EXCLUSIVE INTERVIEW | Divorce Court's Judge Lynn Toler Drops Gems | Dear Future Wifey E804

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  • @Grace4thislife
    @Grace4thislife 9 місяців тому +1809

    I love Judge Lynn Toler watched her on Divorce court one of my favorite quotes/wisdom nuggets from her is “Never let a man tell you twice he doesn’t want you”❤

    • @CherylYHowardGetYourLifeBack
      @CherylYHowardGetYourLifeBack 9 місяців тому +32

      Yesss! That's one of mine too

    • @danielleg2616
      @danielleg2616 9 місяців тому +26

      That changed my life

    • @fam2616
      @fam2616 9 місяців тому +22

      @@CherylYHowardGetYourLifeBack Mine Too! Bro you got One Time to tell Me.

    • @terryadams5536
      @terryadams5536 9 місяців тому +24

      This quote will stay with me forever. It's 100% the truth.

    • @sherrynelson365
      @sherrynelson365 9 місяців тому +8

      Yes Lord!!!

  • @revettemoten3004
    @revettemoten3004 9 місяців тому +610

    Judge Toler can talk about ANYTHING and I will be here for it❤

  • @Ladyrena6
    @Ladyrena6 7 місяців тому +8

    What a man....a real man...dealing with his illness but also working extremely hard for his household....nobody fam is perfect...i think Judge Toler's family was what it was suppose to be. God llowed them, her to make. So she did. Bless you. This been a blessing to hear ...!!!!!!!!!!❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @toshasmith9429
    @toshasmith9429 9 місяців тому +179

    Judge Lynn Can talk about anything and I’ll listen. Such a wealth of knowledge

  • @DJ-wl9iw
    @DJ-wl9iw 9 місяців тому +580

    When she talked about her husband coming home one day just to listen to her vent and then when she was done and he sure she was ok he went back to work, that did it for me. I hurt for her and I’m impressed she’s still standing. Never met the man but the way she talks about him tells us everything we need to know.

  • @kristinthompson5025
    @kristinthompson5025 9 місяців тому +613

    "Run your emotions, don't let your emotions run you". This has been a very gem dropping episode.

    • @aubrie_morgan
      @aubrie_morgan 9 місяців тому

      Thats not an epiphany.

    • @healnhrtz5412
      @healnhrtz5412 9 місяців тому +5

      y favorite judge ever! Brutally honest! ❤❤❤❤

    • @sharondathomas6313
      @sharondathomas6313 9 місяців тому

      Very!

    • @josiewebster6643
      @josiewebster6643 9 місяців тому +3

      K you are so right this is a Gem episode....

    • @jeanniejones8777
      @jeanniejones8777 9 місяців тому +4

      I officially realize that Judge Toler is one of my favorite people in the entire world. I think her books would be great to base the podcast series off of.

  • @AngellaMunchiluePhillips
    @AngellaMunchiluePhillips 9 місяців тому +427

    “In a fight with anybody, the first battle is always with yourself”. That’s a word right there 😊

    • @theresasmith5934
      @theresasmith5934 9 місяців тому +2

      A very wise and generous lady. She's been through alot and shares her wisdom.

    • @joyricherson4570
      @joyricherson4570 8 місяців тому +1

      Yup I always say let me look at myself first

  • @ekaperkins
    @ekaperkins 9 місяців тому +285

    I love me some her!!! I am 36 years old and you've taught me so much about relationships. I was the daughter you never had and listened to you, quoted you and respected you! I will be here to support you in whatever podcast you choose! I love you Mama Toler!!!!

    • @doinglifemyway1755
      @doinglifemyway1755 9 місяців тому +12

      Lovely comment

    • @teacherturnedhomesteader7368
      @teacherturnedhomesteader7368 9 місяців тому +9

      Heartfelt and wonderful comment

    • @kfransissy8101
      @kfransissy8101 9 місяців тому +8

      This is a sentiment we share❤

    • @debbee18
      @debbee18 8 місяців тому +2

      You must have read her book Dear Sonali, Letters to the Daughter I Never Had. I love it! She's a prolific writer!

    • @veebaby5537
      @veebaby5537 4 місяці тому

      Ordering now! ​@@debbee18

  • @carnation242001
    @carnation242001 6 місяців тому +17

    The way he controlled this interview and brought her back before she lost it is absolutely amazing and humbling and I honor a empathetic heart posture...

  • @herfamiller139
    @herfamiller139 9 місяців тому +98

    "You cant stay mad and stay married!!"(gem packed session)

  • @LisaKinsey-u6e
    @LisaKinsey-u6e 9 місяців тому +71

    I love that when she got within a quiet emotion, He knew how to motion her back into the process .
    Very Great interview.

    • @Islander463
      @Islander463 9 місяців тому +6

      I was saying this, love how he navigated the interview when it became overwhelming

  • @georgianacollington2104
    @georgianacollington2104 9 місяців тому +211

    Her mom covered the perception of their father’s image in their eyes… That is so powerful…💯🔥👏🏾👏🏾

    • @jerzeygirl1972
      @jerzeygirl1972 9 місяців тому +10

      Yes!!! I would love to just sit and listen to her mom

    • @valindanewton6754
      @valindanewton6754 9 місяців тому +3

      Each, I forgot that 💎 gem..❤

  • @annieaviles4760
    @annieaviles4760 9 місяців тому +41

    Her and her husband fully supported each other. They were each other’s rock.

  • @paulacopeland8360
    @paulacopeland8360 9 місяців тому +114

    Judge Toler's husband Eric knew how to soothe her just like her mother knew how to soothe her father. That was such a blessing.

  • @feliciamoore6325
    @feliciamoore6325 9 місяців тому +225

    This was a life-changing, sad, but greatly encouraging podcast. I am 60, single, never married, and am so ready to take on the rest of my life of purpose. Thank You, Judge❤

  • @candiraiin
    @candiraiin 9 місяців тому +403

    “He was willing to change to accommodate me” 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽. This speaks volumes!!

  • @gdenisesims6027
    @gdenisesims6027 9 місяців тому +156

    "Some call it trauma, I call it trials......it made me stronger." That blessed my soul! It's all about what you do with what's happening in the moment! Thank you, thank for this interview!❤❤

  • @mekaw0
    @mekaw0 9 місяців тому +106

    Every woman needs an elder like Judge Lynn to help her navigate life and I think that's what her podcast should be about, answering young women's questions and helping them navigate life like her mother did for her ❤️

  • @janicewilson6146
    @janicewilson6146 7 місяців тому +9

    I dearly love this woman because she is honest and allows us to learn from our mistakes with her advice and encouragement to make better choices. She is awesome!❤😊

  • @gloriaalleyne7135
    @gloriaalleyne7135 9 місяців тому +71

    I loved this interview and what struck me, was when she said life is like a roller coaster not a mountain to climb. I was just complaining to my sister that when you get up each day it is one thing after another because I was just climbing the mountain. Now that I know it is like a roller coaster I will be better prepared. I pray God continues to hold you in his bosom.

  • @cjjohnson2250
    @cjjohnson2250 9 місяців тому +321

    Judge Lynn just doesn't understand how much of a mentor or inspiration she is to me because I lost my husband and best friend of 23 years back on 12.18.2022. As I was going thru my grief unfortunately she had lost her husband shortly after that. Her inspiration, wisdom and strength encouraged me to understand and get thru my own suffering. I thank you my sister❤

    • @neshkatama9083
      @neshkatama9083 9 місяців тому +4

      Sorry for your loss 🙏

    • @cynthiacoburn7437
      @cynthiacoburn7437 9 місяців тому +9

      This is one of the most amazingly beautiful Interview, from beginning to end ♥️🙏🏽🤗

    • @pamgreen9248
      @pamgreen9248 9 місяців тому +6

      Me too!!! Lost my husband of 34 years around the same time.

    • @godzdaughterh1180
      @godzdaughterh1180 9 місяців тому +2

      My Heart Goes Out To You 🥰
      PRAYERS UP 🙏🏼

    • @reenam7177
      @reenam7177 9 місяців тому +9

      Same here Sistar, I lost my husband 12/23. She is helping me with how to deal in my new normal. Good and bad days. Be well my Sistar.

  • @whitdevereaux1871
    @whitdevereaux1871 9 місяців тому +210

    I'm so glad mental illness is also talked about in such a loving way. Thanks for sharing your life Judge Toler!

    • @loria.buttsesquire3867
      @loria.buttsesquire3867 9 місяців тому +5

      Exactly. We would do better to seek understanding and our own emotional balance/intelligence, and extend grace. IMHO

    • @Realness4sho
      @Realness4sho 9 місяців тому +2

  • @lvsudiah
    @lvsudiah 9 місяців тому +159

    She’s a legendary storyteller!!! I love her energy!! And she is wise beyond!! She makes everything she says clear and with complete understanding.

  • @valdeniasimmons2935
    @valdeniasimmons2935 8 місяців тому +8

    just watched the entire podcast...I'm in awe of this woman and the life she lived and is living. Her podcast could be about almost anything: her life in a "planned" black professional community; her time at white educational institutions and on to Harvard, her decision not to pursue her dad's aspirations for her career, life with a mentally ill dad and and an exceptionally emotionally gifted mom, raising sons, and of course marriage/relationships. I think that she is still navigating her grief and really think that is for a conversation wa-a-a-a-y in the future.
    But whatever you guys come up with I am here for it. Thank you for this conversation and giving it all of the time it needed. I can't imaging your cutting out any of these moments.

  • @ines-simpson
    @ines-simpson 9 місяців тому +27

    You can tell this conversation has somewhat helped Judge Lynn with her healing process by talking about her marriage and keeping the memory alive of her husband and parents Great interview!

  • @ladybwallace
    @ladybwallace 9 місяців тому +273

    Don’t convey your frustration-Convey Information!!!!!! 🔥 🔥
    Convey: to transport - to transfer - to forward-to channel
    Meaning don’t allow your frustration (feelings) get in the way of what you’re trying to communicate.
    Been married 24 years and this is facts!!!

  • @tinytowz4471
    @tinytowz4471 9 місяців тому +113

    Latteras Whitfield is an excellent interviewer who actually listens and gives Judge Lynn full response time.

  • @tout2324
    @tout2324 9 місяців тому +122

    Absolutely love how she honors her mother, she sounds like a phenomenal woman!

    • @ChozenbytheAlmighty
      @ChozenbytheAlmighty 9 місяців тому +11

      And her father

    • @WellnessForMoms
      @WellnessForMoms 9 місяців тому +9

      She can talk about Mother’s Rules on her podcast…that alone is a pot of Gold!!!

  • @aliciasmith4056
    @aliciasmith4056 8 місяців тому +8

    Mann I am so charged by this interview!!! With pride, Joy, respect and even more love for my favorite Judge Lyn Toler!!!! You’re my girl! Even though we’ve never met!….Mann!

  • @imaniwave4236
    @imaniwave4236 7 місяців тому +26

    “I didn’t need a man, but I wanted a family” I felt that with my soul

  • @MyChosenChild
    @MyChosenChild 9 місяців тому +272

    I am in love with her persona, wisdom, and strength on and off camera. Thank you, Auntie Lynn, for your beautiful testimony.

    • @carolinagirl2428
      @carolinagirl2428 9 місяців тому +2

      ‼️♥️‼️♥️‼️♥️

    • @stephanierussell4450
      @stephanierussell4450 9 місяців тому +8

      Me too I could listen to her talk all day

    • @mizannebillions5703
      @mizannebillions5703 9 місяців тому +3

      Aunt Lynn had great insight as a young woman, would love to hear what her thoughts of not having great insight as a young person to resolve and work through as a mature person.

  • @SerenaSaysHerName
    @SerenaSaysHerName 9 місяців тому +84

    Judge Lynn... can talk about ANYTHING... I'M LISTENING...I ABSOLUTELY LOVE HER!!! EVEN MORE TODAY!

    • @miloperrault2614
      @miloperrault2614 9 місяців тому +2

      Exactly, you took the words out of my mouth. I'd listen to anything Judge Lynn has to say. I still watch her Divorce Court videos on UA-cam. I visit her Instagram. I'm so happy to see her sharing what's she's been thru and the important people she's unfortunately lost. Never imagined how instrumental her husband was to her success. Happy to see and hear her on the upside if the roller coaster. I/we love you Judge Lynn, God Bless you!❤❤❤

    • @mmodl
      @mmodl 9 місяців тому +2

      She’s so open and transparent about her journey on her IG. Some of the dark moments she’s shared have had me praying like I know her. It’s so heartwarming to see her get to this place.

  • @foxymaz11
    @foxymaz11 9 місяців тому +98

    "Don't convey your frustration, convey information." This podcast was so powerful and transformative!! Thank you, thank you, Laterras and Judge Toler!!

  • @NataliaHals
    @NataliaHals 9 місяців тому +23

    I seldom comment on UA-cam, but I needed to stop to say that this whole interview was a MasterClass in life. Thank you for having Judge Lynn on and Judge Lynn, thank you for sharing your life, wisdom and Eric with us

  • @Stephanie-007
    @Stephanie-007 9 місяців тому +35

    This lady right *HERE* ... is the definition of a true queen❣️Love and light always, Judge Lynn. You are undeniably every woman, and that is truly something magical to behold.

  • @simplybridge888
    @simplybridge888 9 місяців тому +143

    Listennnnnn, this right here needs to be celebrated. I follow her on TikTok, and we cried and prayed with her. She is truly loved, and I'm just glad to SEE that she's doing better. Death and grief ain't NO JOKE, but CHRIST will guide you through it. I know HE did it for me. Judge Auntie Lynn...we LOVE YOU....keep going.❤️❤️🥰

    • @theresafairley5633
      @theresafairley5633 9 місяців тому +3

      I lost my husband recently and would love to speak with Judge Toller. I've never made this request to anyone ever. So I thought I'd put it out there. How would I go about doing this. Any suggestions?

    • @tivedamatthews-wl4hb
      @tivedamatthews-wl4hb 9 місяців тому +2

      Thanks for Teaching & keeping it Real as Real can get. YOUR LIFE is truly a TREASURE for so many women and men for generations to come. Praying your Journey will continue to enlighten. THANKS

  • @mikat7365
    @mikat7365 9 місяців тому +44

    I love the fact that she said "I'm not that social. It just happened to me." So much pressure is put on singles to do this or that. She was just living her life and someone else noticed that she would be a great fit. I truly believe the God of the impossible can do anything, even have your husband show up in unexpected places.

  • @shareenladd1048
    @shareenladd1048 9 місяців тому +86

    Laterras, the way you handled this interview. Emmy worthy!

    • @chareelewis6331
      @chareelewis6331 9 місяців тому +7

      Exactly! He read the room and her very well. Much respect to him!

    • @xtormluv
      @xtormluv 9 місяців тому +3

      He understood his assignment. You can tell he was tapped. Wonderful Job Laterras❤

  • @annamc8228
    @annamc8228 3 місяці тому +2

    I would like to hear more of Judge Lynn - I could listen to her all day

  • @richieyh3211
    @richieyh3211 9 місяців тому +43

    I so admire Judge Toler. A mighty woman of integrity and character. I can sit and listen to her wisdom for hours. Sending you all the best Auntie Your Honor.

    • @taureanheart8931
      @taureanheart8931 9 місяців тому +2

      “Auntie your honor” 🥰 I LOVE THAT!

  • @CBtalks8554
    @CBtalks8554 9 місяців тому +128

    I would just Love to Hear Judge Lynn Toler just Share Life Lessons like she is Talking to you. She is Absolutely POWERFUL

  • @kimb6900
    @kimb6900 9 місяців тому +80

    "If I'm smiling at you I'm being nice. I'm not looking to be convinced!" 😂😂😂 Hallelujah! 🙌🏾 Now that's a word right there! Love Love Love Judge Lynn ❤

    • @kor405
      @kor405 9 місяців тому +2

      My quote of the year !!!
      Trust me

    • @Realness4sho
      @Realness4sho 9 місяців тому +2

      Selah,💜

  • @ForMySoulSistas
    @ForMySoulSistas 9 місяців тому +57

    @01:01:10 She got me when she cried...Loved her advices:
    ↪️You gotta get that life is a roller coaster, it doesn't always get better, it gets up and down
    ↪️I don't make room for ppl that I don't like
    ↪️If you want the situation to change, change first
    ↪️When you have an issue with someone, the 1st battle is always with yourself
    ↪️You beat the game when you bury each other in the right order
    ↪️I have 6 sons, I'll always have a date!
    I have all her 3 books and have yet to finish them!

    • @shalonShadea
      @shalonShadea 9 місяців тому +4

      Wow! Thank you !

    • @sb19_
      @sb19_ 9 місяців тому +4

      I love her gems. She is such a wholesome woman❤

  • @mikedadon8037
    @mikedadon8037 6 місяців тому +3

    What a Woman.. Wishing her Love an Strength 🙏🏾❤

  • @bewellwithsantosha
    @bewellwithsantosha 9 місяців тому +18

    Laterras, I've been watching your podcast for some time now, and I always thought you were a great interviewer. However, after watching you gracefully navigate Judge Lynn when she was close to breaking down, solidified it for me. This was a great interview with so many gems!!

  • @reneeray4211
    @reneeray4211 9 місяців тому +128

    Thank you Laterras. I really appreciate how you handled Judge Lynn in this interview. You never rushed her and you allowed her to grieve without you getting uncomfortable. I also think you did a great job of keeping the interview moving. Great job!

    • @Ogeboo343
      @Ogeboo343 9 місяців тому +7

      Yes I noticed this. That’s great emotional intelligence from Laterras

    • @JRenee-Sings
      @JRenee-Sings 9 місяців тому +5

      YES! Such great balance ! He did an awesome job with this interview!

    • @noexcusetoday
      @noexcusetoday 9 місяців тому +4

      He does such a great job!

  • @nakeshadatcher9105
    @nakeshadatcher9105 9 місяців тому +90

    I have been praying for you so much. During her grief, i felt like she was a family member grieving and I couldnt help. It is amazing how humans can love and care about someone you have never met. Auntie, I feel so much better knowing you are in a better place. ❤

  • @reneeray4211
    @reneeray4211 9 місяців тому +96

    This is my girl! I have learned so much from her. I am praying for her complete healing. I can only imagine her pain. I love you judge Lynn. Be blessed!

    • @ceoa
      @ceoa 9 місяців тому +5

      I've learned so much from her too.
      She can talk about ANYTHING as far as I'm concerned, because I know she's always going to be REAL. 👏👏❤️

    • @trinimarie9974
      @trinimarie9974 9 місяців тому +3

      I've learned so much from her ALSO

  • @iSaidGoodDay
    @iSaidGoodDay 9 місяців тому +4

    Laterras, I can’t believe you didn’t read her books before she came on your show. Her parents are sooo much of who she is. Her (written) story is everything.

  • @zackarybates4065
    @zackarybates4065 3 місяці тому +3

    Thank You Judge Lynn for all the humor and wisdom you gave us over the years ! You are appreciated!

  • @nichellenunya
    @nichellenunya 9 місяців тому +66

    LISTEN… when I say… I haven’t been so ready to listen to a podcast as I am this episode. YES GOD! Use her!!! ❤

  • @lashanntriggs8687
    @lashanntriggs8687 9 місяців тому +83

    I would love to see Judge just talk about life. Picking a different topic every week from the viewers and allow her to share and impart wisdom on us all. Love, kids, work, marriage, siblings, parents.... especially caring for your parents in their older age. I am newly 50 and started caring for my dad a few years back. He is still independent however I take care of his laundry, grocery, doctor's appointments and one of my sisters does his finances. Why didn't anyone prepare us for this? We need to teach and prepare our children for what is to come. Maybe that conversation sparks a financial one and start prepare if they haven't done so already. I would love to gather more nuggets!!! Thank you Judge Toler for your vulnerability.

  • @tachiadace8156
    @tachiadace8156 9 місяців тому +81

    Loved this episode. Judge Lynn podcast should consist of many seasons. 1.The wisdom from her mother. 2. Making marriage work. 3. Life as a widow. 4. Most interesting stories from Divorce court. 5. Commitment, Communication and compromise. 6. Respect my Daddy, He was that Dude. 7. Legal advise for those caught in the middle of messy lives.
    These 7 seasons in any order would be great.
    Praying for your comfort and peace ❣️🙏🏾

    • @alicebrockwell7650
      @alicebrockwell7650 9 місяців тому +2

      Here is a perfect living!

    • @FlowwithJo
      @FlowwithJo 9 місяців тому +8

      You’de make a phenomenal podcast producer @tachiadace8156

    • @dreamawhitlock874
      @dreamawhitlock874 9 місяців тому +1

      I loved this interview with Judge Lynn Toler ! She is a force! Dropping gems for living life. Teaching life lessons through her mother's teachings. She could easily have a podcast where she gives advice that helps people navigate life's issues in the world full of crazies. Just giving advice to people that need solid advice on anything relationships, and living.
      Whatever she decides to do, we will be there for it!!

  • @glenperkins3389
    @glenperkins3389 9 місяців тому +11

    I Love Judge Toler
    I'll sit on the floor and just listen to the wisdom.
    As her daughter she never had!🎉❤❤
    Stay strong

  • @EvelynJenkins-uo4zi
    @EvelynJenkins-uo4zi 3 місяці тому +3

    She keeps it real at all times i like her blessings and prayers

  • @Xdnnn544
    @Xdnnn544 9 місяців тому +149

    Judge Toler is so charming! I second checking out judgment call podcast for down to earth wisdom.

  • @keahharrison4765
    @keahharrison4765 9 місяців тому +58

    I clicked so fast. I grew up watching Judge Toler and I remember how sadden I was when her husband died and the posts she was making right after his passing. I’m glad she now has the strength to talk and be on camera again 💕

  • @lajoyahill3139
    @lajoyahill3139 9 місяців тому +103

    As a young widow myself, I love that you had her on. This was a very healing episode. Thanks for sharing this with the world. ❤❤❤

    • @tysgem7
      @tysgem7 9 місяців тому +3

      Amen; same here, I found it truly inspiring and genuine.

    • @natasharochelle3218
      @natasharochelle3218 9 місяців тому +2

      🙏💐💐sending you comfort and ❤

    • @lb1798
      @lb1798 9 місяців тому +2

      @tysgem7 ME too. Gone 6 years had been married for 48 ❤️💔❤️

  • @simonehutson5845
    @simonehutson5845 9 місяців тому +11

    The conversation was so easy and authentic. She’s a gem.

  • @breezyakanan7544
    @breezyakanan7544 9 місяців тому +8

    Judge Lynn is truly a phenomenal woman.
    Those who love her profound intellect and her ability to teach, enlighten, and empower anyone whose mind and heart are open to growth can overcome obstacles we face during our journey through life.
    Special Blessings Judge Lynn you are simply the best.❤❤😊😊❤❤❤

  • @mzjz6103
    @mzjz6103 9 місяців тому +41

    She too is a genius! She was molded by geniuses. I'm thankful for God putting her life in the line of my path. She's a BEAUTIFUL Soul packed full of wisdom ❤

    • @Pjsixty60
      @Pjsixty60 9 місяців тому +3

      What a beautiful comment, I just love it, in a strange way, i feel the exact same way. As if I wrote your comments myself. Wow!! Thank you 🙏🏼💜

  • @sfreeman417
    @sfreeman417 9 місяців тому +28

    Don't convey your frustration. Convey information...This is a gem! Listening to Judge Toler feels like family.

  • @Dream-Me
    @Dream-Me 9 місяців тому +53

    This woman raised me 😢❤ Everything I've learnt about myself and relationships has been from watching hours and hours of divorce court. Also reading her books. What a gift she is to us 🙏🏾❤❤

    • @caustin609
      @caustin609 9 місяців тому +3

      I couldn't have said it better myself 🫶🏾

    • @blessingmlalazi9434
      @blessingmlalazi9434 9 місяців тому +2

      I felt this comment!! She is not appreciated enough

    • @jobi-j
      @jobi-j 9 місяців тому +3

      Sis, she raised me too and still is. I can definitely say I'm the woman I am because of her when it comes to emotions, communication and relationships

    • @valindanewton6754
      @valindanewton6754 9 місяців тому

      You and me both..watched hours of divorce court. I hung on her every word. I quoted her all the time. One gem was about the significance of Valentines day or a big wedding. She broke it down so I could see it in a different way. ❤

    • @quichequiche4274
      @quichequiche4274 9 місяців тому +1

      Me too, me too!

  • @loreenheath1472
    @loreenheath1472 9 місяців тому +22

    I loved this podcast so much. I applaud Judge Toler for her candid responses and her transparency during this difficult time. I miss her on Divorce Court. The podcast can be about relationships, self discovery after loss, navigating thru mental illness in families or random legal advice..the sky is the limit. I'm here for whatever she chooses.

  • @aarontshwanda5994
    @aarontshwanda5994 5 місяців тому +2

    💜 Seven is a number of completion. Her mother "The Baddest Chick" deserved 7 books. Thank you for the wisdom in this interview. I needed this Judge Toler. One of my best ladies just shared this with me and I am 1 hour in complete AWE!

  • @BrendaMack-h2z
    @BrendaMack-h2z 9 місяців тому +26

    I lost my husband 9 years ago and it is truly a different kind of grief. I appreciate her.

  • @JoniKing09
    @JoniKing09 9 місяців тому +44

    I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE Judge Toler!!! Continued prayers for her strength and endurance🙏

  • @mkitsioslmt
    @mkitsioslmt 9 місяців тому +36

    "My plan was him and his plan was me." lmao..Facts! 🔥💯🔥💯🔥

  • @positvelyexpectant1383
    @positvelyexpectant1383 4 місяці тому +1

    I remember listening to the podcast Judge Toler was on before Christmas talking about her husband, followed by him dying some weeks after. It was amazing how she spoke about him and I hope he heard it before passing. Always admired their marriage and her stories shared by her - good and bad. Praying for your continued healing JT 🙏❤️

  • @deborahdixon5181
    @deborahdixon5181 3 місяці тому +1

    She’s absolutely beautiful she’s still healing may God let her heal with lots of Love ❤️ and support

  • @sharoneh8929
    @sharoneh8929 9 місяців тому +47

    Judge Lynn Toler is such a gem. I love the idea of memorial book💯💯💯❤❤❤. She gives of herself so transparent and real talk about her grief, life, and her husband. God bless you and your family.

  • @TheSureFireWomb
    @TheSureFireWomb 9 місяців тому +39

    I gifted my three daughters "Dear Sonali" last year after reading it myself ... in my 40s. I would love and support a podcast that speaks to self and emotional mastery as women, single or married. Please, offer more of what Duchess provided. It is a wealth of wisdom and would be greatly appreciated.
    My heart broke when hearing of Big E passing. The depth of their love and strength of commitment was obvious in her eyes whenever she spoke of him on DC.
    Thanks for this one Laterras. Much love and respect to the Honorable Judge Lynn Toler. Blessings. ❤

  • @tamaradarice2484
    @tamaradarice2484 9 місяців тому +23

    We need to give her flowers ALL THE TIME!!! Absolutely amazing, so much meat and life changing perspectives in her life story. Priceless..........

  • @deborahtaylor1587
    @deborahtaylor1587 9 місяців тому +27

    I’m always YouTuding early in the morning, at 67 and retired that’s what I do. Judge Lynn Toler this Podcast this morning on “Dear Future Wife” has ministered healing to from grief I have experienced from loss back to back, and I just want to say thank you for taking the call from Laterras R. Whitfield and agreeing to do this Podcast as your authentic self. ❤

  • @tiffanytip23
    @tiffanytip23 3 місяці тому +1

    I love her. I met her years ago when she wrote her book "My Mother's Rules" she came to my church and spoke to us about her book and signed them for us. She is a blessing.

  • @ArtLee68
    @ArtLee68 9 місяців тому +50

    It’s the love that she and her husband shared with each other. She dropped so many gems for young couples. This life is too short to go through without having loved.

  • @cherylpolk4226
    @cherylpolk4226 9 місяців тому +42

    The judge can talk about anything, I love how she talks about her mother and she lifts her up.

  • @annadillon948
    @annadillon948 9 місяців тому +38

    I love listening to Judge Lynn. I’m 67 and I stop to listening to her speak about her life I love smart women and that is who she is. 🙏🏾♥️🙏🏾

  • @BrittanyHunter-f6w
    @BrittanyHunter-f6w 5 місяців тому +1

    She’s extraordinary and waaayy head of her time. She will be remembered forever ❤❤❤

  • @semajsemaj9280
    @semajsemaj9280 2 місяці тому +1

    God is near to the brokenhearted.
    Thank you for sharing
    May your heart be comforted 🙏🏾

  • @Luvurselffirst
    @Luvurselffirst 9 місяців тому +30

    She stay dropping gems
    Here are a few
    1. When going through emotional pain think rollercoaster not mountain
    1.a Think through what you're feeling.
    Emotional awareness
    Don't convey your frustration convey information.
    Learn how you communicate and clean up areas that need cleaned
    2. Dont make room for people you dont like.
    3. Control/run your emotions, don't let your emotions control/run you
    4. If someone wants you they are willing to do something different/change to accommodate you.
    5. When in partnership, lead with your strengths; take what you're good at and what the other person is good at and build from there.
    6. Take the best that you have and do the best for your partner and they should take the best that they have and do for you.
    This woman is a gift to is all.
    Purchase all her books
    I purchased "what my mother's rules" a few moments ago

  • @drusillayoung9552
    @drusillayoung9552 9 місяців тому +16

    We gravitate to her because she is real about her grief. ❤❤❤

  • @jessikafuller9839
    @jessikafuller9839 9 місяців тому +86

    I haven’t even started yet and I’m short getting emotional 🥺🥺🥺. Ima comment again after the video yall😂😂😂😂

    • @terryadams5536
      @terryadams5536 9 місяців тому +1

      Me too!! Let me get my tissues. 😂

    • @SamariaYvonne
      @SamariaYvonne 9 місяців тому +4

      Same. She is so humble and wise. I have to watch without being distracted.

    • @girlbrown804
      @girlbrown804 9 місяців тому +4

      Me too girl...I love Judge Lynn and I love her and Big E's love story.

    • @annettep30
      @annettep30 9 місяців тому +1

      Me too, Kleenex on hand.

    • @alovelywalk88
      @alovelywalk88 9 місяців тому

      I started tearing up during my morning walk. Such a beautiful story ❤

  • @marcusmiller7138
    @marcusmiller7138 5 місяців тому +1

    Judge Toler's advice is applicable to marriage, friendships, and all relationships. Ive been balancing all for decades and i strive and work to keep all of my relationships intact.

  • @LoveyourselfSK
    @LoveyourselfSK 9 місяців тому +6

    I love Judge Toler. Fell in love watching her on Divorce Court listening for her wisdom. I felt her pain when her husband died. I wish her all the best and look forward to what she has next.

  • @janetedwards2990
    @janetedwards2990 9 місяців тому +19

    What an awesome and amazing human being is Judge Lynn....An inspiration even in her own grief...I also appreciate the interviewer..Blessings 🇯🇲

  • @mishawilliams4319
    @mishawilliams4319 9 місяців тому +10

    Judge Toler is a gift to us , my prayers are for her to be strengthened by HEAVENLY FATHER 🙏🏾

  • @janae412
    @janae412 9 місяців тому +15

    "This is what it looks like to love your wife's heart properly." AMEN!

  • @barbaraalexander225
    @barbaraalexander225 9 місяців тому +15

    This is the most awesome and informative interview I've ever listened to, to the end. I am 84 years old; learned SOOO much and took away lots.
    Thank you much for taking this time to share such, about your life.
    I believe the Lord Thy God allowed you and your family to go through all you've been through, to share and bless this new generation and especially the older generation.
    May the Lord continue to bless you as you move into your new normal.

  • @FocalPointElisa
    @FocalPointElisa 6 місяців тому +2

    There is a level(s) of respect and care the judge's parents demonstrated to her and her sister that, unfortunately, separates her experience from being a "trauma" to a "trial."
    She spoke of her mother's emotional intelligence, not in theory, but in action, she spoke of her father's mental health diagnoses as it related to a period of time and cultural understanding (or lack thereof).
    Judge Lynn Toler's parents seemed to be intentional people who made sure their children would have a sense of purpose.
    It's always refreshing to hear people speak in this way.

  • @goodgirlgonerich
    @goodgirlgonerich 9 місяців тому +46

    I watched my mom grieve her husband after he died and the process Judge Lynn Toler is going through is both excruciating and healing. She has a beautiful soul! They don't make women like this anymore, but watching her journey will inspire women to achieve the Godly, womanly characteristics she exudes. God bless her! I pray she heals completely and divinely... 🙏

    • @brosing14
      @brosing14 9 місяців тому +1

      I was thinking of her glad to see her healing from the lost of her husband. God bless you.

    • @tinathomas2312
      @tinathomas2312 9 місяців тому +1

      Amen 😊.

  • @maryoladipupo2777
    @maryoladipupo2777 9 місяців тому +9

    I could listen to Judge Lynn all day - she is FULL of wisdom.

  • @charlottef7650
    @charlottef7650 9 місяців тому +43

    This is one of the most authentic and organic conversations. I loved it and I believe they were so present with one another that they didn’t know cameras were in the room.

    • @Ven-o5o
      @Ven-o5o 9 місяців тому +1

      Podcast on Relationships and Handling Emotions

    • @angelajohnson7001
      @angelajohnson7001 9 місяців тому +3

      Yes, this woman has soo much wisdom. She is raw and uncut.

  • @raegray8768
    @raegray8768 6 місяців тому +2

    The grace for mental health and Woman’s wisdom. That’s what I want Judge Lynn to talk about on her podcast.

  • @kiecutielove2923
    @kiecutielove2923 Місяць тому +1

    I love Judge Toler. She is literally my Shero, and this only affirmed it even more. I hope that I'm honored and loved the way that she loves Big E. To see so valuable and raw reminded of why I admire and respect her. She needs to teach a master class or love, life, lessons and grief. I truly hope her heart finds some peace cause definitely brings peace and rational to mine...she has is a blessing to so many.

  • @lydialafortune2775
    @lydialafortune2775 9 місяців тому +38

    I lost my only son some months ago ,l still need healing and Judge Lynn has so much wisdom and knowledge to share on loving and losing your love one .May God just continues to bless you in your journey.

  • @l3l3Cakes
    @l3l3Cakes 9 місяців тому +40

    I really slept on Judge Lynn. Her tough nature never appealed to me, but now I’m seeing this soft side of her and how relatable she is, I could sit for hours and watch her speak. She is full of so much wisdom and humor. I hope to be like her someday. Thank you for this interview L🙏🏾

    • @angieperry154
      @angieperry154 9 місяців тому +1

      I occasionally watched divorce court but wasn’t a fan of the drama although I did pick up on a few of her life lessons it wasn’t until social media that I able to tap into this energy source

    • @crystallatta8770
      @crystallatta8770 9 місяців тому +7

      I've always seen her tough nature as love. Sometimes you have to be stern for people to listen. I don't believe that she would be that way if she didn't care. All she wants is for others to see their own self worth and treat others the way you want to be treated. Judge Toler is definitely a real one❤

  • @theGift_TQ
    @theGift_TQ 9 місяців тому +23

    You did an AMAZING job with this interview!!! Each time that she was about to break down, you shifted gears with such ease.
    How EXCELLENT AN INTERVIEW THIS IS!!!
    Thank you for what you do, and how you loved on Judge Lynn!
    ♥️

    • @DearFutureWifey
      @DearFutureWifey  9 місяців тому +5

      Thanks for catching that

    • @toussaintan
      @toussaintan 9 місяців тому +3

      Laterras, Thanks for helping her through her journey.

  • @melishawilliams8671
    @melishawilliams8671 9 місяців тому +27

    “Beat the the game if everyone dies in order” my God talk about a blessing

  • @drivenchats
    @drivenchats 9 місяців тому +6

    Judge Lynn Toler’s advice is timeless!