
Is this a grocer job? If so take your time and do with care then things will improve. Surviving swarms of spiteful yuppies requires a lot of care unfortunately but that has been my experience so far.
Haha this is so true about losing control... if I don't get enough time alone to work out the patterns I start to feel like I'm losing my whole identity / understanding of the world. Also my Ni will keep grinding when I don't have enough Se, trying to squeeze all the juice out of one slice so to say. Kinda in that situation at the moment when I can only throw my best guess at what the truth is and it's frustrating because I can't prepare myself for what's going to happen next...trying to deal with it by just pouring feelings into creative outlets 😊
Well said, I feel the exact same way.
Yes, yes, and yes. Spirituality is the one thing that keeps me grounded. And I cant tell you how badly I want a literal mathematical equation for existence, bringing science and spirit together lol.
that singularity... we close.
That's exactly 100℅ how I feel and think wow that's so great thank you so much for that
I'm still trying to mathematics exist....
Meditation helped me stay in the present moment. I’m a Buddhist atheist. I think I was drawn to it for the reasons you mentioned
Confused then.
you're gorgeous
I need to mention how much I appreciate you look right into the lens and not yourself on a screen. Way more impactful with just that difference. People rarely do that these days. So, with that and the accuracy of what you’re saying, it LITERALLY feels like I’m looking into a mirror.
I do believe you’re my spirit animal. I love the content you’re putting out here. Keep it up
thanks!
Amazingly well put! And I agree to the fullest, spirituality is the key to finding ourselves and to find peace, love and "the now".
Thanks, Frank, for your insight- that is why I was asking myself the meaning of life and death when I was 8. I needed to try to understand the big picture. :) I liked your recipe analogy. We need to have a grasp of the finished product. "Okay so this is who they are and where they are going, now i need to hear and respect their current needs." I stopped watching tv in November 2016. Sometimes I see something so obvious and others just don't see it, and I begin to question their intelligence/ethics. That is all I should say about the way things are going in this country. I will say that minimalism, renewable resources, and living off the grid is going to be necessary. I am hoping we will learn from our mistakes. Radical acceptance is accepting the limits of our human knowledge and control, asking for Help form a higher power and doing everything we can within reason. Wise idea to refocus on connecting with nature- it touches my heart, reminds me that I so want the best for everyone and everything. It puts it all back in perspective. Just my ideas, not telling anyone else what to do. Thanks again.
I work with a Ne dominant individual and am frequently frustrated by the new puzzle pieces being thrown at me on a regular basis. Your description of Ne vs. Ni is excellent!! I also love the sound effect you used for Se as it relates to the INFJ cognitive stack. Well Done!!
Of all the videos I've watched. This is the most simplified of what an INFJ really abt. Now i understand back in skool, y geometry subject is the easiest for me n ther hardest for the rest. Instantly categories the patterns when others cant even see one.
Yeah, I was good at geometry too!
Yeah geometry was my favourite i wud finish it even before teacher taught it in the class 😬 and the look on his face when i said i really like it 😲 coming from my maths teacher it was a little puzzling coz he should know some of the kids like it but now i know better he was not an infj 😉
I was good at geometry too. Hmmm
Me too! I think its the easiest part in mathematics.
You seem like a completely different person compared to some of your older videos (an INFJ thing I'm sure). You have really helped me lately with your insights. Thank you for being so generous.
I feel completely different than I was a year ago. I'm glad I've helped you out.
I am growing and understanding more about myself and other INFJ’s thanks to these videos .Thank you so much for the time, effort and self that you put into these videos .
Wow. I was just thinking about this thing, and here you are talking about it. I’m having a hard time getting myself, and seeing the big picture of myself. But I have a personal relationship with Jesus, because that’s the only way I can be free. I’m not so good at explaining this, but the reason I can cope with my thoughts and feelings is because I have Jesus in my life. It has really been a source of strength for me. And I must say that what you’re saying about focusing on the here and now is so true. I feel that its going to be very hard for me to do that. But I have done it before, so it’s not entirely impossible. We had snow here too, and I too love the way it looks and feels. It’s just like you said, it’s quiet and beautiful.
You and me both! Praise Jesus!
You used the theme of my life in your title. This is the third video this morning of yours I have watched. I feel a relief after, thank you. I sure hope you are going to make your major in college/career in psychology. THE WORLD NEEDS THERAPY! It is good for the soul, if the therapist is good(and human). Blessings and Love.
This is great! So relatable and authentic! INFJs really are apart of a strange breed, and sometimes it is really hard for us to integrate ourselves into other social groups. So glad that I found this channel!
Thank you! This video really helped to clarify my understanding of introverted intuition.
Glad I could help!
Probably why I'm so obsessed with the question of what the heck we're all doing here anyway, and find it weird that not everyone is so bothered by this pretty big mystery ... Got super into spirituality too, but am also finding all the weird synchronicities (and patterns) that have come up as a result of my new 'awakening' leading me to ponder other ideas such as simulated reality theory... Not sure if these things are mutually exclusive though. Who knows. Great video, puts so much into perspective again, thank you!
INFJ. LOVE your videos! I can relate so much. Thank you. This forest for trees thing is so real, in more ways than one. In life drawing class I was lost trying to do a landscape drawing that included trees because I couldn't break the overall view of the "forest" (really more of a grove) into manageable pieces that I could represent on page. I am an OK artist, quite good at drawing people and individual subjects, but when I tried to "zoom in" I could only focus on individual leaves and branches and got overwhelmed with thinking "I've got to draw thousands of these things I am never going to do this I can't possibly even start..." and my brain went into meltdown. All internal, of course. From the outside it probably just looked like I was lazy and didn't want to do the assignment.
Thank you FJ for explaining the functions as I have not been exposed to that concept before. Thanks for inviting this INTJ to listen in on your evaluation of our shared functions. And yes, I am a very pattern oriented, and a phenomenal conspiracy theorist. So, I am considered somewhat looney but just wait long enough...I am nearly always right. But the lack of facts will derail me once in awhile. Not good with details, and in general, I don't notice details. But when I am motivated, few people can lock into and focus on details like I do. It takes all my attention. Thank goodness because it became very important, life saving in fact, for most of my career. This was a great video.
Hello F J you bring truth in your words! I had a job wherein the training was at a minimum, in a specialized time-sensitive capacity. The pressure was unbelievable. Management was constantly on my back for quick results. I had to quit because it was making me physically ill. I don't care how hard I tried putting everything together in my mind the outcome was negative. I did not have time to intake all of the big picture on this job. I felt as if I was in a fog blindly trying to fight my way out. And as a perfectionist it was unbearable trying to figure out what to do to meet my goals. Working at the speed of light, putting 110% of what I knew and getting results that were horrible. Quitting was the best thing that happened to me, even though family members thought I was fired.lol Sometimes, one has to do something drastic for self-preservation. Now I can sleep better at night with peace. BTW Thinking of taking meditation classes, for spirituality. I had a great experience in college when a substitute instructor introduced the class to meditation. It was the best mind experience I ever had for clarity, relaxation and peace of mind. Thanks for another one of your spot on analyses on the INFJs.
Thanks for another insightful comment!
I am so happy I found your channel. So much of my life I have felt like a freaking Martian and now I am really starting to gain an understanding of who I am. Thank you for doing this!
Love your videos Frank keep them coming. I too have just ended a long term relationship, and am exploring spirituality more than I ever have before in my life. I am finding the time spent researching spirituality is helping me to stop in the forest and sit under a tree and live in the moment. Still thinking about the big picture but feeling every moment I can on a daily basis.
I just found your videos. As I read through the comments..it’s so clear that we’re unique. I finally found my people! It only took 41 years! Thank you
Peace F_J . Something tells me a lot of INFJ's may do poorly in things like Algebra. Unless they have a teacher who explains the "why/what for" part, of course.
I found maths really intuitive and easy 😊 I spoke to another INFJ friend who said that she did the same as me, she would work out how to do something before the teacher fully explained... in general the INFJs I know have been good at maths if they are generally academic
B Same, Math was super easy, a little too easy. My first math teacher in high school was very suspicious of me and often thought I was cheating. It was very annoying because I sat by myself away from everyone... So who was I cheating off of?
I LOVED algebra. Got my ocd on....
However, I hated geometry.
Well, then, *clearly* you're all not INFJ's.
Just kidding.
It was just a joke, folks (;
Actually, I always loved math. I loved the fact that I could approach a problem from many angles and still get the same answer. It was nice having an absolute. I grew up to be a math teacher and computer engineer.
4 years of depresssion about everything without knowing why. that test and your videos helped me more then any therapist did in such a short time. thanks a lot.🥲
Oh man, I love your channel so much. So much gold here, dude.
Thanks, Ann :)
Is this why I love snow above all things? All my life snow has been magical. I'm 52 and I walk out to snow and I'm 10 again. Always been the odd duck. I'm beginning to understand why. Thank you Sir and thank you for the snow. I'm a hospice nurse and today's probably going to be rough .. Your walk thru the snow put a smile on my face and light in my heart.
The introverted thinker works out the big picture or the quickest route to solutions so we can get back to being an introverted thinker...I think😕
Fursteve ferret lol yes
Yeeesssss. Sometimes people wonder how I do things that were supposed to take a long time to finish so quickly, but they don’t know that I have thought the quickest route to solution and analyzed them thoroughly just so I could go back to doing nothing or go back to my own world 🙃
I couldn't show my work in math because I could work out the answer easier in my head. The formula out on paper was extremely frustrating challenge as a child.
Hey. I gave been banging my head against a wall trying to figures out a complicated and emotionally abusive relationship I am in and how our circle of friends contribute to the support or lack of it and at the same time trying to understand how to deal with partner being skizophrenic and !!#?&@!!AHHHH!@$#(!! .....
Anyway... I want to thank you for sharing your insight and allowing me to see my situation as it is being an INFJ and that I am creating my own hell. I feel liberated in understanding why I stick around and how I really don't need to see the big picture in order to walk away. I enjoy your channel. Please keep it up!
SO true! My faith has helped me soooo much with my weaknesses, underdeveloped functions, depression, disappointments, and well, getting me out of the prison of my mind. Jesus saves and heals everything ❤
Also, after 2 years in Egypt and living mainly in Canada, while I LOVE when it's snowing...I don't like interacting with it afterwards...I'm slightly traumatized by our very long winters...
Seasonal Affective Disorder. We INFJs are already hyper sensitive to our environments.
So much wisdom in a young man, thank you for sharing your Self.
I just found your channel and watching you is so hipnotizing. You make so much sense of what I see in myself. Thanks for the insight! and why do you never smile? wait, it think it is because you are on serious ,mode. You are being a true INFJ.
Your discussion was succinct and straight forward. I needed that exposition. You did it for me. I now know that my suspicion of INFJ was correct over the INTJ from MBTI test over 50 years ago. Thanks.
YOU ARE MY PLATONIC INFJ LOVE! & BEST UA-cam INFJ FRIEND EVER! 🙌🏽😍🔥🙌🏽
I have used this exact phrase - I can't see the trees for the forest - several times. People usually look at me like I'm insane. I was shocked to see the title of this video. For me, I get so wrapped up in the whole picture that I get panicked and can't just focus on the details, the singular step I can do right now. This leads to paralysis. Thanks for sharing your insights. Glad to know I am not alone.
As an intuitive (INTP) i definitely relate to the big picture conceptual thing. Especially when I talk to high Si or Se users, it’s like they wanna grab onto a particular phrase or word I said instead of listening to the big picture statement I have to say. It can be really awkward cause often I’m not aware of the specific phrase/word I said since I’m more focused on conveying a general “vibe” (conceptual idea).
I guess the way we intuitives think is “zoomed out” from what’s really happening, while sensors just wanna stay “zoomed in”. This has caused a lot of frustration and miscommunication for me, for example when doing group projects with a bunch of other sensors.
Oh my god.. see I cannot find the words to describe these thoughts.. spirituality has brought many many realizations to me. Being present, exploring my mind, using my mind instead of it using me, being authentic and many many more things. Sharing my thoughts through text is easier than speaking them. More time to articulate and think. So happy i found you! I couldn’t find many intj pages on UA-cam or any social media for that and now look at all of us comig out the wood works
Watching ur vids is like falling in love! Love at 1st sight exists people!
"Where you don't know enough" story of my life (an INFJ)
Lmao you’re hilarious. The subtle jokes are great, I love it
I don't normally comment on videos, but dude thank you, this stuff is gold. You've helped me understand why I grind my gears and get frustrated when I'm told to do specific tasks before being made aware of the big picture.. Cheers for helping me connect two pieces of the proverbial puzzle :)
I wish I could articulate my thoughts the way you do! I've found regular quick meditations help me develop my extraverted sensing and living in the present. I love being "big-picture" oriented most of the time but definitely not when in a cynical-downward spiral-mood.
What you said around 7:45 is totally me... I've been doing a bunch of introspection and trying to "figure out" my life and my future and it's been driving me insane. I know my end goal, but getting there... I want to be in control and know everything so I can be prepared for it all. Accepting that I cannot know the big picture is gonna be rough, but I think it's going to be the next big thing I try to work on in my life. One of your videos was on my recommended page, and I've been watching through your videos this evening. I can't tell you how amazing it feels to know I'm not alone in my thoughts and thought processes. In closing, thank you so much for existing and sharing your thoughts 😂
I'm currently doing my PhD in architecture and urban design. Typically during projects I will go for the 'big picture' first, then work my way back to justify that concept/pattern. But with a PhD, you have to let the details/literature/precedent govern the direction - not my gut instinct. It was all backwards to what I was used to.
It takes so much discipline to switch thinking like this, but I am still working towards that initial concept that was inspired by the Anthropocene, climate change and the effects on coastal communities - the big picture stuff - which lets me see through the day to day obfuscations that the world throws our way. -___-
Another way I deal is to take on a persona while dealing with the details. I imagine myself as a 1950's pulp detective solving a crime, my research is the leads that I am looking for. I don't know why that helps, but it does.
Matt Gunn that's a good idea
@Matt Gunn
I think I will use your 1950's pulp detective thinking strategy, might help me too.
The way you explained the difference between introverted intuition and extroverted intuition - pure gold! Thank you!
I'm Catholic and I always find comfort from knowing that God loves me. I love you all guys.
That was insightful, thank you Frank. God bless you and keep you.
This helps me understand my boyfriend's struggles better. THANK YOU SO MUCH from an INFP
I've just stumbled upon a couple of your videos today as my urge to go deeper into figuring me out has led me to how I function as an INFJ. I have to say I'm unraveling certain aspects of myself in a way that just gets me. Your perspective on this information is truly amazing and eye opening. I absolutely love it and YOU!! 🙏🏽🙌🏾😆💖💜✨ and I've totally been working on my stare 😅👀🌀✨
This made me laugh. So many times in serious conversations (especially political) when somebody points out an issue, I always think to myself, your pulling me into the middle of a forest fire and saying, "we need to put out this tree"
This us so true, 100% on the "drops of information". On another note, I abhor how I email a coworker with a direct question/request, then they email me back with all the little details on how they need to do their job-then give answer at the end.
Yep. I definitely have the introverted intuition thing. A problem for me is understanding too much and feeling caught in the middle of seemingly conflicting ideas. I can sometimes see both as being valid. Also learning new concepts all the time trying to figure out the point of existence. I think I start to understand until I learn something else and then it's back to the drawing board. Thinking myself into a corner like painting yourself into one then looking around like shit, this isn't right either lol.
I just came across your channel and am mind blown... not only do I feel understood, but it also feels as if you're in my head. Beautifully creepy.
Thank you!
welcome!
This was a clear & comprehensive vid. Patterns, Yes! Obsessed. Thx, Frank!
...I think 🤔 ahahahaha. Love this. You two years ago and how you look now is fascinating to observe.
Spiritually; yes indeed. My Catholic faith is my bedrock. Perhaps something else would work for you. But yes, find your spirituality. And yes I love the snow. So cold and pure.
I've never felt so related to a comment, like now
True true video! And one thing I took from this video better than anything was the tree in the forest analogy. Because I never could figure out how I could answer that MBTI question of “Are you a detailed or big picture thinker”. I’d always say both. But now I see that I’m just an organized thought person.
Also... I just noticed that I love the snow for the very same reasons. Simple palette and quiet. Easy to experience. Easy to take in. I’m proud of you for pinpointing the WHY in your preferences. I would love to hear MORE of those observations in your videos so I can learn how to observe mine in that way and pinpoint my WHY so I can better communicate what I enjoy and who I am with other people. I sometimes have the worst times trying to explain them.
This is really accurate, I know that you articulated the way my mind has been since the start.
I thought that was a normal thing and nothing was different about me people thought about that, I was completely wrong.
Congrats on the 20,000 subscribers not sure if it was the same video but I just heard that's huge you're definitely cool and attractive.
That is a really great catch line 🌻🍄🌼 BTW.
The recipe line was so good!! I’m not learning how to just accept life as it comes and be more present. Focusing on being responsible for achieving my personal goals and upholding values regardless of a greater understanding is what I’m trying rn.
"No, no. Tell me what we're making or I'm not cracking one more egg, MOM." 😂😂 I may have said this before.
Thanks for letting us INTJs watch this too. I love my big picture view and wouldn’t trade it for the world. But it sure can make getting my hands dirty in the moment difficult.
When I was a bride, my husband would read me letters and I quickly learned to make him read me who it was from first because I couldn’t focus on what was going on when I didn’t know who it was about. I can’t imagine trying to do the carpentry work you were asked to without being oriented first.
For me, “I need to be oriented” is nearly a daily phrase.
And giving me the ultimate big picture is part of why I adore Jesus!
This video has made me feel so much more connected and understanding towards myself.
I don't know why I didn't see this post until now...but this describes me exactly. I think the most interesting one you mentioned has to do with a job and not being shown the big picture. Exactly. This is probably why I have hated a lot of my jobs.you do such a God job at describing how we think 😊
My favorite job I ever had was being the Coordinator for a Mentoring and Retention Program for my college. I loved this job. I was consistently helping people with my programs main goal: staying at the college and having no major issues in all aspects of that college. It did frustrate me when I failed though. No matter what, about 17% of the first year kids just couldn't do college, or at least my college, it was quite different from other institutions of learning.
Ever since I left college, I've been having trouble finding another job like this. Most jobs don't have a single overall goal (that they can tell you) and the jobs that do, get taken up by either Ne doms or other Ni doms. Honestly, what's frustrating me now, is finding a new job.
My last job I had a manager who was asshole. He wasn't even my supervisor, I think that botheres him, because he constantly belittled my job, but then again he belittled everyone. People would come to work happy Monday to Wednesday, then he showed up Thursday through Sun and sucked all of the happiness and joy from people's souls. It was very depressing, and I couldn't deal with it that for more than 6 months.
I guess I'm way late to the show but you have no idea how relieving it has been to know that I'm not alone and going crazy in my head. I've watched your show and everything I think, feel, do and have done all makes sense now. Thank you so much!!
Thanks for the subtitles :))
Yea this is happening at work and it’s so frustrating. When you’re in accounting, it’s not always ideal to see the forest and not the trees. You have to work so hard to focus on the details which causes you to stay in the present for so long that it drives you up a wall. Thank you for this video!! It helps me feel a bit better because I understand myself and I’m not gonna beat myself about it cause this who I am and I can’t change that
I think that is why i get fear paralysis whenever I try to understand where my life is going 😐 ..
Thank you for sharing your snow day. Don't get those too terribly often in Southern California.
Cool video! I have found when balancing my feminine and masculine energy I became more balanced and can live in the moment and be aware of everything within and around me. As well I can feel into each part, also the trees and the forest at once. Quite and awakening experience. I appreciate your video. I love snow too!
I relate so much to your videos and I can't thank you enough for putting yourself out there and talking about this. Even the hard to swallow pill bits. I do often get lost in the big picture and forgo the small details and it will inevitably bite me in the behind. I have become a spiritualist light worker. I.e. I read tarot for people for free. I have even thought about making my own UA-cam channel, but that Perfectionist Paralysis sets in, so I put it on the back burner. I've also seen how connected everything is, however I do focus a bit on the past and much more on the future than I do on the present. I recently had a healthy dose of Karma due to overlooking how I came off to someone in the past. I was not very nice, to put it mildly. They have returned into my life in a different way, and I didn't realize until the other day (Good ole Ni lightning bolt style) that I had interactions with them before. Now I've been trying to read them and it has not been going well. Honestly, it's driving me nuts because I can't tell if they remember me or not. It was a few years ago. I want to make it right, but I don't want to dig up past resentment either if I remind them.
I’m so happy I’ve chosen not to watch news all together. You ask how being big picture oriented is ruining my life; it’s in any way that you just mentioned already. The world is slowly falling apart because of humanity and I work in preschool, hoping that I can make the slightest difference for even just a few kids that might have ended up depressed in the future. I wish to see the people around me more in detail and I wish to enjoy my relationship, not constantly wondering if I ever chose the right partner. That last part is the one ruining me the most.
your videos are so therapeutic and calming
I love your videos. I am a classic INFJ. I am older than you and as far as spirituality goes, I MUST SAY (and thus is not a plug for Christianity), but the Bible has GREATLY answered my big picture questions. You want to have an apiphany of the universe and what it entails, read the Bible. It will blow your mind, my friend! It frees INFJ's from their tortured spirit and our wanting ....no...needing to see the big picture. Go for it!
Ana Crespo amen
The functions are our spiritual gifts for the Lord, especially Ni which can be considered the gift of discernment so you are so right! We must seek God in his word when we can't get the big picture as easily
Well said - I wholeheartedly agree. It's amazing what can be found in the Bible when one takes the time to look :) I moved from new age-related spirituality, to Islam, to Christianity, and the last was the only one to answer all of my pressing questions.
Couldn't agree more. However it should be said that all personality types can find a certain redemption in Jesus Christ and that's why He's all the more important. There's so much I could say about it but yeah, amen sis.
I'm a true INFJ and the bible is the silliest book I've ever read! I can't imagine an INFJ liking all the injustice and immature wraths God bestows upon his people (more like innocent victim's). I'm famous for puzzling together a bigger picture. However, I don't see a bigger picture in a book that contradicts itself. Anyway, it's not that great of a fictional piece. I have to say, "Boo to the bible!" It's filled with murders and written by homophobes.
I am a new subscriber and am enjoying your podcasts. I appreciate your comments about spirituality. There has always been a longing to know more about God for me. ( Never doubted His existence) I believe He gives us the desire of our hearts in our search. We can truly be ourselves with Him who knows us intimately ....more than we can know ourselves. And loves us infinitely. Will give us a new name in the future that describes exactly who we are. What we understand “darkly” now will one day be made very clear. We can trust Him to have a special purpose for us now and in the future. I feel honored that He has gifted INFJ’s with our unique talents to use for Him. There are so few of us, it makes me feel truly blessed.
lol @ the recipe metaphor----so accurate!
Wow this is so spot on. Especially at 7:40. I hate not knowing the direction of my life and I feel like everything needs to have a purpose. People always constantly remind me that I can't predict the future or "that's life!" which drives me crazy lol.
This is actually the best explanation I've seen so far. Thanks for adding the examples with the jigsaw puzzle and the recipe. I also can't just get into the car and turn on the GPS and follow directions. I need to look on Google maps and see the whole route at once, and then look at where all the turns are. If I haven't seen the whole map, following directions given one by one will make me really nervous.
Okay, so as an INFJ who is struggling in the area of relationships with other people... Can i request you do more videos about focusing in the moment
I will certainly address that topic in a future video!
Frank James thank you so much! I love your videos!!!
Yes
Wow!!! That was an eye opener for me. When someone tells me to do one step of a process, I have no problem doing it but I ALWAYS want to know what the end goal is so i can proceed to do the task and get it towards the goal. When I don't hear what the main goal is I get so frustrated and irritated and it's like how can I do this one step without knowing what I am doing. I think part of it is also that whatever the end goal is, might alter how I handle the task at hand. I never understood why I was like that and you just nailed it here for me.