Adrienne Reveals When She Hears the Neighbors… It’s a Source of Sexy Inspiration
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- Опубліковано 17 лис 2021
- We know you’re supposed to love thy neighbor, but sometimes it can be a challenge. Loni shares the time she had to send her neighbors a note to keep the late-night love noises down. Meanwhile, Adrienne reveals she doesn’t mind it, as she uses it as an “inspiration refresh.” Plus, we weigh in on the great holiday sugar cookie debate.
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Be polite but remember most molesters are family or family friends. My child’s grandfather told him to hug him to get a remote, I said whoa no we don’t trade affection for items.
Honestly i love this cause you’re teaching your child a lesson to carry them beyond this event, through life. Cause you’re showing him how not allow persons to manipulate him and use him that’s a beautiful lesson right there.
@@nubiasvisiualdiary thank you. I hope it serves him well in life and he passes it down 💜
These vaults with Tam are so nostalgic. 🥰
I miss her
Frfr
@Bria Barrows same! She was my favourite
Miss her so much 😭😭😭
I miss her too. Does anybody know why they are ending the show.
Thé psychologists are saying be careful not to teach children to feel the need to pay people with physical affection. Balance is key though.
Exactly 👏🏽👏🏽💯💯
I say to my children “TELL ____ hello” or “TELL ___ goodbye” and I leave it up to them to communicate that in a way that they are comfortable with
"What if they never wanna hug?" Okay...? That's not a bad thing. We all have those creepy "where my hug at" people in our lives and it's like...go find your hug somewhere else, that's a YOU problem not a ME problem!
I think it's important that kids understand their bodily autonomy as in "you can't make me do things I don't wanna do." It's one thing when it's parents or family (which I think is what they're talking about with rudeness) but you don't want kids thinking they're obligated to be physical in situations where they don't wanna be just because it's an authority figure.
My mom asks for a hug and if any of my kids or nieces/nephews say or shake their head no, she simply says "that's fine, you don't have to" and that's it. She doesn't want them to be uncomfortable and usually when the visit is over they decide to do it.
I agree with not forcing hugs and conversations. My oldest has Autism and he has opened my eyes to a lot and this is why we are open and truthful, accepting & non invasive with all of our children. It’s very important to my husband and I.
Adriene is missing the point. It's their bodies and they shouldn't be FORCED to allow ANYONE to touch them. PERIOD. Doesn't matter what the adults intentions are.
Hug if you feel to hug. Never tell someone too.
Kids can sense energy. If they trust you, they will hug. If not, they won't
That’s not always true. Some kids don’t hug anyone lol
Nope, trust from a child does not relate to them hugging you. My child loves and trusts both me and her dad but she's just not a hugger. We'll get one from time to time but it's not the way she shows love or trust.
If a kid doesn't want to hug someone. They shouldn't have to hug that person. Simple. They obv feel uncomfortable or don't like it.
It’s tricky teaching kids boundaries but still being respectful
I miss Tamara 🥺and I LOVED this season look/makeup & hair style on Adrienne. She looks beautiful recently too, but this specific season was my favorite 😍
I used to hate saying hi to far relatives because they would want a kiss and then they would ask questions which made me nervous. My Farsi wasn’t good when I was little so I felt like I was put on the spot. One my uncles would even bite my cheeks really hard. I hated being close to him, he thought it was funny.
Totally relate. My extended Nigerian relatives got offended when I wasn’t
Affectionate or excited to see them. They’re like you don’t remember me? I was there when you were in your mothers womb🤨 lol.
Every one has that weird/creepy uncle. But biting the cheeks is a out there…is it cultural?
@@crystalbeliwuagwu lol that’s weird, how would you remember that. Idk I don’t think it’s a cultural thing. He just liked it.
Not funny whoa sorry love ❤️
Awww so sorry to hear! My best friend is Afghan and they never give affection, but they all know they love each other
I would be rude af to my uncle if he bit my cheek. Rude af. Lol
I was traumatised because of forced hugs. I spend years with a super insecurity to the point where I didn't hug people for years.
I agree with loni on this allowing kids to operate on their own time. Now I’m not saying to raise disrespectful kids because they do need guidance but in this aspect I feel kids can sometimes sense someone’s energy. I also believe that most kids especially toddlers are extremely shy and kind of keep to myself towards persons who they’re not familiar with and i honestly believe that’s a good thing which means they understand the concept of stranger danger and they don’t allow any and anyone to get in their personal space. Now I get the concept of respect and I guess that’s why parents urge their kids to hug someone when a hug is requested but I think even on the other end as an individual asking for a hug and noticing the child is more than hesitant you can be a bit understanding and maybe alright it’s ok can I get a high five tho
So, I've been there where someone thought I was being rude or disrespectful because of my reaction when someone, usually a family member, touches/hugs me. I'm naturally not a touchy person, so hugging or someone putting their arm around my shoulder/waist makes me incredibly uncomfortable.
I think that the child is entitled to have their own boundaries, just because their a child doesn't mean they don't know what they like or not. So maybe they don't want to be hugged. It doesn't matter if they're a family member or not. If a child does not want to be hugged, they shouldn't be forced to, or punished for not hugging the other party. Also, there's a reason why they don't want to hug someone. idk maybe just ask them afterwards nicely "why didn't you want to hug so-and-so."
So I completely agree with Loni on letting the kid do it at their own time, it's not like it's the single only time you'll ever see this kid anyway, try for a hug another time.
I think the girls were missing the mark on this one. Anyone who was raised in the U.S.A and is now an adult was raised to ignore their own autonomy at a young age. It's a cultural thing here and it's not that well known yet. In all the truest friendships of my life, we were molested/sexually assaulted by other children as early as the age of 5. That stuff is real and we're still dealing with the aftermath. As parents we want to believe our kids are safe with family and at school but if parents dont step up and keep teaching their kids that YOU decide what YOU want to do with your body, how to respect that in other people as well... We wont break the cycle. Loni was closest here. Let the kid know their voice is important. Their bodies belong to them. When they feel safe, they'll decide who their gut tells them who they can trust and who they want to stay away from. Other people are not entitled to demand anything from you. Trust is earned.
That’s exactly what Adrienne was saying in the beginning
If someone gave a toy...ask the child to thank.... if a person arrives ask child to greet say hi.... let the child feel when and how they want to show love or hug...
Jeannie and Adrienne are freakyyyy and m here for it 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Can y’all post clips from the test run season
I have a child with ADD and as she was getting older I realized that she did not like being touched. [This is not just an ADD thing but in her case it amplified it.] She was very different from my oldest. With close family and strangers alike. Culturally we're used to hugging and giving quick pecks on the cheek but my youngest never warmed to that. I learned very quickly I had to respect what my child was not comfortable with. My mom being old schooled at first thought it was coming from a place of disrespect but over time she grew to understand her granddaughter's personality and respect her, as well as giving her time and space to warm up and show love in her own way. Children can be loving and respectful without pressing their bodies or having other people press their bodies against them. Or having to put their skin against someone else's. So I disagree with anyone or any parent forcing or making a child feel bad for not wanting or liking that close contact with other people. My daughter, in her own time, at her own pace, will come to me and give me a hug or I'll ask her for one and she will let me show her love in my love language, so no, it doesn't make her cold and disconnected over time. I think because we don't press the issue, it makes her feel safe and makes it easier for her to open up and be more physically affectionate. I absolutely disagree that just because someone is a grandma or a parent the child is automatically expected to hug an authority figure.
No, means no, and that includes when a child does not want to be touched. Just like when a wife doesn't want to be touched by her husband and he doesn't have more claims to her because he's the husband (if she doesn't want to be physically touched you don't touch her).So, no, I disagree with Adrienne on this one.
Children are entitled to have boundaries and what they feel comfortable with and what there not just as much as adults, nothing to do with the child being rude or disrespectful that's just how they feel like Loni said give them time an let them warm up to it💪 js
but if the kid doesn't feel like .Adriene why are you forcing them period . this is so weird .
Omgosh...I remember watching this episode. I'm over here lmao 😂😂😂 I Miss Tam So much on the Show....however I Love Garcelle.
I used to take the comics page from my dad's newspaper. Definitely the best part.
I don't know what any of you guys feel, but in my experience, I usually always love hugging others even if it's my first time meeting them because it's usually in my friend or family group.
I feel like it was a bit extensive in a way where the psychiatrist had said that it was bad and other things, but I have to agree that some people just don't like physical affection, and I get that! I feel it's most important to tell how you feel though so others who aren't so comfortable shouldn't do things they don't want. Children are slightly different since they do need to build character and meet new people, but if he or she says she's not comfortable with that particular person just yet, then the child doesn't have to hug whatever person he or she needs the hug.
I think they missed the point of the topic. It was forcing the child to hug after someone gave them a gift. As if they owe that person for the gift.
I think the topic still remains the same regardless whatever the reason for the hug is…
My mom rarely hugged us as a kids but I love hugging everyone except strangers.
*Loni's look is on point* 💄
With all the boundary crossing & adultification I refuse to make my baby touch anyone or be touched against her will. We’re blocking low vibes and bad energy too. Adult feelings are a nonfactor.
I love this bc I hated having to hug people that I didn't know or haven't seen since I was a baby :/
All the ladies input were valid with regards to HUGS!
First and foremost I think the child's comfort level comes first! Can remember to this day how scared I was when my dad would tell me to like or be nice to a person that I had never met before. ..ie.extended family ...member family friend... neighbor etc . Having said that I was also never raised with hugs touches affection etc .. therefore HUGGING felt very uncomfortable for me as I got older ...even to this day at age 65...as well past adult unhealthy relationships didn't help either!
THEN... The RESPECT ...
THEN ...the CULTURE thing..
Coz not Every child loved or appreciate EVERYTHING about the way they were raised/ growing up!
Adrienne totally understand your mother's perspective....being a survivor myself! All about PROTECTION!!!
I miss Tam 🤣
Oh child!
Adrienne is to wild 😜 😅
😂😂😂😂
I agree with Loni on the point of hearing neighbors getting it on. I am NOT a voyeur, nor do I enjoy hearing others sex noises. It's PRIVATE!! Adrienne is freaky. 😳
I have a story that came to mind when they were talking about forcing a child to hug someone.
So, I was in high school and I’m with my friend Samantha and we go to her sister’s house. I’m not close friends with Samantha btw, but my cousin was dating Samantha’s brother so we started to hang out. I used to cheer with her when I was 5 but we were never close friends.
When we go to her sister’s house, Sam’s young nephew was going around and kissing everyone on the mouth and then went up to me and did the same thing. Obviously I don’t think that his mom would allow him to just kiss a random stranger, but this was the first time I even met him I think. He was a toddler at the time as well.
So when he tried to kiss me, I just turned my head a little and let him kiss me on the cheek instead. Was that rude or mean to do that? I wasn’t being angry or irritated at all, I was playing with him outside and he wasn’t upset by me turning my head either. What was weird and annoying is that Samantha acted like I was and acted like I broke his heart.
Maybe I am just overly cautious, but I know that I personally wouldn’t want my child kissing random people like that, especially on the mouth. It’s just not sanitary. 🤷♀️
No kissing strange people on the lips for my kids. That's a huge no no. I guess some parents don't teach their children the dangers of herpes. 😑
One time on twitter I saw this picture of a baby with herpes all over their lips and face it was so sad. Never would I let random people kiss a baby on the mouth.
@@merlacr16not at all. I wouldn’t kiss a random kid on the lips either
im adrienne on the second topic 😂 she a freak 😍😍
I think if I didnt feel like I owed older people hugs I would have been able to say no when I was ra##ed at 5.
Same.
I miss these four so much!
I don't care if I don't want a hug. I am not giving you one.
I totally disagree with all of them here…. No means no!! Just because they are kids doesn’t mean any different. You gotta teach them the meaning young! If you make your kids touch people they don’t wanna touch then that will hurt them in the future. NO MEANS NO in any stage of life
Tam was getting HOT with the happy noise topic😂😂😂
The sex talk part oh my god hilarious! 😆😆😆😆😆
Adrienne is on point! Jeannie made a great point and example. Loni is always finding the common ground! I think Tamera should have made another example. Not your grandmother cant get a hug! I'm sorry, I cant get down with that unless grandma toxic
Yes! Don't force kids to hug or kiss you're teaching them to go against their instincts. I only hug my closest friends and even stone days I just don't feel like hugging it's all okay. It's your body and if you don't want to hug or touch for whatever reason it's okay
Please don’t force your children to hug adults. You never know who you’re bringing your children around and it can be dangerous. If that child isn’t taught about boundaries they can easily be taken advantage of.
Loni’s makeup looks so good here
And adults need to not get in their feelings if a child doesn’t want to hug them…,
Adults have to get over themselves. People's bodies are their personal space. If the child doesn't want to hug or speak to you, that's their right
Adrienne is absolutely 100 on this . She pulled it up on the root and Lonnie couldn’t understand this . At the end of the day Adrienne is right .
👏🏽👏🏽💯💯
Well I’m early lol.. too much REAL binge
Same
Call me a prude. I don’t want to know when my neighbors are having sex. Why be so damn loud? You are in an apartment not your own private home.
Adrienne has no filter and m here for it 🤣🤣🤣
Hugless Holidays
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At this point in time being 20… I think it’s less about “ hugging “ … it’s more about the comfortability of the child ! I don’t want my child to feel as if they always have to be forced to be affectionate with someone they don’t necessarily feel safe or comfortable around… and children just like animals have a keen sense of feeling peoples energies and vibes ! So practice making sure u let ur kids understand the ins and outs of touching and consent and being affectionate and not only being them comfortable but to be aware of other peoples feelings too when it comes to affection !
Love Thy Neighbors Stuff
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I am that person that will only steal newspapers when it comes to cleaning my bathroom mirrors if I don’t have any 😂😂
This one was hilarious, esp towards the end😄😆👍
Thank you!
OMG I SOOO MISS THESE FOUR TOGETHER... DEFINITELY WHEN TAMAR WAS THERE TOO.. IT'S JUST NOT THE SAME ANYMORE IJS 😂🤣😂🤔💜💙😁
Oh!! I like Loni’s hair! Gorgeous! The other girls too :)
OMGGGGG what'a the IG handle Adrienne was talking about?
When my brother was very young he was uncomfortable hugging our grandfather only because he was a tall and large individual. Once he saw me and my parents around him, he warmed up to him. but my parents never pressured or forced a hug.
Adrienne is my FAVORITE for real, she is so honest.
I feel like she always misses the question though. Like, the question says forcing children to hug people they don't want to and she goes on this tangent about kids should be allowed to hug people and showing kids affection is important to knowing how to have healthy intimacy in the future lol Then, the worst advice, teaching kids feelings are less important than another's desires. the problem only arises when adults take natural mood changes and feelings of children personally.
@@rosalinaburton3061 your opinion doesn't change my mind about her. SHE IS THE BEST!!! Whose yours?
@@479Derick I like Loni, sometimes she ignorant as hell but I do find most of what she says to be real and valet.
I never made my kids hug anyone, even me if they didn't want to. It was always up to them. If someone made the kid uncomfortable, why make your kid hug them? But my kids and I have always had open talks. I've always been of mind that it's their body, and I should respect what they want to do with their bodies.
I remember watching this and not really having an opinion about the hugging topic. Now that I've been more connected with my mom's side of the family, the only side I know I Can talk about it more. My aunt's kids they're almost teenagers and they used to be forced to hug and kiss me and my sisters on the cheek and i personally found it awkward but cute like omg we're actually close were actually family but now one of my cousins just fist numbs me and i loooooove it hahaha and the other one just says hi which is absolutely fine but my aunt is still like DID YOU GREET YOUR COUSIN and I'm like it's fineeeee
Jeannie wit the toungee😂😂😂😂
Love Adrienne’s outfit 😍😍
Bodily autonomy is so important. There are just some days I don't even want to be touched by my partner, and I feel like if I wouldn't have been forced to hug literally everyone when I was little, I wouldn't have felt so pressured into sex by guys in college and would have felt more confident saying no.
As an adult that was forced to hug people when I was younger, I hated it! I don't like being hugged or touched in my adulthood without my consent. And if I have to give anyone a hug I ask if it is okay first before I go in for the hug. I'm starting to learn to be more ok with physical touch, (I have a Lil cousin who loves hugs and she doesn't understand personal space, so she's breaking my walls down a bit), but on days when I don't want to be touched, not even her can touch me.
How about we simply just stop introducing our children to,”The weird creepy uncle, though?” Fact is, child molesters and sexual violators are way too protected in families and are allowed access to innocent children bc collectively the majority of family members of families are failing to expose predators while standing up for helpless children. It is our job to teach our children and protect them. Children have rights ✋too!
Hi ladies I live in New York I used to watch your show on Fox tv after d Wendy Williams show but now I can’t watch it there anymore what other tv channel I should watch d show from
Are u in New York City ?? Or in a different city within the state of New York
Adrienne you freak! 👍
Yep😂😂😂😂
It’s ALL ENERGY!!!!!!
What's wrong with not feeling like hugging someone (even if it is a loved one) though? I feel that way as an adult sometimes and I would hate to be judged for it instead of simply respected.
Dr G sec use to take a broom in rap tat tat on her bdrm ceiling 😅
14:39 Best Part
Its two different Jeanies , wow, then and now
does anyone know what instagram she was about to say?
Not Adrienne reading us guys for filth 😂
lol not the hashtags
13:42 so that means that’s how Adrienne sound like when she doing the nasty😂
*Why nobody's talking about the ending?!!* *The midnight noises!!!*
What y'all never heard somwthin' somethin' going down in the next room!!!?
I used to live with my friend as housemates, and when she first had her bf I would be woken up to their noises in the middle of the night and it was kinda funny listening to them!
Ngl, it's a turn on 😜😜😂
Not them. Just.... Sex noises. Lol
Hasn’t been the same since Tamera and the live audience.
It doesn't matter if the adult is a good or bad person. That's the problem with adults now is that they think automatically because they're nice people owe them something. Nobody owes us anything they didn't borrow. You don't force your child to hug people because you think they're being rude. That's's bodily touch no no no
wow.
Loni looks amazing here 😍
I miss Tamera.
Loni's look
Who collects all these articles ? Do y'all scour google the whole night ?
Tam 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥺 I miss you
I’ve been forced to hug others when I was little. Please don’t forced your kids to touch people they don’t know.
Have you ever had a really good hug?
But Tamera's mother didn't allow her to sit on her father's lap so she should not feel entitled to a hug from anybody.
Don't come at me with that bs about coming off as rude....my kid doesn't owe anybody anything
Anybody find that @ sex page Adrienne was talm bout? 😭
I swear Jeannie and Adrienne is weird as hell bruh I cannot with them
I apologize in advance...I go a little off topic and a little deep, but I think it's important so I'm gonna let it fly! 😎 I think u may be a younger person, which I am not. Maybe I can explain it in a different way to maybe help u understand them. Both ladies are from different nationalities and celebrate different cultures. Those cultures raise their families/children w/their own set of values/traditions. For an Asian person, showing respect and acknowledging your elders is most important. For instance: u bow to people who enter a room to acknowledge the person and to not appear rude. Tradition for them is more about respect. For instance: U must always acknowledge your elders who are heads of the family, have all the knowledge, carry all the traditions that they pass down. It is a MUST to show respect to the elders in the family...generally anyone a generation before u. Family hierarchy is most important. The older, the more respected. They generally would never put an elder in a nursing home, but would bring that person into someone's home and the other family members would also help facilitate whatever care may be necessary for their elder loved ones. Something I wish ALL cultures were able/willing to do.
A typical Latino family is usually larger, therefore very loud, boisterous, happy, affectionate. Not that others aren't, but if u put an Asian family in a room w/Latino family you'd understand and see the cultural differences immediately! Think about dance traditions in each nationality. With Latinos music is a very important part of their culture. It is a way of expression as well as tradition for them. It is usually person-to-person contact, moving your hips, spinning, dipping another person, etc. Asian traditional dance however, is usually a solitary thing done by one person who puts on more of a show for others. Think of a Geisha dance or something similar. There's so much more to any one person's culture and/or traditions. I don't mean to pigeonhole them all, but as a general way to describe them, I think this is a pretty good overall explanation as to why they both feel/express themselves the ways in which they do. We are all from somewhere and our families hold some kind of tradition/custom within their own respective backgrounds. Every family does their individual things to make their culture their own, but it generally comes from a common base that is passed down thru many generations.
Unfortunately, there is less and less of this around and will continue to dwindle as more races and therefore, cultures, mix in our everchanging world we know today. While that's a good thing to most, I do think it's important to celebrate one's heritage to help a person have a sense of pride about their own background/culture. It gives u a strong sense of self, which is what u see in both Jeannie and Adrienne.
Tho this is a bit longer than I expected, I hope this helps u understand better why certain people are the way they are and how their backgrounds come out in both their personality and ways of living. We are all from somewhere different. That is what is called the "melting pot" of America. This country was formed on people from all over the world coming into this new world and settling in their own states, towns, cities where they took pride in celebrating their cultures each family brought w/them. This is what makes the USA a great place to live! People know they can come here and find their own space where they are free to be whoever they want to be, within the limits of the law, and know they are safe to do so w/out negative repercussions. Occasionally u see a person who has no tolerance for others. Sadly, right now, we're going thru a difficult period as a country, but make no mistake.....this will pass and we will again be united as Americans (not just democrats/republicans) bcuz that's what THIS country is founded on and we all know we have to get along at the end of the day for all this to work. For the most part (contrary to what u see demonstrated by traditional news/media outlets) most all Americans are tolerant, open, welcoming people! 👍🏼 Changes are already coming. Until that fully happens, hang in there, try to be a little more patient w/those who look/act differently than u. Things that are unfamiliar to us are sometimes seen as scary, cringy, or just unacceptable. I'm sure that someone else may think the same about u. I hope this can help u see things a little bit differently or be a little more open-minded/compassionate/understanding of those that present themselves "different" to u or me. 😊✌🏼
Adrienne was spot on!
Ok so if the kid don’t want to don’t make them how many times do bad things happen in even families pay attention to what your children want and don’t want to do
If is a.stranger you dont onw them anything
Jeannie mai looking too cute.
04:46, calling your child momma is confusing and misleading to a child
Since when? My mum calls me mum and it’s never been confusing at all!!
@@cynthiatens4501 The Ten Commandments gives authority to a parent that's very serious and punishable by death if you don't follow it. Matthew 19:18
@@freshstart4423 gross
@@cynthiatens4501 Some people just ,don't want to repent, but if you follow the Biblical instructions you would avoid incest, liars, thieves, sorcerers and oppressors.
The Bible warns against false religion, Jeremiah 7.
@@cynthiatens4501 If your child is called Mom, then they will not respect your authority.
Idk. Imma stick to what my Bible say
about what subject?
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