WHY YOU SHOULD NEVER WEAR LUXE TO WORK + BEST (QUALITY) WORK BAGS (ad: includes a gifted item)
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- Опубліковано 20 жов 2024
- How do you dress for work when you have an interest in luxury?
I always avoid wearing labels into the office, for multiple reasons - mainly that (without meaning to) you can get peoples backs up and maybe even lose a pay rise or promotion as you appear like you don’t need it!
But equally, it’s important that your work attire isn’t cheap and unkempt either. You want to look like you’re doing well, but not too well! And you want to look like the type of person the boss would want with them in a meeting.
I share here my favourite places to shop for work clothes, but mainly my favourite 3 work bags. One is a handbag and the other two are to fit my laptop. All are “High End High Street” priced and are full leather.
PALE BLUE SENREVE BAG (The colour is called “Ice” and this was gifted to me in 2017)
bit.ly/2m9FMc5 (Not affiliate link)
BEIGE ASPINAL HANDBAG
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BLACK KATE SPADE BAG
bit.ly/2ZV3laP
MAROON SILK TROUSERS: bit.ly/2KHPRp5 (These were gifted. Coupon SAVE12 gets you a discount. Code + link not affiliate)
LIPSTICK “Dramadouce”
bit.ly/31osTKS
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//DISCLAIMER:
I use affiliate links, links that aren’t affiliate are labeled as such.
AD = Trousers and Senreve bag are PR gifts, I’m not obliged to talk about these in this video.
Hey guys! So I just wanted to do this video to share my personal experiences working in corporates in the U.K. As I mention at the start of the video, working in agencies and more relaxed places hasn’t been an issue at all. It’s mainly in corporates where it can sometimes pay to play the game 😎
If your experience has been different, that’s totally cool! All feedback and sharing experiences are welcomed, but please keep the comments respectful ☺️🙏🏽 Thank you for watching!xx
Where is your Black top from in your NEVER WEAR LUXURY TO WORK segment????
Sophie Shohet | Fashion Beauty Lifestyle can you please do a video with your work looks? To see what you actually wear to work? Please 🙏🏻
K H Hello my friend! I think you mean the off-shoulder one? If so, it’s from H&M but....I bought it in 2016!😫 I’m sure they must still do similar xxx😘😘
Gabriela Castellanos I certainly can Gabriela! I shall work on this xx😘😘
@@SophieShohetOfficial you rock! thank you... I follow you from Guatemala and Ecuador :) I love your videos
My grandmother told me never admit how rich or poor you are and that so far has served me well in the work place.
Good advice.
Boundaries. Advice applies in aspects of your life actually.
Victoria Felsman mm,,m,,,,,,,,,,,,,,'',,,''',,,,,.,
Don't ever talk about your private life... Let them wonder... Gelosy is an ugly vibe.
People try to figure it out by asking about where you grew up, what your parents do etc
Yeah Italian, Spanish & Japanese leather non designer bags is a must they never scream designer names but scream of quality quietly. 💕😂
Is there a way to purchase these online?
Badara bags are incredible and made in Ubrique, Spain, they won the golden needle award, my fav so far.
Javier Perez wow thank you !!!!!! The prices are amazing !!! do you know italian ones ?
But they are designer, these are also brands that have their own creators, creative processes and designs, designer doesnt ´just´ mean a brand that is prestigious and/or famous
Could you suggest Japanese leather bags please?
people don't like feeling like others are doing better than them in life which is why they use petty reasons hold others back
I don't feel like that at all. I actually love when people are doing well in life. I have never been envious.
That is soooooo true!
DragonFlyy I completely agree. Men are not judged that harshly on how they spend their money. But because women are taught to be competing against each other, you end up with women at the office getting offended because you have nice clothes or a luxury bag. Girl, we do the same job : if you prefer wearing H&M shoes rather than investing on quality, that’s your choice.
@DragonFlyy agree
So true but I'm done trying not to hurt anyone's jealousy by hiding myself. They can kiss my ass and I will be as fabulous as I want to be.
I'm an entrepreneur now, but when I was in Corporate I rose through the ranks very quickly. I always dressed "the role above by rank." So, I dressed where I wanted to be and not where I was. As a result, I was taken more seriously and offered more opportunities. As an entrepreneur, it's different. You need to know your audience. If you're meeting with suppliers, keep your flashy jewelry at home as it will weaken your negotiations. If you're meeting with VCs definitely leave all of the designer stuff at home. If you're meeting with new clients, dress in a way that is relatable and aspirational.
That delicate balance is SOOO TRUE! You want to look good enough so that you look like you deserve the job but not too good as to look better than the person who signs your check.
So I have to humble my self to make you feel good
Lol
@@LaDiiGiggleZ718 exactly. Please. They need to step their game up if they are worried about my attire
I also try to look humble when I go to work but at the same time I feel so bad about it because it doesn`t really reflect how I would like to dress myself. It's just a weird situation.
Same here but for university, I love dressing up but I don’t want my lecturers to cap my grades lol
Same here when I bring my daughter to school. I'm a young fashionista mom but I feel like I don't wanna look too fashionable for bringing my kid to school or else I'll get all the stare from other parents but at the same time, I feel not so myself. So what I do is, I change at home. Can't help it. 😂
@@thewindsinger7687
I now decide to dress well for college, but I try to sit in the first or second row & maintain an A on every assignment or test & participate in discussions or answer the questions the professor asks.
So even if ppl thought I might be the pretty girl who cares more about my looks than education, when they realize that I have the highest score on a test that everyone failed, or the highest grade in the whole class. They actually ease up on me, because they realize I put effort into everything, not just an outfit. (Although dressing is easy for me, but studying takes effort).
@@cherishblossom7893 Girl, work it. Women get bitter because being youthful is cherished and they lost how to be youthful. It's a mindset more than they think
@@ErikaBardere thank you so much. I couldn't agree more with you. ❤️
I don't have a Chanel bag but when I eventually get one I will wear it to work sometimes. I really don't care what people think. Its too expensive to be sitting in my wardrobe. That's the way I feel :)
Preach!!!
@@frenchie2700 lol :)
I love your way of thinking 👍
Graceful Knots saving for my chanel. Soon as I have it guaranteed won’t be sitting in my closet- it will be enjoyed everyday ☺️
@@malous709 honestly I agree. Its gonna take me a while to save for one but I am too and it certainly won't be sitting in my closet either. Work is where i spend most of my time. I hardly go out apart from going to church and church programmes so that means I won't use the bag then lol
When you said Coach my heart skipped a beat! I love Coach so much. Sometimes I stop using my higher end bags to reach for my Coach children. They’re such amazing bags for the price.
Awww that’s cute. I love my Coach children too 🥰
YOUR CONTENT IS SOOOOO GOOD. PROPS TO YOU, SHOPHIE! I love how you build this connection with your followers. You seem to be the nicest person ever to be around
She's a QUEEN. 🥰
I’m lucky because I work in an Operating Room and we wear scrubs 😂 No thought required
Elizabeth Anne Doctor office and we wear scrubs as well
Elizabeth Anne I love wearing scrubs, I accessories with pink leopard print crocs and my stethoscope is pink/rainbow 🤪
Same here :D
I work in the non-clinical sector of healthcare now and I miss wearing scrubs. It’s so hard coming up with outfits sometimes.
Me too
Sis you ain’t fooling anyone at work. you pull up to work in a Porsche 😩😩 lol. I love it though.
EXACTLY! SHE LITERALLY LOOKS LIKE MONEY!
Her and David actually have a more low key car, I believe a Ford focus? Anyway I think when she had the Porsche she was working for herself anyway so didn’t have to consider promotions etc.
Her boss doesn't know she is a youtube star?
fabulous life
As far as I’m aware her and David ar eself employed so they basically doesn’t have a “boss” just clients
@@fabulouslifeinchrist1349 now she owns her own agency so she is her own boss
I believe in being your truest self and doing what makes you happy in life. If u r putting ur best at work and it’s not being appreciated, the universe would have a way of catapulting u to where you are meant to be in due time. If you have luxury, you really don’t need to scream “here I come” with material possessions before people realize you have it; those who know would know whether you choose to show off or not. Enjoy what you have; embrace the blessings but most importantly give back with a selfless heart whenever you can. No one can quench your shine...💕💕
(this is for someone who really needed to hear this)
Love you Sophie and I totally see where you’re coming from. But I’m gonna have to politely disagree on that. We spend 70% of our lives at work. I want to wear what makes me feel good and have the nice things I worked hard for next to me, getting used, rather than leave them being at home collecting dust. I want to wear fashion forward clothing (labels or not), puffy sleeves and feathered skirts, just because this is who I am. The alternative is just keeping it as you said “vanilla”, blending in, being unnoticed, and just come home exhausted after a whole day of work. What would that be for? So you’d get a promotion and more money? What are you gonna do with that money? Buy more nice things to leave at home?
Agree with you Demi! Life is too short not to dress up every day and as you pointed out, we do spend most of our time at work.
I feel like wearing my favourite things to work contaminates them, though? Like you said we spend so much time at work, when I'm not at work I don't want anything to remind me of work!
I think you have to consider where she’s coming from. She has worked in corporate environments, like I do as well (specifically banking). It’s not just about “making more money”, it’s also about being recognised for what you’re doing. I do come home exhausted and I want that effort to be recognised through promotion and pay raises. We don’t even get inflation so even that is an argument for me at work. In light of that, the last thing I need the bosses thinking is that it’s just fine not to give raises and promotions etc and that would be the impression I’m giving if I’m wearing Chanel to work! If you do that, you give the wrong message and you effectively become worse off every year. Now, if you don’t work in that kind of environment and you’re free to wear whatever you want, please enjoy it!
If you're spending 70% of your life at work, you need a new career. That's almost 17 hrs a day, 7 days a week. It should always be less than 25%. I think the point is that you go enjoy life after work with the fancy things rather than letting them collect dust. It also depends on the job you have as to what style would be appropriate there without potentially stunting your success. Indeed, in a majority of jobs, it can hurt your ability to rise. I shattered a lot of glass ceilings by keeping it simple. If people are talking about your clothes, they aren't listening to your ideas.
@@imscanon I was thinking 70% of your time awake, not literally 70% of your time over all, that would be ridiculous
Before I didn’t wear my Chanel jumbo to work and kept it for Weekend then I realized that the cost per wear is too high and not justified and decided to wear whatever I liked and bought from my hard earned money .
I wear it on daily basis now and couldn’t be happier .
agree, my happiness is very important to me. life is too short. I wear my Lv and interchange with my Coach, MK, Burberry and Kate Spade. just like others who buy luxury cars, I buy nice bags. To each their own.
Janine Dale true
I’ve never been a “label” person and wish more brands offered things with small discreet logos. I always try really hard to find well made “blank” bags and boots that don’t have giant symbols all over them. Just not my style. I so love Coach because their leather bags have removable chains and pieces so you can make it just say Coach on the hardware. Love Tory Burch shoes, just wish it didn’t have her symbol all over them.
tory burch symbol is discrete
for real! i want a balenciga bag but the LOGO is just massive! i can't buy it! but i really love the style. i always wonder if i should just buy it but man, it announces itself!
I would try some of the sustainable brands. They tend to label only on the inside.
Lumi, Longchamp, vintage Mulberry, Modalu, Rebecca Minkoff - there are several brands that have very invisible branding.
Big logos just scream “look at me I have money !”
“That’s the story of life, isn’t it? Look like you’re doing good but not too good. They don’t like that” 😂😂😂😂
Drive a beater to work lol and porche on weekends
I don't like brand logos except tiny ones. I wear tshirts woth logos though to the gym or thrifting but I don't wear logos at work or place of worship
@@fabulouslifeinchrist1349 A former boss of mine legit used to do that lol
Right. That’s exhausting. I’m not interested. I wear what I want.
I think it’s really unfortunate that you should have to dull down your style at work as to not “shoot yourself in the foot” in terms of promotions and moving up. That’s super messed up and so not fair.
aussiedom I’ve had the experience where to get ahead I wore my glasses all the time, tied my hair up and just wore black. I feel like the other women were more accepting of me when I uglied up a bit. Very sadly, it worked and I got the job I wanted.
And what are we supposed to do with our bags that we are leaving at home, collecting dust? I’m sad that I can’t freely use my bags, 2 days on the weekend is not enough time to rotate
Well truth is women are catty and competitive in nature. If they see another women who look better than them, they feel threatened. Hence why we have to deal with this.
Makemepretty sadly I have noticed this sort of treatment when I dress up and wear expensive clothes and accessories. Women do tend to treat you better when you’re more plain and unassuming. This is why working for yourself is the only solution towards freedom in every respect.
aussiedom Life’s not fair Play the game
It's a shame that you're not given raises and promotions based on your skills, accomplishments-instead its based on whether or not you "need" the money. You should be able to tastefully wear your Lux/designer clothes, and handbags without that much scrutiny. Oh well, guess that's just work place politics.
Ideally it should be based on your work and accomplishments but people are weird and it's not always the case... it doesn't matter if you were already a billionaire heiress or something, you still deserve to be rewarded for your hard work. It's like when businesses don't want to hear that you want an entry level job because you need the money even though they know that's why 99% of people want the job so you both have to pretend like it's not lol.
I wouldn't want to stay in a place where you are not promoted on your hard work and merit. To be honest, I wear luxury peices to work and it has not hindered my ability to get the job I want and the salary I deserve.
@@stephhhie17 very true!
@@longblack_4414 Same, I am the only one who wears brands in my office and I have never had an issue getting a raise. I never heard looking scruffy will be better for a promotion. Where I work, it is the opposite actually.
Sad but true reality.
I experienced the opposite. When I started wearing what I wanted to wear, luxury or not and I started focusing whole heartedly on the actual work and putting myself out there I had no problems getting the promotion and payrises based on my merit.
Maybe you r smart enough, qualified n tactfull...I was innocent n raised to be transparent towards ppl n in the working industry,it was quite hard for me to survive...till I was in my late 20ish....n experienced I was sabotaged by my manager on my sales. Tge next job I had tp lie by infirming them I studied local not abroad to UK.
It depends on the people you work with. Some girls are just nasty jealous.
If I didn't take my designer bags to work I'd never use some of them! I bought the Antigona specifically for work - that said none of my colleagues know anything about designer bags, especially the men. :-)
Helen Sale I bought the antigona for that exact reason as well
Agree, enjoy them everyday. cheers (:
This was the story of my life until my fiancé asked me what was the point of buying all these luxury goods and having them collect dust. Live as if each day is your last!
I agree, it really does depend on the work place and I think sometimes the age of your co-workers. I worked at a Uni here and everyone was about my age (at the time in my 20s) and I had bought a used Prada bag for $500 (it was my first high end designer bag and it was in brand new condition) and a few months into me using it a team lead approached me and while we were talking he said; "Well, you're the only one in this office with a Prada bag." I thought it was so rude. Like yes. I am. But how is that any of your business??? But after that and with different places I've worked I get more compliments on that same bag. I however still am daunted with dealing with people who don't understand luxury and put me down about it, or are just bewildered that I spent $500 bucks on the bag, to which I then have to explain it retailed for much, much more and I've used it every single day for about 3 years (still do). A lot of people really just want a $20 bag and then get mad when it falls apart I guess. But I'm rambling now so--thank you for another amazing video
The Witchy Mouse I read all of this 😂 ❤️
The Witchy Mouse First time I made so many comments in yt channel - great topic thanks Sophie! and agree with you! They’re meant to be enjoyed/used everyday. I stop caring what people think- can’t control that. I do me (:
I really enjoy your videos and seldom comment but I felt compelled on this one. I’m with those in the comments who disagree with a number of the presumptions in this video. Ultimately people should were what they’re comfortable with so if flexing in luxury is not comfortable then definitely skip it. But a few things to consider. 1. A raise or promotion should never be based on who “needs” it. Different people bring different talents to the work place so I don’t know what the right formula is but it can’t be based on need. 2. No one at a job is unclear about who is making more money within the company up and down the ladder. Not one person believes the receptionist is making more than the project manager because the receptionist carries a Chanel. 3. Even if the receptionist makes less in the job than the manager it is completely possible that the reception generally has more financial means or disposal income. That’s just life. Some people just have more regardless of job or education. Different people have different access to resources, different demands on their funds, different priorities. 4. Someone else said this already. We spend do much of our time at work if we aren’t wearing our nice things to work then where? I know you have a video about why no one needs multiple handbags so maybe that’s the answer. Sorry this was long. Thanks for the great videos!
Nicestgirl Ever she is sharing her experience and much as we don’t like it, people are not rational. My friend sells luxury real estate and she has to hide her IG life and dresses very plainly to work. Every time they see her car or her boyfriends Bugatti or any subtle luxury item she owns, she’s asked why she needs the job! People are just people, figure out why you need in life and navigate the work place.
People in Germany could never handle a single female with designer clothing. The envy is real. Totally get what you're saying. Ugh.
Yes...
Envy in general is something my cousin see there.
She is not single, and her experience was not about designer clothing/accesories, but when she was pregnant with her first son, she cried every day because of what people, women most of all, said to her. (Ok: pregnant people have a hormonal situation that can makes everything unbalanced for some, but she showed me screenshots and it was terrible).
Oh yes! I live in Germany and I hate to wear my luxury items at work. They always have to discuss the prices.. my work bag is a Marc Jacobs bag, most of them recognise it as a designer bag 🙄
Lucía Blaügeschutz omg what did they say?
This is so true. People cant stand and dont want to believe that a female makes as much as a male in income and can be succesfull in professional life and financially independant to afford anything she wants. They rather have you say "my husband got that bag for me cause I alone cannot afford it".
Your skin looks so fresh and beautiful in this video. I love your hair up like that, very pretty Sophie!
Ehh... Honestly if someone has an issue with me wearing labels that’s their issue. I work in an office where I don’t see clients in person . I love wearing my labels and they make me happy . Screw people who try to shame you on what you spend your money on. My money my choice
I would respectfully disagree. I wear all my luxuries to work. People spend money, just different preferences. Some on Saturday drinks, some on vacations. I like to buy things that serve me long and I enjoy it every day. You deserve your promotion with your hard work. If you are treated unfairly, it has nothing to do with your outfit- it’s just the the environment you work in.
I think that depends of what type of job you have
I’m a teacher and I have seen some teachers not really care what they wear and other teachers dress in heels and a skirt. I’m in the middle. I like to dress up. But I won’t wear heels or a suit. I once had a fellow teacher ask me when I was wearing a back dress, why I was wearing something too dressed up. Because I like to. I take pride in how I look and the kids are always completing me. They say kids don’t notice what you wear. They do.
Christina 🖊📖 I completely agree! As a teacher myself I find I get more respect from students if I dress nicely.
I completely agree! I also teach mostly girls, and they always notice what I’m wearing (especially jewellery!) I don’t wear heels much as by the end of a long day it hurts.
I bought my birkin to work once... I knew that none of the managers were in. No one else knew what it was.
VJ Loves it’s great to have luxury bags that don’t have obvious logos. The Chanel reissue is a great example
I feel like everyone knows what a birkin is
Ciaran Gold you’d be surprised lol the average lay person does not know what a Birkin is .
Ciaran Gold You would think so, but there are quite a few people who don’t.
Would spotted it a mile away and nope don’t have one 😂 cheers
I agree 100%! I invest in quality clothes and “contemporary” bag 💼 and shoe 👠 brands for work and save luxury brands for my private life. Great advice and thank you as always! 🙏 💙
Me too
I think it’s also a mark of class and humility to be thoughtful of what you wear. Respect the work environment you’re working in. It’s not just about ME ME ME. The bottom line is, no luxury item is worth its implicit cost of production value. It’s a huge premium you’re shelling out. So if you’re frivolous with your spending, colleagues wouldn’t hold you in as high of regard. Simple.
I’m in sales so I can wear whatever the heck I want! I am my promotion!
I also try to avoid wearing too many designer labels to work. It's a shame that some people are so influenced by jealousy and envy. I really love the Blue Senreve bag!!!
Personally I just find that when brand logos are too pronounced it can look distasteful that’s all
laylac true
I always search for discreet or hiden logos because I think showing them is tacky.
I agree, I dislike too many logos on anything I own as well unless it’s a classic like the Louis Vuitton speedy. I originally didn’t like it due to it screaming out Louis Vuitton and luxury but it later grew on me as a staple for casual wear. Otherwise I do prefer less logos on my belongings
Thank you for these tips - things I try to practice already but it’s a good reminder - I agree about being more vanilla at work - yet, I find my personal style stands out because I look put together all the time while many of the ladies I work with (eg bosses) simply are inconsistent in there presentation (eg from leggings with a sweater to a lovely dress) - I explain to those who ask about my personal style, that I simply feel most comfortable dressed this way - I also never wear designer at work (totally agree) 🙂
I totally agree with you. The work place can be petty sometimes. You never know how many people your success makes sad, and would want to use that against you,
Very valid points, Sophie. It’s unfortunate that wearing visibly luxe or flashy items to work can kick us in the butt. I want to be able to wear these items as much as I can.
I’m lucky that I’m self employed. I don’t own my practice, but I’m an associate and see patients 4 days of the week. My handbag gets stowed away. I’m not in any direct competition with the owners of the clinic. My clothes are high street. I may wear designer shoes time to time, weather permitting.
I don’t like to wear designer bags in front of catty women in my extended family or in laws, however. I have a much older sister in law who has jealousy issues. I always leave my bags in the car. No joke, I currently have a pair of flip flops in the car Incase I need to change my shoes if I happen to get dragged to see her.
Sad, but the reality is that no one is happy if you’re in some way doing better.
I do own a few CHANEL classic flaps. I especially enjoy the Chanel reissue for this reason because I almost feel safe to wear it anywhere do to the absence of the CC logo.
loving how you show us how we can be on point even when we're just wearing simple things. love you so much!
My go-to do “discreet & high quality” bags come from Cuyana, Everlane, and Lo and Sons.
A little tip, in Paris you can find small independent leather stores that sell nice italian leather bags (structured or casual) for like 70€ !!!! and the leather is usually very soft and buttery
I feel like this might be a UK thing. In the States you’re always told “dress for the job you want”.
Sleepy Sartorialist I just posted the same thing and saw this comment. No place I’ve worked in cared as long as you looked put together.
Totally agree. I work in Philadelphia and every other person on the street is carrying a Vuitton bag (usually Neverfull MM). I wear all my luxe to work (Vuitton, David Yurman, etc) but I am also a Director in my company and 56 years old, so I can wear what I want - the other female directors wear the same kind of things. It's expected at my level that you look put together and classy.
Sleepy Sartorialist that’s true! They do say that. But I have noticed though that some bosses feel intimidated by you if you look and present your self better than they do and so even if you are right for the job, they don’t hire you. Perhaps it depends on the profession.
In Germany, it's worse. You're considered a bad person if you wear brand items, especially luxury brands. That's why I only wear my luxury items in my spare time, but NEVER to work. That would be like asking to become a social pariah.
Rimfaxe96 Holy moly that’s intense! Good to know if I ever want to do work overseas. Thanks for sharing that. Wow!
I am male, I changed career so at a late stage (late 20s) I had an internship at this place with no real dress code. I was working under the CEO (who is close in age). Anyway, so for my first month, I try to always look polished yet not too formal until the day a client mistaken me as the CEO. I nearly died and the funny thing is neither of us were wearing full suites, just a plain shirt and jeans.
Sam S it makes sense that the CEO would be richer and have the luxury to make himself look more polished-at least that’s what people assume just by looking
I spend my days teaching 4/5 year olds. They like to sneeze on me and wipe their hands on my clothes, especially if I'm wearing tights, they love the feel of tights... 😂 I buy my work wear in the Sainburys sales 😂🤣😂
Beth Dixon I worked in Education for many years. My uniform was a pair of khakis, a polo or button down shirt with my apron. I try not to dress too fancy. ☺️
You are absolutely correct Sophie, people will dislike you for how you dress. I went through that crap all my work life. It's not fair but people have issues. I chose not to make their issues my problem but it does happen way too often. 😍
People will show respect according on how much money you earn. This is why when im at work i like to mix and match high st and designer. It keeps people guessing
I have grown to reward myself for my hard work. I would not wear a big tote on the weekends, so work it is.
I believe though in having work clothes, so that when I am out of work I look different.
It’s also about feeling good and comfortable.
If I bought the latest luxury car, I won’t take an Uber to work.
My motto: work smarter, save so you can invest then play later.
Love your channel btw
But what about people like you who are self-employed, Sophie? Men who run businesses will show up with expensive watches and cars, don't you think an elegant luxury bag gives the vibe that you are successful in business and therefore trustable?
The Planning Nerd very true. In sales, a man has to drive a nice car and wear a Rolex to come across as successful. If you’re selling your company’s products or your own pro services if you are self employed , clients will expect you to look the part. At least that’s been my experience in the US. It’s been interesting reading everyone’s perspective on such an interesting topic.
I agree. I carry my Coach bags when I'm at work and running errands. I carry my Hermes bags when I'm someplace nice. I also don't wear my fine jewelry to work unless I have an important meeting. About 10 years ago I had a male coworker give me the same warning about bringing nice things to work and I've always followed it.
this is actually really good advice! it's also about being respectful to the people you work with because some around you might not be able to afford luxury and that can create envy and toxicity in the work place if you always seem like you're showing off what you have. so yeah, 100% think this is great advice
Kate Spade has two brands, the regular high end which is denoted by the classic “Spade Button” (I say that because it is raised) vs the outlet brand which typically only has the name and the “spade” symbol stamped on the product. The price point is significant as well. The outlet products aren’t bad quality leather but it’s as you said, doesn’t feel that softer leather feel.
Miss S yes, there’s a difference. Of course the company will never tell you that. You can search for this topic on UA-cam and find out all of the hidden things brands won’t tell you.
Honestly... just wear what makes you happy. Seriously. Don’t let others determine what you can and can’t wear to work. You’re there most of your week, at least have some fun with it.
So grateful for the company I work for. I wear my designer items & I am very open about my salary… but I tell my team how I worked for what I have & I make sure my team knows I’ll do everything I can to get them where they want to be as long as they put forth the effort. No room for envy. There’s plenty of success to go around!
All good and sensible points. I think it depends on the culture, environment, situation, one’s job and a lot of other dynamics. Best to be on the side of low key; yes. But I wouldn’t say “never” because there are items out there designed to be used for work that are luxury items. I think if it’s no higher than 1000 mark and of a discreet design (even with a prominent logo), there should be no shame or problems. If I felt held back professionally because of my handbag I would leave that environment and move somewhere with a healthy culture, to be honest.
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I love how practical and useful your videos are. There are hundreds of people on youtube who say that everything is amazing and everything is awesome, and I am tired of it, because very often I see already from the video that it is not that amazing and awesome, and here I know if I watch your video, I will get your honest opinion on which I can rely. It is almost like asking a mother for her opinion, you know she wants what’s best for you, but she can also be very critical. Love it!
I agree, don't be showy; and do show that you physically respect yourself. Keep it simple and unassuming.
I am talking from experience and what it costed me in the end. It's not worth it at all. Keep the work life simple and little impersonal.
Sum mer totally agree and it also cost me.
I agree with Summer.
Well said. Also the reason I don’t share anything about my personal life at work or my personal views on politics etc.
@@Julia36D - 🥺 the nightmares are coming back. The mistakes I made here...aw, the awful teachable lessons !😖
Completely in agreement!
Depends on your field.
I'm going into fashion, specifically as creative colour consultant. I have to know the fashions, the trends, fads, and styles. The colours and shades of each season.
I also have to look the part or I won't be taken seriously, so does that mean designer staple pieces, absolutely. A luxury bag, and/or coat will serve me better than to wear nondescript, regardless of quality. At least 2 of my teachers told us to get a luxury bag after graduation to bring to interviews to get the higher opening salary.
A friend is a lawyer, her boss told her to get an expensive luxury bag to bring to meet clients. That way you'll get the higher paying clients bc they precieve you to be successful enough to own a Chanel bag. She followed the advice. Age has increased her portfolio drastically bc of a Chanel bag.
You are so right. My grandfather told me this very life lesson to live by. Bravo! Sophie. I also agree with your choice of bags for work.
Do you have a video of quality non designer bags? I like it when you mention them like in this video, but a dedicated video to show how to shop for quality (what to look for in stitching, piping, etc)
I have to say, this is one of the BEST topics on luxury, Sophie you are on point!!! You have to be very careful and save your high end lux for evenings out etc., people are naturally competitive. Or, you can say this was a gift from my parents/boyfriend/husband...that also tends to help. This goes with lux cars as well. I live in Los Angeles, and you would think this is non issue as many folks have luxury vehicles (including myself)...but it is in some workplaces. Very sad, people can't stand to see others thriving so best to keep it fairly toned down (I have a second commuter vehicle) if you want a promotion.
I bring my louboutin tote into work everyday but I think I’d be more hesitant to bring in a Chanel. I wouldn’t want ppl assume I have loads of money when I really don’t - far from it.
So my bf has a company with his dad, and his dad once in a meeting with a client saw the client's car, they have a very good relation so he felt to leave a tip for his client/friend, asking first if he was using a certain type of car to visit his client? (client of the client), he said yet! And he replied, do not use your best car to visit a customer, it doesn't look good cause when you present a project well, they'll see you as very expensive right off the bat. That's a lesson I learned without being involved in the story, it's nice that you Sophie is approaching this subject and teaching people, well done!
Really interesting take on this subject Sophie! I have definitely had to 'defend' my wardrobe or a car from colleagues in the past so find this relateable. Why are people like this? Live and let live 🙂
I so agree with you Sophie! Status and money are talked about a lot in my workplace, and anyone that looks slightly well off seems to get the raw end of the stick, and all the snide remarks from lower paid employees. I like your term “vanilla” and that has served me very well in the workplace! I keep my Chanel and LV for the weekends!
Sophie your top looks so flattering on you! Where is it from?
Oh yes! I would LOVE a workwear video!
Hi Sophie, thanks for being up such interesting topic. Last week a coworker of 8 years just decided to come by and gave me a lecture on how my LV speedy can feed family of 4 for a whole month. This is first time I brought a designer bag to work, and I did contemplated for a while before doing that. In the end I figured an LV speedy is probably the least ‘provocative’ designer bag because all my coworker could easily afford it and 90% of them are men (I think they simply don’t care about bags).... But it proofs me wrong lol (the guy came commenting is a man and quite senior of age, I am not offended but very surprised!)... So I agree with you, you never know what people are thinking and how they judge you and how those judgement can impact your life. Unfortunately right now a lot of high end items screams the label, it is hard for people to not notice. I used to bring Anya Hindmarch to work and nobody said a thing ;). In the end I figured MAYBE that particular guy IS currently struggling to feed a family of 4... you just never know what is happening in other ppl’s life.... I think i will still bring LV speedy (come on!) but probably never Chanel or Hermes... especially something screams the designer label on it...
I wear Tory Burch and Longchamp to work, with my small Gucci wallet. TB heels or non-designer pump shoes. I am a banker so I do wear formal outfit with required simple fresh makeup and hairstyles.
I do the same, but I have my LV wallet with me ;)
Same
I can understand your point of view. Being understated and not flashing your wealth maintains you relatable which works for collaboration at the office. However, I also agree with the notion that if you judge me by my bag, well that means you have a lot of time to sit and look at my possessions rather than my contribution to the company. So if you saved and finally got that bag, use it. From a utilitarian point of view, every use reduces the overall cost per use of the item. So use it.
I’m so excited to hear you talk about Kate Spade! I love love love her bags and they’re more affordable for college students like myself who still want to enjoy luxury goods 😁
Laurel Smith agree I like Kate spade bags ;)
Love Kate Spade!!!
I own a handful and I love them all, especially the totes. They have been my go to for work.
@ Laurel Smith. How interesting!! I am actually back at Uni after so many years to start another degree and I took my Kate Spade bag to college last week and this week. Its my Uni bag. I wasn't really using it so what was the point of it just gathering dust:)
Graceful Knots my school bag is from kate spade too. Its great quality!
Thanks Sophie for addressing this topic of something we all face...I too find myself very cautious, not wearing my luxury handbags unless they have a small label or none at all, otherwise just a plain leather tote or maybe contemporary/high street. It's really unfortunate that people judge so much based on looks, and that hardworking people that might appear more wealthy, sometimes get passed up for opportunities or promotions on just those first impressions alone, sigh. Anyway, I'd love to see more videos on bag suggestions for work, and how to look and feel smart and put together :).
I agree with everything you have to say. I’m curious how clients react to your luxury vehicles when you take them to lunch, etc.? I drive one, too.
Janet Meyers if i had luxury cars and bags would wear/drive them everyday. In my opinion they’re meant to be enjoyed everyday (:
You’re a riot! My friend and I watched you all morning into the late afternoon...we were laughing so much. We loved when you went on your anniversary to Paris and you stated there was a Chanel and Dior on every corner like a (I don’t remember your exact reference) but imagined you meant like a convenience store like in every corner. You’re so much fun my friend’s father passed away yesterday and he said it was very therapeutic for him bc he has to go home to Rhode Island and deal with his family and loss. Thanks, I really do appreciate your sense of style.
I’m so sorry to hear about your friend’s father - that’s awful, I can only imagine what he’s going through now ☹️😢 I’m honoured that you’d both be enjoying the videos 🙏🏽😊xx
I think it depends on the line of work you do ! As for me I wear my hard earned luxury bags whatever the heck I want 🤷♀️they are material things that cost money and make you happy so wear it instead of having them collecting dust ! That's my opinion
Hi Sophie! I loved this video! This was an accurate interpretation of my job about two years ago. I wouldn't even dare wearing anything designer or nice for that matter at my job. My boss had that alpha attitude and she always had to be the best looking woman in the department. A nice pair of boots, a nice leather jacket, or even a simple piece of jewelry, forget it. I can totally relate to this video. So sad that it is spot on it to certain people in the work force.
Great advice, Sophie! I agree, Reiss is perfect for good quality office clothing. I love Kate Spade for cute everyday jewellery and bags. The Aspinal bag looks so classy, and I keep seeing good reviews of Senreve. Would love to see more videos like this, thank you! 💖
I'm so happy to hear someone tell the truth about workplace fashion politics. This even goes on in the fashion industry! The same goes for interviews - I seriously doubt if anyone, no matter where you live, gets hired only for their skills. Personality and appearance rate far higher than anyone wants to admit.
I wear a uniform to work so I don't have to worry about messing up my nicer stuff. Going out however, that's when Miss. EXTRA BOUGIE makes her appearance 😊😊 I say if you wear regular clothes to work, dress appropriately but not too flash. You can look nice without trying to look like you have an interview with Ms. Wintour. Work is work not a fashion show. Leave the luxe at home. Love your channel!!!
Very good tips Sophie :)
It’s interesting though how it’s different depending on the industry. I work in a field with probably 90% men in a comparable position, and I found that if I don’t wear a luxury piece with a visible brand logo to work, people mistake me for a promo girl/waitress 😂
Good advice as usual Sophie..Love the Aspinal bag great size and very stylish but not to much to put someones back up n the office.....Sad as it is you have to be so careful with certain people.
I have worked at a diamond firm which was in the middle of the diamond industry in my country. I saw all these office girls (secretaries I assume) dressing in the fanciest clothes, wearing all gold and diamonds they own, designer shoes and bags all that. They were the ones people talked down the most. They were seen as gold diggers with a double agenda. I'm more modest fashion wise. I wore blouses buttoned up to my neck with black pants or whenever I wore a dress it was with black stockings. And on top of that I never wore any jewelery dispite working with and handling diamonds all day. I never had any trouble being taken seriously. Nobody talked to me like I was a lesser being and was trusted with a platinum credit card of the most important bank manager in our industry. I just think when it comes to business and big money, people just don't like it when you're there to flaunt it all. They are very very serious about their work and they want our focus to be on their business too. After all, they're not paying you to express yourself and your personality but to express theirs. Never have I ever felt like they thought that I was doing better than them. They knew very damn well who were cashing in millions of $$.
What other people think of me is none of my business ! I am living true to myself and my style .. I understand you’re argument however I have to disagree! Sending lots of love ❤️
Thank you for another amazing video. I work hard and save up for my dream bags/jewelries. I used to wear Chanel/Hermès to work and I used to received decent bonus. About 2 years ago, someone commented on my bags and jewelries to other colleagues and my bosses. Since then, I often hear weird guesses about my income and my husband’s income (because of my rings). I haven’t received any bonuses in 2 years and my boss just joking told me that I’m a great asset to his company which is why he pays me enough to own luxury items. I hate changing my job over money, however, I have been thinking of changing my job because the standard bonus + increase for my type of job is at least 30%-50% of annual salary. Great video, very useful suggestions 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻
Nope not dulling down myself.
me too! my bags make me happy and i work hard so i can buy them (: cheers!
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Ooh! Thank you for turning me on to this brand, Lottie London. It looks like exquisite quality, and very understated work bags. I opted for the large lion Landsdowne bag for work. At 13”x9” it will fit 8.5”x11” work papers yet isn’t too flashy to turn anyone off. I’ve been using a Swiss army bag pack to be as discreet as possible. This year I’m trying to own more bags and shoes that align more properly with my income, without inciting spite from my accounts. I also got a tan croc tote for daily wear. I tend to keep a smaller clutch with essentials within a larger tote with all my extra things. That way when I transition, the tote stays in the car and I grab the clutch out to go with me. It works for me.
Hi Sophie I have not commented in a while. I just couldn’t agree more with you on this topic. In Miami is a whole different level. Some ppl in this city go way overboard wearing designer from head to toe, and no upon intended but it comes across too flashy, not elegant and who cares.
I don’t use my designer bags to work either. Maybe once in a blue moon, I rather use them outside of the work environment but to each their own.
I've been carrying Kate Spade, Coach, and Michael Kors for years, and my bags and accessories in all of them have all been quite durable. I love them all, and would recommend them all.
Becky Rymer I purchased my Kate Spade in early 90’s when Kate Spade was just starting. I love my MK and my coach bags. But I also wear my Lv and Burberry to work. I enjoy my bags and wear them to work just as others
Prefer to buy luxury cars which I don’t so I can buy nice bags & nice shoes
Lol!
@@malous709 nice bags are what I love. I don't care for fancy cars or shoes, but I do love my handbags!
In my workplace I can thankfully wear luxury items without ruining my chances of a promotion. If anything it will work the other way around and will make you seem more successful and competent....which is quite sad also, actually.
I agree but what I've found at the places I've worked is my bosses were happy when we showed up all decked out, it simply meant business was booming.
You are so right. My grandmother and aunty told me that and I have always remember to be careful of what you show people at work.
Sophie, have you heard about a british brand Strathberry? The one Meghan Markle loves and wears. I've just got two of them for autumn: East/West in medium (burgundy) and East/West Stylist (bottle green).The logo doesn't jump in your face and it is an excellent quality leather! For me they are brilliant, everyday bags with style! Have a look..💫🧚🏻♀️
I love all of your videos, but I especially like it when you give advice about what to wear to work and what bags and shoes are best. I find your advice is always spot on. Love from the U.S.A.
You really inspire me, I always watch you when I am feeling down.
I did a mistake by sharing to coworker what I have and how grateful I feel. Eventually other employee started bragging and wanna be louder than everyone else. She also started to speak in a way that she is holding my improvement back at the work place. I stopped sharing about personal life and talk more about work. I see the difference.
I realized that when u share things related to wealth and good loving partners, others tend to feel worse about themselves. Because they dont have the things you have, it creates jealousy and it is an ugly thing. Better to stay humble and receive respect from people than boasting your ego. :)
Laughing because this is so important. I do not wear luxury, but I know first hand how 'blending in' can be very important. When I started at my job people called me "diva shoes" because I wore wedge sandals and heels. Not even particularly flashy. But.. paired with a full face of makeup and a somewhat alternative haircut, I was very different from the average employee. Now people don't care because they know me, but they perceived me as being snobbish at first.
I wear my luxury items to work everyday! It depends on how one carries themselves. One can carry a Birkin to work with modestly in speech and gracefulness to anyone. I’m proud to tell whoever comments or ask about my bag or shoes that it is a good buy and it’s value for money. I’m going to have it for many, many years and It’s never ever going to end up in landfill. And most of all I tell them I only have a few but select pieces compared to some who have more than a dozen bags with a life-span of 5 or less years.
I wear my Prada nylon tote to work but it doesn’t look like a flashy bag, from distance just looks like a plain lowkey black bag which is why I feel so comfortable taking it to work, sometimes I need to go to different places and if I did feel uncomfortable I could just turn the bag so you can’t see the label but honestly I’ve never felt the need to do that. I used to take my pink Kate spade tote and used to get soooo many compliments.
Edit: work place clothes lookbook video please!
I had been thinking the same this about wearing luxury to work. So glad you said this. I almost purchased a luxury purse I would only carry to work because of the size. I will wait and get the smaller going out size. Thanks!
The kate spade bag is very elegant. Good choice!
Yes don’t make yourself a target but some people will find anything! And I think this is quite a British way of thinking, everyone looking at what everyone’s got and who is missing out (and yes, I worked in the UK for 4 years at an advertising agency). Where I had my expenses paid later because I don’t have kids and don’t “need it” - so finance felt I could wait another two weeks. Whereas my colleague with kids needed it urgently.
I wear my more low key designer bags - Prada, LV Neverfull in epi leather but that’s mainly because I don’t want to talk about labels at work. I’m not wearing a Senreve bag so I don’t offend a co-worker who is probably in $700 sneakers. Or a team member who yes, makes less money but has less responsibility.
My boss drives a car with a massive dent in it, she has plain shoes and a crappy handbag that the strap keeps breaking but she has three boys in private school. Everyone just talks about what an unorganised mess she is - why doesn’t she spend some money.
If you’re running around in Chanel and you’re late to work, don’t do a good job. Yes. People are going to say “guess she doesn’t need a job” “too much time shopping not enough time working”. But that has nothing to do with your bag.
Very interesting video 💕 I actually wear all my designer bags to work. I don’t judge people based on their appearance and I hope I don’t get judged either. Nevertheless, people think whatever they want to think. So if you enjoy your designer items, wear them wherever you want to. Just my opinion 😘💕😘💕
I agree 💯. When I used to wear my designer clothes, bags and shoes ppl would wonder about my salary range and then talk about me saying oh did her husband buy her those things?! So the focus on wasn’t on my skills, hard work, accomplishments, it was now on my brand name clothing, how much I was making and then insults like her husband prob bought it for her bec she can’t possibly be doing that well. Don’t give ppl a reason to talk about u or minimize your efforts at work- take Sophie’s advice. Dress smart but keep the Chanel, Gucci etc at home. Let your work ethic, skills, talents speak for you.
I travel a lot and sometimes wonder if my boss thinks I am doing well and don't really "need" the money. Umm, yes I do! I am not going to stop doing what I love the most to appease a certain image. I am smart with the little I have!
I work in tech and the majority of the people at my company are super casual. That has never been my style. I’ve actually found that a lot of the folks I interact with look at my style as a part of my brand. I wear designer to work, not generally pieces that are visually label heavy, and mix it with vintages pieces that I love. I love to look classic, feminine, and chic. While this can also be achieved with mid range brands, I want to wear the designer pieces I’ve worked hard for. I haven’t run into the scenario you described, but I can see this sadly happening for some.
Sophie, Really good video as always! I just wanted quickly point out for you, that when you started showing us how to open your bag, suddenly picture changes and we see the bottom of the bag while you're still talking about the opening. Somewhere around 6:50. I'm saying this, because it would've been much easier for us to focus on one thing first ;)