Bon Iver - I Can't Make You Love Me / Nick of Time

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  • @floweredinfebruary
    @floweredinfebruary 8 років тому +1651

    Letting go of someone you love because they don't feel the same way is so heart wrenching. Especially when months have passed and you have moved on but you know deep down you still love them.

    • @LucasLima-vq6ig
      @LucasLima-vq6ig 8 років тому +30

      +Cassie Famoso And what do you do when you're constantly seeing that person everyday of the week?I have to hide that feeling until i can get away and just end things,because i know for sure she doesn't feel the same way,i'm her 'best friend' after all.

    • @MyChemicalLove011
      @MyChemicalLove011 8 років тому +5

      You took the words right out of my mouth.

    • @XxxMuseluverxxX
      @XxxMuseluverxxX 8 років тому +20

      +Sigmund Freud *sigh* that's a hard call. Either you get over your attraction to the person, or wallow in it forever. Stopping the friendship or asking for some time apart to get over your feelings is also a choice. It's the harder one, but it really does work :/ Trust me, I've been there

    • @KaessCJones
      @KaessCJones 8 років тому +15

      True that! Unrequited love is one of the hardest things on the heart.

    • @rechannel864
      @rechannel864 8 років тому +3

      and for that sir I'll report your comment for being so beautiful

  • @beamannydanny
    @beamannydanny Рік тому +560

    Even after 12 years we still come back here. This is a sanctuary for so many of us

    • @Spidaface666
      @Spidaface666 Рік тому +1

      Don't you feel 😢 like crying? Im fighting the tears 😭

    • @christiantornado9678
      @christiantornado9678 Рік тому

      Indeed.

    • @basquehound1999
      @basquehound1999 9 місяців тому +3

      This is my first time hearing this hit. I felt like I needed a good cry with all the shit I’ve been through. Much love and support to everyone who might need it. ❤❤❤❤❤❤

    • @PedroHenriqueFantuci
      @PedroHenriqueFantuci 7 місяців тому +1

      This is perfect, forever !!!

    • @sera3050
      @sera3050 19 годин тому

      sanctuary......yes.......sanctuary that stills...... names the pain.... and the peace.

  • @RamblinCale
    @RamblinCale 6 років тому +3105

    as winter nears bon iver grows stronger and stronger

    • @piersnivans5983
      @piersnivans5983 6 років тому +6

      Love

    • @gilbag
      @gilbag 5 років тому +10

      Yes, He'll soon achieve the Quickening

    • @allaboardthejujutrain1371
      @allaboardthejujutrain1371 5 років тому +23

      it's funny you say that bc "bon iver" comes from French "bon hiver" which means "good winter"

    • @thepcal9654
      @thepcal9654 5 років тому +5

      Cale Moseley we’re stupid-laughing over here. 😂😂

    • @westernpigeon
      @westernpigeon 5 років тому +9

      so true dude last time i REALLY listened to Bon Iver was last winter and now im getting that feeling again

  • @adrielle.benner
    @adrielle.benner Рік тому +147

    To every beautiful, hurting soul that returns to this masterpiece after all these years:
    There is peace within letting go, within realization and moving on to love yourself in the wake of unrequited love. Take back the piece of your heart that you gave and mend it anew, so that one day you can gift it to someone who will treasure it. Learning to trust requires falling, inevitably is riddled with mistakes, but eventually will heal your soul. It’s okay to hurt now and hurt deeply, and I hope that your pain will turn into wisdom that begets new love. Stay strong and this too shall pass. ❤

    • @maysatorres1846
      @maysatorres1846 8 місяців тому +2

      thank you, dear! wish you a beautiful life 💖💞🌹

    • @Magplar
      @Magplar 8 місяців тому +1

      I love you

    • @alleyp71
      @alleyp71 4 місяці тому

      thank you so much for this

    • @happymadison9832
      @happymadison9832 4 місяці тому

    • @LuisDiaz-sd7qd
      @LuisDiaz-sd7qd День тому

      😢😢😢😢😢Very Thanks ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @JPH337
    @JPH337 4 роки тому +6019

    Hello random person looking through the comments. We’re probably all here for similar reasons and I just want you to know that as one stranger to another I love you. Sometimes things don’t end like we want them to but times will get better. Continue to find little traces of love in your everyday life and happiness will find you again. You’re not alone, we are in this together 💚

  • @briannasmith682
    @briannasmith682 9 років тому +6745

    I just want to say that if you're crying your heart out to this song wishing that the person you're thinking about would love you back, please stop, take a deep breath, and listen. Odds are, you've got your whole life ahead of you and plenty of time to find someone who appreciates and loves you and won't let you feel the way you're feeling right now. You will love and not be loved in return, just as you will be loved and not love in return. That is one of the saddest things in life, but inevitable. If you're young, please don't spend years trying to gain love and validation from whoever it is you're chasing. Love yourself, please, and in doing so, I promise that the person that will appreciate and love you genuinely will have light-up signs pointing straight at them and they'll be vomiting confetti and party favors and it'll be grand. I promise (well, except for the signs and confetti and stuff, there's a 78% chance that I'm lying about that, but it'll still be pretty obvious, and amazing).

    • @G0dspelronin
      @G0dspelronin 9 років тому +37

      Truth...already lived it

    • @zackarydaniels3831
      @zackarydaniels3831 9 років тому +189

      You have no idea how much I needed that.

    • @denisbelya3079
      @denisbelya3079 9 років тому +28

      Its always the case with a tender age. As myself I have learned through the pain. The words you type are nothing but truth. Brianna Smith

    • @97bloodbrother
      @97bloodbrother 9 років тому +33

      I just wanna say thank you.

    • @qawserftgyuh
      @qawserftgyuh 9 років тому +20

      awww, i love you for this!

  • @jackhouser2387
    @jackhouser2387 4 роки тому +3131

    Personally, selfishly, this song became a lot more profound when I realized the pain doesn’t just come from romance left unrequited. RIP to the friendships that feel this disconnect, too.

  • @steblai
    @steblai 2 роки тому +1639

    I would do terrible things to have this version on Spotify 😭

    • @kirbansparrowhawk
      @kirbansparrowhawk 2 роки тому +3

      It's not hard....

    • @heatherbangley25
      @heatherbangley25 2 роки тому +14

      So glad I am not the only one that thinks this!

    • @jessk4116
      @jessk4116 Рік тому +129

      He did the Spotify version dirty

    • @westernpigeon
      @westernpigeon Рік тому +13

      @@jessk4116 well it is bon iver, just not Justin Vernon singing instead it’s Sean Carey who is also a member of Bon Iver

    • @AddyVDH
      @AddyVDH Рік тому +41

      @@westernpigeon it's shit in comparison but only because this is a masterpiece

  • @philipinascalimoso2034
    @philipinascalimoso2034 6 років тому +2561

    You know you love someone when you want to see them happy, even if that happiness doesn’t include you.

  • @SeychellesLover
    @SeychellesLover 5 років тому +4549

    please upload this to spotifty this is the only song I listen to on youtube, i prefer to do all my crying in one place ty much love

    • @bqfilms
      @bqfilms 5 років тому +22

      Bonnie Raitt is the original creator of this song

    • @lookingforsanjunipero4542
      @lookingforsanjunipero4542 5 років тому +10

      Need a new list of cry songs if you feel like sharing, pleeeease? 💔💔💔

    • @Natureorganica
      @Natureorganica 5 років тому +47

      Theres a large number of amazing live performances like this that aren't on spotify and it makes me so sad!

    • @InsAnItYschild101
      @InsAnItYschild101 4 роки тому +3

      @@lookingforsanjunipero4542 take mine. It includes this video: ua-cam.com/play/PLCaRN-0rml7nc4UMBr1AAP46Zw3_9C1TR.html

    • @rendypratamaputra7323
      @rendypratamaputra7323 4 роки тому +1

      Your life is phatetic

  • @JessiLeeRoss
    @JessiLeeRoss 3 роки тому +2045

    This was a favorite song of my little sister, who took her life a year and a half ago. I learned it for her while she was still here, and she loved it. Now I sing it with tears in my eyes for a deeper reason. Thank you, Justin Vernon, for encapsulating the feeling of this song so perfectly. Much love to all the hurting hearts out there in the world.

  • @CeliaSwaney-zg2ng
    @CeliaSwaney-zg2ng 10 місяців тому +33

    I’ve been in love with this version of this song for 11 years… I come back to it every time I’m heartbroken

  • @iarebrown
    @iarebrown 9 років тому +1935

    Looks like a sailor, sings like a mermaid...

    • @Mayaharumi
      @Mayaharumi 9 років тому +38

      Hmm he looks more like a lumberjack. ;)

    • @fidolover4038
      @fidolover4038 9 років тому +19

      iarebrown a pirate but sings like an angel

    • @juanleyva7969
      @juanleyva7969 9 років тому +2

      Ha you crazy

    • @KellyOisawesome
      @KellyOisawesome 9 років тому

      iarebrown :)

    • @Rae_Reflector
      @Rae_Reflector 9 років тому +4

      haha looks like a sailor sings like a mermaid 😂

  • @fishjames100
    @fishjames100 6 років тому +4430

    Just found out my wife loves another man. She's been cheating on me for 4 months. This was a peaceful song though, it pulled my heartstrings. The realness of the lyrics speaks a lot. It'll be alright in the end. You can't make someone love you.
    Update 07/2019: Life is so good
    Update 10/10/2024: it’s been a while, I should’ve updated soon so THANK YOU for all the kind words of encouragement, I’ve read through them multiple times over the years. I just teared up rereading my first part of this post because I’ve learned how it feels for someone to ACTUALLY love you since. I’ve since met a woman that showed me what true love is. It actually blows my mind the difference. I’ve never been closer to someone than her. We live together and will be getting married soon!! 🎉
    To all that responded and might be thinking it’ll never get better just know this; love yourself no matter what anyone does to you, and love will come back around eventually. God bless. ❤

    • @joshbreen32
      @joshbreen32 6 років тому +202

      Austin Fish sorry to hear that man, you deserve better

    • @mindrolling24
      @mindrolling24 6 років тому +72

      Austin Fish You’re open to love again as long as you ARE love, all the time to all beings. That made sense to me when I read it, but maybe the original quote was more adroit.
      I wish you all the very best x.

    • @katiedemari8
      @katiedemari8 6 років тому +44

      Hang strong, you got this.

    • @mindrolling24
      @mindrolling24 6 років тому +71

      Also sorry mate: I didn’t put that in my rather babbling first reply.
      Don’t know what the future holds for you or anyone, but your comment struck me as not only mature but graced with forgiveness and non attachment. Another lasting and magical love is on your way sometime because you’re one of those guys who brings the best out in people.
      Trust me- I’m usually right about these things! x

    • @rubenhernandez9495
      @rubenhernandez9495 6 років тому +30

      Love from Mexico bro

  • @junkaiyang9657
    @junkaiyang9657 8 років тому +205

    The worst feeling is just when you realized this was the 100th time you said you will give up but next minute you still wanna give him all you have. If he wants to be friends, you would just be friends with him, waiting, that one day he would feel for you the same way as you do for him. But that day is desperately far, like it would never come

    • @Louise90634
      @Louise90634 8 років тому

      +Thi- Rex it's never too late

    • @Nanaeluv818
      @Nanaeluv818 8 років тому +2

      I understand you.. perfectly :, (

    • @thulambonane4290
      @thulambonane4290 7 років тому +2

      I concur... I know exactly what you mean. I just hate not being in control of how I feel... the heart does as it pleases. :(

    • @anamiguel1736
      @anamiguel1736 8 місяців тому

      I hope you are feeling okay now.

    • @aurorasuarez6026
      @aurorasuarez6026 7 місяців тому

      You are not alone❤

  • @taylorlenahan5881
    @taylorlenahan5881 3 місяці тому +29

    I was a functioning heroin addict 8 years ago with a girl that I used with for 4 years. I never thought I'd find a way out and resigned to die that way. I used to listen the wolves by bon iver and pray for a new start. Then I met a girl that I fell in love with harder than I knew was possible. She gave me the strength to leave my toxic junkie partner. The first time we slept next to one another was march of 2016 and I remember so vividly playing this on my phone while it sat on my chest in the pitch black bedroom. Before her I would toss and turn all night, but with her head on my chest I laid perfectly still all night long as not to disturb her. Thats how I sleep to this day. This is what love and heart ache sounds like all at once. She gave me a reason to get off heroin. We've been married for 6 years and have 3 beautiful children. I can never listen to this without being reduced to tears. Music is the magic of this life. Never underestimate that. It really is magic. Thank you Justin. For saying all of the things we feel.

  • @DeKKaar
    @DeKKaar 7 років тому +1090

    Amazing version of this song. My marriage of 8 years, to the love of my life, ended abruptly without warning 10 months ago. She left me for another man. The emotional and physical pain was unbearable... something I wouldn't wish upon my worst enemy. My world came crashing down all around me. My soul was stagnant and numb. I gave every ounce of my heart and soul to her from the day I laid eyes on her. I wasn't perfect, but I loved her unconditionally. I had faults and screwups. I think every relationship does. Nothing is perfect. You have to work at it everyday. Don't give up on each other. See the good in each other. Compromise and communicate. If you truly love someone, cherish every single second you have with them....because in the blink of an eye it can be over and gone. Work on being a better person everyday. Love yourself first, before you try and love another. If for some crazy reason, you read this Kasey....I just want you to know that I will never, ever stop loving you. You're the love of my life, and I'll feel that way about you until I draw my last breath on this earth. I miss your laugh and your smile the most. You haunt my dreams every night.

    • @TheLizzabelle
      @TheLizzabelle 7 років тому +42

      Justin sorry for your loss

    • @ashleymachellecreative
      @ashleymachellecreative 7 років тому +27

      I just lost my ex in a complex situation , and i feel some of your pain. Praying for you! Stay strong, and pray a lot.

    • @jordanmullen7565
      @jordanmullen7565 7 років тому +29

      Let music save you bro💖 praying for you

    • @dylanunderhill
      @dylanunderhill 7 років тому +45

      Dealing w the same thing.. 10 years of marriage.. raised a daughter together. Cruel and cold 😔

    • @Coolstonerchick
      @Coolstonerchick 7 років тому +15

      Alll the feels for this comment. ♥️

  • @TimTheMusicMan
    @TimTheMusicMan 8 років тому +1512

    Listen everyone, don't lose your minds over someone else, remember the day before you met them you were both strangers to one another, you didn't grow together, it was happenstance that you met, you walked through an experience and when the path came to a crossroad, one of you took the other way, thats all this is is experience, if it was meant to be, then it would have lasted, but it was a lesson learned if it didn't last. Everyone makes mistakes, you learn from the mistake and move on and the next one that comes will be better because you won't make or they won't make that mistake again. If someone doesn't care for you the way you cared for them, your only hurting yourself, walk away and say nothing, guaranteed they will come calling for you at one time, just keep your cool and you will be the one looking better and more mature. Forget saying anything you will regret it, just smile and walk !!

    • @321123Nelly
      @321123Nelly 8 років тому +3

      tim d i am sad

    • @TimTheMusicMan
      @TimTheMusicMan 8 років тому +32

      One day she / he will realize they lost a diamond while playing with worthless stones..

    • @TimTheMusicMan
      @TimTheMusicMan 8 років тому +5

      321123Nelly One day she / he will realize they lost a diamond while playing with worthless stones..

    • @asyaz887
      @asyaz887 8 років тому +8

      tim d just thank you...

    • @ryanreclekt8623
      @ryanreclekt8623 8 років тому +4

      That's easy to say but dude, there's a lot of true in your words. Hope to be like that one day, I always get so stuck with the people.

  • @Superkid3112
    @Superkid3112 5 років тому +1367

    If lying in bed listening to Bon Iver’s acoustic cover of Bonnie Raitt’s “I Can’t Make You Love Me” at 6:27 AM on a sleepless night ain’t the absolute fattest mood out there, imma need y’all to tell me what is

  • @blakemonroe01
    @blakemonroe01 2 роки тому +318

    Every so often, I’ll cue this video up, and I’ll read the comments. It’s arguably one of the best covers of all time. And the comment section fuels my melancholy soul. Thank you Justin. Thank you.

    • @leenabeloved2507
      @leenabeloved2507 Рік тому +1

      me too... and i like your comment, too.

    • @JW-mg1sk
      @JW-mg1sk Рік тому

      I think I’ll be doing the same ❤️ And I JUST discovered this version today. Been a fan of Bonnie’s original. And now falling in love again, in a melancholic way as well.

    • @davidrowlands8548
      @davidrowlands8548 6 місяців тому

      *inarguably

  • @lauramcintyre1719
    @lauramcintyre1719 6 років тому +1342

    This song and this comments section really reminds you that we're all human. In a chaotic world where we're constantly overstimulated and ignorant, it's nice to be able to read about people being vulnerable and feeling real feelings. This rendition is something special. Peace to everyone

  • @adelaideo7417
    @adelaideo7417 4 роки тому +490

    There’s something comforting knowing you’re not the only one feeling this broken.

    • @willkoestner4159
      @willkoestner4159 4 роки тому +3

      You have my heart.

    • @ovemrch907
      @ovemrch907 3 роки тому +3

      Ikr, feels liberating somehow..

    • @samahita-vca
      @samahita-vca 3 роки тому +7

      It sucks how a broken heart affects everything, even something as fundamental as motivation

    • @loveiverwashereasherself4803
      @loveiverwashereasherself4803 3 роки тому +1

      Oh my gosh chin up💌
      My best advice is go outside&enjoy the beautiful weatherRearth is blessing us all with✌🏼🤎😊

    • @tasteslikeacid7804
      @tasteslikeacid7804 3 роки тому +8

      Reminds me of a ram Dass quote "we're all just kids walking each other home". There's alot of hurt souls out there, but at least we know we aren't alone

  • @mrmarshfellow
    @mrmarshfellow 4 роки тому +286

    I’m 27 and I’ve only known unrequited love. I used to believe that it was immature to feel frustration about it, but it’s not. I know I own nobodies heart, but my own. And I know I have boundless love. Love that I can give freely and unashamedly feel everyday. It took many years to be able to give that to myself. Trauma, self hatred, self deprecation.. it can do a number on you. If you’re reading this. Never give up on you. You are loveable. Never forget it.

    • @GoodChatz
      @GoodChatz 3 роки тому +4

      I can relate. Thanks you for you.

    • @hyowon3460
      @hyowon3460 3 роки тому +7

      to love myself is much harder thing to do than love someone else. and you made it . im proud of you. i wish i could completely vanish my self-hatred someday

    • @wall-kp9zi
      @wall-kp9zi 3 роки тому

      Thank you 🤗🤗

    • @Jeramiahstool
      @Jeramiahstool 3 роки тому +3

      might just print this comment out and put it on my wall

    • @mariehartley6840
      @mariehartley6840 3 роки тому

      @@Jeramiahstool same

  • @fuaddanial2029
    @fuaddanial2029 3 роки тому +685

    Listened to this 3 years ago after being completely heartbroken and the song perfectly understood the pain I felt. Now I am in a much better state and this song fills me with the joy of knowing I conquered this pain. It gets better guys, just keep moving forward.

    • @sjohn6958
      @sjohn6958 3 роки тому +12

      I really needed to hear this. Thank you.

    • @rosephinebakerson2701
      @rosephinebakerson2701 3 роки тому +13

      My heart needed these words. Thank you.

    • @josephhefley1829
      @josephhefley1829 2 роки тому +3

      Thanks

    • @sydneyp7867
      @sydneyp7867 2 роки тому +4

      I’m so, so proud of you

    • @phinexblit9029
      @phinexblit9029 2 роки тому +4

      I’m constantly trying to move forward, trying to except I loved someone who never loved me!!! Our son looks just like his dad-so that pain isn’t far under the surface!!!!! 💔

  • @MsUndead96
    @MsUndead96 5 років тому +381

    Kill your ego, learn to love. People aren't meant to be owned.
    He was the greatest lesson.

    • @kleng2xbell256
      @kleng2xbell256 3 роки тому +3

      yup. most men silently asking a return love, I love you atleast can I have a half of ur love. Not good in explaining things hope u get the idea...🥰

    • @loveiverwashereasherself4803
      @loveiverwashereasherself4803 3 роки тому

      Ummm
      Depends
      On
      The human♾💌

    • @loveiverwashereasherself4803
      @loveiverwashereasherself4803 3 роки тому +1

      @@kleng2xbell256 I give all my love

    • @kleng2xbell256
      @kleng2xbell256 3 роки тому +1

      how to be a robot is more suitable. so when you love someone never hope you get something in return it is what it is but look in the brighter side atleast you felt something that's true whatever happens you are sure of one thing " you love her" no one can beat that so cheers?🤣 Always up to you no one can answer the why's? It's just the one staring back at you in the mirror. Be strong have faith keep that love 🔥 maybe one day she'll feel the heat yeah she might, I myself been waiting too almost a decade now 🤣🤘💪✌️

    • @araselireyes6156
      @araselireyes6156 3 роки тому

      😭❤
      .....𝓑𝓮𝓪𝓾𝓽𝓲𝓯𝓾𝓵🥀...

  • @LowkoTV
    @LowkoTV 9 років тому +4074

    For some reason all my favourite songs are sad love songs... But this is just incredible.

    • @Jordaniel1
      @Jordaniel1 9 років тому +11

      I was just playing SC2 beta and listening to this song. Funny seeing you here!

    • @kelseycoca
      @kelseycoca 9 років тому +57

      sad songs are the most powerful because they convey emotions more powerfully than others

    • @kelseycoca
      @kelseycoca 9 років тому +61

      they have more soul and more truth than happy songs... because people can relate to heartbreak more than they can relate to happiness

    • @romytaylor7233
      @romytaylor7233 9 років тому +1

      hehe

    • @djhero0071
      @djhero0071 9 років тому +2

      Same.

  • @vinskeeter
    @vinskeeter 2 роки тому +118

    I met her over 40 years ago and somehow, she's still the one. That deep ache in my chest is always there when I think about her. I believe it comes back, to remind me to try not to.
    My head knows it's always been impossible to be with her, but my heart never will.

    • @heatherbangley25
      @heatherbangley25 2 роки тому +1

    • @kjl44kb24
      @kjl44kb24 Рік тому +2

      Damn….💔

    • @nathanbosley76
      @nathanbosley76 Рік тому +7

      That's deep. I have one of those as well. Maybe if there's another life after this one she'll love me the way I loved her. Bittersweet.

    • @stephaniemcgrath5428
      @stephaniemcgrath5428 Рік тому +3

      I like to think the same of all those who I have loved with such abandon, who ended up me abandoning them in the end. I wasnt ever ready for the depths I saw before me. What they asked, without asking, to expose myself more than the last. All the while, I was screaming inside that I couldnt love myself & I was breaking them, not me. I was so naive, so young. I cherise many of the moments between us. Shared only the two of us. I pray I find another I can love without abandon as I once did, but with thr wisdom Ive gained through all these years of pain

    • @auinealmeida3479
      @auinealmeida3479 3 місяці тому

      Isso significa que nunca vai parar de doer em mim como está doendo agora? 💔

  • @elizabethsester6748
    @elizabethsester6748 6 років тому +587

    Just wanna offer a bit of hope for the broken hearted -- Three years ago, (who I thought was) the love of my life, the man I wanted to marry, left me for another woman after nearly four years together. He even moved across the country to live with her. The heartbreak felt unbearable and I thought I would never escape the feelings of inadequacy and abandonment. It has not been easy, but I was able to find healing. My life is now full and beautiful. If you're feeling broken, please remember that there IS healing. xoxox

    • @raevchel
      @raevchel 6 років тому +10

      wow. You're amazing.
      The pain has been so real with me.

    • @elizabethsester6748
      @elizabethsester6748 6 років тому +10

      You can get through this --- feel free to reach out if you ever need a friend :)

    • @kissofdeath4449
      @kissofdeath4449 5 років тому +1

      Thank you. Thank you for giving me hope. God bless you.

    • @jenbeating3317
      @jenbeating3317 5 років тому

      Sorry girl

    • @catspurlee
      @catspurlee 5 років тому +4

      This speaks volumes to me. I'm still hurting but hearing stories like this make me braaaver. Thank you for sharing!

  • @greedyme7673
    @greedyme7673 8 років тому +591

    How it feels right now. It's like walking down a forked road. If I go left, nothing is right. If I go right, nothing is left.

    • @BlackCurlyHair1983
      @BlackCurlyHair1983 8 років тому +3

      Nice💕

    • @iluvpandaparteez
      @iluvpandaparteez 8 років тому +4

      where did u get that from i wanna quote it but i feel like it's from something I've heard before and don't wanna get it wrong

    • @dedgesaysfuckthewrld
      @dedgesaysfuckthewrld 8 років тому

      Deep

    • @tonygeorgio6518
      @tonygeorgio6518 8 років тому +3

      God Loves you bro stay strong, you can do it

    • @chisoxwin82
      @chisoxwin82 8 років тому +2

      Brian C. I know exactly how you feel, and I'm sure you've heard that before. But let me elaborate how i know where your'e coming from. It's like when you're not even looking for someone, that unbearable moment that hits you so hard it feels soo good, you can't sleep at night because you met someone that just connected with you on so many levels. Shared so many interests. Then all of a sudden, she pulls a 180, or she just didn't feel the same as you as she did in the beginning. Stay strong my man.

  • @TheGoodNonconformist
    @TheGoodNonconformist 6 років тому +3834

    Me: Probably shouldn't listen to sad music when you're sad.
    Also me: plays this shit 43 times back to back.

    • @polyrhythmm
      @polyrhythmm 6 років тому +53

      listening to sad music when you're sad will make you at one with yourself, do it!

    • @TheSpiritualBrat
      @TheSpiritualBrat 6 років тому +12

      Language of the soul...

    • @zedzero77
      @zedzero77 6 років тому +25

      I shouldn't listen to sad music when im drunk

    • @TheSpiritualBrat
      @TheSpiritualBrat 6 років тому +36

      zedzero77 what the hell... wallow in your misery. Sometimes we just need to stop pretending to be so strong. And be human for a change lol.

    • @zedzero77
      @zedzero77 6 років тому +12

      we are no longer human, all this tech around us seem to twist our own existence...should we cry in front of a screen? should we do and say how we truly feel as a synthetic? singularity? no? yes?

  • @nickcampbell697
    @nickcampbell697 10 місяців тому +904

    Hits the same in 2024

    • @toyfoimoijoy
      @toyfoimoijoy 6 місяців тому +5

      It reminds me of guy I liked the most in the world. T_T and i still do...

    • @srsly2
      @srsly2 4 місяці тому

      who gives a fuck what year it is dickhead, music doesn't have an expiry date so stop running around posting 'who listening in 2027 yo' on every video loser.

    • @weddingplaylist6455
      @weddingplaylist6455 3 місяці тому +1

      @nickcampbell697
      Bon Iver still bangs.

    • @brianenders2098
      @brianenders2098 3 місяці тому +3

      Who's here in 2025?!

    • @srsly2
      @srsly2 3 місяці тому

      @@brianenders2098 loser

  • @ashleyenriquez7502
    @ashleyenriquez7502 5 років тому +787

    It’s funny how pain changes and shapes you. You become this entirely different, yet stronger person. You think you can’t live without this certain person, but it turns out you can. You live without them because you were forced, not because you wanted to live without them. I understand that you don’t want to live without them, but you must if you don’t want to wallow or dwell on the person or situation. In the moment you are probably thinking “I am never going to get over him/her” or “he/she was the one that got away” or the “what if this and that”. The thing is, it does get better and all of that happened for a reason. Pain is temporary, not permanent. It gets better slowly. Very very slowly, but throughout time you’ll notice that you are unloving that person. The beginning hurts like hell oh my goodness. I remember I could not breathe and I felt as if I was drowning. I’d wake up with puffy green eyes and I could not see a damn thing! I remember the sleepless nights and all of the crying and crying and tissues. However, you grow with pain. It changes you. Self-love became vital and I changed. Slowly but surely you get over that person. I just hated the fact that at such a ripe age I thought “This is the best it is going to get. There is no one better than him”. Oh my goodness, I was freaking wrong. It gets better and you meet someone better. Trust me.

    • @lazaldesantillanximena2686
      @lazaldesantillanximena2686 4 роки тому +21

      I am going through a horrible breakup and today I was crying my heart out with this song, thinking "I am never going to get over him. I won't love another person again". And then I saw your comment, and you cannot imagine how much it helps me, it gave me peace and more important, it gave me hope. Thank you so much, stranger.

    • @MzCharlijoules
      @MzCharlijoules 4 роки тому +5

      It's not the end of the world....it'll be better and one day you're going to look back and say to yourself..."hey, what was I thinking?"....cuz you'ld forgotten how much pain you were in...

    • @elizabethscott8161
      @elizabethscott8161 4 роки тому +10

      i know you wrote this a year ago but this truly spoke to me. i saved it to my notes

    • @reidhingston
      @reidhingston 4 роки тому

      Ashley Enriquez thank you ☺️

    • @luckygirl4everrrr
      @luckygirl4everrrr 4 роки тому +1

      this is so true. happened to me the same

  • @koffinkiss
    @koffinkiss 8 років тому +1426

    This song really touches me in a painful spot. It seems like whenever I fall in love, it always destroys me. I always fall for someone that I can't have. The only time someone actually likes me back, I realized that it wasn't true love; it was just me trying to get over the last one. Sometimes I'm not even sure if I really love someone. I guess a good way to tell is when I cry listening to a song with them in mind. I'm the kind of person to fall easily for someone, but they've got to be someone really special. And that's what really hurts. When I do truly love someone, it's because there is no one else like them and no way I could or would ever be with them. Love is amazing. The feeling of being in love and showing someone your love is the best feeling in the world; but the other emotions that come with it really really hurt. Some people get confused and think love is terrible, but they're getting it confused with other emotions like pain and anger or jealousy. Love is something truly amazing. It's something that I really wish I had with someone. A certain someone. But after all this time, I don't think I was destined to have love.

    • @Melissa-lg4pf
      @Melissa-lg4pf 8 років тому +30

      Wow, I had the exact same thoughts as you...and I really feel with you, I understand what you are feeling. The last few days, I've been thinking about how it would be if this person would see that I'm here and I could make him happy...
      I'm trying so hard to accept that he will never feel the way I do and that I can't change anything.
      But every sad song reminds me of my feelings, they are like little demons, hiding in my heart to eat a piece of my yummy soul every time the're hungry. It's just annoying but I'm in love with never giving up the hope I have and everytime I'm moving on someone helps me to fall down again.
      I really don't know why I'm answering, but your comment inspired me:)
      Thanks

    • @koffinkiss
      @koffinkiss 8 років тому +16

      Meli ssa It's means a lot that you said that. Thank you, too. And just some advise from a quote, "If you think about something everyday, you should never give up on it." I really think that speaks a lot of truth. We feel things for people for a reason. You may not know that reason yet. People we meet are either a lesson or a blessing. Don't give up.

    • @Melissa-lg4pf
      @Melissa-lg4pf 8 років тому +3

      +Morrigan Miller It means a lot to me too and Yes, I think you're right that's a really honest quote:) I won't give up.

    • @koffinkiss
      @koffinkiss 8 років тому +1

      Meli ssa Good luck to ya!

    • @Melissa-lg4pf
      @Melissa-lg4pf 8 років тому +1

      +Morrigan Miller Thanks a lot!

  • @dragonforcefan123
    @dragonforcefan123 8 років тому +187

    my wife left me a few months ago and i have been trying to move on but it feels impossible at times I miss her so much, this song hits me hard.

    • @nicklespliffobright5679
      @nicklespliffobright5679 8 років тому +11

      +badgerking you just hit me hard man..

    • @abidabdelaziz9936
      @abidabdelaziz9936 8 років тому +11

      +badgerking Makes my problems seem so small. Wish you well brother, from the bottom of my heart.

    • @mattdoom5596
      @mattdoom5596 8 років тому +4

      my marriage just ended as well man. it is odd on my end I am more hurt that I may be alone for a good portion of my life then her not being with me. you'll get past it. one sappy love song at a time.

    • @emmag8393
      @emmag8393 8 років тому +1

      aww i got a tear, i hope everything gets better for you. the sun will shine again for you xx

    • @alexandervang6064
      @alexandervang6064 8 років тому +4

      Yesterday, for me. I know how you feel. Life goes on, brother. Stay positive!

  • @MichaelMcInnesMusic
    @MichaelMcInnesMusic 7 днів тому +4

    I could swear this was taken offline for years because I used to look for it and could never find it. Whether that actually happened or not I'm just so happy it's back.

  • @henrylevinson7268
    @henrylevinson7268 9 років тому +8057

    who hurt you bon iver

    • @GrizzlyGaming86
      @GrizzlyGaming86 9 років тому +122

      Henry Levinson his name isnt bon iver.. thats his band name ;)

    • @beccamorrison9733
      @beccamorrison9733 9 років тому +619

      The real question is who hurt Bonnie Raitt

    • @Mineral00
      @Mineral00 9 років тому +182

      Becca Morrison The real(er) question is who hurt Mike Reid and Allen Shamblin.

    • @beccamorrison9733
      @beccamorrison9733 9 років тому +39

      Well, she wrote Nick of Time if that counts for anything

    • @mesqueunsub1624
      @mesqueunsub1624 9 років тому +586

      Henry Levinson Emma, Forever Ago.

  • @VarunStream
    @VarunStream 6 років тому +2294

    There's something sacred about this rendition.

    • @elisageorge2261
      @elisageorge2261 6 років тому +5

      varun arora Agree. Painful.

    • @veselinstrasni
      @veselinstrasni 6 років тому +1

      It is pure patos.
      I crie everitim

    • @acadoe
      @acadoe 6 років тому +12

      sacred is the right word

    • @emmastewart9764
      @emmastewart9764 6 років тому +6

      varun arora Theres something sacred about most of his music 😉

    • @VarunStream
      @VarunStream 6 років тому +1

      True.

  • @risarae5143
    @risarae5143 5 років тому +2027

    Me: has nothing to be sad about
    Also me: I wanna cry tonight

  • @joshatterbury2078
    @joshatterbury2078 8 місяців тому +12

    Been watching this for 8 years now and it never stops being beautiful

  • @marjoreal
    @marjoreal 8 років тому +584

    This is the kind of music you listen to on a rainy evening.

  • @Maahjanuzzi
    @Maahjanuzzi 8 років тому +853

    damn this comment section is the most depressing thing I've ever seen I'm so sorry for all your hearts

    • @kylabailey5065
      @kylabailey5065 8 років тому +1

      that's nice :)

    • @intheshadowofthesun9491
      @intheshadowofthesun9491 7 років тому

      Ryder Patrick Layne
      Yes we are and I guess it's really True because its happened to Me and You!

    • @modemlooper
      @modemlooper 7 років тому

      Ryder Patrick Layne n

    • @stephenlefty
      @stephenlefty 7 років тому +1

      Ryder Patrick Layne Bold move, let's see where this goes

    • @arthurdonnietello9691
      @arthurdonnietello9691 5 років тому +1

      The song was sad, yes, but its the comments that made me cry..

  • @indecisiveloser
    @indecisiveloser 6 років тому +262

    This is a positive song for me, believe it or not. It is an acceptance of what cannot be. And once you accept that, you can begin moving on. Painful, yet profound and freeing.

    • @softshadesofblue
      @softshadesofblue 5 років тому

      I can see why, the fact that the other person dont and wont ever love us, teaches us truth and acceptance. Let it go - james bay is also the song that taught me this.

    • @vw2slow1
      @vw2slow1 5 років тому

      Yes

    • @bengarcia6168
      @bengarcia6168 5 років тому +1

      Christie Jensen relate with you so much. At this point last year this song would have drove me to uncontrollable sobbing. Now, only comforting peace and acceptance.

  • @rachel5549
    @rachel5549 2 роки тому +267

    My mom loved this song. She’s been gone since June of 2019. I lost her at 20, I’m 23 now. It hasn’t gotten better. Thank you for encapsulating this as beautifully as you have. I’m crying.

    • @CompleteCrunch
      @CompleteCrunch 2 роки тому +16

      I lost my big sister to suicide about 3 years ago. It doesn’t really get better but I do everything I can to live for her and honor her memory. I’ve found when I help others I see a little bit of her in them and it comforts me. Nice knowing there’s other people who understand at least.

    • @chlorine0935
      @chlorine0935 2 роки тому +7

      Hi sweet girl. I am almost 26, lost my mom when I was 20 also…Keep pushing.. it’s what she would want for you, to never give up. ❤️

    • @Shawnibus
      @Shawnibus 2 роки тому +1

      ❤️

    • @noneyobidness6178
      @noneyobidness6178 2 роки тому +1

      I’m sorry for your loss.

    • @Tonyhouse1168
      @Tonyhouse1168 2 роки тому

      ♥️

  • @starstalker0
    @starstalker0 7 років тому +5640

    "Hurt an artist, and you'll see masterpieces of what you've done." -- Unknown.

    • @MrPapaStone
      @MrPapaStone 6 років тому +14

      Elle Briske yes I wonder who hurt mike Reid and Allan Shamblin! 👍🏼

    • @MsMinecraftLife
      @MsMinecraftLife 6 років тому +20

      I wonder who hurt Justin

    • @thispp
      @thispp 6 років тому +15

      wow...... wow.. wow.. just wow..

    • @charlieoneill1883
      @charlieoneill1883 6 років тому +8

      Elle Briske love that quote man ❤️

    • @marshasaldana9091
      @marshasaldana9091 6 років тому +2

      Truest

  • @MrClumsyElf
    @MrClumsyElf 7 років тому +574

    loved a girl once. never told her to this day. i don't know where she is now, but i hope she's doing all right. hope she remembers me.

    • @PaddyMcMe
      @PaddyMcMe 6 років тому +10

      I expect that's true for a lot of people.

    • @moty0303
      @moty0303 6 років тому +12

      shes thinking about you

    • @popnhand
      @popnhand 6 років тому +63

      You should tell her. I had an old lady on her deathbed tell me shes loved a man for over 60 years..."what? Where is he?"
      "I don't know honey....I never told him before he left for the army during World War II and I never saw him again. I remember what color his eyes were. A beautiful sky blue..." She died a week later. You have to always tell those you love that you love them, even if it's not reciprocated. You threw your love into the universe and will get it back.

    • @therealjay5731
      @therealjay5731 6 років тому +1

      I feel you

    • @findleyysnakee
      @findleyysnakee 6 років тому +4

      tell her bitch

  • @colincusimano5363
    @colincusimano5363 7 років тому +1420

    this made me break up with myself

  • @Zacharybilletter
    @Zacharybilletter Місяць тому +30

    BRATS!!!!
    Who else is here after listening to I think about it all the time?????!!!!!!!
    I watch this video atleast yearly since it’s release and am feeling incredibly seen that it has now go on to be featured on the remix album. TASTE!!! Thank you Justin and Charli for revisiting this!! Infinite gratitude. Love y’all!!!

  • @rochelle1117
    @rochelle1117 8 років тому +623

    The one positive thing from everything hurting so much right now is knowing that the pain is caused by how wholly I gave away my heart. That it was handed back to me after five years with a bit more wear and tear is just the price I paid. I'm going to be okay though. Someday.

    • @wanboyka1818
      @wanboyka1818 8 років тому +8

      you will.....

    • @davidcaetano8138
      @davidcaetano8138 8 років тому +21

      Waiting for that 'someday' to come is the hardest part

    • @makholwagama5498
      @makholwagama5498 8 років тому +12

      wow, this is so heartbreaking, i love the that u see a positiveness in it, u will heal....may seem forever but it does end, it really does.

    • @theonlykalonji
      @theonlykalonji 8 років тому +16

      To quote a Sara Bareilles song: "I'll be alright once I find the other side of someday."

    • @tomasbravo7929
      @tomasbravo7929 7 років тому +7

      i feel the same, someday it will...

  • @elainecoutts8097
    @elainecoutts8097 9 років тому +228

    worst feeling in world is loving someone with all you're heart and they don't feel the same way as you it like the sun going down under you especially when get nothing back

    • @kristinemoreno1402
      @kristinemoreno1402 9 років тому +1

      It hurts so much. I fell so hard for a guy. He told me he loved me and I fell in love with him. Only to have him tell me he never really felt it, that he doesn't think he will ever feel it.

    • @charismabros5352
      @charismabros5352 9 років тому

      +kristine moreno I can relate I deal with it all the time

    • @---qj1kz
      @---qj1kz 9 років тому +1

      i can relate.... :(

    • @stirfrylove
      @stirfrylove 9 років тому +3

      +Elaine Coutts I sometimes ask myself if that is really love. There is someone who I care very deeply about, and I try to remind myself to be grateful that I got the chance to know this wonderful person. Sometimes I want that person so badly. It seems selfish to me. I thought the real thing is supposed to be selfless, full of wonder, respect, and appreciation. The stars in the sky are so beautiful but I can't reach out to take them for myself. Ideally it would be like that. But I can't shake the longing.

    • @charismabros5352
      @charismabros5352 9 років тому +2

      stirfrylove I sang and played this song on piano a couple days ago and the girl I like decided to go with me

  • @GoldenWave
    @GoldenWave 7 років тому +405

    Just when I get caught up in the daily routine, I hear a song that makes my heart twist and reminds me I'm human. Feelings mean you're alive.

  • @drivabletoaster417
    @drivabletoaster417 8 місяців тому +7

    The fact this has nearly twice the views as the original song is a testament to how well he sells the emotion this song holds.

  • @lauradsu
    @lauradsu 9 років тому +275

    I've been in love with a guy that is in love with another girl. The truth is in the beginning he didn't know if he wanted me or her. In the end, he chose her.
    And I thank that songs like this exist, because they turn something painful for me into something beautiful, and I don't feel alone anymore.
    So... thank you, music.

    • @linklink1775
      @linklink1775 9 років тому +3

      same as me :D

    • @felipemotorhead
      @felipemotorhead 9 років тому +4

      Your comment made me cry, I hope you get better

    • @christianpiedad4052
      @christianpiedad4052 9 років тому +2

      i think that guy is Stupid !
      She Denied a Beautiful woman that loves her.
      Because all my life no one liked me until now, i fall inlove with her and i think it's just impossible to be with her. :(

    • @christianpiedad4052
      @christianpiedad4052 9 років тому

      Don Diesel btw this isn't my real name :P :( :3 Peace !

    • @banfasso3109
      @banfasso3109 9 років тому +3

      I love you, Laura :) -from the icy wilds of Northern Canada

  • @gavinhughes9050
    @gavinhughes9050 8 років тому +96

    To those of you out there who just listened to this rendition for the first time: Don't worry, it's emotional potency doesn't fade after days, weeks, months or years. It will always be as painfully, evocatively heartwrenching as the first listen. Thank God.

    • @helixhair7
      @helixhair7 7 років тому +3

      damn. i'm glad to know there are people like you out there who would even care to articulate that. my world, i am better for it--- a lot.

    • @JW-mg1sk
      @JW-mg1sk Рік тому

      I just discovered this version today! Like where has it been all my life? Fan of Bonnie’s original version back then. This particular rendition is superb. My heart knows this. Infinitesimal waves …

  • @ChanceBerryman
    @ChanceBerryman 3 роки тому +305

    Loss, heartbreak, and pain are part of the human experience. No need to run from it.
    Music like this help me understand everyone that ever walked on earth has felt the pain of disappointment. Be strong friends.

    • @loveiverwashereasherself4803
      @loveiverwashereasherself4803 3 роки тому

      Yep!
      Remember we all interpret music differently so keep that in mind! I’ve never found anything sad about Justin singing this tune💌💋

    • @loveiverwashereasherself4803
      @loveiverwashereasherself4803 3 роки тому +1

      @ompbotty cheer up! Dance around or anything!

    • @Qqxx22
      @Qqxx22 2 роки тому +1

      This level of heart break is really devastating but it’s also beautiful in a weird way.

    • @jergenswillilander1407
      @jergenswillilander1407 Рік тому +1

      I give thanks for pain as much as grace. My most powerful lessons are learned through pain. I agree, bud.

    • @Skennell07
      @Skennell07 8 місяців тому

      it hit hard for my pain still quite quitting feel

  • @betweenhousessince2002
    @betweenhousessince2002 3 роки тому +302

    We often forget what happens at the end of this song: "I found love in the nick of time"
    If you are here because you are sad and alone; If you are here because your heartbreak is fresh or so old but still raw; if you are here because you need a good cry please remember this: while you can't make people love you, you can still find love in the nick of time:)
    yes, you feel sad right now but "it might be over soon"
    so hold on!
    I promise you if you do that, you will find your person or your people.
    You have so much awesomeness ahead of you:)
    you have no idea of the amazing people that will enter your life and probably take you by surprise
    It's ok to feel sad but let the end of this song give you some hope because you WILL find love:)
    Actually, you already have:) take a look around in this wonderful comments section! These people took the time to write these messages to inspire hope and vulnerability. Know that you are loved by them and you are loved by me
    I love you
    so have a wonderful night...or day...or life lol

  • @halfstrip
    @halfstrip 7 років тому +919

    Who's listening to this in the middle of a night? What a performance

  • @AngelsRot
    @AngelsRot 8 років тому +3474

    My boy Bon Iver got the comments section lookin like a group therapy session. Got motherfuckers testifying and crying and shit.

  • @TheLucasGregory
    @TheLucasGregory 8 років тому +40

    We all ended up alone, that's why we are here, listening to this song and crying, even if not accepting, is what actually happens in life...

  • @allisonroche9416
    @allisonroche9416 Місяць тому +49

    brat brought me back here after years and years ❤❤❤

  • @Mdish333
    @Mdish333 6 років тому +174

    It hurts so badly to truly be in love with someone that never really loved you ... but for a season you believed they really did.

    • @glfrjack
      @glfrjack 4 роки тому +6

      Continuing to be in love with the idea of being in love with that person is crushing, too... How my life would have been if it were reciprocated.... wish I were strong enough to pick myself up and continue on...

    • @liammurtagh601
      @liammurtagh601 4 роки тому +2

      It’s unbearable at times. I’m so glad there are others that understand, I feel a tiny bit less alone. Thank you for your kind words ❤️

    • @KtotheG
      @KtotheG 4 роки тому +1

      It's why I'm a misogynist now. I'm never loving again.

    • @staceydiggan805
      @staceydiggan805 4 роки тому

      Mimi Ryburn and then you are steamrolled by the truth & you try your hardest to keep it together. Inside, you’re broken into millions of jagged pieces. After the storm subsides, years later, you wonder if you’ll ever love again, will you ever trust again?

    • @julielindsey3733
      @julielindsey3733 4 роки тому

      Beautiful. New fan. Taylor brought me here. I Love Your Beautiful, Amazing Voice. Exile was Beautiful. Thank You.♥️🌟🎉

  • @brownboysant7763
    @brownboysant7763 Рік тому +44

    Ive been returning to this video since im 16, now im 24 and all the feelings that this songs remain to me are kind of nostalgic, maybe one day it all will get better...

  • @gazm2142
    @gazm2142 7 років тому +57

    We weren't the right person for each other but that doesn't mean the love we had was not real. You'll always have a special place in my heart.

  • @Xer0b1ts
    @Xer0b1ts 4 місяці тому +4

    7 years later, this song still hits as hard as I when first heard it.
    in fact, Bon Iver still hits as hard as I first heard him in "The place beyond the pines".
    That movie meant much to me as a father, but the messages you're leaving out for the world means much for what they may face in their darkest of times.
    This isn't just music, it is art in it's purest of forms. It is human emotion and experience put upon a piece of lyric, it is what most of us will have to endure.
    Thank you, Bon Iver.

  • @Bdub1964
    @Bdub1964 7 років тому +29

    The fact that this brother has people discussing the subject of the song means he did what many artists can't do. He let the song speak. In an age of vocal acrobatics and musical assaults, it's good to hear a sincere rendition of a very simple, very real piece of music.

  • @jenniferlima9235
    @jenniferlima9235 6 років тому +580

    I think a lot of the heartache we face in relationships stems from the fact that we ignore red flags... We want so badly for this to be the person, the one, our soulmate... We think the differences will disappear, that somehow the inconsistencies will fade... but they don't. Time exacerbates the issues, close constant proximity to the person makes the problems that we overlooked inescapable. Yet, we continue to invest time and energy into something that if we had been honest with ourselves from the beginning, we knew wasn't going to work out... Then, one day, someone gives up and walks away. It hurts... I'll admit, I was the person who walked away. I know I hurt him, and I'm not trying to justify what I did or minimize how I hurt him... But if we both would have been honest, we knew it was always going to end that way.

    • @emt3576
      @emt3576 6 років тому

      ):

    • @emt3576
      @emt3576 6 років тому +6

      i don't want it to be over

    • @joelwybrew
      @joelwybrew 6 років тому +22

      I actually really relate to this a lot, quite significantly. My first relationship was much like what you've described. There were wonderful aspects to it, and the other person was terrific, but we simply had fundamental differences, and that wedge was always there. I tried so hard because I was so scared of breaking her heart and my own. In the end, like you said, I walked away. I learned a lot from that.
      Why am I telling you this? Because the Internet.
      But also, I appreciate your honesty, so there's mine. Thanks fellow human

    • @ibrahimmustika4304
      @ibrahimmustika4304 6 років тому +3

      Spot on... eloquently put...

    • @jenniferlima9235
      @jenniferlima9235 6 років тому +4

      @@joelwybrew , thank you. Things are better now. It hurt, but we both moved on, and he eventually admitted that it was for the best.

  • @jennifercarberry6487
    @jennifercarberry6487 6 років тому +135

    Can we talk about the piano playing, I’m in such a trance, it’s beautiful yet haunting

  • @JLDragzThem
    @JLDragzThem 6 місяців тому +8

    The hope at the end when he transitions to “‘Nick of Time” is so beautiful. Right when he thinks love is lost, he finds it. I love this rendition, and the juxtaposition of these two songs.

  • @FavoriteMusicSongs
    @FavoriteMusicSongs 6 років тому +452

    There was a guy once, that I wanted to have, to love, to be together with, but it's not what he wanted. And I used to listen to this song and think I wasn't good enough, that I must have done something wrong or been unlovable.
    I thought I would never find someone to love me, but it turns out that he was here the whole time just waiting for me and God brought him in my life at a time when I needed him most. He loved me, when I couldn't even fully love myself and for that I am forever grateful.
    Now I just come to listen to this song because it's so very touching, and it reminds me just how lucky and blessed I am to have found a lasting love.
    If you're reading this and your hurting right now, just hang in there, because you were meant to be loved. God has a plan for your life and when the times right, you will meet the person you're supposed to spend the rest of your life with.

  • @thotumn420
    @thotumn420 Рік тому +48

    11 years of coming back to this song and it still wrecks me every time. i’ve never heard anything more devastatingly beautiful. cheers, hopeless romantics.

  • @sox9647
    @sox9647 2 роки тому +80

    Still one of the most amazing piano arrangements for this song. Blows me away every time

  • @rickrjw
    @rickrjw 2 роки тому +75

    There are some songs in life that the first time you hear you know will be a part of you for the rest of your time. This is one of them for me. I check in on it once and a while and find everlasting joy in its beauty. What a masterpiece.

    • @db26127
      @db26127 10 місяців тому

      So well said🙏👏

  • @arawinda2707
    @arawinda2707 4 роки тому +197

    Can we start a petition to get this version on Spotify please. It's kind of hard to maintain my crying when I have to switch between Spotify-UA-cam:')

  • @carolynsowada36
    @carolynsowada36 8 років тому +71

    wow i would have packed a lunch if i knew i was going on a feelstrip today.

  • @sydneyscott5913
    @sydneyscott5913 8 років тому +436

    Damn, this song makes me feel the pain of a heartbreak that I have yet to experience.

    • @vicadamebbborla6127
      @vicadamebbborla6127 8 років тому

      Damn right! son

    • @cgx6751
      @cgx6751 7 років тому

      sydney scott fr

    • @syanushka
      @syanushka 7 років тому +28

      I really hope you won't experience it. Non-reciprocal love is very painful

    • @guna_clan
      @guna_clan 7 років тому +29

      I hope you get your heart broken at least once, not because it's beautiful or something but because it teaches you what love is capable of. After the heartbreak you will feel like you can never love again but you will not give up hope and you'll find love again. Because to love at all is to be vulnerable.

    • @Nillowo
      @Nillowo 7 років тому +11

      having loved and lost, it is so painful. I loved too much you see, it has been over a year now and my heart feels like it was broken just yesterday. But if theres one thing I learned in this time, from both my friends and family, comment sections and even therapy, it is that you can not give up, and it is never the end. No matter what, someone out there will love you as much as you loved the person that couldnt love you as strongly as you had.

  • @kfullam2924
    @kfullam2924 2 роки тому +24

    My mother adopted me when I was 6, and this song has always resonated with me. Over the years, I would sing this with her.
    She passed away recently, her last moments were listening to this song while I sang to her softly. I miss her beyond measure. Now I sing this song with tears streaming down my face... that moment with her never fades. Thank you for creating a song that can hold so much for so many 💜

  • @harryralph9284
    @harryralph9284 5 років тому +131

    "You can't make your heart feel something it won't" .... man... so stubbornly true; like a slap in the face from a cold, bitter hand. Like a broken heart, it's not just the impact of the slap when it hits - it's the sting that stays for what seems like forever.

    • @milesmiller1468
      @milesmiller1468 4 роки тому

      harry ralph Grow up boy. All you whining hags make me puke. Thank God we have Trump. MAGA. Trump 2020. Drain all child molester. Smoke em out and bring it Donald Trump.

    • @chrisrobbins3888
      @chrisrobbins3888 3 роки тому +1

      @@milesmiller1468 Lol this is so funny

    • @im_Spade_
      @im_Spade_ 3 роки тому

      @@chrisrobbins3888 yeah 😂 Aged like fine milk

  • @natalievalle6395
    @natalievalle6395 7 років тому +1535

    this song and his voice makes me miss an ex I dont even have

  • @1USMarine1975
    @1USMarine1975 6 років тому +2375

    really sucks when you give your heart to the wrong person.

    • @Thedirtinyoureye
      @Thedirtinyoureye 5 років тому +26

      It happened to me a lot of times ): no just with a special person, also with friends ):

    • @cowboy_crow
      @cowboy_crow 5 років тому +6

      Big mood 💔

    • @anne9255
      @anne9255 5 років тому +3

      Agree

    • @veronicalamb5330
      @veronicalamb5330 5 років тому +4

      yes baby.

    • @TheNittyGritty735
      @TheNittyGritty735 5 років тому +7

      Especially when you have a baby with said person 🤦🏽‍♀️

  • @isabellescott786
    @isabellescott786 Місяць тому +4

    I don't ever typically comment on youtube videos especially ones this old, and my love stories are just like anyone else's as at the end of the day we are all human and can express these deeply profound and beautiful feelings.
    Its inspiring to love so hard that on the flip side you hear something like this and can feel immense pain-- with a beautiful lesson its all we have and will one day just exist in since life is finite and passing so quickly.
    One day someone will read this comment and i wont be here but my essence, the love i felt, the love i lost .. it all existed. This comment is proof of it. Proof i existed, how incredible is that?! I existed on this planet- the biggest blessing.
    The rarity of that keeps a fire burning so bright in me every day to continue to keep coming back to that love.
    I have been reflecting lately how it can be difficult to truly connect and see someone deeply, but i know it exists- hopefully one day ill find that love that sticks and we can watch this video together while sharing a gratitude that we exist in that love, if if only for that moment.

  • @osu28fan
    @osu28fan 7 років тому +140

    When you realize pain gets worse when you don't cry because you can't cry. But you can't figure out why you can't cry other than knowing you're so broken that crying feels like an idea rather than a part of your life. At the same time knowing you're kind of glad you can hold onto the pain, because the things it helps you see, makes the sadness, worth the knowledge.

  • @ILovePsySoMuch
    @ILovePsySoMuch 8 років тому +2636

    Somebody gave me a chocolate chip cookie, but it turns out to be oatmeal raisin. This song helps me overcome my trust issues. Amen.

    • @ILovePsySoMuch
      @ILovePsySoMuch 8 років тому +11

      +ListenAndLearned thanks mate, you helped me get through these difficult times

    • @19JayBro96
      @19JayBro96 7 років тому +2

      IAmJustJack Preach.

    • @ILovePsySoMuch
      @ILovePsySoMuch 7 років тому +5

      +youtube passerby daddy please fucking do

    • @19JayBro96
      @19JayBro96 7 років тому +1

      IAmJustJack Lolol where did that come from though you think?? Seems like out of nowhere

    • @ILovePsySoMuch
      @ILovePsySoMuch 7 років тому +3

      +Jaysingsforsmiles wydm where did come from idk what you're talking about but probably either from my ass or the internet

  • @priscillanatalia2492
    @priscillanatalia2492 7 років тому +476

    Turn down the lights
    Turn down the bed
    Turn down these voices inside my head
    Lay down with me
    Tell me no lies
    Just hold me close
    Don't patronize
    Don't patronize me
    'Cause I can't make you love me if you don't
    You can't make your heart feel something it won't
    Here in the dark in these final hours
    I will lay down my heart and I'll feel the power
    But you won't, no you won't
    'Cause I can't make you love me if you don't
    I'll close my eyes
    Then I won't see
    The love you don't feel when you're holding me
    Morning will come
    And I'll do what's right
    Just give me 'til then to give up this fight
    And I will give up this fight
    'Cause I can't make you love me if you don't
    You can't make your heart feel something it won't
    Here in the dark in these final hours
    I will lay down my heart and I'll feel the power
    But you won't, no you won't
    'Cause I can't make you love me if you don't

  • @RCSVirginia
    @RCSVirginia 3 роки тому +112

    "I Can't Make You Love Me" written by Mike Reid and Allen Shamblin was on Bonnie Raitt's "Luck Of The Draw" album. She recorded the original version of the song in one take with Bruce Hornsby's playing the piano. She didn't record another take because she knew that she had captured the emotion of the song perfectly the first time. That album version is still my favourite of all the ones done.

    • @voicesinthewoods
      @voicesinthewoods 2 роки тому +5

      That’s such a beautiful song- the way she sings it! Have loved it since I was a kid. Just beautiful. Heartfelt.

    • @benhanses
      @benhanses Рік тому +4

      This is an excellent cover, particularly his piano skills... But no one will ever top Bonnie Raitt's original version. It was written for her for a reason

  • @NikoEscobar187
    @NikoEscobar187 3 роки тому +55

    This song has been covered by some great artists, so many times, and it never hits like this one. It’s heartbreakingly beautiful.

    • @nancypatricia511
      @nancypatricia511 3 роки тому

      Prince did this song on His Emancipation album. His covers are always well done.

  • @justineann9641
    @justineann9641 6 років тому +153

    I always listen to this almost every night for the past four years, and this never fail to make me cry each time. I never expected to be reciprocated, but it is just really tough seeing the person I loved and adored gives his love and attention to different women throughout the years while I give all of my unconditional love, time, effort, and affection to him, only him. I waited for years, thinking if I were patient enough, he would love me someday the way I loved him. I thought, if I were brave enough to let him know and show how I feel without any shame, everything would change. Despite all of my sacrifices, unconditional love, understanding, and patience, I ended up with nothing but bitterness and insecurity; However, I learned a lot from him, and I turned my pain to strength. I became a stronger woman, and I am thankful. I won't regret those years I spent waiting and loving a man who never loved me. I miss him terribly everyday, but I need to move on and give up all of my hopes, fantasies, dreams of being with him. Now, I am slowly picking up all of the pieces of my broken heart. I am slowly healing my wounds. It might take time, maybe years, to fully heal, but I am hopeful that someday I would find someone who can show me the same amount of love, respect, and attention I can give.
    I never commented in any UA-cam videos before, but I felt an urge to pour out my emotions like everyone on the comment section. I am here, crying with y'all. Let's all cry together and hopefully cry it all until the pain goes away...

    • @lucerorecul
      @lucerorecul 6 років тому

      I feel you

    • @MsChantae
      @MsChantae 5 років тому +1

      every single night? wow! you're dedicated

    • @TheNittyGritty735
      @TheNittyGritty735 5 років тому +2

      Not only did I relate to that on sooo many levels especially considering I had a child with said man :( but I am now in a relationship I couldn’t be any happier. I also finished reading as the last chord rang out it really made me jitter 😭

    • @RubyXOmakeup
      @RubyXOmakeup 5 років тому

      Ouch, I think I’m going through the start of what you’ve been through. Maybe it’s a good idea I back off now before I waste anymore of my time. Still it hurts, because he means so much to me.

    • @eshushue
      @eshushue 5 років тому

      I know how you feel and it’s killing me i hope you okay right now i hope you found someone really love you like you want

  • @jacobmcclain8447
    @jacobmcclain8447 6 років тому +589

    Whenever I'm at a LIT rager of a house party and I get handed the aux chord this is what I play.

    • @blakedavis3755
      @blakedavis3755 6 років тому +39

      This made me laugh out loud

    • @mlgismondi
      @mlgismondi 6 років тому +4

      YOU WIN.

    • @Rat_Intelligence
      @Rat_Intelligence 6 років тому +10

      Hell yeah brother. Put em in the feels. 😭

    • @CQNova
      @CQNova 6 років тому +8

      OMG hilarious! Completely took me out of whatever feels I had with this song hahahaha!! You win

    • @jbomb7867
      @jbomb7867 6 років тому +13

      Nobody gives me the aux anymore :(

  • @BriceHaidenOnTheBeat
    @BriceHaidenOnTheBeat Рік тому +14

    I was 17 when I discovered this… haven’t listened in many, many years… but for some reason as I was driving today… Justin Vernon’s voice singing the hook just went through my head… I heard it. Isn’t that crazy? So here I am, listening to this song and aligning it with my life experiences for the past 9 years. Beautiful, just beautiful.

  • @georgekirkland5212
    @georgekirkland5212 6 років тому +237

    Makes me want to hug and kiss my wife and baby daughter. I wouldn’t know what to do if I didn’t have them. I love them so much.

    • @cryonara
      @cryonara 5 років тому +4

      George Kirkland aww, btw your good at piano...you should try to play this song for them :)

    • @kbs1212
      @kbs1212 5 років тому +3

      George Kirkland That’s a very unhealthy attitude to have. It’s a sign that you depend on others emotionally and do not fully accept yourself as an individual. It’s not right to burden others with our unresolved feelings of inadequacy, because if they do leave us (wife cheats or leaves, child passes away, etc), we won’t know how to continue living on our own. Remember that we are alone even if we’re in someone’s company. The goal is to not be afraid of that. Good luck.

    • @daynerthechamp
      @daynerthechamp 5 років тому +5

      @@kbs1212 lol ok mr.robot

    • @estivenp333
      @estivenp333 4 роки тому +3

      @@kbs1212 noone gives a fuck to your opinion. Leave the man feel what he feels. Live your way and let the others do the same.

    • @valerianicole610
      @valerianicole610 4 роки тому +1

      @@kbs1212 You're obviously not a father or parent in general.

  • @austinbeltramo1596
    @austinbeltramo1596 7 років тому +23

    Here I am 6 years later, still in shock by the pure power and beauty of bon iver

  • @thechunkytrucker5111
    @thechunkytrucker5111 9 років тому +241

    I liked this girl so much, so I wrote her a song on my keyboard and played it for her and she liked it. We traded numbers and we texted, but she said she just wanted to be friends and told me she started to cry when I said I liked her since 7th grade and showed her this song. I insisted it was ok and that I'll be fine, but I was still hurt. So over the next few weeks we talked still. I won her a prize at a carnival our class went to on a senior trip, and when she had a dance show at our school and she thought she did bad, I told her how good she actually was. I did these things because I still liked her and my friends told me not to give up on her just yet. But she thought I was doing this as a good friend. She said I was a really good friend of hers and she didn't want to lose me. She made me realize what a truly good friend I could be to other people, and now coming back to this song, it has a different tone and message for me. It is no longer a depressing song about unrequited love for me, but a song showing me that it's ok that I'll never be with her as long as we'll always be in touch and be good friends, and that there's no point in feeling depressed because at least we've had that friendship for a while, and I don't think it'll end anytime soon. For all of you suffering from unrequited love, look at this song differently the way I did, and it'll change you.😃

    • @thechunkytrucker5111
      @thechunkytrucker5111 9 років тому +9

      …No. There's being hot and me just wanting to get in your pants and then there's you being beautiful and me wanting to start a life with her. She was beautiful and I'm glad we're best friends who keep in touch to this day.

    • @thechunkytrucker5111
      @thechunkytrucker5111 9 років тому +1

      Correction, she IS beautiful.

    • @thechunkytrucker5111
      @thechunkytrucker5111 9 років тому +2

      I had a crush on her in seventh grade. As time went on(through high school)my understanding of girls and the people I would like changed. My respect for girls and understanding of what's truly beautiful grew, as did her beauty. Anyways I'm glad we're still friends now.

    • @thechunkytrucker5111
      @thechunkytrucker5111 9 років тому +2

      Also just cuz I "honestly don't know what I want in seventh grade" wouldn't change the fact that id like her and pursue her.

    • @DefyingGravityNaruto
      @DefyingGravityNaruto 9 років тому +1

      The Chunky Trucker :)

  • @vonezerq
    @vonezerq 4 місяці тому +2

    All these years later and I still come back to this song. It's cold and haunting and makes me feel the blues for a love that died out due to my actions. And yet, I find some sense of comfort and familiarity in the stinging pain it evokes especially when you go months to years not feeling any meaningful emotion at all. It's my little cold corner where I can go and still feel alive.

  • @DSensitize
    @DSensitize 5 років тому +29

    So beautiful. I love the end, when he leaves his fingers on the keys for a long time, almost as if he didn't want to give up the beauty of the song and return to his heartbroken state.

  • @allenamoestadja8834
    @allenamoestadja8834 8 років тому +135

    Turn down the lights,
    Turn down the bed,
    Turn down these voices,
    Inside my head
    Lay down with me,
    Tell me no lies,
    Just hold me close,
    Don't patronize me [x2]
    Cause I can't make you love me
    If you don't,
    You can't make your heart feel
    Something it won't,
    Here in the dark,
    These final hours
    I will lay down my heart
    And I feel the power
    But you don't,
    No you don't
    Cause I can't make you love me,
    If you don't [x2]
    No, you won't
    I'll close my eyes,
    No, I won't see
    The love you don't feel,
    When you're holding me
    Morning will come,
    And I'll do what's right
    Just give me till then
    To give up this fight
    And I will give up this fight...
    Cause I can't make you love me if you don't
    I can't make your heart feel,
    Something it won't,
    Here in the dark
    These final hours
    I will lay down my heart
    And I feel the power
    But you don't,
    No you don't
    I can't make you love me if you don't
    If you don't,
    No you, no you won't
    I found love darlin' [x5]
    Love in the nick of time
    I found love darlin' yeah,
    Love in the nick of time

  • @Slonecznykatol
    @Slonecznykatol 7 років тому +115

    How can this simple piano and those simple chords make such a deep sound and harmony?

    • @jowombo
      @jowombo 6 років тому +5

      Christian Grzeszczuk I mean the piano isn't that simple but I get what you mean. Lol crying with a cup of tea and my homework

    • @jasonmiradoli8900
      @jasonmiradoli8900 6 років тому

      bruce hornsby of bruce hornsby and the range played this on bonnie raitt's original. this is a beautiful version, but bruce's piano, a whole nother level. let me know if you disagree. as for vocals, (tho not the same musically), george michael's live version is a tear-jerker. there, i said it.

    • @chadkayser7010
      @chadkayser7010 6 років тому

      Agree.. bruce absolutely adds another level of hurt to this song

    • @zaknefain100
      @zaknefain100 6 років тому

      There is an incredible beauty in the simplistic...

  • @fullabeatz
    @fullabeatz 5 днів тому +1

    I found this song after losing my "first love" at 22. I just lost my second love, of a much deeper connection (for me anyway) and 7 years longer (it seems to have been toxic and abusive reflecting), this song just hits so different to me and means more than it did the last time.
    Maybe it's time I learn to love myself because giving to someone who don't see, treat or feel the same is painful.
    Let's love ourselves as much as we give to those who don't or can't us.
    Take care, everyone.
    Nick x

  • @JoshSchottMusic
    @JoshSchottMusic 9 років тому +2080

    yeah...listening to this was a bad idea

    • @sophiebre315
      @sophiebre315 9 років тому +29

      i Feel you

    • @taghreedbabiker7044
      @taghreedbabiker7044 9 років тому +2

      definitely :'(

    • @mintgumdropz1
      @mintgumdropz1 9 років тому +37

      +Josh Schott I feel your pain. There is nothing worse in the world, than loving someone who don't love you back.
      :***(

    • @moradouk4772
      @moradouk4772 9 років тому +21

      +mintgumdropz1 You feel so defeated you lose the will to live. But for some reason...you still hang to life by a thread.

    • @mintgumdropz1
      @mintgumdropz1 9 років тому +3

      +Mora Douk Yes, you are right.

  • @arthurdonnietello9691
    @arthurdonnietello9691 5 років тому +48

    This song is so sad, but the comments are so much sadder.. They got me so emotional, it crazy all the heartbreaks we go through and we still have faith/hope in love.... Y'all strong people, thumbs up to all of you

  • @YourFriendDevin
    @YourFriendDevin 7 років тому +862

    This comment section is just a big group hug

    • @mindrolling24
      @mindrolling24 6 років тому +6

      CRUSTYDOGTAlNT YES! Another person who notices and comments on threads when they are mostly if not all made by supportive, positive, intelligent and compassionate commentators.
      It makes my day better which is important as often a lot of social media platforms are just full of ignorant, biased, bigoted and hateful negative comments and outright bullying at times. And so much cruelty *sigh*.
      So best wishes from me here in Canberra, Australia. Hope you have a day and a life with many moments of joy, laughter and compassion! xxxx

    • @khoatran-pc6tb
      @khoatran-pc6tb 6 років тому +1

      A much needed one to many (including me)

    • @skyecharles7913
      @skyecharles7913 6 років тому

      I laughed so hard at this!!!

    • @fionamars2378
      @fionamars2378 6 років тому

      This is a nice place. The comment section❤

    • @OceanFullHouse
      @OceanFullHouse 6 років тому

      this cheers me up

  • @simonrobertfrench
    @simonrobertfrench 5 місяців тому +6

    i come back to this regularly. quite possibly my favorite musical creation in existence.

  • @madinarobson4208
    @madinarobson4208 3 роки тому +36

    Justin Vernon is a transcending musician.
    There's something about the emotion and vulnerability in his voice that makes us feel understood.
    That makes our pain feel understood and validated.
    It is so profoundly moving how music can be so powerful and so healing.
    It's mad and it's beautiful and sometimes, it makes all of the difference.