@@Danzaxe69 someone mentioned in these comments that they had the same issue so they were making it a point to focus on external visual details more and then closing their eyes and practice visualizing what they were just focusing on. I think this exercise will work well. It's like anything else, it takes practice.
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation: 00:00 🌐 *The NLP Swish Pattern has garnered significant interest on UA-cam over the past five years, with a growing desire to understand its workings and effectiveness.* 00:43 🚀 *Despite the popularity, the Swish Pattern is often incorrectly taught in various NLP institutes, emphasizing the importance of proper guidance.* 01:11 🔄 *The video provides a deep dive into the Swish Pattern, originally presented in a group coaching program for the self-concept model, highlighting its connection to identity and self-concept.* 01:54 📄 *A step-by-step PDF guide for performing the Swish Pattern is offered in the video description for those interested in practicing the technique.* 03:37 🤔 *Discussion on the limitations of some NLP practitioner trainings, emphasizing the need for extended practice and experience to effectively apply NLP techniques.* 05:49 🔄 *A personal experience with learning the Swish Pattern incorrectly and the subsequent correction by mentor Steve Andreas, leading to successful outcomes.* 09:01 📚 *Discovery that the NLP encyclopedia teaches the Swish Pattern incorrectly, prompting questions about the evolution of the technique and potential deviations in teachings.* 10:55 🎥 *Steve Andreas identifies incorrect teachings in various Swish Pattern videos on UA-cam, including those by well-known figures like Tony Robbins and the speaker himself.* 13:25 🌐 *The importance of the Swish Pattern having no specific context or behavior in the ideal image for effective identity work, emphasizing its role in transcending space and time.* 20:40 🚭 *Limitations of connecting the Swish Pattern to specific behaviors or contexts, illustrated with an example of quitting smoking and the need for a versatile, context-independent ideal image.* 23:17 🔄 *Disassociation in the Swish Pattern is discussed as a means to break patterns of compulsion, focusing on the ideal image of oneself without excessive attachment to a specific outcome.* 24:28 🤔 *When practicing the swish pattern for self-concept, aim for continuous improvement with the ideal self always ahead, avoiding the pursuit of perfection.* 25:10 🔄 *The swish pattern is a simple yet powerful technique that operates at the unconscious level, breaking patterns without getting caught up in perfectionism.* 27:32 🧠 *Practice the swish pattern until it becomes unconscious, eliminating the need for conscious negotiation or decision-making in pursuing your ideal self.* 28:02 🗣️ *The swish pattern can be adapted for auditory and kinesthetic individuals, allowing flexibility in the process based on individual sensory preferences.* 31:38 🔄 *While the swish pattern is a fast and effective identity-level technique, self-concept work provides a more thorough transformation of values within a person's identity.* 33:50 🎨 *The ideal self in the swish pattern focuses on general ideals and values rather than specific context or material objects like money, fitness, or friends.* 38:26 🔄 *Steps for the swish pattern include identifying a compulsory behavior, finding the point of no return visually, creating an ideal self image, and practicing the swish without resetting.* 46:19 😡 *For anger management using the swish pattern, it's crucial to isolate internal stimuli leading to anger before implementing the technique.* 47:46 ✋ *If using hands in the swish pattern, avoid resetting by breaking the state and ensuring the person doesn't unintentionally undo the progress.* 48:16 💸 *The swish pattern can be applied to compulsive behaviors like overspending, aiming to break the pattern and redirect the individual toward more conscious choices.* 48:31 🔄 *Swish Pattern Overview: Swish pattern involves switching between a compulsory image (undesirable behavior) and an ideal image of oneself, gradually making the ideal image dominant.* 49:45 🎭 *Creative Visualization: Creativity is encouraged in the swish pattern; for example, one can visualize the ideal image dramatically overpowering the compulsory image, adding a personalized touch for effectiveness.* 50:27 🔄 *Universal Ideal Image: The ideal image remains consistent for all swishes, representing the individual's best self across various behaviors or habits.* 53:18 🔍 *Analyzing Anger: In a practical demonstration, a volunteer chooses anger as the behavior to work on; eliciting the specific trigger and associated feelings helps customize the swish pattern.* 56:36 🔄 *Associative and Disassociative States: The process involves accessing the associated emotional state of anger initially and then shifting to a disassociated state when introducing the ideal image.* 57:26 🔄 *Testing the Pattern: After multiple swishes, the effectiveness is tested by breaking the state and observing if the ideal image naturally comes up without conscious effort.* 01:04:34 🔄 *Checking Congruence: Ensuring congruence by evaluating if there's any internal resistance to the change; addressing resistance involves understanding its positive intention and incorporating it into the ideal image.* 01:14:33 🔄 *Uncertainty Post-Intervention: It's normal for individuals to be uncertain about the immediate success of the intervention; continuous practice and observation are essential for solidifying the change.* 01:15:17 🤔 *It's natural for someone undergoing NLP to be genuinely curious rather than overconfident about the success of the technique.* 01:16:12 🧠 *NLP amnesia is a challenge; changes often occur unconsciously, and individuals may not immediately notice them.* 01:16:40 🔄 *Regularly checking for changes over a few months helps confirm the effectiveness of NLP interventions.* 01:16:57 🗣️ *Accountability through feedback from others can be a valuable way to confirm the success of NLP techniques.* 01:17:27 🎙️ *Cultivating sensory acuity skills helps in identifying resistance during NLP interventions.* 01:21:53 🔮 *Future pacing, visualizing future behavior changes, enhances the success of NLP by creating a feedforward system.*
These switch patterns are clear and they're taught thoroughly... I got to visualise my ideal self who has already done all of this, while the talking was happening.... H.
Thank you for this video. It was great. My only request for future videos would be if you would be willing to do a demo and then explain and talk about what you did afterwards I think that would be incredibly helpful. Thank you so much again.
Thanks so much, Damon, this is a truly wonderful teaching.❤As I think I'm more auditory generally, but potentially equally visual (I remember being so as a youngster), it seems to me that to cultivate my visual, a good place to start is with our external experience, as that's where I believe it all originates. So, in the effort to cultivate my inner visual (or rediscover it), I've been paying attention to visual submodalities in my external environment, silently noticing shapes, colors, hues, textures, etc. And then revisioning them later with my memory (and "distortion processes") internally. Keeping it vague, but it's been really fun and very helpful in cultivating my inner eye. I've begun working on the image of my "ideal self."
Nice Damon! How do you identify a psychical response and swish it? For example one person Everytime he is going outside he gets a psychical response in his body and also he cannot handle any stressful situation or anything that needs his complete attention and got psychical response? If it is not clear my message I will rewrite it. If you don't understand it....
Gota a doubt, so let say i am a day trader and i dont follow my rules and over trade and losses money , when i do swish technique can I incorporate my behaviour which is following the rules and context which is trading ?
First identify what you see that triggers you to break your rules and Swish that image away as you replace it with an image of your ideal self. You can swish to something specific like following your rules, but what does that look like and does it stay the same? Probably not. This is why you want to swish an ideal image of yourself not doing any particular behavior and without context. This way you'll have the flexibility to stick to your rules and ideal self no matter the situation. When you swish to a particular behavior, you're only limiting yourself to being able to do that particular behavior. If the situation doesn't line up for that exact behavior, it won't work.
Hey Damon. Thank you for this video. I really enjoyed it and learned a lot. You're easy and pleasant to listen to. I'm a relative newbie to NLP. Could you please give me a word or two on the differences between associated and disassociated? Do you have a video on it? Reading? Is it connected to seeing yourself from either your own eyes (associated) or above (disassociated)? Thank you again!
Associated is when you think of a memory and you're in it, point of view perspective as if you're reliving it. Disassociated means when you see yourself in a memory like you're watching a movie of yourself. You can also be associated and disassociated in the present. If you're very present, you feel like you're in your body. If you feel disconnected it's usually because you're disassociated, thinking of yourself as if you are outside of yourself.
Learnt a lot here, thank you. Question - if someone reacts to stress by smoking and we want to stop the smoking, I am not sure what the associated image should be. The trigger is the feeling of stress/anxiety which is triggering the smoking (response). So should the associated image be reaching out to the cigarette, as opposed to using a kinasthetic swish instead that considers the stress/anxiety?
Stress and anxiety are evaluative kinesthetic meaning you feel stress and anxiety when you see, hear, or touch something that you evaluate as something to be stressed and anxious about. You can't swish the evaluation. You have to swish the stimulus. Compulsion to do something you don't want to do like smoking is also an evaluative feeling. When you discover what stimulus causes the feeling of compulsion that's what you swish. It will be something you see, hear, or touch and that can be internally in your mind or something external you see, hear, or touch. The first place I would go with what you're asking is what happens between stress and anxiety that turns into compulsion to smoke? It will likely be an image the person sees in their mind so that would be the image to swish. For some it could be a sound like an internal voice. Rarely is it a touch (kinesthetic).
@@DamonCart curious could it be a feeling? I ask because I only have blackness when I close my eyes and when I get the compulsion it’s a feeling I get that I need to smoke, right now. Only way I can describe it is I can feel the images….. 1 other questions could it be done if I touch a lighter or is it beyond the compulsion at that point?
@@jennlong7123 an emotional or evaluative feeling is always the result of evaluating some sort of representation that is coded in one of the five senses. The trigger is unconscious so you need to become consciously aware of what is triggering the compulsion. It's not always a visual. For example, when I feel hunger in my stomach (kinesthetic perceptual feeling) I think to myself "I'm hungry. I need to eat" (kinesthetic evaluative). You need to find what is triggering you to feel compelled to have a cigarette. It's most likely a visual representation but it could also be a sound (auditory representation) or touching something (kinesthetic perceptual). You can swish in any one of the senses but visual is most common. Regarding touching a lighter, why are you touching the lighter to begin with? If it's because you want to smoke, the compulsion is already happening. If you're touching a lighter in order to light your stove and suddenly you feel like having a cigarette, it's probably from touching the lighter.
Thanks for the video. I have a question. If the stimulus is not only visual but appeal to the other senses (in my case, smell and touch) should the ideal image also contain these elements?? Like, I have a bad habit that is being triggered usually when I go to bed at the end of the day. The stimulus is not only the image of bed, but also the smell of the pillow, the way my skin touches the bedsheets, etc. So what should my ideal image be?
It seems like you're confusing the instructions for the ideal image and the compulsion image. The ideal image is disassociated, meaning you see yourself rather than experiencing it point of view as if you're living it. When you use smell and touch, you're usually associated. It's hard to access touch and smell from a disassociated image. For the ideal image, just see an image of yourself from head to shoulders in no particular context and doing no particular behavior. Make the ideal image an image that just lets you know this is your ideal self who has solved all of your problems. This might take a bit of work but it's definitely worth it. For the compulsion or trigger image, you should be associated. When you feel compelled toward something like food you're not supposed to eat for example, you're usually associated. If adding smell and touch to this image helps you feel associated before swishing this image down and replacing it with your ideal self image, that will probably work quite well. That added stimulus will prepare you for when you're actually in a real situation and it will trigger your ideal self image to interrupt the compulsion pattern.
Hi damon , thanks for your videos they are very helpful . I have a confusion between these 3 words in nlp (process ,technique and model) . And also please tell as about the 3 generations of nlp. And thank you very much and sorry if my English is bad hhhh
A NLP technique is a way of doing something within a process to get a desired response. For example, the Swish pattern uses the technique of submodalities to move images around in your mind. Techniques occur within a process. The Swish Pattern is a process that contains techniques. NLP is a model for how we create experiences. A model can contain techniques (like submodalities and perceptual positions) and processes (like the Swish Pattern and Mapping Across). NLP is a model for creating models. We model successful people and from that we create a model for creating the kind of life experiences we want to experience.
What if that anger (secondary emotion) was covering up/driven by his fears or shame (primary emotion). How does therapy process may change. Would we not need to do swish on fear or shame.
Fear and shame are quite different. We can usually swish for fear, but shame is usually about a deep rooted belief about one's self. So the approach to shame would be different.
Would this work for someone with social anxiety? Getting them to see themselves being able to just walk up to people and talk without dealing with anxiety.
It certainly won't hurt to try it. There are no harmful side-effects. When they're imagining their ideal self though, the self that no longer has anxiety and can approach anyone, that image needs to be in no context. In other words, don't have them see their ideal image walking up to people. It needs to be without context.
Hey, I have another question. I did a swish pattern on my addiction about 8 days ago. And it worked quite well, but unfortunately I relapsed today. So should I do a swish pattern again now (so always do it every time I relapse to reinforce the new pattern)?
Addiction is tricky because there's a lot going on. I'm not surprised that it didn't work. First, it's great that you're aware that you have an addiction and you're working on it. Second, you need to get to the positive attention of your addiction. What is it trying to fulfill for you? Third, you need to find other options that are healthy that you can do to fulfill the intention so that you don't need the unhealthy habit or substance anymore. Fourth, satisfy any objections to using other options. Fifth, future pace. This is easier said than done, but this is it in a nutshell.
@@vincentandrew18 what I just gave you is where I would start if I were coaching you. If you really have an addiction though, I recommend seeking out a licensed addiction specialist.
Biting my nails has always been a norm for me. After I have to dip my fingers in flour because for some reason it helps heal the fingers faster. And I wonder why I bite them in the first place.
@@DamonCart it was challenging for me to visualize the ideal image to smash the compulsive image. I’m distracted easily…overall I had small increments of success in preventing some nail biting recently. I’m gonna keep practicing the pattern. Love your content!
@@Andrew66632 thank you. It takes practice but it's absolutely worth it especially when you start tapping into the possibilities of what you can do with this.
I've never really been able to understand when people say about images of experiences being big/small, off to the keft/right, colourful or bland, are there lots of images or only one? , and "move them to the left and make them bigger and more colourful - now how do you feel?" Erm...what?....nothing different? They're just images. I just don't see it. Read the book 'Transforming yourself ' but what put me off is that all the participants seems to be practitioners, and already know what ge was talking about. I must be missing something. Most of memories of experience are in the middle, between my eyes, average size, and just normal colour. What gives? Am I just stupid?
The first half of your comment you say you're not accessing anything visually but then right at the end you say you do see images in color. I'm not sure how to respond to you. You sort of answered your own question. And no, you're not stupid.
How could you include the stick and not just the carrot? as in, if you dont change then this is what's going to happen and how it is unhealthy for you and ineffective, kinda like the Dickens Pattern by Tony Robbins.
I would leave the Swish pattern as it is without modifying it. What you're asking about can be found in the NLP Well Formed Outcome. You can simply ask that question any time you aspire to achieve something and you can ask it at the end of the Swish Pattern. If you really want to take this into the stratosphere, dump the carrot and the stick model altogether and become your highest values rather than chasing after things that you think will give you value; that's where true personal development flourishes.
You mean Secondary Gain? When you check congruence, if there is a secondary gain, it will come up in the form of resistance. Whether the resistance is secondary gain or something else, it doesn't matter. The resistance needs to be acknowledged and integrated.
What was THE WOMAN'S model that she developed.... you're makih content on HIS.....but where's HER'S? You mentioned that both the man and the women developed their own..... where's MORE INFO on HER'S? It REALLY matters
I have a SUPERNATURAL bullshit detector.. It is telling me that you and your information are legitimate...You called out Tony Robbins for teaching this material incorrectly. This tells me two things ... You got some giant balls...You can back up your claims with proof....Your information continues to intrigue me Mr. Cart.
What else would you like to know about the Swish Pattern?
Self image with no particular context and no particular behavior…man, thats a tough one
@@Danzaxe69 it's worth the work.
Ya see, Damon, i have a hard time with the visualization. Any suggestions on how to neutralize the ego in the visualizationu?
@@Danzaxe69 someone mentioned in these comments that they had the same issue so they were making it a point to focus on external visual details more and then closing their eyes and practice visualizing what they were just focusing on. I think this exercise will work well. It's like anything else, it takes practice.
About Auditory & Kinesthetic Swish if possible 😁
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation:
00:00 🌐 *The NLP Swish Pattern has garnered significant interest on UA-cam over the past five years, with a growing desire to understand its workings and effectiveness.*
00:43 🚀 *Despite the popularity, the Swish Pattern is often incorrectly taught in various NLP institutes, emphasizing the importance of proper guidance.*
01:11 🔄 *The video provides a deep dive into the Swish Pattern, originally presented in a group coaching program for the self-concept model, highlighting its connection to identity and self-concept.*
01:54 📄 *A step-by-step PDF guide for performing the Swish Pattern is offered in the video description for those interested in practicing the technique.*
03:37 🤔 *Discussion on the limitations of some NLP practitioner trainings, emphasizing the need for extended practice and experience to effectively apply NLP techniques.*
05:49 🔄 *A personal experience with learning the Swish Pattern incorrectly and the subsequent correction by mentor Steve Andreas, leading to successful outcomes.*
09:01 📚 *Discovery that the NLP encyclopedia teaches the Swish Pattern incorrectly, prompting questions about the evolution of the technique and potential deviations in teachings.*
10:55 🎥 *Steve Andreas identifies incorrect teachings in various Swish Pattern videos on UA-cam, including those by well-known figures like Tony Robbins and the speaker himself.*
13:25 🌐 *The importance of the Swish Pattern having no specific context or behavior in the ideal image for effective identity work, emphasizing its role in transcending space and time.*
20:40 🚭 *Limitations of connecting the Swish Pattern to specific behaviors or contexts, illustrated with an example of quitting smoking and the need for a versatile, context-independent ideal image.*
23:17 🔄 *Disassociation in the Swish Pattern is discussed as a means to break patterns of compulsion, focusing on the ideal image of oneself without excessive attachment to a specific outcome.*
24:28 🤔 *When practicing the swish pattern for self-concept, aim for continuous improvement with the ideal self always ahead, avoiding the pursuit of perfection.*
25:10 🔄 *The swish pattern is a simple yet powerful technique that operates at the unconscious level, breaking patterns without getting caught up in perfectionism.*
27:32 🧠 *Practice the swish pattern until it becomes unconscious, eliminating the need for conscious negotiation or decision-making in pursuing your ideal self.*
28:02 🗣️ *The swish pattern can be adapted for auditory and kinesthetic individuals, allowing flexibility in the process based on individual sensory preferences.*
31:38 🔄 *While the swish pattern is a fast and effective identity-level technique, self-concept work provides a more thorough transformation of values within a person's identity.*
33:50 🎨 *The ideal self in the swish pattern focuses on general ideals and values rather than specific context or material objects like money, fitness, or friends.*
38:26 🔄 *Steps for the swish pattern include identifying a compulsory behavior, finding the point of no return visually, creating an ideal self image, and practicing the swish without resetting.*
46:19 😡 *For anger management using the swish pattern, it's crucial to isolate internal stimuli leading to anger before implementing the technique.*
47:46 ✋ *If using hands in the swish pattern, avoid resetting by breaking the state and ensuring the person doesn't unintentionally undo the progress.*
48:16 💸 *The swish pattern can be applied to compulsive behaviors like overspending, aiming to break the pattern and redirect the individual toward more conscious choices.*
48:31 🔄 *Swish Pattern Overview: Swish pattern involves switching between a compulsory image (undesirable behavior) and an ideal image of oneself, gradually making the ideal image dominant.*
49:45 🎭 *Creative Visualization: Creativity is encouraged in the swish pattern; for example, one can visualize the ideal image dramatically overpowering the compulsory image, adding a personalized touch for effectiveness.*
50:27 🔄 *Universal Ideal Image: The ideal image remains consistent for all swishes, representing the individual's best self across various behaviors or habits.*
53:18 🔍 *Analyzing Anger: In a practical demonstration, a volunteer chooses anger as the behavior to work on; eliciting the specific trigger and associated feelings helps customize the swish pattern.*
56:36 🔄 *Associative and Disassociative States: The process involves accessing the associated emotional state of anger initially and then shifting to a disassociated state when introducing the ideal image.*
57:26 🔄 *Testing the Pattern: After multiple swishes, the effectiveness is tested by breaking the state and observing if the ideal image naturally comes up without conscious effort.*
01:04:34 🔄 *Checking Congruence: Ensuring congruence by evaluating if there's any internal resistance to the change; addressing resistance involves understanding its positive intention and incorporating it into the ideal image.*
01:14:33 🔄 *Uncertainty Post-Intervention: It's normal for individuals to be uncertain about the immediate success of the intervention; continuous practice and observation are essential for solidifying the change.*
01:15:17 🤔 *It's natural for someone undergoing NLP to be genuinely curious rather than overconfident about the success of the technique.*
01:16:12 🧠 *NLP amnesia is a challenge; changes often occur unconsciously, and individuals may not immediately notice them.*
01:16:40 🔄 *Regularly checking for changes over a few months helps confirm the effectiveness of NLP interventions.*
01:16:57 🗣️ *Accountability through feedback from others can be a valuable way to confirm the success of NLP techniques.*
01:17:27 🎙️ *Cultivating sensory acuity skills helps in identifying resistance during NLP interventions.*
01:21:53 🔮 *Future pacing, visualizing future behavior changes, enhances the success of NLP by creating a feedforward system.*
Wow! That's really thorough!
Merci beaucoup Damon! I discoverd your channel few days ago and I am so happy to learn NLP with you! I am watching your videos daily.
You're very welcome!
man I don't know how I missed this one, but really needed to see this, and it helped me a bunch. Thanks so much for going deep on this, Damon!
Glad it was helpful.
These switch patterns are clear and they're taught thoroughly... I got to visualise my ideal self who has already done all of this, while the talking was happening.... H.
Thank you for this video. It was great. My only request for future videos would be if you would be willing to do a demo and then explain and talk about what you did afterwards I think that would be incredibly helpful. Thank you so much again.
What explanation do you think is missing?
Thanks so much, Damon, this is a truly wonderful teaching.❤As I think I'm more auditory generally, but potentially equally visual (I remember being so as a youngster), it seems to me that to cultivate my visual, a good place to start is with our external experience, as that's where I believe it all originates. So, in the effort to cultivate my inner visual (or rediscover it), I've been paying attention to visual submodalities in my external environment, silently noticing shapes, colors, hues, textures, etc. And then revisioning them later with my memory (and "distortion processes") internally. Keeping it vague, but it's been really fun and very helpful in cultivating my inner eye. I've begun working on the image of my "ideal self."
Sounds like a great way to cultivate your ability to visualize.
@@DamonCart So far so good.
I do, but it's been since 2003 when I was certified in NLP.
Incredible experience and effect.
The demos are wonderful and very helpful, please keep it up 🙏♥️
Glad you like them.
What a kind soul you are
Thank you.
Again another excellent video! Thanks Damon, kind and generous man!!😊
You're welcome.
Nice Damon!
How do you identify a psychical response and swish it?
For example one person Everytime he is going outside he gets a psychical response in his body and also he cannot handle any stressful situation or anything that needs his complete attention and got psychical response?
If it is not clear my message I will rewrite it. If you don't understand it....
Yes I need more clarity about the situation.
Thank you very much for sharing the video , very enlightening ... what would be the action if there was a resistant ?
Parts integration.
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That's terrific and marvelous as usually! Thank you for the video!🙏🏻
You're welcome!
This is very good -- very practical and framed in a powerful theory/model. Thank you for sharing!
You're very welcome.
Thanks for such emphasis on an aspect. This has been very helpful to underpin my understanding.
Glad it was helpful.
Gota a doubt, so let say i am a day trader and i dont follow my rules and over trade and losses money , when i do swish technique can I incorporate my behaviour which is following the rules and context which is trading ?
First identify what you see that triggers you to break your rules and Swish that image away as you replace it with an image of your ideal self. You can swish to something specific like following your rules, but what does that look like and does it stay the same? Probably not. This is why you want to swish an ideal image of yourself not doing any particular behavior and without context. This way you'll have the flexibility to stick to your rules and ideal self no matter the situation. When you swish to a particular behavior, you're only limiting yourself to being able to do that particular behavior. If the situation doesn't line up for that exact behavior, it won't work.
Hey Damon. Thank you for this video. I really enjoyed it and learned a lot. You're easy and pleasant to listen to. I'm a relative newbie to NLP. Could you please give me a word or two on the differences between associated and disassociated? Do you have a video on it? Reading? Is it connected to seeing yourself from either your own eyes (associated) or above (disassociated)?
Thank you again!
Associated is when you think of a memory and you're in it, point of view perspective as if you're reliving it. Disassociated means when you see yourself in a memory like you're watching a movie of yourself. You can also be associated and disassociated in the present. If you're very present, you feel like you're in your body. If you feel disconnected it's usually because you're disassociated, thinking of yourself as if you are outside of yourself.
This was super helpful! I kinda thought so, but your explanation was great. Thank you!
Damon thanks for such an awesome video on the Swish pattern...yes I was taught wrong as well!
You are so welcome!
Great information Damon !
Best Wishes!
Thanks, you too.
Learnt a lot here, thank you. Question - if someone reacts to stress by smoking and we want to stop the smoking, I am not sure what the associated image should be. The trigger is the feeling of stress/anxiety which is triggering the smoking (response). So should the associated image be reaching out to the cigarette, as opposed to using a kinasthetic swish instead that considers the stress/anxiety?
Stress and anxiety are evaluative kinesthetic meaning you feel stress and anxiety when you see, hear, or touch something that you evaluate as something to be stressed and anxious about. You can't swish the evaluation. You have to swish the stimulus.
Compulsion to do something you don't want to do like smoking is also an evaluative feeling. When you discover what stimulus causes the feeling of compulsion that's what you swish. It will be something you see, hear, or touch and that can be internally in your mind or something external you see, hear, or touch.
The first place I would go with what you're asking is what happens between stress and anxiety that turns into compulsion to smoke? It will likely be an image the person sees in their mind so that would be the image to swish. For some it could be a sound like an internal voice. Rarely is it a touch (kinesthetic).
@@DamonCart Thank you so much. This makes sense.
@@DamonCart curious could it be a feeling? I ask because I only have blackness when I close my eyes and when I get the compulsion it’s a feeling I get that I need to smoke, right now. Only way I can describe it is I can feel the images….. 1 other questions could it be done if I touch a lighter or is it beyond the compulsion at that point?
@@jennlong7123 an emotional or evaluative feeling is always the result of evaluating some sort of representation that is coded in one of the five senses.
The trigger is unconscious so you need to become consciously aware of what is triggering the compulsion. It's not always a visual. For example, when I feel hunger in my stomach (kinesthetic perceptual feeling) I think to myself "I'm hungry. I need to eat" (kinesthetic evaluative). You need to find what is triggering you to feel compelled to have a cigarette. It's most likely a visual representation but it could also be a sound (auditory representation) or touching something (kinesthetic perceptual). You can swish in any one of the senses but visual is most common.
Regarding touching a lighter, why are you touching the lighter to begin with? If it's because you want to smoke, the compulsion is already happening. If you're touching a lighter in order to light your stove and suddenly you feel like having a cigarette, it's probably from touching the lighter.
Thanks for the video. I have a question.
If the stimulus is not only visual but appeal to the other senses (in my case, smell and touch) should the ideal image also contain these elements??
Like, I have a bad habit that is being triggered usually when I go to bed at the end of the day. The stimulus is not only the image of bed, but also the smell of the pillow, the way my skin touches the bedsheets, etc.
So what should my ideal image be?
It seems like you're confusing the instructions for the ideal image and the compulsion image. The ideal image is disassociated, meaning you see yourself rather than experiencing it point of view as if you're living it. When you use smell and touch, you're usually associated. It's hard to access touch and smell from a disassociated image. For the ideal image, just see an image of yourself from head to shoulders in no particular context and doing no particular behavior. Make the ideal image an image that just lets you know this is your ideal self who has solved all of your problems. This might take a bit of work but it's definitely worth it.
For the compulsion or trigger image, you should be associated. When you feel compelled toward something like food you're not supposed to eat for example, you're usually associated. If adding smell and touch to this image helps you feel associated before swishing this image down and replacing it with your ideal self image, that will probably work quite well. That added stimulus will prepare you for when you're actually in a real situation and it will trigger your ideal self image to interrupt the compulsion pattern.
@@DamonCart OK, thanks!
Hi damon , thanks for your videos they are very helpful . I have a confusion between these 3 words in nlp (process ,technique and model) . And also please tell as about the 3 generations of nlp. And thank you very much and sorry if my English is bad hhhh
A NLP technique is a way of doing something within a process to get a desired response. For example, the Swish pattern uses the technique of submodalities to move images around in your mind. Techniques occur within a process. The Swish Pattern is a process that contains techniques.
NLP is a model for how we create experiences. A model can contain techniques (like submodalities and perceptual positions) and processes (like the Swish Pattern and Mapping Across). NLP is a model for creating models. We model successful people and from that we create a model for creating the kind of life experiences we want to experience.
Many thanks! Very helpful!
You're welcome.
It seems to me like you have to really visualize on the ideal self image for it to work effectively.. correct?
Yes, but don't think that you have to visualize in Hi-Def with specific details. You only need to see what you need to see.
What if that anger (secondary emotion) was covering up/driven by his fears or shame (primary emotion). How does therapy process may change. Would we not need to do swish on fear or shame.
Fear and shame are quite different.
We can usually swish for fear, but shame is usually about a deep rooted belief about one's self. So the approach to shame would be different.
Would this work for someone with social anxiety? Getting them to see themselves being able to just walk up to people and talk without dealing with anxiety.
It certainly won't hurt to try it. There are no harmful side-effects.
When they're imagining their ideal self though, the self that no longer has anxiety and can approach anyone, that image needs to be in no context. In other words, don't have them see their ideal image walking up to people. It needs to be without context.
Thanks for being honest, NLP is not 1 week course, it takes years of practice
Hey, I have another question. I did a swish pattern on my addiction about 8 days ago. And it worked quite well, but unfortunately I relapsed today.
So should I do a swish pattern again now (so always do it every time I relapse to reinforce the new pattern)?
Addiction is tricky because there's a lot going on. I'm not surprised that it didn't work.
First, it's great that you're aware that you have an addiction and you're working on it. Second, you need to get to the positive attention of your addiction. What is it trying to fulfill for you? Third, you need to find other options that are healthy that you can do to fulfill the intention so that you don't need the unhealthy habit or substance anymore. Fourth, satisfy any objections to using other options. Fifth, future pace.
This is easier said than done, but this is it in a nutshell.
Thanks. Is there any NLP technique that I could try that is more effective to help me cure my addiction?
@@vincentandrew18 what I just gave you is where I would start if I were coaching you. If you really have an addiction though, I recommend seeking out a licensed addiction specialist.
Okay, thanks man
Thank you so much!
You're welcome.
Again fascinating!
Yeah the non context thing is key
Very nice video 🙂
Thanks 😊
Yes
Biting my nails has always been a norm for me. After I have to dip my fingers in flour because for some reason it helps heal the fingers faster. And I wonder why I bite them in the first place.
Did you use this pattern?
@@DamonCart it was challenging for me to visualize the ideal image to smash the compulsive image. I’m distracted easily…overall I had small increments of success in preventing some nail biting recently. I’m gonna keep practicing the pattern.
Love your content!
@@Andrew66632 thank you.
It takes practice but it's absolutely worth it especially when you start tapping into the possibilities of what you can do with this.
Thank you 😊
You're welcome
To Swish kinesthetic,, I should remember that emotional feelings are a response, not a stimulus.
Yes so a kinesthetic swish would be a tactile or proprioceptive (kinesthetic perceptual) swish. You would not use evaluative/emotional feelings.
I've never really been able to understand when people say about images of experiences being big/small, off to the keft/right, colourful or bland, are there lots of images or only one? , and "move them to the left and make them bigger and more colourful - now how do you feel?" Erm...what?....nothing different? They're just images. I just don't see it. Read the book 'Transforming yourself ' but what put me off is that all the participants seems to be practitioners, and already know what ge was talking about. I must be missing something. Most of memories of experience are in the middle, between my eyes, average size, and just normal colour. What gives? Am I just stupid?
The first half of your comment you say you're not accessing anything visually but then right at the end you say you do see images in color. I'm not sure how to respond to you. You sort of answered your own question.
And no, you're not stupid.
Thank you sir😄😄😄
Most welcome
How could you include the stick and not just the carrot? as in, if you dont change then this is what's going to happen and how it is unhealthy for you and ineffective, kinda like the Dickens Pattern by Tony Robbins.
I would leave the Swish pattern as it is without modifying it.
What you're asking about can be found in the NLP Well Formed Outcome. You can simply ask that question any time you aspire to achieve something and you can ask it at the end of the Swish Pattern.
If you really want to take this into the stratosphere, dump the carrot and the stick model altogether and become your highest values rather than chasing after things that you think will give you value; that's where true personal development flourishes.
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id like the step by step pdf
It's in the Description directly under the video.
Mind blown by yo yoing
Thank you.
Don't we need to ask about second benefits that's how i was taught?
You mean Secondary Gain? When you check congruence, if there is a secondary gain, it will come up in the form of resistance. Whether the resistance is secondary gain or something else, it doesn't matter. The resistance needs to be acknowledged and integrated.
@@DamonCart thank you so much!
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What was THE WOMAN'S model that she developed.... you're makih content on HIS.....but where's HER'S? You mentioned that both the man and the women developed their own..... where's MORE INFO on HER'S? It REALLY matters
I'm not sure what you're referring to. If you post a time code here when I mention that in the video, I can respond to your question.
I have a SUPERNATURAL bullshit detector.. It is telling me that you and your information are legitimate...You called out Tony Robbins for teaching this material incorrectly. This tells me two things ... You got some giant balls...You can back up your claims with proof....Your information continues to intrigue me Mr. Cart.
Glad I passed your supernatural bullshit detector LOL.
Thank you for the kind words, especially about my balls.
@@DamonCart Hahahahaha!!!! Roger that Mr. Big balls