Let me know how your no buy / low buy journey is going ✨ I hope by sharing my story it may remind you that fashion is just not worth struggling for. And it’s also a reminder to myself ❤
The best advice I can give is: stay away from Social Media and so called Influencers! Both only get you to compare yourself with others and they give you the feeling you need to buy that and have this to be cool and happy… stay away from Temu, Shein and plattforms like that.. All the stuff you shop used to be money and that money used to be precious lifetime you needed to earn it.. when you realize all that, it is easy not to spend your money.. Greetings from Germany!
I agree there’s so much comparison online. I do think there are ways of being selective with what you see online, if you follow the right people. But it can be hard to avoid the ads. Great advice ♥️
I used to buy tons of cloths and shoes, was spending every cent I had (and honestly even more) online. Than I had a boy and stopped working, since I had no money of my own anymore, just a joint bank account with my husband I had to stop shopping cold turkey. I thought it would be very hard, but to my surprise it was not. After a short while I felt liberated. I used to love my closet, suddenly it was a burden. I didn‘t want to spend my little free time i had in the evening arranging cloths I never had any occasion to wear anyway and that didnt fit my body nor my new lifestyle anymore. Started selling everything, couldnt believe how much stuff I had, how much of it was brand new and how much money I had wasted!!! It’s 8 years later now, today I enjoy a small wardrobe and could never go back, it just hurts me to know in what stupid way I used to spend all my money
I wish I lived in a part of the world where there weren't such extremes of temperature. +35°C or higher in summer, -25° in winter. The amount of clothes you need for that is insane. Just footwear alone: super warm boots for the city in winter, super warm dressier boots, superwarm tall boots for if you need to shovel snow up to your waist, regular-warm boots, regular warm dressier boots, rain boots of varying heights, warm running shoes, lighter running shoes, high heels, flats, numerous pairs of sandals of varying types for summer, the list goes on. And good quality winter stuff is bloody expensive.
Yes I can imagine that’s really tough to have such extreme seasons. I guess practicality always wins and if you need it, you need it! Definitely buying good quality at least means you don’t have to constantly shop x
100%. In such climate you need to have basically 9 wardrobes - for winter, mid season and summer - nice pieces for work, basic pieces to walk around/vacation and something practical/ugly to walk a dog or work in the garden. I can not downsize that. Minimalism is just a joke in my climate )))
Nobody needs to own that many styles of clothing. No one on this earth needs to own a pair of heels or a pair of dressy boots. Nobody needs all those styles of shoes just for summer. I literally wear either Crocs or cheap jelly shoes in summer and my life hasn't ended. In winter all you need are sneakers and a pair of winter hiking boots. If you work in a professional environment then you need a pair of professional looking shoes but you can literally just slip into them when you get into work and they don't have to be heels or dressy flats, they can be orthopedic shoes or whatever and you can buy those used or at a discount. You can buy winter coats already used. You can buy knitwear already used. You can buy rain boots already used. You are a slave to patriarchal beauty standards for women. You feel like you have to wear all these different trending styles to be accepted. I used to feel this way despite never having the money and I still managed to be physically comfortable. I have lived in Bulgaria where the seasons are unbearable and women absolutely can't afford all those different clothes. The biggest scam is also the bra industry. I am technically a size 38J and I don't wear a bra anymore. I have never been more physically comfortable. Women are told that they need to lift, suck and pull everything in to be socially acceptable. They are told that how they already are when they don't buy all this expensive shit is ugly and unacceptable. It's fucking ridiculous. I'm not saying I don't have my own personal style, I live for sanrio and florals and ultra feminine, loose flowy, boho, oversized styles, but I don't buy clothes all the time and I refuse to spend a lot of money on anything and I don't care if I look a bit 'mis matched' and I'm not the pinnacle of fashion.
I live in such climate as well. Working from home is a blessing for me when it comes to my wardrobe. Nobody would give a f if I was sitting in my pyjamas all day (I don’t, but I mostly wear athleisure as I walk my son to the kindergarden). But even when I was working from office on daily basis, I didn’t need so many pairs of shoes. And regarding transition between seasons, I have the same set for winter -> spring and autumn -> winter also I have one set for spring -> summer -> autumn. But generally I have a base clothes I can wear the year round, and then some season specific, but they are in minority.
I wanted to stop shopping for a year or two now, I really got sucked in about five years ago. When I realised I needed to stop, I used to shop on and off anyway, then be annoyed with myself. I watched similar videos to help me, but I still didn’t feel I could stop. Then I realised that I was buying constantly because I was watching clothes all the time and started borrowing books from library instead to help me to pass my resting time in different way. It only recently hit me, that my wardrobe was too full and I can’t fit any more stuff, that’s when I didn’t want to look at clothes any more. It’s been a month, I still looked at clothes from time to time, desired them and left it till later. Mentally I could already do it, then it just didn’t make any sense. I want to give my wardrobe some love now and I will focus on wardrobe clarity and declutterring. For once I felt satisfied with what I’ve got.
That’s amazing!! I think sometimes we need to be ready to make the change, I had been wanting to try a no buy year for a couple of years before I actually did it. Reading is definitely a much better way to spend your time. It’s so easy to be influenced to shop when constantly scrolling online. Xx
I also realized that I get the urge to buy after watching vidoes and ig about fashion, clothes, styling, etc. I had to stop those and if I still like to work on my creative side building my ootds, I shop my closet/accessories (I already own) and put together looks for the season/week.
This is all so real...I have struggled with shopping addiction for years. I noticed that it's very closely tied to my body image and my inability to sit with negative emotions. I think the impulsivity can be tied to ADHD which I have as well. I would say really driving home the truth that no new outfit is going to make me feel better about my body long term, and working with a therapist have been the most important for me. Finding some hobbies that I truly love that can give me some of that dopamine rush to replace shopping has been crucial as well. I still struggle, sending love to everyone out there who is trying to overcome this!
@@emilianacofell1545 that’s great that you have found some ways of working through your feelings. Mine is body confidence too sometimes. Trying to prove to myself I can wear certain things that I don’t actually own, and then when I get it I never wear it 😂 thanks for your comment lovely xx
I have never liked shopping. The more I see in store, the faster I get overwhelmed and buy nothing at all. 😅 I saved a lot over the last 15 years (I‘m 37) wearing the same style. However, I love travelling and that‘s where my money usually goes making memories all over the world. ❤️
The more i learn about what makes a quality product and what suits me, the more i get tired of shopping because finding an item that meets both specifications is like trying to find a needle in a haystack. I end up with nice pieces now but only after a while of shopping, so now if it's not a need I'm getting tired of doing the whole shoping process for itz it's only satisfying when i actually need the item in my wardrobe.
@@lookingatdaisies9901 it has become increasingly difficult to find high quality now with so many brands competing for faster turnarounds and lower prices. I don’t blame you for getting tired of it x
I am new to a low buy. I’ve only been going for 4 days, but I am really proud of myself because in the past, it wouldn’t work at all and now I’ve not shopped for 4 days (I attempted a low buy year in 2023 and it just wouldn’t work at all). I still had money for the bus, but I can relate to being super broke because of a shopping addiction.
This can work out but I learned the hard way investment pieces don’t work for me because of weight fluctuations from pregnancies and middle age body changes. So some of those expensive items I bought even two years ago ended up a waste of money too. Best idea is a small wardrobe you wear to pieces within a couple of years.
@@saramm3765 that’s a great point, and it’s something I mentioned in one of my recent videos. For me I know I want to have kids in the next few years so I’m thinking about pieces that might work with that, like a knitted dress that will stretch with me. there’s no point spending all your money on expensive items if they won’t last in your wardrobe. Always good to think long term. Xx
Thank you for making this video it’s like the universe knew I needed a kick up the bum. I’ve tried so many times to stop shopping but I fall back in the trap again. I think I set too much of a challenge saying that’s it no more shopping no limits, rules just no more shopping ever!! And when it’s going well I think great I’m sorted and treat myself!!! I’m ashamed to say I’m in my 40’s and still don’t have this sorted 😢 But I find it so inspiring seeing younger woman stand up and say no I’m not living my life like this so it’s time to try again this time it’s for 3 months, I have more than enough so I’m challenging myself to make my clothes work for me, fingers crossed this is the time ❤
About buying classic styles I would add that you can buy trends if you’re willing to wear them even when they’re out. I personally love what I love and I don’t care if people think it’s out.
I've such a similar story to you, changing careers into fashion, working retail in Galway and always wasting my paycheck on clothing. I now know the route cause was due to my friends all being in a differing class to me and trying to match their spending without having the means to. I kept up appearances but I cut all opportunities for important life stuff savings. I found navigating finances so difficult once I hit 18 but I also come from a family who had no financial sense in their lives. Sometimes buying something *special* like a good deal on a vintage piece gave me a feeling of individuality and independence which is hilarious as it was taking away my independence by spending. Such an important topic and love your honesty on the subject, thank you Gemma!
It’s such a funny thing isn’t it, when we feel like shopping is empowering us but really it’s taking away our financial power. That’s such a great way to put it! It can be really hard to keep up with other people but we also never know how much they can actually afford the things he they have either. Funny if we’re all going into debt to keep up with each other, when we’d all be better off just being honest about our situations and take the pressure off. Xx
Loved this video! My low buy is going so bad... I started of so strong but last month was a total failure. I've completely fallen off the wagon. It's harder than I expected, but that's why creators like you are so inspiring!
So glad you liked it! I haven’t been doing mine perfectly either. I feel guilty getting items sent to me from brands. It’s not about doing it perfectly though but just trying in the first place. I’d say expect the hurdles along the way and if you fall, just get back up and keep going 😊 nobody’s perfect x
I think your message and guidance are much appreciated by many. I’m now in my 60’s and learned over the years to nurture my specific style than waste money on many senseless pieces. I’m a patient buyer and will wait for end of season sales. I do twice a year wardrobe decluttering as I need space in my wardrobes. Some of my pieces of clothing I’ve had for years now, and i still love wearing them. Our money is precious and earned from hard work, and I would rather have some for later than nothing at all.
This year I challenged myself to a low buy clothing year and to help me with this I had to keep a running list on my phone of everything I bought. This has been eye opening. I wouldn't say I have been spending like crazy, but I would not say I've done a low buy so far. The list has slowed me down, I think, with continuing to buy so much. I look over the list as a reminder of all I added to my closet (I buy 2nd hand and often out of season so a lot of these new additions are unworn and packed away for winter) to work on being satisfied. It is a struggle!
Such a great idea keeping a list of what you buy. I wish I had kept track of anything new that entered my closet, as I’ve had some brands pieces come in, even if I haven’t ‘technically’ shopped. I think when my no buy is finished I’ll do a low-buy and keep track then. Maybe for the moment you can be happy with having more awareness around your spending, even if it hasn’t changed all that much yet. I think it will come with time. Xx
Thank you sharing this and your honesty! This video was such a good reminder. Instant gratification can drive bad habits and ultimately ruin your future, I have to remind myself of this from time to time.
I'm really glad you're talking about this. When I was younger clothes shopping was never seen as a negative thing. I never got any guidance about spending less on clothes so I never knew it was an issue. I didn't spend loads because I have always been a bit frugal, but I certainly wish I'd spent less and saved much more instead. I've never spent a lot on alcohol, meals out or holidays but clothes shopping has always been something I enjoyed. I think it's because it made me feel more in control of my life, plus it was an 'armour' against bullying at school. I'm low buy now but sometimes find myself wandering round the shops or watching fashion hauls to see what's new in the shops. I am going to try to shift my mindset towards my goals instead, clothes shopping often just leaves me feeling empty because like you say, it can't change your life, it only depletes your money.
I’ve mostly spent money on clothes too, more than anything else. I agree, there wasn’t much guidance on shopping growing up. Not that I was applied with clothes but I don’t remember anyone teaching me to have limits around it. 100% clothing is armour. I think I used it as a crutch to boost my self esteem. I think that’s a great idea to focus on your goals. I’m going to aim to do the same xx
@@gemmaamclean Yeah there were even a set of books called Shopaholic, it wasn't seen as a real addiction it was seen as a fun harmless even positive thing all women did. I think it was probably deliberate brainwashing, as capitalism requires spenders. I'm glad people are waking up to this now. It's horrible thinking of the money we could've saved but at least we can start changing things now.
Great and informative video as always. I started my no buy year last year in November and so far it’s going great. Not purchase a single new thing, just few make up replacements that I was running out of it. I decided to try whole year no buy. Also I did huge closet declutter and donate 80% of my clothes. I’m trying to figure out the style I love and it’s practical this year and purchase only new items only if work with my style. Currently I’m stay at home mom and don’t have income and taht helps me no thing about shopping /spending money on things that I don’t need!
Thank you Natalia. Ah we started around the same time! Sounds like you’re doing so well. Ha yes it always helps when the budget isn’t there to do a no-buy, I’m the same. My mortgage increase has taken what would have been my clothing budget anyway, it’s a good thing I’m doing a no buy 😂 although as I mentioned, past me would have spent the money anyway.
Love these tips! I just recently started discovering my sense of style so I sort of ramped up buying pieces last year but now I feel that i know what fabrics and silhouettes I like so I plan to start a low buy soon! This was definitely motivating!
Hi Gemma, Thank you for such an excellent and inciteful post😊. After being a shopaholic for most of my adult life (and that's a long time!) I decided to do no buy month from end of April 2024 to end of May 2024, I found it really very hard to complete, (not helped by some friends not taking my no spend month very seriously 🙁)..... but I did do it🤗 Yey! However, now we are in June and well I've busted the budget I set myself 🥺. I am going to do another no spend month in July ....I am hoping it will be better this time as I've done more preparation and I now have a better idea of what my weaknesses and triggers are! Look forward to more of your content Thank you again Caroline
Hi Caroline, That’s amazing!! Well done on your no buy month! 🙌 that’s great that you’ve been uncovering your triggers to shop, I think that’s where we get caught out hen we try not to shop and then put pops our trigger! Wishing you the best of luck with it 🙌 xx
I can't like this video enough, it was really, really inspiring as I've just recently became aware that I have a problem with second-hand shopping (mostly very cheap stuff that's already worn off or will break soon). I feel so stupid for this and I absolutely need to change my way of spending my (few) money! Thank you for the inspo, you have a new sub :)
Thank you so much for subscribing and for your lovely comment ♥️ I’ve gone through a phase where I used to buy a LOT of cheap second hand and charity shop stuff, often things that didn’t suit me but we’re just cheap. It’s all a learning curve, nothing to feel stupid about. Xx
Thank goodness that I never got into fast fashion. I am a child of the children of the Depression. I was taught to use, reuse, recycle, and to live frugally. I was also inspired by my grandmothers, aunt and mother, to create some of my own clothes, and other items. I still remember the joy that I had, when wearing creations that they made for me. I have been making some of my own clothes, and clothes for my family, and household items, for a long time. Now in this time of inflation, I am returning to do more of this. It is therapeutic, and gives instant gratification, as you can enjoy the fruits of your own creativity. I think about now, and for what I will need in next few years.
It’s such a special thing to be able to make your own clothes, and for your family. Sewing is definitely a lost art that unfortunately isn’t being handed down from generations anymore. I plan to make clothes for my kids when the time comes. But I find sometimes the fabric that is available to me is almost as cheap as the clothes in the shop. X
@@gemmaamclean Some ways to save money, and have better quality fabrics: Look in your closet, to find clothes that you wouldn’t wear anymore, but where the fabric is still in good condition. These items are no longer clothing, but should be seen as pieces of fabric, to cut up and use again. Thrifting may also be a good source of fabrics. People give away clothing that no longer fits, or is out of style. The fabrics may still be in good condition, and from the recent era, when the quality was good. Some of the joyous items that were made for me as a child, were made from very wonderful fabrics, from used clothing that was remade for me.
My parents survived World War 2. I grew up watching them scrimp and save their hard earned money to provide for us. Even though I am now quite well off, I still find it hard to splurge on frivolous things. My upbringing has trained me to save wherever and whenever I can. I am grateful for having cultivated this mentality of financial discipline.
My low buy is going relatively well. I stayed in my budget for summer, bought only second hand (except underwear and a bikini) and now go on a shopping fast again until I need some knitwear for winter. 😊
A great video from the heart. All your tips were very useful. It's so easy to spend money...especially on-line...temporary satisfaction that soon fades....can relate to what you say Gemma.
Thanks so much Patricia, so glad you found it useful. So so easy!! It’s never been easier to spend money as is these days. All you need is your phone x
I’m from working-class family, I have been struggling financially for the longest time…and I would still be spending my student job earnings on clothes. They got us, they got us all…Some people would literally not eat or take the bus just to buy a new shirt.
I have an ins and outs list on my phone. The goal is that the ins are lower than outs. Everything that gets worn out, declutterred or donated goes in the outs list. And you see really quickly that it takes forever for something to be worn out. So that is eye opening. I also use habit tracking app daily to note down if i made any clothes or beauty purchases and it actually seems to help. It so fun to see that your success rate is high and it also keeps you mindful and accountable. I have been keeping a spreadsheet of clothing and beauty stuff with prices, when bought and when worn first. That started as just trying to keep track but also is eye opening in a sense that i had to buy something but 6 months later still not worn it... i am not doing a no buy but defintely a very low buy and also these methods have been really helpful and grounding to me.
I bought last piece of clothing in December and this was stupid. Recently I decluttered my wardrobe and it's amazing Soon I will move to my new apartment, and as a mortgage is coming I will not buy clothes, shoes or kitchen stuff unless absolutely necessary. Movings as well as cleaning apartment after my deceased parents were lessons that most of clothes are useless and not needed. Having less saves a space and our wallet.
Yes my mortgage is impacting my spending too, I can’t even image in having the money for clothes so good thing I’m on a no-buy! Best of luck with your move , how exciting! X
My no buy is going sorta well !! It's like a roller coaster tbh, I realised I attach a LOT of my self worth to what clothes I wear, I used to shop a LOT for my fantasy self and also never think about how sustainable my clothes were or whether I'd even want to wear them in the long run. I started around the middle of January and these changes are slowly setting in, which im very happy about . I also realised how much I looked to buying something or anything at all , to regulate my emotions instead of doing the proper deep work. I am also struggling with being more compassionate towards myself overall and not blaming me when I do find myself succumbing to old mental habits and looking for those superficial hits of dopamine. It has also made me look at all kinds if consumption related habits that I have , like the content I consume on social media, the food I eat and made me critical and more intentional about it all !
It sounds like you’re developing a great understanding of how you interact with shopping and browsing, which is amazing! I love you’re point on being conscious of everything you’re consuming, I’m working on that too x
I do not know if some one needs this but I started to buy clothing online and shoes, excessively, so now I just put them on the cart but I do not pay them, it just calms my anxiety.. cheers
I never had a clothes shopping problem until I started working in fashion retail. The store I work for wants it''s staff to only wear there clothing and they prefer we wear more current stock rather than older stuff, It's frustrating that I have to keep buying clothing to wear for work but I also need the job in order to afford the to survive...
That’s a great point! Working in retail really makes you want to shop more. Is it the customer mindset rubbing off on us or we see people spending loads of money on themselves all day long and feel we deserve that too? But if your company insists you wear there clothing they should be giving you a uniform allowance, not expecting it to come out of your own pocket xx
I started buying a lot of clothes about 8 months ago. I had lost more than 40kgs (100 lbs) and 95% of my clothes no longer fitted and/or were not part of the new me. I started a job in the wormens fashion department of a department store and had access to quality clothing at generous discount rates so of course I started spending. But I did it consciously with mostly classic pieces in a particular colour palette so it all works well together. I now look at my wardrobe and can see dozens of outfit combinations whereas my previous wardrobe was full of items that never got worn. I'm now at a stage where I have all seasons covered, and I'm prepared for any occasion that might crop up. I feel ready to stop shopping and just enjoy what I have. There are a few items I'm on the lookout for but those purchases will be critically evaluated.
@@Heidi-y3l thank you, so pleased you enjoyed it. Initially I did some research into seasonal colour palettes, taking my hair colour, eye colour and skin tone into account. It’s broken down into Spring, summer, autumn and winter at its most basic form. It can be useful to compare yourself to any Celebes that have similar colouring as lots of people do colour analysis for celebrities. When I did my professional styling course I learned more about colour analysis and confirmed what I thought, that I’m an autumn. Based on hazel eyes, brown hair with a red undertone and neutral - pink undertone. But I started out by googling first. Also Singe Hansen / Use Less here on UA-cam is a colour consultant and she has some great content about finding your colours. Xx
@@gemmaamclean thank you very much, this is actually really helpful. I have months between summer and winter seasons for me but I was stuck so I took a couple of months off and I’m planning to go back again, so I’ll check her videos. You really do shine in your autumn palette. Thank you again
@@Heidi-y3l summer and winter are both cool toned so that could be whey you’re between the two. From what I can tell summer is a little bit softer and winter has bolder colours, but they’re very similar. Best of luck finding out what works best for you. Sometimes it’s about the colours we feel our best in too and not just what is “techincally” best suited to us. Thank you lovely xx
@@gemmaamclean yes, both are cool-toned. Winter is brighter and has higher contrast and summer is more soft like autumn but cooler and lighter. I like what you said about how we feel with the colours. I was starting to think that I would just keep under the cool-toned spectrum and that would have to be enough for now. Thank you, again
Reading the curated closet by a. Rees and doing the exercises taught me what to look for and how to find my own style. I have a wardrobe that works well for me and I have cut my clothing spend down dramatically
I dont have body type to do fast fashion, I buy high quality one cause apparently it fits me well since I dont dress like shein nor aritzia girls. But what break me were perfume and skincare 😂
That’s a great point, better quality a lot of the time means a better cut and fit. Yeh not into the Shein look myself 👀 I guess perfume and skincare is expensive too right?!
I buy classic, simple styles and always from thrift stores. BUT they are of good quality. Fast fashion quality tends to be trendy, but crappy, "one-wash-wonder".
It all ended for me when I realized that following trends was all patriarchal bullshit and I wasn't dressing for myself. I still love fashion but I don't buy things nearly as often and I spend a lot less. I also know how to sew and I upcycle a lot. Quality fabric is also extremely cheap where I currently live.
That’s so lucky, I would love to live near quality fabric shops. I sometimes wonder if the fabric I buy is any better than buying fast fashion. But I low sewing as a slower approach to adding to my wardrobe, it’s a lovely skill to have. Xx
@@gemmaamclean I live in china and order fabric directly from the factory. You wouldn't believe the technology they have in these factories. They have a computerized machine for everything and they are able to mass produce so rapidly. I recently ordered 6 meters of calico cotton with a ditzy floral design and it was around £6 in UK money. Sellers order this in western countries plus shipping and they jack up the price to make a profit.
It’s not always a case of affording it, but yes if you can afford to spend money as a pick-me-up that’s fine! However the feeling is often fleeting and then we need to shop again x
I thought the common sense is not to buy what you cant afford…how can you even buy it? You still have to pay off your credit card.. btw maybe your extravagant spending did get you a bf lol 😉
I guess some people can’t afford to pay off credit cards and end up in a pile of interest or debt. For me it was spending the money I had on clothing and then needing support for bills etc. I don’t think my spending got me a bf, he’s extremely frugal so wouldn’t have been that impressed by it 😂
Let me know how your no buy / low buy journey is going ✨ I hope by sharing my story it may remind you that fashion is just not worth struggling for. And it’s also a reminder to myself ❤
The best advice I can give is:
stay away from Social Media and so called Influencers! Both only get you to compare yourself with others and they give you the feeling you need to buy that and have this to be cool and happy… stay away from Temu, Shein and plattforms like that.. All the stuff you shop used to be money and that money used to be precious lifetime you needed to earn it..
when you realize all that, it is easy not to spend your money.. Greetings from Germany!
I agree there’s so much comparison online. I do think there are ways of being selective with what you see online, if you follow the right people. But it can be hard to avoid the ads. Great advice ♥️
Great advice!
Overconsumption is a real problem 😢
It unfortunately it! But we can all do our bit to help improve it x
I used to buy tons of cloths and shoes, was spending every cent I had (and honestly even more) online. Than I had a boy and stopped working, since I had no money of my own anymore, just a joint bank account with my husband I had to stop shopping cold turkey. I thought it would be very hard, but to my surprise it was not. After a short while I felt liberated. I used to love my closet, suddenly it was a burden. I didn‘t want to spend my little free time i had in the evening arranging cloths I never had any occasion to wear anyway and that didnt fit my body nor my new lifestyle anymore. Started selling everything, couldnt believe how much stuff I had, how much of it was brand new and how much money I had wasted!!! It’s 8 years later now, today I enjoy a small wardrobe and could never go back, it just hurts me to know in what stupid way I used to spend all my money
That’s great! Sometimes when we’re forced into it we think it’ll be harder but actually it’s just what we need to get started 😊 xx
I wish I lived in a part of the world where there weren't such extremes of temperature. +35°C or higher in summer, -25° in winter. The amount of clothes you need for that is insane. Just footwear alone: super warm boots for the city in winter, super warm dressier boots, superwarm tall boots for if you need to shovel snow up to your waist, regular-warm boots, regular warm dressier boots, rain boots of varying heights, warm running shoes, lighter running shoes, high heels, flats, numerous pairs of sandals of varying types for summer, the list goes on. And good quality winter stuff is bloody expensive.
Yes I can imagine that’s really tough to have such extreme seasons. I guess practicality always wins and if you need it, you need it! Definitely buying good quality at least means you don’t have to constantly shop x
Do you happen to live in Canada?
100%. In such climate you need to have basically 9 wardrobes - for winter, mid season and summer - nice pieces for work, basic pieces to walk around/vacation and something practical/ugly to walk a dog or work in the garden. I can not downsize that. Minimalism is just a joke in my climate )))
Nobody needs to own that many styles of clothing. No one on this earth needs to own a pair of heels or a pair of dressy boots. Nobody needs all those styles of shoes just for summer. I literally wear either Crocs or cheap jelly shoes in summer and my life hasn't ended. In winter all you need are sneakers and a pair of winter hiking boots. If you work in a professional environment then you need a pair of professional looking shoes but you can literally just slip into them when you get into work and they don't have to be heels or dressy flats, they can be orthopedic shoes or whatever and you can buy those used or at a discount. You can buy winter coats already used. You can buy knitwear already used. You can buy rain boots already used. You are a slave to patriarchal beauty standards for women. You feel like you have to wear all these different trending styles to be accepted. I used to feel this way despite never having the money and I still managed to be physically comfortable. I have lived in Bulgaria where the seasons are unbearable and women absolutely can't afford all those different clothes. The biggest scam is also the bra industry. I am technically a size 38J and I don't wear a bra anymore. I have never been more physically comfortable. Women are told that they need to lift, suck and pull everything in to be socially acceptable. They are told that how they already are when they don't buy all this expensive shit is ugly and unacceptable. It's fucking ridiculous. I'm not saying I don't have my own personal style, I live for sanrio and florals and ultra feminine, loose flowy, boho, oversized styles, but I don't buy clothes all the time and I refuse to spend a lot of money on anything and I don't care if I look a bit 'mis matched' and I'm not the pinnacle of fashion.
I live in such climate as well. Working from home is a blessing for me when it comes to my wardrobe. Nobody would give a f if I was sitting in my pyjamas all day (I don’t, but I mostly wear athleisure as I walk my son to the kindergarden). But even when I was working from office on daily basis, I didn’t need so many pairs of shoes. And regarding transition between seasons, I have the same set for winter -> spring and autumn -> winter also I have one set for spring -> summer -> autumn. But generally I have a base clothes I can wear the year round, and then some season specific, but they are in minority.
I wanted to stop shopping for a year or two now, I really got sucked in about five years ago. When I realised I needed to stop, I used to shop on and off anyway, then be annoyed with myself. I watched similar videos to help me, but I still didn’t feel I could stop. Then I realised that I was buying constantly because I was watching clothes all the time and started borrowing books from library instead to help me to pass my resting time in different way. It only recently hit me, that my wardrobe was too full and I can’t fit any more stuff, that’s when I didn’t want to look at clothes any more. It’s been a month, I still looked at clothes from time to time, desired them and left it till later. Mentally I could already do it, then it just didn’t make any sense. I want to give my wardrobe some love now and I will focus on wardrobe clarity and declutterring. For once I felt satisfied with what I’ve got.
That’s amazing!! I think sometimes we need to be ready to make the change, I had been wanting to try a no buy year for a couple of years before I actually did it. Reading is definitely a much better way to spend your time. It’s so easy to be influenced to shop when constantly scrolling online. Xx
I also realized that I get the urge to buy after watching vidoes and ig about fashion, clothes, styling, etc. I had to stop those and if I still like to work on my creative side building my ootds, I shop my closet/accessories (I already own) and put together looks for the season/week.
This is all so real...I have struggled with shopping addiction for years. I noticed that it's very closely tied to my body image and my inability to sit with negative emotions. I think the impulsivity can be tied to ADHD which I have as well. I would say really driving home the truth that no new outfit is going to make me feel better about my body long term, and working with a therapist have been the most important for me. Finding some hobbies that I truly love that can give me some of that dopamine rush to replace shopping has been crucial as well. I still struggle, sending love to everyone out there who is trying to overcome this!
@@emilianacofell1545 that’s great that you have found some ways of working through your feelings. Mine is body confidence too sometimes. Trying to prove to myself I can wear certain things that I don’t actually own, and then when I get it I never wear it 😂 thanks for your comment lovely xx
I have never liked shopping. The more I see in store, the faster I get overwhelmed and buy nothing at all. 😅 I saved a lot over the last 15 years (I‘m 37) wearing the same style. However, I love travelling and that‘s where my money usually goes making memories all over the world. ❤️
That’s the best place to invest your money, in experiences!! 🙌
The more i learn about what makes a quality product and what suits me, the more i get tired of shopping because finding an item that meets both specifications is like trying to find a needle in a haystack. I end up with nice pieces now but only after a while of shopping, so now if it's not a need I'm getting tired of doing the whole shoping process for itz it's only satisfying when i actually need the item in my wardrobe.
@@lookingatdaisies9901 it has become increasingly difficult to find high quality now with so many brands competing for faster turnarounds and lower prices. I don’t blame you for getting tired of it x
I am new to a low buy. I’ve only been going for 4 days, but I am really proud of myself because in the past, it wouldn’t work at all and now I’ve not shopped for 4 days (I attempted a low buy year in 2023 and it just wouldn’t work at all).
I still had money for the bus, but I can relate to being super broke because of a shopping addiction.
4 days is still a win 🏆 well done!
This is a lesson in staying away from fast fashion, pick a style and by investment pieces that will last you for decades 👍
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Absolutely!! ♥️
This can work out but I learned the hard way investment pieces don’t work for me because of weight fluctuations from pregnancies and middle age body changes. So some of those expensive items I bought even two years ago ended up a waste of money too. Best idea is a small wardrobe you wear to pieces within a couple of years.
@@saramm3765 that’s a great point, and it’s something I mentioned in one of my recent videos. For me I know I want to have kids in the next few years so I’m thinking about pieces that might work with that, like a knitted dress that will stretch with me. there’s no point spending all your money on expensive items if they won’t last in your wardrobe. Always good to think long term. Xx
Thank you for making this video it’s like the universe knew I needed a kick up the bum. I’ve tried so many times to stop shopping but I fall back in the trap again. I think I set too much of a challenge saying that’s it no more shopping no limits, rules just no more shopping ever!! And when it’s going well I think great I’m sorted and treat myself!!!
I’m ashamed to say I’m in my 40’s and still don’t have this sorted 😢
But I find it so inspiring seeing younger woman stand up and say no I’m not living my life like this so it’s time to try again this time it’s for 3 months, I have more than enough so I’m challenging myself to make my clothes work for me, fingers crossed this is the time ❤
About buying classic styles I would add that you can buy trends if you’re willing to wear them even when they’re out. I personally love what I love and I don’t care if people think it’s out.
Yes absolutely! But then I feel like it’s not just a trend for you, it’s part of your style 😊
I've such a similar story to you, changing careers into fashion, working retail in Galway and always wasting my paycheck on clothing. I now know the route cause was due to my friends all being in a differing class to me and trying to match their spending without having the means to. I kept up appearances but I cut all opportunities for important life stuff savings. I found navigating finances so difficult once I hit 18 but I also come from a family who had no financial sense in their lives. Sometimes buying something *special* like a good deal on a vintage piece gave me a feeling of individuality and independence which is hilarious as it was taking away my independence by spending. Such an important topic and love your honesty on the subject, thank you Gemma!
It’s such a funny thing isn’t it, when we feel like shopping is empowering us but really it’s taking away our financial power. That’s such a great way to put it! It can be really hard to keep up with other people but we also never know how much they can actually afford the things he they have either. Funny if we’re all going into debt to keep up with each other, when we’d all be better off just being honest about our situations and take the pressure off. Xx
Loved this video! My low buy is going so bad... I started of so strong but last month was a total failure. I've completely fallen off the wagon. It's harder than I expected, but that's why creators like you are so inspiring!
So glad you liked it! I haven’t been doing mine perfectly either. I feel guilty getting items sent to me from brands. It’s not about doing it perfectly though but just trying in the first place. I’d say expect the hurdles along the way and if you fall, just get back up and keep going 😊 nobody’s perfect x
Get back on it! You can still do it and learn from the last month = not a failure 🧡🧡🧡
I think your message and guidance are much appreciated by many. I’m now in my 60’s and learned over the years to nurture my specific style than waste money on many senseless pieces. I’m a patient buyer and will wait for end of season sales. I do twice a year wardrobe decluttering as I need space in my wardrobes. Some of my pieces of clothing I’ve had for years now, and i still love wearing them. Our money is precious and earned from hard work, and I would rather have some for later than nothing at all.
Thank you so much Marthina! Patience is certainly key. Sounds like you have a great approach to your wardrobe x
This year I challenged myself to a low buy clothing year and to help me with this I had to keep a running list on my phone of everything I bought. This has been eye opening. I wouldn't say I have been spending like crazy, but I would not say I've done a low buy so far. The list has slowed me down, I think, with continuing to buy so much. I look over the list as a reminder of all I added to my closet (I buy 2nd hand and often out of season so a lot of these new additions are unworn and packed away for winter) to work on being satisfied. It is a struggle!
Such a great idea keeping a list of what you buy. I wish I had kept track of anything new that entered my closet, as I’ve had some brands pieces come in, even if I haven’t ‘technically’ shopped. I think when my no buy is finished I’ll do a low-buy and keep track then. Maybe for the moment you can be happy with having more awareness around your spending, even if it hasn’t changed all that much yet. I think it will come with time. Xx
I do the same thing! I set a budget and keep the tally on my phone calendar along with the list of items I spent it on.
Thank you sharing this and your honesty! This video was such a good reminder. Instant gratification can drive bad habits and ultimately ruin your future, I have to remind myself of this from time to time.
Of course! ♥️ thank you for watching and commenting. I need this as a reminder to myself too x
I'm really glad you're talking about this. When I was younger clothes shopping was never seen as a negative thing. I never got any guidance about spending less on clothes so I never knew it was an issue. I didn't spend loads because I have always been a bit frugal, but I certainly wish I'd spent less and saved much more instead. I've never spent a lot on alcohol, meals out or holidays but clothes shopping has always been something I enjoyed. I think it's because it made me feel more in control of my life, plus it was an 'armour' against bullying at school. I'm low buy now but sometimes find myself wandering round the shops or watching fashion hauls to see what's new in the shops. I am going to try to shift my mindset towards my goals instead, clothes shopping often just leaves me feeling empty because like you say, it can't change your life, it only depletes your money.
I’ve mostly spent money on clothes too, more than anything else. I agree, there wasn’t much guidance on shopping growing up. Not that I was applied with clothes but I don’t remember anyone teaching me to have limits around it. 100% clothing is armour. I think I used it as a crutch to boost my self esteem. I think that’s a great idea to focus on your goals. I’m going to aim to do the same xx
@@gemmaamclean Yeah there were even a set of books called Shopaholic, it wasn't seen as a real addiction it was seen as a fun harmless even positive thing all women did. I think it was probably deliberate brainwashing, as capitalism requires spenders. I'm glad people are waking up to this now. It's horrible thinking of the money we could've saved but at least we can start changing things now.
Great and informative video as always.
I started my no buy year last year in November and so far it’s going great. Not purchase a single new thing, just few make up replacements that I was running out of it. I decided to try whole year no buy. Also I did huge closet declutter and donate 80% of my clothes. I’m trying to figure out the style I love and it’s practical this year and purchase only new items only if work with my style. Currently I’m stay at home mom and don’t have income and taht helps me no thing about shopping /spending money on things that I don’t need!
Thank you Natalia. Ah we started around the same time! Sounds like you’re doing so well. Ha yes it always helps when the budget isn’t there to do a no-buy, I’m the same. My mortgage increase has taken what would have been my clothing budget anyway, it’s a good thing I’m doing a no buy 😂 although as I mentioned, past me would have spent the money anyway.
Love these tips! I just recently started discovering my sense of style so I sort of ramped up buying pieces last year but now I feel that i know what fabrics and silhouettes I like so I plan to start a low buy soon! This was definitely motivating!
Glad you enjoyed it! That’s great, sounds like you’re really getting to grips with your style and your shopping habits xx
Hi Gemma, Thank you for such an excellent and inciteful post😊. After being a shopaholic for most of my adult life (and that's a long time!) I decided to do no buy month from end of April 2024 to end of May 2024, I found it really very hard to complete, (not helped by some friends not taking my no spend month very seriously 🙁)..... but I did do it🤗 Yey! However, now we are in June and well I've busted the budget I set myself 🥺. I am going to do another no spend month in July ....I am hoping it will be better this time as I've done more preparation and I now have a better idea of what my weaknesses and triggers are! Look forward to more of your content Thank you again Caroline
Hi Caroline, That’s amazing!! Well done on your no buy month! 🙌 that’s great that you’ve been uncovering your triggers to shop, I think that’s where we get caught out hen we try not to shop and then put pops our trigger! Wishing you the best of luck with it 🙌 xx
@@gemmaamclean Thank you Gemma, I will be watching your progress on your no spend year ...you are doing really well so far! Keep up the good work!🤗
I can't like this video enough, it was really, really inspiring as I've just recently became aware that I have a problem with second-hand shopping (mostly very cheap stuff that's already worn off or will break soon). I feel so stupid for this and I absolutely need to change my way of spending my (few) money! Thank you for the inspo, you have a new sub :)
Thank you so much for subscribing and for your lovely comment ♥️ I’ve gone through a phase where I used to buy a LOT of cheap second hand and charity shop stuff, often things that didn’t suit me but we’re just cheap. It’s all a learning curve, nothing to feel stupid about. Xx
@@gemmaamclean thank you for your kind words 🥰
you are very brave to share this... i commend you for sharing! ❤
Thank you lovely ♥️
Thank goodness that I never got into fast fashion. I am a child of the children of the Depression. I was taught to use, reuse, recycle, and to live frugally. I was also inspired by my grandmothers, aunt and mother, to create some of my own clothes, and other items. I still remember the joy that I had, when wearing creations that they made for me. I have been making some of my own clothes, and clothes for my family, and household items, for a long time. Now in this time of inflation, I am returning to do more of this. It is therapeutic, and gives instant gratification, as you can enjoy the fruits of your own creativity. I think about now, and for what I will need in next few years.
It’s such a special thing to be able to make your own clothes, and for your family. Sewing is definitely a lost art that unfortunately isn’t being handed down from generations anymore. I plan to make clothes for my kids when the time comes. But I find sometimes the fabric that is available to me is almost as cheap as the clothes in the shop. X
@@gemmaamclean Some ways to save money, and have better quality fabrics: Look in your closet, to find clothes that you wouldn’t wear anymore, but where the fabric is still in good condition. These items are no longer clothing, but should be seen as pieces of fabric, to cut up and use again. Thrifting may also be a good source of fabrics. People give away clothing that no longer fits, or is out of style. The fabrics may still be in good condition, and from the recent era, when the quality was good. Some of the joyous items that were made for me as a child, were made from very wonderful fabrics, from used clothing that was remade for me.
@@sherylfetik4126 yeh I buy a lot second hand! Love finding some hidden gems x
My parents survived World War 2. I grew up watching them scrimp and save their hard earned money to provide for us.
Even though I am now quite well off, I still find it hard to splurge on frivolous things. My upbringing has trained me to save wherever and whenever I can. I am grateful for having cultivated this mentality of financial discipline.
My low buy is going relatively well. I stayed in my budget for summer, bought only second hand (except underwear and a bikini) and now go on a shopping fast again until I need some knitwear for winter. 😊
That sounds like you’re doing so well 🙌✨🎉 wel done x
A great video from the heart. All your tips were very useful. It's so easy to spend money...especially on-line...temporary satisfaction that soon fades....can relate to what you say Gemma.
Thanks so much Patricia, so glad you found it useful. So so easy!! It’s never been easier to spend money as is these days. All you need is your phone x
I’m from working-class family, I have been struggling financially for the longest time…and I would still be spending my student job earnings on clothes. They got us, they got us all…Some people would literally not eat or take the bus just to buy a new shirt.
It’s so true!!! Advertising sucks us in to think our lives will be better for it.. yet it’s actually worse because we’re broke!!
I have an ins and outs list on my phone. The goal is that the ins are lower than outs. Everything that gets worn out, declutterred or donated goes in the outs list. And you see really quickly that it takes forever for something to be worn out. So that is eye opening. I also use habit tracking app daily to note down if i made any clothes or beauty purchases and it actually seems to help. It so fun to see that your success rate is high and it also keeps you mindful and accountable. I have been keeping a spreadsheet of clothing and beauty stuff with prices, when bought and when worn first. That started as just trying to keep track but also is eye opening in a sense that i had to buy something but 6 months later still not worn it... i am not doing a no buy but defintely a very low buy and also these methods have been really helpful and grounding to me.
I LOVE this ideas of an ins and outs list! I’ll have to start one myself. You have some really great processes for tracking your success 😊🙌
I bought last piece of clothing in December and this was stupid. Recently I decluttered my wardrobe and it's amazing Soon I will move to my new apartment, and as a mortgage is coming I will not buy clothes, shoes or kitchen stuff unless absolutely necessary. Movings as well as cleaning apartment after my deceased parents were lessons that most of clothes are useless and not needed. Having less saves a space and our wallet.
Yes my mortgage is impacting my spending too, I can’t even image in having the money for clothes so good thing I’m on a no-buy! Best of luck with your move , how exciting! X
@@gemmaamclean Thank you. I am moving soon so time to better savings and declutter to be able to pack/unpack my whole apartment in 5 hours.
My no buy is going sorta well !! It's like a roller coaster tbh, I realised I attach a LOT of my self worth to what clothes I wear, I used to shop a LOT for my fantasy self and also never think about how sustainable my clothes were or whether I'd even want to wear them in the long run. I started around the middle of January and these changes are slowly setting in, which im very happy about . I also realised how much I looked to buying something or anything at all , to regulate my emotions instead of doing the proper deep work. I am also struggling with being more compassionate towards myself overall and not blaming me when I do find myself succumbing to old mental habits and looking for those superficial hits of dopamine. It has also made me look at all kinds if consumption related habits that I have , like the content I consume on social media, the food I eat and made me critical and more intentional about it all !
It sounds like you’re developing a great understanding of how you interact with shopping and browsing, which is amazing! I love you’re point on being conscious of everything you’re consuming, I’m working on that too x
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I do not know if some one needs this but I started to buy clothing online and shoes, excessively, so now I just put them on the cart but I do not pay them, it just calms my anxiety.. cheers
Love a bit of “window” shopping online xx ♥️
I never had a clothes shopping problem until I started working in fashion retail. The store I work for wants it''s staff to only wear there clothing and they prefer we wear more current stock rather than older stuff, It's frustrating that I have to keep buying clothing to wear for work but I also need the job in order to afford the to survive...
That’s a great point! Working in retail really makes you want to shop more. Is it the customer mindset rubbing off on us or we see people spending loads of money on themselves all day long and feel we deserve that too? But if your company insists you wear there clothing they should be giving you a uniform allowance, not expecting it to come out of your own pocket xx
I started buying a lot of clothes about 8 months ago. I had lost more than 40kgs (100 lbs) and 95% of my clothes no longer fitted and/or were not part of the new me. I started a job in the wormens fashion department of a department store and had access to quality clothing at generous discount rates so of course I started spending. But I did it consciously with mostly classic pieces in a particular colour palette so it all works well together. I now look at my wardrobe and can see dozens of outfit combinations whereas my previous wardrobe was full of items that never got worn. I'm now at a stage where I have all seasons covered, and I'm prepared for any occasion that might crop up. I feel ready to stop shopping and just enjoy what I have. There are a few items I'm on the lookout for but those purchases will be critically evaluated.
That’s incredible, well done! Sounds like you’ve build a really great wardrobe in a very mindful way 🥰 xx
Thank you for this reminder! ❤
You’re welcome 😉 it’s also a reminder to myself x
I really enjoyed this video! I’m trying to do a low buy. By the way when you point up to related videos, there’s nothing there.
I’m so glad you enjoyed it! Thank you for letting me know, I’ve updated that now ♥️
Love this video, thank you very much for it.
Can I ask you how did you find your best colours?
@@Heidi-y3l thank you, so pleased you enjoyed it. Initially I did some research into seasonal colour palettes, taking my hair colour, eye colour and skin tone into account. It’s broken down into Spring, summer, autumn and winter at its most basic form. It can be useful to compare yourself to any Celebes that have similar colouring as lots of people do colour analysis for celebrities. When I did my professional styling course I learned more about colour analysis and confirmed what I thought, that I’m an autumn. Based on hazel eyes, brown hair with a red undertone and neutral - pink undertone. But I started out by googling first.
Also Singe Hansen / Use Less here on UA-cam is a colour consultant and she has some great content about finding your colours. Xx
@@gemmaamclean thank you very much, this is actually really helpful. I have months between summer and winter seasons for me but I was stuck so I took a couple of months off and I’m planning to go back again, so I’ll check her videos.
You really do shine in your autumn palette. Thank you again
@@Heidi-y3l summer and winter are both cool toned so that could be whey you’re between the two. From what I can tell summer is a little bit softer and winter has bolder colours, but they’re very similar. Best of luck finding out what works best for you. Sometimes it’s about the colours we feel our best in too and not just what is “techincally” best suited to us. Thank you lovely xx
@@gemmaamclean yes, both are cool-toned. Winter is brighter and has higher contrast and summer is more soft like autumn but cooler and lighter. I like what you said about how we feel with the colours. I was starting to think that I would just keep under the cool-toned spectrum and that would have to be enough for now. Thank you, again
Have you heard of Allison Bornstein and her book Wear It Well? Creating an intentional wardrobe has been a game changer (43 items in total!)
@@Carroty_Peg yes love her content! I haven’t actually read her book though. Xx
Don’t go into shops unless you need something that’s how I changed my clothes buying habit 🙏
Absolutely!! Shopping to pass time or just browse is dangerous 🤪 x
That's just what men do.
Ok the makeuplook you re wearing i need
Loving this video ❤
Thanks so much Sophia ♥️ glad you enjoyed it x
Reading the curated closet by a. Rees and doing the exercises taught me what to look for and how to find my own style. I have a wardrobe that works well for me and I have cut my clothing spend down dramatically
Yes love that book!! That’s great you’ve found a style that works for you xx
Hello which camera do you use for shooting 😊
Hey! It’s the canon eos m100, with a 15mm lens x
@@gemmaamclean thank you dear best wishes for your life keep growing 💐💐
@@historyofenglish4583 thank you lovely, you too ♥️
i think not having your style and trying different ones at uni or even high school is fine. obviously, not going over your budget.
Of course, experimenting is so important! At any stage if you’re still trying to find your style. But within budget ideally 🤪 xx
I totally relate with everything you have said. Tysm
I dont have body type to do fast fashion, I buy high quality one cause apparently it fits me well since I dont dress like shein nor aritzia girls. But what break me were perfume and skincare 😂
That’s a great point, better quality a lot of the time means a better cut and fit. Yeh not into the Shein look myself 👀 I guess perfume and skincare is expensive too right?!
I buy classic, simple styles and always from thrift stores. BUT they are of good quality. Fast fashion quality tends to be trendy, but crappy, "one-wash-wonder".
LOVE thrifting for this exact reason! Xx
It all ended for me when I realized that following trends was all patriarchal bullshit and I wasn't dressing for myself. I still love fashion but I don't buy things nearly as often and I spend a lot less. I also know how to sew and I upcycle a lot. Quality fabric is also extremely cheap where I currently live.
That’s so lucky, I would love to live near quality fabric shops. I sometimes wonder if the fabric I buy is any better than buying fast fashion. But I low sewing as a slower approach to adding to my wardrobe, it’s a lovely skill to have. Xx
@@gemmaamclean I live in china and order fabric directly from the factory. You wouldn't believe the technology they have in these factories. They have a computerized machine for everything and they are able to mass produce so rapidly. I recently ordered 6 meters of calico cotton with a ditzy floral design and it was around £6 in UK money. Sellers order this in western countries plus shipping and they jack up the price to make a profit.
I appreciate those who buy resale.
Repurpose is my middle name.
100% agree!!! ♥️✨
I don't want to spend, but your body change, the weather change, needs change, occations...and is difficult not to buy something
I totally get that! At the end of the day you need to be able to dress for your current self ♥️
U can afford retail therapy on a sustainable basis only if ur able to save at least 30 percent of ur income.
It’s not always a case of affording it, but yes if you can afford to spend money as a pick-me-up that’s fine! However the feeling is often fleeting and then we need to shop again x
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But I don't have any future...
I thought the common sense is not to buy what you cant afford…how can you even buy it? You still have to pay off your credit card.. btw maybe your extravagant spending did get you a bf lol 😉
I guess some people can’t afford to pay off credit cards and end up in a pile of interest or debt. For me it was spending the money I had on clothing and then needing support for bills etc. I don’t think my spending got me a bf, he’s extremely frugal so wouldn’t have been that impressed by it 😂