DON'T TALK TO ME LIKE THAT! Disrespectful Black Men and Single Black Women

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  • @jasminebushby6614
    @jasminebushby6614 8 років тому +146

    I remember working 2 years ago at my old job Potbellys (sandwich shop) This guy always comes in wanting EXTRA portions he doesn't want to pay for. So one day he gave me a compliment, I said "thanks" and I put my head down to shut down anymore conversations to focus on doing my job which was making his sandwich.. he got upset I put the amount EVERYONE gets and walked out as I put his bread through the oven. He came back the next day tried to pursue me again. But caught an attitude that I treated him like a regular costumer. And wasn't impressed. He then saw that I was smiling and being friendly towards MY BOSS who happened to be a white man and yelled violently that I was an "UNCLE TOM" all of my co-workers FROZE as he stormed out. He completely embarrassed himself. Men project constantly when they are rejected and they just won't take accountability for it. I'm so over it.

    • @Debsterism
      @Debsterism  8 років тому +64

      +Jasmine Bushby Narcissism is prevalent amongst males. Smdh

  • @tvdavis
    @tvdavis 7 років тому +226

    Ah! But my degree DOES keep me warm at night...by paying these bills & keeping the heat on. Deborrah is so damned right with these.

    • @missball404
      @missball404 5 років тому +10

      lmao right 🤣👏👏👏

    • @antoniomontagnani4886
      @antoniomontagnani4886 4 роки тому +3

      It depends. Some degress are a waste of time and financial resources. Some others are very effective.

    • @Elizabeth-pi7ef
      @Elizabeth-pi7ef 4 роки тому +8

      @@antoniomontagnani4886 tvdavis wasn't even talking about that. So, what you saying?

    • @feliciajenkins5041
      @feliciajenkins5041 4 роки тому +7

      And comforters😂😂and unlike him a comfort

    • @BA-rm1mi
      @BA-rm1mi 4 роки тому +8

      Don’t get me started on men that try to change the thermostat! Nah, I’m leaving that mess on 78 degrees baby.

  • @user-og8ii5dc4l
    @user-og8ii5dc4l 8 років тому +74

    The "Can you cook?" question is a big one. My friend said some men don't even really want to date. They are just looking for "friends" who will cook for them. The only time some of these fools come around is on holidays, looking for greens and macaroni and cheese. Greedy bastards.

  • @ingajeffrey1978
    @ingajeffrey1978 8 років тому +108

    Wait, wait...I have one. Dude: "Can I get your number?"
    Me: I'm sorry, but no."
    Dude: "Why cant I get your number?"
    Me: "I apologize, but no, thank you."
    Dude: "Why not? Can't we be friends?"
    Me: I'm sorry. I have to go. No, thank you."
    Dude: "Why can't I get your number?"
    Me: 😑
    How many times are you gonna ask me? I said no.

    • @Debsterism
      @Debsterism  8 років тому +43

      You are too nice. After I say NO the first time, I either walk off or say "are you hard of hearing?"

    • @Debsterism
      @Debsterism  8 років тому +64

      My thing is this. I don't care. I refuse to live in fear. If I'm gonna die, oh well. They still won't get my number so I still won. And they will spend the rest of their miserable lives in prison. Double win.

  • @fashionistafolife8869
    @fashionistafolife8869 7 років тому +176

    Alot of these men are very disrespectful, they want to know all your business, but very short on there information, they have some kind of hate towards black woman.

    • @lal.6984
      @lal.6984 6 років тому +34

      Or it's the other way around where they want to talk about themself all day and don't want to hear anything about you.

    • @arkeylamckee4069
      @arkeylamckee4069 6 років тому +2

      True makes no sense smgdh

    • @babygurlgurl1474
      @babygurlgurl1474 5 років тому +6

      Wendy Rosen this is not an all lives matter moment sweetheart this video is talking about black people

    • @hangingfuchsias6439
      @hangingfuchsias6439 5 років тому +6

      @Larry Jones Sometimes white men do the same thing too. It has nothing to do with race, it has more to do with machismo and misogyny.

    • @makeitcount2985
      @makeitcount2985 2 роки тому

      It's envy because they are useless

  • @epiphany7189
    @epiphany7189 8 років тому +121

    I am very happily single. Very. Being married sucked for me. Hated just about every minute of it.

    • @toniaholmes2403
      @toniaholmes2403 8 років тому +73

      Evana L. Dang! At least you're honest about your experience. Sometimes women & men use marriage to insult single women like marriage is all rainbows & unicorn.

    • @jocelynjones4358
      @jocelynjones4358 8 років тому +20

      Evana L. so did i, just hated it! Its been 20 years and never married again - once was enough for me!

    • @cienergi
      @cienergi 8 років тому +18

      Evana L. I just got a divorce, but I liked being married until he became mean. My ex was actually a better boyfriend. As soon as we got married, he would leave or be moody-just horrible!

    • @Debsterism
      @Debsterism  8 років тому +6

      +caramelvampire1 ha! Why you thought that?

    • @naturalsystah
      @naturalsystah 8 років тому +12

      that was my experience too! Divorced now and happy as a clam.

  • @ms.bubs4fun506
    @ms.bubs4fun506 8 років тому +92

    And then these dudes wonder why black women have an attitude (or look mean) when they approach us. We get sick of their intrusive questions because we know most of these dudes just want some sex.

    • @Debsterism
      @Debsterism  8 років тому +38

      +Ms.Bubba123 exactly! Heard one at a time here and there, you can deal with it. But after years of this shit the tolerance is gone and you just want them all to die.

    • @ms.bubs4fun506
      @ms.bubs4fun506 8 років тому +31

      Deborrah Cooper Yeah they're not genuine. They are not trying to find the love of their life. They just want to get their dicks wet and probably got a woman at home already. Nobody has time for that sister-wife stuff. lol

    • @ms.bubs4fun506
      @ms.bubs4fun506 8 років тому +24

      TheOriginalDeanna Right. They have 4 or 5 side chicks and can't afford to take any of them on a decent date. lol

    • @MollySmile1776
      @MollySmile1776 8 років тому +22

      Ms.Bubba123 They be having a few baby mamas, babies all over the place, girlfriends, and wives on the side while working in a factory some damn where

    • @ms.bubs4fun506
      @ms.bubs4fun506 8 років тому +23

      TheOriginalDeanna They live beyond their means and then they blame white supremacy and black women when shit doesn't go their way.

  • @karahd3545
    @karahd3545 8 років тому +99

    BM always tell me to smile.Its ridiculous. Or "Why don't you have kids"

    • @islammuhammad1198
      @islammuhammad1198 8 років тому +10

      Karah DWPride
      White women ask me to smile all the time too, because I don't smile, maybe Black American men get it from white women.

    • @karahd3545
      @karahd3545 8 років тому +1

      Islam Muhammad ok..that's cool

    • @citygirl8181
      @citygirl8181 6 років тому +27

      I had a dude recently asked me why I didn’t have kids, mind you he is 43 with six and the oldest two were born before he left high school. I said because I haven’t been married. The conversation was over then.

    • @Debsterism
      @Debsterism  6 років тому +29

      @@citygirl8181 That was nice. I always used to say dumb shit like "kids? I hate children so why would I do that?" or "men who want kids irk my soul" or "what do I look like, a damn breeding bunny rabbit? I got way more important things to do. FOH!" and one guy I told "cause I like booze and I didn't want to stop drinking for 9 months". He is probably still cursing at me!

    • @KK-pt5ns
      @KK-pt5ns 4 роки тому +7

      Islam Muhammad lmao blaming white women for the way u grown men act, that’s a new one. I thought everything was da white mans fault

  • @Theoneiadore420
    @Theoneiadore420 8 років тому +75

    I was walking to the corner store with my daughter who was two at the time. This fool comes up and starts talking to me. Then he says "oh is this your little girl?". Then proceeded to pick her up to put on his hip😦. I stopped in my tracks and gave him the meanest look I had and said "PUT HER DOWN NOW"! Thankfully he did and walked away with a confused look on his face like" what did I do wrong".

    • @Debsterism
      @Debsterism  8 років тому +53

      He is lucky he didn't get stabbed!!!!

    • @Theoneiadore420
      @Theoneiadore420 8 років тому +27

      Deborrah Cooper yes he is. It was very frightening. I had never seen that guy before.

    • @toniaholmes2403
      @toniaholmes2403 8 років тому +40

      Themelanated Gurl.... These men need to learn boundaries. They might need to put that in the schools curriculum.

    • @MollySmile1776
      @MollySmile1776 8 років тому +26

      or shot.. I keep a gun on me

    • @toniaholmes2403
      @toniaholmes2403 8 років тому +23

      *****​ No he was just being a perv. You don't pick up anyone's child especially if you don't know the women or her child. SMH

  • @ZhanaZee
    @ZhanaZee 8 років тому +93

    "why you ain't married" Response "Why aren't you!" LOL

    • @ragnahandbubsbird
      @ragnahandbubsbird 6 років тому +13

      my responce is " why aint you Dead yet "

    • @annkey4091
      @annkey4091 5 років тому +5

      My reply is usually "no one has asked." The answer is sometimes a turn off to men or then they think that you might be lying.

    • @emdubbahu9967
      @emdubbahu9967 5 років тому

      Not that I ever asked that question but if I did and that was a woman's response...I would say because I was waiting to find and ask you first 😜

  • @Meriamen
    @Meriamen 8 років тому +125

    Great video! I have had black men say some of those things to me here in the U.K. I have got to the point where I am turned off of black men now and no longer find them attractive or desirable. This makes me feel sad deep down because I should be able to find a mate among my own people as every other races of women do but I find that most black men are just not worth the emotional energy. Also as a woman without children I also get the stupid comments about that too and looks of surprise as though I am some alien. Funnily enough white people dont react like that when I say I don't have children. For them it isn't a big issue. For black people however, even though I may have said that I am not married they are surprised that I don't have children. They always put the cart before the horse and then wonder why black people are at the bottom of every important social marker such as economics etc and at the top of the bad social markers such as new HIV infection rates, poor housing etcAs I said before and especially with the 49 per cent interracial dating rate of black men here in the U.K., I no longer find black men attractive or desirable. Also to be honest I have been through too much with them starting from an early age. With regard to black men and their general approach, I find them cheap, lacking in intellectual pursuits, predatory and selfish. For example Deborrah, you mentioned that rather than take a woman somewhere nice, they want to go to her house etc! Also as a woman that does speak well and always have, I find that it brings out the insecurity in black people in general not only black men. I am tired of the fragile ego of black people altogether not only black men.

    • @sherrisolomon8673
      @sherrisolomon8673 8 років тому +23

      Meriamen then they want to call you a BEDWENCH in the US when you want to go with a white man.

    • @tropicalascendantaries12th23
      @tropicalascendantaries12th23 7 років тому +31

      Sherri Solomon yes I agree with. It is OK for them to marry non black women, but we are a traitor if we want to marry non black men. They cannot have their cake and eat it too. I am involve with a white man and proud of it and do not care what they think. I am completely turn off from black men for good. I will never never never ever be with them again. I am sick of the emotional abuse. They have always abused me verbally, physically, and emotionally. I have experienced verbal and emotional abuse from black men the most.

    • @sherrisolomon8673
      @sherrisolomon8673 7 років тому +14

      Christine Tanks​​​ More power to your happiness. Personally I would rather be with another minority vs white if I dated out. But to each his own.

    • @belleamourphed1111
      @belleamourphed1111 7 років тому +15

      Wow thats horrible its going on in UK too! Dont feel bad about lack of attraction BC I'm young & have only been attracted to 1 black male in the last 7 yrs & have not been involved sexually with them since. It is unfortunate & makes us feel weird but there is nothing wrong with us THEY r the Problem and the women who enable & worship them! I'm with u sistah!

    • @toomuchinformation
      @toomuchinformation 5 років тому +10

      I know where you're coming from, esp being well spoken. That always came with accusations of "you sound white". Back in the day I worked for a press release distribution agency. It had a small printing section, which occasionally I would visit to check on progress of a release, if it was urgent.
      There were about 6/7 men who worked down there, two of whom were black. I always dreaded going because they wanted me to be "homedown" with them instead of being friendly, but professional. They thought that I was "stuck up". I'm quite a reserved, introverted woman which rarely goes down well in the black community in any case.

  • @wildheart999
    @wildheart999 7 років тому +57

    There was this old guy who felt entitled and told me that he wanted to get with me. I declined his offer and he then told me, "You think you look like Sade but you look more like Tracy Chapman." He was so butt hurt. I actually don't look like Sade or Tracy Chapman. SMH.

    • @Debsterism
      @Debsterism  4 роки тому +25

      Well sir, you think you look like Denzel, but you really look like Uncle Ruckus

    • @coffeeblack9316
      @coffeeblack9316 2 роки тому +7

      Like like that’s a bad thing Tracy Chapman is beautiful honey

    • @thepurplequeen256
      @thepurplequeen256 2 роки тому +3

      @@coffeeblack9316 Its the colorism for me and thinking this was a good comment... 🤣

  • @Debsterism
    @Debsterism  8 років тому +140

    It's hilarious how many butthurt males are making comments on this video and downvoting it, mad as hell!! They don't want to hear the truth about their ratchetness. But every visit to the video I get paid, so keep it coming clowns!
    PS...your comments will all be deleted however.

    • @Mysasser1
      @Mysasser1 8 років тому +8

      Deborrah Cooper that color purple still!!!

    • @thisisindie9876
      @thisisindie9876 6 років тому +2

      Deborrah Cooper true and you are so beautiful 😍

    • @sunbird777
      @sunbird777 6 років тому +2

      Thank you for making this video. All black queens are being exposed to this ratchetness..., no style...absolutely no integrity...no positive character-traites whatsoever..., and then they have the nerve to be in denial about..., that's the part I don't understand.
      It's like they are possessed. My sons don't even carry themselves in that manor..., but they are praying men who love TMH.

    • @sunbird777
      @sunbird777 6 років тому +3

      @@noshuamarbury9393
      I'm a witness to that because I know some..., but it seems today the bad out-weight the good..., and sisters gotta be careful...use their spiritual discernment..., cause some of those bastards are real smooth and hidden.

    • @LondonsLanding
      @LondonsLanding 6 років тому

      Made sure I liked it

  • @EbonyRosee
    @EbonyRosee 8 років тому +107

    A Black man asked me if I could still have kids? CAUSE AIN'T NO MAN GONE WONT ME IF I CAINT HAVE NO KIDS! ( WOW )😒

    • @Debsterism
      @Debsterism  8 років тому +49

      Ebony x what? These fools are beyond stupid.

    • @mrttamara
      @mrttamara 8 років тому +30

      Ebony x Yeah well I get the ones that want me to have a baby. I'm like are you out your fucking mind? THANK GOD I'm near 50 can't have them. Lol!!!!

    • @EbonyRosee
      @EbonyRosee 8 років тому +31

      I had a nigga I barely Knew tell me SO YOU WOUDN'T WANNA HAVE A LITTLE BABY FOR ME ?😣

    • @Debsterism
      @Debsterism  8 років тому +34

      +Ebony x For $1,000,000 in cash maybe.

    • @Meriamen
      @Meriamen 8 років тому +44

      @Ebony. I have had black men say similar things to me too and I am not in the US ! Believe me this is a global issue in the mindset of black men!

  • @HGOsb
    @HGOsb 7 років тому +40

    So grateful to have found this perspective. I was beginning to feel like I was truly crazy for taking issue with the ridiculous amount of disrespect and nosey ass inquiries many black women are conditioned to accept or be okay with. The behavior I've witnessed black women being encouraged to accept is appalling. Black women have a right to have standards, boundaries and be respected as much as any other group of women. To see so many out in the world that haven't even mastered the basics as far as decency, trustworthiness and dependability...a truly hopeless state of affairs.

  • @toniaholmes2403
    @toniaholmes2403 8 років тому +72

    I hear "can u have friends or I'm sure he wouldn't mind u having a friend" a lot. I lie sometimes & tell men I have a boyfriend or husband. I've been insulted to for rejecting them. (shrugs)

    • @ms.bubs4fun506
      @ms.bubs4fun506 8 років тому +15

      They always use that "can you have a friend" line. When I was a teen they'll ask "are you dedicated to your man?" Tf? lol

    • @toniaholmes2403
      @toniaholmes2403 8 років тому +15

      Ms.Bubba123 I don't know where they get those lines from but there rediculous & a turn off.

    • @ms.bubs4fun506
      @ms.bubs4fun506 8 років тому +2

      Basically. lol

    • @sherrisolomon8673
      @sherrisolomon8673 8 років тому +5

      Tonia Holmes I tell them I don't have time to talk because I have to go home to my FIVE sons.

    • @toniaholmes2403
      @toniaholmes2403 8 років тому +4

      Sherri Solomon That's a good one. Lmao

  • @kozief.7215
    @kozief.7215 8 років тому +26

    There's a guy that shows up at my work regularly. He thinks he should say stupid things like what you're discussing here. Since I deal with patron accounts, he knows I have access to his number. He told me to call him. I told him that would be a conflict of interest. He ask why & I said, "I'm not interested." The other day he came in & said, "I'm still waiting for your call..." I told him patience is a virtue & to have a great day lol. If he comes at me again, he'll be banned from my work altogether.

  • @Debsterism
    @Debsterism  8 років тому +144

    I want dudes ri know I give no fucks about your opinion or feelings about this video. It's not to praise you. get praise from the chick you're screwing. I cuss cause I'm grown and say WTF I feel like saying, exactly the way I please. I make videos to get women straight, not you. none of your whining ass comments will ever go live on this channel, so stop wasting your time. go away.

    • @veronicajade20
      @veronicajade20 8 років тому +20

      Lmao! I love you Ms. Deborrah!

    • @Debsterism
      @Debsterism  8 років тому +11

      +veronicajade20 right back atcha!

    • @jasminebushby6614
      @jasminebushby6614 8 років тому +1

      Deborrah Cooper Hope you respond to my comment. Thanks for this video!!!

    • @clearaswater4424
      @clearaswater4424 8 років тому +5

      Besides my 1st comment was a reply to Jerry Washington fake ass.lol

    • @clearaswater4424
      @clearaswater4424 8 років тому +8

      Actually yeah I am. Thanks weirdo if you have zero interest in black women wtf are you on you tube where they are getting together and socializing? Seems like you want in but will never be invited to the party...or are you a white agent trying to cause separation? Lol either way we still don't want you.
      Btw are these fools commenting stupid shit then deleting their comments?

  • @belleamourphed1111
    @belleamourphed1111 7 років тому +26

    You're so accurate its scary! I stay away from men that ask these red flag questions upon meeting.

  • @TMliz
    @TMliz 8 років тому +186

    Weren't they going to Brazil many years ago? Where are there Brazilian wives?

    • @Debsterism
      @Debsterism  8 років тому +70

      +Girlwonder Ain't that the truth!

    • @MollySmile1776
      @MollySmile1776 8 років тому +110

      They probably dropped their seeds into the Brazilian women wombs and rolled out like most of them do best.

    • @TMliz
      @TMliz 8 років тому +74

      Carlos' Way I don't see a mass immigration of Brazilian women in America married to Black American men. So where is your Brazilian wife/fiance? All the black men who I know that kept talking about going to South America did not bring back any wives.

    • @gcsugirl
      @gcsugirl 8 років тому +81

      Girlwonder Because they are pumping and dumping these women just like they do in the states.

    • @xDiAM0NDPRiN3SSx
      @xDiAM0NDPRiN3SSx 8 років тому +61

      Girlwonder Lol Brazilian women don't want they ass. They just want that green card. they think those Brazilian women gonna dump Fillippe for their no good Black ass. lolol

  • @Mysasser1
    @Mysasser1 8 років тому +27

    omg that smile shit is so annoying. they don't know if you just had a death happen, lost a job, just had some overall bad news, are depressed about something like a death anniversary and just say that out of nowhere and expect you to just jump and be agreeable.

  • @patricia247able
    @patricia247able 8 років тому +43

    I laughed so hard through this video but the biggest laugh came when you said you always make sure you know security in a venue just in case. That's the only good thing I got from the NOI. Security is key when you've got no breaks. xx

  • @hangingfuchsias6439
    @hangingfuchsias6439 5 років тому +5

    I've met random guys on the street who asked me if I was straight, if I was single, and all kinds of personal questions but never asked what my name was. It's fucking disrespectful and it's like they only see you as a nameless sex object. Disgusting and distrubing.

  • @LondonsLanding
    @LondonsLanding 6 років тому +25

    Scary how many women have heard these tired pathetic intrusive lines over & over again.

  • @quanaramirasherman
    @quanaramirasherman 7 років тому +16

    Let's not forget the non verbal, passive aggressive and downright creepy/stalking sh** t as well. Here is a list of what I have experienced from black men who were total strangers while I was out in public: sexual tongue gestures, shoulder tap or head nod with underlying tone of "time to go fuck", a cashier, after blatantly "noticing" me, (and of course his line was the only one open at store) upon ringing up my items began to complain about how much his "neck hurts" with a vibe of seeing if I was going to offer my concern, a neck rub, etc (I did not), the security dude at the DMV (who kept starring) follows me to my car (I never spoke with him inside DMV) as I am putting my tags on my car asks me (condescendingly) "Do you know what you're doing?" Like I'm a dumb shit who needed his unsolicited help. (I told him to f off.) And lastly, I am a singer, and one night a friend invited me to sing as a guest at her show. After the show, not one, but TWO negros who played in her band fucking followed me to my car. It was scary! I confronted one of them and the other claimed he just wanted to make sure I got to my car ok. And let me be clear: they followed me to my car UNINVITED. WTF!!! This is just a small list of such non sense I have experienced over the years. And for any defensive man who might read this, I did not misinterpret these behaviors as I am adept at reading my intuition and vibes from others. Additionally, NONE of these men were attractive to me or men I would consider dating. Mainly due to these despicable actions and energy.

    • @jerseybred3235
      @jerseybred3235 7 років тому +5

      Quana Ramira I share all of these experiences.
      They're always looking to romanticize their actions as if a woman's physical safety is ever up for debate.

  • @LADYJAYY19788
    @LADYJAYY19788 8 років тому +30

    "Heyyyyy baby smile"/ It that your real hair / Your got long hair for a dark skinned female. You got cakes like FOH

  • @SA-pm8pn
    @SA-pm8pn 6 років тому +25

    You are funny as hell, I have subscribed. I am happily married to a Puerto Rican man. Single ladies, get yourself a man that treats you the way you want to be treated. There are many good men out there. You must have a open heart and mind.

  • @Realtalknewyorkwithjanique
    @Realtalknewyorkwithjanique 8 років тому +62

    one guy asked me if he could shower at my house lol hell no

    • @Debsterism
      @Debsterism  8 років тому +22

      +Janique Hutchinson What!? Damn.

    • @Meriamen
      @Meriamen 8 років тому +23

      @Janique. That also happened to me but in a slightly different way. I invited a man for a visit to my house as I knew him well enough but as a friend not as a romantic acquaintance. I had no idea that he was even interested in me that way.
      When he came he started trying to chat me up and said that he was going to go and take a bath and then he wanted to have sex with me! We ended up getting into a physical fight when he realised that I was not going to sleep with him and neither would I allow him to take a bath in my house. I suppose you could call it an attempted rape. Luckily I knew how to handle myself otherwise who knows what else might have happened!

    • @Debsterism
      @Debsterism  8 років тому +25

      And fuck up your clean bathroom!!!

    • @missball404
      @missball404 6 років тому +4

      huh??????? smdh

  • @piafrancis1307
    @piafrancis1307 8 років тому +51

    Deborrah I love you lol Your mouth has no filter, you say what dafuq you want and that's why I love yah

  • @brigittemed9372
    @brigittemed9372 7 років тому +21

    This video is accurate. I know a lot of bl man that said shit like that to me. The reason im SINGLE!! Im a new subscriber i love you Deborrah , greetings from the Netherlands

  • @zariaspell1088
    @zariaspell1088 8 років тому +25

    You had me laughing throughout this whole video and I, of course, enjoyed the advice. Thanks for this one!

  • @sher201447
    @sher201447 8 років тому +33

    Thank you Deborrah Cooper for this video and all you do I've been single now 2 plus years and as much as I would love a future with a strong black man I've learned during this time loving me is much better. Building my empire verse building his empire. lol what a fool I was and lots of time wasted. Investment in self is so much more rewarding.

    • @Debsterism
      @Debsterism  8 років тому +10

      +sher201447 Tell it!!!

  • @maatkarah
    @maatkarah 7 років тому +29

    "Underground stupid factory" lol
    They learn it from each other.
    Re. Why ain't you married? .. Cause I keep meeting men like you.

  • @veeeight9692
    @veeeight9692 7 років тому +17

    "You need to kick your own ass cause I can't get to you "😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 I just died

    • @Debsterism
      @Debsterism  7 років тому +3

      Girl, sometimes even I am amazed at the crazy shit that comes out of my mouth!

  • @doctorgway
    @doctorgway 6 років тому +19

    I hate that "smile" bullsh*t!! Like who walks around smiling all damn day long. Sir...if you walked up and I didn't automatically smile....then you're not the one. Next. Lol

  • @VenusianMuzic
    @VenusianMuzic 6 років тому +17

    "Where's my hug at" 😂😂😂😭😭💀💀💨💨👻👻

    • @frede1sj
      @frede1sj 5 років тому +5

      VENUS 😂😂. Those old church niggas would always ask the young kids especially girls that where I grew up lol. Creepy.

    • @BA-rm1mi
      @BA-rm1mi 4 роки тому +2

      YES! A handshake will do. This is why I’m considering a strictly handshake rule.

  • @wildheart999
    @wildheart999 7 років тому +18

    Here's another one. I was wearing a pretty floral Tunic this one day and as I walked past this black dude he asked me, "Why you wearing that Daishiki?" 😕

  • @sminno
    @sminno 7 років тому +20

    I have a job where i cook samples so i have men constantly asking if i cook like this at home or when i'll cook for them. IT"S MY JOB. I have heard of all the this talked about in this video, and i can say if this is what is out there in the dating world i'm GLAD i don't put myself out there!!!!!

    • @Debsterism
      @Debsterism  7 років тому +9

      Him: "When will you cook for me like this?"
      Me: "When you pay me hourly plus commission like this!"

    • @sminno
      @sminno 7 років тому +2

      Like that reply. I'm using it

  • @animeadict234
    @animeadict234 8 років тому +8

    Once when a guy was interested in me, I told him I had a boyfriend. I was dumb and wanted to be nice so when he asked for a hug I gave it to him and he grabbed my butt. I cried a bit afterward.

  • @bbthahammerlanediva409
    @bbthahammerlanediva409 8 років тому +15

    I am laughing my ass off and she hasn't got to the stupid ass questions yet.

  • @barkensignal
    @barkensignal 8 років тому +27

    The video title slayed me dead. I don't think I've faved a video so fast.

  • @LatriceLee
    @LatriceLee 8 років тому +8

    What about when someone asks about details regarding your employment? "Where do you work?" or "What time of the day will you be at work?" "we can have lunch together at your job." I blatantly tell these men "You don't need to know where I work because I don't allow strangers showing up at my place of employment." I also tell them that ppl showing up at my job (without a valid reason) are likely to be arrested. I wonder if anyone else has experienced this before?

    • @Debsterism
      @Debsterism  8 років тому +5

      +vagirl804 wow, they ask you all those details? Hell no I wouldn't give out that stalker food! Any woman who gave out that data is a fool.

    • @Debsterism
      @Debsterism  8 років тому +12

      +vagirl804 plus they might wanna know when youre at work so they can rob your house. I DON'T trust these fools.

  • @icequeen620
    @icequeen620 8 років тому +28

    I'm screaming "I'm a broom riding witch" FFS! 😂😂😂

    • @icequeen620
      @icequeen620 8 років тому +6

      I cannot stand the over familiar shit!

  • @BA-rm1mi
    @BA-rm1mi 4 роки тому +10

    This thumbnail is too funny!!! Men also love to scare women with the “crazy cat lady” curse. Well I ain’t seen a cat do a lady wrong in her life!

  • @jlogic1491
    @jlogic1491 6 років тому +25

    They always want to meet at your house.

  • @TracyUnplugged
    @TracyUnplugged 8 років тому +13

    'Mutha...Why is THAT your business?' LMAOOOOO...This is so funny to me b/c I knew a guy who used to ALWAYS want to come over, and eat dinner, but NEVER had any groceries in hand...JUST A NUT FOOL! I Had to escort him to the front door...GOODNIGHT AND GOOD LUCK!

    • @SA-pm8pn
      @SA-pm8pn 6 років тому

      GOODNIGHT AND GOOD LUCK? LMAO!

    • @sophisticatedmm3632
      @sophisticatedmm3632 6 років тому

      Sounds broke & cheap

    • @Debsterism
      @Debsterism  6 років тому +3

      @@sophisticatedmm3632 Broke, cheap and hongry

  • @sunbird777
    @sunbird777 6 років тому +18

    Always trying to get something for free... Damn leeches!!!

    • @mona-lisa1187
      @mona-lisa1187 5 років тому +6

      Redbone Dianna Exactly!. I'm an escort and wont even see them i dont want their money cus its always a catch i send them to the brazillan chick i know with stds (B careful ladies.)😁

  • @EbonyRosee
    @EbonyRosee 8 років тому +39

    10000 thumbs uppp!!!!

  • @DIAMONDGIRL57
    @DIAMONDGIRL57 8 років тому +13

    "Go back into the hole you slid out off!!" OMG!!! 😂😂😂

  • @deva190
    @deva190 8 років тому +16

    I could give so many comments that it would result in a book. For example with one guy we were having a conversation when I noticed he had pulled it out. He thought that would make me want him.

    • @user-og8ii5dc4l
      @user-og8ii5dc4l 8 років тому +15

      @deva190, I hear this too often. What is wrong with people? A woman told me she ran into a guy she knew socially through friends at a nice bar/restaurant. At the end of the evening he offered to walk her to her car. He was parked across the lot, so she offered him a ride to his car. She parked in front of his car and looked over and he had pulled it out.

    • @whooelse9444
      @whooelse9444 7 років тому +3

      Fatima LOL!!!

  • @mbatista5891
    @mbatista5891 8 років тому +35

    I just love your videos lmao! Subbed! Do you happen to have a video(s) on BM rampant sexual violence against little girls? BM pedophilic behavior has destroyed so many girls/womens mental health and pretty much their lives.

    • @Debsterism
      @Debsterism  8 років тому +9

      +M Batista not yet. I'm struggling with how to present it in a way that isn't a trigger and so far coming up blank. Sigh.

    • @zurirobinson2749
      @zurirobinson2749 8 років тому +18

      M Batista Tell me about this. The high school I attend is near a construction site, so there's a bunch of busted looking men watching us walk to school every day. One time I was waiting for the bus after school, and this construction worker (gray hair, scruffy beard, smelled like weed, every "get away from me" signal you could think of) asked if he could take me out sometime. I told him I was only in high school, and he said "well, you _look_ like a woman. I'm only 33, girl, all this gray hair is just stress." OK, even if he WAS 33 (which is some bullshit), in what world does this busted ass 33 year old construction worker think a 16 year old student at one of the best schools in the city would go out with him? Smdh. Luckily I've never been attacked. Love these videos Deb, keep 'em coming 😊❤

    • @mbatista5891
      @mbatista5891 8 років тому +18

      Deborrah Cooper I agree. It is a very sickening and potentially triggering subject that most don't like to discuss. Some people don't realize how prevalent it is, especially with BM. BM act like sexual violence against little girls in their families is no big deal. 😖😜

    • @toomuchinformation
      @toomuchinformation 5 років тому +8

      @@mbatista5891 Witness D.L Hughley who refused to believe his daughter when she told him that she was sexually assaulted by a friend of his, because he liked the friend. He came round eventually, but to disbelieve her in the first place and he was fine admitting to that publicly? I wonder if a white celebrity would have publicised this?

  • @pixefairytale5657
    @pixefairytale5657 6 років тому +13

    I don't like the way black men talk to me and I'm a black woman I haven't dated a black man since high school I've only been dating white men for 17 years and now I'm married to my white husband I don't cook because I don't know how but he doesn't care because he is an awesome cook and I don't work but he doesn't mind taking care of me

  • @opheliad7452
    @opheliad7452 6 років тому +8

    I treat them the way they treat me.

  • @tropicalascendantaries12th23
    @tropicalascendantaries12th23 7 років тому +10

    Deborah Cooper You rock. I have experienced some of the aspect of this videos. Your videos are good example to let black women know there are more options of men. Do not settle yourself for less. It took until me I got 25 years old to realize that. I learn my lesson the hard way. Respect yourself. I have a lot more respect yourself after these learned lessons.

  • @labyrinthoflies4438
    @labyrinthoflies4438 2 роки тому +1

    Who cares? Too many fish in the sea that aren't BLACK! Go get 'em!

  • @belleamourphed1111
    @belleamourphed1111 7 років тому +3

    😂😂😂😂😂 go on down the trail with your roach ass 😂😭 I'm holllllering u r hilarious! Yes Queen!

  • @KISHEEME
    @KISHEEME 6 років тому +7

    Oh they love to get in our hair and makeup gay asses. Many men have tried to control what I do with both. I shut them down every time. And they love to say Im "tough on men" because I expect to be treated with respect. A guy just told me yesterday I was bougie because I told him a story about me being upset that a date where a guy wouldn't pay for valet and we ended up not eating at a restaurant where we had a reservation. Just trifling.

  • @twizzum5
    @twizzum5 8 років тому +11

    She lost me with the "don't ask me if I smoke weed" lol

  • @thecapablewoman2881
    @thecapablewoman2881 8 років тому +71

    Gave it a like even before I heard it.

    • @Debsterism
      @Debsterism  8 років тому +13

      +Kenya Anderson - I think you are my biggest fan. LOL

    • @Minaj231187
      @Minaj231187 8 років тому +11

      Kenya Anderson Girl!! I seen the title and liked it real quick haha. I love me some Deb!

    • @thecapablewoman2881
      @thecapablewoman2881 8 років тому +26

      Deborrah Cooper Yes Mam! Deborah, I have had ALL of these comments said to me. SMH. I went on a date the other night--a good looking brother. Successful. Thirty minutes into the date he informed me he was the cream of the crop and that not many women met his standard. I wasn't quite his type but I had a big booty so he decided to see what I was about. Right. So I went to the ladies room and then left the restaurant and went home. It took that fool an hour to figure out I had left. Boy bye!

    • @LEYANNA28
      @LEYANNA28 8 років тому +19

      Kenya Anderson The sad thing is that there are women out there who would have responded positively to that crude ass comment that's why he felt so comfortable saying it to you. I'm so glad you left his ass at the restaurant 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾.

    • @Debsterism
      @Debsterism  8 років тому +11

      +LEYANNA28 Most likely nobody has ever responded to it, but they keep doing it anyway here hoping to hit paydirt some day. However for the majority. they just do it because they enjoy humiliating women and causing them psychological pain. It's not really about a success rate or women going for their shit at all.

  • @brklyn2922
    @brklyn2922 8 років тому +20

    Love you Deborrah!

  • @tamde696
    @tamde696 7 років тому +10

    You about to start a Revolution Girl.

  • @Glad2BGolden
    @Glad2BGolden 8 років тому +23

    WOW, so glad I cam across this video. Was feeling down for being single but this puts some perspective on this. I refuse to be with just any dude who isn't bringing anything positive and inspiring to the table. All of these experiences I have experienced.

  • @Kontroversial84
    @Kontroversial84 8 років тому +9

    OMG! You are so real and so hilarious! I love it!

  • @carlynyc
    @carlynyc 6 років тому +5

    "Dried up baby that they gave you" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @CaseyRhiannonBillingsley
    @CaseyRhiannonBillingsley 5 років тому +8

    I tried dating a BM..I don’t think I’ll ever get over the things he did and said to me. Disrespectful yes but that’s putting it lightly...that level of disrespect is border line cruelty.

    • @Debsterism
      @Debsterism  5 років тому +13

      Unfortunately, I believe it's the culture. Other older BM teach the younger ones to abuse women and game in us vs how to be solid strong purposeful leaders some women would be proud to have as a son, brother or husband. Smdh

    • @Sunshinestarryrose
      @Sunshinestarryrose 2 роки тому

      @@Debsterism which is why I’m not marrying an American black man.

  • @feliciajenkins5041
    @feliciajenkins5041 4 роки тому +8

    You're not what you attract cause lots like to put on the nice guy routine that changes as soon as you show love.

  • @raesweety
    @raesweety 3 роки тому +3

    I totally agree with you that "you are what you attract" is the most utter bs 🙄 😒 😑 mentioned by men and women. I truly think me being with my ex was for him to teach how to treat women and trust good women, and for me to learn how to date and how to set up my boundaries higher!

  • @belleamourphed1111
    @belleamourphed1111 7 років тому +22

    Wow I'm from the south too I'm from Texas & its so oo oo much worse down there. I was gone for 7 yrs & visited last year everyone is the same. Almost no one I know is evolving they're merely existing & most have become energy vampires. If I go back its to Houston to eat 😬 Ugh those guys down there r so delayed & miserable.

    • @Debsterism
      @Debsterism  7 років тому +7

      +Belle Amour Chile I know. I lived in Houston five years and that was enough for me.

    • @belleamourphed1111
      @belleamourphed1111 7 років тому +4

      LOL! I lived there 4yrs & I enjoyed it way more than dfw BC I lived in jersey village worked & went to school in cypress so I stayed out of the wards & depressing areas but I still wasn't satisfied lol not 1 man of value approached me & it was only 1 guy I was attracted to the entire time. Those church men out there are horrible!!!!

  • @aquariusspirit4210
    @aquariusspirit4210 7 років тому +8

    the smile crap gets me angry, why are you telling me to smile I'm not making a sad, angry, or mean face at you? also why are you intruding on my personal space when I'm in the store? I don't work here. African men are also very entitled. I could be in a coffee shop and an african man will ask me to fix his coffee or say why do I have to purchase water. I tell them I don't work here and everyone purchases there own water in this country.

  • @bigwigkyo
    @bigwigkyo 7 років тому +9

    This is a great video your the only woman I have ever subscribed to I agree with your logic

    • @Debsterism
      @Debsterism  7 років тому +5

      Wow. Well welcome. Let's see how long this lasts. LOL

  • @joinmyjourneyitsmylife9951
    @joinmyjourneyitsmylife9951 7 років тому +15

    Disrespectful men

  • @rikyrah
    @rikyrah 8 років тому +9

    I LOL at many times. Thank you😁😁

  • @Ethereal_darkness_
    @Ethereal_darkness_ 6 років тому +7

    Truth... I’m so tired of it. “You need to kick your own ass’s cause I can’t get to you “ 😂. Really I want to tell guys what they are doing wrong to their face but I’m scared of being shot or cursed out so I just say I’m happily married so no. Guys these days are so dumb and entitled.

  • @carlynyc
    @carlynyc 6 років тому +3

    "Low level roach nigga" 😭😭😭

  • @marlenahawkins7098
    @marlenahawkins7098 5 років тому +5

    I’m at lost for words I’m so tired of standing by our men I’m tired being a nun is looking optional

  • @msrailroadtracks2920
    @msrailroadtracks2920 5 років тому +2

    “Low Level Roach Nigga”. OMG I hollered and threw my head back. Get it Deborrah!👏🏾

  • @tirzahhendricks8895
    @tirzahhendricks8895 6 років тому +3

    Hey Miss lady😂 you are so spot on with everything I loved this video and I’m sharing with all my friends.

  • @quanaramirasherman
    @quanaramirasherman 7 років тому +6

    You are AWESOME! I am in tears laughing. And it's all true. Much love and thank you for the wisdom. And I've heard all this shit.

  • @carefreetravelz
    @carefreetravelz 8 років тому +12

    I've heard so many of these...

  • @art-byfayleif3938
    @art-byfayleif3938 4 роки тому +3

    All of that and more, is why I don't date black dudes anymore.
    Ps.
    I have natural hair and its really long curly and really pretty. A black man with the biggest grin on his face told me he liked my weave... I'm like DA fuck? After I told him my hair was real he just said "Oh I like your hair" like omigosh?! What makes you think it's ok to think my hair is fake?!

    • @Debsterism
      @Debsterism  4 роки тому +2

      I had my hair in a twist out one day a few years ago, and this guy at the BART station passed me on the stairwell, then turned around and asked me "is that your real hair?" What is their fixation on women's hair?

    • @art-byfayleif3938
      @art-byfayleif3938 4 роки тому +3

      @@Debsterism it's like this big deal for them... The hair gotta be real cause then they can touch or play with it. Or its this idea she's a real woman not fake....its so dumb...some are even so gross to want you to process/straighten your hair and I'm like... No you either accept me as is or fuck off

  • @jeanniesabol6017
    @jeanniesabol6017 4 роки тому +6

    White women are asked similar intrusive and offensive questions, as well. You are excellent!!! I wish I'd found you a long time ago. I'm learning so much from you.

    • @Debsterism
      @Debsterism  4 роки тому +6

      You are very welcome. Yes I've had some white guys ask me some dumbass questions but that was always when I was outside California. Just stupid. One told me I was smart and he didn't know black people could be smart like that. This was in Texas. To excuse him he was only 19 years old at the time but so was I. And here you are saying that dumb shit??? Oh boy you know he got an earful cause I went (what they now call) HAM on his butt.
      Glad you found your way here - better late than never. P.lease subscribe and share a few links to help the channel grow. :)

  • @toniaholmes2403
    @toniaholmes2403 8 років тому +29

    Bwhaaa! This video is so funny but so true. Those lines are lame & tired. SMH

  • @knightyknight5399
    @knightyknight5399 5 років тому +2

    These guy's are intelligent fools..🤣..Thx for the upload ..👍🏾

  • @edunlap6594
    @edunlap6594 8 років тому +5

    When Ice Cube gives that look...😂

    • @Debsterism
      @Debsterism  8 років тому

      +E Dunlap My favorite too!!

  • @jlogic1491
    @jlogic1491 6 років тому +1

    One guy said, "I'm sorry." I said, "Why?" He said, "I had a dream about you and I want to apologized for everything I did to you in it." Really?

    • @Debsterism
      @Debsterism  6 років тому +3

      OMG can you get any dumber.

    • @jlogic1491
      @jlogic1491 6 років тому

      I don't understand the comment?

    • @Debsterism
      @Debsterism  6 років тому +4

      That means his line was dumb. I mean the dumbest. Can it get any dumber? LOLOL

    • @jlogic1491
      @jlogic1491 6 років тому +1

      Right!!! He was the only one to think it was cute.

  • @Pattydole70
    @Pattydole70 8 років тому +7

    CHile, this video gave me LIFE! This is the damn truth. I hate when men think that it is appropriate to talk about sex with a woman that they don't know. I ain't even trying to be politically correct.I make it clear that I am NOT interested. I shut their shit down quick, fast and in a hurry. Calling me bitch doesn't deter me. I say THANK YOU, I am a bitch and don't yo black ass forget it, move yo useless, toothless on.

  • @kristenmoonrise
    @kristenmoonrise 5 років тому +5

    They definitely say "Miss Lady" here in Texas lol

    • @Debsterism
      @Debsterism  5 років тому +4

      Ugh. I just want to dry up and blow away to escape the ratchet dustiness
      🙄🙄

    • @kristenmoonrise
      @kristenmoonrise 5 років тому

      @@Debsterism 🤣

  • @H1GHD3FF
    @H1GHD3FF 8 років тому +5

    You got me in tears.......

    • @Debsterism
      @Debsterism  8 років тому +2

      I hope they are tears of laughter!

    • @H1GHD3FF
      @H1GHD3FF 8 років тому +3

      Deborrah Cooper Yes ma'am. I always wondered what women thoughts were about this subject. You definitely wouldn't like South Florida growing up as a little girls

  • @charliekb3zvn247
    @charliekb3zvn247 6 років тому +3

    YESSSSSS!!
    You are incredible love..
    Thank you SO much for making this hilarious video beautiful
    You had me DYING the whole damn time! You hit the nail on the head about everything!
    I'm just so glad that someone finally put all this bullshit into words so perfectly for real..
    THIS VIDEO NEEDS TO BROADCASTED NATIONALLY
    LLS ❤

  • @kekejefferson9219
    @kekejefferson9219 4 роки тому +4

    Houston TX, in poor black areas: From strangers, "You would be perfect if you were 5 shades lighter!" Called "RED" while I'm dark skin. I didn't give this hood dude my number at a Convenient store next to my college and he said, "what your pimp won't let you have friends." "How many square ft is your house". "How much does your job pay." "Who do you stay with?" "Can I stay with you M-Th so I save gas on my commute.(This was at a NYs Eve, Tony Toni Tone concert) My white friends were like, their glad to be white. Moved out of the ghetto the second I graduated!

    • @Debsterism
      @Debsterism  4 роки тому +2

      Ugh. Country bumpkin no couth having shitheads.

  • @blkberrymolasses
    @blkberrymolasses Рік тому +2

    Are you mixed??
    Yes.... With my mama and my daddy🎤

  • @kekejefferson9219
    @kekejefferson9219 3 роки тому +2

    Weird thing is that, even the most religious men disrespected me also. I know it was worst in my 20s during college. But it slows down when you get in your 30s and move out the hood.

    • @Debsterism
      @Debsterism  3 роки тому +2

      Religious ones are the worst! They feel like they have Jesus and God plus the passa as their wingmen.

  • @prettyinpinkasmr3347
    @prettyinpinkasmr3347 2 роки тому +1

    I laughed so hard. You are so funny !!!! And spoke the truth . 🙌🏾

  • @cd1452
    @cd1452 3 роки тому +1

    So true. Good commentary.

  • @jasonbiggs9261
    @jasonbiggs9261 8 років тому +7

    Interesting video - especially when you mentioned, this is part of "Black Male Culture" ...deep

  • @christieoneal9635
    @christieoneal9635 6 років тому +1

    Thank you so much!!!! Your are helping me see threw these fools 👍

  • @sparklyunicorn5431
    @sparklyunicorn5431 2 роки тому +2

    Ugh I hate when men ask if I cook. Wtf I'm not a chef lol. This applies to ALL MEN. WHY THEY SO USELESS?!? LOL

  • @peppermintpattie6006
    @peppermintpattie6006 7 років тому +8

    I love your channel. I admit, I’m way too nice. After listening to you, it’s time to give no fucks!

  • @kenmtb
    @kenmtb 7 років тому +17

    This is so sad to hear but so true. BM need to step it up and stop being so dog gone immature.

  • @901callen
    @901callen 8 років тому +2

    😂😅😂😅 LMAO! Hilarious but true. Love this! So glad I found you.

    • @Debsterism
      @Debsterism  8 років тому

      +CuteLittleVirgo Me too!