10 Questions You SHOULD Ask A Man before Dating Him (Dating Advice)
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In this video, I will present to you 10 questions you should ask a man before dating him.
A lot of people talk about the things you should say and do during dating, during a relationship, during marriage, but the most important things to know is what to do before all of that. The beginning, the genesis, the first steps are always the most important steps in relationships because those stages are what sets up the rest of the path.
So I'm going to suggest 10 crucial and essential questions you should ask a man before you even think about dating him and I promise you'll want to know the answers. Always try to set your self up for success no matter the situation and this video will help you with that.
Peace & Blessings to you,
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You forgot, can I see your updated std paperwork ? Most people are forgetting this very necessary question.
Yessssss Queen!!! When they start talking bout intimacy, thats my #1 question and they be shocked. It needs to be asked.
Please, what's updated std?
@Abc Def
Thanks so much
Sexual questions like this should come after you’ve been dating and determined that you like this person and your should definitely go to the doctor together. Asking before you start dating may give the person the wrong impression.
Thank you for keeping it real.
📢 NEVER TELL A MAN WHAT YOU'RE LOOKING FOR!
...IF HE DOESN'T LINE UP TO YOUR STANDARDS, HE WILL TELL YOU THAT HE'S EVERYTHING YOU'RE LOOKING FOR AND "FAKE-IT" UNTIL HE GETS WHAT HE WANTS WHETHER THAT'S YOUR COOKIE OR YOUR HEART!!!
If he asks you "what are you looking for in a man," simply say that you prefer for a man to show you who he is and watch the expression on his face👀. This question works like a charm BELIEVE ME.
Remain mysterious and guard your heart ladies. Let him tell you who he is without you giving him the keys to your heart by revealing too much too soon.
Totally agree!! Do not give away too much. Let them show you who they are with a timeline.
@@marquimazel70 Players from their OWN mouths told me that their number 1 question to ask women is "what are you looking for in a man?" They told me that when women reveal what they are looking for it makes it EASY for them because all they have to do is "pretend" to be everything she said she wanted to get what they want.
I've heard that too and agree 100%.
I was told this as well, I have made the mistake many of times telling a man what I want and got a fake.
This is good I’ll use this one
Girl's don't be afraid to be the BLOCK Queen. Don't be afraid to be alone. Don't settle for anyone who compromises your dignity. I will bring up my concerns one time & if it happens again, BLOCKED like I never knew ya.
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Yes ma’am!!! I’m not playing with these fools!!!!
Say Less 🎯
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That is great advice. Thank you for sharing this. It will help many of us women.
1. What are your goals? What's your end game with us?
2. Do you have any kids? How involved are you with them? Do you have any major responsibilities?
3. Tell him what you're looking for/ask how he feels about it.
4. How long ago was his last relationship? Are you ready to start a new one?
5. What are your morals, beliefs, interests?
6. How well are you with communication? (Listening and expressing) Are you easily frustrated or angry?
7. What do you think a good man is?
8. What's something you're working on to be the best version of yourself?
9. What are you afraid to lose?
10. What can't you live without?
Thank you 💛
I asked #2 on a date and the answer blew my mind. He said “well, I’m not proud of it but I have 8 kids with 7 different women” 😭😭😭. I was like sorry sir 👋🏿
@@sbaa83 😩😩🏃🏽♀️
@@sbaa83 'annnd you are ready for baby number 9, and baby mamma number 8? You must earn a huge sum to care for your children. Fortunately for me, I'm not ready, willing or able to take on those roles. Boy bye.
@@sbaa83 DAMN!!!
A good Man doesn't play mind games and knows his priorities and how to treat a woman well and honest and respectful.
Always!
A real man
@@Chosenoneforever not just our so-called perfect man. have to check ourselves
@@motherswhoempowerothermoth3272 I get it. My Dad, grand dad and uncle were good men.
Rip😷😓
@@Chosenoneforever great to hear, glad u had great influential men in your life A blessing. We need more men like that in this world. For real.
Endgame is important. Some people just date.. just to date and not be alone, no future plans in mind, just moments until the next.
Right, and thats a recipe for sadness, confusion and trouble. Gotta have a plan, thanks for watching 👑
This seems tiresome!. I agree
Reminds of the the type of guys who say, " let's just see where things go"... for me that's a red flag.
You are a wise person by your comment. most people date individuals that do not do the same thing they do which is crazy. For instant, if you don’t smoke, why will you date someone else who does, if you don’t gamble why date someone who does and if you don’t drink or take any type of recreational drugs why would you date someone who does, if you’re not the type to go to clubs, why will you date someone who does… do not become unevenly yoked this is what I tell my sisters and associates.
I learned about the demons the hard way. Please ask before you get serious with anyone. These are all awesome questions to ask
Most definitely! Blessings to you 👑
Me too
Even when we ask men these questions and they answer us with words, be sure to turn up your discernment and watch what they DO. Some of these men have mastered mirroring what they know we value based on what they see in how we are and live. They can sometimes say all the right things so if his answers are seeming tooo perfect and you’re feeling oddly like wow we are sooooo similar…slow down and give things time
This is good advice
Exceptional advice!!! I wouldn’t even ask any of those questions because those answers require for me to actual witness it. I’ve been there done that. Now it’s all about seeing what is actually happening and occurring.
So very true. There's a lot of Jokers out here 💯.
Thank you. 💯
Yes! Some are so good that they prep for these questions just to fool you .
I asked my guy what he is afraid of? He said not been able to take care of me the way he would love to, that is his greatest fear. Those words got me in the heart and I believed him. We are yet to start dating because he isn't here with me.
Those are real words from a real love
my guy??? don't put all your eggs in one basket, keep applying to other jobs....
I’m 26 and finally feel ready to look for a committed relationship and these are such great questions to ask! Not only for him but myself as well thank you!
Lots of good questions. I especially like “what can’t you live without”? And “what are you afraid to loose”? And ladies need to hav answers to the same question. Good luck to all
Very important questions, those answers take thought and says a lot about the person, thanks for watching
🔥Thank you much Sealz! I honestly feel empowered, dating can be so hard! Not knowing what to look for... or if my standards are too high... and apparently they’re not. Thanks for my confirmation. I’ve written down every question in my journal that I carry with me daily. Keep the lessons coming👨🏾🏫💜!
Wow this made my day thank you for watching and supporting! 👑
Most of these questions are very important for you to ask yourself before you even go on a date at all. You might not be ready as an individual, and that’s fine. A date can become a forever friendship knowing more about yourself first
WOW JUST WOW !!! I just stumbled across this video & im SO glad I did ! What valuable information 💯👏🏾 I feel like I should be purchasing info this good 🔥 lol . Instantly subscribed !! Keep this energy coming !! May God bless you & your hustle / business ❤️ I’m seeing a book in the near future 😍
This made my day, I really appreciate you saying that, welcome! 😀
Thank you. These are some good questions to ask. I will definitely use some of them. I am 54 years old and time is too precious. I don't want to waste it.
I totally agree, time is precious and there's so many good things out there to use it on 👑
Gah! I haven’t gone deep enough with most of these questions and it would’ve saved me so much time and frustration. Thank you! 🙏
LADIESSS... listen up to Sealz and these important questions he is saying to ask.. HE IS ON POINT!!!! I see so many women in my coaching with the WRONG men because they DIDN'T ask these questions... Time is the most precious commodity on this earth, don't waste it with the WRONG man.... GREAT VIDEO Sealz.... now if they only listen right? keep up the excellent videos.. Patti @ Get Balanced 2020
You nailed it, but like you said, they have to implement it. Thank you 👑
@@SealztheMan You are a good motivator to LISTEN UP AND PAY ATTENTION...:) lol I hope they do as it will save them A LOT of headaches and wasted time :)
Totally agree time is one thing that you cannot get back your energy or your health you can with hard work however, once your time is gone, it’s gone. Please count your steps ladies because unfortunately there’s no reverse
I absolutely love this! I've been talking to a man for 4 weeks and I've asked every question except for 9 and 10. I'm going to have to add those to the list lol
Also asked when was the last time he was intimate with a woman, but ONLY ask that question after asking how long ago was his last serious committed relationship. Don't ask the intimate question first, ask that next. The reason why you want to do that in that particular order is because that's how you can trip some of them up.
@@MrsNicolas guarantee you men lie about the sex partners
@@IVvOOvVI Virgins lie about sex partners.
I love question 4. It goes both ways. After you have asked yourself if you're ready for a new relationship, surely do ask him too. Most guys haven't healed yet walking around all macho.
Taking Notes !!! Thank-you "KING"
I appreciate you for watching Queen 👑
I just love 💕 you!! You sacrificed being in cool air just for us? 🥰 Now that right there says A LOT about you Sealz 😄.
Dating is collecting “data” and I LOVED those questions so much I had to share them with my daughters (I know they’re sick of me)😆, but they deserve to be informed by someone other than me and my husband. I’m tired of the “What chu think ma?” question when a new “boo” pops up in their lives.🤦🏾♀️ If they know what to ask then they’ll know the answer for themselves for the most part. My heart 💜 is genuinely rooting for those looking for and being found by love!!!
This is the type of comment that makes my day, one of my main purposes for making this channel was to help out my young nieces so that when they come of age and start dating and such, they'll have this information from their uncle to go on. So the fact you're passing it on to your daughters means everything, blessings to you and your family 👑
@@SealztheMan your nieces are so blessed to have you in their lives 🥰
@@SealztheMan you
Much respect on how you ended your content. Blessings, it speaks a lot towards your character.
Sealz, thank you!🔥 You nailed this list, but 4B is huge. Ladies we have to know and understand this about men. " If you never healed from what hurt you, you will bleed on people who will never hurt you. Healing takes time"
I love the responsibilities question. Just because you don't have kids doesn't mean you don't some very significant other obligations.
This is SO wise. Unfortunately, a lot of the men I've dated would have lied their way through these questions! 😭 I seem to have a soft spot for con-men. On my journey, I've learned to watch actions, heed warnings, and trust my intuition. What are green-flag behaviors that good men exhibit?
Man I needed this message 11 years ago💯 Better now than never💎💎💎💎.
The best time to plant a tree is 20 years ago. The 2nd best time to plant a tree is now! 👑
@@SealztheMan Amen.
I think these are reasonable questions that any serious person should pose to a prospective mate,now whether they choose to answer honestly is a different story. Thank you for this.
Thank you for watching and I appreciate that
@@SealztheMan I just happened upon your channel and you seem like good people so Subscribed!! Stay blessed🙏🏿
Thanks for suffering through the heat to make the vid Sealz! Great list! It'll be good to go through with my current boyfriend. Although we're already in a relationship, I'm still vetting him so they're great ones to ask and it'll allow me to get to know him even better. As always, thanks so much! 😊🖤
Its completely honor, thank you for watching!
Same
These are great questions to ask in a respectful way they sure he cares about his mother that says a lot in a man
Excellent advice! These type of questions helps to eliminate potential headaches! Thank YOU! ❤
These are really really great questions👍🏼. I think I will break them down by pieces. Ask a couple on day ask another section on another date. I don’t care how good looking you are. Our next date is contingent on your answers. We need to do better in this dating scene. This is a great way to start. 😉thanks for this !
Lol this made my day I really appreciate you saying that, thank you and blessings to you
@@SealztheMan ....add that women should ask if the men have ever donated sperm.
Well said, this is my same thought process.
Procrastination has more to do with emotional discipline/ management than time management. I heard that the other day on these internet’s and I was triggered 😵💫
Thanks man, those points are superb. Love you bro. God bless you and everyone that will practice this points of yours and I wish everyone good relationships and marriages .
I love this energy, keep shining Augustina👑
"anything ending in ship" yes. The rudder controls the way a ship goes, just as the tongue has so much control over self and others. I love that you said that
Oh heck yeah!!!!! Thank you for this post!!!! This is great insight on how to approach a man with important questions which reveals the truth behind the shenanigans they put women through. God bless you!!
Good questions. I am a question queen and have learned people can be very clever with answering questions. Watching their behavior is extremely important. Also, I suggest spending time with someone you are interested in. It is difficult for a person to hide who they are and intentions around you.
Happy to see that you mentioned “Demons” /Vices…..It’s a waste of time dating someone with KNOWN Vices ⚠️
Great Commentary 👏🏾
I agree with asking these questions! It will weed all the wrong ones out!
Had me on the definition of communication 😂 I was surely waiting patiently
I prefer asking this way" what type of questions to ask a matured man?cuz I think anybody can be good but later change to be bad....just saying.
What re your goals, aspiration
Does he have kids
Do you av major responsibilities
Telling him what am looking for n see his reactions
4:how long its being since ur last relationship...
4b Do u feel re ready to start anew
5:morals, belief, intrest, ..
6;how well are you with communication.(well in listening and expressing)
7:
7:what do u think a good man is?
8:whats something ur working on to b the vest version of urself
8;what issues, problem re u working on
9;what re u afriad to lose?
10;what cant u live without?
Real talk. I needed to do a self check in and ask myself these questions.
Its so important to ask men what they want? what are you looking for questions first before they ask you. This why the man cant just repeat what u r saying , so you know ihe is being genuwinely honest or just telling you what u want to hear to move ahead as soon as possible.
This help to WEED OUT PLAYAS AND OTHER MEN WHO DONT HAVE YOUR BEST INTERESTS IN MIND.
These men want YOU TO DO ALL THE TALKING ABOUT YOU. They ask you a lot of questions about you.
All they are doing is trying to go the BLUEPRINT AND ROADMAP of how to get whatever they want from you.
Playas will make you feels so speical and important ,like they are so interested in you. When they just be sneaky to get in your pants as soon as possible with as little investment as possible. DONT GIVE BLUE PRINTS to you.
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❤ Okay, great questions (advice). I appreciate the detailed explanations that followed as well. Thank you.
Question 8 and 9 is dope. It really makes a difference. Tells the fake, unreal and unserious apart. Most fumble (from experience)🤣🤣
Just feeling this Sealz gentleman...you're doing good 👍
Comprehension is key
When I heard ... "Naw, bruh"...
I took my seat and prepared for class... Here for the lesson...
Lol thank you for your support, I hope I was able to help
@@SealztheMan Definitely. I wrote them down. I will commit them to memory. Your relationship advise is practical and forces you to activate your common sense. 👍
Ps.... I coined the 10 questions as the " BIG 10".... I guess, my love of the original NCAA came out🤣🤣🤣. Randomness... anyway, thanks for all the effort and time. We appreciate you!
EXCELLENT! Taking notes and also applying same questions to myself !
Some of these questions I asked myself, very enlightening and helpful. Thank you!!
I really appreciate it, thank you!
Being GOOD is doing what's RIGHT 💯 PERIODt
TrustonlyintheproofofACTION 👏🏾
I like this but at the same time majority men lie for nothing….. they’ll lie about all of the above including his children smh I’m telling you, I haven’t been with anyone in almost 3 years because it’s super easy to read someone whether body language or on the other side of my phone ask me how idk 🤷🏾♀️ but my intuition is always right without even trying to figure things out he’ll lie just to be on your level just to have you in his life 🤦🏾♀️ it’s disgusting, shout out to the honest ones
I hope the honest ones increase because like you said, this world is full of liars
There are 7 billion people in the world. I hope there are more good than bad in the world. If you are open and ready for love, love can find you sometime when you don’t expect it.
Red flag- when you ask these questions and he ask ur question back to u before or after answering with a generic response smh 🤦🏽♀️
No you don’t start asking “What are your goals” … Num 1 is, “Are you single?” … Ans .. “No” … Bye then 💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾… No more questions ….
Sealz, and others.
Those questions and their answers have save me from heartache.
My aunt educated me, and also told me to ask any potential suitor(s) the same questions that he asks me. She told me that if he 'jokingly' pushed, etc. me to jokingly do the same to him.
I have passed these on to my children.
I have educated them that they should save some money to employ a private investigator to check him/her (women carry on too) before they invest their hearts.
I told my son that when his bonafide married wife tells him she's pregnant, to stop having sex until he sees the pregnancy test done in front of him. There are some women who say they are pregnant when they are not.
I also educate them and advocate for my son to get a paternity test done as soon as possible after the baby is born.There are many men who are falsely conned into believing that they are the fathers when in truth they are, as my grandmother would say, "holding a jacket."
1.What are your goals, and what's the end game with me.
2. Do you have any kids how involved are you with their mother or the kids or major responsibilities?
3. Tell him what you looking for and how does he feel about that?
4. How long has it been since your last relationship and are you ready to move on?
5. What are your morals, beliefs,interests?
6. How well are you with communication, is he well in listening and expressing himself?.
7. Are you an angry person,are you triggered easily?
8. What do you think a good man is?
9. What's something u are working on to make yourself a better man?
10. What are you afraid to lose and what can't you live without?
Thank you!!!!!!
Thank you for this! Bookmarking for Self!
I probably wouldn’t ask are you an angry person? I would probably just observe how he answer the question to see if he would get triggered by the questions because most of the time when you asked this question, they will say no I’m not an angry person at all just to look good.
a better way to ask are you an angry person would be “how do you deal with stress?”
Thanks for turning off the AC to teach us. The video gave me so much to think about. Thank you sealztheman.
😁 it is my complete honor
@@SealztheMan You are so committed to us thank you.👑
You're a boom, I never came across a video like this. I learned something new ..wow!!..
I appreciate you saying that!!
Communication is key.
Sorry bro
I will never ever ever tell a man what I am looking for in a man ever again.
I did that and it worked against me.
He used all that information and did the thing I wanted just to get me. When he got me he couldn't keep up with himself because he was fake.
I bounce once I found out.
Sorry to hear that, it must been hard I can imagine. He is not a man. Thank God you are better now.
Wow that really upsets me, some people are very trifling and sneaky. I wish people weren't like this but this is the reality smh. Just for you, I will make a video on ways to detect sneaky people and people who put on fronts, like him
@@SealztheMan
Aaawwww
Please do.
Thanks for responding.
@@augustinavictor4861
Oh yes.
I was really hurt.
It took me a while to move pass it.
Better now. I just learned from that.
I just decided that I will just watch and if I don't see the Qualities I am looking for I will just bounce.
I know there are good men out there so I won't let because of this one bad apple I become bitter towards men.
Oh hell no.
Not all men are like that.
I would be stupid to think that. I am just careful.
This same thing happen to me also and I learn my lesson from there so when those ? ask from a man what am I looking for I said be your dam self
Thank you so much for this. I’m in a spot where I’ve needed this kind of guidance on what questions to ask…Been away from the dating scene in years and this couldn’t have come more on time! 🙌🏽
1. What are your goals? What’s your end games with us?
2. Do you have any kids/major responsibilities?
3. Tell him what your looking for and ask him how he feels about it.
4. How long ago was your last relationship? Are you ready to start a new one?
5. What are your morals, beliefs, interests?
6. How well are you with communication (listening and expressing)
7. What do you think a good man is ?
8. What’s something you’re working on to become the best version of yourself ?
9. What are you afraid to lose?
10. What can’t you live without?
Love this!!!! Great breakdown of the questions and why to ask , thank you!!!
Wow i just love these questions that should asked a man dating i wish had gained rhis wisdom many years ago wouldn't end up in relationships i was in definitely wouldn't got married either but this exactly why not dating today because if God don't sent him definitely not settle just anyone to be with i know my worth
Thank you so much for this video. It was very refreshing and I'm so sorry you had to film it with no air just so we could hear you. Very sweet! Now I'm about to watch it again and write down everything you just said.
I agree wholeheartedly one of the best videos you have done so important to deal with these 10 questions. I have used similar 10 questions over a two-week. And if the answers aren't going to work with us time for me to move on. Thank you for the humor and so sorry you had to sweat bullets for us. Keep up the good work
People need to CLARIFY MEANING & FOLLOW-UP, BE THOROUGH. Some people love exploiting ignorance. 🙄
What demons in you 😂😂🤣🤣😂, let me hit that subscribe button
Me on the date looking at my phone constantly because I cannot remember the questions to ask by heart.
When sealz is speaking uou can feel the love mood.😂
"What are you working on to better yourself?" That Part!!!
TELL HIM WHAT YOU'RE LOOKING FOR AND ASK HIM HOW HE FEELS ABOUT IT.
**personally I feel if you tell a man what u want, he could PRETEND to be what you want in the beginning and once u start having feelings, his true self will most likely emerge and u will have wasted your time. I feel like if u don't tell a man what ur looking for and just date one another, ur more likely to see the true man that he is rather than him "trying" to pass as the man u want him to be.
Great video Sealz the man
I appreciate you!
I appreciate your presentation it's right on point.very mature and accurate thanks
This means a lot, thank you 👑
Love you sealz communication is key for me u absolutely spot on xx
Love love love these questions. Makes you evaluate yourself
Great talk🙌🏼✨
HEY, thank you, thank you, for your concise information, there are so, so, so, many videos and self-proclaimed gurus on dating advice out here that take 30+ minutes to say a few things, it doesn't take all that time and after so long, I tune off and out and click off. Their click baits titles have you click but the long drown out verbiage has me gone. Thank you for your time and information in a concise format.
Some foundational questions like who are your sheroes & heroes? Why do you look up to them? What were their weaknesses? Who instilled your morals and values? What are they? What did you like about your last relationship? What didn't you like? How have you grown from your past relationships? What behaviors did you learn to change?
You're always Right it trust believe truth love I am same way like you
Dating intentionally! Don't date, just to date. Great video ☺️👍🏽
Thanks big bro you impressed me and I get the joke I from Sierra Leone 🇸🇱 watching ❤❤❤
While watching your video, I realized that I need to ask myself these same questions.
Why are you interested dating me
(Wants and need , aspirations)
Major responsibilities (with yourself)
Dating with purpose right now so this video came in perfect timing, Thank you!❤️ really good questions🙏🏽👑💯
Wow these were very intriguing even questioned my self and answered my ability definitely just learned a lot more about me ! Thank you sooo much kingsealz
Sealz you make me laugh. "we definitely ain't got time for that mess" I love your candor and honesty and breakin' it down to the critical factors. Great job. Thanks.
What do women expect from men in a relationship? What men can do to make a woman happy? Too much said on all u tube vidios about what men want from woman that are self serving and manipulative? I know how to treat a man good. Men either don't know how to treat a woman or don't care because its obvious when they keep doing the same things. Everybody and everyone comes before their wife or girlfriend. They compliment everyone and put down their wives looks and flirt WITH other women right in front of their wife or girlfriend. I wouldn't put up with that now because I know my worth now that I'm older I'd make it very clear get away from my man and tell the man I'm not puting up with that
Yo…. Fuck dating these are good questions for all relationships, including the one you have with yourself. I can answer the first 7 easily but those last three made me think
Be patient with your emotions
Hey Sealz …how are you? ☺️🙋🏾♀️ I love your videos !✨…honestly has saved me from headaches!…😮💨Dont really know how to word everything but I’ve been seeing a Good man for 3 + months and we go on dates ..we title them as “experiences” and we do “couple” things ..He’s a slave to work which I don’t have an issue with ..☺️ not in a goldiggerish type of way🥴😭 he does have a child ☺️( also have no problem with this)… throughout the weekdays sometimes even weekends I receive no texts or calls but when I’m around him he treats me as if I were his girlfriend but has not ask me to be his girlfriend … I believe myself to be a good woman ..He even shares his long term goals with me ..making me part of these goals all the time 🤧and so I guess my questions are …and sorry for going on a rant😮💨… Am I wasting my time ? ….I know he’s busy working but not one text or call throughout the week ? …do you think it’s harder for him to commit because of his child ? Am I overthinking this?😵💫 Am I asking the wrong questions?😭
Thanks!
Thank you so much, really appreciate this 👑🖤
Gosh! U are AMAZING! Never listen to u before… BUT… u have TALENT… each word just insanely valuable… thank YOOOU ♥️♥️♥️♥️
I was planning on just dating without asking
Well those are all good questions but isn’t going to mean he answers honestly. Some people say anything if they’re looking for someone to bed.
Thanks for over heating for us and for your beneficial content:)Bless you *xs*
Thanks for this,but wish u wld give more light on the answers we should expect and what they say about him
This is why men are important in females' lives to put them on to key things and early in life.
I totally agree
Thank you for the advice
This was good! Thank you 😌