Exactly....I've gone ROGUE on and off for the past 4 months, ignoring him every 3-4 weeks and this fool could care less. When either one of us go Back in, he gets worse with the Mind GAMES. I'm exausted and disgusted at this point...I'm Done!
What’s the point of them regretting it if they’re not gonna change anyway? Pointless. By the time they come back to you, you’ve already moved on or find someone else. I wish men would just man up and not play stupid mind games. It’s a waste of time.
I know. Testosterone literally fries their brain cells and makes them primitive and basic. Men are always complaining about "women's hormones", like seriously? Testosterone is responsible for 95% of homicides, violent crimes and wars (men). Testosterone makes men egocentrical, crave power, impulsive, aggressive, extremely promiscuous, unclean, dishonest and unfaithful (there are scientific studies about all of this, and the more Testosterone you inject them, the worse it gets). We are better off living alone and with female friends. Having a man in your life is just not worth the hassle. It's best to focus on friends and family and living a happy life with other life goals 🌻☘
When a woman’s fed up….My ex FA thought I would always be a part of his life. He monkey branched to another after four years with me. He wanted to be friends. Nope. I let him go without tears or drama. Radio silence forever for me. Intense inner work has paid off. I no longer resonate with the man I remember. Never again.
You just taught me about the concept of the bare minimum. Accepting less than the bare minimum in a relationship often signals a lack of care or priority on the other person’s part. If it happens, it’s because you allow it. The key is to set boundaries and respond with silence when those boundaries aren’t respected.
@@sarahbegum2192 I think also it’s easier said than done,regarding putting your foot down, because women are naturally emotional individuals which is one of the reasons why men try and play us.
Thank God Elliot has been posting daily this week. I have never felt the urge to break no contact than ever before & these videos have been keeping me on track!
Amazing video A month ago, my partnership of five years came to an end. The choice to break up with the person I love is something that really gets to me. Even though it's all for nothing, I've done everything I can to get him back, and I couldn't imagine my existence without him. I've tried everything to stop thinking about him, but I still can't help but miss him and think about him often. I don't know why I am saying this here.
Saying goodbye to someone you love is difficult; I know this from my 12-year relationship ending. But I was unable to simply let him go, so I made every effort to get him back. I eventually sought aid from a spiritual counselor, who was able to help me regain his affection.
I just sought him up online thanks to your helpful information. remarkable I just checked Father Obah Eze online, and he's really genuine. Thank you again ❤
LOL I love when you impersonate us sounding like dumbasses saying we don't want to cut them out of our lives. That is seriously what helps me the most haha.
Idk my other dating coach said if he reaches out by text to not reply or respond, silence. Because he knows what he did and to let him sit and reflect on why you ignored him. To only respond if he apologizes or mentions. Even my brother said to not respond at all. Let him try at least 2 to 3 times before you give a reply and not make it easy for him. And if he doesn’t try my brother said you dodged a bullet and wasted time.
Hmm....I'm a man, but I feel like good advice is probably universal, because I do believe we all have similar needs when it comes to emotions, it's just that on the surface the ways that those are fulfilled look very different. I feel like with silence you'd have to know your man's emotional history. If he has abandonment issues, he's either going to cut ties (i.e. rejection sensitivity) or his codependent attachment will surface, which is also not healthy for either of you. As in, you don't want your partner's connection to you based on past trauma, because then he can't heal it without untangling himself from you!....right? So I feel like silence should not be a tool used just because it sounds effective or is materially reasonable or logical, I feel like it has to come from multiple authentic sources. As in, silence is the effect, but the causes are known and established and genuine. Like, the idea of silence is supported by you needing to enforce a healthy boundary (I don't want to open myself to speaking with you until you are willing to recognize that it's not okay to raise your voice, apologize for yelling, and tell me what you plan to do to change it.) or something along those lines...I dunno. Good luck everyone! We're all struggling lol
Anything weaponized is cruel and not genuine. My new man, probably ex to be man, has quickly become distant towards me, and it may be that he can't be bothered by small chat or by creating a connection where both of us feel secure becoming better acquainted, but in both examples I know I can't truly love someone who isn't willing.
@@rebeccaburton2704 Whenver a sudden change in behavior happens, it means that something is happening inside! He may not be aware of it, not aware he has feelings, or if he is, he sadly may not be aware that expressing your feelings instead of suppressing them actually makes you feel better! It does not excuse any of his behavior, however I would consider him a poor soul. I hope he finds the compassion and understanding he needs to grow, develop secure attachment styles (rather than the Anxious, avoidant, or anxious-avoidant) in order to have healthy relationships. Please consider recommending him attend an ACA meeting - it's free, and it helps reveal the dysfunctional family systems that we grew up with, because that's likely where he learned this behavior. Hang in there!
Cool-videos! My five-year relationship came to an end a month ago. The love of my life chose to leave, and I can't stop thinking about him; I love him so deeply. I've done everything I can to win him back, but nothing seems to work. I'm feeling frustrated and can't imagine my life with anyone else. Despite my efforts to move on, I just can't shake the thoughts of him. I don’t know why I’m sharing this, (but I really miss him)
It's tough to let go of someone you care about. I can relate, my 12year relationship also ended, and I struggled to move on. I tried everything to get him back, even seeking help from a spiritual counselor who ultimately helped me reconnect with him*
Elliot you are crazy after I watched this video and u said the snooping thing the guy that’s switched up on me and been dry viewed my story off his fake account … GIRLLL ima detach tho thank you kind sir 💕
If your man tells you not to reach out to him, he has someone else he's entertaining. Are you sure you should care whether your silence has any impact on him?
Why even bother anymore? He blatantly disrespected you. The nerve of him. You letting him come back ( if he were to ever come back around again ) only shows him you allow his behavior. There are alot of better men out there. Think of it like the trash took itself out.
Thank you so much!! This was awesome! Now I just need some new guy friend to pose with me for a sweet Instagram “mystery” post! Just to keep everyone on their toes! 🎉❤ silence is golden! Ty for explaining so clearly why!
@@stephanied9629 well you can do it one or two ways. 1. Ignore the calls and texts and hopefully he will get the message. However; Doing it this way will keep everything up in the air especially if he really doesn’t know you’re done with him or not. 2. Or you can answer his text and or call and simple tell him you’ve moved on and that at this time you and him are going into two different directions. I think by doing the first one is easier if you don’t feel you’re strong enough to talk to him. Because his words might start getting you all bothered and next thing you know you’re back at square one with him possibly in the bed. 😂 But if you’re strong enough to talk to him and real sure of yourself, you can just tell him over the phone or via text message and hang up the phone. At this point it’s really up to you how you feel the best approach is for pop Remember: one size does not fit all 😂
Hopefully he does not try to get in contact again. If he does, then the only reason you should forgive him is if he is absolutely begging to come back and really making an effort to admit he f***ed up. Otherwise, he is just playing more power and "ego" games. Don't fall for it, or he'll ruin you again and you'll regret it. It's best to move on. If you can turn to a celibate lifestyle, even better. 99% of men are not worth the hassle. The odds of finding a real good one now days is too low.
@@EssyDee-t4z sorry but it does work. All relationships are nothing but a game. Reminds me of the song “ when I move you move just like that”. Look at it this way. When a person slap you, you’re reaction is to slap back. When your kids try to be slick about something by lying, you throw the book at them right? It’s call playing checkers or chess ♟️. Chess is better for me I’m always ten steps ahead of them. It’s funny to me to be honest
This is gross. My narcissist ex GF discarded me for a 60 year old married man after financially using me. The second she knew I knew she cheated, she stonewalled and gave me the silent treatment. Not all men deserve this. I did nothing wrong and was completely shattered. You’re validating women to emotionally abuse men.
I’m sorry you had to go through that. I have gone through this TWICE so I know how you feel. And you’re right, not all men do this. But so many so often DO.
@@purevenus6359 the problem with videos like this (you see them all over social media) is that the wrong type of people take these videos and it validates them. The wrong people take the message.
Any advice you hear of can go for both people. Silence is powerful. If you don’t use silence you can become emotionally damaged being silence can keep you balance
I do this naturally bc I respect myself and my silence is killing him… if he’s wants to f around he gunna find out and he ain’t gunna like 😂😂😂😂 thx for wasting my time and disrespectful behavior idiot
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Silence only works if he has feelings for you, otherwise he wont give a shit about your silence
Absolutely❤ 100 prcnt
Silence is for you, not him.
@@alexandra9985 @flufero you are exactly right. 💯 fact
Exactly....I've gone ROGUE on and off for the past 4 months, ignoring him every 3-4 weeks and this fool could care less. When either one of us go Back in, he gets worse with the Mind GAMES. I'm exausted and disgusted at this point...I'm Done!
Or if he's an ego maniac or control freak, then he will give a shit but it won't have anything to do with you.....
That's why they say silence is golden.
Do not bother if your man is a narcissist.
Narcs prefer to discard you first. If you become indifferent and go no contact, they will have a narcissistic injury.
@@basicinfo2022and never forgets it
Or a Dissmissive Avoidant
💯💯💯
@@basicinfo2022what is a narcissistic injury?
What’s the point of them regretting it if they’re not gonna change anyway? Pointless. By the time they come back to you, you’ve already moved on or find someone else. I wish men would just man up and not play stupid mind games. It’s a waste of time.
They are immature by nature; they do stuff without realizing the consequences
I know. Testosterone literally fries their brain cells and makes them primitive and basic. Men are always complaining about "women's hormones", like seriously? Testosterone is responsible for 95% of homicides, violent crimes and wars (men). Testosterone makes men egocentrical, crave power, impulsive, aggressive, extremely promiscuous, unclean, dishonest and unfaithful (there are scientific studies about all of this, and the more Testosterone you inject them, the worse it gets). We are better off living alone and with female friends. Having a man in your life is just not worth the hassle. It's best to focus on friends and family and living a happy life with other life goals 🌻☘
That's the point healing move on learn from past mistakes!
I AGREE! THE endless Games is a waste of time. A real Man says what he wants, pointblank!
@@VAULT865 Yes. And not only say what he wants, but most importantly, FOLLOW THROUGH with it 💀
silence is the best reply to a fool 😂
@@lunalemuria yes by letting him or her know that you don’t really give a crap
😂😂😂😂❤
When a woman’s fed up….My ex FA thought I would always be a part of his life. He monkey branched to another after four years with me. He wanted to be friends. Nope. I let him go without tears or drama. Radio silence forever for me. Intense inner work has paid off. I no longer resonate with the man I remember. Never again.
@@Flufero23 good for you. You had to do what you had to do
I love this for you ❤️
You just taught me about the concept of the bare minimum.
Accepting less than the bare minimum in a relationship often signals a lack of care or priority on the other person’s part. If it happens, it’s because you allow it. The key is to set boundaries and respond with silence when those boundaries aren’t respected.
@@sarahbegum2192 I agree. I’m good at doing that. Every time. But not anymore, I’m done. Not mad but done
I need to remember this.
@@sarahbegum2192 I think also it’s easier said than done,regarding putting your foot down, because women are naturally emotional individuals which is one of the reasons why men try and play us.
I got somebody on ice right now then your video popped up😂
Me too! lol 😂. Good luck and stay strong😌
Same here! ❤ YAY US!!!
Occupy your damn time! ❤
Thank God Elliot has been posting daily this week. I have never felt the urge to break no contact than ever before & these videos have been keeping me on track!
Amazing video A month ago, my partnership of five years came to an end. The choice to break up with the person I love is something that really gets to me. Even though it's all for nothing, I've done everything I can to get him back, and I couldn't imagine my existence without him. I've tried everything to stop thinking about him, but I still can't help but miss him and think about him often. I don't know why I am saying this here.
Saying goodbye to someone you love is difficult; I know this from my 12-year relationship ending. But I was unable to simply let him go, so I made every effort to get him back. I eventually sought aid from a spiritual counselor, who was able to help me regain his affection.
It's interesting! How can I contact a spiritual counselor most efficiently, and how did you find one?
Father Obah Eze is a wonderful spiritual counselor who has the ability to bring back your ex.
He can assist you; he is Father Obah Eze, and he possesses immense powers.
I just sought him up online thanks to your helpful information. remarkable
I just checked Father Obah Eze online, and he's really genuine. Thank you again ❤
I am 65 he is 64. I love your to the point videos. Great advice. Plus you are fun to watch and listen to. Tnanks
Don't want any idiot back in my life, I'm silent cause I want 'm to leave me alone forever..... 😅😂
LOL I love when you impersonate us sounding like dumbasses saying we don't want to cut them out of our lives. That is seriously what helps me the most haha.
Right! Like I need to hear my stupidity to actually get it 🙄 🤦🏾♀️🤣❤
But I do not want him back, so gonna continue my silence😂
'Sometimes nothing is a real cool hand'
Idk my other dating coach said if he reaches out by text to not reply or respond, silence. Because he knows what he did and to let him sit and reflect on why you ignored him. To only respond if he apologizes or mentions. Even my brother said to not respond at all. Let him try at least 2 to 3 times before you give a reply and not make it easy for him. And if he doesn’t try my brother said you dodged a bullet and wasted time.
Good one! Agree wholeheartedly.
Who here is watching for male BS prevention? 😅😂🤣
Lol
@@Bewtsie me 😂
I ❤️❤️❤️👏👏👏✅💯 this!!!!! 🤣😂
I'm here bc he pissed me off and I want to get revenge lol
It’s been a month….he is still alive…now what lol
😂
Book a trip, enjoy your life
As I understood from similar couches you should wait more than 3 months even more.
DANG , TRY MUSHROOMS , NOT LSD KIND !!
@@AmeliaHouck-o9j it’s a joke
50 days since my ex narc discarded me and blocked me. I called him out on his bad behavior and he got angry.
Hmm....I'm a man, but I feel like good advice is probably universal, because I do believe we all have similar needs when it comes to emotions, it's just that on the surface the ways that those are fulfilled look very different. I feel like with silence you'd have to know your man's emotional history. If he has abandonment issues, he's either going to cut ties (i.e. rejection sensitivity) or his codependent attachment will surface, which is also not healthy for either of you. As in, you don't want your partner's connection to you based on past trauma, because then he can't heal it without untangling himself from you!....right? So I feel like silence should not be a tool used just because it sounds effective or is materially reasonable or logical, I feel like it has to come from multiple authentic sources. As in, silence is the effect, but the causes are known and established and genuine. Like, the idea of silence is supported by you needing to enforce a healthy boundary (I don't want to open myself to speaking with you until you are willing to recognize that it's not okay to raise your voice, apologize for yelling, and tell me what you plan to do to change it.) or something along those lines...I dunno.
Good luck everyone! We're all struggling lol
This is good advice.
Anything weaponized is cruel and not genuine. My new man, probably ex to be man, has quickly become distant towards me, and it may be that he can't be bothered by small chat or by creating a connection where both of us feel secure becoming better acquainted, but in both examples I know I can't truly love someone who isn't willing.
@@rebeccaburton2704 1,000% understood. 🎯
@@rebeccaburton2704 Whenver a sudden change in behavior happens, it means that something is happening inside! He may not be aware of it, not aware he has feelings, or if he is, he sadly may not be aware that expressing your feelings instead of suppressing them actually makes you feel better! It does not excuse any of his behavior, however I would consider him a poor soul. I hope he finds the compassion and understanding he needs to grow, develop secure attachment styles (rather than the Anxious, avoidant, or anxious-avoidant) in order to have healthy relationships. Please consider recommending him attend an ACA meeting - it's free, and it helps reveal the dysfunctional family systems that we grew up with, because that's likely where he learned this behavior. Hang in there!
Cool-videos! My five-year relationship came to an end a month ago. The love of my life chose to leave, and I can't stop thinking about him; I love him so deeply. I've done everything I can to win him back, but nothing seems to work. I'm feeling frustrated and can't imagine my life with anyone else. Despite my efforts to move on, I just can't shake the thoughts of him. I don’t know why I’m sharing this, (but I really miss him)
It's tough to let go of someone you care about. I can relate, my 12year relationship also ended, and I struggled to move on. I tried everything to get him back, even seeking help from a spiritual counselor who ultimately helped me reconnect with him*
That's incredible! How did you find a spiritual counselor, and how can I contact one?
His name is Owen Abiola, and he’s an amazing spiritual counselor who specializes in bringing back lost loves.
Owen Abiola has incredible powers, and he can assist you.
Thank you for sharing this valuable information! I just looked her up online, and I'm impressed
The way you cuss is making me laugh soo hard 😂
Elliot you are crazy after I watched this video and u said the snooping thing the guy that’s switched up on me and been dry viewed my story off his fake account … GIRLLL ima detach tho thank you kind sir 💕
I went silent recently and he has blown my phone up 🙄 the texts and calls are out of this world
Let him keep on no contact 😂
Did he cheat?
@@Christine_1829 we weren’t in a relationship just a dragged out situation that he thought I would keep dealing with so I went silent.
Interesting… this works even if he basically told u not to reach out to him?
If your man tells you not to reach out to him, he has someone else he's entertaining. Are you sure you should care whether your silence has any impact on him?
Why even bother anymore? He blatantly disrespected you. The nerve of him. You letting him come back ( if he were to ever come back around again ) only shows him you allow his behavior. There are alot of better men out there. Think of it like the trash took itself out.
AGREE with both comments above.. but he is also training you.. Do you want to be his lap dog ?
@@cheekytitaableyou’re very right
Wonderful. Thank you
❤❤❤❤❤❤thanks!
I done all this now he is grazy 😂
What about a dismissive avoidant or narcxassist ?
Thank you so much!! This was awesome!
Now I just need some new guy friend to pose with me for a sweet Instagram “mystery” post!
Just to keep everyone on their toes! 🎉❤ silence is golden!
Ty for explaining so clearly why!
@@DrCherylMeier 😂 😆 😝
i think it's both.
He doesn't like me enough to care so he takes me for granted 1:53- 1:58
@@ScorpioKay1027 yes they both go hand and hand
I thought you said there was a link to take a “how much he likes me” test
Didn’t even go on a first date and they are rude .. I’m totally silent .. thanx but no thanx
So are you saying you’re supposed to ignore them when they text / call for a period of time? Just don’t answer their attempts to communicate with you?
@@stephanied9629 well you can do it one or two ways.
1. Ignore the calls and texts and hopefully he will get the message. However; Doing it this way will keep everything up in the air especially if he really doesn’t know you’re done with him or not.
2. Or you can answer his text and or call and simple tell him you’ve moved on and that at this time you and him are going into two different directions.
I think by doing the first one is easier if you don’t feel you’re strong enough to talk to him. Because his words might start getting you all bothered and next thing you know you’re back at square one with him possibly in the bed. 😂 But if you’re strong enough to talk to him and real sure of yourself, you can just tell him over the phone or via text message and hang up the phone.
At this point it’s really up to you how you feel the best approach is for pop
Remember: one size does not fit all 😂
@@stephanied9629 pop “you”
SURE BOYS , GO CALL MAMA !!
What about if your ex called and text months later but u don't respond some say he will just walk away he won't try to get in contact you?
Why don't you answer if you want to?
If he walks away, let him
Hopefully he does not try to get in contact again. If he does, then the only reason you should forgive him is if he is absolutely begging to come back and really making an effort to admit he f***ed up. Otherwise, he is just playing more power and "ego" games. Don't fall for it, or he'll ruin you again and you'll regret it. It's best to move on. If you can turn to a celibate lifestyle, even better. 99% of men are not worth the hassle. The odds of finding a real good one now days is too low.
100%@@athenachavez8
This stuff doesn’t work 9/10 times. If they are into you games are not necessary.
@@EssyDee-t4z sorry but it does work. All relationships are nothing but a game. Reminds me of the song “ when I move you move just like that”. Look at it this way. When a person slap you, you’re reaction is to slap back. When your kids try to be slick about something by lying, you throw the book at them right? It’s call playing checkers or chess ♟️.
Chess is better for me I’m always ten steps ahead of them. It’s funny to me to be honest
This is gross. My narcissist ex GF discarded me for a 60 year old married man after financially using me. The second she knew I knew she cheated, she stonewalled and gave me the silent treatment.
Not all men deserve this. I did nothing wrong and was completely shattered. You’re validating women to emotionally abuse men.
Sorry that happened to you ❤
@ thanks. It was a year ago and I’m much better but this type of “communication” is not right. From men or women. It’s emotionally abusive.
I’m sorry you had to go through that. I have gone through this TWICE so I know how you feel.
And you’re right, not all men do this. But so many so often DO.
@@purevenus6359 the problem with videos like this (you see them all over social media) is that the wrong type of people take these videos and it validates them. The wrong people take the message.
Any advice you hear of can go for both people. Silence is powerful. If you don’t use silence you can become emotionally damaged being silence can keep you balance
Hey I miss your man bun !!!
UGH! Nooooooo
I do this naturally bc I respect myself and my silence is killing him… if he’s wants to f around he gunna find out and he ain’t gunna like 😂😂😂😂 thx for wasting my time and disrespectful behavior idiot
Why men are so complicated? OMG