In one of your videos you said "be weary of men who want you to see their money before you see their merit". That line really stuck with me. I no longer accepted things from people I was unsure about. I started getting "ghosted" by the guys who just wanted to "impress" me into doing things for them. You really saved me a lot of trouble. That's Kev, we appreciate you!
Love bombers ALWAYS want something in return. The last guy I talked to tried to love bomb me offered to pay my bills, buy me clothes/shoes etc. I wouldn't take nothing but food. He accused me of using him😭 He was trying to live with me, kept trying to come in my house. He never took 1 step my home. Blocked and deleted...
Same as me offering too take me out buying me a jewellery taking me places etc. When i asked him too slow down not talk as frequently he said ok fine then just stopped speaking and starting ignoring me. Not respecting my boundaries or at the pace i wanted
Omg lol, i will never forget we were like 18 & my friend met this bum ass dude! She had her own little place and he was bragging about this ‘Italian leather couch’ he wanted to give her. It was a regular ass couch prob had bedbugs anyways after he put this couch in her apartment he apparently thought he could be there whenever he wanted bc its his couch 😮like wtf lol. This guy was way older than us too we were 18-19 he was in his 30s .
We live with locks on doors, bars at the windows, border control and passwords everywhere, just to feel relatively safe. But when it comes to our bodies and souls, we're supposed to open up immediately, just because this random person professes their undying love on day one? no thank you.
Paul said it "Love keeps no record of injury", It should not be guilttripping but guilttripping is often the difference between nice and being kind. It takes kindness in the heart for someone to do something out of the kindness of their heart.
The last guy texted me “good morning, sunshine” the morning after meeting me. That was red flag enough of inappropriate contact when we don’t know each other enough yet to quit right there.
Yesss. I had to learn the hard way about this to where it became a turn off when guys did too much in the beginning or first day without even getting to know me. Saying things like "Girl we locked in" or "You my baby, I'm gonna do (this and that etc.) for you." Like on the first day without knowing me...like bruh u don't even know me yet so that's all cap and I ain't falling for it. I don't like being sold dreams I want someone to feel that way after taking the time to get to know me and really understand who I am as a whole not just looks. Hey, what u said at the end, you should do a video on that eventually, the do's and don't when it comes to what you display on your dating profile. I'm not gonna lie I've been tempted to get back on dating apps but I'm good. Lol still healing don't wanna interrupt the process.
👸fell for him asking me to go look at rings 💍on our 1st date. didn't go. bc im like no. u don't know me. it felt good. kept dating & talking marriage 💑felt red flags. im celibate & he's not. avoided spending time w/him bc he's p-orn addict & k.s. anti-wm, red pill💊 mindset. he ghosted. so happy i pulled way back to see if his feelings were real 🤥 & glad i kept my legs closed.
I'm so very nauseous of men playing all these mind games, seems like to me being in any type of relationship with a man is like that of playing a damned game of chess. Way too much stress for me.
Not just men. Women do this too, at similar rates. Sometimes more. This is a human flaw not a male flaw. ℹ address men because my audience is women. Not because they are the only ones who do it. With love
@@KevHick You're exactly right, women do the exact same thing. I guess I'm so frustrated with men doing it verses the women is because I'm only attracted to the male's only. But yes women can definitely be a trip to deal with at times to far as playing games are concerned.
This is exactly the kind of video I hoped you’d put out! Thank you for this comparison between healthy vs non-healthy lookalikes. Some of us out here didn’t grow up with role models for healthy relationships, so sometimes the narcissistic behaviors that masquerade as love can be very convincing
I knew this guy once who couldn’t keep his hands off a woman he wanted to marry. That was love bombing, it was sickening to see him constantly touching her with no break. He married her within 2 months. Not sure how long it took him to tire and change but he began calling her bad names and putting her down. He was no catch, she didn’t even know that he was jobless when he married her. He was a liar too. If a man can’t keep his hands off you, run.
I was a woman who had been constantly mistreated, emotionally abused in my marriage to a narcissist for over 20 years. I met a healthy man 3 years post leave/divorce and I thought that he was love bombing me. I even told him that he was! 😂 He stuck by me and now I understand that his love for me is real and healthy. Thank you so much for this video 🤎
😮💨😮💨 how sad that my mom married one of these UNhealthy men.. 😩 This video has calmed my nerves in regards to the guy I'm seeing. He's a healthy one.. 🙏🏾
Omg this just happened to me! Love bombed me so much then when I was hesitant of the pace we were moving, he guilted me into allowing things to move at his speed knowing we didn’t know each other that well. Told me he wanted me to move in eventually and wanted me around all the time. What he wanted in return was consistent sex smh. Then, when more of my personality came out, he said “ You love annoying me every chance you get” and ghosted me for days on end until I was the one reaching out. Thennnn after ghosting me for 4 days after a small incident, he dumped me saying we don’t align. No remorse, didn’t care that he got me invested and hurt my feelings and didn’t acknowledge it. This was in just 2 months! I want payback so bad, Karma’s not moving fast enough 😔
Super helpful video! I just went out with a man who wants to pay for all dates and refuses to let me pay for something. As I said „It is my wish to pay this time“ he just answered „I don‘t care“ Told him now, that I can‘t meet him again, If he does not respect my wishes and needs. Giving should be for pleasure and not a tool to exercise control over someone else.
Ladies! I can 100% attest to the truth of this! Another spot on video to help those that haven't been through it spot what's happening right away. Out here saving lives.
Hella factual in this video. And also sometimes the love bombing could be somewhat nuancy which is what I learned in my last situation thank God for therapy and surviving a narcissist otherwise I would have just thought that he really liked me. But when you look at things from a healthy lens it's easier to see when people are doing things just to get in your pants.
Damn! Kevin was soooooooo on point with this one!! 🎯🎯🎯 too accurate! Having dealt with a narc I know! 🤧 the ex narc in my life would literally call of work multiple times when we were together just like the video said, so much so he eventually ended up getting fired 🤦♀️ I wasn’t feeling guilty. I was feeling angry… I told his ratchet @ss to take himself to work. Smh. What I HAVEN’T seen is a healthy man that has “done too much” smh. I’m in my feminine and very grateful and open to receive these men nowadays want to do bare minimum. Even the ones I KNOW really like me and would love to date me… bare minimum. The narc is explained all to well. The “healthy man” that Kev is explaining is real deal a unicorn… does.not.exist. 🤷♀️
Wheww I remember when I experienced love bombing, I confused it with love but thank God I shut it down. I clearly stated that I just came out of a relationship and I wasn’t ready. We had been friends for over a year now. At some point, he exploded and asked me why I was not doing all those things for him. He started rumors to say that I’m a very bad person. I also heard that he was doing the same thing to other women just to be in a relationship. He would empty his saving accounts and cry that women are users. He was in love with the idea of falling in love.
Thank you for sharing.Great video lately I've been watching alot of videos from healthy and highly evolved men learning alot. I grew up in dysfunction and toxicity almost my whole life with no male role models. I learned through my journey if I want change then I have to change. I've healed unlearned and relearned I'm now starting to attract healthy men in my life and it's so refreshing. Appreciate your videos very helpful I'm learning alot. Sending Love and Positive Vibes to you and all the beautiful souls out there. 💜💥🧡💥💙
I was love bombed, but I didn't know it was happening cause it was my first relationship ever. Basically, he kept buying me gifts, even though I told him he doesn't have to. He kept offering to pay for places to go and things to do even though I constantly told him that we don't have to do anything lavish; that a simple day at the park is fine and is actually preferred. But he kept insisting. He even took off almost an entire week off from work just to be with me. But that entire time, he kept insisting that we have sex or do sexual things. He constantly tried pushing it on me. Cut to when I break up with him because I'm tired of feeling used all the time for sex, and he has the audacity to get upset at me talking about how he spent so much money on me, was planning so many things we could do together. As if though I asked for him to do any of that. I let him know right then and there that he can say all he wants, I'm standing my ground and leaving. Plus, his constant forced kisses and sexual interactions with me gave me MAD ick. And once I get the ick from a guy, you can put a fork in it cause it's DONE.
You right on time with this one. I was love bombed. I met him for the first time. His 7 year old was there. He got in his feelings because I wouldn't have sex. I dont live in the same state. When I went home all he talked about was the fact that I didn't give it up. This is after I told him i want a relationship before sex. He told me he was serious about me but I can't tell. Then when I said dont rush we will see each other again. His response was well how do you know that? I was like wow really. He said he was traveling for work and it would take up all his time. This is a high value professional man here. Not a scrub by any means. I was really thinking he was different. He had all the important qualities that anyone would want in a man. Just this morning he said we can talk because I told him I was overthinking about him.he didn't answer after I texted and called when he ALWAYS does even if he is sleeping or working. It's frustrating he pursue me for months and I finally gave him a chance and it was all for show. He did all that just to up his chance to get some and when he didn't it was a problem SMH
I don't think women entertain love bombers because of deprivation. Men are deprived too of compliments and great sex(hookups don't count) but if a girl comes on to a man too strong, he doesn't take her seriously. I think it has to do with self esteem. People who don't practice self love are more vulnerable to love bombing
Offering too take me out buying me a jewellery taking me places etc. When i asked him too slow down not talk as frequently he said ok fine then starting ignoring and trying too play games cos he must have felt insulted. Not respecting my boundaries or going at the pace i wanted at all
i have been watching you for a while now kev and everything you say is facts and always on point, thanks for being real with us and sharing your knowledge with love, respect, empathy and care, i deeply respect you and also thanks for being the dad i never had, keep making these videos cuz they are really helpful and informative!
My friend met a guy on a dating site. After the first date, he said he wanted to date exclusively and deleted his profile. Does and says all the right things. I think it sounds suspicious. She says I’m too negative and he’s a great person. Thoughts?
The more your try to let her see the light, the more she will think you are a hater and negative. Just take a step back do not say anything else so called negative about the situation and let things play out
@@kevindiaz3035 while i can see where you’re coming from as someone who comes from a foreign culture myself, it depends on how it’s done. even with more serious minded men who know what they want and don’t see the need in wasting time, they’re not going to go about things in the same manner that a love bomber would, which honestly just has desperation written all over it. speaking from experience.
Some people prefer to date exclusively period… even from the beginning. Just like some people get married weeks or months after knowing each other and have fulfilling relationships. No one in the comments knows this man or how he thinks. Let your friend have her relationship with this man and however it plays out, you just be the friend to support her along the way. It’s her relationship and her lessons to learn if anything goes bad.
Thanks Kevin for another great video. This is what all women need to know about men from a man. Like Dave Chapelle said, the chivalry is dead because of women who took advice on men from women who don’t know what hell they’re talking about. Thanks for helping to stay WOKE
I kind of feel like I might be dealing with a love bomber. We've been talking for a few weeks, gone on one date because we live about 2 hours from each other, but he's offering to/insisting on trying to buy me stuff (and not simple little gifts, either), seems to mirror me completely, almost like he doesn't have a personality of his own. When we talk, 90% of the time, he's just repeating back what I said and barely adds his own thoughts; feels like I'm talking to myself. Only one thing he even talks about that seems to be his own interest. I'll say I like something and he'll like it. I'll say I dislike something, and he'll downplay liking it even though he just said he liked it a few messages before. Like he said he loved a certain movie and had all this merch for it, but when I said I wasn't that into it, he literally then tells me he doesn't even care that much about it. It's my first serious venture out after a toxic relationship and I'm not sure if it's just him being really nice and really into me, and just really wants me to like him so he's trying way too hard, or if he's love bombing. Even though it's not over the top, it's too fast for me, so I guess it doesn't matter either way. Plus, even if he isn't love bombing, I don't want someone who seems to follow my lead so hard and is like a yes man. He suggested something kind of flirty the last time we spoke and I put up a boundary in my last message to him, going to see how he reacts to that. I don't even know why he's suggesting anything like that after literally only seeing each other in person ONCE.
Give it time. Give yourself time first, see if you even like this guy. You seem to be in a good space, where you know your boundaries, you pay close attention, you know what you can accept and what you can't. Some people, even if they don't have love bombing on their minds, they're desperate for a connection, and they don't know how to build one. They just try to become what they think the other person wants - which is not healthy at all. Time will tell, most people can't stifle their personality for long.
The longest it’s taken someone to say I love you to me has been 3 weeks. I’m 40 my 2nd marriage lasted 14 years and he’s the one who told me I love you after 3 weeks. I’m divorced and single and I don’t want to fall into that same pattern. What’s your advice?
Triangulation, if I remember right. My ex used to do it. I'm just glad I know, now, that when someone is talking badly about an ex or just comparing you, you need to run far away and fast.
Hiii this was a helpful and great video! I wanted to ask you what questions or "tests" can you do to see if your partner is love bombing you. I'm in a new relationship, (boyfriend girlfriend) with a man who has a very animated personality. All his complements, dates, letters, and gifts are consistent and he presents very passionate about me. It's overwhelming which is scaring me that he might be love bombing me. He has respected a physical boundary I set. He has been defensive with once and when I explained my perspective he flipped and was excited I was communicating with him. We talked about how we see the future together and had connected on a very deep level when it comes to our values. Its been 1 month since I've known him. How do I distinguish if he is a good minded man or narcissist quickly because I don't want to get hurt.
some people are naturally users and manipulators, other people lack self awareness and emotional stability while also being narcissistic victims. Some other people are just a desperate to be loved so they over do it. Only for them is it innocent enough, as long as they don’t feel entitled to you doing the same.
Mine had been divorced for 1.5 years and was a public person so he needed a wife, and quickly, to restore his image and reputation. He love bombed and scared me. Proposed on 2nd week. I was always distant however. Kept buying and doing. In the end when things fell apart, he went to take back a phone he'd bought for me. And would always hint at sex. He was a preacher and on our 3rd week, after being ill, we go out and he tells me a dirty joke to test my comfortability level. He then proceeds to send quotations about love and sex going together. I wassn't ready because it didn't feel real. He then accused me of having no trust in him. Then he pressured me into only a 'religious' ceremonial wedding which allowed sex. And then he asked "Don't you guys in America have sex when you get to know each other"? I said "Sure, when we feel comfortable around each other and everything flows naturally, we do.".......To this day I'm not sure if he wanted both a wife and to "test drive" her as soon as possible.
Healthy minded men, ARE NOT SIMPS because they want to take care of you through the consistency in what they do through his acts of service. Love bombers, always want something in return.
Coz these people have trauma and don’t know how to form healthy relationships. It’s their unhealed trauma that drives these behaviours. And their trauma is their problem, not ours. And our trauma is our problem and, not theirs.
I think it's because they lack a sense of self...think of a piece of hollow chocolate Easter bunny candy...it's empty) they themselves are empty so they use others time , resources and emotions as their supply...they feed off it like it's their lifeline.
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I needed this today! I’ve been love bombed before in the craziest way and I’m seeing someone new. I can’t tell if I’m just triggered by his kindness or if he’s really a love bomber!! After this video I’m feeling optimistic that this man is being genuine 🥹
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Love bombers are scary as hell. Well it the saying goes the Devil was once an angel.
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Perfectly put!❤
I personally believe narcissists are people controlled by the jezebel spirit. Everyone’s experience with them is the EXACT SAME!!!!
U not lying 😂
In one of your videos you said "be weary of men who want you to see their money before you see their merit". That line really stuck with me. I no longer accepted things from people I was unsure about. I started getting "ghosted" by the guys who just wanted to "impress" me into doing things for them. You really saved me a lot of trouble. That's Kev, we appreciate you!
Love bombers ALWAYS want something in return. The last guy I talked to tried to love bomb me offered to pay my bills, buy me clothes/shoes etc. I wouldn't take nothing but food. He accused me of using him😭 He was trying to live with me, kept trying to come in my house. He never took 1 step my home. Blocked and deleted...
Wow that was a mess
Same as me offering too take me out buying me a jewellery taking me places etc. When i asked him too slow down not talk as frequently he said ok fine then just stopped speaking and starting ignoring me. Not respecting my boundaries or at the pace i wanted
Omg lol, i will never forget we were like 18 & my friend met this bum ass dude! She had her own little place and he was bragging about this ‘Italian leather couch’ he wanted to give her. It was a regular ass couch prob had bedbugs anyways after he put this couch in her apartment he apparently thought he could be there whenever he wanted bc its his couch 😮like wtf lol. This guy was way older than us too we were 18-19 he was in his 30s .
We live with locks on doors, bars at the windows, border control and passwords everywhere, just to feel relatively safe. But when it comes to our bodies and souls, we're supposed to open up immediately, just because this random person professes their undying love on day one? no thank you.
Paul said it "Love keeps no record of injury", It should not be guilttripping but guilttripping is often the difference between nice and being kind. It takes kindness in the heart for someone to do something out of the kindness of their heart.
I love this video, thank you Kev. ‘A healthy minded man does it coz it’s good, the love bomber does it for something in return’
The last guy texted me “good morning, sunshine” the morning after meeting me. That was red flag enough of inappropriate contact when we don’t know each other enough yet to quit right there.
Girl I meet a guy at the airport the next day he said I’m going to his family reunion. Then asked for my address wtf
Yesss. I had to learn the hard way about this to where it became a turn off when guys did too much in the beginning or first day without even getting to know me. Saying things like "Girl we locked in" or "You my baby, I'm gonna do (this and that etc.) for you." Like on the first day without knowing me...like bruh u don't even know me yet so that's all cap and I ain't falling for it. I don't like being sold dreams I want someone to feel that way after taking the time to get to know me and really understand who I am as a whole not just looks.
Hey, what u said at the end, you should do a video on that eventually, the do's and don't when it comes to what you display on your dating profile. I'm not gonna lie I've been tempted to get back on dating apps but I'm good. Lol still healing don't wanna interrupt the process.
if he isn't shy and nervous he doesn't think you're special
👸fell for him asking me to go look at rings 💍on our 1st date. didn't go. bc im like no. u don't know me. it felt good. kept dating & talking marriage 💑felt red flags. im celibate & he's not. avoided spending time w/him bc he's p-orn addict & k.s. anti-wm, red pill💊 mindset. he ghosted. so happy i pulled way back to see if his feelings were real 🤥 & glad i kept my legs closed.
If a guy expect sex really quickly run!!!
I'm so very nauseous of men playing all these mind games, seems like to me being in any type of relationship with a man is like that of playing a damned game of chess. Way too much stress for me.
Not just men. Women do this too, at similar rates. Sometimes more. This is a human flaw not a male flaw. ℹ address men because my audience is women. Not because they are the only ones who do it. With love
@@KevHick You're exactly right, women do the exact same thing. I guess I'm so frustrated with men doing it verses the women is because I'm only attracted to the male's only. But yes women can definitely be a trip to deal with at times to far as playing games are concerned.
@@Patricia-qy5kb I get it.2💯
This is exactly the kind of video I hoped you’d put out! Thank you for this comparison between healthy vs non-healthy lookalikes. Some of us out here didn’t grow up with role models for healthy relationships, so sometimes the narcissistic behaviors that masquerade as love can be very convincing
I knew this guy once who couldn’t keep his hands off a woman he wanted to marry. That was love bombing, it was sickening to see him constantly touching her with no break. He married her within 2 months. Not sure how long it took him to tire and change but he began calling her bad names and putting her down. He was no catch, she didn’t even know that he was jobless when he married her. He was a liar too. If a man can’t keep his hands off you, run.
I guess I’m emotionally healthy cos I ghost love bombers lol
I was a woman who had been constantly mistreated, emotionally abused in my marriage to a narcissist for over 20 years. I met a healthy man 3 years post leave/divorce and I thought that he was love bombing me. I even told him that he was! 😂
He stuck by me and now I understand that his love for me is real and healthy. Thank you so much for this video 🤎
My pleasure 😇 Thank you for watching
😮💨😮💨 how sad that my mom married one of these UNhealthy men.. 😩
This video has calmed my nerves in regards to the guy I'm seeing. He's a healthy one.. 🙏🏾
Omg this just happened to me! Love bombed me so much then when I was hesitant of the pace we were moving, he guilted me into allowing things to move at his speed knowing we didn’t know each other that well. Told me he wanted me to move in eventually and wanted me around all the time. What he wanted in return was consistent sex smh. Then, when more of my personality came out, he said “ You love annoying me every chance you get” and ghosted me for days on end until I was the one reaching out. Thennnn after ghosting me for 4 days after a small incident, he dumped me saying we don’t align. No remorse, didn’t care that he got me invested and hurt my feelings and didn’t acknowledge it. This was in just 2 months! I want payback so bad, Karma’s not moving fast enough 😔
Super helpful video!
I just went out with a man who wants to pay for all dates and refuses to let me pay for something. As I said „It is my wish to pay this time“ he just answered „I don‘t care“
Told him now, that I can‘t meet him again, If he does not respect my wishes and needs.
Giving should be for pleasure and not a tool to exercise control over someone else.
Thank you. Two love Bombers I had to block and delete. They are also compulsive liars. UM UM UM SHAKING MY HEAD!
U not lying it always come out they only can fake it for so long
Ladies! I can 100% attest to the truth of this! Another spot on video to help those that haven't been through it spot what's happening right away. Out here saving lives.
Hella factual in this video. And also sometimes the love bombing could be somewhat nuancy which is what I learned in my last situation thank God for therapy and surviving a narcissist otherwise I would have just thought that he really liked me. But when you look at things from a healthy lens it's easier to see when people are doing things just to get in your pants.
Damn! Kevin was soooooooo on point with this one!! 🎯🎯🎯 too accurate! Having dealt with a narc I know! 🤧 the ex narc in my life would literally call of work multiple times when we were together just like the video said, so much so he eventually ended up getting fired 🤦♀️ I wasn’t feeling guilty. I was feeling angry… I told his ratchet @ss to take himself to work. Smh. What I HAVEN’T seen is a healthy man that has “done too much” smh. I’m in my feminine and very grateful and open to receive these men nowadays want to do bare minimum. Even the ones I KNOW really like me and would love to date me… bare minimum. The narc is explained all to well. The “healthy man” that Kev is explaining is real deal a unicorn… does.not.exist. 🤷♀️
Wheww I remember when I experienced love bombing, I confused it with love but thank God I shut it down. I clearly stated that I just came out of a relationship and I wasn’t ready. We had been friends for over a year now. At some point, he exploded and asked me why I was not doing all those things for him. He started rumors to say that I’m a very bad person. I also heard that he was doing the same thing to other women just to be in a relationship. He would empty his saving accounts and cry that women are users. He was in love with the idea of falling in love.
Thank you for sharing.Great video lately I've been watching alot of videos from healthy and highly evolved men learning alot. I grew up in dysfunction and toxicity almost my whole life with no male role models. I learned through my journey if I want change then I have to change. I've healed unlearned and relearned I'm now starting to attract healthy men in my life and it's so refreshing. Appreciate your videos very helpful I'm learning alot. Sending Love and Positive Vibes to you and all the beautiful souls out there. 💜💥🧡💥💙
I was love bombed, but I didn't know it was happening cause it was my first relationship ever. Basically, he kept buying me gifts, even though I told him he doesn't have to. He kept offering to pay for places to go and things to do even though I constantly told him that we don't have to do anything lavish; that a simple day at the park is fine and is actually preferred. But he kept insisting. He even took off almost an entire week off from work just to be with me. But that entire time, he kept insisting that we have sex or do sexual things. He constantly tried pushing it on me.
Cut to when I break up with him because I'm tired of feeling used all the time for sex, and he has the audacity to get upset at me talking about how he spent so much money on me, was planning so many things we could do together. As if though I asked for him to do any of that. I let him know right then and there that he can say all he wants, I'm standing my ground and leaving.
Plus, his constant forced kisses and sexual interactions with me gave me MAD ick. And once I get the ick from a guy, you can put a fork in it cause it's DONE.
You right on time with this one. I was love bombed. I met him for the first time. His 7 year old was there. He got in his feelings because I wouldn't have sex. I dont live in the same state. When I went home all he talked about was the fact that I didn't give it up. This is after I told him i want a relationship before sex. He told me he was serious about me but I can't tell. Then when I said dont rush we will see each other again. His response was well how do you know that? I was like wow really. He said he was traveling for work and it would take up all his time. This is a high value professional man here. Not a scrub by any means. I was really thinking he was different. He had all the important qualities that anyone would want in a man. Just this morning he said we can talk because I told him I was overthinking about him.he didn't answer after I texted and called when he ALWAYS does even if he is sleeping or working. It's frustrating he pursue me for months and I finally gave him a chance and it was all for show. He did all that just to up his chance to get some and when he didn't it was a problem SMH
'Love bombers do what pays'
I totally agree
The "I did this for you" is constant with love bombers. Shows it was not done genuinely.
Thank you Kev!
I don't think women entertain love bombers because of deprivation. Men are deprived too of compliments and great sex(hookups don't count) but if a girl comes on to a man too strong, he doesn't take her seriously.
I think it has to do with self esteem. People who don't practice self love are more vulnerable to love bombing
Offering too take me out buying me a jewellery taking me places etc. When i asked him too slow down not talk as frequently he said ok fine then starting ignoring and trying too play games cos he must have felt insulted. Not respecting my boundaries or going at the pace i wanted at all
Good tips bro. I can see how that can be tricky trying to decipher. But you're totally right about that ego and lashing out they do after. Interesting
i have been watching you for a while now kev and everything you say is facts and always on point, thanks for being real with us and sharing your knowledge with love, respect, empathy and care, i deeply respect you and also thanks for being the dad i never had, keep making these videos cuz they are really helpful and informative!
My friend met a guy on a dating site. After the first date, he said he wanted to date exclusively and deleted his profile. Does and says all the right things. I think it sounds suspicious. She says I’m too negative and he’s a great person. Thoughts?
He’s a love bomber, I would ghost him
The more your try to let her see the light, the more she will think you are a hater and negative. Just take a step back do not say anything else so called negative about the situation and let things play out
@Jen Agrippa Some cultures move faster than others, and professing love early on is not love bombing. In America, it is
@@kevindiaz3035 while i can see where you’re coming from as someone who comes from a foreign culture myself, it depends on how it’s done. even with more serious minded men who know what they want and don’t see the need in wasting time, they’re not going to go about things in the same manner that a love bomber would, which honestly just has desperation written all over it. speaking from experience.
Some people prefer to date exclusively period… even from the beginning. Just like some people get married weeks or months after knowing each other and have fulfilling relationships. No one in the comments knows this man or how he thinks. Let your friend have her relationship with this man and however it plays out, you just be the friend to support her along the way. It’s her relationship and her lessons to learn if anything goes bad.
That was my question!!! 🥹Thank you Kev for answering it! 🙌🏾❤
My pleasure 😇
Thanks Kevin for another great video. This is what all women need to know about men from a man. Like Dave Chapelle said, the chivalry is dead because of women who took advice on men from women who don’t know what hell they’re talking about.
Thanks for helping to stay WOKE
Where was this video a year ago?!? lol This message applies to friendships too
Kev I can't thank you enough for you channel , you truly are a gem!
Wow! This really is spot on Kev!
As always...SPOT ON!! Needed this FR!!🎯
Thank you so very much for the phone call today! I wish I could find more healthy minded men…where are they LOL 😅😅
subconsciously I knew I was being love bomb by my ex bring me flowers all the time ...but the term wasn't out yet, 2 years ago... wish it was tho lol
I kind of feel like I might be dealing with a love bomber. We've been talking for a few weeks, gone on one date because we live about 2 hours from each other, but he's offering to/insisting on trying to buy me stuff (and not simple little gifts, either), seems to mirror me completely, almost like he doesn't have a personality of his own. When we talk, 90% of the time, he's just repeating back what I said and barely adds his own thoughts; feels like I'm talking to myself. Only one thing he even talks about that seems to be his own interest. I'll say I like something and he'll like it. I'll say I dislike something, and he'll downplay liking it even though he just said he liked it a few messages before. Like he said he loved a certain movie and had all this merch for it, but when I said I wasn't that into it, he literally then tells me he doesn't even care that much about it. It's my first serious venture out after a toxic relationship and I'm not sure if it's just him being really nice and really into me, and just really wants me to like him so he's trying way too hard, or if he's love bombing. Even though it's not over the top, it's too fast for me, so I guess it doesn't matter either way. Plus, even if he isn't love bombing, I don't want someone who seems to follow my lead so hard and is like a yes man. He suggested something kind of flirty the last time we spoke and I put up a boundary in my last message to him, going to see how he reacts to that. I don't even know why he's suggesting anything like that after literally only seeing each other in person ONCE.
Give it time. Give yourself time first, see if you even like this guy. You seem to be in a good space, where you know your boundaries, you pay close attention, you know what you can accept and what you can't. Some people, even if they don't have love bombing on their minds, they're desperate for a connection, and they don't know how to build one. They just try to become what they think the other person wants - which is not healthy at all. Time will tell, most people can't stifle their personality for long.
I needed this video 🤍
Love bombers always ask for a favor, no gift cards either ladies!!! That is a scammer!!! a true gentleman will not ask for favors, money or gift cards
Omg thank you so much for this. Makes perfect sense
Thank you Kevin 👂and learn love bombers 💯true god bless you🤗🙏🏽
Kev I needed this is in 2020 he already ruined my life 😭
The longest it’s taken someone to say I love you to me has been 3 weeks. I’m 40 my 2nd marriage lasted 14 years and he’s the one who told me I love you after 3 weeks. I’m divorced and single and I don’t want to fall into that same pattern. What’s your advice?
Love shouldn't be REAL good then REAL bad, REAL good then REAL bad
narcissistic rage or mask dropping
Definitely helps! Thank you!!
This is true God Blesses you thank you for explains all 🙏🙏
Kev, Great Explanation!
Going through this right now
yes a narc tried-to love bomb, but it always perplexed me why do they constantly talk about their wife while trying to get with me? wtf?
Triangulation, if I remember right. My ex used to do it. I'm just glad I know, now, that when someone is talking badly about an ex or just comparing you, you need to run far away and fast.
thank you this is great!
💯💯 great advice.
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Hiii this was a helpful and great video! I wanted to ask you what questions or "tests" can you do to see if your partner is love bombing you. I'm in a new relationship, (boyfriend girlfriend) with a man who has a very animated personality. All his complements, dates, letters, and gifts are consistent and he presents very passionate about me. It's overwhelming which is scaring me that he might be love bombing me. He has respected a physical boundary I set. He has been defensive with once and when I explained my perspective he flipped and was excited I was communicating with him. We talked about how we see the future together and had connected on a very deep level when it comes to our values. Its been 1 month since I've known him. How do I distinguish if he is a good minded man or narcissist quickly because I don't want to get hurt.
Thank you ❤❤❤
Thank you
Do love bombers know what they are doing? Or is it just their personality
some people are naturally users and manipulators, other people lack self awareness and emotional stability while also being narcissistic victims. Some other people are just a desperate to be loved so they over do it. Only for them is it innocent enough, as long as they don’t feel entitled to you doing the same.
They know...its a manipulation technique. They don't have a sense of inner self. They are generally energy vampires.
Mine had been divorced for 1.5 years and was a public person so he needed a wife, and quickly, to restore his image and reputation. He love bombed and scared me. Proposed on 2nd week. I was always distant however. Kept buying and doing. In the end when things fell apart, he went to take back a phone he'd bought for me. And would always hint at sex. He was a preacher and on our 3rd week, after being ill, we go out and he tells me a dirty joke to test my comfortability level. He then proceeds to send quotations about love and sex going together. I wassn't ready because it didn't feel real. He then accused me of having no trust in him. Then he pressured me into only a 'religious' ceremonial wedding which allowed sex. And then he asked "Don't you guys in America have sex when you get to know each other"? I said "Sure, when we feel comfortable around each other and everything flows naturally, we do.".......To this day I'm not sure if he wanted both a wife and to "test drive" her as soon as possible.
These ppl want their way !!!! BARNONE.
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Healthy minded men, ARE NOT SIMPS because they want to take care of you through the consistency in what they do through his acts of service. Love bombers, always want something in return.
Healthy minded people are selfless, and love bombers do what pays
My question is what is the purpose?
When ppl love bomb they want something from you. Pay attention move slow they will reveal it...
Users do this. And Narcissists for the most part
Coz these people have trauma and don’t know how to form healthy relationships. It’s their unhealed trauma that drives these behaviours. And their trauma is their problem, not ours. And our trauma is our problem and, not theirs.
I think it's because they lack a sense of self...think of a piece of hollow chocolate Easter bunny candy...it's empty) they themselves are empty so they use others time , resources and emotions as their supply...they feed off it like it's their lifeline.
Kev, I can’t send contribution via PayPal with the link in the description. Do you have another link
Kev, I get “this recipient can’t accept payments right now”, this has happened before and you sent me another link that worked.
@@irinacar my bad, wrong one. The website link needs an update. This is the right one. Sorry for the confusion and thank you for your generosity
Just use the kevhicktalksguyswithgirls@gmail.com
The link was to a different one I used to have.
Are you on instagram?
I managed to find the previous link before I read this message and it was possible to send, did you get it?
@@irinacar yes 🙌🏾. Thank you so much. Believe it or not we get donations on there only a few times a year. That’s why I didn’t realize it was broken 😂 I’m very appreciative for the few we get and every little bit helps!
A guy after one week needed too know my feelings about him i said i don't know you 🤔🤔 is that normal
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This guy is so underrated and it sucks
Yes it does. Thanks for watching though. 😁
@@KevHick yo welcome thanks for all u do we appreciate
I needed this today! I’ve been love bombed before in the craziest way and I’m seeing someone new. I can’t tell if I’m just triggered by his kindness or if he’s really a love bomber!!
After this video I’m feeling optimistic that this man is being genuine 🥹
THANK YOU!!! I needed this