"A fool is a male who involves himself with a broken woman" any woman who needs to be "healed" either needs to be in the hospital or therapy. Not in a marriage.
@@EsiriE I'm guessing you're one of those broken women 😂🤣 poor thing. Hit "dogs" will holla...sorry for throwing the rock but no woman has done anything enough for me to hate them because I done mess with "broken" ones such as yourself 🤷♂️ good day ma'am.
PART I HOW QUEENS CHOOSE MEN THAT HEAL • A woman with a *QUEEN CONCIOUS* mindset not only protects her peace but also helps her choose a man that heals. • There are a lot of men out there that hate women. Their version of masculinity almost seems as though it is to destroy women and a lot of women that fall prey to these men. The woman is for sex, maybe for babies and to subjugate emotionally…a soul tired slave. • Woe to the woman that opens up her heart to a person before she's proven them trustworthy. To get close to a man or to allow a man to get close to you means that you're going to have to reveal your insecurities, you're going to have to expose your wounds and become vulnerable. This very often brings out the vulture in a man and he will just simply devour you. • Queens always take the lessons and the wisdom from theirs and others mistakes and as they move forward in life they make better choices relative to men this is why Queens ask questions that only Kings can answer. It is in the interrogation that a queen gets a chance to determine the character of a man. *Questions reveal motives* • The Modern Woman has been wounded in ways that the pains are so deep, it’s way down in her soul! She's been wounded and broken intentionally by simps and pimps. • *A grown man honors Womanhood* It's the natural inclination of a man to protect Womanhood it's not the natural inclination of a man to side with men against women. • Today men want to talk about how the Modern Woman is masculine, difficult to deal with, not pleasant, she's not kind etc and the truth is a lot of these things are true many times but we're constantly looking at the fruit of the modern woman's Behavior but rarely do we hear of men that go and deal with the root of the fruit. Why is this fruit hanging from the tree of the modern woman's life? It's because if you *go back in her history she has been so broken by the men in her life generation after generation that it has now caused the modern woman to evolve into something that was never intended* She has become so masculinized that now the modern man does not even know how to manage her. But gentlemen, the reality is *you’ve produced this* She has been so isolated to her own feelings she does not always know how to even relate to others. • *Just because a man is six feet tall, 100 kg and is sexually vibrant does not make him a husband. A husband is a grown man of certain character and one of the one of the primary characteristics of a husband is that he's a healer to the soul of his wife* He should be in a position to improve the condition of his woman and not just humiliate her or complain. • A woman's soul is assaulted on a daily basis from social media to entertainment to music to movies to politics to the news. We're constantly seeing things and hearing things that are designed to degrade, diminish, miniaturize and debilitate a woman's soul. • Ladies, the reason you've continued to attract men that break you is because there's something that yet has to be healed and adjusted within you. The world has a lot of good men too. A lot of women can testify to that. • Don’t complain that they are all taken...because when you say there are no great men *that is your trauma venting itself that is not reality* The truth is men are being born and growing up everyday. They are transformed by the power of God every day. Some men that may not even know God just wake up one day and say this is a foolish and stupid way that I'm living, I'm going to become a better man, I need to settle down, I need I need one woman, I need a family. • You have to really open your spirit if you're going to really be in a position or posture to receive what God has for you. You can't with your mouth say there are no great men and women and then in your heart say God send me a great man or woman. • If you sit by a pond you may catch some frogs and catfish. What are you fishing for? What are you baiting your hook with and how big is your hook? Will it give you a bit fat SURMAI? Possibly not. Maybe you need to change where you go, what you do and maybe upgrade your equipment and your focus. • *A man that heals is a giver* It's always a red flag when you have a man that is constantly trying to get something from you. You know a man that's sliding into your life and constantly trying to get your body, playing adolescent games, not even having a conversation…you need to exit this because he’s a getter and he's a taker. He discovers that you have some measure of success financially or professionally that affords you certain levels of finances and he's trying to talk you into investing in his business. • *A man that heals is not a taker but he's a giver* He has a certain work ethic. He may not be a six-figure man, he may not be a seven figure man but he's a hard-working guy who holds his own and *he's an honorable man and he has the desire to be able to do for his woman* Grown men give to their wives. GOLD DIGGERS not welcome ok! • A proper a man always has a heart and a mind to give. When a Man Loves a Woman not only does he open his heart to her he opens his wallet and he opens his life to that woman because a man that would heal a woman is a man that gives and a man that would break a woman is a man that takes. *Finances are just an indication of where the heart is and again it's the least of a good man's offerings but it's the physical indication of where the heart is* • *There's something that happens when a man gives a woman first because the woman reproduces and multiplies it* If he never empowers his woman, all that God has put in her for him cannot be released to him. *The man in the relationship is the initiator and the woman is the multiplier* So when a man is when a man is stingy and tight with his wife, what he is effectively doing he is preventing himself from multiplying. 1. Listen you give a woman your seed, she produces children in your likeness. 2. You give her some groceries she turns it into a five-course meal 3. You give a woman a house she turns it into a home. 4. You give her your life she turns you into the king that you were always designed to be. • A woman can never sustain a relational momentum that the man does not initiate first. You can think that you can step in and you're going to make this happen and you're gonna make it if a man does not give you what is necessary but that would be you fooling yourself to believe that you can drive the relationship by yourself as a woman. A woman can only go as far as he is willing to give her. He has to supply her with what is necessary to bring the relationship to where It ultimately is designed to go. • *The woman is always the reflection of the man and she's the reflection of what he's deposited into the woman* His offerings, into her life! • A man that heals is going to bring security, he's going to give you time, he's going to give you peace and he's going to be consistent. He brings healing to the areas of you heart that are broken and void and he sees you begin to blossom. • The lowest form of Attraction is the physical kind. When you find a man that brings you peace where other people have brought you trauma and drama your love for this man is going to be through the roof because the thing you fail to understand is that attraction grows and your sex with that man is going to be on a whole different level. I will tell you why, it's because when a man can bring calm to your soul he can make love to your mind. When a man can heal your soul he makes love to your mind. That's a whole different dimension that most shallow women never get to experience because they are putting a KING in the friend zone for being two inches shorter, being gentle, not having an accent as good as theirs and not making 80 lacs a year. • *A King does not judge you* It doesn't matter what you've done or where you've come from or what your history is all about…cause this dude here is bringing heal into your soul. Queens choose men that do not judge but just love them for who they are. • *He makes you safe enough to unpack your history* So secure that you can talk about all of the stuff you've gone through. Most women are with men that they got to hide their truth from because they know his capacity is not great enough to really manage all that there is.
• *He knows one’s history can never abort one’s destiny* He gives you the ability to believe bigger and to do bigger.
@@RealLadi228 Thankyou for that advice. I am coming out of a toxic relationship and I found a great man. I was wondering how open I should be. He wants to get married. I believe you when you say vulnerability is necessary
@@MajorsWife Be Careful love do not move prematurely if engaged maybe through premarital counseling and if he opens up too...I think we all have some form of trauma and fears from something most importantly wait on God's timing. God bless you!
No, ma'am, perhaps sometimes confusion in her = he's not the one. However --and have the maturity to hear this for one second, please-- perhaps he COULD be the one for her, but because of innocuous mistakes he's made or because of her own error in brokenness, or a combination of both things, she thinks he is NOT the one for her, but he actually is in God's will. I've seen relatively godly women "throw away" a good healed man, but she assumed things of him that were actually not true, and thus she was effectively deceived by the Deceiver, and unfortunately often times, she goes on and gets involved with a REALLY bad guy regarding whom she was SURE was the one, but really he was a skillful decoy of the devil. Ironically, the good guy is spared of such a woman and goes on to marry a wonderfully already-healed woman!! In THAT sense, he was NOT the one for her, because she was not ready/healed enough for him. There's much more to be said on this subject.
This man's ministry saved my life. For real. I listened to you RC everyday at lunch walking my 2.7 miles. 50 minutes of RC everyday was my freedom. My mind is clear and I married a great man after I vetted him. Thanks RC for who you are. You are a blessing from God. You have never changed with success as so many other pastors have. Thank you for that. You are stability at its finest. You are a king of kings.
After 2 divorces from toxic men and me healing my inner child, I have a great friend who has shown me what a true man is. Wow. I never knew they existed. Very rare but he brings out the good in me and doesn’t want anything. I am glowing, growing and healing.
What a powerful message. I’ve been on my self-love healing journey for about three years after 2 toxic marriages and 7 children. I finally learned how to love myself. Now I help other women heal through my books and UA-cam channel. Thank you.💕
I’d love to listen to someone like you, I’m in the same boat. Finally escaped from my narcissist husband, I’m on the final month to end the nightmare and now trying to work on myself and don’t even know where to start. I stumbled on RC and have been listening for the past 2 weeks .
I have met a man who I thought brought me peace and after a few months his true colors comes out. I became anxious and made me feel unstable due to his indecisiveness and past hurt. So when we separated I found my peace and that’s when I knew that Gods wants me to turn around and let go. He’s not the one he wants for me. 😊
@@tmichele8922 same here! I learned that the real them shows up when your boundaries of self respect are firm. After a while, this faithful church going man told he that he doesn't live his life like that - when he found out my body wasn't up for discussion. Good grief!!
“ a man that heals is not a taker, he’s a giver! “ if a man who is just sitting on his bottom is not a man who heals, he is a son who takes! Sons take from their moms, grown men give to their wives” 👏🏾👏🏾 🙌🏾he ate em up w that one
You saying all this bishop am already being healed, my abusive narcissist used to call me stupid for the entire five years of marriage, and he would compliment other ladies and when I say you never gave me any compliments he said it is not his thing, it was not his thing in anything intimate that he had to do with me, he was always taking taking taking ! Thank you for this Man of God!
Mine to, but I never forgot who God said I was! I faked it cause I knew I was planning on getting away from him! Been away for two weeks now and I’m never going back! Thank you Jesus!
@@marciaparks807 you will thank God and yourself, God does not delight in abuse, he saw the pain the Israelites went through in Egypt and sent help for them these days he open our eyes to see who we are and he send teachers like Bishop RC Blake's to feed his sheep with knowledge and understanding, you did good choosing to trust God ,he will heal you and bind those wounds just be obedient and choose yourself again and again no matter what the devil says oh remember the good times, you miss him, go back! No choose you, you will heal , God never abandon his own!
@@Amy-ys2od when I get weak, I reflect back onto all the negative, toxic words he spoke and ask myself if I wasn’t more of the same! I pray for all those in his past, current, and future because I realize they my not be as spiritual as I am, but I had to let that go!
@@marciaparks807 yes dear, remember you're fearfully and wonderfully made and remember God blessed Job with more than he had before when he prayed for his friends, sometimes trauma and bad memories may show up but keep your focus on Jesus! It is well!
"Her history could never abort her destiny once she knew who she was" POWERFUL!!! You said something right there! Thank you, Forever Grateful to God for your teachings! 💗
A man who is this emotionally mature and loving is so rare but I know that they do exist. Most married women don't even have husbands like this from what I have seen.
There is so much wisdom here. I've been following you since 2020. When I encountered a narcissist. I am dating again now, thanks to you and your teachings. I have healed my trauma dating. I'm careful dating and collecting data, I am not rushing towards anything. Thank you! ❤
Sir you teaching on this here youtube. “When a man loves a woman, not only does he open his heart to her, he opens his life and his wallet” Whew!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 He’s a generous man all around. May I reproduce and multiply what my future King generously gives me.
This is good teaching. Every man does not have the character to be a husband. Nowadays just because he is a male or a father does not make him a husband. Men need to be taught those character traits or have them before they become husbands. This just brought so much wisdom to my life. A wife and husband are a reflection of each other.
Thank you for being the dad a lot of us do not have. I appreciate this I have my dad today but he cannot and never has a conversation like this with any of his girls and he had nine of them. My dad always told us to repent and not be around bad people. Nothing else. He did nothing didn’t help me when my husband left me almost a year ago. All of my family pretty much fell off. So now I’m healing from loss of a child, a marriage, and essentially a family. I am growing stronger each day and I thank god for being with me daily! Thanks for helping me navigate in this world.
Yes I believe this is spiritually and theologically correct, that a husband honours his wife by protecting and respecting her. When a wife sees that her husband is willing to sacrifice himself for her and the family and he uses his Gof given authority never for personal gain so to speak nor to harm but only for the good of his family she then will submit happily because she knows she is loved and understood and her husband respects Gods will.
Pastor your words are so soothing to us. I am not religious but I am spiritual and I see the union between feminine and masculine as something sacred. And it is wonderful whenever I hear someone speaking in a way that honors this truth. The world needs nothing more than sacred unions where the man honors the woman and provides a safe space for her in the relationship so her femininity can blossom. Yesterday I was performing. I am a singer. I saw a beautiful couple sitting next to each other. As my tears started running I had to take a break. I talked to them and told them the truth about how emotional they made me feel. I told them how the woman's light was shining and how much that tells about what a great man he is. At this moment he looked at her with such a humble smile saying : "She's a true light". I asked them if love has always been so easy for them. He said "yes because she's been my one and only" and she said "No I had only failed relationships before him and I am blessed I found him". I told them how much harmony they exude together and the woman asked if she could hug me. And it felt like an angel's embrace. God bless their union. I am greatful that they showed me that it exists. The man was the archetype of the tall and handsome guy, the woman was what we call average with no make up and a simple style. But she was beautiful. I could see in her what he sees in her. A true light.
This man was ordained by God yall. He's helped me love MYSELF. Yes he's the father who never told me and the mother who didn't know. Pastor please keep up the good work and thank you. 😊
This uplifted my spirit. I live in the DC area, and y'all, I am soooo tired of angry men riding my car bumper as I drive, blowing their horns at me, and trying to block me from merging onto the highway. I just pray and trust God, but honestly, by the time I get to work or my destination, I feel frustrated and exhausted. I discern the spirits of too many of today's men as mean, and, as my late grandma would say, just "plain low-down." I will only accept a great man who heals.
The reflection of a good man reflects from the woman he has cared for whom he has helped heal from her brokenness for whom he has provided for and also for her to become the queen she is through the king he is....
@@LA-wv7gf correct. As I listened to this video , I felt a calm come over my spirit when I imagined having a man who was a healer . As Pastor Blakes described such a man, I became excited about meeting this kind of man one day. May God bless us all with such a great husband.
Is there really men out there that can love a women like that. All I ever known is takers. From my stepfather to the two husband's I've had. Thank u for the hope I feel in a loving giving man.
You are INDEED Called to speak to Women who were once or is coming out of being broken! I AM SO THANKFUL for your teachings--BLESS you & your family Bishop RC Blakes!!! 💐💐💐👑 👑 👑
I’m abandoned and alone. His mother is enmeshed with him and she won. I didn’t let go early on when all the red flags and abuse were there. I am talking to a therapist and listening to your shows. You may not know but these are helping me learn and understand I need to fix me. I am very grateful. I have to look in make changes and stop replaying the trauma of abandonment.
Uncle thank you for this message, it spoke to my heart … I know I’m just comfortable being by myself as the Clowns 🤡 have made me an introvert at times. I know Great Men are out there and I will receive Him when God creates that space in time that we can love each other as Christ loved us.. with our flaws, our insecurities and our trauma… this message was just powerful and appreciated ❤
A, healthy relationship is a naturally happy and successful relationship. Friendship, is vital to a healthy relationship I've learned because a reason communicate is that important. Yes, I believe in love at first sight but Holy Spirit must confirm this.
This was my problem in the connection I was last spending time on. As much as I felt he was caring, attentive, affectionate, and a calming presence....I couldn't reconcile it with any confirmation from The Holy Spirit. He isn't a believer, and there were some issues about his past that took away from my feeling secure. We lost touch during 2021 covid Era, and we weren't able re-establish the connection as it previously was. Although I miss the comfort he did provide, I pray for his happiness and peace in his own life, and that for the sake of his own afterlife, he might find his way to Christ in his lifetime.
This is a word! My husband came into my life in divine timing, when I was READY for him to help me heal. It's been a journey and I'm so grateful that I was ready for healing and FINDING my PEACE. Thank you for sharing.
I believe RC Blakes may have prayed the prayer that Solomon prayed...Cause when he opens his mouth wisdom flows...I have been continuously blessed by ur Ministry...May God continue to strengthen u & ur family 🙏
🙏🏾amen. This is for me. After leaving my abusive, violent sadistic, narcissist , I'm still in therapy, Ptsd. He tried to kill me a few times and came close once. I am legit trying to heal inside & out, mentally & spiritually. I've stumbled onto these videos for a reason. This has confirmed some things I knew & helped me so much in my long journey ahead. I'm rebuilding my life in every way, and these tools are critical to break the cycle of trauma & abuse that's been repeating in my relationship .
Why, WHY all this compulsion to stop Bishop @RC Blakes??? You're NEVER taking too long. EVERYTHING God inspires you to say is so necessary! My life and my perspective about my own self had a complete switch thanks to what He's doing in me through YOUR messages! If it's longer than the time we have to listen to a particular video, WE JUST PICK UP WHERE WE LEFT OFF...! Mate, THIS IS THAT GOOD, ETERNAL-VALUE STUFF!!!!
U know that feeling when u know that God bless you many times over.. Many of us became Queens thanks to R.C Am very greatful for all the teachings and the man of God that is truly my soulmate. I am truly happy women and it's a wonderful feeling when u haven't settled down and waited for God, waited for the best
Thank you sooo much . Have been broken wasn’t really aware I was broken until I came across your videos on UA-cam! You have given me an eye opener on why I was choosing the same men over and over. It all stemmed from daddy daughter issues!! Thank you from the bottom of my heart. May God continue to bless your ministry !!
The feeling is awful , but the lesson is learned.. I thought I met a great guy then within a month, here come the flags, and I had to exit stage left.. I like that real talk Kim said, “ forgive them, release them, and bless them.. then move on”
R.C. Blakes Jr., I adore your passion and commitment to inspire and support healing between the genders. You are the Fatherly advice that many women have never had. Thank You.
I been listening to you for quiet sometime. And I want to Thank you for using your platform for gods glory. To be a blessings/healing to women from all walks of life. God bless you.
You are so correct!! I’ve ran into many of them that think of the woman as being lower them. Saying older women are worthless and a high value man only wants younger women, etc. it amazes me how they think of us. You have to think more of yourself not to feed into that foolishness! Thank you for your talks! They are empowering and you’ve really helped me to think more of myself! I’m good in my single life and I’m thoroughly enjoying and content within. It’s so hard out here trying to meet someone, but all things are possible with God!!
Beautiful makes me think of my Dad on how when my Mother transitioned he told my cousin that my Mother was his Life. Not only did he give to his wife freely he gave to his daughters. May my parents RIH and RIP 🙏
So true this word, I watched my mother and father give so much in their lives, and today I see myself today giving my all. Ladies please this is SO TRUE, and peace is so important with us as men.
I just want to say that a few minutes ago I fell asleep listening to a short devotional message on UA-cam by someone else. While I slept the other video ended and your video started playing. I could hear this message in my subconscious mind. As I was listening to this message while dreaming, in my dream there were what appeared to be various women heckling you as were speaking. They were saying things like "Why are you listening to that man?", "What he is saying is silly!", "He is a joke!", etc. So I told those demons who were masquerading themselves as women in my dream, that you were saying the right thing, and that you were trying to help women love themselves, things of that nature. I'm telling you Sir, you got the demonic kingdom riled up! HALLELU YAH!! Keep up the great work!
Thank you. I had decided to change my way of attracting men a while back. Loving myself, respecting, myself, acknowledging I'm worth more than these men perceive me to be worth. I want me a husband that allows God to guide him so he knows how to be the husband I need to lead
Wow! This message was amazing. And just for me. Ive been with my husband for 15 years and just hearing this made me realize I should have never had conversations with him. I met him a single mother and he asked me for something. And I brought it because im a giver. And guess what. He is vey selfish and a taker 😢 spends a lot of time online gambling. While I just sit around. I really need to let this go. 🙏 Thank you for sharing and dropping these gems on me.
You brought me to tears with this message. Truly reaffirmed what God has spoken over me and many other women. THANK YOU! "When a man can bring calm to your soul then He can make love to your mind" Romans 12;2 Do not be conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of GOD.
Was anyone gracious enough to provide minutes for this session? 🥶 woooah! This message hit home for me. Thank you pastor Blake’s May god continue to bless you, your family and ministry.
Ephesians 5:25-28 (The Message version) I have NEVER heard it this way or truly understood it until NOW. And I've been in church since birth! Thank you for expounding the word of God.
“A husband is a healer to the soul of his wife.”
Oooo weee, say that and yes so true!
"A fool is a male who involves himself with a broken woman" any woman who needs to be "healed" either needs to be in the hospital or therapy. Not in a marriage.
@@Blue-ve8wl lol I’m guessing you’re one of the guys that hate women 😅
@@EsiriE I'm guessing you're one of those broken women 😂🤣 poor thing. Hit "dogs" will holla...sorry for throwing the rock but no woman has done anything enough for me to hate them because I done mess with "broken" ones such as yourself 🤷♂️ good day ma'am.
@@EsiriE I’m a Queen and I’m quoting what my Bishop said. Listen to the video and reread my dear.
"The evidence of a grown man is how he honors womanhood." SO GOOD!
Agree
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That's the dumbest and most beta male simp mess I've ever heard 😂
Soo good 🔥🔥
YES, YES & YES💯💯💯💣💣💣
I think you've saved so many womens lives. When I was stuck in the ocean of self hate your ministry was my lighthouse.
I love his teachings. Soo eye opening and beneficial. May God bless his ministry ❤
Listen! Indeed, because my life has been changed through these teachings!
Amen rc Blake's brought so much truth and healing into my life true life saver
Amen🙏🏾
Yessss he save’s true child of god
"A man that brings healing to your heart does not judge you"
“Sons take from their moms, grown men give to their wives”
Wow! Amen 🙏🏽
“A man that heals is a giver “
Most definitely
That's the guys that gets the I love you but not in love with you .
This is a true fact, when i learnt to receive,i did.
PART I HOW QUEENS CHOOSE MEN THAT HEAL
• A woman with a *QUEEN CONCIOUS* mindset not only protects her peace but also helps her choose a man that heals.
• There are a lot of men out there that hate women. Their version of masculinity almost seems as though it is to destroy women and a lot of women that fall prey to these men. The woman is for sex, maybe for babies and to subjugate emotionally…a soul tired slave.
• Woe to the woman that opens up her heart to a person before she's proven them trustworthy. To get close to a man or to allow a man to get close to you means that you're going to have to reveal your insecurities, you're going to have to expose your wounds and become vulnerable. This very often brings out the vulture in a man and he will just simply devour you.
• Queens always take the lessons and the wisdom from theirs and others mistakes and as they move forward in life they make better choices relative to men this is why Queens ask questions that only Kings can answer. It is in the interrogation that a queen gets a chance to determine the character of a man. *Questions reveal motives*
• The Modern Woman has been wounded in ways that the pains are so deep, it’s way down in her soul! She's been wounded and broken intentionally by simps and pimps.
• *A grown man honors Womanhood* It's the natural inclination of a man to protect Womanhood it's not the natural inclination of a man to side with men against women.
• Today men want to talk about how the Modern Woman is masculine, difficult to deal with, not pleasant, she's not kind etc and the truth is a lot of these things are true many times but we're constantly looking at the fruit of the modern woman's Behavior but rarely do we hear of men that go and deal with the root of the fruit. Why is this fruit hanging from the tree of the modern woman's life?
It's because if you *go back in her history she has been so broken by the men in her life generation after generation that it has now caused the modern woman to evolve into something that was never intended* She has become so masculinized that now the modern man does not even know how to manage her. But gentlemen, the reality is *you’ve produced this* She has been so isolated to her own feelings she does not always know how to even relate to others.
• *Just because a man is six feet tall, 100 kg and is sexually vibrant does not make him a husband. A husband is a grown man of certain character and one of the one of the primary characteristics of a husband is that he's a healer to the soul of his wife* He should be in a position to improve the condition of his woman and not just humiliate her or complain.
• A woman's soul is assaulted on a daily basis from social media to entertainment to music to movies to politics to the news. We're constantly seeing things and hearing things that are designed to degrade, diminish, miniaturize and debilitate a woman's soul.
• Ladies, the reason you've continued to attract men that break you is because there's something that yet has to be healed and adjusted within you. The world has a lot of good men too. A lot of women can testify to that.
• Don’t complain that they are all taken...because when you say there are no great men *that is your trauma venting itself that is not reality* The truth is men are being born and growing up everyday. They are transformed by the power of God every day. Some men that may not even know God just wake up one day and say this is a foolish and stupid way that I'm living, I'm going to become a better man, I need to settle down, I need I need one woman, I need a family.
• You have to really open your spirit if you're going to really be in a position or posture to receive what God has for you. You can't with your mouth say there are no great men and women and then in your heart say God send me a great man or woman.
• If you sit by a pond you may catch some frogs and catfish. What are you fishing for? What are you baiting your hook with and how big is your hook? Will it give you a bit fat SURMAI? Possibly not. Maybe you need to change where you go, what you do and maybe upgrade your equipment and your focus.
• *A man that heals is a giver*
It's always a red flag when you have a man that is constantly trying to get something from you. You know a man that's sliding into your life and constantly trying to get your body, playing adolescent games, not even having a conversation…you need to exit this because he’s a getter and he's a taker. He discovers that you have some measure of success financially or professionally that affords you certain levels of finances and he's trying to talk you into investing in his business.
• *A man that heals is not a taker but he's a giver* He has a certain work ethic. He may not be a six-figure man, he may not be a seven figure man but he's a hard-working guy who holds his own and *he's an honorable man and he has the desire to be able to do for his woman* Grown men give to their wives. GOLD DIGGERS not welcome ok!
• A proper a man always has a heart and a mind to give. When a Man Loves a Woman not only does he open his heart to her he opens his wallet and he opens his life to that woman because a man that would heal a woman is a man that gives and a man that would break a woman is a man that takes. *Finances are just an indication of where the heart is and again it's the least of a good man's offerings but it's the physical indication of where the heart is*
• *There's something that happens when a man gives a woman first because the woman reproduces and multiplies it* If he never empowers his woman, all that God has put in her for him cannot be released to him. *The man in the relationship is the initiator and the woman is the multiplier* So when a man is when a man is stingy and tight with his wife, what he is effectively doing he is preventing himself from multiplying.
1. Listen you give a woman your seed, she produces children in your likeness.
2. You give her some groceries she turns it into a five-course meal
3. You give a woman a house she turns it into a home.
4. You give her your life she turns you into the king that you were always designed to be.
• A woman can never sustain a relational momentum that the man does not initiate first. You can think that you can step in and you're going to make this happen and you're gonna make it if a man does not give you what is necessary but that would be you fooling yourself to believe that you can drive the relationship by yourself as a woman. A woman can only go as far as he is willing to give her. He has to supply her with what is necessary to bring the relationship to where It ultimately is designed to go.
• *The woman is always the reflection of the man and she's the reflection of what he's deposited into the woman* His offerings, into her life!
• A man that heals is going to bring security, he's going to give you time, he's going to give you peace and he's going to be consistent. He brings healing to the areas of you heart that are broken and void and he sees you begin to blossom.
• The lowest form of Attraction is the physical kind. When you find a man that brings you peace where other people have brought you trauma and drama your love for this man is going to be through the roof because the thing you fail to understand is that attraction grows and your sex with that man is going to be on a whole different level.
I will tell you why, it's because when a man can bring calm to your soul he can make love to your mind. When a man can heal your soul he makes love to your mind. That's a whole different dimension that most shallow women never get to experience because they are putting a KING in the friend zone for being two inches shorter, being gentle, not having an accent as good as theirs and not making 80 lacs a year.
• *A King does not judge you* It doesn't matter what you've done or where you've come from or what your history is all about…cause this dude here is bringing heal into your soul. Queens choose men that do not judge but just love them for who they are.
• *He makes you safe enough to unpack your history* So secure that you can talk about all of the stuff you've gone through. Most women are with men that they got to hide their truth from because they know his capacity is not great enough to really manage all that there is.
• *He knows one’s history can never abort one’s destiny* He gives you the ability to believe bigger and to do bigger.
Thank you ♥️
Thank you for listing all these gems from RC Blakes!
There’s a part I below
@christinalobo THANK YOU‼️
Thank you!!!
NEVER tell anyone EVERYTHING about you. That's between you and God.
I believe God will reveal who that man is we could trust with that information because it is necessary with your God given mate for many reasons 😉
@@RealLadi228 Thankyou for that advice. I am coming out of a toxic relationship and I found a great man. I was wondering how open I should be. He wants to get married. I believe you when you say vulnerability is necessary
@@MajorsWife
Be Careful love do not move prematurely if engaged maybe through premarital counseling and if he opens up too...I think we all have some form of trauma and fears from something most importantly wait on God's timing.
God bless you!
@@RealLadi228 ok thank you ♥️
@@MajorsWife XO
Yes, I was talking to a friend about this today. A man should be a salve to the heart of a woman, not a sword. Amen. 🙏🏽
AaaMEN🙏🏾
Am a believer!
You can NOT be a MAN to a girl an adult female body. Some of you girls have mouths worse than swords.
Amen! 🙏🏽
And vice versa
A man that brings a calm to her soul
he suppose to most arent
That's JESUS
That's the first five guys in her life when she was at her best.
If you feel confused in a relationship, he is not the one. 🤍
That's the truth!!!
HIS NOT SISTER.... MOVE ON
It’s funny, I just renamed his contact in my phone to remind me “Not the One.” 😅
No, ma'am, perhaps sometimes confusion in her = he's not the one. However --and have the maturity to hear this for one second, please-- perhaps he COULD be the one for her, but because of innocuous mistakes he's made or because of her own error in brokenness, or a combination of both things, she thinks he is NOT the one for her, but he actually is in God's will.
I've seen relatively godly women "throw away" a good healed man, but she assumed things of him that were actually not true, and thus she was effectively deceived by the Deceiver, and unfortunately often times, she goes on and gets involved with a REALLY bad guy regarding whom she was SURE was the one, but really he was a skillful decoy of the devil. Ironically, the good guy is spared of such a woman and goes on to marry a wonderfully already-healed woman!! In THAT sense, he was NOT the one for her, because she was not ready/healed enough for him. There's much more to be said on this subject.
If he gives off mixed signals next to him.
This man's ministry saved my life. For real. I listened to you RC everyday at lunch walking my 2.7 miles. 50 minutes of RC everyday was my freedom. My mind is clear and I married a great man after I vetted him. Thanks RC for who you are. You are a blessing from God. You have never changed with success as so many other pastors have. Thank you for that. You are stability at its finest. You are a king of kings.
After 2 divorces from toxic men and me healing my inner child, I have a great friend who has shown me what a true man is. Wow. I never knew they existed. Very rare but he brings out the good in me and doesn’t want anything. I am glowing, growing and healing.
Maybe he is the ONE 😊
Amen!
Congratulations!
What a powerful message. I’ve been on my self-love healing journey for about three years after 2 toxic marriages and 7 children. I finally learned how to love myself. Now I help other women heal through my books and UA-cam channel. Thank you.💕
Subscribed 💕💯
I’d love to listen to someone like you, I’m in the same boat. Finally escaped from my narcissist husband, I’m on the final month to end the nightmare and now trying to work on myself and don’t even know where to start. I stumbled on RC and have been listening for the past 2 weeks .
@@charlottekirchner2612 you will make it dear... Fight through it...with God everything is possible
Just subbed! 💫
Channel please
I have met a man who I thought brought me peace and after a few months his true colors comes out. I became anxious and made me feel unstable due to his indecisiveness and past hurt. So when we separated I found my peace and that’s when I knew that Gods wants me to turn around and let go. He’s not the one he wants for me. 😊
Same thing just happened to me
@@tmichele8922 same here! I learned that the real them shows up when your boundaries of self respect are firm. After a while, this faithful church going man told he that he doesn't live his life like that - when he found out my body wasn't up for discussion. Good grief!!
Well ladies I believe God is redirecting and protecting us. Trust God’s process because his ways are better than us. ❤️🙏🏽
@@Kaycee-mr5bb Amen somebody!!!
Same here as of today I've got to go I thought he was a man of God and he was narcissistic.
“It’s the natural inclination of a man to protect womanhood.”
Of a healthy man.
Why did God have to command men to “love” their wives?
A man calms the pain of the past and mends the woman’s souI… and then she begins to blossom…..I felt that one 💜💜💜
You’re the type of man who’s video I will like before watching it because I know what you’re about ❤❤❤
“ a man that heals is not a taker, he’s a giver! “ if a man who is just sitting on his bottom is not a man who heals, he is a son who takes! Sons take from their moms, grown men give to their wives” 👏🏾👏🏾 🙌🏾he ate em up w that one
Yes Queen choose men that heal them and king choose Queen that are heal
Security; Time; Peace; Consistency
You saying all this bishop am already being healed, my abusive narcissist used to call me stupid for the entire five years of marriage, and he would compliment other ladies and when I say you never gave me any compliments he said it is not his thing, it was not his thing in anything intimate that he had to do with me, he was always taking taking taking ! Thank you for this Man of God!
Mine to, but I never forgot who God said I was! I faked it cause I knew I was planning on getting away from him! Been away for two weeks now and I’m never going back! Thank you Jesus!
@@marciaparks807 you will thank God and yourself, God does not delight in abuse, he saw the pain the Israelites went through in Egypt and sent help for them these days he open our eyes to see who we are and he send teachers like Bishop RC Blake's to feed his sheep with knowledge and understanding, you did good choosing to trust God ,he will heal you and bind those wounds just be obedient and choose yourself again and again no matter what the devil says oh remember the good times, you miss him, go back! No choose you, you will heal , God never abandon his own!
@@Amy-ys2od when I get weak, I reflect back onto all the negative, toxic words he spoke and ask myself if I wasn’t more of the same! I pray for all those in his past, current, and future because I realize they my not be as spiritual as I am, but I had to let that go!
@@marciaparks807 yes dear, remember you're fearfully and wonderfully made and remember God blessed Job with more than he had before when he prayed for his friends, sometimes trauma and bad memories may show up but keep your focus on Jesus! It is well!
@@Amy-ys2od Amen!
Good men intentionally use words to heal you!❤
"Her history could never abort her destiny once she knew who she was" POWERFUL!!! You said something right there! Thank you, Forever Grateful to God for your teachings! 💗
A man who is this emotionally mature and loving is so rare but I know that they do exist. Most married women don't even have husbands like this from what I have seen.
It rare to hear someone say this. I always hear women thinking that married women are actually loved with pretty much zero signs of it.
There is so much wisdom here. I've been following you since 2020. When I encountered a narcissist. I am dating again now, thanks to you and your teachings. I have healed my trauma dating. I'm careful dating and collecting data, I am not rushing towards anything. Thank you! ❤
I feel empowered while listening to Bishop Blakes. Millions of women are being healed all around the world.
Sir you teaching on this here youtube.
“When a man loves a woman, not only does he open his heart to her, he opens his life and his wallet” Whew!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
He’s a generous man all around. May I reproduce and multiply what my future King generously gives me.
This is good teaching. Every man does not have the character to be a husband. Nowadays just because he is a male or a father does not make him a husband.
Men need to be taught those character traits or have them before they become husbands. This just brought so much wisdom to my life. A wife and husband are a reflection of each other.
I like this "a son takes from his mom, grown men give to their wives."
Thank you for being the dad a lot of us do not have. I appreciate this I have my dad today but he cannot and never has a conversation like this with any of his girls and he had nine of them. My dad always told us to repent and not be around bad people. Nothing else. He did nothing didn’t help me when my husband left me almost a year ago. All of my family pretty much fell off. So now I’m healing from loss of a child, a marriage, and essentially a family. I am growing stronger each day and I thank god for being with me daily!
Thanks for helping me navigate in this world.
You're strong. God has your back love.
@@ApôtreLouiseLaStar thank you
You are very strong. Sending you healing love.
Yes I believe this is spiritually and theologically correct, that a husband honours his wife by protecting and respecting her. When a wife sees that her husband is willing to sacrifice himself for her and the family and he uses his Gof given authority never for personal gain so to speak nor to harm but only for the good of his family she then will submit happily because she knows she is loved and understood and her husband respects Gods will.
Yes, submission is trust🙏🏻
Pastor your words are so soothing to us. I am not religious but I am spiritual and I see the union between feminine and masculine as something sacred. And it is wonderful whenever I hear someone speaking in a way that honors this truth. The world needs nothing more than sacred unions where the man honors the woman and provides a safe space for her in the relationship so her femininity can blossom. Yesterday I was performing. I am a singer. I saw a beautiful couple sitting next to each other. As my tears started running I had to take a break. I talked to them and told them the truth about how emotional they made me feel. I told them how the woman's light was shining and how much that tells about what a great man he is. At this moment he looked at her with such a humble smile saying : "She's a true light". I asked them if love has always been so easy for them. He said "yes because she's been my one and only" and she said "No I had only failed relationships before him and I am blessed I found him". I told them how much harmony they exude together and the woman asked if she could hug me. And it felt like an angel's embrace. God bless their union. I am greatful that they showed me that it exists. The man was the archetype of the tall and handsome guy, the woman was what we call average with no make up and a simple style. But she was beautiful. I could see in her what he sees in her. A true light.
This is beautiful
Beautiful song singer. This will be your story too. You're a light as well 🌹
This is love at is greatest level 💯
This man was ordained by God yall. He's helped me love MYSELF. Yes he's the father who never told me and the mother who didn't know. Pastor please keep up the good work and thank you. 😊
Absolutely
Say it again. I love me, and God uses Pastor RC to bring so much healing in area's of my life. ❤😊
Unfortunately we are in a generation of disrespect and narcissism.
Sir, you have been healing my heart and soul. Thank you for listening to the small whispers of God to provide these messages ❤
This uplifted my spirit. I live in the DC area, and y'all, I am soooo tired of angry men riding my car bumper as I drive, blowing their horns at me, and trying to block me from merging onto the highway. I just pray and trust God, but honestly, by the time I get to work or my destination, I feel frustrated and exhausted. I discern the spirits of too many of today's men as mean, and, as my late grandma would say, just "plain low-down." I will only accept a great man who heals.
The reflection of a good man reflects from the woman he has cared for whom he has helped heal from her brokenness for whom he has provided for and also for her to become the queen she is through the king he is....
I love a man who realizes that it’s his ASSIGNMENT to care for women, not to ask of or take….come healed so that you CAN heal! ❤
@@LA-wv7gf correct. As I listened to this video , I felt a calm come over my spirit when I imagined having a man who was a healer . As Pastor Blakes described such a man, I became excited about meeting this kind of man one day. May God bless us all with such a great husband.
Contrary to modern day clowns who ask about what you bring to their table
A husband is a healer not a breaker of your spirit ans soul and self worth
Thank you for this. When the student is ready, the teacher will appear🙏🏾
Amen
Is there really men out there that can love a women like that. All I ever known is takers. From my stepfather to the two husband's I've had. Thank u for the hope I feel in a loving giving man.
Wow. Just WOW
Your wisdom here is like GOLD.
Thank you 🙏🏻
You are INDEED Called to speak to Women who were once or is coming out of being broken! I AM SO THANKFUL for your teachings--BLESS you & your family Bishop RC Blakes!!! 💐💐💐👑 👑 👑
I’m abandoned and alone. His mother is enmeshed with him and she won. I didn’t let go early on when all the red flags and abuse were there. I am talking to a therapist and listening to your shows. You may not know but these are helping me learn and understand I need to fix me. I am very grateful. I have to look in make changes and stop replaying the trauma of abandonment.
Uncle thank you for this message, it spoke to my heart … I know I’m just comfortable being by myself as the Clowns 🤡 have made me an introvert at times. I know Great Men are out there and I will receive Him when God creates that space in time that we can love each other as Christ loved us.. with our flaws, our insecurities and our trauma… this message was just powerful and appreciated ❤
Peace, security, protection, and consistency. A must for me.
THANK YOU, BROTHER, for the valuable knowledge and encouragement.
Anybody else enjoys the song at the beginning?😀
Where can I find the full version?
Thank you in advance
Same ---love that song. Song name--She by Dave Holister
Yes I did as well love the song
Anyone notice it cut off at the end and he didn’t finish his talk?
A, healthy relationship is a naturally happy and successful relationship. Friendship, is vital to a healthy relationship I've learned because a reason communicate is that important. Yes, I believe in love at first sight but Holy Spirit must confirm this.
This was my problem in the connection I was last spending time on. As much as I felt he was caring, attentive, affectionate, and a calming presence....I couldn't reconcile it with any confirmation from The Holy Spirit.
He isn't a believer, and there were some issues about his past that took away from my feeling secure.
We lost touch during 2021 covid Era, and we weren't able re-establish the connection as it previously was.
Although I miss the comfort he did provide, I pray for his happiness and peace in his own life, and that for the sake of his own afterlife, he might find his way to Christ in his lifetime.
You're intelligent where did you get this kind wisdom, you present women in highly way I can't explain
This kind of wisdom is from the Holy Spirit.
I hate that it shut off suddenly, but this was such a therapeutic message. YES!!!!
This is a word! My husband came into my life in divine timing, when I was READY for him to help me heal. It's been a journey and I'm so grateful that I was ready for healing and FINDING my PEACE. Thank you for sharing.
Sons takes from their moms but grown men gives to their wives. Love that.
I believe RC Blakes may have prayed the prayer that Solomon prayed...Cause when he opens his mouth wisdom flows...I have been continuously blessed by ur Ministry...May God continue to strengthen u & ur family 🙏
“i’ll like to believe that my wife is a reflection of my offerings into her life “
POWERFUL 🌹
🙏🏾amen. This is for me. After leaving my abusive, violent sadistic, narcissist , I'm still in therapy, Ptsd. He tried to kill me a few times and came close once. I am legit trying to heal inside & out, mentally & spiritually. I've stumbled onto these videos for a reason. This has confirmed some things I knew & helped me so much in my long journey ahead. I'm rebuilding my life in every way, and these tools are critical to break the cycle of trauma & abuse that's been repeating in my relationship .
"His body parts are what's there..."this is spot on Pastor. Good men exists. Once God has blessed you with one, cherish him ladies.
So true. Thank you a lot. You are good man.
Why, WHY all this compulsion to stop Bishop @RC Blakes??? You're NEVER taking too long. EVERYTHING God inspires you to say is so necessary! My life and my perspective about my own self had a complete switch thanks to what He's doing in me through YOUR messages! If it's longer than the time we have to listen to a particular video, WE JUST PICK UP WHERE WE LEFT OFF...! Mate, THIS IS THAT GOOD, ETERNAL-VALUE STUFF!!!!
YESSSSSSSSS! I Absolutely LOVE this intro song 🎶 and melody!!!! in its full entirety! so soothing, healing and soft!!!
You’re right about type, the type that I thought I wanted ended up completely different. It’s not about looks or what they have!
I'm.wondering if it's possible to have that song on you tube. I just love it ❤
I THINK IT COULD. BECOME A NUMBER 1 SELLER AHA
Yes! A husband is the healer to the soul of his wife ❤ not cause trauma or a trauma bond. R.C Blake’s is the absolute best in my lifetime!
Hello all!! I’m here on time ready to soak up all the knowledge about to be poured onto us!
Same ❤
Absolutely amazing, thank you so very much
He supports her peace! Truth!
A man that heals brings peace to a woman's soul and calm to all her peace 😊
U know that feeling when u know that God bless you many times over..
Many of us became Queens thanks to R.C
Am very greatful for all the teachings and the man of God that is truly my soulmate.
I am truly happy women and it's a wonderful feeling when u haven't settled down and waited for God, waited for the best
Thank you sooo much . Have been broken wasn’t really aware I was broken until I came across your videos on UA-cam! You have given me an eye opener on why I was choosing the same men over and over. It all stemmed from daddy daughter issues!! Thank you from the bottom of my heart. May God continue to bless your ministry !!
I love this sermon but i want to hear the other three things! Rc Blakes… where can we find the rest of the sermon???
Oh MAN, I’ve been watching your sermons for a year and JUST discovered your church is practically walking distance from me. See ya Sunday!!
The feeling is awful , but the lesson is learned.. I thought I met a great guy then within a month, here come the flags, and I had to exit stage left.. I like that real talk Kim said, “ forgive them, release them, and bless them.. then move on”
R.C. Blakes Jr., I adore your passion and commitment to inspire and support healing between the genders. You are the Fatherly advice that many women have never had.
Thank You.
I been listening to you for quiet sometime. And I want to Thank you for using your platform for gods glory. To be a blessings/healing to women from all walks of life. God bless you.
Thank you. 😊🙏🏽♥️
Good evening, stopped by for some words of wisdom and spiritual food.
just what i needed this morning!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! thank you
the song yooooh i love it, she is a queen.
Who gave you the right to be giving substantial knowledge like this!!!!! AMAZING
You are so correct!! I’ve ran into many of them that think of the woman as being lower them. Saying older women are worthless and a high value man only wants younger women, etc. it amazes me how they think of us. You have to think more of yourself not to feed into that foolishness! Thank you for your talks! They are empowering and you’ve really helped me to think more of myself!
I’m good in my single life and I’m thoroughly enjoying and content within. It’s so hard out here trying to meet someone, but all things are possible with God!!
This is a GOLD MINE of wisdom! ‘When he opens up his heart he opens up his wallet’! Peach it brother R.C.!
Pastor, we are thankful for you and your teachings
Never too long! I and I am sure others appreciate all you share. Such a gift… thank you.
Beautiful makes me think of my Dad on how when my Mother transitioned he told my cousin that my Mother was his Life. Not only did he give to his wife freely he gave to his daughters. May my parents RIH and RIP 🙏
Beautiful
This should be taught about, where ever the men and women are gathering, no age limits necessary!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
So true this word, I watched my mother and father give so much in their lives, and today I see myself today giving my all. Ladies please this is SO TRUE, and peace is so important with us as men.
I just want to say that a few minutes ago I fell asleep listening to a short devotional message on UA-cam by someone else. While I slept the other video ended and your video started playing. I could hear this message in my subconscious mind. As I was listening to this message while dreaming, in my dream there were what appeared to be various women heckling you as were speaking. They were saying things like "Why are you listening to that man?", "What he is saying is silly!", "He is a joke!", etc. So I told those demons who were masquerading themselves as women in my dream, that you were saying the right thing, and that you were trying to help women love themselves, things of that nature. I'm telling you Sir, you got the demonic kingdom riled up! HALLELU YAH!! Keep up the great work!
This is good!
I could hardly take it!!! I am exploding inside! This is healing❤
I know you're Right 👍
Thank you. I had decided to change my way of attracting men a while back. Loving myself, respecting, myself, acknowledging I'm worth more than these men perceive me to be worth. I want me a husband that allows God to guide him so he knows how to be the husband I need to lead
Good evening. This going to good tonight always
Wow! This message was amazing. And just for me. Ive been with my husband for 15 years and just hearing this made me realize I should have never had conversations with him. I met him a single mother and he asked me for something. And I brought it because im a giver. And guess what. He is vey selfish and a taker 😢 spends a lot of time online gambling. While I just sit around. I really need to let this go. 🙏 Thank you for sharing and dropping these gems on me.
Lord, I surrender it all. Thank. You Bishop Blakes.
You brought me to tears with this message. Truly reaffirmed what God has spoken over me and many other women. THANK YOU! "When a man can bring calm to your soul then He can make love to your mind" Romans 12;2 Do not be conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of GOD.
Amen
That intro song is giving what it needs to GIVE💕.
Was anyone gracious enough to provide minutes for this session? 🥶 woooah! This message hit home for me. Thank you pastor Blake’s May god continue to bless you, your family and ministry.
"When a man can bring calm to your soul
he makes love to your mind." - Wow
Ephesians 5:25-28 (The Message version) I have NEVER heard it this way or truly understood it until NOW. And I've been in church since birth! Thank you for expounding the word of God.