Why do men forget important dates? || STEVE HARVEY
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- Опубліковано 20 жов 2024
- Steve Harvey answers the burning question - why do men so often forget the things their women say to them?
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“We’re like Twitter, you gotta keep it to 140 characters.” 🤣. Right on man!
Unfortunately they would use those 140 characters to tell us about the Bridesmaids dress color instead of the date of the engagement party...
Or less lol
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Probably the best thing I ever heard 😂💯
They are also hypocrites that are resentful & do it on purpose so they can get right but they are not because when they say they talk less & tried to tell you like she said & she said it perfectly, the guy says '' but you didn't tell me the date. '' & that is exactly what they do because they are not genuine, they are angry. What happens is that they say ''You have an appointment the 5th of november at 8am & another at 9pm the 18th of november. Also Tracy at work did that awful thing that pisses me off so much, you know her I told you about her plenty of times. Blah Blah Blach for 5 min & did you pick the food & drink I asked you.'' & that is too much we just stop listening not because it's too long, BUT BECAUSE YOU DO THE SAME EVERYDAY!!! So we just give up. So when she says ''well I tried to put it simple.'' she is being hypocritical because she only says ''Don't forget your doctors appointment next month.'' & that is it. No dates, no hours & then they turn around & say ''well when I talk you don't listen & when I short it for you it's not enough so what do you want from me.'' & all that was planned by her to be seen as the one who is always right when she is just hypocritical because she is angry & don't want to admit it. Ladies you are being bad person when you do that & when you don't get what you wanted from your evil plan you get angry & even believe yourself in your lies that you actually tried & you were being kind to think about us & how to help us understand when you didn't do anything of that at all but only another one of your evil manipulation.
The reason is because women include all the details we don't need for memory recollection. We as men only need to know 4 things.
1: When is it
2: Where is it
3: What I need to wear
4: How much money is this going to cost me
Simple, hit those metrics and we're golden.
Preach!!!
Exactly! The facts are always hidden in a stream of unnecessary information that your mind kind of hears but also doesn't commit it to memory.
M This is so accurate.
This a million times.
M yup. this is true and I am guilty for giving too much detail.
"like twitter! ..." omg that first gentleman was funny
he's got swag
Bernice Nichols-Parmanand gentlman my ass ain't no jentlman now days
thats right, because modern women dont like nice guys and only the assholes get the attention, so by proxy women train men to be assholes. the only women who seek out nice guys is a 35 year old with 2 kids who need a step dad.
Well...
He’s not wrong.
We shouldn't say omg for simple things ...jesus loves you all
My wife comes from work and immediately, first words to come out of her mouth are, "we have to talk."
And she won't let up, the woman wants to discover the meaning of life in a single afternoon.
Lol
Well u never stop her and evaluate how she should approach it and now ur stuck listening to her rambling cus u wanted to be nice.
Being right is more important than being nice. So stop her from flapping and direct her on a better recourse.
Relationship problems usually stem from the guy being passive and not guiding the women who haven't learned to be in a mutual relationship. They know how to be in one that they want. But they even don't know what they want so it's up to guys to direct it.
😂
@ddavid122 Let me guess. She never really talks about what she got to do. It’s about what you gotta do.
Women end up sounding like a taper recorder on play and fast forward with all the details that we (men) don't need to know or care about. But if we say that, then we don't listen enough to them. Tell them, "OK, I'll listen to all the stuff you have to say, when you start to initiate sex on a regular basis because that's what "I" want". That will end that.
For the most part it's a wash between "didn't really listen in the first place" and "not important to us".
It's kind of like getting 10 stacks of papers dropped on my desk and being told that somewhere in there is the time and date of some party for someone I don't care about, with a bunch of other people that I either don't care about, or don't even like. Don't expect me to sift through 10 stacks of irrelevant gossip to find some information that I don't even care about to begin with.
Fax
That's super cool.
i think i replayed 10 times the way he said "Sweetie slow downnnn, just relax", what a gem of a boyfriend !
yeah exactly or do like espn and just give me the highlights
+3V3NLYODD Lmbo for real...If only somehow we could flash it across the screen during half time or across the score board lol
I’m apart of the women population who watches ESPN. I COMPLETELY AGREE!!!! Pull a PTI. 90 words or less and my boyfriend got it.
Next time ur woman freaks out or gets mad for u forgetting important dates just say: ''The only date worth remembering is the day i met u.'' *walks off*
+faithfulmonkey lol no
that would work on me every time 😂
dont even remember that is been 9 years
Lmaoo
Sandra Jefferson- isnt it more important that as a man, we are still there? if we dont remember a date, the way that me, my brothers, my friends think is that if we're still there that just means we're not thinking of going anywhere
Fact of the day: Women don't forget about anything.
You know it
+Farhan Hassan Here's a trick, set reminder on important dates in your phone.
+Farhan Hassan That's not true. They don't remember things that they don't deem important to them. A woman can remember her wedding day down to the last detail, yet forget to remember that the car's oil needs to be changed every three months. A woman who knows her man knows that she need only to ask him once to do something or to remember something. Women forget just like men do. It's just that women make a bigger deal out of it than men do.
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I find that sometimes when I don't expect a guy to get something done, I would be surprised and be all 'oh he remembers!' when he eventually did. This helps me curb the need to nag but I can only do it for things that I deem non-urgent or non-important. Telling me to get extra movie ticket when we are about to leave cos his brother wants to join us is a no-no to me. Last minute stuff like that annoys me, more so when I didn't want his brother to join us (know what I mean?) but he doesn't get it. Sigh.
I guess sarcasm has its advantages.
He said, We like Twitter. Gotta keep 140 characters. LOL! HAHAHA!
Steve should do a show like this once a year, could be TV special
I agree with the brother in the olive suit. I remember dates and stuff, BUT God only knows how tired it can be to hear someone tell you a massive amount of information that is just extra info. Give me the meat, maybe a few bones.
Did anyone else notice that Kim had her butt smack in the poor man's face when talking to that first guy?
+Beverly Davenport he didnt complain and neither would i haha
Lol. You have a point. He looked quite comfortable. 😊
+Beverly Davenport , i noticed, and she is fatty, he didn't know what to do, i guess he was thinking ,is she gonna fart in my face now, obviously she doesn't care ^^
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😂😂the hell did you notice that
A conversation with a woman is like a marathon, over half way we're tired and just want to walk off and rest; a conversation with a man is is like a sprint, everything gets done quickly then we're hanging in the rest area.
I'm a woman and I'm the one who forgets the dates...
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I forget dates and I also forget names.
Relax, just get a man who won't. Thats what men did.
@@neku2741 husband and I were so happy we remember our anniversary... well, until I asked him what year we got married. neither one of us remembered that
The way he mimicks his girl is hilarious 😂😂😂😂
It feels great seeing men of races fighting for the same side!
Steve's last answer was epic.
JUST COMPROMISE
JUST ACCEPT EACH OTHERS FLAWS
JUST REMEMBER YOU GOT FLAWS TOO,
DAMN
People make love harder than what it has to be!!!
Malachi J agreed. There has to some compromise in any relationship. From both people. It can't be just one or one more than the other. It's like that song, it takes 2 to make a thing go right.
I'm a woman who thought I can understand men but after I watched Steve I learnt a lot about them, and I understand them now more than ever
women think we are computers.
I guess women are computers because they can multitask. It's truly lazy to be a man trust me, cos I'm working my ass off, and doing 99 things in the running of the home.
@@FERESE ah yes, I will trust someone who is not a man to tell me, who is a man that we are lazy, if your doin everything you just have a bad dude, don’t generalize one guy with the rest of the gender
@@FERESE we literally work harder jobs and longer hours, we ain’t got time to remember or gossip about it
@@FERESE Ah so you have a bad man which means every man is the same.
In my experiences, talking to a woman is never a conversation. I’m just listening to her monologue, so I tune her out. They believe that we should listen and they talk. Men will remember important dates if it is a conversation. Not her monologue.
"Keep it like Twitter" LMAO!!!!!! Hahahahahaha!!!!!!
Keep it short and simple by saying what is important. Also remember ladies if you only tell or remind him once about it, you might as well have not told him at all but that doesn't mean nag him about it. Be consistent about it without nagging him about it.
I have to agree...we tend to give it ALL to you at once, instead of bite-size pieces. The brain and thinking process of a woman is quite AMAZING. We can retain tons of information, organize it, process it and distribute it in great detail. It does have it's place and it's a great asset, but it can be difficult to dial back because that's how our brains function. Of course this does not apply to ALL women, just the ones I know...and they come in all colors and ethnicities. On the flip side, if she mentions an important event or date, you can always use your cell phone calendars or a post-it note to capture the information.
Yes, Regina, you're right.
Sorry but our brains are the same. Men and women share the same ability to retain and process information. The amount and speed depends on many individual factors like personal interest, age and stress levels but not gender or ethnicity.
Generally within an hour about 50% of new information is lost by the adult human brain. If it is not repeated by the end of the day it’s 70%, a week 90%.
New information needs to be repeated between seven and twenty times to be learned depending on age. This is the reason for repetition, homework, study and testing in schools.
Male or female unless we find the information very interesting in which case our brains will latch on, it’s gone fairly quickly so yes too much information at once is not a good thing for memory. Notes or phone reminders are a very good solution.
Hi beautiful, how're you doing?
Process load of useless informations hahahhahahh
Women have their "important dates"
Men have their own important dates.
mendont forget things that are actually important. valentines day is unimportant. your day to the spa is unimportant, engagement party of YOUR friend is unimportant.
I agree with him 100% very well stated.
i think most of the time we're not listening lol
That's exactly it bro! Hahahaha
Theedirtyplaya we'll be sure to do the same
Because its not important to us. B and C pretty much fit into the same mold
I call it , The numb head effect.
Hahaha my partner does that, when i ask him he has no idea whag i said. But when i don't talk he finds it weird. I asked him does he want me to talk or be more quiet? He said he enjoys the talking since it would be boring without. Obviously time, place matters and how tired he is that day.
If there's one lesson we can all learn from this, it's that Steve Harvey is after all of our women. and he's a damn good ladies man.
These four words : We need or have to talk.
Me : here we go again now I have to stop everything I was doing
3:05"so which one is it?" how about we have alot of things going on in our heads, its hard for me to keep something like a task i need to do in the evening, in my head for long periods of time, because as a man theres a ton of different issues that we are always thinking of solutions to. so if you tell us about something a week away and expect us to just wake up that day like ope here it is, thats just not gonna happen. i cant even do that for my own list of things i need to do daily. the only way well remember is if we put a reminder in our phones or if you remind us the day of. and on that note if its so important to you, and you remember, why is it not important enough to remind your partner (early enough to where its not too late, because then theres and issue regardless)
Steve you are the best uncle ever. I love you & your wife ❤ 😘 love you both👌keep the faith. You are a beautiful couple . Take care & stay safe.
My fiancée had to put me on compulsory daily classes to memorize all the dates that are significant to us. 😅😅😅😅😅😅😅
I'm so busy at work most of the time that my wife keeps reminding me of all the important schedules and events. not that i dont care but because im always sleepy when she's talking that i keep forgetting what she said. she knows that and im thankful that she's very understanding.
that last thing about the doctors appointment and the "golf and cigars" says it all :)
we will always forget those important dates, but never our favorite game events 🤣
Hahahahah
I remember everything and all the details and more. 💪🏾 I'm the type of person to put it in Google Calendar during or immediately after to the conversation.
"keep it like Twitter"....he ain't lying, though! However, some guys do that intentionally so they don't have to deal with whatever you want them to do!
he is so good at disarming her... you could feel her getting all wound up and into it ..which one is it...and 2 minutes later he has her laughing and relaxed by telling her she is right...BUT...
answer to guys: 7 words or less
answer to women: The brain has a filter, that filters out the important things. If the brain couldn't do that, you wouldn't have been able to do anything. That means that when a woman talks for 5 to 10 seconds before she get's to the point, the mans brain has already put it in the category of unimportant and he will never be able to remember. Women typically finds more things important than guys do, this is also the reason women have better memory. Let's say you can only care about x amount of things. For women, x can be 100. As in women can care about 100 things. The numbers for guys might be 10. So guys can only care about 10 things (probably something like: sex, food, beer, computer, gamestation, football, basketball, money, house and car). When a guy get's into a relationship, he gives up one of the things he cares about, for something else. Caring about money is usually the first to go. Then after kids, the car get's traded off. Just ask a guy to name 10 things he cares about. Most likely, he'll think of his own family a way down the list. So when a women gives a message, and talks about all the things she think is important, the guy might remember 10% or what she was saying. It's like telling one-liner joke. Like the one from Tommy Cooper: "I'm on a whiskey diet, I've lost three days already". It also helps if you stay on topic for the whole time. What was the question again?
I didnt even read the women portion, only the “what was it again”
I think i proved a point without knowing😭
This is too long...Not interested 😴
First honest answer from both sides it seems hahaha ! Loved this (: ! Handsome first man speaking was really funny too !
Hi beautiful, how're you doing?
Because i have to remember so many thing for work, things in my personal life that do not matter go straight over my head. My wife knows i will never change on this point.
When women say " we need to talk"...it really means she is qoing to talk & expects you to listen. She also expects you to agree.
I know its our Anniversary (Valentines day, Mothers Day, your moms birthday) but it's just not as important to me as it is to you. I try and treat you special every other day. I only remember because it's important to my wife and not myself. Celebrate every 5 years and I'd be fine.
3:14 We have a million things going through our head at any given time... it's no wonder we forget things...
WOW Mr. Steve you posted this videos about six years ago but it’s soo relevant in our current situation thank you 🙏 ❤️
Just say the important things, don't tell us anything if it isn't important.
Dude I forget my own damn birthday regularly and on more than one occasion been confused as to why all the stores were closed and nobody showed up for work just to find out it was Christmas.
It’s not that we don’t care or think it’s unimportant but in day to day life we are creatures of habit and are usually focused on what needs to be done here and now especially if we work long hours which most of us do.
Make us put a reminder on our phone and set an alert for that morning and you won’t have that problem anymore. Just make sure we do it then or we’ll forget.
lol I'm my fiance's secretary, financial advisor, appointment keeper/reminder smh
I forget about dates too! So? I still love him and so does he after 5 years
3:36 "You need to this, you need to do that" Don't women understand that men don't take commands? The last thing men want to have is to come home from work, and have a boss at home too. So they naturally tune their woman out.
my man steve, so relatable
And when they say "you weren't even listening!" the guy repeats back WORD FOR WORD the 10 page essay she gave, she gets mad anyways
I even forget my birthday sometimes..am so busy 😂
I love the lady in the dress. She’s a breath of fresh air! 😂
The dude is spitting facts
So it's basically about priorities.... Men vs women.... Yep... That's so true
Why? Simply put we just don't care! 🤷♂️
Women forget things too. It's not just men
I can get behind the whole notion that if it's not important to you (for both men AND women) then you won't remember. But what the second woman was saying was that her man doesn't remember ANYTHING. Even WITH keeping the statement short. If he can't remember ANYTHING, to me that's a problem.
Did anybody in that room say women don't forget anything?????
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No but it's always emphasized that men have zero competence when it comes to relationships. Something doesn't need to be blunt to have strong implications.
wow ladies you guys look so good, wow I'm loving most of your outfits wow beautiful.
It is important if you want to keep the relationship. 😀
It's the 5 W's to tell us.
1. Who
2. What
3. When
4. Where
5. Why
This is all we need
It can get complicated at times
omg I relate with these guys. My husband has to remind me everything. and my husband is like those women who remembers every details
Indeed we men are like twitter. And please give us some time to process all the info. And indeed I have to check daily my appointments (single) because I forget them 2.
Both have their own ups and downs but that's where the marriage and maturity comes in. Only if you comprehend this.
If I'm doing something and my girl talks about what happened to her day, I'd listened to the parts that seems like she'd turn into a question.
I am actually the one that forgets all the important dates while my husband remembers all the dates...I don't expect gifts or big gestures on those days because it matters more to me how we treat each other on daily basis. My husband and I have been married for 19years and going strong.... I also promised myself that I will never be a nagging wife!
Honestly, most of the times is a mix of A, B, and C.
Men and women are not built the same mentally or physically. I think we are all clear on that.
Since we are different, we have different priorities in life and different societal expectations we are supposed to strive for and uphold. This inevitably leads to different thought processes and different ways to navigate decisions as well as life as a whole.
Constantly remind Men about important dates and they wont take it for granted,not all men are forgetful.
Don't think too important of yourselves, and there will be no more problem.
I'm keep applying for your show till I get to come on
When my wife gets on a roll I open all the windows.
I tell her she’s using all the air in the room.
ladies we need to realize that just because it's not important to men does not mean it's not actually important. when you accept that reality you will be happier.
3:30 You ain't putting out the right stuff. PUT OUT THE RIGHT STUFF AND YOU AIN'T FINNA WORRY ABOUT DAT!
Glad I don't have that problem, if they care, they'll listen and remember
Who invited the Avatar chick there?
ThatLoganGuy hahahahahahahahha
see how all are shaking their heads
That is not fair Steve. They need to take things seriously into an account because it hurts!
That twitter comment was perfect. lmao
Because we’re on our purpose
that twitter reference was a good one
Important dates: Anniversary and wife and children birthdays. All others are not important to most guys . . ... other weddings, etc.
I am a woman and so forgetful. So I can't get mad at man for forgetting and what I forgot too. So best to write it down and make sure you look at it. Sometimes that help others it don't.
I'll always remember that my anniversary is June 27. It's that on June 27, I won't realize that's today unless I have occasion to write the date on paper.
The constant fight for leverage between the genders. It will never end.
The Twitter comment tho 😂😂😂
1:32..bearded guy,lawd have mercy!!
+Cocodan 2000 I KNOW RIGHT
2:50 so typical, she probably forgets a lot of things herself. And 4:08 is so right and women forget that.
Steve your'e a legend man
STEVE YOU THE BOSS!! OML
That engagement party was important to her and he probably couldn't care less about it. Happens all the time.
I love this show😂😅
I DONT FORGET!!!
BECAUSE THEY NEVER LISTEN!! B and C
My man so smart he never forget our anniversary because it’s on his birthday
0:21 she gave the answer to her own question straight away😂 but no one was listening😪
Yeah, the guy is right:)