I'd rather not swap our places, wouldnt wanna make someone go through the shit I go through.. let them be happy and smile for their happiness while I die inside :)
I didnt grow up in a t0xic family but, i heared my grandma yelling at my grandpa for no reasons, my dad smoke and before him and my mother split up i tried to have his attention now...he try to get my attention, my mother is supportive asf i love her but she is sick(it doesnt have cure...) and now she is getting more stressed and sad i've seen her having anxiety attacks twice...i was 10, my grandpa died... My brother is living his own life i'am so happy for him..my family is in a poor situation... I'am 11(doing 12 in april 9) years old, never want to swap places with any person, even if their family arent toxic or love they, they also have problems.....
I literally get jealous everytime I see a happy child, mum and their dad just having a fun or finding out their dad dosen't drink ..it just sucks because we can't even have those laughing moments together or have a normal day without fighting
Even though I am one from a toxic family i would never in a million years want God to swap my place with someone else. Like why would I? I know exactly how it's gonna break them. The self harm, suicidal thoughts and everything. I'd never want anyone to go through what I went through, never in a million years.
I grew up in a healthy home, my husband grew up in an emotionally, physically and verbally abusive one. We've been married 14 years, and to this day I still see the effects of his childhood on his life. he's almost 40. Every. Single. Day.
i have a very healthy relationship with my parents (and my parents too have w each other) but my parents went through a LOTS of toxicity during their childhood. from abuse, violence to deaths. like lots of trauma. they still chose the right path instead becoming toxic themselves like their environment. now they are trying their best so i can live a good life. i love them. i am really thankful
Exactly!! My parents are overprotective, abusive, strict.. basically most Indian parents. But I don't consider it toxic. I didn't even consider getting hit by belts or combs toxic. Maybe overboard or emotionally draining but not toxic. I think I have a pretty healthy family. Mostly because my parents grew up in way worse conditions than me without a good parent to look upto. One of their parents not even being there for them. Parenthood has always been new to them and they are just trying their best for me and that's what matters to me. (This is what I'd like to say to others that first know where your parents are coming from) I do think that most people here actually have toxic families but most of them just like to throw around the word "toxic" without a thought. Or they are young and too sensitive (like I used to be)
my dad grew up in a physically abusive household and thats what made him disregard my mental health problems and justify him self harming infront of me….
No. Growing up in an abusive household you do NOT want to swap places because that means someone else has to take your place and you know exactly how that'll break them. You just want to be and have been somewhere else your entire life.
This was the same comment I was going to write. I personally grew up with a good family but I wouldn't wish bad things upon others. Even if I have to deal with thrm.
True . But I really wished some people who keep telling me that it's not a big deal , I'd definitely want to " make deal with God " and let them struggle to survive in a environment which should feel like home feels like hell .
It's always funny when people with healthy families express shock when I talk about how much I hate my parents. They always assume you feel that way over something petty too, until they hear the stories. Some people should genuinely not be allowed to have kids.
@@luffluffy7 i said it is easier sometimes to solve them but not always. but it also depends in what level is toxic. i understand that some kids really need fam love which i have and im so grateful, but i really sometimes want to have what my best friend has, that she can stay in her room or go out or have other social cause her parents dont really care about that. im not grateful but i feel so limited because they care too much. but i think that in the end everybody wants the one thing they dont have so..
@@swaraalkunte6707 we know you have problems, but one of those problems is not having your phone nearby whenever your parents argue in case you have to dial the police because that argument may be the last one they'll have, is it?
I wish we all can just live a peaceful life one day, so we don't need to exchange or compare toxic and healthy families! I just wish we the future of our generations be blessed with kind and caring kids! Hope u all take this message!
nah cause i hate how people with stable loving families complain about their parents being “Too controlling” like it ain’t fun to have parents who don’t care about you
Since my family is too careless about me (they say they love me but don’t show any love from the beginning ) I think I would rather have controlling parents too.. It’s just a choice for me tho
as a kid who came from a very controlling toxic household, both are just as bad. they would never let you go outside and then wonder why you shut yourself in your room. they want you to be smart but dont give you any time to study by always needing you by their side when they vent. they tell you you dont need to have friends when you say that you dont wanna go to school because of bullies, and you only need to study. they say you should dress better but dont give you the things needed to. they say they love you but their actions show that they dont care (not cooking food, asking how your day is, checking on you when your 33° degrees hot, assuming your being lazy when your doing something). they give you necessities (phone for communication, school fees, clothes, shoes, a bed, a life) and then guilt trip or hit you when you dont do everything they tell you to. maybe that person your talking about also has a toxic family.
All I wanna say to girls with toxic families is don’t waste time on relationships when you’re finding yourself. You’re too vulnerable and there is flood of terrible men out there. Either that, or you could end up being a toxic partner to a guy. Focus on your personal growth, explore a little, find out your passions and follow it.
I'm in a relationship and my man is really supportive he has really helped me in my personal growth you can't just blame relationships for everything...
I agree for the most part. I am in a wonderful relationship but I am dealing with so many personal problems (ex: ed, sh, and overall depression) I honestly feel happiest when Im doing what I want with nothing tying me down. I care about him dearly and one of my biggest fears is being horrible to him or overall just being toxic. My emotions are just all over the place 😕
@@rozisszs Figuring out who you are separate from your family. You lose your identity or can’t form an identity when you’re in a toxic dynamic. You explore what you like, your hobbies, your passions, your goals, form opinions on some topics, things like that. Find yourself. Know who you are. Your strengths and weaknesses. What makes you, well, you.
Don't judge other's problems. U don't know what they are going through. Like how some of us hide our emotions, a healthy family may look healthy on outside only
If it's just the outside then that means that's not a healthy family, does it? I know that everyone has their own problems, and having healthy parents doesn't always mean a happy life. Just social media and society in general causes so much distress on its own, that your fam is not the only source of depression. But I have to admit, that if you have healthy parents, you at least are lucky they care for you, as that's what they do. Some of us did not have the luxury to experience that type of familial love. But regardless, I'm sorry if you're struggling. I do have to say that I understand that feeling, even if I haven't been through the same situation
In my husband's friend group, I'm know as the one that doesn't have daddy issues. My husband's dad died of alcoholism, one friends dad is in prison, multiple others have died or abandoned them. My parents came to my husband's house before we married and his friends had a lot of fun hanging out with my dad and listening to his stories :)
A healthy family doesn’t mean they don’t have problems outside of the family Partner abuse,rape, bullying, eating disorder, depression, lost love one, etc Trauma is different for everyone some are worse yes but, everyone has some form of trauma
Yeah, I’ve got a nice loving family, dad is a cool guy and mom is supportive of everything but it didn’t stop me from putting myself into ED hell when I was a kid
I just want to say that having a toxic family can in fact be the cause of all these problems ‘outside of the family’.Not to invalidate anyone’s struggles but having a healthy family can most definitely ensure that u don’t suffer from childhood trauma,which lasts forever until u die.
I have a healthy family so everytime I used to tell my friends a story about something in my childhood they be like „oh shut up you don’t have a ToXiC FaMaLy“ Alright so I’m not allowed to talk sbout my childhood because my famaly is healthy alriiighhhhtttt 💆♀️
that is rude but don’t you realize how hard it is to have a family that is just about fights? i have one but i still listen to my other friends “oh my dad this and my dad that” “i went out with my parents” “i am going to see my grandparents” and i feel like shit but i don’t say anything.
@@phoqwu that sucks but if people are never told your home life isn’t the best then they can try to be more sensitive. If you don’t tell them then you have no right to get mad at them about something none of you can control
@@phoqwu I’m so sorry about that ,i think we should just except each other and let each other talk no matter what there famaly is like or what they look like because at the End of the day where al humans and should love and support each other 🫶🏼🫶🏼
Yes,let the people with an abusive childhood alone,i had one of those,and every single time my friends would talk about their life and the good things ,i would feel like the absolute shit,also ,my parents we're the whole pack(abusive,toxic,strict)also,they both died in a car crash ,gladly,i didn't have to deal with them anymore (it happened when i was 18)
I love hearing people talk about their healthy amazing families. It's how I learned what healthy was so I could do my best to provide as close to the same as I possibly could for my daughter and grandchildren. Plus it feels good knowing not all families are sh*t.
Same. It feels my entire childhood was ruined thanks to my family. My only concern tho is that one day I just shouldn't end up repeating the same toxic patterns I grew up with, thinking they were normal.
I have seen in internet some of the people from toxic families i guess easily consider everyone is a bad human and i have seen people assuring them that no their families are very good people. Its sad to see that...
I grew up under very shitty circumstances. But that's a me problem. I know I'm strong enough to not let my personal experiences cloud my judgement and ruin my critical thinking skills. Mind over matter. We're all capable of removing our childhoods from ourselves. I believe in y'all
bet you don’t have divorced parents that’s why you don’t understand, it’s an extremely important thing that happens in your life and it affects it tremendously
My family is really toxic. I don't want to show it to anybody but now I feel suffocated. I'm a girl and I'm 25 rn from India and I live with my parents. My family is hella toxic, I never show it to anybody, I always show bright side of my family to anyone but deep down I'm broken. My father is alcoholic and he controls everything in my life. My mother always yell at us. My parents always criticise me, I can't even explain how they emotionally abuse me. I was a bright student but now I've lost what I had. I have no where to go. I'm suffering from depression from the last 4 yrs. I've no hope for my future.
I feel you so much…it is so heartbreaking and you are so strong! I wish you would find the way how to escape this “stuck in a rut” circle and experience a beautiful life full of happiness.
Honestly I don't wish this upon anyone and don't mind going through this anymore. This is how I got my survival instincts. The reason why I'm pretty strong. The reason I don't let people walk all over me.
They both suck no matter what, you feel spoiled and a brat anytime you get something without asking, or even if you ask. They’re helicopters, and are always pushy and extremley personal. They never let you have breaks and get mad when you don’t agree with them, or annoy/slightlyhurt them on accident (or maybe this is just my family and I’m a ppl pleaser) they’re always up in your space asking you things, don’t let you go anywhere without them (EVEN IF YOUR OVER 13). No matter what you do they always ask for more, and when your sad they ignore-or tell you to “calm down” or “it’s not that big of a deal” or “be quiet, it doesn’t hurt that much”. They constantly brush off things you say and act like they’re the victim anytime you slightly hint at being a bit uncomfortable/anooyed/sad around them. Every-time you ask for something that’s not that big of a deal and they don’t have plans EX: going to the park on the weekend -sat- AND it’s sunny. They will say “another day *insert name*, so many times that you stop asking and give up. And you feel uncomfortable and uneasy around them. Or maybe I don’t have a healthy family idk 😭 Plus there’s a lot more, I just can’t remember
@urlocalfrogdude:) So if i tell someone "Eating an apple is healthy" They gonna get triggered? Healthy means quite a bit of stuff, but i'll try not to assume.
y’all haven’t felt it until you get your phone taken away for not closing a door Edit: to everyone saying I’m “privileged” for only getting my phone taken away, I didn’t wanna over share but here goes. Basically I got told to close a door and I didn’t, and then I got scream at for an hour and a half, phone taken away and got the silent treatment from my parents for the rest of the night.
Bro the worst punishment as a kid for me was since my family moved to a new country and didn't have enough to buy me a phone my mom would say your grounded go to sleep, because it was summer and all I wanted to do was stay up.
It’s the first part. It sounds like “oh you can’t have any problems because you have a supportive family” I have a very healthy family, but I have to put up with emotional abuse from my friends.
@@Wake-up..thisIsAllJustADream nobody said healthy families dont have problems. its the fact that you receive support and love in your household is the difference. if you had a toxic family and suffered emotional abuse from your friends, your parents would blame it on you and cause more emotional or even physical abuse on you. please dont make this about yourself, you know you can ask for help from your parents while some kids cant.
I had a good life as a toddler/baby, but now I’m absolutely sick of it. I get told I’m complaining all the time, and I never get time to my self. My dad always yells at me and calls me names, and my moms cheating on my dad with someone I hate.
My mum is literally amazing! She’s always been there for me. And her boyfriend has always been there for me like a dad SHOULD be. My dad doesn’t really do much with me. He lies abt things so I don’t come over. So I sort of know what it feels like.
I hate how so many dad's are POS and most of the "good ones" get praised for doing the bare minimum, while most mom's get sh!t on/told how they could do better even when they're above and beyond.
ok thats just not even thats toxic bro u cant just walk out on ur friend when they try to open up just cuz u wanna open up too??? thats not real friendship
@@dareenkina you don't know anything about her friendship so how do you know it's not real friendship. She might be sensitive to that topic. You never know what people are going through so dont assume.
Please talk to a trusted adult,like your aunts,uncles,grandparents,teachers,neighbours....anyone!! They can get you out of here. Go to a police station after school,call the police (do it preferably when they're outside or are deeply asleep) my heart breaks for you
@@yomna.is.normal I'm too young to go out on my own and idek where a police station would be. My parents don't wanna get me therapy (I presume since they don't even wanna get it for themselves) and I can't tell any adults around me because they only include my family and teachers who I'm not close to. I wish I could do smth but I can't. Thank you for trying to help tho
I have a friend, I was really surprised when she told she shares everything with her mother. I still think she's so lucky that can do that. She thinks that every parent it like hers and forces me to talk to my mother too when I know I just can't. She forces me that if I don't tell my mother things, she will. But my mother will never care why I didn't tell her anything, she only cares why someone told her something about me. Isn't it obvious?
I don’t share everything with my mother but I don’t hide everything either, I’m middle of you and your friend I think. But I understand you, sometimes you feel like you are so distant with someone that you can’t bring yourself into a conversation, even If this person is from your family, and I think It’s okay, to not feel close enough to her. If youdont want to talk, just don’t . Relationships change to the person you are with, and there is no need to force yourself to be good terms with everyone
Whenever my parents tell me we’re going somewhere rlly fun, I get extremely excited and that’s what makes me happy the entire day. And when they get back hone they just start swiping their phones and when I ask them ‘So r we going?’ They just say ‘You know what.. lets not go anymore its quite late’ when literally all the festivals haven’t even started and it’s like 6:00 or something. And they sleep at 11:30+. Wow. So real. And then when I confront them abt this behavior they just burst out laughing and they don’t take me seriously. All these festivals happen once in a year or once every four years. Every time we plan abt going there, in the end they’ll just be swiping their phones. And they try to comfort me by saying ‘What do u want to eat we’ll bring u there’ and the next day when I suggest a restaurant they’ll be like ‘dang thats rlly far’ ‘thats kinda expensive’ like literally the restaurants they choose are always 130+ and when I choose a cheap ass restaurant they say its expensive and very far. They always force me to go places with them but when I want to go somewhere rlly near my home and no money needed, they just dont give a sh*t. And every time my brother is also sick so we can’t go. I’ve cried abt this more than 11-12 times bc it always happens, but they dont care. And they try to make it seem like they care abt me by saying things like ‘oh ...i thought ...blah blah blah blah over exaggerating excuses’ but in the end they dont rlly care. Ik these parents aren’t toxic but to me its worse than being tortured. I’d rather die than suffer in this horrible family where no one cares abt me and my brother is the only one that shines in the entire relative/family tree.
I'm so sorry,I know you feel :(( I'm not judging,but I don't think that they're bad to the point of making you wanna die,I get it if you're sensitive (I am and I cry & get hurt for the smallest things so I don't blame you :`) but death & the word "horrible" are really strong,unless you mean it. But still,I hope your parents actually care more about you & your brother and your feelings. I'm glad your brother makes you happy though:>>
My best friend has the perfect family, I only met her this year and about to be our second year bestie anniversary but she has the most perfect family ever, her dad is the sweetest and sometimes over friendly and she says that’s embarrassing but she needs to know that I’d trade anything for her family edit) I love my moms side and my mom, like I am closer to my moms cousins than I am to my dads siblings defo and it’s bc his sister is a phycho and her brothers is just rlly rude, threatens people and thank god I don’t see them much and my dad is also shouty and super toxic. I love my distant family and aunt, uncle, grandparents from my moms side and my dads COUSINS are fine but not siblings or parents
Same I can’t stand my dads siblings. His parents and he all fine but his siblings are just too toxic.. And I love my moms side and her. I’m glad you have a friend like her. She should be a nice person too 🤍
@@Columbina.Damselette yeah im grateful for my moms side and some of my dads side but his siblings, I just can’t because they live with my grandparents so when I visit I just don’t want to stay there (bc they live in the same place as my aunts from my moms side) but they just are so toxic, and knowing tha5 there relationship with my dad and grandmother isn’t good, I’d just much rather stay away from the shouting environment. and yeah my friend is rlly nice, and I just forever would want to be with my moms side
Actually. I would NEVER wish to switch places with someone else if that means they would have to go through what i go through. Its absolutely painful and the amount of times i called the cops and had to lie is crazy Edit: let’s not compare in the comments.🫶🏻
Yeah I stopped cleaning cuz he always says I'm lazy I'm literally always gets blammed I'm not the one who makes mess. They say I'm lazy and it's because we had phones. It's their fault I was always cleaning before until they starts blamming me that I stopped cleaning. They always gets mad if I don't do what they say Litterally we are 4 and they only asked me to do things sucks. I wished I was never born.
@@Mizuki53I am a 16 yr old girl and the first daughter. My father knew very well that I wasn't feeling fine but he beat me outside the street naked😢. That's feels like the worst thing ever I feel like running away from home
Im a teen intern and work at a place that has stem camps for kids . I get to watch different families interact with their kids in so many ways. There is the protective parent who stays 10 mins after drop-off to watch the kid, there is the busy parent who is on the phone in the lobby but watches their child the whole time smiling, and the loving parent who kisses and hugs their child goodbye. I feel horrible for feeling a twinge of jealousy every single time. I basically raised myself, my parents were too busy for me, were toxic and emotionally abusive to me, im scared every time I see my mom. Like, why couldn't I have what they have. What did I do wrong
Healthy people just shows less emotion but they are always positive. Toxic people just overreact but they are really that happy in life just like me but they struggle to feel positive when in a situation they don't like.
Pov: you do that and not only get yelled at about it but get depressed, realized how neglected you are, have your parents easily assume who You are no matter how good you actually try to be, and still have parents complain about how you are when you are out of your room.
I never wanted to swap places with anyone because how could someone go through everything I had and stay mentally sane. I just wanted out of the house and to be left alone.
Umm that’s actually super really super duper offensive to those who are sensitive to that word, u don’t know what they’ve gone through dood🙄😒 GODHSBSJSJSJA
i told myself so many times saying that my parent aren’t emotionally abusive its just the day or they are in a bad mood. It really really broke me when i realized that the fights amd everything is becoming an everyday thing.I cant wait to go to college far away from my house so that i finally can have mental peace.
Ikr. I got screamed at for 5 hours straight, grounded, and forced to stay in my room for the rest of the day for “breaking the rules” and sleeping at day. I also had to protect my 2 year old brother from being “punished”. The reason that they left bruises on his arms, to show that there the adults and that they have more power.
Oh lolololo,gen z ,you 45 or? she's,,soft" bc she had trauma when she was little,you prob didn't have one of those toxic childhoods so,shut the fu#k up
abigayle “stinkwad” merklinger has no clue how tiktok and their moderation works so proceeds to blame “gen z” for censoring their words despite the fact that they have the risk of being flagged or banned 😂😂😂😂😂
Yo thats me My parents are not only toxic but abusive (Strangling, punching, slapping, hitting EXTREMELY hard, doesn't care about my feelings, controls how I act and how I dress, strict, swearing, yelling LOUDLY, forgetting I exist, nearly killing me) then acting all so "innocent" in front of others.. But now its like they don't care my Dad yelled at me in front of all my teachers like what,where's the version of acting all "innocent" and when you treat me "nicely" (cause others are over) I feel weird Anyone else?
This is so true, i dont wanna talk about my childhood because my parents g@mble, Till this day, i have mental breakdowns when i hear them screaming whenever they get very angry at g@mbl!ng
@@Millyxxwashere Still tho, it can still be a trigger word for those suffering with eating disorders, ik it may seem dumb to censor the word healthy. but that’s why it’s censored unfortunately.
Ya cause Same.. all of my friends tell their parents what's going on in their lives but I don't tell my parents about what's going on in my life even though we live in the same house cuz if i tell them what's happening then will just endup hurting me
I tell people I have a healthy family but my mom had stage 4 cancer and during that my dad had to be with her at all times and we came from a other city and lived at my mothers sisters time to time and we were kicked out barefoot once , I was 7 and my brother 14. You never know what people go through tbh
I literally cried when a girl was talking abt her healthy family she said o mahhh goshh why are you crying I said actually I had smthing in my eyes ..... y'all don't know how I felt 😭
I'm not sure if its just me or does anyone attach themselves onto celebrities who are full of love and hope they will take you away from your family. It comes to the point where you stalk them out of desperation to meet and feel safe for the first time. I risked my life and jail time just to get to him at the end of his concert. The pain is torture
Since when are we censoring the word HEALTHY
LITTERALY!!
fax also nice pfp
Leave her alone
@@hersxoo no
@@DarackObama why? She’s already going through enough more than she needs to be
I'd rather not swap our places, wouldnt wanna make someone go through the shit I go through.. let them be happy and smile for their happiness while I die inside :)
Womp
@@shaqthanos4716insensitive b
@@shaqthanos4716 be quiet.
@@zhyondavis8776nah.
@@shaqthanos4716be disappointed in yourself
I didnt grow up in a t0xic family but, i heared my grandma yelling at my grandpa for no reasons, my dad smoke and before him and my mother split up i tried to have his attention now...he try to get my attention, my mother is supportive asf i love her but she is sick(it doesnt have cure...) and now she is getting more stressed and sad i've seen her having anxiety attacks twice...i was 10, my grandpa died... My brother is living his own life i'am so happy for him..my family is in a poor situation...
I'am 11(doing 12 in april 9) years old, never want to swap places with any person, even if their family arent toxic or love they, they also have problems.....
This comment will prob get deleted soon...
@@N_I_C_K-JWhy?
@@girly_pookie idk i forgot about it so leave it alone
@@girly_pookie they'll probably get hate for being too young and that they should not "kNoW aBoUt ThIs" I suppose
I am NOT comfortable sharing my story online but I think I'm living your past.. we're about the same age tho
My grandma is toxic. Every time she talks she literally yells. Even my aunt agreed that she was toxic today when she was visiting.😃
I had a panic attack in the hallway when i was 5 because i saw my parents fighting in the living room 😀
I literally get jealous everytime I see a happy child, mum and their dad just having a fun or finding out their dad dosen't drink ..it just sucks because we can't even have those laughing moments together or have a normal day without fighting
Yea it's my dad drinking problem that breaks my heart and soul my mom's an angel tho so at least i have her...
My Family problem is that my Dad is very stubborn, it makes me sad, sometimes my parents get into fights because of it
@@alexandrasanchez. Same here Idk why she's with him I hope they seperate because dad's victim blaming always on mum it sucks
@@yez9475 can relate to that..mine personally have a big ego but i hope everything gets better!
@@drep2443 You too
Bro healthy has to be censored now-
Why though?
@@i_do_3975 that’s what I was thinking.
Thats what I was thinking like what?
The world we live in
@@luv7164 FR and whats so tiggering about the word toxic either
Why do people on tik tok censor the randomest shit
Wait i just realised
because of moderation
@@archiveofyass the word healthy tho
Is his tik tok or yt shorts? Exactly
@@JolyneCypher its originally made for and is from tiktok, it was just reposted here
Even though I am one from a toxic family i would never in a million years want God to swap my place with someone else. Like why would I? I know exactly how it's gonna break them. The self harm, suicidal thoughts and everything. I'd never want anyone to go through what I went through, never in a million years.
I grew up in a healthy home, my husband grew up in an emotionally, physically and verbally abusive one. We've been married 14 years, and to this day I still see the effects of his childhood on his life. he's almost 40. Every. Single. Day.
i have a very healthy relationship with my parents (and my parents too have w each other) but my parents went through a LOTS of toxicity during their childhood. from abuse, violence to deaths. like lots of trauma. they still chose the right path instead becoming toxic themselves like their environment. now they are trying their best so i can live a good life. i love them. i am really thankful
Exactly!! My parents are overprotective, abusive, strict.. basically most Indian parents. But I don't consider it toxic. I didn't even consider getting hit by belts or combs toxic. Maybe overboard or emotionally draining but not toxic. I think I have a pretty healthy family.
Mostly because my parents grew up in way worse conditions than me without a good parent to look upto. One of their parents not even being there for them. Parenthood has always been new to them and they are just trying their best for me and that's what matters to me. (This is what I'd like to say to others that first know where your parents are coming from)
I do think that most people here actually have toxic families but most of them just like to throw around the word "toxic" without a thought. Or they are young and too sensitive (like I used to be)
@@pancakesxoxo1064 EXACTLY BRUH!!!
@@pancakesxoxo1064 EXACTLY
Trust me bro even I m going through the same. I m never to become a bad person. Not always the victim becomes the abuser
my dad grew up in a physically abusive household and thats what made him disregard my mental health problems and justify him self harming infront of me….
All children deserve parents, but not all parents deserve children
honestly true.
True
No. Growing up in an abusive household you do NOT want to swap places because that means someone else has to take your place and you know exactly how that'll break them. You just want to be and have been somewhere else your entire life.
Fair enough but that’s what she wanted not thinking about the other person she was just thinking about having a better family
Facts
That's exactly what I was thinking
This was the same comment I was going to write. I personally grew up with a good family but I wouldn't wish bad things upon others. Even if I have to deal with thrm.
True . But I really wished some people who keep telling me that it's not a big deal , I'd definitely want to " make deal with God " and let them struggle to survive in a environment which should feel like home feels like hell .
It's always funny when people with healthy families express shock when I talk about how much I hate my parents. They always assume you feel that way over something petty too, until they hear the stories. Some people should genuinely not be allowed to have kids.
it kinda hurts when you‘re seeing a healthy family, but it also heals somehow lol (like seeing normal interactions, it‘s so sweet)
I understand the point, but even if you are in a healthy family it doesn't mean you don't have any problems at all. it just makes it quite easier.
Exactly some people seem to think that children with healthy parents dont have problems at all....
Yup,im in a healthy family(that has problems sometimes but its normal)and i still hate myself and have anxiety
Problems exist, but some families just know how to stick together when they're facing issues. This is what makes a healthy family
@@luffluffy7 i said it is easier sometimes to solve them but not always. but it also depends in what level is toxic. i understand that some kids really need fam love which i have and im so grateful, but i really sometimes want to have what my best friend has, that she can stay in her room or go out or have other social cause her parents dont really care about that. im not grateful but i feel so limited because they care too much. but i think that in the end everybody wants the one thing they dont have so..
@@swaraalkunte6707 we know you have problems, but one of those problems is not having your phone nearby whenever your parents argue in case you have to dial the police because that argument may be the last one they'll have, is it?
Why did she write “healthy”with an @ sign?
I think it's because tiktok flags certain words
yeah but why does healthy get flagged
@@smiffyer tbh i wish i knew
isnt like eating an apple healthy?
@@smiffyer it's because calling something or someone healthy is considered rude and it's supposed to be a jealousy statement
It’s probably not the best idea to wish someone a toxic life…
My exact thoughts
And when did she say she wished her a toxic life? 💀👌
@@jaylieimu6164 when she said she wanted to swap places.
Yepp
@@OoCarapherneliaoO she didn’t say that, that’s the song. 😑
I wish we all can just live a peaceful life one day, so we don't need to exchange or compare toxic and healthy families! I just wish we the future of our generations be blessed with kind and caring kids! Hope u all take this message!
nah cause i hate how people with stable loving families complain about their parents being “Too controlling”
like it ain’t fun to have parents who don’t care about you
Fr
Since my family is too careless about me (they say they love me but don’t show any love from the beginning ) I think I would rather have controlling parents too.. It’s just a choice for me tho
as a kid who came from a very controlling toxic household, both are just as bad. they would never let you go outside and then wonder why you shut yourself in your room. they want you to be smart but dont give you any time to study by always needing you by their side when they vent. they tell you you dont need to have friends when you say that you dont wanna go to school because of bullies, and you only need to study. they say you should dress better but dont give you the things needed to. they say they love you but their actions show that they dont care (not cooking food, asking how your day is, checking on you when your 33° degrees hot, assuming your being lazy when your doing something). they give you necessities (phone for communication, school fees, clothes, shoes, a bed, a life) and then guilt trip or hit you when you dont do everything they tell you to. maybe that person your talking about also has a toxic family.
All I wanna say to girls with toxic families is don’t waste time on relationships when you’re finding yourself.
You’re too vulnerable and there is flood of terrible men out there. Either that, or you could end up being a toxic partner to a guy.
Focus on your personal growth, explore a little, find out your passions and follow it.
As a girl with a toxic family, wdym by finding ourselves? I don't get it
I'm in a relationship and my man is really supportive he has really helped me in my personal growth you can't just blame relationships for everything...
@@rozisszs he means recovering
I agree for the most part. I am in a wonderful relationship but I am dealing with so many personal problems (ex: ed, sh, and overall depression) I honestly feel happiest when Im doing what I want with nothing tying me down. I care about him dearly and one of my biggest fears is being horrible to him or overall just being toxic. My emotions are just all over the place 😕
@@rozisszs Figuring out who you are separate from your family. You lose your identity or can’t form an identity when you’re in a toxic dynamic. You explore what you like, your hobbies, your passions, your goals, form opinions on some topics, things like that. Find yourself. Know who you are. Your strengths and weaknesses. What makes you, well, you.
Don't judge other's problems. U don't know what they are going through. Like how some of us hide our emotions, a healthy family may look healthy on outside only
Please tell this to my friends😀
If it's just the outside then that means that's not a healthy family, does it? I know that everyone has their own problems, and having healthy parents doesn't always mean a happy life. Just social media and society in general causes so much distress on its own, that your fam is not the only source of depression. But I have to admit, that if you have healthy parents, you at least are lucky they care for you, as that's what they do. Some of us did not have the luxury to experience that type of familial love. But regardless, I'm sorry if you're struggling. I do have to say that I understand that feeling, even if I haven't been through the same situation
@@sin3358 bro wrote an entire paragraph 💀
that doesn't make any sense
@@pau7886 it makes perfect sense
i know how it feels:(
X2
Same
Same goes for me
Me too
Me too
In my husband's friend group, I'm know as the one that doesn't have daddy issues. My husband's dad died of alcoholism, one friends dad is in prison, multiple others have died or abandoned them. My parents came to my husband's house before we married and his friends had a lot of fun hanging out with my dad and listening to his stories :)
Real. My mom mentally hurts me so bad then asks why I’m always in my room
A healthy family doesn’t mean they don’t have problems outside of the family
Partner abuse,rape, bullying, eating disorder, depression, lost love one, etc
Trauma is different for everyone some are worse yes but, everyone has some form of trauma
EXACLTY
Fr how do some people not notice that?
THANK YOU!!! PEOPLE ARE ALWAYS LIKE “ur so lucky omg”
Yeah, I’ve got a nice loving family, dad is a cool guy and mom is supportive of everything but it didn’t stop me from putting myself into ED hell when I was a kid
I just want to say that having a toxic family can in fact be the cause of all these problems ‘outside of the family’.Not to invalidate anyone’s struggles but having a healthy family can most definitely ensure that u don’t suffer from childhood trauma,which lasts forever until u die.
Them talking about their childhood is the most wholesome shit, while I'm crying inside 💀😭
I have a healthy family so everytime I used to tell my friends a story about something in my childhood they be like „oh shut up you don’t have a ToXiC FaMaLy“
Alright so I’m not allowed to talk sbout my childhood because my famaly is healthy alriiighhhhtttt 💆♀️
that is rude but don’t you realize how hard it is to have a family that is just about fights? i have one but i still listen to my other friends “oh my dad this and my dad that” “i went out with my parents” “i am going to see my grandparents” and i feel like shit but i don’t say anything.
@@phoqwu that sucks but if people are never told your home life isn’t the best then they can try to be more sensitive. If you don’t tell them then you have no right to get mad at them about something none of you can control
@@phoqwu I’m so sorry about that ,i think we should just except each other and let each other talk no matter what there famaly is like or what they look like because at the End of the day where al humans and should love and support each other 🫶🏼🫶🏼
Yes,let the people with an abusive childhood alone,i had one of those,and every single time my friends would talk about their life and the good things ,i would feel like the absolute shit,also ,my parents we're the whole pack(abusive,toxic,strict)also,they both died in a car crash ,gladly,i didn't have to deal with them anymore (it happened when i was 18)
@@ralucasandu870 are you saying if your family isn’t toxic you have no right to talk about them..?
I love hearing people talk about their healthy amazing families. It's how I learned what healthy was so I could do my best to provide as close to the same as I possibly could for my daughter and grandchildren. Plus it feels good knowing not all families are sh*t.
I would never swap places
I don't wish the toxicity on someone else, I couldn't imagine making someone go through that
why do you have to censor healthier and toxic like they are slurs
Bc I’m UA-cam’s eye it is in videos😫
Because UA-cam is getting sensitive these days lmao
@@jaylieimu6164 with youtube shorts people are posting more offensive content faster so they have to add more restrictions sadly
@@UltimateGummyCat22 yeah that makes sense
@@UltimateGummyCat22 yeah I agree
i'd never want to swap places, i've learned a lot living in a toxic family and i now have a safer life
Like what?
Same. It feels my entire childhood was ruined thanks to my family. My only concern tho is that one day I just shouldn't end up repeating the same toxic patterns I grew up with, thinking they were normal.
I have seen in internet some of the people from toxic families i guess easily consider everyone is a bad human and i have seen people assuring them that no their families are very good people. Its sad to see that...
I grew up under very shitty circumstances. But that's a me problem. I know I'm strong enough to not let my personal experiences cloud my judgement and ruin my critical thinking skills.
Mind over matter. We're all capable of removing our childhoods from ourselves. I believe in y'all
Why is her only personality trait is that her parents are divorced
fr..
bet you don’t have divorced parents that’s why you don’t understand, it’s an extremely important thing that happens in your life and it affects it tremendously
@@maxinefrye and who said you were the creator of this vid? Everyone deals with pain and grief differently.
There may be some other things going on as well.
@@lucidlemonarts7597 it’s not an assumption if it was true tho?😭
My family is really toxic. I don't want to show it to anybody but now I feel suffocated. I'm a girl and I'm 25 rn from India and I live with my parents. My family is hella toxic, I never show it to anybody, I always show bright side of my family to anyone but deep down I'm broken. My father is alcoholic and he controls everything in my life. My mother always yell at us. My parents always criticise me, I can't even explain how they emotionally abuse me. I was a bright student but now I've lost what I had. I have no where to go. I'm suffering from depression from the last 4 yrs. I've no hope for my future.
I hope you find a way out of it and you love happily ever after.
I feel you so much…it is so heartbreaking and you are so strong! I wish you would find the way how to escape this “stuck in a rut” circle and experience a beautiful life full of happiness.
Same here girl....I hope I get a chance to talk to you.... wanna share n feel light
Honestly I don't wish this upon anyone and don't mind going through this anymore.
This is how I got my survival instincts. The reason why I'm pretty strong. The reason I don't let people walk all over me.
They both suck no matter what, you feel spoiled and a brat anytime you get something without asking, or even if you ask. They’re helicopters, and are always pushy and extremley personal. They never let you have breaks and get mad when you don’t agree with them, or annoy/slightlyhurt them on accident (or maybe this is just my family and I’m a ppl pleaser) they’re always up in your space asking you things, don’t let you go anywhere without them (EVEN IF YOUR OVER 13). No matter what you do they always ask for more, and when your sad they ignore-or tell you to “calm down” or “it’s not that big of a deal” or “be quiet, it doesn’t hurt that much”. They constantly brush off things you say and act like they’re the victim anytime you slightly hint at being a bit uncomfortable/anooyed/sad around them. Every-time you ask for something that’s not that big of a deal and they don’t have plans EX: going to the park on the weekend -sat- AND it’s sunny. They will say “another day *insert name*, so many times that you stop asking and give up. And you feel uncomfortable and uneasy around them.
Or maybe I don’t have a healthy family idk 😭
Plus there’s a lot more, I just can’t remember
I personally never grew up with a toxic family, but I feel bad for the e people that did.
everyone: so relatable 😍
me: why is healthy blocked out? (he@lthy)
@urlocalfrogdude:) how lmfao
@urlocalfrogdude:) So if i tell someone "Eating an apple is healthy" They gonna get triggered? Healthy means quite a bit of stuff, but i'll try not to assume.
y’all haven’t felt it until you get your phone taken away for not closing a door
Edit: to everyone saying I’m “privileged” for only getting my phone taken away, I didn’t wanna over share but here goes. Basically I got told to close a door and I didn’t, and then I got scream at for an hour and a half, phone taken away and got the silent treatment from my parents for the rest of the night.
Exactly
Bro the worst punishment as a kid for me was since my family moved to a new country and didn't have enough to buy me a phone my mom would say your grounded go to sleep, because it was summer and all I wanted to do was stay up.
@@UltimateMetanoia wow naughty naughty
@@meg._.09 bruh
@@meg._.09 same
wow everyone in the comments attacking her for this video even though it’s so true. I’d give anything to have a healthy family.
It’s the first part. It sounds like “oh you can’t have any problems because you have a supportive family” I have a very healthy family, but I have to put up with emotional abuse from my friends.
Same
@@Wake-up..thisIsAllJustADream nobody said healthy families dont have problems. its the fact that you receive support and love in your household is the difference. if you had a toxic family and suffered emotional abuse from your friends, your parents would blame it on you and cause more emotional or even physical abuse on you. please dont make this about yourself, you know you can ask for help from your parents while some kids cant.
@@a_idiot_bun yeah thats my toxic parents do to me :')
@@Wake-up..thisIsAllJustADream theyre talking about family not friends
My dad always does things like this and I’m tired of it, I keep telling him that it messes with my feelings, but no one ever listens.
I had a good life as a toddler/baby, but now I’m absolutely sick of it. I get told I’m complaining all the time, and I never get time to my self. My dad always yells at me and calls me names, and my moms cheating on my dad with someone I hate.
My mum is literally amazing! She’s always been there for me. And her boyfriend has always been there for me like a dad SHOULD be. My dad doesn’t really do much with me. He lies abt things so I don’t come over. So I sort of know what it feels like.
I hate how so many dad's are POS and most of the "good ones" get praised for doing the bare minimum, while most mom's get sh!t on/told how they could do better even when they're above and beyond.
@@Snow29086 I don’t hate my dad, it’s just hard sometimes, I still love my dad. Just know, you will get through it all 💕
Fr every time my friends talk about their parents I just go to the restroom
ok thats just not even thats toxic bro u cant just walk out on ur friend when they try to open up just cuz u wanna open up too??? thats not real friendship
@@dareenkina you don't know anything about her friendship so how do you know it's not real friendship. She might be sensitive to that topic. You never know what people are going through so dont assume.
@@dareenkina Thats just a really insensitive thing to say :/
Lol 😂sorry that is kinda funny but relatable. I just go somewhere else if it irritates me so much but I dont wanna make a scene
I just want to escape. Please. Don't make anyone else have my pain, just get me out of here. I'm begging you.
Please talk to a trusted adult,like your aunts,uncles,grandparents,teachers,neighbours....anyone!! They can get you out of here. Go to a police station after school,call the police (do it preferably when they're outside or are deeply asleep) my heart breaks for you
@@yomna.is.normal I'm too young to go out on my own and idek where a police station would be. My parents don't wanna get me therapy (I presume since they don't even wanna get it for themselves) and I can't tell any adults around me because they only include my family and teachers who I'm not close to. I wish I could do smth but I can't. Thank you for trying to help tho
I have a friend, I was really surprised when she told she shares everything with her mother. I still think she's so lucky that can do that. She thinks that every parent it like hers and forces me to talk to my mother too when I know I just can't. She forces me that if I don't tell my mother things, she will. But my mother will never care why I didn't tell her anything, she only cares why someone told her something about me. Isn't it obvious?
I don’t share everything with my mother but I don’t hide everything either, I’m middle of you and your friend I think. But I understand you, sometimes you feel like you are so distant with someone that you can’t bring yourself into a conversation, even If this person is from your family, and I think It’s okay, to not feel close enough to her. If youdont want to talk, just don’t . Relationships change to the person you are with, and there is no need to force yourself to be good terms with everyone
@@Columbina.Damselette Thankyou so much for this❤
Why was the word “Healthy” censored?
I was wondering that too
Exactly she typing it like its offensive 💀
@@sn00ze74 she doesn’t want her video taken down on tiktok. Toxic was also censored
Bc tiktok makes people censor everything lol
@@serenity5833 this UA-cam though
I wouldn’t want to give another person this treatment even if it meant I wouldn’t have it.
@Kyra just real traumatized lol, it’s better now tho
girl w healthy family: "my parents are so supportive!"
me: "yeah same!" **cries internally**
Whenever my parents tell me we’re going somewhere rlly fun, I get extremely excited and that’s what makes me happy the entire day. And when they get back hone they just start swiping their phones and when I ask them ‘So r we going?’ They just say ‘You know what.. lets not go anymore its quite late’ when literally all the festivals haven’t even started and it’s like 6:00 or something. And they sleep at 11:30+. Wow. So real. And then when I confront them abt this behavior they just burst out laughing and they don’t take me seriously. All these festivals happen once in a year or once every four years. Every time we plan abt going there, in the end they’ll just be swiping their phones. And they try to comfort me by saying ‘What do u want to eat we’ll bring u there’ and the next day when I suggest a restaurant they’ll be like ‘dang thats rlly far’ ‘thats kinda expensive’ like literally the restaurants they choose are always 130+ and when I choose a cheap ass restaurant they say its expensive and very far. They always force me to go places with them but when I want to go somewhere rlly near my home and no money needed, they just dont give a sh*t. And every time my brother is also sick so we can’t go. I’ve cried abt this more than 11-12 times bc it always happens, but they dont care. And they try to make it seem like they care abt me by saying things like ‘oh ...i thought ...blah blah blah blah over exaggerating excuses’ but in the end they dont rlly care. Ik these parents aren’t toxic but to me its worse than being tortured. I’d rather die than suffer in this horrible family where no one cares abt me and my brother is the only one that shines in the entire relative/family tree.
I'm so sorry,I know you feel :((
I'm not judging,but I don't think that they're bad to the point of making you wanna die,I get it if you're sensitive (I am and I cry & get hurt for the smallest things so I don't blame you :`) but death & the word "horrible" are really strong,unless you mean it.
But still,I hope your parents actually care more about you & your brother and your feelings. I'm glad your brother makes you happy though:>>
My best friend has the perfect family, I only met her this year and about to be our second year bestie anniversary but she has the most perfect family ever, her dad is the sweetest and sometimes over friendly and she says that’s embarrassing but she needs to know that I’d trade anything for her family
edit) I love my moms side and my mom, like I am closer to my moms cousins than I am to my dads siblings defo and it’s bc his sister is a phycho and her brothers is just rlly rude, threatens people and thank god I don’t see them much and my dad is also shouty and super toxic. I love my distant family and aunt, uncle, grandparents from my moms side and my dads COUSINS are fine but not siblings or parents
Same I can’t stand my dads siblings. His parents and he all fine but his siblings are just too toxic.. And I love my moms side and her. I’m glad you have a friend like her. She should be a nice person too 🤍
@@Columbina.Damselette yeah im grateful for my moms side and some of my dads side but his siblings, I just can’t because they live with my grandparents so when I visit I just don’t want to stay there (bc they live in the same place as my aunts from my moms side) but they just are so toxic, and knowing tha5 there relationship with my dad and grandmother isn’t good, I’d just much rather stay away from the shouting environment. and yeah my friend is rlly nice, and I just forever would want to be with my moms side
no no no cause the best feeling is when you meet someone like you and you can finally talk about your problems and relate and finally feel normal
“He@lthy” Lmao
Actually. I would NEVER wish to switch places with someone else if that means they would have to go through what i go through. Its absolutely painful and the amount of times i called the cops and had to lie is crazy
Edit: let’s not compare in the comments.🫶🏻
Same, I asked for help once, and they made me apologize
Saying, they put a roof over my head
@@Castodre bro- it’s literally their JOB to put a roof over our heads. 💀
@@Dianaforpresident yea 🗿
Yeah I stopped cleaning cuz he always says I'm lazy I'm literally always gets blammed I'm not the one who makes mess. They say I'm lazy and it's because we had phones. It's their fault I was always cleaning before until they starts blamming me that I stopped cleaning. They always gets mad if I don't do what they say Litterally we are 4 and they only asked me to do things sucks. I wished I was never born.
@@Mizuki53I am a 16 yr old girl and the first daughter. My father knew very well that I wasn't feeling fine but he beat me outside the street naked😢. That's feels like the worst thing ever I feel like running away from home
Im a teen intern and work at a place that has stem camps for kids . I get to watch different families interact with their kids in so many ways. There is the protective parent who stays 10 mins after drop-off to watch the kid, there is the busy parent who is on the phone in the lobby but watches their child the whole time smiling, and the loving parent who kisses and hugs their child goodbye. I feel horrible for feeling a twinge of jealousy every single time. I basically raised myself, my parents were too busy for me, were toxic and emotionally abusive to me, im scared every time I see my mom. Like, why couldn't I have what they have. What did I do wrong
Fr when I was 7 I was praying everyday my mom died and my dad marry another good women
you shouldn’t wish death upon anyone…
you should ent pray death upon anyone, Please pray to the lord for forgiveness. :)
Healthy people just shows less emotion but they are always positive.
Toxic people just overreact but they are really that happy in life just like me but they struggle to feel positive when in a situation they don't like.
POV:u don’t have to worry because u always stay in ur room
Pov:u can't do that either
Pov: you do that and not only get yelled at about it but get depressed, realized how neglected you are, have your parents easily assume who You are no matter how good you actually try to be, and still have parents complain about how you are when you are out of your room.
I don’t have a room🙂↕️
I never wanted to swap places with anyone because how could someone go through everything I had and stay mentally sane. I just wanted out of the house and to be left alone.
“OmG tHaNkS fOr BlOcKiNg OuT He@lThY iTs OnE oF mY tRiGgEr WoRdS”
Umm that’s actually super really super duper offensive to those who are sensitive to that word, u don’t know what they’ve gone through dood🙄😒 GODHSBSJSJSJA
@@cryaboutitkid7745 LMFAO I THOUGHT U WERE SERIOUS UNTIL I SAW THE EMOJIS
@@carolina-pf5cz 😭
Lol no, she blocked it out because it was originally posted on TikTok, and TikTok doesn’t allow Healthy for some stupid reason
@@jaylieimu6164TikTok doesn’t allow the word healthy due to people suffering within anorexia or other forms of eating disorders
this song just makes me happy
I have a very healthy family! Hope you all have one as well! 💕💕💕
Nope
Nopee
Its not just hoping girl,its people,they dont change
@@manu_rsrsrsr I’m sry I don’t understand what u mean 💕 could u pls explain
Im sry for those of u who don’t! I’ll be praying for you guys! God bless you all
Literally me around my friends , i just stay quiet
Yeah , me too 😐
Relatable..
Me too!
I never knew why I couldn’t remember my childhood…
Only pleasent memories are left in your brain i have none
My mind is mud ground and rain
Dirty embarassing useless
i told myself so many times saying that my parent aren’t emotionally abusive its just the day or they are in a bad mood. It really really broke me when i realized that the fights amd everything is becoming an everyday thing.I cant wait to go to college far away from my house so that i finally can have mental peace.
I'm jealous whenever I see a family happy.
Why did I do to deserve this.
We not gonna talk about the fact that they censored the word “healthy”
Nothing like getting yelled at for sleeping, crying, and talking
Ikr. I got screamed at for 5 hours straight, grounded, and forced to stay in my room for the rest of the day for “breaking the rules” and sleeping at day. I also had to protect my 2 year old brother from being “punished”. The reason that they left bruises on his arms, to show that there the adults and that they have more power.
Ikr!
gen z is so soft they feel the need to sensor healthy and toxic..💀
it’s something to do with the tiktok algorithm actually 😭 for some reason if you don’t censor some words the tiktok gets taken down :/:
It's not all of gen z but it is the majority
Oh lolololo,gen z ,you 45 or? she's,,soft" bc she had trauma when she was little,you prob didn't have one of those toxic childhoods so,shut the fu#k up
abigayle “stinkwad” merklinger has no clue how tiktok and their moderation works so proceeds to blame “gen z” for censoring their words despite the fact that they have the risk of being flagged or banned 😂😂😂😂😂
@@randyiniego998 LMO
I feel like people are being taught that you should be ashamed if you had a healthy childhood without abusive parents or trauma…
You know what! I would love to listen to their childhood and look at the outcome!! 😤😭
It ain't a good sign how relatable these things feel
I’ve never seen anything more relatable 😌
I have a nice family and I’m really lucky, but every time where all together we fight no matter what, so I’m not sure where I fall there
Same we will call it hoxic or tealthy 🤣😭🤣
an average family lol. not the healthiest but not the toxiest either, basically my family
As a person with a healthy family im extremely thankful that is have got this experience i know there are people out in the world there struggling
"I'm not sick, I'm healthy!"
"MOMMY SHE'S CUSSING AGAIN!"
POV: your family is pretty normal and everyone else is having trauma wars and talking about divorces:
👁👄👁
Ya just described me-
My moms side of the family is healthy but my dads is 😬 once I had to have a sleepover at my dads sisters house I cried myself to sleep that night
thats the same way with my dads and moms family
“You’re so healthy!”
“Stop swearing at meeeee!”
Yo thats me
My parents are not only toxic but abusive
(Strangling, punching, slapping, hitting EXTREMELY hard, doesn't care about my feelings, controls how I act and how I dress, strict, swearing, yelling LOUDLY, forgetting I exist, nearly killing me) then acting all so "innocent" in front of others.. But now its like they don't care my Dad yelled at me in front of all my teachers like what,where's the version of acting all "innocent" and when you treat me "nicely" (cause others are over) I feel weird
Anyone else?
This always makes me so sad when i hear people talking about how they libe with both parents and have a good life
What about the ones who didn’t have a family in the first place that grew up in an orphanage?
Healthy oh I mean he@lthy
Same expect im the one with a healthy relationship also wouldn’t that mean u make that other person the one who’s hurting?
She is just saying she wishes she has a healthy family tho
i grew up in a toxic environment and i wouldn’t want that for anyone.
I literally am so jealous of all the ppl who have such amazing close relationships with their parents
Felt that especially cause all of my friends have a healthy family
Kate Bush has been playing with the Helium balloons again.
OMG 😭😭
STOP-
Bro💀
STOP 😭😭😭😂
Can you make a video explaining your backround' child hood and why you mooved out early
She dropped out of highschool
It’s honestly so sad that some kids have to go through this.
This is so true, i dont wanna talk about my childhood because my parents g@mble, Till this day, i have mental breakdowns when i hear them screaming whenever they get very angry at g@mbl!ng
We live in a society where healthy is censored
TikTok doesn’t allow the word healthy due to people suffering within anorexia or other forms of eating disorders
8That's stupid tbh, like "eating an healthy apple"@@herprettynails
@@Millyxxwashere Still tho, it can still be a trigger word for those suffering with eating disorders, ik it may seem dumb to censor the word healthy. but that’s why it’s censored unfortunately.
Ya cause Same.. all of my friends tell their parents what's going on in their lives but I don't tell my parents about what's going on in my life even though we live in the same house cuz if i tell them what's happening then will just endup hurting me
I tell people I have a healthy family but my mom had stage 4 cancer and during that my dad had to be with her at all times and we came from a other city and lived at my mothers sisters time to time and we were kicked out barefoot once , I was 7 and my brother 14. You never know what people go through tbh
wait this is me and my bsf and whenever she talks about smth that happens in her toxic family she acts its fine LIKE GIRL ARE U OK???😭😭
I literally cried when a girl was talking abt her healthy family she said o mahhh goshh why are you crying I said actually I had smthing in my eyes ..... y'all don't know how I felt 😭
I'm not sure if its just me or does anyone attach themselves onto celebrities who are full of love and hope they will take you away from your family. It comes to the point where you stalk them out of desperation to meet and feel safe for the first time. I risked my life and jail time just to get to him at the end of his concert. The pain is torture
That’s just you, your a creepy person I don’t ever want to be friends with. I feel bad for that celeb your stalking.
Same… wait I misread the last part nvm that’s crazy
yes
:/ literally
@@xxxaestheticxxx5682 mhm.. that's the main problem lmfao
ngl we get yelled at for spilling some water but when they (our parents) do it it's suddenly just 'oops'
Fr tho