10 out of 10. Vera, thank you! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you for sharing more about being HSP. Your clear and insightful explanations have been a Godsend for me. As I listen to your explanations, my spouse has also listened and learned so much! Because of your explanations, our relationship has deepened and he is able to love me the way that I need to be loved and to advocate for me when I need help in a difficult situation. You are truly changing lives for the better! You are appreciated beyond words! ❤
Definitely an HSP. 10 out of 10 on the signs. I struggle daily with recharging from all the stimulating conversations I have at work. I’m an extrovert so I don’t mind the conversation, but with being an HSP I absorb everyone’s energy and it’s exhausting. I struggle with feeling lonely and seeking interaction but also wanting to be alone due to overstimulation 😩
As a highly sensitive person these things help me: 1. I don't use Facebook or Instagram 2. I will clean and tidy my home every day which makes me feel much happier 3. I try to avoid toxic people in my life where possible 4. Walk my dog twice a day/ spending time outdoors 5. I don't watch the news or really keep up to date with anything of the sort 6. I try to be greatful for the little things such as my cup of coffee in the morning 7. I take a relaxing bath every day 8. I don't get involved with gossip at work or in social situations Practicing these steps has really seemed to make my life better and more fulfilling. I also thank Vera for being such a wonderful soul ❤
Hi, yes, my whole life I now understand my reactions to things, not sure if it’s a shield or sword. Everything bothers me too much, sensory overload, excessive, talking, loud noises, I don’t like a lot of people around me I get stressed, strobe lights, headlights on cars. God this is not easy.
I think I've always known I was an HSP. I chose to be a critical care nurse and now that I look back, I am amazed that I survived as long as I did. I am 76 now and choose to be alone most of the time. People exhaust me. I'm content though.
I’m an HSP! I’m also a pediatric occupational therapist and I work with children with sensory challenges. It’s a great career fit because I am more naturally and easily able to tune in to what they are experiencing in order to help them! Highly recommend. I love being an HSP now even though it was tough when growing up. :)
I used to think I just didn’t cope with life in a very good way! I blamed myself for being so sensitive! No one seemed to feel like I did! It’s so beautiful to finally understand that I was born with these sensitivities and I now know how to embrace those feelings and support myself in a positive way! Thank you so much for talking about this!
You’re only on #2 and I am in tears because it’s me! I am sitting outside in the peace and a neighbour has started weed whacking and I have to go in now. 😢 I feel like all the time I have spent wondering why I’m not more “flexible”is now a bit clearer.
10 out of 10! I have known I am an HSP for a while now, thanks to your educational videos, Vera. Whenever you talk about this subject, it makes me feel more “normal” instead of the oddball. I have been this way my whole life and have not known why until I started watching your videos on HSPs. Thank you for helping me understand more about myself! 🤗
100%. ❤ HSP wasn’t realized when I was young and I struggled as a child with the beauty and pain of life. I became a Prekindergarten teacher determined to make every child know they were safe, loved, and honored for their unique characteristics. My relationships often were “rescue operations” which wasn’t helpful for me. My husband noticed immediately when I was hangry and that I often hum or wiggle when excited (think dog 😂) I have a chronic illness that amplifies pain (fun…not) but since I can’t work because of it I now have time to decompress and immerse in the beauty of nature and choose social interactions carefully. Bless you Vera, as always a great video to ponder! ❤
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts, what you said about making sure the kids knew they were safe and loved and good just the way the are struck a chord with me. 💓
I found myself in every single point. Since I know that HSPs are a real thing and that our brains actually work differently, I feel much less weird. And honestly, less sick. I doubted myself so many times, because what I felt and how my mind and body reacted, always felt off. But knowing that what I feel and how much I feel is normal is very freeing. Now I can work on being kinder to myself, because I'm not constantly blaming myself for being 'wrong'. Your videos helped with that and got me learning about HSP. Thank you so much 😊
I really think your videos on HSP are so important, because you present it so well, so balanced without any sensationalism, which I think is super helpful to helping people better understand it. I've said it before but I really look forward to some future day when you and Elaine Aron make the definitive UA-cam video on the subject together!! I hope she sees your videos and reaches out to you at some point.
Aw thanks Chris. 😊❤ I secretly did reach out to her already hihihi but I haven't heard anything. But yeah, that would be awesome! Take care and have a relaxing rest of your Sunday!
Some years ago my primary care doctor suggested Elaine Aron’s book, and it changed my life too. For the first time I could see many of my personality traits as natural and positive. Your videos are wonderful, and your insights into all the daily experiences of being an HSP help remind me of who I am and how to care for myself and even make the most of my life.
I have to read this book! I’ve heard of it but haven’t gotten around to reading it yet. I know I’m going to love this channel. As I’ve mentioned in my comment on this video, I’ve found my people!! What an amazing feeling!! 💯
Oh Vera, I feel so seen! I was nodding along the whole way through this video. I have always cried a lot, been overwhelmed easily, needed plenty of alone time, and have often felt misunderstood, but thankfully now I see the benefits of being a HSP; the sensation of deep awe and joy I feel in nature, at a theatre/music production, or visiting a historical sight (and a myriad of other things) is something I am so grateful for and it makes the trickier parts worth it! And the world definitely needs us soft and empathic souls. Thank you for being a shining light in explaining and guiding people in regards to being a HSP, you express it so beautifully 🥰
Great tips! I always wondered if my feeling more secure in long sleeved heavier clothing is connected. (Borrowing one of my wife's sweaters feels extra safe & protected.) I also find matcha tea so therapeutic, including the sifting & whisking process when preparing it! 😎
You are exactly right about all these. I'm an Artist and color affects me deeply. I also smell everything!! My sense of smell makes me overwhelmed in certain spaces. I love being alone. I wear sunglasses because too much light hurts me. I love dim spaces. I will notice if the lightbulbs in a room are cool toned or warm toned.
Greetings from Florida, Vera! 🌴🐤 Something that really helped me as an HSP was getting away from the overstimulation of city life-the clustered roads, overpopulated public spaces, signage, loud sounds, etc. I found a new home recently in a quieter town that has way more open roads, less tourism, a more laidback atmosphere, and a lot more natural scenic beauty…it just feels like I can actually ‘breathe’ now. 😂 Love the blend of country living with availability that I’ve never experienced before in this state, and I’m so much happier! ❤️
As I was reading your comment, I took a deeper breath. I want so badly to move to a quieter, slower location. I am hoping to do it someday. Sooner than later.
@@RonnaAutumnLayne I hear that. It was a long road to finding the right place for me. I lived in SoFlo for 25 years, but it is getting way too chaotic and overpopulated now over there. Had panic attacks constantly and kept thinking there was something wrong with me. Something I’d recommend is getting a massage from an LMT. I just tried it out last month, and it has done wonders for my health and wellness as they can relieve a lot of the inflammation in your body caused by anxiety. That can be a great way to help treat yourself to something calm and soothing in the meantime until you can get to a place that brings you some peace. Hope that helps! Many blessings. 🕊️
@@NintenJon64 I have actually been a self-employed LMT for about 10 years. I started getting regular massage when I was 18 to manage stress. I'd be worse off without it. For me, I think some of it has to do with the fact that I haven't found people that are in to quiet, simple living. So many people around me are constantly seeking instagrammable moments. My nervous system is fried. There is a lake with walking & hiking trails about a 10 minute drive away. I get out there as much as I can. But when I step out my front door, it's concrete, & noise & light pollution. Sometimes I feel stuck, but I know that I'm not. I've moved around a lot in my life, & I've been in my home (and I do massage out of my home) for 6 years which is the longest I've ever been grounded. So it feels tough to move, but I will need to for my health, wellbeing, & "happiness" Thank you for your comment. I love hearing how massage therapy has helped you.
Last year I heard this word for the first time and I definitly tick most of the boxes you just mentioned. Most of all the need to be alone, overthinker, seeing more details, violence and suffering in media is indeed very upsetting to me, ...
Already years ago when her book was just published I found out that I am an HSP. And even before I knew myself other people around me always told me that I took in everything way too much to be able to do a job in psychology or anything else that had anything to do with other people’s lives or feelings. It would break me down completely. And next to all these feelings it doesn’t matter if I have a good day with someone or a bad day I always am completely out of energy. If I do something that involves other people I have to recover for at least a day but mostly two days. I live alone and am very happy about that because I can get very irritated and then I will not be nice to anyone 😅.
Hi Vera! I feel that I am on the spectrum of HSP, I am highly emotional and I am definitely an over thinker. One thing that helps me is listening to audiobooks, as they redirect my overthinking😅 My husband is also HSP, exhibiting all of the items that you mention. He also has Parkinson’s which has amplified his sensitivity. I make sure to keep our home as clutter free as possible, keep a strong routine for daily activities such as taking walks, mealtimes, napping, going to bed. Giving ourselves plenty of time for appointments, limiting time spent at experiences that are overwhelming such as concerts or parties. Thank you for a great video❤ Happy birthday week! 36 woo hoo!! Dance like no one is watching!🎉😂❤
Excellent video! I’m in my 60s now and I wish that I had understood this about myself much much earlier in life. Back in the day it just wasn’t something that was really recognized. At least now we are beginning to understand the importance of this trait and that is truly a relief. Thank you for all the time and effort you put into your videos! ❤
Happy Birthday Vera! I am an HSP and I discovered that in one of your past videos. It’s good to know that we are not alone! Thanks for talking about it.❤
Thank you, this is such a helpful list! I am an HSP and I find it really difficult explaining to people that I need space and alone time to recharge. I find that when I get overstimulated and anxious in social situations (like at work in our open plan office), I become very chatty. And that leads others to think I am extroverted! In fact it is all adrenaline and when I get home from work, I am exhausted! I really wish more people were aware that HSPs are real and need calm and quiet a lot of the time. Love your channel.
Each of these 10 is 100% accurate for me. I always felt out of sync with the rest of the world as a teenager and kept searching for how to become "normal." Along the way in life, I had already realized some of what you are saying, but it really helps hearing these things put into words. And it helps to realize that there are many out there like us. I also have granddaughters now that are also extra sensitive. It showed up when they were babies. So the brain wiring must be inherited.
Hello Vera! First of all, I wanted to wish you a happy birthday! 🎉thank you from the bottom of my heart for all your videos. ❤ I discovered you not too long ago, and I fully recognize myself as being a Highly Sensitive person. I recognize myself perfectly in everything you describe, and in particular the smells, the crowds and the noise. For me, the most disturbing thing is my sensitivity to smells, I can't get over that, and it's very difficult to live with on a daily basis. I wish you a very pleasant day! 😘
I read The Fault In Our Stars when I was 16, and it messed me up for a WHILE. I've known I'm an HSP for a while, but this is still helping me recognize ways it affected me before I knew what an HSP was.
Thank you for the video. Sometimes I wonder why I can’t be like many of the people around me, but it’s a good reminder that HSP’s are about there, we are different, and that’s ok!
Hi Vera Happy 36th Birthday 🎉 you look very well and happy 😊 This is a very good video and clarifies so much for people who aren’t sure if they are HSP For years I believed people when they said I took things too much to heart, or was too sensitive etc, the empathy I would feel when I was with people could be crippling, especially if the emotions they were experiencing were very strong, sad or negative, it would take me days sometimes week to recover from. I tried to explain this to a friend when I was in my 20s, and she looked at me like…. what on earth is she talking about….so after that I bottled up my feelings, in case people thought I was odd 😂 I also got funny looks sometimes if I commented on how beautiful a leaf was, or other aspects of nature, it was like I was the only one seeing these things! When I was in my late 30s, I gradually realised it wasn’t me that was odd, I was a HSP, the relief was amazing, and made perfect sense. Tbh I reassessed the people in my life and whether I wanted to continue with them in my life, this also helped to change who I was surrounded by. Now I just be myself, I appreciate all around me, while also trying to live a healthy balanced life Your videos have given me some great ideas on self care as well 👍😊
Wow, I recognise almost all of these things, especially reactions to music and intolerance to coffee. I have to be in the right state of mind to watch certain films, or read certain books, and their after-effects stay with me for days. And I can't cope with anything involving animal cruelty, even in fiction, or torture of humans - which as a keen fan of Tudor history comes with its own difficulties! I am in my 60s now and a lot of the symptoms have definitely got worse with both age, and personal trauma involving bereavement. I wouldn't have described myself as Highly sensitive, but having watched this I feel somewhat differently about it! Incidentally meditation has been really useful for me coping with post-menopause insomnia.
I am also in my 60s, and I agree that my HSP traits have heightened and increased as I age! Trauma and tragedy gathered in old age are very difficult to navigate and to press through. Daily life becomes much harder when we experience chronic illness or bereavement or both! Vera's insights concerning how beauty feeds us have been a huge help for me! I now think of myself as a seeker of beauty for this reason. I need beauty to speak into my life to bring a sense of balance to all of the pain and suffering. Sending you much love and prayers for comfort.
You're so welcome! I think these things can get a little complicated in the sense that they could be both :) If you have someone to talk to about trauma and anxiety, that would be great probably. :) Take good care and have a wonderful day!
Yes! I’ve known for a long time that I am an HSP. I’ve come to understand that it’s my ‘normal’ and am more accepting of myself. I relate to every one one of those traits. Certain fabrics bother me, excessive noise or loud people bother me, too many people get to me…. I saw someone else’s comment that they like dim lighting. Me too! My husband says that I was a bat in a previous life as I shower with the lights off. 😀 But what drives me crazy the most is the non stop thinking and chatter going on in my head! There is a constant stream of thought. I wish I could turn it off. If I did or said something wrong or made a mistake, it’s like a revolving tape thinking about it over and over. Can’t tolerate violence or people or animals being hurt whether in movies or real life. I walk out of the room or turn it off. Thanks for creating this video Vera. Much appreciated! Blessings to you! 🫶💕
I’m a HSP, thankfully I have learned to set boundaries that help me to not get overwhelmed. I live alone and rarely watch movies or listen to music. I don’t own a TV and stop watching it for over 15 years now. I try not to expose myself to things that overwhelm me. Love your channel and your living space. Thank you for great content. ❤
Can't see someone on tv crying without crying myself. Can't attend symphonies because I get overwhelmed; I ran out of a free concert of Luciano Pavarotti in 1975 because he opened with "Nes'un Dorma" and I nearly fainted. Love your videos - Thanks!
I am so very glad that I have found your channel! I am definitely a HSP. I’ve struggled with this my whole life and often wondered if there was something wrong with me mentally. Thank you for showing me that lots of people have the same struggles and that I can find ways to deal with it better.
It's been comforting listening to this video. I can relate to being a HSP with all the traits you mentioned. And I wish you a wonderful birthday Vera! 🎈 🎉 ♥ 😊 Sue
I just had to watch this video again, because I did couple of tests about HSP and I got quite/very high scores in them. I do know that I have always been quite sensitive and now I know why I get really burdened from being with most of the people and get tired very easily when there is loud noice etc. and need alone time badly so I can recharge. When I did a test for a sensory defensiveness with my doctor, I got quite low points, so I thought that I was not that sensitive, but now I know that it isn't same as being the HSP. Thank you for making these videos because they did help me realize that I am HSP and made me understand that I can learn to set boundaries and live with being HSP, not suppress my emotions just because "you have no reason to react this much". Thank you! Btw, I am listening the book and it really is so good for people like us.
Your videos are so validating 🙏🏼 it’s like finally being seen. I feel you have helped me to give myself permission to slow down and to show myself grace and kindness when I am feeling overwhelmed. I have always known I am a HSP but I always thought it was a sign there was something wrong with me. Great to feel like I am not alone in being a HSP ❤ thank you, love from Australia 🇦🇺
As an HSP - and high on the scale ( I did the test 3 times at three different periods) - and who recently lost her son - her only son at only 16 years of age - SUDDENLY - the way my brain is processing, or not processing, information and emotions, is humanely impossible to describe!!! I am usually eloquent, even used to write poetry, and an analyst by career ( my second one as I do have a high level of neuro-plasticity ), I now go ‘literally’ blank, thinking-wise and emotions-wise, and I know it’s my brain protecting me and helping me survive. I do not wish this to anyone!
There are no words. I know. I lost my 2yro daughter 35 days ago. Suddenly and unexpectedly. Seek out Compassionate Friends. They have helped me. So has After Child Loss (Emily Graham) and Joanne Caccitore (Bearing the Unbearable). I'm agnostic so the religious stuff wasn't helpful for me, but if you are religious, Grief Share is a good resource. Journaling and daily walks/runs outside have helped me. It doesn't get easier. You get better at carrying the grief. I wish you happier days filled with the brightest memories. Remember, he is watching you. Best of Luck.
I’m one hundred percent a highly sensitive person. I have almost all of the signs you mentioned. After watching this video, I feel my husband and definitely my daughter are highly sensitive too.😊
Thank you for making this! I can now identify myself and my son as an HSP. When he was little they tested him for autism, but the results were that it was anxiety, because as you said, HSP is not a diagnosed condition. This is so helpful in understanding ourselves
I love all your videos but the HSP ones always make me feel so much better about myself! I used to always beat myself up having to recharge after things like going to the grocery store that was crowded and loud, and constantly upset with myself about how everyone seems to be able to work 40+hours a week and I can't without becoming extremely drained. I would always tell myself what is wrong with you these are normal things everyone can do, why can't I! So glad I'm not alone in this ❤ I'm so grateful I found your channel.❤
Happy birthday, Vera! I want to thank you for your videos on HSPs. I knew I was overstimulated and overwhelmed easily, but it wasn’t until I watched one of your videos that I realized that was me! I’m about 3 chapters into “The Highly Sensitive Person,” and was really moved by the idea to care for your infant self. Moved, as in weaping. 😊 Thank you for helping me on this journey of self-discovery and love.
I am. I can recognize myself in most of them or all. Most of them just because I'been working a lot to stop overthinking all the time. Need a lot of time alone time, silence and quiet places. And sleeping time. If I'm stress, I used to cry a lot, even with strong happy emotions in my childhood. My motto since I can remember is to have a quiet, peaceful life. I also have always in my bag noise-cancelling headphones, sunglasses. This is a great video. I love your account
I'm feeling complicated now and not in a good way. Your voice makes me feel soothing. This content is also kind of giving me a sense of connection that I'm not alone as a highly-sensitive person and that can actually be a blessing if I can balance myself out of it. Thank you so much for making this video.
I already knew I am an hsp, but the fact that I related to almost every single point in here, was still a surprise! Thanks for making this video! I'll use it to share with others what being an hsp is like
OMG, Vera, so glad to know it will be your birthday, thank you for sharing love with all of us, you are very important for me! Greetings from Mexico City 🤗🌹🌈
Yes, I am a HSP. I grew up in a family that didn’t understand me and I was constantly being criticized for being over sensitive, it did scar me for life. Thank you for such an informative video, it really helped me feel better about who I am (oh gosh now I am crying!)🥰
When I was a lot younger I worked in a small home caring for aged folks. I was so sensitive that I would take on their aches and pains. In later years I was able to form an imaginary shield to protect myself. It helps sometimes. I also worked at a big box office store. So much noise and the lights do affect you. Another place that affects me is an electronic store. TVs on the walls I can feel the electrical current right away. I stay away from these places now. Good video Vera. ☮️🌎🌲
Hi Vera. Thank you so much for this video. I'm 65 and I finally understand myself much better. I took the quiz on Elaine Aron's website and I had a score of 26! Amazing! But again, thank you for all your hard work in bringing awareness to us HSPs!
New subscriber here. I just found your channel. I’m a man in my mid-30s. I’m also physically disabled. I’m generally a very deep thinker, very sensitive. I recently discovered attachment theory, and in doing so I’ve realized I’m anxiously attached. I’m continually and actively working towards becoming securely attached. I like to think part of my personality is related to my experiences with my disability. While I have many friends who are men, I’ve always felt more comfortable around my friends who are women for the aforementioned reasons above. Anyway, please keep up the phenomenal work on this channel of yours, Vera! I’ve found my people, people who understand my sensitive side. This is the best feeling in the world, being seen for who I am!
I was today years old... 9/10 I had no idea what this is and I always felt the weirdo of the company who couldn't stand loud places and had to sleep afterwards. Thank you!
Hi Vera! I never knew I was an HSP until this video...thank you. I always just thought I was emotional, but come to find out HSP is a thing. Thanks for the introduction to HSP. Now I know.😊
Hi Vera! The day I discovered that there was something like the HSP trait, it was an eye opener for me. I soon understood why I was not interested in parties or going to the discotheque or joining dance events when I still went to school, or why I never joined univerity parties during my study time. I always felt wrong when I was younger and wondererd why the heck I was not be able to "fit in". Already at a very young age I discovered that I needed alone time to recharge, and made up excusions why I did not want to come out and play (I think my aunt had a birthday about five times a year ...). Not all of the mentioned examples cput for me, e.g. I am able to watch high suspense movies (but preferably not alone), and I can stand violence in movies as long a I know it is not "real". But I definitely need my alone time and can't stand being in loud or crowded environments for too long. I am a member of the overthinkers unite community and had always bad oral marks at school, because as soon as I had figured out whar I wanted to say, somebody alse already mentioned it. Sometimes, being a HSP Introvert is not *that* easy. :)
Happy Birthday! I'm a HSP and a mom, which can be a very challenging combo. - esp. now that my kids are teens. Your HSP and other videos are a great break and help, esp. on my more sensitive days, like today. Thanks!
I had that same reaction to the movie Titanic! Was affected by it for a couple weeks afterwards. No one around me understood. I’m 100 💯 percent an HSP. 😊
Oh my goodness that so describes me!!!! Especially the part about an active inner life and it being hard to shut my brain off. 😃My husband is an extreme extrovert so we have to work hard to accept each other’s way of relating to the world. Thanks as always for your wonderful content 💕
This is your best HSP video yet, Vera. I totally understand no. 3; change in environment affects me too. We’ve recently got some plants from neighbours who are leaving. I love them and want them but things look quite different and that affects me for a few days. I’m the same with pillows. I’ll be watching this video again and may send it to family and friends who don’t understand HSP. Thank you so much from a friend and grateful Patron. ❤️
Hey Vera! Thanks for the reminders. I definitely fit into most of the signs and I need to take more time to process things and also not allow myself to get overwhelmed. Thanks for this and have a blessed weekend and week ahead!
"It took me weeks to get used to the new pillows" Oh my goodness, same! I always get nervous travelling, because if they have a really hard pillow, I find it so difficult to sleep because I'm so attuned to how it feels. My husband on the other hand sleeps right through :D
10 out of 10 since I was 2 years old according to my family! I wish I wasn't, but that's the hand I was dealt and I am making the most of it. That's for being there along my journey as an adult trying to deal with it still. Do you ever want to just run away from yourself???
Thank you very much for the video. I am also HSP. I'm easily overwhelmed by loud noises. I cant concentrate multiple things at the same time. I love being alone and being in nature. When i am reading, a tiny bit noise gets me frustrated and distracted. I always put my headphone on if i want to read.
Dear Vera, I have recently discovered your videos and can't be happier about it! I have just subscribed to the channel since everything you talk about is relevant to me: yes, I am also a HSP🙂 I love the way you look, the way you sound and the honest approach you take in addressing things. I also love the sublime of the visuals. It is hard for me to beleive that a 36-year-old lady can be so wise (BTW: your English is SUPERB!)! Happy Birthday to you, my dear girl (I am much older than you, so I allowed myself to address this way) Wish you good health, good luck and good people around.💐💐💐
All ten here. Have known for a few months that I'm an HSP. I have a "double whammy" in that I also have OCD, the "checking" type, not the fear of germs type, which makes it hard for me to clear my clutter and de-own things. Also, I get triggered, and quickly get upset about things that happened 25 or more years ago, and I become even more upset than I was years ago when "it" happened. It's a real pain in the caboose, but I do try to work around it. I am severely bothered by my next-door neighbors neglect of their animals, who have two beautiful dogs, a Great Pyrenees and a black German Shepherd who is 14 years old. Very sweet dogs. I pet them through the fence. They are in desperate need of a bath, both of them. They scratch and their skin can't be healthy, they probably have fleas, and their coats look, feel and smell horrible. I'm not sure how to approach these people about it because they aren't the friendliest people. The woman is an archaeologist, so maybe she only likes dead people lol. They make more money than I will ever see, so they can well afford to have them groomed. I thought of knocking on their door and asking if I can give them a bath or take them to a groomer and pay for it myself. They are in their 40's, are healthy, and they have two teenage daughters, and their animals deserve better. Not sure how to do this. Any ideas? 😢😢😢
Hello Vera! Thank you so much for this video! I’m an HSP for sure, and I suspect that I’m on the higher end of the spectrum, although I haven’t done any tests to attest it. I strongly relate to all the signs you talked about. I laughed when you talked about your boyfriend pointing out to you that you have been silent for 2 hours, while in your head you have been very busy! I do exactly the same thing, and sometimes, my husband will come to me and ask me if I need a “reboot” since I haven’t moved or talked for some time! I discovered late in life that I was an HSP (in my 60’s) and it was such a relief! I especially enjoy your videos on that subject: they are very helpful and a great source of healing and self-acceptance for me! I wish you a very happy birthday! And you are right: as we get older, time really seems to go by faster! I don’t know why, but it shows me the importance of enjoying the present moment. ❤️❤️🌼🥳
How about you? 🤗🍵 How many of these 10 signs do you recognize? 👇
10 out of 10
Thank you for presenting this to understand why I am So Sensitive.
😢🥲 Im a crier too.
10 out of 10.
Vera, thank you! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you for sharing more about being HSP.
Your clear and insightful explanations have been a Godsend for me. As I listen to your explanations, my spouse has also listened and learned so much! Because of your explanations, our relationship has deepened and he is able to love me the way that I need to be loved and to advocate for me when I need help in a difficult situation.
You are truly changing lives for the better!
You are appreciated beyond words! ❤
I'm definitely a highly sensitive person. I recognised myself in almost every sign mentioned.
10 out of 10 for me, too. 😂
Definitely an HSP. 10 out of 10 on the signs. I struggle daily with recharging from all the stimulating conversations I have at work. I’m an extrovert so I don’t mind the conversation, but with being an HSP I absorb everyone’s energy and it’s exhausting. I struggle with feeling lonely and seeking interaction but also wanting to be alone due to overstimulation 😩
As a highly sensitive person these things help me:
1. I don't use Facebook or Instagram
2. I will clean and tidy my home every day which makes me feel much happier
3. I try to avoid toxic people in my life where possible
4. Walk my dog twice a day/ spending time outdoors
5. I don't watch the news or really keep up to date with anything of the sort
6. I try to be greatful for the little things such as my cup of coffee in the morning
7. I take a relaxing bath every day
8. I don't get involved with gossip at work or in social situations
Practicing these steps has really seemed to make my life better and more fulfilling. I also thank Vera for being such a wonderful soul ❤
Excellent list
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Thank You for these points. I will use them❣️
"In my own head, I’ve been busy." 😂 lmao and relating SO HARD!!!
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Hi, yes, my whole life I now understand my reactions to things, not sure if it’s a shield or sword. Everything bothers me too much, sensory overload, excessive, talking, loud noises, I don’t like a lot of people around me I get stressed, strobe lights, headlights on cars. God this is not easy.
I think I've always known I was an HSP. I chose to be a critical care nurse and now that I look back, I am amazed that I survived as long as I did. I am 76 now and choose to be alone most of the time. People exhaust me. I'm content though.
Happy to hear you're content and thank you for caring for others all these years! That sounds like a demanding job
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"In my own head I've been busy" - HSP life summed up perfectly 🤭
I’m an HSP! I’m also a pediatric occupational therapist and I work with children with sensory challenges. It’s a great career fit because I am more naturally and easily able to tune in to what they are experiencing in order to help them! Highly recommend. I love being an HSP now even though it was tough when growing up. :)
Oh that's amazing and so inspiring!!!
I used to think I just didn’t cope with life in a very good way! I blamed myself for being so sensitive! No one seemed to feel like I did! It’s so beautiful to finally understand that I was born with these sensitivities and I now know how to embrace those feelings and support myself in a positive way! Thank you so much for talking about this!
I always feel overwhelmed and overstimulated when I go to the mall. I hate it. On the other hand, going hiking feels amazing.
I completely agree!
You’re only on #2 and I am in tears because it’s me! I am sitting outside in the peace and a neighbour has started weed whacking and I have to go in now. 😢 I feel like all the time I have spent wondering why I’m not more “flexible”is now a bit clearer.
I'm glad to hear the video helped clear some things up for you 😊 Take care!
Being a sensitive person always felt like a bad thing until I read that book.
What was the book called? I'm very interested in reading it.
10 out of 10! I have known I am an HSP for a while now, thanks to your educational videos, Vera. Whenever you talk about this subject, it makes me feel more “normal” instead of the oddball. I have been this way my whole life and have not known why until I started watching your videos on HSPs. Thank you for helping me understand more about myself! 🤗
Yay, so happy to hear that :) Thanks Barbara, have a great day!
100%. ❤ HSP wasn’t realized when I was young and I struggled as a child with the beauty and pain of life. I became a Prekindergarten teacher determined to make every child know they were safe, loved, and honored for their unique characteristics. My relationships often were “rescue operations” which wasn’t helpful for me. My husband noticed immediately when I was hangry and that I often hum or wiggle when excited (think dog 😂) I have a chronic illness that amplifies pain (fun…not) but since I can’t work because of it I now have time to decompress and immerse in the beauty of nature and choose social interactions carefully. Bless you Vera, as always a great video to ponder! ❤
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts, what you said about making sure the kids knew they were safe and loved and good just the way the are struck a chord with me. 💓
I found myself in every single point.
Since I know that HSPs are a real thing and that our brains actually work differently, I feel much less weird.
And honestly, less sick.
I doubted myself so many times, because what I felt and how my mind and body reacted, always felt off.
But knowing that what I feel and how much I feel is normal is very freeing.
Now I can work on being kinder to myself, because I'm not constantly blaming myself for being 'wrong'.
Your videos helped with that and got me learning about HSP. Thank you so much 😊
Love that 😊❤ Definitely practice being kind to yourself!
I really think your videos on HSP are so important, because you present it so well, so balanced without any sensationalism, which I think is super helpful to helping people better understand it. I've said it before but I really look forward to some future day when you and Elaine Aron make the definitive UA-cam video on the subject together!! I hope she sees your videos and reaches out to you at some point.
Aw thanks Chris. 😊❤ I secretly did reach out to her already hihihi but I haven't heard anything. But yeah, that would be awesome! Take care and have a relaxing rest of your Sunday!
Happy Birthday Vera! 💐🥳 Fellow vegan HSP here! 💚🌱
Some years ago my primary care doctor suggested Elaine Aron’s book, and it changed my life too. For the first time I could see many of my personality traits as natural and positive. Your videos are wonderful, and your insights into all the daily experiences of being an HSP help remind me of who I am and how to care for myself and even make the most of my life.
That's wonderful ❤😊 And I had the same experience with her book 😊
Thank you for helping me realize that I'm an HSP
Same for me!! :) Have a lovely day!
I have to read this book! I’ve heard of it but haven’t gotten around to reading it yet. I know I’m going to love this channel. As I’ve mentioned in my comment on this video, I’ve found my people!! What an amazing feeling!! 💯
10 out of 10 for me. I didn't know I was a HSP until I found your channel! ❤
Me too!
Me also ❤
Oh Vera, I feel so seen! I was nodding along the whole way through this video. I have always cried a lot, been overwhelmed easily, needed plenty of alone time, and have often felt misunderstood, but thankfully now I see the benefits of being a HSP; the sensation of deep awe and joy I feel in nature, at a theatre/music production, or visiting a historical sight (and a myriad of other things) is something I am so grateful for and it makes the trickier parts worth it! And the world definitely needs us soft and empathic souls. Thank you for being a shining light in explaining and guiding people in regards to being a HSP, you express it so beautifully 🥰
Aw I loved your comment, thank you!! 💓💓
My wife claims she is and I think my daughter appears to have inherited that trait. Both of them suffer greatly. Thanks so much.
Great tips! I always wondered if my feeling more secure in long sleeved heavier clothing is connected. (Borrowing one of my wife's sweaters feels extra safe & protected.) I also find matcha tea so therapeutic, including the sifting & whisking process when preparing it! 😎
I love the explanation in the beginning about trait vs diagnosis. Great video!
Thank you so much! :)
You are exactly right about all these. I'm an Artist and color affects me deeply. I also smell everything!! My sense of smell makes me overwhelmed in certain spaces. I love being alone. I wear sunglasses because too much light hurts me. I love dim spaces.
I will notice if the lightbulbs in a room are cool toned or warm toned.
Greetings from Florida, Vera! 🌴🐤
Something that really helped me as an HSP was getting away from the overstimulation of city life-the clustered roads, overpopulated public spaces, signage, loud sounds, etc. I found a new home recently in a quieter town that has way more open roads, less tourism, a more laidback atmosphere, and a lot more natural scenic beauty…it just feels like I can actually ‘breathe’ now. 😂
Love the blend of country living with availability that I’ve never experienced before in this state, and I’m so much happier! ❤️
As I was reading your comment, I took a deeper breath. I want so badly to move to a quieter, slower location. I am hoping to do it someday. Sooner than later.
@@RonnaAutumnLayne I hear that. It was a long road to finding the right place for me. I lived in SoFlo for 25 years, but it is getting way too chaotic and overpopulated now over there. Had panic attacks constantly and kept thinking there was something wrong with me.
Something I’d recommend is getting a massage from an LMT. I just tried it out last month, and it has done wonders for my health and wellness as they can relieve a lot of the inflammation in your body caused by anxiety. That can be a great way to help treat yourself to something calm and soothing in the meantime until you can get to a place that brings you some peace. Hope that helps! Many blessings. 🕊️
@@NintenJon64 I have actually been a self-employed LMT for about 10 years. I started getting regular massage when I was 18 to manage stress. I'd be worse off without it. For me, I think some of it has to do with the fact that I haven't found people that are in to quiet, simple living. So many people around me are constantly seeking instagrammable moments. My nervous system is fried. There is a lake with walking & hiking trails about a 10 minute drive away. I get out there as much as I can. But when I step out my front door, it's concrete, & noise & light pollution. Sometimes I feel stuck, but I know that I'm not. I've moved around a lot in my life, & I've been in my home (and I do massage out of my home) for 6 years which is the longest I've ever been grounded. So it feels tough to move, but I will need to for my health, wellbeing, & "happiness"
Thank you for your comment. I love hearing how massage therapy has helped you.
Last year I heard this word for the first time and I definitly tick most of the boxes you just mentioned. Most of all the need to be alone, overthinker, seeing more details, violence and suffering in media is indeed very upsetting to me,
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Already years ago when her book was just published I found out that I am an HSP. And even before I knew myself other people around me always told me that I took in everything way too much to be able to do a job in psychology or anything else that had anything to do with other people’s lives or feelings. It would break me down completely. And next to all these feelings it doesn’t matter if I have a good day with someone or a bad day I always am completely out of energy. If I do something that involves other people I have to recover for at least a day but mostly two days. I live alone and am very happy about that because I can get very irritated and then I will not be nice to anyone 😅.
Hi Vera! I feel that I am on the spectrum of HSP, I am highly emotional and I am definitely an over thinker. One thing that helps me is listening to audiobooks, as they redirect my overthinking😅
My husband is also HSP, exhibiting all of the items that you mention. He also has Parkinson’s which has amplified his sensitivity. I make sure to keep our home as clutter free as possible, keep a strong routine for daily activities such as taking walks, mealtimes, napping, going to bed. Giving ourselves plenty of time for appointments, limiting time spent at experiences that are overwhelming such as concerts or parties. Thank you for a great video❤
Happy birthday week! 36 woo hoo!! Dance like no one is watching!🎉😂❤
Excellent video! I’m in my 60s now and I wish that I had understood this about myself much much earlier in life. Back in the day it just wasn’t something that was really recognized. At least now we are beginning to understand the importance of this trait and that is truly a relief. Thank you for all the time and effort you put into your videos! ❤
Happy Birthday Vera! I am an HSP and I discovered that in one of your past videos. It’s good to know that we are not alone! Thanks for talking about it.❤
Thank you Carmen 🤗💕
Thank you, this is such a helpful list! I am an HSP and I find it really difficult explaining to people that I need space and alone time to recharge. I find that when I get overstimulated and anxious in social situations (like at work in our open plan office), I become very chatty. And that leads others to think I am extroverted! In fact it is all adrenaline and when I get home from work, I am exhausted! I really wish more people were aware that HSPs are real and need calm and quiet a lot of the time. Love your channel.
Each of these 10 is 100% accurate for me. I always felt out of sync with the rest of the world as a teenager and kept searching for how to become "normal." Along the way in life, I had already realized some of what you are saying, but it really helps hearing these things put into words. And it helps to realize that there are many out there like us. I also have granddaughters now that are also extra sensitive. It showed up when they were babies. So the brain wiring must be inherited.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I can relate. And yes it can definitely show up when someone is a baby, it did with me too.
Hello Vera! First of all, I wanted to wish you a happy birthday! 🎉thank you from the bottom of my heart for all your videos. ❤
I discovered you not too long ago, and I fully recognize myself as being a Highly Sensitive person. I recognize myself perfectly in everything you describe, and in particular the smells, the crowds and the noise. For me, the most disturbing thing is my sensitivity to smells, I can't get over that, and it's very difficult to live with on a daily basis. I wish you a very pleasant day! 😘
Thank you so much for the birthday wishes! Take good care 🤗💕
Seeing animals suffer due to our awful exploitation of them absolutely kills me. They are so innocent.. they feel like kindred souls to me ❤
Yup. Its exhausting
I read The Fault In Our Stars when I was 16, and it messed me up for a WHILE. I've known I'm an HSP for a while, but this is still helping me recognize ways it affected me before I knew what an HSP was.
Thank you for the video. Sometimes I wonder why I can’t be like many of the people around me, but it’s a good reminder that HSP’s are about there, we are different, and that’s ok!
I am HSP. I'm currently considering taking medication (sedatives) b/c I am nearly always in a state of over arousal.
Hi Vera
Happy 36th Birthday 🎉 you look very well and happy 😊
This is a very good video and clarifies so much for people who aren’t sure if they are HSP
For years I believed people when they said I took things too much to heart, or was too sensitive etc, the empathy I would feel when I was with people could be crippling, especially if the emotions they were experiencing were very strong, sad or negative, it would take me days sometimes week to recover from.
I tried to explain this to a friend when I was in my 20s, and she looked at me like…. what on earth is she talking about….so after that I bottled up my feelings, in case people thought I was odd 😂
I also got funny looks sometimes if I commented on how beautiful a leaf was, or other aspects of nature, it was like I was the only one seeing these things!
When I was in my late 30s, I gradually realised it wasn’t me that was odd, I was a HSP, the relief was amazing, and made perfect sense.
Tbh I reassessed the people in my life and whether I wanted to continue with them in my life, this also helped to change who I was surrounded by.
Now I just be myself, I appreciate all around me, while also trying to live a healthy balanced life
Your videos have given me some great ideas on self care as well 👍😊
Wow, I recognise almost all of these things, especially reactions to music and intolerance to coffee. I have to be in the right state of mind to watch certain films, or read certain books, and their after-effects stay with me for days. And I can't cope with anything involving animal cruelty, even in fiction, or torture of humans - which as a keen fan of Tudor history comes with its own difficulties! I am in my 60s now and a lot of the symptoms have definitely got worse with both age, and personal trauma involving bereavement. I wouldn't have described myself as Highly sensitive, but having watched this I feel somewhat differently about it! Incidentally meditation has been really useful for me coping with post-menopause insomnia.
I am also in my 60s, and I agree that my HSP traits have heightened and increased as I age! Trauma and tragedy gathered in old age are very difficult to navigate and to press through. Daily life becomes much harder when we experience chronic illness or bereavement or both!
Vera's insights concerning how beauty feeds us have been a huge help for me! I now think of myself as a seeker of beauty for this reason. I need beauty to speak into my life to bring a sense of balance to all of the pain and suffering.
Sending you much love and prayers for comfort.
Thank you for sharing! I thought most of these are the consequence of my trauma and anxiety.
You're so welcome! I think these things can get a little complicated in the sense that they could be both :) If you have someone to talk to about trauma and anxiety, that would be great probably. :) Take good care and have a wonderful day!
@@SimpleHappyZen Yes, I will definitely explore this more with my therapist. Thanks again for educating about this and have a lovely day too!
Yes! I’ve known for a long time that I am an HSP. I’ve come to understand that it’s my ‘normal’ and am more accepting of myself. I relate to every one one of those traits. Certain fabrics bother me, excessive noise or loud people bother me, too many people get to me…. I saw someone else’s comment that they like dim lighting. Me too! My husband says that I was a bat in a previous life as I shower with the lights off. 😀
But what drives me crazy the most is the non stop thinking and chatter going on in my head! There is a constant stream of thought. I wish I could turn it off. If I did or said something wrong or made a mistake, it’s like a revolving tape thinking about it over and over.
Can’t tolerate violence or people or animals being hurt whether in movies or real life. I walk out of the room or turn it off.
Thanks for creating this video Vera. Much appreciated! Blessings to you! 🫶💕
So, there are people who don't feel like those in their life? I thought everyone was like this! Thank you for the video. :)
I’m a HSP, thankfully I have learned to set boundaries that help me to not get overwhelmed. I live alone and rarely watch movies or listen to music. I don’t own a TV and stop watching it for over 15 years now. I try not to expose myself to things that overwhelm me. Love your channel and your living space. Thank you for great content. ❤
Can't see someone on tv crying without crying myself. Can't attend symphonies because I get overwhelmed; I ran out of a free concert of Luciano Pavarotti in 1975 because he opened with "Nes'un Dorma" and I nearly fainted.
Love your videos - Thanks!
Thank God I've found your channel. Great videos..
But I have to say one. Never compare yourself to anyone. You are unique!!
So many of these are me. Lots of songs, particularly love songs, bring watery eyes. I always hear 'you over think'. Hearing these tips helps a lot ❤
I am so very glad that I have found your channel! I am definitely a HSP. I’ve struggled with this my whole life and often wondered if there was something wrong with me mentally. Thank you for showing me that lots of people have the same struggles and that I can find ways to deal with it better.
Happy Birthday! 🥳 This is me 💯🎯 I have all 10 traits and I've known for a long time that I'm an HSP. Thank you for this video. 😊
It's been comforting listening to this video. I can relate to being a HSP with all the traits you mentioned. And I wish you a wonderful birthday Vera! 🎈 🎉 ♥ 😊 Sue
Such a beautiful and important video! As an HSP
I love your videos on this topic - THANK YOU!❤⚘️
I’m 10 out of 10. Very enlightening-thank you. ❤️
You're welcome, glad you enjoyed it! 🤗🍵
I just had to watch this video again, because I did couple of tests about HSP and I got quite/very high scores in them. I do know that I have always been quite sensitive and now I know why I get really burdened from being with most of the people and get tired very easily when there is loud noice etc. and need alone time badly so I can recharge. When I did a test for a sensory defensiveness with my doctor, I got quite low points, so I thought that I was not that sensitive, but now I know that it isn't same as being the HSP. Thank you for making these videos because they did help me realize that I am HSP and made me understand that I can learn to set boundaries and live with being HSP, not suppress my emotions just because "you have no reason to react this much". Thank you!
Btw, I am listening the book and it really is so good for people like us.
Your videos are so validating 🙏🏼 it’s like finally being seen. I feel you have helped me to give myself permission to slow down and to show myself grace and kindness when I am feeling overwhelmed. I have always known I am a HSP but I always thought it was a sign there was something wrong with me. Great to feel like I am not alone in being a HSP ❤ thank you, love from Australia 🇦🇺
As an HSP - and high on the scale ( I did the test 3 times at three different periods) - and who recently lost her son - her only son at only 16 years of age - SUDDENLY - the way my brain is processing, or not processing, information and emotions, is humanely impossible to describe!!! I am usually eloquent, even used to write poetry, and an analyst by career ( my second one as I do have a high level of neuro-plasticity ), I now go ‘literally’ blank, thinking-wise and emotions-wise, and I know it’s my brain protecting me and helping me survive.
I do not wish this to anyone!
I am holding you in the light dear one.🙏
There are no words. I know. I lost my 2yro daughter 35 days ago. Suddenly and unexpectedly. Seek out Compassionate Friends. They have helped me. So has After Child Loss (Emily Graham) and Joanne Caccitore (Bearing the Unbearable). I'm agnostic so the religious stuff wasn't helpful for me, but if you are religious, Grief Share is a good resource. Journaling and daily walks/runs outside have helped me. It doesn't get easier. You get better at carrying the grief. I wish you happier days filled with the brightest memories. Remember, he is watching you. Best of Luck.
@@k.karmas1126I’m so sorry for your loss. Much love to you!
I’m so sorry for your loss. I have a 16 yr old son, too. Sending you so much love.
I ache for you. Every parent’s worst nightmare.
I’m one hundred percent a highly sensitive person. I have almost all of the signs you mentioned. After watching this video, I feel my husband and definitely my daughter are highly sensitive too.😊
I feel very safe in this community !
Thank you for making this! I can now identify myself and my son as an HSP. When he was little they tested him for autism, but the results were that it was anxiety, because as you said, HSP is not a diagnosed condition. This is so helpful in understanding ourselves
I am an HSP. I can readily read people pretty easily. I notice small things in their personality many people miss.
I love all your videos but the HSP ones always make me feel so much better about myself! I used to always beat myself up having to recharge after things like going to the grocery store that was crowded and loud, and constantly upset with myself about how everyone seems to be able to work 40+hours a week and I can't without becoming extremely drained. I would always tell myself what is wrong with you these are normal things everyone can do, why can't I! So glad I'm not alone in this ❤ I'm so grateful I found your channel.❤
Happy birthday, Vera! I want to thank you for your videos on HSPs. I knew I was overstimulated and overwhelmed easily, but it wasn’t until I watched one of your videos that I realized that was me! I’m about 3 chapters into “The Highly Sensitive Person,” and was really moved by the idea to care for your infant self. Moved, as in weaping. 😊 Thank you for helping me on this journey of self-discovery and love.
I’m starting to realize more and more about this thing. I am not a woman but I really like your words you speak. It helps. Thanks. 🌺
I am. I can recognize myself in most of them or all. Most of them just because I'been working a lot to stop overthinking all the time. Need a lot of time alone time, silence and quiet places. And sleeping time. If I'm stress, I used to cry a lot, even with strong happy emotions in my childhood. My motto since I can remember is to have a quiet, peaceful life. I also have always in my bag noise-cancelling headphones, sunglasses. This is a great video. I love your account
Typos! I knew I was an HSP, but would have never related it to my strange ability to find typos in miliseconds!! 😅
I'm feeling complicated now and not in a good way. Your voice makes me feel soothing. This content is also kind of giving me a sense of connection that I'm not alone as a highly-sensitive person and that can actually be a blessing if I can balance myself out of it. Thank you so much for making this video.
I already knew I am an hsp, but the fact that I related to almost every single point in here, was still a surprise! Thanks for making this video! I'll use it to share with others what being an hsp is like
100% yes to all! I read the book you mentioned maybe 15 years ago and it really was eye-opening and affirming.
OMG, Vera, so glad to know it will be your birthday, thank you for sharing love with all of us, you are very important for me! Greetings from Mexico City 🤗🌹🌈
Have a happy birthday Vera!🎉😊
Thank you so much! 🤗🌳🌷
Yes, I am a HSP. I grew up in a family that didn’t understand me and I was constantly being criticized for being over sensitive, it did scar me for life. Thank you for such an informative video, it really helped me feel better about who I am (oh gosh now I am crying!)🥰
When I was a lot younger I worked in a small home caring for aged folks. I was so sensitive that I would take on their aches and pains. In later years I was able to form an imaginary shield to protect myself. It helps sometimes. I also worked at a big box office store. So much noise and the lights do affect you. Another place that affects me is an electronic store. TVs on the walls I can feel the electrical current right away. I stay away from these places now. Good video Vera. ☮️🌎🌲
Love your videos, as always
Thank you so much!! 🌷👍😊
Hi Vera. Thank you so much for this video. I'm 65 and I finally understand myself much better. I took the quiz on Elaine Aron's website and I had a score of 26! Amazing! But again, thank you for all your hard work in bringing awareness to us HSPs!
New subscriber here. I just found your channel. I’m a man in my mid-30s. I’m also physically disabled. I’m generally a very deep thinker, very sensitive. I recently discovered attachment theory, and in doing so I’ve realized I’m anxiously attached. I’m continually and actively working towards becoming securely attached. I like to think part of my personality is related to my experiences with my disability. While I have many friends who are men, I’ve always felt more comfortable around my friends who are women for the aforementioned reasons above. Anyway, please keep up the phenomenal work on this channel of yours, Vera! I’ve found my people, people who understand my sensitive side. This is the best feeling in the world, being seen for who I am!
Vera my husband and I both relate to some of the systems. Maybe we are on the low end of HSP Thank you for this video. Happy birthday 🎂🎉
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I'm also a hsp. Make more videos on this topic. It's really hard to stay calm and collected in this overestimated world
I was today years old... 9/10
I had no idea what this is and I always felt the weirdo of the company who couldn't stand loud places and had to sleep afterwards. Thank you!
Hi Vera! I never knew I was an HSP until this video...thank you. I always just thought I was emotional, but come to find out HSP is a thing. Thanks for the introduction to HSP. Now I know.😊
Thank you for sharing this.
You're so welcome, have a great day!
Hi Vera! The day I discovered that there was something like the HSP trait, it was an eye opener for me. I soon understood why I was not interested in parties or going to the discotheque or joining dance events when I still went to school, or why I never joined univerity parties during my study time. I always felt wrong when I was younger and wondererd why the heck I was not be able to "fit in".
Already at a very young age I discovered that I needed alone time to recharge, and made up excusions why I did not want to come out and play (I think my aunt had a birthday about five times a year ...).
Not all of the mentioned examples cput for me, e.g. I am able to watch high suspense movies (but preferably not alone), and I can stand violence in movies as long a I know it is not "real". But I definitely need my alone time and can't stand being in loud or crowded environments for too long. I am a member of the overthinkers unite community and had always bad oral marks at school, because as soon as I had figured out whar I wanted to say, somebody alse already mentioned it.
Sometimes, being a HSP Introvert is not *that* easy. :)
Happy Birthday! I'm a HSP and a mom, which can be a very challenging combo. - esp. now that my kids are teens. Your HSP and other videos are a great break and help, esp. on my more sensitive days, like today. Thanks!
I had that same reaction to the movie Titanic! Was affected by it for a couple weeks afterwards. No one around me understood. I’m 100 💯 percent an HSP. 😊
Oh my goodness that so describes me!!!! Especially the part about an active inner life and it being hard to shut my brain off. 😃My husband is an extreme extrovert so we have to work hard to accept each other’s way of relating to the world. Thanks as always for your wonderful content 💕
This is your best HSP video yet, Vera. I totally understand no. 3; change in environment affects me too. We’ve recently got some plants from neighbours who are leaving. I love them and want them but things look quite different and that affects me for a few days. I’m the same with pillows. I’ll be watching this video again and may send it to family and friends who don’t understand HSP. Thank you so much from a friend and grateful Patron. ❤️
HSP with a traumatic child- and start of adulthood. It's hard. Thank you for your educational videos on the topic, Vera.
Hey Vera! Thanks for the reminders. I definitely fit into most of the signs and I need to take more time to process things and also not allow myself to get overwhelmed. Thanks for this and have a blessed weekend and week ahead!
Yes, definitely an HSP!
Great video. I've often thought I was HSP but this video pretty much confirmed it, so thank you! And happy birthday! 🎉
Thanks for this video 💚 I'm a highly sensitive person who cries and overthinks way too often 😂
"It took me weeks to get used to the new pillows" Oh my goodness, same! I always get nervous travelling, because if they have a really hard pillow, I find it so difficult to sleep because I'm so attuned to how it feels. My husband on the other hand sleeps right through :D
Happy Birthday! The years go faster and faster so enjoy 'em 🙃
Hello Vera so delighted there are other people like me ( I haven’t met anyone who is HSP) like me! but it explains a lot in my life x
10 out of 10 since I was 2 years old according to my family! I wish I wasn't, but that's the hand I was dealt and I am making the most of it. That's for being there along my journey as an adult trying to deal with it still. Do you ever want to just run away from yourself???
Thank you very much for the video. I am also HSP. I'm easily overwhelmed by loud noises. I cant concentrate multiple things at the same time. I love being alone and being in nature. When i am reading, a tiny bit noise gets me frustrated and distracted. I always put my headphone on if i want to read.
Very enlightening. Those are precise description of who I am.
Dear Vera, I have recently discovered your videos and can't be happier about it! I have just subscribed to the channel since everything you talk about is relevant to me: yes, I am also a HSP🙂 I love the way you look, the way you sound and the honest approach you take in addressing things. I also love the sublime of the visuals. It is hard for me to beleive that a 36-year-old lady can be so wise (BTW: your English is SUPERB!)! Happy Birthday to you, my dear girl (I am much older than you, so I allowed myself to address this way) Wish you good health, good luck and good people around.💐💐💐
All ten here. Have known for a few months that I'm an HSP. I have a "double whammy" in that I also have OCD, the "checking" type, not the fear of germs type, which makes it hard for me to clear my clutter and de-own things. Also, I get triggered, and quickly get upset about things that happened 25 or more years ago, and I become even more upset than I was years ago when "it" happened.
It's a real pain in the caboose, but I do try to work around it.
I am severely bothered by my next-door neighbors neglect of their animals, who have two beautiful dogs, a Great Pyrenees and a black German Shepherd who is 14 years old. Very sweet dogs. I pet them through the fence. They are in desperate need of a bath, both of them. They scratch and their skin can't be healthy, they probably have fleas, and their coats look, feel and smell horrible. I'm not sure how to approach these people about it because they aren't the friendliest people. The woman is an archaeologist, so maybe she only likes dead people lol. They make more money than I will ever see, so they can well afford to have them groomed. I thought of knocking on their door and asking if I can give them a bath or take them to a groomer and pay for it myself. They are in their 40's, are healthy, and they have two teenage daughters, and their animals deserve better. Not sure how to do this. Any ideas?
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Wow! This explains a lot about why I am the way I am. I have never heard it explained so precisely. Thank you so much!
I may share this video with my husband to help him understand me better. Thank you, Vera. And happy birthday!❤
Hello Vera! Thank you so much for this video! I’m an HSP for sure, and I suspect that I’m on the higher end of the spectrum, although I haven’t done any tests to attest it. I strongly relate to all the signs you talked about. I laughed when you talked about your boyfriend pointing out to you that you have been silent for 2 hours, while in your head you have been very busy! I do exactly the same thing, and sometimes, my husband will come to me and ask me if I need a “reboot” since I haven’t moved or talked for some time!
I discovered late in life that I was an HSP (in my 60’s) and it was such a relief! I especially enjoy your videos on that subject: they are very helpful and a great source of healing and self-acceptance for me! I wish you a very happy birthday! And you are right: as we get older, time really seems to go by faster! I don’t know why, but it shows me the importance of enjoying the present moment. ❤️❤️🌼🥳