I feel like this song fits for all types of people and many kinds of situations. Bullying, sexual assault, depression, drugs, alcohol, domestic abuse, losing someone, failing at something, being humiliated, being betrayed...any kind of pain and disappointment is in here for any kind of person.
+Nadia Maslo That's what I like about the song, it doesn't specifically talk about "that one" thing. It could be or mean anything :). Endless possibilities.
+Nadia Maslo True that. I can totally relate to some of the things that you just listed. I have been verbally attacked via Facebook and face to face. This has happened to me 3 times with 3 different people. The first incident took place with my stepmother through a Facebook message, where I had confronted her about a nasty message she sent to my brother a few days earlier, and she had harassed me many times online before that incident, but this time, she was WAY out of line, she went over the top, and off the charts. She threatened to hire somebody to file a Cease & Desist Order and Defamation of Character order against me. I just thought, "Who in their right mind would say that to an innocent 14 year old girl?!" To this day, she should still feel bad for the pain she's caused me. And finally, this is my advice for those who have been verbally attacked by a family member, a friend, etc. Just because someone has apologized for the pain they've caused you, doesn't mean that that changes who they really on the inside and out.
People ask "what were you wearing" or "maybe it was a miscommunication" before they ask how old I was. I was 7, wearing a t-shirt and bluejeans. I wasn't asking for it and there was no miscommunication. It's 2016 and I still can't believe people still blame victims for their attacker's/rapist's actions.
+MsFailathon It is never the victim's fault. I completely agree with you. People need to open their eyes and mind and blame the attacker. There is no miscommunication if someone forces themselves on to you because it was intentional. You're not alone.
MsFailathon it is awful that someone's first question is not how old you were or how you are doing but what you were wearing? that's sick we live in a sick, sick world and I can't imagine it getting better anytime soon till people start standing up and doing something, I'm so sorry that happened to you 🙁 I hope you're doing well now!
To all the survivors reading this: Keep going baby. Just keep moving. Don't give up. I know it hurts. I know it's not going to be easy. I was raped 4 years ago. I'm here to tell you you can survive this. And you're loved. And you'll come out a stronger person than you ever thought possible. You are capable of miracles.
Thank you. I feel like no one believed me when I said I was being hurt by my ex. I was told to my face that since I didnt say no in front of them or didn't say anything that I let it happen. It was my fault I was scared I didnt know how to.
Shellina, thank you for your incredible courage in sharing your story. You're right. I couldn't believe how strong I was "till it happened to me." Just wish the police caught the SOB. Hope that you received justice. XOXO #metoo
I just finished my trial process from my attacker, I can't get through the entire song without weeping or having an anxiety attack, but this song saved my life and gave me the strength to finish. And yes, I WON MY CASE. But I still struggle with depression from that event til this day. Thank you lady Gaga.
+Abby Blankenship thank you so much. Some days I get flash backs but my anxiety is starting to occur less. Adjusting back to "normal life" was the hardest thing I've ever had to do. But I'm doing it. And enrolling back into college
reading this made me cry, I am so happy for you!😭 I know how it feels I know how it haunts you.. sadly my case lost.. my abusers got away with it.. I am determined to reopen it and fight longer. I'm so happy for you. keep your head up beautiful❤ much love for u💕
+Gabsluvmusic I am glad to see that you won your case. My daughter wasn't believed by her "friends" and she withdrew and relapsed into her eating disorder - unbeknownst to us...and she lost her life. I hope that you get help with your depression.... look into TWLOHA
This song always hit me in the heart, no one deserves rape or sexual assault, male or female, young or old, straight or lgbt. No one deserves the horror.
If you're reading this, I'm proud of you. You went through hell, no matter what it was, and you're still here. Maybe you're not out of the woods yet, but right now, you're alive. Even through the hurt, depression and seemingly endless pain, you are here. You are fucking incredible. I'm so happy you're here. You've made it through! That's incredible. Sending love your way, always x
Thank u i was raped n my parents didn't believe me now I'm older it still bothers me n now I suffer from depression and anxiety n the one person I could talk to my baby sister passed
I read this note. I started to cry. I been through so much in weeks. Get my life back from my depression and anixety from in bad relationship. I got help by going to mental hosptial. Finally i have a voice. Say what on my mind. Not hide in the shadow. Thank you who ever write this
i am speechless reading all the comments..i'm so proud of you all getting through this i love you all and you are all so worthy and mean so much...never forget that
I was thinking the same. UA-cam comments are the master of hiding behind the screen and being an unnessisary ass hole a lot of the times but I scrolled far and was so proud that there was no nastiness, just openness and vulnerability and support. 🖤
I was sexually abused as a kid, and suffer from huge anxiety. Today I am celebrating a mass victory because my best friend was close to being molested by her father. I pushed her to ask for help and report it because my greatest regret was not asking for the help before it was too late. Her father was arrested and she will be safe now. Stay strong and remember to ask for help while you have the chance.
Yoson Well, I am sorry that happened to you. It is maybe good if you report it or reach out to someone at least. I hope things get better for you and that you can have strength to overcome these challenges.
I was diagnosed with severe depression and anxiety a few years ago. People tell me all the time, "Why can't you just be happy?" I know this song is really about those who were sexually abused, but it goes so much farther than that.
they don't understand it you can't just be happy it's so much more then that you have to fight your self. I had depression but just fought it off last month. I understand what your going throw. just please hold on. no matter what hold on you'll be glad you did. please!!!!! hold on
What ever your clean of even tho I don't know you-im proud of you not a lot of ppl can go through with getting clean for anything and I know I'm a stranger and I have issues too similar to yours I'm so proud of you
I hear a lot of the "what were you wearing" question, and I'll be honest. I was wearing a crop top and a mini skirt. People told me i was "asking for it". I said no. I didn't ask, didn't want, didn't suggest. I just wore what i liked and someone took advantage of me. It doesn't matter what you were wearing. If you were covered from head to toe or totally naked. No. Means. No.
Listen to me. I WASN'T YOUR FAULT. No matter what kind of clothes you were wearing. The only guilty is the person who raped you. And I'm proud of you because you are soooo strong. Remember that I love you, even if we didn't know each other. Be strong because you deserve a great life
One of my coworkers committed suicide recently. I didn't know her very well, but I wish I would have reached out to her. Always be kind; you never know what someone else may be going through.
@@vanessatacay6554 It's very insensitive to ask how someone killed themselves. If you asked this because you're thinking of doing something similar, seek help.
To everyone struggling with something whether it is sexual abuse, depression, or anything in between, I believe you. I love you. You are so strong. I know you'll get through this.
The fact he got away with it hurts the most. I was only ten. On top of that, I have people who don't know my story, telling me they understand what it's like to be depressed. The hell they do. Depression and sadness are two different things. You were sad because your lover left you, I'm depressed because I was almost raped. "You're not that upset, you don't cry when you talk about it.." Just because it's been six years, and I'm numb to the point I don't cry about it, doesn't mean it doesn't still hurt.
+Sakumi Darkling They usually do. When i was in court over it, all they said was that the man already lost his job, and suffered enough.... suffered enough. I guess they don't realize what it feels like to be a 12 year old girl waking up to a 40 year old man with his hands on you.
+Sakumi Darkling It hurts when you get told to let it go, I've been depressed for 4 years. It still hurts I was 7 and I didn't know what to do at the time because of my young mind, I was just into playing with cars and toys. I never thought I would be brought into all of this, I still have flash backs and it does still hurt. I am here for you, if you need to talk just tell me.
Lucky for me I don't remember much because I looked away as it happened. I only remember what I felt, and what was said. It still hurts though, as the simplest touch can make me yelp if I don't see the person doing it. And I appreciate you reaching out to help Alex. Thank you.
+Sakumi Darkling I hate knowing that it happens to people. And I want to be able to help because we're supposed to survive in such a cruel world. I had a friend tell me a few days ago to just let it go but the problem is it is still in your mind. It's been almost 6 years since it happened to me, all I can stay is we all work together and stay strong.
one of my friends was just sexual assulted. It's really ruined her and I'm not sure what to do. do you have advise for something like that? and saying I'm sorry doesn't cut it. nothing like that should ever happen, even though it does. however, I do feel like bringing up a point as well, and I hope it doesn't come off abrasively. the way you talked about depression sounded like people who haven't been through as much don't have the right to be depressed. I agree that some people don't know, and it's stupid that they would try to understand your situation when they don't, but that doesn't mean they can't be depressed. I have a chemical imbalance that causes me to go into fits of seasonal depression that often end up with me on suiside watch. I just don't think that judging your right to be depressed should stem from how traumatic you're life has been. but I'm not saying I understand, and I truely wish I could help in some way. this is why I'm asking for opinion on what I should do to help my friend.
I am living with a disease called Dysautonomia or POTS. It is under a group of diseases called "invisible illnesses." They are called this because no one can really tell you are very sick by looking at you. In reality I deal with severe tachycardia, low blood pressure, nausea and vomiting, fatigue, migraines, gut dysfunction and so many other horrible symptoms. This is truly the first song that has brought me to tears in that it explains how I've felt for the past 7 years of my life. Thank you Lady Gaga.
+Reece Langton Agreed!!! I am doing a solo to this for a performance next month, and figured it wouldn't make the audience feel too uncomfortable because of how vague it is. I love how vague it is because we all hurt differently, and trauma is subject to interpretation (just meaning no one knows how someone else feels, especially when they are hurting.)
Rachel Miller Yes, though to elaborate:"no one" is a _pretty_ broad statement, ie there are the ones who've gone through that or something else that brings the thing outcomes (like the people who commented their troubles and other things out there eg _Criminal Minds_), and knowledge of what it brings to people and of people in general eg health for what it _really_ is. I fall in both of those categories to a great extent...
I remember when this song came out, I would just sit in my room and sob to it. Back then I hadn't told anyone about the sexual trauma one of my half brothers put me through for years as a child, but I felt like she knew and understood. I think I was about 11 when it came out, and I'd just sob in my room pretending she was there with me. This song made me feel not so alone. Truly one of my favorite songs of all time and one of the things that finally gave me the courage to tell others about what I had been through, including my family. To anyone that can relate to this, just know that you're not alone and are worth so much more than the shit you've been through. You are loved. You are beautiful. You are a survivor.
I’m 17 and my mom killed herself almost 6 months ago. This song fits all kinds of tragic life circumstances and I’m glad we all have such a beautiful song to release some of the overwhelming emotions we’re all feeling. Hang in there guys, we got this💖✨
I always come back to this song when i have flashbacks from when i was SA'd,i was 3 when it started and ended when i was 7 by my father. To any other SA survivors out there, please just know you are NOT alone, it was not your fault. I know the trauma,the endless flashbacks & nightmares hurts,and im so proud of you for still going in life. Whoever needs to see this,you are loved and im so so proud of you. You got this💕
All my classmates bully me because I am gay and one time there was an assembly and I told the principle if she could put this song she did and so many people understood what I was going through I'm still struggling with depression but I'm feeling so good especially when I listen to this song.
This song hit me hard. In March of 2015, my beautiful 35 year old husband died suddenly and unexpectedly of a heart attack right in front of me. I did CPR immediately, but it was too late. I was 28 and our daughter was 4 months old. The pain is agonizing. I get so tired of people telling me they "know how I feel" because they lost a grandparent or got a divorce. They have no idea. That day haunts me every time I close my eyes.
+Jamie Western That is indeed very sad and even recent. I'm so so sorry for your loss dear. I hope you and your little girl are doing better today. I imagine it must be tough since it hasn't been long ago. People should shut up because it isn't comparable. I send my prayers to you and your baby girl.
The end of 2015 wasn't so good for me. I was raped at a college party and was left behind. I felt nothing but worthless everyday; on top of being left behind and not even thought about..but I came across this song and I found hope. I am in love with Lady gaga, I have always loved her for being unique/different yet powerful when it comes to her music and her fans. thank you Gaga for opening the eyes and ears of others and making a difference in this world.
i was raped by someone who i thought had loved me. he made me feel safe. my whole world changed when it happened. he said he loved me. i was sad and hurt. i felt hatred towards myself. i hated how i was touched. i lost control of myself. i believe that i am strong enough to love myself and respect who i am. i would never let myself be mistreated. i am not a toy, i am a human and i will be treated as one. stay strong and be safe. love yourselves ❤️
Tanya Vides I fully understand you. He didn’t rape me, but he hit me. He was drunk, completely wasted. He was one of the few people I really loved on this Earth. It happened three months ago, now he’s seeking help thanks to therapy and I don’t know what I’m supposed to do. He tells me he loves me and I miss him in a way that words can’t explain... but I don’t know if forgiveness is the right path.
I'm currently in the middle of trial with my attacker (my father). His entire family has turned against my sister and I. People will tell you that you're lying and that you should've come out sooner, but you can't listen to them. They'll never understand. Much love to all of you survivors ❤️
I just survived a long term very abusive relationship. August 25th 2015 he broke into my home and tried killing me infront of our four children.... this song touched me to my core....
To anyone who is struggling or battling a fight of any kind, I'm really sorry. I hope you find the strength to persevere. Please, don't hurt yourself in any physical or mental way. You can do so many great things if you realize it. Keep your head, your crown is falling. I know it's very difficult to keep your head up and keep a positive mind when all you want to do is hang that head or break and fall apart. But things WILL get better. I promise you. Maybe they won't get better soon, but they will one day. The sun will shine in a lighting you haven't seen before and you'll feel that small energy in you want to burst, and a smile will curve at your cheeks. You'll feel on top of the world. Don't throw away anything that will make you miss out on that feeling. If no one else will support you, I will. Though I don't know you, I believe in you. I know you can do this. I want to see you succeed. I want to see you love life. You are so worth it. No matter what anyone tells you, you are worth it. I love you, and I'm not lying. please be strong and stay safe. I hope this helped someone.
TossedeGubbi You're welcome. I also just realized that there were some errors in my typing and I left out a word or two. Haha. "Keep your head up, your crown is falling," is what I meant.
I’m from Ukraine 🇺🇦 and this song is all how I feel. But I don’t wish this to others in no way, ever. I never thought it will happen to us. It’s like screaming under water. 🙏❤️
I am from Germany and I will pray for you, your family and your country. What you have to bear is inhuman. It is not much I can offer but my true - meant respect for your nation, coming from a naive eightheen year old soul who hopefully will never know what war means. ❤❤❤
I'm going throught depression for about 2 years now. Sometimes, it feels like it's my fault due to the comments I have been listening to. I put on 44 pounds and I'm having to learn to love myself all over again in order to heal, but it's a slow and silent process. I don't tell anyone anymore because I'm tired of being judged as "overly dramatic". They don't say those words, but they also don't say anything at all, wich means a lot in many cases. Only the look on their face is enough
+Vinícius Ferreira Não desista. As pessoas nunca entendem como esse tipo de coisa é; É como a música diz, 'até acontecer com você, não saberá como se sente nessa situação'. Cresci ao lado de uma pessoa que amo muito e que sofre com depressão até hoje, e mesmo depois de tantos anos ainda não sei lidar com isso, mas depois que quase passei pelo mesmo comecei a entender um pouco mais como isso a afeta e que já tomei muitas atitudes que não devia.
+Vinícius Ferreira I've had it for a long time, I don't love myself. I don't love myself at all, I've been called a attention seeker, I've been judged, I've been verbally attacked. My life is hell. It's not getting better, but I love that yours is.
+Vinícius Ferreira the real problem is when ur culture and religion stand against u it kills me however it has made me stronger much stronger than i thought , im going to b an engineer now and already engaged, still remember these feelings, its like ur last day alive .yes It happend to me !
I know this song was meant for sexual abused victims, but I feel like it can be applied to other situations as well. I feel the same with depression. No one gets it. Also, my partner of 12 years has moved to Seattle for a job and I miss him everyday. It really hurts so much being apart. This song makes me so sad about both situations.
I also think this is perfect for those who suffers because of bad mental health, I resonate a lot with the lyrics because of this. Glad I'm not the only one who thought that!
I’m 17 years old I was raped when I was 16. He was my friend.. and I trusted him. Now I suffer from anxiety, depression and insomnia. I have anxiety attacks very often and I can NEVER sleep without having a dream of him still on top of me. People always told me things were going to be okay and some people even asked me what I did to provoke him.. when I hear this song it makes me cry my eyes out because many people told me things like as if they were there. I don’t show my pain a lot because he made me feel weak and I never want to feel like that again. But just because I’m not crying doesn’t mean my soul is still in my body..
Lost my 23yr old son in a car accident 2 years ago and I swear this song expresses EXACTLY how I feel! I know folks mean well but they have no idea, how it feels to suffer from a devastating loss! I miss him so much! The pain is still terrible!
I associate this song with 2 of the traumatic incidents in my like one being SA thee other a car accident in which I held my friend as he died. And when she says till your world burns and crashes it hits me in that spot..... no one knows what it's like till they're there. And I felt so much survivors guilt after I didn't wanna be alive if he wasn't alive with me. His mother was impossible to meet after and when I finally did I broke so fricken hard.... I was the one to break it to her never wish that on anyone I am so sorry you live it much much love hun❤
I love how the song could laterally could be about anything that's bad in the world like my moms husband abused me physically, verbally, and mentally and I'm trying to get stronger but ppl keep telling me is nothing and this song gives me strength
+Kelly Jean my step father also abused me from the time I was 11 until I walked out the door at 17, then every time I made the stupid mistake to believe he had changed. My mother denies he ever did anything and even made up a stupid story about I was just seeking attention to the police and child workers and everyone else... I'm 28 now and it does get better but it doesn't go away. I saw a psychologist for 3 years and I've finally been able to start living my life again.... On top of that a chiropractor they trusted drugged and raped me twice when I was in my teens
After being assulted every day for a year and a half you cant even comprehend how much this song is true, the journey of ptsd is one you make alone no matter how many people are around you
I am speechless! Looking through these comments is heart breaking. Anything that could happen to a person has happened to someone who has watched this and it breaks me. I hope that all of you are safe and well. Please be strong, if not for you, than for someone you love, because even though you may take your life, or run away from home, or anything else, you are giving pain to someone else that loves you. It may seem that that is your only option, but i promise you, it isn't. Things get better, i promise, it just takes time. Stay strong
I was sexually assaulted in college and never reported it because I didn't think the police would believe me. I didn't report it because I didn't want my parents to be ashamed of me. Because i didn't want them to judge me based on what i was wearing which btw was a sweat pants and shirt. I feel ashamed of it and still have a fear of sex and all till this day. I'm 27 now.
I hope and pray you are doing well now and are able to be comfortable with your significant other. It's hard to trust again after such trauma. You will find yourself again and you will be okay! ❤
Whether it was a He, she or they, THEY are the ones who took something. Whether they made you agree under duress or didn't even bother and just took, THEY took. You have nothing to be ashamed of and I really hope that you've managed to overcome it to where you're happy.
When i was 13, my father sexually molested me. When i was 17 i was looking for a job to help my mother, and at one meeting i was locked up in a room and molested. Two days ago i was on a train, alone with a man who was jacking off while looking at me and if i tried to move he would have done worse. I suffer from anxiety and bpd and these things are one of the many reasons. I cannot stand near men without having anxiety or panic attacks. I'm insecure of my body due to these actions. I am trying my best to heal but i am always feeling ashamed, even though i have no fault. I am sending strenght and love to whoever is suffering by any type of abuse or mental illness, you are not alone. The fact that you're still here is the proof that you're stronger than anything that has happened to you. I feel for all of you
Being abused by Father is the worst kind of trauma one could get,and you survived this then I can't tell you and you yourself don't know how much strong you are. More power to you. You're an inspiration for everyone going through abuse. Never feel alone. If you ever feel like sharing anything,I am here to listen to you always... God loves you a lot. Stay strong.
I was raped just two days ago. By a friend nonetheless. I'm still in pain and there's still blood but I can't tell anyone. I just wish I could die. I finally got back on my feet, after my eating disorder, my depression.
i know this from 3 years ago, but i was wondering if i can check up on you? are you okay now? i hope you kept and will keep on going strong ❤ it wasn't your fault
I was molested by my uncle when I was young. I was 15 when I raped and lost my virginity. 17 when I was raped by a family member. 18 when I got raped again by a friends boyfriend. My ex husband would force himself on me when I wouldn't give it to him. and then a few years ago I was violated again by a family member. And when I violated by family members, their reasons to it was because I was adopted. And even though I have been through a lot since childhood I struggle everyday with accepting myself. I did drugs and drank for 10 years. Tried to kill myself a few times. struggled with eating disorder. depressed. Aniexty. insomnia. PTSD. Years of struggling. And some days are better than others, and when those bad days come I have to look at my daughter and be grateful that I have a reason to live. a reason to be strong. a reason to move on. I am not a waste of skin like i have thought i was all these years. Thank you Lady Gaga for this song.
I hate family's like yours. I feel so bad for people like you. Just the thought of getting raped by a family member or a friends boyfriend is messed the hell up. I feel really sorry for you. Every time I even think about rape I want to smack a person. And I'm 12.
Victim blamers do not understand the gravity of emotional and social pain brings with rape and sexual assault. It ruins our sex lives and PTSD is a bitch to get through among other things. Im thankful that Gaga and countless victims understand. Telling our truth is the only way or else aggressors win.
I was roofied at 14 and my entire family blamed me and no longer speaks to me this song brings me to tears every time I would love to meet Lady Gaga in person and I would just hug her you have to go through some shit to write and perform a song like this... She is truly amazing. I can only imagine how she would be in person!!! Respect!
I just lost my baby stillbirth two weeks ago. Everyone keeps saying “I know what it feels like” “God has a purpose” “things happen for a reason” I’m so angry I’m at the anger part of grief because no one knows this pain unless they’ve been through it and this song is what reminds me that unless someone’s been through it they’ll never understand 😓😢💔
This song doesn't just have to be about rape it can relate to other things also such as abuse or woman abuse. I wasn't raped but I was abused verbally and physically and I relate to these words and it honestly puts me in tears
Me and two of my frineds has depression and everyone says it will get better, but they dont know how it feels. My two friends and the people who tell us it will get better need to listen to this song.
I lived my childhood growing up around pedophiles. My innocence was stolen from me at such a young age. I've been free from the abuse for about 10 years now, but it still weighs on me everyday. On the worst days I listen to this on repeat. I've loved gaga for a long time, and when this song came out I felt as if it was written for me💕 to anyone reading this who is currently or has survived childhood sexual abuse, just know you are not alone and that you will get through this💕
Sending love and healing your way ♥️ I can sympathise with how the effects last forever and weigh heavy on life - I was first abuse at 8, by someone we thought was a family friends, whilst standing in blessed robes in a sacristy as I prepared to serve holy mass. In case you have been told lately Your pain is real & valid you deserve as much time as you need to work through this ♥️ xx
@@donna8515 thank you so much for your kind words, it means a lot. I'm sorry you had to go through that as well, sending lots of love and healing your way too💕
@@blakeweikert6633 You weren't at fault. Never regret of not being able to do anything at that time. You never deserved this amount of pain and you deserve to heal. God loves you a lot,always remember..
I've been a victim of sexual assault. All I want to say is people like Gaga show us no matter what happens in life we can always make ourselves feel stronger. Yes I'm gay, yes I'm a survivor of suicide, yes I may not be the worlds best person but in the end we are all hero's. We are hero's to other's who are going through the same issues as we went through or still going through but most importantly we are each other's hero's. If you are going through or been through these kinds of thing I am truly and deeply sorry. If there is anything to get from this it is that YOU ARE A GODDAME SUPERSTAR AND YOU WERE BORN THIS WAY. WE LOVE YOU GAGA!!!! ~: The One Who Truly Loves You :~
I love this song 😍 I was molested by my dad as a kid. he is in jail now thank god but I am constantly being told by sister and grandma that it never happened. my mom believes me but told me I have to move on and get over it bc he is already being punished. I feel completely alone and I just don't know how to deal right now. just makes me feel better to know there are some that actually understand.
Same here, me dad raped me when i was younger, me grandma still doesn't believe me along with that whole side of the family, luckily though me mum and one of me sisters believe me and are supportive (He did it to me sister too, and me mum was molested as a child). He never went to jail for it though, but he is dying from some obscure thing that runs in the family, anyways. Always know you are never alone, there is always someone with a similar story that will support you, even if you don't know.
Same. I was in kindergarden. I acted out in a sexual way after it happened and my mom shamed me. She was embarrassed by my behaviour. So I felt ashamed all these years. I told my parents about 4 years ago, when I was 30- but we have never talked about it. I´m still a mess emotionally at times.
I've been molested for 8 years and raped 4 times. two being recent . This song hits me so hard. I realized though, I am not a victim. I am a survivor and I will continue to live and make all those little boys look like trash. I will not let it define me as a person. to whoever is struggle. I've been down that path and just know it truly gets better 💜
Im a woman. I was sexually assaulted and almost raped by another woman last night. This song is helping me get through this hell I've suddenly been forced into; reading the comments makes me feel less alone. Female on female rape/ assault does happen if it's ever happened to you you know it can be just as damaging as male/ female sexual assault. If there are any other women out there who were assaulted by women I want you to know I love and understand your pain. It will be okay. We will be okay 💕🌼
I'm 15 I shouldn't be saying this but we've got this. It happens more often than people think and I've been called a liar and told to stop trying to ruin her life (I was 13 and she was 16)
I'm so sorry that happened honey. I completely believe you, and I know for a fact that there are other people out there that will believe you too. Don't ever listen to people that are trying to shut you up; they have no right to silence you. I've also been told I'm ruining my abusers life and sometimes feel guilty for going after her, but I have to remember that she brought this upon herself my doing this to me in the first place. It's her fault. Men aren't the only ones that do it; its 2022, we should understand this by now and anyone that thinks it's impossible between two women or it can't happen is closed minded and stuck in the very distant past. Much love, we are gonna get through this!
This song speaks to me a lot because I lost my father to cancer a few years ago and people keep telling me it's time to move on, and that i've already mourned for too long, and now it seems everyone kinda ran out of patience with my pain. Every time I try to move on with my life I just end up coming back to the awful memories of my dad's struggle for survival, and it makes me unable to function normally. Everyone suddenly wants to tell me how to feel and criticise me for how I am dealing with my grief. This song gave me some comfort to stop blaming myself for mourning and to stop listening to what those people say. Thank you Gaga.
+Bella Eis Sometimes some people don't really know what it's like to lose a very close family member, they don't realize that that person won't ever come back. It's a very hard situation and I understand the struggle. But I promise you, time will heal! Cry all you need to cry, be free! Pour your emotions out, it's okay to grief and express the pain. Do what you gotta do, at some point you will eventually get better :).
+Ivy Klein My Great Great Aunt just died, I don't know if I'm sad or not. I've only cried because I didn't feel sad about her dying, maybe it's because my whole family wad joking about how she set the new goal to live to, but at her funeral my uncle, her son, was bawling, nor at the moment but thinking about him being alone made me upset. I don't know why your comment reminded me of him like that, but it did.
I had the same. My daughter sent me this song. As I watched him die, I couldn't breathe. I was lost. I still am not OVER IT as ppl say I should be and it was Feb 14 2016 at 5:30pm
Everyone mourns in their own time, handle grief in their own way. There is no set time to grieve. Keep going & crying feels good! You know you are a deeply feeling person who is not afraid to FEEL & feel ALIVE💜💜💜
Its the first time I have heard Lady Gaga sing about something deep. She should do it more often. Her voice is so beautiful and can make you feel what she is saying. I am not putting her other music down, they are awesome. but I really enjoy the personal side as well. She has the talant to make people feel when she strips it down.
I suffer from anxiety, and I feel really alone sometimes because it feels like no one understands or they give me the "everyone goes through it" like tha means what I'm going threw isn't that big a deal. It's harder some days then others but reading all these comments and listening to this amazing song makes me know I'm not alone and knowing I have great friends and family never hurts either.
Parker Nelson I think most people associate anxiety with nerves which is so wrong. I get nervous, but I've seen people have anxiety attacks and I've never had anything close to that. It's a real issue that's dismissed rather than understood! It's really great that you were able to share that! Just think, someone else with anxiety probably read that and realized they're not so alone.
Parker Nelson I have had anxiety and panic attacks in the past. When I was in 2nd grade, I would have an emotional breakdown. There were times where I thought no one wanted to be friends with me, and I felt isolated.
The guy who showed me this song.. later that week abused me after I just came out of an abusive relationship less than a year ago and got sexually assaulted and destroyed when he raped me and after promising he wouldn’t hurt me and then turning around and doing the same shit.. to the survivors you got this . You are a fighter and you are loved no matter what you’ve been through you are so strong. ❤️
I was a victim of sexual assault. It's not easy. One and a halve years ago I was a bright and happy 12 year old. The day after Valentines Day? I was a little girl terrified to tell my mom that the day before, I became pure no more, and I truly felt dirty. The age of my perp is truly disgusting. He was 17. No shame in taking advantage of a little girl. Well, his actions caused this little girl to self harm, and hurt. Attempted suicide. Depression, Anxiety, fear of guys. Loss of friends. Emptiness. I have no others words than these. Real men don't rape.
These lyrics are so true to life. The garbage judgement people have to hear if they are hurting, grieving or suffering loss. So many callous, insensitive people out there.
This song fits me so well. I lost my first son of Robert 3yrs old 1981 and now my baby boy Stacey 35yrs. This song is so how i feel. How the are you to tell me how to feel. True fact no one know till it happens to you. Thank you for this song hits my heart and is so true.
I heard this song when I wrote an essay about my personal experience with sexual assault and it the nail right on the head. Lady gaga's voice is the echo that resonates in every survivor's heart. I sobbed the first time I heard it with the music video.
falling back into my eating disorder habits, battled bulimia and anorexia through the 4 years of high school, feel like I'm barely hanging on to fight it back now in my first year of college - this song means the world to me
I can honestly relate to this song and I wish I didn't. This can be for people who have been bullied, sexually abused, or physically abused, and etc. not just people who have been sexual assaulted. It honestly made me cry and I remembered what happened to me. It's a really good song. 💖
I'm really sorry that happened to you! I was raped at 19 and it was horror to overcome, but I can't imagine what you went through. You're a very strong, resilient person! :)
I'm 15 and was wearing a hoodie and pants on my way to school it's been a week and I just wish this whole situation would just disappear so things could be okay again I hate having to repeat and relive what happened over and over for doctors and cops
This song reminds me of the years following my dad's stage 4 cancer diagnosis. Very few people my age could relate to the nausea inducing terror that comes with knowing your parent's barely clinging to life. It has gotten better over the years, i will admit, but everytime my peers joke about terminal illnesses such as cancer i feel like crying just a little bit more.
I lost my dad to brain cancer last August. He was diagnosed at stage 4 and he only lived for another 6 weeks. A lot of people have told me things like, “You have to be strong. He wouldn’t want you to be so sad.” I’m feeling much better than I was before, but I still have moments when I really miss him. I just don’t know how anyone can expect me to be the same person I was after watching my own father die so suddenly.
My heart goes out to the victims who were unjustly sexually assaulted, raped, physically abused and/or verbally abused. We live in a crazy world where the victims (including women) are blamed for what they didn’t do and their assailants aren’t and that makes me pissed off. If everybody cared enough about the victims and supported them, we wouldn’t be in this hell hole that were in now.
I was raped and molested for two years straight from my mother at only age 3, this video always makes me cry. just know if you're assaulted always know you're never alone
The comments on this video alone pulled me from a dark place. I just wish I could have found justice for what he did. He stole my childhood. My innocence. My life. Because of him, I dont know how to live life outside of fear, anger and shame. So many folders of suicide notes, so many scar to end the pain.
This is the first time hearing this song. I am going thru depression and this song has hit close to home. Lost my kids father, my husband unexpectedly 3 years ago and then lost my sister in law Christmas Eve last year to suicide. It's crazy how you hear a song and can relate on such a personal level
I read this was intended for victims of rape, but I think it extends to all those who suffer from mental illness. From depression to bipolar to schizophrenia. Unless you've been there, you don't know.
Amy Soderstrom just anyone who's dealt with any abuse whether it be sexual as intended or physical or emotional. It makes sense with all. Especially emotional as it's the least understood and the hardest to talk about for the fact no one believes you because it's not "provable" words aren't provable but they still hurt just as much if not more than being hit or punched. -Coming from a person who's been in all.
I’m balling my eyes out I remember my 15 year old self listening to this crying , depressed , so done with life , I remember one night I was so frustrated, and anxious I felt like my whole world was crumbling so I wanted to end my life I was going thru a lot at that time :( , but now here I am 3 years later stronger than ever and I’m glad I didn’t do anything stupid that night , cause I would’ve have missed on a lot of great things
My mom went through this, she had to live with it for the rest of her life. I remember when she told me, and it all made sense. It made sense why she never left me alone with men, when I was young. It made sense why my Grandmother was protective of her, my sister, and me. 1 in 6 women experience sexual assault in there life, as well as some men do. If it weren't for the strong women in my family, I could've been one of them, too. Don't ever forget to stand up for women/men who have went through this, and to protect others, especially young girls and boys.
This song is so relatable i've been sexual , physically and mentaly abused. to all the survivors i wanna say Just know your realy strong and its Never your fault!!
@@marjonzandstra7710 I'm really glad you are making steps to feel better 🙏, you deserve the best 💜. Keep hope up 🙏, you'll be even better, I believe in you. Also, thanks for taking time to reply to me 🙏
This fits so many sorrows and hardships. First heard regarding lymphedema.. but also touched my cancer..the loss if a child..my friends sexual abuse. Amazing song ...
I'm also going through depression myself. Mainly PTSD. My overall point is not so long ago, a former family friend violated me. He sodomized me with a weapon and was calling me things like "promiscuous slut and whore" while he was sexually assaulting me. I reported the incident and it got back to him, he tried to turn my whole family against me and I tried to kill myself three times because of that. So no. I'm not going to forgive that person tomorrow, next month or next year cause he was doing what he can to make me kill myself. And it bothers me, that situation almost everyday. And I am having a hard time getting over it.
I was abused form about when I was born to about 12 years old and molested form about 7-9 or 10. I tired killing my self and I was depressed I was bullied at school and no one cared. when I was in six grade I came out with it and he was sent to prison 8 years to life. I was depressed up until September 4, 2016. I love life and I don't forgive him or her I'm just mad or sad at him and her. I'm more sad then mad. but one thing I'm really grateful is.. I held on. I went throw all the hell but I was happy I didn't give up I'm in 8th grade. and I'm happy I'm alive. just don't give up and you don't have to forgive him. I don't plus it will take time. your a survivor and I'm a survivor people don't understand anything until they walked what you walked. the names he and she called be are in my mind but I'm fighting them off. I will always have that fight. I'm hoping that fight will go away for you. just don't ever give up. your a survivor.
The worst scars are rarely physically seen. I am mentally sick and that is a result of growing up being abused. Some people try to act as if they know what it could be like and insist I move on but they haven't experienced half of what I have, so what makes them think that is within their right? They don't know what it's like growing up without love. Sometimes I just want to be depressed. At this point, I'm scared to let go of my sadness because it is the one thing that has remained faithful to me. To anyone who is a victim of any form of abuse, please seek help. Please speak up. It is music to my ears when I hear others who have experienced abuse have been saved and placed under better circumstances. Only God has gotten me through my worst times. No one on this Earth can say anything to me to take away my pain.
It took me a while to listen to this song mainly because I was really afraid the video/ song would be triggering but listening to it. I really appreciate that a song was written for it. I never imagined how much it would impact me until I was finally able to process it. My attacker will probably never know anything except that I couldn't stop crying the night it happened. I'm glad the conversation is being opened up and we are finally talking because it truly hurt when people wouldn't believe that I was telling the truth
I’m crying as I’m writing.. I was raped when I was 5 till 12 (uncle )... I didn’t speak no one would believe me ..my ex husband abuse me for 12 yrs ..physical and mentally...I told my dad he didn’t do anything...felt betrayed hurt disappointment... This song has touch me in so many levels ..I’m not alone ..is a battle that I keep fighting just to keep my head up and smiling even though it feels like stumble on my knees and ask why God ..why didn’t you protect me ..
I've been bullied,raped,beaten, I've got major depression and suicidal thoughts I feel it everyday....the loneliness :'( Idk. What to do nothings getting better....LADY GAGA IS MY IDOL WOULDN'T I GIVE TO MEET HER *Cries hugging myself*
I love how simple the lyrics are but they convey so much and her voice carries so much emotion. People forget what a talented singer Gaga is under all her weird.
It's been 9 months. I was with friends, we traveled together for a music festival. Before that I thought I was safe, I could put my hands in the fire for him. He was my "bro", we could share the same bed and nothing would happen. Turns out I couldn't even enjoy drinking with them cuz he just took advantage of me...and all I can remember is saying "no" and him saying to shut up cuz otherwise he would stop and he knew I didn't want that. The next day he gave me a high five cuz "we did it" I still don't remember anything else, but everytime I remember what happened i feel disgusted, used and like I'm worth nothing
You weren't at fault. Never regret of not being able to do anything the first time. You never deserved this amount of pain and you deserve to heal. God loves you a lot,always remember..
I love how this song doesnt only talkes about sexual assault and rape, but also make you fill in the blanks. My dad died when i was 1, my steph-dad died when i was 12. After that it went like a rolling train. My neighbour died, my both grandpa's died and i was not myself anymore. People ask me how to help me, how they could save me, but only one thing i could think of. "You can't help me, because you don't know how i feel, how it went, how emotional broken i am". But also, if i read all these comments, look how we all got together to lissen to this, what we all been true, how it makes us understand somewhat each other.
Thank you Lady Gaga, for singing words that puts many people's lives into more perspective without having a consistent repeated display of painful conversations. Thank God for your soulful eternal Love.
this is such an empowering song.. I was 12 when it happened and it was my parents friend who was staying with us at the time... ill have nightmares here and then about being back in the situation and just hearing the words and pain all over again.. its gut wrenching. this song just amazes me
I've been in every abuse imaginable. Sexual abuse at age of 9 by my childhood best friends older brother and I told no one till I was 14 and it was to an online friend. My mom is physically abusive. And I was in two emotional/verbal abusive relationships this year. And all my friends like to make remarks about them but they don't even know how I feel or how I felt. So this really speaks to me and really gives me the chills.
I love this song because 99.9% of the time i am a survivor with a brave face, nobody knows my shit. But when i listen to this its like it gives me permission to cry and be the victim i know i am inside.
I have been going through depression and anxiety for the past 2 years of my life due to things that have happened to me. I admire all of you and your strength to keep fighting. We may be broken inside but we are still here on this earth fighting each day.. and that is amazing. Never give up.
I feel like this song fits for all types of people and many kinds of situations. Bullying, sexual assault, depression, drugs, alcohol, domestic abuse, losing someone, failing at something, being humiliated, being betrayed...any kind of pain and disappointment is in here for any kind of person.
+Nadia Maslo That's what I like about the song, it doesn't specifically talk about "that one" thing. It could be or mean anything :). Endless possibilities.
+Nadia Maslo True that. I can totally relate to some of the things that you just listed. I have been verbally attacked via Facebook and face to face. This has happened to me 3 times with 3 different people. The first incident took place with my stepmother through a Facebook message, where I had confronted her about a nasty message she sent to my brother a few days earlier, and she had harassed me many times online before that incident, but this time, she was WAY out of line, she went over the top, and off the charts. She threatened to hire somebody to file a Cease & Desist Order and Defamation of Character order against me. I just thought, "Who in their right mind would say that to an innocent 14 year old girl?!" To this day, she should still feel bad for the pain she's caused me. And finally, this is my advice for those who have been verbally attacked by a family member, a friend, etc. Just because someone has apologized for the pain they've caused you, doesn't mean that that changes who they really on the inside and out.
Self harm
same
Agree...
People ask "what were you wearing" or "maybe it was a miscommunication" before they ask how old I was. I was 7, wearing a t-shirt and bluejeans. I wasn't asking for it and there was no miscommunication. It's 2016 and I still can't believe people still blame victims for their attacker's/rapist's actions.
+MsFailathon It is never the victim's fault. I completely agree with you. People need to open their eyes and mind and blame the attacker. There is no miscommunication if someone forces themselves on to you because it was intentional. You're not alone.
listen to a video called girlcode 101
MsFailathon it is awful that someone's first question is not how old you were or how you are doing but what you were wearing? that's sick we live in a sick, sick world and I can't imagine it getting better anytime soon till people start standing up and doing something, I'm so sorry that happened to you 🙁 I hope you're doing well now!
What were you wearing seriously you were 7
MsFailathon I was 11, wearing PJs behind a locked door that wasnt barricaded enough, apparently.
To all the survivors reading this: Keep going baby. Just keep moving. Don't give up. I know it hurts. I know it's not going to be easy.
I was raped 4 years ago. I'm here to tell you you can survive this. And you're loved. And you'll come out a stronger person than you ever thought possible. You are capable of miracles.
Shellina Hefner thanks
Shellina Hefner thankyou
this made me cry, but thanks bb
Thank you. I feel like no one believed me when I said I was being hurt by my ex. I was told to my face that since I didnt say no in front of them or didn't say anything that I let it happen. It was my fault I was scared I didnt know how to.
Shellina, thank you for your incredible courage in sharing your story. You're right. I couldn't believe how strong I was "till it happened to me." Just wish the police caught the SOB. Hope that you received justice. XOXO #metoo
I just finished my trial process from my attacker, I can't get through the entire song without weeping or having an anxiety attack, but this song saved my life and gave me the strength to finish. And yes, I WON MY CASE. But I still struggle with depression from that event til this day. Thank you lady Gaga.
+Abby Blankenship thank you so much. Some days I get flash backs but my anxiety is starting to occur less. Adjusting back to "normal life" was the hardest thing I've ever had to do. But I'm doing it. And enrolling back into college
I hope things get better
+pika zero *how (sorry ;-;)
reading this made me cry, I am so happy for you!😭 I know how it feels I know how it haunts you.. sadly my case lost.. my abusers got away with it.. I am determined to reopen it and fight longer. I'm so happy for you. keep your head up beautiful❤ much love for u💕
+Gabsluvmusic I am glad to see that you won your case. My daughter wasn't believed by her "friends" and she withdrew and relapsed into her eating disorder - unbeknownst to us...and she lost her life. I hope that you get help with your depression.... look into TWLOHA
This song always hit me in the heart, no one deserves rape or sexual assault, male or female, young or old, straight or lgbt. No one deserves the horror.
Yes you are correct NO ONE EVER DESERVES RAPE
You're right, but what I'm living through is no one giving a danm about the male victims
She’s right tho No one understands till it happens to them. No one deserves that. They took your choice you’re self worth everything.
As a male victim, I feel your pain, I was told "You're a man, men don't get raped, you were meant to enjoy it."@@hoshimaruhajime7933
No, they do not!
If you're reading this, I'm proud of you. You went through hell, no matter what it was, and you're still here. Maybe you're not out of the woods yet, but right now, you're alive. Even through the hurt, depression and seemingly endless pain, you are here. You are fucking incredible. I'm so happy you're here. You've made it through! That's incredible. Sending love your way, always x
Jenna Hudson thank you
Thank you so much
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Thank u i was raped n my parents didn't believe me now I'm older it still bothers me n now I suffer from depression and anxiety n the one person I could talk to my baby sister passed
I read this note. I started to cry. I been through so much in weeks. Get my life back from my depression and anixety from in bad relationship. I got help by going to mental hosptial. Finally i have a voice. Say what on my mind. Not hide in the shadow. Thank you who ever write this
i am speechless reading all the comments..i'm so proud of you all getting through this i love you all and you are all so worthy and mean so much...never forget that
Its truly amazing how much a person can go through and stay so strong. I love all the strengths.
made me cry
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I was thinking the same.
UA-cam comments are the master of hiding behind the screen and being an unnessisary ass hole a lot of the times but I scrolled far and was so proud that there was no nastiness, just openness and vulnerability and support. 🖤
I was sexually abused as a kid, and suffer from huge anxiety. Today I am celebrating a mass victory because my best friend was close to being molested by her father. I pushed her to ask for help and report it because my greatest regret was not asking for the help before it was too late.
Her father was arrested and she will be safe now. Stay strong and remember to ask for help while you have the chance.
I was sexually abused last week, if you read my reply that's at the top of the comment section you will see other things that have happened to me
Yoson Well, I am sorry that happened to you. It is maybe good if you report it or reach out to someone at least. I hope things get better for you and that you can have strength to overcome these challenges.
Thank you very much Sarah, I hope things get better for you too:
Thats great! I''m so happy you pushed her to stand up and say something. I hope you are both better!
+ Sarah Mitchells That is so amazing. You are truly inspiring. My best wishes for you and your friend moving foreword. Xx
I was diagnosed with severe depression and anxiety a few years ago. People tell me all the time, "Why can't you just be happy?" I know this song is really about those who were sexually abused, but it goes so much farther than that.
+Marissa Smith Agreed
That's the beauty of music. Even though Lady Gaga wrote this song about her experience with sexual assault, it can fit into any struggles people face.
When I was in that place people did the same thing. Sometimes it's not a choice to be happy or sad you just are.
they don't understand it you can't just be happy it's so much more then that you have to fight your self. I had depression but just fought it off last month. I understand what your going throw. just please hold on. no matter what hold on you'll be glad you did. please!!!!! hold on
Marissa Smith i have anxiety and depression and i hate it its like im not the same person
5 months clean. 😇
fairlyaudrey ❤
fairlyaudrey I'm so proud of you even if I don't know you
What ever your clean of even tho I don't know you-im proud of you not a lot of ppl can go through with getting clean for anything and I know I'm a stranger and I have issues too similar to yours I'm so proud of you
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You should be proud. That is wonderful.
I hear a lot of the "what were you wearing" question, and I'll be honest. I was wearing a crop top and a mini skirt. People told me i was "asking for it". I said no. I didn't ask, didn't want, didn't suggest. I just wore what i liked and someone took advantage of me. It doesn't matter what you were wearing. If you were covered from head to toe or totally naked. No. Means. No.
Listen to me. I WASN'T YOUR FAULT. No matter what kind of clothes you were wearing. The only guilty is the person who raped you. And I'm proud of you because you are soooo strong. Remember that I love you, even if we didn't know each other. Be strong because you deserve a great life
Fuck them. If person has animal-like desire, nothing will stop him. It's not your fault.
Im 13 i was malested by my nephew. I was wering PJs. No shorts a long shitr and sum underwere. I know have bad dipreshoim and bad anxity.
I was wearing black skinny jeans and a v cut shirt...his mom didn’t believe me and tried to get me back together with him.
So true..im was 9 and i was wearing a just a shirt in the confort.in my.own home
One of my coworkers committed suicide recently. I didn't know her very well, but I wish I would have reached out to her. Always be kind; you never know what someone else may be going through.
Loretta Lecarde sometimes we don’t know. I suffer with bipolar
Exactly
how she killed herself?
@@vanessatacay6554 It's very insensitive to ask how someone killed themselves. If you asked this because you're thinking of doing something similar, seek help.
To everyone struggling with something whether it is sexual abuse, depression, or anything in between, I believe you. I love you. You are so strong. I know you'll get through this.
The fact he got away with it hurts the most. I was only ten. On top of that, I have people who don't know my story, telling me they understand what it's like to be depressed. The hell they do. Depression and sadness are two different things. You were sad because your lover left you, I'm depressed because I was almost raped. "You're not that upset, you don't cry when you talk about it.." Just because it's been six years, and I'm numb to the point I don't cry about it, doesn't mean it doesn't still hurt.
+Sakumi Darkling They usually do. When i was in court over it, all they said was that the man already lost his job, and suffered enough.... suffered enough. I guess they don't realize what it feels like to be a 12 year old girl waking up to a 40 year old man with his hands on you.
+Sakumi Darkling It hurts when you get told to let it go, I've been depressed for 4 years. It still hurts I was 7 and I didn't know what to do at the time because of my young mind, I was just into playing with cars and toys. I never thought I would be brought into all of this, I still have flash backs and it does still hurt. I am here for you, if you need to talk just tell me.
Lucky for me I don't remember much because I looked away as it happened. I only remember what I felt, and what was said. It still hurts though, as the simplest touch can make me yelp if I don't see the person doing it. And I appreciate you reaching out to help Alex. Thank you.
+Sakumi Darkling I hate knowing that it happens to people. And I want to be able to help because we're supposed to survive in such a cruel world. I had a friend tell me a few days ago to just let it go but the problem is it is still in your mind. It's been almost 6 years since it happened to me, all I can stay is we all work together and stay strong.
one of my friends was just sexual assulted. It's really ruined her and I'm not sure what to do. do you have advise for something like that? and saying I'm sorry doesn't cut it. nothing like that should ever happen, even though it does. however, I do feel like bringing up a point as well, and I hope it doesn't come off abrasively. the way you talked about depression sounded like people who haven't been through as much don't have the right to be depressed. I agree that some people don't know, and it's stupid that they would try to understand your situation when they don't, but that doesn't mean they can't be depressed. I have a chemical imbalance that causes me to go into fits of seasonal depression that often end up with me on suiside watch. I just don't think that judging your right to be depressed should stem from how traumatic you're life has been. but I'm not saying I understand, and I truely wish I could help in some way. this is why I'm asking for opinion on what I should do to help my friend.
I am living with a disease called Dysautonomia or POTS. It is under a group of diseases called "invisible illnesses." They are called this because no one can really tell you are very sick by looking at you. In reality I deal with severe tachycardia, low blood pressure, nausea and vomiting, fatigue, migraines, gut dysfunction and so many other horrible symptoms. This is truly the first song that has brought me to tears in that it explains how I've felt for the past 7 years of my life. Thank you Lady Gaga.
Have you thought about a service dog? Just asking, I know I’m late
How are you now??
This song is great because the lyrics could stand for any type of abuse, discrimination or assault. Lady Gaga is a real artist :) #LittleMonster
+Reece Langton Agreed!!! I am doing a solo to this for a performance next month, and figured it wouldn't make the audience feel too uncomfortable because of how vague it is. I love how vague it is because we all hurt differently, and trauma is subject to interpretation (just meaning no one knows how someone else feels, especially when they are hurting.)
Rachel Miller Yes, though to elaborate:"no one" is a _pretty_ broad statement, ie there are the ones who've gone through that or something else that brings the thing outcomes (like the people who commented their troubles and other things out there eg _Criminal Minds_), and knowledge of what it brings to people and of people in general eg health for what it _really_ is. I fall in both of those categories to a great extent...
It's really about trauma in general, from abuse, from mental health, from addiction, etc.
I remember when this song came out, I would just sit in my room and sob to it. Back then I hadn't told anyone about the sexual trauma one of my half brothers put me through for years as a child, but I felt like she knew and understood. I think I was about 11 when it came out, and I'd just sob in my room pretending she was there with me. This song made me feel not so alone. Truly one of my favorite songs of all time and one of the things that finally gave me the courage to tell others about what I had been through, including my family. To anyone that can relate to this, just know that you're not alone and are worth so much more than the shit you've been through. You are loved. You are beautiful. You are a survivor.
I’m 17 and my mom killed herself almost 6 months ago. This song fits all kinds of tragic life circumstances and I’m glad we all have such a beautiful song to release some of the overwhelming emotions we’re all feeling. Hang in there guys, we got this💖✨
Oh my goodness Sarah I hope you're feeling better now you deserve all the love in the world just hang in there
Oh my god Sarah! I'm so sorry! Sending love and hugs your way❤️
I always come back to this song when i have flashbacks from when i was SA'd,i was 3 when it started and ended when i was 7 by my father. To any other SA survivors out there, please just know you are NOT alone, it was not your fault. I know the trauma,the endless flashbacks & nightmares hurts,and im so proud of you for still going in life. Whoever needs to see this,you are loved and im so so proud of you. You got this💕
All my classmates bully me because I am gay and one time there was an assembly and I told the principle if she could put this song she did and so many people understood what I was going through I'm still struggling with depression but I'm feeling so good especially when I listen to this song.
+Mariano Gonzalez Though I'm a stranger, I can't judge, so I'm here for you!
I'm here too! ❤
you are not alone
I know im a stranger, but i want you to know that i'm here for you. I've been through similar experiences so i know how you feel. Hang in there xx ❤
You are never alone. Keep listening to the music..
This song hit me hard. In March of 2015, my beautiful 35 year old husband died suddenly and unexpectedly of a heart attack right in front of me. I did CPR immediately, but it was too late. I was 28 and our daughter was 4 months old. The pain is agonizing. I get so tired of people telling me they "know how I feel" because they lost a grandparent or got a divorce. They have no idea. That day haunts me every time I close my eyes.
I am sorry for you but you have to be brave
+Jamie Western That is indeed very sad and even recent. I'm so so sorry for your loss dear. I hope you and your little girl are doing better today. I imagine it must be tough since it hasn't been long ago. People should shut up because it isn't comparable. I send my prayers to you and your baby girl.
Jamie Western ❤️
Hope u and ur daughter are fine and living a healthy life now❤
I am sorry for you.
The end of 2015 wasn't so good for me. I was raped at a college party and was left behind. I felt nothing but worthless everyday; on top of being left behind and not even thought about..but I came across this song and I found hope. I am in love with Lady gaga, I have always loved her for being unique/different yet powerful when it comes to her music and her fans. thank you Gaga for opening the eyes and ears of others and making a difference in this world.
Thank you love!
I'm so sorry
i was raped by someone who i thought had loved me. he made me feel safe. my whole world changed when it happened. he said he loved me. i was sad and hurt. i felt hatred towards myself. i hated how i was touched. i lost control of myself. i believe that i am strong enough to love myself and respect who i am. i would never let myself be mistreated. i am not a toy, i am a human and i will be treated as one. stay strong and be safe. love yourselves ❤️
Tanya Vides I fully understand you. He didn’t rape me, but he hit me. He was drunk, completely wasted. He was one of the few people I really loved on this Earth. It happened three months ago, now he’s seeking help thanks to therapy and I don’t know what I’m supposed to do. He tells me he loves me and I miss him in a way that words can’t explain... but I don’t know if forgiveness is the right path.
I'm currently in the middle of trial with my attacker (my father). His entire family has turned against my sister and I. People will tell you that you're lying and that you should've come out sooner, but you can't listen to them. They'll never understand. Much love to all of you survivors ❤️
Abbi Rimmer You're so strong. 🙏🏻
we are standing up for and with you do you 🙏🖤
a girl blamed my husband but it was really her dad please help
@@meprous1377 may i ask your age
I'm on your side, I always will be. Remember that. I love you, and I'm so proud of you.
I just survived a long term very abusive relationship. August 25th 2015 he broke into my home and tried killing me infront of our four children.... this song touched me to my core....
I hope everything is better. Sending love and support.
*hugs and cries* I'm so sorry. I hope everything is going well for you now
That is what this song is about!!
So proud of you for getting out hope you are well and love you ❤❤
Thanks everyone! It will be 6 years this coming August since we've been free! So blessed!💜
To anyone who is struggling or battling a fight of any kind, I'm really sorry. I hope you find the strength to persevere. Please, don't hurt yourself in any physical or mental way. You can do so many great things if you realize it. Keep your head, your crown is falling. I know it's very difficult to keep your head up and keep a positive mind when all you want to do is hang that head or break and fall apart. But things WILL get better. I promise you. Maybe they won't get better soon, but they will one day. The sun will shine in a lighting you haven't seen before and you'll feel that small energy in you want to burst, and a smile will curve at your cheeks. You'll feel on top of the world. Don't throw away anything that will make you miss out on that feeling. If no one else will support you, I will. Though I don't know you, I believe in you. I know you can do this. I want to see you succeed. I want to see you love life. You are so worth it. No matter what anyone tells you, you are worth it. I love you, and I'm not lying. please be strong and stay safe. I hope this helped someone.
+Taylin Jade Kirkland Thank you for the reminder :)
TossedeGubbi You're welcome. I also just realized that there were some errors in my typing and I left out a word or two. Haha. "Keep your head up, your crown is falling," is what I meant.
Thank you, I really needed to hear that today. ❤️
I’m from Ukraine 🇺🇦 and this song is all how I feel. But I don’t wish this to others in no way, ever. I never thought it will happen to us. It’s like screaming under water. 🙏❤️
I am from Germany and I will pray for you, your family and your country. What you have to bear is inhuman. It is not much I can offer but my true - meant respect for your nation, coming from a naive eightheen year old soul who hopefully will never know what war means. ❤❤❤
reading all these comments makes me realize I'm not alone.
Its actually scary to see how many people are like this.
+NianCat224 Survivors are everywhere. Just some of us are good at hiding it.
+amburger gavia don't ever think you're alone :)
I'm going throught depression for about 2 years now. Sometimes, it feels like it's my fault due to the comments I have been listening to. I put on 44 pounds and I'm having to learn to love myself all over again in order to heal, but it's a slow and silent process. I don't tell anyone anymore because I'm tired of being judged as "overly dramatic". They don't say those words, but they also don't say anything at all, wich means a lot in many cases. Only the look on their face is enough
+Vinícius Ferreira Não desista. As pessoas nunca entendem como esse tipo de coisa é; É como a música diz, 'até acontecer com você, não saberá como se sente nessa situação'. Cresci ao lado de uma pessoa que amo muito e que sofre com depressão até hoje, e mesmo depois de tantos anos ainda não sei lidar com isso, mas depois que quase passei pelo mesmo comecei a entender um pouco mais como isso a afeta e que já tomei muitas atitudes que não devia.
+Nathalia Oliveira você está inspirando.
+Vinícius Ferreira I've had it for a long time, I don't love myself. I don't love myself at all, I've been called a attention seeker, I've been judged, I've been verbally attacked. My life is hell. It's not getting better, but I love that yours is.
+Vinícius Ferreira u can do it :)
+Vinícius Ferreira the real problem is when ur culture and religion stand against u it kills me however it has made me stronger much stronger than i thought , im going to b an engineer now and already engaged, still remember these feelings, its like ur last day alive .yes It happend to me !
I know this song was meant for sexual abused victims, but I feel like it can be applied to other situations as well. I feel the same with depression. No one gets it. Also, my partner of 12 years has moved to Seattle for a job and I miss him everyday. It really hurts so much being apart. This song makes me so sad about both situations.
iLoveTurtlesHaha ik
I also think this is perfect for those who suffers because of bad mental health, I resonate a lot with the lyrics because of this. Glad I'm not the only one who thought that!
I hope you are okay now. Sending love. X
How could a 12 year old get a job in Seattle???
TatTvamAsi awww dang I hope it gets better it’s
I’m 17 years old I was raped when I was 16. He was my friend.. and I trusted him. Now I suffer from anxiety, depression and insomnia. I have anxiety attacks very often and I can NEVER sleep without having a dream of him still on top of me. People always told me things were going to be okay and some people even asked me what I did to provoke him.. when I hear this song it makes me cry my eyes out because many people told me things like as if they were there. I don’t show my pain a lot because he made me feel weak and I never want to feel like that again. But just because I’m not crying doesn’t mean my soul is still in my body..
This beautiful song applies to so many things...
Never a song has made me so fucking sad.
I a greed even if its a year yuo lay out this messeges:)
but i even have too tell you , you a hansom and pretty my mail is ankzorin@gmail.com if you wamt too talk whit me and i.am a swedish girl :)
Agree...
Casthavian Leviathan same and yet have a powerful message.
Lost my 23yr old son in a car accident 2 years ago and I swear this song expresses EXACTLY how I feel! I know folks mean well but they have no idea, how it feels to suffer from a devastating loss! I miss him so much! The pain is still terrible!
I associate this song with 2 of the traumatic incidents in my like one being SA thee other a car accident in which I held my friend as he died. And when she says till your world burns and crashes it hits me in that spot..... no one knows what it's like till they're there. And I felt so much survivors guilt after I didn't wanna be alive if he wasn't alive with me. His mother was impossible to meet after and when I finally did I broke so fricken hard.... I was the one to break it to her never wish that on anyone I am so sorry you live it much much love hun❤
I love how the song could laterally could be about anything that's bad in the world like my moms husband abused me physically, verbally, and mentally and I'm trying to get stronger but ppl keep telling me is nothing and this song gives me strength
I'm so sorry that happened to you. 😭
its ok
+Kelly Jean my step father also abused me from the time I was 11 until I walked out the door at 17, then every time I made the stupid mistake to believe he had changed. My mother denies he ever did anything and even made up a stupid story about I was just seeking attention to the police and child workers and everyone else... I'm 28 now and it does get better but it doesn't go away. I saw a psychologist for 3 years and I've finally been able to start living my life again.... On top of that a chiropractor they trusted drugged and raped me twice when I was in my teens
+mini pet Damn....sorry that happened to you...and thanks
+Kelly Jean stay strong bby! ❤️
After being assulted every day for a year and a half you cant even comprehend how much this song is true, the journey of ptsd is one you make alone no matter how many people are around you
I am speechless! Looking through these comments is heart breaking. Anything that could happen to a person has happened to someone who has watched this and it breaks me. I hope that all of you are safe and well. Please be strong, if not for you, than for someone you love, because even though you may take your life, or run away from home, or anything else, you are giving pain to someone else that loves you. It may seem that that is your only option, but i promise you, it isn't. Things get better, i promise, it just takes time.
Stay strong
can u help me
I was sexually assaulted in college and never reported it because I didn't think the police would believe me. I didn't report it because I didn't want my parents to be ashamed of me. Because i didn't want them to judge me based on what i was wearing which btw was a sweat pants and shirt. I feel ashamed of it and still have a fear of sex and all till this day. I'm 27 now.
Anna Si they won't be ashamed of something that you didn't want for yourself. I'm so sorry that happened to you.
Its NOT your fault and don't feel ashamed about yourself!
Anna Si he took something from you, but that doesn’t mean you can’t take it back
I hope and pray you are doing well now and are able to be comfortable with your significant other. It's hard to trust again after such trauma. You will find yourself again and you will be okay! ❤
Whether it was a He, she or they, THEY are the ones who took something. Whether they made you agree under duress or didn't even bother and just took, THEY took. You have nothing to be ashamed of and I really hope that you've managed to overcome it to where you're happy.
When i was 13, my father sexually molested me. When i was 17 i was looking for a job to help my mother, and at one meeting i was locked up in a room and molested. Two days ago i was on a train, alone with a man who was jacking off while looking at me and if i tried to move he would have done worse. I suffer from anxiety and bpd and these things are one of the many reasons. I cannot stand near men without having anxiety or panic attacks. I'm insecure of my body due to these actions. I am trying my best to heal but i am always feeling ashamed, even though i have no fault. I am sending strenght and love to whoever is suffering by any type of abuse or mental illness, you are not alone. The fact that you're still here is the proof that you're stronger than anything that has happened to you. I feel for all of you
Being abused by Father is the worst kind of trauma one could get,and you survived this then I can't tell you and you yourself don't know how much strong you are.
More power to you. You're an inspiration for everyone going through abuse.
Never feel alone. If you ever feel like sharing anything,I am here to listen to you always...
God loves you a lot. Stay strong.
I was raped just two days ago. By a friend nonetheless. I'm still in pain and there's still blood but I can't tell anyone. I just wish I could die. I finally got back on my feet, after my eating disorder, my depression.
i know this from 3 years ago, but i was wondering if i can check up on you? are you okay now? i hope you kept and will keep on going strong ❤ it wasn't your fault
Omg. Screw them your so much better. Than that
Tell someone,if they don't believe you,tell me,I will leave a comment for them in this and you show it to them
Hey it’s been 3 years, I hope you have recovered and are doing well ❤️
I m a bit late but I send u love ❤️❤️
I was molested by my uncle when I was young. I was 15 when I raped and lost my virginity. 17 when I was raped by a family member. 18 when I got raped again by a friends boyfriend. My ex husband would force himself on me when I wouldn't give it to him. and then a few years ago I was violated again by a family member. And when I violated by family members, their reasons to it was because I was adopted. And even though I have been through a lot since childhood I struggle everyday with accepting myself. I did drugs and drank for 10 years. Tried to kill myself a few times. struggled with eating disorder. depressed. Aniexty. insomnia. PTSD. Years of struggling. And some days are better than others, and when those bad days come I have to look at my daughter and be grateful that I have a reason to live. a reason to be strong. a reason to move on. I am not a waste of skin like i have thought i was all these years. Thank you Lady Gaga for this song.
I hate family's like yours. I feel so bad for people like you. Just the thought of getting raped by a family member or a friends boyfriend is messed the hell up. I feel really sorry for you. Every time I even think about rape I want to smack a person. And I'm 12.
😓😢
Stay strong, sister.
God bless you.. I admire your strength...
You are a very strong person. Stay that way! Sending good vibes!
Victim blamers do not understand the gravity of emotional and social pain brings with rape and sexual assault. It ruins our sex lives and PTSD is a bitch to get through among other things. Im thankful that Gaga and countless victims understand. Telling our truth is the only way or else aggressors win.
Lady Gaga knows how it feels. What a song.
I was roofied at 14 and my entire family blamed me and no longer speaks to me this song brings me to tears every time I would love to meet Lady Gaga in person and I would just hug her you have to go through some shit to write and perform a song like this... She is truly amazing. I can only imagine how she would be in person!!! Respect!
I lost my son to suicide. He was 17. This hits home for me.
I am so sorry
@@sydneymitrecic Thank You.
How this song hasn't become more popular is beyond me.
I just lost my baby stillbirth two weeks ago. Everyone keeps saying “I know what it feels like” “God has a purpose” “things happen for a reason” I’m so angry I’m at the anger part of grief because no one knows this pain unless they’ve been through it and this song is what reminds me that unless someone’s been through it they’ll never understand 😓😢💔
This song doesn't just have to be about rape it can relate to other things also such as abuse or woman abuse. I wasn't raped but I was abused verbally and physically and I relate to these words and it honestly puts me in tears
It applies to many things
Me and two of my frineds has depression and everyone says it will get better, but they dont know how it feels. My two friends and the people who tell us it will get better need to listen to this song.
+NianCat224 I have depression too. Just keep your head up :)
Just depression in general
Please don’t Forget about men abuse. I was raped and sexually blackmailed for 7years. Men sexually abused also exist unfortunately
I lived my childhood growing up around pedophiles. My innocence was stolen from me at such a young age. I've been free from the abuse for about 10 years now, but it still weighs on me everyday. On the worst days I listen to this on repeat. I've loved gaga for a long time, and when this song came out I felt as if it was written for me💕 to anyone reading this who is currently or has survived childhood sexual abuse, just know you are not alone and that you will get through this💕
I hope you feel stronger every day. I'm sorry you had to experience that.
Sending love and healing your way ♥️ I can sympathise with how the effects last forever and weigh heavy on life - I was first abuse at 8, by someone we thought was a family friends, whilst standing in blessed robes in a sacristy as I prepared to serve holy mass. In case you have been told lately Your pain is real & valid you deserve as much time as you need to work through this ♥️ xx
@@donna8515 thank you so much for your kind words, it means a lot. I'm sorry you had to go through that as well, sending lots of love and healing your way too💕
@@blakeweikert6633 You weren't at fault. Never regret of not being able to do anything at that time.
You never deserved this amount of pain and you deserve to heal.
God loves you a lot,always remember..
@@justbreathing8003 thank you so much 💕
who else is sick of hearing "it's all in your head " ?
AH YES AND "Whatever you are freaking out about idnt happening, it's in the past" LIKE THATLL CALM ME DOWN GODDDD
i hope she takes the Oscar for this.
She honestly deserves that Oscar for this masterpiece
It was so beautiful to oscars
She didn't 😔
An Oscar is for movies
+Natalie Nash The band Muse won 'Best Original Song' at the Oscars this year. So no, it's not exclusively for movies.
I've been a victim of sexual assault. All I want to say is people like Gaga show us no matter what happens in life we can always make ourselves feel stronger. Yes I'm gay, yes I'm a survivor of suicide, yes I may not be the worlds best person but in the end we are all hero's. We are hero's to other's who are going through the same issues as we went through or still going through but most importantly we are each other's hero's. If you are going through or been through these kinds of thing I am truly and deeply sorry. If there is anything to get from this it is that YOU ARE A GODDAME SUPERSTAR AND YOU WERE BORN THIS WAY. WE LOVE YOU GAGA!!!!
~: The One Who Truly Loves You :~
I love this song 😍 I was molested by my dad as a kid. he is in jail now thank god but I am constantly being told by sister and grandma that it never happened. my mom believes me but told me I have to move on and get over it bc he is already being punished. I feel completely alone and I just don't know how to deal right now. just makes me feel better to know there are some that actually understand.
Same here, me dad raped me when i was younger, me grandma still doesn't believe me along with that whole side of the family, luckily though me mum and one of me sisters believe me and are supportive (He did it to me sister too, and me mum was molested as a child). He never went to jail for it though, but he is dying from some obscure thing that runs in the family, anyways. Always know you are never alone, there is always someone with a similar story that will support you, even if you don't know.
M Depression ❤️❤️❤️
Time is a healer
I was sexually abused at age 5. I didn't even know what was going on. I didn't tell anyone until a year ago. I'm 15 now.
Same. I was in kindergarden. I acted out in a sexual way after it happened and my mom shamed me. She was embarrassed by my behaviour. So I felt ashamed all these years. I told my parents about 4 years ago, when I was 30- but we have never talked about it. I´m still a mess emotionally at times.
I was three the first time and I still remember
I was molested and abused but I told in six grade. I'm 13 years old now and in 8 grade
Haley Melton the same here I know you feel and so sorry I hope you are doing better now
I send you all so much love and support, I'm sorry these awful things have happened to you
I've been molested for 8 years and raped 4 times. two being recent . This song hits me so hard. I realized though, I am not a victim. I am a survivor and I will continue to live and make all those little boys look like trash. I will not let it define me as a person. to whoever is struggle. I've been down that path and just know it truly gets better 💜
proud of you
best comments on UA-cam Thank you very much !!
❤❤❤ you're awesome!
Clarissa Cortez thanks ! I try to be hah
You are so strong! I hope you are better or getting there! I admire your strength!
Lady Gaga has the BEST voice ever!
Im a woman. I was sexually assaulted and almost raped by another woman last night. This song is helping me get through this hell I've suddenly been forced into; reading the comments makes me feel less alone. Female on female rape/ assault does happen if it's ever happened to you you know it can be just as damaging as male/ female sexual assault. If there are any other women out there who were assaulted by women I want you to know I love and understand your pain. It will be okay. We will be okay 💕🌼
I'm 15 I shouldn't be saying this but we've got this. It happens more often than people think and I've been called a liar and told to stop trying to ruin her life (I was 13 and she was 16)
I'm so sorry that happened honey. I completely believe you, and I know for a fact that there are other people out there that will believe you too. Don't ever listen to people that are trying to shut you up; they have no right to silence you. I've also been told I'm ruining my abusers life and sometimes feel guilty for going after her, but I have to remember that she brought this upon herself my doing this to me in the first place. It's her fault. Men aren't the only ones that do it; its 2022, we should understand this by now and anyone that thinks it's impossible between two women or it can't happen is closed minded and stuck in the very distant past. Much love, we are gonna get through this!
@@moonflowerchild7636 Thank you so much.
This song speaks to me a lot because I lost my father to cancer a few years ago and people keep telling me it's time to move on, and that i've already mourned for too long, and now it seems everyone kinda ran out of patience with my pain. Every time I try to move on with my life I just end up coming back to the awful memories of my dad's struggle for survival, and it makes me unable to function normally. Everyone suddenly wants to tell me how to feel and criticise me for how I am dealing with my grief. This song gave me some comfort to stop blaming myself for mourning and to stop listening to what those people say. Thank you Gaga.
+Bella Eis Sometimes some people don't really know what it's like to lose a very close family member, they don't realize that that person won't ever come back. It's a very hard situation and I understand the struggle. But I promise you, time will heal! Cry all you need to cry, be free! Pour your emotions out, it's okay to grief and express the pain. Do what you gotta do, at some point you will eventually get better :).
+Ivy Klein My Great Great Aunt just died, I don't know if I'm sad or not. I've only cried because I didn't feel sad about her dying, maybe it's because my whole family wad joking about how she set the new goal to live to, but at her funeral my uncle, her son, was bawling, nor at the moment but thinking about him being alone made me upset. I don't know why your comment reminded me of him like that, but it did.
I had the same. My daughter sent me this song. As I watched him die, I couldn't breathe. I was lost. I still am not OVER IT as ppl say I should be and it was Feb 14 2016 at 5:30pm
Everyone mourns in their own time, handle grief in their own way. There is no set time to grieve. Keep going & crying feels good! You know you are a deeply feeling person who is not afraid to FEEL & feel ALIVE💜💜💜
Its the first time I have heard Lady Gaga sing about something deep. She should do it more often. Her voice is so beautiful and can make you feel what she is saying. I am not putting her other music down, they are awesome. but I really enjoy the personal side as well. She has the talant to make people feel when she strips it down.
I suffer from anxiety, and I feel really alone sometimes because it feels like no one understands or they give me the "everyone goes through it" like tha means what I'm going threw isn't that big a deal. It's harder some days then others but reading all these comments and listening to this amazing song makes me know I'm not alone and knowing I have great friends and family never hurts either.
Stay strong! I know I'm just a random person on the internet but I believe in you. There's no obstacle you have failed to overcome yet!
Freya Baldwin-Stuart Thank you so much!!! This made my day.❤
Parker Nelson I think most people associate anxiety with nerves which is so wrong. I get nervous, but I've seen people have anxiety attacks and I've never had anything close to that. It's a real issue that's dismissed rather than understood! It's really great that you were able to share that! Just think, someone else with anxiety probably read that and realized they're not so alone.
Freya Baldwin-Stuart So, true, anxiety and nerves are so different. I really hope this will help someone out there who thinks their alone.
Parker Nelson I have had anxiety and panic attacks in the past. When I was in 2nd grade, I would have an emotional breakdown. There were times where I thought no one wanted to be friends with me, and I felt isolated.
The guy who showed me this song.. later that week abused me after I just came out of an abusive relationship less than a year ago and got sexually assaulted and destroyed when he raped me and after promising he wouldn’t hurt me and then turning around and doing the same shit.. to the survivors you got this . You are a fighter and you are loved no matter what you’ve been through you are so strong. ❤️
you are so brave for telling your story. i hope you're in a safer place now
5 years on and I still remember it as of it was yesterday, my love to all sexual abuse survivors. It makes us stronger 👊🏻
I was a victim of sexual assault. It's not easy. One and a halve years ago I was a bright and happy 12 year old. The day after Valentines Day? I was a little girl terrified to tell my mom that the day before, I became pure no more, and I truly felt dirty. The age of my perp is truly disgusting. He was 17. No shame in taking advantage of a little girl. Well, his actions caused this little girl to self harm, and hurt. Attempted suicide. Depression, Anxiety, fear of guys. Loss of friends. Emptiness. I have no others words than these. Real men don't rape.
I'm so sorry that happened to you. If you ever need a spiritual hand to hold, I'll be that hand.
These lyrics are so true to life. The garbage judgement people have to hear if they are hurting, grieving or suffering loss. So many callous, insensitive people out there.
This song fits me so well. I lost my first son of Robert 3yrs old 1981 and now my baby boy Stacey 35yrs. This song is so how i feel. How the are you to tell me how to feel. True fact no one know till it happens to you. Thank you for this song hits my heart and is so true.
I heard this song when I wrote an essay about my personal experience with sexual assault and it the nail right on the head. Lady gaga's voice is the echo that resonates in every survivor's heart. I sobbed the first time I heard it with the music video.
As a victim of rape this song really fucking gets to me..
MonstehDinosawr I understand 100 percent
MonstehDinosawr congrats
Nekron Cifer Why would you say that?
Here's to praying that what happened to me will NEVER happen too you! Lovely song.
falling back into my eating disorder habits, battled bulimia and anorexia through the 4 years of high school, feel like I'm barely hanging on to fight it back now in my first year of college - this song means the world to me
I can honestly relate to this song and I wish I didn't. This can be for people who have been bullied, sexually abused, or physically abused, and etc. not just people who have been sexual assaulted. It honestly made me cry and I remembered what happened to me. It's a really good song. 💖
If people were raped because of what they were wearing...why was I raped at 7, I was wearing a t-shirt and pants...
I'm really sorry that happened to you! I was raped at 19 and it was horror to overcome, but I can't imagine what you went through. You're a very strong, resilient person! :)
It wasn't your fault. Remember that always.
I was raped at 16 (a month ago) wearing a t shirt and sweat pants..
I'm 15 and was wearing a hoodie and pants on my way to school it's been a week and I just wish this whole situation would just disappear so things could be okay again I hate having to repeat and relive what happened over and over for doctors and cops
This song reminds me of the years following my dad's stage 4 cancer diagnosis. Very few people my age could relate to the nausea inducing terror that comes with knowing your parent's barely clinging to life. It has gotten better over the years, i will admit, but everytime my peers joke about terminal illnesses such as cancer i feel like crying just a little bit more.
I lost my dad to brain cancer last August. He was diagnosed at stage 4 and he only lived for another 6 weeks. A lot of people have told me things like, “You have to be strong. He wouldn’t want you to be so sad.” I’m feeling much better than I was before, but I still have moments when I really miss him. I just don’t know how anyone can expect me to be the same person I was after watching my own father die so suddenly.
My heart goes out to the victims who were unjustly sexually assaulted, raped, physically abused and/or verbally abused. We live in a crazy world where the victims (including women) are blamed for what they didn’t do and their assailants aren’t and that makes me pissed off.
If everybody cared enough about the victims and supported them, we wouldn’t be in this hell hole that were in now.
I was raped and molested for two years straight from my mother at only age 3, this video always makes me cry. just know if you're assaulted always know you're never alone
any type of abuse is not okay
The comments on this video alone pulled me from a dark place.
I just wish I could have found justice for what he did. He stole my childhood. My innocence. My life. Because of him, I dont know how to live life outside of fear, anger and shame.
So many folders of suicide notes, so many scar to end the pain.
This is the first time hearing this song. I am going thru depression and this song has hit close to home. Lost my kids father, my husband unexpectedly 3 years ago and then lost my sister in law Christmas Eve last year to suicide. It's crazy how you hear a song and can relate on such a personal level
I read this was intended for victims of rape, but I think it extends to all those who suffer from mental illness. From depression to bipolar to schizophrenia. Unless you've been there, you don't know.
and Asperger's
Amy Soderstrom so true❤️
Amy Soderstrom just anyone who's dealt with any abuse whether it be sexual as intended or physical or emotional. It makes sense with all. Especially emotional as it's the least understood and the hardest to talk about for the fact no one believes you because it's not "provable" words aren't provable but they still hurt just as much if not more than being hit or punched. -Coming from a person who's been in all.
Amy Soderstrom I have schizoaffective disorder, I don't tell many people, because they might think I'm crazy, but I'm still fighting it
I’m balling my eyes out I remember my 15 year old self listening to this crying , depressed , so done with life , I remember one night I was so frustrated, and anxious I felt like my whole world was crumbling so I wanted to end my life I was going thru a lot at that time :( , but now here I am 3 years later stronger than ever and I’m glad I didn’t do anything stupid that night , cause I would’ve have missed on a lot of great things
My mom went through this, she had to live with it for the rest of her life.
I remember when she told me, and it all made sense. It made sense why she never left me alone with men, when I was young. It made sense why my Grandmother was protective of her, my sister, and me.
1 in 6 women experience sexual assault in there life, as well as some men do.
If it weren't for the strong women in my family, I could've been one of them, too.
Don't ever forget to stand up for women/men who have went through this, and to protect others, especially young girls and boys.
This song is so relatable i've been sexual , physically and mentaly abused. to all the survivors i wanna say Just know your realy strong and its Never your fault!!
I am sorry this happened to you... you are so strong and brave. I hope you are doing ok💜.
@@onthiscouncilbutnotasajedi2000 thank you so much ❤ im doing better now i have trauma therapy❤
@@marjonzandstra7710 I'm really glad you are making steps to feel better 🙏, you deserve the best 💜. Keep hope up 🙏, you'll be even better, I believe in you. Also, thanks for taking time to reply to me 🙏
@@onthiscouncilbutnotasajedi2000 ❤️ your welcome🥰🤗
@@onthiscouncilbutnotasajedi2000 thank you so much for believing in me🥺❤️
For those struggling with any kind of pain (in my personal case anxiety and depression), i want you to know that i do believe you.
This fits so many sorrows and hardships. First heard regarding lymphedema.. but also touched my cancer..the loss if a child..my friends sexual abuse. Amazing song ...
This is perfect for those of us who have lost loved ones to Covid. It’s a special kind of grief. Those who know, KNOW, and I’m sending you love.
I'm also going through depression myself. Mainly PTSD.
My overall point is not so long ago, a former family friend violated me. He sodomized me with a weapon and was calling me things like "promiscuous slut and whore" while he was sexually assaulting me. I reported the incident and it got back to him, he tried to turn my whole family against me and I tried to kill myself three times because of that. So no. I'm not going to forgive that person tomorrow, next month or next year cause he was doing what he can to make me kill myself. And it bothers me, that situation almost everyday. And I am having a hard time getting over it.
be strong my angel and love the life you live cause you only live one
I was abused form about when I was born to about 12 years old and molested form about 7-9 or 10. I tired killing my self and I was depressed I was bullied at school and no one cared. when I was in six grade I came out with it and he was sent to prison 8 years to life. I was depressed up until September 4, 2016. I love life and I don't forgive him or her I'm just mad or sad at him and her. I'm more sad then mad. but one thing I'm really grateful is.. I held on. I went throw all the hell but I was happy I didn't give up I'm in 8th grade. and I'm happy I'm alive. just don't give up and you don't have to forgive him. I don't plus it will take time. your a survivor and I'm a survivor people don't understand anything until they walked what you walked. the names he and she called be are in my mind but I'm fighting them off. I will always have that fight. I'm hoping that fight will go away for you. just don't ever give up. your a survivor.
The worst scars are rarely physically seen.
I am mentally sick and that is a result of growing up being abused. Some people try to act as if they know what it could be like and insist I move on but they haven't experienced half of what I have, so what makes them think that is within their right? They don't know what it's like growing up without love. Sometimes I just want to be depressed. At this point, I'm scared to let go of my sadness because it is the one thing that has remained faithful to me.
To anyone who is a victim of any form of abuse, please seek help. Please speak up. It is music to my ears when I hear others who have experienced abuse have been saved and placed under better circumstances.
Only God has gotten me through my worst times. No one on this Earth can say anything to me to take away my pain.
i know the song is about rape but it could also be about soldiers who suffer from PTSD if you think about it
It could be for anyone
That's why i love this song it could be for anyone
It took me a while to listen to this song mainly because I was really afraid the video/ song would be triggering but listening to it. I really appreciate that a song was written for it. I never imagined how much it would impact me until I was finally able to process it. My attacker will probably never know anything except that I couldn't stop crying the night it happened. I'm glad the conversation is being opened up and we are finally talking because it truly hurt when people wouldn't believe that I was telling the truth
I’m crying as I’m writing..
I was raped when I was 5 till 12 (uncle )... I didn’t speak no one would believe me ..my ex husband abuse me for 12 yrs ..physical and mentally...I told my dad he didn’t do anything...felt betrayed hurt disappointment...
This song has touch me in so many levels ..I’m not alone ..is a battle that I keep fighting just to keep my head up and smiling even though it feels like stumble on my knees and ask why God ..why didn’t you protect me ..
Proud of you !hope you are okay
It’s okay bb. Everything will be ok ❤️
@@maheenkarim9046 I’m trying still , ty .
@@We-wv3wk thank u !!.. it’s a constant fight
I've been bullied,raped,beaten, I've got major depression and suicidal thoughts I feel it everyday....the loneliness :'( Idk. What to do nothings getting better....LADY GAGA IS MY IDOL WOULDN'T I GIVE TO MEET HER *Cries hugging myself*
I love how simple the lyrics are but they convey so much and her voice carries so much emotion. People forget what a talented singer Gaga is under all her weird.
It's been 9 months. I was with friends, we traveled together for a music festival. Before that I thought I was safe, I could put my hands in the fire for him. He was my "bro", we could share the same bed and nothing would happen. Turns out I couldn't even enjoy drinking with them cuz he just took advantage of me...and all I can remember is saying "no" and him saying to shut up cuz otherwise he would stop and he knew I didn't want that. The next day he gave me a high five cuz "we did it"
I still don't remember anything else, but everytime I remember what happened i feel disgusted, used and like I'm worth nothing
You weren't at fault. Never regret of not being able to do anything the first time.
You never deserved this amount of pain and you deserve to heal.
God loves you a lot,always remember..
@@justbreathing8003 thank you, hearing that is always helpful
I love how this song doesnt only talkes about sexual assault and rape, but also make you fill in the blanks.
My dad died when i was 1, my steph-dad died when i was 12. After that it went like a rolling train. My neighbour died, my both grandpa's died and i was not myself anymore.
People ask me how to help me, how they could save me, but only one thing i could think of. "You can't help me, because you don't know how i feel, how it went, how emotional broken i am".
But also, if i read all these comments, look how we all got together to lissen to this, what we all been true, how it makes us understand somewhat each other.
Thank you Lady Gaga, for singing words that puts many people's lives into more perspective without having a consistent repeated display of painful conversations. Thank God for your soulful eternal Love.
this is such an empowering song.. I was 12 when it happened and it was my parents friend who was staying with us at the time... ill have nightmares here and then about being back in the situation and just hearing the words and pain all over again.. its gut wrenching. this song just amazes me
I've been in every abuse imaginable. Sexual abuse at age of 9 by my childhood best friends older brother and I told no one till I was 14 and it was to an online friend. My mom is physically abusive. And I was in two emotional/verbal abusive relationships this year. And all my friends like to make remarks about them but they don't even know how I feel or how I felt. So this really speaks to me and really gives me the chills.
I hate when people say to “just be happy” when they don’t know what it feels like to be struggling with depression.
I love this song because 99.9% of the time i am a survivor with a brave face, nobody knows my shit. But when i listen to this its like it gives me permission to cry and be the victim i know i am inside.
I have been going through depression and anxiety for the past 2 years of my life due to things that have happened to me. I admire all of you and your strength to keep fighting. We may be broken inside but we are still here on this earth fighting each day.. and that is amazing. Never give up.
One of her best songs, way underrated, this goes out to all the people who are always saying “it gets better”, does it really?