The harsh truth I've recently realised is that being assertive, having boundaries etc is necessary to have a moral spine, and that it's more important than "being nice".
@@spicymemes7458 With „being nice” I mean not honest, genuine kindness (which is a great trait, don’t get me wrong) but being afraid to say no only because someone might get upset, even if saying „no” in such case is necessary to respect our boundaries.
i have always been like that my whole life and im the nicest and most genuine person to have a friendship with or talk to that's why i do that bc ik how big my heart is and i do not open it easily
Yeah a couple of harsh truths I’ve realized recently are 1. Boundaries are important to having healthy relationships 2. Being productive and working all the time can be a cover up to avoiding your problems. Recovering workaholic right here I’m 27 so older Gen Z right here
I love your channel! The Instagram-friendship highlights are sooo real!! I have never posted my personal social life to social media before, but still felt so out of place seeing my friends post photos with each other or people going out and being so social! But I found, when talking to friends who I see as charismatic, highly social, or well-adored, that often times, their friendships are not always that "close/intimate" as they appear to be and they have their own issues with loneliness or socializing - they're just different from my own. Instagram is a trap! Also your thoughts on friendship and boundaries are so spot on! Everyone needs to hear these things, it would save so many from abusive relationships if they can really listen. But unfortunately, often we only learn through experience.
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I found your Chanel today and I’m impressed, this is exactly what I was looking for! You help me feel less alone. The unhealthy friendship thing is real for me. This year i had a friendship breakup , in march and I’m still not over it. This friendship was so special to me bc it was like understanding each other on another level, it’s just not like any other friendship and I can’t help just missing it. Thanks for helping us learn the hard lessons in life👏🏼
I am one of those who feel as though people leave me when they notice out how damaged i am. I am acutely aware of how uncomfortable it is to be the friend of a hurt person. I try very hard to not let my issues affect my friendships in any way. I act fine as hard as i can. Sometimes i trust someone enough to let them know how I'm really feeling and it's always a bad idea. Anyway ¾ of the way through this video and i can't stay subscribed to you any more, i can't even carry on listening bc of your thoughts on "why am i this person's only friend" and one not trying to be someone's saviour. That's me. Trouble with offering safe space blindly online is that you have to come down in favour of a certain population at the expense of another and you don't know who. None of this is anyone's fault and I'm rambling. Ok, sorry, i can't stay subscribed and engaged, you've got some great stuff here, keep it up and best of luck x
Decent video to listen to in the background while I’m at work. 🙂 nice work!! I’m quite comfortable with myself, and don’t need social validation from others or social media. Screw it Hahaha. I’m using social media for showcasing my talents/skillsets.
The harsh truth I've recently realised is that being assertive, having boundaries etc is necessary to have a moral spine, and that it's more important than "being nice".
You can do both? It's not either or.
@@spicymemes7458 With „being nice” I mean not honest, genuine kindness (which is a great trait, don’t get me wrong) but being afraid to say no only because someone might get upset, even if saying „no” in such case is necessary to respect our boundaries.
@@emiliamadejka1058 Ah, I see. Like being a people pleaser above all else "niceties." Fair enough.
i have always been like that my whole life and im the nicest and most genuine person to have a friendship with or talk to that's why i do that bc ik how big my heart is and i do not open it easily
Yeah a couple of harsh truths I’ve realized recently are
1. Boundaries are important to having healthy relationships
2. Being productive and working all the time can be a cover up to avoiding your problems. Recovering workaholic right here
I’m 27 so older Gen Z right here
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As an older millennial I feel your struggle. Dating and friendships in a mobile age is tough. You are such a lovely worthy woman
Hey Mitch, I'm glad this resonated, thank you!
I love your channel! The Instagram-friendship highlights are sooo real!! I have never posted my personal social life to social media before, but still felt so out of place seeing my friends post photos with each other or people going out and being so social! But I found, when talking to friends who I see as charismatic, highly social, or well-adored, that often times, their friendships are not always that "close/intimate" as they appear to be and they have their own issues with loneliness or socializing - they're just different from my own. Instagram is a trap!
Also your thoughts on friendship and boundaries are so spot on! Everyone needs to hear these things, it would save so many from abusive relationships if they can really listen. But unfortunately, often we only learn through experience.
Im 18 and i luckily learned all of this the hard way lolololol
love this for you
@@ChristinaAaliyah thx!
People may desire success in a specific field but lack the necessary skills, knowledge, or experience to achieve it. This gap can lead to feelings of inadequacy and self-doubt when faced with the demands of success
It's so refreshing to hear your take on socialising and relationships
Your last point on success is amazing. It's been on my mind a lot lately and I haven't really heard anyone talk about it.
I found your Chanel today and I’m impressed, this is exactly what I was looking for! You help me feel less alone. The unhealthy friendship thing is real for me. This year i had a friendship breakup , in march and I’m still not over it. This friendship was so special to me bc it was like understanding each other on another level, it’s just not like any other friendship and I can’t help just missing it. Thanks for helping us learn the hard lessons in life👏🏼
The timing is CRAZY
She's so smart. All her points are so original and relatable❤❤
I JUST GOT INO YOUR VIDEOS TODAY AND THEY ARE SO GOOD. THANK YOU
Not only are you beautiful but you’re smart too
Thank you for sharing this! Videos like these are so useful to me, you have no idea thank you for posting
i feel a lot better about feeling so cringe making and editing videos now ;-; thank you for sharing with us
No problem 😊
I am one of those who feel as though people leave me when they notice out how damaged i am. I am acutely aware of how uncomfortable it is to be the friend of a hurt person. I try very hard to not let my issues affect my friendships in any way. I act fine as hard as i can. Sometimes i trust someone enough to let them know how I'm really feeling and it's always a bad idea. Anyway ¾ of the way through this video and i can't stay subscribed to you any more, i can't even carry on listening bc of your thoughts on "why am i this person's only friend" and one not trying to be someone's saviour. That's me. Trouble with offering safe space blindly online is that you have to come down in favour of a certain population at the expense of another and you don't know who. None of this is anyone's fault and I'm rambling. Ok, sorry, i can't stay subscribed and engaged, you've got some great stuff here, keep it up and best of luck x
You’re way too smart to be just a doctor. You’re gonna change so many lives outside of what you are going to school for.
By all means do both, but I see a bright future for you Chrissy.
Wow thank you this is so kind
"Just a doctor" 😅😂
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Decent video to listen to in the background while I’m at work. 🙂 nice work!! I’m quite comfortable with myself, and don’t need social validation from others or social media. Screw it Hahaha. I’m using social media for showcasing my talents/skillsets.
great vid, like your vibe. cheers for good content mate
Much appreciated
🍇 Some good points made 😅
Truth be told!!
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Omg so many guys are flirting with you🤭
nice vid btw
Should I ask out the barista I like? Or would that be a bad idea?
Ask them out! See what happens and enjoy the process:)
Ask them! You would regret not doing it!
Why are we always dividing ourselves. Has been race now as of recent times generations.
Thank you so much.
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First?!
I don't believe anything of what you said. Millenials would prefer if Gen Z didn’t have any feelings whatsoever.
Lol as a millenial youre wrong