yea given this woman LITERALLY said the way she found out her husband was cheating WAS MEDITATING AND GOD TOLD HER! She even said that at the most he EMOTIONALLY cheated. She has NO PROOF OF ANYTHING and made all this!!?!?!! Wtf??? Total psycho!!!
@@TheCollapse410...upon finding the initial text messages, that was the only proof, which she didn't want to consider as "proof". If you know the entire story, she did discover everything and the truth came out. So STFU with your ridicule.
@@TheCollapse410you didn’t listen to the whole thing obviously. She FOUND text messages. She did not go into detail because the whole thing is embarrassing and I am sure she is trying to be dignified for her daughter’s sake. That is still her daughter’s father after all!! Not every woman likes to bash her ex husband and call him low down names for his perfidy.
@@TheCollapse410 Actually, it’s kinda more “psycho” to lack very rudimentary listening comprehension skills and then write raging tirades full of erroneous information sprinkled with all-caps words…
I’m 70 years old and divorced from a cheater. It’s been 24 years since our breakup and I’m so glad to be free of him. It was hard in the beginning. I questioned my self worth and whether I deserved happiness. My faith in God and my family’s love have been my strength and solace. As a mother of 4 daughters, I can attest to the fact that believing in yourself and taking the high road will give you a peace unlike any other. Kristin and Roam will be so much better as a pair than they ever were with her ex. When he is my age, he will see the error of his ways. It happened to my ex and I’ve seen it happen over and over again. He was the weak one who didn’t stand by his family and took the easy way out. Shame on him. He doesn’t deserve Kristin or Roam. Best of luck to you all! Much love!
Because they are lacking something(s) within themselves. Even happily married people cheat (read that in an article once). I was cheated on and it took me a very long time to realize that, even though I have contributed to the decline in the relationship (always recognize your part in something), when it was all said and done, he was still deeply unhappy. At the end of the day, it wasn't about me but I'm making sure that his cheating was the best thing that ever happened to me because it forced me to be the woman I was always meant to be.
My father taught all of us to cheat. Some of us grew out of it and some didn’t. Our father always told us women weren’t sh and men must hunt. As we got older we made our mistakes. So it’s not always unhappy men who cheat it is a behavior that can be taught.
I have no idea who these ppl are but the display of these women’s friendship is beautiful to see and I was surprised to learn they’ve only met 3 years ago ! From the chemistry I would guess a lifetime 🥺
This video was so awakening for me, I’m 56 and have let my heartache ruin so many years of my life. I’m afraid of people because of the heartache they can cause, it’s so hard to trust and rely on someone. God bless you all and thank you for this well done beautiful message ❤
Man will always let us down bc we all struggle with our sin nature. But thankfully there is one who is ALWAYS faithful and heals our hearts with His love ❤️ JESUS!
@@pennybozok3549yea given this woman LITERALLY said the way she found out her husband was cheating WAS MEDITATING AND GOD TOLD HER! She even said that at the most he EMOTIONALLY cheated. She has NO PROOF OF ANYTHING and made all this!!?!?!! Wtf??? Total psycho!!!
@@TheCollapse410it’s called woman’s intuition. We know when something’s up. Sorry you don’t have it and call other woman psycho for having it. Hope you never go through cheating and someone don’t come up and call you names. Pretty petty.
@@TheCollapse410 You need to rewatch starting at 7:50 she didn't say that God told her he was cheating and she did find proof on his phone with the two of them texting. So instead of being a complete Asshole and making her out to be something she's not and twisting her words try being a better not bitter human being. I don't understand people like you who feel the need to comment with such negativity apparently you were never taught if you don't have something nice to say then don't say anything at all!! One last thing it is so laughable you called her a Psycho when your response literally made you sound like a complete and utter Psycho!!!
People make dumb mistakes. Perhaps the dumbest, in ANY relationship, is cheating. If someone will cheat with a married person, sooner or later they will also cheat ON that same person. They have no values and cannot be trusted. LIVING WELL IS THE BEST REVENGE.
Love how Roam is being taught to be a strong woman through example! It’s devastating watching a loved one ( my daughter) experience the heartbreak of infidelity, especially when she had just given birth. Women need to band together, support each other and value their worth. 👧💪🏼💪🏼
It's been beautiful to watch how much they both have grown through this all! I'm so sorry to hear your daughter went through that💔 sending her love and healing!
@@rdred8693yea given this woman LITERALLY said the way she found out her husband was cheating WAS MEDITATING AND GOD TOLD HER! She even said that at the most he EMOTIONALLY cheated. She has NO PROOF OF ANYTHING and made all this!!?!?!! Wtf??? Total psycho!!!
I was cheated on my my ex-wife - it came as a sickening shock... After processing simply that it had happened I began a journey of personal growth that was amongst the best and most wonderful of my life... And at the end when I had come to a place of real peace with myself I met the love of my life.. -- I loved this post mostly because rather oddly it is nice to see someone else growing, healing, and welcoming what comes next - I think it was Lilly Tomlin who said "Forgiveness is giving up all hope of a better past" and I was reminded of this when your friend talked about how for her revenge was not wanting/needing revenge - She is a strong woman and all will be well I am sure - but I will light a candle for her not because she is in trouble but because she is clearly on a path of growth which is always a blessing.. Also Kels and Jay this video was tenderly done, bravo!!
I love the quote! I was liberated from resentment the day I realized that refusing to forgive was basically just me metaphorically picking the scab; _I_ was the one suffering, _I_ was the one becoming disfigured. Forgiving was just the process of letting go of being the victim (and I don't mean "playing victim;" I've never gotten juiced from that kind of attention. It was about fear and distrust and loss of belief in my ability to discern.) Forgiving is an act of self-love.
my ex husband cheated on me and when i found out i was baffled and after talking to him realized that while he was ready to be a husband having our son made him feel trapped so i let him go. he kept trying to come back because he said he missed me but he needed room to be him and i needed to feel secure on my own and heal. In the process of our divorce he got another woman pregnant and she had a little girl he didnt stay for her either but strangely her and i set aside those hurt feelings and ended up raising our kids together today she is my best friend and i count her as being one of the best things that have happened in my life we have a beautiful family sadly i live in texas now and her in south carolina but we talk everyday and still very involved in each others life. sometimes its healing to just live and let live.
And now you know your ex wasn’t meant for either of you, he was simply Gods tool (no pun intended 🤭) to create a family of love, friendship and support that your ex was never able to be for either of you or your kids.
This is the most realistic view on healing from emotional betrayal. Just when you think you might be there, another hill to climb arrives. It takes the time that it takes, we can not speed it up, even if we try. Bless you Kristin, and thank you for sharing the real, raw truth.
My congratulations to Miss Kristen for getting over the pain and putting it all behind her. Carrying pain can be like having a worm eating away at your insides, only making things seem even worse. Stay strong Kristen.
I remember the tour of their home, when Roam was born, and Kristin was so happy. Then something happened and they were gone, and I was so sad because I didn’t know if they were ok or not. Had they been hurt in an accident? I’m so happy to see the girls again, and how they’ve grown through this tragedy. What a kick in the gut, followed by a lot of healing for Kristin. Roam is growing into such a beautiful little lady!!! Kristin is an absolutely incredible mamma, and I’m glad she got the support she needs. What an inspiration! My ex husband did the same thing to me 40 years ago, right after I gave birth to my sweet boy, and the other day it hit me again, the wave of despair I felt when I found out. I can relate to Kristin feeling up and down like she described. Thanks for doing such an amazing video and giving us all an update that they’re going to be ok, are ok now. Love to Kristin and Roam. ❤❤❤
@@crystaldragon8211yea given this woman LITERALLY said the way she found out her husband was cheating WAS MEDITATING AND GOD TOLD HER! She even said that at the most he EMOTIONALLY cheated. She has NO PROOF OF ANYTHING and made all this!!?!?!! Wtf??? Total psycho!!!
@@TheCollapse410 ?? Did you actually watch the video? She saw the messages and caught him. I have no idea where yer coming from .. the whole point is that she's good now and moving forward with a strong sense of self. Nothing better than to lead & teach your child than by example & talking thing through with them.
@@TheCollapse410you missed a lot…God might’ve given her thoughts about it, but the “proof” was in her husbands messages. They don’t even go into the rest of the story. He likely confessed. She says she didn’t want to leave her marriage for just “thoughts” where she might’ve been wrong… Also she mentions “even if they do stay together” I’m paraphrasing, but it was hinted at that they are together. You missed a lot, and are doing some crazy name calling. Are you ok? You sound very angry and bitter yourself. I’m sorry if you have been done wrong also. Maybe take a lesson from her on getting rid of bitterness. I can relate. It happened to me and I had to let it go also or have it ruin mine and my kids lives. I’m so glad I did. I have peace. Bitterness and unforgiveness kills. Good luck and God bless.
Thank you so much for this video. I've checked periodically to see if they were back. My heart goes out to Kristen, she didn't deserve to be cheated on. My respect to her for having the courage to be vulnerable and share her experience with us.
Yes it was obvious when FRANKIE helped him with his project they were so compatible definitely. A great temptation for Wil for Frankie was an amazing person hard on Frankie's Husband as well together they were very compatible and yes so Tragic for Kirsten. A great betrayal!! tears tears tears. Love sometimes has to be let go of so happy she is Healing for nine years a long time and Kirsten so in Love with Wil. Perhaps Frankie was Wil's soulmate we all have to let go and let God. Wil was not a bad person it just happened and Kirsten had a good Nine Years. Love teaches us to Grow i can bet that Wil is still with Frankie. Lets pray Kirsten meets her mate to heal her deep down LOVE HURTS
@@Te-mar-a-ma7not when you have made a commitment to someone and have a child with them. At that point, it is time to die to self and put others first. I will NEVER repsect a homewrecker and the person who left their family for him or her.
So thankful I came upon your video. I’m literally going through this exact situation right now. I filed for divorce in January of this year, my son was only 7 months old. It was so difficult to come to terms with not having our family anymore that I stayed and tried to save our family. I needed so much proof. It’s sad that I needed to be mistreated longer in order to come to terms with the person he just is. There’s nothing I can do. My emotions are just the way you explained yours. I haven’t grasped that life will be better, yet but I know I will get there as you did. I don’t have the close friends and support you do, which I know is huge. But I am a child of God and I know He will be sufficient for me. ❤
You will be ok! I left with nothing & had nothing in my bank ac. Was unemployed for a year. Resilient turned into HOPE. Today, I'm back on track making 6 figures and feel 1000x happier. Hang in there! Remember to be KIND to yourself & not give up!
Love between a mother and daughter is unbreakable! As a mom even if you don't think your doing it, you are teaching your beautiful daughter life lessons that will make her so strong and loving. God has you both in his hands and has put you on a path of happiness and joy! Much luck on your future together!
My husband cheated on me and I didn’t find out until he gave me less than two minutes notice before he walked out on me. I had no clue and have been struggling. But watching this has given me some clarity and strength. Thank you
Bullshit. He would have given you plenty of notice and you simply didn’t listen. So he left. And once he was gone and had all his business in order you finally took notice.
My ex-husband cheated on me and broke my heart... I learned that the best "revenge" is for your exes to see you THRIVE withOUT them. For you to live your best life and not give them the time of day. I hate that this happened to her, but I LOVE the message that she has.
"You can search for answers but sometimes people are just broke and they hurt people with their brokenness" - I wish I had heard that and taken it to heart 35 years ago. Still healing from toxic family. Thank you for sharing. I have no doubt that your story is healing the hearts of others.
This helped me so much, going through something very similar and over 50 thinking my life had been complete, it doesn't get easier! But this 17mins of opening up and vulnerability I stumbled across has helped this old guy in ways I can not convey. Thank You!
10:22 this is helping me sooooo much. I never seen or heard of either of you before now and in ten minutes you guys have made me feel like I’m really not alone ❤
I have zero empathy for those who cheat. It’s a choice and never a mistake that you make. You’re a disgusting and vile person if you do that to someone. 🤷🏻♀️
Why? Men have more testosterone than women. It in their nature to sick other sexual options even if they are in a relationship. It's only cheating when women do it. Men having sex is different from women's.
I agree, a mistake is a random one-time action that you didn't know would have a bad outcome. Cheating is not a single action, it is a sequence of multiple deliberate actions while having full knowledge of the consequences.
I went through a bad divorce but did many of the things you had listed. Today I couldn’t be happier and more whole as a person. I finally feel safe in my home and I live my life to the fullest. I find beauty in others and the world. Best of all I met the love of my life. Yes, life does exist after divorce. Thank you for this video.❤
Many of us have been cheated on. Some of us, repeatedly. This is a pain that can be difficult to heal. I appreciate the openness and honesty of this post.
From a woman wife mother I think you are so brave and to be on social media being raw and honest is gonna help so many women that may go through something like your story 🙏💜🙏
❤ Honeslty wasn't sure what to expect when I clicked on this but Kels you wove such a beautiful story of redemption and life after loss. I'm incredibly impressed how you took this very hard topic and made it beautiful. Nicely done.
I understand the grief. It was the one feeling I didn’t expect and didn’t know how to process. I was expected to stay married and to me deep inside I felt something had died. I’m glad you mentioned that because I don’t think it’s an expected feeling at all. I eventually divorced but took 15 years to do it and part of me died in that 15 years. It took 10 more to find life again.
I can completely relate in needing to make new memories in those places without the person who betrayed and hurt you. I did the exact same thing and I'm grateful I did. I didn't realize how important that was and that I'd decided so early on to go back and have memories of a solo trip to replace them. Grieving and healing takes time, give yourself the space you need to work through the literal waves of healing. You'll realize how strong you really are.
My story started when I was in kindergarten. My parents split and divorced because my dad cheated on my mom. Of course, I was young and never knew any better or what it meant. All I knew was my mom and dad would fight alot. He was very abusive to her. My Mom would drive me and my brother all over town in the car looking for him and she usually found him at the bar. It happened many times. After they split, another woman came into my life. I didn't like her. I didn't like it when she kissed my dad or touched him. I was a little girl like Roamie watching someone do those things that my mom was spose to do with my dad. So, I told her one day, "You're not my mommy! I'm not listening to you. I don't like you." For the next 17 years or so, that was our kind of relationship. We never got along. As time passed, I barely saw my dad during visitation because he wasn't around much and he would pawn me off onto her or my grandparents and end up at the bar all night. Sometimes he never came to pick me up at all from my mom's. He might call, might not. So many empty promises and alot of tears. Ultimately I became depressed. Just a sad child. Very isolated and lonely. I resented him and my mom, as well as, the other chick. During all of this, I was experiencing something else that was even more traumatizing. I was being abused by a relative sexually, physically, emotionally, and mentally. No, it was not my dad. I was so traumatized that One day I tried to kill myself bc I just wanted to die. I wanted it all to end, but nobody would listen to me. They didn't believe me. In fact, I was actually blamed. So I intentionally missed my school bus one day and stayed after school and wrote my teacher a letter. She must've found it after I left. My bus driver noticed I didn't get on for the day and came back for me and took me home. The next day, my mom got a call and I was sent to a hospital. I was away from my family and friends for quite some time. It was a bad ordeal. I'm 41 years old now, but thinking about it today, it's still very raw and emotional. It changed my life a lot in many ways. I'd never wish my nightmare on anybody. After graduating high school, I started dating. I didn't know what to do because I had never had a boyfriend. When I met my son's dad, I clunge to him for dear life. Idk why. We were off n' on for 5 yrs until we split because he cheated on me, too. One of the girls happened to be a friend of mine from school. I've been single for almost 14 yrs now. I've never been married, but I do have a son who is 17 years old now. He is my only child. As the years passed by, I have gradually healed, but I deal with PTSD and anxiety. I still have triggers. There will always be wounds with scabs that peel off easily and bleed sometimes, but for the most part, I manage it. Update: As for both of my parents, they remarried, but Dad's 2nd marriage ended in divorce because once again he cheated on THAT woman. My stepdad died of cancer in 2014. Both of my parents were married to their spouses for 20 years. So yes, this story hit me hard...extremely hard, because I have been there. Trust me, I know. Please protect you and Roamie from this nightmare. I would never want anyone to hurt her. Will should have known better. He's spose to protect his daughter from guys like him. I guess, that's where MamaBear comes in and saves the day. I love you all, greatly. Miss you so much. Hugs.
Wow, that is a lot to deal with and at such a young age too. Thank you for sharing, and for feeling comfortable enough to share all of that here. This is always a safe space for you ❤
My heart breaks for you. For myself, I really dug into my Bible hardcore and was healed quickly. It is only to put your faith and lean on God, not other people, ever. Mostly I get angry as I expected better of a very good person. But things are looking so up for me that I really feel he was getting in my way of a great future. It is NEVER to late with the grace of God to start new!
The same thing happened to me. But I was molested by my father then SA as a child and trafficked I tried to commit suicide at 26 and survived and nobody cares.
I am truly sorry that you went thru that. I cant even begin to imagine what that was like. Dont think that someone doesnt care because there are people who do. Especially other victims that have similar stories. We've all been thru similar experiences even if they arent exact. Listen we must not let this kill us. We must not let this ruin the best parts of us. Instead we must use these moments to guide in the right direction so that we can learn and find ways to help others. I find that by helping others, it helps me, and it will help you too. So never give up, utilize what God gave you. Dont give it away because its yours, it belongs to you, and nobody can take that from ya.@@MillennialMountainMama
This made me cry. My husband cheated on me after 13 yrs of marriage. He setup weekend house with her for a yr on weekends while telling me lies about why he had to go out of town 5 hours away. It has broken me
my husband cheated on me 45 years of marriage when i was as tacking care of my Dad when he was dying of cancer. still with him but never ever again it will be the same . 😢
@@sarahalderman3126As a non married man, Im sorry for what your cruel husband did. Cheating has never been ok. I hope to be married someday and grow old together. Sadly with the way modern women are it has become a tad difficult to meet standards. I hope all the cheaters of the world get what’s coming to them, I also hope your hearts can one day be whole again. I lost a girl and it makes me scared to want to try again. 4-6 years single now I think and at 25 times kinda running out. Most good ones are taken by this age. At least I have my doggo ❤
This touched my soul. Made me cry. You had a major spiritual awakening. Your growth has been amazing. You're a healer and unfortunately we must experience the hurt and pain most won't. Congratulations on doing the work. Death and rebirth. It's beautiful. Continue on your beautiful journey and thank you for sharing ❤️
Thank you for the update, I'd missed their videos. Being cheated on is the ultimate betrayal and impossible to understand if you haven't experienced it... I'd been married 21 years when I got confirmation. That was 10 years ago and I've never been happier. Life truly is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you respond. Peace, love, and happiness to you all!
It is so funny because this is how I felt after leaving a 10 year relationship you go through the up and downs but at the end, I’m happy you got some good days and some bad days and it takes a long time to trust somebody but you get thereThis was such a sweet video. Love it.
Tell her it will take time. I am a single dad who raised 3 kids on his own. She needs to realize that not all men or women are going to be like this. My ex wife left me 3 times before I as a Christian man threw in the towel. If anyone reads this, tell her to take her time, and work on herself and the little one. I wish i could find the book that helped me, but she will move on. Just have to learn to watch for the red flags when she gets comfortable to have a relationship. It will hurt from time to time like she has had, even years afterwards there will be triggers and have a support network. Tell keep her chin up and keep on keeping on.
I don't watch bus life or anything that because I really don't have the time, however....This video was more than that. It makes me happy the she's relying on God for her streng. I don't know her but I'm very proud of her. God bless you for doing all that you did and making this video. Prayers for you all. 🤗🤗🤗
"The best revenge is no longer wanting revenge" is the single best thing ever said about leaving a relationship. May God bless and protect you along your journey 🙏
Very well done and wholesome video! Everyone can take a lesson from Kristin's attitude and strength, not to mention that she's a dime plus ninety nine!
Kels, Kristin is so blessed to have a friend like you as you are equally blessed to have her! Their channel was the very first skoolie channel I started following when I became obsessed with skoolie life! They have been on my mind for quite some time. Occasionally I would check IG to see if they had posted anything. I'm so sorry this happened to you Kristen, but just look at who you are now! A strong, beautiful, intelligent, independent, woman & mother setting the best example for Roam & surrounded by the most genuine, compassionate, loyal friends! Sometimes we have to weed out our garden in order for it to bloom into it's full potential! Your garden is indeed blooming beautifully! I see a strong, resilient, independent, courageous, woman who chose to overcome what she thought would break her. So proud of you!
ugh such a dang pleasure to finally meet you both and get to lend a hand! And share a pizza. And chat until the wee hours. Break down near me more often, would ya? 😂🤟
I love how this community comes out to take care of each other. That was beautiful of you, Gordo. I’m a stranger on the Internet, but your kindness really touched me. I immediately felt very protective of these women and sweet little warrior child…. I was also inspired by Kristin’s fearlessness and ability to reframe a horrible betrayal, into a new and more beautiful life. ❤️
Wow Gordon you are a gem! I was lucky enough to have strangers help me multiple times & to this day, I still send them love when I think of them. I am adding Gordon to my love sending list. ❤ Love makes the world go around ❤
Wow. I’m not even 5minutes in and I’m blown away by your vulnerability ❤❤❤❤ I’ve never seen any of your videos before. I’m grateful I stumbled on this gem. These are the videos I absolutely love and appreciate. Raw and real
❤ This is proof friends can be forever. 😊 Healing is so hard. From. Death , losing a job, family, friends... Etc. This brings tears to my eyes. Trust is earned not just given..😢 There are still GREAT people out there.. Don't give up on them.
Awesome Video Kels! Thank you for sharing Kristin's triumphs through the pain. Time heals all wounds, and they heal faster with support! I am so glad you were there for Kristin! Keep rockin' the videos Kels!
What a great story, beautifully told, a love letter to friendship. I wish Kristen and her daughter all the happiness they deserve, and thank you for making this inspiring video. Well done.
When you guys were digging yourselves out of that spot trying to leave the place she first found the messages; all I could think was how symbolic it was of how hard it was for her to leave that part of her life behind, but how necessary it was because that place was so chaotic and problematic!
I can so identify with your friend❤ I left my spouse of 32 years because of cheating and she so expressed hersituation of how it is a death of the life she was in. I also REFUSE to get bitter and will live a better life onward. I also had to deal with mold toxicity so it has been a really rough year. I love your bus life and hope to be able to get something like to travel!! Much love to your friend and her daughter going on to your better life with God!❤
I’m not a bus person, I’m a boat person. And the community there is pretty great too. The best gift you can give your kids is nothing being bitter, living a good life and staying soft. 💜
Sometimes when things fall apart, they may actually be falling in to place..Trust your gut instincts, they are your guardian angels...Everything happens for a reason..Sending ❤ to kristin from the heart
It takes a giant to admit to brokenness and to publicly admit it it takes a superhero Mom! I'm absolutely astounded at how well you did in this video. You are doing everything perfectly to show your daughter that the both of you deserve to be treated with overwhelming love, because anything less would be unacceptable. Raising the bar for the both of you is teaching your daughter that there are better men in the world who are worth waiting for. God WILL put the right man in your life when He sees fit. Let Him be your guide in ALL things and you'll never go wrong. It's so beautiful to hear you calling on God to help you through the hard times rather than blaming God for the hard times. You are God's daughter and should be treated as such. God will put a Godly man in your life right when you think there's no one. Thank you for showing the world your love and trust in God!
Kels, thank you for taking the time to share this story. I wondered what happened to them, I followed them, just like I have followed you and Jay, then they just vanished. You are a very dear friend for doing this, Kristin is a strong woman for allowing you to share this story, You always have a way of telling a story, just something about that way you tell it keeps everyones attention. I wish Kristin and Roam the best....having friends like you and Jay is exactly what they need in their lives right now. Again, thank you again for sharing, it's sad, but Kristin is definitely the "winner" in all this.
Thank you for the kind words! I think she's extremely brave for sharing her story. She's already helped so many people going through something similar and I'm so grateful I get to call her my good friend ❤
Kels and Jay, your video about the untold story of the family who disappeared from UA-cam is truly touching and inspiring. Your video is beautifully done and resonates deeply with the theme of resilience and support among women. Kudos to you for bringing this story to light in such a thoughtful and meaningful way. 💪❤
Trauma can be the biggest catalyst to a self awaking. It’s so hard to see that as your going through it but in the end it can transform your soul and the lessons learned through the pain of that journey are forever. Thanks for sharing your story. ❤
“You are ALWAYS BEING LEAD TO SOMEWHERE BETTER!” I’ve never heard it like that. I always say “life happens for me, not to me” but u like your quote better❤❤❤thank you
I'm so sorry to hear you're struggling❤ her Instagram page (@beachykefer)is filled with comments of people who have gone through similar things. You might find some comfort and support there❤
This should’ve come with a trigger warning. I cried my eyes out through the entire video. Some were tears of empathy, the familiar pain of betrayal and loss. Some were for your child. Some were for you and what should’ve been. And some were tears of joy. You seeing your worth and not settling. Watching your healing process is very therapeutic. Thanks for being an open book and sharing freely. I had somehow found and followed you on insta previously and was inspired. But this video really touched a deep part of my soul.
I could sit down with you both and talk for hours! I’m divorced since 06 and if I teach my kids anything I hope it’s independence . The best revenge is not needing them-in any way! I’m 53 and still learning-my story is a bit different because I have 3 kids and none of them are typical. Looooong story. But great vid!
This was an absolutely beautiful vid to watch. From so much pain to contentment and joy. Thank you for being brave and sharing. This will definitely help other broken hearts heal.
Glad she’s happy! Even as an audience member, the videos that had that other couple in them made my stomach turn with unease at the time. I knew as an audience member it would be out of line to say or comment anything about it. I gotta admit I felt real guilty even not knowing you at all when the news came out. It is healing to see you happy! You are amazing! Congrats on establishing a working coparenting relationship! Such a badass.
I hope both of you find peace and healing with God. He is there for you and will never leave or betray you. It happened to me and He healed me. Bless you both.
I love how she was able to move forward. Also her BFF is her true BFF that was a very touching video. Thank you for sharing. Hope you find happiness with someone when the time is right. Your daughter is so beautiful.
Sending many well wishes and prayers to you and your daughter!!! You can do this!!! Bless you both, and thank you to your friends who were really there for you and not just all talk!
I absolutely love the theme of this video. No explanation of the cheating needed, just moving on and embracing the next chapter as best you can. Well done!
I have been cheated on many times in the past and I know how painful that is but I over came it and am where I am today with an amazing man who would never do anything to hurt me. 😭
Love you Kristin! Love you Kels! Made me so happy to see our old bus and footage from traveling together! ❤ can’t wait to see what Roam + Kristin do next!
Being cheated is like stepping in something that you can't get off of you and you can't stop thinking about it in the beginning! Time heals it, but you never forget that feeling and it kind of numbs you! Both of my marriages ending because of it, I'm in my late 40's now and have pretty much giving up!
don't give up there are plenty of women who value themselves to never sink this low! some of us want to please God above all else and would never even consider it.
I know there was a certain amount of pain associated with making this video and revisiting the occasions that made the pain real, but … this video was SO HELPFUL for me. I’ve gone through a similar process for similar reasons. I hate that I’m not alone in this, but … I am SO GLAD to learn that I’m not alone. Thank you for releasing this video.
This was the most amazing video I watched in so long , she’s so strong 💪🏼 and amazing!!! Teaching our daughters to be strong like this is so important , to it fall to pieces when someone rips everything from you!
Such a beautiful and inspiring story. That little girl is so lucky to have a mum who is teaching her what it means to be a woman with real strength and beauty. The husband is such a loser. This woman is gorgeous inside and out. ❤❤
I am now raising my kids in my childhood home and I absolutely hate it. I have so many unhappy, trauma filled and anger laden memories here and it's been a huge struggle... But then I sat one day and realized my old bedroom is full of joy now as my daughter's room. My brother's room is a happy place where laughter happens and imaginations run wild. The family room is the place where we play boardgames, hand out Christmas presents, and cuddle on the couch. Our dinner table is not silent anymore. We talk, we express gratitude and talk about our high and low point for the day. I realized I had built new memories in an ugly place, and I can't hate this place any longer because every spot here is filled with the joy of the family I made, not the pain from the one I came from. It's been pivotal. It took me 5 years to come to that palce though. I love hearing you realized this right away and tackled it. Thank you for sharing your story, the healing process and most importantly- showing your daughter all of this and how supportive women should care for each other. You're amazing.
THANKS FOR SHARING THIS STORY!!!!! I've been married and divorced twice, and both were cheating. Prayers for Kristen as she moves forward and finds better things.
new audience here...saw your video on my suggestion list and glad I clicked. Thank you for sharing the journey and I am learning so much from your insights and appreciate you sharing your outlook with the world.
This was absolutely beautiful, I’ve been following Kristen on IG, so I knew why they left UA-cam but I hadn’t heard the full story like this. I’m so proud of her and little Roam, she is definitely a strong woman and her daughter is going to grow up to be a strong woman also❤️❤️. I cried like a baby through this whole video….happy tears☺️
You’re such a great friend for being there for her and creating this beautiful video in her honor. I’m tearing up. I wish I had been so wise and strong in similar situations. 💜
Wonderful words you have shared. I have been single for thirty years now and the lessons for my daughters (who were 18 and 20 at the time) were the most important to me. Your daughter is blessed to have a joyful mother on this journey.
Thank you for this vid. I had a very strong and emotional reaction to this one. I lost the best, most intimate relationship I've ever been a part of at the start of the virus years and I think now, because of the isolation I became lost in the grief. Since then I've retired and moved into a camper van to travel about with my little sled dog for a couple years or more. This totally different lifestyle has let me revisit my grief on both a deeper level, and to let go also on a much deeper level. Having good support is something that we can not use because we try to deny our need for it. My judgmentalism thinks I should not "have to" grieve or let go of the past and the hurt in favor of allowing myself to live in all the great memories of that period of my life. There's lots of healing out in the world, as if the world is conspiring to help us have a chance to experience the bounty of this world and its people!! Thanks for the slightly different perspective! I love you guys for all you give and all you do, as you live your best life together! Thanks to your friends for sharing their growth, and their joy! I know that today, I was finally able to see the whole thing at one time from beginning to end and really enjoy it. I know today will be a great day to be appreciated and not ignored! ❤
I'm so sorry for everything you've been through, it's never easy ❤Thank you for the kind words. I'm glad you were able to connect with this video and that it's helped you. That was my intention in creating it, and kristin's intention in sharing everything she has been through so that makes me really happy. Wishing you all the best on your continued healing!
Thank you for being such a dear friend …giving yourself fully to someone who needs healing and unconditional love is the best gift we can ever give !! She will make it and live well !!!❤❤❤
Back when I went through so much heartache with my ex, I wished I had strong support around me but I didn't. Looking back, it would have been nice but I moved on without any and I'm stronger for it. Having support is fantastic but it takes YOU to push through it. That's exactly what she did.
I LOVE YOU KRISTEN! I (Lana) did some research after wondering where you went awhile back and found your story by a friend on tic toc. I was shocked. I was mad. I felt for you... I did feel like in the last few videos he seemed kind of distant. What a dip s***. I stayed with my ex way too long, and I give you props for walking away because it is so hard. I finally found my happiness after leaving that bad marriage. So glad to see you and Rome doing well 😊 Much love from a fellow bus lifer ❤
Glad you went inside and healed. Although it hurts sometimes people leave your life. This pushes you to heal and learn the lesson needed to move ahead.
Love that there is healing happening and her greatest revenge was letting go. It took me a long time to get to the let it go stage from my abusive ex husband. I now have a new happy family and I found peace.😊
What a beautiful story of healing. I loved when that man stopped and helped and you said it reminded you that there are still good men in the world 💙 We are our children's first teachers and I went through something similar where I needed to leave a relationship to show my children how to be a strong woman. Thank you so much for sharing ❤️
"The best revenge is no longer wanting revenge." This is amazing story and also a better crossover than Infinity War :D
yea given this woman LITERALLY said the way she found out her husband was cheating WAS MEDITATING AND GOD TOLD HER! She even said that at the most he EMOTIONALLY cheated. She has NO PROOF OF ANYTHING and made all this!!?!?!! Wtf??? Total psycho!!!
@@TheCollapse410...upon finding the initial text messages, that was the only proof, which she didn't want to consider as "proof". If you know the entire story, she did discover everything and the truth came out. So STFU with your ridicule.
@@TheCollapse410you didn’t listen to the whole thing obviously. She FOUND text messages. She did not go into detail because the whole thing is embarrassing and I am sure she is trying to be dignified for her daughter’s sake. That is still her daughter’s father after all!! Not every woman likes to bash her ex husband and call him low down names for his perfidy.
@@TheCollapse410
Actually, it’s kinda more “psycho” to lack very rudimentary listening comprehension skills and then write raging tirades full of erroneous information sprinkled with all-caps words…
Living well is the best revenge. 💗
I’m 70 years old and divorced from a cheater. It’s been 24 years since our breakup and I’m so glad to be free of him. It was hard in the beginning. I questioned my self worth and whether I deserved happiness. My faith in God and my family’s love have been my strength and solace. As a mother of 4 daughters, I can attest to the fact that believing in yourself and taking the high road will give you a peace unlike any other. Kristin and Roam will be so much better as a pair than they ever were with her ex. When he is my age, he will see the error of his ways. It happened to my ex and I’ve seen it happen over and over again. He was the weak one who didn’t stand by his family and took the easy way out. Shame on him. He doesn’t deserve Kristin or Roam. Best of luck to you all! Much love!
They always have children and friends on these situations...
I'll never be able to comprehend why someone would cheat and destroy their family when they have such a beautiful family. Someone please explain. 😢
@@KittyDillionI agree with you 100%
This will be the case if people both men and women are not yet awakened to the truth of who they really are.
Greed, selfishness, foolish men and women.
Because they are lacking something(s) within themselves. Even happily married people cheat (read that in an article once). I was cheated on and it took me a very long time to realize that, even though I have contributed to the decline in the relationship (always recognize your part in something), when it was all said and done, he was still deeply unhappy. At the end of the day, it wasn't about me but I'm making sure that his cheating was the best thing that ever happened to me because it forced me to be the woman I was always meant to be.
My father taught all of us to cheat. Some of us grew out of it and some didn’t. Our father always told us women weren’t sh and men must hunt. As we got older we made our mistakes. So it’s not always unhappy men who cheat it is a behavior that can be taught.
I have no idea who these ppl are but the display of these women’s friendship is beautiful to see and I was surprised to learn they’ve only met 3 years ago ! From the chemistry I would guess a lifetime 🥺
My thoughts exactly. Beautiful kinship! ❤
This video was so awakening for me, I’m 56 and have let my heartache ruin so many years of my life. I’m afraid of people because of the heartache they can cause, it’s so hard to trust and rely on someone.
God bless you all and thank you for this well done beautiful message ❤
I'm 64 and have the same thoughts.
Man will always let us down bc we all struggle with our sin nature. But thankfully there is one who is ALWAYS faithful and heals our hearts with His love ❤️ JESUS!
@@pennybozok3549yea given this woman LITERALLY said the way she found out her husband was cheating WAS MEDITATING AND GOD TOLD HER! She even said that at the most he EMOTIONALLY cheated. She has NO PROOF OF ANYTHING and made all this!!?!?!! Wtf??? Total psycho!!!
@@TheCollapse410it’s called woman’s intuition. We know when something’s up. Sorry you don’t have it and call other woman psycho for having it. Hope you never go through cheating and someone don’t come up and call you names. Pretty petty.
@@TheCollapse410 You need to rewatch starting at 7:50 she didn't say that God told her he was cheating and she did find proof on his phone with the two of them texting. So instead of being a complete Asshole and making her out to be something she's not and twisting her words try being a better not bitter human being. I don't understand people like you who feel the need to comment with such negativity apparently you were never taught if you don't have something nice to say then don't say anything at all!! One last thing it is so laughable you called her a Psycho when your response literally made you sound like a complete and utter Psycho!!!
People make dumb mistakes.
Perhaps the dumbest, in ANY relationship, is cheating.
If someone will cheat with a married person, sooner or later they will also cheat ON that same person. They have no values and cannot be trusted.
LIVING WELL IS THE BEST REVENGE.
Yup, if they cheat with you; they'll cheat on you.
Yes, get a clue if you are the one they are cheating with. They will betray you sooner than later.
If the “other person” thinks they are special and wont be cheated on, they are naively living in a fairy tale.
This!!!!!!!
Cheating is not a mistake, it's a choice, you don't mistakenly take your clothes off and fall into another woman's vagina.
Love how Roam is being taught to be a strong woman through example! It’s devastating watching a loved one ( my daughter) experience the heartbreak of infidelity, especially when she had just given birth. Women need to band together, support each other and value their worth. 👧💪🏼💪🏼
It's been beautiful to watch how much they both have grown through this all! I'm so sorry to hear your daughter went through that💔 sending her love and healing!
I'm so sad for your daughter.
I think it is evil to abandon someone after they had your baby.
Sending love and healing to your family
@@KelsAndJayI’m soooo glad she had you and other friends to finally lean on & lift her up.
This is how a Sisterhood should be.
Blessings to you all.
@@rdred8693yea given this woman LITERALLY said the way she found out her husband was cheating WAS MEDITATING AND GOD TOLD HER! She even said that at the most he EMOTIONALLY cheated. She has NO PROOF OF ANYTHING and made all this!!?!?!! Wtf??? Total psycho!!!
Literally no one owes you proof of what they know. You are the psycho. Get a life, Mr entitled.
I was cheated on my my ex-wife - it came as a sickening shock... After processing simply that it had happened I began a journey of personal growth that was amongst the best and most wonderful of my life... And at the end when I had come to a place of real peace with myself I met the love of my life.. -- I loved this post mostly because rather oddly it is nice to see someone else growing, healing, and welcoming what comes next - I think it was Lilly Tomlin who said "Forgiveness is giving up all hope of a better past" and I was reminded of this when your friend talked about how for her revenge was not wanting/needing revenge - She is a strong woman and all will be well I am sure - but I will light a candle for her not because she is in trouble but because she is clearly on a path of growth which is always a blessing.. Also Kels and Jay this video was tenderly done, bravo!!
This was so beautiful to read, thank you for sharing Mark!
Cheaters suck
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What a great quote. Thank you for sharing that.
I love that you have found the love of your life after experiencing and healing from such betrayal.
I love the quote! I was liberated from resentment the day I realized that refusing to forgive was basically just me metaphorically picking the scab; _I_ was the one suffering, _I_ was the one becoming disfigured. Forgiving was just the process of letting go of being the victim (and I don't mean "playing victim;" I've never gotten juiced from that kind of attention. It was about fear and distrust and loss of belief in my ability to discern.) Forgiving is an act of self-love.
my ex husband cheated on me and when i found out i was baffled and after talking to him realized that while he was ready to be a husband having our son made him feel trapped so i let him go. he kept trying to come back because he said he missed me but he needed room to be him and i needed to feel secure on my own and heal. In the process of our divorce he got another woman pregnant and she had a little girl he didnt stay for her either but strangely her and i set aside those hurt feelings and ended up raising our kids together today she is my best friend and i count her as being one of the best things that have happened in my life we have a beautiful family sadly i live in texas now and her in south carolina but we talk everyday and still very involved in each others life. sometimes its healing to just live and let live.
sounds like utah
And now you know your ex wasn’t meant for either of you, he was simply Gods tool (no pun intended 🤭) to create a family of love, friendship and support that your ex was never able to be for either of you or your kids.
Sounds like Days of our Wives *.* 😢
Sounds really cool, for you & your kids.
That's pretty awesome!
Well done. I hope that Kristin and her daughter are happier than ever. :)
This is the most realistic view on healing from emotional betrayal. Just when you think you might be there, another hill to climb arrives. It takes the time that it takes, we can not speed it up, even if we try. Bless you Kristin, and thank you for sharing the real, raw truth.
My congratulations to Miss Kristen for getting over the pain and putting it all behind her. Carrying pain can be like having a worm eating away at your insides, only making things seem even worse. Stay strong Kristen.
I remember the tour of their home, when Roam was born, and Kristin was so happy. Then something happened and they were gone, and I was so sad because I didn’t know if they were ok or not. Had they been hurt in an accident? I’m so happy to see the girls again, and how they’ve grown through this tragedy. What a kick in the gut, followed by a lot of healing for Kristin. Roam is growing into such a beautiful little lady!!! Kristin is an absolutely incredible mamma, and I’m glad she got the support she needs. What an inspiration! My ex husband did the same thing to me 40 years ago, right after I gave birth to my sweet boy, and the other day it hit me again, the wave of despair I felt when I found out. I can relate to Kristin feeling up and down like she described. Thanks for doing such an amazing video and giving us all an update that they’re going to be ok, are ok now. Love to Kristin and Roam. ❤❤❤
I was feeling the same way. So glad Kristin is moving forward and showing her daughter what it is to be a strong women.
@@crystaldragon8211yea given this woman LITERALLY said the way she found out her husband was cheating WAS MEDITATING AND GOD TOLD HER! She even said that at the most he EMOTIONALLY cheated. She has NO PROOF OF ANYTHING and made all this!!?!?!! Wtf??? Total psycho!!!
@@TheCollapse410 ?? Did you actually watch the video? She saw the messages and caught him. I have no idea where yer coming from .. the whole point is that she's good now and moving forward with a strong sense of self. Nothing better than to lead & teach your child than by example & talking thing through with them.
@@TheCollapse410you missed a lot…God might’ve given her thoughts about it, but the “proof” was in her husbands messages. They don’t even go into the rest of the story. He likely confessed. She says she didn’t want to leave her marriage for just “thoughts” where she might’ve been wrong…
Also she mentions “even if they do stay together” I’m paraphrasing, but it was hinted at that they are together.
You missed a lot, and are doing some crazy name calling.
Are you ok? You sound very angry and bitter yourself. I’m sorry if you have been done wrong also. Maybe take a lesson from her on getting rid of bitterness. I can relate. It happened to me and I had to let it go also or have it ruin mine and my kids lives. I’m so glad I did. I have peace. Bitterness and unforgiveness kills.
Good luck and God bless.
@@TheCollapse410Did you even watch the video?😂😅
Showing your daughter , and being a peaceful strong mom will carry your daughter into doing the same in her life. Beautiful resilience there mama. ☮
Thank you so much for this video. I've checked periodically to see if they were back. My heart goes out to Kristen, she didn't deserve to be cheated on. My respect to her for having the courage to be vulnerable and share her experience with us.
Yes it was obvious when FRANKIE helped him with his project they were so compatible definitely. A great temptation for Wil for Frankie was an amazing person hard on Frankie's Husband as well together they were very compatible and yes so Tragic for Kirsten. A great betrayal!! tears tears tears. Love sometimes has to be let go of so happy she is Healing for nine years a long time and Kirsten so in Love with Wil. Perhaps Frankie was Wil's soulmate we all have to let go and let God. Wil was not a bad person it just happened and Kirsten had a good Nine Years. Love teaches us to Grow i can bet that Wil is still with Frankie. Lets pray Kirsten meets her mate to heal her deep down LOVE HURTS
@@Te-mar-a-ma7I want to see what she looks like. What channel is she on?
Happyhomebodies
@@Te-mar-a-ma7not when you have made a commitment to someone and have a child with them. At that point, it is time to die to self and put others first. I will NEVER repsect a homewrecker and the person who left their family for him or her.
So thankful I came upon your video. I’m literally going through this exact situation right now. I filed for divorce in January of this year, my son was only 7 months old. It was so difficult to come to terms with not having our family anymore that I stayed and tried to save our family. I needed so much proof. It’s sad that I needed to be mistreated longer in order to come to terms with the person he just is. There’s nothing I can do. My emotions are just the way you explained yours. I haven’t grasped that life will be better, yet but I know I will get there as you did.
I don’t have the close friends and support you do, which I know is huge. But I am a child of God and I know He will be sufficient for me. ❤
Wishing you many happiness with your baby😊🤗stay strong and live life the fullest without someone who doesn't deserve your love.
I'm so sorry you're going through such a painful thing 💔 thinking of you, you will most definitely get there ❤️❤️
You will be ok! I left with nothing & had nothing in my bank ac. Was unemployed for a year. Resilient turned into HOPE. Today, I'm back on track making 6 figures and feel 1000x happier. Hang in there! Remember to be KIND to yourself & not give up!
It sucks that the kids are cheated the most in all these situations
It is sad that you have to be mistreated longer than that, but it is life, and you don’t want to be wrong.
Love between a mother and daughter is unbreakable! As a mom even if you don't think your doing it, you are teaching your beautiful daughter life lessons that will make her so strong and loving. God has you both in his hands and has put you on a path of happiness and joy! Much luck on your future together!
I am proud oh her for thinking of beeing a good example to her daughter ! and acting on that !❤
My husband cheated on me and I didn’t find out until he gave me less than two minutes notice before he walked out on me. I had no clue and have been struggling. But watching this has given me some clarity and strength. Thank you
hope you are doing well
Bullshit. He would have given you plenty of notice and you simply didn’t listen. So he left. And once he was gone and had all his business in order you finally took notice.
@@danielmaher4701Don’t be so bitter.
Don't know any of you but I'm proud of y'all for moving forward.
My ex-husband cheated on me and broke my heart... I learned that the best "revenge" is for your exes to see you THRIVE withOUT them. For you to live your best life and not give them the time of day. I hate that this happened to her, but I LOVE the message that she has.
And then the next step would be to let it go completely so it doesn't matter anymore what your ex thinks of you.
Just to let you know... Your ex husband could give a F about you thriving withOUT him. He already didnt care about you
@@ArtCE47 While that might be true for some, in my situation my ex (and the new wife/mistress) can't stand that I am succeeding in life.
"You can search for answers but sometimes people are just broke and they hurt people with their brokenness" - I wish I had heard that and taken it to heart 35 years ago. Still healing from toxic family. Thank you for sharing. I have no doubt that your story is healing the hearts of others.
This helped me so much, going through something very similar and over 50 thinking my life had been complete, it doesn't get easier! But this 17mins of opening up and vulnerability I stumbled across has helped this old guy in ways I can not convey. Thank You!
10:22 this is helping me sooooo much. I never seen or heard of either of you before now and in ten minutes you guys have made me feel like I’m really not alone ❤
I have zero empathy for those who cheat. It’s a choice and never a mistake that you make. You’re a disgusting and vile person if you do that to someone. 🤷🏻♀️
Or just a coward
Why? Men have more testosterone than women. It in their nature to sick other sexual options even if they are in a relationship. It's only cheating when women do it. Men having sex is different from women's.
Yes!! Totally
I agree, a mistake is a random one-time action that you didn't know would have a bad outcome. Cheating is not a single action, it is a sequence of multiple deliberate actions while having full knowledge of the consequences.
@@whotf888 Also it always requires two to tango. There are always TWO cheaters.
I went through a bad divorce but did many of the things you had listed. Today I couldn’t be happier and more whole as a person. I finally feel safe in my home and I live my life to the fullest. I find beauty in others and the world. Best of all I met the love of my life. Yes, life does exist after divorce. Thank you for this video.❤
Many of us have been cheated on. Some of us, repeatedly. This is a pain that can be difficult to heal. I appreciate the openness and honesty of this post.
From a woman wife mother I think you are so brave and to be on social media being raw and honest is gonna help so many women that may go through something like your story 🙏💜🙏
Oh your starting a new chapter in you and your daughter will be happy with many blessings to come new beginning
❤ Honeslty wasn't sure what to expect when I clicked on this but Kels you wove such a beautiful story of redemption and life after loss. I'm incredibly impressed how you took this very hard topic and made it beautiful. Nicely done.
i NEEDED this.. im40 and just out of my 4th long term relationships 3+years... i needed this reminder
I understand the grief. It was the one feeling I didn’t expect and didn’t know how to process. I was expected to stay married and to me deep inside I felt something had died. I’m glad you mentioned that because I don’t think it’s an expected feeling at all. I eventually divorced but took 15 years to do it and part of me died in that 15 years. It took 10 more to find life again.
I can completely relate in needing to make new memories in those places without the person who betrayed and hurt you. I did the exact same thing and I'm grateful I did. I didn't realize how important that was and that I'd decided so early on to go back and have memories of a solo trip to replace them. Grieving and healing takes time, give yourself the space you need to work through the literal waves of healing. You'll realize how strong you really are.
My story started when I was in kindergarten. My parents split and divorced because my dad cheated on my mom. Of course, I was young and never knew any better or what it meant. All I knew was my mom and dad would fight alot. He was very abusive to her. My Mom would drive me and my brother all over town in the car looking for him and she usually found him at the bar. It happened many times. After they split, another woman came into my life. I didn't like her. I didn't like it when she kissed my dad or touched him. I was a little girl like Roamie watching someone do those things that my mom was spose to do with my dad. So, I told her one day, "You're not my mommy! I'm not listening to you. I don't like you." For the next 17 years or so, that was our kind of relationship. We never got along.
As time passed, I barely saw my dad during visitation because he wasn't around much and he would pawn me off onto her or my grandparents and end up at the bar all night. Sometimes he never came to pick me up at all from my mom's. He might call, might not. So many empty promises and alot of tears. Ultimately I became depressed. Just a sad child. Very isolated and lonely. I resented him and my mom, as well as, the other chick.
During all of this, I was experiencing something else that was even more traumatizing. I was being abused by a relative sexually, physically, emotionally, and mentally. No, it was not my dad. I was so traumatized that One day I tried to kill myself bc I just wanted to die. I wanted it all to end, but nobody would listen to me. They didn't believe me. In fact, I was actually blamed. So I intentionally missed my school bus one day and stayed after school and wrote my teacher a letter. She must've found it after I left. My bus driver noticed I didn't get on for the day and came back for me and took me home. The next day, my mom got a call and I was sent to a hospital. I was away from my family and friends for quite some time. It was a bad ordeal.
I'm 41 years old now, but thinking about it today, it's still very raw and emotional. It changed my life a lot in many ways. I'd never wish my nightmare on anybody.
After graduating high school, I started dating. I didn't know what to do because I had never had a boyfriend. When I met my son's dad, I clunge to him for dear life. Idk why. We were off n' on for 5 yrs until we split because he cheated on me, too. One of the girls happened to be a friend of mine from school. I've been single for almost 14 yrs now. I've never been married, but I do have a son who is 17 years old now. He is my only child.
As the years passed by, I have gradually healed, but I deal with PTSD and anxiety. I still have triggers. There will always be wounds with scabs that peel off easily and bleed sometimes, but for the most part, I manage it.
Update:
As for both of my parents, they remarried, but Dad's 2nd marriage ended in divorce because once again he cheated on THAT woman. My stepdad died of cancer in 2014. Both of my parents were married to their spouses for 20 years.
So yes, this story hit me hard...extremely hard, because I have been there. Trust me, I know. Please protect you and Roamie from this nightmare. I would never want anyone to hurt her. Will should have known better. He's spose to protect his daughter from guys like him. I guess, that's where MamaBear comes in and saves the day. I love you all, greatly. Miss you so much. Hugs.
Wow, that is a lot to deal with and at such a young age too. Thank you for sharing, and for feeling comfortable enough to share all of that here. This is always a safe space for you ❤
❤🩹❤❤🩹❤ Thank you for sharing your story.
My heart breaks for you. For myself, I really dug into my Bible hardcore and was healed quickly. It is only to put your faith and lean on God, not other people, ever. Mostly I get angry as I expected better of a very good person. But things are looking so up for me that I really feel he was getting in my way of a great future. It is NEVER to late with the grace of God to start new!
The same thing happened to me. But I was molested by my father then SA as a child and trafficked I tried to commit suicide at 26 and survived and nobody cares.
I am truly sorry that you went thru that. I cant even begin to imagine what that was like. Dont think that someone doesnt care because there are people who do. Especially other victims that have similar stories. We've all been thru similar experiences even if they arent exact. Listen we must not let this kill us. We must not let this ruin the best parts of us. Instead we must use these moments to guide in the right direction so that we can learn and find ways to help others. I find that by helping others, it helps me, and it will help you too. So never give up, utilize what God gave you. Dont give it away because its yours, it belongs to you, and nobody can take that from ya.@@MillennialMountainMama
Awe my husband died 4 years ago , and I love how she said grieving isn't linear, it really hits home but she's right the downs get less
Same and grief is love unfinished.
What a friend you have❤ enjoy your new life, give the best moments for you and your daughter.
This made me cry. My husband cheated on me after 13 yrs of marriage. He setup weekend house with her for a yr on weekends while telling me lies about why he had to go out of town 5 hours away. It has broken me
my husband cheated on me 45 years of marriage when i was as tacking care of my Dad when he was dying of cancer. still with him but never ever again it will be the same . 😢
Yeah mine cheated after 22 years. Unfortunately I think this is just the way men are. They don’t have the capacity to truly love.
Pity you never left.@@colleenjoan8072 Your happiness matters more than what have accepted all these ears.
@@sarahalderman3126if someone does something dumb it doesn’t mean they don’t love you
@@sarahalderman3126As a non married man, Im sorry for what your cruel husband did. Cheating has never been ok. I hope to be married someday and grow old together. Sadly with the way modern women are it has become a tad difficult to meet standards. I hope all the cheaters of the world get what’s coming to them, I also hope your hearts can one day be whole again. I lost a girl and it makes me scared to want to try again. 4-6 years single now I think and at 25 times kinda running out. Most good ones are taken by this age. At least I have my doggo ❤
This touched my soul. Made me cry. You had a major spiritual awakening. Your growth has been amazing. You're a healer and unfortunately we must experience the hurt and pain most won't. Congratulations on doing the work. Death and rebirth. It's beautiful. Continue on your beautiful journey and thank you for sharing ❤️
Thank you for the update, I'd missed their videos.
Being cheated on is the ultimate betrayal and impossible to understand if you haven't experienced it...
I'd been married 21 years when I got confirmation. That was 10 years ago and I've never been happier.
Life truly is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you respond.
Peace, love, and happiness to you all!
It is so funny because this is how I felt after leaving a 10 year relationship you go through the up and downs but at the end, I’m happy you got some good days and some bad days and it takes a long time to trust somebody but you get thereThis was such a sweet video. Love it.
Tell her it will take time. I am a single dad who raised 3 kids on his own. She needs to realize that not all men or women are going to be like this. My ex wife left me 3 times before I as a Christian man threw in the towel. If anyone reads this, tell her to take her time, and work on herself and the little one. I wish i could find the book that helped me, but she will move on. Just have to learn to watch for the red flags when she gets comfortable to have a relationship. It will hurt from time to time like she has had, even years afterwards there will be triggers and have a support network. Tell keep her chin up and keep on keeping on.
I don't watch bus life or anything that because I really don't have the time, however....This video was more than that. It makes me happy the she's relying on God for her streng. I don't know her but I'm very proud of her. God bless you for doing all that you did and making this video. Prayers for you all. 🤗🤗🤗
"The best revenge is no longer wanting revenge" is the single best thing ever said about leaving a relationship. May God bless and protect you along your journey 🙏
I really hope they are co parenting healthy for their daughter 🙏 God bless this mama for her strength
Very well done and wholesome video! Everyone can take a lesson from Kristin's attitude and strength, not to mention that she's a dime plus ninety nine!
Kels, Kristin is so blessed to have a friend like you as you are equally blessed to have her! Their channel was the very first skoolie channel I started following when I became obsessed with skoolie life! They have been on my mind for quite some time. Occasionally I would check IG to see if they had posted anything. I'm so sorry this happened to you Kristen, but just look at who you are now! A strong, beautiful, intelligent, independent, woman & mother setting the best example for Roam & surrounded by the most genuine, compassionate, loyal friends! Sometimes we have to weed out our garden in order for it to bloom into it's full potential! Your garden is indeed blooming beautifully! I see a strong, resilient, independent, courageous, woman who chose to overcome what she thought would break her. So proud of you!
This was such a beautiful story of healing to watch! Thank you for sharing your story with us ❤
ugh such a dang pleasure to finally meet you both and get to lend a hand! And share a pizza. And chat until the wee hours. Break down near me more often, would ya? 😂🤟
Haha it was such a blast!! Thanks again for saving the day 😊
I love how this community comes out to take care of each other. That was beautiful of you, Gordo. I’m a stranger on the Internet, but your kindness really touched me. I immediately felt very protective of these women and sweet little warrior child…. I was also inspired by Kristin’s fearlessness and ability to reframe a horrible betrayal, into a new and more beautiful life. ❤️
Wow Gordon you are a gem! I was lucky enough to have strangers help me multiple times & to this day, I still send them love when I think of them. I am adding Gordon to my love sending list. ❤
Love makes the world go around ❤
I was meant to see this today. Thank you for sharing your pain. You are helping g so many people heal. ❤😢
Wow. I’m not even 5minutes in and I’m blown away by your vulnerability ❤❤❤❤ I’ve never seen any of your videos before. I’m grateful I stumbled on this gem. These are the videos I absolutely love and appreciate. Raw and real
❤ This is proof friends can be forever. 😊 Healing is so hard. From. Death , losing a job, family, friends... Etc.
This brings tears to my eyes. Trust is earned not just given..😢
There are still GREAT people out there.. Don't give up on them.
Awesome Video Kels! Thank you for sharing Kristin's triumphs through the pain. Time heals all wounds, and they heal faster with support! I am so glad you were there for Kristin! Keep rockin' the videos Kels!
What a great story, beautifully told, a love letter to friendship. I wish Kristen and her daughter all the happiness they deserve, and thank you for making this inspiring video. Well done.
When you guys were digging yourselves out of that spot trying to leave the place she first found the messages; all I could think was how symbolic it was of how hard it was for her to leave that part of her life behind, but how necessary it was because that place was so chaotic and problematic!
Yes, a good analogy
I can so identify with your friend❤ I left my spouse of 32 years because of cheating and she so expressed hersituation of how it is a death of the life she was in. I also REFUSE to get bitter and will live a better life onward. I also had to deal with mold toxicity so it has been a really rough year.
I love your bus life and hope to be able to get something like to travel!! Much love to your friend and her daughter going on to your better life with God!❤
I’m not a bus person, I’m a boat person. And the community there is pretty great too. The best gift you can give your kids is nothing being bitter, living a good life and staying soft. 💜
Sometimes when things fall apart, they may actually be falling in to place..Trust your gut instincts, they are your guardian angels...Everything happens for a reason..Sending ❤ to kristin from the heart
It takes a giant to admit to brokenness and to publicly admit it it takes a superhero Mom! I'm absolutely astounded at how well you did in this video. You are doing everything perfectly to show your daughter that the both of you deserve to be treated with overwhelming love, because anything less would be unacceptable. Raising the bar for the both of you is teaching your daughter that there are better men in the world who are worth waiting for. God WILL put the right man in your life when He sees fit. Let Him be your guide in ALL things and you'll never go wrong. It's so beautiful to hear you calling on God to help you through the hard times rather than blaming God for the hard times. You are God's daughter and should be treated as such. God will put a Godly man in your life right when you think there's no one. Thank you for showing the world your love and trust in God!
You're amazing!!! God bless you through your journey ❤❤❤
Kels, thank you for taking the time to share this story. I wondered what happened to them, I followed them, just like I have followed you and Jay, then they just vanished. You are a very dear friend for doing this, Kristin is a strong woman for allowing you to share this story, You always have a way of telling a story, just something about that way you tell it keeps everyones attention. I wish Kristin and Roam the best....having friends like you and Jay is exactly what they need in their lives right now. Again, thank you again for sharing, it's sad, but Kristin is definitely the "winner" in all this.
Thank you for the kind words! I think she's extremely brave for sharing her story. She's already helped so many people going through something similar and I'm so grateful I get to call her my good friend ❤
I was one of theirs subscriber! Tell her and her daughter I miss watching them and hope all is well with her and daughters
Kels and Jay, your video about the untold story of the family who disappeared from UA-cam is truly touching and inspiring. Your video is beautifully done and resonates deeply with the theme of resilience and support among women. Kudos to you for bringing this story to light in such a thoughtful and meaningful way. 💪❤
Trauma can be the biggest catalyst to a self awaking. It’s so hard to see that as your going through it but in the end it can transform your soul and the lessons learned through the pain of that journey are forever. Thanks for sharing your story. ❤
“You are ALWAYS BEING LEAD TO SOMEWHERE BETTER!” I’ve never heard it like that. I always say “life happens for me, not to me” but u like your quote better❤❤❤thank you
So happy that Kristin has such a fabulous friend to share a hard part of her journey with and creating such heartwarming new memories!
OMG I was crying and laughing all the way thru this video! Thank you for being so vulnurable and showing us how to heal with grace and love.
A very heartwarming story. Positive attitude for healing.
Kristin is so lucky to have friends that love her and support her. I was cheated on by my ex and I still struggle every day and it’s 4 years later.
I'm so sorry to hear you're struggling❤ her Instagram page (@beachykefer)is filled with comments of people who have gone through similar things. You might find some comfort and support there❤
Up and coming YT super start... absolutely my favorite video you've made.. The effort put in to this is unreal.
This should’ve come with a trigger warning. I cried my eyes out through the entire video. Some were tears of empathy, the familiar pain of betrayal and loss. Some were for your child. Some were for you and what should’ve been. And some were tears of joy. You seeing your worth and not settling. Watching your healing process is very therapeutic. Thanks for being an open book and sharing freely.
I had somehow found and followed you on insta previously and was inspired. But this video really touched a deep part of my soul.
Good for you😊 LOT’s of good health and prosperity your way ALL else will follow 😊
I could sit down with you both and talk for hours! I’m divorced since 06 and if I teach my kids anything I hope it’s independence . The best revenge is not needing them-in any way! I’m 53 and still learning-my story is a bit different because I have 3 kids and none of them are typical. Looooong story. But great vid!
This was an absolutely beautiful vid to watch. From so much pain to contentment and joy. Thank you for being brave and sharing. This will definitely help other broken hearts heal.
Glad she’s happy! Even as an audience member, the videos that had that other couple in them made my stomach turn with unease at the time. I knew as an audience member it would be out of line to say or comment anything about it. I gotta admit I felt real guilty even not knowing you at all when the news came out. It is healing to see you happy! You are amazing! Congrats on establishing a working coparenting relationship! Such a badass.
My comment was similar. It was so obvious he was cheating with her
I hope both of you find peace and healing with God. He is there for you and will never leave or betray you. It happened to me and He healed me. Bless you both.
Oh here we go the 'I always knew something was off about them' crew is here.
@@sneekz07The signs are always there. And people outside can see them better than the people involved.
I love how she was able to move forward. Also her BFF is her true BFF that was a very touching video. Thank you for sharing. Hope you find happiness with someone when the time is right. Your daughter is so beautiful.
Sending many well wishes and prayers to you and your daughter!!! You can do this!!! Bless you both, and thank you to your friends who were really there for you and not just all talk!
I absolutely love the theme of this video. No explanation of the cheating needed, just moving on and embracing the next chapter as best you can. Well done!
I have been cheated on many times in the past and I know how painful that is but I over came it and am where I am today with an amazing man who would never do anything to hurt me. 😭
That was so beautiful to watch and thanks for sharing your golden heart. Blessings ❤🥰🤗
Love you Kristin! Love you Kels! Made me so happy to see our old bus and footage from traveling together! ❤ can’t wait to see what Roam + Kristin do next!
Love you Jess! Such special memories ❤
It’s sad the things people can just throw away I feel her pain 😢
Being cheated is like stepping in something that you can't get off of you and you can't stop thinking about it in the beginning! Time heals it, but you never forget that feeling and it kind of numbs you! Both of my marriages ending because of it, I'm in my late 40's now and have pretty much giving up!
don't give up there are plenty of women who value themselves to never sink this low! some of us want to please God above all else and would never even consider it.
That is so kind of you to reply! Too bad I can’t find one of these women you speak of! Lol
best place to find GOOD people i have found is a good church. don't give up!@@whatyouseenow411
I know there was a certain amount of pain associated with making this video and revisiting the occasions that made the pain real, but … this video was SO HELPFUL for me. I’ve gone through a similar process for similar reasons. I hate that I’m not alone in this, but … I am SO GLAD to learn that I’m not alone. Thank you for releasing this video.
This was the most amazing video I watched in so long , she’s so strong 💪🏼 and amazing!!! Teaching our daughters to be strong like this is so important , to it fall to pieces when someone rips everything from you!
Proud and happy for yoy!!!
Such a beautiful and inspiring story. That little girl is so lucky to have a mum who is teaching her what it means to be a woman with real strength and beauty. The husband is such a loser. This woman is gorgeous inside and out. ❤❤
I am now raising my kids in my childhood home and I absolutely hate it. I have so many unhappy, trauma filled and anger laden memories here and it's been a huge struggle...
But then I sat one day and realized my old bedroom is full of joy now as my daughter's room. My brother's room is a happy place where laughter happens and imaginations run wild. The family room is the place where we play boardgames, hand out Christmas presents, and cuddle on the couch. Our dinner table is not silent anymore. We talk, we express gratitude and talk about our high and low point for the day.
I realized I had built new memories in an ugly place, and I can't hate this place any longer because every spot here is filled with the joy of the family I made, not the pain from the one I came from. It's been pivotal. It took me 5 years to come to that palce though.
I love hearing you realized this right away and tackled it. Thank you for sharing your story, the healing process and most importantly- showing your daughter all of this and how supportive women should care for each other. You're amazing.
THANKS FOR SHARING THIS STORY!!!!! I've been married and divorced twice, and both were cheating. Prayers for Kristen as she moves forward and finds better things.
new audience here...saw your video on my suggestion list and glad I clicked. Thank you for sharing the journey and I am learning so much from your insights and appreciate you sharing your outlook with the world.
This was absolutely beautiful, I’ve been following Kristen on IG, so I knew why they left UA-cam but I hadn’t heard the full story like this. I’m so proud of her and little Roam, she is definitely a strong woman and her daughter is going to grow up to be a strong woman also❤️❤️. I cried like a baby through this whole video….happy tears☺️
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You’re such a great friend for being there for her and creating this beautiful video in her honor. I’m tearing up. I wish I had been so wise and strong in similar situations. 💜
Beautiful video! Thank you!!
Wonderful words you have shared. I have been single for thirty years now and the lessons for my daughters (who were 18 and 20 at the time) were the most important to me. Your daughter is blessed to have a joyful mother on this journey.
Thank you for this vid. I had a very strong and emotional reaction to this one. I lost the best, most intimate relationship I've ever been a part of at the start of the virus years and I think now, because of the isolation I became lost in the grief. Since then I've retired and moved into a camper van to travel about with my little sled dog for a couple years or more. This totally different lifestyle has let me revisit my grief on both a deeper level, and to let go also on a much deeper level. Having good support is something that we can not use because we try to deny our need for it. My judgmentalism thinks I should not "have to" grieve or let go of the past and the hurt in favor of allowing myself to live in all the great memories of that period of my life. There's lots of healing out in the world, as if the world is conspiring to help us have a chance to experience the bounty of this world and its people!! Thanks for the slightly different perspective! I love you guys for all you give and all you do, as you live your best life together! Thanks to your friends for sharing their growth, and their joy! I know that today, I was finally able to see the whole thing at one time from beginning to end and really enjoy it. I know today will be a great day to be appreciated and not ignored! ❤
I'm so sorry for everything you've been through, it's never easy ❤Thank you for the kind words. I'm glad you were able to connect with this video and that it's helped you. That was my intention in creating it, and kristin's intention in sharing everything she has been through so that makes me really happy. Wishing you all the best on your continued healing!
Thank you for being such a dear friend …giving yourself fully to someone who needs healing and unconditional love is the best gift we can ever give !! She will make it and live well !!!❤❤❤
This was a very beautiful and brave video. Thank you for sharing ladies !!!! Best of luck in your future.
Back when I went through so much heartache with my ex, I wished I had strong support around me but I didn't. Looking back, it would have been nice but I moved on without any and I'm stronger for it. Having support is fantastic but it takes YOU to push through it. That's exactly what she did.
I LOVE YOU KRISTEN! I (Lana) did some research after wondering where you went awhile back and found your story by a friend on tic toc. I was shocked. I was mad. I felt for you... I did feel like in the last few videos he seemed kind of distant. What a dip s***. I stayed with my ex way too long, and I give you props for walking away because it is so hard. I finally found my happiness after leaving that bad marriage. So glad to see you and Rome doing well 😊 Much love from a fellow bus lifer ❤
Glad you went inside and healed. Although it hurts sometimes people leave your life. This pushes you to heal and learn the lesson needed to move ahead.
Love that there is healing happening and her greatest revenge was letting go. It took me a long time to get to the let it go stage from my abusive ex husband. I now have a new happy family and I found peace.😊
What a beautiful story of healing. I loved when that man stopped and helped and you said it reminded you that there are still good men in the world 💙 We are our children's first teachers and I went through something similar where I needed to leave a relationship to show my children how to be a strong woman. Thank you so much for sharing ❤️
What an amazing woman. I hope some fabulously good things come her way.