This couldn’t have come at a better time. I have been in a trauma bond with him since he left me after 19 years. After depriving me of intimacy for the last 8 years. He got me back into his bed. Since then he has jumped into a new relationship and he is buying and doing everything to groom her and she is absolutely all in. She is a broken woman and he is using it to his advantage. This weekend he took her on a getaway. The part that resonated with me is the “better treatment”. Before the getaway he sent me a text asking how I was. My heart broke and I blocked him. The last conversation was that he would call me today to come over this evening. I’m so sick and tired of feeling broken. I have taken whatever I could get in hopes that he would come back to me. I’m not proud of myself. It’s been 6 months now and I can’t explain how low I feel. So no contact started Thursday and I will put all that energy into writing a new narrative for my life. If anyone is going through this. Let it go. Don’t be like me. There is no hope. They don’t care. They will use you in anyway they can. Find peace. Be happy. Be strong. Don’t be afraid to be alone.
@@RawMotivations I will reach out to you when I can get my finances in order. I have been sharing a bed with him and his new supply without her knowledge. It’s a hard pill to swallow. How low a narcissist can make you go.
I was with her for over a year, she assaulted multiple times, cheated multiple times. I finally had the courage to leave her in February and after a week she got engaged and married two weeks after that. She tried to hoover me and triangulate but I blocked her everywhere.
Towards the end of our relationship he said his new supply loves him more🤣. I had to laugh and said, “ I don’t love you after being with you over 25 yrs and putting up with your BS. I stopped making dinner when I just walked thru the door from work and put my feet up. Told him he is quite capable of doing his own laundry and if I felt like it I might make his lunch on a daily basis if the mood strikes after a long day at work. He wouldn’t eat if I didn’t make his lunch. When was the last time you made mine. Shut him right up! That’s when he started looking elsewhere for someone who would do everything he asked for! Days after our divorce he moved in with her then bought her a car. I hear unfortunately remarks thru my adult kids. Honestly they deserve each other! May they live “unhappily ever after.” As for myself I have to pick up the pieces from everything that has happened. It has been a slow process but I am healing but scared to death to ever get close to someone again!
This is so messed up it's hard to comprehend... but you're right. At the beginning when we got together he did put a post up of us on social media. The way it was worded I now can see clearly that he was deliberately trying to upset an ex of his.
Sigh...very comforting...been discarded 9 months now. After 10 years and 2 kids SHE went on to another situation 3 weeks after. I been no contact since...she has tried to hoover but block and delete. Its still hard though...we were young and we were all each other had...so i thought. So one day at a time, ill get there
Thanx for the info Ben, they tried this with me but I stopped reacting. I remain in deferent when we do HAVE to see each other for child visits. Can you please do a video on 2 narcissist in a relationship? My ex's new supply is also a narcissist. We have known her for many years and I tried to avoid her, but she was always there in the background. He used to be neglecting, vulnerable and she is malicious. They have now teamed up against me (enemy nr 1) and trying to make my life hell with baiting and using our child as a flying monkey. While as your video above states "putting on a show" for the world. I am sure neither one of them knows about the other's personality yet.
How should I react/respond when I see the narc grooming the new supply? My narc ex is temporarily living with me and he’s talking on the phone with the new supply, texting her etc with all this lovey dovey crap while he’s with me. She’s legit 19 years old, 10 years younger than us. He is literally out with me and texting her all the activities we are doing together. It’s messed up. I don’t want to react but I cannot stand the injustice of it. What should I do- pretend I don’t notice what he’s doing and just don’t say anything at all?
Question: I have my ex Narc blocked but I can’t resist looking at new supplies page sometimes. New supply usually posts memes but suddenly has started posting photos of them … could the narc be taking over her page?
I’m wondering if I’m wrong about my narcissist… the way the relationship went was exactly to a T of how narcissistic relationships go from what I’ve learned. There was so much control, manipulation, abuse physically mentally sexually and emotionally.. he was cheating on me for 8 months before he discarded me (for the last time) with a married woman at our job and jumped right into a relationship with her after me. because they work together on the same team and they lied to HR about it, he can’t flaunt it all over social media or tell anyone. He has also not reached out to me/hoovered once or tried to reach out at all to try to rope me back in. Is it truly narcissism or is this all in my head? There’s so much more but that’s all I can do right now because I don’t want this to be too long!
my ex is a narcissists, her new supply or a flying monkey tried to accuse me of things i didn't do. I was stuck in a trauma bond with her and had sever ptsd, ive been on four meds cuz of her . The relationship was only give and I barely received any love. No one knew that I was with her. She would manipulate me and hide and treat me like i was an object or a toy. I fought back and was called crazy at the end and asked to seek help. She flirted with me when i pulled away and when i came back she said that we are not dating. I hate her so much. I am an empath and a good person I really really tried to love her but was broken constantly , keep in mind she is a 20 year old girl acting so immature. She moved on within a month with her flying monkey after lying to me and the people around her and acting like i was the bad person. I left college cuz of the drama and my mental health. Some of my friend stopped talking to me cause of her.
in their... pov, yes. bc what i mean by better was actually free. so pretty much, the bare min. & that sounds bad & laughable. but i think bare min couldnt meet alot of classes. anywho, i bet she does get off on the little things. even if their recycleable... but im so the nonmaterialistic kind, ..i somexs only get triggered by outside things to even remember. like some social media relative topic thing that even mentions materials. then im like oh yeah. but those things dont trigger me bc i forget i even had them. bc maybe your enviornment does shape u.. but even in my junky car... it consists of alotta brandy things ... theyre just scattered all over the floor and what not. i even found a poem he wrote. my only thought on that was i wonder if he stole that too... or if he actually wrote it. but if we were to get pricey, in short, hes too undisciplined & broke b4 i even get a chance to be ," too high maintance." & by high maintance i only mean cutesy family trips to like disney. which prob sounds extravagent to him, its my childhood..., &but to others it just sounds normal & typical. hes def different.... but im trying to obtain typical & normal... :/ & that, he is not. typical & normal sounds more boring when i guess u got more living to do
One never knows for sure. That said, it is very possible that a narc would indeed love a platform like this and would indeed use it to their advantage, 1) constant supply 2) makes them money 3) they can claim to be the expert in the subject. All of the things a narcassist would love.
This couldn’t have come at a better time.
I have been in a trauma bond with him since he left me after 19 years. After depriving me of intimacy for the last 8 years. He got me back into his bed.
Since then he has jumped into a new relationship and he is buying and doing everything to groom her and she is absolutely all in. She is a broken woman and he is using it to his advantage.
This weekend he took her on a getaway.
The part that resonated with me is the “better treatment”. Before the getaway he sent me a text asking how I was. My heart broke and I blocked him.
The last conversation was that he would call me today to come over this evening. I’m so sick and tired of feeling broken. I have taken whatever I could get in hopes that he would come back to me. I’m not proud of myself. It’s been 6 months now and I can’t explain how low I feel.
So no contact started Thursday and I will put all that energy into writing a new narrative for my life.
If anyone is going through this. Let it go. Don’t be like me. There is no hope. They don’t care. They will use you in anyway they can.
Find peace. Be happy. Be strong. Don’t be afraid to be alone.
Would love to help you on your healing journey. If I can be of help feel free to grab a time here at rawmotivations.com/one-on-ones
@@RawMotivations I will reach out to you when I can get my finances in order. I have been sharing a bed with him and his new supply without her knowledge. It’s a hard pill to swallow. How low a narcissist can make you go.
Praying for you on your journey to healing ❤️🩹
I feel for you. Narcissists can make you do crazy things and make you feel crazy.
I was with her for over a year, she assaulted multiple times, cheated multiple times.
I finally had the courage to leave her in February and after a week she got engaged and married two weeks after that.
She tried to hoover me and triangulate but I blocked her everywhere.
Towards the end of our relationship he said his new supply loves him more🤣. I had to laugh and said, “ I don’t love you after being with you over 25 yrs and putting up with your BS. I stopped making dinner when I just walked thru the door from work and put my feet up. Told him he is quite capable of doing his own laundry and if I felt like it I might make his lunch on a daily basis if the mood strikes after a long day at work. He wouldn’t eat if I didn’t make his lunch. When was the last time you made mine. Shut him right up!
That’s when he started looking elsewhere for someone who would do everything he asked for!
Days after our divorce he moved in with her then bought her a car.
I hear unfortunately remarks thru my adult kids. Honestly they deserve each other! May they live “unhappily ever after.”
As for myself I have to pick up the pieces from everything that has happened. It has been a slow process but I am healing but scared to death to ever get close to someone again!
This is so messed up it's hard to comprehend... but you're right. At the beginning when we got together he did put a post up of us on social media. The way it was worded I now can see clearly that he was deliberately trying to upset an ex of his.
Sigh...very comforting...been discarded 9 months now. After 10 years and 2 kids SHE went on to another situation 3 weeks after. I been no contact since...she has tried to hoover but block and delete. Its still hard though...we were young and we were all each other had...so i thought. So one day at a time, ill get there
Thank Hod for you, Lee Hammock and Dr Ramani
Thanx for the info Ben, they tried this with me but I stopped reacting. I remain in deferent when we do HAVE to see each other for child visits. Can you please do a video on 2 narcissist in a relationship? My ex's new supply is also a narcissist. We have known her for many years and I tried to avoid her, but she was always there in the background. He used to be neglecting, vulnerable and she is malicious. They have now teamed up against me (enemy nr 1) and trying to make my life hell with baiting and using our child as a flying monkey. While as your video above states "putting on a show" for the world. I am sure neither one of them knows about the other's personality yet.
Thank you so much for this video.
How should I react/respond when I see the narc grooming the new supply? My narc ex is temporarily living with me and he’s talking on the phone with the new supply, texting her etc with all this lovey dovey crap while he’s with me. She’s legit 19 years old, 10 years younger than us. He is literally out with me and texting her all the activities we are doing together. It’s messed up. I don’t want to react but I cannot stand the injustice of it. What should I do- pretend I don’t notice what he’s doing and just don’t say anything at all?
4 Reasons Why the Narcissists New Supply Looks Better
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Thanks for sharing this and that’s what my ex did her and new supply was plotting up on me to get me out the pic
Question: I have my ex Narc blocked but I can’t resist looking at new supplies page sometimes. New supply usually posts memes but suddenly has started posting photos of them … could the narc be taking over her page?
I’m wondering if I’m wrong about my narcissist… the way the relationship went was exactly to a T of how narcissistic relationships go from what I’ve learned. There was so much control, manipulation, abuse physically mentally sexually and emotionally.. he was cheating on me for 8 months before he discarded me (for the last time) with a married woman at our job and jumped right into a relationship with her after me. because they work together on the same team and they lied to HR about it, he can’t flaunt it all over social media or tell anyone. He has also not reached out to me/hoovered once or tried to reach out at all to try to rope me back in. Is it truly narcissism or is this all in my head? There’s so much more but that’s all I can do right now because I don’t want this to be too long!
my ex is a narcissists, her new supply or a flying monkey tried to accuse me of things i didn't do. I was stuck in a trauma bond with her and had sever ptsd, ive been on four meds cuz of her . The relationship was only give and I barely received any love. No one knew that I was with her. She would manipulate me and hide and treat me like i was an object or a toy. I fought back and was called crazy at the end and asked to seek help. She flirted with me when i pulled away and when i came back she said that we are not dating. I hate her so much. I am an empath and a good person I really really tried to love her but was broken constantly , keep in mind she is a 20 year old girl acting so immature. She moved on within a month with her flying monkey after lying to me and the people around her and acting like i was the bad person. I left college cuz of the drama and my mental health. Some of my friend stopped talking to me cause of her.
Are you kidding me? The narc is broke, the new supply is broke, I still get the bills...unpaid & overlapping 😂😂😂 what a fucking joke😂😂😂
in their... pov, yes. bc what i mean by better was actually free. so pretty much, the bare min. & that sounds bad & laughable. but i think bare min couldnt meet alot of classes. anywho, i bet she does get off on the little things. even if their recycleable... but im so the nonmaterialistic kind, ..i somexs only get triggered by outside things to even remember. like some social media relative topic thing that even mentions materials. then im like oh yeah. but those things dont trigger me bc i forget i even had them. bc maybe your enviornment does shape u.. but even in my junky car... it consists of alotta brandy things ... theyre just scattered all over the floor and what not. i even found a poem he wrote. my only thought on that was i wonder if he stole that too... or if he actually wrote it. but if we were to get pricey, in short, hes too undisciplined & broke b4 i even get a chance to be ," too high maintance." & by high maintance i only mean cutesy family trips to like disney. which prob sounds extravagent to him, its my childhood..., &but to others it just sounds normal & typical. hes def different.... but im trying to obtain typical & normal... :/ & that, he is not. typical & normal sounds more boring when i guess u got more living to do
There's no such thing as a self-aware narcissist
Exactly. It's starting to become a trend. Another gimmick for clout. Narcissists lack empathy, yet this channel is about helping victims recover.
One never knows for sure. That said, it is very possible that a narc would indeed love a platform like this and would indeed use it to their advantage, 1) constant supply 2) makes them money 3) they can claim to be the expert in the subject. All of the things a narcassist would love.
If you're worried about this then you're not distancing yourself and you're not healing yourself properly
Bro, you seem more like "you" were the victim.