My Husband Isn’t Meeting My Sexual Needs (How Do I Talk to Him?)
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- My Husband Isn’t Meeting My Sexual Needs (How Do I Talk to Him?)
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Ban all the devices from the bedroom and start talking to each other. Cell phones, TV's etc. Are disconnecting you from other humans.
There’s always something deeper and people absolutely suck at communicating
Things to address:
-Having the deep, sensitive, sexual conversations
-Getting help for his inability to climax
-Addressing past trauma, present exposures, physiological/psychological concerns, present behavior/lifestyle choices that could be inhibiting climaxes
-Taking the distracting tech out the bedroom
What a great talkb
100% spot on
Need to add - change how she responds to his inability to climax. If he’s staying harder she should appreciate his ability to continue until she’s done and express that appreciation to him. Also experiment with different positions, it can make an immense difference. She said they are inexperience - if they haven’t already they should try oral. Husband will be able to focus on pleasing her while his erection, or lack thereof, is irrelevant. I imagine learning how much he can please her may help him resolve or at least manage his emotional trauma. Certainly would help provide her the release she so clearly craves.
Amen!
Title should be, “Wife spends 15 minutes on national radio, unable to effectively communicate what’s actually going on in the marriage.”
Alternatively, "Husband won't talk about his problems at all."
“Ready………. FIGHT!”
Epic😂😂
Who is yo say she hasn't already tried talking to him about it? So many men are depressed and on ssri which effects the sex drive. My own partner is this way. My drive is higher than his and it is what it is.
@@HauntedCadaverthat’s what I would go thru all the time it sucked so I finally ended things. It wasn’t only that either i was just done
Sometimes a person can be attractive physically, but not sexually appealing. Humans are complex. I personally have experienced this.... One of the best looking people I EVER had was completely disappointing sexually.
Thats why virgin marriages are such a bad idea. There are people we do like a lot but there will never be any sexual chemistry and it destroys a marriage from within. There are limits on what we can work on It happens to a lot of people .
@@listrahtes I VERY much agree!
Yep. My first boyfriend was male-model good looking, tall, dark, all my friends were jealous. But he did nothing for me. There was just no chemistry whatsoever and he was terrible in bed (hasty, selfish). After we broke up I met the man who was to become my husband. Crazy chemistry. I knew instantly he was the one, not just intellectually and emotionally but my body told me he was the one as well.
@@listrahtes If you're getting married for sexual compatibility, you shouldn't get married. I'm a Christian man and I'm waiting for marriage to have sex with my wife and I don't care who I marry, how good she looks. I'll flirt with her, I'll dance with her, I'll cook with her, I'll play chess with her. There are other things you can do to gauge your physical chemistry with someone other than sex. Your way makes you more inclined to choose someone amazing in bed but those people tend not to be amazing in other areas of a marriage. In fact, I hope my wife doesn't know what she's doing because that means she won't have been run through like your wife or you. Sorry but you have to get the experience somewhere. Where did you or your wife get it? Sure, the first few years of my marriage might not be good in bed but I don't give a damn, I'll be with her for 60 years. I'll train her the way I want, I'll build the chemistry with her. My wife is gonna make my breakfast every morning and sit on my face every night, and guys like you will be complaining about how dumb your wife is and how she wastes your time and money, and the only reason you stay is because she gives good head. Like, that's stupid. My point is, if I like the way a girl dances with me, how she moves her hips, I can see how she'll be in bed. You can just tell. I've even asked girls, "do you know how to twerk?" in a flirty/joking way. My favourite response is when she's shy about it and changes the subject but every photo she takes of her self, she poses like an Instagram model. The girls who say yes and send a video for proof, sure they might be better for me sexually, but if she sends me that video, how many other guys also have it?
@@ED-hi1vo Come on, you guys double-team me. Let's have a debate. I'm sure you people are used to double-teaming because you don't have solid Christian values like me, but let's see what you got. LOL
One thing - you don’t need sexual experience with others in your past in order to have a great sex life w/ your spouse
But it helps a ton. Its like with everything else, experience is learning and is making you better. People always have this idea of fairy tale waking up , best wait for marriage to have sex, and it rocks. Nope nothing does work like that and reality is there are men and women that might really like each other but are incompatible in the bed. From all the stories patients tell me, the big majority of virgin marriages have problems in the bedroom.
@@listrahtesYou act like people can’t learn to be compatible. Thats is absolutely false
@@Rio26202 oh sure they can but if you do have some experience you also realize there are people with whom you are simply incompatible sexually and marrying them is a catastrophe. With religion sex. Is so overloaded that partners often loose the relaxed creativity to make it work. But hey if it works for some great
Agree. I had one previous partner before I met and married by husband when I was 22. I didn’t need to keep trying other men once I met him. I knew he was the one and the chemistry was there. We’ve been together 19 years now.
True, it actually worsens the experience because men think they understand a womans' body because they did a lot of ONS with fake orgasms etc. Every woman is different and a mans' ego thinking "all women must like this" is a huge turn off. Start from scratch, communicate desires and wants and never pretend to know it all. Take your time!!!
It's challenging being in a relationship with someone who has sexual dysfunction. You never know what to do or say and it's taxing.
I hope they work this out and he gets the help he needs.
I hope he’s had hormone bloodwork because it can be a hormone/pituitary issue that needs to be addressed.
My 1st thoughts, stress, and ED problems.
I have a solution: have sec anywhere other than the bedroom.
That was my first thought too.
So many people go into adoption without truly realizing what's involved/how long it takes, etc. There's such a lack of understanding about something so huge and I think if people went into it more aware that would help with some of the issues and emotional hardship along the way
You're very correct there, families often don't truly see the process for what it really is. While I greatly admire families who take in foster kids, quite a few go into it as a means to go "baby shopping." They can then start to see their desires for fulfillment as more important than what's best for the child. It should never be an adopted child's place to "fill that void in our hearts" or ease their heartbreak from infertility. The whole dynamic can become unhealthy at that point.
Adopting a child with all sorts of mental health issues sounds to me like the perfect definition of "complicating your life and justifying why"
Hell, having your own biological child, healthy both physically and mentally, will always add some complexity to your relationship and force the parents to adjust to the new reality (i.e., it's hard enough)
While I admire couples who adopt kids and try to do their best, I personally don't think I would ever sign up for this (and if I did I migh end up resenting both my wife and the kid)
I had this marriage and my ex decided to date people at work and it cleared up... he's been gone for a year.
You didn’t want sex or he didn’t?
Good for him
He couldn't get to the climax, and she can't get to the point. 😁
Seriously, good for them being open to getting help.
Ongoing and major Sxl dysfunction since he was a teenager. So she married into a problem. I have a few suspicions, and some are things that can’t be overcome. But I also do not think these two will be married in another five years. Maybe if he gets a full health work up and she cuts back on activities 🤷🏻♀️?
@vicp99 What would be your suspicion ? Po*n ?
Its hard to get details from this women.
As the wife it is okay to make the moves. Put the devices away, get naked, and pounce on your husband. How is a sexual connection supposed to ever get to the point of satisfaction if no one is even attempting to face the uncomfortable facts. Facts being the excuses of why your sex life suck are simply because you haven’t given yourselves the opportunity to create a good sexual connection. The more you have sex, the more vulnerable, honest, and transparent you are naked body to naked body…clearly learning each other can only lead to a good sex life for the marriage.
I don’t think that’s true, it’s feels terrible to be the only person that ever initiates and then once you have you run into dysfunction issues and think gosh I really shouldn’t have even tried.
I'd pounce on you if you were my wife
You’re not with a man who loves your vulnerability enough to see the gorgeousness of it.
@@Strawberrygirlstrawberryworld He is not enough for you! Either he is mentally ill or just an unworthy piece of trash, that has to go. Nobody has the right to make you feel that way. You deserve to be loved and wanted. I hope this was in the past, if not, don’t be afraid. Much love and peace for you, sister
@ShanaeMarie You need to take this a step further. A wife who does not initiate sex on a regular basis is a HUGE RED FLAG. Women just need to strap on a pair of real woman ovaries and take some risk, learn some good skills as a lover and own the fact that they can not expect more from sex than what they put into sex in terms of effort, work, attitude, commitment to improve and taking risks.
This sounds terrible and frustrating for any men to go through. I hope he gets the help he needs.
How did she not lead with the fact that he can't climax?
That stick out so much. My man just gets there by looking at me. Maybe there’s cheating? Maybe they’re just over worked?! No team work? he doesn’t wanna bone her. Thats odd.
@@Madinaash I doubt he's cheating; she said he's had this issue since he was a teenager. It could be due to some sort of sexual trauma.
@@Madinaashyour man is not married to you. You aren’t doing life together in the same way. There isn’t the same level of stress, exhaustion, familiarity, bills, etc…
@@Madinaash Could be too much masturbation and porn. I read that chronic masturbation can cause ED.
@@dahliaherrod4301this is called death grip syndrome and it is a legitimate problem in men in the last decade.
13:37 she tried to lead with this and you didn't let her you shut her down. You said I don't want to know about the past
Because she led with the idea that they were inexperienced, not that he had trouble climaxing. This is a huge difference as it leads to potential health issues instead of just not knowing what they are doing in the sack.
I was married to a man like this. Couldn’t climax except with porn and his hand. I suspect he was a victim of “exploitation” when he was young. Got married when I was 19. Begged him to speak to a therapist and he flatly refused😢Divorced in 1991. No kids of course, thank heavens.
I know that she always wanted to adopt, but I think that it is wild that they chose to adopt a child before figuring out what exactly the issue was that they couldn’t have children of their own at that point.
It sounds like when she talks about how inexperienced they both were before they hooked up that she’s thinking about asking for an open relationship.
She and her husband sound very committed to the relationship and it sounds like despite this issue she's adamant about no divorce, she says they flirt, and he sounds very excited that she was going to ask for help. Sounds like they are committed to each other, and good people too who took the hard path adopting a special needs child. Doubt she'd want to destroy her marriage with semi consensual cheating.
She was trying to make sense of it and excuses instead of getting straight to what the actual problem was, which she knew bc she admits it was something wrong with him forever basically. She just generalized “fertility issues” then kept brushing it off instead of pin pointing it….. so this is basically about ED but the wife should of talked about this before they got married to him- not 5 plus years later. Like why live a horrible life on purpose?? Also, John should have caught those key facts that she said and moved the convo that way. His mindset was somewhere basically emotionally when it was actually physically.
@Lexi3strada Did you even listen to the entire narrative? The mans issue is fertility which has NOTHING to do with ED. We have no reason to conclude that this woman is incompetent in the use of the English language as well. Second, she is clear that the man is not able to climax and thus not able to ejaculate and this has nothing to do with ED. There is no pancake so thin as to only have one side, yet you are willing to make such biased uninformed rushed judgements without hearing from the husband and based upon such a paucity of information as we have it in this narrative. That is proof positive of sexism and bias. Unlike you I have a decent background in reproductive medicine and have particiapted in research at an Ivy League medical school and it is very clear that you are not well informed and that you are very biased towards men.
Update on this for sure!
No tv or screen use in the bedroom.
No tv in bedroom and no phones
This works if you both go to bed at the same time. If not, one person will just read or stare into space until they fall asleep.
Infertility and special needs kids can impact intimacy because people tend to have a picture of what life they want or are signing up for and get disappointed if it’s not the case. Some people end up divorced over infertility and special needs kids or even death of a kid. Because although people say till death they don’t really mean it or at least their bodies/hearts dont fully appreciate what that means
I get a sense the husband wasn’t up to the adoption thing and faking it during the day. He doesn’t want that life and she is dragging him along
Does he have a secret porn addiction?
Not to mention, having kids doesn't have any sort of script. As a single mother, I'm miserable in toddler hood, and my daughter is definitely AuDHD, as am I. Nobody told me how exhausted I would be. It also saddens me when friends tell me they will be there to help, then not. Being autistic, this feels almost cruel.
Just to add to the husband not wanting to adopt. The special needs kid has basically turned them into two state carers. Not a couple. The bedroom is when the husband is confronted with the mental space he is in. He has to avoid that mental space because it would cause to much pain. Arousal is impossible in this situation.
Big bellies lead to ED. Body types like the financial advisors who recommend ‘beans and rice for years!’ and ‘top ramen/cup of noodles!’ to save money.
I'll go ahead and let you know I've got a huge boner
😂
what!? 🤣🤣🤣
Bro are you brain dead?
@@Hello.Meditateit's definitely not the beans and rice but it's currently trendy to trash those kinds of foods.
The story of my life!
Ditto
Go get some cialis
My husband and I we sleep in different rooms for the last 10 years of marriage. Was hard. Is hard.
A couple of years ago around the 10th year of being together with my gal. I slept on the couch for like 7 or 8 months. Back then I put excuses like were going to sleep better because I come in late have trouble falling asleep and move around a lot. Looking back it was all excuses from my part. She confronted me about the issue and I changed my bad habbit. Either way I dont know your full situation and in no way am I giving an opinion just sharing what happened to me. I hope that the day of tomorrow if that is somthing you want to change that it comes with ease. I can feel that this has been difficult for you, and you are strong for sharing such a personal challenge.
A lot of people don't want to talk about the pitfalls of adoption. Add to it that it's a special needs kid & that puts an enormous amount of stress on a marriage. Frankly, I wouldn't have even considered it.
Kids still deserve to have supportive families even if they have issues; the state always compensates!
Many that adopt special needs do it because they have a savior complex. It is not about the child.
Every child deserves a loving home. It takes special people to adopt. It’s not for everyone.
Yea well she's a better person than you
Sadly some low income people adopt special needs kids for the paycheck from the state. It hungers kids a home, but for the wrong reason in manny cases.
Sounds horrible that he cannot get off. That’s just terrible, I hope he/they can get some help because its going to be tough to have a good sex life without that
This is My Life
Thank you for addressing
It has been years, starting with “don’t touch me leave me alone I’m tired”
But on the outside it’s seemingly Perfect
This is a super misleading clickbate title that you should change
Maybe "Canada gets candid about sexual dysfunction"?
This guy is on UA-cam trying to drive views to his channel, and the title draws you in. Don't hate the player, hate the game
How? That's how she leads the question... If he picked what she says in the middle, it ruins the suspense and conversation.
@@SarahConnor562 waaaay before that she actually leads with "I really do not like sex." She then goes on to elaborate on that and describes how it is with her husband. Then she says " I don't know what to do". That's exactly what the title is. She gets into the reasons later down the line but that's the whole point of why the title is an intro. I don't see how it's clickbait at all. In fact, it's a perfect description of the content.
@@SarahConnor562 Exactly back to my original point. If you describe the middle or end of content, it takes away from the viewer's experience. There's no question to what's to come. I don't want them to tell me the end result before listening.
I want a woman like that. I mean, I would like to have a woman in my life that wants intimacy as much as I do. I'm separated from my wife and we live in separate states so intimacy has been absent from my life for quite some time. On a side note, we adopted our son as a newborn due to my wife not being able to have children. He's now 19 years old.
Women that can’t communited properly 🤣🤣
Amanda if you ever want to reach out I went through a very similar time with my husband. We have two boys that are both special needs non verbal 9 and 12 now. It’s been a very hard road. I’d love to talk if u need someone Hope y’all are well. Push through. Talk about it and ditch the tech for an hr
Lmao I couldn’t stop laughing when John said “ugh thank God, and then you got some aww yeah time, and then you’re like meh” 😂😂😂😂😂 I had to rewind it few times just to hear it again ❤❤❤❤ the way he describes things is exactly how I sound with the sound effects and all that it’s amazing to hear others express it the same way
Honestly, he needs to go to the doctor, go to quest diagnostics for labs, and he needs to go to the gym.
Anti-depressants had this effect on me. I quit taking them, problem solved immediately. These drugs are no “fun” 😂
@@mylesgray3470perfect example of modern medicine. Fix one problem and create another that will also need fixing
What a Clickbait title you all went for.😂
How?? Her sex life sucks! 🙄🙄
And yet… you commented after watching the video 😂😂😂
how is it clickbait? 😂
My marriage, though im single is how i feel about Dr J and hes awesome so my make believe marriage is rockin.
You have issues. Get real help.
Towards the end I started wondering if both of them wanted to adopt or if one of them was just trying to make the other happy. Yikes.
If he has ED, he could be using too much porn or masturbation and has no more attraction to his wife. But going to the urologist to rule out no other factors.
@rachelsickels5273 There is no evidence that the issue here is the husbands ED. First off, the reason why the couple was not able to have kids was due to the husbands infertility. Infertility does not equal ED. Second, this woman is competent in the use of the English language and she makes it clear that the issue is that her husband can not climax and thus not ejaculate. This is not ED. However you try to conflate these two things with the man having ED and using porn which is not supported by any evidence in the narrative. Then there is the fact that there is no pancake so thin as to only have one side and this situation is most definitely not a one sided pancake. Yet you and most of the female posters on this video have clearly demonstrated a rush to judgement without even considering how important it would be to let the man tell his side of the story before you judge this man.
@@neechee5150 no one is judging him we have all just dated so many men with this issue that it becomes obvious.
First question should have been, "what kind of shape are you in?" Honestly it should be the first question in a lot of these calls. Being overweight or obese exacerbates EVERYTHING. Including mental health issues. But if youre tired all the time and dont want to have sex and youre overweight? Hmm... Something to think about at least and losing weight is something people can do without medical intervention. Not to mention from the mans point of view being overweight lowers testosterone, raises estrogen levels, contributes to ED... Plus having sex while fat is just difficult and its hard to have good sex whem your too tired or winded to get into the swing of things so to speak. Plus if youre not physically attracted to each other because one or both of you are fat.
Would have been my first question...
I missed the Candida part but I knew it when I heard “aboot”
I'm sure you mean *Canada* 😅
@@MostBoringNameEver haha, yeah. I didn’t hear anything about yeast
@@giantfatberg 🤣🤣
Ironically if the husband is feeding his Candida species too much, that could be a missing puzzle piece.
@@maam-yj8phgreat point!
Thanks Dr. John. You hit the nail on the head. Ditch the phone, laptop and TV. Also make sure he hasn't replaced being with you by watching Pornography. It's a horrible addiction as Dr. John knows. You're husband also sounds like a dismissive avoidant. Pornography will also cause ED. Buy the book by Gary Wilsons Your Brain on porn. Doctors will medicate but never ask the right questions. Good luck!
@holliee8070 You are making some very biased assumptions that are not based upon the facts as we know them and that have the flavor of sexism. First off if you listened to the entire narrative, you would have known that the couple's fertility issue was due to the husband. Infertility and ED are not the same thing, and there is no reason to suspect that this woman is not sufficiently competent in the use of the English language to not know the difference between ED and not being able to climax. Second if you listened to the entire narrative you would know that the sexual problem is that the man can not achieve orgasm and thus can not ejaculate. Once again this is NOT ED. I think one of the best things that women could experience in terms of fostering true gender equality and true gender equality based ethics as well as to help women understand what men have to go through would be for women's sexual performance to be evaluated, criticized and graded to the same standards that men are. If a woman can not get sufficient naturally lubricated with in X minutes of the start of sexual activity then she has female ED. If she can not stay sufficiently lubricated for the average duration of sex or longer then she has female premature ejaculation. If she can not control her PC muscles for the duration of sex then she is impotent and a premature ejaculator as well. If women's sexual performance was evaluated, critiqued and graded to the same standards that men (especially by women) are many women would be labeled with all kinds of sexual dysfunction labels and as impotent. As it stands all a woman has to do is show up anything more than that is a bonus and optional for women.
There simply is NO evidence or part of the narrative that suggests that the issue here is the husbands ED, yet you have gone off on a whole series of judgements of this man and recommended "solutions" even though you are not practicing urologist or sexual medicine specialist nor have you ever examined the man as well. Dr John is not an MD or DO nor is he a MD with a specialty but the MD who was working with this couple surrounding the fertility issues was most likely as specialist and they wanted to do a procedure. The doctor did not say this for his or her personal amusement. Dr John started to go down the path of practicing outside of his license and that is very unprofessional.
I wonder if they regret the adoption?
Me too..
If it’s painful for him he might have femosis I think (I’m not a doctor) but Marie Antoinette’s husband had it too and they just had to circumcise him and then he recovered and he was ok
topical steriod ointment treats phimosis, not surgery
@@joetz1doubt that existed back then lol
@crazyfirebender15 First off the word is phimosis and women develop phimosis as well. Female phimosis is one of the leading causes of sexual dysfunction for women. You missed out on two things. First, the husband is either sub fertile or infertile and that is why they had to adopt. Second the woman came out and said that this issue is that her husband can not climax and ejaculate most of the time. Neither of these two issues remotely resemble phimosis.
I wish they linked the full video to this call 😩
Whatever this comment section is smoking eludes me. She’s an effective communicator, the SITUATION is convoluted. Listen better
I’m full of passion my husband has none I’m hanging on by a thread.
"Is this any hint this is psychological" ...porn use usually leads to ED or climaxproblems
"it sucks". apparently not.
I see what you did there 😄
He could be dismissive avoidant
It happens. Someone has some low something if there is low fertility in the first place. Might need some testosterone both of them. MH therapists need to start suggesting that those levels get checked out first and then, no devices in the bedroom, etc.
Yes, I agree. I did have a client whose physician did supplement testosterone. Also, testosterone is sometimes imbalanced in women as I am sure you know.@@SarahConnor562
I can’t ever imagine having ED with a woman. If anything, I wish I had less of a sex drive but it’s the cards life has felt with me.
I am a big proponent of no television in the bedroom. The bedroom is for two things, and they both start with an S.
Seems like ED and maybe too ashamed/embarrassed to talk about it in public forum
Good advice
Start by taking the TV out of your bedroom. Wink wink.
This interview was painful to listen too. Just leave the guy alone. He will do what he wants.
thank you for adopting?
What about it?
He needs to see an endocrinologist not a surgeon for Pete’s sake
And perhaps. Urologist
I hate to think like this, but maybe he didn’t want kids? Hopefully she and him gets some help and can make their life much better
There’s more going on here. She likely withheld sex for quite some time, and now he’s not interested… The same exact thing happened to me, and my partner (when she finally sensed a problem) frantically tried to save things. It was too late… Very sad-this marriage is over and she has no idea.
Does he take SSRIs? That a potential cause that can occasionally be a permanent change even after the medication is stopped.
Please don't cut the little guy up. He'll never work again.
Sounds like he feels like he's not getting any attention. If she's out with all her activities who's taking care of the kid? Where is she for him? Sounds like she thinks about the life she wanted and just adds to it without thinking what his life needs.
I'll ask the question. Are they overweight?
I suffered alot with a selfish wife......she's great at taking selfiez and posting them....she pretends to be this sexual tiger .....but when it comes to me I will always be last.......tired of it all
I’m crying 😭 as if it took her that long to reveal such an important piece of information
He needs to ask if sexless couples are fit or overweight
13:24 16:15 The longer I listen to this caller, the more I pity the husband. She's putting 100% of the blame on him. Very overbearing. Treating him like a child, not a man. Yikes.
There is one simple answer for this. Homeboy's hormones are out of whack. He needs to get his hormonal health in check. Low testosterone is common and results in tragically low male libido and bedroom confidence. He can fix this in a few months, but he needs to take control of his health.
Maybe she wants him to try “kinky stuff” that he doesn’t want to do
This lady is all over the place
First …let’s talk about his secret porn habits , then talk about his secret female “ friends” ….then talk about him not being bothered with emotional availability……and the list is big ….
Good points. And I didn’t even think of it. SSRIs will do that as well
Yes, porn issues ✔️
Agreed, John missed every obvious question. If a man doesn’t have basic sex drive with his wife he has deep issues that are his alone to resolve.
the big list of things you completely made up? Everything you said is possible, but you speak as it's a given and not a possibility.
@@jackwatt8988 I know what it is cause I work with men like that as a professional.
Oh wow Toronto Canada Cool that’s new
Toronto has been around for a few years now! (Sorry, I couldn't resist.) 😂😂 Howdie from Canada, eh?!
Come on lady!
Could her husband be gay? May be he found this out after marriage ans now doesn't want to destroy marrriage so he is keeping this within himself.
Performance anxiety
With a wife is crazy 🤣
Why all line calling him seems to be the same person with the same voice.
Canadians love surgery. Time to get paid. They always leave things till they get too bad. Ya'll need to thank your lucky stars you don't need to depend on the canadian medical system.
Props to them for adopting but in that same vain you have NO idea what the parents were like which will always lead to problems later on that you can’t deal with.
they did not address basic psychological and fertility issues, ran to adoption and then received a child that drained their lives. they resent their lives and have no viable outlet
Amanda, ill help u
Potential fatty?
Just get off your devices they’re poison
The comments section here is... 😂
Try a different person to talk to for his issue.
I would have gotten to that issue real quick my first question would have been what’s wrong is he not any good?
This is why I avoid relationships. 😂
Oh no so sad
Take Kama Sutra classes
If there is no point in climaxing, ie infertile, why bother? His body knows....
Because it feels good? Guys who have had vasectomies still have sex.
Dammn my heart goes out to this couple specially the guy. 😔💔 🙏
Put him on TRT and have him go to gym. Work 5 hours less a week.
Porn problem with the husband?
She can't bring her story to a climax.
He should get his testosterone level checked before anything...
Your husband is ashamed and perhaps feels disrespected.
Sound like husband needs a psychologist not a surgeon