Learning to be a kid again in my 50s
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In this video, I explore how taking more risks is transforming my life in my 50s. Drawing from personal experiences, I share moments when I dared to step outside my comfort zone and the powerful lessons I learned from those decisions. I also break down a formula I developed to help me (and you?) understand better the process of risk-taking, which is instrumental to living a richer life.
I then dive into the challenges of droning (yes, droning!) and navigating French culture and the language, both of which have brought up in me high levels of fear and anxiety. But I’ve come to realize that without embracing these fears and discomforts and taking more chances, I simply cannot fully experience the freedom and fulfillment that I crave.
Join me as I explore why taking more risk is so crucial to living a fuller and freer life.
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Fantastic video. You seem so much freer speaking here than in your previous videos!! Very brave of you to do this, I found it refreshing. Beautiful emotion at the end. Also 3:25 made me laugh, glad you didn't cut that out.
Sport mode all the way!!!!
Haha, yes, all thanks to you! You were also a driving force in me opening up in front of the camera. You've been pushing me in that direction for a long time. I finally got it, how to loosen up and just speak, be my imperfect self. Which is perfect as it is. :) If I could just keep getting out of my way...
You have no idea how your openness and vulnerability inspires and encourages me. I am a Latina woman breaking, at 63, the shackles of my subconscious cultural constraints. Giving myself permission to re-child myself is challenging but so rewarding! Onward! Growth at any age is good.
So great to hear, that's awesome. Best of luck and thanks so much for your support! 🙏😁
Please do more of this style and approach. Being so vulnerable and showing your personal process. Very relatable. Thank you!
Thank you so much and will do! 🙏😁
Kudos for taking the risk and letting go. Doing that for a UA-cam video is HUGE! Way to challenge yourself. Making mistakes is important! That's how we learn and grow. Cheers to embracing more dissatisfaction with your comfort zone!
Thank you :)
Love the new format..great work! You have a sparkle in your eyes in this video. Bravo. I completely get where you are coming from, as I am a lot like you. We moved from Washington State to France last year, to north eastern Brittany. Your move shows that you are, in fact, a brave soul, as the moving process, being an expat, and day to day life here is fraught with challenges (and so worth it). You don't have to see the whole path before you take your first step.
Very true. That undertaking (moving to France) is STILL kicking our asses! Thank you so much for your support. 🙏😁
Hear, hear, from a fellow Washingtonian in France!
@@shinyshinythings Bon soirée! Where and when did you settle in France?
What good questions these are. Definitely food for thought.
Thank you 🙏😁
YES. Do more of this! I think you are tapping into something people our age (50's) can relate to and need. I am here for it.
Love it! Thank you so much! 🙏😁
Oh yes! This translates beautifully. Inspirational. Thank you.
Thank you so much 🙏😁
I've often found with a shift in perspective, when I look at something new as an experiement without an expectation of outcome... "lets see what happens" the experience is much more fun and I always expand my comfort zone. I prove I can do more than my scaredy brain wants me to believe.
I also enjoyed the more relaxed approach to this video. Well done for stepping into the fear and ending up in a more joyous place.
Thank you so much and so true what you've shared. Words to live by. Really appreciate your support. 🙏
Love the warmth of this new style. Kudos for taking the leap. I have also enjoyed your more curated/art house style as well, but it's nice to see the human being come to life behind the lens. Keep it up! I'll watch either style.
Haha, thank you so much. More coming soon! 🙏😁
Always love watching you and your family...I am not good at taking risks. Have always had jobs that were ruled by laws and regulations...very black and white. Now retired and residing alone I have felt like I wasn't living, just existing. I was in such a rut...have been seeing a therapist to deal with many issues over time. Some discussion re my taking a leap of faith to get out and meet people, join groups, get out and enjoy life essentially. Have never really traveled and a friend basically told me to go somewhere so...I booked a flight to go across the country to visit a friend of 62 years who resides in Boston. It felt great to book the flight and on some days I am excited and on others my anxiety of traveling alone gets the better of me. I am my own worst enemy but will keep trying to put one foot in front of the other to get myself through the excitement versus anxiety to finally enjoy a trip. I feel like you with your drone and your trips to the coffee shops. I just have to do it for myself...so I will prepare myself for one week in Boston. Thank you for somewhat helping me light the fire under my bottom to get me to step out side my confort zone!! Wish me luck!!
Love what you wrote! Best of luck with your adventures, I know you will do great. 😁 And so appreciate your lovely support. 🙏
Love the new format. It feels more authentic and organic
Awesome, thank you. 🙏😁
In answering your question: The biggest risk I have ever taken was leaving behind South Africa, my motherland, a career in banking and aviation, our home, family, friends and everything I ever knew. We moved to Europe (3years in Belgium and now a year in France) with only 6 suitcases....its a long story😅😅 but what a journey! Challenges, tears, laughter, growth, fear, worry, opportunities, love, wins, peace.....too many to count. Thank you both for sharing your journey🩵🩷
Haha, yes, it's all that rolled into one, isn't it? Good for you to take chances. And thanks for your lovely support! 🙏😁
Wow, that's really a story. Would love to hear more. I moved from one province to another, and can say the same. Even though I stayed in the same country, it may as well have been across the world. I had one suitcase, and I mistakenly thought Canada was the same all over. It certainly is not. Climate, culture, history, economy...all are varied from one province to another, and come with its own challenges and hurdles.
Left my motherland 24 years ago, by myself and moved to the US. Single again and now planning a move back to Europe (not my mother land, different language and culture). I’m scared but so excited at the same time! I hope to share it all here on UA-cam 😊
@@MoniqueDiCarloI cannot wait to witness your journey! Let me follow you right away! Wishing you all the best with your move. @MoniqueDiCarlo
I’m so glad I found your channel - I’m a classical musician and a Gemini. My life has been constant change in 4 different European countries and off I go again next year! Maybe I won’t have time to finish my journey before I get to the end! I guess I’m an ‘anywhere’ person! A great relief to discover like-minded people in our crazy world. It’s a good feeling to hear someone say it’s ok to live one’s life on the move.
Thank you and best of luck. 🙏😁
When you said that you're "fearful" my first thought was; That CAN'T be!! Especially after following your journeys moving out of the US. You both seem like the most adventurous, courageous people out there!! Thanks for such a transparent view of things! Blessings.
Thank you. Yeah, the excitement of moving to Europe was so great that it carried me through. Easiest of the scenarios. 😁 Thank you for your support! 🙏
I can totally relate. I have always walked on the safe side of the street however a few months ago I finally put my house on the market moved back to the city and it’s exactly where I envision myself this time last year. Little issues have come up, but I have learned to let go and not be worried about the outcome because it always works out.!!!! I can easily talk to people however it’s getting your jacket and shoes on and actually getting out there. I’m not afraid now , I’m doing little steps every single day. Love your channel and keep on keeping on.❤
Awesome comment, and yes, it does always work out. Good for you, and thanks for the lovely support! 🙏😁
Just a raw brain dump after watching this: I've been following Nathaniel since he was living in Mexico, then your channel since he introduced it to us, and now your wife's just a few months back and I just have to say I'm super proud of you specifically. Your personal growth through the minimal lens of YT is quite drastic compared to the rest of your family and being a man of similar age as yourself with two kids... huge props my friend. 👊🏼
Thank you so much. So appreciate your support. 🙏😁
I didn't know Cecilia has a channel, can you please share the link?
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Excellent message and a really great job.
Thank you! :)
You just walked on to the plank and jumped! Now you’re swimming! Well done you! Love this format I feel like you are having a conversation with me!
Haha, awesome, and thank you! 🙏😁
This new format really suits you. You said you were nervous but it came across as effortless. I can really relate to this video because of the changes in my and my husband’s life right now. We’re building a house in Maine to get away from Arizona summers and I’ve had to conquer my fear of power tools lol. I still get nervous using that saw but I’m out here doing it like a boss 😂.
Nice! Continued success! Appreciate you watching and leaving your thoughts. 🙏😁
Bravo! If this was you unscripted, give us MORE! Your way of thinking, your experiences are a revelation to me, illuminating a path I might never have discovered on my on. Thank you!
Thank you so much. 🙏😁
Great video! I love your channel et Cecilia's. It is so nice to hear perspectives from people of my own age! And I totally relate to your "social" challenges. Once I am out, all is good. But it is the step to go out that is really tough. And I am rarely disappointed in taking that leap (but I have to admit I am always glad to come back to the nest 😂). I would be very interested in hearing your thoughts on the "years wasted" with our fears, our anxiety. I am 51 and I look back and I feel I have wasted so much time (even though I know it was my path) and it makes me so sad. I snap out of it quickly and move on but once in a while, it gets to me. Does that happen to you? And as an idea for your channel, try to find other UA-camrs our age and share their wisdom with us 😂!!! Thanks for your great work. Bonne chance avec ton français. Je suis dans la même situation que toi mais pour moi c'est l'espagnol!!
@@Julie-i1n Te contesté! :)
Amazing. I'm 12 years behind you and following you in many of your footsteps. This was great. Really made me process how we grow as we age.
Thank you so much 🙏
Thank you for your video and I really appreciate the free style content!
Thank you right back! 🙏😁
In France for almost 15 years, curiosity save my life from confort zone and despear, there's such beauty in showing vulnerability, only way to connect with another soul and similar experiences, thank you for your honest sharing, priceless !
Thank you for sharing and for your support. 🙏😁
Beautiful photography and your heartfelt, authentic message. Definitely a success and definitely worth my time as I sit on the precipice of a major life change. As always... thank you.
How sweet of you, thank you for your lovely words, and wishing you all the very best. 🙏
I always enjoy your videoes, espescially the depth. You spark curiosity and the desire to go deeper into interesting questions. Thank you😊.
So sweet of you, Anne! Thank you so so much. 🙏😁
I love your new approach to your videos, Josh! It's very natural, and feels fresh and organic. Lately, before starting something, I've been asking myself how I can infuse it with more fun. It sounds similar to what you're talking about in terms of playfulness. Anyway, please keep sharing. I very much enjoy yours, your wife's and your son's videos and perspectives on things. Bravo à toute la famille!
Merci ! 🙏😁
This was wonderful, and yes , it felt very authentic, genuine and vulnerable . I have the same issue and have lived in many different countries. And in each new country I live, it's like starting the process all over again. Yet, every time, I grow and that's a great feeling.
That is awesome! Love hearing that. Thank you so much for your support. 🙏😁
The bond and the respect you guys have for each other is so precious and beautiful. It’s like being a soul family 🪽
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Just subscribed after watching this video! Thanks for your vulnerability. I have watched a few of your other videos and enjoyed them but you really came through on this one!
Ah, cool! So glad to have you on board. 🙏😁
You made the video a while ago about not having friends and I feel as if you are a friend o me because I resonate with both you and your wife with many things that you’ve spoken about. It’s been a challenge for me navigating through this new world of advanced technology and just seeing the death of so much that was great. I can’t express the gratitude of these videos because I realize that I’m not alone. Many of us gen xer’s are having a hard time. We do feel alone, we are all trying to figure things out and work through things. I moved back to my home country, Panama, because I lost my home over a year ago in the states. I’ve been very isolated for a few different reasons and I realize that it’s not good. I do want to eventually move elsewhere but I know that I have to unload this hurt and really devastation before I can move on. This video and all of your other videos have been extremely helpful. Thank you!
Thank you so much. I wish you all the very best! 🙏
Panama is beautiful. I used to live there for a year and traveled the entire Country. It's full of culture and nature. You're blessed to be from there...Enjoy it while you have it.
@@G..G.. It was even more beautiful 40 years ago. So much has changed. I barely recognize it. It was the best kept secret.
@@journeytothemosthigh5021 I hear you on that.... they still have delicious meals for like $2 that's not fast food?
@@G..G.. a bit more like $6.00. Depends where.
As a 31 year old who struggles with great amounts of overthinking & perfectionism, this entire video resonated deeply for me. And actually just the message I was needing today, thank you so much!
Also we feel the same stress and fear as you do when flying our drone haha.
You're very welcome and thank you as well! Looks like droning stresses a lot of people out... 😩
I follow you Nath and Cecilia since last year from the portugal experience. you are an amazing family, incredibly gifted in different ways. we are almost the same age and can relate with the fear to step out the confort zone. please keep up sharing, it is very inspiring.😊
Thank you! 🙏😁
I'm very happy with the content of this video! Right after you posted the "I no longer want or need friends" video UA-cam started sending me more of the same content -- people in their 50's and 60's saying that they no longer have friends & they say they're happy about it. It's tempting to say that. It's even easier to feel that way when you have a spouse and children. But it "protects" us from so much that life has to offer. After the pandemic so many people I know don't feel as engaged in life, myself included. I have to force myself to dress up and go places. I'm so happy your therapist pushed you out the door 😂. P.S. drone photography looks like a blast!!
Thanks for watching and for your support. 🙏😁
Much better! You appeared much more approachable and kinder than in your previous vids. Fear and anxiousness can make a person very rigid, stiff, and maybe even cold. The film maker in you probably wants to work on a script, scenes, structure etc. But here you want to share your life and life is the opposite of a script. As I’m working on the preparation of a UA-cam channel these are some of the things I’m working on. It’s important to continue to just enjoy it all.
Thank you, Monique, really appreciate your words. Best of luck with your channel. What will you be covering?
Generous share - thank you!
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I really like your formula. It resonates. For me the key is to get to the heart of what I really, really want and to make absolute sure that whatever I'm pursuing is truly for me. In the past, I've gone for things that were more about the status quo (job, house, etc.) and less about my hearts desire. Now I make sure that the thing I want is what I want. I also give myself permission to pivot if I get into it and realize it's not for me. I too struggle with getting out into the world. Lots to unpack there. I might just try the coffee shop challenge. Low stakes way to be in the world. Thanks for sharing with us all. Best to you.
Yes, passion will carry you far. If you can focus on what you love, that's an amazing driver. Thanks for pointing that out. And yeah, funny how the coffee shop challenge is low stakes for you. As I describe, not for me! Fascinating how that works. What are some areas that have been challenging for you? Really appreciate your support. 🙏😁
The coffee shop challenge is only low stakes in that it’s not cost prohibitive for me and I can easily bail if I need to. Very high stakes in being amongst the people because I have lots of social anxiety. Really want to manifest friendships with people who are on the same wavelength. Slowly learning how. Meaningful work is another area that is challenging for me. Trying to find a way to contribute without being overwhelmed.
Thank you for sharing ❤. I feel like you are speaking to me!
Ha! So great to hear! Thank you so so much. 🙏😁
LOVE this new approach! Definitely less ‘in the box’. The integrity of your stunning visuals is still intact. You always leave me wanting to see more, but then so very grateful for what you are sharing and for the quality.
Funny how deliberate and structured your stepping outside of your comfort is. Hearing/seeing what you have started to do brings me to realize that I have been doing (loads less intentionally!) the same in order to pull myself out of a ‘lowest common denominator’ style of rut.
35yrs ago I ski raced in an amateur club.
So I decided it was time to learn how to snowboard. All on my own, at 67. Well… I fell…. A lot!!! 🤣 lesson learned.
Now, on the regular, my greatest joy is playing in ensembles where in rehearsals, I have no idea which of my 3 instruments I will be asked to play! Just ‘put me in coach’ is my personal moto! No complaints! Just DO it! … and I’ve improved my playing, & reading tremendously!
I traveled alone to Italy, and was a student in Venice for 2 weeks for music that i didn’t particularly like. Had to use my dusty 40yr old college level Italian language skills. …. And I THRIVED!
Now I want to know why Finland is the happiest country and if it is possible for that happiness to transfer to a solo traveler!!! Let the adventures begin….and continue!!
Wishing you the best with your French! Practice improves EVERYTHING!!
Great comment. Love what you shared. Very inspiring! Wishing you all the very best and thank you so much for your support. 🙏😁
Congratulations on your courage and thanks for sharing! I used to be afraid of talking to people but when I moved to Mexico, the people were so friendly and relaxed about everything, my fears disappeared. I could just scream or burst out laughing in the middle of the street without any care for what people would say now lol
Nice. The environment you're in can make all the difference. You're still there, right?
@@BeneaththeSurfaceYT Definitely. Yes, still here but next year I'll be living in other countries as well. Looking for my perfect country that would click with me just like it did for you and France :)
@@MishaElRusito Nice, man. Which places are you considering?
Thank you, Josh!
This came to close for comfort :) Thank you for your openess and reflections - you and your family is truly an inspiration. You give me a lot to think about, and from thinking comes changes - which I truly needs - keep up the good work.
Greetings from another introverted :)
Thank you so much, and best of luck with the changes. 🙏😁
I have never been able to sit in that place of fear, so I often leap. Which is what I did seven years ago when I moved to Mexico. I had met a Mexican guy and after six months of back and forth, went for it. I knew some Spanish, his English was better, and then three years later we broke up, and that's when the fear that you are talking about rose up, because I had allowed him to manage the things that were easier when you were fluent. Thank goodness for my therapist, who doesn't just try to alleviate the pain, but actually dig down into the bedrock through various approaches. What I've come away with is, whatever happens, I can find the solution, wherever I go I am home. The part I still work on, and it sounds like you might too, is the idea if something goes wrong, it's your fault because you lost control/missed something/weren't aware; I continue with, it's a mistake, we may be responsible, but we still make mistakes. Love watching you and your family because of the depth of inquiry, thanks for that!
Thank you and good luck with your own continued search. 🙏
I love all your videos but this one was so much more genuine. Especially after you talked about looking for your drone I had a smile on face until the end. My daughter moved to France three years ago and I am still deciding if I want to retire in France or Spain. It truly surprises me to hear you say that you are moving outside your comfort zone to go to a cafe and mingle with the locals but on the other hand you are producing great videos for everybody to follow you. However, keep up the great work :)
Thank you so much for your support 🙏😁
I found this very helpful. I love the parts you broke down involved in risk taking. My husband and I moved to Portugal 3 years ago. We are now preparing to move about 30 minutes north to a new city - where we won’t know anyone and there are far fewer expats.
I find myself living with a low level anxiety daily. And that’s not how I want to live my life!
I’m also an artist - and I want to create my own style and sell my work internationally.
I think I need a therapist! 😉
Support is always good! Good luck. I know you will do great. :)
I loved everything about this! Many people will be able to relate to the trap of fearful thoughts and overthinking, myself included. Thank you for sharing!
Love hearing that. Thank you so much. 🙏😁
Thank you for this video. It definitely resonated with me. Excellent content. Good luck with the journey!
Thank you! 🙏😁
I have always loved watching your videos but I knew something was different within 30 seconds of you speaking! I couldn't place what it was until you explained it, but wow, this video was simply that much more incredible! I agree with so many of the comments that have been posted, but I think the main thing is that you are a natural storyteller, who draws the audience IN. Your voice, cadence, natural pauses, etc made it not only easy to listen to you, but thoroughly enjoyable. I love this format - hope you keep it up! Also, your equation - brilliant!!!
Wow, thank you so much! What a lovely comment. Truly appreciate it. 🙏😁
Love this! Thanks for sharing.
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What an awesome video, it truly resonated with me, thank you for putting yourself out there and sharing, I know it must have been very difficult. I am the lone semi-extrovert in my family of introverts and your personality reminds me so much of my husband's. He is 65 and struggles with a lot of the same issues, he would prefer to stay at home and not bother...but we're making progress as you did. This Thursday he is supposed to go to a local men's group, fingers crossed he enjoys it and keeps going. I look forward to watching more of your videos. Good luck on finding your happiness! :)
Thank you! I’m sure it will go great for him. I’ll send out some good vibes. So appreciate your support! 🙏😁
Love the realness of this video. Awesome!
Thank you so much 🙏
Great video. Very daring of you to put this one out😀.
Thank you! 🙏❤️
Bravo! I can relate. I travel a lot, and when I was young I didn't mind being by myself. After years of being married, after my divorce I have had to re-learn how to 'play' and to be by myself. Your reflections were encouraging.
Great to hear. Yes, it is indeed a re-learning process as we age. Best of luck and thanks for your support! 🙏😁
Ohhh mannn!! I needed this message! Let me get out there right now! Brilliant video🎉 Merci🙏🏾
So great to hear! Go get 'em!! Haha. Merci à toi. 🙏😁
I absolutely love your videos! ❤
Thank you! 🙏😁
Oh, I loved it "this way"! I could feel the unscripted version let out the more authentic version - thanks for sharing your true self with us despite the risk. :) It inspired me to book my next solo trip I'd been putting off (for some intangible "it's more comfortable at home" feeling)... so Barcelona, here I come! :)
Nice! Love it! Have a great time. And thanks so much for your support. 🙏😁
First thing, thank you for the exquisite choice of music! And congrats on your spontaneity, you did really well without a script! I can relate a lot to having this inner fear that many times blocks me. I used to be more fearless when I was younger. I'm more cautious now. I'd like to think it's my life experience teaching me that it's not always a good thing to jump with my head forward into everything that crosses my mind or my heart. Adjusting to a new culture is difficult and it takes time. It's funny how much we are stuck in our ways of doing things and how difficult it can be to unlearn and relearn other ways of doing things. As always, you've given me a lot of food for thought.
So true that we get stuck as we get older, and it’s on us to get unstuck. That’s part of the growth process. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and for your support. 🙏😁
Love the new format. You did great. I really needed this, thank you. Your entire family continuously inspires me. Your willingness to take chances and do big things. This video surprised me when I heard about your anxieties and fears and I sat here thinking, “He’s just like me.” I have so many big, rich dreams for my life and yet I am always so afraid. Thank you for your vulnerability. It truly affected my life and landed on my heart.
What sweet words, thank you so much 🙏❤️
Your content is on fire lately! (but it has always been pleasant to watch)
Haha, thank you! 🙏😁
This resonated with me very much. I’m a retired empty nester who moved back into an urban area and I’m challenging myself getting involved with activism and arts classes. It can be intimidating and frustrating. I just say to myself, just try it, what do you have to lose?
That mindset can indeed help. Treating it as an experiment, giving it a chance and seeing what happens! So much can be learned, and it will always (guaranteed) be so different than what you thought... Good luck!
Love and totally get your nifty formula!! You’ve articulated exactly how my recent big changes happened and ones in the past. Very recently moved to a new city across the country and left a long term relationship that unfortunately had completed its life cycle. Thank you for sharing your thoughts around change/risk/possibility 🙏 You really touched me in this video because I could see your natural personality expressing itself. While your ‘scripted’ videos were intelligent, this has much more depth. It has an aliveness and warmth to it that is very endearing. So, please continue! You have lots of welcoming support for it here!
Such lovely words. Thanks you so so much! I am moved by your comment. 🙏❤️
I appreciate you being honest + open. My parents have both passed away (in their 70s). It's great to see an example of middle age that ISN'T that script. Sorry if that's too heavy on the age card!
Appreciate the support 🙏😁
50 year old single Australian female here. As I get older I’m looking through life through two lenses after years of fear. 1. What is the worst that can happen. 2. Will this matter 12 months from now and finally say YES to more things. I’ve finally realised after years of fear I’m finally entering into the era of embracing life and just bloody doing it. Bravo Josh!
And bravo you! 👍😁
Great content and format. Teaches me to keep working at getting out of my comfort zone and really live. Thank you
Thank you 🙏😁
Thank you for the video! It reminds me Anais Nin's: "Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage". Love this new format.
Thank you! And great quote. 🙏😁
It was beautifully authentic, you did great!
Thank you! 🙏😁
I really enjoyed your video. We're all imperfect humans. We all need to laugh at ourselves, love ourselves, and forgive ourselves for our beautiful imperfections.
So very true. Thank you for watching. 🙏😁
Hi, I have never commented on your channel before….but here goes.
I am a single female in my late 50’s who took a leap of faith six years ago moving permanently to the Auvergne, (France) leaving Scotland, my friends & family behind. I had had enough of “conforming” & needed to prove to myself that I could go it alone & live in another country. I was relatively comfortable speaking French ( I would NOT have made the commitment had I not had some grasp of the language)
Life has had its challenges but I have never once regretted my decision. My dogs have opened new horizons for me. Thanks to them, on my dog walks I have made new friends ( French, Dutch & British) I have also had work carried out by French locals which has in turn only served to enhance my experience here. Like your wife, I am not at all comfortable with driving around French cities….but the life I lead now is way more fulfilling on account of the new friendships I have made, the lifestyle & what I have managed to achieve over the past few years. Long may it continue……🤞😬
Well done 👍😁
I love your videos your a fantastic teacher and story teller . Your extremely honest and honorable .
Thank you so much! 🙏😁
Wow, this could not have come at a better time. I feel stuck, dissatisfied, and want to have fun. But do what? Where? Loved this so much! Thank you.
And thank you! Get creative. Make a list of things you would love to do. Pick the top one. Let that passion drive it. Sit with the feelings that come up. Explore it (if you don't mind me giving you ideas...). Perhaps something with a friend for support? That can be helpful. In any case, thank you for watching and for your support. 🙏😁
Another amazing video, very helpful and enjoyable.
Thank you so much 🙏😁
I’m really done with the US too. I’m born and raised in beautiful Transylvania and cannot wait to move back!
Do it! 💪 Best of luck and thanks for watching. 🙏😁
I really enjoy your content. It nudges me to take more chances and realize that there is so much to learn and do at any time in your life. Just continue to challenge yourself, as hard as it may seem. Thank you!
Thank you right back! 🙏😁
ive recently become a painter, and trying new things and taking risks are needed, and many of them are successful, lots of learning from this. taking risks is where its at
Well put! Thanks for watching. 🙏😁
Love this one. For the unscriptedness and the formula! 2 days ago, MY therapist challenged me and gave me a few placesfor me to go to start conversations! Maybe it'll be tomorrow! Thanks❤
You can do this! So appreciate your support. 🙏😁
@@BeneaththeSurfaceYT and I appreciate yours! I've seen all of your shows and love when each new one appears.
@@susiebeifuss5059 Thank you so much 🙏
@@BeneaththeSurfaceYT I just watched it again with my daughter and realized that I have been learning French relearning French I had three years in high school relearning French on Duolingo
@@BeneaththeSurfaceYT watching this video again with my daughter to show her why/how it is for me, it dawned on me - I've been relearning French on Duolingo for 431 consecutive days. I can look for a meetup group of French speakers and online groups too. I've "joined" many Meetup groups over the years and Never attended one in person. Thanks for this inspiration! 🙂
Oh your authentic voice is so lovely and much more relaxing to listen to. I completely understand needing to plan to feel safer. Thank for the example of courage to break free. Its beautiful ❤
Same feeling about drones! 😅 love the results yet not wanting to be intrusive and scolded.
From another older person on the French adventure. A+
Thank you so much! So appreciate your lovely words. 🙏😁
thank you for sharing … being vulnerable is not easy.
i took the biggest risk of my life by selling everything that was stable and moving to another country. i’m in now country #2 and will be moving to country #3 by end of the year.
although i lost all my savings… i am somehow surviving without needing to move back.
my sense of freedom is more important to me than having house or a car (they seem more like chain ⛓️💥 & balls)
There are days where it’s lonely bc i feel many don’t understand.. but i get over it and become grateful that i’m living life and not stuck in an office wondering about life elsewhere 😌🙏
Sounds perfect! Good for you! Thanks for watching. 🙏😁
Beautifully said, so relatable and insightful. Such courage to show what really humans go through even without consciousness. Great sharing ❤
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First of all, you did it, you made the vlog to the end and just au natural and it was fantastic!!!🎉 As an expat x2 round now and just hitting 60. Wow, do I look at what I've done ,what we've done, and I totally own it . What I'm trying to say from being quite shy is that I am so at ease within myself. I tend to observe people who perhaps have not moved forward or challenged themselves in whatever way. See frustration in some attention seeking in others,anger and bitterness, and total unnecessary output of negative energy. This is been 70% of the time, but then the other 30% of people are very happy with their lot, and their lot might be very different to what I might challenge myself with. I won't limit myself,I don't think anyone is happier or richer than me because nothing phases me , I'm proud of who I have grown to be and the challenges I set myself or have overcome. I wish I could help others feel that contentment if they feel they don't or I observe that they may have not found it, are they even looking for it or are they living the life that is expected of them? Thanks, I enjoyed your vlog because I have Bern where you are and felt the same feelings and now look back with a 'I'm proud of me lol 🎉
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Great video! Im 42 and I recognize that feeling of unrisky life.
Also so funny you mentioned the drone. I just bought the dji neo, and its always a scary experience (but so much fun).
Ps. Your youtube skills are excellent (from youtuber to youtuber)
You can do it! 😁 Thank you so much, and wishing you all the best with your channel. 🙏
@@BeneaththeSurfaceYTyou too
I really enjoyed this new format (and the subject matter). It provided a warmth that was well-suited to the topic. Thank you for sharing your insights!
Thank you! 🙏😁
Your storytelling is awesome! Inspiring 🤩
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I’ve always put off driving out of town because of fears not knowing what would be around the bend waiting for me, literally. I had to know what was ahead before I took off driving. I picked my nephew up from college years ago; I wasn’t familiar enough the route so I was a nervous wreck driving back home. I was doing 20 miles less than speed limit! That’s how much fear crippled me until I drove to Chicago and ended up on the city’s highways and that wasn’t the plan! I did so well, I feel I can tackle NYC’s traffic!!!
Nice! What’s “on the other side” is always full of wonderful surprises. Thanks for watching. 🙏😁
I guess I don’t have those feelings. Ive moved around a lot. I moved to Hawaii 6 years ago & forced myself to come back to Florida a few months ago to finish the renovation on my Airstream so I can move past it. Ive never been anywhere I don’t speak the language, so I can’t relate (unless moving to Miami counts). Good on you for continually challenging yourself to get out of your comfort zone!!
Appreciate you watching and your kind words. 🙏😁
This is your best video! Thanks for sharing & keep up the good work!
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I loved it .. gracias por todo lo que compartes, tú y tu esposa son una inspiración para mí .. 😊🥰
Mil gracias a vos! 🙏😁
Loved it, it's soothing to hear your whole, very human, internal process and progress. You should definitely film (share) your emotions and thoughts live while taking on the therapist's chalenge. I'm sure it would help a ton of people get rid on fears or else by seeing the live process vs results... A visual guide to internal freedom (and self-love that comes with it) 😊
Haha, you want to keep challenging me, huh? 😁 Appreciate you watching and your support. 🙏
@@BeneaththeSurfaceYT At first but would quickly feel less alone and more playful with it (on a mission with an audience !). Thereafter propose your own and start discussion tables with followers who took them with on ; super informative and relatable. Sure Nathan & Cecilia would agree with me 😉
It looks like Rapeseed - it's used to make Canola oil.. and plant meal.("Canadian" and "ola) which is actually a commercial name as the word "rapeseed" (plant) seems a bit ,well aggressive....The French translation for "rapeseed" is "colza"~ for "rapeseed oil" it's "huile de colza"....It could also be alfalfa- some sub species have a yellow flower. Sholty is a true yellow-flowered alfalfa. - used for animal feed and soil conservation...Hope that is helpful. : )
Very educational, thank you!
@@BeneaththeSurfaceYT you're welcome! it's the curse of being an educator....incidentally, and to answer one of your many other questions-yes this style of presentation feels more natural... as for the other questions-I dig the way you've mapped out your formula-I'm still working on my own (with ,as usual a plethora of thoughts and whatnots...)!
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Another great video. Your story with the drone was funny. I know it too. You are a very good storyteller. It never gets boring.
Thank you. So appreciate your words! 🙏😁
Having also moved to Europe in my 60s I can appreciate the isolation you can experience. In Australia things were much easier, the language of course helps. Here in Europe where language is a barrier to making connections I have found hiking, cycling and garden shows a wonderful way to connect with people who share common interests. I don't seek anything more than a simple connection, a hello, and have a nice day is enough for me. As my partner says 'just get out there'
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Did it translate??!! Holy smokes, boy did it!! I REALLY enjoyed this video and I appreciate you for taking us on this emotional journey with you!! I can relate to SO MUCH of what you shared (the comfort zone and the need to play it safe more often than not). The main (and often missing) element, I think, is adding "play" into the mix! It's a magical aspect that simultaneously freed us and yet mysteriously protected us as children....and you proved (and reminded us adults) that it still can!
I gotta tell ya, I follow Nate and your wife's channels, too, and they make me a little nervous and frustrated with their desire to push the envelope and try new things! Your son's most recent video - about his new house in the country - had me spent! LOL All I kept saying while watching it was, "Why are you making life more complicated for yourself??!" But he said something I simply can't argue with which was: Telling stories is his north star.
Good for all of you for seeking expansion in your lives!! I relate to your journey most of all (especially when you said, "Let me just get it over with and get my therapist off my back!" Hahaha - kudos to the therapist for being persistent!
Haha, great comment. So appreciate your support! Much love to you. 🙏😁
Well done - enjoyed the video!!
Thank you 🙏😁
You are very inspiring. That place of openness and only good expectations (the pure heart) is such a good place to be in, in life, I'm working on it as well. And to be honest about these fears are also freeing, like you are in this video. Your videos are always high quality, I enjoy your content 🙏
Thank you! 🙏
It's so strange - as a young adult, fear and anxiety wasn't an issue. The years pass, and I find myself reluctant to try new activities. I assume everything new that is presented to me is silly or boring. I finally became so bored with my sheltered normal - I forced myself to go out with (younger) friends to take part in life. Simple things, which I will not get into. It took me becoming so exhausted and bored with myself and the nudging of my therapist to open the door. BTW, fear has kept me from getting a drone. LOL I don't know where the fear comes from, but it's there. Cheers!
Yes, the getting fed up can makes us get in action, huh? And of course, outside support like your therapist. I challenge: get a drone and see what happens! 😁 Wishing you all the best. 🙏
Great storytelling. I'd subbed to your channel a while back, yet lost the name of it somehow. Glad it popped up in my feed again. Love the authenticity.. and also your unique visuals and creativity :)
Thank you so much! 🙏😁
This video got played after your son's new video... and I thought, two new videos in a day?? Lucky me!! Although I'm not 58, I can understand this feeling after neglecting my inner child for so long. Thanks for making such a relatable, thought provoking story! 👏
Haha, yes, and my youngest almost published too! It’s a strange thing now being a UA-cam family. 😁 I’m glad this resonated with you. Wishing you all the best and thank you so much for your support. 🙏
@@BeneaththeSurfaceYT OHH even more exciting!!! I can't wait to see!! Absolutely, love your beautiful family! 🙏🙏
@@aghinia_ Thank you! You are so sweet! ❤️😁
Always enjoy your content. I have a saying - go towards what scares you. I’m not an adrenaline junkie but I learned as a small child the regret of not doing something because I was too scared to do it. There is something very fulfilling about pushing past fear and coming out on the other side. You do it over and over and you eventually realize this isn’t so bad. I’ll try a quick story - I used to be in sales. Day 1 in the field cold calling and I was crippled with fear. And I hated that. As I sat in my car trying to muster the courage to go into an office building, I decided to trick myself. I told myself over and over, I’ve done this a million times. Done it so much I was bored of it. When I finally got out of my car, I did my best to do a casual stroll, leaned against the wall of the elevator as if I was headed back to work after a lunch break, sauntered casually into the first office, then made my first call. And it wasn’t so bad. I told myself I’d do this all day and get past it. And I did. As you’re sitting at a cafe or out and about in public, do a little acting. What does a person look like who does this routinely? How do they walk? How do they sit? And those who don’t give a shit about getting things wrong - how do they speak? And so on … it worked for me … You’re an observant guy. On your best cafe visit, do some copying and mimicking. And keep the content coming. We love you and your journey. And bottom line, you’ve got Cecillia. With her, all things are possibles.
Thank you for sharing and for your support. 🙏😁
Wow! I liked this video a lot. I am in ah for you guys. You’re about my age and changing your life’s so openly. That is way out of my comfort zone. But recently I went hugely out of my comfort zone because I went on holiday with two befriended couples. I didn’t know what to think of it or how it would be, but it turned out better then I had expected! I found that I do like (some) people, that I can be around people. Even 24/7. Since I live alone for 35 years that is not evidently for me. And people can be around me (even since my mother told me that I was hard to live with, I do not take a change on that). Maybe I should cut more people some slack, let them show me that it maybe isn’t me (but that it was my mom).
Ha! You may be on to something. We definitely hang on to things from the past, our upbringing, our conditioning. Sounds like you're doing great when you are yourself and doing what you feel is right for you. Keep it up! And thank you so much for your support. :)
Isn’t it funny how our children push us to boundaries we never thought to explore! Congratulations to you for stepping into the abyss.
Haha, yes, and thank you! 🙏😁
We are about to move from Australia to New Zealand and your videos were a big motivator in making the decision (especially the one in which you were talking about how you were done with the US. ) I too am European born and eventually want to end up back there and I see the move to New Zealand as a stepping stone. Thank you so much for sharing your vulnerability and I do like your formula 🙂
Thank you so much and best of luck with your own adventure! 🙏😁
Great thoughts and challenges to consider… trying to remember to approach the world with wide eyes and wonder, as I did when I was younger. Gracias por compartir y disfruta de estos regalos! 🎁👏🙏
Yes, remembering, huh? We once knew it and then we got rigid. Great lessons for us all. Mil gracias a vos. 🙏😁