Regardless of what you think of him I respect the brother for allowing the story to be told from both sides. In the end, this is a Christian based platform. Christianity is about forgiveness, redemption and reformation. If he wasn’t interviewed I would’ve been more shocked.
@@tyannforde2570absolutely. The interview was very real. He wasn’t allowed to paint her in a bad light or make excuses. He provided context. And forgiveness, if given, doesn’t mean forget or be foolish. We still need to have a discerning spirit.
Question, and I mean no disrespect but what DOES qualify a person to give advice? Having a a degree? Having good or bad experience? Having being currently married or divorced? I really just don’t know what it actually needs to be
Honestly, it's giving narcissistic damage control...but not my place to judge. I hope he gets help for the sake of his children and any future spouse. As a daughter of a narcissistic parent, this hits too close to home, it's triggering. They can be so charming in the public eye and so scary behind closed doors.
I can't relate to a sociopath. He sat with a bold, straight face everyday appealing to an audience of naive, and thirsty women, only to be cheating on his ex-wife like a dog. I even remember the interview he did with K. Michelle when she said "Men are not good people." And he gaslit the heck out of that woman, saying "it's just the men you deal with"... As if he don't belong in that category himself 🙄😂
He was able to relate because he is that guy...he made a job out of warning other women about men like him! He still spoke truth, he never promised to be the good guy lol
To be honest, as much as I despise Derrick, but K. Michelle was honestly doing the most in that interview she was being resentful and bitter so what Derrick said to her was all facts even though Derrick is a piece of shit himself but at the same time K. Michelle was being childish & immature.
This interview was simply “damage control” for Derrick. Typical narc behavior to do whatever it takes to preserve one’s image. And while he took accountability for some of his actions, he still played victim at certain moments during the interview. I’m not saying that Da’naia was completely innocent, but her actions to be unfaithful were provoked by his initial unfaithfulness.
Unpacking his trauma's all good, but he's yet to answer for passing judgement on unfaithful men for a living, fashioning himself as the perfect guy and using that pull to continue beating in the background. THERE's real accountability.
I can’t even make it through the entire interview, this man is leading the interviewer w/ his charismatic , manipulative ways. I can’t!!!! I hope his wife soars and gets the best whole and healthy life that she deserves.
she's soooo strong for even surviving definitely the strength of God at play here praise be to God for that...I'm currently out of something like that myself I wasn't married thank God but we do have a kid together. I know God is going to do the same.for me. 🙏🏽
Can we stop blaming Danea it’s not her fault that someone chose to cheat on her. “Be angry but sin not” I’m married and it gets hard and rough and sometimes even dirty tough and I choose faithfulness. Why? Because It’s not fair to her, my kids, or me to commit something that will tear down the very thing we are trying to build. He’s full of excuses. And that’s what he would say about the men that did exactly what he’s done. And then to do it again he’s definitely thinking with the other head and that is what you call selfish.
I agree but I also understand why he chose the infidelity hurt people hurt people and it some may say it’s an excuse but it really was a cry out for help
@@Judydavis24 that’s bull shit but ok for better or worst he is at fault for bringing other people into the marriage fuck what he did before he committed to the vows.
It's not her "fault" that he chose to cheat, but she is accountable for choosing to enter into covenant with a cheater and someone who's never been faithful to nor committed to her from the beginning (according to her own story).
It’s not our responsibility to forgive this man, we have nothing but social media minutes/hours invested in their situation. None of us are perfect. Forgiveness needs to take place between him, his wife and God. Thank you Latteras for creating a platform for him to present his story and be a listening ear. I pray that this couple and their children receive the healing that is needed to move on.
I hope pt 2 has more accountability. Derek should not be praised just because he is admitting some of his stuff, and so called "being honest." HE GOT CAUGHT AGAIN AND AGAIN AND IT MESSED UP HIS MONEY! He has to be forthcoming to preserrve his image and business. But he mishandled his wife with that "bonnet" Facebook live and then he got caught again. Yes, forgiveness is the key, but if you keep violating in the same manner, it speaks to a deep character issue. Yes, Jesus will fix us, if we let Him, but you gotta yield the issue to Him. Cmon Derek, get some real Christ centered accountability and have several seats.
Get out your feelings and quit the women bias. I don’t like his work or content but I was able to listen with an open ear. And now hearing both sides?? BOTH did each other wrong and immature in the whole situation. This is just purely entertainment it seems smh
For-realz cuz ppl be always performing even thru transparency...women especially young women need to be on guard and beware of men like Derrick Jaxn ...his character traits are NOT to be trusted periodt!
Derrick is so good at manipulation that he’s even been able to get to Dear Future Wifey. Smdh. What a disappointment. He is a master manipulator and could never self reflect or feel empathy without long term ongoing intensities therapy to get to the core of his narcissism. I didn’t intend to watch this ONE but I’m hoping more people won’t be lured into Jaxn’s web and give him more narc supply via followers.
Bingo! I just commented that he knew what he was doing because he knows who the audience of this podcast is - he’s looking for more women to manipulate.
Like most relationships, their struggle started with unresolved unaddressed trauma... and they both participated in keeping it going & repeating patterns. They both validated each other's story. I think thats the most important part for me
@praizeyah totally agree. It's a tragic story but a necessary one. Their testimony was one for the ages! People need to see what to do and not to do. We all need to learn from other mistakes, or we could end up in a similar situation.
Despite the fact that I question if Derrick has a genuine bone in his body because he's trained himself to say the "right thing" I'll watch. Everyone deserves to tell their story.. Now whether or not we'll believe it is up in the air lol
@@AngelaGrant2015 same thing I said I never liked him even before that happened his whole demeanor gave “corny guy, that never got girls but now I have a platform” I can promise you he does not regret nothing Atleast not now however 20 years from now when he finds a new wife who will destroy him yea but not now he is just a master at manipulating women and his audience that’s it that’s all he just keeping the ball rolling and is having the time of his life however I don’t feel sorry for the women involved not even the wife
I don’t believe him…. It feels like a pinch of truth sprinkled with a bunch of untruth…. I was trying to be open and objective but he sounds like a serpent to me…
Lol! Why not he’s loves attention, petty, narcissistic… 😂 He have a bit of femininity so he likes talk, lie and get any amount of attention he can get.
@@godsgirl7201but he’s still placing all the blame on her, he’s not taking responsibility or accountability for his behavior! He’s blaming it on childhood trauma and his wife like lord
You can look at the majority of the comments and tell exactly why narcissists stay evil and selfish. They know there’s always going to be a slew of people with their hearts and arms opened ready to welcome them back into good graces 🤦🏾♀️ he’s never going to cut it out with the deceit and evil behavior.
I’ve always wondered why some women are so gullible as to follow Derrick’s content. He’s clearly telling you EXACTLY what you want to hear. He’s ice cream, not vegetables. He makes you feel good but doesn’t help you GROW. It’s crazy to me that, despite showing the world that he’s the goofball many of us have known him to be, there are STILL women listening to his content and giving him the benefit of the doubt. I guess it pays to look good in a tight-ass t-shirt.
Oh yes. Smh. You know what’s even more crazy? When you as a woman see other women fall for the bait and when they realise you’re not falling for it, they tell you that you need to chill and forgive and “men fall short.” You really wonder if you’re the one tripping sometimes.
So the thing is… DJ didn’t just cheat on his wife; he deceived ALL of us by not being who he said he was. He is the boy who cried wolf. As much as I want all of us to grow and evolve and as much as I want to offer grace to everyone, I do not trust that his words will match his actions😉
No he deceived those who put him on a pedestal. He's just a man. His advice is still 💯 Women need to wise up & learn how to eat the meat and spit out the bones.
But did he tell us he was the guy he recommended we deal with? He definitely did not tell is his truth but I never felt like he was the ideal partner. Just a man telling truths that other men won't, like how my brother (who is a whole man-whore) schools me to game.
@@Lodeenie 😂Well, regarding DJ, if he had said I have done all these things and that’s how I know men are playing you, then I wouldn’t say he was deceptive. But he did a lot of things to his wife he told us a guy who truly loved a woman, would never do. And then he came on the internet and professed his love and recommitment to his wife. And then he cheated again🫠. We all see how sincere he seems, but over and over again he has shown us that his words don’t match his actions. I think everyone is capable of living in true alignment, I’m just not betting my money on DJ today.
You should better take that time to watch YOURSELF and your ways with the people in your life instead of watching D.J. He is not your husband or your brother. Please take it easy. We as Christians should learn to give grace to people. Jesus even on the cross, did it and so did lateras too. He allowed D.J. to defend himself, although he doesn't owe us anything. But as a public personality, he felt like doing it. So let's pray he finds peace and more stability and become even a better person than he is now. Let's behave like christians dear. Remain blessed.
It was an absolute betrayal for Derrick to disclose that she endured another sexual assault, in such a cavalier way. Everything about this podcast felt glib and unbothered. It’s disappointing to see the interviewer ask questions that are clearly designed to get sound bites (“ when was the first time you had sex?” Really?!) and Derrick intellectualizing… we have so much work to do.
That was his way of saying it allegedly happened to her twice within one month. And it took her five years to tell him. I don’t think he believes it happened.
People who have *consistently* proven themselves to be manipulative and untrustworthy shouldn't be interviewed. Lies don't need a platform. It's important to be discerning about what we give voice to and/or how someone may try to use a space to rehab their image and brand.
Naw we need to see how one looks and speaks and moves. This is education at its best . And we need to not ever have sex with anyone outside of the one sent with God’s divine Hand of approval to be our husbands /purpose partners . Abstaining from sex gives us time to see who these vessels really are without that whole soul connection the comes through sex . It’s easier to cut somebody off when you haven’t been having sex with them . Cut them slam off .. these demonic vessels out here trying to take Gods children out but it ain’t working .
The girl lied about being with the other man all throughout her interviews. She probably lied about even more men and situations. That was the time she got caught. She probably messed up a lot more than that. I’m sure a lot of people lie in order to protect public image.
We all know he knows what to say, it’s how we know him. With that being said: it’s giving actor. He knows what sounds good. He knows how to be faithful, he chose not to.
And he chose her because he needed a tutor, kept her around cause she refused to leave, no matter how he dogged her and only married her because she got pregnant and called his mother
This man is clearly trying to do damage control just like he did with the cheating scandal. The fact that he said he doesnt lie tells me that he's a liar.
It's amazing how he talks about her "cheating" in DETAIL, with exact locations, place she was working, etc, and yet when he talks about the 100s of women he reportedly slept with, he brushes over his stuff. Just like "Karen" is a thing, I think "Derrick" should be a thing.
I learned from this: 1. Give your children attention when they're young 2. Make sure you have proper boundaries with ppl you have been emotionally attached to or physically involved with to prevent cheating
And don’t have children out of wedlock. Broken families is the common denominator in all issues in America . Especially black Americans . Black women have damn near all their children out of wedlock
Derrick reminds me of my husband...all the gas lighting is beyond sickening. This was CLEARLY damage control. He can't be trusted and surely can't believe anything that comes out of his narc mouth
As a survivor this would feel like a slap in a face. But business wise it’s a smart move. My abuser is just like DJ ( I don’t have proof of any physical cheating) but these type of men are very strategic at storytelling, charismatic, and know all the right things to say and what what faults to share to appear humble. and yes they have wounds and troubles from their childhood that will make anyone for sympathy for them. That’s how us fixers gets deceived. But most “faith filled” ppl will do is throw the blanket of blame on both people. But these deceivers are so good at deceiving they’ll have you questioning everything. I don’t have time but I could break down this interview on how he’s still a wolf. But ladies consult the lord ALWAYS.
I agree. I work in DV advocacy and am a DV survivor…. I’d be feeling some kind of way. At least we heard her first. In my opinion, she’s bearing the burden. No judgment on these brothers but we didn’t need this fluff
You are so right. My abuser was/is the same. I have to deal with him in regards to our child, that's the only reason there is any interaction and that is through Talking Parents or email. He tries to make it difficult every time because he's super vindictive since I left him
I''m about 12 mins in ... haven't even gotten to hearing much of his side of things yet but I'm feeling really cringy. I may have to tap out soon as well. Too triggering already...
@@CookWithStephh seriously! His voice has me really anxious. I think it’s because he was constantly going viral with his advice on social media and then to find out he was exactly what he was speaking about. That’s exactly what it is. His voice is triggering me…
It was good he came on the show , i was a little curious what he was going to say. The build was good , we're all human but the last 10mins was a bit on the defense. Glossing over the huge log in your eyes? Knowing who you are , healing your trauma before getting together with anyone cannot be over emphasized
This is why communication is so key in a relationship. They both were dealing with traumatic pasts but never explored ways to heal together. Literally living two different realities.
I just want to point out a nuance - he spent this time saying “I tried my best but she just didn’t comply & I personalized it & reacted”. That is not the perspective of someone who genuinely understands their wrong. I’ve been married - and after divorce, had to say “this was 100% my part”..and end it there. True “repentance” is accountability minus the culpability of the other party. Great interview Laterras. You provide space for people to feel safe. It’s needed.
No one is saying he is innocent, but it adds perspective hearing his story told. Trauma met Trauma at a young period of their lives and things went South. Hope they can both heal and keep things civil for the sake of their kids.
Oprah is not a christian. She is in the circle of epstein and the other children's mo*lesters. Lateras IS NOT anything like OPrah AND should never be like her. He belongs to the kingdom of GOD. Gob bless his heart.
Me either. Years ago I watched a few of his videos, I quickly realized, he was in business only and came off as a 💩 talker😂 so I never watched again. I can’t watch this interview. He’s annoying and fake to me. He seems sick like a psychopath.
Being a woman who has experienced some of the things talked about between this couple, I had to learn that everyone’s feelings in a relationship is valid, and it’s important to heal and have a firm foundation. I can respect both sides and see that when their isn’t any healing individually, the relationship is bound to be unstable!
This screams...It is cheaper to keep her and I need to do something to repair the damage to my "brand" so I can continue to secure the bag. My bag now is too small to afford a divorce, alimony and child support. No true remorse expressed in this interview.
1. He without sin cast the first stone. 2. He told everyone exactly who he was without telling everyone who he was! Everything he spoke about was from his own experiences. He didn’t disclose he was living lies, but he did say what not to fall for. Experience makes the best teacher. 3. Valuable lessons learned for all willing to learn. Their life their story, the worlds opinion. Grace given for all!! ❤
I Disagree, some things are worse than others. 1 not only did he lie but he did it on scale with millions of followers. Media is a powerful tool 2 the devil will not likely present himself with red horns but disguised as everything a person lusts after.
I walked away with this MARRIAGE IS NOT FOR BOYS… He was just a boy that felt he needed to marry his baby mama that he was stuck in a situationship with. They were never in a relationship and Derrick was not and is still not ready for marriage. We have a lot of Derricks in marriages now & those marriages need to end
It appears that neither was she to be honest. They were both young and filled with unresolved trauma. They both hurt each other and disrespected each other based on the perspectives told.
I’m sorry but, he had zero accountability. All I saw was deflection and blame. It’s almost as if he hadn’t taken his own advice he gives 🤷🏾♀️ That’s just my takeaway. I know God is a forgiver and healer, but I truly believe it take accountability.
He’s trying to level the playing field while not even taking accountability for how wild he was moving. Even if she “cheated” with the one guy how does that equate to years of cheating with multiple women. this man is ridiculous.
Mr Laterras, I applaud you for allowing both parties involved to give their visions. Not only about how they felt but how they received it and responded. This gives us an incite on how both men and women can have the same experiences, but it can manifest differently . Can't wait till part 2 🎉
That was never love, and will never be. That was them feeding mutual trauma and hate off of each other. Love doesn't show up like that, over and over again. This is an example of what not to consider love to be. When you try to make this OK, you are your own enemy, and the devil is more than happy to stand next to you while you do it.
How would you know... So broken people can not experience real love? Well... i do not agree. Jesus gave us HIS LIFE which is the highest form of LOVE to us, BROKEN people. We are short coming in thousands of ways... yet Jesus loved us. Some of us are CRIMINALS who have killed other people, but HE still came through for us! Therefore, i would argue that even BROKEN people can still experience REAL love among themselves because love is a gift from above and it has NOTHING to do with once being worthy of it. How they handle it, might differ from one individual to another. Some will reject it like some of us REJECTED the love of CHRIST. It still doesn't negate the fact that jesus gifted us with TRUE love. SO did aneya and D.J. They might have received the gift of TRUE LOVE. What they did with it, is up to them.
@freshdesign2026 Of course, broken people can experience real love. Like you said, it's what they do with it. When you continue to use that as a weapon against each other and don't deviate, then you may want to consider that it is not divine. At least not from the most high. I wish you healthy wellness. Who has not been broken at some time? The point is to ID the source and work to save yourself. Not continue to ask for more of the same from that source.
@@esbizzze The source might be right. But they are, like we both agree, struggling with the pains of the past and have so many difficulties seeing each other's beautiful love. One thing is that they can't stay away from each other... So let's allow God be God in their lives and in ours as well. Remain blessed dear.
The women in the comments definitely ate his words up. They’re even praying for him. This y men get away with so much. Too many man worship bimbos in this world.
I had to go back and listen again. I think it went over Derrick's head. Derrick threw a few jabs on about the name DFW being coined by him and jab at the first two counseling sessions he had with Da'Naia. Interesting how he glossed over trying to be a good man by being a provider, being there for the baby etc knowing their primary issue was of him cheating to begin with. Yes, she may have had trauma, but he really never addressed how he would "will" himself to not cheat on her. I guess it may come out in part 2.
I LOVED this interview! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Awesome, extremely engaging, interesting, very telling, depth-oriented, vulnerable, and high in substance. Listen...we've ALL made mistakes...TRUST...even the most convincing liars pay a price. Let GOD be the judge, for he is the ONLY one whose lens is not flawed. We've ALL had to come back from something...most of us are just afforded the ability to struggle to recover privately. This interview, in my opinion, was both brave and bold. The interviewer asked the tough and pertinent questions, and the interviewee answered. Now...On to the second segment of conversation.
Wheeeew , trauma bonding is a real thing . Watching both interviews I’d call it “Dangerously in Love “ . I truly pray they both receive healing & become whole .
What he kept authentic is why he did this, as he mentioned, for the kids who'd see mummy and daddy later on. He needed to come up with something fast to save face. In my opinion this interview was a bit too premature for him to be authentic enough.... maybe do a follow up when this brother has healed a bit more from all the turmoil. He's a bit on the defensive side, so it could be a bit hard to get the gist of it all. Well, let me not pre-empt...... waiting for part 2, hopefully it may sound a bit different to me. But I pray for his and her healing.... this is too much to bear for both of them and the children.
Listening to both parties show how important it is for people to heal before marrying. Marrying is a commitment and vow before God. We take it so lightly and treat like boyfriend and girlfriend. I am 34 and not married and I am working through my trauma because I don’t want my marriage to pay the price. Myles Munroe said a lot of people are broken up not because they don’t love each other but because they lack knowledge to make the relationship work. These two broken individuals got together requiring each one of them to be responsible for each others healing. 😢😢😢. I hope they both truly face themselves and heal and so in the future can they can properly love someone because they have mastered how to love themselves. 😊
like who? The one who dances with epstein and those children mo*lesters? Please, don't. He is a great podcaster. One from God's Kingdom. So let's continue to appreciate him in this light. Stay blessed sis.
I could absolutely careless about him talking about his trauma because he is intelligent enough to know that intense therapy and resources was needed. He found someone that he saw as a good faithful incubator. He knew from the jump he did not want to be in a committed relationship. I can’t judge him because that’s Gods job. He definitely is dead wrong for what he did to his family and manipulating women on his platforms smh
"I cant judge him.." you say... as you proceed to say some judgemental shit. Be honest! We humans have this inate feature to judge each other. I judged him too. But the grace you would like to be accorded to you (i dont know you so you are probably even worse than he is) , is the same grace you should accord other human beings. The Law of the Universe.
@@balance_andbliss naw I’m not worse than him. I don’t intentionally deceive ppl. Go for someone else don’t come for me. What he did is horrible to his family and anyone else that he intentionally played with.
@@atasteofcherie3970 It is sad you read to respond and not to understand. I did not accuse you of being worse than him. I said "i dont know you so you are PROBABLY even worse than he is" Sad I had to point that out. Also, you just contradicted yourself. You cannot say "I cant judge him" and proceed to judge him. Makes no sense. What he did was wrong yes. But my thing is, we all have our sins. Including you.
Scariest thing is.... Daa'nia is in her HEALING stage. They ALWAYS COMES BACK with the GOOD MEMORIES when you're almost healed!! You cannot trust that Derrick is not doing this to get her BACK to being a footstool to his ego.
Great episode! I’m very pleased that both parties are being presented the opportunity to be heard and seen. There’s much grace to be given and received when it comes to dealing with infidelity in marriage. And this marriage unfolded in a most ugly way in front of everyone’s eyes. I appreciate this podcast for being a safe place for these 2 individuals in this crucial time in their lives. I’m looking forward to part 2.
I watch faithfully but rarely comment (imma do better lol) but I know what this comment section finna look like so I felt moved to make sure that your supporters are here and LOUD to drown out those who can’t appreciate the grace you’ve extended by allowing him space to speak. God is your publicist so we know that this decision was Holy Spirit led. Love you!!!
At around 5:30 he said "my authentic self"... what authentic self? This man hasn't yet discovered who he is.... He says he fekt safe around her and I believe him. He felt that he could be the womanizer he planned to be in secret and that she would hold him down and keep him safe. And she did.... But like my grandma always says "the longest rope has an end"
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
First off what did you do to lose her? Second please don’t use witches and spells to bring a person back. Seek Ye The Lord for guidance. It could not be meant for you two to be together. However, if it’s God’s will it will happen. Again, why did she leave?
I so appreciate the DFW podcast and how LRW represents the Kingdom of God and relationships. This is a couple that isn't in a mental, emotional or spiritual place YET to converse publicly. Both of them need seperate private professional counseling and a larger space of time for PRIVATE healing. Sometimes because of the era of social media we opt out of private time for public consumption. It's evident at this time in both interviews that, it's just not time for platforms. Praying for health/ healing for them and their children. ❤
This episode is clearly an eye opener as we now get to understand the context behind their relationship. My opinion is this: A Turbulent relationship leads to a Turbulent Marriage that will break down eventually. By looking at the patterns in their relationship, they both needed to find themselves. Their actions and reactions just show two "broken" people who need to find healing.
Yes. It doesn't sound like they were ready for marriage. Maybe better luck next time around (I'm not going to judge either one of them; sounds like they needed to heal first).
He reminds me of my soon-to-be ex husband. My blood crawls at his audacity to come to this interview to make himself look good. I had similar experiences like Da'Naia in my marriage and I am so happy to see her overcome and gain her voice. God bless her! To Mr. Derrick, I pray that God truly changes your heart but I will not be completing this interview.
Whether he is being genuine or not, we need to remember to extend grace. The same grace God gives us for all the horrible sins we commit that just may not be as public. Doesn’t mean accountability, moving different or even cutting people off is not in order, but forgiveness and grace of others needs to be present
I am glad he decided to listen to both sides. There is a lot to learn from these interviews. Thank you dear future wifey and I pray they both receive the healing they need.
Ran to watch this! Laterras has a way of providing a safe space for people to humanize themselves outside of the drama! I love that and thank you dear future wifey!
I wan't to be angry with Laterras for allowing this man to come sit on the yellow couch but i also know that his heart is usually in the right place (granted he is human so i will extend him him some grace).
@mbs9475 Relax there is no need for heart palpitations, we're not coming with that kind of vibe here. No one is angry about anything learn to read Ma'am. Thank you and don't respond.
Will i also be delusional If I mention the word imbecile?? There is clearly a lot of you who can't read and contextualise (may today's guest be your future hubby, he will teach you a thing or two about being delusional. SMH)
why would this anger you though? you people have to learn to allow both parties to give their side of the story. You can't be doing witch hunts and casting judgment if you haven't heard both parts of the story.
😮😮😮This is SURPRISINGLY blessing my heart. As a single mom raising a teenager son….there is so much revelation God is showing me through this man (I don’t know his platform) but I can see the little boy and teenage derek while listening to him as a grown man, and humbling realizing this could be my son as a grown man. Not condemning because I’m a single mom etc but eye opening and the love and grace of God to show and convict me to shift. Wow!!!!
@@LisePlansandJournals I can’t speak for her, but I can tell you that God does speak to us, it’s a small voice and once it’s spoken everything that is said is correct.
Regardless of what you think of him I respect the brother for allowing the story to be told from both sides. In the end, this is a Christian based platform. Christianity is about forgiveness, redemption and reformation. If he wasn’t interviewed I would’ve been more shocked.
Exactly
Amen
Well put 💯
Sure it's about forgiveness, but we also need to be real
@@tyannforde2570absolutely. The interview was very real. He wasn’t allowed to paint her in a bad light or make excuses. He provided context. And forgiveness, if given, doesn’t mean forget or be foolish. We still need to have a discerning spirit.
I believe NOTHING this man says....NOTHING!! 😂😂😂 He can't even pretend to be sincere
Yes it's kind of nauseating listening to him. I couldn't listen more than a few min.
He is sorry because he was caught in the cookie jar if that wasn't the case no one would know !!!.
Perfect example of “Wolf in sheep’s clothing”
Even the way he tells his story he give more details and energy to how he built his platform than he does on the early years of their relationships
A lot of fast talking. Causing chaos and confusion.
Whether he is sorry or not, I don't think he is qualified to give anymore relationship advice ever again.
I agree !
Well said
He not sorry he’s sorry he got caught…
Question, and I mean no disrespect but what DOES qualify a person to give advice? Having a a degree? Having good or bad experience? Having being currently married or divorced? I really just don’t know what it actually needs to be
Agreed
Honestly, it's giving narcissistic damage control...but not my place to judge. I hope he gets help for the sake of his children and any future spouse. As a daughter of a narcissistic parent, this hits too close to home, it's triggering. They can be so charming in the public eye and so scary behind closed doors.
It's not "giving," it's SCREAMING.
So trigerring😢
I came to look for this comment because there is no way people can’t see that 🤦🏿♀️ I’m glad she’s out and I hope she stays there.
@TooCute1890 the amount of times I rolled my eyes...I didn't believe a second of it.
@TheJessjess this! I especially hate them both sitting there discussing that womans "r-word". Smh...
I can't relate to a sociopath. He sat with a bold, straight face everyday appealing to an audience of naive, and thirsty women, only to be cheating on his ex-wife like a dog. I even remember the interview he did with K. Michelle when she said "Men are not good people." And he gaslit the heck out of that woman, saying "it's just the men you deal with"... As if he don't belong in that category himself 🙄😂
TRUTH JUICE
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That part!!
He was able to relate because he is that guy...he made a job out of warning other women about men like him! He still spoke truth, he never promised to be the good guy lol
To be honest, as much as I despise Derrick, but K. Michelle was honestly doing the most in that interview she was being resentful and bitter so what Derrick said to her was all facts even though Derrick is a piece of shit himself but at the same time K. Michelle was being childish & immature.
This interview was simply “damage control” for Derrick. Typical narc behavior to do whatever it takes to preserve one’s image.
And while he took accountability for some of his actions, he still played victim at certain moments during the interview.
I’m not saying that Da’naia was completely innocent, but her actions to be unfaithful were provoked by his initial unfaithfulness.
Yeah he came to save face AT ALL COSTS
Unpacking his trauma's all good, but he's yet to answer for passing judgement on unfaithful men for a living, fashioning himself as the perfect guy and using that pull to continue beating in the background. THERE's real accountability.
They were BOTH a mess and had trauma. No one was better than the other in this situation. The only ones I feel bad for are the kids.
PERIOD
Exactly❤
I can’t even make it through the entire interview, this man is leading the interviewer w/ his charismatic , manipulative ways. I can’t!!!! I hope his wife soars and gets the best whole and healthy life that she deserves.
she's soooo strong for even surviving definitely the strength of God at play here praise be to God for that...I'm currently out of something like that myself I wasn't married thank God but we do have a kid together. I know God is going to do the same.for me. 🙏🏽
Can we stop blaming Danea it’s not her fault that someone chose to cheat on her. “Be angry but sin not” I’m married and it gets hard and rough and sometimes even dirty tough and I choose faithfulness. Why? Because It’s not fair to her, my kids, or me to commit something that will tear down the very thing we are trying to build. He’s full of excuses. And that’s what he would say about the men that did exactly what he’s done. And then to do it again he’s definitely thinking with the other head and that is what you call selfish.
Well said, may Jesus bless and strengthen your marriage.
Finally… Someone in the comments with some sense.
I agree but I also understand why he chose the infidelity hurt people hurt people and it some may say it’s an excuse but it really was a cry out for help
@@Judydavis24 that’s bull shit but ok for better or worst he is at fault for bringing other people into the marriage fuck what he did before he committed to the vows.
It's not her "fault" that he chose to cheat, but she is accountable for choosing to enter into covenant with a cheater and someone who's never been faithful to nor committed to her from the beginning (according to her own story).
It’s not our responsibility to forgive this man, we have nothing but social media minutes/hours invested in their situation. None of us are perfect. Forgiveness needs to take place between him, his wife and God. Thank you Latteras for creating a platform for him to present his story and be a listening ear. I pray that this couple and their children receive the healing that is needed to move on.
This ❤
Amen ❤
How can I like this comment more than once?? 😩❤️
@@bubublessing
I was just thinking the same thing!
What gets me how professional denae and him talk even when there talking about ghetto stuff 😂😂😂😂 " I didn't hear of her throwing those hands"😂😂
Derrick stayed in the driver seat & steered this entire interview 😳 the art of fast talking
Definitely got the gift of gab
No fr
narcissists are great at it!
Exactly
That's Derrick Jaxn for you.
I’m only watching this episode for Laterras. Anything Derrick Jaxn says will be taken with a grain of salt, and that’s being generous
I hope pt 2 has more accountability. Derek should not be praised just because he is admitting some of his stuff, and so called "being honest." HE GOT CAUGHT AGAIN AND AGAIN AND IT MESSED UP HIS MONEY! He has to be forthcoming to preserrve his image and business. But he mishandled his wife with that "bonnet" Facebook live and then he got caught again. Yes, forgiveness is the key, but if you keep violating in the same manner, it speaks to a deep character issue. Yes, Jesus will fix us, if we let Him, but you gotta yield the issue to Him. Cmon Derek, get some real Christ centered accountability and have several seats.
All of his mess was put on front street by him. He can't be trusted. I hope God forgives him. His grace is undeserved.
Get out your feelings and quit the women bias. I don’t like his work or content but I was able to listen with an open ear. And now hearing both sides?? BOTH did each other wrong and immature in the whole situation. This is just purely entertainment it seems smh
For-realz cuz ppl be always performing even thru transparency...women especially young women need to be on guard and beware of men like Derrick Jaxn ...his character traits are NOT to be trusted periodt!
I second that!
Derrick is so good at manipulation that he’s even been able to get to Dear Future Wifey. Smdh. What a disappointment. He is a master manipulator and could never self reflect or feel empathy without long term ongoing intensities therapy to get to the core of his narcissism. I didn’t intend to watch this ONE but I’m hoping more people won’t be lured into Jaxn’s web and give him more narc supply via followers.
Bingo! I just commented that he knew what he was doing because he knows who the audience of this podcast is - he’s looking for more women to manipulate.
This this this.
Agreed
You are right on point..
I’m pretty sure if this man didn’t want Derrick on his podcast he wouldn’t be there…
Him mentioning that she got raped again knowing he didn’t get her permission to bring that up is wild, wtf… 🤦🏾♀️
CHIIIIIILE. I was like ...uh??? But you brought it up?
Derrick is dirty for that.
YOOO WHAT WAS THAT ABOUT INSANTIYYYY
Like most relationships, their struggle started with unresolved unaddressed trauma... and they both participated in keeping it going & repeating patterns. They both validated each other's story. I think thats the most important part for me
Completely agree!! Hurt people hurt people. Not dealing with trauma will often lead to disaster!!
Yeah, I didn't see where this interview contradicted anything his ex said. It's just one story. We all have a story.
Facts!
This was a really good interview.! I was so surprised.
@praizeyah totally agree. It's a tragic story but a necessary one. Their testimony was one for the ages! People need to see what to do and not to do. We all need to learn from other mistakes, or we could end up in a similar situation.
A man with absolutely NO boundaries . . . A dangerous soul to take on.
Despite the fact that I question if Derrick has a genuine bone in his body because he's trained himself to say the "right thing" I'll watch. Everyone deserves to tell their story.. Now whether or not we'll believe it is up in the air lol
This
Yes, unfortunately he specialize in deceiving. I can learn something new from anyone, even a deceiver.
@@AngelaGrant2015 same thing I said I never liked him even before that happened his whole demeanor gave “corny guy, that never got girls but now I have a platform” I can promise you he does not regret nothing Atleast not now however 20 years from now when he finds a new wife who will destroy him yea but not now he is just a master at manipulating women and his audience that’s it that’s all he just keeping the ball rolling and is having the time of his life however I don’t feel sorry for the women involved not even the wife
And that’s what Lateras should have tried to protect his viewers from.
I don’t believe him…. It feels like a pinch of truth sprinkled with a bunch of untruth…. I was trying to be open and objective but he sounds like a serpent to me…
I... I'm SPEECHLESS...I was NOT expecting this interview! 😳
It all seems like game and a money grab between Dj and D’Naiah
@@FreedomLane73I wouldn’t be surprised.
My thoughts exactly!
Lol! Why not he’s loves attention, petty, narcissistic… 😂 He have a bit of femininity so he likes talk, lie and get any amount of attention he can get.
I’m excited about part 2.
This dude is saying all the right things so that in the future when the kids see this they will see his version of smoothing over the situation
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Master manipulator
Manipulation at its core
This gave me chills just realizing how we're all living our own separate realities. I pray they both heal and grow. 🙏🏾
Fr
I have to give it to him he's very eloquent speaker knows how to express his thoughts effectively
@@godsgirl7201agreed!!
@@godsgirl7201but he’s still placing all the blame on her, he’s not taking responsibility or accountability for his behavior! He’s blaming it on childhood trauma and his wife like lord
@@godsgirl7201i mean what is it you’re giving him though? Applauding for the bare minimum of something a grown person basically supppose to do? Smh
You can look at the majority of the comments and tell exactly why narcissists stay evil and selfish. They know there’s always going to be a slew of people with their hearts and arms opened ready to welcome them back into good graces 🤦🏾♀️ he’s never going to cut it out with the deceit and evil behavior.
Facts. They are so gullible.
Our intuition speaks to us but we ignore it because we are tired of waiting on God. Understandable, but it leads to heartache.
THIS!!!!!
Unless you have dealt with one it can be difficult to spot.
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I’ve always wondered why some women are so gullible as to follow Derrick’s content. He’s clearly telling you EXACTLY what you want to hear. He’s ice cream, not vegetables. He makes you feel good but doesn’t help you GROW.
It’s crazy to me that, despite showing the world that he’s the goofball many of us have known him to be, there are STILL women listening to his content and giving him the benefit of the doubt.
I guess it pays to look good in a tight-ass t-shirt.
That last sentence….yes. Lol
Oh yes. Smh. You know what’s even more crazy? When you as a woman see other women fall for the bait and when they realise you’re not falling for it, they tell you that you need to chill and forgive and “men fall short.” You really wonder if you’re the one tripping sometimes.
Black women are always going to give black men chances.
He also doesn’t even look good in this shirt.
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Because a lot of women don't listen
So the thing is… DJ didn’t just cheat on his wife; he deceived ALL of us by not being who he said he was. He is the boy who cried wolf. As much as I want all of us to grow and evolve and as much as I want to offer grace to everyone, I do not trust that his words will match his actions😉
Exactly!!!
No he deceived those who put him on a pedestal. He's just a man. His advice is still 💯 Women need to wise up & learn how to eat the meat and spit out the bones.
But did he tell us he was the guy he recommended we deal with? He definitely did not tell is his truth but I never felt like he was the ideal partner. Just a man telling truths that other men won't, like how my brother (who is a whole man-whore) schools me to game.
@@Lodeenie 😂Well, regarding DJ, if he had said I have done all these things and that’s how I know men are playing you, then I wouldn’t say he was deceptive. But he did a lot of things to his wife he told us a guy who truly loved a woman, would never do. And then he came on the internet and professed his love and recommitment to his wife. And then he cheated again🫠. We all see how sincere he seems, but over and over again he has shown us that his words don’t match his actions. I think everyone is capable of living in true alignment, I’m just not betting my money on DJ today.
You should better take that time to watch YOURSELF and your ways with the people in your life instead of watching D.J. He is not your husband or your brother. Please take it easy.
We as Christians should learn to give grace to people. Jesus even on the cross, did it and so did lateras too.
He allowed D.J. to defend himself, although he doesn't owe us anything. But as a public personality, he felt like doing it. So let's pray he finds peace and more stability and become even a better person than he is now.
Let's behave like christians dear. Remain blessed.
10 MINUTES IN HE IS ALREADY LYING 😂😂😂😂 THIS IS UNBELIEVABLE
I can’t watch because this dude is deceitful. Not here for his fake humility.
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
GIRL!!!😅😅😅😅😅
😂😂😂😂
Right!!!😂😂😂
It was an absolute betrayal for Derrick to disclose that she endured another sexual assault, in such a cavalier way. Everything about this podcast felt glib and unbothered. It’s disappointing to see the interviewer ask questions that are clearly designed to get sound bites (“ when was the first time you had sex?” Really?!) and Derrick intellectualizing… we have so much work to do.
I was thinking the same thing because he sais he didn’t want to disclose but disclosed anyways. Very distasteful
Yes he is good liar. As a man you are believing him.
Totally agree
That was his way of saying it allegedly happened to her twice within one month. And it took her five years to tell him. I don’t think he believes it happened.
I thought exactly the same. That shit was FOUL!!!
People who have *consistently* proven themselves to be manipulative and untrustworthy shouldn't be interviewed. Lies don't need a platform. It's important to be discerning about what we give voice to and/or how someone may try to use a space to rehab their image and brand.
Wisdom.
Naw we need to see how one looks and speaks and moves. This is education at its best . And we need to not ever have sex with anyone outside of the one sent with God’s divine Hand of approval to be our husbands /purpose partners .
Abstaining from sex gives us time to see who these vessels really are without that whole soul connection the comes through sex . It’s easier to cut somebody off when you haven’t been having sex with them . Cut them slam off .. these demonic vessels out here trying to take Gods children out but it ain’t working .
The girl lied about being with the other man all throughout her interviews. She probably lied about even more men and situations. That was the time she got caught. She probably messed up a lot more than that.
I’m sure a lot of people lie in order to protect public image.
Honestly.
@@adriannorwood8237so then, you agree with the original post?? 🤷🏾♀️
We all know he knows what to say, it’s how we know him. With that being said: it’s giving actor. He knows what sounds good. He knows how to be faithful, he chose not to.
Facts
Yesss
And he chose her because he needed a tutor, kept her around cause she refused to leave, no matter how he dogged her and only married her because she got pregnant and called his mother
His interview sounds exactly like the one he did on Love me Moore podcast. Actor vibes all the way.
This man is clearly trying to do damage control just like he did with the cheating scandal. The fact that he said he doesnt lie tells me that he's a liar.
Right like he's clearly a liar...he cheated his whole marriage lol
I laughed when he said I’m not a liar 😂😂😂
Right because you got to lie to cheat lol
My ex-husband 🎯
Am I the only one that sees his eye twitching while he's telling his side of things 🤔🤔🤔 looks like someone is lying
I will never trust a word that comes out of this man’s mouth. Ladies beware.. This interview was very strategic.
😅YEP. SO MANY LIES AND GAMES! 1:00:05
Wow this sounds like you have more information 😂😂😂😂😂
This episode is just pure entertainment, he’s full of you know what lol
Both he and her.😂
Yes!!!! Both of them.... just tacky and messy collectively
I don’t like his content but I genuinely believe him.
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I agree
It's amazing how he talks about her "cheating" in DETAIL, with exact locations, place she was working, etc, and yet when he talks about the 100s of women he reportedly slept with, he brushes over his stuff.
Just like "Karen" is a thing, I think "Derrick" should be a thing.
I learned from this:
1. Give your children attention when they're young
2. Make sure you have proper boundaries with ppl you have been emotionally attached to or physically involved with to prevent cheating
And don’t have children out of wedlock. Broken families is the common denominator in all issues in America . Especially black Americans . Black women have damn near all their children out of wedlock
@@AmericanRenaissanceMan🎯
True! We need more 2 parent homes! That's the root issue for that point. Thanks for sharing!@@AmericanRenaissanceMan
Me too! I have sons so I need to pay attention.
@@Robloxlegend49 if you don’t have their father in their life you already failed
I wish he addressed why he never went public about the fact that he had a wife. For a long time most people thought he was single
Derrick logic. “Give me credit for the 25% of the time I wasn’t cheating. I WAS FAITHFUL.”
This ninja 🤣😆😂
Legend 😂😂😂
As I’m watching this interview, I sat here thinking about how we could resolve issues if we would just express our true feelings.
This thought has been with me for the week, actually. So much I need to authentically show up for. It's scary though.
Right!
@@sweetmisstea do it!
Absolutely. Authenticity is a must
It requires vulnerability, which requires a safe space.
Derrick reminds me of my husband...all the gas lighting is beyond sickening. This was CLEARLY damage control. He can't be trusted and surely can't believe anything that comes out of his narc mouth
As a survivor this would feel like a slap in a face. But business wise it’s a smart move. My abuser is just like DJ ( I don’t have proof of any physical cheating) but these type of men are very strategic at storytelling, charismatic, and know all the right things to say and what what faults to share to appear humble. and yes they have wounds and troubles from their childhood that will make anyone for sympathy for them.
That’s how us fixers gets deceived. But most “faith filled” ppl will do is throw the blanket of blame on both people. But these deceivers are so good at deceiving they’ll have you questioning everything.
I don’t have time but I could break down this interview on how he’s still a wolf. But ladies consult the lord ALWAYS.
Yes, consult the LORD always! Spiritual discernment and intuition is the key!
I agree. I work in DV advocacy and am a DV survivor…. I’d be feeling some kind of way. At least we heard her first. In my opinion, she’s bearing the burden. No judgment on these brothers but we didn’t need this fluff
You are so right. My abuser was/is the same. I have to deal with him in regards to our child, that's the only reason there is any interaction and that is through Talking Parents or email. He tries to make it difficult every time because he's super vindictive since I left him
Right
It doesn't even take discernment or the gift of prophecy to see CLEARLY this man is TOXIC and a master wordsmith manipulator! SAD!
As a narcissistic abuse survivor, this was very uncomfortable to watch! I am tuning out half way thru bc this hits too close to home.
I''m about 12 mins in ... haven't even gotten to hearing much of his side of things yet but I'm feeling really cringy. I may have to tap out soon as well. Too triggering already...
Me too I’m so curious to watch but my anxiety is kicking in heavy right now even listening to him speak
@@CookWithStephh seriously! His voice has me really anxious. I think it’s because he was constantly going viral with his advice on social media and then to find out he was exactly what he was speaking about. That’s exactly what it is. His voice is triggering me…
@@jay_hovita so triggering I can’t even watch it I just put it on speaker Loud so I can hear it but his voice is making me cringe ! Ugh
It was good he came on the show , i was a little curious what he was going to say. The build was good , we're all human but the last 10mins was a bit on the defense. Glossing over the huge log in your eyes? Knowing who you are , healing your trauma before getting together with anyone cannot be over emphasized
I trust nothing remorseful this man has to say…but I’ll watch this bc it’ll amuse me.
For real 🙄
Exactly, him and his wife are running game, but ok
Agreed
😂😂😂.. U nailed it 👏
Same.
This is why communication is so key in a relationship. They both were dealing with traumatic pasts but never explored ways to heal together. Literally living two different realities.
I just want to point out a nuance - he spent this time saying “I tried my best but she just didn’t comply & I personalized it & reacted”. That is not the perspective of someone who genuinely understands their wrong. I’ve been married - and after divorce, had to say “this was 100% my part”..and end it there. True “repentance” is accountability minus the culpability of the other party.
Great interview Laterras. You provide space for people to feel safe. It’s needed.
He's self-centered. Gets into his feelings when he's not getting attention.
Wrong was done on both side it’s not up to the man to do everything or take accountability for everything she is has much wrong
@@Sjbjo She Took Accountability For Her Side Though. It’s Him That Didnt. He Still Is Mainly Blaming Her
@@DonDivaBitch Not at all
Thanks for allowing everyone the opportunity to present their perspective.
No one is saying he is innocent, but it adds perspective hearing his story told. Trauma met Trauma at a young period of their lives and things went South. Hope they can both heal and keep things civil for the sake of their kids.
Laterras, you are turning into our male Oprah with A focus on healing and sobering conversation. You go man 🎊 🎉
To God be the glory
Oprahs rich
@@rakeshamurray5603Oprah wasn't always rich
Oprah is not a christian. She is in the circle of epstein and the other children's mo*lesters. Lateras IS NOT anything like OPrah AND should never be like her. He belongs to the kingdom of GOD. Gob bless his heart.
For real, because I was not expecting this! He is doing his thing for sure!
You scrolling through the comments too? 👀😂
Yes I am lol
😂 how'd you know?!😂😂😂
This man's energy does not sit right with me.
Me either. Years ago I watched a few of his videos, I quickly realized, he was in business only and came off as a 💩 talker😂 so I never watched again. I can’t watch this interview. He’s annoying and fake to me. He seems sick like a psychopath.
Being a woman who has experienced some of the things talked about between this couple, I had to learn that everyone’s feelings in a relationship is valid, and it’s important to heal and have a firm foundation. I can respect both sides and see that when their isn’t any healing individually, the relationship is bound to be unstable!
what is he healing from ? the damaged he caused her ? come on dont sound silly
@@halahala65 apparently you’re trolling… God Bless!
I trust NOTHING the JACKSONS say. 😂😂
Nothing !!
Wow, he looks like a body builder. What's that about?
This screams...It is cheaper to keep her and I need to do something to repair the damage to my "brand" so I can continue to secure the bag. My bag now is too small to afford a divorce, alimony and child support. No true remorse expressed in this interview.
Exactly
1. He without sin cast the first stone.
2. He told everyone exactly who he was without telling everyone who he was!
Everything he spoke about was from his own experiences. He didn’t disclose he was living lies, but he did say what not to fall for. Experience makes the best teacher.
3. Valuable lessons learned for all willing to learn. Their life their story, the worlds opinion. Grace given for all!! ❤
Amen sister ❤
Well said! I have (on the front end) and expect to have (on the tail end) this same conclusion.
I Disagree, some things are worse than others.
1 not only did he lie but he did it on scale with millions of followers. Media is a powerful tool
2 the devil will not likely present himself with red horns but disguised as everything a person lusts after.
AMEN! All the other comments are null and void🤦🏽♀️
He fake !
Can't believe this episode is here. And I'm all here for it! 😂😂
Right!!! I got my scuba gear ready. I am about to dive in!!
@@aliciasandy2042😂
Right
Me too 😂😂😂
Me too. My mouth dropped. Let's hear his side.
I walked away with this MARRIAGE IS NOT FOR BOYS… He was just a boy that felt he needed to marry his baby mama that he was stuck in a situationship with. They were never in a relationship and Derrick was not and is still not ready for marriage. We have a lot of Derricks in marriages now & those marriages need to end
Truth indeed.. truth indeed❤❤
It appears that neither was she to be honest. They were both young and filled with unresolved trauma. They both hurt each other and disrespected each other based on the perspectives told.
@@Chancse very true
Still a boy
U worded this so well 👏🏾👏🏾
I’m sorry but, he had zero accountability. All I saw was deflection and blame. It’s almost as if he hadn’t taken his own advice he gives 🤷🏾♀️ That’s just my takeaway.
I know God is a forgiver and healer, but I truly believe it take accountability.
He is not sorry, he just got caught, shifting gears. 😄
When he decided to propose, he wanted a family, but notice....he never said he loved her.
Whew!
He's the tallest red flag that I've ever seen. He's dangerous.
Hehehehe
This is damage control. I do not trust anything he says.
“If you can’t Convince them, Then Confuse them!”
He’s very good at what he does and he knows that. I don’t believe a word.
Don’t listen then
lol
@@Sjbjo oooohhhh 🤣🤣
Yeah@@rosezetermcclain6560
STOP saying she was doing her thing, while you were doing your thang. That women has never been with anyone else since meeting you. 🙄 The audacity!
He’s trying to level the playing field while not even taking accountability for how wild he was moving. Even if she “cheated” with the one guy how does that equate to years of cheating with multiple women. this man is ridiculous.
@@atasteoftee and while married too. He is very ridiculous
Revealing this woman's sexual assault is just more abuse from this narc and all that giggling they're doing about abuse is just sickening
She already revealed it in her interview on this platform.
This! Blk men by majority are continuing to be cottled. This helps no one
@@Healthy_Meansno. She revealed one. He mentioned a 2nd that she didn't mention.
Exactly!!!!!
Mr Laterras, I applaud you for allowing both parties involved to give their visions. Not only about how they felt but how they received it and responded. This gives us an incite on how both men and women can have the same experiences, but it can manifest differently . Can't wait till part 2 🎉
Right, I'm excited for part 2 as well. Great interview!
Correct me if I’m wrong but it seems like he’s full of excuses to his cheating behavior
This dude has the gift of gab. Knows what to say
Exactly like my ex-husband.
That was never love, and will never be. That was them feeding mutual trauma and hate off of each other. Love doesn't show up like that, over and over again. This is an example of what not to consider love to be. When you try to make this OK, you are your own enemy, and the devil is more than happy to stand next to you while you do it.
Thankkkk you!!!!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 omg perfectly said!!! This was never love and will never be!!!
Exactly! Unfortunately this is an example of a situationship that went toooo far
How would you know... So broken people can not experience real love? Well... i do not agree. Jesus gave us HIS LIFE which is the highest form of LOVE to us, BROKEN people. We are short coming in thousands of ways... yet Jesus loved us. Some of us are CRIMINALS who have killed other people, but HE still came through for us!
Therefore, i would argue that even BROKEN people can still experience REAL love among themselves because love is a gift from above and it has NOTHING to do with once being worthy of it. How they handle it, might differ from one individual to another. Some will reject it like some of us REJECTED the love of CHRIST.
It still doesn't negate the fact that jesus gifted us with TRUE love. SO did aneya and D.J. They might have received the gift of TRUE LOVE. What they did with it, is up to them.
@freshdesign2026 Of course, broken people can experience real love. Like you said, it's what they do with it. When you continue to use that as a weapon against each other and don't deviate, then you may want to consider that it is not divine. At least not from the most high. I wish you healthy wellness. Who has not been broken at some time? The point is to ID the source and work to save yourself. Not continue to ask for more of the same from that source.
@@esbizzze The source might be right. But they are, like we both agree, struggling with the pains of the past and have so many difficulties seeing each other's beautiful love.
One thing is that they can't stay away from each other... So let's allow God be God in their lives and in ours as well.
Remain blessed dear.
The plot twist I didn’t see coming wow 😅😅😅😅😅
😂😂
Right?!
I know right lol
Same!!! Makes up for last week 😂
@@myrnajlifeI was thinking the same thing.
Ooh, he’s slippery. He said at about the 1 month mark, he felt rejected and then proceeded to cross boundaries. Siiiiiir. That’s absurd.
This man is too strategic and calculated…..is he telling the truth ??? Drop part 2 ASAP😩😩
This brother is smart! Let the gullible eat it up.
But I’m watching and minding my business 😂
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Right😂
Right they both con artist lol 😂
😂😂😂 I read comments where the women are clearly gullible! I see why some men see a lot of women as naive and use them up accordingly!
The women in the comments definitely ate his words up. They’re even praying for him. This y men get away with so much. Too many man worship bimbos in this world.
“Inseparable for the first 2 moths” lovebombing stage - typical narc
Yeah yeah Derrick! This is damage control and marketing , not remorse!
I pulled a muscle in my side laughing at Laterras when he calmly said, "Tell me how you have whore etiquette." 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
You caught that? Lol
I had to go back and listen again. I think it went over Derrick's head. Derrick threw a few jabs on about the name DFW being coined by him and jab at the first two counseling sessions he had with Da'Naia. Interesting how he glossed over trying to be a good man by being a provider, being there for the baby etc knowing their primary issue was of him cheating to begin with. Yes, she may have had trauma, but he really never addressed how he would "will" himself to not cheat on her. I guess it may come out in part 2.
lol… he’s taking notes! Low key wants to know DJ playa playbook.
46:30. I had to HUNT for this comment to add the time stamp. 😂
Lollll😂 this made me lol
I LOVED this interview! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Awesome, extremely engaging, interesting, very telling, depth-oriented, vulnerable, and high in substance.
Listen...we've ALL made mistakes...TRUST...even the most convincing liars pay a price. Let GOD be the judge, for he is the ONLY one whose lens is not flawed. We've ALL had to come back from something...most of us are just afforded the ability to struggle to recover privately.
This interview, in my opinion, was both brave and bold. The interviewer asked the tough and pertinent questions, and the interviewee answered.
Now...On to the second segment of conversation.
As a woman slightly older than all three parties of this conversation, this conversation is really important. I'm glad I'm listening.
What does your age have anything to do with the topic at hand? Did we really need to know that you're older?
@@unapologetic1413it’s actually embarrassing 😂
@@BlkOnyx0508 😂😂😂RIGHT!
Wheeeew , trauma bonding is a real thing . Watching both interviews I’d call it “Dangerously in Love “ . I truly pray they both receive healing & become whole .
This right here! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Yep! Been There!! (NEVER EVER GOING BACK)
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I see a lot of excuses and blaming and no accountable for his part but classic
What he kept authentic is why he did this, as he mentioned, for the kids who'd see mummy and daddy later on. He needed to come up with something fast to save face. In my opinion this interview was a bit too premature for him to be authentic enough.... maybe do a follow up when this brother has healed a bit more from all the turmoil. He's a bit on the defensive side, so it could be a bit hard to get the gist of it all. Well, let me not pre-empt...... waiting for part 2, hopefully it may sound a bit different to me. But I pray for his and her healing.... this is too much to bear for both of them and the children.
Listening to both parties show how important it is for people to heal before marrying. Marrying is a commitment and vow before God. We take it so lightly and treat like boyfriend and girlfriend.
I am 34 and not married and I am working through my trauma because I don’t want my marriage to pay the price.
Myles Munroe said a lot of people are broken up not because they don’t love each other but because they lack knowledge to make the relationship work. These two broken individuals got together requiring each one of them to be responsible for each others healing. 😢😢😢. I hope they both truly face themselves and heal and so in the future can they can properly love someone because they have mastered how to love themselves. 😊
Facts. Marriage is definitely not easy.
One thing I got from this MESS, Jaxn is NOT SORRY. Sigh........
Gosh Laterras you’re slowly becoming Oprah Winfrey with all these exclusive interviews 😮
Facts ‼️
That's so true what you just said,he is anointed to do what he's doing👍
Facts
like who? The one who dances with epstein and those children mo*lesters? Please, don't. He is a great podcaster. One from God's Kingdom. So let's continue to appreciate him in this light.
Stay blessed sis.
Him coming on this show…. The only platform his wife has really been on says how narcissistic he is.
I could absolutely careless about him talking about his trauma because he is intelligent enough to know that intense therapy and resources was needed. He found someone that he saw as a good faithful incubator. He knew from the jump he did not want to be in a committed relationship. I can’t judge him because that’s Gods job. He definitely is dead wrong for what he did to his family and manipulating women on his platforms smh
You can’t expect a 19 year old man who has unresolved trauma to do “the right thing”. Both of them had no business being in relationships.
"I cant judge him.." you say... as you proceed to say some judgemental shit.
Be honest! We humans have this inate feature to judge each other. I judged him too. But the grace you would like to be accorded to you (i dont know you so you are probably even worse than he is) , is the same grace you should accord other human beings.
The Law of the Universe.
@@balance_andbliss naw I’m not worse than him. I don’t intentionally deceive ppl. Go for someone else don’t come for me. What he did is horrible to his family and anyone else that he intentionally played with.
@@atasteofcherie3970 It is sad you read to respond and not to understand. I did not accuse you of being worse than him. I said "i dont know you so you are PROBABLY even worse than he is" Sad I had to point that out.
Also, you just contradicted yourself. You cannot say "I cant judge him" and proceed to judge him. Makes no sense. What he did was wrong yes. But my thing is, we all have our sins. Including you.
@@balance_andbliss please go find somebody to play with today and have a blessed day. I know I am
Scariest thing is.... Daa'nia is in her HEALING stage. They ALWAYS COMES BACK with the GOOD MEMORIES when you're almost healed!!
You cannot trust that Derrick is not doing this to get her BACK to being a footstool to his ego.
Her name is Da’naia
@@LisePlansandJournals I realized I misspelled it. 😊 thanks
Great episode! I’m very pleased that both parties are being presented the opportunity to be heard and seen. There’s much grace to be given and received when it comes to dealing with infidelity in marriage. And this marriage unfolded in a most ugly way in front of everyone’s eyes. I appreciate this podcast for being a safe place for these 2 individuals in this crucial time in their lives. I’m looking forward to part 2.
Ditto..mush respect..praying for them.both. we all need grace.
Derrick is built like a cake 😂😂😂. A wedding cake lol
I agree 😂😂😂 … I said why his head so damn small 🤣 looks odd
I haven't laughed this hard and over 3 months. Thank you so much! You just blessed my soul. 😭🤣🤣🤣
I watch faithfully but rarely comment (imma do better lol) but I know what this comment section finna look like so I felt moved to make sure that your supporters are here and LOUD to drown out those who can’t appreciate the grace you’ve extended by allowing him space to speak.
God is your publicist so we know that this decision was Holy Spirit led. Love you!!!
Thank you. To God be the glory!
Ditto
At around 5:30 he said "my authentic self"... what authentic self? This man hasn't yet discovered who he is.... He says he fekt safe around her and I believe him. He felt that he could be the womanizer he planned to be in secret and that she would hold him down and keep him safe. And she did.... But like my grandma always says "the longest rope has an end"
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
First off what did you do to lose her? Second please don’t use witches and spells to bring a person back. Seek Ye The Lord for guidance. It could not be meant for you two to be together. However, if it’s God’s will it will happen. Again, why did she leave?
@@shamekiastephen1218well said
@shamekiastephen1217 this is an ad. The two guys above are bots.
I so appreciate the DFW podcast and how LRW represents the Kingdom of God and relationships. This is a couple that isn't in a mental, emotional or spiritual place YET to converse publicly. Both of them need seperate private professional counseling and a larger space of time for PRIVATE healing. Sometimes because of the era of social media we opt out of private time for public consumption. It's evident at this time in both interviews that, it's just not time for platforms. Praying for health/ healing for them and their children. ❤
This episode is clearly an eye opener as we now get to understand the context behind their relationship.
My opinion is this: A Turbulent relationship leads to a Turbulent Marriage that will break down eventually. By looking at the patterns in their relationship, they both needed to find themselves. Their actions and reactions just show two "broken" people who need to find healing.
You have one of the most sensible and grown up comments in this thread. Thank you for sharing your thoughts
Please. He’s a liar. His wife too much credit for his behavior. She was emotionally abused
Yes. It doesn't sound like they were ready for marriage. Maybe better luck next time around (I'm not going to judge either one of them; sounds like they needed to heal first).
That woman was NOT broken ladies why are you guys making this man manipulate you in 2023??? This man is a sociopath
He reminds me of my soon-to-be ex husband. My blood crawls at his audacity to come to this interview to make himself look good.
I had similar experiences like Da'Naia in my marriage and I am so happy to see her overcome and gain her voice.
God bless her! To Mr. Derrick, I pray that God truly changes your heart but I will not be completing this interview.
We all have issues from our childhood, but we don't all go and embarrass our spouses. We choose who we want to be.
Goodie got her "lick back" 😅
Exactky! Well said!
Derek is jamaican.. man a gyaliss everything makes sense now 😂
Trust me !!! Lol
Whether he is being genuine or not, we need to remember to extend grace. The same grace God gives us for all the horrible sins we commit that just may not be as public. Doesn’t mean accountability, moving different or even cutting people off is not in order, but forgiveness and grace of others needs to be present
Have at it lol
I am glad he decided to listen to both sides. There is a lot to learn from these interviews. Thank you dear future wifey and I pray they both receive the healing they need.
Ran to watch this! Laterras has a way of providing a safe space for people to humanize themselves outside of the drama! I love that and thank you dear future wifey!
Absolutely, I respect that about him.
Some people go to continue manipulation rather than actually heal.
I wan't to be angry with Laterras for allowing this man to come sit on the yellow couch but i also know that his heart is usually in the right place (granted he is human so i will extend him him some grace).
I’m definitely not feeling it at all.
Angry ? Be for real. Why would he not allow someone to share their side also. Y’all need to grow up
@mbs9475 Relax there is no need for heart palpitations, we're not coming with that kind of vibe here. No one is angry about anything learn to read Ma'am. Thank you and don't respond.
Will i also be delusional If I mention the word imbecile?? There is clearly a lot of you who can't read and contextualise (may today's guest be your future hubby, he will teach you a thing or two about being delusional. SMH)
why would this anger you though? you people have to learn to allow both parties to give their side of the story. You can't be doing witch hunts and casting judgment if you haven't heard both parts of the story.
😮😮😮This is SURPRISINGLY blessing my heart. As a single mom raising a teenager son….there is so much revelation God is showing me through this man (I don’t know his platform) but I can see the little boy and teenage derek while listening to him as a grown man, and humbling realizing this could be my son as a grown man. Not condemning because I’m a single mom etc but eye opening and the love and grace of God to show and convict me to shift. Wow!!!!
Me too, my oldest son and I mirrored what he’s talking about, I got into a relationship and my son and I relationship did change.
How do you know that God is showing you what you’re seeing
@@LisePlansandJournals I can’t speak for her, but I can tell you that God does speak to us, it’s a small voice and once it’s spoken everything that is said is correct.
@@LisePlansandJournalsgod will show up and also tune your attention in anyway that he needs to get a message across.
@@LisePlansandJournalsShe doesn't know... she's the typical naive type I guarantee it!
I came for the comments and y’all did not disappoint!
I’m Only here for my man Laterras! I knew he’s going to ask all the tough questions.
Me too
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@winniejean-pierre9605 - Let me know what you think
He use to even look like he had a glow even telling those lies,now he doesn't even have a glow just looks dull,like lights out🥱
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