having a baby is hard and i'm so tired ugh
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- Опубліковано 12 тра 2024
- as you can tell from the title, the thumbnail and the brain functioning that i am clearly lacking in this video... i am tired.
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In Germany, co-sleeping with a baby is completely normal. Babies don't always cry at night just because they're hungry or have a stomach ache. They need the security of their parents, some children more and some less. For me, it was always the best decision because we all got the most sleep that way.
It’s normal here in the states too but our medical providers frown upon it because of risk of rolling on the baby. So no one admits to doing it most of the time but I personally know so many mothers who snuggle up with there babies and sleep.
Hey Aspyn, I‘ve been a silent viewer since before your guys‘ first home, and I just wanted to commend you for keeping on going! It seems like things are not always easy but you still find a way to get through it and focus on the little things that matter everyday. I wish for you to have a happy, easy fun life where you get to be creative in ways that fulfill you and live in a place that inspires you. Obviously I only see tiny parts of your life through the vlogs, so my insight is superficial. But watching them feels comforting to me and I thought maybe sharing my thoughts could be comforting to you. I genuinely wish you all the best!
The fact that you even have the energy to get up and work out is amazing to me. You couldn’t have paid me a million dollars to do that when I was getting no sleep. Give yourself alot of credit.
Agreed. I couldn't even do morning workouts even when I didn't have a baby hahah
the 8am pickle is very relatable
Lmao this 😂
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I will admit, the moment you think you got your child's schedule down..BOOM.. they switch up the whole game, and then the cycle continues. You're doing great, Mama ❤
Elsa could be a good nickname for the vlog! It’s a princess name so I’m sure the little girls would enjoy it and she’d probably like it when she gets older and can watch the movies
your baby sounds exactly like mine!!! i’ve been co sleeping with him since he came home from the hospital for 4 months now and every nap has been a contact nap lol. some babies just need extra love ♥️♥️
i have one toddler and omg im so tired everyday theres no way i want more kids im 29! im healthy im happy and idk how ppl do it. in my opinion one child is perfect!!!
omg i’m the same!! i have one boy and he’s a year and a half and i swear he’s all i can handle hahaha idk how ppl have more kids 😅
I have two and I am exhausted every single minute.
I'm on my third, girl. 20 weeks over here and dying
Omg same
Me too! Am 29 and have one daughter (almost 4 y.o) and she takes all of my energy everyday! >
Regarding breastfeeding, I just wanted to say hang in there a few more weeks if you can. My son was born a few weeks early, and was super fussy at the breast. I breastfed my first for over 2 years so I definitely wanted to do the same for this one but it seemed impossible. Sure enough when he turned 8 weeks old his facial muscles suddenly got stronger and he was able to suck a lot more milk out. I think babies who are born a little earlier are just more weak and sleepy at the beginning and will eventually get the hang of breastfeeding
I just have to say, as a long time follower and a pregnancy twin of yours, this has been the most relatable vlog I have ever watched of yours. My girls are all within a couple months of yours age-wise and I struggled right from the beginning of my motherhood journey. I have watched your content as a source of comfort and, not that I want any of us mama's to struggle, hearing you share some of the things you're struggling with baby girl, it just is so nice and relatable. Sending you healing and positive vibes! Speaking from experience, difficult newborns are really easy infants/early toddlers.
I had a baby with feeding issues…also ended up cosleeping safely…nothing about motherhood went the way I thought it would. But. In the end it all worked out. It’s hard though!
Me too! Its exhausting but it worked
She just wants to cuddle with mama, so sweet ❤
Hi Aspen I love you rants honestly. It’s like your brain releases everything when you have 5 minutes to yourself lol . In regards to your back pain I can kinda relate after I had my 2nd child I legit wake up with back pain everyday still do and I remember when I was running 3X a week it would trigger numb feeling so I had to also change my workout routine . Per my doctor they told me to do a xray . Anyway love your videos . ❤
When we traveled we shipped a box and it was a game changer! Arrived to the Airbnb the day before and had clothes and random stuff we needed! Then we shipped it home the day we left. Pure bliss to not have to bring it to the airport!
With my second I pumped exclusively for 1 year because she refused to nurse & had multiple allergies so it was our only option. And yes, exclusive pumping takes a huge toll mentally, it was rough
Your nails should never hurt if you have a proper technician. The prep isn’t done right :( you should never expect to have to put up with thin painful nails!!
I just had rubber base it HURT! Same with gel, while in the blue light dryer. Thought was just me, tech. said it was normal during chemical hardening, feels like they are burning. Anyone else? No more, cannot be good for us!
I had my baby last month 8 weeks early and he’s still in the nicu. I’m exclusively pumping and I love it so far! Once you get on a roll it gets better!
I co slept with my second cause he was the same, it’s all about safety and survival! Do what works best for you. Your doing good mama, I know you have a lot going on praying for peace and healing over your life💕
love you so much thanks for still being here
Hi! I’ve been an infant/toddler nanny for 15+ years and I was just diagnosed with scoliosis from holding all those babies! I always hold them on the left side and it’s caused a curve in my spine. Try and switch up the hips if you can! I hope your back been gets better!
I feel you, girl! Being a mom is so hard 😪 😫. I have only one daughter who is 4 years old.. and she's so demanding.. I can imagine how it is with 3 !!!
I never wanted to cosleep ever, but had to for the first 5 months because my baby straight up NEVER slept. She was super colicky, cried all night. But when we coslept we would both get so much more sleep! Now she sleeps in her crib and sleeps all night long and naps great at 18 months :)
This is amazing! How did you get her to nap and sleep so well in the crib after cosleeping?
I’ve had the same experience with my baby. I had him 3 weeks early due to preeclampsia and he’s always struggled breastfeeding and our bottle/pumping/formula schedule is so chaotic and it’s so hard on me mentally. Just know you’re not alone and you’re doing great and the best you can ❤️
I hope you are taking care of YOURSELF!
6 months postpartum with our 3 baby. This is my only baby who won’t take a pacifier and so sleep is still not on our side lol. I feel like I’ve tried everything. The only thing that has helped me is trying to change how I talk about the situation. I try and flip the script to see the upside and not the negative but it is not a walk in the park lol. Our girls are 4.5, 3 and 6 months.
My baby girl was born at 29 weeks and she was the exact same way with feeding and sleeping for the first few months, she’s finally 8 months 5.5 adjusted(ish) and is doing better. I’m sad because she also prefers a bottle, so I feel you mama! Preemie parents are so strong!
It’s crazy how similar your pregnancy and experience with this baby has been to mine. Although I’m a first time mom. I had a subchromatic hemorrhage during my pregnancy. My baby wasn’t gaining enough weight and I had to breast feed, pump, and give baby a bottle. She is now 8 almost 9months and has never been a good sleeper and still isnt. I am also not comfortable with cosleeping but it’s the only way she will sleep so I end up staying up all night and letting her sleep on my chest. She has gained good weight and loves to eat now but her digestion is a huge struggle still and she gets tummy aches easily. I wish I could share some wisdom but all I have is It’s hard but you got this!
Oh man I just feel for you. My son is 3 and he’s been a bad sleeper his whole life. He still often wakes up 3 times and night and he’s been that way since he was a baby. 😮💨 being a mom is so hard and tiring and everything! Hang in there. Also, my daughter legit spit up like 10 times after each feeding. I bought a pack of white gerber bibs and it saved me from changing her outfit 1000x a day! I would just have to swap the bib and not the outfit! Good luck!
My 2nd and last baby only lasted about 7 months breastfeeding and that was so hard. I just had to stop trying and bottle feed formula because my supply dropped too. I didn't like exclusive pumping either but had to do a lot for both especially my preemie NICU boy (1st baby) so that was very hard too! He was very hard to get to sleep cuz of the NICU schedule and I just had to cosleep. So exhausting! Find out what exercises to do to be safer for your back. Get some rest and vitamins!! ❤ Do what you and baby need ❤
I'm a big fan of the chiropractor but I went to physical therapy for my back pain (10/10 back pain for 12 weeks straight) and physical therapy healed it in one week. Life changing...and I only needed PT for like 3 weeks. Highly recommend you try!
I heard you say your new one has been spitting up alot! Does she have acid reflux? Ours woke up every 30-45 minutes during the night bothered by her acid reflux and was super fussy. As a last resort we did end up putting her on a stomach acid reducing medicine and it helped so much. We also slightly elevated the head of her bed and kept her upright for 15-30 minutes after feedings and it all helped with the spitting up and her sleep.
It didn’t know you did orange theory!!! I’d love to hear more about how you exercise 😊
You’re so good for doing all the things that you do 🎉
Parker is such a good dad🥹 car picnic is so cute. They’ll definitely remember that when they grow up. Good job momma. Bad sleepers are sooo hard. The anxiety I would feel in the evening was terrible 🥺
Seeing a lactation consultant really helped me! They tracked on the weight and they were able to see how much she was eating in ounces by weighing her before and after each feed and it really reassured me that she was eating enough.
I never wanted to cosleep
But my son man he was the worst and I caved. It honestly helped our breastfeeding journey! He would nurse and cuddle and wake up swap sides and nurse. Kept my supply up. And we got some sleep. At 9 months we moved him to his crib and he did great
Also with bottle feeding be sure it’s a slow flow nipple ! Or she will prefer bottle over boob❤
6 months postpartum with a preemie and he acted just like your baby, so I just gave in and co sleep and he’s sleeping throughout the whole night since.
You're doing great aspyn!!
You are not alone! I am with you but with a 8 month old and a 5 y.o step son. You are going to get through this! 💪 Have faith mama!
My son (first & only baby) is going to be a year old on May 29th & still to this day wakes up 3-4 times a night. It’s amazing how your body is able to adjust to functioning off so little sleep for so long, but you can’t pay me enough to wake up early & work out! You’re doing great, mama!
Careful putting your pumped milk in the stanley cup. It's insulated, so the fridge won't make the inside of the cup cold.
Cosleep is not unsafe. New studys shows that it is safer. Of course only of the parents are sober.
My baby was born at 32 weeks and I get it! She was in the NICU for just shy of a month. It was not good on my mental health as in she had a feeding tube up until 2 days before release. I exclusively pumped for her every three hours for a month. And I still had to pumped after cause she wasn’t gaining weight I had to fortify my milk and give a bottle every other feed. Thankfully I had a loving and helpful husband who fed bottles through the night. It’s hard😩 but FED IS BEST
You’re doing great!! If you can rent the Snoo in your area I can’t recommend it enough we bought ours and was the best purchase ever, gave us so much sleep in those exhausting newborn days which is invaluable
So proud of you mama. Being a mom is hard. You’re doing the best you can and that’s what matters. 💕
My 34 weeker did not sleep well until he was about 2 1/2 months corrected age! I tried triple feeding for a while and it was too much! So now I just exclusively pump now! There’s lots of good formulas out there too. You’re doing great, mama!!
Hi Aspyn, I hope you see this. My daughter was born at 35 & 3 and she was tiny too. I went from tube, bottle and breastfeeding her to exclusively bottle formula fed and it helped her weight heaps! Also, if she is so unsettled at night, I swaddled my daughter in a hospital swaddle with her arms by her side and she settled in her bassinet! Give it a go x
maybe try builder gel on your nails! i think its "healthier" for your nails and it makes them stronger, similar to dip powder, so they shouldn't hurt!!
That's how I started co-sleeping with my daughter. It was just the only way that I could get sleep and stay sane! I also really enjoy the snuggles!
Love love your videos
What you’re going through with this baby sounds a lot like the struggles we had with my first. She was a premie too, and struggled with sleeping, colic, and feeding. Just know that you aren’t doing anything wrong. Some babies just are more challenging. With my daughter we alternated breastfeeding and formula feeds for 7 months until she eventually started refusing the breast. I wish I had heard of more people combo feeding at the time because I felt like it had to be one or the other, and it didn’t
Keep positivity ❤ You can do anything ❤
My first son is the worst sleeper. I swore I wouldn’t bed share but here we are 😂 he’s 12 months old and he still wakes up 5-10 times a night.
You should try builder gel / soft gel!! It’s better than dip & its just as durable. Normal gel polish won’t protect at all, but having a structured mani will 🩷 come to me in SLC lol
ASPYN!! please read:
I’m 32 weeks pregnant and feel like I will also have an early birth. My third as well!
Looking back now the weeks leading up to your birth .. did you feel like there were some signs that could have indicated an earlier brith ??
I had to co-sleep with my son and once he turned 4 months we started putting him in his crib and he did so well. It was a lot but he just needed me close and I don’t regret it.
Same here I was fine a bit tired with the first 2 and they slept really good but my 3rd one would wake up ever 2-3 hours till 2 years old now he’ll mostly sleep through the night sort of. My hormones were really messed up from the lack of sleep he’s 2.5 but I’m starting to get back to normal ! Get some rest when you can maybe meditate more ,
Exclusively pumped for all 3 kids (1 year for each child) as well as continued working full time. It. Was. Exhausting. However your baby eats is what is best.
Literally how are you not wearing a bra and not leaking everywhere 😩
My son was premie as well and I ended up pumping and combo feeding for the first 3 months of his life and then he was finally strong enough to get a good latch! I combo fed until he turned one and as much as I wanted to fully breast feed, it ended up being pretty nice especially whenever I needed to be away from him!
The paw patrol pillow in parents bed is so real
As a PT, I recommend continuing to go to pelvic floor PT and Pilates will definitely be a better option than orange theory right now to help your back. Idk what the chiro is doing for you, but if they are continuing to do adjustments where you hear a pop, it actually could be making things worse. You probably have more mobility in your joints than you should have and strengthening/PT exercises are better for you right now. 🙏🏼💕
I hope you had a good Mother's Day Aspen
This season is so hard! You got this mama 🤍
Where is your hair thing from? The large roller thing. I couldn’t find it on your links.
Plot twist: her name actually is baby 😂
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Is baby in a bassinet normally? My littlest was born 3/22 and he will only sleep well in his crib now, or my bed while I’m right there (getting dressed or folding laundry) he hates the bassinet for being so stiff😅
you got it girl!!
I remember my toddler when he was that tiny, he would do the same. Fuzz every 3 mins, his paci would fall and he would cry. I never co slept because I was so scared and also he had an episode of apnea that traumatized us. The age between 1m-7m is so hard.
Yesss it is !
sometimes when babies have digestion and tummy issues like gas or reflux it can be harder for them to sleep and aren't comfortable on their back as much.. and preemies can have more tummy issues. it can definitely be hard.
exclusive pumper here (we've made it 7.5 months!!!) & it is not for the weak 🙃 my baby never was able to latch & we tried everything! hang in there & do what's best for you; a happy, healthy baby AND mama is all that matters ❤
I’m 9 months in!! & definitely so hard especially months 2-4!! I remember literally crying all the time from the dread of pumping but it’s so much better now! It seems so easy until you do it. Good job to you mom, we got this!
get gel x nails!! or builder gel! it’s makes your nails so much healthier and not thin, if you find an individual nail tech in your area your nails will 100% be healthy again! ❤️
I totally understand not wanting to sleep with baby but I can be so helpful 😭 look into the safe sleep seven so that you can be the absolute safest bed sharing. You can do hard things mama:) once baby gains her weight you can totally exclusively breast feed. Just don’t give up offering. Also make sure you’re using a slower nipple so baby still has to “work” for it. That can typically be why a baby prefers to have a bottle. A breast fed baby never needs larger than what is considered a 3m nipple. Nipple sizing is a gimmick 🥴
Hey Aspyn, first time mom here. My baby is 18 days old and I was wondering what do you do to produce more milk?
Also I had a 37wkr that was considered term but he was born at 4 lbs 8oz and he was exclusively breastfed and it was work to get him to stay latched but the more often you do it and work at it the easier it will become. It can be work to keep them actively sucking. But the older they get the stronger they become. Just really make sure she’s getting that hind milk with each feed. The NICU makes you question everything about breastfeeding bcuz it’s all about numbers but you’ve done this before trust the breastfeeding process.
Exclusive pumper here and loving it!
My baby was the same way as yours. She would not sleep very long in her bassinet. She would only sleep if she was held, so I had to co-sleep to get any sleep. We just did it safely. You do what you got to do to survive. With my baby, I also had to 7:31 breast feed, pump, and offer a bottle at every feeding. It is exhausting!!! My doctor said babies prefer the bottle over breast because they don’t have to work as hard to eat from a bottle.
You look great!
I’m listening Aspyn. Have so much fun in California, but I also hope you get the breast milk situation figured out!
My baby is 9 weeks old as of yesterday and he has been doing that same thing for about a week!
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I would get a second opinion on the bottle after breastfeeding because that’s what I was told to do with my second cause he wasn’t gaining and I lost all my breast milk and it hurt him to go back and fourth….
She likely has bottle preference! Mine did as well and didn’t love bf and would just rather not eat than nurse lol. I just quit the bottle cold turkey and she ended up loving nursing again. She’s 7.5m and loves her milk. I know you may not be able to do this with her weight gain issues right now though!! Hang in there! ❤
hard working woman/mom! love to see it :)
Please be careful putting milk in Stanley cup! It’s insulated it won’t get cold by putting it in the fridge
My son has always been a bad sleeper: never slept on his own. When he turned 2 we found out he has obstructed sleep apnea. 😩
Some babies just don’t sleep. My first would not sleep unless he was right next to me or being held. They just need extra cuddles. We tried everything and he is four now and still isn’t a great sleeper
My baby is 5 weeks old and this is literally him. This is verbatim him with sleeping. My other 2 boys were great sleepers as well and this is a completely different ball field lol
Orange theory made me strong but I had multiple back injuries during it. I think a lot of it was running on the treadmill!
What pump do you use?
I probably won't have another but I have baby fever so watching this video is a great way to get it out of my system 😂 My baby was also a preemie (28.5 weeks) so I'm afraid the next one will be too and idk if I can do that again 😮💨
The haul you did what brand is the blue stripped pants
Still my fav UA-camr
Does anyone know what pump she used in the beginning?
Not a mother, nor a doctor..... but a pre k teacher..... but I am wondering about mixing breast milk with formula in a bottle as a way to supplement it?
Aspyn since you have always been very active with your workouts ( esp. orange theory) try seeing a sports medicine doctor my sister did and it was life changing she has a ton of muscle issues
Neither of my babies slept good! My first didn’t sleep through the night til 11 months old! My 9 month old wakes 2-3 times! They both have slept in our bed😝
My baby was born at 31 weeks and let me tell you she was a difficult baby haha😂 and it was my first baby. Premature babies are just a different breed! 😅
13:43 I am 25 and I swear I will wear brandy till I’m 80 😭😭😭
Aspyn where are your sunglasses from please?