I love how the phrase "How not to think about you when it's late at night and quiet" not only refers to their feelings towards each other but also the addiction towards alcohol. It created a powerful message
I can not express enough how much i feel from this. Im crying like a baby and watching this on repeat. Its all over now but i could go back and put the bottle down i would. I love this so much. It hurts but its healing at the same time.
I'm so glad there's still country artist that aren't afraid to make real music and be bold. Something that can touch someone and help them instead of going to bars and parties. Love this song and these artists!
DanAndShay , oh my. wow.. im talking to u both. Ty Gid Bless u both. for this song. there's alot if people out there fighting their battle. beautiful song
I am SO sorry for your loss Melissa. May your Mom rest in peace and may you find comfort knowing that her struggle and pain is gone. Take care and God bless!!
I am a recovering alcoholic. I’ve been sober for over 2 years. What a gut wrenching video. So true to the life and path that we choose. I finally decided to change what the outcome of my life was going to be. I wanted something different from what my grandparents, my father and my uncles lives were and ended on. I decided to take control and ask for help from my loving Heavenly Father.
Cori Howell I'm four days clean and that's hard as hell for me. I can't tell you how proud I am of you. I hope I can make it that long. Addiction is a hard thing and it hits everyone in some way.
Watching this and concentrating on the lyrics brought back some VERY painful memories. If you've lost someone you love due to complications of alcoholism, this will affect you like it did me... In 1975 the first love of my life and I split up after being together for four years, then thirty one years later we reconnected. Throughout that time he ended up in Utah and I in Pennsylvania. We both moved back to Montana in 2006 where we were originally from and started a new relationship picking up where we left off. With all the time that had passed, we never stopped thinking about each other nor did our love die. With that reconnection I knew he drank, but not as heavily as what he did. I adjusted to his addiction/disease and loved him for who "he" was. It was a difficult walk to follow and yes I'll be honest, there were times I felt I needed to walk away. The love I had for him was SO strong that I just couldn't and wasn't going to do it!! Thank God there was no violence whatsoever like this video shows...it was the pain of watching him slowly destroy and kill himself knowing there was nothing I could do that hurt so deeply. The demon ( which he called alcohol) controlled him he couldn't control it. I walked every painful step of the way with him doing what I could to help fight that Demon...We were together for two and a half years, married for one year and six days when he left me. His heart could no longer withstand the damage alcohol was doing to it and passed from a massive heart attack. God took him home to Heaven on March 31, 2009 freeing him from the pain and agony he was in. As for me...I'm doing the best I can to live without him and taking one day at a time as it comes to me.
That is a very powerful story. I'm so sorry for your loss. I know what it's like to want to help someone that doesn't want help. That feeling of helplessness... I wouldn't wish it on anyone.
You would think so me and my ex lost our precious 22 year old son in a fatal car accident and it brought us back together after 20 years of divorce but he treated me so horrible so now I'm alone with nothing. But I still have God
@@pamelamason4334 I'm so very sorry, God will always be with you to love and comfort you. Sending you a hug and saying a prayer for you wherever you are in this world ❤
#LYRICS: I can honestly understand why it's over I can go through the motions of walking away I can give you the key and take my things back I can find plenty things to fill my days But I don't know how not to think about you When it's late at night and quiet And I know that I ought to be the one who is strong and just moves on But I probably turn down your road, knock knock on your door Fall back in your arms, wake up in the morning Hating myself for the way that I can't help the way I still want you I just don't know how not to, how not to, how not to [x2] You're like second nature baby, you're just like breathin' A melody that you hear and you can't forget The time goes by and I still need you Yeah, you were at the heartbreak of no regret But I don't know how not to think about you When it's late at night and quiet And I know that I ought to be the one who is strong and just moves on But I probably turn down your road, knock knock on your door Fall back in your arms, wake up in the morning Hating myself for the way that I can't help the way I still want you I just don't know how not to, how not to, how not to [x2] I don't know how not to think about you When it's late at night and quiet But I know that I ought to be the one who's strong and just moves on But I probably turn down your road, knock knock on your door, Fall back in your arms, wake up in the morning, Hating myself for the way that I can't help the way I still want you I just don't know how not to, how not to, how not to [x2]
One of the best Dan + Shay music video's I've seen by far. Not only did I love how the music video doesn't shine away about Alcoholism and the addiction of alcohol but also it shows that if you have someone in your life that is positive influence and truly cares about your well being. You can accomplish and survive anything that life throws at you.
I absolutely loved it. I love how you incorporated the song into the alcoholism issue. What a beautiful video. I think this will be an absolute hit and will win a lot of awards! Love you guys!!
I've been sober now for 2 week's and this video is such an inspiration! I've always have loved this song! please make a video for lately!!! Best song ever.. Thank you so, so much DAN + Shay! 💖💯💖💯
This song & video is for sure an inspiration. I am almost 2 months into my sobriety & have never felt better. The good Lord even has me in church again. So amazing. I am super excited to get that one year cake 🎂 ❤!! 🎉 We got this!!
This was honestly the best music video Ive ever seen. I never would have thought to incorporate alcoholism into this song, but now I see how well it fits. The taking scenes also fit in so well with the music. Seriously such a good video!
If this video doesn't win a ton of awards or at least get nominated for a ton this year and/or next, that'll be a shame. Fantastic job to all involved especially Katie, her on screen love interest, and to D&S!
Yall please pray for my mom. Currently I don't live with her but my brother does. She's not healthy right now. Her and my Step dad is always arguing and my mom turns to alcohol. Just please pray for her to get healthy. God bless you all!!
I'm praying for you friend! God has a plan for your life. Don't let family distract you from it. Lean on Christ and ask Him for His will to be done in your life. He loves you so much!
I lost the woman I loved over four years ago and haven’t been able to go one day without missing her. I don’t even know if I can find anyone else I’m so heartbroken still. I miss her so much.
2 years ago I fell in love with an alcoholic and took on his lifestyle of alcoholism 3 days ago he cheated on me 3 days ago I left him and flew home 8 hours away 3 days ago I took a pledge of sobriety 3 days ago was the first time I heard this song it's been 3 days since my last drink and I can definitely say I'm proud of myself and this really hits deep...
congrats, 6 years and my dad is still battling to be sober. It's a hard thing to watch it take control of someone the way it does. How much harder is it for them....Keep on fighting the battle everyone.
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Definitely a struggle for so many people who all have burden's of Pain! I pray for Us all to have strength and the power of God! This is a nation under stressful day's, each day is a blessing granted and forgiveness of each other's selfishness can bring us threw the same toughest time's
I love how this video is so beautiful and has a powerful meaning behind it. In this day and age it's hard to find a good video with meaning behind it. Y'all did a great job! I love the song so much!
i love this song and its meaning behind it i have 6 in a half months clean and never felt better unfortunately my husband didn't make it i miss him so much it hurts but i am giving him his voice and standing strong. thank you dan and shay i love this song!!!!!
Never have I ever wanted to comment on a video before. I love this song and have not watched the video until now and let me tell you I couldn't finish it. I have been drinking since I was 13 . Helped a lot with depression PTSD anxiety. Just to cope with life. To forget the things I had burned in my brain. I was living like this for so long. I'm 26 now sober since February 4th, 2017. Not Long but it's a struggle a process but fighting everyday with temptation.. I'll never listen to this song the same but totally for a good reason. For now on this is reminding me of how strong we all are and WE can overcome this terrible disease of alcoholism or any addiction. Praying for all💚💚 xoxo
This song is so raw for me. Been sober for 9 months and have lost the man I love because of the addiction. This song signifies not only the addiction but losing the love of my life.
This song makes me cry, every time this song is being played I start to choke on tears. This song is an inspiration to me. I’m not gonna drink when I’m an adult, thank you Dan + Shay! 👍 ❤️
DanAndShay I cry almost Every time I hear the how not to and from the ground up I love u guys and my aunt at her wedding danced at this song and I cried I love all of ur songs they are amazing like u
I was in love with the song for a while. I found this video and now I'm more obsessed with the song, obsessed with the video, and obsessed with Pierson Fodé
This video touches so close to home. I myself am an alcoholic. I watch this video a lot and can relate. Have not yet had the same strength to seek help as so many of you have. God bless you.
This song hits me on another level. How do I not think about you? It's been the only thing there for me when I'm in need. The only thing that dulls the pain. I'm sure everyone goes through hard times. Will power test us all. How strong are you? How beat down are you? How weak are you? Who's there for you? No matter what you control the out come. Just remember someone loves you matter what. Strive to be the person you want to be. Love yourself. Always remember the choices is yours. Love is a powerful tool.
I had a friend of mine turn me on to this song tonight, touched my heart so deeply. She stayed with me thru 2 years of my alcoholism and is still around to see me have 6 months sober, may God Bless you richly for your work on this Heartfelt song Dan + Shay (y)
Thank you for creating a video of what alcoholism can really look like, and how it can look like if you quit. The video depicts what has happened in my 40 years...and although I didn't use AA...quitting has shifted my entire mindset, relationships with the people I love, allowed strength to push away those who were unhealthy, and start taking accountablity for the words and actions that left me spinning in circles. Sobriety is a beautiful thing.
Just when I didn't think I could love you guys more, you make this. My father has struggled with his alcoholism my entire life, as i write this he has relapsed. I pray that he finds a relationship like the one you depicted here. Truly beautiful video, moved me to tears.
I love this song! Can’t stop listening to it, it makes me tear up because I live with a alcoholic & he has no clue what his alcoholism is doing to me or our kids. You guys nailed this song!
I fell in love at 20, the kind you see in movies where it's just *boom* when he enters the room and you're in love before you even know what happened. He was an alcoholic and a narcissist, he still plays mind games and can be evil. Tbh he really put me through it and I had 7 years of the best and worst times. I was heartbroken when I took our babies and left... I spent years crying over him and 5 years later he came back! With all the promises and the best intentions, and I had another year on the rollercoaster before it burnt down in flames again! It took time to heal and it took time to see it for what it is. Now I watch videos like this or see toxic relationships and I honesty feel sick. I pray that anyone struggling like this finds peace. 5 years since our final breakup... he's with someone (a fellow alcoholic) they are both trying to come off the drink/ 'cut down'... but he's a little bit more present and calls and sees our children more regularly. I'm nearly 2 years into a happy, healthy relationship with a guy I met 3 years ago. I don't take anything for granted, just enjoy what you have right now as much as you can. Love works both ways and you can't fight someones addiction or disease for them. Alcoholism will destroy you both if you're the only one fighting it and the addict can't. I wish any of you in this situation the best of luck and you are in my thoughts and prayers
Thank you Dan and Shay, just stumbled on this great song. Loved it and started listening to more of your music. Must have meant to be. Almost 26 years sober and had lots of people believe in me when I couldn't. It's a gift, like your music.
I honestly don't know how you guys do it... every single song and every single video has a way of pulling at the heart strings even if it's not directly relatable... you are SO talented and going to go so far. Where It All Began came out right when my boyfriend and I started dating, it's pretty much the soundtrack to our relationship, and when From The Ground Up came out there was no doubt that would be the song we get married to. Thank you so much for your ability to create such amazing music!! You guys rock.
Late to the comment party, but I feel the pain and the love and every emotion in this song. I struggled with alcoholism for 3 years and feel great that I got a grip on it. Great song. Great video.
my uncle passed away in Sept '16. he was an alcoholic for the majority of his life. although. i know hes no longer suffering, its still painful knowing he isnt here anymore. i absolutely love the message of this song.
I’m 3years sober from being a alcoholic i started young and I’m 28yrs old now and I’m living my best life working on me. I pray everyone who suffers addiction gets through it you are all loved😘
Going through the same thing with me and my girlfriend right now. Our best friend died last august who was her boyfriend. We fell in love afterward and have slipped down the road of alcohol and are actively working on getting better together. Thank you for this inspirational song that I relate to right now. 2 more weeks and shes out of rehab
I'm 13 I've dealt with an alcoholic mother and a father who tried his hardest to keep me away from it. They often fought when I was younger and I had never seen the official video for this song but the fight scenes always make me remember all those fights my parents would have over her drinking.
Literally this is my life atm... just got over liver failure to. Kidneys, jaundice, yellow eyes and finger nails. Swollen legs and hands !! Pancreatitis to! I was 23! I’m only 24 now... still not where I need to be but man this hits home
This song is helping me with go through my heartbreak. After 11 years, how can you just forget about the love you shared. In order to get through the hardships in life, you need someone to pick you up. 💔💔
I have been a fan of Dan and Shay since so many years ago,but imagine this is when I see this so powerful song and I really really needed it! Thank you So much Dan and Shay
When I was in my second year of college, I met the love of my life. She was all I've ever dreamt of in a woman and more. We were together for nearly 2 years. We had a beautiful relationship. I can confidently say that the time we were together was the happiest we have both ever been in our entire lives. She is such a beautiful person, inside and out. You can get lost in her eyes. She is hands down the most caring and generous person I have ever met. The way she cares for her parents and her sister. I could not name a single flaw with her even if I had a gun in my mouth. The way she always cared for me and planned to make sure that I would be ok. How madly in love she was with me. She helped me to become a person that I never knew I could be. Helped me realize my full potential. She was the only one I could ever be vulnerable around, the only one I confided in, the first person I went to whenever I had to make a decision in life. Even though I was only 20 years old. I was confident that I wanted to marry her. Our love was so strong. Yes, there were bumps along the road as this was our first serious relationship. However, I always told myself that no matter what happens, we would always work on it and always bounce back. Problems are inevitable in life and I believe that time does heal even the deepest of scars. In October of 2020, I messed up big time. I will man up and own my mistakes. I started to lose focus and I did some things that I absolutely hate myself for. I will never forgive myself for the things I did. It is now January 10th of 2020, and she had decided to end our relationship yesterday. She stayed for nearly 3 months after. I did everything and more in order to prove I really was a changed person. I am 10 times better now than the version of me she first fell in love with. Do you know how painful it is to hear "I don't want this to work anymore" from the person you want to marry, the person you love the most in life? to hear them say that them being around you makes them feel worthless? I know people will say that I believe time heals, so that time can heal my broken heart. I can't help but wonder about all the things we could have done if I didn't mess it up. All the things I planned. I had planned to graduate this summer and propose to her the same summer. She loved sunflowers, I planned to take her to a sunflower field in the summer and propose to her as I pretended to take a picture of her looking into the sunflowers. We talked about our future, jobs, family, goals. We wanted to have 2 children. Zayn and Zara were names that we had in mind. I threw that all away because I was selfish and pathetic. We believed in soul mates. I still do, there is no doubt in my mind that she is the one for me. I don't know what to do. I don't want to move on. I don't want to think of anyone else or look for anyone else. I can't accept it. Losing the love of my life coupled with facing dismissal from my college program for a false accusation of cheating is a nice combo, isn't it? I hate myself So much. So much guilt. I don't deserve to even be alive. To you young guys with new relationships, stop letting your hormones control you, don't have wandering eyes. Loyalty and discipline are so admirable in relationships. She always loved trying new things. After a few calls with her, found out that she was 18 and had never tried hot chocolate. So when I asked her to be my girlfriend, I used a cup of hot chocolate from Dunkin to write down my message for her. I doubt she will ever find this comment. If she somehow does, keep drinking hot chocolate, please. I will always be in love with you honey.
I can honestly understand why it's over I can go through the motions of walking away I can give you the key and take my things back I can find plenty things to fill my days But I don't know how not to think about you When it's late at night and crying And I know that I ought to be the one who is strong and just moves on But I probably turn down your road, knock-knock on your door Fall back in your arms, wake up in the morning Hating myself for the way that I can't help the way I still want you I just don't know how not to, how not to, how not to I just don't know how not to, how not to, how not to You're like second nature, baby, you're just like breathin' A melody that you hear and you can't forget The time goes by and I still need you Yeah, you were at the heartbreak of no regret But I don't know how not to think about you When it's late at night and crying And I know that I ought to be the one who is strong and just moves on But I probably turn down your road, knock-knock on your door Fall back in your arms, wake up in the morning Hating myself for the way that I can't help the way I still want you I just don't know how not to, how not to, how not to I just don't know how not to, how not to, how not to I don't know how not to think about you When it's late at night and crying But I know that I ought to be the one who's strong and just moves on But I probably turn down your road, knock-knock on your door Fall back in your arms, wake up in the morning Hating myself for the way that I can't help the way I still want you I just don't know how not to, how not to, how not to I just don't know how not to, how not to, how not to
ive heard this song on the radio for weeks now and im in love with it, today sitting at work bored in my office i decided to watch videos. OMG im crying like a baby! Addiction robs so many ppl from so much, How awesome of you guys to do a song so powerful. Im just a girl from alabama who is very proud of you guys on this song! Congratulations Dan+Shay
LYRICS I can honestly understand why it's over I can go through the motions of walking away I can give you the key and take my things back I can find plenty things to fill my days But I don't know how not to think about you When it's late at night and crying And I know that I ought to be the one who is strong and just moves on But I probably turn down your road, knock-knock on your door Fall back in your arms, wake up in the morning Hating myself for the way that I can't help the way I still want you I just don't know how not to, how not to, how not to I just don't know how not to, how not to, how not to You're like second nature, baby, you're just like breathin' A melody that you hear and you can't forget The time goes by and I still need you Yeah, you were at the heartbreak of no regret But I don't know how not to think about you When it's late at night and crying And I know that I ought to be the one who is strong and just moves on But I probably turn down your road, knock-knock on your door Fall back in your arms, wake up in the morning Hating myself for the way that I can't help the way I still want you I just don't know how not to, how not to, how not to I just don't know how not to, how not to, how not to I don't know how not to think about you When it's late at night and crying But I know that I ought to be the one who's strong and just moves on But I probably turn down your road, knock-knock on your door Fall back in your arms, wake up in the morning Hating myself for the way that I can't help the way I still want you I just don't know how not to, how not to, how not to I just don't know how not to, how not to, how not to
I'm not usually one to post comments on videos but this one...this one hit me hard. I was an addict for over 3 years and went to detox and rehab when I was only 18. I met my boyfriend last summer and I was in bad shape. I had just lost my job, could barely afford to eat and just didnt want to be here anymore. I havent touched anything since August because of him. He was an addict too but now we have each other to lean on. He doesnt know it but he saved my life. i felt like i was nothing until he showed me how fun life can really be sober. i still struggle every day but having him beside me gives me the strength to resist. to anyone dealing with an addiction, you CAN do it even if it feels like the whole world is against you. once you become sober you realize how valuable life is.
I actually feel this song... To me it's not about the addiction to alcohol or drugs it about the addiction to someone and not being able to let go of them.. I am going through this at the moment... I am separated from my husband and I thought that my feelings for him were resolved but when I talked to him for the first time after he was released from prison after a year it brought up some of those feelings. Oh and when I saw him for the first time after that all these feelings and emotions came flooding back and where stronger than ever... See we didn't separate cause of problems between us it was cause I couldn't handle the drinking from Sun up to Sun down and he wasent ready to stop.. Before he went to prison we where gonna try to work things out... I want that chance especially now that we are sober.. I feel we deserve that chance... One last try before we just throw away 10yrs of our life together... I love him... I love you David Watkins... I could use some advice please... I'm really hurting from this...
Was a heroine addict for 4 1/2 years, almost died, got clean for a year and a half, then relapsed been 8 days clean as of today. Have this song on repeat its been a rough week.
Haven’t watched this one in a while but saw it again on Katie’s instastory and decided to come back to it. Man. Every time I see it, I forget there’s even a song playing bc I get so wrapped up in the story. Love this video.
Those who are fighting to get sober just remember that you do have people that love you and will be your side through it. Sending love and prayers
370 days sober and everyday is worth it. My relationship with Jesus is EVERYTHING.
I truly hope you are doing well!
Congratulations keep it up! God bless you.
I love how the phrase "How not to think about you when it's late at night and quiet" not only refers to their feelings towards each other but also the addiction towards alcohol. It created a powerful message
DanAndShay
I TOTALLY agree with you Elizabeth!! It's good to know someone else can see it the way I do.
Naomi I thought I was the only one!
Elizabeth Napier .
I didn't catch that, but now that you mention it, I see it.
Country songs really hit different when you’re heartbroken
Hahaha yes! I usually refuse to listen to country music, however, this heartbreak feels better listening to country 😅
It does💕💕
Yes!
Facts
Yup......
I can not express enough how much i feel from this. Im crying like a baby and watching this on repeat. Its all over now but i could go back and put the bottle down i would. I love this so much. It hurts but its healing at the same time.
I hear you! This is real! I loved it as well. I hope this finds you doing well.
Hey friends! Be here to chat in a sec. Gotta post the video on Instagram! Hope y'all are digging it so far!
DanAndShay of course we are so amazing like seriously in love with this love you guys thank you❤️😍😩
DanAndShay this video is so good!!! I'm so proud of you boys!!!💛
DanAndShay Im in love with the message it sends!!
DanAndShay You guys are amazing
DanAndShay of course we're diggin it!😍 it is amazing!
I'm so glad there's still country artist that aren't afraid to make real music and be bold. Something that can touch someone and help them instead of going to bars and parties. Love this song and these artists!
thank u . both for this song.. my mom, bless her. she's been sober for 17 years. She is gone now. been one year.
Sorry for your loss Melissa. Xo.
DanAndShay , oh my. wow.. im talking to u both. Ty
Gid Bless u both. for this song. there's alot if people out there fighting their battle. beautiful song
Thank u
I am SO sorry for your loss Melissa. May your Mom rest in peace and may you find comfort knowing that her struggle and pain is gone. Take care and God bless!!
Ty, Naomi
I am a recovering alcoholic. I’ve been sober for over 2 years. What a gut wrenching video. So true to the life and path that we choose. I finally decided to change what the outcome of my life was going to be. I wanted something different from what my grandparents, my father and my uncles lives were and ended on. I decided to take control and ask for help from my loving Heavenly Father.
Congratulations!! Isn't it amazing the difference that God can make?? So proud of you! ❤
Same, I'm 4 months sober. I made so many stupid mistakes and embarrassed myself with alcohol. I'm glad that I dont need alcohol to have fun anymore.
This is such a powerful song. A lot of people can relate to it and it sends a message which I love in a song.
I love this video
Yes
I got 46 days clean and this hit home. I have been listening to it over and over while crying. lol
Cori Howell: Congratulations!!
Cori Howell good job!! It'll be okay
Cori Howell I'm four days clean and that's hard as hell for me. I can't tell you how proud I am of you. I hope I can make it that long. Addiction is a hard thing and it hits everyone in some way.
Hey you don’t know me, but I believe in you. :)
I believe in you. You can. 😊
Watching this and concentrating on the lyrics brought back some VERY painful memories. If you've lost someone you love due to complications of alcoholism, this will affect you like it did me...
In 1975 the first love of my life and I split up after being together for four years, then thirty one years later we reconnected. Throughout that time he ended up in Utah and I in Pennsylvania. We both moved back to Montana in 2006 where we were originally from and started a new relationship picking up where we left off. With all the time that had passed, we never stopped thinking about each other nor did our love die. With that reconnection I knew he drank, but not as heavily as what he did. I adjusted to his addiction/disease and loved him for who "he" was. It was a difficult walk to follow and yes I'll be honest, there were times I felt I needed to walk away. The love I had for him was SO strong that I just couldn't and wasn't going to do it!! Thank God there was no violence whatsoever like this video shows...it was the pain of watching him slowly destroy and kill himself knowing there was nothing I could do that hurt so deeply. The demon ( which he called alcohol) controlled him he couldn't control it. I walked every painful step of the way with him doing what I could to help fight that Demon...We were together for two and a half years, married for one year and six days when he left me. His heart could no longer withstand the damage alcohol was doing to it and passed from a massive heart attack. God took him home to Heaven on March 31, 2009 freeing him from the pain and agony he was in. As for me...I'm doing the best I can to live without him and taking one day at a time as it comes to me.
That is a very powerful story. I'm so sorry for your loss. I know what it's like to want to help someone that doesn't want help. That feeling of helplessness... I wouldn't wish it on anyone.
Awwww
This is all too familiar. Thank you for sharing your reality. Sending positive vibes!!
Sometimes it takes two broken souls to come together to build a wonderful life :)
Rob Heckman true! w God's guidance it can be done
You would think so me and my ex lost our precious 22 year old son in a fatal car accident and it brought us back together after 20 years of divorce but he treated me so horrible so now I'm alone with nothing. But I still have God
@@l.christinejones8164 Amen.
@@pamelamason4334 I'm so very sorry, God will always be with you to love and comfort you. Sending you a hug and saying a prayer for you wherever you are in this world ❤
True but it can also be a disaster
#LYRICS:
I can honestly understand why it's over
I can go through the motions of walking away
I can give you the key and take my things back
I can find plenty things to fill my days
But I don't know how not to think about you
When it's late at night and quiet
And I know that I ought to be the one who is strong and just moves on
But I probably turn down your road, knock knock on your door
Fall back in your arms, wake up in the morning
Hating myself for the way that I can't help the way I still want you
I just don't know how not to, how not to, how not to [x2]
You're like second nature baby, you're just like breathin'
A melody that you hear and you can't forget
The time goes by and I still need you
Yeah, you were at the heartbreak of no regret
But I don't know how not to think about you
When it's late at night and quiet
And I know that I ought to be the one who is strong and just moves on
But I probably turn down your road, knock knock on your door
Fall back in your arms, wake up in the morning
Hating myself for the way that I can't help the way I still want you
I just don't know how not to, how not to, how not to [x2]
I don't know how not to think about you
When it's late at night and quiet
But I know that I ought to be the one who's strong and just moves on
But I probably turn down your road, knock knock on your door,
Fall back in your arms, wake up in the morning,
Hating myself for the way that I can't help the way I still want you
I just don't know how not to, how not to, how not to [x2]
heart still wants to listen again
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One of the best Dan + Shay music video's I've seen by far. Not only did I love how the music video doesn't shine away about Alcoholism and the addiction of alcohol but also it shows that if you have someone in your life that is positive influence and truly cares about your well being. You can accomplish and survive anything that life throws at you.
I absolutely loved it. I love how you incorporated the song into the alcoholism issue. What a beautiful video. I think this will be an absolute hit and will win a lot of awards! Love you guys!!
Thanks Jade! Proud of it. Ptracy created another masterpiece. Xo.
DanAndShay he always ALWAYS does. Much love!
DanAndShay yall are amazing keep going
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I've been sober now for 2 week's and this video is such an inspiration! I've always have loved this song! please make a video for lately!!! Best song ever.. Thank you so, so much DAN + Shay! 💖💯💖💯
Eric Eaker I applaud ur sobriety. one day at a time sometimes one moment at a time. May you find peace my friend in your sobriety. God bless.
i have 6/1/2 months sober and never felt better congrats dude its so worth it
Eric Eaker dry
Eric Eaker congrats on your 1 yr sobriety!!!!!
Eric I'm sure it's been a year for you now always remember two steps forward keep up the good work
Wish I could stop thinking of you. Quit sleeping at night because of the quietness. Song is amazing.
This song & video is for sure an inspiration. I am almost 2 months into my sobriety & have never felt better. The good Lord even has me in church again. So amazing. I am super excited to get that one year cake 🎂 ❤!! 🎉 We got this!!
This was honestly the best music video Ive ever seen. I never would have thought to incorporate alcoholism into this song, but now I see how well it fits. The taking scenes also fit in so well with the music. Seriously such a good video!
The best music video you have ever seen really, its was good but not great
@@matthewrinderle1846 to you it wasn’t “great” but to someone else it just might be, so suck a dick.
If this video doesn't win a ton of awards or at least get nominated for a ton this year and/or next, that'll be a shame. Fantastic job to all involved especially Katie, her on screen love interest, and to D&S!
Yall please pray for my mom. Currently I don't live with her but my brother does. She's not healthy right now. Her and my Step dad is always arguing and my mom turns to alcohol. Just please pray for her to get healthy. God bless you all!!
sammie akridge
I hope your mom is okay
I'm praying for you friend! God has a plan for your life. Don't let family distract you from it. Lean on Christ and ask Him for His will to be done in your life. He loves you so much!
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Sammie Akridge may God shine on you! You deserve all the happiness in the world. I hope that all your dreams come true! God Bless!!!!
A sad, yet insightful perspective on apart of the reality and struggles that individuals and families go through with this disease
I lost the woman I loved over four years ago and haven’t been able to go one day without missing her. I don’t even know if I can find anyone else I’m so heartbroken still. I miss her so much.
4 years ago and this video is still sending chills down my spine
Same
2 years ago I fell in love with an alcoholic and took on his lifestyle of alcoholism 3 days ago he cheated on me 3 days ago I left him and flew home 8 hours away 3 days ago I took a pledge of sobriety 3 days ago was the first time I heard this song it's been 3 days since my last drink and I can definitely say I'm proud of myself and this really hits deep...
sengler17 How are you doing now?
How are you doing?
I left my addict boyfriend a week ago. A week ago I found this video. Its been rough.
You are now doing what is best for you! You'll find love again; this time for the better! That takes so much courage. I truly wish you all the best
😭😭😭❤️
I can relate so much to this video. My dad is 7 years sober tomorrow.
Congrats to him! Xo.
Congrats :) best of luck in the future
congrats, 6 years and my dad is still battling to be sober. It's a hard thing to watch it take control of someone the way it does. How much harder is it for them....Keep on fighting the battle everyone.
Your dad is a CHAMPION !!!!!!! :D
God bless you
The beginning reminded me of The Fault In Our Stars where they sit in the heart of jesus.
Rt 7 haha right
Rt 7 with the guy and testicular cancer and depression is a side affect of dying
The “literal” heart of Jesus.
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Shit up cringe
I am on a Dan & Shay binge. I have never watched the videos before. I love them!
Definitely a struggle for so many people who all have burden's of Pain! I pray for Us all to have strength and the power of God! This is a nation under stressful day's, each day is a blessing granted and forgiveness of each other's selfishness can bring us threw the same toughest time's
I love how this video is so beautiful and has a powerful meaning behind it. In this day and age it's hard to find a good video with meaning behind it. Y'all did a great job! I love the song so much!
i love this song and its meaning behind it i have 6 in a half months clean and never felt better unfortunately my husband didn't make it i miss him so much it hurts but i am giving him his voice and standing strong. thank you dan and shay i love this song!!!!!
3 days. I’ve been listening to this song and finally had the courage!
Never have I ever wanted to comment on a video before. I love this song and have not watched the video until now and let me tell you I couldn't finish it. I have been drinking since I was 13 . Helped a lot with depression PTSD anxiety. Just to cope with life. To forget the things I had burned in my brain. I was living like this for so long. I'm 26 now sober since February 4th, 2017. Not Long but it's a struggle a process but fighting everyday with temptation.. I'll never listen to this song the same but totally for a good reason. For now on this is reminding me of how strong we all are and WE can overcome this terrible disease of alcoholism or any addiction. Praying for all💚💚 xoxo
I love when it makes my soul tingle. Chest hurts. Knowing how much I lost. How much I've grown and the hating myself I broke free from.
This song is so raw for me. Been sober for 9 months and have lost the man I love because of the addiction. This song signifies not only the addiction but losing the love of my life.
This song makes me cry, every time this song is being played I start to choke on tears. This song is an inspiration to me. I’m not gonna drink when I’m an adult, thank you Dan + Shay! 👍 ❤️
so not what I was expecting but SOOOO GOOD!
Tried to push the envelope!
YOU DID THIS SO WELL IM JUST IN LOVE WITH IT!!!!! Sorry for fangirling again... I just I love you guys and this was so well done
DanAndShay I cry almost Every time I hear the how not to and from the ground up I love u guys and my aunt at her wedding danced at this song and I cried I love all of ur songs they are amazing like u
it was your hungry puss that clicked when you saw the thumbnail aint it
I was in love with the song for a while. I found this video and now I'm more obsessed with the song, obsessed with the video, and obsessed with Pierson Fodé
Did anybody ask?
This video touches so close to home. I myself am an alcoholic. I watch this video a lot and can relate. Have not yet had the same strength to seek help as so many of you have. God bless you.
Recovering alcoholic here lost my mom and first time sober on mothers day its hard
This song hits me on another level. How do I not think about you? It's been the only thing there for me when I'm in need. The only thing that dulls the pain. I'm sure everyone goes through hard times. Will power test us all. How strong are you? How beat down are you? How weak are you? Who's there for you? No matter what you control the out come. Just remember someone loves you matter what. Strive to be the person you want to be. Love yourself. Always remember the choices is yours. Love is a powerful tool.
Whoever Noah is....he's gorgeous. Good God...
LAdwv7495 Actor Pierson Fodé
Hes pretty good looking...
@@aliyahsalomon48 Thank youuuuu hehehehehe
I can't even. That video was amazing and its perfect for the song. I love it so much!
Thanks Danielle! Proud of it!
I had a friend of mine turn me on to this song tonight, touched my heart so deeply. She stayed with me thru 2 years of my alcoholism and is still around to see me have 6 months sober, may God Bless you richly for your work on this Heartfelt song Dan + Shay (y)
Thank you for creating a video of what alcoholism can really look like, and how it can look like if you quit. The video depicts what has happened in my 40 years...and although I didn't use AA...quitting has shifted my entire mindset, relationships with the people I love, allowed strength to push away those who were unhealthy, and start taking accountablity for the words and actions that left me spinning in circles. Sobriety is a beautiful thing.
By far my fave Dan + Shay song. This video only adds to my love for it. Well done guys!
anyone here in '24?
1924? Yep das me!! ❤
Shout out to every one going through something that it feels like no one understands.
Just when I didn't think I could love you guys more, you make this. My father has struggled with his alcoholism my entire life, as i write this he has relapsed. I pray that he finds a relationship like the one you depicted here. Truly beautiful video, moved me to tears.
This song, paired with great cinematography, tells such a symbolic story about love and addiction.
Yeah
There's always a great story to their songs and I always replay to get the story right xx
I couldn't even concentrate on you guys singing the story was just amazing! I loved it! such a great video!
officially my favourite music video😻😻 it has aesthetic, simplicity, amazing actors, amazing song and an amazing director!
I love this song! Can’t stop listening to it, it makes me tear up because I live with a alcoholic & he has no clue what his alcoholism is doing to me or our kids. You guys nailed this song!
I fell in love at 20, the kind you see in movies where it's just *boom* when he enters the room and you're in love before you even know what happened. He was an alcoholic and a narcissist, he still plays mind games and can be evil. Tbh he really put me through it and I had 7 years of the best and worst times. I was heartbroken when I took our babies and left... I spent years crying over him and 5 years later he came back! With all the promises and the best intentions, and I had another year on the rollercoaster before it burnt down in flames again! It took time to heal and it took time to see it for what it is. Now I watch videos like this or see toxic relationships and I honesty feel sick. I pray that anyone struggling like this finds peace. 5 years since our final breakup... he's with someone (a fellow alcoholic) they are both trying to come off the drink/ 'cut down'... but he's a little bit more present and calls and sees our children more regularly. I'm nearly 2 years into a happy, healthy relationship with a guy I met 3 years ago. I don't take anything for granted, just enjoy what you have right now as much as you can.
Love works both ways and you can't fight someones addiction or disease for them. Alcoholism will destroy you both if you're the only one fighting it and the addict can't. I wish any of you in this situation the best of luck and you are in my thoughts and prayers
This is great. Thank you
Freya de Tonnancour sober saturday night is about sobriety, too!!!
:)
yes!, isn't it a miracle. 😲
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Beautiful song that one who truly falls inlove who only understand ❤️
KATIIIIIE
spashleyormalex great actress and great singer. She's amazing in this video.
spashleyormalex ahh what is she in? I can't think for the life of me what she's in!
She was in that tv series Faking it.
who is it? I recognized her
spashleyormalex omg sanvers tho
Thank you Dan and Shay, just stumbled on this great song. Loved it and started listening to more of your music. Must have meant to be.
Almost 26 years sober and had lots of people believe in me when I couldn't. It's a gift, like your music.
BEAUTIFUL!
I honestly don't know how you guys do it... every single song and every single video has a way of pulling at the heart strings even if it's not directly relatable... you are SO talented and going to go so far. Where It All Began came out right when my boyfriend and I started dating, it's pretty much the soundtrack to our relationship, and when From The Ground Up came out there was no doubt that would be the song we get married to. Thank you so much for your ability to create such amazing music!! You guys rock.
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Late to the comment party, but I feel the pain and the love and every emotion in this song. I struggled with alcoholism for 3 years and feel great that I got a grip on it. Great song. Great video.
This was really touching and I absolutely loved it!
Thanks for watching Gabby!
my uncle passed away in Sept '16. he was an alcoholic for the majority of his life. although. i know hes no longer suffering, its still painful knowing he isnt here anymore. i absolutely love the message of this song.
I’m 3years sober from being a alcoholic i started young and I’m 28yrs old now and I’m living my best life working on me. I pray everyone who suffers addiction gets through it you are all loved😘
Going through the same thing with me and my girlfriend right now. Our best friend died last august who was her boyfriend. We fell in love afterward and have slipped down the road of alcohol and are actively working on getting better together. Thank you for this inspirational song that I relate to right now. 2 more weeks and shes out of rehab
Hang in there it's going to be okay good days are coming ❤🤲💫
Thats powerful, and shes a good actress
Matt's Garage - TakeiT she's probably used to it looks like she been threw alot
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This is your best music video yet guys.
*Dan+Shay, you've done it again*
These voices with the consistent songwriting blended with a powerful band!
I'm 13 I've dealt with an alcoholic mother and a father who tried his hardest to keep me away from it. They often fought when I was younger and I had never seen the official video for this song but the fight scenes always make me remember all those fights my parents would have over her drinking.
Literally this is my life atm... just got over liver failure to. Kidneys, jaundice, yellow eyes and finger nails. Swollen legs and hands !! Pancreatitis to! I was 23! I’m only 24 now... still not where I need to be but man this hits home
This song is helping me with go through my heartbreak. After 11 years, how can you just forget about the love you shared. In order to get through the hardships in life, you need someone to pick you up. 💔💔
That person you need to pick you up, is you. ♥
The video is an awesome story of how things can change so much with just one person entering or leaving your life
I have been a fan of Dan and Shay since so many years ago,but imagine this is when I see this so powerful song and I really really needed it!
Thank you So much Dan and Shay
So many relationships ruined by alcohol addiction. Excellent song and powerful message / video !
As a recovering addict, I can so relate to this song! Thank you Dan+Shay💞
Wow this is amazing! ♥ So much depth!
Jane Nikki r%%%+t
When I was in my second year of college, I met the love of my life. She was all I've ever dreamt of in a woman and more. We were together for nearly 2 years. We had a beautiful relationship. I can confidently say that the time we were together was the happiest we have both ever been in our entire lives.
She is such a beautiful person, inside and out. You can get lost in her eyes. She is hands down the most caring and generous person I have ever met. The way she cares for her parents and her sister. I could not name a single flaw with her even if I had a gun in my mouth. The way she always cared for me and planned to make sure that I would be ok. How madly in love she was with me.
She helped me to become a person that I never knew I could be. Helped me realize my full potential.
She was the only one I could ever be vulnerable around, the only one I confided in, the first person I went to whenever I had to make a decision in life. Even though I was only 20 years old. I was confident that I wanted to marry her. Our love was so strong. Yes, there were bumps along the road as this was our first serious relationship. However, I always told myself that no matter what happens, we would always work on it and always bounce back. Problems are inevitable in life and I believe that time does heal even the deepest of scars.
In October of 2020, I messed up big time. I will man up and own my mistakes. I started to lose focus and I did some things that I absolutely hate myself for. I will never forgive myself for the things I did.
It is now January 10th of 2020, and she had decided to end our relationship yesterday.
She stayed for nearly 3 months after. I did everything and more in order to prove I really was a changed person. I am 10 times better now than the version of me she first fell in love with.
Do you know how painful it is to hear "I don't want this to work anymore" from the person you want to marry, the person you love the most in life? to hear them say that them being around you makes them feel worthless?
I know people will say that I believe time heals, so that time can heal my broken heart. I can't help but wonder about all the things we could have done if I didn't mess it up. All the things I planned.
I had planned to graduate this summer and propose to her the same summer. She loved sunflowers, I planned to take her to a sunflower field in the summer and propose to her as I pretended to take a picture of her looking into the sunflowers.
We talked about our future, jobs, family, goals. We wanted to have 2 children. Zayn and Zara were names that we had in mind.
I threw that all away because I was selfish and pathetic.
We believed in soul mates. I still do, there is no doubt in my mind that she is the one for me.
I don't know what to do. I don't want to move on. I don't want to think of anyone else or look for anyone else. I can't accept it.
Losing the love of my life coupled with facing dismissal from my college program for a false accusation of cheating is a nice combo, isn't it?
I hate myself So much. So much guilt. I don't deserve to even be alive.
To you young guys with new relationships, stop letting your hormones control you, don't have wandering eyes. Loyalty and discipline are so admirable in relationships.
She always loved trying new things. After a few calls with her, found out that she was 18 and had never tried hot chocolate. So when I asked her to be my girlfriend, I used a cup of hot chocolate from Dunkin to write down my message for her.
I doubt she will ever find this comment. If she somehow does, keep drinking hot chocolate, please. I will always be in love with you honey.
Im sorry to hear that . I mean I hope you guys get back together that’s all I have to say. Well that and I hope for your happiness
@@kiloxoxo847 thank you very much. I’m hoping for that too.
wow i never knew how powerful this was. knew the song but didn't know the vid.. BRAVO!!!
This song has been helping me so much ❤. And I'm sure it has helped/will help many. YOU are making an impact!
It’s a really good song, how are you doing?
Dan + Shay and P. Tracy . Love this for all aspects! Great Great Job!
This song is amazing!! You guys out done yourself with this one! I absolutely love it❤❤❤❤
I can honestly understand why it's over
I can go through the motions of walking away
I can give you the key and take my things back
I can find plenty things to fill my days
But I don't know how not to think about you
When it's late at night and crying
And I know that I ought to be the one who is strong and just moves on
But I probably turn down your road, knock-knock on your door
Fall back in your arms, wake up in the morning
Hating myself for the way that I can't help the way I still want you
I just don't know how not to, how not to, how not to
I just don't know how not to, how not to, how not to
You're like second nature, baby, you're just like breathin'
A melody that you hear and you can't forget
The time goes by and I still need you
Yeah, you were at the heartbreak of no regret
But I don't know how not to think about you
When it's late at night and crying
And I know that I ought to be the one who is strong and just moves on
But I probably turn down your road, knock-knock on your door
Fall back in your arms, wake up in the morning
Hating myself for the way that I can't help the way I still want you
I just don't know how not to, how not to, how not to
I just don't know how not to, how not to, how not to
I don't know how not to think about you
When it's late at night and crying
But I know that I ought to be the one who's strong and just moves on
But I probably turn down your road, knock-knock on your door
Fall back in your arms, wake up in the morning
Hating myself for the way that I can't help the way I still want you
I just don't know how not to, how not to, how not to
I just don't know how not to, how not to, how not to
This is one of those music videos that will bring tears in your eyes no matter what
ive heard this song on the radio for weeks now and im in love with it, today sitting at work bored in my office i decided to watch videos. OMG im crying like a baby! Addiction robs so many ppl from so much, How awesome of you guys to do a song so powerful. Im just a girl from alabama who is very proud of you guys on this song! Congratulations Dan+Shay
“I don’t know how not to think about you when it’s late at night and crying” wow that hits hard
Oh my Lord there isn’t one song of theirs that I just don’t fall in love with !! 😍😍
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I can honestly understand why it's over
I can go through the motions of walking away
I can give you the key and take my things back
I can find plenty things to fill my days
But I don't know how not to think about you
When it's late at night and crying
And I know that I ought to be the one who is strong and just moves on
But I probably turn down your road, knock-knock on your door
Fall back in your arms, wake up in the morning
Hating myself for the way that I can't help the way I still want you
I just don't know how not to, how not to, how not to
I just don't know how not to, how not to, how not to
You're like second nature, baby, you're just like breathin'
A melody that you hear and you can't forget
The time goes by and I still need you
Yeah, you were at the heartbreak of no regret
But I don't know how not to think about you
When it's late at night and crying
And I know that I ought to be the one who is strong and just moves on
But I probably turn down your road, knock-knock on your door
Fall back in your arms, wake up in the morning
Hating myself for the way that I can't help the way I still want you
I just don't know how not to, how not to, how not to
I just don't know how not to, how not to, how not to
I don't know how not to think about you
When it's late at night and crying
But I know that I ought to be the one who's strong and just moves on
But I probably turn down your road, knock-knock on your door
Fall back in your arms, wake up in the morning
Hating myself for the way that I can't help the way I still want you
I just don't know how not to, how not to, how not to
I just don't know how not to, how not to, how not to
24 years loved one man and I still love him. Married him twice
I'm not usually one to post comments on videos but this one...this one hit me hard. I was an addict for over 3 years and went to detox and rehab when I was only 18. I met my boyfriend last summer and I was in bad shape. I had just lost my job, could barely afford to eat and just didnt want to be here anymore. I havent touched anything since August because of him. He was an addict too but now we have each other to lean on. He doesnt know it but he saved my life. i felt like i was nothing until he showed me how fun life can really be sober. i still struggle every day but having him beside me gives me the strength to resist. to anyone dealing with an addiction, you CAN do it even if it feels like the whole world is against you. once you become sober you realize how valuable life is.
I actually feel this song... To me it's not about the addiction to alcohol or drugs it about the addiction to someone and not being able to let go of them.. I am going through this at the moment... I am separated from my husband and I thought that my feelings for him were resolved but when I talked to him for the first time after he was released from prison after a year it brought up some of those feelings. Oh and when I saw him for the first time after that all these feelings and emotions came flooding back and where stronger than ever... See we didn't separate cause of problems between us it was cause I couldn't handle the drinking from Sun up to Sun down and he wasent ready to stop.. Before he went to prison we where gonna try to work things out... I want that chance especially now that we are sober.. I feel we deserve that chance... One last try before we just throw away 10yrs of our life together... I love him... I love you David Watkins...
I could use some advice please... I'm really hurting from this...
This is one of the best video song of 2017. 😍
Obsessed with this. Best so far guys!
Getting sober from heavy drug use for 10 years hardest thing I've ever done
Katu Walley but you did it ♥️
OH MY GOD DAN AND SHAY ALL OF YOUR SONGS MAKE ME CRY WHILE I PMS. WHY?
wow this is true for me..thank u..u guys are great!!
chills chills chills
lucky guy M
Was a heroine addict for 4 1/2 years, almost died, got clean for a year and a half, then relapsed been 8 days clean as of today. Have this song on repeat its been a rough week.
Hello Sara, I hope you are better and doing great?
This is a masterpiece! I love the storytelling weaved throughout this video
Just freaking love these guys I swear. All their songs make me cry
Haven’t watched this one in a while but saw it again on Katie’s instastory and decided to come back to it. Man. Every time I see it, I forget there’s even a song playing bc I get so wrapped up in the story. Love this video.