Your mom was right. It's that damn phone.

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  • @ColeHastings
    @ColeHastings  9 місяців тому +159

    Thanks for watching.
    Join my free self-improvement community here: skool.com/selfmasterypursuers

    • @jarrellfamily1422
      @jarrellfamily1422 9 місяців тому +1

      4:20 bullshit children are easily bored

    • @ColeHastings
      @ColeHastings  9 місяців тому +2

      @Cilo2Crazy Damn...I'm really happy you're still here. I hope you're starting to realize your worth. Thank you for supporting me and watching my videos.

    • @Randomrandom-nb5iv
      @Randomrandom-nb5iv 9 місяців тому

      that was beautyfull man thank you

    • @bUildYT
      @bUildYT 9 місяців тому +1

      these days, moms use their phones more than their kids lol

    • @ShreyasDalvi2006
      @ShreyasDalvi2006 9 місяців тому +1

      ​@@jarrellfamily1422are you calling the fact that children aren't bored easily as 'bullshit'
      Or are you calling kids who are bored easily 'bullshit '

  • @DioZandro
    @DioZandro 9 місяців тому +8648

    For someone who used to be addicted to his phone but now uses it for less than 30 min a day, life's never been better.

    • @ColeHastings
      @ColeHastings  9 місяців тому +480

      King

    • @DioZandro
      @DioZandro 9 місяців тому +101

      @@ColeHastings Likewise

    • @zosimez
      @zosimez 9 місяців тому +263

      How did you do it I’m addicted as fuck

    • @daniellecharming
      @daniellecharming 9 місяців тому +57

      That is amazing!! How did you do it?

    • @Johnnybravo2160
      @Johnnybravo2160 9 місяців тому +26

      How

  • @blink182fanorsomething
    @blink182fanorsomething 9 місяців тому +2961

    As a 16 year old girl whos recently deleted social media (not for the first time, i used to keep going back lmfao), ive noticed a huge difference in a matter of days. ive spent so much time reading, listening to audiobooks, writing, going for walks, colouring, even just finding the weirdest ways to keep myself entertained, and just hobbies in general that i completely abandoned to use my phone, or spend time on unnecessary socials, and its been so beyong refreshing. I feel like we all forget how to live normally until we truly delete everything. I'm literally limiting myself to an hour of youtube a day (on my laptop or tv only, i dont have it on my phone) and 15 minutes of time on messages, so i can interact with friends, etc, but I still go to school, so i see everyone everyday, to further this progress ive already made, and see good results. I just wish more teens saw how your teenage years are literally the perfect time to stop using these apps that are literally ruining their mental health. Ive already seen so much improvement in a matter of days, and im beginning to learn how to entertain myself again and it truly feels amazing!!

    • @JakobNyqvist
      @JakobNyqvist 9 місяців тому +84

      This is very inspiring and relatable. Limiting yourself to only watch yt on other devices than phone is really smart, i will try this. Hopefully i can get as good results as you!

    • @JayLawrencegalleros
      @JayLawrencegalleros 9 місяців тому +27

      Social media ruin my life, i try to delete app and games then after few days or hours i install it again, i can't control my self the boredom is always i experience when i can't scroll social media

    • @alexlama94
      @alexlama94 9 місяців тому +11

      We've alot in common i would be glad if we can friends

    • @Noname-09
      @Noname-09 9 місяців тому +8

      This is fr my life goal, I, almost there-
      Tysm for the extra encouragement!!!

    • @werallgnnadieintheend
      @werallgnnadieintheend 9 місяців тому +4

      good to know.

  • @m4ggsi
    @m4ggsi 9 місяців тому +876

    Bro dropped a masterpiece and thought we wouldn’t notice

    • @fancypigeon1031
      @fancypigeon1031 9 місяців тому +15

      well he definetley thought we would notice otherwise he wouldnt have taken the time to created this masterpiece and post it to youtube.

  • @kierlak
    @kierlak 9 місяців тому +1028

    Excessive mobile phone use makes our bodies create so much dopamine. As a result we have not much left. We may feel tired, distracted, unmotivated, disconnected, anxious and even in the long run: depressed.
    Other activities also work in a similar way: eating comfort food, sugary snacks, alcohol, pornography, gambling, drugs, etc.
    If we want to go even deeper we can start asking ourselves: "What is it that I am trying to distract myself from ?" That can be many things happening on a subconscious level: painful feelings of let's say not feeling connected to your parents, friends and yourself. And many other unmet needs.
    You can't go far without self-awareness.

    • @thedarkestowl4224
      @thedarkestowl4224 9 місяців тому +14

      Great assessment!

    • @maddog_27
      @maddog_27 9 місяців тому +8

      So the question is how can I fix it? Even if I know I feel pain from other things

    • @barcodekilla1138
      @barcodekilla1138 9 місяців тому +3

      Coping with trauma aswell

    • @Kira-km9vj
      @Kira-km9vj 9 місяців тому +33

      ​@@maddog_27 Let yourself feel the pain. It's really really hard at first, but you get used to it. Feel the pain, the discomfort, the anxiety, all of it. And in the future you won't be overwhelmed by it and won't feel the need to "flee" (to your phone)

    • @kwireland
      @kwireland 9 місяців тому

      Great comment!

  • @DóndeEstáAlejandro
    @DóndeEstáAlejandro 9 місяців тому +1612

    "Life should be an exciting adventure. It should never be a bore. A man should live fully, be alive. He should be glad to get out of bed in the morning." - Earl Nightingale

    • @UltimateAwe
      @UltimateAwe 9 місяців тому +2

    • @SirusStarTV
      @SirusStarTV 9 місяців тому +14

      Should...but couldn't because it's reality we live in

    • @DóndeEstáAlejandro
      @DóndeEstáAlejandro 9 місяців тому +16

      @@SirusStarTV sounds like a sad reality you live in. You should work to change your perspectives. Life is really not as bad as most make it. If you really consider it, most of the things in your life are right, but you focus on the wrong.
      “The habit of being happy enables one to be freed, or largely freed, from the domination of outward conditions.”
      - Robert Louis Stevenson

    • @zakosist
      @zakosist 9 місяців тому +18

      @@DóndeEstáAlejandro you have a point, but dont think that people with serious mental illness can just "think their way out of it", it really depends. But many need to learn to appreciate and pay attention to good things

    • @DóndeEstáAlejandro
      @DóndeEstáAlejandro 9 місяців тому

      @@zakosist Great retort and a solid argument. However, even with people that have a documented diagnosis of mental illness, they still have to decide for themselves that they’re going to go to therapy (or that they’re actually gonna put in effort to change when they do go) or take their medication, change their habits/environments, friend groups. It always starts with a mental decision, no matter who you are. Thoughts are supreme, and changing your environment, friend group, or any other aspect of life starts with a thought.
      *this goes for adults that are out on their own in the world, obviously children are at the whim of their parents/guardians.

  • @AnnaStoller
    @AnnaStoller 9 місяців тому +726

    Dude sleepovers and Waking Up on saturday or generally on weekends used to be so fun.

    • @ColeHastings
      @ColeHastings  9 місяців тому +39

      Truly

    • @matthewdawson9364
      @matthewdawson9364 9 місяців тому +35

      As kids many of us would spend the night at our friends' places and "sleep over" there, play games outside and inside, stay up late talking or messing around, good memories

    • @shawnam1546
      @shawnam1546 9 місяців тому +6

      @@matthewdawson9364 I used to stay up until 6am lol!!! It was when I was younger and me and my cousins would keep each other awake. Now I am 15 and don’t have sleepovers anymore.

    • @karencreason4804
      @karencreason4804 9 місяців тому +6

      I work weekends now. Saturday, Sunday, Monday, three 12-hour days. Love my four day “weekends”, but miss Saturdays off. Weird mental thing on my part.😂 Maybe what I really miss is childhood and not being the grownup responsible for everything.

    • @matthewvandyk7773
      @matthewvandyk7773 8 місяців тому +10

      Having kids makes waking up on weekends so fun again. Make your coffee then snuggle with your daughter or son while drinking your coffee and watching a old Pixar movie.

  • @cherryhazard8002
    @cherryhazard8002 9 місяців тому +324

    I went on a vacation away from the city with my boyfriend for some days, I felt alive for the first time in some time when I didn't access my phone as much and I was on the company of someone I loved. It really does matter!

  • @raphaelalavi9385
    @raphaelalavi9385 9 місяців тому +3523

    I’m glad someone else called out those idiots who actually believe that mourning doves are extinct. I literally hear them all the time.

    • @jaidenbishop868
      @jaidenbishop868 9 місяців тому +35

      Same lol

    • @ChuuMoon777
      @ChuuMoon777 9 місяців тому +45

      Yeah I hear it every morning

    • @pedroroque829
      @pedroroque829 9 місяців тому +34

      Literally hearing a dove right now

    • @kungfukenny1793
      @kungfukenny1793 9 місяців тому +122

      Same I’m convinced these people literally aren’t going outside

    • @mouad609
      @mouad609 9 місяців тому +2

      same

  • @Gerbyy
    @Gerbyy 9 місяців тому +866

    as a active bird watcher, yall are missing out, there are birds everywhere literally, when I talk about birds people think I am crazy, but the people around me now notice more birds, and tell me 'hey I never noticed the birds before and now I see them all the time, they are interesting to watch and see, I couldn't see them before' I enjoy doing 'nothing' by going outside sitting in the grass and just existing out there, its so relaxing and enjoyable.

    • @zach.096
      @zach.096 8 місяців тому +11

      Started wildlife photography back in December, and I completely agree, if people got out more and just walked around they could definitely see all of the stuff they are missing out, just watching any sort of wildlife’s behavior when it’s out doing its own thing is phenomenal, I’ve been happy lately to just go to the same metro park to watch a pair of barred owls and I’ve witnessed bald eagles around their babies which is an amazing thing to see.

    • @waffles658
      @waffles658 8 місяців тому +7

      I love birds too! May sound silly but I saw a kingfisher a few months ago and I felt like the luckiest person in the world. My next relatively rare bird I want to see is a woodpecker which are notoriously shy. What’s your favourite bird?

    • @eatsleeprunrepeat
      @eatsleeprunrepeat 8 місяців тому +2

      @@waffles658May I answer this question? My favourite bird would have to be the red kite, there were so many where I used to live and it never got old seeing them soar!

    • @Snakeplisskin440
      @Snakeplisskin440 7 місяців тому +6

      It's so fun. Especially where I live in Ohio we get to witness the migrating warblers and all the lake birds. We got to see snowy owls hanging around Lake Erie a few years ago. It's like real life pokemon.

    • @Gerbyy
      @Gerbyy 7 місяців тому +1

      @@waffles658 My favorite bird is the Gray Catbird, second favorite hovers between wrens and rooks.

  • @Mogw
    @Mogw 9 місяців тому +5872

    One day we all realize “What am I doing?”

    • @SamFBM
      @SamFBM 9 місяців тому +168

      tens of 1000s of hours wasted... although there is knowledge to be had but is mostly scrolling these days.

    • @IMSLIMEFR
      @IMSLIMEFR 9 місяців тому +7

      It’s not nun to do but spend money

    • @JesusFollower596
      @JesusFollower596 9 місяців тому

      No it’s just you dumb dumb, smh 🤦 not everyone is addicted to a dumb phone like you. SMH 🤦 speak for yourself, you must be slow smh 🤦 only betas are addicted to phones smh 🤦

    • @Alex-ms9tk
      @Alex-ms9tk 9 місяців тому +19

      Literally cannot find a job without interfacing the web

    • @pachankachannel559
      @pachankachannel559 9 місяців тому +3

      Ill be already dead when that time comes

  • @paxton153
    @paxton153 6 місяців тому +95

    Sometimes I just sit here and cry thinking about my childhood. I miss it so much and it hurts knowing I can never go back.

    • @RolandKoller90
      @RolandKoller90 6 місяців тому +8

      I felt this hard. I’m with you.

    • @BloodSweatandFears
      @BloodSweatandFears 4 місяці тому +5

      I’m probably older than you but I’m reliving these moments with my own kids. It’s so freakin cool 😊 seeing them discovering things I loved as a kid is extremely fulfilling.

    • @theintrovertedaspie9095
      @theintrovertedaspie9095 3 місяці тому +3

      You know, I watched a video on why gen z is so obsessed with nostalgia.

    • @Deja-gg4dg
      @Deja-gg4dg 2 місяці тому +3

      It may not be the same, but you can always revisit things from childhood. Watch old shows, visit old places, reconnect with old friends, color, etc.

    • @Funnybone_FB
      @Funnybone_FB 21 день тому +1

      Having your own children is the cure; if it's not possible in the moment, shape your present goals such that you are working towards it. Tap into your inner child in the present and meditate on what you look forward to passing down to or experiencing with your children and what you can do as an adult - all the tiring and responsible stuff - to secure that vision. We can meditate and communicate with our inner child and thank them and honor them by being and working towards at least some version of the adult we admired and hoped we would be. Staying connected in this way will let in a reciprocal and juvenile energy that we long for as adults.
      When we have children of our own, we come full circle to satisfy this deep spiritual need we all have to connect with childhood again and literally evoke those pure, innocent, and beautiful feelings once again.

  • @XalpeN16
    @XalpeN16 9 місяців тому +219

    Whenever I hear the mourning dove, it always transfers me to a simpler time.

  • @kojissuccessor
    @kojissuccessor 9 місяців тому +25

    Ive rarely been on my phone only for school and I noticed my mind being at peace not worrying about anyone elses life. I can actually do things entirely for my benefit and no one elses. Thanks for the extra inspiration , Much appreciated.

  • @eloelo4613
    @eloelo4613 8 місяців тому +187

    Unbelievable how my Brain was trying to tell me to skip through this work of art even though it was only 10 minutes long. It‘s crazy how addicted I am to quick dopamine. I forced myself to watch the Full video and was crying for the second half. Thank you. I love you as a human being.

    • @KnowledgeSeeker008
      @KnowledgeSeeker008 7 місяців тому +11

      I stopped myself from reading comments til I was done or switching to 2x speed so I definitely feel uou man😅

    • @markm0000
      @markm0000 2 місяці тому +2

      @@KnowledgeSeeker008 bro that’s exactly what I’m doing right now 😭
      I need to stop.

    • @KnowledgeSeeker008
      @KnowledgeSeeker008 2 місяці тому

      @@markm0000 fr, lock in

  • @chervargas5525
    @chervargas5525 9 місяців тому +222

    People might look down on me because of what I do for a living- I have an in-home preschool. But every day I get to live and interact with life this way through the eyes of children. They saved my spirit from this world. Shredded my ideas of limits of joy or patience, kindness and creativity. They have retaught me wonder, the simple art of wonder. That brings me so much peace.

    • @maryoary3195
      @maryoary3195 8 місяців тому +4

      I think this is beautiful! I’m glad you’re at peace 💗

    • @matthewvandyk7773
      @matthewvandyk7773 8 місяців тому +6

      I know the feeling. Two kids under the age of 5 and I volunteer at my churches youth group. So I get to see the wonder of this world from two different age perspectives.

    • @bobloblaw3606
      @bobloblaw3606 7 місяців тому +9

      What kind of assholes look down on you for that? That is most certainly their problem.

    • @Ayverie4
      @Ayverie4 7 місяців тому

      My kids too. But I worry I will squelch their spirit, because mine has been sapped. I am so tired.

    • @sammadison8209
      @sammadison8209 6 місяців тому +2

      We need more people like you.

  • @nic4ils
    @nic4ils 9 місяців тому +290

    I wish I hadn't spent most part of my life on my phone. It is literally my biggest regret in life and there's no going back. Yeah mom, you were always right

    • @LivePrsnt
      @LivePrsnt 4 місяці тому +7

      I hope more people will start to ask "what's going on here", and realize what a regret it is to spend our lives on a stupid screen product. Right there with you.

    • @potat8089
      @potat8089 3 місяці тому

      5 months later, how is life?

    • @nic4ils
      @nic4ils 3 місяці тому +4

      @@potat8089 It feels incredible. Yesterday I exercised and then I took a very cold shower and it felt really good. Then I read and you know, I was feeling that amazing inner peace and I am happy because life didn't feel like that in a long time. I wish all my days were like that

    • @suusverver6635
      @suusverver6635 Місяць тому +2

      How old are you? Ain’t no way that you spend most part of your life on your phone. You have so much time left to change it. Do it, throw your phone out.

  • @anxietyatom
    @anxietyatom 6 місяців тому +80

    Deleted all social media! I only use UA-cam for maybe 30 minutes a day. I started reading books more and I have been going to the gym and actually just looking at the sky. I'm 31 years old and it feels like I'm actually living in the real world like I did in the early 2000s.

    • @KassieJane
      @KassieJane 25 днів тому

      In the mundane hours of nothingness at home after work or on the weekend, what do you do? Besides reading/walks/gym. I am not (and have never been) into creative hobbies that a lot of people seem to fill that time with, I'm also not a big reader (never was before the internet either). I am working on breaking my addiction and screen time but struggle with intense boredom during long stretches of time where there isn't anything else to do, and can't come up with anything to do that is enjoyable.

    • @mutantmeatball
      @mutantmeatball 23 дні тому

      @@KassieJane can you engage yourself with a local activity or association? Helping those in need, or just having fun by playing a sport or something.

  • @ryxnmichxel2
    @ryxnmichxel2 9 місяців тому +156

    Your story telling ability is inspiring, it’s gotten even better. The hard work is paying off

  • @arshr6964
    @arshr6964 9 місяців тому +1196

    brain rot has taken the best of us :p

    • @yunniuwu
      @yunniuwu 9 місяців тому +16

      nah its just you

    • @ColeHastings
      @ColeHastings  9 місяців тому +205

      I’ve seen meme edits that have permanently damaged my humor

    • @arshr6964
      @arshr6964 9 місяців тому +57

      @@yunniuwu you are so #savage and #different 🔥

    • @ItsAryax
      @ItsAryax 9 місяців тому +35

      you're so sigmaaaa ​@@yunniuwu

    • @yunniuwu
      @yunniuwu 9 місяців тому +3

      @@ItsAryax hush kid

  • @nathaliegrammer6209
    @nathaliegrammer6209 9 місяців тому +281

    It's social media, that really is the "trap", imo. I'm already 29 and not as heavily affected by it's downsides as younger people, but I noticed that scrolling Instagram for too long, especially other's pages and pictures, tends to make me frustrated. All this comparison that comes with it is unhealthy and often devastating.
    It seems to me that people are living in their own bubbles more than ever before, staring at the screens, lost in whatever they're consuming. There's much less interpersonal contact, verbal or nonverbal.
    But there surely is a tendency to go "back to the roots", phones aside.

    • @lzooboo
      @lzooboo 9 місяців тому +1

      @iamsalman2652im working to make videos.

    • @nitnexo
      @nitnexo 9 місяців тому +1

      no you’re just old

    • @bereniceg777
      @bereniceg777 9 місяців тому +7

      ​@@nitnexono you're uncle😂

    • @HealyHQ
      @HealyHQ 9 місяців тому +12

      @@nitnexo 29 isn't old, kid.

    • @Dinian.Mellus
      @Dinian.Mellus 7 місяців тому

      ​@@nitnexoOh no, incel land is reaching UA-cam comments 💀

  • @gamereditor59ner22
    @gamereditor59ner22 9 місяців тому +148

    I walked outside almost everyday, even if it is cold. It is beautiful and breath taking while walking around the neighborhood.

    • @michaelcraig9449
      @michaelcraig9449 9 місяців тому +3

      Walkin the Woods, the forest, not the neighborhood!

    • @CutePetsMoment
      @CutePetsMoment 3 місяці тому +1

      brother i am a phone addict since last 1.5 years . i tried every single things to get out of it but i failed . every single day is same for me . i become a failure from topper. i just hate myself . it just destroy my dream to be a doctor. i can't remain diciplain more then 3 days. i don't have any self control and i also lost all hope in my life and afraid of trying cuz i know i will fail again . its very very hard to break phone addiction . i watch so many videos and try so many method still failed . i cannot see anyway to save myself . i am tired of myself. most important thing it just ruined my academic life. if anyone can help me please help

    • @britlmao
      @britlmao 22 дні тому

      Ong

  • @nicolasbolas2247
    @nicolasbolas2247 9 місяців тому +605

    I've decided that the common variable amongst most problems in my life is my phone. Bad attention span and can't study? Phone. Trouble talking to other people? Phone. Anxious? Phone. Porn? Phone.
    Today is the start of my journey using it as little as possible. Godspeed everyone

  • @texanplayer7651
    @texanplayer7651 9 місяців тому +135

    I also started noticing my own brain rot, so I installed an extension on my browser that blocks websites like youtube after 2 hours of watch time, so basically a self inflicted parental control.
    Within just a few days I already started noticing positive changes, with less info that my brain had to swallow throughout the day, I became much more creative with ideas.
    Maybe 2 hours a day is enough. And I mean for EVERYTHING internet related, be it youtube or any other social media.
    And we can do even better with less connectivity

    • @pimgimbel5438
      @pimgimbel5438 9 місяців тому +5

      Good job man

    • @gerardo_palacios
      @gerardo_palacios 9 місяців тому +1

      whats the extension called?

    • @AjharHussain-tr2ir
      @AjharHussain-tr2ir 9 місяців тому

      so if i did the same would i be able to get my creativity back?

    • @Teafui
      @Teafui 9 місяців тому +5

      ​@@AjharHussain-tr2irabsolutely! And if you started to rarely use multiple inspections for a painting, it'd turn to the better

    • @jessecoffins8832
      @jessecoffins8832 7 місяців тому +3

      Im built different I would simply just turn it off

  • @bUildYT
    @bUildYT 9 місяців тому +965

    these days moms use their phones more than their kids lol

    • @ThatGuy-vi6cj
      @ThatGuy-vi6cj 9 місяців тому +74

      Indeed its even worse when you see it in the tiktoks when they force them to do cute silly things for views

    • @NongJerome
      @NongJerome 8 місяців тому +9

      Exactly my thoughts when I read the title lol

    • @damigamermx-us8291
      @damigamermx-us8291 8 місяців тому +35

      My mother is literally addicted to Facebook

    • @mommalion7028
      @mommalion7028 7 місяців тому +1

      Hey.
      This video is about moms.

    • @kotala4051
      @kotala4051 7 місяців тому +1

      That's besides the point.

  • @insightful_fairy8743
    @insightful_fairy8743 9 місяців тому +116

    I hate seeing people walking round outside while on their phone…. It happens a lot! They’re missing out on so much !

    • @theintrovertedaspie9095
      @theintrovertedaspie9095 3 місяці тому

      Good thing I don't go for walks with my phone. Unless I was talking a video of the scenery.

    • @plutoplatters
      @plutoplatters 3 місяці тому +1

      every person I see is doing that....

  • @DEVAMS01
    @DEVAMS01 9 місяців тому +104

    Great video! The world is our playground! "We don't stop playing because we grow old, we grow old because we stop playing".
    So sometimes all you need to do is put the damn phone away and be in the moment. It gives you superpowers!😄💪

    • @CutePetsMoment
      @CutePetsMoment 3 місяці тому +1

      brother i am a phone addict since last 1.5 years . i tried every single things to get out of it but i failed . every single day is same for me . i become a failure from topper. i just hate myself . it just destroy my dream to be a doctor. i can't remain diciplain more then 3 days. i don't have any self control and i also lost all hope in my life and afraid of trying cuz i know i will fail again . its very very hard to break phone addiction . i watch so many videos and try so many method still failed . i cannot see anyway to save myself . i am tired of myself. most important thing it just ruined my academic life. if anyone can help me please help

  • @nikedoesthings
    @nikedoesthings 9 місяців тому +81

    I don't know why I clicked on this vid but I had to pause when the sound of the mourning dove was mentioned. One of my oldest memories was when I was sleeping over at my grandfather's house with my sister, every morning we would hear multiple mourning doves. We weren't allowed to go downstairs before a certain time and we couldn't be loud, so we would whisper as the early sun would peek through the blinds and we'd just mimic the doves and whisper about how many chestnuts we'd go find on the field today. I'm a millennial but that sound of the doves brings me back to that specific morning or weekend. The childish anticipation of the day to come and what thoughts were in our minds then. I didn't even need to finish the video to know what would follow. Needless to say, I do still hear the mourning doves, but during my busiest years, I'm sure I haven't heard a single one.

    • @KnowledgeSeeker008
      @KnowledgeSeeker008 7 місяців тому +1

      That’s amazing❤

    • @lifeofhope
      @lifeofhope Місяць тому

      when i hear that dove to I feel transported back to my nans house as a kid

  • @ravinchandra
    @ravinchandra 7 місяців тому +133

    I have uninstalled everything except youtube for almost 3 months now. I must be honest that I am a bit addicted to YT. But when I started this away time from the virtual world, I ended up crying for almost 15 minutes. Because I could hear things, hear the chirping of birds, croaking frogs, crickets and even the breeze. I remember crying out loud after repeating loudly “I can hear everything”. It was worth it. I must reduce my screen time.

    • @KnowledgeSeeker008
      @KnowledgeSeeker008 7 місяців тому +1

      😮 this is inspirational!

    • @vrbuiltonrock
      @vrbuiltonrock 6 місяців тому +1

      agreee! as i typed this i hear crickets singing, my neighbor tending to their garden. so lively!

    • @Banzo_
      @Banzo_ 6 місяців тому

      Wow. Glad I never lost that surrounding awareness

    • @CutePetsMoment
      @CutePetsMoment 3 місяці тому

      brother i am a phone addict since last 1.5 years . i tried every single things to get out of it but i failed . every single day is same for me . i become a failure from topper. i just hate myself . it just destroy my dream to be a doctor. i can't remain diciplain more then 3 days. i don't have any self control and i also lost all hope in my life and afraid of trying cuz i know i will fail again . its very very hard to break phone addiction . i watch so many videos and try so many method still failed . i cannot see anyway to save myself . i am tired of myself. most important thing it just ruined my academic life. if anyone can help me please help

    • @Banzo_
      @Banzo_ 3 місяці тому

      @@CutePetsMoment Stop using a smart phone. An addict cannot moderate or have any control over their addiction. Get a flip phone; You have to cut yourself off completely and never use a smart phone again. It's a huge tool to not be able to use, but it's worth it and you will gain skills others have lost by finding different tools to use in your every day life that your smart phone has substituted. It's a huge plus not having to revolve around a smart phone and that you're aware of it's damage. You will be by far way more productive than anyone with a smart phone, guaranteed. It will make your life harder in some areas not having GPS for example, but you can buy a GPS. The tools we use on our phone can be purchased elsewhere.
      I wish you luck and please, for your mental health, stay off social media, your screen as much as you can, and fill your time with productive stuff that will make you grow as a person.

  • @LastGunslinger1
    @LastGunslinger1 9 місяців тому +20

    I am online way too much. Me and a few of my friends decided that we needed to fix that if we want to live a better life. Thank you for this video.

  • @nimblename
    @nimblename 9 місяців тому +19

    Profound insight man, I think even the term “creator” puts consumers at a distance. Like we constantly see what others are putting out there on the socials and comparing to our own existence. That perpetuates a feeling of lack of creativity in ourselves. Also thank you for letting me know what that bird is I constantly hear now that I’m living in Texas 🕊️

    • @technopancake85
      @technopancake85 Місяць тому

      I’ve been comparing myself to others way too much, for example I compare myself to Tyler the creator to much,”if he can do it then I can too” the second I clicked a virtual piano key I felt defeated, I have no idea what it was, I feel so lost, any help?

  • @nataliasjoy
    @nataliasjoy 7 місяців тому +10

    Wow. That was an incredible and moving video. So often I come back to thinking "Life as a kid was so much more colourful, more vibrant, lively" and you described this phenomenon perfectly. I am 26 now and on a journey of finding my inner curiosity and this video helps a lot with that. Thank you

  • @AlineUnleashed
    @AlineUnleashed 7 місяців тому +13

    Ive started a social media break right now and the first week I’m feeling much more present and fulfilled. Great video to keep my motivation up!

    • @CutePetsMoment
      @CutePetsMoment 3 місяці тому

      brother i am a phone addict since last 1.5 years . i tried every single things to get out of it but i failed . every single day is same for me . i become a failure from topper. i just hate myself . it just destroy my dream to be a doctor. i can't remain diciplain more then 3 days. i don't have any self control and i also lost all hope in my life and afraid of trying cuz i know i will fail again . its very very hard to break phone addiction . i watch so many videos and try so many method still failed . i cannot see anyway to save myself . i am tired of myself. most important thing it just ruined my academic life. if anyone can help me please help

  • @abbycheyenne9727
    @abbycheyenne9727 9 місяців тому +22

    Its so important to really take the time to ground yourself in this day and age. I really didnt believe the morning dove sang anymore because my childhood friend and i talk about nostalgia so much and when I was at her house with my babies the last time we both heard it again. She says every once in a while she still hears them but it had been years since i remember hearing it. I hear it in my yard now and as im typing there are birds chirping loudly right outside my front door. Your video is inspiring. I love grounding myself in the present but dont do it enough. What helps me is realizing with my 2 kids that if we dont then we rob our children of the same experience and fun we had. Playing in mud, picking wild blackberries, climbing trees, riding bikes, playing with the waterhose and feeling a sense of connection eith loved ones and thinking this was such a perfect day.

  • @Kenif_18
    @Kenif_18 8 місяців тому +13

    I started going for long walks with my wife and daughter and we started listening to the birds and it was so calming. Just walking and talking enjoying our presence in the moment. It’s become a big part of our daily routine.

  • @placefantasy1821
    @placefantasy1821 9 місяців тому +64

    It’s really sad to have the roles reversed with my mom now where I have cut off most social media and I spend significantly less time on my phone but she has an extreme form of social media and phone addiction. It’s devastating.

    • @Painkill100
      @Painkill100 7 місяців тому +3

      Wow. Same Here. ITS so weird.

    • @KnowledgeSeeker008
      @KnowledgeSeeker008 7 місяців тому +1

      I’m prying for you. Keep holding in there ❤❤

    • @placefantasy1821
      @placefantasy1821 7 місяців тому +1

      @@KnowledgeSeeker008 thanks actually I really appreciate you saying that

  • @adalai_domaruk
    @adalai_domaruk 8 місяців тому +12

    Yoo so right after I finished this video I decided to drop everything and take a bike ride. I didn’t even bring my phone. I biked around town, and I couldn’t help but hear the sound of the mourning dove. I heard it like 4 times too! I haven’t ridden my bike in months, and this video was a wake up call. My mental state feels calmer already. Thank you so much stranger! ❤❤

    • @KnowledgeSeeker008
      @KnowledgeSeeker008 7 місяців тому

      ❤keep that path going!

    • @OliviaLeigh
      @OliviaLeigh 7 місяців тому

      I love this. I hope you keep it up, stranger :)

  • @LakiaS-pb5nw
    @LakiaS-pb5nw 6 місяців тому +11

    This video literally made me cry. I crave the days when life was just...simple. When i could read books and watch the same movies over and over again without being bored. When I could listen to an entire music album without being distracted by my phone...I hate what the Internet and social media has done to so many of us. Ive lost so many years consuming and watching other people live thier lives. Ive lost time, live lost money and even friends because of my addiction. It ends today. Im 34 btw. To the young people PLEASE stop! You dont want to live with regret.

    • @lifeofhope
      @lifeofhope Місяць тому

      I am 31 and i agree with you. It is truly sad how life has gone like this

  • @mccarney4207
    @mccarney4207 9 місяців тому +5

    Cole, I love your channel and never wanted to mention this criticism before since I always liked the messaging of your videos and didn’t want to be a hater. But your writing style has improved so much when I look back to your old videos and compare them to now. I used to think your delivery was a little too wordy but I feel like every video you get cleaner and cleaner with your scripts when you’re telling your stories. I love what you’ve been able to do with these stories you tell. Your channel’s been a huge help in reminding me of how simple and hopeful life can be

  • @3810-dj4qz
    @3810-dj4qz 9 місяців тому +44

    As an “old” person who grew up without phones or internet- or computers for that matter- the sounds of the world give you peace and calm your soul. I often walk to many places -even take the bus because it requires walking too and from- just to hear the world and its sounds. Very calming effect. I also drive with the windows down because I hate the silence a closed car can create. Opening the windows helps me absorb those calming sounds. So I fully support the “get off your damn phone” movement.

    • @michaelcraig9449
      @michaelcraig9449 9 місяців тому +6

      Yeah why does everyone drive with all the windows up, no matter what temperature it is, even if it is perfect like 50-90 degrees? I do notice that. I drive with them open.

    • @ridethelapras
      @ridethelapras 4 місяці тому +1

      @@3810-dj4qz This is why I can’t stand riding in a car with anyone else. They try to be respectful by leaving the radio off, and the windows up. But I couldn’t think of anything more excruciatingly boring.

  • @oscar-rode
    @oscar-rode 9 місяців тому +4

    thank you for this beautiful message, Cole. everything we need is already here 🍃

  • @rafaelmelosites
    @rafaelmelosites 9 місяців тому +6

    The script of your videos are really good, your writing only gets better

  • @cassyhanley
    @cassyhanley 2 місяці тому +1

    That was beautiful. One of those passing thoughts that you don't assume many people stop to think about and then you see this video randomly and there you are in awe!

  • @bibekmishra2212
    @bibekmishra2212 9 місяців тому +3

    I subscribed because of your last line in the video. Out of all youtubers who are asking to subscribe shamelessly, this is a refreshing and welcome change. Love hearing to you because of the bold and healthy messages within. Thank You.

  • @adzdrawss
    @adzdrawss 8 місяців тому +9

    i don’t spend much time wasting my time on my phone. ill spend some time catching up on instagram and texting people if others have texted me or if i want to text them about something. if im on my phone ill be on youtube watching something from someone i like or im drawing on my ipad. i used to be severely depressed and used to be on my phone for 12 hours a day. i am so glad to say im a survivor of the worst of it. life is so worth truly living and im glad i found that :)

    • @CutePetsMoment
      @CutePetsMoment 3 місяці тому

      brother i am a phone addict since last 1.5 years . i tried every single things to get out of it but i failed . every single day is same for me . i become a failure from topper. i just hate myself . it just destroy my dream to be a doctor. i can't remain diciplain more then 3 days. i don't have any self control and i also lost all hope in my life and afraid of trying cuz i know i will fail again . its very very hard to break phone addiction . i watch so many videos and try so many method still failed . i cannot see anyway to save myself . i am tired of myself. most important thing it just ruined my academic life. if anyone can help me please help i will be greatful to you . one of the biggest thing i cannot leave as i study from online.

  • @АНИ-б4ь
    @АНИ-б4ь 9 місяців тому +4

    The morning dove is so special for me and always be ! So impressed!

  • @sharpie882
    @sharpie882 9 місяців тому +2

    I admire the style of your videos. I could never imagine doing your style because I had previously thought the story-type delivery was lengthy and not of excellent time value; however, the way you deliver your stories and connect ideas is impressive. Your videos allow moments of ponder and room to process. Thank you for your work!

  • @miliba
    @miliba 9 місяців тому +4

    This is beautiful Cole, thank you for reminding me how great life was as an innocent little child

  • @Lovesinger-w8e
    @Lovesinger-w8e 9 місяців тому +11

    The birds, its been a while since I heard them. But when I started hearing them again I couldn't feel more joy, all I used to do before was sit on my phone with airpods all day. Now I actually take time to sit and hear outside.Take a break, look out, you'll see what you've been looking for.

  • @kblearner1528
    @kblearner1528 9 місяців тому +17

    I always thought my mom was not smart and like old fashioned
    But the older I grow, I realise, everything she said was totally true
    I love my mom she is a endless entity of love, care and wisdom

  • @Ac0n1tvm_13
    @Ac0n1tvm_13 8 місяців тому +3

    I love that as we’re talking about morning birds I hear a few!! I’m standing outside waiting to catch my bus watching this video and I just so happen to hear a couple!!

  • @Wave.6
    @Wave.6 9 місяців тому +3

    Thank you for this video. Your storytelling really touched my soul. Thank you.

  • @IanJackson-gb4gw
    @IanJackson-gb4gw 8 місяців тому +2

    I watched this and I thought, he has a point, I just spend an hour outside with my brother before dinner, so many memories came back. Thanks

  • @TalesOfTrillions
    @TalesOfTrillions 9 місяців тому +3

    Absolutely loved the analogy of the sandbox! It's true, there are no rules in creativity.

  • @sophieeeee6148
    @sophieeeee6148 8 місяців тому +2

    how did he sum up the last year of my tourment and thought process about social media into a ten minture vid so well articulated

  • @Rajab25161
    @Rajab25161 9 місяців тому +34

    We all have realized that our parents were always right
    Miss you Dad ..🥺🤲🏻♥️

  • @martingjugja7122
    @martingjugja7122 9 місяців тому +2

    Dear Cole. Although youre much younger than me, I admire your knowledge and wisdom. In fact , youre the only content creator of your sphere who is that young that I watch. I have been watching for a while now, and its always.the same- You always bring the message of optimism, positivity, and encouragment. Keep up the great work!

    • @ColeHastings
      @ColeHastings  9 місяців тому +1

      Thank you for the kind words, Martin

  • @SupraTompan
    @SupraTompan 6 місяців тому +3

    This is hands down one of the best videos to watch 2024.
    I was in tears half the video, watching and listening, realizing how much I have missed out on just because of a phone.
    Now, out and play with my 3 year old son.

  • @NickSharpx
    @NickSharpx 9 місяців тому +6

    I loved the storytelling in this video Cole, and I very much agree with your whole way of seeing things, I myself have been trying to redescover that childlike instinct since I studied Pirandello in high school (his whole poetic style was that of trying to recapture the child gaze and express it with words), staying off short form content is definitely great ngl

  • @Snagger__11
    @Snagger__11 9 місяців тому +18

    Dude I almost cried watching this.
    Back in the day me and my cousin carlis used to play things like police where we used our bikes to move around, buy stuff, had imaginary gfs and such like peach or some other video game character it was so fun.
    We also played with chess pieces that were Mario characters and made crazy stories out of that.
    I even would make entire Mario type platformjng games in my head with extremely hard and complex elements in the bathroom only using my hands to move around and dodge enemies/ platform/ etc.
    I will definitely be trying to tap back into that more. I already do that sometimes by CREATING fan fics and active meditation (something I got from Mindvalley) but I could do so much more as my brain is BIGGER NOW!

  • @estebanflores631
    @estebanflores631 8 місяців тому +2

    what a beautiful video, the visuals, the wordplay, the creative and unique use of analogies and metaphors is exactly the way i think about the things ive been thinking about lately. i’ve gone from using my phone to search for and quell my cravings for socialization, creation and entertainment to now talking with anyone i can, playing music and analyzing it to quell my creative spirit and entertaining myself with the beauty and wonders of the world. This video is the perfect summary of everything ive experienced in the last couple of weeks. thank you so much and congratulations on such a greatly constructed and informative video!

  • @charlotteryner6583
    @charlotteryner6583 9 місяців тому +6

    I'm working on reducing my phone time. Incredible how quickly you get hooked. 😮

  • @iamiam4155
    @iamiam4155 Місяць тому

    I am so impressed with the way you flow through this message. It's like reading/listening to a good book.

  • @BlueStinger475
    @BlueStinger475 7 місяців тому +9

    0:14 hit so hard. On Thursday, I heard the bird. Me and my mom was at the local farmer market, which is outside. Even before that, I was pondering on that bird. When I heard it, I was outside more. Now I'm always inside, on my phone, my computer, and it's not even learning. I'm just going online or playing games.

  • @aishaeb
    @aishaeb 9 місяців тому +1

    I loved this. I grew up the way you described. I never let go of it. Thank you.

  • @maciejones4883
    @maciejones4883 7 місяців тому +3

    I started hearing the morning dove during Covid when everything slowed down and now I hear it all the time and it’s one of my favorite sounds

  • @soumiabenrochd1396
    @soumiabenrochd1396 9 місяців тому +2

    Wow, man, this is simply wonderful! BTW, I love the dove sound, and since I'm 38 years old, I know what life looked like before smartphones addiction. Mom was and still is right. Big thanks! 🙏

  • @ccpplays2533
    @ccpplays2533 9 місяців тому +5

    The shots you showed in this video are phenomenal 🔥

    • @ColeHastings
      @ColeHastings  9 місяців тому +1

      Thank you, very happy with how some of them turned out

  • @aishlinalmaraz1663
    @aishlinalmaraz1663 9 місяців тому +2

    Your storytelling is amazing

  • @Samos900
    @Samos900 7 місяців тому +16

    I’m not addicted to my phone, I’m addicted to doing nothing, my phone makes it easy to do so

  • @RadekWade
    @RadekWade 7 місяців тому

    Beautifully said and very eye-opening.

  • @DoofenSpyroDragon16
    @DoofenSpyroDragon16 9 місяців тому +20

    Honestly beautiful outro.
    A quote from the Goldbergs sums it up best:
    “Always hold onto that (childlike) wonder.”
    Great video, Cole.

  • @gulunkizi
    @gulunkizi 9 місяців тому +4

    This is probably my favorite video of all time💯

  • @jessicasaccone7608
    @jessicasaccone7608 6 місяців тому +5

    When my daughter was little, I would take her to this small playground that had a sandbox. It was her favorite part of being there. Then after a few years they torn down the small playground, removed the sandbox, and built a larger, "better" playground about 30 yards from the original spot. No sandbox. The new playground has more plastic to climb on and a bright barn theme to it, but 10 years later, my now teenage daughter still talks about the sandbox and how she misses it.

  • @faceless-1356
    @faceless-1356 5 місяців тому +1

    This video made me cry. I lost my inner child somewhere during these years, I will try my best to get him back

  • @hollyloomer7667
    @hollyloomer7667 9 місяців тому +3

    Wonder, is a wonderful word. The sense of wonder within our world has deteriorated due to many factors. If you can cultivate a sense of wonder around you in the real world, life gets more colorful.

  • @mon-jp8jt
    @mon-jp8jt 4 місяці тому

    This was a MUCH needed wake-up call for me. Thank you Cole!

  • @GamerBoy.1761
    @GamerBoy.1761 9 місяців тому +3

    Lovely video, Cole! I try every to not erase my imagination like I have during childhood and do my best to keep the creativity and ideas I put on paper or on phone/computer.

  • @Annie0110
    @Annie0110 5 місяців тому +1

    THIS IS BEAUTIFUL. PERFECT MESSAGE FOR THE WIRED AND THE UNWIRED.

  • @Presidentofthepresident
    @Presidentofthepresident 8 місяців тому +3

    I’m not sure I ever heard the mourning dove, maybe they just don’t live in the places I’ve grown up or I just never noticed them, but where I live now I hear lots of birdsong all the time and I really appreciate it. Those sounds are just beautiful

  • @isaacdudley4880
    @isaacdudley4880 6 місяців тому

    Ever since I watch this I’ve noticed so much more small stuff especially this morning dive
    Took my screen time from &6 hours to 3.5-4 hours a day and I’m still taking it down slowly
    Thanks Man!

  • @bravequest8078
    @bravequest8078 9 місяців тому +7

    Screens only engage eyes and ears, with generally no body movement. Interacting with the world engages all of the senses. You feel the breeze, you can pick a flower or feel the rough bark of a tree. Smell the air, see and hear things from all different angles. Move your body through a wide range of motion. It's all so much more engaging, your body and mind are made to interact with the world this way. Many of us need to go outside without our devices and kind of pick up where we left off in childhood. Me included, I better put this thing down and go move around! Thanks for the video!

  • @AutumnTheAxalotl
    @AutumnTheAxalotl Місяць тому

    Holy shit, I watch ALOT of ciedoes like these. And none have ever touched me like this. Thanks you for this, I really appreciate you going out of your way to share this with the world :]

  • @XalpeN16
    @XalpeN16 9 місяців тому +4

    The script is really professional. I could see you being an author.

    • @ColeHastings
      @ColeHastings  9 місяців тому +4

      Much appreciated. I’ve written a book years ago, but would like to write a fiction book someday soon

  • @shawnee8271
    @shawnee8271 8 місяців тому

    The way I clicked this video so fast. Thanks for the message!! I am a lover of the outdoors who also spends too much time on my phone.. A GREAT book recommendation relating to this topic is The Surrender Experiment. I am going to start reading that for the 2nd time in place of spending time on my phone.

  • @CrowWilkins
    @CrowWilkins 3 місяці тому +6

    i tried using a flip phone for one month, and i was genuinely the happiest i have ever been in my life. If i didn’t need a smartphone for work, i would never go back.

  • @theblaz0rbigfarm730
    @theblaz0rbigfarm730 9 місяців тому +2

    Create > Consume
    That is the key.
    Great video🙏

  • @viktas
    @viktas 9 місяців тому +5

    Sometimes simple solutions are the best.

  • @antiscroll
    @antiscroll 4 місяці тому

    Hi, thanks for your content. This is exactly what I’m trying to address. I just want to remind people to stop scrolling and enjoy the moments.

  • @MatthewKruse-ri8ep
    @MatthewKruse-ri8ep 8 місяців тому +5

    Just went out early with my phone off. They're still there! The morning doves are still there.
    Their tone is easy to miss if you have other sounds like cars or trucks going by, but, if you can be at a quiet place around 6AM - spring/ summer, they're out there.

  • @NickFrancoeur-lc2qf
    @NickFrancoeur-lc2qf 9 місяців тому +10

    i still use my phone but half as much as i did the last year. Life had never been so amazing. Better im 15 and im outside almost 24 7 all those losers in my class are just on Discord. Great video

    • @duckman9327
      @duckman9327 8 місяців тому +1

      @joshuadeltonExactly, don’t make harsh judgments about other people

    • @KnowledgeSeeker008
      @KnowledgeSeeker008 7 місяців тому

      Fr

    • @CutePetsMoment
      @CutePetsMoment 3 місяці тому

      brother i am a phone addict since last 1.5 years . i tried every single things to get out of it but i failed . every single day is same for me . i become a failure from topper. i just hate myself . it just destroy my dream to be a doctor. i can't remain diciplain more then 3 days. i don't have any self control and i also lost all hope in my life and afraid of trying cuz i know i will fail again . its very very hard to break phone addiction . i watch so many videos and try so many method still failed . i cannot see anyway to save myself . i am tired of myself. most important thing it just ruined my academic life. if anyone can help me please help

  • @daughterofChrist04
    @daughterofChrist04 7 місяців тому +1

    this is such a cool topic and discussion! i wish i had friends who would have convos like this

  • @drewmorrison
    @drewmorrison 9 місяців тому +31

    90% of people have headphones in and their eyes glued to the screen every waking hour.
    I live in a high rise that’s 20 floors so the elevator ride is 20-30 seconds.
    Almost everyone pulls their phone from their pocket to check it while they are in the elevator.
    We that go 30 seconds without needing to be distracted from slight boredom

  • @denish1
    @denish1 7 місяців тому

    I heard one this morning! and now I'm watching this 🤯 I don't know how to feel right now. Thanks for this video 😊

  • @wamda._
    @wamda._ 9 місяців тому +5

    i love your unique perspectives, and i relate to them a lot, ❤😊

  • @jst0aguy
    @jst0aguy 8 місяців тому +2

    I started putting the title on the end of the essay or smth like that and it really gives it depth

  • @bigduke5902
    @bigduke5902 9 місяців тому +8

    Building, frantic piano that ends abruptly with the end of the video really makes me feel I I've watched something smart.

  • @lalonimagnuson9859
    @lalonimagnuson9859 7 місяців тому +2

    This was epic! Thank you for creating this.

  • @seattlegrrlie
    @seattlegrrlie 7 місяців тому +11

    That's why I ride bikes and go hiking. I'm still playing and I still hear the birds who wake me up

  • @EllaNutella3
    @EllaNutella3 9 місяців тому +2

    Awesome storytelling. Very entertaining and really opened my eyes 🩷