Embrace the Revolution by Changing Your Life: Debunking the Inborn Talent Myth
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- Опубліковано 8 вер 2024
- Don't be suckered by the inborn talent myth! Using control mastery theory, this series of videos gives you everything you need to know about your psychological makeup to direct the course of your life. You will learn that Stone Age genes continue to operate within you even though your life today differs greatly from those of ancient hunter-gatherers. These ancient genes tug at you constantly, creating obstructive emotions, feelings, attitudes, and mindsets that often lead you astray. The point of the videos is to give you an almost out-of-body perspective that will alert you as to what is going on whenever Stone Age programming tries to take over. Armed with this perspective, you will be able to make the life choices that enable you to meet your goals even when Stone Age programming tries to interfere.
@VicComello
I found your channel through In Treatment videos and was excited to see a new post. As a chronic quitter, I identified with a lot of what you discussed in the video. Fortunately I’ve persisted through a few major milestones in life, but the idea of being able to pick something up immediately is so ingrained in today’s thought that your points never even crossed my mind. Thank you for the video, and I look forward to more of your content.
Thanks for your comment. Unfortunately, most people can't persist long enough even to watch the video to its end. The next video will be more like a TED talk in length.
My brothers and myself were never supported by our parents growing up. We weren’t even made to do homework. If my parents asked about what homework we had to do, we’d all say none and they’d believe us. We were told from a young age that we didn’t need college or any dream jobs, all we needed was to get a job. ANY JOB. Whenever we tell our parents that we didn’t want to do that, they’d roll their eyes and get angry. I’m 36 now and they still don’t support us. However, I do believe the way they raised us backfired because I still live at home and have no job. I have “mental health” issues, no friends, no nothing. I have been trying to change this but it is extremely hard. Any tips or ideas for people who have parents that don’t support them at all
I had parents like that, too. The thing to do is focus less on the past and more on the future. What kind of future do YOU want? If you can’t imagine what new directions might make your life better but are very dissatisfied with your life now, realize that your dissatisfaction is your heroic summons, your blissful vision of what life can be that has been covered over by scar tissue. You are a wounded warrior who was sent into the battle of life from childhood on with inadequate training, riddled defenses, the wrong roadmap, and few, if any, people on your side. If you can't settle on a long-term goal, you jumped into a foxhole that was too deep and you need to work your way out. The way to do that is focus on now. What do you love doing now? The anthropologist Joseph Campbell used to advise people to "follow your bliss." He meant a person should dedicate himself to what he truly loves to do with no thought of the future or a career. Your bliss is your lifeline out of the foxhole. After you are out, long-range goals will appear on the horizon. They will seem impossible to achieve, but realize that that feeling is merely the pathogenic belief that voices your bad past; it says nothing about the possibilities that are open to you. Moving forward will involve developing an out-of-body perspective that will hold fast to the truth of the last sentence and persevere. The thing to do is act as if you were who you want to be until you are. That day will come, but it will be a long road.
@@VicComello I don’t know what future I want 😩 I have been diagnosed with a personality disorder so it’s extremely hard for me to be around people. If I’m around them too long, I get argumentative. I am so confused because I don’t have any friends so it’s hard to imagine a future. I don’t do much. Go to the shops and then go home. That’s all I do
Impatience is your worst enemy. Your reactions to your past are normal. It would also be normal for progress were to take time. If you were to read the book Young Man Luther, by Erik Erikson, you would learn that there are two kinds of people: once-born people who easily fit in and twice-born people who need a kind of rebirth. Your rejection of the get any job solution would indicate that you are a twice-born person. Among the twice-born people Erikson discusses are Martin Luther, Sigmund Freud, and Charles Darwin. For all of them, an incubation process was needed before they found their true paths. I suggest you look at another of my videos entitled How to Make Your Dreams Come True. It focuses on Rudy, the guy who wanted to play football at Notre Dame. The real Rudy was a twice-born person. He is pictured as always knowing what he wanted to do in life, but playing football at Notre Dame is not a life goal. He had no idea what he wanted to do in life. As he explains in the video, playing football was a strategy. He figured that if he could do something as impossible as this, then the sky was the limit whenever he figured out what he wanted to do. When he left Notre Dame, he confronted the fact that he had no idea what he wanted to do, so he marked time. He sold car insurance at a car dealership and started up an office cleaning business. As a hobby, he gave inspirational talks about how his never-give-up attitude led him to achieving his goal of playing football if only for 17 seconds. He never thought of making a profession of that until someone suggested that he do so. At that point, the idea came to him that someone should make a movie about his quest to go to Notre Dame. He was a guy with no movie connections and no idea of how to interest people in the project. At first, no one did want to have anything to do with the movie; even Notre Dame had a rule forbidding making movies on campus. But he learned from his mistakes and persisted, and eventually the movie was made.
@@VicComello ok thanks for the reply, really appreciated. Is that a complex book?
It is written in Freudian jargon and therefore is a hard read, generally. The parts on twice-born people is very clear, but that represents only a small portion of the book. I tried to find a website that does a better job, but apparently "twice-born" has a different meaning that occupies most websites. I forgot to ask whether you are living at home. If so, and if you are of age, it would be good to get a job that would pay enough for you to leave home. When I used to come home from college for visits, I found that just being home caused me to lose my self-confidence. It wasn't anything my parents did. They didn't try to put me down; the visits were perfectly cordial. But simply being at home was enough to awaken old memories that impacted my self-confidence.
Are there going to be other videos soon?? This is so great!!!
Yes, thanks. In a few weeks.
It has been proven that talent does exist, and is inborn to a significant extent. It has been shown that effort or training cannot make anybody become good at something, even with intense motivation/drive.
I believe talent is underrated....
Talent is real. Its inherited😃
Inborn talent is not a myth.