you wont be ever 'ready'. how can you be ready to the 'unknown'? one of my friend had the same 'be ready' type of thinking and he said now he is ready to have a child. guess what? first try - twins. and it got even better cuz one of them is boy and the other is girl so at one point they need separate rooms and they live now only in a house with 2 total rooms.
@@farkasabel you can be ready by having a stable job, being wise with money, savings, and having a family oriented mentality. Better to be prepared rather than having no backup or plans at all.
I think Asian Boss needs to interview people in their 60s and 70s to find if people were glad they got married or not. If they they were happy with their decision and what their quality of life is like. I think it will give young people a greater perspective.
its not so simple. some older people who regret wont admit they regret not getting married/having kids on camera. plus some might rationalise their regret and be in selfdenial that they regret it etc.
@@aninani8294 i agree it sounds counterintuitive. but im sure a simple google search will allow you to see that in this complex world there are many grey areas, outlier cases, and paradoxical conclusions. the majority of people prob wont regret it if theyve stayed that long in a marriage. but its not difficult to see why in some cultures, countries, circumstances, it would not be the case. it seems like you need to think a little bit beyond your own bubble/country/circumstances. the world is more complicated than what your assumptions seem to imply.
i think a lot of people don't get married because of the financial responsibility and lack of job security in south korea, so if this were the case, someone at the end of their life and career would show that this newer phenomenon doesn't apply to them so it's not really the same conditions...
@Mädi ok but what if the love of your life died and you have to marry someone else.? Or maybe.. what if a person was raped? They should remain unmarried?
@Mädi we're not marrying for the society or for the gods. We marry because we want a person to accompany us in every aspect of our life. You should marry because YOU want to.
When you'll graduate? When you'll work? When you'll get married? When you'll have a baby? Where/when your child enter the university? Where they work now? When they get married? When they gonna have a baby? When you gonna DIE?! Geez 😒
Everywhere and every time, fun thing is that "family" members are over their relatives asking if they have succeeded or not but not for love and support but for their egis 🤨🤷😒
i think it is because men have more loose age restriction in marriage than women. Men could have children as long as they are able, woman is more of like a ticking bomb.
The "ideal age" is increasing with each generation as people focus more on their work and ambitions. There will be a time when people won't look down upon someone who isn't married as it more and more becomes the norm to choose career over marriage.
That is true. When you look at the past many people get married very early like 18-25 and the divorce rate was not so high but nowadays many people get married like 28-35 but the divorce rate is much higher than before.
In india Mostly people are pressurised. As they are told to get married within the age of 27 (for boys) Our own parents are pessimistic towards us. Which is a sadness. So within that age,We have to get settled with good salary and has to own apartment. These sort of things are mandatory for our parents. Smh Not for all, But it's a majority.
@@alienxthemostpowerfulficti2888 exactly bro. I am already 29,And my own parents are just comparing me with others.For instance:- They are like look at your friend, they are already settled with a good job and you're still behind them. You're an oldy now. So much pressurized. Hard to live in india, If you don't have an open minded parents.
@@alienxthemostpowerfulficti2888 lol thats why india has over 1 billion people. If they continue like this they have to settle down the population increasing.
These days, there are many people who want to live alone in Korea, and the age of getting married is increasing a little. I think it's because there's a lot of social and financial responsibilities to get married
> lot of social and financial responsibilities to get married There's a lot of financial responsibilities for everyone, single or attached. The world is getting a lot more expensive to live in.
@@arvinsim there's a lot of financial and social responsibilities either way, but marriage, or more importantly, having kids, really add a whole new layer of social and financial responsibilities.
Exactly. Marriage doesn't guarantee anything. Not happiness, nor everlasting love. If you want to marry you should find someone who treats you well, has your back, is your best friend and lover. 🍀
yes, THIS!!! exactly this!! marry if they really give u more happiness more than what u get when u alone, many people that marriage actually end up more sad and not happy
Just from what I’ve seen so far “Late 20s or early 30s” it’s pretty similar to american average age I’m guessing. Except for maybe social pressure on getting married
I would say that is about the expected age in Europe too though I know a lot of people who get married earlier cause of love and the financial stapability that being married provides. The Korean exchange student is somewhere in her 20s and she is married
There's pressure in the USA, too. It's just quietly within families. I had an older cousin who asked when I was going to get married. I said I had no plans and she said, "What? You want to become a nun or something?" The pressure is rea right now that I'm 29.
I had a lot of long term relationships before I got married at 37. My wife is 5 years younger than me and before I met her I had to really hustle to find the right one to settle down with. I didn't have a lot of pressure from my parents but I created my own self imposed pressure because I knew 40 was around the corner. Had I not been pro active I would not have met my wife. Within our first year of marriage we had our 1st son and second son 2 years later. We are approaching our 5 year anniversary and it's been an incredible journey. It's a real challenge to raise a family, so I do respect that it's not for everyone because it's probably the hardest endeavor I have ever experienced. When I was a bachelor living my life, I was always about my own interests and pursuits...the last 5 years has been about giving my all for my sons and my wife in a 180 flip from my old self centered self.
May i ask why did you get married? I mean you have said because there was no pressure from your family side so you imposed pressure on yourself ... why?!! What are the motivations to get married
jeff jeff some people want kids and past a certain age you are no longer able to have kids. For women, past 35 is the danger zone for having children since there can be a lot of complications and health issues. For men, past 40 is when they will struggle to find a younger woman who is still able to have children, unless he is rich or exceptionally handsome
@@jeffjeff5719 I wanted a family and I have an older brother and sister who were married and have kids. I am Asian, so perhaps I did have some pressure to get married, but I'm the youngest in my family so there were already 5 grand kids. My father knew my wife when we were dating before he died. I was his principal care giver and she helped me tremendously during this time when my dad became sick. Before he lost his ability to speak he told me to not let my then girlfriend get away, to ask her hand in marriage. I was too concerned with his care to think about marriage etc but after he died I went through a very difficult period of grief and sadness since I was very close to my dad. My mom had been battling cancer and I wanted my mom to at least see her youngest child get married. I married my wife 18 months after my dad passed and we rushed to have our first baby so that my mom could have the chance to see our son. She continues to battle cancer but she's been able to see both of my sons to much of her delight. Regarding the age milestones of a woman, yep I did think about those things as a lot of people do, I.e. a woman after 35 is at more risk when giving birth etc. I met my wife when she was 28 and I was 34 and we dated for 4 years before getting married when I was 37. She never pressured me to propose but she was definitely feeling the biological clock ticking. She is mixed Asian (Japanese / Filipina) and I proposed in front of her parents with their blessing over a pancake breakfast at their house. They didn't pressure me either but were wondering what were my long term goals with marriage and family etc. I try to not have an opinion about when one should have kids etc, but my wife had very complicated pregnancies and if she was older, who knows what the outcome would have been. I have said raising a family has been my biggest accomplishment and challenge, mostly because I have been a stay at home dad since the beginning while working nights at home. My wife quit her job in June to be home with the kids, so it's been really great spending a lot of time with her and our two kids. My older sister lost her husband 2 years ago to cancer so I try to really cherish each day with my own family and while my elderly mom is still here with us. I really do believe, to each their own, but if you want to have kids and start a family...then sometimes a little pressure from family and society is just the right push into fulfilling that desire.
@@BWT599 thank you for your response... it's really very nice of you to tell your experience and it's important to me to hear what is marraige from older man perspective ... for me tbh i have 0 motivation to marry actually i have witnessed very bad experiences of marriage ...it reached to the point that i believe marraige is irrational and very bad investment... so i was asking about other people experiences and what motivate them to get marriage especially men... since you're are asian i think culture law and society are very different ... and from your story what motivated you mean nothing here ... thanks for sharing your story and good luck to you guys very nice people and culture
Why do I have the feeling that people only get married because the pressure of the society not for the love? And also in many countries there is such a high divorce rate like 40-50%. Marriage nowadays doesnt have a meaning anymore.
Toni Klische in a lot of cultures some are starting to be more relaxed about marriage. In my dad’s culture they typically pressured young women to marry early, but now a days because of the divorce rate, they accept that not everyone is suitable For married life.
Marrige does have meaning. It's the misapplied preassure that is wrong , i love being married, im in love with my husband, marriage life is awesome. Love Rocks!❤💎🥰
@@inchw0rm Meh. Generally, you say umbrella when protecting yourself from the rain and parasol when protecting yourself from the sun. A lot of people here have never heard of parasols and their common use in Asia compared to the West and probably think the lady is weird for protecting herself from the rain when there is none.
"Gold Miss" is a lot better sounding than Japan's "Christmas cake" or China's "leftover woman." Don't expect the answers to be any different in China btw.
It's much worse in China. It's native size, censorship, and classically unadventurous attitudes means they're more insulated from social trends happening worldwide. There mid-20s is definitely considered late for women, where in Korea older folks are a bit more resigned to the growing age of first nuptials because of the less straightforward economic path obvious for all of today's youth.
The ideal age is whenever they meet their life partner and they want to take it to the next level. These absurd "ideals" should be dumped. Additionally, there's nothing wrong in being single. We all have one life and we should have the right to live it the way we want.
Well if a person don't want to get married and so be it not everyone wants to get married it's a matter of personal preference and we have to respect that!
@다이아나 다이아나 if a couple is in a relationship for such a long time and man don't want to get married that's a reg flag maybe the guy don't see the girl as the woman he wants to marry just a gf or live in partner but not wife she's not just that woman whom he wanted to marry! Cos if a guy is decided to make a girl he's wife no ifs or buts he will marry that woman in a heart beat imao
@다이아나 다이아나 nope not manipulative u mean desperate to hang or cling on to something that have no security or assurance woman got instinct they know that their man won't marry them but they just play dumb and in denial about it and that's the bad part when they choose to be the dumb one lol What is MGTOw It's harder to find a man when the man that u like is liking another man lol that's the thing lol
Ok, but if you want to live as an individual and have no connections, then no one should be forced to help you. The same people that push these ideas demand government help. You have people with guns force others to help you instead of making honest relationships.
It's just one of the reasons women doesn't get marry/marry early these days. As a Korean women i think biggest reason Korean women doesn't marry is financial problem. People need money to get marry and raise the child. And our generation need more money to do that than older generation need. But it's hard to get a job and it's still getting hard to buy house in city. And most important reason that women doesn't get marry is most normal Korean women lose there job after they getting married and even if they didn't get fired after getting married they lose there job after they got pregnant, after they gave birth to child. It's hard to tell more specific
Yeah Korea is very patriarchal. There are no laws to protect women who want to give birth hence the low birth rate. And to think of depending on the husbands? What if he cheats on you or emotionally abuse you? You are stuck because you have no job/money!
You spend your life working. Getting married doesn’t mean you can stop working for most women. Now they have the added work of being a mother. Bills increase and so does stress
I am 26, I have absolutely no plans for marriage and I don't feel any pressure. I just live happily and don’t worry about such things. And I don't see anything terrible in staying single and honestly I don’t think that I’ll meet someone I want to be with :) But to all who dream of finding their love, I sincerely wish it! 🌠
@Priyanka Gupta welcome! Wellz love will find it's way always lol My grandma lived in the monastery but my grandpa noticed her lol So ya love will find you hahaha
@@zenj-g2z after christmas, no one wants christmas cake because the 'main event' is already over - after women are 25, no one wants them anymore because their 'peak years' are over.
Bet they will be proud and envy, as women have it easier nowadays compared to them. Back then, our grandmothers can't even dare to divorce their husband because they can't do anything when they are alone. They are limited to schools, the society force them to be "life long servant" for her family. My grandmothers and her 4 sisters all say the same.
I thought I’d be married by 30. After a few failed relationships I decided to take a break from dating. I just turned 40 though. Just view life as a journey and enjoy each moment. If it was meant to be it will happen.
I feel like korean society is gonna be really interesting in the future, because old peoples opinions on many things are so different than young peoples opinions. So when the older generations fade away, there‘s gonna be a huge change.
@@desertmoonlee6631 unmarried parents or not living under the same roof doesn't mean that the children are broken... As long as their parents love them and take their responsibilities it works.
My mom didn't necessarily want me to get married, she said you don't need a man to be happy. The day of my wedding my mom said "we can call all this off". My Mom is the best.
Actually many ladies nowadays done want to marry because there is a pressure to take care of a man after marriage and do all his chores… but then they realize what’s the need , instead they can be alone and take care of themselves when they have money. This will change only when roles of the gender are not defined and men also start out helping in the household chores
Jaded Gypsy in generally yes...u should be married by age 33...after is hard for man to find woman...its common that man around age 40 cant find wife so they use servis of international marriage especially from Vietnam
Daniela Sanabria yeah...i visited international school and majority of international wives where from Vietnam...like in small town (not seoul or busan) in korea i was so suprised...
Jaded Gypsy Yes AND they are pressured to have a good career and well paying job AFTER also doing two years of mandatory military service. Funny how Asian Boss conveniently leaves that out and only act like Korean women are the victims here.
When you're South Asian as soon as you graduate from university, have a stable job or are at around 24 years old they start asking you when you're gonna get married lol edit: wow ty for the likes haha
I noticed that getting married did not change much between my wife and I. However, the way others perceive us is much different. We got married during the last stretches of our time at university at age 26 and that was definitely considered young to be married in Germany. I grew to appreciate the effect of being married has on others around me. We've been married for five years now and I wouldn't want it any other way and I know neither does my wife.
@@Nimbereth I disagree. I'd rather take my time to find for a partner that I'd like to spend my life with. And what's the point of rushing it? Why shouldn't you spend your 20s finding what's right for you, having fun and building your career? I don't really see the downside.
If there is no love in the first place,and financial stability plus mentally ready!...There is no point in getting married for just the sake of society!
The fact that women have to choose between successful career/job (there is a difference) and family but men don't is...heartbreaking... Society, why the dilemma?
The perfect time to get married? When I meet a man who is okay with childless marriage because I don't want to have kids. Until then, I'm perfectly okay living with my cat and dogs in my comfortable house
@@taketheblackpillneo3940 Well you can say that most women nowadays have egoistic, unrealistic expectations towards marriage and men in general. No wonder in the old times religious societies limit the rights of the women because they know it will do harm to the birth rates of the world:). God bless you my friend.
@@buddy8084 & @Jesus is God Deal with it bro, it's 2019 women can do what the f they want. You have no idea how entertaining it is for me to see people getting salty over my own damn business for choosing not to have kids. Happens all the time, always entertaining.
Mate, there is a reason why across ALL cultures there is a massive pressure on women give birth early. Keep revolt against nature and you will suffer. Look up how many older women trying to get babies but can’t, it is just sad. Women are fertile from around up to 35. After that, having babies will become increasingly harder and don’t forget genetic issues that come with giving birth older too.
@@CTcCaster Shut up omg you wrote the same dumb comment somewhere else too. Let women do whatever they want with their lives and bodies, they aren't just walking vaginas existing to give birth to babies. Plenty of women don't even want babies. Why so pressed about what a stranger decides to do with her life? Lol. And men have the same problem too! Do you even know this?? Men's sperm quality decreases at age 35, it's not just women who have to worry about their ticking reproductive clock. Men's sperm quality deteriorates after the age of 35 and it becomes increasingly harder to get a woman pregnant, moreover your increasingly rotten sperm will cause a much higher risk of miscarriage and fetal death. So stop going around talking as if it's only our problem 😂 The reason why there is a massive pressure on women compared to men it's the usual reason, misogyny and discrimination.
Always You Also he seems to imply that the only way to have children is to get married 🤣 That's not even what the video is about but men feel the need to put their 2 cents in about how women should live their lives at every opportunity.
@@Midna.K Saying the pressure to have children is unequal because of "misogyny" is an oversimplification in my opinion. Marriage maybe boiled down to that, but not childbirth. The investment and risks for men and women in childbirth just isn't the same. For example, there are literally no health risks TO an older man who's trying to get someone pregnant. And since pregnancy is ultimately a woman's decision, it makes no sense to try pressure a man to have children by a certain time... That being said I think information is better than pressure, as long as people are aware of their peak fertility window earlier on, it's on them to make the decision if and when, and for society to accept it. But until workplaces worldwide establish flexible work conditions for parents IMO it's too soon to say it's largely a decision being made on their own accord or simply a life choice based on limited options. For example, i'd imagine a lot of women who actually want children are forced to choose between children and a career due to inflexible work conditions.
I can understand why the no of unmarried women in korea is increasing. 1) a woman mostly is made to choose btw her career or marriage/family which makes no sense as the norm in korea is to go to university so why should she be made to give up on something she worked hard for 2) Married women who work are often looked down on as people comment that she is not taking care of her family properly. 3) companies tend to want to replace women when they get pregnant cos they cant accommodate maternal leave. 4) it is hard to find a good stable job that pays the bills and leaves extra for you and having children is expensive af especially in korea so most want to be at least financially stable before marrying. 5) might not be a huge factor but not everyone wants to deal with mother-in-laws.
I want to be a Gold Miss too...not in Korea but in India...in reality my parents never let me to do that..marrying a stranger and pretending to be happy is the most of the Indian women's life even at this 21st century😢
LOVE your videos Asian Boss..been here..been subscribed since almost your beginning on UA-cam and I STILL love seeing a notification that I have a new vendor from Asian boss!thank u for all the hard work and the subject matters you guys continue doing for us!
I’m happy that I’ll never be pressured about that. My parents are 51 & 52 and never married but are still together after 30 years, they just never really felt like they had to do it 😊
Well...i'm a 24 years old romanian girl...and everyone around me pressures me about getting married. I'm already considered too old for marriage..🙄 most friends of mine got married after they finished high school, so around 19. So it's not only in asia, it's also in Europe . I'm glad i could finish a good education and started working and making my own money. Bought a good car and I am pretty independent and that scares the young men around me, i've been told. I'm supposed to shut up and never tell or show my car or how much salary i make because that makes the men back off. A lot of men here work in construction or such and make less money than me. I don't know wat they are afraid of tho...i don't need a man with money, house or cars , although that would be nice too. I just need a loving man who is capable. But everyone around me pressures me to marry🤷♀️
@@coolzredz i know that very well. i just said that it still exists in 2019 in europe as well. i'm living in austria since i was born and here the austrian people marry around the age of 30
sandra4408 sorry it's the way you said it first made it sound like Europe was still like the way it was in the past and as we know today most of Europe is very free and we can do what we want know one cares anymore.hello from Ireland ☘🙂
@@coolzredz that's true :) it's very free here in austria too...but i have to say countries more to the east like romania, bulgaria, russia and so on are not that open to this kind of open and free lifestyle yet. and my family and friends are very conservative and although i live in austria they still believe that people have to marry early and have kids as long as they are young. Not that i'm complaining because i want to marry too but i couldn't find the right one yet and they just want me to marry very soon because i'm ''old'' :)) lol..won't work like that for me
This video is so relatable. In every culture, there is just so much pressure on women needing to be someone or something at a certain age, at a certain point of their life. All being pushed to conform as to how society wants us to be. For some, it’s not just getting married, it’s also having kids and when we should start. Why do people think it’s ok for them to ask as to when will a couple or a person have kids over and over again. I understand it if someone asks once but too continuously pry. I don’t get it. It’s insulting and condescending in away when people think that they can ask you questions like that as if it’s such an easy life decision. Ugh! Anyways, Thank you Asian boss for another enlightening and somewhat infuriating video. Lol. Can you also do one video on people’s perspective about single people and married couples who does not want children? Im curious as to how different cultures see this ”phenomenon” as. Thanks again☺️👏🏻🙌🏻
I'm European, and not Korean. But we have these career oriented women in my country too. And I always thought I would be like them. And I had no problem with it because they seem cool to me and I've always wanted to be a nuclear physicist. But then I fell in love when I was 23... It happens when you least expect it really. But the good thing is, I met my boyfriend in our department, we're both physics students, and he doesn't want kids either so we can still focus on our careers instead of "family". There's no reason for women to choose between careers and family. They can have both with the right person beside them.
Mia P Be careful of man who say they don't want kids man can have kids at 80 if they want too I've seen a few man age 45 to 50 leave there woman to find someone they can have a kid with
Its good that it worked in your case but it doesn't always work. Sometimes, women have to choose between career and love and at the end of the day they should be allowed to choose what they want.
Ria Rio 🙄you must not have a lot of life experience you must be very young I don't think you know what I am talking about you keep saying things that I did not say
@@coolzredz She makes sense though. If you want kids, even as a man, you best decide before you hit 40, since fertility is not as abundant in men as they like to believe and after 40 a lot of health problems appear and the last thing you want when you are battling chronic issues is to have to take care of a baby. Most men I know over 30 are pretty desperate tbh. They went through a long list of girlfriends they used for sex only and now they can't find a wife and are becoming very salty. Most make a decent living, but women their age do the same or better and look better than them, so they ain't a catch and younger women that are family material are repulsed by them, only the gold diggers use them for their money for a few years and then discard them, wasting more of their time on this planet.
I work in the medical field and we have mothers who are having their first child at 40yrs old, healthy & happy with not a care in the world about their age. If you meet your partner later in life, that shouldn't stop you from planning family or other dreams. There are plenty of options & pathways to take in your lifetime. Times are changing, whether you start young or 'old', it is not too late to create the life you want. Do not feel pressured by your peers or strangers for whatever reason.
I'm literally 20 and my mother is already hinting at me to get married - shes afraid ill become a "leftover woman" but in reality thats not really a stigma in western society, but she doesnt see that
I am very family orientated and I got married young and I like this. This was just the most important thing to me to have my own family. I didn’t get pressure from my parents or family. It was my own choice
In india parents starts to search for the groom(arrange marriage)when their daughter finish her graguation and let her go to job for3to 5 years and then she will get married mostly at their 25 to28 or( even earlier in villages ) rarely30s (In my city not sure about others)
It's also the same with me in Indonesia. People keep telling me to get married because I'm already 31 years old. I think that's just absurd. Just because you are already 30, you have to get married? By what standard? I can relate to the people who got interviewed. They didn't directly pressure you, but keep on saying: "Why you don't have a boyfriend?" "The neighbour keep asking us when you will get married" and so on
During childbirth, a woman can die. After giving birth, a woman can be susceptible to post-partum depression (in worse cases, it can quickly escalate into psychosis). A woman's career opportunities are very much limited by her pregnancy and motherhood. And women as mothers are generally expected by society to take care of the house and the family, confined to housewifery, a most oppressive form of servitude. As such, women should marry only if they themselves want to marry. It should not be forced upon themselves by their parents or by the society. It's high-time women start defying social conventions. We've been placed in this iniquitous situation for two millennia already. And if women decide to marry, they should choose men who are not sexists or those who will equally share in the domestic chores and parenting duties and those who will acknowledge and value their rights, dignity, freedom, physical integrity, and abilities/capabilities as women.
I dont think combining career and family is possible as a women due to biology and not sexism. You cant give 100% on your job while looking for your children the whole day. Thats why men and women had social roles. Men make money and have a career while women look for the children. Your comment implies an enormous feministic point of view.
@@senor6909 And your comment reeks of an enormous patriarchalist BS. There are anatomical differences, yes, but they're not a big deal. Boys and girls are born w/ virtually the similar capacities to acquire skills and motives and they would develop identically if raised identically.
@@simone222 they would not develop identically. On average men and women have different interests not because of nurture but because of nature. There is an overlap, but if you look at the extremes the difference is palpable. Look at jobs where social interaction is limited...engineering and maths...nearly all men. Next look at jobs where social interaction is indispensable...teaching, nursing, medicine genrally...huge majority of women. Sure you can find a women who more interested in maths than people and you can find a man more interested in people than maths, but if you sample 1000 men and women there will be an obvious bifurcation.
@@loveflying4488 Congratulations for perfectly elucidating another gender asymmetry perpetuated by a patriarchal society besides anatomical differences---that of the so-called nurturant function of women. The fact that this unproven and unprovable myth still remains the prevailing view to this day tells well of the minimal change in the status and position of women in society. And btw, you included medicine in of the so-called woman-centred fields. Funny that some prestigious medical school in Tokyo, Japan rigged scores for decades to limit the no. of its women entrants. This is but one of the many examples of discrimination and iniquity women suffer on account of their sex. Women shouldn't be denied the full range of their possible aspirations simply for being born a woman.
I guess I married a Gold Miss...lol We were both 42 when we got married. She's Korean and I'm Chinese-Canadian. She's currently a housewife, and probably the best housewife ever.
Im 31 years old and I do not plan on getting married. The people I know around my age are in relationships, thinking about getting married and having families... While me?, I'm just living in my own world, playing on my PS4. That's what i love to. Some people even say i haven't fully matured yet, in my mind im still thinking like a teenager and such things... but i don't care.
Despite the pressure, Korea has extremely low marriage rates and birthrates. There is a clash of old cultural values and new economic realities that Korea needs to work on.
for men an age gap is no problem (according to society) but women as they age are viewed as disposable. in other words, women are valued for beauty and child-bearing instead of being a full person
I am surprised to see so many woman my age and older still single in Korea. I am 28 years old in Korean age (27 international age, I was born in 1992). I was beginning to think that I was the only single person my age (obviously I know that is not true but it does feel like it a lot of the times). I was born in the United States but have a Mexican family and at my age, Mexicans would expect me to already have 5 kids (or at least 3). And I am being serious when I say this. For Mexicans it is normal to get married and have kids even before you are 20 (18 and 19 years old). And I just think that is too young to get married. I believe that it is better for people to date a lot and get to know different people before settling on a marriage partner. Because if you marry young, you may later get tired/annoyed of the person you marry and will most likely end up getting a divorce. Also I think it is better for people to get a higher education first and even start their careers before getting married and having kids. I think it is important to be financially well in order to start a family.
Age is just a number. I grew up in a single parent household after my mom left an abusive husband. That experience has taught me that, marriage is just a legal paper.
Societal pressure to get married is everywhere! Maybe they don’t want to get married or maybe they want to focus on their careers. The typical age people get married should be when they feel like it and when they find someone they love 💕 and not settle!
I'm 53 years old and single, I'm not thinking of getting married. I told my ex boyfriend last year that I don't want to get married, and it's okay for me if his going to find a girlfriend. I'm happy being single.
I'm 27 and my friends would always ask me. It grew very tiresome/ bothersome to respond over the years to the point I was wasn't enjoying their company anymore because they always bring it up. If I fall in love of course I will marry but if I'm not married is because I havent found the one. Good thing my parents dont mind it if I dont end up marrying. Still society pressures me more then my parents
i'm 24 and 8 month ago at my grandma's funeral one of my relative said to me and my sister you're getting close to age to get marry. I've never thought i'll hear that kinda word at mid 20s before this year. I don' think i'm getting close to age to get marry. Actually, i started to think i won't get marry if i couldn't leave Korea. If i get marry and give birth to child i'll lose so much things. It's not only me who thinks like me. lots of women in our generation(20s~30s) thinks like me
Damn I’m from the uk. There’s loads of different cultures here. Some people get married at 18, some at 30. I’d say the average age to get married here is like 24-30.
Interesting. Since you guys have interviewed a lot of women, it's also interesting to see the perspective of men and also the "older generation" about marriage. That's all. I hope this happens. 👍🏻
I'm 27 years old now , my mother always told me "men with the same age as you have children" , I'm glad that Koreans have a different vision than my mom has
Marriage means more stress and not everyone is suitable for getting married. Don't forget that many people getting divorce like 40-50% in many countries. Even in Portugal the divorce rate is 70%.
@@Toni-xz4xn I think it depends on you and the person your share your life with , I know many guys their life totally changed to happiness after marriage and there are persons in troubles too
when i was in south korea i noticed the ideal age for women to get married is 28 years of age i like the culture of korea and the hospitality of the korean people.
Im 33, single guy. But that allows me to advance my career. I am now a C level exec at an oil company, and have a side construction business. Plus im involved in my church's ministry. So im content. I'll get married when i find the right one by God's grace and i wont let anyone force me to married sooner than when im comfortable.
hi i'm 44 years old, i want to marry a chinese woman, i am in love with chinese woman, i find all charming my WeChatt rickx22 if you want to chat about our future!
It's very hard to meet new people in big urban cities nowadays. One would think online dating would help, but it really depends on 1) Location 2) How physically attractive you are
I hope there are future episodes that talk to unmarried men to get their perspectives...as well as episodes that talk to the parents of unmarried adult children. With the episodes that have already been released, the emphasis has been on women...but, there are more perspectives that should be examined. If only to get a more complete picture.
When I was young, people believed that the ideal age to get married was 25. Now that I am 25, I don't really want to get married and start a family, and I don't want to be confined in a social construct for women (women needs to do this, that, become a wife, a mother...) Plus, I think that the world we have right now is too cruel to give birth to another human being.
The way I absolutely loved each of these incredible women. You do you, my ladies. To society, please no labels okay. We're gonna Stay Gold as long as we wish to, with or without a marriage. A fellow 28 year old trying to find her calling in life.
In my 20's I believed this too "ready financially and mentally". But you never know if as a woman & mother how your health & baby turns out. Sometimes you give birth and BOOM you suffer depression and baby has health issues too. Some mothers don't come back from depression at all. When the unknown happens it can set your life goals years back. You are never ready! there is no perfect age or time in life to start a family. Best wishes to all.
Well there go the double standards really. It is especially sad since not all women choose to be single by the time they get 30-40. Some relationships they invested in and were supposed to lead to marriage and kids failed and then to be called out on that, must be hurtful to them.
@@lumyb9064 " Some relationships they invested in and were supposed to lead to marriage and kids failed and then to be called out on that, must be hurtful to them." The same goes to men.
The one thing that the older generation will never understand that it is very hard these days to look for a partner or even start a family when you’re trying to establish your career or find somewhere permanent to live.
What a bunch of nonsense, I know people who have been married for 12 years just to suddenly end up divorced and single at 40. And I know people who didn't marry till 50. Everyone's life is different stop trying to push everyone into a little box.
True why does that even matter which country it is or its increasing or decreasing is upto if they happy they can do whatever they like if theyre not they don't want to simply not about money or anything just let them be stay happy stay content love your fam why does it even matter ! Lmao sick already if these topics when are people going to do for themselves passion work for themselves for their parents live freely be happy and if u want something in your life you can do whatever u feel like , I just don't get ! And why do even people judge people like wth ! What's so wrong - age is just a number so be happy stay healthy don't over populate world ....
i am 26 years old with stable job. currently i already have a boyfriend and we're been dating for 7 years now. we had plans but we want everything to be settled before we enter the next phase in life. all my parents friends, aunts and uncle, neighbors keep on asking us if when we plan to settle down which kinda irritating sometimes because they on asking you same question everytime and they are much worried than me. its just that, people nowaday are more wiser than some of our parents generation, we dont want to enter the next phase and get broke because of lack of plans and preparation for future, maybe because we already seen and experience the effect of unplanned marriage be like, and how hard it is specially to the child. marriage is not like eating a newly cooked rice that when get burn, you can just spit it out.
I think it's so interesting how their beliefs about marriage are so varied, it just shows that you can live in the same place and experience completely different influences based on your individual communities.
lol @Asian Boss, I can understand using copy and paste is easy but at least proof read before putting on description. "The opinions expressed in this video are those of individual interviewees alone and do not reflect the views of ASIAN BOSS or the general INDONESIAN population."
That's what my first husband said" I was getting older and needed to have kids" -_- You marry when you're ready. Not any sooner. With technology these days you can have kiddos at any age, take it from this married too young gal..marry when you are ready :)
"There is a perception that if a woman doesn't get married her life is over" maybe but a lot of women mistakenly believe the opposite nowadays, that if you get married life is over.
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the ideal time to get married is when you ready financially and mentally !
you wont be ever 'ready'. how can you be ready to the 'unknown'? one of my friend had the same 'be ready' type of thinking and he said now he is ready to have a child. guess what? first try - twins. and it got even better cuz one of them is boy and the other is girl so at one point they need separate rooms and they live now only in a house with 2 total rooms.
Well!!!! Preach 2 the Choir!!!
Yes!!! I agree with your comment 100%😲😄😄😄
@@farkasabel you can be ready by having a stable job, being wise with money, savings, and having a family oriented mentality. Better to be prepared rather than having no backup or plans at all.
It's the the ideal age the question is "Why u want to get married "
For me get marry if u find someone whom your soul truly loves
That's True!
Different culture, same problems.
Ooga Booga Oscar
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That's true Because we are all humans 😁 after all
exactly
@TheENofficial oof reality
Not a problem as long you have fingers
I think Asian Boss needs to interview people in their 60s and 70s to find if people were glad they got married or not. If they they were happy with their decision and what their quality of life is like. I think it will give young people a greater perspective.
its not so simple. some older people who regret wont admit they regret not getting married/having kids on camera. plus some might rationalise their regret and be in selfdenial that they regret it etc.
@@aninani8294 i agree it sounds counterintuitive. but im sure a simple google search will allow you to see that in this complex world there are many grey areas, outlier cases, and paradoxical conclusions. the majority of people prob wont regret it if theyve stayed that long in a marriage. but its not difficult to see why in some cultures, countries, circumstances, it would not be the case. it seems like you need to think a little bit beyond your own bubble/country/circumstances. the world is more complicated than what your assumptions seem to imply.
i think a lot of people don't get married because of the financial responsibility and lack of job security in south korea, so if this were the case, someone at the end of their life and career would show that this newer phenomenon doesn't apply to them so it's not really the same conditions...
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@@dogie1070 lol nice
That 35 years old woman in black and white dress seems to have a cool personality , just my opinion lol .
She's totally awesome!
You've gotta have a certain amount of character to pull off the fresian cow look
plastic
@Blackpilled Saint Okay incel, get over it.
@Blackpilled Saint Or she might be gay or asexual uughh.
Ideal age is a joke. Get married if you’re ready, don’t let the society dictate us!
Ideal age if you want to have kids but ya shouldn’t be dictated by society but health/safety reasons lol
@@arthurfleck1254 TF? What does that have to do with what they said u dumbass?
@Mädi the comment said "marry when u feel ready ".... what does that have to do with having sexual partners? Whaat?? I'm genuinely confused.
@Mädi ok but what if the love of your life died and you have to marry someone else.? Or maybe.. what if a person was raped? They should remain unmarried?
@Mädi we're not marrying for the society or for the gods. We marry because we want a person to accompany us in every aspect of our life. You should marry because YOU want to.
When you'll graduate?
When you'll work?
When you'll get married?
When you'll have a baby?
Where/when your child enter the university?
Where they work now?
When they get married?
When they gonna have a baby?
When you gonna DIE?!
Geez 😒
Welcome to reality
Well 🥺🥺😳☹️☹️😔😞😖
That's life.
Everywhere and every time, fun thing is that "family" members are over their relatives asking if they have succeeded or not but not for love and support but for their egis 🤨🤷😒
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Could we have male's perspective ? There has to be a lots of unmarried man
i think it is because men have more loose age restriction in marriage than women. Men could have children as long as they are able, woman is more of like a ticking bomb.
I agree to ask korean male's opinion on this issue..please do it..
Ghost Noah true but they don’t get the pressures to be married , they are told to secure a good job and buy a house then think about marriage
Carmela Camba Men’s age matters too because men’s sperm quality deteriorates with age. This begins to happen when they’re around 35-40 yrs old.
Carmela Camba yeah but you can have kids until your mid 30s so it’s not like you have to get married at 23 just to have a family
The "ideal age" is increasing with each generation as people focus more on their work and ambitions. There will be a time when people won't look down upon someone who isn't married as it more and more becomes the norm to choose career over marriage.
That is true. When you look at the past many people get married very early like 18-25 and the divorce rate was not so high but nowadays many people get married like 28-35 but the divorce rate is much higher than before.
In india
Mostly people are pressurised.
As they are told to get married within the age of 27 (for boys)
Our own parents are pessimistic towards us. Which is a sadness.
So within that age,We have to get settled with good salary and has to own apartment.
These sort of things are mandatory for our parents. Smh
Not for all, But it's a majority.
@@alienxthemostpowerfulficti2888 exactly bro. I am already 29,And my own parents are just comparing me with others.For instance:- They are like look at your friend, they are already settled with a good job and you're still behind them.
You're an oldy now. So much pressurized.
Hard to live in india, If you don't have an open minded parents.
@@alienxthemostpowerfulficti2888 lol thats why india has over 1 billion people. If they continue like this they have to settle down the population increasing.
And the death of the family unit is on the fault of my generation.
These days, there are many people who want to live alone in Korea, and the age of getting married is increasing a little. I think it's because there's a lot of social and financial responsibilities to get married
Agree, marriage is more harm than good.
True, marriage isn’t for everyone plus most people can provide for themselves.
> lot of social and financial responsibilities to get married
There's a lot of financial responsibilities for everyone, single or attached. The world is getting a lot more expensive to live in.
@@arvinsim there's a lot of financial and social responsibilities either way, but marriage, or more importantly, having kids, really add a whole new layer of social and financial responsibilities.
@@BlackGrapes My point is that being single is hard enough. So that's why some people opt not to get married.
america: when's the ideal time to get a DiVoRcE
Anytime new chick comes by
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As SoOn As PoSiBlE
Whenever they want
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It's not like marriage will guarantee a woman everlasting happiness. These days women should look for men who treat them as equals.
*claps*
Exactly. Marriage doesn't guarantee anything. Not happiness, nor everlasting love. If you want to marry you should find someone who treats you well, has your back, is your best friend and lover. 🍀
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yes, THIS!!! exactly this!! marry if they really give u more happiness more than what u get when u alone, many people that marriage actually end up more sad and not happy
True ! Besides that women can do well in society if she is single because of society support. Even if a woman is divorced it’s the same support also.
Just from what I’ve seen so far “Late 20s or early 30s” it’s pretty similar to american average age I’m guessing. Except for maybe social pressure on getting married
I say they are western influence
I would say that is about the expected age in Europe too though I know a lot of people who get married earlier cause of love and the financial stapability that being married provides. The Korean exchange student is somewhere in her 20s and she is married
There's pressure in the USA, too. It's just quietly within families. I had an older cousin who asked when I was going to get married. I said I had no plans and she said, "What? You want to become a nun or something?" The pressure is rea right now that I'm 29.
Stina the divorce rate in the us exceeds 40% in the first 2 years, and 60% overall
Blackpilled Saint Is you have that point of view on life, you should not reproduce
I had a lot of long term relationships before I got married at 37. My wife is 5 years younger than me and before I met her I had to really hustle to find the right one to settle down with. I didn't have a lot of pressure from my parents but I created my own self imposed pressure because I knew 40 was around the corner. Had I not been pro active I would not have met my wife. Within our first year of marriage we had our 1st son and second son 2 years later. We are approaching our 5 year anniversary and it's been an incredible journey. It's a real challenge to raise a family, so I do respect that it's not for everyone because it's probably the hardest endeavor I have ever experienced. When I was a bachelor living my life, I was always about my own interests and pursuits...the last 5 years has been about giving my all for my sons and my wife in a 180 flip from my old self centered self.
May i ask why did you get married? I mean you have said because there was no pressure from your family side so you imposed pressure on yourself ... why?!! What are the motivations to get married
jeff jeff some people want kids and past a certain age you are no longer able to have kids. For women, past 35 is the danger zone for having children since there can be a lot of complications and health issues. For men, past 40 is when they will struggle to find a younger woman who is still able to have children, unless he is rich or exceptionally handsome
@@jeffjeff5719 I wanted a family and I have an older brother and sister who were married and have kids. I am Asian, so perhaps I did have some pressure to get married, but I'm the youngest in my family so there were already 5 grand kids. My father knew my wife when we were dating before he died. I was his principal care giver and she helped me tremendously during this time when my dad became sick. Before he lost his ability to speak he told me to not let my then girlfriend get away, to ask her hand in marriage. I was too concerned with his care to think about marriage etc but after he died I went through a very difficult period of grief and sadness since I was very close to my dad. My mom had been battling cancer and I wanted my mom to at least see her youngest child get married. I married my wife 18 months after my dad passed and we rushed to have our first baby so that my mom could have the chance to see our son. She continues to battle cancer but she's been able to see both of my sons to much of her delight. Regarding the age milestones of a woman, yep I did think about those things as a lot of people do, I.e. a woman after 35 is at more risk when giving birth etc. I met my wife when she was 28 and I was 34 and we dated for 4 years before getting married when I was 37. She never pressured me to propose but she was definitely feeling the biological clock ticking. She is mixed Asian (Japanese / Filipina) and I proposed in front of her parents with their blessing over a pancake breakfast at their house. They didn't pressure me either but were wondering what were my long term goals with marriage and family etc. I try to not have an opinion about when one should have kids etc, but my wife had very complicated pregnancies and if she was older, who knows what the outcome would have been. I have said raising a family has been my biggest accomplishment and challenge, mostly because I have been a stay at home dad since the beginning while working nights at home. My wife quit her job in June to be home with the kids, so it's been really great spending a lot of time with her and our two kids. My older sister lost her husband 2 years ago to cancer so I try to really cherish each day with my own family and while my elderly mom is still here with us. I really do believe, to each their own, but if you want to have kids and start a family...then sometimes a little pressure from family and society is just the right push into fulfilling that desire.
@@BWT599 thank you for your response... it's really very nice of you to tell your experience and it's important to me to hear what is marraige from older man perspective ... for me tbh i have 0 motivation to marry actually i have witnessed very bad experiences of marriage ...it reached to the point that i believe marraige is irrational and very bad investment... so i was asking about other people experiences and what motivate them to get marriage especially men... since you're are asian i think culture law and society are very different ... and from your story what motivated you mean nothing here ... thanks for sharing your story and good luck to you guys very nice people and culture
@@Lol-ok9kl thank you as well
Why do I have the feeling that people only get married because the pressure of the society not for the love? And also in many countries there is such a high divorce rate like 40-50%. Marriage nowadays doesnt have a meaning anymore.
Toni Klische in a lot of cultures some are starting to be more relaxed about marriage. In my dad’s culture they typically pressured young women to marry early, but now a days because of the divorce rate, they accept that not everyone is suitable
For married life.
Toni Klische you nailed this 👏🏼
@@MelaniaRose thank you! Marraige isn't for everyone!
Marrige does have meaning. It's the misapplied preassure that is wrong , i love being married, im in love with my husband, marriage life is awesome. Love Rocks!❤💎🥰
Because is true ... in my country in past parents uest to engaged they child without telling them and get them married at Young age
The woman with the fan and umbrella is living in 3019.
Hariank Mistry omg lol
That's a parasol not an umbrella.
It protects skin from tanning
Rocket science...
@@windowguylol a parasol is still a type of umbrella haha
@@inchw0rm Meh.
Generally, you say umbrella when protecting yourself from the rain and parasol when protecting yourself from the sun.
A lot of people here have never heard of parasols and their common use in Asia compared to the West and probably think the lady is weird for protecting herself from the rain when there is none.
"Gold Miss" is a lot better sounding than Japan's "Christmas cake" or China's "leftover woman."
Don't expect the answers to be any different in China btw.
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i watched a documentary on the "leftover women" and i hate how their parents dragged them to marriage markets and stuff...
good point
It’s not exactly equivalent, doesn’t exactly mean a “spent” woman
It's much worse in China. It's native size, censorship, and classically unadventurous attitudes means they're more insulated from social trends happening worldwide. There mid-20s is definitely considered late for women, where in Korea older folks are a bit more resigned to the growing age of first nuptials because of the less straightforward economic path obvious for all of today's youth.
The ideal age is whenever they meet their life partner and they want to take it to the next level. These absurd "ideals" should be dumped. Additionally, there's nothing wrong in being single. We all have one life and we should have the right to live it the way we want.
Well if a person don't want to get married and so be it not everyone wants to get married it's a matter of personal preference and we have to respect that!
It's sad that such middle eastern cultures still quite exist in far eastern countries
@다이아나 다이아나 if a couple is in a relationship for such a long time and man don't want to get married that's a reg flag maybe the guy don't see the girl as the woman he wants to marry just a gf or live in partner but not wife she's not just that woman whom he wanted to marry! Cos if a guy is decided to make a girl he's wife no ifs or buts he will marry that woman in a heart beat imao
@다이아나 다이아나 nope not manipulative u mean desperate to hang or cling on to something that have no security or assurance woman got instinct they know that their man won't marry them but they just play dumb and in denial about it and that's the bad part when they choose to be the dumb one lol
What is MGTOw
It's harder to find a man when the man that u like is liking another man lol that's the thing lol
Ok, but if you want to live as an individual and have no connections, then no one should be forced to help you. The same people that push these ideas demand government help. You have people with guns force others to help you instead of making honest relationships.
It's just one of the reasons women doesn't get marry/marry early these days. As a Korean women i think biggest reason Korean women doesn't marry is financial problem. People need money to get marry and raise the child. And our generation need more money to do that than older generation need. But it's hard to get a job and it's still getting hard to buy house in city. And most important reason that women doesn't get marry is most normal Korean women lose there job after they getting married and even if they didn't get fired after getting married they lose there job after they got pregnant, after they gave birth to child. It's hard to tell more specific
Yeah Korea is very patriarchal. There are no laws to protect women who want to give birth hence the low birth rate. And to think of depending on the husbands? What if he cheats on you or emotionally abuse you? You are stuck because you have no job/money!
You spend your life working. Getting married doesn’t mean you can stop working for most women. Now they have the added work of being a mother. Bills increase and so does stress
I am 26, I have absolutely no plans for marriage and I don't feel any pressure. I just live happily and don’t worry about such things. And I don't see anything terrible in staying single and honestly I don’t think that I’ll meet someone I want to be with :) But to all who dream of finding their love, I sincerely wish it! 🌠
You gonna meet someone u want to be with so u both get marry OK hahaha
@Priyanka Gupta welcome! Wellz love will find it's way always lol
My grandma lived in the monastery but my grandpa noticed her lol
So ya love will find you hahaha
@Priyanka Gupta yap that's why I told you love will find it's way! It will find all of us 💃💃💃🙌🙌🙌
The secret to find happiness in life, is to love and be loved, have a family and don't die alone. I am very sorry for you. Nobody wants to be alone.
@Ciel Phantomhive I agree
Korea: gold miss
Japan: Christmas cake
China: leftover...
Indonesia: perawan tua/old virgin (women)
Bujang lapuk/out of date single (men)
LOL
Bibi Vik christmas is at dec25 so unmarried women who reach 25yrs is a christmas cake according to the other video
@@zenj-g2z after christmas, no one wants christmas cake because the 'main event' is already over - after women are 25, no one wants them anymore because their 'peak years' are over.
@xfgbbjgf bhyfh 뭔뜻임? 레프트오버가
I wish Asian Boss would do a reaction video, asking 60-70 year old Korean women what they think about what these younger women are saying.
Bet they will be proud and envy, as women have it easier nowadays compared to them.
Back then, our grandmothers can't even dare to divorce their husband because they can't do anything when they are alone. They are limited to schools, the society force them to be "life long servant" for her family. My grandmothers and her 4 sisters all say the same.
Same, I love hearing from older generations. They lived a totally different life and it's good to hear their stories.
I thought I’d be married by 30. After a few failed relationships I decided to take a break from dating. I just turned 40 though. Just view life as a journey and enjoy each moment. If it was meant to be it will happen.
Good luck with your journey!
ceeloc it is over, you ll live alone for life!
Nanix1991 wtf is wrong with you? Leave her alone you’re exactly what’s wrong with society
DarcyKnox21 f*ck you!! You are all contributing to a dying world!
Nanix1991 we are Not in the 50s anymore,loser
I'm 24 and I'm planning to get married in my mid 30s to a woman in her 30s too.
Hope it works ;))
Same with me
Smart:)
I feel like korean society is gonna be really interesting in the future, because old peoples opinions on many things are so different than young peoples opinions. So when the older generations fade away, there‘s gonna be a huge change.
Lol if there is a young generation
@@Shay45 hahahhahah
Majestic Spoxxi very true
Majestic Spoxxi there will be many children out of marriage means without parents in the same roof which is mean more broken generations
@@desertmoonlee6631 unmarried parents or not living under the same roof doesn't mean that the children are broken... As long as their parents love them and take their responsibilities it works.
The lady in sunglasses looks really cool.
My mom didn't necessarily want me to get married, she said you don't need a man to be happy. The day of my wedding my mom said "we can call all this off". My Mom is the best.
Your mom is a feminist?
@Bts is life You need to be married!
@@MG-kn3wd your mom is a goddess not human
Why would you praise your mother for saying that at your wedding?
Actually many ladies nowadays done want to marry because there is a pressure to take care of a man after marriage and do all his chores… but then they realize what’s the need , instead they can be alone and take care of themselves when they have money. This will change only when roles of the gender are not defined and men also start out helping in the household chores
Do Korean men feel the same pressure as Korean women to get married and have a baby?
Jaded Gypsy in generally yes...u should be married by age 33...after is hard for man to find woman...its common that man around age 40 cant find wife so they use servis of international marriage especially from Vietnam
Yea whether they are korean men or women, they get almost same pressure from their friends, collegues and relatives.
And parents worry a lot if u remain single after mid 30s.
Daniela Sanabria yeah...i visited international school and majority of international wives where from Vietnam...like in small town (not seoul or busan) in korea i was so suprised...
Jaded Gypsy Yes AND they are pressured to have a good career and well paying job AFTER also doing two years of mandatory military service. Funny how Asian Boss conveniently leaves that out and only act like Korean women are the victims here.
When you're South Asian as soon as you graduate from university, have a stable job or are at around 24 years old they start asking you when you're gonna get married lol
edit: wow ty for the likes haha
So is in South East Asia as well
Soo true..
Haha while at the same time you're not allowed to date during school
Anywhere in Africa as well 😂😂. 28 is already too old thoughtless of in your 30s
@@potato-ff7ed ikr, then they immediately tell you to find someone you will be with for the rest of your life hahhaa
I noticed that getting married did not change much between my wife and I. However, the way others perceive us is much different. We got married during the last stretches of our time at university at age 26 and that was definitely considered young to be married in Germany. I grew to appreciate the effect of being married has on others around me. We've been married for five years now and I wouldn't want it any other way and I know neither does my wife.
26 is old, though. People should marry at 22. We are creating a society of adults that think they still children.
@@Nimbereth I disagree. I'd rather take my time to find for a partner that I'd like to spend my life with. And what's the point of rushing it? Why shouldn't you spend your 20s finding what's right for you, having fun and building your career? I don't really see the downside.
If there is no love in the first place,and financial stability plus mentally ready!...There is no point in getting married for just the sake of society!
The fact that women have to choose between successful career/job (there is a difference) and family but men don't is...heartbreaking... Society, why the dilemma?
True..
Because men and women are different.
Biology
I feel this women. I'm 28 and people around me always ask when I'm getting married, I don't even have a boyfriend...
We on the same boat plus single life is not to bad
Lol samne girl
Sameeee~ I’m single and I don’t mind haha
Same here... Dont mind it either
Just tell me give me a bf and shoulder all the wedding expenses and I'll get marry tommorow hahaha
Don't get married if you're just pressured, whether by tradition or societal conformity.
Who wants to die alone,
just my opinion.
@@lumozade2182 we all die alone at the end.
Zawad Mohammed feeling alone in a relationship is the worst !
@@piropiro1882
That's true.
Everyone will die alone eventually.
Nothing in this world is permanent.
It's not possible in india.
The perfect time to get married? When I meet a man who is okay with childless marriage because I don't want to have kids. Until then, I'm perfectly okay living with my cat and dogs in my comfortable house
Fine, then your race and descendants will be extinct if you do that:).
A woman that doesnt want to get married and have children cant even be seen as a woman in my opinion. What a unatural and godless Society we have smh.
@@taketheblackpillneo3940 Well you can say that most women nowadays have egoistic, unrealistic expectations towards marriage and men in general. No wonder in the old times religious societies limit the rights of the women because they know it will do harm to the birth rates of the world:). God bless you my friend.
@@buddy8084 & @Jesus is God Deal with it bro, it's 2019 women can do what the f they want. You have no idea how entertaining it is for me to see people getting salty over my own damn business for choosing not to have kids. Happens all the time, always entertaining.
@@crowofcainhurst Sure, your wish is granted:).
The perfect age for a woman to do anything is whenever the heck she wants to do it! If she feels like doing it at all...
Mini Min It takes two to tango in this case though. The perfect age for both men and women to get married is whenever the heck they want :)
Mate, there is a reason why across ALL cultures there is a massive pressure on women give birth early. Keep revolt against nature and you will suffer. Look up how many older women trying to get babies but can’t, it is just sad.
Women are fertile from around up to 35. After that, having babies will become increasingly harder and don’t forget genetic issues that come with giving birth older too.
@@CTcCaster Shut up omg you wrote the same dumb comment somewhere else too. Let women do whatever they want with their lives and bodies, they aren't just walking vaginas existing to give birth to babies. Plenty of women don't even want babies. Why so pressed about what a stranger decides to do with her life? Lol.
And men have the same problem too! Do you even know this?? Men's sperm quality decreases at age 35, it's not just women who have to worry about their ticking reproductive clock. Men's sperm quality deteriorates after the age of 35 and it becomes increasingly harder to get a woman pregnant, moreover your increasingly rotten sperm will cause a much higher risk of miscarriage and fetal death. So stop going around talking as if it's only our problem 😂
The reason why there is a massive pressure on women compared to men it's the usual reason, misogyny and discrimination.
Always You Also he seems to imply that the only way to have children is to get married 🤣 That's not even what the video is about but men feel the need to put their 2 cents in about how women should live their lives at every opportunity.
@@Midna.K
Saying the pressure to have children is unequal because of "misogyny" is an oversimplification in my opinion. Marriage maybe boiled down to that, but not childbirth. The investment and risks for men and women in childbirth just isn't the same.
For example, there are literally no health risks TO an older man who's trying to get someone pregnant.
And since pregnancy is ultimately a woman's decision, it makes no sense to try pressure a man to have children by a certain time...
That being said I think information is better than pressure, as long as people are aware of their peak fertility window earlier on, it's on them to make the decision if and when, and for society to accept it.
But until workplaces worldwide establish flexible work conditions for parents IMO it's too soon to say it's largely a decision being made on their own accord or simply a life choice based on limited options.
For example, i'd imagine a lot of women who actually want children are forced to choose between children and a career due to inflexible work conditions.
I can understand why the no of unmarried women in korea is increasing. 1) a woman mostly is made to choose btw her career or marriage/family which makes no sense as the norm in korea is to go to university so why should she be made to give up on something she worked hard for 2) Married women who work are often looked down on as people comment that she is not taking care of her family properly. 3) companies tend to want to replace women when they get pregnant cos they cant accommodate maternal leave. 4) it is hard to find a good stable job that pays the bills and leaves extra for you and having children is expensive af especially in korea so most want to be at least financially stable before marrying. 5) might not be a huge factor but not everyone wants to deal with mother-in-laws.
Maureen Kalio Bingo~
@@riorio745 yeah i think you were considered extremely lucky if you got an understanding MIL
It's just a number, get married when you're ready and financially ready. Y'all know what I mean.
"Gold Miss" is a sexist stereotype bcs we dont call older man as "Gold Mister"..??
The checkered shirt woman is 👍
But there's a Korean word when we use older males. It means old single man
I want to be a Gold Miss too...not in Korea but in India...in reality my parents never let me to do that..marrying a stranger and pretending to be happy is the most of the Indian women's life even at this 21st century😢
@@riorio745 honor killing is still a thing in India tho... Honestly it's scary to be here
LOVE your videos Asian Boss..been here..been subscribed since almost your beginning on UA-cam and I STILL love seeing a notification that I have a new vendor from Asian boss!thank u for all the hard work and the subject matters you guys continue doing for us!
I love how your getting the Japanese, Korean, and Chinese views on this.
I’m happy that I’ll never be pressured about that. My parents are 51 & 52 and never married but are still together after 30 years, they just never really felt like they had to do it 😊
Why does this hit so close to home with me. Trust me Australia is so similar on this topic
Well...i'm a 24 years old romanian girl...and everyone around me pressures me about getting married. I'm already considered too old for marriage..🙄 most friends of mine got married after they finished high school, so around 19. So it's not only in asia, it's also in Europe . I'm glad i could finish a good education and started working and making my own money. Bought a good car and I am pretty independent and that scares the young men around me, i've been told. I'm supposed to shut up and never tell or show my car or how much salary i make because that makes the men back off. A lot of men here work in construction or such and make less money than me. I don't know wat they are afraid of tho...i don't need a man with money, house or cars , although that would be nice too. I just need a loving man who is capable. But everyone around me pressures me to marry🤷♀️
sandra4408 most of Europe is not like that not in 2019 but it was more like that in the past
@@coolzredz i know that very well. i just said that it still exists in 2019 in europe as well. i'm living in austria since i was born and here the austrian people marry around the age of 30
sandra4408 sorry it's the way you said it first made it sound like Europe was still like the way it was in the past and as we know today most of Europe is very free and we can do what we want know one cares anymore.hello from Ireland ☘🙂
@@coolzredz that's true :) it's very free here in austria too...but i have to say countries more to the east like romania, bulgaria, russia and so on are not that open to this kind of open and free lifestyle yet. and my family and friends are very conservative and although i live in austria they still believe that people have to marry early and have kids as long as they are young. Not that i'm complaining because i want to marry too but i couldn't find the right one yet and they just want me to marry very soon because i'm ''old'' :)) lol..won't work like that for me
sandra4408 😂keep strong don't let them get to you 😂 how many languages do you speak ?
This video is so relatable. In every culture, there is just so much pressure on women needing to be someone or something at a certain age, at a certain point of their life. All being pushed to conform as to how society wants us to be. For some, it’s not just getting married, it’s also having kids and when we should start. Why do people think it’s ok for them to ask as to when will a couple or a person have kids over and over again. I understand it if someone asks once but too continuously pry. I don’t get it. It’s insulting and condescending in away when people think that they can ask you questions like that as if it’s such an easy life decision. Ugh! Anyways, Thank you Asian boss for another enlightening and somewhat infuriating video. Lol. Can you also do one video on people’s perspective about single people and married couples who does not want children? Im curious as to how different cultures see this ”phenomenon” as. Thanks again☺️👏🏻🙌🏻
That's biologh for you.
Over 25 too late to have children!? WHAT?
I'm European, and not Korean. But we have these career oriented women in my country too. And I always thought I would be like them. And I had no problem with it because they seem cool to me and I've always wanted to be a nuclear physicist. But then I fell in love when I was 23... It happens when you least expect it really. But the good thing is, I met my boyfriend in our department, we're both physics students, and he doesn't want kids either so we can still focus on our careers instead of "family". There's no reason for women to choose between careers and family. They can have both with the right person beside them.
Mia P Be careful of man who say they don't want kids man can have kids at 80 if they want too I've seen a few man age 45 to 50 leave there woman to find someone they can have a kid with
Love story!
Its good that it worked in your case but it doesn't always work. Sometimes, women have to choose between career and love and at the end of the day they should be allowed to choose what they want.
Ria Rio 🙄you must not have a lot of life experience you must be very young I don't think you know what I am talking about you keep saying things that I did not say
@@coolzredz She makes sense though. If you want kids, even as a man, you best decide before you hit 40, since fertility is not as abundant in men as they like to believe and after 40 a lot of health problems appear and the last thing you want when you are battling chronic issues is to have to take care of a baby.
Most men I know over 30 are pretty desperate tbh. They went through a long list of girlfriends they used for sex only and now they can't find a wife and are becoming very salty.
Most make a decent living, but women their age do the same or better and look better than them, so they ain't a catch and younger women that are family material are repulsed by them, only the gold diggers use them for their money for a few years and then discard them, wasting more of their time on this planet.
I work in the medical field and we have mothers who are having their first child at 40yrs old, healthy & happy with not a care in the world about their age. If you meet your partner later in life, that shouldn't stop you from planning family or other dreams. There are plenty of options & pathways to take in your lifetime. Times are changing, whether you start young or 'old', it is not too late to create the life you want. Do not feel pressured by your peers or strangers for whatever reason.
"as if they all made a pact" that was pretty funny.
I'm literally 20 and my mother is already hinting at me to get married - shes afraid ill become a "leftover woman" but in reality thats not really a stigma in western society, but she doesnt see that
meanwhile I already decide not to marry anyone lmao
Except your imagination to get married with a Kpop Idol xd.
Toni Klische lol i never did that
same
@@Toni-xz4xn don't u 😏😏
plastic hahaha
I am very family orientated and I got married young and I like this. This was just the most important thing to me to have my own family. I didn’t get pressure from my parents or family. It was my own choice
I noticed that thia Marie girl just keep on doing introductions and never really had an interview 😏
i want a gig like that lol
Actually she did an interview in India about living in the largest slum
@@friedrichwerbowy6631 yess
I think she interviewed rental oppar and actually went on a date with him for that episode.
In india parents starts to search for the groom(arrange marriage)when their daughter finish her graguation and let her go to job for3to 5 years and then she will get married mostly at their 25 to28 or( even earlier in villages ) rarely30s
(In my city not sure about others)
It's also the same with me in Indonesia. People keep telling me to get married because I'm already 31 years old. I think that's just absurd. Just because you are already 30, you have to get married? By what standard? I can relate to the people who got interviewed. They didn't directly pressure you, but keep on saying: "Why you don't have a boyfriend?" "The neighbour keep asking us when you will get married" and so on
During childbirth, a woman can die. After giving birth, a woman can be susceptible to post-partum depression (in worse cases, it can quickly escalate into psychosis). A woman's career opportunities are very much limited by her pregnancy and motherhood. And women as mothers are generally expected by society to take care of the house and the family, confined to housewifery, a most oppressive form of servitude. As such, women should marry only if they themselves want to marry. It should not be forced upon themselves by their parents or by the society. It's high-time women start defying social conventions. We've been placed in this iniquitous situation for two millennia already. And if women decide to marry, they should choose men who are not sexists or those who will equally share in the domestic chores and parenting duties and those who will acknowledge and value their rights, dignity, freedom, physical integrity, and abilities/capabilities as women.
I dont think combining career and family is possible as a women due to biology and not sexism. You cant give 100% on your job while looking for your children the whole day. Thats why men and women had social roles. Men make money and have a career while women look for the children. Your comment implies an enormous feministic point of view.
@@senor6909 go back to middle ages
@@senor6909 And your comment reeks of an enormous patriarchalist BS. There are anatomical differences, yes, but they're not a big deal. Boys and girls are born w/ virtually the similar capacities to acquire skills and motives and they would develop identically if raised identically.
@@simone222 they would not develop identically. On average men and women have different interests not because of nurture but because of nature. There is an overlap, but if you look at the extremes the difference is palpable.
Look at jobs where social interaction is limited...engineering and maths...nearly all men.
Next look at jobs where social interaction is indispensable...teaching, nursing, medicine genrally...huge majority of women.
Sure you can find a women who more interested in maths than people and you can find a man more interested in people than maths, but if you sample 1000 men and women there will be an obvious bifurcation.
@@loveflying4488 Congratulations for perfectly elucidating another gender asymmetry perpetuated by a patriarchal society besides anatomical differences---that of the so-called nurturant function of women. The fact that this unproven and unprovable myth still remains the prevailing view to this day tells well of the minimal change in the status and position of women in society. And btw, you included medicine in of the so-called woman-centred fields. Funny that some prestigious medical school in Tokyo, Japan rigged scores for decades to limit the no. of its women entrants. This is but one of the many examples of discrimination and iniquity women suffer on account of their sex. Women shouldn't be denied the full range of their possible aspirations simply for being born a woman.
Well scrolling down the comments I want to sayyy happy to see that such strong woman exist stay stuck to your ideals you are great
09:00 I can feel you girl.. 😂😂
When you're in mid 30 and unmarried, people tend to asking the same questions and it's irritating..
I guess I married a Gold Miss...lol We were both 42 when we got married. She's Korean and I'm Chinese-Canadian. She's currently a housewife, and probably the best housewife ever.
U gave us hope))
I korean guy and we feel pressure too... evryone ask if we met a woman and if we're ready to marry her. It's a problem of society not only of women.
Do yall get pressure to have kids?
Im 31 years old and I do not plan on getting married. The people I know around my age are in relationships, thinking about getting married and having families... While me?, I'm just living in my own world, playing on my PS4. That's what i love to. Some people even say i haven't fully matured yet, in my mind im still thinking like a teenager and such things... but i don't care.
Despite the pressure, Korea has extremely low marriage rates and birthrates. There is a clash of old cultural values and new economic realities that Korea needs to work on.
for men an age gap is no problem (according to society) but women as they age are viewed as disposable. in other words, women are valued for beauty and child-bearing instead of being a full person
I am surprised to see so many woman my age and older still single in Korea. I am 28 years old in Korean age (27 international age, I was born in 1992). I was beginning to think that I was the only single person my age (obviously I know that is not true but it does feel like it a lot of the times). I was born in the United States but have a Mexican family and at my age, Mexicans would expect me to already have 5 kids (or at least 3). And I am being serious when I say this. For Mexicans it is normal to get married and have kids even before you are 20 (18 and 19 years old). And I just think that is too young to get married. I believe that it is better for people to date a lot and get to know different people before settling on a marriage partner. Because if you marry young, you may later get tired/annoyed of the person you marry and will most likely end up getting a divorce. Also I think it is better for people to get a higher education first and even start their careers before getting married and having kids. I think it is important to be financially well in order to start a family.
Age is just a number. I grew up in a single parent household after my mom left an abusive husband. That experience has taught me that, marriage is just a legal paper.
Do this in India , even 27 is considered late , and the social pressure is on another level
Societal pressure to get married is everywhere! Maybe they don’t want to get married or maybe they want to focus on their careers. The typical age people get married should be when they feel like it and when they find someone they love 💕 and not settle!
I'm 53 years old and single, I'm not thinking of getting married. I told my ex boyfriend last year that I don't want to get married, and it's okay for me if his going to find a girlfriend. I'm happy being single.
So why you had boyfriend. Why you can't stay single
It sounds like from this series "getting married" is actually just a euphemism for "have children"
I'm 27 and my friends would always ask me. It grew very tiresome/ bothersome to respond over the years to the point I was wasn't enjoying their company anymore because they always bring it up. If I fall in love of course I will marry but if I'm not married is because I havent found the one. Good thing my parents dont mind it if I dont end up marrying. Still society pressures me more then my parents
i'm 24 and 8 month ago at my grandma's funeral one of my relative said to me and my sister you're getting close to age to get marry. I've never thought i'll hear that kinda word at mid 20s before this year. I don' think i'm getting close to age to get marry. Actually, i started to think i won't get marry if i couldn't leave Korea. If i get marry and give birth to child i'll lose so much things. It's not only me who thinks like me. lots of women in our generation(20s~30s) thinks like me
What will you lose? You have the power to create a family and be happy.
Damn I’m from the uk. There’s loads of different cultures here. Some people get married at 18, some at 30. I’d say the average age to get married here is like 24-30.
Interesting. Since you guys have interviewed a lot of women, it's also interesting to see the perspective of men and also the "older generation" about marriage. That's all. I hope this happens. 👍🏻
Please ask about the feminist film Kim Ji-young, Born 1982 - even if that means blurring faces so you get honest answers
Yes! I would love to hear opinions on this matter.
It’s the movie out now? It would be interesting to hear the views from men & women. It’s such a controversial book.
@@jesskhan09 Yes, it is. The movie's premiere in Korea was at the end of October.
How did u guys know about the movie? I mean where did u get the information about the book and movie
@@jina3599 BBC and Twitter
I'm 27 years old now , my mother always told me "men with the same age as you have children" , I'm glad that Koreans have a different vision than my mom has
Marriage means more stress and not everyone is suitable for getting married. Don't forget that many people getting divorce like 40-50% in many countries. Even in Portugal the divorce rate is 70%.
They usually have kids already because they didn't wrap it up tight
@@Toni-xz4xn I think it depends on you and the person your share your life with , I know many guys their life totally changed to happiness after marriage and there are persons in troubles too
@Estela Lopez Yeah , generally there are many reasons why people end up their relationship without thinking about children or the consequences of it
when i was in south korea i noticed the ideal age for women to get married is 28 years of age i like the culture of korea and the hospitality of the korean people.
humans alone are annoying enough, much less getting married to one :/
Im 33, single guy. But that allows me to advance my career. I am now a C level exec at an oil company, and have a side construction business. Plus im involved in my church's ministry. So im content. I'll get married when i find the right one by God's grace and i wont let anyone force me to married sooner than when im comfortable.
I'm really digging that Gold Miss term
hi i'm 44 years old, i want to marry a chinese woman, i am in love with chinese woman, i find all charming my WeChatt rickx22 if you want to chat about our future!
It's very hard to meet new people in big urban cities nowadays. One would think online dating would help, but it really depends on 1) Location 2) How physically attractive you are
1:55 i felt that
I hope there are future episodes that talk to unmarried men to get their perspectives...as well as episodes that talk to the parents of unmarried adult children. With the episodes that have already been released, the emphasis has been on women...but, there are more perspectives that should be examined. If only to get a more complete picture.
When I was young, people believed that the ideal age to get married was 25. Now that I am 25, I don't really want to get married and start a family, and I don't want to be confined in a social construct for women (women needs to do this, that, become a wife, a mother...)
Plus, I think that the world we have right now is too cruel to give birth to another human being.
Waiting is all fun and games until its too late and you regret it for the rest of your life
@@miyaben6601 aw still a no for me 🤷🏻♀️
The way I absolutely loved each of these incredible women. You do you, my ladies.
To society, please no labels okay. We're gonna Stay Gold as long as we wish to, with or without a marriage.
A fellow 28 year old trying to find her calling in life.
This is the earliest I’ve been
Same
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In my 20's I believed this too "ready financially and mentally".
But you never know if as a woman & mother how your health & baby turns out. Sometimes you give birth and BOOM you suffer depression and baby has health issues too. Some mothers don't come back from depression at all. When the unknown happens it can set your life goals years back. You are never ready! there is no perfect age or time in life to start a family. Best wishes to all.
I was thinking about this when she said that. 7:31 It's okay for men to marry late, but if women do it, they receive a "title" :/
Well there go the double standards really. It is especially sad since not all women choose to be single by the time they get 30-40. Some relationships they invested in and were supposed to lead to marriage and kids failed and then to be called out on that, must be hurtful to them.
@@lumyb9064 " Some relationships they invested in and were supposed to lead to marriage and kids failed and then to be called out on that, must be hurtful to them."
The same goes to men.
The one thing that the older generation will never understand that it is very hard these days to look for a partner or even start a family when you’re trying to establish your career or find somewhere permanent to live.
What a bunch of nonsense, I know people who have been married for 12 years just to suddenly end up divorced and single at 40. And I know people who didn't marry till 50. Everyone's life is different stop trying to push everyone into a little box.
True why does that even matter which country it is or its increasing or decreasing is upto if they happy they can do whatever they like if theyre not they don't want to simply not about money or anything just let them be stay happy stay content love your fam why does it even matter ! Lmao sick already if these topics when are people going to do for themselves passion work for themselves for their parents live freely be happy and if u want something in your life you can do whatever u feel like , I just don't get ! And why do even people judge people like wth ! What's so wrong - age is just a number so be happy stay healthy don't over populate world ....
Great video Asian Boss
1:58 she looks like the main actress in What happenes to my family😄 (the role was Kang Shim)
i am 26 years old with stable job. currently i already have a boyfriend and we're been dating for 7 years now. we had plans but we want everything to be settled before we enter the next phase in life. all my parents friends, aunts and uncle, neighbors keep on asking us if when we plan to settle down which kinda irritating sometimes because they on asking you same question everytime and they are much worried than me.
its just that, people nowaday are more wiser than some of our parents generation, we dont want to enter the next phase and get broke because of lack of plans and preparation for future, maybe because we already seen and experience the effect of unplanned marriage be like, and how hard it is specially to the child. marriage is not like eating a newly cooked rice that when get burn, you can just spit it out.
The gap between Japanese and Korean women in terms of feminism seems huge
Wat do u mean
I feel like feminism as a force is more apparent in Korea, but the in terms of the interviews, the Japan and Korea one seemed similar.
@@inat3971 feminism is about gender equality and Japan needs it
P 01010000 japan needs it dumbass
Funny Little Frog I don’t think its about equality anymore. Women often use it to be superior
I think it's so interesting how their beliefs about marriage are so varied, it just shows that you can live in the same place and experience completely different influences based on your individual communities.
lol @Asian Boss, I can understand using copy and paste is easy but at least proof read before putting on description.
"The opinions expressed in this video are those of individual interviewees alone and do not reflect the views of ASIAN BOSS or the general INDONESIAN population."
I love that this is a series!
That's what my first husband said" I was getting older and needed to have kids" -_-
You marry when you're ready. Not any sooner. With technology these days you can have kiddos at any age, take it from this married too young gal..marry when you are ready :)
Sadly a lot of those ways are dangerous and prey on desperate women
What technology?
@@somegrill7561 in vitro feritilization. google it.
stealthmonkey91 oh I know
@Agatha z you can always adopt! Help the children in need do not contribute to more over population
Is Asian Boss going to make more videos like 'What is The Marriage Age in [insert Asian country]?'
If so, I'm totally down for it 😀
The ideal time for me is when I feel like it
"There is a perception that if a woman doesn't get married her life is over" maybe but a lot of women mistakenly believe the opposite nowadays, that if you get married life is over.