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everytime i hear tinder now i think of that lady that tried to name her kid tinderly bc she and her husband met on tinder
THAT IS INSANE
that child BEGS and PRAYS that their parents just named them kimberly
TINDERLY AHFJSJF
Well thats a one way ticket for your child to never talk to you again.
not even tinderly
Being a lesbian it feels like dating apps are sometimes the only option, and even a lot of straight people are on dating apps too. Yet, I deleted tinder finally (bc it was depressing as hell) and I’m just going to stop being scared of rejection and try to approach women in real life. That’s how I got my first girlfriend anyways.
I think there is a nuances. Firstly people who you approach in real life are very likely to be on the dating apps, so they compare you with their options there. Secondly, dating behaviour built using these apps are affecting real life interactions as well. Thirdly, some people are using dating apps as only way to meet people and will reject you just because of that.
Overal, I don't want to discourage you from your attempts, but it's better to be prepared for harder times than it was back then.
@@nurtaytulegenov7431 yeah I definitely hear what you’re saying! I’ve heard from my straight girlfriends that when they’ve been approached in person they really liked it. In my experience too when I’ve been approached in person it just feels more wholesome I guess? Not to bash dating apps because I completely understand how dating apps can be useful, but I’m just kind of tired by them and would rather try my luck at in-person interactions since that’s what has worked for me before. Somehow it’s harder for me being in college than when I was in high school for dating lol
But for those who have had success through dating apps, more power to them! That’s awesome, and I’m happy it has worked out for them :)
Same problem with being gay but i also think it's the worsez since most men are only interested in hooking up, not that i think it's a bad thing, but it's kinda hard to find someone who just wants to get to know people more and looking for a relationship
manifest it that’s what i did i didn’t even mean too lol🤷♀️
@@alsimancheso real grindr and twitter have made it so hard
i’m a bisexual who is femme into femme girls and it’s SO hard to organically meet someone but i refuse dating apps 😭
this is my exact situation 😭
same... the apps would make it so much easier to find other femmes, but i just can't put myself through all the bs that comes with using them
Biromantic but same. I'm too scared to approach someone and have them be disgusted by me 😭😭😭
Also, off topic but the Theo profile photo 😭🫶 it's so damn pretty. Theo is so 😍
I'm also bi and idk i feel like when you're a guy it's really hard to find a girl organically by just being yourself and being a nice person to be around. It seems like you need to act like a "hunter" instead, like with a goal in mind from the very start, you know? and it's so weird.
But i also understand that women have to deal with so many men going after them that when they find one nice dude who's just chill they just wanna *finally* have a male friend who's not trying anything funny.
But idk at the same time i'm not actively looking for anything 😂kinda like Emily, but yeah it's just a thought i was having
The first person I saw on Tinder was MY sister so I deleted it
😭😭
not the sister 😂
That's scary 😂💀
Is it worse to find your sister or your mother though ? 🎉
@@irokosalei5133 honestly my family is wack as fuck so if I saw my mom I'd be like "good for her"
"I've heard enough and you're ugly" really sums up the grossness of dating apps.
I think the gamification DOES make the apps overall quite bad. They encourage a really shallow and instrumental approach to connecting with others. In a sense they make it "too easy" such that people become rude and mean. The men send dick picks when they'd never dare to flash their dick at a woman in real life. And both men and women block and unmatch people mid conversation on a whim (I'm not talking red flags in this case). Like you say you like a band they hate and they block you. It's the equivalent of someone rolling their eyes and walking away mid conversation. Incredibly demeaning and hurtful. That's definitely encouraged by the app format and game nature of it. I for one hate them and kind of wish we could put the lid on this Pandora's box. Or at least change them for long form slow methods instead of swiping.
I agree. I feel like the ease is that with which people can "put themselves out there". Instead of making serious effort into grooming, dressing up, going out, flexing your social muscles and making intentional effort to connect with people, you just download an app, import your shitty facebook profile photos and swipe away like it's a game of "hot-or-not". And this lack of effort into presenting yourself, coupled with a possible sense of entitlement (I bring something to the table, therefore my partner must bring *everything* to the table) is a recipe for staying single and unhappy.
Personally a teen that’s never used one but if you don’t like them, don’t use them, let people who like them use them😅
Yeah like the app wants you to keep using it. Having folks walk away as happy couples rather then keep coming back just doesn’t generate as much revenue.
@@lookismcrew6818 nobody said people aren't allowed to use them, nor is anyone trying to stop them from using them, lol
Which is why I refuse to take any part in it.
I'm an older guy, so I can speak to how people met in the old days. In most cases, they already knew the person for some time (through school, work, church, or common friends) and after weeks/months of flirting, someone would eventually make a move. Approaching randomly out in public for dates was never very common.
Thanks for sharing!
Which limits your dating pool a lot.
Yes, exactly that. Of course I'll swipe left on most people on Tinder if I compare them at all to people I know in real life. I met my first long time girlfriend (together for 11 years) in real life on the street, we ended up working together, and it took a year and a half or so for us to start dating. I got so much time to see who she was and gain a deep sense of admiration for her, and vice versa.
I feel like dating moves so fast now, there’s no way to develop connections like that anymore
@@r4lfxdwhich is the point right? Limited choices makes choosing easier
As a teenager, dating apps for teens are usually filled with predators, so I have never downloaded one
well, as a teenager, dating apps are meant for adults.. so you're not really supposed to be on there.
There are dating apps for teens?
@@brainstorm7709nope
I didn't realize there were dating apps for teens. That definitely shouldn't be legal as demonstrated by this comment
Yeah, using them when I turned 18 was a mistake. Use the apps when you're a little older
On a train home in NYC, I saw someone I thought was stunning. I thought about saying something, maybe complimenting his outfit, but decided not to take the risk. When I got off the train, I looked back at him as the train was leaving, and saw he was looking at me with the same longing look I must’ve been giving him. That’s the first time a “what if” really felt like a loss. TAKE A CHANCE!!
It's all about looks.
Women have it so easy
If you are a woman, you are right. As a man who is not really good looking or really has good charisma - it is just absurdly high risk. Not of rejection, rejection is normal and default. Humiliation. Latest since women started to film and put people who dared to approach or just look at them on TikTok, I know I will not do any kind of move with anybody I don`t know prior. It has become incredibly high risk.
I can take someone saying no to me. I just can't take being humiliated afterwards. @@ChristiansPlaymo-Ecke
Vindicador.01 : Women don't have it easier. Women being most r4pe victims means they don't have it easier at all.
How do you know it's a girl and not a guy writing the comment?
almost all the people I've dated, I met through non-dating apps. I think the problem with the apps is that it's a foundation of "we were both bored and/or horny" rather than "we both like [thing xyz]" and deeper, meaningful relationships are kind of doomed from the start that way.
Which apps? 🤔👀
@@kiarainga2039think about it...Tinder, eHarmony pretty much any well known dating app overtaken by horny ppl who aren't even looking for love.
Are you trying to cheat on your AI girlfriend?
We need to cancel her 😡😡
SCANDALOUS
Ikr that was a pretty organically and solid relationship and she wants to ruin it 😭😭 some people don’t know what they got until they lose it
poor benevolenciaga
The streets 😟✋
i met my wife on reddit and that's not even a joke lmao idk if that's better or worse than tinder but hey atleast it was organic-ish lol
How did you do that?
@@eleniusxx well she made a post about basically being depressed and i commented on it agreeing, she replied back, then we talked about how misserable life was for several days there untill we eventually moved to our own chat and then to having eachother number, and now here we are lmao, honestly no idea it would last this long, but we're both doing great now so i'll take it as a win lol
@@twistedreality997 Interesting that you just so happened to match in age (similar at least), location and even looks preference when you met. Cool story and I hope both of you are well now!
My roomie met her fiance on reddit too haha! And I met my spouse on Discord lmao. I love how unexpected places on the internet can lead to stuff like this
@@eleniusxxGo to the right subreddits, preferably small and not toxic. It can be a good way to find people with same interests. Defly better than dating apps.
I suppose these days the main issue with meeting people organically offline is even if you do meet someone you feel attracted to and try to ask them out, there is a decent chance that they might already be in a relationship and you're almost forced to either dance around the subject hoping that they randomly mention it or take the chance and risk it, potentially leading to a rather awkward moment afterwards if that was the case. At least with dating apps "in theory", everyone whose active on there is seeking out someone to meet with, although then you just have to get past all of the other massive flaws that some with using them.
I don't know if there is a "high chance", but the risk of them possibly already being in a relationship seems too scary to take. it's what we tell ourselves to convince ourselves it's not worth it and there's no chance of it working out when we really don't know
Sure, but I have heard too many instances of people casually dating or in relationships being on the apps that I no longer think it's a reliable source for single ppl
@@dee7519what's so scary? if they are in a relationship it's not the end of the world. worst case worse they're a dick about it or something but in that case you just know that you dodged a bullet, and if they're nice about it then yeah it sucks but at least they weren't rude about it.
For me my fear is also finally getting the courage to ask someone, and then it turns out I got it wrong and they're not also gay 🥲
We incels are right women are the judges of a man worth in this society a man cam be anything but if women are not attracted to him,if he is single for too long or if he doesn't have a "rizz" is a looser and all the weight of judgment falls on him.
But here are some reasons why dating is impossible for young men feel free to dispute me:
There are more men than women specially below 40
If you are broke then the chance It is minimal unless you have good looks
More female asexuals than male asexuals
Women are much more picky,choosy,judgy specially in dating
Women They are much content alone than men, due in part to the little society punishment that single women have,single men suffer humiliation, degradation and displacement specially virgin men
Virgin men are unattractive to most women
Most women have plenty of options,most men are lucky if they have two due to supply and demand men desire women more,most women are attracted to a small amount of men,the top ones but most men are attracted to most women
Short guys(5'6 and below)are unattractive to almost all women
Men have to do the approach
Women have much lower sex drive than men and are more harder to arouse.
We are right in almost every point yet people like to lie.
Men are in the most risky jobs and also more men die in much more numbers and also die younger wtf,and women tell themselves they are the ones that are opressed If Elliot rodger had been a woman I am 100% sure wouldn't have a any problem having a partner, women have it so easy its infuriating 😡😡😡
A lot of this is also the lack of third places and there’s little need to be out in public to fulfill social needs. There isn’t really anywhere to go actually meet new people. Everyone I know has either met at work, school, or a dating app. There’s no one meeting romantically in the grocery store or at a popping night in a diner. You just kind of have to get lucky
I feel like the best way to meet new people is by meeting your friends' other friends! Works pretty well for me
Yes in this day and time meeting people doesn’t have by chance. You have to put yourself out there and dating apps are the most direct way of doing that.
"There’s no one meeting romantically in the grocery store"
I don't think this was ever common.
Tell me ... I am immune suppressed and broke^^. Even if I could afford to go out - which I can`t cause everything became so fuckign expensive and literally everything has to be paid for by now - it would mostly be indoors and in the area I life 40% of peole, women more than men, aren`t vaccinated so talking to a stranger is an actual life risk for me by now and even if I could afford the prices a night in a bar will more likely cost me my life than lead to anything^^. Doesn`t help i am also ... Not ugly, but mid. But with so many options for women, being normal-looking puts me basically in the same spot as Quasimodo look-wise^^. So I can chooose between being ignored and probably die in real life or being ignored and getting into a spiral of ever deeper depression online^^.
Your skits have this inner rage that I can't help but get excited about. There is truth in all your absurdity. You just be spending time writing and refining the act, and it really shows!
I mean there are literally jobs out there where you have to write other people's dating profiles so the PR team thing isn't too far off, lol
where and how do i apply??
we as a society need to embrace the inherent sexiness of loser lesbianism
I will quote this fo4 the rest of my life
Count me in then
took a screenshot lmao
Yes
@@FakeName-xu3yp ...the fear of blood?
pov: you know 2 ppl that met on a dating app, not wanting anything serious and now theyre married for like 15 years with 2 kids (yes, theyre my parents)💀😭🤞
15 years ago dating apps were a thing!? 😳
@@schmoemi3386dating sites
my parents met on friendfinder
@@schmoemi3386 surprisingly yes, but I dont think it was tinder where they met
Anything that happened on dating apps 15 years ago is not comparable to today's conditions.
As a gay guy, sometimes it feels like dating apps are the only option. I’ve never met a single gay guy anywhere other than on dating apps. So if there’s no chance of meeting someone organically, what other choice is there?
Dido, I'm someone who's Bisexual, I can agree. What was your experience on Grindr?
As a bi guy mainly into guys, same.
I live in a rural area at the moment so there really isn't that many queer men for me to meet. I've given up on dating until I can move tbh cause even on the apps I haven't had much luck.
@@user74027nh join the club honestly. I live in a small college town and the guys that hit me up are way older or heavier than me.
@@user74027nhI am sorry but bisexuals sucks? almost everyone..my ex was bi and he ditched me after 1 yr cz he said he will have to get married to a female in future so he doesn't want to get attached with me .. (in India it's hard being a gay guy)
@@monjyotiboro.Why are you projecting your trauma onto this random man 😭😭😭
I tried using HER to make friends because I don't know a lot of local queers (I'm a boring professional that is very indoorsy) I find myself not finding anyone bothering to really post legit things and despite it being for WLW only, bizarre amount of men on it.
Dating apps are terrible. For everything. Tired BFF mode in Bumble and that failed too.
Yeeees, I tried using HER as well, the amounting of men there is disturbing. Also people usually stopped responding after a while or the conversation just died.
It's so wild as a lesbian myself I'm almost 20 and never got in a relationship! I never did online dating and relate more to when you talked about people from the 60s. It's sucks but it feels very much as a if you aren't not a dating app there never feels like a reason to do so. More of a would I rather be lonely or be depressed trying to use a dating app.
Omg same lol
Plenty of straight 20 year olds are in the same boat. It’s everyone that’s more alone these days.
Wtf are you serious try being a virgin man we incels are right women are the judges of a man worth in this society a man cam be anything but if women are not attracted to him,if he is single for too long or if he doesn't have a "rizz" is a looser and all the weight of judgment falls on him.
But here are some reasons why dating is impossible for young men feel free to dispute me:
There are more men than women specially below 40
If you are broke then the chance It is minimal unless you have good looks
More female asexuals than male asexuals
Women are much more picky,choosy,judgy specially in dating
Women They are much content alone than men, due in part to the little society punishment that single women have,single men suffer humiliation, degradation and displacement specially virgin men
Virgin men are unattractive to most women
Most women have plenty of options,most men are lucky if they have two due to supply and demand men desire women more,most women are attracted to a small amount of men,the top ones but most men are attracted to most women
Short guys(5'6 and below)are unattractive to almost all women
Men have to do the approach
Women have much lower sex drive than men and are more harder to arouse.
We are right in almost every point yet people like to lie.
Men are in the most risky jobs and also more men die in much more numbers and also die younger wtf,and women tell themselves they are the ones that are opressed If Elliot rodger had been a woman I am 100% sure wouldn't have a any problem having a partner, women have it so easy its infuriating 😡😡😡
emily isn't a chef but she is feeding us with these weekly uploads
The heterosexual male tinder experience is awful as well. For most of us at least, men outnumber women on tinder 5 to 1 so the competition is crazy. I was on it for several years off and on from age 18-21 and it honestly took quite a toll on my mental health in the form of loss of self esteem and confidence that I still struggle with today at almost 25. In that time period I went on dates with 2 women one of which resulted in a very low quality 3 month relationship and I know a ton of guys who have never gotten a single date out of tinder after years of use. I haven’t been on it since I was 21 and have no plans to go back. I hope I can meet someone organically one day but in the mean time I’m just kinda doing me I guess.
As an average male, dating apps are absolutely pointless. You can only lose: your self-esteem, a lot of precious lifetime, and (optionally) a lot of money...
@@schmoemi3386 100% right. It just sucks man I don’t know how you’re supposed to meet anyone anymore. Ironic how in the digital age humanity is more connected, and simultaneously more lonely that ever.
I literally had it for a week and could see the game thats being played. It definitely hit my self esteem hard though. But you'll only ever be you so if you're tryna be the best version of that, thats good enough.
@@540wildin4 Yeah that's kind of why Tate was so popular. When you ask women what they want and add it up it sounds more and more like they want Andrew Tate because that's what's on the cover of every romance novel. So when one woman says she doesn't want men approaching her in her friend group, and another woman says she doesn't want men approaching her in public, then you can't just psychically know which is which, you have to never approach women anywhere.
It's the same when women say what they actually find attractive. You basically have to be Andrew Tate to get a date, a guy that sleeps with hundreds of women and is willing to lie long enough and pretend to love them.
@@ikilledthemoon no offense man but you sound pretty out of touch with reality. It’s sad I have to say this but women are individual human beings each with their own unique experiences, thoughts, and opinions. There is no one size fits all man that every woman wants. If you’re struggling to find dates the first thing I’d do is stop talking about Andrew Tate.
Okay but can we quickly talk about how clean this whole channel is?! The amount of work that is put into every single video must be crazy. Much love because this is just wow💗
One issue for me, re: meeting people organically, is that yes there's shyness and the idea that there's always someone else but, also, as a 30 year old, large, (mostly) straight, black man I genuinely worry about making women feel uncomfortable if I approach them - especially coming from communities where catcalling and harassment are not uncommon. Part of it is probably just my social anxiety talking but there are very real, even if subconscious, feelings people might hold which will influence how they respond to me or how they'll feel about me approaching them and I'm very wary of that.
Super relatable
Entirely straight 30 something black man here. Meeting people “organically” was for when we were below 25 and you could either eventually get that girl in your Spanish class to go out with you or you were out on the town with your friends enough there was a steady flow of unattached women your age in your life. If your lifestyle is currently one where you alternate between work and home and the occasional social event … opportunities for romance are dwindling. The last time I got a date out of a friend of a friend was right before the pandemic. Dating apps unfortunately have to be part of my game plan
@@TheJadedJamesthis is completely wrong. You just need to find a third place or find social hobbies
@@SecretlyStarscream I get what people are saying with that. But I have friends, we are in our mid 30s & coupled up. I have hobbies, but if I do them with the hope of meeting a single woman my age who would want to go out with me … the odds just aren’t as in my favor as they were 10 years ago. There was a time when I didn’t have to be actively looking for a relationship, yet I existed with the social circumstances where one could happen if I was open to it, and that time in my life is objectively over barring a quantum shift in my career trajectory
30 year old white bisexual manlet in the same boat of trying to balance not being too shy and not just being a harasser.
oh my GOD did this video hit for me! i’ve been using dating apps since i turned 18 (20 now) and i’ve literally only gotten tons and tons of overly sexual messages from men, no actual dates cause everyone just wants to hookup or be fwbs! i’m pansexual, but even so i haven’t had many experiences with women either since i also find it hard to find queer women on dating apps
but now that we have established this, i’m shooting my shot rn. through the youtube comments because why wouldn’t i find emily attractive like? 20 year old black female, i think it’s time you get someone genuine gorl 🙏🏽
edit: it’s actually really sad reading though the comments and all of us having the same disappointing experience with dating apps. like how hard is it to have a decent conversation with someone without mentioning something sexual-? 😭
Omg not asking someone out on youtube😭
Girl maybe you should look at groups in your city e.g language exchange, book club etc to meet people❤
fwbs?
@@HannHio-kv1ky i’m bold what can i say 😋 that would be a good idea if i weren’t in such a small town
@@nicor3612 means friends with benefits… aka all the couple stuff without the commitment :/
@nicor3612 fwbs stands for Friends With Benefits if that’s what you are asking
Emily isnt a waiter but she served 💅
Wait I usual hear people say [insert UA-camr] may not be pregnant but still delivers. Finally a new comment😊
nope this her worst video, she is better than this.
@@Tethloach1 who??
@@Tethloach1tf
@@Tethloach1 asked
You are so relatable and so good at explaining my frustrations with so many things. Dating apps are just set up so poorly for real connections, but meeting people organically as a gay is not easy
This made me feel less alone.. dating apps are just universally terrible
I think a huge issue with dating apps is that you're almost forced to be superficial, and you subsequently feel really bad about it. Like you're given this massive selection of people to swipe on and it ends up being super tedious going through their profiles, so you end up giving yourself like VERY superficial 5 second criteria to determine if somebody is worth swiping right on (stuff like are they pretty, do they have nice bodies, do they look rich, do they look friendly, etc) and it just ends up being a super miserable experience. Every time I install a dating app (not just Tinder, but like Hinge and Bumble too) I end up this way where I swipe left on A LOT of girls because I judge like their entire backstory and character from looking at a picture for 5 seconds, or even if I do swipe on a girl and we match I judge them (or get judged) by like the first message LOL. And honestly I reckon it's even worse for straight women because there are like roughly 5x more men on dating apps than women, so straight women need to be even more selective cus of the abundance of dudes swiping on them. Dating apps are sucky
I was on a dating app for a month and had a lot of men "show interest" in me and message me but they Would Not hold a conversation. I ended up having to drop the bar to the lowest of low of "actually talks to me." Once a man held a conversation I was asked out on a date and now we're coming up on 6 years married. I 100% know i got stupid lucky. But my goodness. Straight men don't know how to talk to people its insane
@@kathyhenry9512 this is exactly the standards I've stooped to after being on there for a month 😭 it makes me wonder if I'm just too dry or if I'm doing something wrong all the damn time...
@@kathyhenry9512tbh, i also heard many cases of the tables being turned where the guy would ask questions, try to spark conversations but the girls reply will literally only be "yes" "ok" "no" "dont know" "lol" and not try to make a single effort for reply longer than 3 words.
I honestly think dating apps make it so easy that most people dont even try. You can match with people while being naked on the toilet.
@@kathyhenry9512that’s not true at all. Some straight men know exactly how to talk to people and women. Somehow women tend to go for the bad boy. The cowboy. If a guy is too talkative too nice too friendly or something like that. He becomes a candidate for the friend zone.
Dating apps are hell for men also. Women can be very flaky and all of those men looking for something are ultimately struggling to get noticed at all. As the smaller percentage of women tend to all go after certain men(I.e. the bad boy)
@@amiyrbarclift1640 This is a really common misconception among straight men. The notion that women don't like "nice guys" is not true, it's more that generally they are put off by a lack of confidence that so-called "nice guys" have (and I think a lot of straight men lack confidence and self respect on dating apps. This was definitely true of me when I was on them!). Sure, women might like a confident "jerk" over an unconfident nice guy, but 10 times out of 10 they'll pick a confident nice guy over a confident jerk. As a guy, it's crucial for you to be authentic, cus if your authentic self is a nice person, then you'll be nice without any expectation (whereas unconfident "nice guys" tend to have expectations about the interactions they have with women, which women generally can smell from miles away) and ironically that lack of neediness is something people find attractive.
Anytime I get the urge to download an app, I will now scream “swiper, no swiping!” 😂
dating apps suck bc like... so many connections are forced. like we both think the other one is hot, we have to date now!
What's hard about dating apps is its shallow regardless of how you do it. Like even if you made a dating app without pictures and only bios, you are still choosing someone based on very surface level details about them.
I personally just couldn't find any connections on there because I NEED that face to face interaction to have any level of chemistry with someone. Even if I would talk to someone for like a week over text, I never got to the point of feeling genuinely happy or excited talking to them. So I deleted all dating apps because they were basically a chore. I know every type of dating will have its tough spots, but at the end of the day finding a new partner should be a fun and exciting experience so I just stopped wasting my time on feeling miserable for the sake of finding someone.
But then again, haven’t people always been shallow to some extent?
That second part is veery true tho, same here, texting in general just doesn’t feel *nearly* the same
@@NotYourIliad For sure, one aspect of dating will always be outward appearance and basic things like having hobbies in common. However, for me just being around the person and feeling their energy makes a MAJOR difference. Like I could find someone physically attractive, have loads in common with them, but hate being around them. On a dating app, you can't feel out that energy to create that deeper bond past the superficial stuff.
I spent about a year on dating apps (18-19) and went on about 70 dates cause I like doing fun things, I hate hookups tho so a lot of guys and girls lost interest when I showed I didn't want that. I'm 20, almost 21 now, I met my loving boyfriend of a year and a half on tinder and people are shocked when I tell them.
Are you bi
@@caitlingillyes
@@caitlingill does that detail matter?
@@MeemahSN yeah it's crazy for a straight guy to go on that many dates in just 2 years, since he doesn't even have half of that many options to begin with. Girls and bi people makes sense.
How did you get that many dates?
I remember when I use TInder that I only get 2 matches, I did get into some kind of conversation with one of them, and the other clearly show she have no interest in chatting with me so I just stop. After that I still using the app for about a month and got no other matches. So the Idea of 70 dates is mind blowing to me that got exactly 0 😅😅😅
Honestly once you made the comparison that tinder profiles are basically resumes life just suddenly made sense
My tinder bio used to be “I’m just here recruiting for my future cult” and it landed me a whole ass spouse
That was an un-ironically great bio because it filtered for someone who shared your sense of humor. People should do what you did instead of making themselves look bad by listing all their preferences.
I’m only a teenager with no relationship experience but I can only imagine it’s SOO hard for queer people and people looking for serious relationships not to rely dating apps. I’m also a femme lesbian so it’s hell for everyone who I’m interested in dating. I don’t know how people meet organically especially in conservative countries like where I live & I’m planning to move to the US probably. Human connection got so much harder for everyone with more and more advanced tech lol the irony is astounding.
Real
I haven’t personally been on the dating scene for two decades, but one kinda-sorta organic way I’ve observed being successful at generating long-term relationships is in-person shared interests. As banal as it sounds, hobbies, fandoms, et. al. seems to get people connecting - romantically or otherwise. Where I live it’s one of the few real ways to make friends and to break into circles, after you’re done with school. We’re a social species, and hobbies self-select for semi-compatible personalities you interact with repeatedly.
Tinder is like looking through the dumpster. And very rarely you can find someone else’s discarded treasure.
Someone's trash is another person's treasure.
Dating apps are so depressing. No one wants to commit as well. I meet the courting era😭
One dating app my sister really likes is blindmate. It's an interesting concept where a friend or someone else swipes for you and make your dating profile mostly.
I got her 5 chats and I feel like it's less shallow than Tinder etc
It's not avail in my region 😭 it sounds very fun
Emily: “historically I’ve only liked other femme women”
Me, a masc nb that will literally never meet her: 😭😭😭
😭😭 no cause emily is so fine
This video came at a perfect time bc I was just talking about being tired of being single for awhile and wanting to use dating apps since I was desperate. I’ve used dating apps before but I never really met anyone for a date because I was afraid of meeting guys in person for the first time. When I did try to meet up with a guy, he bailed and ghosted me so that’s when I gave up. Other times I would be talking to someone and then they just stop replying and I get disappointed.
But it’s kind of hard to meet someone if you have social anxiety and don’t have many connections
Ghosting, catfishing, posting old photos with filters or angles that portray themselves incorrectly, etc. I mean, that's a good portion of online dating, and you're going to experience this whether you're a woman, man, straight, gay, etc. But if you want a lasting connection with somebody and want to experience this, you have to sort through the bad to find the good. That's just the way it is. It was that way before online dating apps too, but the dating apps made it worse. I think in large part because when you met people IRL, you knew ahead of time that you had chemistry before you set up any date. You also saw each other in person, so catfishing or misrepresentation was not going to be an issue. It was also more organic because people who date online date for superficial reasons. They have a list of things they want in a partner, basically like a grocery list. And they won't talk to somebody unless they meet this certain criteria. But that's not how dating should work. IRL, you would concede on some of these "requirements", because you developed chemistry with somebody, so when you went on a date you didn't care that they didn't make enough money, or they might have been a couple inches shorter than you prefer, or 15 lbs heavier. You didn't expect perfection out of your partner. But people today seem to want perfection. Love isn't perfect.
Meet people through your hobbies and interests. I've had lots of flings through apps, but anything meaningful has been from people I met first as just friends doing things like some outdoor activity, political activism, or even church (the Episcopal and Unitarian churches are very chill about LGBT issues, I even dated an Episcopal priest who was out).
This is my next approach. I’m on the Meetup app where I meet people based on shared hobbies. My thing is I’m a possibly straight woman and most of my groups are all women 😅. But also that only works if you’re not expecting it, and I’m constantly obsessing over it every time I see someone attractive.
what country is that, I'd like to move there 😭
@@tylajo.moonflower I think that works more for gay men than it does for women. Maybe not you, because obviously not all women are the same. But generally, women tend to categorize people as friends or love interests. There's very little to zero crossover. Even if she might have initially been physically attracted to a guy, if she got to know him and became friends with him, then for most women she's categorized him as a friend. Where as for men there is no such thing. If a man is physically attracted to you, no amount of friendship is going to change that. A man will cross over that friendship line in a heartbeat if he's attracted to her(or him).
If you are not that type of woman, and you can be attracted to a guy(or a gal) who is a friend then it can work for you. You'd have more luck with a guy friend though, because I think lesbians are often the same with friendship/love interests, not wanting to date a friend.
FWIW, I do not know why this is. I don't know if it's because women want spontaneous love(it's more exciting) or if it's some innate biological drive... i.e. females tend to seek out diverse genetic material in mates. Our ancient ancestors, females would often wander away from the tribe to choose a male from outside of the group. This was an instinct to vary the genetic material of potential offspring. So females were inherently attracted to "something new", and it can still be observed in our primate cousins. So maybe this is just a manifestation of that. Anyway, sorry, I'm rambling.
@@turinturambar347 that’s a good point. My thing is since I’ve never been in a relationship I don’t know what method of falling in love works for me as yet. But I have been on dates from apps and so far I’ve been out with a few dates who seem to fall in love with me by the second date, enough that they want to kiss me. Meanwhile on the second date they’re still a stranger to me, so I don’t feel comfortable kissing them. And while I’ve never been in a relationship, I have fallen in love with someone I first considered a friend, and the longer the friendship went on, the more I fell in love with them. That’s why I feel like I’m more likely to fall in love with someone if we’re friends first. I need that familiarity to see them as a potential romantic partner and be more comfortable with them in a romantic setting. But that’s just a theory for now. I can see why you said what you said, considering it’s been hard to find a man who accommodates my inability to fall in love right away.
@@turinturambar347 that’s a good point. My thing is that I’ve never been in a relationship, so I’m not sure what method of falling in love works for me yet. But I have been on dates before with a few people who fell in love with me, enough that they want to kiss me on the second date. On the second date they’re still a stranger to me so I don’t feel comfortable kissing them yet. However, I fell in love with someone I was friends with, and I fell more in love with them the longer I was friends with them, and it was mutual. So that’s why I feel like being friends with someone first works better for me since I can build enough familiarity with them to be comfortable with them in a romantic setting. I can see why you said what you said, because I’ve been having trouble finding men who are patient enough to accommodate my inability to fall in love fast enough 😅.
I'm 25yo, never dated, I've only kissed once in my life. But I would never try Tinder or any other app like that. I'm just waiting for a miracle tbh lol
Me too 🥺
I met my husband at a Renaissance faire. We were both performers, and it was a small faire, so eventually you kinda know everyone and can meet someone that may be interested in you. That was almost 20 years ago and I cannot imagine trying to meet someone through an app! Can we normalize in-personal socializing again, please?
Emily’s chemistry with herself is strangely palpable lmao she totally has her potential for an actress conveying a lot of roles!
Nowadays I spend more time changing and admiring my own profile like "DAMN this is a well-curated profile, wow you're so attractive and you've put so much effort into this 😍" than I do actually swiping on other people. Thank you dating apps for helping me fall in love with myself again!
Nothing has more ruthlessly and efficiently crushed my self-esteem quite like dating apps. Putting tons of effort into my bio and pictures, taking advice from the internet and irl friends, all for it to lead to absolutely nothing. Maybe three matches (all ghosts) over 3 years or so. I'm probably going to die alone.
Everytime Emily posts a new video a cycle begins:
Watch the video
Watch it again and again and again
Binge watch her old videos until a new video comes up
Watch the video
Watch it again and again and again...
Exactly, between the copypasta bios, superficial swiping, and the utter dread I feel when I get a push notification I'm not sure why I haven't deleted them. Like you said the two minute serotonin boost I get from curating my profile to look like a bad bitch is enough to keep me coming back.
honestly tho
me making my profile, high on my own supply: "wow I'm like the total package, I'm gonna get so many likes"
me when someone matches with me and tries talking to me: "oh sh-t oh f-ck, why did they like me, why did I do this--"
better playing the Sims, or Elden ring (you'll suffer but at least you gonna have fun)
Lesbian femme who is attracted to other femmes here. I feel so annoyed that it feels so hard to find a girlfriend without wanting to get involved with hookup culture. At times i open tinder and just feel such a low vibe of treating people like a meat catelogue that i close it immediately.
Also your PR manager character gives such top vibes that it lowkey increased my crush for you.
For me, there are 3 essential questions when dating:
1) who did you vote?
2) how many showers do you take on a day?
3) cats or dogs?
(I live in brazil, so I consider this very important)
But the thing is, you don't know who your person is. Your person might be somebody who disagrees with you on one of those things. They might have a slightly different standard of hygiene, they may have different political views(so long as not too extremely different), and they might prefer cats when you like dogs, or vice versa. Limiting yourself to superficial things you might miss out on a really great partner. The saying "opposites attract" isn't exactly a saying that comes from nowhere. People who have too much in common often fizzle out. Sometimes those differences can keep a relationship new and exciting and can give a lot of things to talk about.
Mine are
1) do you support lgbtq+
2) (im gonna steal ur 2 cuz that's a great one)
3) are you an anti furry/therian (obv lol)
I shower every other day because showering more than 3 or 4 times a week can damage your skin. I mean it is okay if you do some like construction working, where you are constantly exposed to dirt and heavy sweating but apart from that it's not really recommend by dermatologists, as far as I know.🤔
Hi! So I was actually a dating coach for a bit and you are absolutely right that one of the reasons a lot of people struggle with the scene is because it feels like there are too many options! There are plenty of ways to meet people organically, but the best way I lile to recommend is through volunteering on an issue you enjoy. When you volunteer, the options there are already people who you know at least have one kind of similar interest to bond over and they make time for something important which are already good traits! The best ways to meet people are by proximity that require dedication such as school, outside clubs/activities, and work (only if you guys are no coworkers, if they work in a different branch or something similar). While trying to meet people at bars, clubs or even stuff like cafes, there tends to be the idea that it will be a short term relationship/fling
Just wanna take a moment to appreciate Emily’s acting and the work she puts into scenes for these videos. ❤
I downloaded a dating app after over a year or longer and I just realised that men aren’t very interesting so I’m deleting it soon. Like I literally tried to create fun conversations but my shoulders got tired from carrying them so I unmatched all
This type of comment reeks of narcissism, stupidity and a lack of awareness.
Men are just as interesting as women. But you can't find much about a person online. I think many of the people you find to not be interesting would be interesting in real life. Or many people who you wouldn't bother to talk to online would be interesting in real life.
But the difference between dating organically IRL, is you get to see a person's real personality before you even decide to go on a date. Chemistry is difficult to gauge online.
One common complaint I hear from both men and women who are dating online is that the men/women on the apps aren't interesting. Nah. You haven't met the right one.
Wtf are you serius We incels are right women are the judges of a man worth in this society a man cam be anything but if women are not attracted to him,if he is single for too long or if he doesn't have a "rizz" is a looser and all the weight of judgment falls on him.
But here are some reasons why dating is impossible for young men feel free to dispute me:
There are more men than women specially below 40
If you are broke then the chance It is minimal unless you have good looks
More female asexuals than male asexuals
Women are much more picky,choosy,judgy specially in dating
Women They are much content alone than men, due in part to the little society punishment that single women have,single men suffer humiliation, degradation and displacement specially virgin men
Virgin men are unattractive to most women
Most women have plenty of options,most men are lucky if they have two due to supply and demand men desire women more,most women are attracted to a small amount of men,the top ones but most men are attracted to most women
Short guys(5'6 and below)are unattractive to almost all women
Men have to do the approach
Women have much lower sex drive than men and are more harder to arouse.
We are right in almost every point yet people like to lie.
Men are in the most risky jobs and also more men die in much more numbers and also die younger wtf,and women tell themselves they are the ones that are opressed If Elliot rodger had been a woman I am 100% sure wouldn't have a any problem having a partner, women have it so easy its infuriating 😡😡😡
I mean, duh? Most things seem less interesting over text. "U have any hobbies?" answered with "I wrestle and I really like being in the kitchen" is going to be less impactful than seeing someone train for wrestling in the gym you go to, meet them and maybe do a cooking date after you get to know each other a bit.
So real saying you don't want to say you met on a dating app haha. But I've embraced the fact that me and my boyfriend did meet on Hinge and now whenever someone asks how we met I, with full chest, say we met on a dating app and love to see the different reactions, sometimes people just don't know what to think even though it is so common these days. Like literally 3/4 of my friends who were in a relationship actually met their SO on a dating app. I think tbf it is tinder which gives them all a bad rep because of the game-like nature of it.
I don't think i'll ever try dating apps. I just want friends to lovers :,)
I dated a LOT on apps and the frustrating part was meeting someone and knowing within the first 2 minutes you weren't going to work but since they made the effort to meet up, u had to play along for like 2 hours, make an excuse to leave and then send them a friendzone message ugh im exhausted just thinking about it.
yuuuppppppppppppppppppppppppppppppp
"Your brests are asymmetrical, BYE 👹👺👹👺" will be stuck in my head for a while 💀💀💀💀
me, who never went on a single date and has no intention of ever using a dating app ever: Interesting 🤔
I can relate to the whole "developing feelings for someone you aren't physically attracted to initially" thing, because a very similar phenomenon was how I discovered that I was bisexual.
As someone who used dating apps during the Tinder boom my freshman year of college, and has matched a total of 2 people and met 0, I have no idea how to even try and date anymore and I'm 30.
Damn girl. As a lesbian, that story about your high school crush is hilariously relatable. "awwooogaAhh!!1"
the experience for men vs women, the only real difference is quantity. the quality is pretty garbage overall
There is one thing though. Women are far more picky when choosing men than men are when choosing women. Most women wouldn't date themselves if there were a male version of themselves. Most women are competing for a very small pool of men. This small pool of men know it. So while most men online might be nice or at least tolerable, there's a very small pool of men who know they are sought after. Most men get only a few messages if any at all, so this small pool of men are getting the vast majority of interest. They know it and for many it goes to their head. Much like a supermodel might be toxic towards men trying to date her, these sought after men can be toxic towards women. They don't care what they say because they'll just move on to the next. But I think you'd be surprised how many women they pick up with that toxicity. I had an old friend who was one of these guys. He was a good friend, but a toxic guy when it came to dating. I wouldn't recommend him to any woman. He was the type who sent dick pics. And he slept with over 100 women in one year. I'm not even kidding. This man has slept with over 1,000 women total. And the things he says are nasty. But he is very good looking and he has money. So each woman thinks she's going to be the one who changes him. And btw, he did settle down recently. So I guess one woman did change him. But if you're a woman....your odds are not good that you're going to change a guy. And I'm still not convinced he's changed. Give it 5 years, I suspect he's going to eventually get bored and stray. But I guess I could be wrong.
as a 5,7 man tinder and other apps were a humbling experiance
It's crazy how nonchalant they are about it too. Like if men speak even remotely the same about a woman's weight, he's considered a pig, a misogynist, etc. But women, they'll just bluntly trash you for being short and act like it's no big deal and "preferences are just preferences".
Ironically I say this as a tall guy. But I have many short friends and they've shared their experiences with me. It's horrendous. I get it if a woman has preferences, but they are so blatant about it and completely comfortable in saying it. Feminism has taken a strong stance on shaming men for what they do, but they will never bother to criticize women for what they do.
Noo 5'7 is a decent height wtf, don't get disheartened those superficial people can never look at the real person
Haha I met my current boyfriend on Hinge :) we're over 1 year strong! I like to reflect on how crazy it is that we landed on each other on the app especially since he had just come back to the US from England and I had just stopped seeing another guy I had been dating. A lot of timing had to be exactly right for it and it blows my mind. So that kind of supplements for the lack of a more organic meeting.
7:17 Human beings naturally develop attractions to whom they're around. It's why someone "goes native" when is in a foreign country.
And that's they problem: the person you end up falling in love with is someone you'd never considered to be your type. They become your type because it's them, the person, to whom you're attracted. And dating apps encourage its users to expect a "sweep me off my feet" romance from the first 10 minutes.
That's not the way love works. That's the way lust and fiction (which is often just lust disguised as love) work.
Dating apps are contributing to the birth rate decline. I don't know how much, but probably quite a bit.
Exactly, you’re so right. I’ve been on so many dates where they turn me down after the first date. And don’t get me wrong, they have a right to if they’re not interested. But often times it’s the same on my end too except I always think to give them a second chance since you can’t expect an accurate first impression on a date. Sometimes people get nervous and aren’t themselves, just like me. But after every first date they end it before I could give them a second chance so that’s that. Dating would be more successful if people weren’t expecting total romantic connection after a first date.
@@tylajo.moonflower " Sometimes people get nervous and aren’t themselves"
Heh. I had some many first dates I eventually came to except that this date was probably going to be the one and only and just sorta stopped getting nervous. I also wasn't excited.
Our queen looks stunning as always💕😭✋
haven't watched the video yet but i just wanted to say that the one and only time i went on tinder, i got bombarded with the absolute nastiest profiles and messages in my whole life 😭😭
I hate dating apps, and have had very little success with them (well, only Tinder) in the past. However, I have no clue whatsoever how to meet anyone any other way!
Where I live suburban sprawl is as bad as could be so meeting in person is unrealistic.
@@SlashinatorZ Meeting in person feels unrealistic no matter where you live!
12:34 HELPPPPP THE HOPEFUL “me ?”
They don't kinda suck...the 100% suck. The book The Dating App Confessions by Logan Tindell has some pretty fun stories about them.
this has me bursting out laughing not many creators deliver this kind of honesty so creatively these scenes you turn your points into are so so good thank you seriously hehe
Every tinder date I’ve been on has been so awkward. Obviously that’s just me personally, I know loads of people who met through dating apps and are in happy relationships. But I feel like being mutually attracted to each other and having similar interests doesn’t equal chemistry. It helps, but doesn’t mean you will get along a lot of the time. I met my current girlfriend through friends, and I feel like that’s been the most natural way of getting to know anyone I’ve dated before. But, being gay makes it a lot more difficult to find potential spouses in ‘the real world’ so often dating apps are really the only option for us awkward gays. I just got lucky, if I hadn’t met her I’d still be on tinder desperately trying to find a relationship.
In the olden days, there were less people than there are now, BUTTT.... , now we have more people and it's harder to meet organically now than in the past😢.
As a lesbian, I agree 100%... I also live in a rural area too so no lesbians here...
I got lucky recently and met my gf on a dating app, but she lives in a completely different country so LDR it is. Met her on the Her app, I still wouldn't recommend the app because honestly she's a rare exception.
I legit gave up on the apps a while ago and kept it just to laugh at all the dumb profiles I saw... but then one day I got a like from her and I liked her back, and it went from there.
You got dates? I couldn’t even land a match as an average asian dude. And when I did the very few that matched didn’t reply. 💀
As someone who has never been on a dating app, I feel like a good idea for a dating app would be one that allows you to only "connect" with one person a day. You view their profile and decide if you want to actually talk to them. The thing is, whether or not you say yes, you can't actually connect with anyone else that day, which will make people more willing to meet people when they otherwise would say, "there is probably better out there." Then, if you decide to talk to someone, you aren't able to meet anyone new until you decide to end your chat with them. To be fair, a lot of issues with dating apps are also issues with modern dating in general, so something like this probably won't be accepted well, but I feel like having so many options is probably the worst part about dating apps, and this would fix some of those issues.
Thats what Hinge used to be before it got bought by tinder and turned into a paywall app for anyone youd actually swipe on
I met my girlfriend on HER, but I feel dumb telling people we met on a dating app, so I've just been saying "the robots brought us together :)"
You are hilarious, love the acting, has me in stitches 🤣
"I might even sleep with someone else"
"Me?"
"No"
Hahahaha.
I feel like romantism has died a little due to this modern dating age.
When I use dating apps I always end up feeling as if I'm not good enough. I mean, as depressing as it sounds the only likes I get on dating apps are from bots or people trying to get me into a crypto scam.
Don't get me wrong, I could definitely be the problem, I simply never know.
I'm 23 and I've met all my partners organically. Through school, mutual friends, parties. I'm also not that interested in dating, though, so I'm probably more willing to wait until something comes along.
When she say "meet organically" and my thought goes "So we are plants now? Cool, cool, loving it"
as a guy I never feel attractive or good enough to use dating apps.
PREACH
i felt this in my soul my guy@@un4given830
I feel the same as a woman, so it's a common feeling. I only get told i look good by 40-50 year old men on the street and at work 😬
@@Anngrl69 Imagine not even having that. Imagine going your entire life and only ever being told you look good by family members who were obligated to tell you that. That's reality for a lot of guys.
The way Emily said, "Well YESS!" is some emmy award winning acting! 😮💨
Pulling out the iPhone 4 is crazy though Emily please be careful next time with that weapon.
My sister is married from a dating app, and so is my aunt. 😅
I wish 🤞 i could have the same luck. But most people dont
"it's gonna be diarrhea on fucking broadway" absolutely ended me lol
I feel like I have no idea how to meet people in real life. Even tonight, I went to a music showcase but it was cancelled because of rain. I had no idea what else to do or where to go. I just went home. And now I'm watching this video. And I opened tinder because of it. In the time that this video played I got a message saying "I've never f* a bl*ck m*dget before. I'm 4'10
Girlllllll😭 I literally screamed, omg it’s rough out there
Oh man I have so many stories w these dating apps and I've only used them FOR A COUPLE OF MONTHS... And the messages from men I've gotten are almost ALL ab hookups, fwb, dirty talk etc. one guy even sent me a d-pick without my consent. I consider myself looking pretty avergage, had only face pic there... With sunglasses on. While getting constantly disappointed, I desperately hoped that hell yeah, maybe I could meet somebody decent there still. Even though there is still an opportunity to get a long-term partner there, it's very little imo, considering it's mostly used for "easy-access" and hookups. Oh and like Emily said, judging ppl by looks... Most were not "my type" (here comes the shallowness that might come out when using these apps) and those who were, turnt out to be either jerks or just looking for some fun
I'm sorry that you had to deal with that, I honestly hate the way most men act on dating apps, not only cause of those issues, but also cause a lot of men will swipe right on and message literally anyone or anything that looks like a woman and that makes issues even worse on those apps. The guys that do all that though are just the worst of all of it.
As a guy who very much uses dating apps with the intent of eventually having sex with the women I’m swiping right on, the **** picture thing has always confounded me because I wouldn’t send a woman I was in a serious relationship with a picture on my junk. That’s just weird and not something I figure would be effective flirtation with someone who is essentially a stranger. When I hear about guys doing nonsense like that I feel worse about my own success stories on apps because it means if I got a girl to go on a couple dates with me, I was only competing with guys sending **** pictures. It’s humbling
Maybe you're attracted to the wrong type of guy. Give somebody a shot who is outside of your realm of preference and maybe you'll have a different experience.
I like that you were able to have some inner reflection though that you judge people by their looks, so you also partake in some of the superficiality that is online dating.
But here's the gist of it. Studies have shown that women are far more picky than men when it comes to choosing a partner. Even when considering looks, women are more picky. The vast majority of men get one or two messages if any at all. I think the statistics have shown that 85% of women are seeking out around 15% of men. They're all competing for the same men. Because they want a guy to have so much education, to make this much money, to be this tall, etc.
These men who are in that top 10-15%, they know they are sought after. Most men get few to zero messages and/or likes, and for most men online dating is an extremely lonely and humbling experience. But about 10% of men receive 90%+ of all swipes, messages, dates, etc. These men have hundreds of messages, and dozens of continual conversations going on at the same time. Some of them are genuine dudes, but they're going to be very picky, because they can. The rest are men who have realized how sought after they are and let that go to their heads. These men are brazen and bold and will say just about anything looking for a hookup, and if they don't get it, they'll move on to the next. And many of them do get it. I've a good friend who is one of those guys. He's a good friend, but a terrible bf. I wouldn't recommend him to any woman. Yet he slept with over 100 women in a year. He's slept with over 1,000. Each one thinking they can change him and be the one to bag him. And while many like you will turn him down, many others will not. So for him, it's a numbers game. He sends the same disgusting message out to dozens of women at a time and inevitably gets a few bites and goes on a date and rinse and repeat.
@@turinturambar347 you deserve more likes and comments from this comment. You are speaking the truth.
The blackpill is a philosophy that argues that physical attractiveness is the most critical factor in determining men's dating success, especially in modern Western countries.[1] A man's money, status, and social skills are argued to be other factors of secondary importance, which is known as LMS theory. An expanded or alternate definition proposes that a man's dating and life outcomes generally rely on genetically determined traits.[2][3] As a consequence of these beliefs, blackpillers often argue that men's dating issues require systematic rather than individual solutions, if there is any solution at all for the most disadvantaged males.[4] Someone who holds a certain amount of blackpill beliefs is called a blackpiller or blackpilled.
Well it seems the options I have as a heterosexual "conventionally" unattractive man (I think I look good but I have been told other wise. Screw them they are wrong).
I can try dating apps, be rejected kindly in person, or get called a creep. Worse could happen. When I was in high school I got sent to the principals office for harassment. Principal never heard of me so let me go because I wasnt a problem student but warned me if it happened again.
Anyway point is, it is rough. Tripple it if you are introverted and have social anxiety. Turning 27 soon. Still never been on a date. It hurts, the longing.
become an escortcel
Keep trying
@@bro918 And you become a shut-your-mouth-cel.
Meeting "organically" is never as natural as it seems. Someone has to make a move unless you are around each other a lot and that most of the time never feels natural.
Bro Emily is posting every week! I’m so happy bro
I dont walk up to a cute girl because i dont want to be rude. I dont want to invade her space, ne annoying etc. I feel like in the past people just didnt give a shit about things like that...
you can get rejected both ways
i downloaded tinder when i started college and after a week a girl messaged me and said “you don’t really have tits but i can live without them” 😭… we’ve been dating for 2 years now
And who says negging doesn't work
@@hollowkid97 LMAO she’s actually so sweet though so i’m glad i gave her a chance 😭
The thing that gets me about dating apps is when women put that they want someone straightforward and who knows what they want, but then they just stop responding after a couple simple messages or cancel on the first date the day of like an hour before it's supposed to happen. I'm very mindful of being lighthearted but also being forward about setting a date before too much messaging happens and they get bored, but nothing I seem to do ever seems to pan out. Why are people on dating apps if they won't even commit to a single, no-strings-attached first date?
The problem with trying to meet someone in person is that you don't know if they're single/available instantly
The reason why its harder for people to meet each other organically today is that we've all become self absorbed humans. We dont say hi to each other, we have a hard time making eye contact, and most of all: *we're cynical assholes*
I think it’s more there’s not enough time or opportunities. What do we have energy and access to besides work, going home, and the grocery store?
Facts
@@jojol.2630if one doesn't have the time or the resources, then one should make the time and save the resources. Back then dating wasn't a cake walk either
@@jojol.2630there’s plenty of opportunities to engage with others in passing during daily activities like the ones you mentioned
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