BOY MATH: When DUSTY men are WARNED + Why Women Need Providers!
Вставка
- Опубліковано 1 лис 2023
- Subscribe to save your Feminine life.💄
SOFT POWER: THE NEW FEMININE SCHOOL
bit.ly/3vQ1fYi
THE NEW FEMININE
www.thenewfeminine.co
THE SOFT POWER CLUB
bit.ly/3TDnjAy
THE FEMININE SHOP
bit.ly/3uno8RT
THE NUMBER #1 BEST SELLER
amzn.to/3eZmegy
#casestudy
It is so important to have a teachable spirit. I used to be such a stubborn person. In hindsight I probably missed out on so many opportunities for growth. What that man is trying to teach his brother sounds like common sense to me, but I can also relate to the other brother’s defensive attitude. As a women, I have had other women warn me about time, vulnerability and confidence. However, I didn’t have the life experience to even understand what they were saying. Watching this video reminds me how important it is to be humble. We are all just trying to figure things out, and I really hope this brother finds a way to break out of the prison he has created for himself.
💯🙏🏽♥️
❤
I know the feeling.. I could've been on game , back in the day, if I would've listened. Live & Learn. Glad it resonated before too late. I had to let "friends" go because they didn't want to receive free game. They came back after they seen the results. Now I'm not trying to explain. I send them links to Chole's videos. At least I care that much. But I can't make hard headed people listen. Hopefully they'll learn.
And dusty braids is playing himself. But there's always women that will accept it
Males know it’s what they’re supposed to do, that’s why any time you bring up money and/or provision, it triggers their deepest insecurities.
I’m screaming 🤣
I agree with you 100%, and women should stay virgins until married. Women know this, and the reason they get so upset when told so is because they know that their slutty behavior today is shameful to themselves and disgusting to men.
A women definition of a man is always to thier benefit😂 parasitic not symbiotic relationship 😅
That's why they call bw golddiggers. It's a reverse psychology tactic.
RIGHT!!
I shrieked with embarrassment for his woman when the male said “we in the trenches together “ & said it with his chest too like a mf badge of honor 😮
🎯
You should have seen the face I made, and I don't even know his woman, or him 😂.
@@stephanies9071gurl!!! I pictured her in army gear, laying in a trench. 😂😂 he really want her struggling with him
@@barbaramorris5397 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
He basically admitted to struggle love.
He is ABSOLUTELY lying when he said, “she’s never raised her voice at me.” Judging by the type of man he is, I highly doubt he has the type of woman who doesnt go completely off, cussing, etc when angry. Just stop it.
As a former dust lover, she definitely raises her voice at him. Ask me how I know…
😂
Definitely 😂 he hesitated when he was asked too
The wayyyyyyyy I am cackling at this comment!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! The DUSTY audacity!!!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Girl I'm a recovering dust lover as well. Iykyk 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Dust lover 😂
The ABCD Game: Accuse, Blame, Critize, Deny 🔥
💯
Are u describing the average western American female sounds just like em
@@jeshurunhazelton7789if you’re arguing about this specific video and message you’re a part of the problem.
This was a really wise listen, I hope you are listening instead of becoming defensive
@@kmariamv I was clearly asking a question to replying to a comment so not sure how u confused that with the video itself
@@kmariamv hopefully that makes sense for ya
I took a big gulp of coffee when chole said “argue with your skid marks”… I nearly lost my life choking 😂😂
😂😂😂😂😂
When I say that comment got me!!!!!🤣🤣🤣
I'm like 😮☠️☠️☠️☠️☠️☠️😹
Me too, I almost drowned LMAOOOOOO 😂😂😂😂
Girl! That part had me wheezing l 🤧 😂
Yes, I agree! The men will have to discuss this amongst themselves. The separation between men and boys will be televised!
@@ImMaleImProud on a woman’s channel trying to counter a woman’s opinion - lol plz go mind the business of men. This is very feminine of you
@@---mb6xq. No one is holding anyone accountable. Tell your sisters to stop entertaining men like this. I know women that work 2 jobs to keep that good D at home. Sad but true. Until women stop supporting grown men, this will continue.
I'm just saying? I hope NONE of ya'll are feminists. . . . . Because if you are? Then I have to point out that 50/50 is what you asked for.
If you want a man to be traditional and provide, that's great. I don't mind doing that.
However, if you want ME to do MY gender role? While you "liberate" yourself from yours? You aren't for me, and my tongue, knowing my way around the kitchen, dick, muscles, fingers, poetry, vacations to other countries, social circle, painting and money are NOT for you.
The ones who wana go 50/50 are the same ones who wana be viewed as the king of the castle, that they're renting. And they're quick to tell their woman that she's not allowed to ask abt his finances, but he needs her income in order to not be homeless. If she even went one month without income, they would be evicted cuz he doesn't make enough and he has no savings. But she's expected to bow down and worship him because he's a man.
💯
Delulu right?
Whewwwww this comment!💯❤️🎯
How you know someone is not going anywhere in life, is when they are not willing to just listen.
Whew this comment right here!!! 🔥
This!!!!!💯❤️💅
This is why I tell my male friends that I’m not hooking them up with anyone I know if they don’t have it together. I also tell them when I think a woman is too good for them. That complacent mindset is very destructive to your future.
U have male friends?
Yessss i literally tell some of my male friends and cousins that my friends would bully them 😂
***Broken women attract broken men. It's hard to appeal to a dusty that he's wrong if he still has a woman doing everything for him.
Dr. Jay Burnett said, "a man that can't take constructive criticism from another man is a boy that never had the correction of a father in his life."***
“We in the trenches together”. My mouth dropped when he said that, like sir, are you not embarrassed? I think everyone deserves love, but sometimes, that love has to be tough. When the woman at the end of the video talked about our culture normalising the dysfunction I really felt that in my soul.
Well, when the student is ready, the teacher will appear however, in this case the teacher appeared and the student wasn’t ready
This tickled me 😂
This is where they've gone wrong. They believed the lie that manhood was only about physical strength and bedroom activities.. So they focused on that alone. Until the reality of life smashed them in the face and they are struggling to accept the fact that they didn't build the strength and character to function as adults, in a harsh world.... Man bedroom skill cannot fulfill all the nuances of manhood and it not enough to keep a woman.. Let alone children. 🤷♀️
He came in with a jealous spirit by first speaking on the man’s house and etc. . . This could of been a great conversation especially when he said 14.00 work and work on your dreams we universally had to be discipline and driven. He missed a good mentor and life lesson. As another commenter said we’ve all been there.
So many "boys" these days lack ambition. Such a turn off. Real men have goals and follow through with them ❤ that is a HUGE turn on for me. Ambition loves Ambition.
So true. I work in a field with very ambitious men, but outside of that is like night and day.
That's typically wat happens when the elite n corrupt in high positions of power put things in our food n water lowering testosterone levels dramatically over the past fifty years n when western society n the media bash n demonize masculinity that's wat u get
This was a word. My ex would complain job from job that he doesnt like it. He never thought, “maybe i should go back to school to get some skills.” Smh it has to be in them not on them!
A word!
Facts. It's always easier for a male like this to complain. Meanwhile, his counterparts are going back to school, learning trades and starting businesses.
Absolutely 💯, it may be learned, but very rarely will anyone put in the work for anything of value.
I saw my father work seven days a week. I saw him try an avenue fail formulate a new plan and kept it going until he succeeded. As he would say, “If plan A doesn't work there is B through Z.”
Love this so wise
“Excuses are tools of incompetence.
They build monuments of nothingness, and
Those who specialize in them seldom accomplish anything.”
This video NEEDS to be shown in every primary / elementary school around the world, to teach kids the difference between boys and men! ✊🏾
Hold the phone. I don’t care what state you are in, how can you support yourself let alone a family on $14/hr? I couldn’t even support myself when i used to make $30/hr to be honest. And are these $14/hr men the same ones talking about not wanting to get married because they don’t want a Golddigger to take all their gold, money and assets? 😂😂😂
14$ is not much at all
Lol I just imagine a golddigger trying to dig his 14$/h I'm deaadd😂
Yes his math wasn’t mathing. How you have your woman working full time AND playing housewife? The sad part is that he thought that was some kind of flex 😂 He made himself AND his woman look like fools.
1st of all she has to be broken/unhealed to allow a dusty, grown boy 🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡to work them like a slave and give husband benefits, with MINIMUM RESPECT.
That man on the left was speaking nothing but the truth. He was basically telling him that he, as a man, should step up for the woman that hes with and his family. Whether the woman that he's with is accepting of his unwillingness to do more for her or not, HE should desire to do more. He's ok with mediocrity because the woman that he's with accepts it and he has no internal drive to want to do more and do better.
After listening to the defensive boy man, he reminded me of so many men that I have met. They seem to think that because they bring in half, they're doing a good job. It's like I tried to explain to my ex-husband if, I'm a single woman with children and I'm handling it all 100% by myself. Why do you think you bringing in half is applaudable. Thankfully, my children are grown, and I'm still single. But one thing about it is that i'd rather do it all by myself than to have a dusty man coming along thinking
He did his due diligence by giving me half. It's okay. I'll wait.
How about that man whose wife was pregnant with twins, working part-time and attending school part-time and keeping home straight. My question was: what was HE doing besides working at a job? She was doing too much.
“This is coming from a rich man. “ YES baby boy can’t NOBODY lead you where they never been.
That is the mindset of my soon-to-be ex-husband. Emotional abuse is REAL. Pride and Ego will kill any relationship/marriage
This is not even conversation where I'm from ( I'm somalian and muslim). Men expected to provide 100%. His $ is their's and her $ is hers. And it's says in the religion's if man can't provide should not get married.
In a perfect world every man does deserve love. However, when a man is not where he wants to be financially he’s very difficult to be in a relationship with. Personally, I can’t date a broke or low earning man. Not because money matters to me but every time I have he was very jealous, insecure, mentally, and emotionally abusive and in competition with me. They just can’t handle my success, so I only date men who are where they want to be in life and way more than I do. It’s sad but it’s my reality.
“Dirty neck braids” I was NOT expecting that! 🤭
That last clip about single moms coming together to raise their children is a fantastic idea. It will ease the financial responsibilities on both moms and playmates for the kids. The downside is women hardly get along in the same roof long-term.
It was painful to watch him sit there and not get knowledge from the rich man. Men dont seek mentors, mental health or financial information. Instead they hate on them. This man repeatedly said I been where you are brother and it hurt that mans ego to hear he made it out. Smh
What is he providing making $14 an hour while his lady working 16 hours and taking care of the kids? Oh yeaaa eggplant.
😂 💯
He's also so physically repulsive
These basement runts are getting outta hand 🤦🏾♀️
Men: get an education or training such as contractor, mechanic, Etc. so you can support your family. Women will not want to commit to a man if they also have to work full time while rearing children, cooking, cleaning, grocery shopping etc.
The fact that he is comfortable with 14 dollars per hr is disgusting
I have someone close to me that has a husband who refuses to work, they just had another baby, and he still isn't working. I keep telling her he has no intention of changing. It's the worse. They attach themselves to women that spoil them like their mothers. If they weren't reared to take care of themselves, they definitely won't take care of you.
At the end of the day…some people don’t want the best out of their life! Because they don’t want to do the work to have the best.
Exactly! My ex hub had expensive taste, however was too lazy to put in the work to be able to achieve what he desired. However wanted me to help.
$14/hr..... then go do construction, garbage truck, Software sales..... what ever else that's pays $28-32/ hr
Nope! Would rather sit around n make excuses n cry about his baby wage
The guy making 14 an hour has a gf who is DESPERATE
Very desperate
I don’t desire to be in the trenches with anyone!
One thing I will say.....it's not about being rich. You don't need to be "rich" to provide for yourself and your wife. And children if y'all decide. Social media shows you the outliers. Which is fine. But providing doesn't have to include a yacht or designer clothes or a mansion. So please stop with the excuses. You do need to have drive, ambition and produce. And anything else is a scam against yourself men. Blaming others is a sign of emotional and mental immaturity. We all go through seasons and moments of that but it shouldn't last a lifetime. Because when blaming others is a mentality, you can never reach your potential. Stop blaming others, find the solutions that are out there if you want to find them.
That last video at the very end was heart breaking. I feel you Sis. For me, my relationship with Abba just took a high level turn because I couldn't do it alone. I can honestly say God is the best husband. And no I am not spiritually bypassing. I legit mean what I say. And I know an earthly man is on the way.
Life is such a journey.
My babysitter makes 20 dollars an hour before tips. She's a 19yo Sophomore on a premed track in college who still lives at home and has no responsibilities. 15 an hour should be a step stool, never what you want to stay at, for a man who wants a family.
Our love as women is quite rich...we deserve good treatment because we can do bad all on our own, but most likely you'll do better alone than in struugle love with a dusty.
At this point i can only blame the pick me's. We create our standards, men follow them. If you have low standards, he'll put in low effort. These dusties are everywhere like a plague.
When a so called Man has no hope, is defensive, lazy and not willing to provide he will drag down the Woman he is with. Please get out of these abusive situations. It's always better to be single and depend on God and wait for the husband who will provide. This guy isn't living in his manhood.
“Argue with your skid marks…Mister dirty braids” Chloe, I cannot! 😂
If a male is only doing what he can he is not a provider. A provider does what is needed and required. They love to rest in their femininity while turning their partners into mules. He couldn't tell me a thing making $14 an hour at his age with a wife and children. 😂
What I don't understand is this- There are women who LOVE the idea of 50/50. If you're a man and you want to go 50/50 then find those women who are down for that. There are MANY of those women and they'll have all kind of sex with men like this and they love it. Just get with these women and stop being angry.
They don't write it on their foreheads lol
@@hillsideonly but most women like the idea of 50/50. Most men are idiots and they'll argue with women in the comments section of videos titled- Why women hate 50/50. They argue with women who obviously hate 50/50. Of course those women don't like it!! Duh! but the average everyday woman in the natural world like it. Trust me.
He knows that’s not enough to take care of a family. He needs 2 or 3 jobs. OR have a seat until you get your finances up THEN get a woman
This is so sad. My daughter is in the 12th grade and makes more than this grown man. The audacity for him to pop his collar about his wife slaving. He should have been embarrassed and humbled, desiring to learn. He said, "Coming from a rich man," directly after the man told him he USED to be in his shoes. Like my grandma used to say, "I know you hear me but are you listening?"😮
This!!! I don't think the guy had a wife...he had a woman in the trenches with him. Very prideful.
Whew! I had not seen this and now I see why women were triggered. I'm ready to flip the table and I'm listening 3rd hand. I feel for his woman or any woman who deals with him in the future. I hope she gets free from that. Unteachable and unreachable but wants empathy. Tuh.
***Also, he has hostile energy and the only reason he didn't get out of his body because it was another man. I can't imagine his energy towards women....he might've tried to buck up a little more.
LMFAO he said he’s providing… WHAT IS HE PROVIDING?!
“We in the trenches together” 😭😭😭 to answer the question Yes all men deserve love …FROM GOD and FROM THEIR PARENTS.
The interviewer is keeping it real while showing compassion,care & concern❤🌹.
Yes, men like him are a necessity. The other guy might have a hard time with the truth now but later on he will most likely remember the conversation and hopefully do better.
Your content helps me face the mirror in a lot of ways.
Currently de-dustifying
That episode was “Listen to respond not to learn” 101. Only a man can think a woman should work FT and do chores FT and she’s happy while he does nothing but bring home half. Yikes!
@@ImMaleImProudyou are a liar. The average lifespan of a male practicing sodomy is shorter than than the average life expectancy for men (73) and women (79).
@@ImMaleImProud you are talking about gay relationships. This channel is purely about heterosexual hypergamous relationships only!
If the person of modest means is actively pursuing their goals, they deserve consideration, but still tread lightly to make sure it is not a pipe dream. All others, clean up your mess first, before pursuing a family and don't dare bring children to be in the trenches either.
Unfortunately there are enough pick me’s that most men like this man can still find a woman to cater to him. The only ppl suffering are the women who have standards and refuse to settle for this. We’re constantly told we are asking for too much.
Personally he should be embarrassed to come in front of ppl and admitting that he makes $14 as if it’s the best he can do. 😅
I’m embarrassed for him.
He felt soo proud his woman was in the trenches with him 🥴 although he isn’t contributing to the cleaning or cooking. He thinks its respect ha look i cooked damn near daily too while plotting my escape from my lazy ex man child, i cooked to save myself money and because i needed to eat!! If there was a bit left over he got it. I was not trying too cater to him, this dude feels like nothing is wrong or a need to elevate cause he still got someone serving.
I've once read about co-mothering moms. Two single moms living in a bigger home sharing expenses, working, and raising the kids like a chosen family. I was thinking about doing this in my 20s but luckily things turned around for the better.
He shouldn’t be dating if he’s making $14 and hour. Like the other man said “you have to work HARDER”
Trust me it doesn't matter who says it. They will not do if they don't want to. Hear how defensive he still is
As long as there are women willing to stay "in the trenches", why should men like this change? They'll always find someone to struggle with.
But I loved hearing this conversation especially in the black community.
Any man earning $14 hour needs to stay out of the dating pool. He needs to get himself together. He can’t afford a family.
Yes they do, from their mothers.
😂😂😂
this was exactly what I was going to post. their mom's can love them... won't be me
Exactly my thoughts.
That snippet at the end really made me think. More single mothers should co-mother together. Get a big enough house and split bills and child rearing responsibilities together. Biologically that is what were supposed to be doing. Thats why womens cycles sync up if you spend alot of time together. So you'll have babies around the same time and the other women in your 'tribe' will all have milk and can all breast feed and nourish the infants and babies of the group
These men have gotten the cow for free with our effort for so long they are so confused why now they have to actually work to get the same they got 5 years ago
Another outstanding video by Ms. Chloe 👏👏. Thank you Ms. Chloe for not trashing the pick me women but instead showing us former pick me women that some of us were taught or shown this behavior by being raised in it. To answer your question "does every man deserve love?" I would have to say that every man deserves tough love but not every man deserves a woman's love. The reason that every man does not deserve a woman's love is because the "dusty" man does not "love" anyone, including a woman. Dusties are not ready for a woman's love. The only thing that the dusty offers a woman is life in the ghetto. The dusty puts the woman in a position to where she has to break her back doing what he should be doing. She can't be home to nuture her babies because she has to do it ALL. He forces her to take on the masculine role of provider or the pseudo mother role of caregiver to him; a man that can only offer her DUST. Dust = nothing.
It is better to be single and be broke than it is to be with a Dusty and be broke. At least a broke, single woman still has her dignity and her pride. Ladies, give the dusty exactly what he deserves NOTHING!
"Give more at their own expense until they are depleted." Well said. That man saying his partner chooses to do all those tasks for him, probably does see him as the prize, but that doesn't mean she isn't burnt out. Too many women risk their livelihood just to have a man and please him, because she thinks that's what she's supposed to do, to her own detriment.
After he tried to justify $14/hour, I checked out. That was straight up embarrassing.
I would not be with a grown boy like this. I’d rather be single.
🎶No romance without finance🎶
DUSTIES: If your life is together, finances are together, and your mind is right, you don't have to complain about not getting the type of women you want. You will be DROWNING in women! Stop COMPLAINING and do the WORK to improve YOURSELF.
“We in the trenches together” made me scream!
He’s extremely angry. First red flag.
They have nothing but ego audacity and excuses and emotions. Smh
At making $14 He wants the house, car, support his lady but doesn't know how to put in the correct work for it!! Definitely a mindset change!!!
I’m dead!!! She said “ maybe I should start dating other single mom, so we can coparent together” 😂😂😂
Not a parent, but that seems smart.
I’m so glad to see a provider man taking the time to have this conversation. That’s the exact piece that has been missing. Bravo to a mentoring minded masculine man!❤🎉
Its sad but true his selfworth is on the floor!!!! He doesn't feel like he deserves the lifestyle like of the man sitting next to him!!😢
The man-to-man conversation is definitely needed. As a commentor said, below, when women attempt to approach this topic, it's usually met with hostility. Worst yet, is the "deflecting circle" bandit. This type of man will start a debate with one topic and spin it to another topic, deflect, then resort to name-calling out of anger. But he always has the pick-me community as an option. And for the life of me, I don't understand why the two communities don't form a perfect union. (lol) The sister at the end speaking on single mothers uniting to help each other is a great idea. A dear friend of mine has an elder sister who was battered (by her husband) in her youth. She and another abused woman came up with the plan to live together until they got themselves together. They are still together and are supporting each other in their elder years. They have supported each other mentally, financially, and spiritually. At first, I thought they were a gay couple. But no, men never came between them (When they dated). Just wishing the best for the younger sisters.
LOL at Mr. Dirty Neck Braids, mush mouthed dusties and red pill poppers! 😂😂😂😂 The man on the right should not be married because he has no interest in improving himself to provide a better standard of living for his wife. He's just making excuses. I very much doubt that his wife is happy working 16 hrs a day, taking care of the kids, and waiting on him hand & foot at home, but he's acting like it's something to be proud of. He is so angry & defensive I bet he takes his rage at his failure out on his partner.
I can only imagine how he treats the woman in his life.
The fact that he fixed his lips to say that he's still providing although he going 50/50 with his woman. These men have been cottled for way too long.
The truth of the matter alot of men feel like dirty neck hair😂😂I so love your play on words Ms Chloe ..most men need these convos
Again listening to respond and not to comprehend will have you losing everytime.
Women always respect men that provide 100%. I like how you worded that. In other words not all females do. I do believe men should receive love regardless of how much they make.
It’s very refreshing to see a man educate another man on his responsibilities as a provider. Nothing wrong with getting advice from another man if a man open to that, but if you’re going to deflect every time, please do yourself a favor and don’t get into relationships with women when you’re clearly not ready.
That man in the T-shirt will never elevate himself. He’s comfortable exactly where he is, in the dust.
You don't need a woman if you can't afford it
"In the trenches together"....😂🤣🤣no dear, I rather be by myself, especially seeing how unwilling the "🤡provider" is, to do something about getting out of the trenches. Nahhhh thanks!
He had to much pride & ego in his chest about his woman working. That's the very reason why I don't date down/equal. Their money mind is different
Someone needs to make that male realize he could not so much as survive without that woman’s income and assistance…he doesn’t have a girlfriend or a respectable relationship, rather he has an unintentional roomie, whom he needs to turn loose so she can find the man she needs. 😒
I’m out. No trenches here. Soft life and single life!
Good one. No, dusties do not deserve a womans love,they dont love themselves. If he did it would be no problem for him to go to nihht school to learn a trade so in demand these days. People who do bare minimum get the bare minimum.
I blame Tyler Perry.
😂
Fr 😂
Him having rebuttals when the guy was trying to give him play by play on providing was cringy stay away from men like this
Co-mothering is a GREAT idea. They do it in the Neatherlands. Whole communities and it helps socialize the children. No one is alone.