This is my first time hearing this hit. I felt like I needed a good cry with all the shit I’ve been through. Much love and support to everyone who might need it. ❤❤❤❤❤❤
I just want to say that if you're crying your heart out to this song wishing that the person you're thinking about would love you back, please stop, take a deep breath, and listen. Odds are, you've got your whole life ahead of you and plenty of time to find someone who appreciates and loves you and won't let you feel the way you're feeling right now. You will love and not be loved in return, just as you will be loved and not love in return. That is one of the saddest things in life, but inevitable. If you're young, please don't spend years trying to gain love and validation from whoever it is you're chasing. Love yourself, please, and in doing so, I promise that the person that will appreciate and love you genuinely will have light-up signs pointing straight at them and they'll be vomiting confetti and party favors and it'll be grand. I promise (well, except for the signs and confetti and stuff, there's a 78% chance that I'm lying about that, but it'll still be pretty obvious, and amazing).
To every beautiful, hurting soul that returns to this masterpiece after all these years: There is peace within letting go, within realization and moving on to love yourself in the wake of unrequited love. Take back the piece of your heart that you gave and mend it anew, so that one day you can gift it to someone who will treasure it. Learning to trust requires falling, inevitably is riddled with mistakes, but eventually will heal your soul. It’s okay to hurt now and hurt deeply, and I hope that your pain will turn into wisdom that begets new love. Stay strong and this too shall pass. ❤
Letting go of someone you love because they don't feel the same way is so heart wrenching. Especially when months have passed and you have moved on but you know deep down you still love them.
+Cassie Famoso And what do you do when you're constantly seeing that person everyday of the week?I have to hide that feeling until i can get away and just end things,because i know for sure she doesn't feel the same way,i'm her 'best friend' after all.
+Sigmund Freud *sigh* that's a hard call. Either you get over your attraction to the person, or wallow in it forever. Stopping the friendship or asking for some time apart to get over your feelings is also a choice. It's the harder one, but it really does work :/ Trust me, I've been there
Hello random person looking through the comments. We’re probably all here for similar reasons and I just want you to know that as one stranger to another I love you. Sometimes things don’t end like we want them to but times will get better. Continue to find little traces of love in your everyday life and happiness will find you again. You’re not alone, we are in this together 💚
Personally, selfishly, this song became a lot more profound when I realized the pain doesn’t just come from romance left unrequited. RIP to the friendships that feel this disconnect, too.
This was a favorite song of my little sister, who took her life a year and a half ago. I learned it for her while she was still here, and she loved it. Now I sing it with tears in my eyes for a deeper reason. Thank you, Justin Vernon, for encapsulating the feeling of this song so perfectly. Much love to all the hurting hearts out there in the world.
I was a functioning heroin addict 8 years ago with a girl that I used with for 4 years. I never thought I'd find a way out and resigned to die that way. I used to listen the wolves by bon iver and pray for a new start. Then I met a girl that I fell in love with harder than I knew was possible. She gave me the strength to leave my toxic junkie partner. The first time we slept next to one another was march of 2016 and I remember so vividly playing this on my phone while it sat on my chest in the pitch black bedroom. Before her I would toss and turn all night, but with her head on my chest I laid perfectly still all night long as not to disturb her. Thats how I sleep to this day. This is what love and heart ache sounds like all at once. She gave me a reason to get off heroin. We've been married for 6 years and have 3 beautiful children. I can never listen to this without being reduced to tears. Music is the magic of this life. Never underestimate that. It really is magic. Thank you Justin. For saying all of the things we feel.
The worst feeling is just when you realized this was the 100th time you said you will give up but next minute you still wanna give him all you have. If he wants to be friends, you would just be friends with him, waiting, that one day he would feel for you the same way as you do for him. But that day is desperately far, like it would never come
This song and this comments section really reminds you that we're all human. In a chaotic world where we're constantly overstimulated and ignorant, it's nice to be able to read about people being vulnerable and feeling real feelings. This rendition is something special. Peace to everyone
Reminds me of a ram Dass quote "we're all just kids walking each other home". There's alot of hurt souls out there, but at least we know we aren't alone
This song really touches me in a painful spot. It seems like whenever I fall in love, it always destroys me. I always fall for someone that I can't have. The only time someone actually likes me back, I realized that it wasn't true love; it was just me trying to get over the last one. Sometimes I'm not even sure if I really love someone. I guess a good way to tell is when I cry listening to a song with them in mind. I'm the kind of person to fall easily for someone, but they've got to be someone really special. And that's what really hurts. When I do truly love someone, it's because there is no one else like them and no way I could or would ever be with them. Love is amazing. The feeling of being in love and showing someone your love is the best feeling in the world; but the other emotions that come with it really really hurt. Some people get confused and think love is terrible, but they're getting it confused with other emotions like pain and anger or jealousy. Love is something truly amazing. It's something that I really wish I had with someone. A certain someone. But after all this time, I don't think I was destined to have love.
Wow, I had the exact same thoughts as you...and I really feel with you, I understand what you are feeling. The last few days, I've been thinking about how it would be if this person would see that I'm here and I could make him happy... I'm trying so hard to accept that he will never feel the way I do and that I can't change anything. But every sad song reminds me of my feelings, they are like little demons, hiding in my heart to eat a piece of my yummy soul every time the're hungry. It's just annoying but I'm in love with never giving up the hope I have and everytime I'm moving on someone helps me to fall down again. I really don't know why I'm answering, but your comment inspired me:) Thanks
Meli ssa It's means a lot that you said that. Thank you, too. And just some advise from a quote, "If you think about something everyday, you should never give up on it." I really think that speaks a lot of truth. We feel things for people for a reason. You may not know that reason yet. People we meet are either a lesson or a blessing. Don't give up.
To those of you out there who just listened to this rendition for the first time: Don't worry, it's emotional potency doesn't fade after days, weeks, months or years. It will always be as painfully, evocatively heartwrenching as the first listen. Thank God.
I just discovered this version today! Like where has it been all my life? Fan of Bonnie’s original version back then. This particular rendition is superb. My heart knows this. Infinitesimal waves …
Every so often, I’ll cue this video up, and I’ll read the comments. It’s arguably one of the best covers of all time. And the comment section fuels my melancholy soul. Thank you Justin. Thank you.
I think I’ll be doing the same ❤️ And I JUST discovered this version today. Been a fan of Bonnie’s original. And now falling in love again, in a melancholic way as well.
I’m 27 and I’ve only known unrequited love. I used to believe that it was immature to feel frustration about it, but it’s not. I know I own nobodies heart, but my own. And I know I have boundless love. Love that I can give freely and unashamedly feel everyday. It took many years to be able to give that to myself. Trauma, self hatred, self deprecation.. it can do a number on you. If you’re reading this. Never give up on you. You are loveable. Never forget it.
to love myself is much harder thing to do than love someone else. and you made it . im proud of you. i wish i could completely vanish my self-hatred someday
Amazing version of this song. My marriage of 8 years, to the love of my life, ended abruptly without warning 10 months ago. She left me for another man. The emotional and physical pain was unbearable... something I wouldn't wish upon my worst enemy. My world came crashing down all around me. My soul was stagnant and numb. I gave every ounce of my heart and soul to her from the day I laid eyes on her. I wasn't perfect, but I loved her unconditionally. I had faults and screwups. I think every relationship does. Nothing is perfect. You have to work at it everyday. Don't give up on each other. See the good in each other. Compromise and communicate. If you truly love someone, cherish every single second you have with them....because in the blink of an eye it can be over and gone. Work on being a better person everyday. Love yourself first, before you try and love another. If for some crazy reason, you read this Kasey....I just want you to know that I will never, ever stop loving you. You're the love of my life, and I'll feel that way about you until I draw my last breath on this earth. I miss your laugh and your smile the most. You haunt my dreams every night.
I met her over 40 years ago and somehow, she's still the one. That deep ache in my chest is always there when I think about her. I believe it comes back, to remind me to try not to. My head knows it's always been impossible to be with her, but my heart never will.
I like to think the same of all those who I have loved with such abandon, who ended up me abandoning them in the end. I wasnt ever ready for the depths I saw before me. What they asked, without asking, to expose myself more than the last. All the while, I was screaming inside that I couldnt love myself & I was breaking them, not me. I was so naive, so young. I cherise many of the moments between us. Shared only the two of us. I pray I find another I can love without abandon as I once did, but with thr wisdom Ive gained through all these years of pain
Listen everyone, don't lose your minds over someone else, remember the day before you met them you were both strangers to one another, you didn't grow together, it was happenstance that you met, you walked through an experience and when the path came to a crossroad, one of you took the other way, thats all this is is experience, if it was meant to be, then it would have lasted, but it was a lesson learned if it didn't last. Everyone makes mistakes, you learn from the mistake and move on and the next one that comes will be better because you won't make or they won't make that mistake again. If someone doesn't care for you the way you cared for them, your only hurting yourself, walk away and say nothing, guaranteed they will come calling for you at one time, just keep your cool and you will be the one looking better and more mature. Forget saying anything you will regret it, just smile and walk !!
Just found out my wife loves another man. She's been cheating on me for 4 months. This was a peaceful song though, it pulled my heartstrings. The realness of the lyrics speaks a lot. It'll be alright in the end. You can't make someone love you. Update 07/2019: Life is so good Update 10/10/2024: it’s been a while, I should’ve updated soon so THANK YOU for all the kind words of encouragement, I’ve read through them multiple times over the years. I just teared up rereading my first part of this post because I’ve learned how it feels for someone to ACTUALLY love you since. I’ve since met a woman that showed me what true love is. It actually blows my mind the difference. I’ve never been closer to someone than her. We live together and will be getting married soon!! 🎉 To all that responded and might be thinking it’ll never get better just know this; love yourself no matter what anyone does to you, and love will come back around eventually. God bless. ❤
Austin Fish You’re open to love again as long as you ARE love, all the time to all beings. That made sense to me when I read it, but maybe the original quote was more adroit. I wish you all the very best x.
Also sorry mate: I didn’t put that in my rather babbling first reply. Don’t know what the future holds for you or anyone, but your comment struck me as not only mature but graced with forgiveness and non attachment. Another lasting and magical love is on your way sometime because you’re one of those guys who brings the best out in people. Trust me- I’m usually right about these things! x
how to be a robot is more suitable. so when you love someone never hope you get something in return it is what it is but look in the brighter side atleast you felt something that's true whatever happens you are sure of one thing " you love her" no one can beat that so cheers?🤣 Always up to you no one can answer the why's? It's just the one staring back at you in the mirror. Be strong have faith keep that love 🔥 maybe one day she'll feel the heat yeah she might, I myself been waiting too almost a decade now 🤣🤘💪✌️
we are no longer human, all this tech around us seem to twist our own existence...should we cry in front of a screen? should we do and say how we truly feel as a synthetic? singularity? no? yes?
Listened to this 3 years ago after being completely heartbroken and the song perfectly understood the pain I felt. Now I am in a much better state and this song fills me with the joy of knowing I conquered this pain. It gets better guys, just keep moving forward.
I’m constantly trying to move forward, trying to except I loved someone who never loved me!!! Our son looks just like his dad-so that pain isn’t far under the surface!!!!! 💔
My mom loved this song. She’s been gone since June of 2019. I lost her at 20, I’m 23 now. It hasn’t gotten better. Thank you for encapsulating this as beautifully as you have. I’m crying.
I lost my big sister to suicide about 3 years ago. It doesn’t really get better but I do everything I can to live for her and honor her memory. I’ve found when I help others I see a little bit of her in them and it comforts me. Nice knowing there’s other people who understand at least.
After 10 years of coming back to this song, today I realized that alternatively and interestingly, this song is also so much about realizing the importance of self-love as a necessary first step before healing and love. Imagine signing this song to our inner wounded self, and not to a heartbreaker. Sing this song to yourself, it will hit differently. 🫂
BRATS!!!! Who else is here after listening to I think about it all the time?????!!!!!!! I watch this video atleast yearly since it’s release and am feeling incredibly seen that it has now go on to be featured on the remix album. TASTE!!! Thank you Justin and Charli for revisiting this!! Infinite gratitude. Love y’all!!!
Loss, heartbreak, and pain are part of the human experience. No need to run from it. Music like this help me understand everyone that ever walked on earth has felt the pain of disappointment. Be strong friends.
who gives a fuck what year it is dickhead, music doesn't have an expiry date so stop running around posting 'who listening in 2027 yo' on every video loser.
This is a positive song for me, believe it or not. It is an acceptance of what cannot be. And once you accept that, you can begin moving on. Painful, yet profound and freeing.
I can see why, the fact that the other person dont and wont ever love us, teaches us truth and acceptance. Let it go - james bay is also the song that taught me this.
Christie Jensen relate with you so much. At this point last year this song would have drove me to uncontrollable sobbing. Now, only comforting peace and acceptance.
I've been in love with a guy that is in love with another girl. The truth is in the beginning he didn't know if he wanted me or her. In the end, he chose her. And I thank that songs like this exist, because they turn something painful for me into something beautiful, and I don't feel alone anymore. So... thank you, music.
i think that guy is Stupid ! She Denied a Beautiful woman that loves her. Because all my life no one liked me until now, i fall inlove with her and i think it's just impossible to be with her. :(
11 years of coming back to this song and it still wrecks me every time. i’ve never heard anything more devastatingly beautiful. cheers, hopeless romantics.
my marriage just ended as well man. it is odd on my end I am more hurt that I may be alone for a good portion of my life then her not being with me. you'll get past it. one sappy love song at a time.
7 years later, this song still hits as hard as I when first heard it. in fact, Bon Iver still hits as hard as I first heard him in "The place beyond the pines". That movie meant much to me as a father, but the messages you're leaving out for the world means much for what they may face in their darkest of times. This isn't just music, it is art in it's purest of forms. It is human emotion and experience put upon a piece of lyric, it is what most of us will have to endure. Thank you, Bon Iver.
I always listen to this almost every night for the past four years, and this never fail to make me cry each time. I never expected to be reciprocated, but it is just really tough seeing the person I loved and adored gives his love and attention to different women throughout the years while I give all of my unconditional love, time, effort, and affection to him, only him. I waited for years, thinking if I were patient enough, he would love me someday the way I loved him. I thought, if I were brave enough to let him know and show how I feel without any shame, everything would change. Despite all of my sacrifices, unconditional love, understanding, and patience, I ended up with nothing but bitterness and insecurity; However, I learned a lot from him, and I turned my pain to strength. I became a stronger woman, and I am thankful. I won't regret those years I spent waiting and loving a man who never loved me. I miss him terribly everyday, but I need to move on and give up all of my hopes, fantasies, dreams of being with him. Now, I am slowly picking up all of the pieces of my broken heart. I am slowly healing my wounds. It might take time, maybe years, to fully heal, but I am hopeful that someday I would find someone who can show me the same amount of love, respect, and attention I can give. I never commented in any UA-cam videos before, but I felt an urge to pour out my emotions like everyone on the comment section. I am here, crying with y'all. Let's all cry together and hopefully cry it all until the pain goes away...
Not only did I relate to that on sooo many levels especially considering I had a child with said man :( but I am now in a relationship I couldn’t be any happier. I also finished reading as the last chord rang out it really made me jitter 😭
Ouch, I think I’m going through the start of what you’ve been through. Maybe it’s a good idea I back off now before I waste anymore of my time. Still it hurts, because he means so much to me.
If lying in bed listening to Bon Iver’s acoustic cover of Bonnie Raitt’s “I Can’t Make You Love Me” at 6:27 AM on a sleepless night ain’t the absolute fattest mood out there, imma need y’all to tell me what is
worst feeling in world is loving someone with all you're heart and they don't feel the same way as you it like the sun going down under you especially when get nothing back
It hurts so much. I fell so hard for a guy. He told me he loved me and I fell in love with him. Only to have him tell me he never really felt it, that he doesn't think he will ever feel it.
+Elaine Coutts I sometimes ask myself if that is really love. There is someone who I care very deeply about, and I try to remind myself to be grateful that I got the chance to know this wonderful person. Sometimes I want that person so badly. It seems selfish to me. I thought the real thing is supposed to be selfless, full of wonder, respect, and appreciation. The stars in the sky are so beautiful but I can't reach out to take them for myself. Ideally it would be like that. But I can't shake the longing.
There are some songs in life that the first time you hear you know will be a part of you for the rest of your time. This is one of them for me. I check in on it once and a while and find everlasting joy in its beauty. What a masterpiece.
Brian C. I know exactly how you feel, and I'm sure you've heard that before. But let me elaborate how i know where your'e coming from. It's like when you're not even looking for someone, that unbearable moment that hits you so hard it feels soo good, you can't sleep at night because you met someone that just connected with you on so many levels. Shared so many interests. Then all of a sudden, she pulls a 180, or she just didn't feel the same as you as she did in the beginning. Stay strong my man.
The fact that this brother has people discussing the subject of the song means he did what many artists can't do. He let the song speak. In an age of vocal acrobatics and musical assaults, it's good to hear a sincere rendition of a very simple, very real piece of music.
I can't make him love me... so accepting, this song is... it really hits deep. I know, in my heart, he will never feel the same like the way I feel about him. :'(
The hope at the end when he transitions to “‘Nick of Time” is so beautiful. Right when he thinks love is lost, he finds it. I love this rendition, and the juxtaposition of these two songs.
I hope you get your heart broken at least once, not because it's beautiful or something but because it teaches you what love is capable of. After the heartbreak you will feel like you can never love again but you will not give up hope and you'll find love again. Because to love at all is to be vulnerable.
having loved and lost, it is so painful. I loved too much you see, it has been over a year now and my heart feels like it was broken just yesterday. But if theres one thing I learned in this time, from both my friends and family, comment sections and even therapy, it is that you can not give up, and it is never the end. No matter what, someone out there will love you as much as you loved the person that couldnt love you as strongly as you had.
So many different people in so many different places listening to this song. Best message of truth to take from this song: you’ll find love in the nick of time. ❤
My mother adopted me when I was 6, and this song has always resonated with me. Over the years, I would sing this with her. She passed away recently, her last moments were listening to this song while I sang to her softly. I miss her beyond measure. Now I sing this song with tears streaming down my face... that moment with her never fades. Thank you for creating a song that can hold so much for so many 💜
Turn down the lights Turn down the bed Turn down these voices inside my head Lay down with me Tell me no lies Just hold me close Don't patronize Don't patronize me 'Cause I can't make you love me if you don't You can't make your heart feel something it won't Here in the dark in these final hours I will lay down my heart and I'll feel the power But you won't, no you won't 'Cause I can't make you love me if you don't I'll close my eyes Then I won't see The love you don't feel when you're holding me Morning will come And I'll do what's right Just give me 'til then to give up this fight And I will give up this fight 'Cause I can't make you love me if you don't You can't make your heart feel something it won't Here in the dark in these final hours I will lay down my heart and I'll feel the power But you won't, no you won't 'Cause I can't make you love me if you don't
I remember this song ONLY being available on that ONE video with the ocean and rocky droppings of land moving slowly away to sea.. oh how many depressed nights I’ve spent there. 😭❤️🩹 thanks Justin will forever come back and just exist here
There was a guy once, that I wanted to have, to love, to be together with, but it's not what he wanted. And I used to listen to this song and think I wasn't good enough, that I must have done something wrong or been unlovable. I thought I would never find someone to love me, but it turns out that he was here the whole time just waiting for me and God brought him in my life at a time when I needed him most. He loved me, when I couldn't even fully love myself and for that I am forever grateful. Now I just come to listen to this song because it's so very touching, and it reminds me just how lucky and blessed I am to have found a lasting love. If you're reading this and your hurting right now, just hang in there, because you were meant to be loved. God has a plan for your life and when the times right, you will meet the person you're supposed to spend the rest of your life with.
Whenever I hear this song-I come to it often-I see him, myself, that pudgy eighteen year old kid, cycling down a hilly UC San Diego campus, on his way back from a night class, chemistry or biology or something that won't lead anywhere he wants to be, at 10 pm, with his large headphones on, not caring that he's failing his classes or that he will probably fail them, just listening to his favorite song, a song that makes him feel heard, complicit, and, later, two years later, he's playing it for the girl he's in love with, in a dorm of that same campus, and he's saying it's depressing but I like depressing music and she's smiling at him saying so do I, and then, some time later, I see him playing it one morning, before sunrise, the morning after he almost lost someone and then during the afternoon when he did lose someone, when life seemed to stop or when it did stop, for him and no one else, and the only thing that seemed real were these words, this song, and these series of moments that make up a person, and now, more than a decade later, he is me, a version of me, and despite everything, despite every moment in which that hill seemed to be beautiful and eternal and the other times when the hill was layered with rocks and rain and mud, I know everything will be alright, that I will always have this song to come back to, that time can be slowed down just enough to relive your life a thousand times, to cherish it, to accept it, to, eventually, let it all go with a smile.
One of the most beautiful pieces of music ever created in my opinion. The lyrics of Bonnie and the expression of Vernon makes this song absolutely timeless and takes you by the heart without fail every time.
Just wanna offer a bit of hope for the broken hearted -- Three years ago, (who I thought was) the love of my life, the man I wanted to marry, left me for another woman after nearly four years together. He even moved across the country to live with her. The heartbreak felt unbearable and I thought I would never escape the feelings of inadequacy and abandonment. It has not been easy, but I was able to find healing. My life is now full and beautiful. If you're feeling broken, please remember that there IS healing. xoxox
It’s funny how pain changes and shapes you. You become this entirely different, yet stronger person. You think you can’t live without this certain person, but it turns out you can. You live without them because you were forced, not because you wanted to live without them. I understand that you don’t want to live without them, but you must if you don’t want to wallow or dwell on the person or situation. In the moment you are probably thinking “I am never going to get over him/her” or “he/she was the one that got away” or the “what if this and that”. The thing is, it does get better and all of that happened for a reason. Pain is temporary, not permanent. It gets better slowly. Very very slowly, but throughout time you’ll notice that you are unloving that person. The beginning hurts like hell oh my goodness. I remember I could not breathe and I felt as if I was drowning. I’d wake up with puffy green eyes and I could not see a damn thing! I remember the sleepless nights and all of the crying and crying and tissues. However, you grow with pain. It changes you. Self-love became vital and I changed. Slowly but surely you get over that person. I just hated the fact that at such a ripe age I thought “This is the best it is going to get. There is no one better than him”. Oh my goodness, I was freaking wrong. It gets better and you meet someone better. Trust me.
I am going through a horrible breakup and today I was crying my heart out with this song, thinking "I am never going to get over him. I won't love another person again". And then I saw your comment, and you cannot imagine how much it helps me, it gave me peace and more important, it gave me hope. Thank you so much, stranger.
It's not the end of the world....it'll be better and one day you're going to look back and say to yourself..."hey, what was I thinking?"....cuz you'ld forgotten how much pain you were in...
I was 17 when I discovered this… haven’t listened in many, many years… but for some reason as I was driving today… Justin Vernon’s voice singing the hook just went through my head… I heard it. Isn’t that crazy? So here I am, listening to this song and aligning it with my life experiences for the past 9 years. Beautiful, just beautiful.
I liked this girl so much, so I wrote her a song on my keyboard and played it for her and she liked it. We traded numbers and we texted, but she said she just wanted to be friends and told me she started to cry when I said I liked her since 7th grade and showed her this song. I insisted it was ok and that I'll be fine, but I was still hurt. So over the next few weeks we talked still. I won her a prize at a carnival our class went to on a senior trip, and when she had a dance show at our school and she thought she did bad, I told her how good she actually was. I did these things because I still liked her and my friends told me not to give up on her just yet. But she thought I was doing this as a good friend. She said I was a really good friend of hers and she didn't want to lose me. She made me realize what a truly good friend I could be to other people, and now coming back to this song, it has a different tone and message for me. It is no longer a depressing song about unrequited love for me, but a song showing me that it's ok that I'll never be with her as long as we'll always be in touch and be good friends, and that there's no point in feeling depressed because at least we've had that friendship for a while, and I don't think it'll end anytime soon. For all of you suffering from unrequited love, look at this song differently the way I did, and it'll change you.😃
…No. There's being hot and me just wanting to get in your pants and then there's you being beautiful and me wanting to start a life with her. She was beautiful and I'm glad we're best friends who keep in touch to this day.
I had a crush on her in seventh grade. As time went on(through high school)my understanding of girls and the people I would like changed. My respect for girls and understanding of what's truly beautiful grew, as did her beauty. Anyways I'm glad we're still friends now.
So beautiful. I love the end, when he leaves his fingers on the keys for a long time, almost as if he didn't want to give up the beauty of the song and return to his heartbroken state.
its beautiful song you allow your emotions to feel it, it makes you the best man in the world if you can do this.. if u don't feel, you might as well be dead xx
So, early this morning when I was half asleep I kept hearing the phrase “bon iver” repeat in my head. I had never heard these words ever before in my life. When I was drinking my morning coffee, I decided to look it up and low and behold it means “good winter” in French and is also this band/ musician that I found here. What a beautiful song !!💔😭 I was led here from something way greater than I!
Ive been returning to this video since im 16, now im 24 and all the feelings that this songs remain to me are kind of nostalgic, maybe one day it all will get better...
Turn down the light Turn down the bed Turn down these voices Inside my head Lay down with me Tell me no lies Just hold me close Don't patronize me Don't patronize me 'Cause I can't make you love me If you don't You can't make your heart feel Something it won't Here in the dark In these final hours I will lay down my heart I'll feel the power But you don't No, you don't 'Cause I can't make you love me if you don't And if you don't No, you won't I'll close my eyes Then I won't see The love you don't feel When you're holding me Morning will come And I'll do what's right Just give me till then To give up this fight And I will give up this fight 'Cause I can't make you love me if you don't I can't make your heart feel Something it won't Here in the dark In these final hours I will lay down my heart And I'll feel the power But you don't No, you don't I can't make you love me if you don't And if you don't No, no, no, you won't I found love darling I found love darling I found love darling, yeah I found love darling, yeah I found love darling, darling Love in the nick of time I found love darling, yeah Love in the nick of time LIKE, PLEASE
I listened to that song before coming here and all the comments here about unrequited love seem to relate more to that than "He Was a Friend of Mine". Or am I missing something?
"You can't make your heart feel something it won't" .... man... so stubbornly true; like a slap in the face from a cold, bitter hand. Like a broken heart, it's not just the impact of the slap when it hits - it's the sting that stays for what seems like forever.
harry ralph Grow up boy. All you whining hags make me puke. Thank God we have Trump. MAGA. Trump 2020. Drain all child molester. Smoke em out and bring it Donald Trump.
I think a lot of the heartache we face in relationships stems from the fact that we ignore red flags... We want so badly for this to be the person, the one, our soulmate... We think the differences will disappear, that somehow the inconsistencies will fade... but they don't. Time exacerbates the issues, close constant proximity to the person makes the problems that we overlooked inescapable. Yet, we continue to invest time and energy into something that if we had been honest with ourselves from the beginning, we knew wasn't going to work out... Then, one day, someone gives up and walks away. It hurts... I'll admit, I was the person who walked away. I know I hurt him, and I'm not trying to justify what I did or minimize how I hurt him... But if we both would have been honest, we knew it was always going to end that way.
I actually really relate to this a lot, quite significantly. My first relationship was much like what you've described. There were wonderful aspects to it, and the other person was terrific, but we simply had fundamental differences, and that wedge was always there. I tried so hard because I was so scared of breaking her heart and my own. In the end, like you said, I walked away. I learned a lot from that. Why am I telling you this? Because the Internet. But also, I appreciate your honesty, so there's mine. Thanks fellow human
I'm grateful to have the opportunity to come across this song. It got me through my first heartbreak back in 2019. Fast forward to several years, I find myself coming back to this song, not because my heart is still broken, but because I'm now on the other side of heartbreak. I'm now in a relationship and it's full of love. I would never have gotten to this point without the help of this song and its healing effects.
When you realize pain gets worse when you don't cry because you can't cry. But you can't figure out why you can't cry other than knowing you're so broken that crying feels like an idea rather than a part of your life. At the same time knowing you're kind of glad you can hold onto the pain, because the things it helps you see, makes the sadness, worth the knowledge.
The one positive thing from everything hurting so much right now is knowing that the pain is caused by how wholly I gave away my heart. That it was handed back to me after five years with a bit more wear and tear is just the price I paid. I'm going to be okay though. Someday.
Years and years of listening to this song and it never gets old. The heartbreak still feels fresh. Only so many artists can evoke that pain in a person. I am in awe of this man and will never stop being a fan.
It's crazy, I just happened to come across this at the most horrible yet strangely ideal time in my life. Every note, word, and tone that justin hit just sent my soul to the deepest depths of sadness. It tore me to fucking pieces but even now 5 years later the nostalgic memories of listening to this on repeat for hours still hits me hard. Just wanted to share that. This is indefinitely forever. 💚
Kelly Lee This is the most sensible comment on this video, and the fact that it’s not at the top/not understood is a clear sign that most people are complete plebs who don’t understand their own value enough. No wonder they’re all crying about their exes and saying toxic self-destructive things to get people to join their pity party. 🤦🏻♀️
lol id never imagine Bon Iver looking like this. he looks so chill. like "hey guys ima just drop buy and record this new song I threw together but I gotta meet someone at the coffee shop at 3"
This song was the one I found when my relationship of 12 years came to and end, 7 years ago, as I listened my tears flowed, and cleansed my soul. Each word that is sung reminds me of what I once had, even to this day. It’s been a hard journey but I’m trying to make each step a little easier for myself. To all out there who’ve experienced different things, my heart goes out to you, but please believe it gets better.
All these years later and I still come back to this song. It's cold and haunting and makes me feel the blues for a love that died out due to my actions. And yet, I find some sense of comfort and familiarity in the stinging pain it evokes especially when you go months to years not feeling any meaningful emotion at all. It's my little cold corner where I can go and still feel alive.
This song is so sad, but the comments are so much sadder.. They got me so emotional, it crazy all the heartbreaks we go through and we still have faith/hope in love.... Y'all strong people, thumbs up to all of you
What is amazing to me is at one time someone sat down and wrote these brutally raw and heartfelt lyrics along with the beautiful haunting melody. What musical alchemic magic does this person possess?
Even after 12 years we still come back here. This is a sanctuary for so many of us
Don't you feel 😢 like crying? Im fighting the tears 😭
Indeed.
This is my first time hearing this hit. I felt like I needed a good cry with all the shit I’ve been through. Much love and support to everyone who might need it. ❤❤❤❤❤❤
This is perfect, forever !!!
sanctuary......yes.......sanctuary that stills...... names the pain.... and the peace.
as winter nears bon iver grows stronger and stronger
Love
Yes, He'll soon achieve the Quickening
it's funny you say that bc "bon iver" comes from French "bon hiver" which means "good winter"
Cale Moseley we’re stupid-laughing over here. 😂😂
so true dude last time i REALLY listened to Bon Iver was last winter and now im getting that feeling again
I just want to say that if you're crying your heart out to this song wishing that the person you're thinking about would love you back, please stop, take a deep breath, and listen. Odds are, you've got your whole life ahead of you and plenty of time to find someone who appreciates and loves you and won't let you feel the way you're feeling right now. You will love and not be loved in return, just as you will be loved and not love in return. That is one of the saddest things in life, but inevitable. If you're young, please don't spend years trying to gain love and validation from whoever it is you're chasing. Love yourself, please, and in doing so, I promise that the person that will appreciate and love you genuinely will have light-up signs pointing straight at them and they'll be vomiting confetti and party favors and it'll be grand. I promise (well, except for the signs and confetti and stuff, there's a 78% chance that I'm lying about that, but it'll still be pretty obvious, and amazing).
Truth...already lived it
You have no idea how much I needed that.
Its always the case with a tender age. As myself I have learned through the pain. The words you type are nothing but truth. Brianna Smith
I just wanna say thank you.
awww, i love you for this!
To every beautiful, hurting soul that returns to this masterpiece after all these years:
There is peace within letting go, within realization and moving on to love yourself in the wake of unrequited love. Take back the piece of your heart that you gave and mend it anew, so that one day you can gift it to someone who will treasure it. Learning to trust requires falling, inevitably is riddled with mistakes, but eventually will heal your soul. It’s okay to hurt now and hurt deeply, and I hope that your pain will turn into wisdom that begets new love. Stay strong and this too shall pass. ❤
thank you, dear! wish you a beautiful life 💖💞🌹
I love you
thank you so much for this
❤
😢😢😢😢😢Very Thanks ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Letting go of someone you love because they don't feel the same way is so heart wrenching. Especially when months have passed and you have moved on but you know deep down you still love them.
+Cassie Famoso And what do you do when you're constantly seeing that person everyday of the week?I have to hide that feeling until i can get away and just end things,because i know for sure she doesn't feel the same way,i'm her 'best friend' after all.
You took the words right out of my mouth.
+Sigmund Freud *sigh* that's a hard call. Either you get over your attraction to the person, or wallow in it forever. Stopping the friendship or asking for some time apart to get over your feelings is also a choice. It's the harder one, but it really does work :/ Trust me, I've been there
True that! Unrequited love is one of the hardest things on the heart.
and for that sir I'll report your comment for being so beautiful
Hello random person looking through the comments. We’re probably all here for similar reasons and I just want you to know that as one stranger to another I love you. Sometimes things don’t end like we want them to but times will get better. Continue to find little traces of love in your everyday life and happiness will find you again. You’re not alone, we are in this together 💚
Thanks man!
Thanks so much! Really needed that
Love you man
Thank you. I love you as well.
Thank you 💜💜💜
Personally, selfishly, this song became a lot more profound when I realized the pain doesn’t just come from romance left unrequited. RIP to the friendships that feel this disconnect, too.
Be yourself, you’re awesome.
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That’s exactly why I’m listening to this right now
For real
Big facts
You are quite right 😓
I’ve been in love with this version of this song for 11 years… I come back to it every time I’m heartbroken
You know you love someone when you want to see them happy, even if that happiness doesn’t include you.
Very true
Yes
Been there. Still love him as intensely as I did 20 years ago.
Philipinas Calimoso So true! 🙂☺️🙌🏼
A NICE FIT
Looks like a sailor, sings like a mermaid...
Hmm he looks more like a lumberjack. ;)
iarebrown a pirate but sings like an angel
Ha you crazy
iarebrown :)
haha looks like a sailor sings like a mermaid 😂
This was a favorite song of my little sister, who took her life a year and a half ago. I learned it for her while she was still here, and she loved it. Now I sing it with tears in my eyes for a deeper reason. Thank you, Justin Vernon, for encapsulating the feeling of this song so perfectly. Much love to all the hurting hearts out there in the world.
Very sorry for your loss.
Sorry for your loss. I'm glad this music has helped you.
I'm so sorry for your loss.
😔😔🙏🙏
😭
I was a functioning heroin addict 8 years ago with a girl that I used with for 4 years. I never thought I'd find a way out and resigned to die that way. I used to listen the wolves by bon iver and pray for a new start. Then I met a girl that I fell in love with harder than I knew was possible. She gave me the strength to leave my toxic junkie partner. The first time we slept next to one another was march of 2016 and I remember so vividly playing this on my phone while it sat on my chest in the pitch black bedroom. Before her I would toss and turn all night, but with her head on my chest I laid perfectly still all night long as not to disturb her. Thats how I sleep to this day. This is what love and heart ache sounds like all at once. She gave me a reason to get off heroin. We've been married for 6 years and have 3 beautiful children. I can never listen to this without being reduced to tears. Music is the magic of this life. Never underestimate that. It really is magic. Thank you Justin. For saying all of the things we feel.
God bless you brother.
Love you brother, Im thankful you found a way out
The worst feeling is just when you realized this was the 100th time you said you will give up but next minute you still wanna give him all you have. If he wants to be friends, you would just be friends with him, waiting, that one day he would feel for you the same way as you do for him. But that day is desperately far, like it would never come
+Thi- Rex it's never too late
I understand you.. perfectly :, (
I concur... I know exactly what you mean. I just hate not being in control of how I feel... the heart does as it pleases. :(
I hope you are feeling okay now.
You are not alone❤
This song and this comments section really reminds you that we're all human. In a chaotic world where we're constantly overstimulated and ignorant, it's nice to be able to read about people being vulnerable and feeling real feelings. This rendition is something special. Peace to everyone
Very well said madam
it really be like that sometimes
What do you read?
@Little gay hairy Chinese Kid da fuck LoL
Beautiful!!
There’s something comforting knowing you’re not the only one feeling this broken.
You have my heart.
Ikr, feels liberating somehow..
It sucks how a broken heart affects everything, even something as fundamental as motivation
Oh my gosh chin up💌
My best advice is go outside&enjoy the beautiful weatherRearth is blessing us all with✌🏼🤎😊
Reminds me of a ram Dass quote "we're all just kids walking each other home". There's alot of hurt souls out there, but at least we know we aren't alone
Back again for the first time in a few years. It still hits hard. Beautiful beautiful beautiful x
Same here
This song really touches me in a painful spot. It seems like whenever I fall in love, it always destroys me. I always fall for someone that I can't have. The only time someone actually likes me back, I realized that it wasn't true love; it was just me trying to get over the last one. Sometimes I'm not even sure if I really love someone. I guess a good way to tell is when I cry listening to a song with them in mind. I'm the kind of person to fall easily for someone, but they've got to be someone really special. And that's what really hurts. When I do truly love someone, it's because there is no one else like them and no way I could or would ever be with them. Love is amazing. The feeling of being in love and showing someone your love is the best feeling in the world; but the other emotions that come with it really really hurt. Some people get confused and think love is terrible, but they're getting it confused with other emotions like pain and anger or jealousy. Love is something truly amazing. It's something that I really wish I had with someone. A certain someone. But after all this time, I don't think I was destined to have love.
Wow, I had the exact same thoughts as you...and I really feel with you, I understand what you are feeling. The last few days, I've been thinking about how it would be if this person would see that I'm here and I could make him happy...
I'm trying so hard to accept that he will never feel the way I do and that I can't change anything.
But every sad song reminds me of my feelings, they are like little demons, hiding in my heart to eat a piece of my yummy soul every time the're hungry. It's just annoying but I'm in love with never giving up the hope I have and everytime I'm moving on someone helps me to fall down again.
I really don't know why I'm answering, but your comment inspired me:)
Thanks
Meli ssa It's means a lot that you said that. Thank you, too. And just some advise from a quote, "If you think about something everyday, you should never give up on it." I really think that speaks a lot of truth. We feel things for people for a reason. You may not know that reason yet. People we meet are either a lesson or a blessing. Don't give up.
+Morrigan Miller It means a lot to me too and Yes, I think you're right that's a really honest quote:) I won't give up.
Meli ssa Good luck to ya!
+Morrigan Miller Thanks a lot!
To those of you out there who just listened to this rendition for the first time: Don't worry, it's emotional potency doesn't fade after days, weeks, months or years. It will always be as painfully, evocatively heartwrenching as the first listen. Thank God.
damn. i'm glad to know there are people like you out there who would even care to articulate that. my world, i am better for it--- a lot.
I just discovered this version today! Like where has it been all my life? Fan of Bonnie’s original version back then. This particular rendition is superb. My heart knows this. Infinitesimal waves …
Every so often, I’ll cue this video up, and I’ll read the comments. It’s arguably one of the best covers of all time. And the comment section fuels my melancholy soul. Thank you Justin. Thank you.
me too... and i like your comment, too.
I think I’ll be doing the same ❤️ And I JUST discovered this version today. Been a fan of Bonnie’s original. And now falling in love again, in a melancholic way as well.
*inarguably
I’m 27 and I’ve only known unrequited love. I used to believe that it was immature to feel frustration about it, but it’s not. I know I own nobodies heart, but my own. And I know I have boundless love. Love that I can give freely and unashamedly feel everyday. It took many years to be able to give that to myself. Trauma, self hatred, self deprecation.. it can do a number on you. If you’re reading this. Never give up on you. You are loveable. Never forget it.
I can relate. Thanks you for you.
to love myself is much harder thing to do than love someone else. and you made it . im proud of you. i wish i could completely vanish my self-hatred someday
Thank you 🤗🤗
might just print this comment out and put it on my wall
@@Jeramiahstool same
Amazing version of this song. My marriage of 8 years, to the love of my life, ended abruptly without warning 10 months ago. She left me for another man. The emotional and physical pain was unbearable... something I wouldn't wish upon my worst enemy. My world came crashing down all around me. My soul was stagnant and numb. I gave every ounce of my heart and soul to her from the day I laid eyes on her. I wasn't perfect, but I loved her unconditionally. I had faults and screwups. I think every relationship does. Nothing is perfect. You have to work at it everyday. Don't give up on each other. See the good in each other. Compromise and communicate. If you truly love someone, cherish every single second you have with them....because in the blink of an eye it can be over and gone. Work on being a better person everyday. Love yourself first, before you try and love another. If for some crazy reason, you read this Kasey....I just want you to know that I will never, ever stop loving you. You're the love of my life, and I'll feel that way about you until I draw my last breath on this earth. I miss your laugh and your smile the most. You haunt my dreams every night.
Justin sorry for your loss
I just lost my ex in a complex situation , and i feel some of your pain. Praying for you! Stay strong, and pray a lot.
Let music save you bro💖 praying for you
Dealing w the same thing.. 10 years of marriage.. raised a daughter together. Cruel and cold 😔
Alll the feels for this comment. ♥️
I met her over 40 years ago and somehow, she's still the one. That deep ache in my chest is always there when I think about her. I believe it comes back, to remind me to try not to.
My head knows it's always been impossible to be with her, but my heart never will.
❤
Damn….💔
That's deep. I have one of those as well. Maybe if there's another life after this one she'll love me the way I loved her. Bittersweet.
I like to think the same of all those who I have loved with such abandon, who ended up me abandoning them in the end. I wasnt ever ready for the depths I saw before me. What they asked, without asking, to expose myself more than the last. All the while, I was screaming inside that I couldnt love myself & I was breaking them, not me. I was so naive, so young. I cherise many of the moments between us. Shared only the two of us. I pray I find another I can love without abandon as I once did, but with thr wisdom Ive gained through all these years of pain
Isso significa que nunca vai parar de doer em mim como está doendo agora? 💔
Listen everyone, don't lose your minds over someone else, remember the day before you met them you were both strangers to one another, you didn't grow together, it was happenstance that you met, you walked through an experience and when the path came to a crossroad, one of you took the other way, thats all this is is experience, if it was meant to be, then it would have lasted, but it was a lesson learned if it didn't last. Everyone makes mistakes, you learn from the mistake and move on and the next one that comes will be better because you won't make or they won't make that mistake again. If someone doesn't care for you the way you cared for them, your only hurting yourself, walk away and say nothing, guaranteed they will come calling for you at one time, just keep your cool and you will be the one looking better and more mature. Forget saying anything you will regret it, just smile and walk !!
tim d i am sad
One day she / he will realize they lost a diamond while playing with worthless stones..
321123Nelly One day she / he will realize they lost a diamond while playing with worthless stones..
tim d just thank you...
That's easy to say but dude, there's a lot of true in your words. Hope to be like that one day, I always get so stuck with the people.
Just found out my wife loves another man. She's been cheating on me for 4 months. This was a peaceful song though, it pulled my heartstrings. The realness of the lyrics speaks a lot. It'll be alright in the end. You can't make someone love you.
Update 07/2019: Life is so good
Update 10/10/2024: it’s been a while, I should’ve updated soon so THANK YOU for all the kind words of encouragement, I’ve read through them multiple times over the years. I just teared up rereading my first part of this post because I’ve learned how it feels for someone to ACTUALLY love you since. I’ve since met a woman that showed me what true love is. It actually blows my mind the difference. I’ve never been closer to someone than her. We live together and will be getting married soon!! 🎉
To all that responded and might be thinking it’ll never get better just know this; love yourself no matter what anyone does to you, and love will come back around eventually. God bless. ❤
Austin Fish sorry to hear that man, you deserve better
Austin Fish You’re open to love again as long as you ARE love, all the time to all beings. That made sense to me when I read it, but maybe the original quote was more adroit.
I wish you all the very best x.
Hang strong, you got this.
Also sorry mate: I didn’t put that in my rather babbling first reply.
Don’t know what the future holds for you or anyone, but your comment struck me as not only mature but graced with forgiveness and non attachment. Another lasting and magical love is on your way sometime because you’re one of those guys who brings the best out in people.
Trust me- I’m usually right about these things! x
Love from Mexico bro
Kill your ego, learn to love. People aren't meant to be owned.
He was the greatest lesson.
yup. most men silently asking a return love, I love you atleast can I have a half of ur love. Not good in explaining things hope u get the idea...🥰
Ummm
Depends
On
The human♾💌
@@kleng2xbell256 I give all my love
how to be a robot is more suitable. so when you love someone never hope you get something in return it is what it is but look in the brighter side atleast you felt something that's true whatever happens you are sure of one thing " you love her" no one can beat that so cheers?🤣 Always up to you no one can answer the why's? It's just the one staring back at you in the mirror. Be strong have faith keep that love 🔥 maybe one day she'll feel the heat yeah she might, I myself been waiting too almost a decade now 🤣🤘💪✌️
😭❤
.....𝓑𝓮𝓪𝓾𝓽𝓲𝓯𝓾𝓵🥀...
Been watching this for 8 years now and it never stops being beautiful
I felt that way too. ,
Me: Probably shouldn't listen to sad music when you're sad.
Also me: plays this shit 43 times back to back.
listening to sad music when you're sad will make you at one with yourself, do it!
Language of the soul...
I shouldn't listen to sad music when im drunk
zedzero77 what the hell... wallow in your misery. Sometimes we just need to stop pretending to be so strong. And be human for a change lol.
we are no longer human, all this tech around us seem to twist our own existence...should we cry in front of a screen? should we do and say how we truly feel as a synthetic? singularity? no? yes?
This is the kind of music you listen to on a rainy evening.
Kind of music I listen to everyday.
chill out with that shit dude
Thom Smith Thom Smith Thom Smith
Tre Sutton Fuck yes
Marjorie Sunga this song is perfect for sex
Listened to this 3 years ago after being completely heartbroken and the song perfectly understood the pain I felt. Now I am in a much better state and this song fills me with the joy of knowing I conquered this pain. It gets better guys, just keep moving forward.
I really needed to hear this. Thank you.
My heart needed these words. Thank you.
Thanks
I’m so, so proud of you
I’m constantly trying to move forward, trying to except I loved someone who never loved me!!! Our son looks just like his dad-so that pain isn’t far under the surface!!!!! 💔
please upload this to spotifty this is the only song I listen to on youtube, i prefer to do all my crying in one place ty much love
Bonnie Raitt is the original creator of this song
Need a new list of cry songs if you feel like sharing, pleeeease? 💔💔💔
Theres a large number of amazing live performances like this that aren't on spotify and it makes me so sad!
@@lookingforsanjunipero4542 take mine. It includes this video: ua-cam.com/play/PLCaRN-0rml7nc4UMBr1AAP46Zw3_9C1TR.html
Your life is phatetic
I would do terrible things to have this version on Spotify 😭
It's not hard....
So glad I am not the only one that thinks this!
He did the Spotify version dirty
@@jessk4116 well it is bon iver, just not Justin Vernon singing instead it’s Sean Carey who is also a member of Bon Iver
@@westernpigeon it's shit in comparison but only because this is a masterpiece
My mom loved this song. She’s been gone since June of 2019. I lost her at 20, I’m 23 now. It hasn’t gotten better. Thank you for encapsulating this as beautifully as you have. I’m crying.
I lost my big sister to suicide about 3 years ago. It doesn’t really get better but I do everything I can to live for her and honor her memory. I’ve found when I help others I see a little bit of her in them and it comforts me. Nice knowing there’s other people who understand at least.
Hi sweet girl. I am almost 26, lost my mom when I was 20 also…Keep pushing.. it’s what she would want for you, to never give up. ❤️
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I’m sorry for your loss.
♥️
After 10 years of coming back to this song, today I realized that alternatively and interestingly, this song is also so much about realizing the importance of self-love as a necessary first step before healing and love.
Imagine signing this song to our inner wounded self, and not to a heartbreaker. Sing this song to yourself, it will hit differently. 🫂
❤️🩹😭 sending your soul the biggest hug from another so similar ❤️🩹
BRATS!!!!
Who else is here after listening to I think about it all the time?????!!!!!!!
I watch this video atleast yearly since it’s release and am feeling incredibly seen that it has now go on to be featured on the remix album. TASTE!!! Thank you Justin and Charli for revisiting this!! Infinite gratitude. Love y’all!!!
fuck yeah
Stop thinking about yourself and start working on your English friend
@@timmasters1195 ???? Worry bout ur bad attitude
@@Zacharybilletter my attitude is fine thanks Zachary.
@@timmasters1195 OKLOSER
Loss, heartbreak, and pain are part of the human experience. No need to run from it.
Music like this help me understand everyone that ever walked on earth has felt the pain of disappointment. Be strong friends.
Yep!
Remember we all interpret music differently so keep that in mind! I’ve never found anything sad about Justin singing this tune💌💋
@ompbotty cheer up! Dance around or anything!
This level of heart break is really devastating but it’s also beautiful in a weird way.
I give thanks for pain as much as grace. My most powerful lessons are learned through pain. I agree, bud.
it hit hard for my pain still quite quitting feel
Hits the same in 2024
It reminds me of guy I liked the most in the world. T_T and i still do...
who gives a fuck what year it is dickhead, music doesn't have an expiry date so stop running around posting 'who listening in 2027 yo' on every video loser.
@nickcampbell697
Bon Iver still bangs.
Who's here in 2025?!
@@brianenders2098 loser
The fact this has nearly twice the views as the original song is a testament to how well he sells the emotion this song holds.
But atleast George can sing patronise correctly 😉
This is a positive song for me, believe it or not. It is an acceptance of what cannot be. And once you accept that, you can begin moving on. Painful, yet profound and freeing.
I can see why, the fact that the other person dont and wont ever love us, teaches us truth and acceptance. Let it go - james bay is also the song that taught me this.
Yes
Christie Jensen relate with you so much. At this point last year this song would have drove me to uncontrollable sobbing. Now, only comforting peace and acceptance.
I've been in love with a guy that is in love with another girl. The truth is in the beginning he didn't know if he wanted me or her. In the end, he chose her.
And I thank that songs like this exist, because they turn something painful for me into something beautiful, and I don't feel alone anymore.
So... thank you, music.
same as me :D
Your comment made me cry, I hope you get better
i think that guy is Stupid !
She Denied a Beautiful woman that loves her.
Because all my life no one liked me until now, i fall inlove with her and i think it's just impossible to be with her. :(
Don Diesel btw this isn't my real name :P :( :3 Peace !
I love you, Laura :) -from the icy wilds of Northern Canada
11 years of coming back to this song and it still wrecks me every time. i’ve never heard anything more devastatingly beautiful. cheers, hopeless romantics.
Still one of the most amazing piano arrangements for this song. Blows me away every time
my wife left me a few months ago and i have been trying to move on but it feels impossible at times I miss her so much, this song hits me hard.
+badgerking you just hit me hard man..
+badgerking Makes my problems seem so small. Wish you well brother, from the bottom of my heart.
my marriage just ended as well man. it is odd on my end I am more hurt that I may be alone for a good portion of my life then her not being with me. you'll get past it. one sappy love song at a time.
aww i got a tear, i hope everything gets better for you. the sun will shine again for you xx
Yesterday, for me. I know how you feel. Life goes on, brother. Stay positive!
who hurt you bon iver
Henry Levinson his name isnt bon iver.. thats his band name ;)
The real question is who hurt Bonnie Raitt
Becca Morrison The real(er) question is who hurt Mike Reid and Allen Shamblin.
Well, she wrote Nick of Time if that counts for anything
Henry Levinson Emma, Forever Ago.
We all ended up alone, that's why we are here, listening to this song and crying, even if not accepting, is what actually happens in life...
7 years later, this song still hits as hard as I when first heard it.
in fact, Bon Iver still hits as hard as I first heard him in "The place beyond the pines".
That movie meant much to me as a father, but the messages you're leaving out for the world means much for what they may face in their darkest of times.
This isn't just music, it is art in it's purest of forms. It is human emotion and experience put upon a piece of lyric, it is what most of us will have to endure.
Thank you, Bon Iver.
I always listen to this almost every night for the past four years, and this never fail to make me cry each time. I never expected to be reciprocated, but it is just really tough seeing the person I loved and adored gives his love and attention to different women throughout the years while I give all of my unconditional love, time, effort, and affection to him, only him. I waited for years, thinking if I were patient enough, he would love me someday the way I loved him. I thought, if I were brave enough to let him know and show how I feel without any shame, everything would change. Despite all of my sacrifices, unconditional love, understanding, and patience, I ended up with nothing but bitterness and insecurity; However, I learned a lot from him, and I turned my pain to strength. I became a stronger woman, and I am thankful. I won't regret those years I spent waiting and loving a man who never loved me. I miss him terribly everyday, but I need to move on and give up all of my hopes, fantasies, dreams of being with him. Now, I am slowly picking up all of the pieces of my broken heart. I am slowly healing my wounds. It might take time, maybe years, to fully heal, but I am hopeful that someday I would find someone who can show me the same amount of love, respect, and attention I can give.
I never commented in any UA-cam videos before, but I felt an urge to pour out my emotions like everyone on the comment section. I am here, crying with y'all. Let's all cry together and hopefully cry it all until the pain goes away...
I feel you
every single night? wow! you're dedicated
Not only did I relate to that on sooo many levels especially considering I had a child with said man :( but I am now in a relationship I couldn’t be any happier. I also finished reading as the last chord rang out it really made me jitter 😭
Ouch, I think I’m going through the start of what you’ve been through. Maybe it’s a good idea I back off now before I waste anymore of my time. Still it hurts, because he means so much to me.
I know how you feel and it’s killing me i hope you okay right now i hope you found someone really love you like you want
If lying in bed listening to Bon Iver’s acoustic cover of Bonnie Raitt’s “I Can’t Make You Love Me” at 6:27 AM on a sleepless night ain’t the absolute fattest mood out there, imma need y’all to tell me what is
Jarod Atchley Damn only 5:29 AM over here.
@@redharlow3926 3:42am here.
2:26pm
4:40 AM here :)
2:11 but in my case in trying to learn it on guitar
worst feeling in world is loving someone with all you're heart and they don't feel the same way as you it like the sun going down under you especially when get nothing back
It hurts so much. I fell so hard for a guy. He told me he loved me and I fell in love with him. Only to have him tell me he never really felt it, that he doesn't think he will ever feel it.
+kristine moreno I can relate I deal with it all the time
i can relate.... :(
+Elaine Coutts I sometimes ask myself if that is really love. There is someone who I care very deeply about, and I try to remind myself to be grateful that I got the chance to know this wonderful person. Sometimes I want that person so badly. It seems selfish to me. I thought the real thing is supposed to be selfless, full of wonder, respect, and appreciation. The stars in the sky are so beautiful but I can't reach out to take them for myself. Ideally it would be like that. But I can't shake the longing.
stirfrylove I sang and played this song on piano a couple days ago and the girl I like decided to go with me
There are some songs in life that the first time you hear you know will be a part of you for the rest of your time. This is one of them for me. I check in on it once and a while and find everlasting joy in its beauty. What a masterpiece.
So well said🙏👏
How it feels right now. It's like walking down a forked road. If I go left, nothing is right. If I go right, nothing is left.
Nice💕
where did u get that from i wanna quote it but i feel like it's from something I've heard before and don't wanna get it wrong
Deep
God Loves you bro stay strong, you can do it
Brian C. I know exactly how you feel, and I'm sure you've heard that before. But let me elaborate how i know where your'e coming from. It's like when you're not even looking for someone, that unbearable moment that hits you so hard it feels soo good, you can't sleep at night because you met someone that just connected with you on so many levels. Shared so many interests. Then all of a sudden, she pulls a 180, or she just didn't feel the same as you as she did in the beginning. Stay strong my man.
The fact that this brother has people discussing the subject of the song means he did what many artists can't do. He let the song speak. In an age of vocal acrobatics and musical assaults, it's good to hear a sincere rendition of a very simple, very real piece of music.
I can't make him love me... so accepting, this song is... it really hits deep. I know, in my heart, he will never feel the same like the way I feel about him. :'(
Good thing UA-cam's comment section is here for you :'(((
true that... :'(
I bet you have tons of people waiting in line for you, so don't worry about him, not worth it:)
Psh, IF ONLY!! :P hahaha. Thank you for the advice :)
Christine Shoemaker
totally, I second
you'll find the one who feels the same way about you
The hope at the end when he transitions to “‘Nick of Time” is so beautiful. Right when he thinks love is lost, he finds it. I love this rendition, and the juxtaposition of these two songs.
Just when I get caught up in the daily routine, I hear a song that makes my heart twist and reminds me I'm human. Feelings mean you're alive.
notRELEASEDtoPUBLIC FUCK fEELINGS
Blonde Ambition Listen to the version by Mary Coughlan (spelling?).
Beautiful
There's something sacred about this rendition.
varun arora Agree. Painful.
It is pure patos.
I crie everitim
sacred is the right word
varun arora Theres something sacred about most of his music 😉
True.
Damn, this song makes me feel the pain of a heartbreak that I have yet to experience.
Damn right! son
sydney scott fr
I really hope you won't experience it. Non-reciprocal love is very painful
I hope you get your heart broken at least once, not because it's beautiful or something but because it teaches you what love is capable of. After the heartbreak you will feel like you can never love again but you will not give up hope and you'll find love again. Because to love at all is to be vulnerable.
having loved and lost, it is so painful. I loved too much you see, it has been over a year now and my heart feels like it was broken just yesterday. But if theres one thing I learned in this time, from both my friends and family, comment sections and even therapy, it is that you can not give up, and it is never the end. No matter what, someone out there will love you as much as you loved the person that couldnt love you as strongly as you had.
So many different people in so many different places listening to this song. Best message of truth to take from this song: you’ll find love in the nick of time. ❤
My mother adopted me when I was 6, and this song has always resonated with me. Over the years, I would sing this with her.
She passed away recently, her last moments were listening to this song while I sang to her softly. I miss her beyond measure. Now I sing this song with tears streaming down my face... that moment with her never fades. Thank you for creating a song that can hold so much for so many 💜
Turn down the lights
Turn down the bed
Turn down these voices inside my head
Lay down with me
Tell me no lies
Just hold me close
Don't patronize
Don't patronize me
'Cause I can't make you love me if you don't
You can't make your heart feel something it won't
Here in the dark in these final hours
I will lay down my heart and I'll feel the power
But you won't, no you won't
'Cause I can't make you love me if you don't
I'll close my eyes
Then I won't see
The love you don't feel when you're holding me
Morning will come
And I'll do what's right
Just give me 'til then to give up this fight
And I will give up this fight
'Cause I can't make you love me if you don't
You can't make your heart feel something it won't
Here in the dark in these final hours
I will lay down my heart and I'll feel the power
But you won't, no you won't
'Cause I can't make you love me if you don't
Priscilla Natalia thanks :')
im fucking sobbing
line 13 But you don't, no you don't
This is my favourite Bon Iver. It makes me feel so many emotions, especially at the end.
I remember this song ONLY being available on that ONE video with the ocean and rocky droppings of land moving slowly away to sea.. oh how many depressed nights I’ve spent there. 😭❤️🩹 thanks Justin will forever come back and just exist here
There was a guy once, that I wanted to have, to love, to be together with, but it's not what he wanted. And I used to listen to this song and think I wasn't good enough, that I must have done something wrong or been unlovable.
I thought I would never find someone to love me, but it turns out that he was here the whole time just waiting for me and God brought him in my life at a time when I needed him most. He loved me, when I couldn't even fully love myself and for that I am forever grateful.
Now I just come to listen to this song because it's so very touching, and it reminds me just how lucky and blessed I am to have found a lasting love.
If you're reading this and your hurting right now, just hang in there, because you were meant to be loved. God has a plan for your life and when the times right, you will meet the person you're supposed to spend the rest of your life with.
Favorite Music Songs needed this
Favorite Music Songs thank you
Amén!!!
Not me 🤷🏻♂️
thanks for this....
Whenever I hear this song-I come to it often-I see him, myself, that pudgy eighteen year old kid, cycling down a hilly UC San Diego campus, on his way back from a night class, chemistry or biology or something that won't lead anywhere he wants to be, at 10 pm, with his large headphones on, not caring that he's failing his classes or that he will probably fail them, just listening to his favorite song, a song that makes him feel heard, complicit, and, later, two years later, he's playing it for the girl he's in love with, in a dorm of that same campus, and he's saying it's depressing but I like depressing music and she's smiling at him saying so do I, and then, some time later, I see him playing it one morning, before sunrise, the morning after he almost lost someone and then during the afternoon when he did lose someone, when life seemed to stop or when it did stop, for him and no one else, and the only thing that seemed real were these words, this song, and these series of moments that make up a person, and now, more than a decade later, he is me, a version of me, and despite everything, despite every moment in which that hill seemed to be beautiful and eternal and the other times when the hill was layered with rocks and rain and mud, I know everything will be alright, that I will always have this song to come back to, that time can be slowed down just enough to relive your life a thousand times, to cherish it, to accept it, to, eventually, let it all go with a smile.
One of the most beautiful pieces of music ever created in my opinion. The lyrics of Bonnie and the expression of Vernon makes this song absolutely timeless and takes you by the heart without fail every time.
Just wanna offer a bit of hope for the broken hearted -- Three years ago, (who I thought was) the love of my life, the man I wanted to marry, left me for another woman after nearly four years together. He even moved across the country to live with her. The heartbreak felt unbearable and I thought I would never escape the feelings of inadequacy and abandonment. It has not been easy, but I was able to find healing. My life is now full and beautiful. If you're feeling broken, please remember that there IS healing. xoxox
wow. You're amazing.
The pain has been so real with me.
You can get through this --- feel free to reach out if you ever need a friend :)
Thank you. Thank you for giving me hope. God bless you.
Sorry girl
This speaks volumes to me. I'm still hurting but hearing stories like this make me braaaver. Thank you for sharing!
It’s funny how pain changes and shapes you. You become this entirely different, yet stronger person. You think you can’t live without this certain person, but it turns out you can. You live without them because you were forced, not because you wanted to live without them. I understand that you don’t want to live without them, but you must if you don’t want to wallow or dwell on the person or situation. In the moment you are probably thinking “I am never going to get over him/her” or “he/she was the one that got away” or the “what if this and that”. The thing is, it does get better and all of that happened for a reason. Pain is temporary, not permanent. It gets better slowly. Very very slowly, but throughout time you’ll notice that you are unloving that person. The beginning hurts like hell oh my goodness. I remember I could not breathe and I felt as if I was drowning. I’d wake up with puffy green eyes and I could not see a damn thing! I remember the sleepless nights and all of the crying and crying and tissues. However, you grow with pain. It changes you. Self-love became vital and I changed. Slowly but surely you get over that person. I just hated the fact that at such a ripe age I thought “This is the best it is going to get. There is no one better than him”. Oh my goodness, I was freaking wrong. It gets better and you meet someone better. Trust me.
I am going through a horrible breakup and today I was crying my heart out with this song, thinking "I am never going to get over him. I won't love another person again". And then I saw your comment, and you cannot imagine how much it helps me, it gave me peace and more important, it gave me hope. Thank you so much, stranger.
It's not the end of the world....it'll be better and one day you're going to look back and say to yourself..."hey, what was I thinking?"....cuz you'ld forgotten how much pain you were in...
i know you wrote this a year ago but this truly spoke to me. i saved it to my notes
Ashley Enriquez thank you ☺️
this is so true. happened to me the same
I was 17 when I discovered this… haven’t listened in many, many years… but for some reason as I was driving today… Justin Vernon’s voice singing the hook just went through my head… I heard it. Isn’t that crazy? So here I am, listening to this song and aligning it with my life experiences for the past 9 years. Beautiful, just beautiful.
I liked this girl so much, so I wrote her a song on my keyboard and played it for her and she liked it. We traded numbers and we texted, but she said she just wanted to be friends and told me she started to cry when I said I liked her since 7th grade and showed her this song. I insisted it was ok and that I'll be fine, but I was still hurt. So over the next few weeks we talked still. I won her a prize at a carnival our class went to on a senior trip, and when she had a dance show at our school and she thought she did bad, I told her how good she actually was. I did these things because I still liked her and my friends told me not to give up on her just yet. But she thought I was doing this as a good friend. She said I was a really good friend of hers and she didn't want to lose me. She made me realize what a truly good friend I could be to other people, and now coming back to this song, it has a different tone and message for me. It is no longer a depressing song about unrequited love for me, but a song showing me that it's ok that I'll never be with her as long as we'll always be in touch and be good friends, and that there's no point in feeling depressed because at least we've had that friendship for a while, and I don't think it'll end anytime soon. For all of you suffering from unrequited love, look at this song differently the way I did, and it'll change you.😃
…No. There's being hot and me just wanting to get in your pants and then there's you being beautiful and me wanting to start a life with her. She was beautiful and I'm glad we're best friends who keep in touch to this day.
Correction, she IS beautiful.
I had a crush on her in seventh grade. As time went on(through high school)my understanding of girls and the people I would like changed. My respect for girls and understanding of what's truly beautiful grew, as did her beauty. Anyways I'm glad we're still friends now.
Also just cuz I "honestly don't know what I want in seventh grade" wouldn't change the fact that id like her and pursue her.
The Chunky Trucker :)
For some reason all my favourite songs are sad love songs... But this is just incredible.
I was just playing SC2 beta and listening to this song. Funny seeing you here!
sad songs are the most powerful because they convey emotions more powerfully than others
they have more soul and more truth than happy songs... because people can relate to heartbreak more than they can relate to happiness
hehe
Same.
My favorite version ever of this amazing song. My wife of 18 years left me recently. Still devastated.
"Hurt an artist, and you'll see masterpieces of what you've done." -- Unknown.
Elle Briske yes I wonder who hurt mike Reid and Allan Shamblin! 👍🏼
I wonder who hurt Justin
wow...... wow.. wow.. just wow..
Elle Briske love that quote man ❤️
Truest
So beautiful. I love the end, when he leaves his fingers on the keys for a long time, almost as if he didn't want to give up the beauty of the song and return to his heartbroken state.
stop making me tear up EVERY TIME justin, stop man
+Sarah
I am sorry Sarah
obsrvantlouie its alright dude they're happy tears
+Sarah I so agree...he makes me ache up deep inside....uffff
its beautiful song you allow your emotions to feel it, it makes you the best man in the world if you can do this.. if u don't feel, you might as well be dead xx
So, early this morning when I was half asleep I kept hearing the phrase “bon iver” repeat in my head. I had never heard these words ever before in my life. When I was drinking my morning coffee, I decided to look it up and low and behold it means “good winter” in French and is also this band/ musician that I found here. What a beautiful song !!💔😭 I was led here from something way greater than I!
This being one of the few UA-cam videos with no ads gives it a special feeling every time I come back to it.
This song has been covered by some great artists, so many times, and it never hits like this one. It’s heartbreakingly beautiful.
Prince did this song on His Emancipation album. His covers are always well done.
Can we talk about the piano playing, I’m in such a trance, it’s beautiful yet haunting
Owww sinto o mesmo!
The way he moves the tempo uo and down, so good
Yeah he's the real.deal, plays everything
Me: has nothing to be sad about
Also me: I wanna cry tonight
Lmao
Crying is healthy :)
Marshall Zane guess I’m not healthy bc I don’t remember the last time I’ve cried it’s been so long
I felt that 😅
Same...
Ive been returning to this video since im 16, now im 24 and all the feelings that this songs remain to me are kind of nostalgic, maybe one day it all will get better...
Literally same
28 🫡
Who's listening to this in the middle of a night? What a performance
literally me right now
2am just found this dude 👍
Yep crying over a rejection 😭
1:08am right here
Me...
Turn down the light
Turn down the bed
Turn down these voices
Inside my head
Lay down with me
Tell me no lies
Just hold me close
Don't patronize me
Don't patronize me
'Cause I can't make you love me
If you don't
You can't make your heart feel
Something it won't
Here in the dark
In these final hours
I will lay down my heart
I'll feel the power
But you don't
No, you don't
'Cause I can't make you love me if you don't
And if you don't
No, you won't
I'll close my eyes
Then I won't see
The love you don't feel
When you're holding me
Morning will come
And I'll do what's right
Just give me till then
To give up this fight
And I will give up this fight
'Cause I can't make you love me if you don't
I can't make your heart feel
Something it won't
Here in the dark
In these final hours
I will lay down my heart
And I'll feel the power
But you don't
No, you don't
I can't make you love me if you don't
And if you don't
No, no, no, you won't
I found love darling
I found love darling
I found love darling, yeah
I found love darling, yeah
I found love darling, darling
Love in the nick of time
I found love darling, yeah
Love in the nick of time
LIKE, PLEASE
Bon why you so hurt? I can feel everything 😢
Hogar de Nómadas .....I cant make u love me...u cant me love u..If I dont..
Jan Lee his name is Justin Vernon and bon iver is the band
I listened to that song before coming here and all the comments here about unrequited love seem to relate more to that than "He Was a Friend of Mine". Or am I missing something?
We weren't the right person for each other but that doesn't mean the love we had was not real. You'll always have a special place in my heart.
Played this after a breakup like 12 years ago. Now my wife and I are listening to it. Life's a trip.
"You can't make your heart feel something it won't" .... man... so stubbornly true; like a slap in the face from a cold, bitter hand. Like a broken heart, it's not just the impact of the slap when it hits - it's the sting that stays for what seems like forever.
harry ralph Grow up boy. All you whining hags make me puke. Thank God we have Trump. MAGA. Trump 2020. Drain all child molester. Smoke em out and bring it Donald Trump.
@@milesmiller1468 Lol this is so funny
@@chrisrobbins3888 yeah 😂 Aged like fine milk
I think a lot of the heartache we face in relationships stems from the fact that we ignore red flags... We want so badly for this to be the person, the one, our soulmate... We think the differences will disappear, that somehow the inconsistencies will fade... but they don't. Time exacerbates the issues, close constant proximity to the person makes the problems that we overlooked inescapable. Yet, we continue to invest time and energy into something that if we had been honest with ourselves from the beginning, we knew wasn't going to work out... Then, one day, someone gives up and walks away. It hurts... I'll admit, I was the person who walked away. I know I hurt him, and I'm not trying to justify what I did or minimize how I hurt him... But if we both would have been honest, we knew it was always going to end that way.
):
i don't want it to be over
I actually really relate to this a lot, quite significantly. My first relationship was much like what you've described. There were wonderful aspects to it, and the other person was terrific, but we simply had fundamental differences, and that wedge was always there. I tried so hard because I was so scared of breaking her heart and my own. In the end, like you said, I walked away. I learned a lot from that.
Why am I telling you this? Because the Internet.
But also, I appreciate your honesty, so there's mine. Thanks fellow human
Spot on... eloquently put...
@@joelwybrew , thank you. Things are better now. It hurt, but we both moved on, and he eventually admitted that it was for the best.
Somebody gave me a chocolate chip cookie, but it turns out to be oatmeal raisin. This song helps me overcome my trust issues. Amen.
+ListenAndLearned thanks mate, you helped me get through these difficult times
IAmJustJack Preach.
+youtube passerby daddy please fucking do
IAmJustJack Lolol where did that come from though you think?? Seems like out of nowhere
+Jaysingsforsmiles wydm where did come from idk what you're talking about but probably either from my ass or the internet
I'm grateful to have the opportunity to come across this song. It got me through my first heartbreak back in 2019. Fast forward to several years, I find myself coming back to this song, not because my heart is still broken, but because I'm now on the other side of heartbreak. I'm now in a relationship and it's full of love. I would never have gotten to this point without the help of this song and its healing effects.
Bless you, man. I really hope happiness sticks with you, eternally. :).
When you realize pain gets worse when you don't cry because you can't cry. But you can't figure out why you can't cry other than knowing you're so broken that crying feels like an idea rather than a part of your life. At the same time knowing you're kind of glad you can hold onto the pain, because the things it helps you see, makes the sadness, worth the knowledge.
Amen
Why so deeeeepp
Jacob the pain is all I have left.
Jacob
Hi
Jacob ... and I thought I was the only one.. I can relate 💯
The one positive thing from everything hurting so much right now is knowing that the pain is caused by how wholly I gave away my heart. That it was handed back to me after five years with a bit more wear and tear is just the price I paid. I'm going to be okay though. Someday.
you will.....
Waiting for that 'someday' to come is the hardest part
wow, this is so heartbreaking, i love the that u see a positiveness in it, u will heal....may seem forever but it does end, it really does.
To quote a Sara Bareilles song: "I'll be alright once I find the other side of someday."
i feel the same, someday it will...
Years and years of listening to this song and it never gets old. The heartbreak still feels fresh. Only so many artists can evoke that pain in a person. I am in awe of this man and will never stop being a fan.
It's crazy, I just happened to come across this at the most horrible yet strangely ideal time in my life. Every note, word, and tone that justin hit just sent my soul to the deepest depths of sadness. It tore me to fucking pieces but even now 5 years later the nostalgic memories of listening to this on repeat for hours still hits me hard.
Just wanted to share that.
This is indefinitely forever.
💚
The highest level of love is taking a bow if you’re not as important as you deserve to be.
wtf does this even mean
Noah Stevens if your love isn’t returned best to step aside!
Kelly Lee This is the most sensible comment on this video, and the fact that it’s not at the top/not understood is a clear sign that most people are complete plebs who don’t understand their own value enough. No wonder they’re all crying about their exes and saying toxic self-destructive things to get people to join their pity party. 🤦🏻♀️
learned this for myself recently. One of the hardest things I’ve had to do for myself honestly.
Sometimes people come here just to know/feel like they're not alone
lol id never imagine Bon Iver looking like this. he looks so chill. like "hey guys ima just drop buy and record this new song I threw together but I gotta meet someone at the coffee shop at 3"
This song was the one I found when my relationship of 12 years came to and end, 7 years ago, as I listened my tears flowed, and cleansed my soul. Each word that is sung reminds me of what I once had, even to this day. It’s been a hard journey but I’m trying to make each step a little easier for myself. To all out there who’ve experienced different things, my heart goes out to you, but please believe it gets better.
brat brought me back here after years and years ❤❤❤
Same❤
sameee
All these years later and I still come back to this song. It's cold and haunting and makes me feel the blues for a love that died out due to my actions. And yet, I find some sense of comfort and familiarity in the stinging pain it evokes especially when you go months to years not feeling any meaningful emotion at all. It's my little cold corner where I can go and still feel alive.
Bon Ivers music is unbelievable. It makes sadness make sense and gives the rythm to life even when you're dancing with a broken heart.
This song is so sad, but the comments are so much sadder.. They got me so emotional, it crazy all the heartbreaks we go through and we still have faith/hope in love.... Y'all strong people, thumbs up to all of you
Amen to that
Here I am 6 years later, still in shock by the pure power and beauty of bon iver
What is amazing to me is at one time someone sat down and wrote these brutally raw and heartfelt lyrics along with the beautiful haunting melody. What musical alchemic magic does this person possess?