Narcissists keep you in a state of confusion. Narcissists tell everyone behind your back you are abusing them, so when you break up you are the crazy one. Narcissists tell you they care and their actions never match their words. Narcissists breadcrumb you. Narcissists prey on the kind of person that believe their is good in everyone.
A narcissist captures its victim through a technique called love bombing. They prey on emotion for fuel to their ego. They go for the very very strong because of the light the shines from the strong. The narcissist envies that energy, success and fruit of your hard work. Once you’ve been captured then the narcissist begins to devalue you (all of your good qualities become flaws and insults). Once a narcissist ciphers all they can then they move to the disgusted phase. If you encounter a narcissist run away like your life depended on it
The truth is that we knew from the beginning. We felt that something was wrong even though we couldn’t identify what it was. If you have ever had to mourn a person who still lives, you are strong. You finally fought to save your own self. Never forget what it took you to survive.
Maybe this will encourage someone. I've been in this situation and it is really hard to get over a narcissist...took me years. After my last relationship I realized it and I took a good hard look at myself. I took accountability and asked God to help me see myself. I learned to love myself and understood my worth and what I deserved, learned how to be secure on my own. I know how to spot a narcissist, and now I'm one of those women they know they cant try it with. I pray everyone who has fallen victim to a narcissistic person can find their strength, and realize their value and worth. 💜
Thanks for sharing. It is all about us. Always. But especially about people using us. My both parents had too many narcissistic traits. It was familiar for me just giving and being discarded made me try more...i m on way to heal. I was very strong in no contact and he was standing at my door after 7 months. That broke me again seeing him and hearing he wants to be friends now...i refused of course. I was not the same person after 7 months. People like us need to concentrate only on ourselves never on them..
It is very hard to leave a narcissistic,they turn everyone against you so you wouldn't have no help no friends no family kick you out on the streets it was horrible...so I encourage you to go talk to a therapist you can not do it alone it helped me so much much love to you all
@@RL-ml5uq I seen mine narc a couple of weeks ago in the store I ran so fast I don't wanna hom close to me I pray everyday to keep him out my path and so far so good
Unless they pretend to be ok with it in the beginning then 3 months later show something different. You've got to have an extensive list and giving it time needs to be included.
Trauma bonding keeps you hooked on the crazy roller coaster. They sell you a dream and deliver a nightmare. You have to set boundaries. You do have to learn to love yourself.
Because they don’t start like that. They start a relationship that feels awesome. Like your in a fairytale. They wait until they know you in. Then these ugly traits come out.
I think that I was picked by a narcissist because I'm a major giver and I'm patient with people and I do whatever I can to accommodate their wants, needs and comfort. I respect nearly every boundary someone sets. I will bend over backwards to make my partner happy and I don't put myself first. I'm overly forgiving because I try to understand that nobody is perfect and we all make mistakes and I forgive how I would hope to be forgiven.
I am the same. I do nothing but everything for anyone no matter what. I want everyone to be happy without consideration for myself. Stay away from Virgo men! Especially Libras! Libras will fall for a narcissist hook, line & sinker. Please build a backup system (with ur best friend, the person you KNOW EVERYTHING about is ur best friend whether u know it or not). They r the person that will save you from urself - including that narcissist.
I can relate. Yet you and I and every person in a relationship is worthy of respect, and should be able to expect that they are not the only ones trying to make it work. We need to make ourselves our priority, ensure we protect ourselves. If our needs can not be met and there is no effort made to attempt then we need to realize that their companionship is not as nice as being alone. If your partner is not willing to be an asset to you, but often instead uses what they learn about your biggest fears, your weak spots, when they learn how to pull your puppets strings, to bring forth the reaction they want. And if you speak truth to power they will smear your name or plain make you look like the crazy one to further alianate you from people. Narcissists are notoriously hungry for attention, a mothers love, they are often deeply unhappy people, often are the most jealous most insecure people that just put on a big bad man/ woman front. But dont just talk to those people but sit back and think of what was said and then recognize the red flags for what they are. Once more Ace is 100% right.
Narcissists are very good at charming in the beginning because this is how you get hooked. Once they are done using you. They ghost you. Because they never gave a damn from the get go. They on to the next.
I was raised by my mother and father who were and are narcissistic. Its hard to live with that type of person, hard to love or care about myself. I was never good enough everything i did was wrong. If your born with narcissistic parents. By the time you reach adult hood all those things they said and did to you that you hated that you couldn't understand why or what you did why didnt your parents love you like other parents love their children. But youll realize that some of their narcissistic metal thinking those tendencies you will catch yourself doing . if your lucky that is if you were strong enough to somehow make it through. I noticed i was doing things treating people i loved the way i was. But i realized i didnt like it i lost people i cared about. Its taken everything i have that i am to fight to change and fix myself, to undo the damage that was and had been silently and secretly put in my mind for me to assume and belive that being mis treated hurt mentally abused as well as treating others that way was normal. I used to pray and beg to god every night every day for me to die i hated myself so much because nothing i did no matter how great or good i did how much i apoligied tried to be their perfect golden child. I was always punished pushed aside constantly reminded that i was nothing that everything that ive ever done or learned was because of them. That id never be anything with out them. So i ran away and not thinking, or maybe i was but i met the. Mother of my daughter and i fell in love with her. I gave her everything i could all myself as a wholer mind body and soul. And just like my mother and father nothing i ever did was good enough. Again i was reminded non stop how usely worthless i was, it was as if i was a child again hearing my mother and father. By the time i realized i had fell so unremarkably in detph love with girl who was the same way had the same thing my parennts had as a narcissistis. It was to late she was pregnant with my daughter, i promised myself that i would never leave her never hurt her or treat her the way i was and have been treated, that id always protect her keep her safe from those type of people from the evil people in the world. I dont belive in haveing a broken family. So i stayed, i discovered as long as i was their her mothers narcissistic personality was never directed towards our daughter. Instead i took it all i began going out of myway puting myself in the line of fire to be miss treated and abused, i thought i saved and found away to keep my daughter safe from being hurt. I had no idea how wrong i was, when ever her mom was around or came home she started not wanting me to leave her side if i was holding her she would grip on to me do anytyhing she could to keep me out of her mothers sight. She was trying to protect me, i didnt think she understood or that she could tell could see yet alone feel how badly broken and hurt i was. Once i found out that by trying to keep our family together keep my daughter safe. Was still some how hurting her. We left and the funny thing is as bad as her mother treated me i still had this unconditional unexplainable love for her. But even tho i knew how bad what i was about to do was gonna hut also knowing i would never forgive myself over failing my family because i wasnt stong enough. I had one job one task as a man as a father as the girl i loved man man, because i was so afraid so pathetic and week i failed and let my family down. To make it wose i told the girl i love still to this day, i told her i didnt love her to her face that we didnt want or need her anymore. I had to lie tto her in order to stop our daghter being hurt by how things were. Im not saying that narcissistim is genetic but ive lived through it exspiriance it first hand for the majority of my life. I can tell you for a fact that most people who are narcissis became that way from it being imprinted onto them. No matter how soon your able to realice or catch that youve became a monster just as bad as those who did what they did to you. Its exstreamly difficult to change to stop.
That's completely right exactly kinda shit my x did i never even heard of a narcisst s oi Didn't look out for it . Fb is first place I ever even heard of it. And I will forever be more sceptics before I give my heart out again
I dated one once for 5 years. It never happened again. I didn’t see it than. He taught me about mofos like him. N-e-v-e-r again! I trust ppl till they show me diffetent. I’m good at good byes. I rather be happy and single than with anyone treating me like that again. I watch their words and their actions make sure they line up. Your absolutely right ace these mofos look for weak ppl. It’s sad but true. Don’t ignore the red flags!
The truth is soul-ties can keep you connected to a narcissist individual. The narcissistic person is very charming and if you exhibit codependency then you all are a perfect destructive match. It's deeper than this video can even touch on.
And not just the soul ties. You have to be so consumed with them, their everything, that it's even harder to break loose than a normal relationship. I divorced mine after six years and I had to be so involved in every bit of his life, so Into him, giving up "me", that it's hard to just walk away. You have to retrain yourself and relearn to love and think and care about yourself again. It's a long road.
tamara jones I was dealing with a narcissistic man that preyed on me from jump. People told me to leave him, I tried but their was a stronger power. Im glad to say I’m free from that man. Thank you all for the comments really gave me clarity and a peace of mind. Yes it is a long road but I’m willing to make that trip to relearn/relove myself because he didn’t win I DID WHEN I LEFT HIS ASS!
They are like hermit crabs. They will show up like a fairy tale prince and charm their way into you life and use your kind heart as a shell of their confidence to get what they want. They are attracted to whatever is new, or hot... like a child seeing a flashy toy. They also have no realistic views of the world. 100% they feel like the deserve the best of everything even without putting in the work. They will throw a fit and manipulate ppl for not giving them what they want. They are irresponsible with money and chase wild dreams pretending to be bigger than who they are so that outwardly they appear confident and stable. They love to play mind games like the silent treatment and also baiting arguments or talking behind people’s backs. They are jealous of everyone else. They are never satisfied. They are the selfish lovers of a relationship, the messy co-worker, or the person who pretends to have their life together just because they want some type of notoriety. They watch alot of tv/movies and actually play like they are acting out movie roles in real life. They are extremely private and they don’t share real emotions about themselves. They hold on to the idea that being a logical person makes them better. They want you if you’re a smart person or attractive person and it’s like they only want you to look good for the image. They are super boring nothing about them is interesting they just love the fantasy of being this super important person. They are afraid that someone will get close enough to them to see under that fake mask.
We get involved because they portray someone as prince charming (if a guy). They seem to be too good to be true. Slowly but surely the layers come off. They're a wolf in sheep clothing. Trust me, if I knew what I know now.. I'd would've looked the other way
Omg and the narcissist is also the greatest accuser ever! Iv'e been accused of things that's so beneth me. Outside of the relationship they are charming people. They win the hearts of the people that's closest to you and potray the perfect gentlmen role and make your family fall in love with them and when u adress his problem to your family they act like you're the crazy person. 😩The Narc will bearly notice you when your're in their presence! You can't even have a heart to heart conversation with them, if you do the convo is all about them. They also love to deny your conformation. Lets say I may have heard an announcement on the radio they will say "there was no anouncment"or "that's not what was said it was something else"! I swear this man had me questioning my f***ing sanity! Thank god I got out that situation! Shew
This was painful to watch. I feel like I've been preyed on by everyone that's in my life right now. My daughter is the only legit one. Everyone else needs a boot, including some family. My relationship can be poison. Couldn't listen to a "friend" about the relationship because she was poison herself and she made that obvious 5 years into my relationship. I'm surrounded by toxic people because I've always trying to be caring and loving my and understanding. The way I should be!!!!! But it's been abused and used. I'm so afraid I'll never be able to keep my good after I fight my way thru this. Sending love and good vibes to all the girls going thru this. Hang in there sis!💞✨
@@ceauxlah it can't stay bad forever hun, it's what I always say. Learning to keep my mind and heart healthy has worked. I know you're going to get thru it 💞
@@ceauxlah I know what you mean 😟 I had to check your channel to see if my next bit of advice would help or hinder. But I see you have a manifestation playlist 🙌🏾💞 you are so on your way love, I promise! Abraham Hicks, Bob Proctor, Les Brown, Earl Nightengale 30 Day Secret and Pastor Keion Henderson. That is literally my formula for raising myself from my dark place. I've still got growing to do, but my God those people and their videos have been monumental for me. I really hope this helps. Who am I kidding, i already know it will work. And it already has✨
I am a Empath who loves people in general and this is how I was raise from a loving family which has a lot going on in the business world and people genuinely love me. It's sad Narcissists sure do pick healthy good genuine real people with cool things going on, talents, hobbies, persona, happy with charisma and good character, loving and loyal with empathy to mirror you call you “The love of your life” to then idolize, devalue, discard you as you are catching on or at a your weakest. They destroy all the great qualities of you to repeat the same cycle on you over and over again till they get bored again. They love bomb you with words on top of all of that to keep you off guard and balance as they slowly withdraw love and intimacy and affection. You don’t go from being called “The love of someone’s life” “Cant live without them” and future fake plans, marriage, baby’s to then ghost, be indifferent and discard someone like a drop of a dime and silent treatment someone throwing them away like trash. That is not normal and most definitely not love or loyalty or someone who cares about you. That’s not someone who values you. I meet my own needs a day at a time. Thank you for this dark but factual truth.
Thank you for this video. Thank you. It's not as easy to avoid as you think because they come at you as someone else. They prey on empaths.Then later when they're held accountable they show their true selves.
This is so true. 6 years ago I was in a situation where I could’ve potentially lost my life when I was in a relationship with a narcissist. He was my first boyfriend and I was overly giving and understanding, so naive, didn’t understand boundaries and who I was etc etc...That was an experience like no other and all Ive been confidently able to say is NEVER AGAIN...At the end of the day I feel like that experience needed to happen because it forced me to value myself and have enough strength to leave and embark on a journey of loving myself and becoming even more self reflective and aware. Since then I have not had any other relations with narcissistic men...IM JUST NOT HERE FOR IT. PERIOD. Men and Women....WHEN YOUR GUT SHOWS YOU THEM RED FLAGS...DO NOT BECOME TOO UNDERSTANDING OF THEM ALL BECAUSE YOU LIKE TO BELIEVE NO ONE IS PERFECT...LEAVE...or your spirit and potentially your life could depend on it.
I stumbled across this video and I wanna say Thank You so much. I just broke up with someone who Gaslighted me for 4yrs and had me to believe he really love me when he Never wanted to do anything with me and Always putting others Before me. It was always some type of Excuses that I just got tired of him Draining me Emotionally and Mentally. Plz pray for me cause I feel I’ve loss self and I’m just tryna Recover from the Spirit as I say Soul-ties of this individual.😔
Man he is telling the truth, once you look past the red flags, and you try to see good, you are a fool, there is no good there, he going to drain your soul dry, I feel sorry for you, I really do, because it's going to take a very long time to get back what you've lost, your whole perspective will change for real
Because they catch you when you're vulnerable. I was in a 31 year marriage that wasn't good. He came to me because I was lacking several things in my life. He gave me everything I was missing in the beginning. That's their charming you time. Ace is right they do hook you. For me I went back 3 times. I've finally decided to let go of him now, for my own well being. Thank you Ace!!!
Thank you Ace ! All so true ! Keep telling the truth just like that it’s needed! I was married 10 years and was treated like a rental car not even a used car. I went back to therapy to work on myself and I left once I realized I didn’t love myself and the damage that was being done to me and my kids watching this horror movie . I know my value now and I’m slowly but surely building myself back up and I’ve watched videos like this to help pick me up along the way . Thank you your saving souls
I just fell upon this video after a year dealing with my second narcissist. One thing I will add to the conversation is that after awhile of being around the narcissist I was always drinking or inebriated. It was the only way my spirit could tolerate the illusion. Otherwise in a sober state I could not fathom the presence of this devil. Love&Light💛
Thank you. You are talking on me. I am a huge Target. I am that person who is too loving and giving. I know I need to learn willpower. I can see all signs but like you said, I stay because of love, loneliness and caring. I appreciate that tough love you preach!!!❤
When I tell you I saw it coming... Literally I saw it coming. Went from being Nice & Attentive to a Str8 bully overnight. If I questioned Anything or said something he didn't like... He would go Completely Off almost immediately. Telling me I'm insecure and to stop projecting bc I look guilty, or that I'm "replaceable"... LOL He was crazy to even think I aligned with any of those characteristics seeing as though it's Obvious I'm Don't. A narcissist will truly have you believing you're a bad person but when you know better you do better. I'm so comfortably comfortable in my Own skin his words ( text messages for the most part) would just go in 1 ear and out the other. He knew I wasn't falling for it which made him MORE mad. Be aware of your surroundings hunny, and if something seems wrong, there's usually something wrong... But the Wrong isn't You ♥️♥️ I'm Soo glad he posted this video, && Soo proud of you Ace for your thorough talk.
Actually some narcissists deliberately target those with high self esteem as they see them as a conquest to bring down. Huge boost to their ego. Many expressions of narcissism
Very charming, people !!! Everyone Outside your relationships Loves them! They portray a very loving helpful individual to everyone outside your intimate relationship. Eventuall, you start seeing red flags (Empaths) in time and get the strength to escape in order to th stay free or not become a statistic!! Absolutely!!!
Narcissistic people see qualities in you that they do not see in themselves! They compliment you on those qualities to bate you in and then tear you down for having them all because they don't! Narcissistic people want to strip you in every area that they lack confidence in. 🙏🏾8yrs in a relationship with a Narcissist & now 2yrs Free🙌🏾.
Great job on encouraging everybody. You have to hold yourself accountable. Only you can control what happens to you. Your destiny is yours. The voice that's within you, listen to her because 9 times out of 10 she is always right.
I believe that some of this behavior is consistent with generational curses. Before anyone bash me please look it up to see what the definition is then maybe you’ll understand and see the comparisons.
Wow, sitting here and a friend told me about Ace Metaphor.. I am in the process of divorcing a Narcissistic person after 8 and a half years and everything you just said described him to a tee. I kept thinking he would change, he would soften, he would start to care more..after being separated 8 times in 8 years,,Now I know he wont change. I lost myself in trying to find him. Im not mad about it beacause I now know what I want and what I need. Ladies love yourself,, I was so depressed,, down in the dumps,, I was a mere shell of the woman he married almost 9 years ago....I kept putting my needs off,,if he loves you for real, he will put your needs absolutely first
Hey Tasha Allen, ive been married for 13 going on 14 years and I have to push myself to get out of bed everyday. Do you have children ? How did you finally get the strength to leave? I'm a caregiver and I have a hard time getting over to their house. He doesn't want me to work, and after we argue I tell myself that ive had enough, that I need to get a full time job and then when I think about going to apply for a job, I think to myself that I have a hard time getting out of bed to work a few hours a day, how am I supposed to get a full time job, I feel so exhausted . and I have a son as well and I know I have to make a change, but his father looks at me and basically is saying that my son will want to go with him, he says "you wait and see, he sees how you are" he pushes and pushes me until I cant take it anymore and go off. Ive never been in a relationship where someone is screaming at me and everytime I try to say something he cuts me off and talks over me. I guess I would like to see how other women handle leaving their husbands and do what they need to do.
Society needs HELP, man!! Thank you for keeping it 💯 The crazies need help, too: the pediphiles, mass murderers, gun lovers, cheaters, compulsive liers, drug attics, drunks, gamblers & the list goes on- the anger monsters, thieves, etc.
You are so correct. There is NOT one lie here. Thank God I’m on the other side of a narcissistic relationship. It’s insane the amount of times they put you through those same cycles. Having a big heart will have you looking stupid as hell. I would never do these things to people, so it never crosses my mind that someone would do it to me. I see now people can be treacherous with a smile.
He tried it, approached me after a abuse recovery FB post. He didn't realize God had completely healed me, filled me with so much love that I still tell him I love him yet refuse to rekindle any relationship. Funny God gave me a career as the account manager over his team, God flipped the script...Look at me now and he is scared of me👀. It's not going down like that.. Warrior Queen...Boy Bye
Everything on point. Exactly acted like the most confident, yet broken into nothingness. So I literally gave time and patience thinking the brokenness was the problem. However over a period of two months, I realized the conversation changed, the devalue of my character in his eyes, was left feeling unimportant, and was giving more and more. But the thing is Ace I have always been confident with myself, however he found my weakness as being a giver. And ran with it. And I blame myself bc I should have put a stop to it at any time and I choose not to. Until enough was enough with the explosive behavior. When attention wasn’t on him. Thank you for your videos! Your amazing continue your calling!
Yo my dude!! This video is REAL TALK. I had to take accountability and really figure out why I was in relationships with men with Narcissistic tendencies. I had to take my sad naive ass to therapy lol 😂😜 I was the constant and if I want change I gotta.put.in the work. Thanx for making.this video bro!
You're so spot on Ace. Thank you for this. Being with a true Narcissist is a total mindfuck. They truly are master manipulators and are experts in breaking down the human spirit. Much love kiddo! 💜
They come as a good emphatic person as the relationship develops they start manifesting their trades they focus on empathetic people people with good heart and good moral compass when I got with my ex-narcissistic wife for 8 years I was on a vulnerable state of mind I had gone through some things that’s another thing that they look for vulnerability. I have done the work I have learn and study all about narcissist behavior and mental disorders. Self love is where is at.
I've been married to a narcotic for 23 years and am in the process of divorcing him. These videos are just incredible and I can so relate to everything. For years I didn't realise what was happening. It's taken me 7 years to get to this point, I needed to build myself up again.
This conversation really hurt my feelings; but because it's so true! It worked on me and I never held them accountable,due to things that happened to me at a young age
Wow , I am speechless! You gave it to us raw and uncut! Thanks for telling it like it is. Giving us some tools 🛠 to take with us. Big thanks for being so transparent man I appreciate this. To be so young you are very wise and knowledgeable about life. You will go far. God bless you and your life.
It’s crazy because he is such a good looking man that all of his exes are extremely unattractive and I’ve come to realize that that was on purpose. He just hit the jackpot with me. He got someone who was insecure because of her past that was really pretty, and looks great on his arm. But again he couldn’t maintain me, because even though I was insecure, I was also really really smart in a lot of ways so I caught onto all of his bullshit very early on. I just didn’t have the strength in myself to walk away. I believed something was wrong with me like he made me think. To this day, the only thing he ever apologized for was when I caught him an ally because he was tagged in a post on Facebook with three very unattractive females on the night he was supposed to be out with his brother and two of his high school male friends till 4:30 in the morning… He didn’t apologize because he felt what he did was wrong wrong he apologize because he got caught. And the smarter I was getting with his antics the more the devaluing went on to the point where I felt worthless. And completely unlovable.
17 minutes in and im wondering wth am I supposed to take a very standoffish interview style approach to every man I meet??? HELL YEAH I AM!!! LOL Thank God for revelation 🙇♀️. Employers don't pay people before examing their applicant, checking references, background checks and then they observe them putting in work before giving them their pay(REWARDING THEM)! I'm glad I listened to this all the way through💯
Amen! I thought I had boundaries but little things and then big things started to be challenged, he was constantly moving the goal posts and I was being gaslighted constantly. He was mean and my hair started to fall out and pain all through my body....all these things happened and yes I want to say it was his fault but I should have listened to my intuition that I kept silencing. We gotta set strong boundaries ladies!
I came across your videos just today and this video confirms what I was thinking about someone I just met recently..lessons have taught me well..caught the nonsense at the door he introduced me to his damn representative but I took things slow and saw his true self very early on and cut that ass off quick...thank you for the confirmation that you have to protect your ❤️
I'm a compassionate, caring, and giving person but for the longest time I pretty much hated myself. I had no concept of self worth so when one of my narcissistic friends would berate me, especially if the situation wasn't my fault, I believed them and got hooked on their approval. It takes a long time to recover from narcissistic abuse but the time is well worth it. Before too long you'll start setting boundaries, cutting off toxic people, etc because you love yourself. One thing to ask yourself in your relationships, is this person helping me or hurting me.
Ace you are really on 🎯 Target. I Love It 💖💕 Very enlightening I will be watching more of your videos. I'm an Empath and I really need to take accountability of how I care for those who does not reciprocate in the same way. Learning to Stay Away From Toxic People.
Damn man! I'm at 7:55 and in tears bc it's like you're a fly on the wall of my previous marriage. Dude...it hits home so bad. I am so scared I'm attracting them somehow. I am trying to change myself to present myself different to men so I attract a real, good man.
100% if I had to narrow down the one thing to protect yourself from the narcissist, is take your time take your time, because people can only pretend to be a certain way for a short amount of time, so take your time don’t fall for the love bombing, don’t fall for any of that. Take your time anybody can be anybody they want for a short amount of time but eventually the mask Has to come off.
You should be a motivational speaker or life coach!! The way you speak is just so to the point and amazing. Loving your videos! Keep that wisdom flowing
One thing I learned in that relationship.... I over looked plenty red flag and ask more questions..... when I first meet her I was one year clean and sober.... I was out of a relationship about 3 years and I rush into that relationship and believed everything she told me.... BUT ONE THING I DID LEARNED OUT OF IT ..... DON’T FUCK UP MY CREDIT AND KEEP MY JOB AND PRAYING TO GOD 2.5 years free from that narc..
I am innocent naive. I refuse to believe people will intentionally be manipulate, evil , dishonest, selfish or harm someone. I believe it must be a reason and if you show them love and they learn better they would do better. Was I wrong and it is disappointing when people don't want to do their very best. Now I don't automatically see there is good in people. I have learned that most people who are nice to you are only to get more in return from you. They see the great in you so they go after you in return to want you to make their life better.
Yes Ace they don’t start off as the monster in the beginning. But then the mask falls off. You hit the nail on the head when you said they prey!!! Both my parents had just died back to back from cancer and I was kind of out of my mind. Then I met him. It’s took six months for the abuse to begin or for me to recognize it but it took me 4 1/2 years at leave.
I was chosen by my narcissistic person because I didn’t know myself. I had very low self esteem. I had to learn the hard way and it was very hard to let go.
I follow you and I'd like everything that you're saying I was with a narcissist and that was the most horrible experience of my lifeThank God I remove myself God showed me what I need to see he tried everything he could to put me down as a woman thank you for your message
So true…please take heed the Bible says guard your heart and thank you brother for sharing this… I wrote a book addressing this with the hope to spare others from pain A Fearful Troubled Heart - Carol Bernice would love to get on your show one day to discuss this with you too… Amen keep up the good work brother. you are helping so many.
I just got out of an abusive, manipulative and controlling relationship with a narcissistic person and I told him once I leave I will not be back with him…. He has threatened my life and my family life , put his hands on me, put a gun in my face. I ask God to deliver me from that situationship so that I can have my piece of mind again and he has done that for me and I thank God for delivering me from him….
Lots pf narcs are covert and only a certain way behind closed doors. You really dont know till they know they got you. Like the guy who gets married then changes because that piece pf paper.
That last part.. wow! I'm 10 years younger & I started wondering about that a few days ago when I heard him telling one of his friends (who in my opinion was a pretty crappy guy he liked to defend) they should find someone younger..
I appreciate you for this message and your purpose. I should never be having to watch any videos for strength. I feel like I’ve lost myself.. but I’m not too far away. Please believe me. I’m tired😩
Narcissists keep you in a state of confusion.
Narcissists tell everyone behind your back you are abusing them, so when you break up you are the crazy one.
Narcissists tell you they care and their actions never match their words.
Narcissists breadcrumb you.
Narcissists prey on the kind of person that believe their is good in everyone.
These people are doom for hell the devil waiting on them.
A narcissist captures its victim through a technique called love bombing. They prey on emotion for fuel to their ego. They go for the very very strong because of the light the shines from the strong. The narcissist envies that energy, success and fruit of your hard work. Once you’ve been captured then the narcissist begins to devalue you (all of your good qualities become flaws and insults). Once a narcissist ciphers all they can then they move to the disgusted phase. If you encounter a narcissist run away like your life depended on it
The truth is that we knew from the beginning. We felt that something was wrong even though we couldn’t identify what it was. If you have ever had to mourn a person who still lives, you are strong. You finally fought to save your own self. Never forget what it took you to survive.
Maybe this will encourage someone. I've been in this situation and it is really hard to get over a narcissist...took me years. After my last relationship I realized it and I took a good hard look at myself. I took accountability and asked God to help me see myself. I learned to love myself and understood my worth and what I deserved, learned how to be secure on my own. I know how to spot a narcissist, and now I'm one of those women they know they cant try it with. I pray everyone who has fallen victim to a narcissistic person can find their strength, and realize their value and worth. 💜
Youre a inspiration❤
I needed this
Thanks for sharing. It is all about us. Always. But especially about people using us. My both parents had too many narcissistic traits. It was familiar for me just giving and being discarded made me try more...i m on way to heal. I was very strong in no contact and he was standing at my door after 7 months. That broke me again seeing him and hearing he wants to be friends now...i refused of course. I was not the same person after 7 months. People like us need to concentrate only on ourselves never on them..
It is very hard to leave a narcissistic,they turn everyone against you so you wouldn't have no help no friends no family kick you out on the streets it was horrible...so I encourage you to go talk to a therapist you can not do it alone it helped me so much much love to you all
@@RL-ml5uq I seen mine narc a couple of weeks ago in the store I ran so fast I don't wanna hom close to me I pray everyday to keep him out my path and so far so good
They are very good at half truths and great at pity partying so you feel sorry for them. It's always someone else's fault
The best way to vet if someone is a narcissist is setting a boundary or saying no to them, narcissistic people do not accept and respect your no.
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I recently learned they do not accept rejection very well
Unless they pretend to be ok with it in the beginning then 3 months later show something different. You've got to have an extensive list and giving it time needs to be included.
They sure don't omg so scary
Trauma bonding keeps you hooked on the crazy roller coaster. They sell you a dream and deliver a nightmare. You have to set boundaries. You do have to learn to love yourself.
Wish I had known about Narcissist before I gave away so many of my years trying to make a one-sided relationship work.
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They are charming in beginning they switch up on you.
Highlighted cus it's good answer right was with one nine years
Charming like the Devil
Because they don’t start like that. They start a relationship that feels awesome. Like your in a fairytale. They wait until they know you in. Then these ugly traits come out.
I think that I was picked by a narcissist because I'm a major giver and I'm patient with people and I do whatever I can to accommodate their wants, needs and comfort. I respect nearly every boundary someone sets. I will bend over backwards to make my partner happy and I don't put myself first. I'm overly forgiving because I try to understand that nobody is perfect and we all make mistakes and I forgive how I would hope to be forgiven.
I can relate too
I am the same. I do nothing but everything for anyone no matter what. I want everyone to be happy without consideration for myself. Stay away from Virgo men! Especially Libras! Libras will fall for a narcissist hook, line & sinker. Please build a backup system (with ur best friend, the person you KNOW EVERYTHING about is ur best friend whether u know it or not). They r the person that will save you from urself - including that narcissist.
I can relate. Yet you and I and every person in a relationship is worthy of respect, and should be able to expect that they are not the only ones trying to make it work.
We need to make ourselves our priority, ensure we protect ourselves.
If our needs can not be met and there is no effort made to attempt then we need to realize that their companionship is not as nice as being alone.
If your partner is not willing to be an asset to you, but often instead uses what they learn about your biggest fears, your weak spots, when they learn how to pull your puppets strings, to bring forth the reaction they want. And if you speak truth to power they will smear your name or plain make you look like the crazy one to further alianate you from people.
Narcissists are notoriously hungry for attention, a mothers love, they are often deeply unhappy people, often are the most jealous most insecure people that just put on a big bad man/ woman front.
But dont just talk to those people but sit back and think of what was said and then recognize the red flags for what they are.
Once more Ace is 100% right.
Same here
Narcissists are very good at charming in the beginning because this is how you get hooked. Once they are done using you. They ghost you. Because they never gave a damn from the get go. They on to the next.
I was raised by my mother and father who were and are narcissistic. Its hard to live with that type of person, hard to love or care about myself. I was never good enough everything i did was wrong. If your born with narcissistic parents. By the time you reach adult hood all those things they said and did to you that you hated that you couldn't understand why or what you did why didnt your parents love you like other parents love their children. But youll realize that some of their narcissistic metal thinking those tendencies you will catch yourself doing . if your lucky that is if you were strong enough to somehow make it through. I noticed i was doing things treating people i loved the way i was. But i realized i didnt like it i lost people i cared about. Its taken everything i have that i am to fight to change and fix myself, to undo the damage that was and had been silently and secretly put in my mind for me to assume and belive that being mis treated hurt mentally abused as well as treating others that way was normal. I used to pray and beg to god every night every day for me to die i hated myself so much because nothing i did no matter how great or good i did how much i apoligied tried to be their perfect golden child. I was always punished pushed aside constantly reminded that i was nothing that everything that ive ever done or learned was because of them. That id never be anything with out them. So i ran away and not thinking, or maybe i was but i met the. Mother of my daughter and i fell in love with her. I gave her everything i could all myself as a wholer mind body and soul. And just like my mother and father nothing i ever did was good enough. Again i was reminded non stop how usely worthless i was, it was as if i was a child again hearing my mother and father. By the time i realized i had fell so unremarkably in detph love with girl who was the same way had the same thing my parennts had as a narcissistis. It was to late she was pregnant with my daughter, i promised myself that i would never leave her never hurt her or treat her the way i was and have been treated, that id always protect her keep her safe from those type of people from the evil people in the world. I dont belive in haveing a broken family. So i stayed, i discovered as long as i was their her mothers narcissistic personality was never directed towards our daughter. Instead i took it all i began going out of myway puting myself in the line of fire to be miss treated and abused, i thought i saved and found away to keep my daughter safe from being hurt. I had no idea how wrong i was, when ever her mom was around or came home she started not wanting me to leave her side if i was holding her she would grip on to me do anytyhing she could to keep me out of her mothers sight. She was trying to protect me, i didnt think she understood or that she could tell could see yet alone feel how badly broken and hurt i was. Once i found out that by trying to keep our family together keep my daughter safe. Was still some how hurting her. We left and the funny thing is as bad as her mother treated me i still had this unconditional unexplainable love for her. But even tho i knew how bad what i was about to do was gonna hut also knowing i would never forgive myself over failing my family because i wasnt stong enough. I had one job one task as a man as a father as the girl i loved man man, because i was so afraid so pathetic and week i failed and let my family down. To make it wose i told the girl i love still to this day, i told her i didnt love her to her face that we didnt want or need her anymore. I had to lie tto her in order to stop our daghter being hurt by how things were. Im not saying that narcissistim is genetic but ive lived through it exspiriance it first hand for the majority of my life. I can tell you for a fact that most people who are narcissis became that way from it being imprinted onto them. No matter how soon your able to realice or catch that youve became a monster just as bad as those who did what they did to you. Its exstreamly difficult to change to stop.
This is so true
That's completely right exactly kinda shit my x did i never even heard of a narcisst s oi Didn't look out for it . Fb is first place I ever even heard of it. And I will forever be more sceptics before I give my heart out again
I dated one once for 5 years. It never happened again. I didn’t see it than. He taught me about mofos like him. N-e-v-e-r again! I trust ppl till they show me diffetent. I’m good at good byes. I rather be happy and single than with anyone treating me like that again. I watch their words and their actions make sure they line up. Your absolutely right ace these mofos look for weak ppl. It’s sad but true. Don’t ignore the red flags!
Asking their parents question.... It’s a waste a time because they hoping we get them off their hands 💯💯💯💯
The truth is soul-ties can keep you connected to a narcissist individual. The narcissistic person is very charming and if you exhibit codependency then you all are a perfect destructive match. It's deeper than this video can even touch on.
RIGHT... Mine us my son💔
And not just the soul ties. You have to be so consumed with them, their everything, that it's even harder to break loose than a normal relationship. I divorced mine after six years and I had to be so involved in every bit of his life, so Into him, giving up "me", that it's hard to just walk away. You have to retrain yourself and relearn to love and think and care about yourself again. It's a long road.
It's way deeper than this video. I agree.
tamara jones I was dealing with a narcissistic man that preyed on me from jump. People told me to leave him, I tried but their was a stronger power. Im glad to say I’m free from that man. Thank you all for the comments really gave me clarity and a peace of mind. Yes it is a long road but I’m willing to make that trip to relearn/relove myself because he didn’t win I DID WHEN I LEFT HIS ASS!
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They are like hermit crabs. They will show up like a fairy tale prince and charm their way into you life and use your kind heart as a shell of their confidence to get what they want. They are attracted to whatever is new, or hot... like a child seeing a flashy toy. They also have no realistic views of the world. 100% they feel like the deserve the best of everything even without putting in the work. They will throw a fit and manipulate ppl for not giving them what they want. They are irresponsible with money and chase wild dreams pretending to be bigger than who they are so that outwardly they appear confident and stable. They love to play mind games like the silent treatment and also baiting arguments or talking behind people’s backs. They are jealous of everyone else. They are never satisfied. They are the selfish lovers of a relationship, the messy co-worker, or the person who pretends to have their life together just because they want some type of notoriety. They watch alot of tv/movies and actually play like they are acting out movie roles in real life. They are extremely private and they don’t share real emotions about themselves. They hold on to the idea that being a logical person makes them better. They want you if you’re a smart person or attractive person and it’s like they only want you to look good for the image. They are super boring nothing about them is interesting they just love the fantasy of being this super important person. They are afraid that someone will get close enough to them to see under that fake mask.
Academy award winning actors. I think he even made up stories about his past that never really ever happened.
We get involved because they portray someone as prince charming (if a guy). They seem to be too good to be true. Slowly but surely the layers come off. They're a wolf in sheep clothing. Trust me, if I knew what I know now.. I'd would've looked the other way
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You dont know at first its like being blindsided by a line backer....
Wow!! Perfect illilustration
😂😂😂 DEADASSSS
DAMN!! GREAT DESCRIPTION!!
He's so passionate about this topic and what he does
Omg and the narcissist is also the greatest accuser ever! Iv'e been accused of things that's so beneth me. Outside of the relationship they are charming people. They win the hearts of the people that's closest to you and potray the perfect gentlmen role and make your family fall in love with them and when u adress his problem to your family they act like you're the crazy person. 😩The Narc will bearly notice you when your're in their presence! You can't even have a heart to heart conversation with them, if you do the convo is all about them. They also love to deny your conformation. Lets say I may have heard an announcement on the radio they will say "there was no anouncment"or "that's not what was said it was something else"! I swear this man had me questioning my f***ing sanity! Thank god I got out that situation! Shew
This was painful to watch. I feel like I've been preyed on by everyone that's in my life right now. My daughter is the only legit one. Everyone else needs a boot, including some family. My relationship can be poison. Couldn't listen to a "friend" about the relationship because she was poison herself and she made that obvious 5 years into my relationship. I'm surrounded by toxic people because I've always trying to be caring and loving my and understanding. The way I should be!!!!! But it's been abused and used. I'm so afraid I'll never be able to keep my good after I fight my way thru this. Sending love and good vibes to all the girls going thru this. Hang in there sis!💞✨
Me. Same exact situation!!!! This has me completely numb.
@@ceauxlah it can't stay bad forever hun, it's what I always say. Learning to keep
my mind and heart healthy has worked. I know you're going to get thru it 💞
@@mystiquek lts been bad for 12 years... I cant take anymore. I'm emotionally exhausted 😥😥
@@ceauxlah I know what you mean 😟 I had to check your channel to see if my next bit of advice would help or hinder. But I see you have a manifestation playlist 🙌🏾💞 you are so on your way love, I promise! Abraham Hicks, Bob Proctor, Les Brown, Earl Nightengale 30 Day Secret and Pastor Keion Henderson. That is literally my formula for raising myself from my dark place. I've still got growing to do, but my God those people and their videos have been monumental for me. I really hope this helps. Who am I kidding, i already know it will work. And it already has✨
Thanks for this
They are damaged children.
I am a Empath who loves people in general and this is how I was raise from a loving family which has a lot going on in the business world and people genuinely love me. It's sad Narcissists sure do pick healthy good genuine real people with cool things going on, talents, hobbies, persona, happy with charisma and good character, loving and loyal with empathy to mirror you call you “The love of your life” to then idolize, devalue, discard you as you are catching on or at a your weakest. They destroy all the great qualities of you to repeat the same cycle on you over and over again till they get bored again. They love bomb you with words on top of all of that to keep you off guard and balance as they slowly withdraw love and intimacy and affection. You don’t go from being called “The love of someone’s life” “Cant live without them” and future fake plans, marriage, baby’s to then ghost, be indifferent and discard someone like a drop of a dime and silent treatment someone throwing them away like trash. That is not normal and most definitely not love or loyalty or someone who cares about you. That’s not someone who values you. I meet my own needs a day at a time. Thank you for this dark but factual truth.
Thank you for this video. Thank you. It's not as easy to avoid as you think because they come at you as someone else. They prey on empaths.Then later when they're held accountable they show their true selves.
I'm crying this is the worst feeling ever
Hang in there sis!
Hope you better now
I’m crying with you. How can people be soul heartless🤯🤯😢 I stand in strength with you as well my sister🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾💪🏾 praying for your strength
@@mrsblackdyamond1 how are you doing now
This is so true. 6 years ago I was in a situation where I could’ve potentially lost my life when I was in a relationship with a narcissist. He was my first boyfriend and I was overly giving and understanding, so naive, didn’t understand boundaries and who I was etc etc...That was an experience like no other and all Ive been confidently able to say is NEVER AGAIN...At the end of the day I feel like that experience needed to happen because it forced me to value myself and have enough strength to leave and embark on a journey of loving myself and becoming even more self reflective and aware. Since then I have not had any other relations with narcissistic men...IM JUST NOT HERE FOR IT. PERIOD. Men and Women....WHEN YOUR GUT SHOWS YOU THEM RED FLAGS...DO NOT BECOME TOO UNDERSTANDING OF THEM ALL BECAUSE YOU LIKE TO BELIEVE NO ONE IS PERFECT...LEAVE...or your spirit and potentially your life could depend on it.
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I stumbled across this video and I wanna say Thank You so much. I just broke up with someone who Gaslighted me for 4yrs and had me to believe he really love me when he Never wanted to do anything with me and Always putting others Before me. It was always some type of Excuses that I just got tired of him Draining me Emotionally and Mentally. Plz pray for me cause I feel I’ve loss self and I’m just tryna Recover from the Spirit as I say Soul-ties of this individual.😔
Man he is telling the truth, once you look past the red flags, and you try to see good, you are a fool, there is no good there, he going to drain your soul dry, I feel sorry for you, I really do, because it's going to take a very long time to get back what you've lost, your whole perspective will change for real
Because they catch you when you're vulnerable. I was in a 31 year marriage that wasn't good. He came to me because I was lacking several things in my life. He gave me everything I was missing in the beginning. That's their charming you time. Ace is right they do hook you. For me I went back 3 times. I've finally decided to let go of him now, for my own well being. Thank you Ace!!!
Thank you Ace ! All so true ! Keep telling the truth just like that it’s needed! I was married 10 years and was treated like a rental car not even a used car. I went back to therapy to work on myself and I left once I realized I didn’t love myself and the damage that was being done to me and my kids watching this horror movie . I know my value now and I’m slowly but surely building myself back up and I’ve watched videos like this to help pick me up along the way . Thank you your saving souls
That's very true. Narcissistic people love Empath's. Protect yourselves. Read a lot of books on it after having a 4yr relationship with one
I just fell upon this video after a year dealing with my second narcissist. One thing I will add to the conversation is that after awhile of being around the narcissist I was always drinking or inebriated. It was the only way my spirit could tolerate the illusion. Otherwise in a sober state I could not fathom the presence of this devil. Love&Light💛
This is SUCH an interesting thing you said there.🤔 I didn’t even realize that I was doing the same thing in order to DEAL or BE around them.😢
Thank you. You are talking on me. I am a huge Target. I am that person who is too loving and giving. I know I need to learn willpower. I can see all signs but like you said, I stay because of love, loneliness and caring. I appreciate that tough love you preach!!!❤
When I tell you I saw it coming... Literally I saw it coming. Went from being Nice & Attentive to a Str8 bully overnight. If I questioned Anything or said something he didn't like... He would go Completely Off almost immediately. Telling me I'm insecure and to stop projecting bc I look guilty, or that I'm "replaceable"... LOL He was crazy to even think I aligned with any of those characteristics seeing as though it's Obvious I'm Don't. A narcissist will truly have you believing you're a bad person but when you know better you do better. I'm so comfortably comfortable in my Own skin his words ( text messages for the most part) would just go in 1 ear and out the other. He knew I wasn't falling for it which made him MORE mad. Be aware of your surroundings hunny, and if something seems wrong, there's usually something wrong... But the Wrong isn't You ♥️♥️ I'm Soo glad he posted this video, && Soo proud of you Ace for your thorough talk.
Women when you witness the traits of these individual's you must LEAVE THAT MESS EXACTLY WHERE YOU FOUND IT
Like I’ve been telling ppl, I don’t blame him at all. I made it easy and possible for him to use me over and over. So yeah. It’s true. Lesson learned.
Actually some narcissists deliberately target those with high self esteem as they see them as a conquest to bring down. Huge boost to their ego. Many expressions of narcissism
Very charming, people !!! Everyone Outside your relationships Loves them! They portray a very loving helpful individual to everyone outside your intimate relationship. Eventuall, you start seeing red flags (Empaths) in time and get the strength to escape in order to th stay free or not become a statistic!! Absolutely!!!
Narcissistic people see qualities in you that they do not see in themselves! They compliment you on those qualities to bate you in and then tear you down for having them all because they don't! Narcissistic people want to strip you in every area that they lack confidence in. 🙏🏾8yrs in a relationship with a Narcissist & now 2yrs Free🙌🏾.
Great job on encouraging everybody. You have to hold yourself accountable. Only you can control what happens to you. Your destiny is yours. The voice that's within you, listen to her because 9 times out of 10 she is always right.
I believe that some of this behavior is consistent with generational curses. Before anyone bash me please look it up to see what the definition is then maybe you’ll understand and see the comparisons.
What dose that mean ?
This is real talk. I ignored and ignored because I didn't want to be alone.
This is the Best Video on Narcissistic People on UA-cam!
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Wow, sitting here and a friend told me about Ace Metaphor.. I am in the process of divorcing a Narcissistic person after 8 and a half years and everything you just said described him to a tee. I kept thinking he would change, he would soften, he would start to care more..after being separated 8 times in 8 years,,Now I know he wont change. I lost myself in trying to find him. Im not mad about it beacause I now know what I want and what I need.
Ladies love yourself,, I was so depressed,, down in the dumps,, I was a mere shell of the woman he married almost 9 years ago....I kept putting my needs off,,if he loves you for real, he will put your needs absolutely first
Hey Tasha Allen, ive been married for 13 going on 14 years and I have to push myself to get out of bed everyday. Do you have children ? How did you finally get the strength to leave? I'm a caregiver and I have a hard time getting over to their house. He doesn't want me to work, and after we argue I tell myself that ive had enough, that I need to get a full time job and then when I think about going to apply for a job, I think to myself that I have a hard time getting out of bed to work a few hours a day, how am I supposed to get a full time job, I feel so exhausted . and I have a son as well and I know I have to make a change, but his father looks at me and basically is saying that my son will want to go with him, he says "you wait and see, he sees how you are" he pushes and pushes me until I cant take it anymore and go off. Ive never been in a relationship where someone is screaming at me and everytime I try to say something he cuts me off and talks over me. I guess I would like to see how other women handle leaving their husbands and do what they need to do.
Renee Matteo-Cavaliere wow snap, to everything you have said ☹️ literally my life
Society needs HELP, man!! Thank you for keeping it 💯
The crazies need help, too: the pediphiles, mass murderers, gun lovers, cheaters, compulsive liers, drug attics, drunks, gamblers & the list goes on- the anger monsters, thieves, etc.
You are so correct. There is NOT one lie here. Thank God I’m on the other side of a narcissistic relationship. It’s insane the amount of times they put you through those same cycles. Having a big heart will have you looking stupid as hell. I would never do these things to people, so it never crosses my mind that someone would do it to me. I see now people can be treacherous with a smile.
They look for good hearted people empathetic people. Now I trust no one .
He tried it, approached me after a abuse recovery FB post. He didn't realize God had completely healed me, filled me with so much love that I still tell him I love him yet refuse to rekindle any relationship. Funny God gave me a career as the account manager over his team, God flipped the script...Look at me now and he is scared of me👀.
It's not going down like that..
Warrior Queen...Boy Bye
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Everything on point. Exactly acted like the most confident, yet broken into nothingness. So I literally gave time and patience thinking the brokenness was the problem. However over a period of two months, I realized the conversation changed, the devalue of my character in his eyes, was left feeling unimportant, and was giving more and more. But the thing is Ace I have always been confident with myself, however he found my weakness as being a giver. And ran with it. And I blame myself bc I should have put a stop to it at any time and I choose not to. Until enough was enough with the explosive behavior. When attention wasn’t on him. Thank you for your videos! Your amazing continue your calling!
Yo my dude!! This video is REAL TALK. I had to take accountability and really figure out why I was in relationships with men with Narcissistic tendencies. I had to take my sad naive ass to therapy lol 😂😜 I was the constant and if I want change I gotta.put.in the work. Thanx for making.this video bro!
You're so spot on Ace. Thank you for this. Being with a true Narcissist is a total mindfuck. They truly are master manipulators and are experts in breaking down the human spirit. Much love kiddo! 💜
Thanks ace ❤ we need to hear this raw and straight forward.!! Keep up the good work 💯💪
They come as a good emphatic person as the relationship develops they start manifesting their trades they focus on empathetic people people with good heart and good moral compass when I got with my ex-narcissistic wife for 8 years I was on a vulnerable state of mind I had gone through some things that’s another thing that they look for vulnerability.
I have done the work I have learn and study all about narcissist behavior and mental disorders.
Self love is where is at.
I love how honest and transparent you are about who you use to be and the things you use to do
I've been married to a narcotic for 23 years and am in the process of divorcing him.
These videos are just incredible and I can so relate to everything.
For years I didn't realise what was happening. It's taken me 7 years to get to this point, I needed to build myself up again.
This!!! You are correct back ground checks 100%
This video needs more likes, he’s speaking facts!!
This conversation really hurt my feelings; but because it's so true! It worked on me and I never held them accountable,due to things that happened to me at a young age
Wow , I am speechless! You gave it to us raw and uncut! Thanks for telling it like it is. Giving us some tools 🛠 to take with us. Big thanks for being so transparent man I appreciate this. To be so young you are very wise and knowledgeable about life. You will go far. God bless you and your life.
It’s crazy because he is such a good looking man that all of his exes are extremely unattractive and I’ve come to realize that that was on purpose. He just hit the jackpot with me. He got someone who was insecure because of her past that was really pretty, and looks great on his arm. But again he couldn’t maintain me, because even though I was insecure, I was also really really smart in a lot of ways so I caught onto all of his bullshit very early on. I just didn’t have the strength in myself to walk away. I believed something was wrong with me like he made me think. To this day, the only thing he ever apologized for was when I caught him an ally because he was tagged in a post on Facebook with three very unattractive females on the night he was supposed to be out with his brother and two of his high school male friends till 4:30 in the morning… He didn’t apologize because he felt what he did was wrong wrong he apologize because he got caught. And the smarter I was getting with his antics the more the devaluing went on to the point where I felt worthless. And completely unlovable.
Of all your videos, this one is the most brutal and also the most important to me. You made me cry, but you've helped me as well.
Thank you once again you telling the truth, I know you are telling the truth”” through my own experience
17 minutes in and im wondering wth am I supposed to take a very standoffish interview style approach to every man I meet??? HELL YEAH I AM!!! LOL
Thank God for revelation 🙇♀️. Employers don't pay people before examing their applicant, checking references, background checks and then they observe them putting in work before giving them their pay(REWARDING THEM)! I'm glad I listened to this all the way through💯
Hi Ace I listen and receive your truth be blessed and continue educating the people
Hold onto your boundaries and enforce them.
They bully you! Than they turn it around and call you the bully and try to convince everyone you are the bully.
Like a Jezebel spirit. They suck you dry and you lose yourself. Everything you love, like or know. You will lose it.
thanks for being telling us how you usta operate. we needed to know so we can heal.
Amen! I thought I had boundaries but little things and then big things started to be challenged, he was constantly moving the goal posts and I was being gaslighted constantly. He was mean and my hair started to fall out and pain all through my body....all these things happened and yes I want to say it was his fault but I should have listened to my intuition that I kept silencing. We gotta set strong boundaries ladies!
I came across your videos just today and this video confirms what I was thinking about someone I just met recently..lessons have taught me well..caught the nonsense at the door he introduced me to his damn representative but I took things slow and saw his true self very early on and cut that ass off quick...thank you for the confirmation that you have to protect your ❤️
I'm a compassionate, caring, and giving person but for the longest time I pretty much hated myself. I had no concept of self worth so when one of my narcissistic friends would berate me, especially if the situation wasn't my fault, I believed them and got hooked on their approval. It takes a long time to recover from narcissistic abuse but the time is well worth it. Before too long you'll start setting boundaries, cutting off toxic people, etc because you love yourself. One thing to ask yourself in your relationships, is this person helping me or hurting me.
Narcissism shows up in all kinds of people, but it seems more prominent with men, and what you are saying here is absolutely amazing.
Ace you are really on 🎯 Target. I Love It 💖💕 Very enlightening I will be watching more of your videos. I'm an Empath and I really need to take accountability of how I care for those who does not reciprocate in the same way. Learning to Stay Away From Toxic People.
Damn man! I'm at 7:55 and in tears bc it's like you're a fly on the wall of my previous marriage. Dude...it hits home so bad. I am so scared I'm attracting them somehow. I am trying to change myself to present myself different to men so I attract a real, good man.
100% if I had to narrow down the one thing to protect yourself from the narcissist, is take your time take your time, because people can only pretend to be a certain way for a short amount of time, so take your time don’t fall for the love bombing, don’t fall for any of that. Take your time anybody can be anybody they want for a short amount of time but eventually the mask Has to come off.
You should be a motivational speaker or life coach!! The way you speak is just so to the point and amazing. Loving your videos! Keep that wisdom flowing
Faith That's exactly right and you probably know that Ace Metaphor still going strong and doing many helpful videos, which are extremely popular! 😊
One thing I learned in that relationship.... I over looked plenty red flag and ask more questions..... when I first meet her I was one year clean and sober.... I was out of a relationship about 3 years and I rush into that relationship and believed everything she told me.... BUT ONE THING I DID LEARNED OUT OF IT ..... DON’T FUCK UP MY CREDIT AND KEEP MY JOB AND PRAYING TO GOD 2.5 years free from that narc..
I am innocent naive. I refuse to believe people will intentionally be manipulate, evil , dishonest, selfish or harm someone. I believe it must be a reason and if you show them love and they learn better they would do better. Was I wrong and it is disappointing when people don't want to do their very best. Now I don't automatically see there is good in people. I have learned that most people who are nice to you are only to get more in return from you. They see the great in you so they go after you in return to want you to make their life better.
You are 100% describing my relationship and probably many others. Thank you for your honesty… That type a Honest he brings healing to a lot of people.
I love you and your wisdom!
They pick empath with big hearts. I've been with 2
Damn, that was direct, and it hurt. But I needed to hear that. Thank you for the message.
I needed to hear this more than anything, and it showed up in my life at the right time.
Thank you so much for this video. It's helped me more than you know. I'm healing first before I let anyone in my life ❤️
Love these videos. This is another one I've been listening to daily to help get it to sink in. I know I need to let it go
Yes Ace they don’t start off as the monster in the beginning. But then the mask falls off. You hit the nail on the head when you said they prey!!! Both my parents had just died back to back from cancer and I was kind of out of my mind. Then I met him. It’s took six months for the abuse to begin or for me to recognize it but it took me 4 1/2 years at leave.
I was chosen by my narcissistic person because I didn’t know myself. I had very low self esteem. I had to learn the hard way and it was very hard to let go.
You are right on point!!!!
I follow you and I'd like everything that you're saying I was with a narcissist and that was the most horrible experience of my lifeThank God I remove myself God showed me what I need to see he tried everything he could to put me down as a woman thank you for your message
Love the power of your words. You're definitely beyond your years cutie. Keep them coming.
So true…please take heed the Bible says guard your heart and thank you brother for sharing this… I wrote a book addressing this with the hope to spare others from pain A Fearful Troubled Heart - Carol Bernice would love to get on your show one day to discuss this with you too… Amen keep up the good work brother. you are helping so many.
Never except responsibility for anything.
I just got out of an abusive, manipulative and controlling relationship with a narcissistic person and I told him once I leave I will not be back with him…. He has threatened my life and my family life , put his hands on me, put a gun in my face. I ask God to deliver me from that situationship so that I can have my piece of mind again and he has done that for me and I thank God for delivering me from him….
Amen
Lots pf narcs are covert and only a certain way behind closed doors. You really dont know till they know they got you. Like the guy who gets married then changes because that piece pf paper.
Man, I needed to hear this!! Thank you!!
That last part.. wow! I'm 10 years younger & I started wondering about that a few days ago when I heard him telling one of his friends (who in my opinion was a pretty crappy guy he liked to defend) they should find someone younger..
So true. And that's when u let them know what's not going to affect u
Very true! I am involved right now have been 10 years... trying to figure a way out😞 your words are very true and eye opening THANK YOU....
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Angela Morales same here 😢 almost 10 years giving everything to only get the bare minimum
I appreciate you for this message and your purpose. I should never be having to watch any videos for strength. I feel like I’ve lost myself.. but I’m not too far away. Please believe me. I’m tired😩
I am tired also
This video is perfect for my situation rn. 😫
First!!! Narcissist get us and We are blind to the facts what about to be done to us.... used, disrespected, drain of our energy etc. negative
This hits home