Why You Can’t Change (How To Reinvent Yourself)
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- Опубліковано 9 чер 2024
- There will be low and negative points in your life. Life comes at you in waves. Are you emotionally prepared to navigate the storms that inevitably come your way?
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0:00 A Story
5:28 Life Comes At You In Waves
7:59 Your Mind Is A Harmonic Oscillator
9:38 How To Reprogram Your Brain
10:01 If You Want To Reinvent Yourself
12:51 You're Mind Is A City
17:24 The Two Paths To Reinventing Yourself
19:14 Stacking Small Wins
23:46 Create A Vision For Your Future
26:56 Your Life Is A Science Project
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How to change your life
How to overcome negative emotions and phases of life
The best approach to self improvement - Спорт
“You have power over your mind - not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength.”
-Marcus Aurelius
Stoic gang🤝🏻
Sadly that's not true either the chemical of our brain is out of our control and that's why people can't change over a night
I don't. My mind has power over me.
The harder a winter is, the sweeter summer will be. The more you suffer or the broken your environment is as a child, the longer your journey of growth will be and the more deeply you can enjoy your success once you get there. People who start out strong in life will drop into some deep pits and lose everything. Those who start out weak will grow and always be in a better situation than they started with.
I needed this.
Me too
Needed to read this 😢thank you 💕
I like this comment, the only thing I'd change is to specify that "unconscious people who start out strong" will suffer later.
Being prosperous is not inherently bad and if you remember the Source of your blessings then you need not suffer unnecessary lessons like those deeply unconscious ones.
You instead learn, level up and move onto the next challenge attracting more blessings as you go.
@@ZakkFromSource I appreciate that addition. Any parent should strive to gift their children with the best opportunities and assets possible, but equally importantly, they need to make sure to teach them the origin and meaning of those assets, as you wrote, and the attention required to preserve and further grow those assets. If not, they will leave their children a pasture with sinkholes, which might trip them and plunge them into chaos, which would be irresponsible of a parent.
Yo what the heck I am listening to this while my troop is waiting for our bus to take us to Catalina island for Boy Scout camp 😂🙌, funny coincidence, this is my last time going to scout camp.
No way hahaha have fun dude 🤝
@@DanKoeTalks thanks yeah it was a super fun time 🤩🙌
This quote from Dan is so powerful! "If you don't know what you want, understand what you don't want and work in the opposite direction"👊
Best takeaway from this video, in my opinion. Also don’t stress about figuring out what you want to do. No one can expect a 20 yr old to have that worked out in most cases. It’s nonsense. You can be 60 and not have that worked out. But following this tip will ensure you never wasting your time. Have your life right now whether you know “what you want to do” or not. It’s an ongoing process that almost no one ever works out to their satisfaction. Move toward things you like and away from things you don’t. Try not to stress about it because there is huge mythology surrounding this. I could be all of your mom’s, pretty sure. Enrich yourself always but know you are enough right now. 💕✅
I needed this. I've hit rock bottom last year, and a major core of my personality is collapsing. I have to be slower in building myself back up.
Hey Dan, Thank you for sharing such useful advice. I began my journey to reinvent myself a year ago, and I'm now living healthier, more confident, and stronger, earning six figures, and having time to enjoy family and friends. I'm happier now because I'm living my life for myself. This is to encourage someone that "you may start whenever you want to have a reset, it's worth it!" I'm striving to keep growing since it's a journey.
@Pernile Clarke Change your mindset, read self-help books, expand knowledge, budget and don't spend on impulse, save, take your finances seriously, eat healthy, exercise your body, meditate; the list goes on... I hope it is useful to you.
@@marlena408 How did you grow to 6 Figure? I'm honestly trying to work on my personal finance this year.
@@monica64340 I learnt to be frugal, minimal on spending, saving and paying myself first through Investing, made Plans, growing passive income, Read a lot of books on finance, followed my plan consistently.
Congratulations to you that's so brave of you thanks for sharing🥰
@@marlena408 Please Marlena can you recommend books and a good professional can learn from?
Well explained, Dan. I second the notion of changing your identity if you want to reinvent yourself.
If you want your ideal behaviors to come naturally, you muct detach yourself from what you currently are. Envision yourself as someone to whom they're not a "chore", but a way of living life.
Appreciate your content. 🙌
Thank you for watching man🤝
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I love the scientific approach to designing your life. It's very similar to the mental model I'm using now: approaching changing my life as a software program (I'm a dev) Identifying bugs, testing solutions, adding conditionals for different cases, exceptions handling, incremental refactoring, documentation, change logs.... it's my professional deformation 😅
I am currently learning full stack dev and I love how you were able to apply the method to the tech world. I am interested in hearing more about your model. Things always make more sense for me especially if I can put it into perspective with my passion.
Hitting rock bottom at age 24 was the springboard for the success of my remaining 20’s and possibly even today. At the time I thought it was the worst thing, but it ended up changing my life for the better. I wrote a whole story about it.
I could feel your words deep in my soul. personal trainer, always in the gym, teaching exercise physiology in college and now retired. I just realized that I always wanted to do something else for a living... I loved playing with photoshop and corel draw until I was 18 and I was pushed to study things that I didn't want so much and work on those things. Now I'm taking online courses on photoshop, audio mixing and adobe premiere. and that's it, there's no age to start over. 36 this year and it's forward that life has to go.
I'm on a new chapter of my life, spent the last 12 years in self imposed poverty, living on small solar panels with a headlamp as my light source, not having a bathroom, or kitchen sink for 12 years, having to make everything from my shelters to my wood stoves from scratch. There have been moments where I wanted to give in and go get a comfortable job and quietly quit, but now I've suffered to the extent that I have a handful of companies trying to poach me from my mentor to manage their companies, or setup my specific niche business within their property. I've only been at my new house for a day now and brought the morale of everyone that lives here up by fixing their septic, resetting their DSL internet, fixing the wood stove to sweat the humidity out of the house from 85% to 61%, rewiring 2 prong outlets with grounds to 3 prong, killing multiple rats, removing mummy rats from the crawl spaces and removing furniture covered i old cat urine. I'm so happy to do these things too, it's now a easy job, but my mood is higher than ever before, because I have major appreciation for a warm sink, a highly efficient wood stove, my own room that overlooks a vast swatch of land, and many people. This only happened though after I hit rock bottom last year when my last property got sold, and I felt aimless because I never truely recovered from losing 80% of my whole sale accounts which made my business nonviable due to lack of employees to fill the work demands requires for increasing retail sales.
If you want to lead, you above all else need to hold this mentality at all times and be warey of sinicism, because bad vibrations exhibited by a leader will ripple throughout the troop. scouts honor
You sound like you’re doing it thoughtfully, I really like it. I’ve been doing a similar thing for 17 years. I need inspiration to change so thank you.
Thank you, Dan! Been watching all your videos and it really is expanding and elevating my mindset. Keep going man, keep adding value to humanity! Salute!
I like the connections you make on your videos between your personal stories and the concept you want to explain. Nice Dan!
This channel is awesome man ,keep up the great work .Love you talk about spirituality too,ties things in for myself .
daang man you were at 29k subs a couple weeks ago when I started listening, congrats. You've been alot of help to me and to those I know.
*Excellent talk, Dan. Your sincerity and vulnerability shines through beautifully!*
Amazing, full of value video as usual!
The concept of "life comes at you in waves" really inspired me. It's always difficult to accept difficult moments in life, but they're part of it and they can be a guidance for something better, f we can accept them and understand them for what they are: a mean to better ourselves.
This is exceptional
What is great about your videos is not only the integrity and brilliance of the content but the way you present, it is like you are having a real conversation with the spectator. It's very honest and unpretentious making it thoroughly enjoyable. I am very glad I discovered the Channel. Thankyou.
Love how u see and understand the lens that you're seeing through.
I was not expecting this, but your so insightful and this really spoke to me, as I am in that place right now where I am taking small actions to change my lazy habits and develop my goals for this year, versus not having any self discipline, in 51 years I didn't even have any goals, I am now 54, I do have some goals now, and I know if I keep making consistent progress and plan out each step of my goals that I want to complete I can get there one step at a time. This video, is insightful, impactful, it also has parts which speaks volumes, it is really awesome. Great video. I gave this a like thumbs up. Thanks Laura in uk
I hope things are still going well! It's really something that can make a huge difference, when you start having goals and aims you can focus your life towards.
Earlier in life, I didn't really think these fuzzy things like mindset, goals and planning could really make that much difference. But it does really make a huge difference.
You got this LAURA
Love your content. Thank you for all the free valuable information
Keep going and you're going to be huge. This is gold.
it's been days that i saved this video on "watch later" today i've finally seen it and i am so happy that i did.you had my whole attention through he entire video.i tried to understand everything that you said and i am so thankful.thank you so much i really needed this video
Its crazy that I'm so aware that these bad habits I have is going to cause problems in the future. But I keep on coming back to it. Its like I'm watching myself destruct itself but I cant do something about it
just thank you, Thank you for being you and making these videos..... they help
Binge watching here! Keep it up you are going to be HUGE!
Thanks Dan, we appreciate you brother.
Thank you for content! I have been going through it and currently reprogramming my sub concious and your right need to be patient and one layer at a time…
*My Learnings*
1. All Change is Identify Change
2. Change your identity but dont limit it
3. Take actions as your ideal version would have taken
4. Changing your identity can be achieved by three of many ways described in this video
• Hitting Rock bottom in your life
• Doing small changes
- Questioning your actions
- Figuring out cause
• Create your own vision for your future
Incredible wisdom. Thank you for making this video to help people, it's amazing
I appreciate you. Thanks brother. 👊🏾
Learning to ride the waves 🌊 🙏🏼 love your explanations and anecdotes for these big concepts.
Thanks Maja!
This is such an amazing explanation!
Fantastic, grounding and inspiring content! A huge help. Many thanks.
You're a great story teller...
I agree with you.. but I think it is possible to change instantly.. I listened to Allen Carr quit smoking and it instantly made me not even want to smoke anymore after years of trying and failing to quit.. haven't smoked cigarettes in over a year thanks to just listening that audio book. Now I study hypnotism and nlp because if a book can make such a huge change for me, then imagine what else can be changed that quickly.
It can definitely be instant (I mention it towards the end). There’s of course more nuance to each situation - but at the end of the day, small and consistent improvement is good for more than just changing yourself
I find it easiest to make big changes directly after big changes occur in my own life, such as moving to a new home or city; drastically rearranging rooms; a new car; new job; returning from vacation-all very easy ways of interrupting behavior/habit. Even New Year’s can provide a measure of this disruption as life tends to pause around then. The greater the disruption, the more freedom one has to make new behaviors; indeed is forced to create new behaviors. After the disruption, the process depends on using the newly freed energy on the behaviors I want to make.
I used this to quit smoking twice, and to develop discipline for new projects. Fasting can intensify the process by the momentum it can provide. Fasting is like adding a psychological exclamation mark to anything you value, and can greatly strengthen and magnify mind-body anchors.
I love how deeply you are able to think. Learning that from you.Awesome Video:)
Thanks, man
Damn, your scout troop sounds awesome. We went camping. Never did any repelling, mtn biking, or whitewater rafting. We did do a cool weeklong camp trip. Where I earned a few of my badges.
Excellent video, rich of valuable content. Life is a Science project, I would also say True Happiness requires design, setting and development of projects, always, throughout our life.
1:25 man… my brother and I did this when our family drove across country when we were little.
Watched Austin powers and played COD on a ps2 hooked up to a small CRT.
Truly an epic memory.
great that i need
Bro great content, following from long you voice has improved fantastically. Can u make a video how your constantly improving.
Well explained.
The waves in the sea is a test for the captain of the ship to see if he can navigate the storm. When the captain suceeds he becomes a master and eventually gets promoted with a bigger storm. Then he is able to Navigate even when the hurricane comes. Then he becomes a master of that again. Challenges all on and on
Those moments you call life are actually memories. Life is you, it's us.
I have played this video like 10 times
Your video gave me an electroshock. Thanks a lot for this
My biggest waves are coming from within, like tsunamis. I am bipolar. The good thing is that it's relatively predictable and managaböe to an extent. The worst thing is that it's much easier to drown. Having proper life support in place is paramount, but there's anyway a lot of wasted time going through deepest and higest points when I'm not able to row properly.
premium content per usual!
Appreciate you as always brother🤝
By hearing these words you will confident
It is made for you
"Bravo👀"
You just made me realize I half destroyed the main support of my city.. and I've been wondering why I lost my joy in life..
Yep. Life. Sure comes in waves. You can look into the future all you want but sticking to the present moment is what sets you apart from everyone else. The past doesn't do you much good either.
As soon as you get an illness. You start focusing on the present moment because there is no but if of tomorrow. Or, looking in the past. What you could've done because nothing you can do will change it except enjoying the process of what you already have. What if, I do this tomorrow? Well that's not happening, I could be dead or worse being disabled and watching your life go by into smothers. All I want do in life is to CREATE like you :).
Getting an illness is what really sets you in place to be honest. It's unfathomable/unimaginable. I could've complained to my current doctors or just do tests on my own then go back to the doctors be like BOIIIIII DO I GOT NEWS FOR YOU. The quote of "Do what you can control ( the process ) and leave the rest to fate".
I actually enjoy being healthy except the meals in the morning. Too indecisive of what I want to eat but the meals like protein shakes everyday regardless, If I worked out or not. I enjoy it and helps me sleep because of the long lasting bcaa animo acid profiles from casein.
I don't workout because I want to get a partner. I do it for my own sake, to not feel sore when sitting in my chair for 12-14 hours a day. Even though, I have a good chair but you'll get sore regardless. Non-excusable.
The time when I was borderline diabetic and gained 10 lbs within a week was horrific = immediately went to the gym and got semi-muscular. TDLR: A year later, my digestion has changed = not pre-diabetic ( I think ) anymore because I am able to eat as if I'm a regular person. Since in the past, I eat any carb food then I'll sleep immediately due to low energy and even with prescribed stimulants, wouldn't help.
For future pre-diabetics: If you are experiencing what I was experiencing. Just eat a shit ton of protein with low carbs throughout the day, Drink Alcohol and Just WALK, STUDY AND FIXED :). Side effect: Gain weight because your body has not caught up with the metabolism produced by your thyroid glands.
When? 2 months prior when I was exploring a town up north and decided to eat all protein that day while doing research for my work that I really enjoyed.
You build again
Basically change your identity, go 19:14
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“It’s the f*n Catalina wine mixer!”
I’ve been working on to make 10k a month but haven’t made any sales and it’s been 2 months of constant work😫
I see an upcoming billionaire- Dan Koe ❤
underrated as fuck
Why it is difficult
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I really like your stuff. I feel like its a shame that you put being alone in such a negative light - it’s not something awful and sometimes a better choice than being with someone that’s not right for you. It doesn’t mean you have less value.
Why do you not control strom
People have rightly lost trust in our failing late stage capitalism. Yet we are stuck trying to survive within it until we move on to the next way of organizing production in society. After 22 years of schooling and 20 years of working, with the burden of adult sized bills, you wake up one day to an economy that has no need for you or place for you. You don’t have years to chase down a whole new set of skills in hopes that it actually achieves something better than what the previous 45 years of learning achieved.
Important information you might have missed:
“I was a Boy Scout.”
My son just got Eagle, at 17.93 years old....whew! What win for him. He had lost faith. He didn't "feel" like an Eagle Scout. It took everyone around him to tell him they were all betting on him. It made all the difference. (Scouts "time out" at 18 yo.) I guess what I'm saying is that young people need supportive allies.
What is problem
Why you think so
Do you want this experience again
Why are you comparing life harmonic Oscillator initially you enjoying life
If this does not exist what is your own law
Why are you thinking about other
Do you want this city again what you will do
i am aware of the fact that i create this dream called reality. so i guess i dont see it the way u do
arg... i love the videos... but just an fyi.. there are no maps of rome, from the period of time we are told it existed as an enemy of many countries, made by either rome or any other country/city.... no need to tell anyone what that means, in terms of the validity of everything we are being told about rome and whatever things related to it...
anyhow... thank you for the insights, but the historical analogies are not based on truth because the history taught in schoolbooks actually has not been verified by anyone,.... and for example... no maps of rome ever made by anyone
also anything told in history books in general before 1700's can be easily shown to be false, by evidence ( ie there is no basis for anything told about human history before then - sad but true all that is repeated in the books was validated and verified worse than wikipedia... which you know is not anywhere accurate + it is based on the unverified things taught in schoolbooks, lol )
What is wrong
Please make your videos better put and concise.
also structured please.
Why do you want to change you identy
Why are you making your own life style
You only learn only words
Why it is terrible
You make a new girl friends
Why you felling weak
Why you not innovative
This is a great video and i’m probably going to sign up for your thing. Its really good.
*you should go to Rome’s old city while you can. My family went when I was young-a lot of Italy’s major historical cities were actually built on top of the old city and you can walk around in the old city. Its pretty great! Just thought you should know, also the ruins in many European cities are from world wars just last century. Sorry to be kind of a troll I just thought you should know :/ 🫣
Why you think so