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Interesting note on smiling. I started doing it regularly at work. I’m moving around a lot and seeing lots of faces. I can immediately identify people that are in a competitive mindset by how they react to my smile. People in a competitive mindset will become insecure or even aggressive if I’m smiling for no reason. Cooperative people will act noticeably more friendly and talkative. Really interesting stuff
You definetely right Like the people who tries to put themselves in a state where they kind like of gangster those are the people who aren't confident about themselves
I've used this collaborative vs competitive mindset as a focus for last few years. Sometimes you have a bad day at work in a negative frame of mind or whatever and that puts you into a competitive state. Practice the exercise of how am I on the same team with my environment? Find legitimate reasons and competition mindset melts away. Love you guys rock on🤟
This is so true! Been reading self development books since i was 13, at 17 had a NLP master. I am at a point now, at 25, where i read and listen to the same books and audiobooks i have read for the past 12 years. no matter HOW MUCH information you have access too, sometimes… You are just not ready for the information, and i rediscover something new almost everytime i read the books again, things i apparently could not comprehend the first times of reading them 😂 self development is truly, a life long process 🙏🏼
Having the default sad face was my biggest challenge. A little awareness, personal achievements, and a smile will change that default face. An one hour personal podcast per week is a great way to improve.
Those are great external steps, yes! However don't think that you can skip over the INNER WORK side of things... That's really what gets to the cause! 😉
47:45 Have or have nots paradigm 48:00 doing paradigm 48:10 Being paradigm I've noticed a lot of things in my life i've been stuck at the doing paradigm... I've skipped the have or have nots paradigm long ago but I am stuck in the doing paradigm. I need to realign myself immediately. Thank you. This is really about letting go, more spiritual.
Reached a “critical mass” letting go very recently. Reading The Power of Now finally made it all “click”. Absolute paradigm shift. So much more of what you teach makes sense me to me now. Can’t thank you and Owen enough for what you do!!!
Dissolving the duality paradigm closes the gap between who you are and who you want to become, between what you want and having it… in the shortest time possible.
I like the idea behind the term frequency (waves). A competitive mindset is going to clash with others frequency’s. A team frequency let’s you match and vibe with other frequency’s and even strengthen them. It’s beautiful.
I cringe looking back on my childhood when I looked at socializing competitively. I realize now that all the popular kids communicated collaboratively. They weren’t popular because they dominated everyone, they were popular because people liked talking to them
This guy knows what he's talking about ! When I start to get a competitive mind set I let the dark overlords take over and proceed to speak backwards in tongues and convulse until everyone runs away in fear for their well being. This usually helps me in any social situation .
the part where owen said something similar to "its about the process of getting there so enjoy small succes" was a really really good reminder cus i forgot that for the past month and i was really frustrated
Hi @julienHimself you know what is the most shoking experience I had after watching this video? When I realized that there is nobody to compete with, my posture gets better!!! I just stay normally, without trying, it's just good, that is reaaaally insane!!!
You can only spin so many times around the gurgler until u realise u gotta go down the rabbithole and see where it goes. Vamos everybody! Get active and start letting go. GO FOR IT! ONE LIFE!
It really is interesting to hear the absence of participation from the group. A couple years ago “before Covid lockup and before the shaming paradigm really happened” the energy from laughter and enjoyment was viscerally audible at these seminars. It’s a shame that so many people have regressed in their abilities to enjoy themselves freely. We need these guys now more than ever to keep the fires lit so that others can begin to catch a light
Dude I literally watch this everyday and I’ve seen like for a couple hours I’d just achieve that stage of just being sort of like you said when you were a kid just being and having that chill calm confident aura it feels great not to feel so uptight, yk not in competition etc... But shoutout you guys especially on the paradigm aspect because we are what we attract and if you don’t love yourself you’ll never achieve success because #1 If you don’t think your worthy of it in a collaborative aspect you’ll never go for it anyway 👀😂✨ So fucking deep
I recently moved up this paradigm and I was encountering this state of flow in my life and things were just coming and becoming easier. But then things went the other way and I let it get to me and it brought me back down. Now I’m on my way back up, and the build up is hard at first, but once you get some momentum, it’s easy.
@@brianlane3663 appreciate the recommendation, will totally check him out! Love finding new things and people to learn from. And don’t feel like your getting set back, sometimes we have to relearn things in our life. Just look at it as the next step forward. Keep ya head up bro, we’ll all reach our goals with a little patience and hard work, we’ll get there
@@JulienHimself The podcast exercise looks so game changing !! And also , the part that u said , nobody is being himself , and to be yourself , you must remove all of things that you gained from society by dividing back into the past . this one blew my mind off . Also , collaborative state , especially Jordan example 🔥 And BTW julien , you've gained some weight 👀
i love julien i want to hear him more, i kinda dont like owen , sometimes he doesnt connect but he does really care for all of us do, he seems genuinely want to help, but julien is more way better speaker, im in interested mode when julien speaks, when owen speaks its just like okay good content, but not that fully interested. know what i mean.
You have to chew the cherry and spit the seed out. Owen has gems in what he’s saying. Don’t have to digest every single thing. He has his own unique delivery from Julien
Anyone got any tips for really making this switch in your mind from competitive to collaborative? I like when Owen said it’s more about unlearning than learning, and removing that knot from your mind - but I feel it’s easier said than done! So hard to make that shift as it’s so ingrained Truly amazing video btw
You guys bring the most important learning information in the internet without a doubt in my mind. Been always feeling like I always play between levels with myself and never really found someone who speaks about that like u guys do right here! Everyone always speaks about IQ and things that determine who u are permanently and I am just so fking glad i found this channel THANK YOU!
I literally have experienced this state of being a few times with close friends but one time i experienced a new level of it when I met a friends brother. I was at such a level that every joke he made, I amplified it with another joke un a split second and everyone laugjed harder and harder. It was the most amazing, freeing night of my life but after that i retreated, I was even the popular dude between him and his best friend that wanted to know if i liked them or not, which is crazy because those two together were super cool dudes. BUT the next day i felt myself retreating again for some reason. It was so strange.
I understand the idea but don’t know how to do it. It reminds me of my daughter who can talk and talk and talk. She’s only 8 but she hasn’t been completely molded by me , her mother or the rest of society. She doesn’t consider the consequences of what she’s saying so she just talks. That childhood paradigm is so similar to the “being” paradigm, where you are just in a constant flow state. I wish I knew how to get back there
Hey, let me know if you'd like help with the "how to" when it comes to working on the being... It can be quite tricky. 👉 www.julienhimself.com/mentoring-application
I also have a friend in the competative frame, his glasses are so god damn thick that he won't even sit down when everyone is sitting. Somehow he has reinforced standing up while everyone else is sitting and chill. He will stand in the background with his drink if everyone sits to relax and crack jokes. It's actually super sad to see him hold himself back. But its funny when he gets offended easily because he tries to hide but i see right through it. Its like when you see a kid say "i dont care."
The problem I have is I can have a business conversation and present myself confident when I am in an analytical environment, but on a personal environment I studder/slur words/look ashamed. I believe this is from my past socially, but also due to having gray matter in my right prefrontal cortex which usually means if I am in the picture in an emotional level it goes straight to my amygdala
seems there was some sort of realisation on different terms to teach and if there is compatibility on intended outcome. both are right, nevertheless, impact-wise, enough of the screaming already :P Julien, top notch stuff. Moving on and continuing to something more easy going teaching you got. Much appreciated.
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4:30 that was totally me like 8 years ago, oh man what a time. The funny thing is it actually produced some results. It was actually hilarious looking back when you'd run into another guy who was trying to do the exact same thing. It would be this weird cartoon like duel, a couple times. Some Mr. Bean shit
I've been wanting to learn how to gain confidence and how to protect and stand up for myself and for those I love. So I have a question; what or when are the cases where you have to put the glasses back on? Because surely you aren't delusional to think everyone everytime is on your side. You'd be taken advantage of all the time if that were the case.
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I LOVE this topic! I have question. When i’ve done the “letting go” techniques I’ve found myself more and more in a collab state day-to-day. But i’m still mostly in a competitive state. And my problem is that this affects what I like to do in life and bring to world. Whenever I’m in a competitive state I want to do more destructive things like training MMA, eat more unhealthy foods, and consume content that’s conveys the “Us vs them” mentality. But when I get into this collab state I’m more drawn to socialising, vibing, being in nature and consuming comedy (and this lovely content
Can you explain to me a little about the differences between competitive mindset and collaborative mindset and if there are exercises in the video to practice collaborative mindset? My English is not good and it is difficult for me to understand the video :(
@@salvatoregiordano4202 an example may help; imagine you are meeting up with coworkers to go bowl after work. The competitive mindset is focused on winning the game and whatever else that includes such as less joking, less fun banter and a more serious tone. The collaborative mindset on the other hand would involve prioritizing getting along with the group and exchanging fun times. You might still want to win the game but it is not the focus, the focus is fostering good relationships and encouraging good interactions. It’s essentially the difference between being agreeable versus disagreeable and you can look these traits up online. They are to a large degree biologically inherited but I’m sure you can become more agreeable with practice, mindfulness experience and an exfoliating goal to do so. We also become more agreeable naturally the older we get. Hope this helps.
Yeah, everyone has that. We all go through different moods throughout the day. Regarding bringing value: It depends on the environment you are in. You can also focus on self-esteem, which should fuel your value. A good book regarding that is: Nathaniel Branden Six Pillars of Self esteem. As stated in the video, just roll with the mood you have and babystep towards changing your mood. So, bringing value depends on the environment. Bringing value in a club is having fun. At work it is doing your job .
What’s weird in my situation is, that I’ve isolated myself because of this whole “self development” stage in my life, and I’m still going through it, but I’ve conditioned myself to not be my optimal, especially socially, when my diet and overall health is not at its best. And this has all been started because of my acne, and ever since I’ve gotten it, it’s always made me health conscious and I take it to heart. I still have acne and over time, I’ve found ways to get it do for down but my life has recently been more stressful and my acne has been worst again and this loop keeps conditioning me to keep to myself rather than just be comfortable with it.
@@harishot4953 I am currently in the process of that right now, and have been. But after years of trying to figure it out, I've just now figured out what is causing mine. This has led me to go full carnivore for my diet and get 9+ hours of sleep daily. Also having "professional experts" and media tell you that you have acne because of a dirty face, wasting money on creams and such as wasted me both time and money. Not as easy as it sounds
@@Oblisk That is awesome that you are figuring out. I would just follow the advice of a dermatologist. I do not think it is easy to apply the suggestions, but finding out what to do should be easy. Actually applying the suggestions is pretty hard, agree. And what about the selfisolation because of self development part?
@@harishot4953 dermatologist didn’t do anything. If nothing else works, they put u on a medication that is like super concentrated vitamin a that has a bunch of side effects and messes up with your micro biome and cause bad long term effects for some people unfortunately. But I appreciate your thoughtfulness, but the self isolation part is something I have to overcome myself. I have this weird mindset that if I’m not fully taking care of my health and it’s not top notch, that I have to fully focus on myself and “isolate” myself from others. But I do believe because of certain lifestyle and health complications has an effect of me being able to be my best, it’s obviously not the only factor and having a social group that I can bounce back on for emotional help or just the essence of socializing, that would help as well, I just have to figure it out which with time will heal. Patience is a virtue, never rush anything
@@Oblisk Regarding the isolating thing: That sounds like a form of perfectionism. I would suggest just trying stuff out and learning along the way. Perfectionism can be very paralyzing. When you look at successful people, they failed over and over again. They just learn from the failures, course correct and then continue going.
I literally was wanting you to touch base on this yesterday then this came up the first thing you talked about. I suppose its a wide array of people and were getting good at hiding it
His course is called "high status communication" and focuses a lot on sales/marketing skills... High Vibe Communication covers the exact "how to" steps of socializing.
@@JulienHimself All the content you guys post is super helpful! You guys goes IN DEPTH! It's the real method and it actually works! Thanks a lot once again! haha
True. Alan Watts goes pretty deep on how trying to work on yourself with the will of your ego is futile, but doesn’t directly give the juice on how it is accomplished
@@cd1772 I totally agree, he goes in depth with the description, but doesn't suggest a method on how to get rid of implement his teachings. It's more of a "realize and you'll do it" kinda thing...
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Amazing advice, amazingly relatable. I do however feel that the gentleman with the beard was operating at a different "frequency". I was almost not able to understand what he was saying (I'm native English), I suppose I could describe it as a congruency mismatch. I'm sorry to admit this but I literally skipped all of his speech. I went from a calm state listening to Julien speak and connect with me, to wondering how to slow down the pace of the robot reading to me from the "how to" manual of life...
25:35 @Julienhimself - when 38 year old LeBron is facing 25 year old Giannis, who is objectively a better player *right now* in their careers, don't you think LeBron IS directly feeling "in competition" AGAINST Giannis?
Book the POWER OF NOW by Eckhart Tolle talks about this frame and 'being' Best book I've read in my life it literally changed my life instantly. Game changer, please read this book guys
very interesting. But I do sometimes notice some resistance with the concept of "being high value". You talk about it as being a central kind of thing, but what's the idea/purpose behind being high-value? It seems almost like another way to get approval (if I'm high value, then people will like me) but that kind of defeats the purpose as being high-value should not be about seeking approval. So why then is there so much talk of being high-value? Could you clarify that?
Being high value is the OPPOSITE of approval seeking... Being high value means TRULY coming into your own. Knowing who you are, what you value and where you're going. Being grounded in your own reality and drawing state from within.
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Interesting note on smiling. I started doing it regularly at work. I’m moving around a lot and seeing lots of faces. I can immediately identify people that are in a competitive mindset by how they react to my smile. People in a competitive mindset will become insecure or even aggressive if I’m smiling for no reason. Cooperative people will act noticeably more friendly and talkative. Really interesting stuff
It would almost make me afraid to smile bc some people don’t like it which makes no sense.
when somebody smiles at me i immediately thnik they're judging me but that might because ofr social anxiety
You definetely right Like the people who tries to put themselves in a state where they kind like of gangster those are the people who aren't confident about themselves
I've used this collaborative vs competitive mindset as a focus for last few years. Sometimes you have a bad day at work in a negative frame of mind or whatever and that puts you into a competitive state. Practice the exercise of how am I on the same team with my environment? Find legitimate reasons and competition mindset melts away. Love you guys rock on🤟
Nice! 👊
Great advice👌🏼
LOL Tyler sitting and watching like a proud father as Julien takes stage. These two have come a long way damn
Lol, oh yeah... Been teaching this for over a DECADE now! 🙏
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@@SrbijaFail what are you saying ???
@@Rickybobby34343 l-theanine is a wonderful supplement that removes anxiety and can be found in green tea as well.
This is so true! Been reading self development books since i was 13, at 17 had a NLP master. I am at a point now, at 25, where i read and listen to the same books and audiobooks i have read for the past 12 years. no matter HOW MUCH information you have access too, sometimes… You are just not ready for the information, and i rediscover something new almost everytime i read the books again, things i apparently could not comprehend the first times of reading them 😂 self development is truly, a life long process 🙏🏼
Having the default sad face was my biggest challenge. A little awareness, personal achievements, and a smile will change that default face. An one hour personal podcast per week is a great way to improve.
Those are great external steps, yes! However don't think that you can skip over the INNER WORK side of things... That's really what gets to the cause! 😉
47:45 Have or have nots paradigm
48:00 doing paradigm
48:10 Being paradigm
I've noticed a lot of things in my life i've been stuck at the doing paradigm... I've skipped the have or have nots paradigm long ago but I am stuck in the doing paradigm.
I need to realign myself immediately.
Thank you.
This is really about letting go, more spiritual.
Great realization! You're very welcome!
Reached a “critical mass” letting go very recently. Reading The Power of Now finally made it all “click”. Absolute paradigm shift.
So much more of what you teach makes sense me to me now.
Can’t thank you and Owen enough for what you do!!!
What did you like most about that book?
Man... you are literally healing the planet with your work. Love it. Much appreciated
The difference between learning the next hack and actually unplugging from the Matrix 💣💥
Exactly!! 👌
Tyler looks like an absolute sweetheart, I've only seen a few of their old videos but I get it. I can appreciate these dude's energy.
Dissolving the duality paradigm closes the gap between who you are and who you want to become, between what you want and having it… in the shortest time possible.
I like the idea behind the term frequency (waves).
A competitive mindset is going to clash with others frequency’s.
A team frequency let’s you match and vibe with other frequency’s and even strengthen them.
It’s beautiful.
Glad this resonated!
Coming here in 2024. Great GREAT insight. The paradigm and “frame” is the most impactful thing you can realize about your life. Thank you both
I cringe looking back on my childhood when I looked at socializing competitively. I realize now that all the popular kids communicated collaboratively. They weren’t popular because they dominated everyone, they were popular because people liked talking to them
This guy knows what he's talking about ! When I start to get a competitive mind set I let the dark overlords take over and proceed to speak backwards in tongues and convulse until everyone runs away in fear for their well being. This usually helps me in any social situation .
the part where owen said something similar to "its about the process of getting there so enjoy small succes" was a really really good reminder cus i forgot that for the past month and i was really frustrated
Great! Glad this resonated with you!
Hi @julienHimself you know what is the most shoking experience I had after watching this video? When I realized that there is nobody to compete with, my posture gets better!!! I just stay normally, without trying, it's just good, that is reaaaally insane!!!
YES!!! 🙌
You can only spin so many times around the gurgler until u realise u gotta go down the rabbithole and see where it goes. Vamos everybody! Get active and start letting go. GO FOR IT! ONE LIFE!
Yes! Letting go is the way... 🙏
It really is interesting to hear the absence of participation from the group. A couple years ago “before Covid lockup and before the shaming paradigm really happened” the energy from laughter and enjoyment was viscerally audible at these seminars. It’s a shame that so many people have regressed in their abilities to enjoy themselves freely. We need these guys now more than ever to keep the fires lit so that others can begin to catch a light
That's an interesting observation.
Owen did great on TimCast IRL last night. Was hoping for a members only show. So happy for him to reach a new audience.
What's TimCast IRL?
Agreed! He crushed it! 👌
Dude I literally watch this everyday and I’ve seen like for a couple hours I’d just achieve that stage of just being sort of like you said when you were a kid just being and having that chill calm confident aura it feels great not to feel so uptight, yk not in competition etc... But shoutout you guys especially on the paradigm aspect because we are what we attract and if you don’t love yourself you’ll never achieve success because #1 If you don’t think your worthy of it in a collaborative aspect you’ll never go for it anyway 👀😂✨ So fucking deep
I recently moved up this paradigm and I was encountering this state of flow in my life and things were just coming and becoming easier. But then things went the other way and I let it get to me and it brought me back down. Now I’m on my way back up, and the build up is hard at first, but once you get some momentum, it’s easy.
All blessed vibes be with you...
Doing same...
@@brianlane3663 🤝
@@Oblisk Nice meet you.. also mark haughton here on UA-cam got good law of attraction technech s...
Yea I just been doing relearning...
@@brianlane3663 appreciate the recommendation, will totally check him out! Love finding new things and people to learn from. And don’t feel like your getting set back, sometimes we have to relearn things in our life. Just look at it as the next step forward. Keep ya head up bro, we’ll all reach our goals with a little patience and hard work, we’ll get there
@@Oblisk thnx bro wish they would of taught this stuff in school.,.
You'll be back up in no time... 👍✌️
37:00 one of the best experiments you can do is start your own podcast, you don't have to polish it, but as an exercise to improve yourself.
It helps improve your social skills. It helps you see essentially what you're doing wrong that damages your charisma.
Wow
Great duet
Owen-Legend
Julien-master
Amazing👏
What a great duo these 2 men are. You guys are a great team, and such authenticity. I aspire to have a friendship and develop connections like yours.
Thank you! 🙏
This video changed me forever .
You guys are gift from God to humanity
Thank you so much my beautiful mentors ❤
Glad this resonated so deeply with you! What part impacted you the most?
@@JulienHimself
The podcast exercise looks so game changing !!
And also , the part that u said , nobody is being himself ,
and to be yourself , you must remove all of things that you gained from society by dividing back into the past . this one blew my mind off .
Also , collaborative state , especially Jordan example 🔥
And BTW julien , you've gained some weight 👀
One of your best videos uploaded, is crazy how this quality of content is up for free
Glad you think so! However this is NOTHING compared to what you'll learn in High Vibe Communication: highvibecommunication.com
You've been killing it for years & you guys still got it. Excellent content!! 🤘😎💯
Thanks so much! And thanks for your longtime support!
This video forgives every single little mistake the UA-cam algorithm has ever made. Hallelujah 🙏🏼
i love julien i want to hear him more, i kinda dont like owen , sometimes he doesnt connect but he does really care for all of us do, he seems genuinely want to help, but julien is more way better speaker, im in interested mode when julien speaks, when owen speaks its just like okay good content, but not that fully interested. know what i mean.
Yeah i agree i think he talks to fast tbh, and kinda forces his stuffs
He come across as trying too hard.
You have to chew the cherry and spit the seed out. Owen has gems in what he’s saying. Don’t have to digest every single thing. He has his own unique delivery from Julien
What an amazing video!!! Thanks sooo much for the immense value Julien and Owen. 👏👏👏
You’ve all heard of dad bod but this dude out here rocking the mom bod
Anyone got any tips for really making this switch in your mind from competitive to collaborative?
I like when Owen said it’s more about unlearning than learning, and removing that knot from your mind - but I feel it’s easier said than done! So hard to make that shift as it’s so ingrained
Truly amazing video btw
4.08 could be a viral MEME " look at this body language!!! "
probably be best to have people come up and start the change. free of charge.
When he says "cool" at 6:35 it sounds like Steve from Minecraft getting hurt
You guys bring the most important learning information in the internet without a doubt in my mind.
Been always feeling like I always play between levels with myself and never really found someone who speaks about that like u guys do right here!
Everyone always speaks about IQ and things that determine who u are permanently and I am just so fking glad i found this channel THANK YOU!
I'm usually not Impress, but you did a great job. Your work is fantastic. I love it.
Thank you so much! 🙏
The greatest duo ever..!
One of the most insightful lectures I’ve seen, my first thought is I hope to be in a position to work alongside the both of you someday
Thank you! 🙏
Another morning with y'all thank y'all for opening my eyes
Right thing perfect thing to say = iq, saying things that are fun, engaging awesome energy = EQ.
🔥👊
Owen's right. Alita: Battle Angel is a great movie. Really wish there'd be a sequel
legit! wish you the best for 2022 my brotha!
Thanks! Same to you!
I literally have experienced this state of being a few times with close friends but one time i experienced a new level of it when I met a friends brother. I was at such a level that every joke he made, I amplified it with another joke un a split second and everyone laugjed harder and harder. It was the most amazing, freeing night of my life but after that i retreated, I was even the popular dude between him and his best friend that wanted to know if i liked them or not, which is crazy because those two together were super cool dudes. BUT the next day i felt myself retreating again for some reason. It was so strange.
I understand the idea but don’t know how to do it. It reminds me of my daughter who can talk and talk and talk. She’s only 8 but she hasn’t been completely molded by me , her mother or the rest of society. She doesn’t consider the consequences of what she’s saying so she just talks. That childhood paradigm is so similar to the “being” paradigm, where you are just in a constant flow state. I wish I knew how to get back there
Hey, let me know if you'd like help with the "how to" when it comes to working on the being... It can be quite tricky. 👉 www.julienhimself.com/mentoring-application
I also have a friend in the competative frame, his glasses are so god damn thick that he won't even sit down when everyone is sitting. Somehow he has reinforced standing up while everyone else is sitting and chill. He will stand in the background with his drink if everyone sits to relax and crack jokes. It's actually super sad to see him hold himself back. But its funny when he gets offended easily because he tries to hide but i see right through it. Its like when you see a kid say "i dont care."
lets see whats possible. i already won, let keep pushing it.
I recommend Abraham Hicks teachings 🥰
High quality free content in ours home, we are soo lucky guys that's all
The problem I have is I can have a business conversation and present myself confident when I am in an analytical environment, but on a personal environment I studder/slur words/look ashamed. I believe this is from my past socially, but also due to having gray matter in my right prefrontal cortex which usually means if I am in the picture in an emotional level it goes straight to my amygdala
Beyond all the techniques and conjecture this is deeply spiritual stuff
You know it! 🙏
seems there was some sort of realisation on different terms to teach and if there is compatibility on intended outcome. both are right, nevertheless, impact-wise, enough of the screaming already :P Julien, top notch stuff. Moving on and continuing to something more easy going teaching you got. Much appreciated.
I am so happy I found this. Finally something that makes me really think and feel
Keep it up! I am dropping 1 song a week for the next 3 years straight. It has never been done in music. Come along for the ride if you want. Stay blessed ! - Bryan
Wow so cool to see you two guys together and even more cool to see a bit more advanced stuff from you, thanks, very much appreciated!!!
Love your content!! Simple to understand and grow using.
Great! Glad it speaks to you!
Love it! Thank you! 🙏🏻
Going to try to do the podcast thing! Amazing video, you and Owen on the stage is quite an experience 🔥
Thanks!! Good luck with the podcast exercise!
4:30 that was totally me like 8 years ago, oh man what a time. The funny thing is it actually produced some results. It was actually hilarious looking back when you'd run into another guy who was trying to do the exact same thing. It would be this weird cartoon like duel, a couple times. Some Mr. Bean shit
Oh, yeah! 😂 - Glad you’re not longer in that paradigm!
@@JulienHimself all thanks to you guys, honestly.
I've been wanting to learn how to gain confidence and how to protect and stand up for myself and for those I love. So I have a question; what or when are the cases where you have to put the glasses back on? Because surely you aren't delusional to think everyone everytime is on your side. You'd be taken advantage of all the time if that were the case.
"What happened to you!!!" was the best one
Lol 👌
I started a podcast thank you :)
Can you guys please post the next part of the event?Absolutely incredible info here. Much love to you guys🙏❤️ be blessed
If you resonate with this, make sure to get your copy of High Vibe Communication! 👉 Here is another segment we did later that night: ua-cam.com/video/ShvQ0lZkFWQ/v-deo.html
@@JulienHimself THANK YOU! Followed you on IG as well !
I LOVE this topic! I have question. When i’ve done the “letting go” techniques I’ve found myself more and more in a collab state day-to-day. But i’m still mostly in a competitive state. And my problem is that this affects what I like to do in life and bring to world.
Whenever I’m in a competitive state I want to do more destructive things like training MMA, eat more unhealthy foods, and consume content that’s conveys the “Us vs them” mentality.
But when I get into this collab state I’m more drawn to socialising, vibing, being in nature and consuming comedy (and this lovely content
I experience the same thing
Can you explain to me a little about the differences between competitive mindset and collaborative mindset and if there are exercises in the video to practice collaborative mindset? My English is not good and it is difficult for me to understand the video :(
@@salvatoregiordano4202 an example may help; imagine you are meeting up with coworkers to go bowl after work. The competitive mindset is focused on winning the game and whatever else that includes such as less joking, less fun banter and a more serious tone. The collaborative mindset on the other hand would involve prioritizing getting along with the group and exchanging fun times. You might still want to win the game but it is not the focus, the focus is fostering good relationships and encouraging good interactions. It’s essentially the difference between being agreeable versus disagreeable and you can look these traits up online. They are to a large degree biologically inherited but I’m sure you can become more agreeable with practice, mindfulness experience and an exfoliating goal to do so. We also become more agreeable naturally the older we get. Hope this helps.
Yeah, everyone has that. We all go through different moods throughout the day. Regarding bringing value: It depends on the environment you are in. You can also focus on self-esteem, which should fuel your value. A good book regarding that is: Nathaniel Branden Six Pillars of Self esteem. As stated in the video, just roll with the mood you have and babystep towards changing your mood. So, bringing value depends on the environment. Bringing value in a club is having fun. At work it is doing your job .
What’s weird in my situation is, that I’ve isolated myself because of this whole “self development” stage in my life, and I’m still going through it, but I’ve conditioned myself to not be my optimal, especially socially, when my diet and overall health is not at its best. And this has all been started because of my acne, and ever since I’ve gotten it, it’s always made me health conscious and I take it to heart. I still have acne and over time, I’ve found ways to get it do for down but my life has recently been more stressful and my acne has been worst again and this loop keeps conditioning me to keep to myself rather than just be comfortable with it.
Why are you not fixing your acne? How would self development cause you to isolate and not work on yourself?
@@harishot4953 I am currently in the process of that right now, and have been. But after years of trying to figure it out, I've just now figured out what is causing mine. This has led me to go full carnivore for my diet and get 9+ hours of sleep daily. Also having "professional experts" and media tell you that you have acne because of a dirty face, wasting money on creams and such as wasted me both time and money. Not as easy as it sounds
@@Oblisk That is awesome that you are figuring out. I would just follow the advice of a dermatologist. I do not think it is easy to apply the suggestions, but finding out what to do should be easy. Actually applying the suggestions is pretty hard, agree. And what about the selfisolation because of self development part?
@@harishot4953 dermatologist didn’t do anything. If nothing else works, they put u on a medication that is like super concentrated vitamin a that has a bunch of side effects and messes up with your micro biome and cause bad long term effects for some people unfortunately. But I appreciate your thoughtfulness, but the self isolation part is something I have to overcome myself. I have this weird mindset that if I’m not fully taking care of my health and it’s not top notch, that I have to fully focus on myself and “isolate” myself from others. But I do believe because of certain lifestyle and health complications has an effect of me being able to be my best, it’s obviously not the only factor and having a social group that I can bounce back on for emotional help or just the essence of socializing, that would help as well, I just have to figure it out which with time will heal. Patience is a virtue, never rush anything
@@Oblisk Regarding the isolating thing: That sounds like a form of perfectionism. I would suggest just trying stuff out and learning along the way. Perfectionism can be very paralyzing. When you look at successful people, they failed over and over again. They just learn from the failures, course correct and then continue going.
Jesus is the truth reach out if you ever feel empty or like you have nothing left, he’ll accept you no matter who you are or what you’ve done
100%. So good to be sharing that. Yes. True and we need reminding
These are the two most incredible interesting men I've seen, absolutely awesome.
Thank you! 🙏
Getting back in the game
Really amazing this opened up my perspective on things.
Glad it was helpful! 🔥👊
nice one juls
Thanks! 👌
Hooray!!!
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This is one of the best videos I’ve seen on UA-cam bro, you guys are genius🙏🏻
I literally was wanting you to touch base on this yesterday then this came up the first thing you talked about. I suppose its a wide array of people and were getting good at hiding it
So does owen have a course called "high value communication" that's separate from juliens "high vibe communication" ??
His course is called "high status communication" and focuses a lot on sales/marketing skills... High Vibe Communication covers the exact "how to" steps of socializing.
@@JulienHimself Okay cool. Do you have a release date for yours?
Unbelievable video insane value love it!
Thanks!! 🙏
Owen looks like he's slowly ascending to his wise, spiritual master form.
I've watched Alan Watts videos about unlearning, but it never clicked until now, thank you!
Glad this was helpful!
@@JulienHimself All the content you guys post is super helpful! You guys goes IN DEPTH! It's the real method and it actually works! Thanks a lot once again! haha
True. Alan Watts goes pretty deep on how trying to work on yourself with the will of your ego is futile, but doesn’t directly give the juice on how it is accomplished
@@cd1772 I totally agree, he goes in depth with the description, but doesn't suggest a method on how to get rid of implement his teachings. It's more of a "realize and you'll do it" kinda thing...
Thank u for showing me HOW TO DO THE THING..
That one hour of doing a podcast is so helpful. Never thought of doing that. So helpful.
Oh, yeah! Total game-changer... 🔥👊
I noticed you guys seemed a bit dull in your own heads here and found it amusing to compare to my own self generated enthusiasm in dull states
Julien I am from India and your course is expensive for us Indians. Can you please give some discount for people accessing from developing countries.
Hey, the pre-sale discount right now is the cheapest it's going to be if you're looking for a good deal! You can also email support@julienhimself.com if you'd like payment plan options. Happy New Year!
What would be a quick summary of this video?
Was the main point of this video saying to have a non competitive state of mind?
Amazing advice, amazingly relatable. I do however feel that the gentleman with the beard was operating at a different "frequency". I was almost not able to understand what he was saying (I'm native English), I suppose I could describe it as a congruency mismatch. I'm sorry to admit this but I literally skipped all of his speech. I went from a calm state listening to Julien speak and connect with me, to wondering how to slow down the pace of the robot reading to me from the "how to" manual of life...
This is grate, and very funny :D Thank you!
Our pleasure! 👌
If anyone ends up watching that other guys' seminar on the society brainwashing thing, it would be amazing if they could let me know.
Thanks!
You're very welcome! 🙏
New year's value bomb💥
You know it!
how many level of the paradigm are there? i just look up "mind ras" thank you for that bro! That new to me.
You're welcome! Knowing about your RAS and learning how to harness it to your advantage is KEY!
25:35 @Julienhimself - when 38 year old LeBron is facing 25 year old Giannis, who is objectively a better player *right now* in their careers, don't you think LeBron IS directly feeling "in competition" AGAINST Giannis?
The short red head guy that dresses like a 10 yr old skateboarder kills me! To funny
Book the POWER OF NOW by Eckhart Tolle talks about this frame and 'being' Best book I've read in my life it literally changed my life instantly. Game changer, please read this book guys
Amazing book! I actually did a review video of it here: ua-cam.com/video/APguuR-2EqM/v-deo.html
MARAVILHA
Come back to the dark side of pickup!
very interesting. But I do sometimes notice some resistance with the concept of "being high value". You talk about it as being a central kind of thing, but what's the idea/purpose behind being high-value? It seems almost like another way to get approval (if I'm high value, then people will like me) but that kind of defeats the purpose as being high-value should not be about seeking approval. So why then is there so much talk of being high-value? Could you clarify that?
Being high value is the OPPOSITE of approval seeking... Being high value means TRULY coming into your own. Knowing who you are, what you value and where you're going. Being grounded in your own reality and drawing state from within.
Summary?
If I looked like I just climbed from a dumpster I would try to stay home too.
Julien my guru !
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great video!
Thanks!