If I may add… don’t get drunk and/or high while dating. Getting inebriated prevents us from saying no to sex. Sobriety also gives us a clear mind, so we can see the good & the bad early on & choose better.
For me personally I’m proposing within 1 year to a year and a half. Im to intentional to be in a relationship that long without coming to the conclusion that I want her to be my wife. Especially considering I’m waiting till marriage but that’s just me. Stay blessed Tony🫡✝️
I'm a 43yrs old divorcee, and you are sooo right, it's IMPERATIVE you see your POTENTIAL significant other in ALLLLLL SEASONS, and SETTINGS 💯. Very good tips brotha. Good Luck on your 5k run 🏃🏿 Blessings and Love. Go Get It brotha!!🤗
Tony I totally agree and do what you are saying, and understood that when I was married. The problem becomes finding a man who shares these views. There are plenty of interested men but finding a single straight Christian man who is willing to wait has not been easy.
🙌🏾 I never thought three months was enough. Most people have a representative the first 3-4 months. I definitely agree with six months. Waiting for marriage, is best. It's possible. 🙏🏾
Hey there Mr.Tony I forgot to just say ion know what video you said it on but I’ve heard a few times but you say you was insecure or something like that about your country accent man that the one thing I love about on know fruit stuff but I makes me more comfortable as black man to sit an listen to your videos it speaks to me an Im sure many others I be definitely got out more of my homies on from the hood anybody else wouldn’t be able to reach us like you can so I appreciate you an everything you do I pray God bless you even more man cause honestly I had been lacking in the self love department do to child hood trama an had some bad patterns popping in relationships back to back from Mommy wounds that were never solved but hearing this an hour courses have really helped an continued to help so thank you man 💪🏿
You have certainly dropped some insight I was overlooking while in and out of relationships. To move organically and flow together, versus rushing what God is trying to prune and produce. Trust His Process💪👑☝️🔥🙏🤔
sorry if this comes off creepy. I just usually scrolling thru the comment section but i have noticed you from this channel to dear future wifey. Just wanted to say it is great to see a man who actually absorbs good and healthy content, willing to learn and grow 😊
I honestly thought that if I don’t always like the person I must hate them. I don’t think I’ve ever been in love with someone. Just a strong like and a lot of lust… sadly lol
It’s sort of crazy for me. I grew up seeing Black people in relationships fist fight, and even my own parents fighting often I have experience abandonment and seen it and instead of engaging in toxic relationships. I’m more so afraid to be in them.
Someone once said a woman changes every ten years. At 50, I really believe that's true. Hopefully, it's a change for the better. I feel like I was a different and better woman from the moment I woke up on my 50th birthday. It actually makes for an exciting life!
I highly recommend his book A Woman’s Influence. I bought the physical book, but lol since it’s hard to find time to sit and read, I ended up listening to it on Audible. It really blessed me.
I wish I saw this seven year ago, I would have been properly married and had my son with the right person. Sometimes desperation puts us through so much toxicity to the point we feel it’s normal.
Good Stuff -- different scenarios can bring about new discussions versus just going to dinner and a movie. Great advise Tony. Valuable information can be learned.
Hi Tony, great content, just. my 2 cents here: I think that if you want a male audience you should get to the point sooner, i feel like your videos are way too longs. Just my opinion from a male perspective. Anyways, very good job and thanks for everything
I’m just focused on God and money at this point….. survival is hard enough … ain’t nobody got time for the complications of these men and relationships… either you want me and gon act right or you not. Fk it
@@Nwakaego_ right, it almost seems like pursuit to focus on men, they’re supposed to focus on us and pursue us. We are supposed to be very picky and barely interested until something grand happens. We have the power and somehow women have forgotten that. We are their weakness, not sure what’s up with all the desperation and craving to have a man. It’s not attractive
@@FIREENGINE3 You are so right!! I don’t know how this desperation for a man now a days came about. We women have the power and should be more selective and have the men prove themselves in every way before just giving in. This new world desperation is pitiful.
Sex isnt everything but it’s important to me. My guy wants to wait till marriage and im fine with that but I also wonder how compatible we are sexually. Will he be mad if I want it several times a week? Is it wrong to have a high sex drive? Love without sex/intimacy can feel very cold and lonely . I’m willing to wait but im not going to lie, we are 4 months in and im struggling.😂
So I'm supposed to wait 3 years for someone to propose & then be abstinent meanwhile they're probably having sex!! I'm never waiting that long again! 🙏🏽💯
Sex is definitely overrated it.s been almost 12 yrs without and trust me I don't even think of it I got married at 19 and my husband hurt me so bad where that was concern so am always traumatize when it comes to it never truly enjoy it am just praying God send me that person who I can spend the rest of my life with getting to know them in the deepest way possible I need intimacy a connection that only God can help us build and find that person who will love me enough to take their time with me
That is a red flag! From personal experience being married 12+, it is absolutely imperative that you NOT ONLY meets his family (extended family and friends as well) but that you spend time with them especially the ones who have the most influence over him. You need to see how they will treat you before it goes any further. Family influence can break a relationship. Please trust me sis. You should discuss it with him and let him know it's important for you to meet his family and see what he says and how he responds. That should tell you if you need to move forward with the relationship. I would not have gotten married if I had known how much influence my husband's family had and still has over him. I wish I had taken more time in that area.
Parents and family should be introduced within year 1. I don't see why anyone would waste time dating someone for more than 12 months and still not be ready to meet their family/they meet yours.
Do you think couples can be abstinent for 3 years?
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weirdly enough I had a very close friend who was with her boyfriend for 9 years and even though she didn't want to, he wanted them to wait until they were married. they weren't religious but the guy still wanted it to be something inside their marriage. they are happily married for a bit more than 3 years now. in short: some couples abstain much more than 3 years.
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I have noticed people who lack sexual discipline lack discipline in many other areas of their life too. It shows poor impulse control.
If I may add… don’t get drunk and/or high while dating. Getting inebriated prevents us from saying no to sex. Sobriety also gives us a clear mind, so we can see the good & the bad early on & choose better.
So true.
This is so true. Especially getting high
For me personally I’m proposing within 1 year to a year and a half. Im to intentional to be in a relationship that long without coming to the conclusion that I want her to be my wife. Especially considering I’m waiting till marriage but that’s just me. Stay blessed Tony🫡✝️
Engaged by a year married by two …
@@aurielle.g yup I like that absolutely
The way it should be
how old are you
@@bbydoll1222 me? early 20s
I'm a 43yrs old divorcee, and you are sooo right, it's IMPERATIVE you see your POTENTIAL significant other in ALLLLLL SEASONS, and SETTINGS 💯. Very good tips brotha. Good Luck on your 5k run 🏃🏿 Blessings and Love. Go Get It brotha!!🤗
Tony I totally agree and do what you are saying, and understood that when I was married. The problem becomes finding a man who shares these views. There are plenty of interested men but finding a single straight Christian man who is willing to wait has not been easy.
That part! Unfortunately, you could be trying to abstain and the person is actively working to help you break it.
@@girl-gx2ls yep. Straight Christian man is simple, but not single and willing to wait 😂
🙌🏾 I never thought three months was enough. Most people have a representative the first 3-4 months. I definitely agree with six months. Waiting for marriage, is best. It's possible. 🙏🏾
Yep, and just stay out of each other's houses & that should help! 🙏🏾🤝🏾🤞🏾🤞🏾🤞🏾🤞🏾🤞🏾🤞🏾
@@jovialjae Yes! Boundaries are so important. The flesh is weak. You have to put things in place. Less chance of falling.
@@smile_nia_ exactly!
This is priceless information. Sometimes people wait until the marriage is on life support before they get help.
Hey there Mr.Tony I forgot to just say ion know what video you said it on but I’ve heard a few times but you say you was insecure or something like that about your country accent man that the one thing I love about on know fruit stuff but I makes me more comfortable as black man to sit an listen to your videos it speaks to me an Im sure many others I be definitely got out more of my homies on from the hood anybody else wouldn’t be able to reach us like you can so I appreciate you an everything you do I pray God bless you even more man cause honestly I had been lacking in the self love department do to child hood trama an had some bad patterns popping in relationships back to back from
Mommy wounds that were never solved but hearing this an hour courses have really helped an continued to help so thank you man 💪🏿
You losing weight and getting in shape.
I see the difference. Thanks for the videos. 👍🏾✝️
You have certainly dropped some insight I was overlooking while in and out of relationships. To move organically and flow together, versus rushing what God is trying to prune and produce.
Trust His Process💪👑☝️🔥🙏🤔
sorry if this comes off creepy. I just usually scrolling thru the comment section but i have noticed you from this channel to dear future wifey. Just wanted to say it is great to see a man who actually absorbs good and healthy content, willing to learn and grow 😊
@@mimimi9326 That's not creepy at all, lol. It's rather encouraging and I thank you for noticing. 💞👑🙏
I say that 3rd part all the time. I need to see how a person handle lifes ups and downs. So glad you speaking on this
Big vouch on A Woman’s Influence. Read it in a week and convinced my mom & every other woman and cousin in my family to read. Mandatory reading.
Thank you 🙏🏾 for your transparency! You are Real!
I honestly thought that if I don’t always like the person I must hate them. I don’t think I’ve ever been in love with someone. Just a strong like and a lot of lust… sadly lol
Same here. I'm not sure what romantic love really feels like.
It’s sort of crazy for me. I grew up seeing Black people in relationships fist fight, and even my own parents fighting often I have experience abandonment and seen it and instead of engaging in toxic relationships. I’m more so afraid to be in them.
Tony thanks for your wisdom
Please keep spreading the good new!! You are ushering in more self aware, self loving people! Healthy love is possible. Thanks Tony!!
Yayy to the redo on the “real love…” course! 👍🏾
Someone once said a woman changes every ten years. At 50, I really believe that's true. Hopefully, it's a change for the better. I feel like I was a different and better woman from the moment I woke up on my 50th birthday. It actually makes for an exciting life!
Be blessed Sir!
Great advice. Thank you. Helped me put my marriage in perspective.
I highly recommend his book A Woman’s Influence. I bought the physical book, but lol since it’s hard to find time to sit and read, I ended up listening to it on Audible. It really blessed me.
Happy Black History month as well to you 👋🏽.
Hey QS Happy Black History month to you too! 👋🏻🤗😊
@@dublingirl1691 Thanks DG
I wish I saw this seven year ago, I would have been properly married and had my son with the right person. Sometimes desperation puts us through so much toxicity to the point we feel it’s normal.
I liked this. It was very practical and powerful.
Great advice as always, thanks Tony! 🙏🏽👏🏽
I WOULD HAVE STAYED SINGLE!!!🤦🏽♀️
Me too 😔
Thanks for the great advice
Good Stuff -- different scenarios can bring about new discussions versus just going to dinner and a movie. Great advise Tony. Valuable information can be learned.
Hi Tony, great content, just. my 2 cents here: I think that if you want a male audience you should get to the point sooner, i feel like your videos are way too longs. Just my opinion from a male perspective. Anyways, very good job and thanks for everything
Tony you are such a Leo. They always want to say what they did ( or think they did) first to clarify their trend setting lol
Learned what healthy love relationship thank you so much couch god bless you po
Hi Tony, I think I missed the deadline for the coaching call with you. Any more openings by chance?
I’m just focused on God and money at this point….. survival is hard enough … ain’t nobody got time for the complications of these men and relationships… either you want me and gon act right or you not. Fk it
This is me at the moment as well. I’m focused on God, my immediate family, and my career plus self-development on me.
@@Nwakaego_ right, it almost seems like pursuit to focus on men, they’re supposed to focus on us and pursue us. We are supposed to be very picky and barely interested until something grand happens. We have the power and somehow women have forgotten that. We are their weakness, not sure what’s up with all the desperation and craving to have a man. It’s not attractive
@@FIREENGINE3 You are so right!! I don’t know how this desperation for a man now a days came about. We women have the power and should be more selective and have the men prove themselves in every way before just giving in. This new world desperation is pitiful.
Great video
Sex isnt everything but it’s important to me. My guy wants to wait till marriage and im fine with that but I also wonder how compatible we are sexually. Will he be mad if I want it several times a week? Is it wrong to have a high sex drive? Love without sex/intimacy can feel very cold and lonely . I’m willing to wait but im not going to lie, we are 4 months in and im struggling.😂
I agree. I too am waiting till marriage and my bf respects it. Try to find intimacy with one another outside of sex.
You used to say, " if he doesn't propose in one year, you are not his wife" , what changed?
People don’t even truly know each other at 1 year
Thanks!
So I'm supposed to wait 3 years for someone to propose & then be abstinent meanwhile they're probably having sex!! I'm never waiting that long again! 🙏🏽💯
Your abstinence is for YOU however if yall are dating and they don't wanna wait til marriage then they're probably not the one
😂
Sex is definitely overrated it.s been almost 12 yrs without and trust me I don't even think of it I got married at 19 and my husband hurt me so bad where that was concern so am always traumatize when it comes to it never truly enjoy it am just praying God send me that person who I can spend the rest of my life with getting to know them in the deepest way possible I need intimacy a connection that only God can help us build and find that person who will love me enough to take their time with me
“If you can’t wait 6 months,….that means you too loose.” TG
Youre looking fitter tony! Keep up the good work!
Thank you!!!!
This is good.
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Great Advice
Are you still doing the Real Love university?
Teach.
If you don't like your friends and family all the time, why would a spouse be any different?
What if you haven’t met the parents that he’s really close with after 2 years
That is a red flag! From personal experience being married 12+, it is absolutely imperative that you NOT ONLY meets his family (extended family and friends as well) but that you spend time with them especially the ones who have the most influence over him. You need to see how they will treat you before it goes any further. Family influence can break a relationship. Please trust me sis. You should discuss it with him and let him know it's important for you to meet his family and see what he says and how he responds. That should tell you if you need to move forward with the relationship. I would not have gotten married if I had known how much influence my husband's family had and still has over him. I wish I had taken more time in that area.
@@red_edj I agree sis
Parents and family should be introduced within year 1. I don't see why anyone would waste time dating someone for more than 12 months and still not be ready to meet their family/they meet yours.
@@CW-fh2ql I agree 100%
I like intimacy more than actual sex.
Do you think couples can be abstinent for 3 years?
weirdly enough I had a very close friend who was with her boyfriend for 9 years and even though she didn't want to, he wanted them to wait until they were married. they weren't religious but the guy still wanted it to be something inside their marriage.
they are happily married for a bit more than 3 years now. in short: some couples abstain much more than 3 years.
If they both want to then why not? You aren't going to die.
I have those books. I love them. ❤
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