TYLER PERRY: When the SAME "Level Down" SOUP gets REHEATED!

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КОМЕНТАРІ • 376

  • @24goodbuddy
    @24goodbuddy 8 місяців тому +322

    "Role reversal is NOT SUSTAINABLE!" Both genders become resentful.

  • @riagreen9294
    @riagreen9294 8 місяців тому +516

    It always baffles me that the hypogamy narrative pushed is that a man who loves you and a man who makes enough to provide for you are mutually exclusive. You can have both, and a man who loves you wouldn’t permanently put you in a role reversal position. It’s one thing to make $5k more than him, but when the gap can never be breached it’s a disaster waiting to happen.

    • @RG-tt1ru
      @RG-tt1ru 8 місяців тому +7

      It is mutually exclusive to some women. No rational person would deny it.

    • @riagreen9294
      @riagreen9294 8 місяців тому +70

      @@RG-tt1ruDefinitely. But the narrative pushed is that it’s practically impossible. Plus it’s often extremes that are compared e.g. A lawyer and a bus driver

    • @MartyMar-yk1ik
      @MartyMar-yk1ik 8 місяців тому +15

      Wonderfully worded

    • @kathyalex778
      @kathyalex778 8 місяців тому +34

      Men who love their wives will want to alleviate as much of her burdens as possible, especially in terms of finances

  • @Kikilemon-pk5cb
    @Kikilemon-pk5cb 8 місяців тому +255

    I was so disgusted with his commentary! The expectation for black women to accept struggle love is incomprehensible. It doesn’t work ! Generally speaking men feel their BEST when they can provide .

    • @Beardown2
      @Beardown2 8 місяців тому +18

      As a black man, completing my MD, I agree with you. No one wants struggle love, on both sides. Women dont want a broke man who only earns 30-40k. Men don't want a woman with attitude, who is argumentative and overweight.
      My thing is, stay in your lane. The top % of male earners get the top % of women (beauty, fitness, femininity, submissiveness) and average earning men (45-80k) should marry average-looking women.

    • @Kikilemon-pk5cb
      @Kikilemon-pk5cb 8 місяців тому +11

      @@Beardown2 Thank you for saying this. There are so many layers to uncover. Our worthiness of ❤️ is inherent , however, our values, choices , expectations and experiences contribute to the success of a relationship and what options are available. Continue to shine bright as you pursue MD ✨✨

    • @starblossom1370
      @starblossom1370 8 місяців тому +1

      ​@@Beardown2thank u for your comment.. blessings 🙌 on your journey 🙏🏽 ✨

    • @Ptah1130
      @Ptah1130 8 місяців тому +3

      @@Beardown2 facts. But the irony is many choose bums for their looks or swag. They really " can't handle" provider men.

    • @malikawilson7071
      @malikawilson7071 8 місяців тому

      @Beardown2 Thank you for speaking the TRUTH!

  • @missgangsmashers737
    @missgangsmashers737 8 місяців тому +75

    Dear Black Ladies,
    Please don’t take advice from a Black Man that wears a dress!
    I saw his first movie: “Diary of a Mad Black Woman”. Only because someone showed it to me as a Live Play first!
    Never saw any of his other Movies after that! I could not relate to the Storylines!
    I’ve been Married since 2005. ME and my Hubby met in College. We started off doing Business together, now he took over and I am his Pampered Princess! Struggle Love can kick rocks!

  • @QueeferSutherland220
    @QueeferSutherland220 8 місяців тому +247

    I'm living a soft life and will rest in my femininity. 😊 I am not my grandmother or great-grandmother

    • @sharonivy888
      @sharonivy888 8 місяців тому +11

      I am my mother and grandmothers which is why I learn the lessons they taught me directly and indirectly. I choose to do better because they had few options back then.

  • @MissEdie1973
    @MissEdie1973 8 місяців тому +103

    Been there, done that, NEVER AGAIN!!! I'd rather drink a gallon of kerosene while smoking a cigarette !!!

    • @theMadame.M
      @theMadame.M 8 місяців тому +18

      😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

    • @TrulyTamia
      @TrulyTamia 8 місяців тому +9

      🤣🤣🤣☠️ girl!!

    • @PineapplesCoconut
      @PineapplesCoconut 8 місяців тому +17

      Oh you on a roll today but I hear you. These celebrities know black women are moving different these days.

    • @jacquelineellis7136
      @jacquelineellis7136 8 місяців тому

      😮

  • @AyaEgbuho
    @AyaEgbuho 8 місяців тому +330

    Also, the narrative that you have to settle for love is just sad. Tyler you know better. True love GIVES and PROVIDES. PERIOD. If you really love me, then you'll do whatever it takes to provide and GIVE. The thing that I don't understand is why not encourage and motivate black men to do and produce more? Here is the thing......look at the big picture. Destroying black families has had colossal impact. And role reversal is the foundation of destroying families. Look around. Stop gaslighting us.
    Ladies, do you. And never settle. Men i encourage you to reach for your full potential and THEN you can have your pick of whatever women you want!!!

    • @jackiemajwega3121
      @jackiemajwega3121 8 місяців тому

      Wow at

    • @blacknurse7
      @blacknurse7 8 місяців тому +9

      I prefer to use compromise instead of settling. There will always be trade-offs because no man or woman is perfect. We also have to be realistic with our expectations. If Lamborghinis are not sold in your area of the country, you may have to compromise with a Porsche, irrespective of your finances. We cannot adopt an all or nothing mentality. Especially when you are not attracting the men you desire.

    • @soiledskin
      @soiledskin 8 місяців тому +1

      Perfectly said❗

    • @keshamerriweather1075
      @keshamerriweather1075 8 місяців тому +1

      Amen

    • @AyaEgbuho
      @AyaEgbuho 8 місяців тому +4

      @@TheAlfredPlatform If you like it, I love it. If it worked out for you, I am happy for you.
      Well done to you and your family. ❤️

  • @maureenoputa3208
    @maureenoputa3208 8 місяців тому +234

    Dating or marrying a man who earns a significantly lower income is a disaster waiting to happen. The man will EVENTUALLY come to despise you, as his financial weakness is amplified to members of his (and your) family and friends. He'll cheat on you to reclaim his battered ego. He'll steal from you to impress his new girlfriend, and bad mouth you to anyone who would grant him a listening ear. Ladies, avoid "hyPOgarmy" (dating down) at all cost. You can NEVER get back lost youth that was spent on a dusty. You can earn back lost money, but your youth will be gone forever. Be wise

    • @DidiAz
      @DidiAz 8 місяців тому +10

      💯💯💯

    • @starblossom1370
      @starblossom1370 8 місяців тому +11

      Thanks for sharing.. I know youth is prime time but it's never too late to reset and do better..

    • @cjay233
      @cjay233 8 місяців тому +14

      For sure. It happened to me. As a senior, I regret the youth I wasted 'trying to help a brother out.' SMH.

    • @maureenoputa3208
      @maureenoputa3208 8 місяців тому

      @starblossom1370 you're right, but at times, not all women are fortunate to start over again. My friend's aunt was married to a dusty who drained her finances and transfered the papers of her home into his name (and then sold the house). She ended up homeless and had to move in with her sister. She's 68 years old, has no money, and is too old to go back to work as a nursing assistant. She gave her youth to a dusty who used and abused her.
      Yes, you can push reset, but some things can not be achieved after a certain age. Peace and blessings to you 🙏🏽

    • @cjay233
      @cjay233 8 місяців тому +5

      @@maureenoputa3208 So sorry to hear this. It doesn't change her situation, but we all reap what we sow. He will reap.

  • @adrianalily5416
    @adrianalily5416 8 місяців тому +68

    I’m a Latina and had a friend always pushing me to date low earning low value men telling me that these men provided more for you. I realize now that’s the level SHE was comfortable with and wanted me right there with her. Crabs in a barrel never again !!

  • @Miss_Patron
    @Miss_Patron 8 місяців тому +73

    Shame on Tyler for giving women advice to their detriment. Tell these men to DO BETTER

  • @natashabrown41
    @natashabrown41 8 місяців тому +59

    This all coming from a multimillionaire is crazy

  • @kimberlyyoung4843
    @kimberlyyoung4843 8 місяців тому +186

    Auntie here. I don't have the money that Mary J and the other celebrities have but I have experience in role reversal leveling down dating and I'm here to tell you, I DOES NOT WORk!!!!!! I wish I could say that I experienced it only once but I must say the result was always the same. I began to resent them and they took out their insecurities by cheating usually with a woman with less money that provided boost to their financial ego. I come from the "a piece of a man is better than none" generation and I am here to tell you IT IS NOT!!!!!!!!!!!! Waiting to see how long Rhianna Nicki Minaj and Fantasia gonna last.
    I think Tyler was trying to help women but he spoke without taking stock of his experiences. Are these women that he knows of really happy? I'll bet all of them will say "I'm tired of holding things down". What Tyler does know how to do is "get the bag" and I agree that his advice will be best served showing Black men how to do the same.

    • @vanaphill2454
      @vanaphill2454 8 місяців тому +36

      Yes Tyler... Show black men how to get the bag.... but not from black women!

    • @cjay233
      @cjay233 8 місяців тому +14

      "A piece of man is better than none' Hello sister. Add "trying to help a brother out.' I wish I had thought better of myself and not just accept anything. I hope more young women will listen.

    • @PrettyPrincess9609
      @PrettyPrincess9609 8 місяців тому +5

      I commented this already but I learned this the hard way with my ex in my early 20’s to NEVER SETTLE.

    • @TVwriter23
      @TVwriter23 8 місяців тому

      @@Trailblazers323 He shouldn't be telking these stories as a man. It's like the whole non bipoc authors writing books about the traumas of non WP and making them their pain. Their whole existence is trauma and pain. It

  • @ajohonly3721
    @ajohonly3721 8 місяців тому +111

    It doesn’t work and it never will ,you will be burn out and he will start making you feel crazy for wanting him to step up.
    Don’t do it ladies.

  • @angelamwatts
    @angelamwatts 8 місяців тому +84

    When a woman becomes the provider for the family she's taking on one of two roles. She's either becoming the masculine role in the relationship or she's becoming the surrogate mother to a dusty. Real men are the providers and protectors of the relationship. I agree with Ms. Chloe. I have made the big mistake of playing both roles in my relationships with men. The outcome always led to the termination of the relationship. The man either left because he didn't want to be "mothered" by a pick me or I left because I got tired of supporting a broke dusty.
    Ms. Chloe, you are 100 percent right!!! It's time for men to man up and it's time for ladies to see the reality of this VERY BAD MISTAKE!

  • @littlelamb7890
    @littlelamb7890 8 місяців тому +19

    I REFUSE to take advice from a man that REFUSES to come out of the closet.
    The End

  • @tsjam8751
    @tsjam8751 8 місяців тому +63

    My fiancé just told me that I need to quit my job because I’m pregnant. He will take care of the home. And yes he’s black so they are very rare 😭😭😭 I was happy to hear that but I still choose to come to the office, my fiancé says when you are tired let me know 😂😅

    • @ImAntiConformity
      @ImAntiConformity 8 місяців тому

      Rest in your femininity, stay home. Let go.

    • @lightsalt581
      @lightsalt581 8 місяців тому +35

      Until a preacher says I pronounce you Husband and Wife and we are legally married, I will not be quitting my job.

    • @tsjam8751
      @tsjam8751 8 місяців тому

      @@lightsalt581 that’s true

    • @courttttttt
      @courttttttt 8 місяців тому +10

      Engaged but not married 😢

  • @malikawilson7071
    @malikawilson7071 8 місяців тому +116

    Tyler could have used his platform to instill some guidance in black men so they can be the leaders, protectors and providers black women need. Instead of telling to STEP UP, he told black
    Women to ACCEPT LESS. I am so glad I do
    Not listen to any advice in regards to dating or marrying DOWN.

    • @purpleflows5680
      @purpleflows5680 8 місяців тому +1

      He obviously hates men too because this advice hurts men as much as women.
      It’s destructive to any family/community dynamic to encourage women to be more masculine while men get coddled and excused.
      He has no respect for the men in this scenario, he thinks they’re weak and incapable, and it shows.

    • @TVwriter23
      @TVwriter23 8 місяців тому +4

      He know they won't listen as KS knew

  • @princellasmith7562
    @princellasmith7562 8 місяців тому +19

    1 Timothy 5:8 - "But if a man makes no provision for those dependent on him, and especially for his own family, he has disowned the faith and is behaving worse than an unbeliever."

  • @nerlyferistin6361
    @nerlyferistin6361 8 місяців тому +26

    Also, ladies, avoid “building a man”. Especially, if he’s not building you up! If he doesn’t fit your requirements, throw him in the trash!

  • @Tishalocs
    @Tishalocs 8 місяців тому +18

    My husband said his statement was out of order. Completely wrong

  • @purpleflows5680
    @purpleflows5680 8 місяців тому +62

    This “settle for scapes” narrative is so consistent coming out of Hollywood, it’s hard not to feel it’s intentional propaganda.

  • @vivveene1675
    @vivveene1675 8 місяців тому +24

    Has anyone noticed he identified Black Women and not NON Black Women because if he pulled that card he knows how he would be affected in circles.

  • @erobinson5942
    @erobinson5942 8 місяців тому +75

    I’m just trying to understand why he said “especially bkack women” like sir how come you didn’t also push this narrative to white women?

    • @dovblea
      @dovblea 8 місяців тому +9

      black women are his target audience/who continues to make him money

  • @lkcheat
    @lkcheat 8 місяців тому +33

    Just like you said,its not what men do. Men provide,protect,produce. No hobosexuals need apply. A man who can only pay the light bill need not date,needs to go to trade school so he can support himself and pay all his bills.

  • @ssmith8758
    @ssmith8758 8 місяців тому +34

    Tyler Perry should be ashamed! 🤬

  • @mae1062
    @mae1062 8 місяців тому +38

    I actually lost respect for Tyler Perry a long time ago
    So for me it don't really care what he says or what he's currently about. I don't even watch his movies anymore.

  • @princellasmith7562
    @princellasmith7562 8 місяців тому +34

    The key words that he said in that statement were "that I got you, Babe." A woman doesn't feel like a man "got her" or "has her" if he isn't financially secure. Feels like she has to uphold everything if he isn't standing on his own two feet. It's just the nature of a woman to want the security of being provided for even if she is wealthy. In the back of her mind she has to wonder if something happens to her, are they going to be okay?
    No, it's not about money. It's about being a good person and having some standards and morals, but a man is not really entirely morally sound If he has not figured out a way to support the woman in his life.
    If he wants to just pay a light bill, I don't care if he is married to a woman who makes $45,000 a year or who makes $45 million a year, he's not ready to be married. If a man makes $45 or $50K a year, then he needs to date and marry within that bracket, and then, yes, he is considered to be a provider on that level. He does not need to be trying to date or marry a woman who is in a higher tax bracket. I'm really not sorry for saying this.

  • @QueeferSutherland220
    @QueeferSutherland220 8 місяців тому +33

    I'm not surprised where the message came from. Tyler Perry's movies & plays are very toxic & repetitive.

  • @KasandraWilliams
    @KasandraWilliams 8 місяців тому +26

    So is he going to give that advice to the King of England granddaughter? I mean he his Harry & Meghan's kids godfather after all. Like what kind of advice is that. Tell the black men in the community to do better in order to be at the level of black women. This is a 'patriarchy' we are living in.

  • @nowletsgetgoing
    @nowletsgetgoing 8 місяців тому +52

    I have seen and experienced even the most progressive of men torpedo relationships because they earn less. Men are socialized to feel bad about not making more than women (that's why we have pay inequality in the first place). So, telling women to disregard how men are socialized is dangerous. Women are happy to settle for love, even with the knowledge of hypergamy. It's the men who can't handle it who end up leaving, cheating, or abusing.

    • @AyaEgbuho
      @AyaEgbuho 8 місяців тому +1

      These is exactly why it's a problem!!! The men can't handle it and WILL leave you or treat you terribly. Because guess what, when you only pay the light bill and the women pays everything else, the man will never like the tone of her voice when she speaks.

  • @tuchunglee1793
    @tuchunglee1793 8 місяців тому +30

    The way I clicked with the Quickness!! First comment. Because I been waiting on Chloe’s input on Tyler Perry’s non sense 💅🏾

  • @Zipporah_Bee
    @Zipporah_Bee 8 місяців тому +58

    He has to push this narrative because black women makes up his target audience, and if the narrative shifts, black women aren’t going to be invested in his projects anymore. He always marketed himself as a devout christian man but I have yet to hear about his marriage though Ijs 🤷🏽‍♀️

    • @dovblea
      @dovblea 8 місяців тому +2

      exactly!!

    • @rufinandongo5518
      @rufinandongo5518 8 місяців тому

      Christian men don't wear women's dresses and don't make money by encouraging toxicity. The man is panicking for his bag because black women are finally waking up and seeing hypogamy foolery for what it is!

  • @NYse821
    @NYse821 8 місяців тому +27

    He knew this comment was going to cause outrage lol...
    He must have something new coming out 💅🏾

    • @NYse821
      @NYse821 8 місяців тому +1

      @Anna-st5dm His stuff is entertaining but I'm not taking advice from a Man that dresses like a woman to make a living 🤣

  • @fisf.2148
    @fisf.2148 8 місяців тому +13

    When i broke up with my fiancé who never ever gave me any gift or paid any bills, a wealthy friend of my mum actually said i should have stayed with him since no one is perfect 😂 so i asked how many of her daughters are married to men who never bought anything for them. Then she kept quite

  • @Lovingmylife24
    @Lovingmylife24 8 місяців тому +38

    Like Cicely Tyson said in his Family Reunion movie. Young Black Man take your place. We need you. They need to be told to step up and take their rightful places.

  • @ButterflyBree
    @ButterflyBree 8 місяців тому +49

    If Tyler Perry is concerned about the future of Black boys and men he should house and educate them. He has the resources to give them a great foundation for success.
    I don't respect anything about Tyler Perry. His movies are mediocre, lackluster, and toxic AF. His character Madea is a modern day minstrel show and is an outdated, harmful trope for the collective image of Black women. He should work on creating more quality content and stop playing in our faces!!

    • @ButterflyBree
      @ButterflyBree 8 місяців тому +5

      @@choconethotcoco4717 So many Black people won't be honest about Tyler Perry's films. They'll gaslight you and tell you it's just entertainment. 🙄🙄

  • @donelci9337
    @donelci9337 8 місяців тому +41

    Ladies when practicing hypergamy remember to become a better version yourself as well. Don’t give us what you gave the man that’s below us

  • @l0111
    @l0111 8 місяців тому +11

    A good man can’t be broke. Or live off of a woman. I repeat, a good man can’t be broke or live off a woman. It’s impossible.

  • @Hephbeu
    @Hephbeu 8 місяців тому +21

    “Just because a person is rich..” couldn’t have said it better

  • @arya_ray_
    @arya_ray_ 8 місяців тому +52

    Haters can argue with their Head lice 😂
    On a serious note few fathers are okay with putting their daughters under the bus.
    Save yourself ladies 😊❤

  • @proudly_precious
    @proudly_precious 8 місяців тому +21

    now it's different if i make 160k and my man makes a 110k, but a man who can only afford a light bill??? come on now. why did he even feel comfortable giving black women this kind of advise. this is ridicolous. ladies please don't drink this kool-aid. it's a very dangerous kool-aid to drink. drink at your own risk!

  • @pileshongwe7827
    @pileshongwe7827 8 місяців тому +15

    Why is this message only directed to black woman, why can’t he tell white , latinas, Asians woman this crap

  • @Abidjan-weekly
    @Abidjan-weekly 8 місяців тому +17

    A man Will go spoil another woman if you provide for him. It’s an ego thing. The women with very low income taking care of their fitness, hair and looks have no problem scoring quality men. I personally know a guy that left his high earning nurse wife to go be with a hairdresser who does nothing but take care of her looks, act sweet and ask around for help. He got her pregnant right away, bought a house and working like hell to have a big wedding soon. This girl barely works, meanwhile the nurse ex wife was always working, providing, and taking loads of classes to advance her career. Please women don’t drown yourself. I would say to support but do it in a way that it doesn’t involve financially providing in a monetary way for the man.

  • @carolynford7105
    @carolynford7105 8 місяців тому +6

    I have been married for 40 years and this video spoke volumes to my heart and soul. I listened to it multiple times and so many truths were disclosed. I am at a point in my life where I want to be loved, cared for, and taken care of. I have always earned more than my spouse and we both were okay with that in the beginning. Now I just find myself staring at him from time to time and shaking my head. Our marriage now represents another poor choice that I have made among the many, in my life. Keep up the good work Chloe, I pray that our younger women study your videos, so they don’t make the same mistakes as I and their ancestors.

  • @nerlyferistin6361
    @nerlyferistin6361 8 місяців тому +19

    A dependent man is a dangerous man. A woman who’s the primary breadwinner’s life is in the greatest danger the moment she tries to leave, or to put a dependent male out of her house.

  • @gianna5683
    @gianna5683 8 місяців тому +20

    His movie Acrimony is a tell tell sign. It’s innate in a man to want to provide for the woman he truly desires and love. It will be a very miserable life for a woman that is a work mule/ bread winner in the house hold. This narrative he is promoting is a generational desperate trap. It’s 2023, too many black men and women are high earner, so to settle for someone that makes less than you for the “name of love” is just foolery. Marriage is a form of business, love should not be the first and only reason you marry someone. Once you consider divorcing someone, one of the first things the attorney will ask about it is Assets, Debt and financial divisions.

  • @JadeScorpion31
    @JadeScorpion31 8 місяців тому +26

    Mr. Perry just tried to bring us through a burning oilfield and then drag us through a field of land mines with this “advice”. He should’ve addressed this “advice” to BM not BW.
    Ladies, DO NOT fall for this mess! Choose someone who’s doing exactly or more than what you’re doing. DO NOT settle for a man who makes less than you because he will cause you to lose everything. If he can’t do what you do on your own, leave him alone!

  • @munequa81
    @munequa81 8 місяців тому +13

    Even BM do not have faith in their own brothers leveling up. Otherwise they wouldn't need BW to accept these continued failures from them. The focus needs to be on their own self development instead of expecting women to make up for not being able to compete in society.

  • @spicybsoup
    @spicybsoup 8 місяців тому +37

    I feel like as society is changing, then the messages in his movies need to change as well. His audience is evolving and so should he, instead of rinsing and repeating the same narratives that won't exist.

    • @spicybsoup
      @spicybsoup 8 місяців тому

      @@user-ol9bo2ei1r facts!!!

    • @nataliejo336
      @nataliejo336 8 місяців тому +5

      Outdated is right. Like Chloe said, he needs to read the room.

    • @TVwriter23
      @TVwriter23 8 місяців тому +4

      He's too stuck in his trauma for that. It's why he keeps making the same ole tired plays movies and shows.
      I feel the same about Terry McMillan and some of the other older school authors. Their stories have got to update with the times

  • @sheronmechelle8672
    @sheronmechelle8672 8 місяців тому +20

    everytime I see this clip, and i've seen it multiple times, i gasp... my brain can't store it! Its like every time is the first time! Lol!! TP does not wish us well... smh

  • @tifarahruth
    @tifarahruth 8 місяців тому +16

    I’ve noticed this is always the advice of 50/50 and feminine energy dominant MEN. Real alpha men would never tell their daughters this crap nor do they care about their wives income should she choose to work. These are men who struggled as adolescents bc their mothers failed to secure the bag FOR THEM! So ultimately this a cry for help from 50-80% feminine energy men who think “if my mom would have at least got it herself I would have had access to better resources.” Remember ladies we are hypergamous for the sake of ourselves AND our children. You will never see men who were raised with financial security or feminine mothers talk like this..

  • @somebih7008
    @somebih7008 8 місяців тому +27

    I’ll keep my soft life with my hard working husband. Whatever they want they can have 🤷🏽‍♀️ we can only be examples at this point

  • @Fran-px1oh
    @Fran-px1oh 8 місяців тому +10

    I've noticed a pattern flowing from our older influencers, they want things in the BLK community to stay the same. Idk why??? One would think, they of all people could see struggle love is for fools, not for enlightened mentally well people.

  • @Wishuponastar597
    @Wishuponastar597 8 місяців тому +8

    I been tuned out Tyler and his fantasy struggle love movies.
    I honestly think when he was homeless/ broke a women refused to back him up homeless/broke and he never got over it. Now he's a billionaire off recreating this period in his life over and over thru tv and movies.

  • @poshsims4016
    @poshsims4016 8 місяців тому +16

    Why can’t he make men be a MAN & go above and beyond & hustle & get their mind right that they deserve to make more.

  • @sharisseg7214
    @sharisseg7214 8 місяців тому +10

    Instead of putting the men to task, they’re more comfortable coming for women. Some of them want/like to be taken care of so bad and be pampered princesses.

  • @EstellNEssy
    @EstellNEssy 8 місяців тому +7

    I refuse to settle or date down. If you can't hold your own as man, then I'd rather stay single!

  • @cynara7568
    @cynara7568 8 місяців тому +33

    But is Tyler Perry making women into baby mamas or wife mother

  • @CWA2400
    @CWA2400 8 місяців тому +30

    If I'm essentially taking care of him, he's basically my son. The mommy/son dynamic does NOT work. Like the people you named, it didn't turn out well. Look, Cory TRIED IT with Tia but thankfully she protected her bag. Shirley Strawberry put Ernest Williams on as she had connections, an established lifestyle, stable high salary etc. we see how that is turning out. I agree BOTH parties are eventually resentful when the woman takes on the provider role.

  • @SaltationIgnite
    @SaltationIgnite 8 місяців тому +11

    Men who have a lot less look at us for a come up, seek out “strong intelligent independent womxn” to do their parasite routine of lather, rinse, then repeat on the next victim. No matter how supportive, generous, and loving you are, the dudes eventually feel emasculated just from the dynamic alone and retaliate with jabs and drama rather than show gratitude and love. I’ve done this a few times…. It’s not sustaining.

  • @sharonivy888
    @sharonivy888 8 місяців тому +6

    If a man loves you he would want to take care of you. If he’s not taking care of YOU then it’s because he doesn’t love YOU. Sometimes the obvious has to be explained.

  • @meera1471
    @meera1471 8 місяців тому +7

    I am so sick of that same old struggle love, that ish, it tears me up.

  • @CandieP
    @CandieP 8 місяців тому +7

    I bet he ain’t telling his God daughter Lilibet (Megan Markle and Princess Harry’s daughter) to settle for a man who can only pay the power bill 😂

  • @Kali_Ma_
    @Kali_Ma_ 8 місяців тому +12

    of course the man who cross, dressed as a BW for 23 years would be advocating for role reversal. what shocks me is that he is a BILLIONAIRE and isn’t empowering BM to step up their moneymaking game like he did.

  • @winthermcdonald2721
    @winthermcdonald2721 8 місяців тому +60

    Hi Chloe!! Just wanted to say thank you for your AMAZING content and I'm so excited to listen to this video!! Have an amazing day!!❤❤❤

  • @cynara7568
    @cynara7568 8 місяців тому +16

    But is Tyler Perry married?

  • @naiya.nicole__
    @naiya.nicole__ 8 місяців тому +42

    Good to know it’s more women realizing love doesn’t equate struggle. And we don’t need to lick crumb droppings off the floor for a relationship. That there are men who are equally yolked to us or even owns more yolk than us to be with.
    This coulda been a great rebrand for him seeing as his main demographic is black women. There’s more to blackness than struggle and fight.
    Now he’s talking about hypogamous friends but it’s no telling what they go through in the background. My mom and stepdad was that couple until my mother took a $40k pay cut when she stepped down from her last position due to my doctor retiring. She was making 6-figures and my stepfather didn’t have a GED and she helped him build his resume from working a chicken spot to the airport a mechanic on the planes. Now he makes more than her and it worked out . But before the arguments I’d hear growing up my mom was a masculine bread winner. And she’d bring it up

    • @starblossom1370
      @starblossom1370 8 місяців тому +2

      I went through similar in childhood. My mom's a RN and step-dad an orderly.. Idk why my family despised him then. He was mean and had Neapolean complex.. And oddly my mom is beautiful, a true lady, well spoken, elegant. You'd think she'd use skills for hypergamy. Fast forward into adulthood, I seen why he was always over compensating. He's a good enough man. But he tells me not to take any wooden nickels 😅. He even knows a man should be a bread winner..

  • @queenofroses9132
    @queenofroses9132 8 місяців тому +10

    I don't get how Mr. TP does not understand the male role dynamic in a marriage or relationship. Two, Did not Mr. TP wait until he was established before he even brought children into the world and created a family? To me, his comment reveals deeply of how he feels about black women versus his thoughts or solutions for the single blk wm dilemna.

  • @iamashby6479
    @iamashby6479 8 місяців тому +12

    It seems like Tyler would be telling men that they need to get their ish together, since he was homeless at one point and still managed to make something out of himself. That woukd be better than telling us to date to downgrade our choices in men

  • @LegacyNetwork89
    @LegacyNetwork89 8 місяців тому +19

    I think Tyler Perry is talking about his relationship with a man. Cuz we all know Tyler Perry is.........😂 I'm sure he'll be fine with someone who could just pay the light bill😂

    • @fabfati
      @fabfati 8 місяців тому +4

      I think he has a resentment to his mum because his impoverished childhood without understanding its his fathers fault for why he grew up poor

    • @LegacyNetwork89
      @LegacyNetwork89 8 місяців тому +1

      @@fabfati that part right there!

  • @chrisishere6503
    @chrisishere6503 8 місяців тому +4

    I have family members who make less then their female spouse. The males pay all of the bills, however, they both make 6 figures. The difference is the wife does not have the burden to work if she does not want to.

  • @ICreateThoughts
    @ICreateThoughts 8 місяців тому +19

    Hilarious! Other communities will never tell their daughters to drink the struggle love Kool-Aid. Definitely fear mongering .

  • @4theLoveofCurls
    @4theLoveofCurls 8 місяців тому +5

    Not only is Tyler Perry not a woman, but he's also not a husband or provider. He's a baby daddy who never made it down the aisle with the mother of his child. Tyler should worry about his own life and keep his mouth shut.

  • @moniquesmith1303
    @moniquesmith1303 8 місяців тому +4

    This is why most BW who are married are still broke and struggling, what’s the sense to get married if I gotta be the husband too 😂😂

  • @Sweetheart0189
    @Sweetheart0189 8 місяців тому +6

    Thank you so much for this video!!!! I was starting to question am I the one not comprehending?? Womens body are NOT meant for being workhorses, breadwinners long term. Take care of yourselves ladies & find a good man that will do RIGHT by you. ❤

  • @girl-gx2ls
    @girl-gx2ls 8 місяців тому +4

    3:25 imagine telling your mortgage company “well I paid what I could”. 😂🤣😂😩

  • @ajh.4131
    @ajh.4131 8 місяців тому +7

    You don’t even have to tell me any of this. I already know. I’ve seen it firsthand with my mom & her ex-husband. Role reversal DOES NOT work.
    Create the life you want. You have to be the best version of yourself in order to attract the best person for you. Mentally, physically, financially, etc. Like attracts like. It’s that simple.

  • @triciadenice5702
    @triciadenice5702 8 місяців тому +7

    I always agree with Chloe! ❤yes!! I was with my tow driver on yesterday and he was very kind and flirtatious. As an “average” or below average woman in this season… I felt compelled to think to myself “if he asks, I’d give him my contact information”. Even while knowing I was raised to be provided for. It is settling. Every man I’ve dealt with has “fumbled” me and yet I was willing to settle for the nice person as a opposed to believing I could have both the nice man and the man that gives me the privileges I’ve come accustomed to.

  • @TVwriter23
    @TVwriter23 8 місяців тому +3

    He didn't realize this ain't the 90s and early 2ks anymore. Waiting to Exhale, Dissapearing Acts, Diary of a Mad Black Woman, Baby Boy etc type stories are not it anymore

  • @ggglassgirl136
    @ggglassgirl136 8 місяців тому +21

    I mean it’s Tyler Perry, his literal fortune stems from women, especially Black women, settling for men that can not &/or refuse to take care of them. This is on brand for him! I know it isn’t all Black men but I RARELY see people encourage Black men to simply work harder to make money to provide. Thank goodness for my Black father❣️ I wouldn’t be able to bring this rhetoric around him or my white Godfather 🤭💅🏽

  • @LevelUP84
    @LevelUP84 5 місяців тому +2

    I officially despise this man now. I’m absolutely disgusted.

  • @pjspeace5978
    @pjspeace5978 8 місяців тому +2

    Why can't they just tell men to step up instead of telling us to step down. It just doesn't make since.

  • @Yocyndie
    @Yocyndie 8 місяців тому +4

    8:23 men’s cycle is 24hrs like the sun and women are 28-30 day cycle like the moon 💜

  • @balebebeads4079
    @balebebeads4079 8 місяців тому +6

    We are most certainly in a new era of Black women choosing themselves first and foremost - Its beautiful to see and experience. I think we have to keep in mind who Mr. Perry is and what he's exposed to - at that level I dont know that you always get a full picture of what the masses of Black women are feeling and even experiencing. To me I feel like the bigger issue is how conflated these conversations are. We talk about dating, marriage, children, bills, family, etc. all in one and these dynamics are too complex to address in the way that they are handled at times.

    • @TheNewFeminine
      @TheNewFeminine  8 місяців тому +3

      And that is why I have my Private Group The New Feminine! There are nuances to Winning The Feminine Game.💄

  • @DivineShine30
    @DivineShine30 8 місяців тому +8

    When a women has everything she work hard for and settle with a man with nothing to lose he will plot to take everything and destroy her . I’ve seen it in my friends and families and sadly they stay there. Tyler Perry agenda to traumatized black women physically emotionally and mentally in his five day old fish grease t.v shows and movies come for a deep rooted place that he want us to suffer and die there.

  • @antasiashaw8815
    @antasiashaw8815 8 місяців тому +4

    Instead of encouraging black men to level up and become successful in order to be better men for black women he encouraged black women to settle for dusty black men and I’m disgusted

    • @MaryamOwens
      @MaryamOwens 8 місяців тому +2

      Girl. All so he can keep making money off us. It’s insidious.

  • @lizzyo9029
    @lizzyo9029 8 місяців тому +4

    Chloe, I looooove your channel and have for a long time but I have to admit your “argue with your [insert bogus object]” send me 😂😂😂😂😂😂
    Girl keep the great work!

  • @wyzasukitan
    @wyzasukitan 7 місяців тому +2

    why would Tyler Perry be telling bw to lower themselves instead of telling the men to get on their level?! That man should be lambasting these dusties for letting themselves fall so far behind!! Embarrassing

  • @stormyskyz7881
    @stormyskyz7881 8 місяців тому +2

    He SHOULD HAVE TOLD THESE MEN TO STEP UP!

  • @freespirit-111
    @freespirit-111 8 місяців тому +5

    Why is the black women making the money and not the Black man?
    Mr Perry, ask why is the black man left behind?

  • @aritalkstech
    @aritalkstech 8 місяців тому +5

    No other race of women is shamed for having a standard. Just shows self hate and inferiority complex, in my opinion. Telling black women to expect less from black men is inherently saying that you assume black men are not able to step up to the plate. What no one says in this conversation is the accountability. Why can't a black man who is a fry cook put himself through school or start a business like women are. That's where the pay disparity comes from in the first place. Vacant esteem he doesn't believe he deserves more. And no woman who has made a better life for herself should be subjected to a man who thinks so little of himself. It's so much more than the money. I want someone who can teach me something and put me on. Not looking for a mommy.

  • @Mrs.Fineapple
    @Mrs.Fineapple 8 місяців тому +4

    After hearing his message, I was too stunned to speak. Thank you for encouraging women to not take this man’s advice.

  • @Serenitie3
    @Serenitie3 8 місяців тому +5

    3:35 this is what offended me the most. Not him having an (terrible) opinion. Him finding it funny BW having standards and expectations. He didn't even separate wealthy BW women and lower income BW women. In his opinion none of us deserve spit....

  • @TheBrookeAshley
    @TheBrookeAshley 8 місяців тому +3

    Another great video!!! Tyler Perry should feel ashamed of himself! A “good” man with pride wouldn’t even want to be with a woman where he could only pay a light bill! Just shameful! Black women deserve the best and I’m glad so many are waking up to see they deserve more than scraps!!

  • @KerryannePatricia
    @KerryannePatricia 8 місяців тому +5

    If Tyler Perry can name ONE successful relationship other than Oprah and Steadman that is going on for decades. Where the Black woman out earned the Man she is with, then I would give his comment on black women finding love about 10 seconds of my time.

  • @MissTraceyIfYaNasty
    @MissTraceyIfYaNasty 8 місяців тому +2

    The part where he says, “Take me to dinner every now & then” burns my BUTT!!! So I should be out here busting my hump & all you can contribute is a dinner every now & then??? Tyler, if you don’t take many stadium seats & go reevaluate your whole life…🤨

  • @selinakyle2368
    @selinakyle2368 4 місяці тому +2

    If a man make enough money just to pay the light bill then he shouldn’t be in a relationship of any kind.

  • @vanaphill2454
    @vanaphill2454 8 місяців тому +3

    Tyler says to BW,.... Man up and allow your BM to rest in his femininity. NOPE!! I ma keep my list!

  • @maddielu5286
    @maddielu5286 8 місяців тому +3

    In this age, unalive you in a heartbeat. They are getting dangerous and desperate