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My mother said "they just diagnose everyone with adhd nowadays", I haven't told her anything about it since and she doesn't know that I started meds a week ago. We have a great relationship, but this topic is something that I just don't want to talk about with her because I'm scared she won't understand. My dad doesn't really seem to care, he has mental health issues himself. I am 21 btw, my mental health, therapy and stuff like that have just been something that I worked with my therapist and friends/boyfriend, not my parents.
My wife had a student who MIGHT, have had ADHD. Lots of attention issues, emotional dysregulation. He would flip out and destroy his work when he got told something was wrong. The mother refused to believe it and took it as an insult. Tried to get my wife in trouble for doing her job. Lots of parents simply hate the idea that someone else could say their child has a neurological difference. But the fact is teachers are usually the ones who are going to notice first. They see 30 kids a day for years, they're going to notice when one kid is acting very differently or in a way that makes it difficult for them to learn comfortably (or in a different way, the school system isn't suited to their needs).
Dr Russell Barkly's seminars on ADHD are available here on UA-cam, where he goes into our disorder in much greater detail. One big thing for me was redefining and renaming ADHD as Executive Function Deficit Disorder (EFDD) and that attention deficit and "hyper activity" are symptoms not the disorder.
Can you talk about the last part more? The way I see ADHD is that it is a stimulation disorder because attention goes wherever stimulation goes. But what you said is a lot more closer to the truth.
@@zasta7 "Executive functions are a set of cognitive processes that are necessary for the cognitive control of behavior: selecting and successfully monitoring behaviors that facilitate the attainment of chosen goals" They’re the internal regulators of our thoughts and responses. We we're young we very limited self control, when something triggers an emotional response we would get swept up along with them, when something new and interesting happens it grabs our attention and the previous thing we were doing is forgotten. As we get older and our frontal lobes develop we learn to control, contain and direct these things until you master yourself. You can still feel angry and upset about someone treating you poorly, but being self possed you know that violent and brash out bursts aren't socially acceptable and could be damaging to you. When distracted from a task you can prioritise and reorient yourself on that task, then move on to the next thing. ADHD people still have these abilities, but the scientific literature suggests perhaps a 30% deficit when compared to our peers. If I remember correctly, this is a big IF 🙃, Dr Barkly compared it to elderly adults as their memory starts failing or perhaps a child whose mental age is lagging by three years or so.
@@zasta7 I'm not a scientist and I have EFDD, so please do your own research. I can't be certain I'm offer 100% accurate info and wouldn't want to mislead or confuse you and more than life already is.
@@zasta7 That's why he refers to it as an executive function disorder, because that's what allows our brains to steer our attention. Think of it as driving a car without power steering - you can steer it, but it takes much more effort to do so.
I'm so sorry you had to go through that 😔 I'm rooting for things to change for you now that you've been diagnosed 🫂 thankfully you are still young and have much time to heal and grow.
I was diagnosed in my late 40’s and ADHD had caused me so much grief in my past, with school, relationships, outrageous behaviour and addictions, ect, now i am medicated and getting psychological help for the grief of it all, i still have my symptoms but i can have enough awareness for better decision making from taking my meds and getting help, it’s been a long road and a lot of pain, this disorder needs to be taken seriously, it can ruin lives, my Son has it as well, i see him struggle, there is alot of stigma out there, like non ADHDer’s with their clueless remarks, like your lazy, you just use it as an accuse, we all have a bit of ADHD, you need to pay attention, ect, if only they had it for a day or two, they would be crying for their own brain back 😢
110% agreed. As a child, I just could not withstand normalcy and had to set stuff on fire, get into never-ending arguments, breaking school stuff by throwing rocks, annoying teachers, carers, friends, animals, bugs, plants, but always got away with this because of good grades. Do not ask me why. As a teenager, I could not keep up the grades anymore. I set exams on fire, got into fights with teachers, and decided to drop out of school for myself. Locked myself in my room for around two years, only playing video games, losing friends, being mean to anyone who would get closer. I was in therapy the whole way through but mistreated for 'anxiety'. I got off my anxiety medication for myself, dropped off therapy, started taking asthma-stimulants to go to the gym (basically ephedrine or whatever)-so even back then what 'saved' me was self-medicating. After hitting the gym for a couple of months, and self-medicating, I got out of my hole. As a young person, I got into university, addicted to caffeine, and self-medicating with all other university life weekend drugs I could, including alcohol, of course. It is indeed a miracle to still be alive after setting fire to things as a child, two suicide attempts as a teenager, at least four ER visits for alcohol or party-drugs overdose, and self-medicating with other stimulants and light opiates during my late 20s. After 31 years of this mess, I finally took two general practitioners' advice on letting myself checked for ADHD on the psychiatric ward of a clinic. The doctor treating me was the first to ever do any kind of testing, after me being to over five psychiatrists in my whole life. She, my family, and I are still in shock how doctors only started taking my case seriously after all those years of substance abuse, disastrous social- and life-skills, and learning impediments. Treatment is only the beginning, though. It is indeed a strong relief feeling to allow my brain to be in a serious and contemplating state of mind. I do not care people telling me I got too serious, and quiet ever since treatment. I am relaxed, I can finish tasks, I do not get ruminating about each small little thing that happens. I can stop talking, if I feel I am annoying someone, and move on to my next task. I have a routine, I even gained weight. People think stimulants will make you on high alert, anxious, awake, not hungry, euphoric. On the contrary, I prepare food, I am not afraid to wake up, I take care of my hygiene, I walk the dog, I pay some bills, I still struggle with unlearning what, I thought, should be the right way to solve stuff. Yes, it is only the beginning, it is not the god-ex-machina, but it is so much better than all the risks to my health and my surroundings than not being in treatment. I have zero clue why I was born like this, I was wished to me neurocommon. This firing burning in my chest will most likely never stop burning, but after treatment, it feels like it is at least controlled and less harmful. Thank you for sharing your experience - I feel less of a weirdo hearing I was not the only mean child, stupid teenager, arrogant youngster, poorly organized adult.
I lowkey wanna cry reading this I’m about to be 32 just got diagnosed..life has been roughhhh but you have a burning feeling in your chest, mine is in my stomach..I literally feel sick and it takes so much energy to get stuff done and I’m stubborn af and will keep trying but I can be a real a hole at times to people I care about when I feel things getting in my way and I’m hanging on for dear life as it is so I’ll snap on folks and feel disgusting after. It’s strained my relationship with the ppl I love and everyone else I keep at a distance to protect them 🤦🏾♀️ this week I’m going to ask for a prescription and not look back.
Pl TC Everybody has something or other going in their lives If nothing financial issues Or something like that.. But all have...some Overt Some covert Tk life as it comes 😊
The only reason you feel like a weirdo or that somethings wrong is from what others have told you that has stuck in your head so now you tell yourself that subconsciously and comparing yourself to others..
Undiagnosed ADHD in childhood and then being raised under a narcissistic toxic family and then being easily targeted by narcissistic teachers and peers is a nightmare that I do not desire on anyone. It is a daily nightmare that I live through and now the somatic and physical overstimulation of noise, tinnitus, allergies, daily rewinding of conversations and memories of what I said and heard from others take hours away from my daily life. I can't ever get things done because I can't focus. I'm too old to get diagnosed and get medication.
Families are complicated.These issues can be genetic, or/and accidentally ,unintentionally taught. I hope this reminder allows for the finding some peace and forgiveness Never say too old, or too late to get educated assistance and talk therapy along with suggested reading was HUGELY helpful to me. Learning that girls usually have COMPLETELY different tell-tale signs, such as extreme shyness was monumental in my spec. Case. . I was finally properly diagnosed at 35. This isn't just a kid thing. So I say: -there is still hope for any of us!!
I'm so glad you touched on this. 100% growing up was rough cause I had more than just ADHD and I really thought and my parents that I was lazy. They thought I wasn't trying and the euphoria I got from the alcoholism is the downwards spiral. Growing up in the 1990s Mexican American community they don't believe in any psychiatric treatment. Only treatment you had was near death or serious Infection. I really thought my memory was shot or I really just had to tough it out and I wasn't made for a professional job. When I treated my OCD and my ADHD even at 36 I feel like I just graduated highschool again and got the cheat codes. My memory was back up to speed and so was my decision making and expertise I did t know I had through experience until I was treated. It's sad really cause I did get in trouble with crime but it's either drinking or very minor because of my firm beliefs I did my best to restrain from violence and sometimes I had to ask the same thing over and over and being called stupid about it or messed up it's very hard not to rip someone's head off in a very physically demanding jobs I had too. It does make me sad that I could have been stuck in jail in a sudden emotionally charged violent attack and my medication via alcohol. Now passing by it makes it so not attractive for me cause the hang over and I got what I need with my treatment and I keep finding a higher paying job it's great. But imagine how many people in jail really don't belong there even with evidence against them all they needed was some treatment so they can control the logic and emotions and go forwards. I understand everything is a choice and the crazy adventure I had in my life but because of my faith and beliefs I was always on the cord of safety. A very small cord but it kept me through and I know it's a choice but it feels like some of them don't know what they are doing. Don't get me wrong there are intelligent and normal scumbags in jail but to really know them takes dedication and a better program to benefit our true skills in society rather than looking at the flaws of the broken who didn't get treatment...
Thank you so much for sharing your unique story! I am so sorry to hear about all the trauma and hardships and so glad to have you here in this community and healing. I really hope things start looking up in the future and you are happy with how it's going!
I feel late to respond to this, but this hits way too close to home for me. I am 60 years old, and have spent most of the last 45 odd years feeling like a total failure. I just got diagnosed last year. About 3 years ago, after I watched a random ADHD channel I started to think I may have it, it took close to 3 years for diagnosis. Most of the delay was doctors, friends, family telling me I could not have it because I had done x,y & z. I had attempted university a number of times, and ended up failing due to a combination of failing to hand in assignments and getting bored. I have never had a career, bouncing from job to job, many part time and often unemployed. Now, at 60 i'm back at university, not only passing but getting really good grades, I can focus on what I choose to focus on. For the first time in a very, very long time I have focus and passion again and a sense of purpose. The feeling of lost and wasted time, for me is very real. For many , myself included ADHD does not just "go away" fyi, medication helps, but does not a magic bullet. For instance I am currently supposed to be reviewing notes for my spectroscopy class now, instead I am youtubeing :P Anyway thank you for the channel, cheers.
@zeromotivation1817, I'm curious, have you been doing things in addition to medication that you feel have helped you improve the quality of your life? I'd love to know if you don't mind saying....I'm looking for ideas to help myself (I'm in my mid-60's). I'm really glad for you that you've had some breakthroughs.
@@awomanwithaplan I saw your message yesterday, and sorry it took so long to reply, but it took me a while to get my thoughts in order, also its the end of trimester at university and I am waist deep in overdue assignments and looming exams. Like everything else in life there are ups and downs. Short answer: Exercise and Music Longer answer :since I made that post I have been struggling with motivation and focus, I think partially as I ran out of medication for a week or so, and even after getting meds again I am inconsistent with taking it regularly, that's my fault and something for me to focus on.( its almost funny if you think of it, as my focus is what I want to fix, but I digress) For me I have tried a few things, but my biggest problem seems to be a lack of consistency. so, things that help -Exercise, getting outside and going for a walk helps, so for me the walk to the bus to get into university helps. Also at university, its a place just for study -Just being at university, around people does seem to help, but I find it draining to be around people as well. -Music, any seems to help but I have found there are a number of youtube channels with calming and/or ADHD music. I find many of them both calming and helps productivity. I think its because its sort of almost distracting, and so my brain focus's on a slightly changing beat, while letting me aim my focus at what I am doing. At least that was the case. The next thing I intend to try is meditation, I'll let you know how it goes. I'll end off with a line I saw on another vid that I am trying to implement. The meds are great- but you have to meet the meds 1/2 way, I still have to have find some way to focus on what I want to stay focused on... if that makes sense. All the best in your Journey, good luck Cheers from Aus.
All your Videos are so well informed and go way beyond what you can easily hear repetitively being on UA-cam and other social media! Thank you for going against Ableism and helping to shed some light on ADHD misconception!
I know it’s a month later, but I just saw your comment now and I wanted to thank you so much for making my day and being so kind ❤️ I wish you all the best!
Yeah it'd be super helpful if they just changed the name in the diagnostic literature. They did it for ADD adding the H, and that didn't even have the benefit of addressing a stereotype. Maybe if the name directly addressed that its neuro-developmental and rather than behavioral. Or even directly mention executive dysfunction, which sounds more serious and less like a character defect.
It is very very important to relax a LOT more than normal people. Our work capacity is 40% of the normal, after which there's usually a burnout. Also need to be in the company of extremely supportive people who are informed about the disorder and don't pressurize you to act as per their social norms. I've also felt that my adhd is a lot less impairing if my bills are being paid and the basic needs and comforts are taken care of. In that case my work performance shoots up 200%
I just gotta ask when you say taken care of do you mean by others? Or just done? Cause on one hand I think anyone can thrive better when basic needs are covered. On the other hand I have to question whether non adhders would get lazy or relax while adhd is busy doing something.
Is it an ADHD symptom that I feel like I'm constantly rushing around and rushing everything and want everything to be done because my brain either thinks too much or doesn't want to work at all/turns to mush? So I get really irritable even at the smallest things and I do these 'unacceptable' things like chewing loudly, screaming when I bang into things... is that something else or could that also be a part of ADHD?
Yeah rushing through everything constantly is definitely a very very very very common symptom of adhd for sooooooooooooooi many of us who actually have the disorder
Yeah only been diagnosed with ADHD 3 weeks ago and it explains the multiple days I experienced at a time where I could only barely be able to eat, drink and shower and go to the bathroom sometimes not even that. . . Relieved to finally start medication next week. My mum did try and diagnose me as a kid with a professional but they wrote it off as hyperactivity disorder and she disagreed with the Dr signifcantly but could not afford to have a second opinion privately but tried everything in her power to make sure I could reach my education milestones and have me function well enough to get through middle school although as brilliant as she was I still sucked at highschool due to unrelated events.
Thank you for sharing your experience! I really hope the medication will provide some relief for you. It sucks to know how some people let you down, but it's also so special to have a parent be so dedicated in your support! Your mom is a gem and I wish you both the best!
Hi Antonia, thanks for sharing all the videos. I found them most informative and it's compelling to hear from a person who is experiencing it and is so self aware ( ''Sorry I ghosted you was such a lightbulb moment!). I am researching to understand a friend who has been diagnosed in his 40ies and everything makes so much more sense now. Despite of your struggles, I would like for you to know that it's evident that you are on a good track to improve your quality of life ,and you are contributing to the general understanding of ADHD. Best wishes, I'm sure future is bright for you x
Thank you so much for your kind words! You made me very happy! And you are such a good friend and empathic person for doing this this research. It was honestly my dream to have ADHD friends in particular watch these videos and see their friends and loved ones with ADHD in a new light, maybe with a little more understanding. You are a treasure and I hope things work out with your friend! I wish you the best!
I got a degree aged 20, 1999, pgdip 2000. I lived in the U.K. I have diagnoses of dyspraxia, ADHD and Aspergers traits ( autistic traits ). I am aged 44. I got diagnosed with Aspergers traits early 2004, aged 25. I got diagnosed with dyspraxia spring 2012, aged 33. I knew I had dyspraxia aged 23, early 2002. I had a nervous breakdown to get a nervous breakdown to get my ADHD detected, February 2020, aged 41, diagnosed with ADHD aged 41, August 2020, given medication. Undiagnosed ADHD, resulted in underachievement in education, struggling in he workplace, unable to make decisions, unable to move forward in life , mental health problems. My ADHD was missed because I was well behaved in school , intelligent and driven. Soon aged 45, never married, no children, self employment.
Diagnosed asperger's last year 43 private test and heds do you have that also have fybromyalgia symptoms everyday OCD all my life son's now diagnosed to
As someone who wasn't diagnosed with adhd until they were 28, and still didn't get treatment for adhd until they were 36 years old. I can agree with this. Even after being on medication for nearly 3 years, and going back into therapy for the last 3 years as well to learn how to actually function in life. I completely agree there is a very negative stigma, that still lingers to this day. My family do not understand "why" I need stimulant medications. I "should" be able to function without them right? I went for most of my life without them. What people don't understand is that stimulant medication does NOT work on people with adhd like it does on people without it. For me I always noticed that things like even caffeine never woke me up, or gave me energy. I learned that lesson the hard way when someone suggested I take caffeine pills to get through a really tough night shift....Needless to say I struggled even harder to stay awake. For me stimulants actually slow my brain down, and allow me to focus and think clearly and organized. What I haven't figured out yet is how to get through the weekends without it. As I have found that if I take it every day it works less and less. So I have to take weekends off for it to work even remotely well on the weekdays. Even that isn't as good as it used to be either. Also up until I was medicated for adhd, they just kept trying me on every anti-depressant you can think of. None of them helped either.
Information on ADHD for parents is so important. Both for children but also for adults who were never diagnosed. When I (27) told my mother that I suspect I may have ADHD she basically said "I don't think so, but if you want to talk to a professional, go for it", but then a year later, when I had finally had multiple sessisons with different tests and diagnostic interviews with a therapist and I told her "I now know, I have ADHD" she reacted wildly offended. She basically told me I was just diagnosed because I really wanted to find an excuse for any behavior. When I told her I want to try medication, she acted as if I said I want to go out and buy cocain. My mother is normally one of the most open minded and supportive people I know, but this made her act like I was offending her by "claiming" I have ADHD and making her look like a bad parent. I told her, that this had nothing to do with her but with MY life and MY choices and stuggles, but she still doesn't really believe me. And this hurts. Yes, I am an adult now and I don't need her permission to go forward with treatment, but it still sucks. One of the most important people in my life, thinks I am "just looking for an excuse" and combinbed with my already low self-esteem this nearly sent me into a spiral of "maybe I am just lazy and make it all up." I am lucky the therapist who diagnosed me took the time to talk about this and help me re-contextualize it and see that this is not my fault and that this diagnosis is valid and my feelings are valid. Right now I am waiting on an appointment to talk about meds and I already dread talking to my mother about it, which sucks because normally we openly talk about everything. I don't want to hide this, but sometimes it feels easier. And all of this really just boils down to misinformation, lack of information and outdated ideas and stigmas.
Wow, are you me? We're even almost the same age! It's wild how this all feels so isolating and yet so many people are going through the exact same thing at the exact same time. I guess it's largely the reason why the Desperate Housewives episode really struck me. You don't really see other parents react in real life, but Lynette reacted just like my mom and yours. "It's drugs, it's my parenting, blah". Knowing all I know about the outcomes I just can't stand by and watch. I can't imagine all the things you've probably struggled with so far 😞 I really hope medication treatments go well for you and things start looking up. It's amazing that you're doing therapy too! Perhaps sending this video to your mom might make a difference? I tried to make it very informative and not blaming so that parents could potentially "get it"(if that's possible).
@@AntoniasUniverse sadly my mother doesn't speak English. But at the moment I am looking for a good, short (and not too expensive) book with up-to-date information about ADHD in German that I can give her. If anyone has recommendations, let me know. Talking to a therapist (even though it was just a few sessions to get the official diagnosis and talk through how it impacted/and still impacts my life) was very helpful. Definitely worth waiting 10months for. At the moment I feel good enough without more one-on-one therapy, but I joined a self-help group that is led by a specialist in ADHD who also has it herself. I hope this combined with some meds will help me to move forward and finally finish my university degree. I hope I get an appointment to talk to a doctor about medications soon... And yeah, it is crazy how many people go through this right now. Something about the pandemic disrupting our coping strategies and more widespread information about ADHD on social media caused a lot of people to seek help. Also by talking about it quite openly, I even found some people in my life that have ADHD and have been more or less recently diagnosed and some friends who have someone with ADHD in their families. Among people our age I feel like the stigma is also a lot less than with older people.
@@toffeefuchs Ohh! I really hope this works out and you can finally finish your degree! It's awesome you have friends to share with too! One of the best books I think is "Taking control of adult ADHD" by dr. Russel Barkley. He is one of the biggest researchers on the topic and translated into almost every language so that might be a good place to look.
This is nuts another guy on these comments said how he started fires as a child messed around but was smart got good grads etc then experimented with recreational drugs etc basically me I have just turned 39 and just diagnosed with ADHD I have a suspicion that it was mentioned to my mother by my teacher at a young age because of the way I was and spoke. Back to teachers. My mothers solution was to send my 2 younger sister to my grandmas make me pack all the things I played with my Nintendo console in a box locked them in a cupboard, bend me bare bum over a chair and repeatedly beat me with a belt. Needless to say there were plenty more beatings. I brought this up in 2020 to her that I suspected I might have ADHD. This wasn’t well received and she told me I was depressed and that my father dosnt understand depression. Sorry for the rambling but it’s soo weird we all seem to have similar experiences sometimes feels like a spiritual connection or something. Us ADHDers need to look out for each other! 🫶🏻
I think I have adhd and i was so addicted to weed. One puff off a cigarette and i was addicted and had to stop myself before the habit started. I crave alcohol all the time. It really is true. It sucks because sometimes I wanna use weed to just calm down after a hectic day but if I start again I won’t be able to stop. Sucks.
Thank you, Sarah!! I wish you the best of luck that things go well and a very peaceful and healing journey! Don't worry or be shy, it will be alright, I promise! The psychiatrists are there to help and won't judge. ❤️
What's sad is that I grew up in a very accommodating household, but not out of knowledge that I had ADHD or understanding how it affected me. I was homeschooled (which I'm incredibly grateful for), and was given a great deal of liberty in how I wanted to learn which worked fantastic for me, but it got so much harder to manage once I got into adult life. On top of that, once I did start going to therapy and seeking help for it, it was difficult to talk to them about it (even though my dad is a therapist). I still haven't told them that a) I had to pay for the testing out of pocket because my insurance wouldn't cover it, and b) that I'm now taking medication and it's working for me (I had talked about thinking about getting on medication, to which my dad just told me that I didn't need it). They're really proud of me in how I'm doing better and making progress, but it's sad that they struggle with understanding that the reason I'm doing well is I started addressing the root problem instead of just trying harder. To be fair though, I can't blame them entirely. They both have it too but are undiagnosed, were both raised in a culture that didn't acknowledge mental health, and my dad was prescribed Ritalin as a kid which wasn't the right kind of medication he needed, so that impacted his attitude toward stimulant medication as a whole. I'm hoping that the more I learn about ADHD, the more I can help educate them about not just my brain but their own.
Antonia, I used to watch your videos a lot, especially on the topic of minimalism. You are so relatable and have a very soothing presence. I grew up very close to Koblenz so I always found it cool that you're living there :) Two weeks ago I also got a ADHD diagnosis and suddenly so many issues I had make sense now. So of course I'm into all the ADHD content on UA-cam now and then your videos got recommended to me again and guess what, you're even more relatable now and I'm going to watch all your amazing ADHD content! Thanks for spreading such valuable information! I would have never even guessed that I could have this, because from the outside it always looked like I had my shit together, which I didn't. For once in the past years it finally looks like there will be a good way forward, and not just cycles of trying to get myself to fit into boxes or trying all the regular strategies just to end up failing and feeling frustrated and ashamed. ❤
I can relate to each and everything you mentioned in this video my friend ❤ I feel heartbroken 💔 I wish I would have known all this long time ago and please wish me luck trying to get help for my son ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Thank you. Your information is so well organized and presented. My life to a tee. I received my diagnosis in my 40s, and I still have days when I mourn the life I could have had if only I had gotten proper treatment before reaching adulthood. .
I lost a very dear friend to a drug overdose a few years ago who had suffered a string of catastrophes - many of his own making - in his academic, personal and professional life literally since his first day in school. A lot of pain and misery could have been avoided if he'd received the proper support and treatment for his ADHD & dyslexia as a child & adolescent.
You are completely right.. I feel I have been very lucky not to get into anything illegal or too dangerous looking at these statistics. But I just started taking medication this week and wow I didn't realise just how much restlessness and anxiety I had inside me, it's just gone in that time, it's incredible, so calm, slower and collected. I wish I had been "drugged" when younger.
I had untreated and undiagnosed ADHD, had a hard time for being an absenteeism and having low grades since kindergarten, dropped out twice in highschool, did impulsive/unhealthy ways to cope. Until I had the diagnosis at 18 but also had a provisional diagnosis of BPD and CPTSD. I, a 20 year old, still a drop out, currently suffering with isolation, cannot find a stable job and can no longer afford therapy. It's really physically and mentally exhausting.
I am a mother of 2 , and I do have ADHD. I was diagnosed about 16 years ago in the US.y daughter hast been diagnosed with ADD, about 3 years ago. She still does not get any help yet. I live in Germany now, where there ist not so known about ADHD/ ADD. I am 48 years old and back in that time, Nobody knew about ADHD here in Germany. I wish, I would have been able to been diagnosed back then and properly treated. I was bullied, I did do drugs to selfmedicate. I never finished school, I had a lot of problems with my impulsiv behavior. I am the only one in my family who did not get a degree In Seattle I finally got diagnosed and the medication helped me right away Now my daughter hast the same problems. She is 17 years old now. Therapy and medication is so important to help them in my opinion. You are least likley tonself medicate with illegal drugs and it can be a super help to get a good carreer wich is so important for your future life. She lives with her dad in the Netherlands now. I am working with her and her therapist. But they prolong all of this. Now would be the time . And I know what I am talking about. Medication might not always be the answer, but with ADHD /ADD is really is.
Thank you for sharing your story! This is so so important to get out there and to understand ❤️ I hope you and your daughter will be able to break the cycle and turn things around. I wish you all the strength and good luck!
Totaly true...im adhd myself.started medication 4 years ago & my life really improve.Drop out of school, depression , drug Adiction ,alcoholism.i was sexualy assaulted at 7 and wasnt my fault but i was distracted to the point i wasnt capable to pay attention to obviuous dangers.please help your childrens! Please! The difference can be a disaster.At least now im capable to keep a job ,stay ealthy ,be a better person for my loved ones and myself of course.Dont know english excuse my ortografic crimes
Can we have this in German please so I can send this to my parents? When I told them that I have an apt for adhd screening their first thing was "what did we do wrong here" and "you have always been a nice and cute boy" ... yeah well that does not change anything for me really
I got into Ritalin and my wife described my state as "zombie like". I could relate to what you said about that contemplation state. But, because of this pre concept, I decided to stop taking it. Now, I'm trying to figure out if I really have ADHD, or GAD. 😢
Parents of kids with ADHD: Try to watch what you feed your kids also. Red 40 may increase ADHD like symptoms in kids. This is a food coloring that is added to many candies and snacks. Also if you don't want to medicate your kid but they have lots of homework give them a bit of caffeine. My psychologist told my parents to give me a soda before homework. (Soda is loaded in sugar so I prefer coffee with heavy whipping cream now. I try to avoid soda but caffeine does help SOME. Not the same as meds but it does help.)
Firstly, I’m not in disorganized anxious avoidant attachment disorder. I’m in the single direct voice “confident attachment” emotional concordance, actual emotional empathy. Actual emotional control. I call the personality devoid instrument of the system, the hyper-skinnerizer. Yeah I may spend a lot of time alone and I do have ADHD problems, also can’t get work because I’m still myself and not the hyper-skinnerizer. I simply cannot be shredded anymore, I’m not conforming like everyone else. I’ll do my own thing but not propping up their crapshow for the sake of my skin not becoming hyper-skinnerized any more.
That sounds so exhausting, I'm glad you don't want to conform and you want to be yourself! Therapy really helps understand the emotional parts, even if it doesn't mean they are under control. I recommend it a lot!
@@AntoniasUniverse I’m not “emotional” I feel them normally but not like an overwhelming amount, sometimes I dismiss them, each must be observed. If you’re considered autistic, do not piece their lies. We must all use concordant emotion language. Check Patrick Teahan he is the best to learn dealing with emotions for everyone. Emotions should never be used to fuel any interpersonal communication except for understanding their personal situation, needs, desires. Not twisting their words into a treacherous state, then taking incredible offense to turn away and never ask for any help to understand their needs. I’m terrible with words and have a lot to say. So it might not be how everyone likes but it’s also not the first time I’ve had to develop my communication all the way from a babbling baby or a nonsensical young writer
Experts say , it is important to have ADHD treatment in childhood, it is upsetting when one has their ADHD detected, in their 40s, being highly intelligent with a university degree, a postgraduate qualification, professional qualification, with other neurodivergent conditions and possible comorbid mental health problems, underachievement even if they have a high IQ.
Funny thing is nearly all of those things are true for me but I haven't been diagnosed with adhd because I never took a real adhd test maybe some other test were they said that could be and so many classmates in school said that to me and I always took it as an insult. But now I'm starting to realize that that might be true and might be the cause of why my life is so miserable at the moment.
Thank you for this video! I have been just recently diagnosed at the age of 33. I was bullied and harassed in school and university by peers and it still makes me sad to talk about. I am sure I will take medication over other therapies. I have been taking antidepressant for two and half years. Perhaps after ADHD medication I need have to take antidepressant.
I hated my parents coz they beat me for the bad things I was doing. Was 42 when diagnosed with adhd, autism and ocd to name but a few… I felt really mad that no one cared or even bothered to give help where it was needed but the problem here is my dads got adhd and my mother has asd and they didn’t know either so having to go through that amount of misery for the first 14 years of my life when they couldn’t do that anymore. It’s paramount that parents get their child seen by a professional as it is not the child’s fault they are how they are. My children are getting seen by psychologists for the same things but this is why I’m not on exciting terms with my parents due to the fact I was 42 when diagnosed and really was a life saver! My children will be diagnosed at the age of 18 yea I felt bad for it been that late but I also didn’t know but personally I would’ve rather have found out at 18 not 42. It’s a very good point Antonia 😊 could’ve avoided a heck of a lot of failures in life as well as my children.
I feel your story so much! Thank you for breaking the cycle for your children and letting them have the help and education they need to understand themselves! Also I know it's not my place to say but maybe you can find a way to still communicate with your parents on some level as no grudge is worth losing a parent to. I wish you all the best!
@@AntoniasUniverse I have forgiven my mother but have not seen my father over 20yrs ago but all in all I have not forgotten. As far as I am concerned the only way I feel that can make up for it is that my mother gives everything she can for her grandchildren and is all I need. Strange thing is no one believed me when these problems were happening and when it came the time to actually confront my mother about it when I was 42 she had no idea what was going off with the abuse I received and yea she was sorry but the rabbit hole goes way way deeper than I’m explaining to you as it’s horrible and wouldn’t wish it on anyone. Getting the help I need now but I just haven’t learned how to let go, maybe 1 day…
Personally IF I have kids (if cause I'm gay and don't want any but that might change) I would definitely put them on medication but not at too immidetly. ADHD meds have honestly changed my life in so many ways its difficult to really tell but I still think that there was some benefit to not getting them until I was 20 because I developed loads of strategies which help manage my symptoms. I think that if I knew of my ADHD at like 10 or 12 and was learning skills specifically tailored for ADHD I might have developed even more skills. And as I've learned while being on the meds there are days where they decide not to work or I can't get my meds on time or I just straight up lose them so having some skills to fall back on can be a massive help. Not that I don't think that you can't do this while on meds you absolutely can but knowing what I was like at 8-18 and what loads of other kids are like I think it would be less incentive to learn those skills. I Recon I would maybe have the kid spend time without medication (of course discussing the pros and cons first) and once we had worked together to make a good fallback plan if the meds don't work the way the expect or if there's a shortage etc. etc. then I would start them on titration with the doctor and of course explain that some meds will not work for you they might have significant negative side effects but once/if you find the one that works for you its almost like all of the skills you've learned combined are as good as the medication but they will still have those skills should they ever need to stop the meds. Reading this back I feel like I come across a little evil like I'm withholding the meds that I know will help because they need to help themselves but I think its just the way I phrased it (I am pro meds) I just think that before you get on the meds you need to have the skills to at the very least mitigate some of the symptoms without them even if its not as good an effect, so getting diagnosed young takes away that opportunity to find out what works best for you because your learning what works well for you while on the medication which is not always the same as whats works for you without
Thank you so much for this video Antonia. You should be a specialist on ADHD yourself, you know so much about this. This is so important for so many people. Thank you.
People with ADHD are without exception, genius, and have immeasurable IQs, and if they stay off all the meds and learn how to surf it, they are the smartest people in the world. All the artists and musicians and scientists. All the greatest people in history were all afflicted.
Just wondering if someone knows the answer to my question… i know it dangerous to take vyvanse and drink alcohol at the same time, but can you drink alcohol if you do not take vyvanse that day?
You’ll be fine lol, sorry to make it that simple but they say that for almost every medication their is and yes narcotics and drinking are going to have a reaction but with vyvanse it’s and upper, alcohol is a downer. If anything it will calm you down.
I started watching your videos a few months ago when my doctor suspected that I had adhd, promting me to start a very eye opening investigation. I'm sure you get this a lot, but thank you for helping me pinpoint all my symptoms & giving me the confidence to write that list down when the big psychiatrist appointment was finally here. I'm now taking Vyvanse, thanks to you again, & all I can say is wow. For once in my life there is quiet & calm. Keep doing what youre doing and advocate people to better themselves. I'm certainly giving it a go ❤
I have a friend that has untreated ADHD and I want to help him but he doesn't believe in taking medications or even vitamins but will self medicate with alchohol >_
You know your stuff Antonia, did/do you also have these annoying thoughts when you wake up? thinking about mistakes made even many years ago etc? Drives me crazy sometimes.
Hey 👋 of course! Lately it's been much less mistakes and mostly random things though. I found out that no matter how much you empty the mind new things will pop up. What you can do is to change the things that come up though! Learning about ADHD and how it affected my life helped me largely forgive myself, but the main part was done in therapy. One year of intensive weekly therapy absolutely changed my life! I can't recommend it enough! And it doesn't have to be ADHD therapy, just having someone to talk to who knows what to say is enough. I wish you lots of peace and healing!
@@AntoniasUniverse Hi 👋Thanks for the reply and kind words. Ive been to therapy, have a nice talk, look things from other angles etc which was nice but didnt stick with me when I was home again. I might reconsider it thanks to your comment. :)
@@Mikes-Mysteries It might take a few tries or the right person! Feel free to write me an email too if you think some coaching or just talking about things might help. ❤
As much little t trauma school was without meds because of my ADHD I still don't think meds are right for kids under like 17ish. The brain is still developing then. I HATED school and NEVER want to "relive" my younger years. That said I'm afraid I'd be addicted to other drugs or just more immature from my brain not developing correctly. I mean I have ADHD so it's still not normal but you get the idea.
Is Medication the answer - what are the stats for treated ADHD ? How much does it help ? That’s what I want to know. What about Dr Chris Palmers work on brain metabolism ? I’d rather work with diet nutrition exercise and sleep myself. Don’t judge parents for wanting to not label and medicate their kids. I’m not sure it’s the answer. I have ADHD - gluten free diet low carb , no junk and good fats really help me. I don’t take meds.
This video is SO IMPORTANT for parents to understand what ADHD is, unlike me when my son was growing up. My son is 24 now, and i am 52. Just figuring out that it's not just depression and anxiety, but ADHD. It's just getting unmanageable as I get older. My son's 3rd grade teacher suggested he may have ADHD. I was uneducated and felt that my son was as active as any "normal" 3rd grade boy. The teacher didn't explain what ADHD was. Now I realize that he was probably a little disruptive, because he hated reading. I hated reading too, and still dislike it. He was bored. I got Bs and Cs in school until 8th grade, when they put me in the "smart" class. Suddenly I wasn't bored anymore, I wasn't getting picked on by classmates, and I got a lot of As (except for reading in English courses.) I am just now realizing WHY I did better. I could never figure out before why they would put me in the smart class. I can see the ADHD in my son now, at his age, when he comes to visit. He said he has social anxiety. at some point, I will likely share what is going on with me. my biggest concern with him growing up was that he could have depression or get bullied.
its remarkable how the therapy industry has managed to normalise the DSM mindset and the drugs that follow - such a weird time - people ought to read around these subjects to understand the history and massive controversies and unscientific and corrupted nature of it all - its truly frightening that people aren't aware of this and the power of marketing and advertising along with appeals to self interest in the form of scraps from the table has created such a profound net harm for human wellbeing - this book is a good place to start Adhd Is Not An Illness And Ritalin Is Not A Cure: A Comprehensive Rebuttal Of The (alleged) Scientific Consensus by Dr Yaakov Ophir
Thank you for sharing your perspective. It's important to have open discussions about these topics... but while I respect your viewpoint, I also believe in the value of therapy and medication for many individuals. I have lived on both sides of this argument and I can clearly tell the difference now. It's a complex issue with no one-size-fits-all solution.
@@AntoniasUniverse Thank you for the response. I've worked in the industry for decades and it frightens me how much harm it is doing. None of these drugs can be rightly considered 'medications' They are drugs with a range of effects and none of them have any good evidence supporting them and no long term studies. Each person initiated on such drugs are essentially taking part in an ongoing uncontrolled and incredibly dangerous experiment. I think anyone promoting ideas/sharing content should be morally and ethically obligated to be aware of the history and current controversies within the field. Otherwise you can easily cause much more harm than you can ever do good. I appreciate that book I suggested is expensive but its a must read. if you are interested in some psychiatric history try Anne Harringtons the mind fixers, or Andrew Sculls Desperate remedies or Owen Whooley's on the Heels of Ignorance. Psychiatric history sounds boring but these are real page turners. I would also recommend reading the 'Unrecognised facts' section on the Council for Evidenced Based Psychiatry, site along with the books and blogs by the founders. A free version of Sami Timimi's book 'Insane Medicine' is also available on the website Mad in America and Mad in the UK. The articles and blogs on Mad in America are also fascinating and the section on psychiatric drugs also a must read.
@@nicoleyork-joly4928 Lol @ melatonin! I'd do just as well taking Skittles for sleep! I could take a good vacation if I had all the money I've wasted on failed sleep aids over the years. And the serum half life of any amphetamine is 12 hours any way you slice it. There's no getting around that.
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My mother said "they just diagnose everyone with adhd nowadays", I haven't told her anything about it since and she doesn't know that I started meds a week ago. We have a great relationship, but this topic is something that I just don't want to talk about with her because I'm scared she won't understand. My dad doesn't really seem to care, he has mental health issues himself.
I am 21 btw, my mental health, therapy and stuff like that have just been something that I worked with my therapist and friends/boyfriend, not my parents.
"mom I have ADHD"
"Me too"
😂 Then we found out it's quite genetic
My wife had a student who MIGHT, have had ADHD. Lots of attention issues, emotional dysregulation. He would flip out and destroy his work when he got told something was wrong. The mother refused to believe it and took it as an insult. Tried to get my wife in trouble for doing her job. Lots of parents simply hate the idea that someone else could say their child has a neurological difference. But the fact is teachers are usually the ones who are going to notice first. They see 30 kids a day for years, they're going to notice when one kid is acting very differently or in a way that makes it difficult for them to learn comfortably (or in a different way, the school system isn't suited to their needs).
Sometimes love is blinding to these parents :( I'm glad teachers like your wife are looking out for the kids and paying attention!
ADHD is highly heritable, so usually it means dealing with generation after generation with dysfunction.
i love that you said neurological difference instead of issue/disability/problem.
Dr Russell Barkly's seminars on ADHD are available here on UA-cam, where he goes into our disorder in much greater detail. One big thing for me was redefining and renaming ADHD as Executive Function Deficit Disorder (EFDD) and that attention deficit and "hyper activity" are symptoms not the disorder.
Can you talk about the last part more?
The way I see ADHD is that it is a stimulation disorder because attention goes wherever stimulation goes. But what you said is a lot more closer to the truth.
@@zasta7 "Executive functions are a set of cognitive processes that are necessary for the cognitive control of behavior: selecting and successfully monitoring behaviors that facilitate the attainment of chosen goals" They’re the internal regulators of our thoughts and responses. We we're young we very limited self control, when something triggers an emotional response we would get swept up along with them, when something new and interesting happens it grabs our attention and the previous thing we were doing is forgotten. As we get older and our frontal lobes develop we learn to control, contain and direct these things until you master yourself. You can still feel angry and upset about someone treating you poorly, but being self possed you know that violent and brash out bursts aren't socially acceptable and could be damaging to you. When distracted from a task you can prioritise and reorient yourself on that task, then move on to the next thing. ADHD people still have these abilities, but the scientific literature suggests perhaps a 30% deficit when compared to our peers. If I remember correctly, this is a big IF 🙃, Dr Barkly compared it to elderly adults as their memory starts failing or perhaps a child whose mental age is lagging by three years or so.
@@zasta7 I'm not a scientist and I have EFDD, so please do your own research. I can't be certain I'm offer 100% accurate info and wouldn't want to mislead or confuse you and more than life already is.
@@zasta7 That's why he refers to it as an executive function disorder, because that's what allows our brains to steer our attention. Think of it as driving a car without power steering - you can steer it, but it takes much more effort to do so.
80% of what she has said is my experience. And yes, I recently got diagnosed with ADHD at 23.
I'm so sorry you had to go through that 😔 I'm rooting for things to change for you now that you've been diagnosed 🫂 thankfully you are still young and have much time to heal and grow.
You are one of the lucky ones. I was diagnosed on my 50th birthday 😣🤦🏾♂️🖖🏾
I was diagnosed in my late 40’s and ADHD had caused me so much grief in my past, with school, relationships, outrageous behaviour and addictions, ect, now i am medicated and getting psychological help for the grief of it all, i still have my symptoms but i can have enough awareness for better decision making from taking my meds and getting help, it’s been a long road and a lot of pain, this disorder needs to be taken seriously, it can ruin lives, my Son has it as well, i see him struggle, there is alot of stigma out there, like non ADHDer’s with their clueless remarks, like your lazy, you just use it as an accuse, we all have a bit of ADHD, you need to pay attention, ect, if only they had it for a day or two, they would be crying for their own brain back 😢
I did at 29
🤘 I'm 51 and just got a diagnosis. Turns out it doesn't just go away : )
We got this!
110% agreed. As a child, I just could not withstand normalcy and had to set stuff on fire, get into never-ending arguments, breaking school stuff by throwing rocks, annoying teachers, carers, friends, animals, bugs, plants, but always got away with this because of good grades. Do not ask me why.
As a teenager, I could not keep up the grades anymore. I set exams on fire, got into fights with teachers, and decided to drop out of school for myself. Locked myself in my room for around two years, only playing video games, losing friends, being mean to anyone who would get closer. I was in therapy the whole way through but mistreated for 'anxiety'.
I got off my anxiety medication for myself, dropped off therapy, started taking asthma-stimulants to go to the gym (basically ephedrine or whatever)-so even back then what 'saved' me was self-medicating.
After hitting the gym for a couple of months, and self-medicating, I got out of my hole. As a young person, I got into university, addicted to caffeine, and self-medicating with all other university life weekend drugs I could, including alcohol, of course.
It is indeed a miracle to still be alive after setting fire to things as a child, two suicide attempts as a teenager, at least four ER visits for alcohol or party-drugs overdose, and self-medicating with other stimulants and light opiates during my late 20s.
After 31 years of this mess, I finally took two general practitioners' advice on letting myself checked for ADHD on the psychiatric ward of a clinic. The doctor treating me was the first to ever do any kind of testing, after me being to over five psychiatrists in my whole life. She, my family, and I are still in shock how doctors only started taking my case seriously after all those years of substance abuse, disastrous social- and life-skills, and learning impediments.
Treatment is only the beginning, though. It is indeed a strong relief feeling to allow my brain to be in a serious and contemplating state of mind. I do not care people telling me I got too serious, and quiet ever since treatment. I am relaxed, I can finish tasks, I do not get ruminating about each small little thing that happens. I can stop talking, if I feel I am annoying someone, and move on to my next task. I have a routine, I even gained weight. People think stimulants will make you on high alert, anxious, awake, not hungry, euphoric. On the contrary, I prepare food, I am not afraid to wake up, I take care of my hygiene, I walk the dog, I pay some bills, I still struggle with unlearning what, I thought, should be the right way to solve stuff.
Yes, it is only the beginning, it is not the god-ex-machina, but it is so much better than all the risks to my health and my surroundings than not being in treatment. I have zero clue why I was born like this, I was wished to me neurocommon. This firing burning in my chest will most likely never stop burning, but after treatment, it feels like it is at least controlled and less harmful.
Thank you for sharing your experience - I feel less of a weirdo hearing I was not the only mean child, stupid teenager, arrogant youngster, poorly organized adult.
Wow thank you for sharing your story ❤ godspeed!
I lowkey wanna cry reading this I’m about to be 32 just got diagnosed..life has been roughhhh but you have a burning feeling in your chest, mine is in my stomach..I literally feel sick and it takes so much energy to get stuff done and I’m stubborn af and will keep trying but I can be a real a hole at times to people I care about when I feel things getting in my way and I’m hanging on for dear life as it is so I’ll snap on folks and feel disgusting after. It’s strained my relationship with the ppl I love and everyone else I keep at a distance to protect them 🤦🏾♀️ this week I’m going to ask for a prescription and not look back.
Pl TC
Everybody has something or other going in their lives
If nothing financial issues
Or something like that..
But all have...some
Overt
Some covert
Tk life as it comes 😊
The only reason you feel like a weirdo or that somethings wrong is from what others have told you that has stuck in your head so now you tell yourself that subconsciously and comparing yourself to others..
Undiagnosed ADHD in childhood and then being raised under a narcissistic toxic family and then being easily targeted by narcissistic teachers and peers is a nightmare that I do not desire on anyone. It is a daily nightmare that I live through and now the somatic and physical overstimulation of noise, tinnitus, allergies, daily rewinding of conversations and memories of what I said and heard from others take hours away from my daily life. I can't ever get things done because I can't focus. I'm too old to get diagnosed and get medication.
Families are complicated.These issues can be genetic, or/and accidentally ,unintentionally taught. I hope this reminder allows for the finding some peace and forgiveness
Never say too old, or too late to get educated assistance and talk therapy along with suggested reading was HUGELY helpful to me. Learning that girls usually have COMPLETELY different tell-tale signs, such as extreme shyness was monumental in my spec. Case. . I was finally properly diagnosed at 35. This isn't just a kid thing. So I say:
-there is still hope for any of us!!
I'm so glad you touched on this. 100% growing up was rough cause I had more than just ADHD and I really thought and my parents that I was lazy. They thought I wasn't trying and the euphoria I got from the alcoholism is the downwards spiral.
Growing up in the 1990s Mexican American community they don't believe in any psychiatric treatment. Only treatment you had was near death or serious Infection.
I really thought my memory was shot or I really just had to tough it out and I wasn't made for a professional job. When I treated my OCD and my ADHD even at 36 I feel like I just graduated highschool again and got the cheat codes. My memory was back up to speed and so was my decision making and expertise I did t know I had through experience until I was treated.
It's sad really cause I did get in trouble with crime but it's either drinking or very minor because of my firm beliefs I did my best to restrain from violence and sometimes I had to ask the same thing over and over and being called stupid about it or messed up it's very hard not to rip someone's head off in a very physically demanding jobs I had too.
It does make me sad that I could have been stuck in jail in a sudden emotionally charged violent attack and my medication via alcohol. Now passing by it makes it so not attractive for me cause the hang over and I got what I need with my treatment and I keep finding a higher paying job it's great.
But imagine how many people in jail really don't belong there even with evidence against them all they needed was some treatment so they can control the logic and emotions and go forwards.
I understand everything is a choice and the crazy adventure I had in my life but because of my faith and beliefs I was always on the cord of safety. A very small cord but it kept me through and I know it's a choice but it feels like some of them don't know what they are doing. Don't get me wrong there are intelligent and normal scumbags in jail but to really know them takes dedication and a better program to benefit our true skills in society rather than looking at the flaws of the broken who didn't get treatment...
Thank you so much for sharing your unique story! I am so sorry to hear about all the trauma and hardships and so glad to have you here in this community and healing. I really hope things start looking up in the future and you are happy with how it's going!
This is so well said and on point. Society needs love (and inner-standing) not punishment.
I feel late to respond to this, but this hits way too close to home for me.
I am 60 years old, and have spent most of the last 45 odd years feeling like a total failure. I just got diagnosed last year.
About 3 years ago, after I watched a random ADHD channel I started to think I may have it, it took close to 3 years for diagnosis.
Most of the delay was doctors, friends, family telling me I could not have it because I had done x,y & z.
I had attempted university a number of times, and ended up failing due to a combination of failing to hand in assignments and getting bored. I have never had a career, bouncing from job to job, many part time and often unemployed.
Now, at 60 i'm back at university, not only passing but getting really good grades, I can focus on what I choose to focus on.
For the first time in a very, very long time I have focus and passion again and a sense of purpose.
The feeling of lost and wasted time, for me is very real.
For many , myself included ADHD does not just "go away"
fyi, medication helps, but does not a magic bullet. For instance I am currently supposed to be reviewing notes for my spectroscopy class now, instead I am youtubeing :P
Anyway thank you for the channel, cheers.
@zeromotivation1817, I'm curious, have you been doing things in addition to medication that you feel have helped you improve the quality of your life? I'd love to know if you don't mind saying....I'm looking for ideas to help myself (I'm in my mid-60's). I'm really glad for you that you've had some breakthroughs.
@@awomanwithaplan I saw your message yesterday, and sorry it took so long to reply, but it took me a while to get my thoughts in order, also its the end of trimester at university and I am waist deep in overdue assignments and looming exams.
Like everything else in life there are ups and downs.
Short answer: Exercise and Music
Longer answer :since I made that post I have been struggling with motivation and focus, I think partially as I ran out of medication for a week or so, and even after getting meds again I am inconsistent with taking it regularly, that's my fault and something for me to focus on.( its almost funny if you think of it, as my focus is what I want to fix, but I digress)
For me I have tried a few things, but my biggest problem seems to be a lack of consistency.
so, things that help
-Exercise, getting outside and going for a walk helps, so for me the walk to the bus to get into university helps. Also at university, its a place just for study
-Just being at university, around people does seem to help, but I find it draining to be around people as well.
-Music, any seems to help but I have found there are a number of youtube channels with calming and/or ADHD music. I find many of them both calming and helps productivity. I think its because its sort of almost distracting, and so my brain focus's on a slightly changing beat, while letting me aim my focus at what I am doing.
At least that was the case.
The next thing I intend to try is meditation, I'll let you know how it goes.
I'll end off with a line I saw on another vid that I am trying to implement.
The meds are great- but you have to meet the meds 1/2 way, I still have to have find some way to focus on what I want to stay focused on... if that makes sense.
All the best in your Journey, good luck
Cheers from Aus.
All your Videos are so well informed and go way beyond what you can easily hear repetitively being on UA-cam and other social media! Thank you for going against Ableism and helping to shed some light on ADHD misconception!
I know it’s a month later, but I just saw your comment now and I wanted to thank you so much for making my day and being so kind ❤️ I wish you all the best!
Yeah it'd be super helpful if they just changed the name in the diagnostic literature. They did it for ADD adding the H, and that didn't even have the benefit of addressing a stereotype. Maybe if the name directly addressed that its neuro-developmental and rather than behavioral. Or even directly mention executive dysfunction, which sounds more serious and less like a character defect.
It is very very important to relax a LOT more than normal people. Our work capacity is 40% of the normal, after which there's usually a burnout. Also need to be in the company of extremely supportive people who are informed about the disorder and don't pressurize you to act as per their social norms.
I've also felt that my adhd is a lot less impairing if my bills are being paid and the basic needs and comforts are taken care of. In that case my work performance shoots up 200%
I just gotta ask when you say taken care of do you mean by others? Or just done? Cause on one hand I think anyone can thrive better when basic needs are covered. On the other hand I have to question whether non adhders would get lazy or relax while adhd is busy doing something.
Is it an ADHD symptom that I feel like I'm constantly rushing around and rushing everything and want everything to be done because my brain either thinks too much or doesn't want to work at all/turns to mush? So I get really irritable even at the smallest things and I do these 'unacceptable' things like chewing loudly, screaming when I bang into things... is that something else or could that also be a part of ADHD?
Yeah rushing through everything constantly is definitely a very very very very common symptom of adhd for sooooooooooooooi many of us who actually have the disorder
Yes.
Yeah only been diagnosed with ADHD 3 weeks ago and it explains the multiple days I experienced at a time where I could only barely be able to eat, drink and shower and go to the bathroom sometimes not even that. . . Relieved to finally start medication next week. My mum did try and diagnose me as a kid with a professional but they wrote it off as hyperactivity disorder and she disagreed with the Dr signifcantly but could not afford to have a second opinion privately but tried everything in her power to make sure I could reach my education milestones and have me function well enough to get through middle school although as brilliant as she was I still sucked at highschool due to unrelated events.
Thank you for sharing your experience! I really hope the medication will provide some relief for you. It sucks to know how some people let you down, but it's also so special to have a parent be so dedicated in your support! Your mom is a gem and I wish you both the best!
Hi Antonia, thanks for sharing all the videos. I found them most informative and it's compelling to hear from a person who is experiencing it and is so self aware ( ''Sorry I ghosted you was such a lightbulb moment!). I am researching to understand a friend who has been diagnosed in his 40ies and everything makes so much more sense now. Despite of your struggles, I would like for you to know that it's evident that you are on a good track to improve your quality of life ,and you are contributing to the general understanding of ADHD. Best wishes, I'm sure future is bright for you x
Thank you so much for your kind words! You made me very happy! And you are such a good friend and empathic person for doing this this research. It was honestly my dream to have ADHD friends in particular watch these videos and see their friends and loved ones with ADHD in a new light, maybe with a little more understanding. You are a treasure and I hope things work out with your friend! I wish you the best!
I got a degree aged 20, 1999, pgdip 2000. I lived in the U.K. I have diagnoses of dyspraxia, ADHD and Aspergers traits ( autistic traits ). I am aged 44. I got diagnosed with Aspergers traits early 2004, aged 25. I got diagnosed with dyspraxia spring 2012, aged 33. I knew I had dyspraxia aged 23, early 2002. I had a nervous breakdown to get a nervous breakdown to get my ADHD detected, February 2020, aged 41, diagnosed with ADHD aged 41, August 2020, given medication.
Undiagnosed ADHD, resulted in underachievement in education, struggling in he workplace, unable to make decisions, unable to move forward in life , mental health problems.
My ADHD was missed because I was well behaved in school , intelligent and driven.
Soon aged 45, never married, no children, self employment.
Diagnosed asperger's last year 43 private test and heds do you have that also have fybromyalgia symptoms everyday OCD all my life son's now diagnosed to
As someone who wasn't diagnosed with adhd until they were 28, and still didn't get treatment for adhd until they were 36 years old. I can agree with this. Even after being on medication for nearly 3 years, and going back into therapy for the last 3 years as well to learn how to actually function in life. I completely agree there is a very negative stigma, that still lingers to this day. My family do not understand "why" I need stimulant medications. I "should" be able to function without them right? I went for most of my life without them.
What people don't understand is that stimulant medication does NOT work on people with adhd like it does on people without it. For me I always noticed that things like even caffeine never woke me up, or gave me energy. I learned that lesson the hard way when someone suggested I take caffeine pills to get through a really tough night shift....Needless to say I struggled even harder to stay awake. For me stimulants actually slow my brain down, and allow me to focus and think clearly and organized.
What I haven't figured out yet is how to get through the weekends without it. As I have found that if I take it every day it works less and less. So I have to take weekends off for it to work even remotely well on the weekdays. Even that isn't as good as it used to be either.
Also up until I was medicated for adhd, they just kept trying me on every anti-depressant you can think of. None of them helped either.
Information on ADHD for parents is so important. Both for children but also for adults who were never diagnosed. When I (27) told my mother that I suspect I may have ADHD she basically said "I don't think so, but if you want to talk to a professional, go for it", but then a year later, when I had finally had multiple sessisons with different tests and diagnostic interviews with a therapist and I told her "I now know, I have ADHD" she reacted wildly offended. She basically told me I was just diagnosed because I really wanted to find an excuse for any behavior. When I told her I want to try medication, she acted as if I said I want to go out and buy cocain. My mother is normally one of the most open minded and supportive people I know, but this made her act like I was offending her by "claiming" I have ADHD and making her look like a bad parent. I told her, that this had nothing to do with her but with MY life and MY choices and stuggles, but she still doesn't really believe me. And this hurts. Yes, I am an adult now and I don't need her permission to go forward with treatment, but it still sucks. One of the most important people in my life, thinks I am "just looking for an excuse" and combinbed with my already low self-esteem this nearly sent me into a spiral of "maybe I am just lazy and make it all up." I am lucky the therapist who diagnosed me took the time to talk about this and help me re-contextualize it and see that this is not my fault and that this diagnosis is valid and my feelings are valid. Right now I am waiting on an appointment to talk about meds and I already dread talking to my mother about it, which sucks because normally we openly talk about everything. I don't want to hide this, but sometimes it feels easier. And all of this really just boils down to misinformation, lack of information and outdated ideas and stigmas.
Wow, are you me? We're even almost the same age! It's wild how this all feels so isolating and yet so many people are going through the exact same thing at the exact same time.
I guess it's largely the reason why the Desperate Housewives episode really struck me. You don't really see other parents react in real life, but Lynette reacted just like my mom and yours. "It's drugs, it's my parenting, blah".
Knowing all I know about the outcomes I just can't stand by and watch. I can't imagine all the things you've probably struggled with so far 😞 I really hope medication treatments go well for you and things start looking up. It's amazing that you're doing therapy too!
Perhaps sending this video to your mom might make a difference? I tried to make it very informative and not blaming so that parents could potentially "get it"(if that's possible).
@@AntoniasUniverse sadly my mother doesn't speak English. But at the moment I am looking for a good, short (and not too expensive) book with up-to-date information about ADHD in German that I can give her. If anyone has recommendations, let me know.
Talking to a therapist (even though it was just a few sessions to get the official diagnosis and talk through how it impacted/and still impacts my life) was very helpful. Definitely worth waiting 10months for. At the moment I feel good enough without more one-on-one therapy, but I joined a self-help group that is led by a specialist in ADHD who also has it herself. I hope this combined with some meds will help me to move forward and finally finish my university degree. I hope I get an appointment to talk to a doctor about medications soon...
And yeah, it is crazy how many people go through this right now. Something about the pandemic disrupting our coping strategies and more widespread information about ADHD on social media caused a lot of people to seek help. Also by talking about it quite openly, I even found some people in my life that have ADHD and have been more or less recently diagnosed and some friends who have someone with ADHD in their families. Among people our age I feel like the stigma is also a lot less than with older people.
@@toffeefuchs Ohh! I really hope this works out and you can finally finish your degree! It's awesome you have friends to share with too!
One of the best books I think is "Taking control of adult ADHD" by dr. Russel Barkley. He is one of the biggest researchers on the topic and translated into almost every language so that might be a good place to look.
This is nuts another guy on these comments said how he started fires as a child messed around but was smart got good grads etc then experimented with recreational drugs etc basically me I have just turned 39 and just diagnosed with ADHD I have a suspicion that it was mentioned to my mother by my teacher at a young age because of the way I was and spoke. Back to teachers. My mothers solution was to send my 2 younger sister to my grandmas make me pack all the things I played with my Nintendo console in a box locked them in a cupboard, bend me bare bum over a chair and repeatedly beat me with a belt. Needless to say there were plenty more beatings. I brought this up in 2020 to her that I suspected I might have ADHD. This wasn’t well received and she told me I was depressed and that my father dosnt understand depression. Sorry for the rambling but it’s soo weird we all seem to have similar experiences sometimes feels like a spiritual connection or something. Us ADHDers need to look out for each other! 🫶🏻
Addiction is very common in those who grew up with undiagnosed ADHD.
And paradoxically, amphetamines given to people with ADHD can help avoid addiction.
I think I have adhd and i was so addicted to weed. One puff off a cigarette and i was addicted and had to stop myself before the habit started. I crave alcohol all the time. It really is true. It sucks because sometimes I wanna use weed to just calm down after a hectic day but if I start again I won’t be able to stop. Sucks.
Love your content! I have my appointment tomorrow. Starting my journey into ADHD treatment.
Thank you, Sarah!! I wish you the best of luck that things go well and a very peaceful and healing journey! Don't worry or be shy, it will be alright, I promise! The psychiatrists are there to help and won't judge. ❤️
What's sad is that I grew up in a very accommodating household, but not out of knowledge that I had ADHD or understanding how it affected me. I was homeschooled (which I'm incredibly grateful for), and was given a great deal of liberty in how I wanted to learn which worked fantastic for me, but it got so much harder to manage once I got into adult life. On top of that, once I did start going to therapy and seeking help for it, it was difficult to talk to them about it (even though my dad is a therapist). I still haven't told them that a) I had to pay for the testing out of pocket because my insurance wouldn't cover it, and b) that I'm now taking medication and it's working for me (I had talked about thinking about getting on medication, to which my dad just told me that I didn't need it).
They're really proud of me in how I'm doing better and making progress, but it's sad that they struggle with understanding that the reason I'm doing well is I started addressing the root problem instead of just trying harder.
To be fair though, I can't blame them entirely. They both have it too but are undiagnosed, were both raised in a culture that didn't acknowledge mental health, and my dad was prescribed Ritalin as a kid which wasn't the right kind of medication he needed, so that impacted his attitude toward stimulant medication as a whole.
I'm hoping that the more I learn about ADHD, the more I can help educate them about not just my brain but their own.
Antonia, I used to watch your videos a lot, especially on the topic of minimalism. You are so relatable and have a very soothing presence. I grew up very close to Koblenz so I always found it cool that you're living there :) Two weeks ago I also got a ADHD diagnosis and suddenly so many issues I had make sense now. So of course I'm into all the ADHD content on UA-cam now and then your videos got recommended to me again and guess what, you're even more relatable now and I'm going to watch all your amazing ADHD content! Thanks for spreading such valuable information! I would have never even guessed that I could have this, because from the outside it always looked like I had my shit together, which I didn't. For once in the past years it finally looks like there will be a good way forward, and not just cycles of trying to get myself to fit into boxes or trying all the regular strategies just to end up failing and feeling frustrated and ashamed. ❤
I can relate to each and everything you mentioned in this video my friend ❤
I feel heartbroken 💔 I wish I would have known all this long time ago and please wish me luck trying to get help for my son ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Thank you. Your information is so well organized and presented. My life to a tee. I received my diagnosis in my 40s, and I still have days when I mourn the life I could have had if only I had gotten proper treatment before reaching adulthood.
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super important, I really hope more people find out about this. thank you for sharing. 🙌
Thank you for supporting me 😊🫂 I really hope so too!
I lost a very dear friend to a drug overdose a few years ago who had suffered a string of catastrophes - many of his own making - in his academic, personal and professional life literally since his first day in school. A lot of pain and misery could have been avoided if he'd received the proper support and treatment for his ADHD & dyslexia as a child & adolescent.
You are completely right.. I feel I have been very lucky not to get into anything illegal or too dangerous looking at these statistics. But I just started taking medication this week and wow I didn't realise just how much restlessness and anxiety I had inside me, it's just gone in that time, it's incredible, so calm, slower and collected. I wish I had been "drugged" when younger.
I had untreated and undiagnosed ADHD, had a hard time for being an absenteeism and having low grades since kindergarten, dropped out twice in highschool, did impulsive/unhealthy ways to cope.
Until I had the diagnosis at 18 but also had a provisional diagnosis of BPD and CPTSD.
I, a 20 year old, still a drop out, currently suffering with isolation, cannot find a stable job and can no longer afford therapy. It's really physically and mentally exhausting.
Those are the type of cups we make, and the summary, this got to me and it is so true, and it is a great conclusion.
So cool 84% don't become bullies
I am a mother of 2 , and I do have ADHD.
I was diagnosed about 16 years ago in the US.y daughter hast been diagnosed with ADD, about 3 years ago.
She still does not get any help yet.
I live in Germany now, where there ist not so known about ADHD/ ADD.
I am 48 years old and back in that time, Nobody knew about ADHD here in Germany.
I wish, I would have been able to been diagnosed back then and properly treated.
I was bullied, I did do drugs to selfmedicate.
I never finished school, I had a lot of problems with my impulsiv behavior.
I am the only one in my family who did not get a degree
In Seattle I finally got diagnosed and the medication helped me right away
Now my daughter hast the same problems.
She is 17 years old now.
Therapy and medication is so important to help them in my opinion.
You are least likley tonself medicate with illegal drugs and it can be a super help to get a good carreer wich is so important for your future life.
She lives with her dad in the Netherlands now.
I am working with her and her therapist.
But they prolong all of this.
Now would be the time .
And I know what I am talking about.
Medication might not always be the answer, but with ADHD /ADD is really is.
Thank you for sharing your story! This is so so important to get out there and to understand ❤️
I hope you and your daughter will be able to break the cycle and turn things around. I wish you all the strength and good luck!
Can totally relate to many of these issues thanks 🙏🏻 for the video
Totaly true...im adhd myself.started medication 4 years ago & my life really improve.Drop out of school, depression , drug Adiction ,alcoholism.i was sexualy assaulted at 7 and wasnt my fault but i was distracted to the point i wasnt capable to pay attention to obviuous dangers.please help your childrens! Please! The difference can be a disaster.At least now im capable to keep a job ,stay ealthy ,be a better person for my loved ones and myself of course.Dont know english excuse my ortografic crimes
So encouraging messages and data that you showed in the video. I can’t thank you enough from Tokyo😮😊
Can we have this in German please so I can send this to my parents? When I told them that I have an apt for adhd screening their first thing was "what did we do wrong here" and "you have always been a nice and cute boy" ... yeah well that does not change anything for me really
I got into Ritalin and my wife described my state as "zombie like". I could relate to what you said about that contemplation state.
But, because of this pre concept, I decided to stop taking it. Now, I'm trying to figure out if I really have ADHD, or GAD. 😢
Parents of kids with ADHD: Try to watch what you feed your kids also. Red 40 may increase ADHD like symptoms in kids. This is a food coloring that is added to many candies and snacks.
Also if you don't want to medicate your kid but they have lots of homework give them a bit of caffeine. My psychologist told my parents to give me a soda before homework. (Soda is loaded in sugar so I prefer coffee with heavy whipping cream now. I try to avoid soda but caffeine does help SOME. Not the same as meds but it does help.)
Firstly, I’m not in disorganized anxious avoidant attachment disorder. I’m in the single direct voice “confident attachment” emotional concordance, actual emotional empathy. Actual emotional control.
I call the personality devoid instrument of the system, the hyper-skinnerizer. Yeah I may spend a lot of time alone and I do have ADHD problems, also can’t get work because I’m still myself and not the hyper-skinnerizer. I simply cannot be shredded anymore, I’m not conforming like everyone else. I’ll do my own thing but not propping up their crapshow for the sake of my skin not becoming hyper-skinnerized any more.
That sounds so exhausting, I'm glad you don't want to conform and you want to be yourself! Therapy really helps understand the emotional parts, even if it doesn't mean they are under control. I recommend it a lot!
@@AntoniasUniverse I’m not “emotional” I feel them normally but not like an overwhelming amount, sometimes I dismiss them, each must be observed. If you’re considered autistic, do not piece their lies. We must all use concordant emotion language. Check Patrick Teahan he is the best to learn dealing with emotions for everyone. Emotions should never be used to fuel any interpersonal communication except for understanding their personal situation, needs, desires. Not twisting their words into a treacherous state, then taking incredible offense to turn away and never ask for any help to understand their needs. I’m terrible with words and have a lot to say. So it might not be how everyone likes but it’s also not the first time I’ve had to develop my communication all the way from a babbling baby or a nonsensical young writer
Experts say , it is important to have ADHD treatment in childhood, it is upsetting when one has their ADHD detected, in their 40s, being highly intelligent with a university degree, a postgraduate qualification, professional qualification, with other neurodivergent conditions and possible comorbid mental health problems, underachievement even if they have a high IQ.
Funny thing is nearly all of those things are true for me but I haven't been diagnosed with adhd because I never took a real adhd test maybe some other test were they said that could be and so many classmates in school said that to me and I always took it as an insult. But now I'm starting to realize that that might be true and might be the cause of why my life is so miserable at the moment.
Thank you for this video! I have been just recently diagnosed at the age of 33. I was bullied and harassed in school and university by peers and it still makes me sad to talk about. I am sure I will take medication over other therapies. I have been taking antidepressant for two and half years. Perhaps after ADHD medication I need have to take antidepressant.
The problem for many parents i believe is Shame. They see their childs disfunction as a bad reflection on themselves.
my 22 year old has a.d.d. and the transition to young adulthood was torture!
I hated my parents coz they beat me for the bad things I was doing. Was 42 when diagnosed with adhd, autism and ocd to name but a few… I felt really mad that no one cared or even bothered to give help where it was needed but the problem here is my dads got adhd and my mother has asd and they didn’t know either so having to go through that amount of misery for the first 14 years of my life when they couldn’t do that anymore. It’s paramount that parents get their child seen by a professional as it is not the child’s fault they are how they are. My children are getting seen by psychologists for the same things but this is why I’m not on exciting terms with my parents due to the fact I was 42 when diagnosed and really was a life saver! My children will be diagnosed at the age of 18 yea I felt bad for it been that late but I also didn’t know but personally I would’ve rather have found out at 18 not 42. It’s a very good point Antonia 😊 could’ve avoided a heck of a lot of failures in life as well as my children.
I feel your story so much! Thank you for breaking the cycle for your children and letting them have the help and education they need to understand themselves!
Also I know it's not my place to say but maybe you can find a way to still communicate with your parents on some level as no grudge is worth losing a parent to. I wish you all the best!
@@AntoniasUniverse I have forgiven my mother but have not seen my father over 20yrs ago but all in all I have not forgotten. As far as I am concerned the only way I feel that can make up for it is that my mother gives everything she can for her grandchildren and is all I need. Strange thing is no one believed me when these problems were happening and when it came the time to actually confront my mother about it when I was 42 she had no idea what was going off with the abuse I received and yea she was sorry but the rabbit hole goes way way deeper than I’m explaining to you as it’s horrible and wouldn’t wish it on anyone. Getting the help I need now but I just haven’t learned how to let go, maybe 1 day…
@@NE14ABJ2DAY That's awful, I'm so sorry :( I'm glad you are doing whats right for you to protect yourself and your emotions!
I was diagnosed at age 53, i feel that I had tried everything, and despite being very organized, I was spinning. Medication saved me.
Personally IF I have kids (if cause I'm gay and don't want any but that might change) I would definitely put them on medication but not at too immidetly. ADHD meds have honestly changed my life in so many ways its difficult to really tell but I still think that there was some benefit to not getting them until I was 20 because I developed loads of strategies which help manage my symptoms. I think that if I knew of my ADHD at like 10 or 12 and was learning skills specifically tailored for ADHD I might have developed even more skills. And as I've learned while being on the meds there are days where they decide not to work or I can't get my meds on time or I just straight up lose them so having some skills to fall back on can be a massive help. Not that I don't think that you can't do this while on meds you absolutely can but knowing what I was like at 8-18 and what loads of other kids are like I think it would be less incentive to learn those skills.
I Recon I would maybe have the kid spend time without medication (of course discussing the pros and cons first) and once we had worked together to make a good fallback plan if the meds don't work the way the expect or if there's a shortage etc. etc. then I would start them on titration with the doctor and of course explain that some meds will not work for you they might have significant negative side effects but once/if you find the one that works for you its almost like all of the skills you've learned combined are as good as the medication but they will still have those skills should they ever need to stop the meds.
Reading this back I feel like I come across a little evil like I'm withholding the meds that I know will help because they need to help themselves but I think its just the way I phrased it (I am pro meds) I just think that before you get on the meds you need to have the skills to at the very least mitigate some of the symptoms without them even if its not as good an effect, so getting diagnosed young takes away that opportunity to find out what works best for you because your learning what works well for you while on the medication which is not always the same as whats works for you without
Diagnosed with combined ADHD and bipolar affective disorder.
This makes social interaction and work a mess
Thank you so much for this video Antonia. You should be a specialist on ADHD yourself, you know so much about this.
This is so important for so many people. Thank you.
Thank you for making this video. Seriously, thank you
People with ADHD are without exception, genius, and have immeasurable IQs, and if they stay off all the meds and learn how to surf it, they are the smartest people in the world. All the artists and musicians and scientists. All the greatest people in history were all afflicted.
Medication saved my life and I function significantly better in every way on it. Clearer head, more focused, more organized, more motivated
I got diagnosed in 2002. I have a perfect string of messages of my parents neglecting my diagnosis still.
We in this together 🤣 I've been diag for a year (AuDHD) to this day they still try to gaslight me into thinking I don't have it
Just wondering if someone knows the answer to my question… i know it dangerous to take vyvanse and drink alcohol at the same time, but can you drink alcohol if you do not take vyvanse that day?
Well i don’t suggest you do, but it won’t kill you, you will probably feel like shit the next day though, maybe a depression hangover 😮
You’ll be fine lol, sorry to make it that simple but they say that for almost every medication their is and yes narcotics and drinking are going to have a reaction but with vyvanse it’s and upper, alcohol is a downer. If anything it will calm you down.
Thankyou Antonia ❤
Thank you this is fantastic. Well done. I will use this as my start here video ADHD explainer to pass onto others.
What a dream! Thank you, this was my goal for the video ❤️
Good example of how mental is still stigmatized in the 21st century.
I started watching your videos a few months ago when my doctor suspected that I had adhd, promting me to start a very eye opening investigation. I'm sure you get this a lot, but thank you for helping me pinpoint all my symptoms & giving me the confidence to write that list down when the big psychiatrist appointment was finally here. I'm now taking Vyvanse, thanks to you again, & all I can say is wow. For once in my life there is quiet & calm. Keep doing what youre doing and advocate people to better themselves. I'm certainly giving it a go ❤
I have a friend that has untreated ADHD and I want to help him but he doesn't believe in taking medications or even vitamins but will self medicate with alchohol >_
This explains my life.
I keep job hoping, and i was in special ed when i was young. I wonder if i have add
Diagnosed this morning! 🎉
Only 38F 😂
You know your stuff Antonia, did/do you also have these annoying thoughts when you wake up? thinking about mistakes made even many years ago etc? Drives me crazy sometimes.
Hey 👋 of course! Lately it's been much less mistakes and mostly random things though. I found out that no matter how much you empty the mind new things will pop up.
What you can do is to change the things that come up though! Learning about ADHD and how it affected my life helped me largely forgive myself, but the main part was done in therapy. One year of intensive weekly therapy absolutely changed my life! I can't recommend it enough!
And it doesn't have to be ADHD therapy, just having someone to talk to who knows what to say is enough.
I wish you lots of peace and healing!
@@AntoniasUniverse Hi 👋Thanks for the reply and kind words. Ive been to therapy, have a nice talk, look things from other angles etc which was nice but didnt stick with me when I was home again. I might reconsider it thanks to your comment. :)
@@Mikes-Mysteries It might take a few tries or the right person! Feel free to write me an email too if you think some coaching or just talking about things might help. ❤
Hi the part about health statistics , i will like to see the full thing, i see it cut off at skin
As much little t trauma school was without meds because of my ADHD I still don't think meds are right for kids under like 17ish. The brain is still developing then.
I HATED school and NEVER want to "relive" my younger years. That said I'm afraid I'd be addicted to other drugs or just more immature from my brain not developing correctly.
I mean I have ADHD so it's still not normal but you get the idea.
Is Medication the answer - what are the stats for treated ADHD ? How much does it help ? That’s what I want to know. What about Dr Chris Palmers work on brain metabolism ? I’d rather work with diet nutrition exercise and sleep myself. Don’t judge parents for wanting to not label and medicate their kids. I’m not sure it’s the answer. I have ADHD - gluten free diet low carb , no junk and good fats really help me. I don’t take meds.
You don't have it
Thank you 😮🙏
Thank you ❤❤❤
lol my parents need to see this video
This video is SO IMPORTANT for parents to understand what ADHD is, unlike me when my son was growing up.
My son is 24 now, and i am 52. Just figuring out that it's not just depression and anxiety, but ADHD. It's just getting unmanageable as I get older. My son's 3rd grade teacher suggested he may have ADHD. I was uneducated and felt that my son was as active as any "normal" 3rd grade boy. The teacher didn't explain what ADHD was. Now I realize that he was probably a little disruptive, because he hated reading. I hated reading too, and still dislike it. He was bored. I got Bs and Cs in school until 8th grade, when they put me in the "smart" class. Suddenly I wasn't bored anymore, I wasn't getting picked on by classmates, and I got a lot of As (except for reading in English courses.) I am just now realizing WHY I did better. I could never figure out before why they would put me in the smart class.
I can see the ADHD in my son now, at his age, when he comes to visit. He said he has social anxiety. at some point, I will likely share what is going on with me. my biggest concern with him growing up was that he could have depression or get bullied.
I cant even understand how pple hve the motivation to write their stories😅. Or maybe im too lazy
Nothing wrong with multiple partners Antonia 🙂
can I be born with adhd? Because I think I was.
Does cocaine help. I don’t do drugs but I wonder
I think so. Anything that helps raise dopamine should help… I know you’re probably asking for a friend 😅
Sometimes we don’t have any reaction to coke. I’ve tried it a few times and felt nothing.
its remarkable how the therapy industry has managed to normalise the DSM mindset and the drugs that follow - such a weird time - people ought to read around these subjects to understand the history and massive controversies and unscientific and corrupted nature of it all - its truly frightening that people aren't aware of this and the power of marketing and advertising along with appeals to self interest in the form of scraps from the table has created such a profound net harm for human wellbeing - this book is a good place to start Adhd Is Not An Illness And Ritalin Is Not A Cure: A Comprehensive Rebuttal Of The (alleged) Scientific Consensus by Dr Yaakov Ophir
Thank you for sharing your perspective. It's important to have open discussions about these topics... but while I respect your viewpoint, I also believe in the value of therapy and medication for many individuals. I have lived on both sides of this argument and I can clearly tell the difference now. It's a complex issue with no one-size-fits-all solution.
@@AntoniasUniverse Thank you for the response. I've worked in the industry for decades and it frightens me how much harm it is doing. None of these drugs can be rightly considered 'medications' They are drugs with a range of effects and none of them have any good evidence supporting them and no long term studies. Each person initiated on such drugs are essentially taking part in an ongoing uncontrolled and incredibly dangerous experiment. I think anyone promoting ideas/sharing content should be morally and ethically obligated to be aware of the history and current controversies within the field. Otherwise you can easily cause much more harm than you can ever do good. I appreciate that book I suggested is expensive but its a must read.
if you are interested in some psychiatric history try Anne Harringtons the mind fixers, or Andrew Sculls Desperate remedies or Owen Whooley's on the Heels of Ignorance. Psychiatric history sounds boring but these are real page turners.
I would also recommend reading the 'Unrecognised facts' section on the Council for Evidenced Based Psychiatry, site along with the books and blogs by the founders.
A free version of Sami Timimi's book 'Insane Medicine' is also available on the website Mad in America and Mad in the UK. The articles and blogs on Mad in America are also fascinating and the section on psychiatric drugs also a must read.
And treated ADHD means chronic insomnia from stimulant meds. Pick the lesser of two evils I guess.
Not necessarily true, your medication should wear off by then and you can take melatonin. Before medication I slept less.
@@nicoleyork-joly4928 Lol @ melatonin! I'd do just as well taking Skittles for sleep! I could take a good vacation if I had all the money I've wasted on failed sleep aids over the years. And the serum half life of any amphetamine is 12 hours any way you slice it. There's no getting around that.
This is terrible.