Walking alone is quite comfortable, less messy, and i think I am my own best friend and soulmate and never get bored by talking with myself, and alone means less negetivity and if we move with the herd than it feels like my thoughts are occupied by their thoughts and i am not taking decisions on myself, and sometimes i got too emotional and always listen to their mind which make me overwhelmed and drains my energy... I want to be myself and enjoy my life so walking alone is important for my epic life and epic journey 💞
I've tried to help so many ppl so many times, but so few appreciate it. I'm done. I'm burned out on conflicting with ignorance and h8rz. I prefer isolation over persecution. Choosing myself. F off humans. Leveling up to divine status.
Listening to you gives me courage to choose myself. It’s been 5 months since I’ve started this journey (I found out i am an infj and ur channel last december), and it’s VERY PAINFUL. It’s as if I’m undergoing withdrawal pain from my ‘addiction’ of centering my life on people. It’s hard because Im aware that people are starting to hate me. But I just know it’s all worth it. I don’t want to be a people pleaser for the rest of my life.
I'm an infp, and I can tell you from experience, any friends you lose because you are choosing yourself in a non selfish way but just to protect yourself from the energies of others are friends that you don't need in your life anyways because they are prioritizing themselves in the connection and selfish ways and not even thinking of you.
Solitude helps you find yourself and full potential, heal after toxic situations, and improves spiritual development. It’s not a good idea to be interacting too much with too many other people who don’t have a clue what you’ve gone through. Everyone doesn’t know how to help victims of toxic situations and instead be more critical or judgmental than showing genuine care and concern. But we introverts don’t socialize too much anyway, and we don’t need a lot of friends either. For INFJs and most other introverted types, people have to BE REAL and have certain core values and qualities to qualify as “true friends” to us. But most people care more about their ego than authenticity. I’m at a point where I just don’t care anymore. Besides, smaller circles often have more authentic connections anyway, so it’s all good! Just facts. 💯👍💛
I like how you've expressed how we're wired! We have to keep our innermost knowledge about ourselves private.Others just don't understand and it doesn't matter. We are just more observant and insightful by nature than most. Thanks!
Lately I go out for a walk on the promenade a lot, I prefer it when it's not too crowded. Walking helps me stop overthinking and connect with the present, and I also try to develop my Se
OMG this was so good! I have been walking alone all my life but the problem is that I haven't completely accepted it. Full disclosure, I'm married but I think most married people who have been together for decades will admit that the other person is a different person. She is extremely accepting and tolerant of me and that is huge. But, sometimes when I talk to her I know that I sound like an alien to her. I can see it in her eyes. Probably every INFJ knows this feeling. What goes on in our heads is not a lot like what goes on in the majority of people's heads! So the first step on Wenzes Epic Life formula poster is Acceptance. This is one of those truths we have to accept and then move on from.
I think it's very important to look at our intentions behind our actions. It's good to help people, but do we do so to gain or because it's the right thing in that moment.
Less pain, less work, and more independence. People can be a hindrance and take up your time whereas you can go alone and have the freedom to go where you want to.
I like the reason no.3. It's not just advice for INFJs, it's advice for women. We are often raised without our parents (father) teaching us handy stuff because we are females and we "won't need that knowledge/handiness". Also, the root of depending on others to execute or trusting opinions of others more than our own to make decision or course of action is our overthinking and "what if I make a mistake and get blamed". We just need to pay attention to the number of times when others made a mistake, number of times we let others decide just for them to end up wrong and you eating yourself for not forcing your opinion and standing behind it (behind yourself). And then you start being OK with the responsibility. And if you are the one that is actively involved in actual implementation (as a doer and not advisor or supervisor), and you should be, it's easier to take on responsibility because it's you who will feel the consequences if things go sideways. Do not let anybody else be the captain of your life! It's degrading. Learn to do stuff.
Haven’t had a boyfriend for five years by choice. I have a lover but only see him when I’m feeling like it and he’s free. That would’ve made me feel bad in the past but I explained to him why things are like this so I’ve never lied to him. I need to have an inordinate amount of time alone. Finally doing what I need for me.
This this THIS!!!!!!!!!!! Yes! I have made this decision. Every time I look around I am backsliding into helping people and over-extending and putting myself out and forgetting my goals. This is such a deep psychological addiction. So I end up pushing folks away for now, bc I just can't stop these habits you are talking about.
i am INFJ and have no problem getting stuff done. I find myself often detecting when others are having trouble and helping them to move forward, in work or recreation. I dont wait for others to make decisions to help them.
“It’s hard to build momentum if your attention is divided.” As helpers and cheerleaders that INFJs are by default, I found this one quote extremely helpful. Being an INFJ, most of the time means having our attention divided to take care of people around us (even when the help is unsolicited XD). Consequently, even if we had a dream or goal we want to achieve, we could fail to follow through if we aren’t aware that we’re almost always putting others first… It’s been hard to change this pattern for me as an INFJ. However, I was able to experience life in a way I never thought possible by putting into practice to prioritize myself. It still feels difficult, and I am making lots of mistakes on this journey. Nevertheless, I am choosing this path, the road that I believe would ultimately lead to a more fulfilling life. Thank you for your videos, Wenzes. They've been helpful.
I’ve followed your vids for awhile and I mostly resonate with your points! But I’d be careful about making absolute statements (e.g. it has to be this way and it’s the only way for us), and also conflating our own unique attributes vs that which is typical of INFJs.
Stay Tuned and Stay Blessed. It is nice to watch your videos because they allow me to understand why I feel Iike I don't belong or fit into this strange world
I appreciated what you said in point 4 about building the "persistence muscle." And I also know that we have to do it our own way. Just today I had a difficult social exchange about a certain topic that means a lot to me, and it bothers me to see other people's misunderstanding of it. Someone had made a comment that seemed to make a sense but it still didn't resonate with me right. And as you also mentioned in point 5, we need time to decompress - and often more time than others do - and that's ok. And I took time to process what had been said and my own response to it. Even as I listened to you on this video, ideas begin to inform as to how I could think about this and maybe even communicate about it to others. It certainly would make life easier, and to make things easier to understand. As I took time, things began to come together more. It showed me why I have to decompress. Again this reminds me of one of my life principles - wait - make that two: (1). Sometimes we have to take time to save time and (2) Sometimes have to slow down to speed up. I've mentioned these ideas in previous comments but this time it really hit home in a special way after listening to this particular video. Good work!
Thank You Wenzes, your presentation today was just what the doctor ordered. Bye the way, you mentioned persistence, well I have a little story for you. Yesterday afternoon I Fedexed a 48 Inch tube containing seven 30X40 inch beyond extreme highend Digital Print Posters. The Project involved 3,437 days to get to this point. 4.2 pounds in all including a flash drive headed to toward the 400 block of Columbia Avenue in New York City. 9.4166 years of historical research, digital storyboarding 3,000 pages, 61 years of studying history, 40 years of extreme high end digital imaging, and unreal hours on my iMac. Primarily completely alone, until the last 20 months. To put it mildly, your timing was epic Wenzes, and most appropriate for a research project that was based on historical synchronic evil. Thank You Wenzes, You Did It Again!!! Let me add this to the mix, your ability to speak so eloquently, flawlessly, and right on track is a thing of beauty, and is evidence of the wisdom you hold within you.
Thank you Wenzes! So often your videos cover exactly the topic I'm dealing with at the time - and your content is very validating. Thank you. "Walking alone means choosing your truth." ☺
We never walk alone - as an INFJ particularly, we always got ourselves !! (i.e. The relationship that's most important (and the relationship that's best for us) is the one we got with ourselves. Be your own best buddy.)
I get lonely sometimes. But I'd still prefer to be alone than with those who would hear that, and try to add a bit more misery to it. I have one good friend, whom I cherish. A few close acquaintances. I'm good with that. I'm done with duplicitous, insecure, or conniving, frenemies. (Seriously. I'd prefer a major allergic reaction or something.)
Sometimes I feel guilty about separating myself from others and this video totally validated my experience. How would you say is the best way to communicate this comfortably to those you care about but know you need to distance yourself from? I have a tendency to find this awareness in needing to care for myself but in a way it can seem as if I’m ghosting on people.
I feel like walking alone and having lots of time in solitude allows me to focus on my poetry and lyrics. If I was busy with friends a lot of the time, I don't think I would have time for art unless I was around friends who are also into poetry or music. I prefer small groups of people rather than crowds. I feel like I can't connect with anyone when I'm in a crowd while I feel more connected with people when I'm hanging either one on one or in a small group.
Thank you for the video. I enjoyed it very much. May I ask you a question, please? What is that piece of artwork that is hanging behind you? May I ask, please? I love it! I need that, it's so soft and soothing. I love the colors! Thank you!
Thank you for this video and for the encouragement. I still struggle with not wanting to win by myself. I think I managed to get my will in the right place in this dynamic, but all the lower functions, including most of my feelings, have not conformed yet. Sometimes I just want to cry for how hard it is to let go of that picture of walking together with others while I win, and sharing the victory. I have to get over the grief of knowing that if I go ahead and win, I can never share that special experience with another person. It will have happened already, and there was nobody there. It was non-relational. Most people can't understand what my internal obstacle is, and I've had a hard time understanding myself.
Thank you Wenzes, already took a lot from your videos - honestly i think it happens to most infjs or people with some of those general, matching patterns - (still not quite sure what to think of the concept, theory & outlaying of the "infj") that if they (like me) watch your videos, in the beginning it is reallllllyyyyyy overwhelming and super super energy consuming + confusing but with activly working on the life with the amazing help of your videos, it slowly gets better and better, i can feel it already - so thank you a lot Wenzes!!
I just dont know how to succeed.. I hate all todays thing of consistency. Social media are great for creating success/business, but it is all just about quantity, not quality. It does not mattet what shit you will put out there. It just has to be every day and funny... I always get stucked on my desire of having everything estheticly harmonic.. I dont know what to do..
I love your Videos Each and everytime I watch,its as if you know me personally because no one else understand the subject you speak of or at least how you express them. In other words discribing how we as INFJ truly comprehend how we feel or at least how I feel. I am a manifestor in Human design I always wonder what Human design type you are...
Are you suggesting that it is God's plan for people of our ilk to remain alone? Because as of late, I have been resonating with this thought and there is no remorse attached to it.
by the time your 40 this will be easier and you build a muscle base about it mostly because the broken record of the next generation comes along repeating all the same old crap that intimidate you initially bark bark bark they are as a dog that barks for no reason
What is some of your motivation to "walk alone!?
Goals and peace of mind. Sustaining a balance that keeps my peace of mind
They don't get it. ✌️
Walking alone is quite comfortable, less messy, and i think I am my own best friend and soulmate and never get bored by talking with myself, and alone means less negetivity and if we move with the herd than it feels like my thoughts are occupied by their thoughts and i am not taking decisions on myself, and sometimes i got too emotional and always listen to their mind which make me overwhelmed and drains my energy...
I want to be myself and enjoy my life so walking alone is important for my epic life and epic journey 💞
@@jessmason2112 and they never will. That's okay. I'm good with it. Keep moving.
I've tried to help so many ppl so many times, but so few appreciate it. I'm done. I'm burned out on conflicting with ignorance and h8rz. I prefer isolation over persecution. Choosing myself. F off humans. Leveling up to divine status.
Listening to you gives me courage to choose myself. It’s been 5 months since I’ve started this journey (I found out i am an infj and ur channel last december), and it’s VERY PAINFUL. It’s as if I’m undergoing withdrawal pain from my ‘addiction’ of centering my life on people. It’s hard because Im aware that people are starting to hate me. But I just know it’s all worth it. I don’t want to be a people pleaser for the rest of my life.
I've been on the journey for almost 3 years, got sick got back up and now i'm seeing the light coming in more and more
@@clementokoye3431 same! Txs for sharing.
Are infj's people pleasers?
Yes, its hard
I'm an infp, and I can tell you from experience, any friends you lose because you are choosing yourself in a non selfish way but just to protect yourself from the energies of others are friends that you don't need in your life anyways because they are prioritizing themselves in the connection and selfish ways and not even thinking of you.
Well spoken and extremely accurate. I've learned walking alone is needed to stay on my path and not to be distracted by those that run with the herd.
Yeah
I'm alone but not lonely. I enjoy my live...
Now I know that I'm an INFJ
😊🙏🙏..
Same here
You're right - there's a difference between"loneliness" and "aloneness."
Solitude helps you find yourself and full potential, heal after toxic situations, and improves spiritual development. It’s not a good idea to be interacting too much with too many other people who don’t have a clue what you’ve gone through. Everyone doesn’t know how to help victims of toxic situations and instead be more critical or judgmental than showing genuine care and concern. But we introverts don’t socialize too much anyway, and we don’t need a lot of friends either. For INFJs and most other introverted types, people have to BE REAL and have certain core values and qualities to qualify as “true friends” to us. But most people care more about their ego than authenticity. I’m at a point where I just don’t care anymore. Besides, smaller circles often have more authentic connections anyway, so it’s all good! Just facts. 💯👍💛
I think you've summed it up well.
I like how you've expressed how we're wired! We have to keep our innermost knowledge about ourselves private.Others just don't understand and it doesn't matter. We are just more observant and insightful by nature than most. Thanks!
Lately I go out for a walk on the promenade a lot, I prefer it when it's not too crowded. Walking helps me stop overthinking and connect with the present, and I also try to develop my Se
Terrific
OMG this was so good! I have been walking alone all my life but the problem is that I haven't completely accepted it. Full disclosure, I'm married but I think most married people who have been together for decades will admit that the other person is a different person. She is extremely accepting and tolerant of me and that is huge. But, sometimes when I talk to her I know that I sound like an alien to her. I can see it in her eyes. Probably every INFJ knows this feeling. What goes on in our heads is not a lot like what goes on in the majority of people's heads! So the first step on Wenzes Epic Life formula poster is Acceptance. This is one of those truths we have to accept and then move on from.
I think it's very important to look at our intentions behind our actions. It's good to help people, but do we do so to gain or because it's the right thing in that moment.
Hey Wenzes, could you do an episode on depression and suicide rates among INFJs. Please. EDIT: causes and how to deal with it. I need to hear it.
Less pain, less work, and more independence. People can be a hindrance and take up your time whereas you can go alone and have the freedom to go where you want to.
I like the reason no.3. It's not just advice for INFJs, it's advice for women. We are often raised without our parents (father) teaching us handy stuff because we are females and we "won't need that knowledge/handiness". Also, the root of depending on others to execute or trusting opinions of others more than our own to make decision or course of action is our overthinking and "what if I make a mistake and get blamed". We just need to pay attention to the number of times when others made a mistake, number of times we let others decide just for them to end up wrong and you eating yourself for not forcing your opinion and standing behind it (behind yourself). And then you start being OK with the responsibility. And if you are the one that is actively involved in actual implementation (as a doer and not advisor or supervisor), and you should be, it's easier to take on responsibility because it's you who will feel the consequences if things go sideways. Do not let anybody else be the captain of your life! It's degrading. Learn to do stuff.
Haven’t had a boyfriend for five years by choice. I have a lover but only see him when I’m feeling like it and he’s free. That would’ve made me feel bad in the past but I explained to him why things are like this so I’ve never lied to him. I need to have an inordinate amount of time alone. Finally doing what I need for me.
You sure you're not an intj?
This this THIS!!!!!!!!!!! Yes! I have made this decision. Every time I look around I am backsliding into helping people and over-extending and putting myself out and forgetting my goals. This is such a deep psychological addiction. So I end up pushing folks away for now, bc I just can't stop these habits you are talking about.
Real
i am INFJ and have no problem getting stuff done. I find myself often detecting when others are having trouble and helping them to move forward, in work or recreation. I dont wait for others to make decisions to help them.
“It’s hard to build momentum if your attention is divided.”
As helpers and cheerleaders that INFJs are by default, I found this one quote extremely helpful.
Being an INFJ, most of the time means having our attention divided to take care of people around us (even when the help is unsolicited XD). Consequently, even if we had a dream or goal we want to achieve, we could fail to follow through if we aren’t aware that we’re almost always putting others first…
It’s been hard to change this pattern for me as an INFJ. However, I was able to experience life in a way I never thought possible by putting into practice to prioritize myself.
It still feels difficult, and I am making lots of mistakes on this journey. Nevertheless, I am choosing this path, the road that I believe would ultimately lead to a more fulfilling life.
Thank you for your videos, Wenzes. They've been helpful.
I’ve followed your vids for awhile and I mostly resonate with your points! But I’d be careful about making absolute statements (e.g. it has to be this way and it’s the only way for us), and also conflating our own unique attributes vs that which is typical of INFJs.
Typical INFJ 😂❤
Stay Tuned and Stay Blessed. It is nice to watch your videos because they allow me to understand why I feel Iike I don't belong or fit into this strange world
Very strange world
Very strange world
I appreciated what you said in point 4 about building the "persistence muscle." And I also know that we have to do it our own way. Just today I had a difficult social exchange about a certain topic that means a lot to me, and it bothers me to see other people's misunderstanding of it. Someone had made a comment that seemed to make a sense but it still didn't resonate with me right. And as you also mentioned in point 5, we need time to decompress - and often more time than others do - and that's ok. And I took time to process what had been said and my own response to it.
Even as I listened to you on this video, ideas begin to inform as to how I could think about this and maybe even communicate about it to others. It certainly would make life easier, and to make things easier to understand. As I took time, things began to come together more. It showed me why I have to decompress. Again this reminds me of one of my life principles - wait - make that two: (1). Sometimes we have to take time to save time and (2) Sometimes have to slow down to speed up. I've mentioned these ideas in previous comments but this time it really hit home in a special way after listening to this particular video.
Good work!
I'm ready
Only if someone needs me is when I connect with them. Other than that I’m very comfortable cherishing my own company.
Thank You Wenzes, your presentation today was just what the doctor ordered. Bye the way, you mentioned persistence, well I have a little story for you. Yesterday afternoon I Fedexed a 48 Inch tube containing seven 30X40 inch beyond extreme highend Digital Print Posters. The Project involved 3,437 days to get to this point. 4.2 pounds in all including a flash drive headed to toward the 400 block of Columbia Avenue in New York City. 9.4166 years of historical research, digital storyboarding 3,000 pages, 61 years of studying history, 40 years of extreme high end digital imaging, and unreal hours on my iMac. Primarily completely alone, until the last 20 months. To put it mildly, your timing was epic Wenzes, and most appropriate for a research project that was based on historical synchronic evil. Thank You Wenzes, You Did It Again!!! Let me add this to the mix, your ability to speak so eloquently, flawlessly, and right on track is a thing of beauty, and is evidence of the wisdom you hold within you.
Thank you Wenzes! So often your videos cover exactly the topic I'm dealing with at the time - and your content is very validating. Thank you. "Walking alone means choosing your truth." ☺
We walk the walk period😉
Talk is cheap!
We never walk alone - as an INFJ particularly, we always got ourselves !!
(i.e. The relationship that's most important (and the relationship that's best for us) is the one we got with ourselves. Be your own best buddy.)
Thank you Wenzes, you are helping so many people including me. I'm an INFJ.
I get lonely sometimes. But I'd still prefer to be alone than with those who would hear that, and try to add a bit more misery to it. I have one good friend, whom I cherish. A few close acquaintances. I'm good with that.
I'm done with duplicitous, insecure, or conniving, frenemies. (Seriously. I'd prefer a major allergic reaction or something.)
This caused my body to involuntarily react with a "heck ya" head nod as well as a huge smile after reading it.
Your perspective and encouragement are just what I need at this moment. Loving your videos! They're all resonating so deeply. Thank you so much!! 💖
Sometimes I feel guilty about separating myself from others and this video totally validated my experience. How would you say is the best way to communicate this comfortably to those you care about but know you need to distance yourself from? I have a tendency to find this awareness in needing to care for myself but in a way it can seem as if I’m ghosting on people.
Just keep learning about infj life.
Don’t worry about , do what you have to do for your personal well being. Plain and simple. ✌️
@MH
I am starting on my own path right now and i am excited,it has been a long time coming.Hardest thing i have had to do,but very necessary.
I feel like walking alone and having lots of time in solitude allows me to focus on my poetry and lyrics. If I was busy with friends a lot of the time, I don't think I would have time for art unless I was around friends who are also into poetry or music. I prefer small groups of people rather than crowds. I feel like I can't connect with anyone when I'm in a crowd while I feel more connected with people when I'm hanging either one on one or in a small group.
Thank you for the video. I enjoyed it very much. May I ask you a question, please? What is that piece of artwork that is hanging behind you? May I ask, please? I love it! I need that, it's so soft and soothing. I love the colors! Thank you!
Your new hair suits you so well and you look beautiful! Love the color and cut
I’ve been thinking about this for the last few days. Seeing this video is a confirmation that what I’m thinking is accurate. Thank you ❤
I feel like Wenzes is getting next level lately, I keep wanting to hit the like button 15 times
Thank you for this video and for the encouragement. I still struggle with not wanting to win by myself. I think I managed to get my will in the right place in this dynamic, but all the lower functions, including most of my feelings, have not conformed yet. Sometimes I just want to cry for how hard it is to let go of that picture of walking together with others while I win, and sharing the victory. I have to get over the grief of knowing that if I go ahead and win, I can never share that special experience with another person. It will have happened already, and there was nobody there. It was non-relational. Most people can't understand what my internal obstacle is, and I've had a hard time understanding myself.
Wenze's you're the best mentor and I like your guidance.I concur.Jerome
Thank you Wenzes, already took a lot from your videos - honestly i think it happens to most infjs or people with some of those general, matching patterns - (still not quite sure what to think of the concept, theory & outlaying of the "infj") that if they (like me) watch your videos, in the beginning it is reallllllyyyyyy overwhelming and super super energy consuming + confusing but with activly working on the life with the amazing help of your videos, it slowly gets better and better, i can feel it already - so thank you a lot Wenzes!!
Felt like you were talking directly to me, absolutely true!
🎉 brilliant, Thankyou, rReasuring and validating 🎉
Nice video. Points are hitting home.
Connecting 👊🏻, awesome video! Ty💕
The wise man can always be found alone.
#3 Rely on others…what about delegation and hiring people so we have time to pursue our dreams?
Wow such good advice, thanks ❤
Thank you mba wenzes 😊
Insightful information on this INFJ type! I encountered your channel through the UA-cam algorithm by chance. Thanks for sharing! 🔥🔥🔥
I just dont know how to succeed.. I hate all todays thing of consistency. Social media are great for creating success/business, but it is all just about quantity, not quality. It does not mattet what shit you will put out there. It just has to be every day and funny... I always get stucked on my desire of having everything estheticly harmonic.. I dont know what to do..
same. honest
Thanks!
Helpful video!
Bcz it feels right
I love your Videos
Each and everytime I watch,its as if you know me personally because no one else understand the subject you speak of or at least how you express them. In other words discribing how we as INFJ truly comprehend how we feel or at least how I feel. I am a manifestor in Human design I always wonder what Human design type you are...
We have to live we can’t just wait around or settle for anything less than what we deserve.
I always appreciate your encouragement❤
oh new hairstyle👍
We want love but being single in this life is great too. Talk about maximum solitude 😉
It’s god’s plan not yours anyway lol
Are you suggesting that it is God's plan for people of our ilk to remain alone? Because as of late, I have been resonating with this thought and there is no remorse attached to it.
I actually envy INFJS.
Marina & the Diamonds - Forget
by the time your 40 this will be easier and you build a muscle base about it
mostly because the broken record of the next generation comes along repeating all the same old crap that intimidate you initially
bark bark bark they are as a dog that barks for no reason
INFJ are the Holy Spirit 😘
Alhamde liAllah الحمد لله
Difficult person. Difficult life.