Any chance that we'll get black or navy versions of these? I work a pretty dusty job and anything White turns to splotchy Brown in about 10 seconds and will never be cleaned.
Van, here's something my mom did for me that set my mind on the right path. She knew I was crazy ADHD and didn't learn well in traditional public school. So every week she would ask me what I want to learn about. I'd say "Mom, I want to learn how an engine works." She'd go to the library and spend a week learning, collecting info, making flash cards. Then the following week she would teach me what I asked to learn. It showed me how fun learning is, that set me up to enjoy self education going forward.
Wow! Props to your mom! That is crazy to think she put so much effort (next to I guess her daily tasks and parental responsibilities) to do that for you.
The big mistake guys make is thinking they need to do major adventures to be a good dad. It's far more important to be present in the home, treat their Mom well, show discipline in behaviour and expect it in return. Giving them confidence in their home base, their own skin and their abilities beats adventures. But adventures are cool, if you can. But don't do 1 killer adventure a year and think that's the job done. And one more thing... Boys seek approval from their fathers. Show them you dig what they do. High five some small stuff they've done well and encourage them to do better. They are desperate for it. They'll seek tenderness from Mom, but that approval from dad is important. Any man who reads this will know whatever your age, you still seek approval, a pat on the back for a job well done.
@@into_the_wasteland I completed the sentence and the paragraphs as I intended I have lots of friends who are absent dads and think they can solve bigger problems with adventures or buying big gifts. It's not a fix. But like I said, adventures are awesome and they are important.
My father is a narcissist. He treated my mother like sh!t and never worked a day in my life. In a desperate attempt to prove I was NOT my father I worked like hell to be a "success" and I chose obviously broken unstable women in order to prove I could look after and provide for a woman. This lead to 30 years of wasted life working to be a success and 4 massively failed relationships - all to try and prove I was not my father... Yeah, bad fathers leave a terrible legacy on their kids...
My boy turned 16 yesterday. I can confirm from birth to 16 took only 5 minutes. Thankfully we have shared a lot of adventures in that time and I pray we can have many more.
Van, I just wanted to say thank you for every single video you’ve put out on UA-cam. It’s incredibly unique and exactly the kind of thing I needed to watch at this point in my life. Everything about it is just so… timeless and human. Like, I can’t think of any other way to describe it, and it speaks to parts of me that I feel I’ve lost in the current information age. I have watched every single video in order so far and I will watch them again. When I doubt myself and my dreams, yours and Casey’s videos remind me of what it’s like to have them and what it’s like to have a spirit, and what it’s like to love life, and I have a lot to learn from what you have taken the time out to share. It feels weird and overbearing to say all of this, but thanks. I’m incredibly happy there’s people like you out in the world.
You should check Beau Miles. It has the same uplifting and heartwarming tone but with that bitter "what am I doing with my life vibe". My two fav youtubers atm. Van and Beau should be best friends
The best thing my father (or just about anyone) ever did for me was read the classics to me every night for at least an hour until I was old enough to read to him. The Odessey was my favorite book at the age of six. When I was in fifth grade I had a better vocabulary than most of my teachers. I’m almost 50 now and nearly every good thing I have accomplished is directly related to my ability to concisely explain ideas in print...in spite of my mediocre grammar. That’s what he did for me, and I am forever grateful.
@@srai6433 I think his comment is less about the Odyssey (a work from Ancient Greece about so many things it’s a bit hard to summarize ) & more about the type of literature he was exposed to at a young age thanks to his dad and the positive impacts & memories.
That's good to hear, that you and your dad bonded over the classics and that you learned a lot from them. Seems like the classics were pretty much dismissed for younger people at the beginning of this video.
As a man who is now a grandfather of two, I suggest that the most important element is time. Spending time with your kids shows them they're important to you, but also provides natural opportunities to teach lessons as situations come up. Equally important is living as a good man. It may not always look like it but our kids learn more from watching us than any other way. So it's very critical to actually live the way you're trying to teach your kids to be. If you act differently from the way you tell them to, they'll know you're dishonest. Because what you actually do is what you actually believe. I think all of those things (and also teaching your children to be disciplined and handle their responsibilities) will cover most of what they actually need to know. Just my two cents. Everything else they'll learn as they go.
You can tell you found your place on YT when you benefit from the comment section as much as from the video itself. Thank you Van for sharing your spirit and hosting such a beautiful place on the internet.
As a Gen-X male who came late to fatherhood only a year ago, I struggle with all of this. School failed me completely because of a paradigm of ignoring learning disabilities like the one I had, and I find myself trying to be a better adult to my child and the children around us than many of the adults were to me and my peers in our era. Figuring out how to do that is my quest.
Try to keep your place clean and free of chaos. Ask them questions and listen. Buy them little toys here and there for fun (I know but children respond.to this they aren't as complex as us yet). Take solice in the fact that no matter what the day turns in to, as long as you are trying to keep the environment safe and nice you are doing pretty ok. We will all screw up badly and leave them will all kinds of baggage. Sweat the things that need sweat. Roll with the rest. If you can. Good luck dude. 😊
The essence of imparting life lessons via actual experiences is so vital to developing young minds to become confident and assured adults of tomorrow. You are a good dad Van.
I have spent the last 2 months (summer vacation for the 2 kids), packing and unpacking the Land Rover. Driving, unpacking, re-packing. Sleeping in tents, chopping wood, dodging lighting, enjoying the forest, rafting, pooping outdoors with a cool breeze on my tender white cheeks, explaining the intricacies of tribal land, hatchet throwing at 9:00pm in the Colorado wilderness, Spaghettios out of the can, and cleaning tents in the backyard for the next trip. It's a lot of work, but my kids will never forget it. "We had all these great adventures when I was a kid. My dad was basically a sherpa." This is what I hope they realize. Even if they don't, it's still worth it.
My boy turns 24 this year. I still do not fully know how to.... I keep on learning and I know it will never stop. Great video Van and a very important message.
Way to go. You don't teach, you include and do, and 3 is not too young. When my daughter was born, my main goal was to make her a "Burley Girl". She was skiing in front of me on a rope tied around her waist at 3 while I worked as a ski patroller, overnighting on the mountain at 5, surfing at 8. She and her younger brother built a snow cave they lived in for 3 days at 10 (he was 6). She went through high school masquerading as a "normal girl", swimming, soccer, homecoming court. But when she had the freedom to choose her path she went to West Point - not what we would have picked for her, but she has found her tribe. When we talk, it's not about classes or parties, it's about fast roping from helicopters, live fire bounding exercises and "being in the field". Its a far cry from her her bohemian upbringing, but it's without doubt a "Spirited" path. Her brother is is close behind. The bottom line here is do the stuff you do and take them with you, make them accountable, and push their comfort zone. The biggest mistake I see people make is stopping the pursuit of their passions for parenting, don't stop, include.
You don't, "teach him". You play with him, you take him places. some to your liking, others doing the things he likes. The learning happens all on it's own.
@@DanRustle At that age? Dad and Mom are his best friends. There's plenty of years ahead when the father side of things will be needed. For now tho, Daddy (and mommy) rules. It's such a short window in the grand scale of things. Enjoy every second of it
@@FlyingElbow The biggest life rule my parents taught me b4 I was interacting with other kids was the old, Sticks and stones rhyme. Anytime I was teased I'd remember it and use it to fight back by teasing them harder after. Aside from that, the overall character of the household is what a child brings forward.
READING! the most important thing you can learn from your father. My father read to us every night, and encouraged our love of the natural world with his telescope and trips to national parks Kindness and a deep sort of courage ( standing up to your friends even when it is difficult) are other lessons I learned from him.
Love your POV, Van. So glad you're such a good papa for your boy. I'm a mom to 2 boys and agree, adventures and seeing other ways of living is a great way to extend education. Expose them to all the ways everyone lives and they'll hopefully develop empathy and compassion with a healthy dose of curiosity.
Thanks Van, as a father of 2 kids myself this really resonated with me. Now that I remember the best life learning experiences for me were all when I was out with my dad. He was born into the Silent Generation (born in 1939) and was old school in his ways when it came to parenting and as an early 80's millennial, I sometimes struggled to connect. But the life lessons my dad taught me are still with me to this day. From how to safely use a rifle & shotgun, how to fish, how to repair & maintain, how to cook an amazing meal, how to budget. These were the skills that were never taught to me in school. And they will be skills that I will pass on to my kids. Thanks Van! J
I have a 4 month old son and I have quiet moments during every day where I ponder who he will be and what he will stand for. I myself am a spirited man so I have some comfort in knowing that if I am open and willing, it won’t matter, he too will be a spirited man. You get out what you put in. Simple.
I lost my father in 2020 He died young and suddenly. In life he was no saint infact he was a deeply falwed man, but dispite his flaws I think he taught me what a good father is. To me a good father is someone who teaches there son how to love and how to be loved. I rarely feel sorry about my father's death, because I know so strongly who he was and how he loved me and my sister. I think the confidence to be brave or to be strong comes stems from that love. It's different for everyone, but if my dad is anything to go by keeping it simple dispite what life throws at you seems to work Best of luck Van!
Please teach him to be curious as well. I know being strong and brave is important, but if it wasn't for the curiosity and love of learning that was instilled in me in elementary school I would have no aspersions in life, and I sure as hell wouldn't have earned my eagle scout.
I'm thankful I was brought up in the 60s and 70s, my dad taught me to be tough, but to have a really big heart. Nowadays, lots of teens can't even handle criticism, let alone true adversity, I worry for them when they get to adulthood.
All the things we said "I will teach him so he does not have to make the same mistakes" or the things that we wish we were taught by our parents, never seem to be the issues our children face. It is like the universe can tell better than us what lessons are needed. We just need the wisdom to see it ourselves.
Thank you for naming the man who died trying to rescue the boys in the underwater cave. I have no connection whatsoever, but it is compassionate of you to acknowledge him by name.
Growing up without a father, but instead occasional having Uncles including me in activities, and employing me as a garage gofer , I appreciate this imagery.
Oh what a nice Video Van Thank You so much you are the only UA-camr that make videos like this in the very special way and it really gives you thinking . Thanks
Van, your work is a treasure to behold in these times, and will be a true, honest look at the rigors of life in all aspects, for years to come. A role model for us fathers, creators, and doers who simply want to be useful to the world around us. Nearly 3 years ago my family and I came within seconds of losing our lives in the Camp Fire, and escape was not a given. Since that day it's been a mental struggle raising two children, one of which is a boy, in a world where every move and misstep is viewed with a critical eye, and a life sentence of condemnation for the mistake of making a mistake. Your voice sheds light on the reality of the unknown path we take as parents, men, and fathers, and how the only thing you can do is attempt to do your best. Please never stop.
Besides the fact that this edit was a gut punch as what I perceived as inadequacies in my own parenting but also shines a bright light on what is truly important. Van Neistat this was simply Amazing, honest and meaningful.
Wilderness Collective so amazing! Keep up the good work! I saw y'all had Martin as your guide. I can't say enough good things about him. I aspire to reach his level of chill, but at the same time control of any situation.
Thanks for this one Van. My dad died last year and I think about him every day. He was definitely a spirited man in his own right without really knowing what that meant. I think I got my 'spiritedness' from him by just watching him and observing. Seeing how my dad reacted and handled situations taught me more than him sitting me down to 'teach' me ever could.
As a father to a 2 3/4 year old boy I relate to this so much. I feel like I found a twin brother-father that lives on the other side of the world... cheers Van.
I don't know why but i like that the boy has pink crocs. In my head i imagined Van might have pink crocs too. together they have pink crocs. pink is cool.
Men teach by example but also by doing. I am sure your son will be a spirited man as well. As long as he finds his purpose along the way. What a great trip. Fixing that flat looked to be such a solid way to show how things work and how to handle situations.
Heart meltingly beautiful, Van, you dad well. I'm a spirited dad of 1 for now (1.5years) about about to be a dad of 2. This is my lament. peace and love.
I say this on everyone of Vans videos- but I’ll say it again- it is a DELIGHT to see these pop up in my feed. So well done- so interesting- so personal- no doubt one of if not my very favorite UA-camr. Thanks Van
Excellent video, It made me remember doing all the random fun things with my dad as a young boy. I'm 23 now and my dad is about to turn 50 and the idea of a child is terrifying right now, but also an experience I wish to have.
Real challenge is to teach your daughters how to be strong and brave (or how to fix a flat) ;) being a dad of daughters is an eye opener on many important things. It makes a man even more spirited. Cheers, Van!
T-Shirts & Sweatshirts: spiritedman.com
Mine is on its way! Can wait!
Any chance that we'll get black or navy versions of these? I work a pretty dusty job and anything White turns to splotchy Brown in about 10 seconds and will never be cleaned.
The system will not teach you about making money because the elite need their minions to make the money for them !!
Keep us in the loop on Heavyweight stock. Would love a good winter layer. Be well
Van, here's something my mom did for me that set my mind on the right path. She knew I was crazy ADHD and didn't learn well in traditional public school. So every week she would ask me what I want to learn about. I'd say "Mom, I want to learn how an engine works." She'd go to the library and spend a week learning, collecting info, making flash cards. Then the following week she would teach me what I asked to learn. It showed me how fun learning is, that set me up to enjoy self education going forward.
Wow! Props to your mom! That is crazy to think she put so much effort (next to I guess her daily tasks and parental responsibilities) to do that for you.
Bless your mama. She’s a wonderful lady!
Damn. Thats a good mom. Love her
Amazing. The public school system has such a long way to go, but what we do at home (as a parent) has so much to do with it all, as well.
WOW!
The big mistake guys make is thinking they need to do major adventures to be a good dad.
It's far more important to be present in the home, treat their Mom well, show discipline in behaviour and expect it in return.
Giving them confidence in their home base, their own skin and their abilities beats adventures.
But adventures are cool, if you can. But don't do 1 killer adventure a year and think that's the job done.
And one more thing...
Boys seek approval from their fathers. Show them you dig what they do. High five some small stuff they've done well and encourage them to do better. They are desperate for it.
They'll seek tenderness from Mom, but that approval from dad is important.
Any man who reads this will know whatever your age, you still seek approval, a pat on the back for a job well done.
well said
Man. Those are good words. I've got 2 wonderful kids and I'm there for them every day. Greetings from Germany 👍
Not sure I'd call taking your son on adventures "The big mistake"...maybe instead you word it, "In addition to awesome adventures, also do this..."
@@into_the_wasteland I completed the sentence and the paragraphs as I intended
I have lots of friends who are absent dads and think they can solve bigger problems with adventures or buying big gifts. It's not a fix.
But like I said, adventures are awesome and they are important.
My father is a narcissist. He treated my mother like sh!t and never worked a day in my life.
In a desperate attempt to prove I was NOT my father I worked like hell to be a "success" and I chose obviously broken unstable women in order to prove I could look after and provide for a woman. This lead to 30 years of wasted life working to be a success and 4 massively failed relationships - all to try and prove I was not my father...
Yeah, bad fathers leave a terrible legacy on their kids...
Nothing slips through your hands faster than childhood. Every year that passes, you will cherish this trip more and more.
My boy turned 16 yesterday. I can confirm from birth to 16 took only 5 minutes. Thankfully we have shared a lot of adventures in that time and I pray we can have many more.
Van, I just wanted to say thank you for every single video you’ve put out on UA-cam. It’s incredibly unique and exactly the kind of thing I needed to watch at this point in my life.
Everything about it is just so… timeless and human. Like, I can’t think of any other way to describe it, and it speaks to parts of me that I feel I’ve lost in the current information age.
I have watched every single video in order so far and I will watch them again. When I doubt myself and my dreams, yours and Casey’s videos remind me of what it’s like to have them and what it’s like to have a spirit, and what it’s like to love life, and I have a lot to learn from what you have taken the time out to share. It feels weird and overbearing to say all of this, but thanks. I’m incredibly happy there’s people like you out in the world.
Definitely can’t speed run raising a child! 😉
You should check Beau Miles. It has the same uplifting and heartwarming tone but with that bitter "what am I doing with my life vibe". My two fav youtubers atm. Van and Beau should be best friends
The best thing my father (or just about anyone) ever did for me was read the classics to me every night for at least an hour until I was old enough to read to him. The Odessey was my favorite book at the age of six. When I was in fifth grade I had a better vocabulary than most of my teachers. I’m almost 50 now and nearly every good thing I have accomplished is directly related to my ability to concisely explain ideas in print...in spite of my mediocre grammar. That’s what he did for me, and I am forever grateful.
Awesome Bran. sounds like a sweet dad. Thx for sharing
What's the book about?
@@srai6433 I think his comment is less about the Odyssey (a work from Ancient Greece about so many things it’s a bit hard to summarize ) & more about the type of literature he was exposed to at a young age thanks to his dad and the positive impacts & memories.
That's good to hear, that you and your dad bonded over the classics and that you learned a lot from them. Seems like the classics were pretty much dismissed for younger people at the beginning of this video.
As a man who is now a grandfather of two, I suggest that the most important element is time. Spending time with your kids shows them they're important to you, but also provides natural opportunities to teach lessons as situations come up. Equally important is living as a good man. It may not always look like it but our kids learn more from watching us than any other way. So it's very critical to actually live the way you're trying to teach your kids to be. If you act differently from the way you tell them to, they'll know you're dishonest. Because what you actually do is what you actually believe. I think all of those things (and also teaching your children to be disciplined and handle their responsibilities) will cover most of what they actually need to know. Just my two cents. Everything else they'll learn as they go.
Really good comment, BBFour :)
Answer: Teach them beyond your means. First, everything you know, then beyond....
Bro i’m just imaging his son face at 4:59 van was drifting lik crazy on them turns
You can tell you found your place on YT when you benefit from the comment section as much as from the video itself. Thank you Van for sharing your spirit and hosting such a beautiful place on the internet.
“Education is not the filling of a vessel, but the kindling of a flame” - Socrates
I think you’re definitely asking the right questions. Love this! 💪
Best quote.How true.
As a Gen-X male who came late to fatherhood only a year ago, I struggle with all of this. School failed me completely because of a paradigm of ignoring learning disabilities like the one I had, and I find myself trying to be a better adult to my child and the children around us than many of the adults were to me and my peers in our era. Figuring out how to do that is my quest.
I’m in the same boat more or less. Be patient with yourself & your child. It’s okay not to be a perfect dad just try to be a good dad.
You'll never be perfect. Never. Don't try too hard. They know when you're trying too hard.
You are over halfway there with this attitude. ❤️
Try to keep your place clean and free of chaos. Ask them questions and listen. Buy them little toys here and there for fun (I know but children respond.to this they aren't as complex as us yet). Take solice in the fact that no matter what the day turns in to, as long as you are trying to keep the environment safe and nice you are doing pretty ok. We will all screw up badly and leave them will all kinds of baggage. Sweat the things that need sweat. Roll with the rest. If you can. Good luck dude. 😊
"You go in" (*Please go in, I need the shot*)
kid goes in looking back like wut
This video is so important honestly. We’re expecting next month a little boy. Thanks van
Congrats, and best of luck!
Congratulations
Congratulations! I had my little guy 2 months ago. Its been beautiful, your going to love it.
Hey, congratulations!!
Congrats!!
The essence of imparting life lessons via actual experiences is so vital to developing young minds to become confident and assured adults of tomorrow. You are a good dad Van.
Imagine my surprise and delight seeing my old buddies Jimi and Martin showing your son how to fix a flat. The world is sooo small :)
That is awesome! What a moment
I have spent the last 2 months (summer vacation for the 2 kids), packing and unpacking the Land Rover. Driving, unpacking, re-packing. Sleeping in tents, chopping wood, dodging lighting, enjoying the forest, rafting, pooping outdoors with a cool breeze on my tender white cheeks, explaining the intricacies of tribal land, hatchet throwing at 9:00pm in the Colorado wilderness, Spaghettios out of the can, and cleaning tents in the backyard for the next trip. It's a lot of work, but my kids will never forget it. "We had all these great adventures when I was a kid. My dad was basically a sherpa." This is what I hope they realize. Even if they don't, it's still worth it.
This sounds incredible!!
as a kid who never had a father figure it’s the little things like this are what makes children happy
In parenting "“Hurry is the enemy of love” - Steve Biddulph, amazing Australian writer on manhood and parenting.
Strong, Brave, Kind, and Gentle. Very important traits today.
My boy turns 24 this year. I still do not fully know how to.... I keep on learning and I know it will never stop. Great video Van and a very important message.
Way to go. You don't teach, you include and do, and 3 is not too young. When my daughter was born, my main goal was to make her a "Burley Girl". She was skiing in front of me on a rope tied around her waist at 3 while I worked as a ski patroller, overnighting on the mountain at 5, surfing at 8. She and her younger brother built a snow cave they lived in for 3 days at 10 (he was 6). She went through high school masquerading as a "normal girl", swimming, soccer, homecoming court. But when she had the freedom to choose her path she went to West Point - not what we would have picked for her, but she has found her tribe. When we talk, it's not about classes or parties, it's about fast roping from helicopters, live fire bounding exercises and "being in the field". Its a far cry from her her bohemian upbringing, but it's without doubt a "Spirited" path. Her brother is is close behind. The bottom line here is do the stuff you do and take them with you, make them accountable, and push their comfort zone. The biggest mistake I see people make is stopping the pursuit of their passions for parenting, don't stop, include.
Strong, brave, humble, and kind. Our country needs men like that more than ever. Be those things, and your son will learn.
He is also weak, cowardly, arrogant, and mean. He also admits it and works at it. That's much more impressive to me.
@@jerbear7952 Good for you! 💜 Good stuff :)
You don't, "teach him". You play with him, you take him places. some to your liking, others doing the things he likes. The learning happens all on it's own.
you not trying to be their best friend. you are their father and you need to teach them
@@DanRustle At that age? Dad and Mom are his best friends. There's plenty of years ahead when the father side of things will be needed. For now tho, Daddy (and mommy) rules. It's such a short window in the grand scale of things. Enjoy every second of it
@@FlyingElbow The biggest life rule my parents taught me b4 I was interacting with other kids was the old, Sticks and stones rhyme. Anytime I was teased I'd remember it and use it to fight back by teasing them harder after. Aside from that, the overall character of the household is what a child brings forward.
I agree. But I also expose them to some of my personal skills, sort of passive learning.
@@adayinthelife5496 That's covered in the part where I say, "Some to your liking".
READING! the most important thing you can learn from your father. My father read to us every night, and encouraged our love of the natural world with his telescope and trips to national parks
Kindness and a deep sort of courage ( standing up to your friends even when it is difficult) are other lessons I learned from him.
"They used for silver..... they used to look for gold" - that shot was oscar worthy.
Strong and brave are good, but let's not forget kind, gentle, compassionate, and listening.
Van Neistat is the only person I have notifications for
This was my favorite one yet❤️ what a good dad. What a true spirited man.
Love your POV, Van. So glad you're such a good papa for your boy. I'm a mom to 2 boys and agree, adventures and seeing other ways of living is a great way to extend education. Expose them to all the ways everyone lives and they'll hopefully develop empathy and compassion with a healthy dose of curiosity.
Strong enough, and brave enough to cry.
Thanks Van, as a father of 2 kids myself this really resonated with me. Now that I remember the best life learning experiences for me were all when I was out with my dad. He was born into the Silent Generation (born in 1939) and was old school in his ways when it came to parenting and as an early 80's millennial, I sometimes struggled to connect. But the life lessons my dad taught me are still with me to this day. From how to safely use a rifle & shotgun, how to fish, how to repair & maintain, how to cook an amazing meal, how to budget. These were the skills that were never taught to me in school. And they will be skills that I will pass on to my kids. Thanks Van! J
Funny how the older we get, the smarter our dads get. lol!
I have a 4 month old son and I have quiet moments during every day where I ponder who he will be and what he will stand for. I myself am a spirited man so I have some comfort in knowing that if I am open and willing, it won’t matter, he too will be a spirited man. You get out what you put in. Simple.
Glad u made a youtube channel ur the only person I'm subscribed to that I watch all their videos
Co-raising my own spirited woman over here. It's a whole vocation. Appreciate the logging of your experiences on this longest shortest time.
not ashamed to say, I have an 8 year old boy and, as a spirited father, the words of this movie made me very emotional.
I lost my father in 2020
He died young and suddenly. In life he was no saint infact he was a deeply falwed man, but dispite his flaws I think he taught me what a good father is.
To me a good father is someone who teaches there son how to love and how to be loved.
I rarely feel sorry about my father's death, because I know so strongly who he was and how he loved me and my sister. I think the confidence to be brave or to be strong comes stems from that love.
It's different for everyone, but if my dad is anything to go by keeping it simple dispite what life throws at you seems to work
Best of luck Van!
love how you say 'strong and brave' as the camera focuses on his pink crocs
Helping them find their own silver vein to chase and developing their heart of gold.
Please teach him to be curious as well. I know being strong and brave is important, but if it wasn't for the curiosity and love of learning that was instilled in me in elementary school I would have no aspersions in life, and I sure as hell wouldn't have earned my eagle scout.
Van, your content is so special. Thank you for your time.
r.i.p beirut pakbara
A true hero.
I'm thankful I was brought up in the 60s and 70s, my dad taught me to be tough, but to have a really big heart. Nowadays, lots of teens can't even handle criticism, let alone true adversity, I worry for them when they get to adulthood.
All the things we said "I will teach him so he does not have to make the same mistakes" or the things that we wish we were taught by our parents, never seem to be the issues our children face. It is like the universe can tell better than us what lessons are needed. We just need the wisdom to see it ourselves.
Thank you for naming the man who died trying to rescue the boys in the underwater cave. I have no connection whatsoever, but it is compassionate of you to acknowledge him by name.
Man. I love Bryce Canyon and Zion so much. What a special trip for you and your boy.
Growing up without a father, but instead occasional having Uncles including me in activities, and employing me as a garage gofer , I appreciate this imagery.
As a father of 4 kids this was really special thanks Van
Oh what a nice Video Van Thank You so much you are the only UA-camr that make videos like this in the very special way and it really gives you thinking .
Thanks
What you are teaching your kid is priceless. I proud of you!!! We need more dads like you!!!!
Van, your work is a treasure to behold in these times, and will be a true, honest look at the rigors of life in all aspects, for years to come. A role model for us fathers, creators, and doers who simply want to be useful to the world around us. Nearly 3 years ago my family and I came within seconds of losing our lives in the Camp Fire, and escape was not a given. Since that day it's been a mental struggle raising two children, one of which is a boy, in a world where every move and misstep is viewed with a critical eye, and a life sentence of condemnation for the mistake of making a mistake. Your voice sheds light on the reality of the unknown path we take as parents, men, and fathers, and how the only thing you can do is attempt to do your best. Please never stop.
Love it. Daddy’s teaching sons. Amen
My Dad taught me how to plug a tire at that age too!! That’s really the knowledge and a time I remember and treasure most.
Besides the fact that this edit was a gut punch as what I perceived as inadequacies in my own parenting but also shines a bright light on what is truly important. Van Neistat this was simply Amazing, honest and meaningful.
Nothing better on your tube then your channel. Love your outlook. Peace brother.
Just be present with a spirit of compassion and generosity.
So true Van! Boys need fathers, and they have to learn what's important.
Virtuous men is what we need the most today. As a fellow father I salute you. Great message and great video
Wilderness Collective so amazing! Keep up the good work! I saw y'all had Martin as your guide. I can't say enough good things about him. I aspire to reach his level of chill, but at the same time control of any situation.
Thanks for this one Van. My dad died last year and I think about him every day. He was definitely a spirited man in his own right without really knowing what that meant. I think I got my 'spiritedness' from him by just watching him and observing. Seeing how my dad reacted and handled situations taught me more than him sitting me down to 'teach' me ever could.
You can tell UA-cam is keeping the Spirited Man’s bank account flush.
As they should.
@@johnnysolberg I’m a supporter, I love to see it and can’t wait to see what’s next.
As someone that never really learnt much from my father, what you're doing is so important.
Teach boys and girls to be strong and brave. And respect others and take responsibility for your state in life.
Good news is you don’t need to teach him how to learn, you just need to support him in figuring out how he learns. Encourage and Advise.
These stories take my breath away a little. I am not crying. You are.
a profound beauty. and cleo reading to the fellahs around the campfire, no words.
My son turns 2 in 5 days.
Thank you for that video, Van.
As a father to a 2 3/4 year old boy I relate to this so much. I feel like I found a twin brother-father that lives on the other side of the world... cheers Van.
Children already know how to learn. I think it's our job to show them the world and get out of their way. 💜
But also to set a good example
I don't know why but i like that the boy has pink crocs. In my head i imagined Van might have pink crocs too. together they have pink crocs. pink is cool.
Men teach by example but also by doing. I am sure your son will be a spirited man as well. As long as he finds his purpose along the way. What a great trip. Fixing that flat looked to be such a solid way to show how things work and how to handle situations.
Heart meltingly beautiful, Van, you dad well. I'm a spirited dad of 1 for now (1.5years) about about to be a dad of 2. This is my lament. peace and love.
You’re a good man Van!
I say this on everyone of Vans videos- but I’ll say it again- it is a DELIGHT to see these pop up in my feed. So well done- so interesting- so personal- no doubt one of if not my very favorite UA-camr. Thanks Van
You're doin' alright, dad.
“Especially good fathers on sons”
Indeed
We need good fathers and good fathers to sons. Amen
Excellent video, It made me remember doing all the random fun things with my dad as a young boy. I'm 23 now and my dad is about to turn 50 and the idea of a child is terrifying right now, but also an experience I wish to have.
That you consider HOW to raise your son and share it with us is something I so appreciate. Thank you! it gives me food for thought.
thank you for this family friendly episode - auston from bellingham wa
this is the best , art is great but so is being a great father
Your a good father. Love you brother.
Real challenge is to teach your daughters how to be strong and brave (or how to fix a flat) ;) being a dad of daughters is an eye opener on many important things. It makes a man even more spirited. Cheers, Van!
One of THE best things I’ve watched on UA-cam
Very powerful
Bought two spirited hoodies and made a video about it! 😀 Love your work, Spirited Man! 🤗👏
Your son looks both strong and brave...well done.
Beautiful. I love being a dad. ❤️
Thanks, Dad!
The philosophical and thought out Spirited man videos are always the best.
Best episode so far. You are a master of the craft, and a good Father of your son.
van you're changing the game
As a spirited man who is also a father of a young one, I feel this video. Keep up the good work.
As a father, thank you for this.
Good job dad... let him explore the word...look for thing and think on them.. great job!!
Your a dad any boy would be lucky to have Van !
Great video van, as a 1 year olds dad who takes him camping and in my rucksack hiking every weekend. I hear ya 👍🏻
This might be your best yet, Van.
Go in. "you go in"... I ain`t scared.
As a Dad of a 3 year old and a 1 year old this hits deep
This had me crying. Very very good.