SPOT ON! You covered all the secret sauce of my own death-do-us-part 19-year marriage / partnership. Prior to discovering each other, we were both just being the dogs we were (being ourselves) until we found someone with whom we had the right amounts of diversified skills and perfect imperfections we could care less about. Our attendance of your one-day course was a game changer for both of us. Thanks for all you do.
I LOVE what you teach and how you honour our men THANK YOU Alison!!! I align with every word you say.... it's so wonderful and SO refreshing to hear your wisdom and insight in-amongst alllllllll the righteous indignation that is SO loud in our world. You haven't just lost an Instagram follower - you've gained one! As a wife who (choses to) adore and appreciate her Man of 35 years (giving us a 32 year marriage filled with kindness & love) and a mum of 4 sons (and a lovely daughter) - I couldn't agree with you more!! Thank you for all your hard work - the world needs to hear your beautiful voice!
Wow! This is brilliant! I wish I had tuned into Alison Armstrong sooner! Omg! Her knowledge, wisdom, insight are incredible. I’m learning so much. Thank you!
Alison, I first watched you on UA-cam and immediately resonated with what you were teaching. I’ve been watching relationship coaches for about three years and have not met anyone like you. I get excited for my future because of what I’m learning from you. Thank you for being here for us ❤
Very helpful and going to stop trying so hard and show appreciation and be myself and now tell my husband what I need to say for appreciation because no one knows from one day to the next what can happen as you described with the sudden heart attack
This was amazing to listen to and learn from. I cried so many times ..from recognition and validation, as well as from painful insights of my misunderstandings and how Ive been misunderstood as well. Your words felt like riddles shifting in my mind where the same language took on a new meaning. I love when that happens..but its also painful. Thank you so much for sharing this.
I loved this thank you. It's how I see things too but without communication due to righteous indignation, it always ends up in misunderstanding and not listening to the concept or in denial. lack of maturity in this area I guess. Thank you for helping me see what I ask for isn't too much. kindness, thoughtfulness and supporting each other to become better not worse. ♥
Thank you Ms Armstrong! Literally crying at the revelations that have come from your video. Thank you for sharing these alternative realities. 🥺☯️💪💞♾️🥂 You’re helping us all cocreate healthy relationships.
Holy shit, this is it. She figured out why my marriage fell a part. He was a man who couldn’t relate to what I needed, and why try to “logic” me out of it
Alison listening to you I always weep, so appreciate hearing what you have to say...really makes me question myself n reflect a lot on what I can do differently in the future, thank you!
Thank you Alison, i have to watch this again because i wonlisoon be meeting the man i dated online and it could be the make or break moment for both of us, it gave me the courage to say what i have to say in order for him to decide to run...or stay 😊😉
25:20 "He could protect me, because he didn't have to protect himself _from_ me, because I wasn't attacking him." I have a list of women whom I want to show this clip to.
Thank you Alison! Your work is helping me so much understanding my experiences with men recently. I suffer from a chronic health condition and it's hard to find a man who thinks he is right for me, even when I think we are great together. The last man I had a relationship with said he couldn't commit because he didn't think he could take care of me due to other responsibilities in his life. I told him I didn't expect him to take care of me any more than he already did and I was happy with what he was giving, but it was no use, he had an idea of what a committed relationship meant to him that he couldn't fulfil for me... I also wonder, how long does it usually take for a man to get to know a woman enough to know she is right for him? Sometimes I despair that I will never find a man who would want to take care of me the way I need to be taken care of because of this illness, but I am making an effort to believe and have hope... I have to say listening to you talking about how men commit made me more worried, because if love is not what drives a man to commit, I feel very powerless to do anything about it. I love so fiercely that it overwhelms me. I wish to find a man who will want to receive all my love and care. It hurts to have to hold back because he is not willing to give to me in the same intensity...
I don’t have any answers for your question but maybe something that happened in my life can help. I was introduced to a nice woman. She seems lovely, attractive, a tiny bit obstinate but not unattractive. She had a daughter with a lot of problems. She told me she is caring for her daughter and she doesn’t need me to deal with that. She wants a relationship with me and me to with her. And while there were other complications, ultimately I couldn’t be her lover without also being a friend to her daughter. I couldn’t compartmentalize “our” new family. Hopes that helps.
Centre yourself and your own needs. Learn to be truly happy alone. Do some energetic work to help with your health condition. As you can see in the comments above mine, men don’t want to be carers for women. If their wife becomes seriously ill they will bail out. It’s all about what YOU can do for THEM. So let go of finding a man or a relationship and create the best life for yourself.
Men marry when they can care for themselves. They meet a woman and if she meets those needs, he’s not trying to change her. Don’t disrespect or disempower him. Women, go into a marriage with expectations and want to change these men.
I thought that men know fairly quickly when they've found the woman they want to marry. I think it's also true that men settle for the woman who is around when they decide they should marry.
@@delaslight They do. Otherwise there wouldn't be all of this attention on the male loneliness "epidemic". So much of what women bring to men is devalued, dismissed, unacknowledged and ignored.
You're missing something essential - that marriage was designed for character change. We tend to be self centered. Learning to truly love someone entails growth and character change. Read Tim Keller!
Hi Allison....I listen to you and I learn sooo much! Thank you!!! I also realized something rally "weird"...I'm not sure why but it seems like I was the "man" in my relationship with my daughters father... We were together for 10 years and then I got pregnant. We also had three business's together. I never wanted to change him...I took him as he was. Example: when we went out for nice dinners, I was dressed to the nines and he went in his sweat pants and hoodie (bc he doesn't like dressing up)...no problem for me at all....he let a beard grow then shaved it then grew it then shaved it...all good .. his face his choice . He loves Jazz, so when the big festivals came to our town, he went and I didn't bc Jazz (not the old Jazz) gives me a bad headache ...so I bought the very pricey 3 day pass for him as a Birthday gift...to bring him joy... ....after I gave birth to our daughter, he left. He said he met his soulmate now... Of course I was shocked and hurting so bad. I wished him well bc I loved him very much. I still don't understand what happened.... why it went the way it did. I never was able to have a "closing" conversation with him...his wife, then still girlfriend, did not "allow" it and was too upsetting for her.... that's what he told me a...and later on she confirmed it. Just wanted to share that bc there are women that do love their men the way they are, without wanting to change them. Btw: he wanted to constantly change me!!..
37:58 "I'm speaking to the person whose underwear you're wearing." I'm going to start using this. It's better than "who makes the decisions in your relationship?"
I see marriages that “work” where the wife tells the husband what works for him, contrary to the integrity in this video. I am constantly asking myself why those men stay without their autonomy honored. Two people with integrity for themselves seems like the ultimate in a good marriage, not to mention the respective appreciation for the integrity in each other!
My guess he is either more in his feminine and she is more in her masculine - by default or by purpose - - - or he just doesn't care too much about taking initiative and is content with her reminding him how it's to be. If it works for both - why not? If he's grinding his teeth all day long - that's when things need to change... With my parents marriage - he was away Monday - Friday working out of town, and mom was home running the show. when he came home on Friday evening, he did NOT want to be bothered with family dynamics, problems, issues etc - he wanted a peaceful weekend. So she made all the plans, and he went along with it without any major dust-ups as far as I could tell. They had some issues after he retired from work, and they were rubbing on each other day after day, without that 5 day break in between, but managed to work it out between themselves. Us kids never got any inclination of issues, although looking back - I am sure they had them too. Everybody does at some time or another, LOL
I just have to say I love these videos.... If I asked a man to slow down and he told me he stopped taking criticism a long time ago, I'd tell him to pull over or take me home. Im the Alpha in my relationship obviously and I respect my husband but absolutely not. If a woman says to slow down, a man better listen, scared or not....but thats just me LOL.
The answer is not to forego marriage. It is to properly define what marriage means to you / potential spouse before jumping in. I disagree that a socially expressed and confirmed lifetime commitment is not needed. A true male/female connection needs 'till death do us part' to really work
The solution for relationships is not relationship. It's giving without obligation and expectation. Relationship is about trading.... we all want the most for the least. It creates power struggles and control dynamics to increase benefit and lower costs. This can be circumvented by giving and meeting needs freely without expectation. The more this occurs the more it increases. Love spirals up..... relational trading spirals it down. The stronger will literally put the weaker into absolute bankrupty.
To give without obligation and expectation needs someone to have their cup overfloweth or they’ll get severely drained. What you say is only expected and only works in one direction.
I do believe that it is much like responsible gambling. That you only give what you can afford to lose. You must never dip into your "bill money" for a love gamble. It's odd that you would say it's expected when the first line is giving without expectation or obligation. I guess one possible expectation could be that there must be no expectation. In my mind that is baked into the cake. You do make a valid point however. In order for this dance to be elegant and successful both parties would need to be liked minded and dancing the same dance. If one party is tango and the other waltz then the results will be alot of tripping and falling.
32:30 Women need to listen to what men say they need, and men need to know if they can give a woman what she needs even if they dont agree or understand her needs. If we are not willing to respect what the other person's needs are, even if we dont agree or understand those needs, then it wont work long term
Men marry when they can care for themselves. They meet a woman and if she meets those needs, he’s not trying to change her. Don’t disrespect or disempower him. Women, go into a marriage with expectations and want to change these men. 15:07
When guys circle it triggers me. I can’t sit through the circling. I wish I could and that’s what I want to work on. Understand that a guy circling is normal and is actually healthy and necessary.
It is a dance… you can play a part if you want. If you aren’t interested you can do him a favor, tell him you aren’t interested. If you are, you can peek at him, sit up straighter. Smile. Not right away, but you can walk toward where he is going, you don’t have to say anything specific, just smile, make eye contact and keep moving.
@@jsbrads1 lol I didn’t literally mean circling as in movement. I meant when a guy isn’t sure you’re it for him he kind of circles you figuring you out before he goes all the way in. But thanks anyway for the feedback
Marrying puts what eventually might be single moms, in a slightly better position than not marrying... from what I've seen, and even then she still risks it blowing up in her face when he all of sudden decides to leave her for someone else. For some, it's a protection for women when having children.
But the cheese , all different types, yogurt, all different flavours, all the lovely dishes you can make with the milk, like Mac & cheese, cream on the strawberries , baking cookies etc come when you buy the cow and take care for her and her FEELINGS. The longer the relationship with the right respect and dedication the greater the mutual contentment.
Don't men know fairly quickly whether they want to marry you or not? Even when you aren't acting like their wife, they will know almost immediately if they want you in that role and they act accordingly...?
@@ljsunshine1232What’s wrong with waiting for them to figure out if they like us? Aren’t we doing the same? Besides, they’re not only seeing if they like us. They’re considering whether or not they can truly fulfill us long-term.
Okay so what about when a man cheats on you during the marriage Is that like a get out of jail free card so to speak as far as not having to stay and try to work on something that you no longer believe in because he did the ultimate destructive, hurtful, heartbreaking sin of cheating that rips your heart out and kills your soul a little bit.
UA-cam Logo Lauriston Smith replied to your reply on Georgina D's comment Alison Armstrong Addresses Commitment Controversy (live replay) Lauriston Smith terry tariThey most certainly do. They go every which way but loose to give the guy the "benefit of the doubt". Reply Alison: will you marry me, ok?
Is there an age factor to using your situation as an example? You’re past the whole baby/child rearing phase.🤔 Otherwise you have some good advice in regards to having clarity and awareness.
This response is juvenile and from a place of hurt and defensiveness. Nobody else online understands men and women’s brains or how we relate to each other
Relationship between a man and a woman are only legitimate through wedlock. Its about obeying God. Not status not a ring not a label. The only thing that matters is obeying God. A man is a man is a man. Changing people is a futile endeavor.
@@highpriestessofmythal199 i have no idea what that reply means. Meeting your spouses needs is the exact method to fulfilling the marriage contract. You sound like an angry bitter person. And that is probably a projection on your part because your needs have not been met. That sux.
SPOT ON! You covered all the secret sauce of my own death-do-us-part 19-year marriage / partnership. Prior to discovering each other, we were both just being the dogs we were (being ourselves) until we found someone with whom we had the right amounts of diversified skills and perfect imperfections we could care less about. Our attendance of your one-day course was a game changer for both of us. Thanks for all you do.
I LOVE what you teach and how you honour our men THANK YOU Alison!!! I align with every word you say.... it's so wonderful and SO refreshing to hear your wisdom and insight in-amongst alllllllll the righteous indignation that is SO loud in our world. You haven't just lost an Instagram follower - you've gained one! As a wife who (choses to) adore and appreciate her Man of 35 years (giving us a 32 year marriage filled with kindness & love) and a mum of 4 sons (and a lovely daughter) - I couldn't agree with you more!! Thank you for all your hard work - the world needs to hear your beautiful voice!
It soothes my broken heart to listen to alison
I can listen to Alison all day long :)
Have you read her book, the queens code? Amazing!!!!
She is funny and she has a great smile! She once told Dennis Prager that he is her boyfriend!
@@bonjo8165 No, but I listened to her audiobook!
Same❤
@@truthteller4659 I proposed to Allison after she was a widow!
the perspective you give helps me realize how amazing men actually are, thank you
You're so welcome!
"We commit one acceptance at a time" made me chuckle. I gotta admit, that's true
Thank you Alison for taking your precious time to enlighten us on this topic!
You're welcome! Thank you for your support :)
@@AlisonArmstrongVideos Happy Alison, I sent you a Valetine's Card!
Wow! This is brilliant! I wish I had tuned into Alison Armstrong sooner! Omg! Her knowledge, wisdom, insight are incredible. I’m learning so much. Thank you!
Thank you for your comment 🥰 - Alison's Team
It’s beautiful, thank you for sharing. You are admirable.
Alison, I first watched you on UA-cam and immediately resonated with what you were teaching. I’ve been watching relationship coaches for about three years and have not met anyone like you. I get excited for my future because of what I’m learning from you. Thank you for being here for us ❤
You are most welcome! ❤️ - Alison's Team
Unbelievably and astonishingly valuable. I appreciate you Alison and this content
Wow so much wisdom expressed. Especially the part on righteous indignation - lightbulb moment!
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Very helpful and going to stop trying so hard and show appreciation and be myself and now tell my husband what I need to say for appreciation because no one knows from one day to the next what can happen as you described with the sudden heart attack
Have you tried the simplest of all things - tell him? Most women are narcissists as they think men should be mind readers.
Outstanding. Thank you,. Alison. 🎉
This was amazing to listen to and learn from. I cried so many times ..from recognition and validation, as well as from painful insights of my misunderstandings and how Ive been misunderstood as well. Your words felt like riddles shifting in my mind where the same language took on a new meaning. I love when that happens..but its also painful. Thank you so much for sharing this.
You are so welcome - Alison
Where has this awesome woman been ALL MY LIFE!!!!❤❤❤
I loved this thank you. It's how I see things too but without communication due to righteous indignation, it always ends up in misunderstanding and not listening to the concept or in denial. lack of maturity in this area I guess. Thank you for helping me see what I ask for isn't too much. kindness, thoughtfulness and supporting each other to become better not worse. ♥
Thank u so much for this video . Such an eye opener and makes so much Sense.
You're welcome. Glad to hear it :)
I absolutely love you! And absolutely love spirit and divine timing for leading me to you!
Thank you so much for your courage, commitment, and generosity in sharing all that you do, in the way that you do, Alison! 🌹✨
You are so welcome! - Team Alison
alison is AMAZING. best person ever to actually learn about the opposite sex and yourself.
Thank you Ms Armstrong! Literally crying at the revelations that have come from your video. Thank you for sharing these alternative realities. 🥺☯️💪💞♾️🥂 You’re helping us all cocreate healthy relationships.
I followed!!! ❤❤❤
Loved everything you shared. Huge huge Thank You ❤
Holy shit, this is it. She figured out why my marriage fell a part. He was a man who couldn’t relate to what I needed, and why try to “logic” me out of it
Alison listening to you I always weep, so appreciate hearing what you have to say...really makes me question myself n reflect a lot on what I can do differently in the future, thank you!
Thank you for your words Alison, I appreciate you and your work so much ❤ 🫶 one love
You are so welcome! Thank you 😊❤️ - Alison’s Team
Woo hoo more content. Thank you for share
If I had to pick a favorite, it would be about criticism. That part about fairy dust, so true.
Goodness you’re so cute Alison! Thank you for your wisdom. 🥰
The wisdom AA shares is from another dimension. So wise
Thank you Alison, i have to watch this again because i wonlisoon be meeting the man i dated online and it could be the make or break moment for both of us, it gave me the courage to say what i have to say in order for him to decide to run...or stay 😊😉
You're welcome - thank you for watching. - Team Alison
Amazing work!
Can't believe I discovered you just today 🤯 but so glad I did! 😄
Me too. Life changing insight. It's so simple but I've never heard it explained like this
We're glad too! 😃- Alison's team
@@AlisonArmstrongVideos❤❤❤
Wow the part about unfollowing her was profound. Again so wise
25:20 "He could protect me, because he didn't have to protect himself _from_ me, because I wasn't attacking him."
I have a list of women whom I want to show this clip to.
Thank you Alison!
Your work is helping me so much understanding my experiences with men recently. I suffer from a chronic health condition and it's hard to find a man who thinks he is right for me, even when I think we are great together. The last man I had a relationship with said he couldn't commit because he didn't think he could take care of me due to other responsibilities in his life. I told him I didn't expect him to take care of me any more than he already did and I was happy with what he was giving, but it was no use, he had an idea of what a committed relationship meant to him that he couldn't fulfil for me...
I also wonder, how long does it usually take for a man to get to know a woman enough to know she is right for him?
Sometimes I despair that I will never find a man who would want to take care of me the way I need to be taken care of because of this illness, but I am making an effort to believe and have hope... I have to say listening to you talking about how men commit made me more worried, because if love is not what drives a man to commit, I feel very powerless to do anything about it. I love so fiercely that it overwhelms me. I wish to find a man who will want to receive all my love and care. It hurts to have to hold back because he is not willing to give to me in the same intensity...
I don’t have any answers for your question but maybe something that happened in my life can help.
I was introduced to a nice woman. She seems lovely, attractive, a tiny bit obstinate but not unattractive. She had a daughter with a lot of problems. She told me she is caring for her daughter and she doesn’t need me to deal with that. She wants a relationship with me and me to with her. And while there were other complications, ultimately I couldn’t be her lover without also being a friend to her daughter. I couldn’t compartmentalize “our” new family.
Hopes that helps.
So if he takes care of you.....what do you do for him?
Centre yourself and your own needs. Learn to be truly happy alone. Do some energetic work to help with your health condition. As you can see in the comments above mine, men don’t want to be carers for women. If their wife becomes seriously ill they will bail out. It’s all about what YOU can do for THEM. So let go of finding a man or a relationship and create the best life for yourself.
Men marry when they can care for themselves. They meet a woman and if she meets those needs, he’s not trying to change her. Don’t disrespect or disempower him.
Women, go into a marriage with expectations and want to change these men.
Great woman!
I thought that men know fairly quickly when they've found the woman they want to marry. I think it's also true that men settle for the woman who is around when they decide they should marry.
Yup. Majority of men ´settle´ for less.
@@jackdeniston6150 But get so much more out of it.
@@delaslight They do. Otherwise there wouldn't be all of this attention on the male loneliness "epidemic".
So much of what women bring to men is devalued, dismissed, unacknowledged and ignored.
Love it
You are phenomenal and the world needs you sooooo much!!! Slash I do!! What is the 12 things?
Thank you❤️
Sometimes men want women to change too.
Maybe we should study couples who have been together for 20 years to life!
Young women don't put up with men who treat them bad.
@@terrytari1891you say that but those are the only men they are sleeping with 😂
@@theskyizblue2day431 Ok darling, I LOVE you!
Strongly disagree. My experience is once a man commits to a woman he accepts that she is who she is. If he doesn’t like her he leaves.
You're missing something essential - that marriage was designed for character change. We tend to be self centered. Learning to truly love someone entails growth and character change. Read Tim Keller!
Read the queens code ;)
I have. I have also met Alison, as we were both part of the Conscious Leadership Council.
So so good❤❤❤❤❤
Hi Allison....I listen to you and I learn sooo much! Thank you!!!
I also realized something rally "weird"...I'm not sure why but it seems like I was the "man" in my relationship with my daughters father...
We were together for 10 years and then I got pregnant. We also had three business's together.
I never wanted to change him...I took him as he was. Example: when we went out for nice dinners, I was dressed to the nines and he went in his sweat pants and hoodie (bc he doesn't like dressing up)...no problem for me at all....he let a beard grow then shaved it then grew it then shaved it...all good .. his face his choice . He loves Jazz, so when the big festivals came to our town, he went and I didn't bc Jazz (not the old Jazz) gives me a bad headache ...so I bought the very pricey 3 day pass for him as a Birthday gift...to bring him joy...
....after I gave birth to our daughter, he left. He said he met his soulmate now...
Of course I was shocked and hurting so bad. I wished him well bc I loved him very much.
I still don't understand what happened.... why it went the way it did.
I never was able to have a "closing" conversation with him...his wife, then still girlfriend, did not "allow" it and was too upsetting for her.... that's what he told me a...and later on she confirmed it.
Just wanted to share that bc there are women that do love their men the way they are, without wanting to change them.
Btw: he wanted to constantly change me!!..
You have great content but a good microphone would be great for you 🙏
Where do we find the 12 things list ?
37:58 "I'm speaking to the person whose underwear you're wearing."
I'm going to start using this. It's better than "who makes the decisions in your relationship?"
I see marriages that “work” where the wife tells the husband what works for him, contrary to the integrity in this video. I am constantly asking myself why those men stay without their autonomy honored. Two people with integrity for themselves seems like the ultimate in a good marriage, not to mention the respective appreciation for the integrity in each other!
Men, can't figure out women, that's why men go to Alison's workshops!
My guess he is either more in his feminine and she is more in her masculine - by default or by purpose - - - or he just doesn't care too much about taking initiative and is content with her reminding him how it's to be. If it works for both - why not? If he's grinding his teeth all day long - that's when things need to change...
With my parents marriage - he was away Monday - Friday working out of town, and mom was home running the show. when he came home on Friday evening, he did NOT want to be bothered with family dynamics, problems, issues etc - he wanted a peaceful weekend. So she made all the plans, and he went along with it without any major dust-ups as far as I could tell. They had some issues after he retired from work, and they were rubbing on each other day after day, without that 5 day break in between, but managed to work it out between themselves. Us kids never got any inclination of issues, although looking back - I am sure they had them too. Everybody does at some time or another, LOL
@@ssiegreen5292 Yes, if it works for the two in the marriage then good for them.
Simple answer is that man is in a loveless, sexless marriage and his wife is gonna serve him papers soon
I just have to say I love these videos.... If I asked a man to slow down and he told me he stopped taking criticism a long time ago, I'd tell him to pull over or take me home. Im the Alpha in my relationship obviously and I respect my husband but absolutely not. If a woman says to slow down, a man better listen, scared or not....but thats just me LOL.
If you have to TELL a man to slow down, then he's not worth being with. He's doing it on purpose to show you that HE'S the one in control.
I wish I had friends like you Allison....
I am more and more willing to give up my righteous indignation. ❤
Thank you!! We appreciate your courage and vulnerability in doing so! ❤️ - Alison’s team
The answer is not to forego marriage. It is to properly define what marriage means to you / potential spouse before jumping in. I disagree that a socially expressed and confirmed lifetime commitment is not needed. A true male/female connection needs 'till death do us part' to really work
Wow!!!!!!!!!! Wow!!! We gather in tribes where we have righteous indignation but it’s not a substitute for real power
I would more on this. Specifically the 12 things for men
I told a guy I was dating that his driving was scaring me, expressing how I felt, and he got upset anyway.
The solution for relationships is not relationship. It's giving without obligation and expectation. Relationship is about trading.... we all want the most for the least. It creates power struggles and control dynamics to increase benefit and lower costs.
This can be circumvented by giving and meeting needs freely without expectation. The more this occurs the more it increases. Love spirals up..... relational trading spirals it down. The stronger will literally put the weaker into absolute bankrupty.
Wow. Brilliant.
Disliked 👎🏼
To give without obligation and expectation needs someone to have their cup overfloweth or they’ll get severely drained. What you say is only expected and only works in one direction.
@@toomuchinformation Thank you for the comment. I would like to discuss this further.
I do believe that it is much like responsible gambling. That you only give what you can afford to lose. You must never dip into your "bill money" for a love gamble. It's odd that you would say it's expected when the first line is giving without expectation or obligation. I guess one possible expectation could be that there must be no expectation. In my mind that is baked into the cake. You do make a valid point however. In order for this dance to be elegant and successful both parties would need to be liked minded and dancing the same dance. If one party is tango and the other waltz then the results will be alot of tripping and falling.
32:30
Women need to listen to what men say they need, and men need to know if they can give a woman what she needs even if they dont agree or understand her needs.
If we are not willing to respect what the other person's needs are, even if we dont agree or understand those needs, then it wont work long term
Love you❤️
Men marry when they can care for themselves. They meet a woman and if she meets those needs, he’s not trying to change her. Don’t disrespect or disempower him.
Women, go into a marriage with expectations and want to change these men. 15:07
When guys circle it triggers me. I can’t sit through the circling. I wish I could and that’s what I want to work on. Understand that a guy circling is normal and is actually healthy and necessary.
Tori, no problem, men can't figure out women either!
@@terrytari1891 lol
@@toriyt2714 Thank lovely Tori!
It is a dance… you can play a part if you want. If you aren’t interested you can do him a favor, tell him you aren’t interested. If you are, you can peek at him, sit up straighter. Smile. Not right away, but you can walk toward where he is going, you don’t have to say anything specific, just smile, make eye contact and keep moving.
@@jsbrads1 lol I didn’t literally mean circling as in movement. I meant when a guy isn’t sure you’re it for him he kind of circles you figuring you out before he goes all the way in. But thanks anyway for the feedback
Love the content but the interruptions from commercials every 3 minutes is too much, literally in 8 mins there have been 5 commercials
You gotta pay for UA-cam premium
Who is Tyler?
Marrying puts what eventually might be single moms, in a slightly better position than not marrying... from what I've seen, and even then she still risks it blowing up in her face when he all of sudden decides to leave her for someone else. For some, it's a protection for women when having children.
Why buy the cow when the milk is free?😂
Sooner than later the day comes when the free milk runs out.
@@joanofarcxxi speak for yourself.
@@joanofarcxxiWhen a nurse with a purse is required.
But the cheese , all different types, yogurt, all different flavours, all the lovely dishes you can make with the milk, like Mac & cheese, cream on the strawberries , baking cookies etc come when you buy the cow and take care for her and her FEELINGS. The longer the relationship with the right respect and dedication the greater the mutual contentment.
Anyone have the list of 12 ?
Wow. This made me realize marriage isn't worth the work it takes
Don't men know fairly quickly whether they want to marry you or not? Even when you aren't acting like their wife, they will know almost immediately if they want you in that role and they act accordingly...?
That's what I've heard and what men have said.
Yes this is just a page that panders to men. Essentially she says we should wait for them to figure out if they like us.
@@ljsunshine1232What’s wrong with waiting for them to figure out if they like us? Aren’t we doing the same? Besides, they’re not only seeing if they like us. They’re considering whether or not they can truly fulfill us long-term.
@@ljsunshine1232no, it isn’t. Your reaction is coming from a place of hurt still. You’re still carrying pain so aren’t able to let down your sword yet
Okay so what about when a man cheats on you during the marriage Is that like a get out of jail free card so to speak as far as not having to stay and try to work on something that you no longer believe in because he did the ultimate destructive, hurtful, heartbreaking sin of cheating that rips your heart out and kills your soul a little bit.
God said get married
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terry tariThey most certainly do. They go every which way but loose to give the guy the "benefit of the doubt".
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Alison: will you marry me, ok?
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Some of what you said reminded me of a joke: How does a woman impress a man on a first date?
Answer: She shows up.
Is there an age factor to using your situation as an example? You’re past the whole baby/child rearing phase.🤔 Otherwise you have some good advice in regards to having clarity and awareness.
This is juvenile. What age is that woman 65?
She sounds like a teenager….
She’s childlike, not childish
@@dmystfy I beg to differ…
This response is juvenile and from a place of hurt and defensiveness.
Nobody else online understands men and women’s brains or how we relate to each other
@@dmystfyhateful feminists in the chat
What can I do to make him want me again for not only a quick sec ..
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Relationship between a man and a woman are only legitimate through wedlock. Its about obeying God. Not status not a ring not a label. The only thing that matters is obeying God.
A man is a man is a man. Changing people is a futile endeavor.
Which god?
You DO that. Leave the rest of us out of it, since you can't provide for another person's needs.
@@highpriestessofmythal199 i have no idea what that reply means. Meeting your spouses needs is the exact method to fulfilling the marriage contract. You sound like an angry bitter person. And that is probably a projection on your part because your needs have not been met. That sux.
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Incorrect. Humans were creating family and relating to one another long before Christianity was invented
I’m sorry but her cackling creeps me out. I keep waiting for her to whip out a large knife and start stabbing!
she talks like she’s psychotic