Then the bridesmaid needs to just sit this one out. You cannot ask someone to accommodate your desires in their wedding day! If you feel you need to touch your baby 24/7 then sit down with the other guests.
Is she pooping with the baby attached, shower,cleaning, doctors appointment, gyno, dentistand sex? It's stupid and selfish. You could have your husband, mom,father, sister,cousin,uncle ,nieces look after the child. Also this can't be good for the baby growth like physically
I’m not a mother so I can’t speak too tough but I’m sure it’s not good for the development of an infant if they don’t learn how to be separated from their mother especially if it’s only for 30 minutes ?
Im not a mother either but this isnt good for the kid. The kid is gonna have separation anxiety. What is she gonna do when the kid has to go to school ? Or what if she has to leave the house and go somewhere where children aren’t allowed ? She is doing her child a disservice by not allowing them to learn how to be without mom and dad for a while
This could cause a kid to have a an anxious attachment style which will have them seeking relationships like this. This could lead to toxic relationships with people that have avoidant or unattached style because they will constantly seek validation. To counter argue that, side she might be giving the child skills and tools that we may not know about and the kid could grow up securely attached and function fine. We can judge a book by its cover.
@@artmariemakes I don't care what skills she's giving the child, itsmy wedding, your child is 1+yrs, sit tf own with the rest of the guests and I'll find another bridesmaid and a new best friend while I'm at it cause its unreasonably selfish request
I got 5 kids and I am telling you that the baby can do it just fine. The question and my biggest concern is why can’t the mother?! I hope she wanted this to be seen and not because she can’t put the baby down. It’s either ridiculous or alarming.
1 year and 2 months old, seems like a pretty normal young age to still have some anxiety about not being around your mom who is your comfort as a child.. obviously don't know the entire story but I dont know why people think babies are so much more capable and smart when they reach age 1, they are still tiny beings who need their mothers idk this is just simple logic to me.
@@nikolinajurgec4966 that's true... but 30 mins? A one year old can't be with its father or another adult that is always around for 30 minutes? That's wild to me.
@Jasmine Taylor exactly and some people don't learn their children that bcs you can learn your child that when you go that they can still be okay and nothing bad is going to happen etc.
@@nikolinajurgec4966 From the time a baby is born it is the parent's responsibility to start teaching them how to be independent. If you are carrying them 24/7 how in the world will they learn to sleep on their own, play on their own use their imagination become autonomous, At what point in life do you think it's okay for the child to learn that mommy can't be with them 100% of the time? Is it 5 years old 10, 15 or should they still be attached to their mommies breast even at 30? If you are never allowed to have anxiety, when will you learn how to handle it? How will you learn that you don't always need mommy to rescue you? Attachment parenting? what a stupid idea.
sister or not we ain’t having that... sorry not sorry...we ain’t having no baby crying at my special moments. 💁🏼♀️😤 and also my sister is my bestfriend but nah sis u have to go if u don’t like my rules at my wedding. Js lol 😂
The bride and groom set the rules for the wedding and what guests should wear. So if the bridesmaid feels uncomfortable then uninvite her and keep it moving...true or true?
I’m a huuuuuugggggeeeee Amanda Seals fan but I DONT think this show is for her I kinda miss just the 4 of them. The energy just be different when they have guests. Amanda is just to Real, she talks about the topics that people shy away from and encourages the ladies to speak on them too.
I love all this self love and healing mantras going around, I hate to say it but I think it’s now also becoming an issue where some of us are “putting ourselves first “ but not thinking about others. It’s your friends wedding , don’t make it about you and your baby. Already stressed about the wedding she now has to worry about not upsetting you because she doesn’t want your baby at her wedding .
@@nikolinajurgec4966 It is THE BRIDE'S WEDDING DAY....NOT the bridesmaid's...so of course it should be about THE BRIDE....NOT the narcisssistic bridesmaid.It is not hypocritical at all, it is common sense and decency.
My comments come from a personal perspective, as in if I was a bride and I hope to be one day, I personally would not have an issue with a bridesmaid asking this of me. I haven't attacked anybody in the comments I have just posted my opinion so I dont really understand why everyone's throwing so much heat my way! I mean I'm sorry if somehow I offended anyone but I just don't see how I would have..
I’m sorry that’s distracting... I understand taking care of your child and wanting to multi task and being there for your friend as well as not wanting anyone else to take care of your child because u know what’s best... but come on it’s just 30 minutes 💀😂
Exactly, it is just 30 minutes. Bride and Groom also can't suck it up for 30 minutes? The kid could not even cry for all they know and even if it did umm whats the problem? I simply don't get it. Children, come over a wedding, priorities.
@@nikolinajurgec4966 why should a bride and groom suck it up on their big day? Some people think the world revolves around them and their children - spoiler, it doesn't!
@@louboulton7030 if that person is truly a friend then they wouldn't feel like it is burden they would be happy to help them out you sound like a really sad person have fun with that
@@nikolinajurgec4966 What do you mean "what's the problem, if the baby starts to cry"? Would you want a baby screeching in you ears while you're trying to read your vows in an intimate moment?! Like what kinda dumb question is that dude?
@@abigailwilliams8889 if you are asking me personally then genuinely no I wouldn't care, the person with the baby in most cases would politely excuse themselves, same as if they were sitting in the audience and a child started crying. That's just my opinion! I just said whats the big deal because I didn't think this many people would find the request that absurd or out of line. But once again that's cuz it doesnt reflect how I personally would handle that type of situation, I dont expect everyone to agree ovviously.
It's the mother that is having separation anxiety. That's what she has trained the child to be. Bride should tell her to sit way back at the wedding. That's so self-centered asking to kangaroo with a 14months old child . No, no, no.
I know!!!! I noticed it too and got anxious. Wanted to smack all of them and tell them to let her talk. lol Why do they invite guests if they're gonna act like its just the 4 of them?
Maybe it’s a stupid question I don’t have kids but I will imagine the dad of the baby will be invited too ? So in this case the dad can hold the baby right ? Or a family member ?
This may be a hard concept to grasp but I can guarantee you that 90% of your friends don’t like your kids that much. Actually most people don’t like kids that are not theirs. I’m almost positive that if your friend doesn’t have a kid they probably don’t really like your kid enough to make those kind of sacrifices for them. Especially for something as important and expensive as a wedding so.
First of all I personally feel like a baby being separate from the parent off and on is better then having them attached to you all the time. You don't want them to become co-dependent towards you, you want them to develop while being independent for themselves while still maintaining a relationship, and 2nd of all if you don't want to be separated from your child during a wedding then just be there as a guest don't make unreasonable demands on the bride especially when it is not your wedding. If it was my relative making these demands I would let them know "hey I understand what you are saying so if that is the case then come as a guest, you wont have to be a brides made".
My best friends son was 2 months old at my wedding, and he was with his dad, by her sister and her mom. This never came into question at all, she didn’t even bring him when she came for make up and hair even tho I told her to bring him. She said no this is your day, and I want to be there for you.
How about this........ pick better friends that will put your needs above their own on your wedding day. It’s one freaking day! The toddler will be fine for an hour without the mom while they do the ceremony and take the pictures. This will not damage them at all!
If it's my wedding I would not have a problem. Why every thing about life got to be cookie cutter style. I'd be happy to accommodate her needs. Nothing wrong with having a beautiful being invading my ceremony. I don't see what it takes away from my marriage.
I am a mother to 2 girls, one of which I still breastfeed. I am also a worship leader at my church. I participated in the ministry all throughout both pregnancies & had them both close by during practice. They are always fine & well cared for during service (both my husband & i serve). I think it’s more of an attachment issue for the mother.
I guess I'm the only nutty bride who would allow my bridesmaid to do that. If I ask you to stand up there with me, it means I truly love you and want you there so I am willing to make some accommodations and sacrifices although it's supposed to be "my day, my moment". Messed up photos aren't a big deal to me as Adrienne makes it out to be. We just have a different mindset. However, if the toddler starts to cry then my bridesmaid should excuse herself and exit the area.
Yea that’s what she said. I do think it’s kinda selfish if she wanted a small wedding, however, if it was intimate her nieces should not have been there in the first place.
As a mum of 3 adults and one 14 year old, all your left with are memories of cute little babies. If you smother your child now, one day they will grow up and leave you and or resent you or expect you to cater to their every need - a bane to society and their future spouse. Raise them right and they'll bring you joy and pride. This former kind of parenting only leads to sorrow, read it in Proverbs chapter 22 verse 6. Mothers like this need to learn and understand this is not a healthy loving relationship and can only lead to disaster for both you and the child. Also, if she has a husband this behaviour will kill their relationship. Let me reiterate the child will grow up and have a life and you the 'smothering' mother will have none. So, work on getting the balance right, giving appropriate time to taking care of yourself (you were single once - didn;t you have a life?) your husband and your baby and enjoy the benefits. Or, hang unto that child until they break away - your choice. However, from my experience the bible way is the best way, it leads to well adjusted, God-fearing children who have a healthy loving relationship with both parents whilst being independent.
Tamera had me dying! But I’m all honesty HELL NAW I’m sorry boo but just no. If you said no to the idea of letting the baby sit with my Mama who would be in the front row then what else do you want from me.
Heck no...the bridegroom has to give that baby to the grandmother, sister, aunt or the dad hold the baby until after the ceremony!!! Or she has to step aside & let someone else take her place!!!
The problem is not the baby, it's the mother. I highly doubt the baby is the one having separation anxiety here, I think it's the bride. But it's her day so more power to her Idc 🤷🏼♀️ Also this is another day where the girls need to stop talking over one another, it's so hard to listen to everyone
I'm so tired of people thinking they have a right to do outlandish things at other people's weddings! Do people not realize how expensive the average wedding is, including the 30 minute ceremony?? What makes you think you have any right to interfere with it🙄 btw, your baby has attachment issues cause you never put the thing down.
Well since we are talking about weddings, what do I do? I am getting married and I asked one of my best friends to be my maid of honor way in advance. Now it is leading up to the wedding and she doesn’t call me nor does she ask how she can contribute to the wedding in any way. I call her every single time we talk. I don’t see any interest on her side. I am beyond tempted to tell her that she is no longer needed. I shouldn’t have to chase my maid of honor but I’m also scared she will take it personally. What should I do?
She should not be your maid of honor! Or maybe express to her that since you asked her to be that for you that you did expect she would step up to the duties that a maid of honor has or does for the bride to help.
That's why if I ever get married I'm telling the groom and then putting it in big bold letters on the invitation ABSOLUTELY NO KIDS then in parentheses THAT INCLUDES TEENS.
Creating codependency in a child it’s a style of parenting. All that does is cause the child pain when the have to function as their own person. Imagine how crippling the separation anxiety will be when they start school
Jeannie talking about “if it’s your wedding, it’s not about other people; it’s YOUR day” but she want to take offense with a bride asking her bridesmaid to cover up their tattoos 😒
That woman should be shamed why would she ruin someone's wedding with a crying baby on her. She should have listen to the bride when she said let my mom watch the baby it don't matter if the baby have an attachment problem. If you feel like the wedding is too much for you and your baby then sit with the family and friends or stay home. I agree with Loni, Adrienne, and Jeannie.
That’s extreme..if you want your kid to be part of the wedding have your own wedding but you’re not gonna impose and make my day about you and/or ya child. That distracts from the main event. The bridesmaid was really trippin for even asking
My son is super attached to me and I’d never want to wear him being a bridesmaid. My one best friend got married and asked for no kids to come. All of her bridesmaids had small children. It was hard to find someone I trusted to watch him all night but I did it got my best friend. You can walk down an aisle without your child for 30 min.
My sibling had a 30 person wedding, including the groom/bride and there weren't supposed to be children except the nieces. Well there was someone in the audience with a 1yo and they made noises throughout the very short ceremony. I sympathize with people who have a no children policy at their ceremonies.
But if it was my sister, I would hope that she would know better than to even bring it up. If she is actually fine with sitting out because she can't hold her baby during the ceremony, that's her choice. The bride and groom shouldn't need to be the ones compromising.
Oh I'm so glad I'm not the only one who would say no. I want a child-free wedding and my family is not supportive of that. I don't want your baby screaming during my ceremony or my dance. Please no
my best friend got married and one of our friends carried her newborn down the isle in a dress almost identical to ours, she was silent the whole time so maybe a rare occasion where its cool.
I’d simply say “I respect your parenting, So you can just be a guest to my wedding if you want. Anything afterwards I wouldn’t give af about cus it’s my day, You won’t be a bridesmaid.
Bridesmaids pay so much to honor the bride. If this person was in my wedding, that means she is very close to me so I would have no problem with her wanting her baby on her. Too much emphasis on the wedding day being perfect and photos being perfect. If she’s in my wedding then the baby would mean so much to me too therefore my pictures would still be perfect.
Honestly that friend is just very selfish and the woman should remove her from her life. I’m appalled a friend would even request this for SOMEONE ELSE’S wedding. I wonder what the end result was.
Ya know what, my friends’ daughter is having a sweet sixteen. She doesn’t want any young kids there, so we can’t go. I told my guy he could go and I’d stay home. He said that was loving of me but at same time not fair that I can’t spend that special day with them. He then said if he did, it would be maybe only a hour at the most. To stop in, give birthday wishes and bounce. When you have kids, that’s the sacrifice you have to make. You can’t have exemptions just because you have kids. I find it disrespectful to the bride. My friends’ groomsman’s child started acting up, mom took the baby outside. Same with me at a funeral. They didn’t want to sit, so I took them out.
If you can't ever be without your child, there is a bigger emotional issue. Not healthy for you or the child. Neither mother nor child can grow and thrive in that mindset
i’m getting a babysitter for my wedding.. only during the ceremony. i don’t want a baby screaming and crying ruining my moment. it would also be less stress on the parents because they can just sit there and enjoy the moment without worrying about their baby crying or anything like that.
How about dad holding toddler for some time. In the end, it's attachment parenting and both parents should be participating in their daily lives right? Otherwise can't imagine baby attached to one parent 24/7.
I feel like she can bring the baby as long as I’m not watching it but why can’t she be apart from it for 30 mins. Either way I feel like it’s not that big a deal
If its family family and a newborn let it be....if the baby starts to cry step out the church. It's a walking kid, toddler w/e that can throw a fit sit ya ass down in the back row or get out. Better yet give your tantrum throwing child to my momma, she will fix that child right up
She's clearly never stood with a 14 month old attached to your body for 30 mins. By the time the baby gets to be a year, sis will change her mind about that "attachment" situation. The bride has nothing to worry about. Time will work this one out...
I don’t like the fact that there’s people who will try and make someone else’s day about them. Whether it’s a big or small excuse m, it’s not your day, it’s the bride’s day so be respectful
Then the bridesmaid needs to just sit this one out. You cannot ask someone to accommodate your desires in their wedding day! If you feel you need to touch your baby 24/7 then sit down with the other guests.
Right there with those guest. I’ll even let you sit in the row right with my parents. Front row seat and all.
Correct, if you gotta BE with yo baby, then you can't BE in my wedding, sit yo ass to the left
Maxine Payton lol 😂 exactly!!!!
Johnnese P lol right in the front row! 😂
Exactly
The mother is having separation anxiety...I wouldn't call that a parenting style....
Is she pooping with the baby attached, shower,cleaning, doctors appointment, gyno, dentistand sex? It's stupid and selfish. You could have your husband, mom,father, sister,cousin,uncle ,nieces look after the child. Also this can't be good for the baby growth like physically
Right
Yeah, especially at 14 months... makes it a bit harder to emphasize with her
@@tenishabotha6032 I more empathize with the baby. Poor baby being raised by a loon.
I’m not a mother so I can’t speak too tough but I’m sure it’s not good for the development of an infant if they don’t learn how to be separated from their mother especially if it’s only for 30 minutes ?
Im not a mother either but this isnt good for the kid. The kid is gonna have separation anxiety. What is she gonna do when the kid has to go to school ? Or what if she has to leave the house and go somewhere where children aren’t allowed ? She is doing her child a disservice by not allowing them to learn how to be without mom and dad for a while
This could cause a kid to have a an anxious attachment style which will have them seeking relationships like this. This could lead to toxic relationships with people that have avoidant or unattached style because they will constantly seek validation.
To counter argue that, side she might be giving the child skills and tools that we may not know about and the kid could grow up securely attached and function fine. We can judge a book by its cover.
@@artmariemakes I don't care what skills she's giving the child, itsmy wedding, your child is 1+yrs, sit tf own with the rest of the guests and I'll find another bridesmaid and a new best friend while I'm at it cause its unreasonably selfish request
I got 5 kids and I am telling you that the baby can do it just fine. The question and my biggest concern is why can’t the mother?! I hope she wanted this to be seen and not because she can’t put the baby down. It’s either ridiculous or alarming.
You don't have to be a mother to have common sense. Your opinion is very correct.
Adrienne's outfit is everything come through with those sleeves girl
this comment tho lol I was thinking the same thing!
Im also here for Tam Tams top..lool super comfy and elegant
Omg and those earrings are you kidding! To dieeeee for!
watching an ad. haven’t even seen the fit yet but i like the comment anyway cuz i already know it’s finna be fire
Kinda reminds me of Scream Queens
Baby has seperation anxiety at 14 months?
Probs because he's attached to you 24/7...
1 year and 2 months old, seems like a pretty normal young age to still have some anxiety about not being around your mom who is your comfort as a child.. obviously don't know the entire story but I dont know why people think babies are so much more capable and smart when they reach age 1, they are still tiny beings who need their mothers idk this is just simple logic to me.
@@nikolinajurgec4966 that's true... but 30 mins? A one year old can't be with its father or another adult that is always around for 30 minutes? That's wild to me.
@Jasmine Taylor exactly and some people don't learn their children that bcs you can learn your child that when you go that they can still be okay and nothing bad is going to happen etc.
@@nikolinajurgec4966 From the time a baby is born it is the parent's responsibility to start teaching them how to be independent. If you are carrying them 24/7 how in the world will they learn to sleep on their own, play on their own use their imagination become autonomous, At what point in life do you think it's okay for the child to learn that mommy can't be with them 100% of the time? Is it 5 years old 10, 15 or should they still be attached to their mommies breast even at 30? If you are never allowed to have anxiety, when will you learn how to handle it? How will you learn that you don't always need mommy to rescue you? Attachment parenting? what a stupid idea.
Absolutely not, I really can't stand when the bridal party feels so entitled on the BRIDE'S day.
Exactly.
Some mothers are too attached to their children and it's unhealthy for the child. That's so weird...why must you have your baby with you at ALL times?
“Hell no tia you’re gonna have to figure that out!!!”😂😂😂😂
I kept replaying that part 😂😂
sister or not we ain’t having that... sorry not sorry...we ain’t having no baby crying at my special moments. 💁🏼♀️😤 and also my sister is my bestfriend but nah sis u have to go if u don’t like my rules at my wedding. Js lol 😂
That baby would absolutely start crying during the ceremony.
He ain't invited then
My niece cried during my ceremony
@@jenniferwilliams5478 How bad was it?
Watching Eva try to get a word in was to funny 😄 they kept cutting her off! Lol.. she legit did get a full sentence in
The bridesmaid should just sit this one out. Also at 14 months, the baby should be on their own🤷🏼♀️
Yeah, that baby should be moving out and getting a damn job too, am I right?
(I’m jokingggggg)
The bride and groom set the rules for the wedding and what guests should wear. So if the bridesmaid feels uncomfortable then uninvite her and keep it moving...true or true?
No ifs ands buts about it!!!!!!!!!!
True!!
Give her the option to sit with the other guests. Otherwise don’t come.
Or unbridesmaid her 😂 She can be a regular guest.
The bridesmaid should bow out and watch the ceremony from her seat
Stop cutting off conversations. It's not hard to post the last 30 seconds of a segment.
I’m a huuuuuugggggeeeee Amanda Seals fan but I DONT think this show is for her I kinda miss just the 4 of them. The energy just be different when they have guests. Amanda is just to Real, she talks about the topics that people shy away from and encourages the ladies to speak on them too.
Yh the show isn’t the same anymore
Yes, i agree. they have already built close friendships and often times Amanda is left out.
Yeah she’s too... focused on specific topics / thought trains. She’s a great GUEST. She isn’t a great cohost.
Houry Jamgotchian Exactly!
Could not agree with you more
I love all this self love and healing mantras going around, I hate to say it but I think it’s now also becoming an issue where some of us are “putting ourselves first “ but not thinking about others. It’s your friends wedding , don’t make it about you and your baby. Already stressed about the wedding she now has to worry about not upsetting you because she doesn’t want your baby at her wedding .
Isn't the bride putting herself first? As you just pointed out. It's okay for the bride to do it but not the bridesmaid? A tad hypocritical.
Nikolina Jurgec you already know the wedding is the brides big day. It’s all abt the bride. Don’t try to start mess.
@@nikolinajurgec4966 It is THE BRIDE'S WEDDING DAY....NOT the bridesmaid's...so of course it should be about THE BRIDE....NOT the narcisssistic bridesmaid.It is not hypocritical at all, it is common sense and decency.
@Anne Day Amen
My comments come from a personal perspective, as in if I was a bride and I hope to be one day, I personally would not have an issue with a bridesmaid asking this of me. I haven't attacked anybody in the comments I have just posted my opinion so I dont really understand why everyone's throwing so much heat my way! I mean I'm sorry if somehow I offended anyone but I just don't see how I would have..
No she didn't ... Jeannie mai said " photoshop the damn thing in " 🤣🤣🤣
I thought I was the only one that caught that 😂
Yep, that was not cool...
I don't care how you raise your kid, but this is my wedding.
I really wanted to hear what Eva had to say...
I’m sorry that’s distracting... I understand taking care of your child and wanting to multi task and being there for your friend as well as not wanting anyone else to take care of your child because u know what’s best... but come on it’s just 30 minutes 💀😂
Exactly, it is just 30 minutes. Bride and Groom also can't suck it up for 30 minutes? The kid could not even cry for all they know and even if it did umm whats the problem? I simply don't get it. Children, come over a wedding, priorities.
@@nikolinajurgec4966 why should a bride and groom suck it up on their big day? Some people think the world revolves around them and their children - spoiler, it doesn't!
@@louboulton7030 if that person is truly a friend then they wouldn't feel like it is burden they would be happy to help them out you sound like a really sad person have fun with that
@@nikolinajurgec4966 What do you mean "what's the problem, if the baby starts to cry"? Would you want a baby screeching in you ears while you're trying to read your vows in an intimate moment?! Like what kinda dumb question is that dude?
@@abigailwilliams8889 if you are asking me personally then genuinely no I wouldn't care, the person with the baby in most cases would politely excuse themselves, same as if they were sitting in the audience and a child started crying. That's just my opinion! I just said whats the big deal because I didn't think this many people would find the request that absurd or out of line. But once again that's cuz it doesnt reflect how I personally would handle that type of situation, I dont expect everyone to agree ovviously.
It's the mother that is having separation anxiety. That's what she has trained the child to be. Bride should tell her to sit way back at the wedding. That's so self-centered asking to kangaroo with a 14months old child . No, no, no.
Tamera Is looking good!!
Lmao they wouldn’t let that woman in the middle talk at the end
I know!!!! I noticed it too and got anxious. Wanted to smack all of them and tell them to let her talk. lol Why do they invite guests if they're gonna act like its just the 4 of them?
Tamera’s one braid😂
The woman’s reaction at 0:48 😂😂
Maybe it’s a stupid question I don’t have kids but I will imagine the dad of the baby will be invited too ? So in this case the dad can hold the baby right ? Or a family member ?
I missed the studio 😭
Me too, this is soothing
This may be a hard concept to grasp but I can guarantee you that 90% of your friends don’t like your kids that much. Actually most people don’t like kids that are not theirs. I’m almost positive that if your friend doesn’t have a kid they probably don’t really like your kid enough to make those kind of sacrifices for them. Especially for something as important and expensive as a wedding so.
I love what Adrienne is wearing 🎀
I love Adrienne's earrings .🌙☀️🌟
Adriennes earings making me have twitches flash backs lol
Lmao sis in the middle didn’t get to speak😂
First of all I personally feel like a baby being separate from the parent off and on is better then having them attached to you all the time. You don't want them to become co-dependent towards you, you want them to develop while being independent for themselves while still maintaining a relationship, and 2nd of all if you don't want to be separated from your child during a wedding then just be there as a guest don't make unreasonable demands on the bride especially when it is not your wedding. If it was my relative making these demands I would let them know "hey I understand what you are saying so if that is the case then come as a guest, you wont have to be a brides made".
My best friends son was 2 months old at my wedding, and he was with his dad, by her sister and her mom. This never came into question at all, she didn’t even bring him when she came for make up and hair even tho I told her to bring him. She said no this is your day, and I want to be there for you.
Me: Sure! You can bring the baby up if the baby's in utero!
How about this........ pick better friends that will put your needs above their own on your wedding day.
It’s one freaking day! The toddler will be fine for an hour without the mom while they do the ceremony and take the pictures. This will not damage them at all!
If it's my wedding I would not have a problem. Why every thing about life got to be cookie cutter style. I'd be happy to accommodate her needs. Nothing wrong with having a beautiful being invading my ceremony. I don't see what it takes away from my marriage.
that baby be okay for 30 minutes 🌚
"like a necklace?!" Lmao💀
This discussion was so cute lol
Lol they would not let Eva talk. Too funny.
1:03 girl you know that colour is perfect for you .. Melanin queen.. she really pulled it off
My nieces and nephew were in my wedding....1.5 years, 6 years, and 8 years....they were just fine!
She just doesn't need to go to the wedding tbh.
I luv Jeanies black and white dress it is beautiful !!!
I am a mother to 2 girls, one of which I still breastfeed. I am also a worship leader at my church. I participated in the ministry all throughout both pregnancies & had them both close by during practice. They are always fine & well cared for during service (both my husband & i serve). I think it’s more of an attachment issue for the mother.
If it was my wedding, she could wear her baby!! ❤❤
I guess I'm the only nutty bride who would allow my bridesmaid to do that. If I ask you to stand up there with me, it means I truly love you and want you there so I am willing to make some accommodations and sacrifices although it's supposed to be "my day, my moment". Messed up photos aren't a big deal to me as Adrienne makes it out to be. We just have a different mindset. However, if the toddler starts to cry then my bridesmaid should excuse herself and exit the area.
Did A just say her sister kids walked down the aisle then back out though another door 😂? Or did I hear that wrong
Yea that’s what she said. I do think it’s kinda selfish if she wanted a small wedding, however, if it was intimate her nieces should not have been there in the first place.
As a mum of 3 adults and one 14 year old, all your left with are memories of cute little babies. If you smother your child now, one day they will grow up and leave you and or resent you or expect you to cater to their every need - a bane to society and their future spouse. Raise them right and they'll bring you joy and pride. This former kind of parenting only leads to sorrow, read it in Proverbs chapter 22 verse 6. Mothers like this need to learn and understand this is not a healthy loving relationship and can only lead to disaster for both you and the child. Also, if she has a husband this behaviour will kill their relationship. Let me reiterate the child will grow up and have a life and you the 'smothering' mother will have none. So, work on getting the balance right, giving appropriate time to taking care of yourself (you were single once - didn;t you have a life?) your husband and your baby and enjoy the benefits. Or, hang unto that child until they break away - your choice. However, from my experience the bible way is the best way, it leads to well adjusted, God-fearing children who have a healthy loving relationship with both parents whilst being independent.
Tamera had me dying! But I’m all honesty HELL NAW I’m sorry boo but just no. If you said no to the idea of letting the baby sit with my Mama who would be in the front row then what else do you want from me.
Heck no...the bridegroom has to give that baby to the grandmother, sister, aunt or the dad hold the baby until after the ceremony!!!
Or she has to step aside & let someone else take her place!!!
The problem is not the baby, it's the mother. I highly doubt the baby is the one having separation anxiety here, I think it's the bride. But it's her day so more power to her Idc 🤷🏼♀️
Also this is another day where the girls need to stop talking over one another, it's so hard to listen to everyone
I'm so tired of people thinking they have a right to do outlandish things at other people's weddings! Do people not realize how expensive the average wedding is, including the 30 minute ceremony?? What makes you think you have any right to interfere with it🙄 btw, your baby has attachment issues cause you never put the thing down.
Well since we are talking about weddings, what do I do? I am getting married and I asked one of my best friends to be my maid of honor way in advance. Now it is leading up to the wedding and she doesn’t call me nor does she ask how she can contribute to the wedding in any way. I call her every single time we talk. I don’t see any interest on her side. I am beyond tempted to tell her that she is no longer needed. I shouldn’t have to chase my maid of honor but I’m also scared she will take it personally. What should I do?
She should not be your maid of honor! Or maybe express to her that since you asked her to be that for you that you did expect she would step up to the duties that a maid of honor has or does for the bride to help.
That's why if I ever get married I'm telling the groom and then putting it in big bold letters on the invitation ABSOLUTELY NO KIDS then in parentheses THAT INCLUDES TEENS.
Creating codependency in a child it’s a style of parenting. All that does is cause the child pain when the have to function as their own person. Imagine how crippling the separation anxiety will be when they start school
She needs to sit with the guests.
That lady really wants to pull a Lysa Arryn at a wedding smh
Jeannie talking about “if it’s your wedding, it’s not about other people; it’s YOUR day” but she want to take offense with a bride asking her bridesmaid to cover up their tattoos 😒
That woman should be shamed why would she ruin someone's wedding with a crying baby on her. She should have listen to the bride when she said let my mom watch the baby it don't matter if the baby have an attachment problem. If you feel like the wedding is too much for you and your baby then sit with the family and friends or stay home. I agree with Loni, Adrienne, and Jeannie.
I think you begin hindering a child’s learning ability at that age and not letting them explore and detach.
Yeah ok THE BABY IS THE ONE WITH THE ISSUES LMAO
That’s extreme..if you want your kid to be part of the wedding have your own wedding but you’re not gonna impose and make my day about you and/or ya child. That distracts from the main event. The bridesmaid was really trippin for even asking
Wait they're back in the studio? Yay!!! I missed the feel
My son is super attached to me and I’d never want to wear him being a bridesmaid. My one best friend got married and asked for no kids to come. All of her bridesmaids had small children. It was hard to find someone I trusted to watch him all night but I did it got my best friend. You can walk down an aisle without your child for 30 min.
This is strange but I had a vision last night of me being in a traditional African bridesmaid dress with a baby on my back.so random.
Pray to God about the vision.
My sibling had a 30 person wedding, including the groom/bride and there weren't supposed to be children except the nieces. Well there was someone in the audience with a 1yo and they made noises throughout the very short ceremony. I sympathize with people who have a no children policy at their ceremonies.
But if it was my sister, I would hope that she would know better than to even bring it up. If she is actually fine with sitting out because she can't hold her baby during the ceremony, that's her choice. The bride and groom shouldn't need to be the ones compromising.
Oh I'm so glad I'm not the only one who would say no. I want a child-free wedding and my family is not supportive of that. I don't want your baby screaming during my ceremony or my dance. Please no
my best friend got married and one of our friends carried her newborn down the isle in a dress almost identical to ours, she was silent the whole time so maybe a rare occasion where its cool.
The a baby doesn’t have attachment issues the Mother does
It's 30 damn minutes, and he's well over a year, and it's. Not. You're. Day
I’d simply say “I respect your parenting, So you can just be a guest to my wedding if you want. Anything afterwards I wouldn’t give af about cus it’s my day, You won’t be a bridesmaid.
Bridesmaids pay so much to honor the bride. If this person was in my wedding, that means she is very close to me so I would have no problem with her wanting her baby on her. Too much emphasis on the wedding day being perfect and photos being perfect. If she’s in my wedding then the baby would mean so much to me too therefore my pictures would still be perfect.
You either sit down with your child or walk with the child down the aisle (if you're paying for the daughter's dress)
Late Eid Mubarak 💕
Tamera looks particularly gorgeous!
I don’t think newborn babies should be at weddings. A baby was making noise during my cousin wedding.
That’s just her way if getting out of the commitment without having to say no I can’t or do not want to be your bridesmaid.
A looks sooo pretty here!!!
Love Tamera’s outfit
I agree with the bride. It’s my day, if you wanna wear your baby then like loni said, you can sit in the crowd.
What was alone going to say, sacrifice your wedding for the mom and baby? NOPE NOPE NOPE!
Honestly that friend is just very selfish and the woman should remove her from her life. I’m appalled a friend would even request this for SOMEONE ELSE’S wedding. I wonder what the end result was.
Ya know what, my friends’ daughter is having a sweet sixteen. She doesn’t want any young kids there, so we can’t go. I told my guy he could go and I’d stay home. He said that was loving of me but at same time not fair that I can’t spend that special day with them. He then said if he did, it would be maybe only a hour at the most. To stop in, give birthday wishes and bounce. When you have kids, that’s the sacrifice you have to make. You can’t have exemptions just because you have kids. I find it disrespectful to the bride. My friends’ groomsman’s child started acting up, mom took the baby outside. Same with me at a funeral. They didn’t want to sit, so I took them out.
No babies. None.
That is one entitled bridesmaid
Poor Eva didn’t get ONE word in…
If you can't ever be without your child, there is a bigger emotional issue. Not healthy for you or the child. Neither mother nor child can grow and thrive in that mindset
i’m getting a babysitter for my wedding.. only during the ceremony. i don’t want a baby screaming and crying ruining my moment. it would also be less stress on the parents because they can just sit there and enjoy the moment without worrying about their baby crying or anything like that.
That poor baby... that mother is setting it up for failure...she needs to grow up...
How about dad holding toddler for some time. In the end, it's attachment parenting and both parents should be participating in their daily lives right? Otherwise can't imagine baby attached to one parent 24/7.
I thought one of the reasons of having guests on these shows was to allow for new perspectives, but they did not let her share much on this topic 😕
I feel like she can bring the baby as long as I’m not watching it but why can’t she be apart from it for 30 mins. Either way I feel like it’s not that big a deal
Can they fucking let evaaaa talk 😂😂😂
If its family family and a newborn let it be....if the baby starts to cry step out the church. It's a walking kid, toddler w/e that can throw a fit sit ya ass down in the back row or get out.
Better yet give your tantrum throwing child to my momma, she will fix that child right up
She's clearly never stood with a 14 month old attached to your body for 30 mins. By the time the baby gets to be a year, sis will change her mind about that "attachment" situation. The bride has nothing to worry about. Time will work this one out...
I don’t like the fact that there’s people who will try and make someone else’s day about them. Whether it’s a big or small excuse m, it’s not your day, it’s the bride’s day so be respectful