How To Stop Wanting Things You Don’t Really Need | Clever Girl Finance
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- Are you content and happy with what you have right now? Or do you find yourself wishing and always wanting more? Do you want to learn how to stop wanting things you probably don’t need anyway?
Tune in to discuss why you might find yourself always wanting more plus tips to navigate through this feeling!
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How do you manage the urge to buy things you don't need? Share what has helped you in the comments below! Thanks for tuning in!
I manage my buy-em urges by walking away from the shop or online page for at least 2 weeks. After that time, if I still think I really NEED whatever it is, then I'll go back and buy it. The funny thing is that after two weeks, 9.5 times out of 10, I don't want it any more. Even funnier, very often I can't ever remember what it was I wanted. Thank you for an excellent channel and excellent advice.
Sometimes I watch videos of other people shopping, (especially thrift shopping because it's more like a treasure hunt and that is the itch I need to scratch). That can fill my craving for novelty and discovery without me needing to go shopping myself. Thrift shopping doesn't cost a lot of money but it's still stuff I don't need and the storage space issue is sometimes more of a deterrent than the money issue. Going through my existing wardrobe (or records or makeup, etc) can remind me how much I already have that I haven't even worn or listened to yet.
I cleared all my autofilled details and one-click and paypal info from all my usual sites. The break in between seeing something shiny online and having to go and physically get my debit card to input the details is a long enough pause for me to go "wait, do I really need this?"
I also make a list on my phone of everything I would have added to cart, and then in a few weeks I come back and look and go "wow, look at all this junk I would have bought" - I still get the window shopping experience without spending
I think about the time it will take to manage, clean, and store what I'm buying. This stops me from making another unneeded purchase.
I have made a decision to stop watching unboxing and haul videos. After adding up my receipts for taxes I was shocked at how many impulse buys I made as a result of watching these!
Wow.. I felt that.. luxury hauls are fun to watch, but if your not careful & realistic about your status you could wind up out here bad... I watch but I know my limits & I'm a thrifting queen. Been so since Jr high. I have a swag that can shut down the highest paid in the room. Simple, Chic... Less is more!!! I know who I am .... The Lord keeps me in check therefore no need to break the bank.... It's a Vibe lol💋👠🙏💪💯🤦❤️
Same, I stopped watching haul videos and it has really helped me save a lot of money. It works!
I find those types of videos quite obscene, they are also akin to boasting. They contain nothing that adds to my life, and are such a waste of time.
I don't watch those anymore either. It's like watching someone opening presents and you get nothing. It left me with feelings of being inadequate when I have no reason to feel that way.
I might be weird but for me , haul videos can help me to NOT shop. I can scratch the itch of wanting to see new things without having to actually buy them myself. But the ones I watch are thrift hauls not luxury stuff. Luxury stuff does not interest me.
I only buy thing that I've been depriving myself of for any years, Dried out and old makeup, better skin products for my face, new sheets and pillows for better sleep, a new wallet to replace the one I've had for twenty years that's been falling apart. I'm 71 years old. Now I feel I owe it to myself to buy some things to make me happy. When my husband was alive the focus seemed to be on his needs. Now I need to take care of me.
I’m turning 60 this year and I too have focused on family instead of myself in the past. After decluttering and Swedish Death Cleaning of my home and storage, I have made room for new clothing and furniture for me. When we align our budget and hence our spending with our values, we don’t feel remorse or regret.
Go for it! You deserve it.
Sending you much love, if you have the finance treat yourself well; especially if it benefits your health ❤💞
Definitely replace old make-up! I don’t think it’s very good for your skin to use extremely old make-up.
I have discovered that what matters to me is quietness and hearing the birds sing The peace that enjoying simple things brings is truly priceless
The # 1 ¨ Practise gratitude for the things we have !! ¨ speaks to me the most! Hot water in the morning, going to the..bathroom inside even! Being warm and confortable; people in Ukraine don't even have the basics! Thank you for reminding us of the amazing chances we have!
When I feel I've been spending too much I watch minimalist videos to bring me back to reality even though I don't call myself minimalist. I'm 100% debt free including my mortgage so I can easily afford nice things but I don't want to have too much of unnecessary things sitting in my closet.
I do the same thing. I’ve been spending a little too much lately and that’s why I’m here now watching videos to get me back on track.
@@MsKatalind we all need a reminder from time to time 🙈
I love how you said, “the feeling of wanting more is not an isolated emotion”. It comes with feelings of jealousy or anger or resentment- that was SO insightful and powerful. If we reflect on this it can truly be heart changing which in turn, can be action changing.✨💗
Thanks so much for tuning in and for sharing!
It took me a long time to realize that I don't need to keep up with my friends. Most of them are in debt over thier head, have filed for bankruptcy, and are anxious about the future. I am debt free and don't need things to make me happy. I have the cash available to travel if I want to and for unexpected expenses. I make under $40,000/year. This channel has helped my journey immensely!
That’s awesome! Keep your focus 🤩
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Congratulations, sweetheart!!!!! Enhorabuena.
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Beautiful this is where it’s at!!
Appreciating what you have is the best tip! Having manageable wants is the secret to being happy. If I buy the thing I want most another item will take its place. Emotional spending can be a big problem too.
Thanks for this excellent video. Here are three more tips: First, I go through my closets, drawers, shelves, and cupboards regularly to shed unwanted and unneeded possessions. Doing so helps me to stay organized but also makes me confront purchases that didn't work out for me, which in turn helps me to be much more intentional about future purchases. Second, I delay making purchases whenever I can. I put items I want on a wish list or into an online shopping cart and make myself wait at least a few days before buying them. Often, I forget about the item or decide when I return to it that the purchase isn't necessary. And, when I do decide to pull the trigger, I know that it is a considered purchase, not an impulsive one. Finally, I shop with a definite plan. I assess my clothing and accessories at the start of each season and make a list of items that are tired and that need repair or replacing, as well as new items that would help me to round out my wardrobe. Then, I shop with an eye toward making those specific purchases. That strategy helps me to stay on track but also, over time, it has helped me to develop beautiful, carefully-curated, high-functioning wardrobe.
Love your tips! Thanks for sharing!
What makes me happy is I will finish paying a 10,000 credit card off in June 2022 and a 8,000 credit card off next june 2023 I followed your advice ,using baby steps and I have a 6 month emergency fund, thank you for sharing some great advice
Wow Barbara! That is awesome! Way to go!
@@ComesTheLight thank you,I stop buying clothes and uggs boots and shoes, some I haven't even wore yet, after I retired I really don't need all of that stuff, lol not even makeup
I agree. I will have paid off a £5000 debt by August 2023 by doing a no buy year.
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I deleted all my shopping apps yesterday. Completing my house is the goal this year
Oooo I need to do this!
I don't shop for new items anymore but I have an addiction to thrifting decor! I'm going to give it a try. This video was good for me.
The tip being grateful for what I already have and the tip paying off my bill instead of buying unnecessary items. I have been able to stop myself by reasoning with why I need to buy a certain item. Thank You for these tips. 🧡
Thanks so much for these tips! We were taught at a young age not to try to do what everyone else is doing. You can only run one household and that is all. My father taught us to live with some "common sense." If there is two incomes coming into the home, life off of one and save the other. That way, you will always have some reserves if anything arises. Basically, like you said, people just need to learn to live within their means and stop trying to do what you know you are not capable of doing at the time.Thanks for sharing!
If I have a goal - a trip to England, a family member's upcoming birthday, a car to replace my clunker - it helps me say no to things I don't really need. And then when I am able to travel or pay for a surprise party for my mom, I feel such a sense of accomplishment and it makes the "sacrifices" worthwhile.
Love this!
I stop following influencers and makeup brands pages in Instagram. It really helps 🤗
I used to spend a lot of money on technology several years ago and managed to curtail the habit when I awoke to how much money I was throwing away (and to the fact that I was hardly using the tech). Another habit was creeping in over the last year or so where I'm buying stuff and later on noticed that I hardly used the thing. Even some self help books that I bought, and some books to do with money management/business; it's almost like I'm convincing myself that I am taking action by buying a certain books; but then they just sit there; and no action is taken.
Nowadays, every time I consider buying one of these books, I just look at the ones already on my shelf, and that immediately rings that alarm bell that says " you haven't even read (or used) those over there ". Same with any itch I get to buy technology. Glad your thumbnail showed up actually. I just moved accommodation and last night I was so annoyed at how much 'stuff' I have accumulated; was so irritating trying to figure out where to put all that STUFF, (things I hadn't used for several months; or years). I'm about to declutter. I think I am trying to fill a void. This was a good reminder (especially your advice on being grateful; it's so easy to forget). Thank you!
Thanks so much for sharing this! Sometimes we all need a reminder to reel things in
Thank you for this video. I have been making purchases to fill a void that never gets filled. I’m on a no buy for non-essentials (i.e. makeup) as I don’t need anymore and I have more than one face can wear. I’ve also stopped watching new makeup haul videos.
Thanks for tuning it! You’ve got this!
To live intentionally - I think that is very useful. It is so refreshing getting this kind of advise. Thank you
Def felt what you said on, "buying things to fill a void." I don't buy things for myself but find myself trying to buy things for others to fix their problems.
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Thanking God for what we have because without him we wouldn't have nothing
Excellent tips. I follow all of them. Know yourself and what you want. Be ok with who you are and what you have right now. Don't look to others for validation, admiration, or for comparison. Live your own life and stop looking at what everyone else is doing. Do all this, and you will be fine.
For me I just need to lose few pounds for my clothes to fit me again. Or else I’m gonna have to get rid of all my clothes and buy new ones. That’s not the route I wanna take.
Good luck! That’s a great way to save money lol
I hear that, I just want my tommy to go down .. and yes for my clothes to fit well... This would really aid in my less spending ....
Try intermittent fasting
My biggest issue is buying groceries I buy so much food but I’m learning how to cut down and finish everything before buying more
I can totally relate! I was just having a conversation about this with my daughter. I’m not “giving in” to the hype of grocery hoarding otherwise I feel like I’ll instill a sense of fear in my kids that we’re going to run out of food. Plus I hate wasting money on food that goes bad if we don’t eat it in time. Making meals from what you have (I feel) is so gratifying!!
Yes! I started writing a meal list AND a grocery list to go with it. It's all simple stuff we can make and actually use. I got so tired of throwing stuff out. We rarely eat sandwiches, so why buy so much sandwich meat?
I also added ONE "cheat meal" to the geocery list (I.E. if we're too tired to cook, it's something we can put in the oven). It's been working great so far.
❤️ this, so true! I find I have to take social media breaks now
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Taking a much needed social media break. I am going to use that time to focus on settling my debts. Really enjoyed this vlog.
I just have to say, in addition to being smart, you are so beautiful. Your skin is radiant.
I learned to be grateful and that brought on contentment ,it took years of back and forward too get here ,and I thank God I finally got here
I believe some people post and boast on social media on purpose to make their friends jealous.
I usually want new clothes and makeup. I’m pretty sure it’s because I want to look good but I know the best way to look/feel good is to eat healthy and exercise. I need to lose at least 30 pounds.
I've lost 27 pounds by intermittent fasting give it a try
@@simonethach7134 i have been curious about that. Thanks for the tip!
@@egr3071 I'm always active I play sports and do Zumba but I'm an accountant so I sit all day. My problem is I eat alot of carbs, stay up late, eat really late like 11pm among other bad habits and I have thyroid so I have a lot against me but when I started intermittent fasting and change my diet/ lifestyle and do more weight the pounds comes of within 3 months it's all about calories deficit 😁.
Do cardio with Fausto Murillo on youTube. You will get in shape quick! It is hard! But so worth it!!!
Listening to your program has been difficult however it is just what I need to hear 👍🏾
You’ve got this!!’
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I started writing them down and asking myself do I really need it… I’m the Queen at buying things I don’t need
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Contentment is the key! Thanks for sharing
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My issue is that I adore vintage clothing and historical fashion and keep getting drawn to making new dresses and gowns, knowing that I don’t have places to store them or many opportunities to wear them. But they’re so beautiful and I love to make them. So expensive though. Especially corsets, which are necessary and different for every era but I have to pay others to make. Will be making my first though soon. I just can’t seem to stop myself from wanting to make these things.
Hi!!!! Thank you so much for the helpful tips, sweetie. Ever since I started to really pay attention to my finances about eight years ago , I've been more aware and mindful in general. I'm way happier and more proud of my accomplishments than ever before. I appreciate your videos.💌💌💌💌💌💌💌
Thank you for all of these tips. Gratitude & self eval. are at the top of my list. I don't practice these enough. The break from social media has been huge for me to curb spending & meet my paying off debt goals. Mentally it's helped me too. The eye opener for me was when I got my weekly cell phone usage message. When I saw that I was spending more & more hours on my phone every week, I deleted apps... FB, Amazon, Etsy. Game changer!
this was exactly what I needed to hear. thank you so much. subscribed.
Two things that have helped me from shopping for things I don’t need have been to put whatever it is on my Amazon private list and to wait 24 hours before considering it for purchase. Often, I don’t even remember putting it on my list until I put another “must have” out there. Pinterest has been helpful for me to build my perfect home and wardrobe with boards of how I’d like to decorate each room and outfits to adorn myself. It’s fun to see how my taste changes from month to month. Above all, practicing gratitude is the best way to manifest peace in the “I want” mindset.
love love love this!
Gosh this really came at the right time-thank you!
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I put myself on a no spend detox for a week. I add it to my phone’s calendar every day: “DO NOT SPEND $$$!”. I do this when I find myself getting sucked into the “but I have extra $” and I spend it. April is a BIG expenses month: taxes, and 2 large house maintenance expenses. I’m debt free except for my house but I still feel like I can do better!
This is such a great video! Thank you for everything that you do, including the awesome resources that you offer for free! You are truly awesome!
You are so welcome!
I'm a New Subbie! Thank you so much. I am going to be grateful for what I have and detox from social media. Because I buy that I don't need because of influence. I'm so over it and I'm done! Thank you again!
This has been really deep and and has spoken to the insecurities inside of me and will use these to help me get better and looking after my finances and sense of well being thank you
Thank you for sharing these tips; it was really helpful. I can especially relate to Instagram shopping.
Thank You, I REALLY needed to hear this.♥️🙏🏾
I made a list of every single thing in my fridge and freezer. This isn’t strictly for grocery buying; it’s also to help prevent me from Not ordering restaurant food. This also doesn’t mean that it didn’t take me An Hour to talk myself out of it last night! Lol. Thanks. Cheers.
Thank you for your calm pleasant demeanor and good common sense!
thanks for this refresher on gratitude 🎉
being intentional is very helpful
Thank you for tuning in!!
Love these tips. I actually hadn't realised how minimalist I was until I noticed the things that other people had that I didn't. Now that I'm in my more permanent home I'm actually a bit more focused on getting things as it's something I wasn't before. Love your channel.
Thanks for being here and for sharing! You are doing great!!
Excellent tips. Wonderful contents. So true that you said that there is always something new to buy. To ward off my temptations I would sleep on it and look at it again the next day or in a few days to see if I really want/need it. A lot if time I found myself no longer wanting to buy it because I either don’t like it as much as I did or that I already owned have a similar item.
Love this! Thanks for sharing!!
These tips are awesome! Thank you so much for sharing.
Thank you Bola Sokunbi. I've managing the things that don't need to buy by saving the using products, for example, shampoo that I used once a week, buying only the most necessary foods to avoid huge wasted and cut off the beauty product including make-up things and buy the only necessary skin care things, and minimise the clothes in the closet where I just buy shoes 2 or 3 years only and using the same clothes which is still fine where I don't need to impress other people.
Thank you so much for the tips ☺️☺️
Thanks for sharing!!!🌹❤️
Hello! Thanks for your video! Great advice! For quite a while now, I have been having “cyber-free” weekends. It’s a way to just stop being so interested in things that in the end was a bit of a time waster. I unsubscribed to many emails from companies I have purchased from and I am trying to now watch unboxing, product reviews, etc. Some of my friends and coworkers tell me this is crazy…it’s all about the fear of missing out. Using what I have is important as the whole point was to use it. I do treat myself to the occasional items but not like before. Will check out your website next. Take care and stay safe!
Thank you for this video, it was much needed 🙌.
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I had to close down my amazon today cos I was buying like 4 or 5 little things a day. It all adds up tho! It also makes my house messy always having to clean up the packaging. The more I bring in, the more mess! I am spending so much and it needs to change. I have a financial goal for my next bday and I want to hit it!
Fantastic video, great message. Thank you!
You are very smart and made me rethink. I watched the house of Valentine earlier on and I wanted to t buy the marple table she has bec I really like it. I stay away from that. Thank you. U helped me to stop to buy unnecessary things.
Practice gratitude!!!! 100% always calms my spending itch!
What a fantastic video. Loved it.
Thank you so much!...I received a great spiritual lesson to apply and share with my daughter.
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Great advice, and I love the idea of being thankful for what we have. ❤️
Thanks for watching! ❤️
Tip 1 I have already implemented. Very helpful tips. Thank you😊
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This one is amazing informative ❤️❤️ much love
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Exactly what I needed to hear Thank you.
Thanks for tuning in!!
Thank you so much for the great sharing👍👍
Such wisdom.. so real.... I love it!!!
Thank you for being here!
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I made a decision 2.5 years ago to buy my own home, which kept me focused on saving and not spending. I still have moments when I’ll be influenced to buy something, but I need to do some home renovations, so that helps curb my behaviour. Plus, over the past few years I’ve learnt How to reframe my thoughts to help me stay focused.
Thanks for this!! Really important
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Be thankful....🙌 being thankful 🤗 thank you for sharing Clever Girl Finance 👍
Thank you for all your support Nafeesa!!
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Great tips...TFS!!
I agree with everything you said!
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I enjoyed your video, thank you
Social media is a big trigger for me, I spend money on things I truly do not need whenever I'm plugged in. I'm consciously avoiding instagram and facebook right now.
Great topic. Great video.
New subscriber here and love your name Clever Girl Finance! I’m so guilty of buying things I don’t need yet have an underfunded 401k
Do you really talking to me directly
I qas obsessed with luxury bags 🤑🤑🤑🤑🤑
Now I’m obsessed with makeup I can’t stop buying same things multiple times🤕🤒
I know I need to stop 😬😬
Try to use up one product before you buy another one you'll be surprised how long it actually lasted. I didn't buy shampoo, body wash and makeup for 3 years lol
Thanks so much this was very helpful
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I'm going to remind myself of what's important.
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Spot on video!
I didn’t know spend for six months and boy did it make me realize the stuff I was spending money on very frivolously. I no longer spend like that it was a big eye-opener for me. You should try it sometime.
Truth and facts🙌🏾
Paid off my home and now putting my money towards upgrading heat air and hot water systems that are way too old. I’d rather spend money on my needs than wants because they have better value.
Congratulations on paying off your home! That's amazing!
That sounds fun
These are great tips
Thanks for tuning in!
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love the idea
sidebar you favor Chloe Bailey a lot
Awesome advice 👏
Excellent video! I'm rather annoyed that the YT algorithm didn't suggest you sooner. Thanks!
So glad you found the videos! 🎉🎉
Advertising algorithms follow your clicks online and create tailored ads just for you. Once you understand this and are aware of the subliminal suggestions coming at you, you will be free. It works the same way as gambling and other addictions. Cut up the credit card, limit online browsing and block the ads in your social media platforms. Get debt free as fast as you can. Shopping is a boredom reliever, not a hobby. Take up some new activity or join a club or therapy group to understand the triggers for shopping- or just binge watch some hoarder shows and visualise your home in ten years if you were to stop throwing out the amazon boxes.
Absolutely! Agree with everything you said!
Excellent advice.
Glad it was helpful!
Gratitude
Thank you ♥️♥️♥️
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Watching this for the second time. I won't be purchasing the purple dress I just saw. Getting ready to pay off 2 bills in June. I need to detox social media. I'm not easily influenced by what I see. It's when I am feeling low I feel the need to buy something. Going to work on that.
I am a minimalist. I am nwver been happier without all the burden of carrying all those things. Simple life is best
Facts, facts, and facts
I love your earings. What is the brand if you can tell 😉🌷
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Recently deleted Instagram again, I had been using ig on browsers but I had to reinstall the app because I didn't have the silence someone feature. After that I started using the app again but I noticed I was buying a lot of things since the app has more ads. Never again 😬
Its such a slippery slope! Thanks for sharing this!
I was much better at being thoughtful about buying things that would actually make my life better or easier during 2020. When I was at home. As soon as things started up again I was back to impulse buying. I'm not sure exactly why.
Can we have more videos on this topic please?Thank you👏🏾🤎
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