For better or for worse? South Korean men seek brides in Vietnam • FRANCE 24 English
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- Some men and women decide to spend their lives together despite knowing from the outset that they have almost nothing in common. More and more South Korean men are finding their wives abroad, be it in Vietnam, China or Thailand. These multicultural partnerships are a response to a national crisis: South Korea's low marriage rate. Our reporters travelled to Vietnam and South Korea to investigate.
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Hiring help to work at the farm and care for your parents is expensive, getting a wife is cheaper... poor women
That's a lot for one person to handle. Yet, i'm sure that it's not what most people are seeking. ❤❤
So you just gonna ignore the whole part that pointed these women are wiling participant also looking for a man and they turn down men who don't fit their requirements ?
@@hikari9433That is why they divorce so much.
They never imagine reality.
They imagine K drama fantasy.
The table turns and the men often find themselves left with kids, old parents of his own and a farm to take care of when their Vietnamese wife left.
The lesson is, stay single if you are not ready to treat the other equally as a human yourself.
Hire a helper or a caregiver at a fair rate instead of dumping all those duties on one person like a slave.
they are committed to do that by themselves
@@user-yj6bx7md5l you think the women don't have requirements of their own ? The Korean correspondent said it herself, some Vietnamese women change their mind or turn down men they believe don't meet their standards. Being equal in a relationship doesn't mean having the exact same roles. In a family, if one partner is working full time, of course the other one who stays at home is expected to take care of most of the house and the family. If the men also expected their wives to have a job and then come home and take care of stuffs, then you could've say they want a servant, but here it is not the case. Why is that when women are expected to take care of house duties we call it slavery but when men are expected to work brutal hours to actually pay for the food, the bills, water, the kids school, etc. No one pay attention ? That double standard is also what creates divorces.
If the men is looking for future wife to help in farming, do housework & taking care of old parents, they aren't looking for wife, more like looking for maid.
As the news report observed, there is an expectation on the part of the Vietnamese women that the marriage will result in economic support for their aging parents. In other words, the Korean men will be working not only to provide for their own wife (who will probably face some limitations on her own ability to work and contribute financially) and children, and to support their own aging parents in Korea, they will also take on the economic burden of supporting their wive’s parents in Vietnam. Many of these men will be worked into the grave.
I'm already a maid in our house, my husband is still dissatisfied, he wanted me to be a maid and find a job as well.
It's like saying : "if women are looking for a future wife to go to work, bring the money, pay the bills, they aren't looking for a husband, more like looking for an ATM." Everyone in a family have a role to fill in order for things to run smoothly. if the man is working, the woman mostly take care of the house and the family. if both are working, both take care of housework and family. If the woman is the one who works then the man take care of the family. Love is not enough to keep a marriage afloat.
Maid better than wives nowadays.
They asked, he answered, but that dont mean literally, every husband expects a wife to help him. If a wife doesnt want to help her husband, then that is not a husband, that is a sugar daddy.
The Korean gov is fighting the problem the wrong way, doing everything else but addressing the root of the problem. Overworked people who earn an average income while living costs are rising & they cannot spend time with loved ones, either because they're working late or too tired from work. Smh
not that simple. it's ultimately the highly misogynistic society. No sane korean woman wants to marry a demanding korean man
You still have to be motivated to find someone. You need to be forced into these speed dating things imo and by luck you could find someone, its better than nothing.
Of course, they elected a misogynist pig, they need foreign desperate women willing to put up with their crap
K women just like WHITE WOMEN... the expectations are unrealistic. A twenty yr old white female on YT said her husband had to earn $200k a year. Well, only .5% do. And she was a 5/10 on looks. White men had to go to other country to find brides....so do Asian men.
A man at the speed dating event even said that he is always at work, so it is hard to meet women.
Not all foreign marriage ends up bad, my mom was Vietnamese and Dad is MexAm, they met during Vietnam war, my dad was rotated out but promise to find her, it took him 7 years and 2 of my sibling and finally located my mom in a refugee camp in Hong Kong in 1979, they were together until her death in 2004. Real love do exist outside language barrier.
Such a cute story ❤
That's so sweet
😢😢😢
Your dad is a real hero!
This is not the case though
Asian passport bros 😂
😂😂😂😂
Japan too
We are a large family Passport Bros are International ALL colors and races of men.
Some passport bros go to Africa I'm still debating on Nigeria or Philippines
Good for them I'd say lol
Maid is the correct word to describe ALL the hard work Vietnamese women do in Korea. No wonder so many of them run away
Korea is dying even if they go through this phase and want to instill their toxic work culture in their children, they will grow up and leave thencountry too😂. Korea must chnage their work ethics to survive or doom themselves.
If only the husband works and makes money, the woman should take care of the home. If they both work, they should both share household duties. 😂 why is this so complicated?
@@Stevewilldoit96 The money the husbands keep to themselves? They barely pay their wives.
what Maid? Maids are expensive. they need to be paid. what you should be saying is an unpaid slave by marriage.
@@okumangodfreyemmanuel7615 My bad😂 You are right!
These women watch kdramas and think everyone in Korea lives in nice homes and are well-off. But Many of these men live in the countryside and are looking for farmer wives. I would never marry someone I couldn’t communicate with
I'd have to agree. Communication is one of the most important aspects of successful marriages.
There is a huge income gap between korean and vietnam, so even lowermiddleclass korean is enough to buy a nice land in vietnam
and what's the use of the English language, is it only for decoration, TELL ME !!! @bpxl53yewz29
@@EGoPRiNCExx Unfortunately, the real estate situation in Vietnam is also very different now, constantly changing. If I'm not mistaken and read government news regularly, the land price market is very tense in Vietnam. So in recent months, there have been National Assembly sessions on policies and laws tightening real estate, bank credit and land. I'm not sure whether even Vietnamese and foreigners can buy or own any property, let alone buying good land in VN.
@@EGoPRiNCExx, what you said sound very dumb to me, come to Vietnam try to buy a land, these men are only get some girl in rural area as well, those girl mostly uneducated and poor, but the girls in cities, nobody want them as well.
Guy: “How old are you?”
Girl: “37”
Guy: “37?!”
😂
😂 he’s like omg she’s old
@@ladybug3380 it’s safe to assume they didn’t pair up at the end of the event 😂.
he didn’t know they were similar ages as he’s 40 himself
Men are simple creatures and we all pick women around the same age the older you get the less likely we're going to pick you not a hard concept. No matter how advanced women get mens choice in women will not change
She’s too old for having kids at that age, or at just the risk is way higher..
The korean government should do more to promote marriage. If you want young people to have children, then do more to support them. Pass labor laws to require only 40 hrs/per week for all workers, offer free child care for all families to release financial stress, etc.
Government shouldn't be interfered with this, this should be part of family gathering event.
right ! if u want ppl to do something expensive u need to either make it cheaper or give them more money lol
When korean mans worked 7 days aweek birth rate wasabout 700percent higher than today's. Work culture is part of the problem. The real problem is that young people feel more free without marriage and having kids.
Also womens are currently more educated than men in terms of college. and refusing to take the traditional role.
Can’t stop laughing on comments here. Are you guys from Vietnam?
@@user-xe2ql2ft2calso cost of living is a lot higher. People can't afford housing and educating kids anymore
Around 2000s many women who were married to Koreans run away from Korea and told their horror stories. For some time our Newspapers were full of such interviews and their reason of escape. Such agencies are now illegal in our country, it's considered as human trafficking now.
Honestly, it's your loss or wimin in your country's loss, now they can't marry guys from rich countries and get the benefits. The guys will just go to one of the many other poor countries, you're not speciaI.
a lot of these agencies are a mask for prostitution.
@@ecs1e cry harder boy.
@@pnduarte4696 Why ? I'm not the one losing access to men that can bring me out of literal poverty, nor am I anywhere near poverty. Since you care so much about these literal poor women so much, you cry.
@@ecs1e rich men ahahaha the unique man that go to this countries are losers. They will survive don't you worry. Ahahaha.
getting married in less than 24 hr after first meeting?! its a crazy and desperate world out there being taken advantage by unscrupulous match-making agencies
That's the part that I thought was extreme. Why not give them a month to communicate and get to know each other? Making a decision after 10 minutes and asking such questions as, "What's your favorite food?" Yikes...too rushed.
@@kristinab1078 I bet that both of them don't even know each others name
30 years old homely
Who she going to marry in Vietnam?
Maybe never
@@joebidet2050 I believe it's much better to be single and alone than taking a risk with a stranger overseas
Homely? He picked the prettiest girl out of the ones we saw.
soo basically they are passport bros...
Ok it's been happening since the invention of ships
@@enhancedutility266 And since the invention of ships, men have been preyeing onto underage girls(and women) worldwide...
Passport bros can't exist if goldigrs didn't enable them to exist, just know
in other words, losers
My classmate in college also got into this. She is now working in his farm. The Korean guy is also older like 54 yrs old. She was 24 or 25 when they got married
Bruh.
shes a loser
These age gaps between two adults should not be stigmatized as it is in 2024.
When I was 8 I found 18-24 y/o women most attractive.
When I was 18 I found 18-24 y/o women most attractive.
Im still in my late 20s and will probably still find 18-24 y/o ladies when Im 30s, 40s, 50s etc. My partners have always been 18-21.
shes a loser
@@user-pn3im5sm7kwhat the heck. Are you saying when your 50 something you’ll still find 18-24 year olds attractive. That’s weird and that shouldn’t be normalized. 50 something shouldn’t be looking for young adults ,why don’t you date someone around your age.
Good luck for Tien, hopefully her husband is kind and loving and love will grow for them.
Looking at the video around 9:02,
I’m Vietnamese and it’s true, a lot of Vietnamese parents, but not all, see their children as retirement and money accounts.
And?
Some East Asians too, though not as much in the city
@@earlysdaand? That's sad really
@@dj.j5099dj, what is "sad" about expecting your children to take care of you instead of the government?
That’s all over the world lol
It's always the Bribe who has to learn the Groom's language and culture. Never the other way around. Lord help these women.
To be fair it's more beneficial for wife to learn because they are living in Korea now... But yes husband should also understand their wives culture.
If they were Vietnamese men, you think they'd even be given a chance?
Best is, if they marry an american. And then the American learns their language. 😅
@@cuddles1767 Picture an average Vietnamese man, now picture the chances of a Korean girI flying from Korea to marry him
That's because she is the one moving to his country which makes sense. If he is moving to her country then the burden is on him to learn her language and culture.
The truth be told - Korean men are not looking for a partner alone, they are looking for a woman who will look after them, their children, and their parents so the responsibilities that his places on Korean women is immense. This is why they are not getting married. This is a Confucian culture.
I guess they are looking for a responsible woman then while the men provide by working.
It’s a global culture. In what society is this not traditional marriage?
Bro. that's what marriage works..
To have a balanced take, the women are also not just looking for a partner alone, they are looking for a provider who can provide an income for her needs and desires. However, only Korean men who make well above average can provide that, and that's only like the top 30% of Korean men, that's why Koreans are not getting married, cuz 90% of women want 30% of men and are not willing to settle for less.
@@ericp1139It’s not the wife’s responsibility to look after the in laws.
Some critical information that you did not include was the surplus male population in South Korea. Government policies in the 1980s and 1990s was to encourage families to have a only one child and the cost of raising children had mushroomed as a result of urbanization and the need to secure competitive higher education. Also, due to Confucian values that required a son to continue the family, perform ancestral rites and provide economic support for retired parents, there was a strong preference for male children. Despite laws intended to prevent it, the result was sex selective abortions with many female pregnancies being terminated. This created a huge disparity between the number of male versus female births ( 108.6 male per 1 female birth in 1985 and 112.5 in 1990). Those babies are now adults and we are seeing the end result in the inability of many Korean men to find a Korean wife. When I was working there 22 years ago this was correctly predicted to be a serious societal problem in the future. The only possible solution to the male surplus is foreign wives. It does not help that South Korea does not permit dual citizenship. One thing that would help would be for the South Korean government to stop removing Korean citizenship from Koreans who settle abroad and obtain citizenship in their country of residence, which effectively limits the ability of their daughter’s to participate in the marriage pool in their ethnic homeland. We have a huge Korean population here in Canada, including my wife and daughter, and it is a major impediment and stress that they are forced to either abandon all ties with home or live forever as aliens in their country of residence.
Interesting insight. I was unaware of the huge male vs. female birth rate in Korea during the 80s. Also, the issues with only having a single citizenship.
Agree with all your points except dual citizenship. Your wife lives in Canada and should have Canadian citizenship. All people should belong to one country only. She can still visit Korea as tourist.
@@99wilson That’s your opinion Mate. Like most of my family and many (if not most) people I know, I am a dual citizen myself. There is no rational reason why I would abandon one citizenship for another. When I was a youth one of my teacher’s told me that citizenship is the last form of slavery, but it was many years before I fully understood what he meant, and I wholeheartedly agree with him. I think as a species we should move towards global citizenship and eliminating borders, (while simultaneously reducing the size of the human population and our impact on the planet).
Interesting, had no idea. Just like China. Makes me angry how Confucianism devalues women
This is not true. South Korea is not China. My parents had 4 kids.
It's too risky. They can't even communicate to each other. He is looking for a maid, not a wife. To Vietnamese women, you can do better than these. Most of them are strong and hard working. Korean men should treat them well.
You are only a maid when you work for your husband who loves protect and provide for you, But when you work for a boss who doesn't even care about you, its freedom?
@@zizodbest A boss pays you, what does a deadbeat husband pay with?
@@L0lLmao Good point 😂
@@L0lLmao Your assuming the husbands are "deadbeats." The man featured was a farmer, so I assume he probably works fairly hard. The women will have a home, property, a step up financially, and will be able to send funds to their parents. That was mentioned in the report. However, it is still a gamble.
Yes Vietnamese women! Don’t marry Korean guy! We’ll pick other countries lol
I hope these men know that Vietnamese women are strong women. If they want someone to take care of their parents and do household chores for them, they should hire people to do that, not wife them up. Also, it's easy to promise monetary support and not accomplish them. The Korean government should also establish policies to protect these women. PUT. EVERYTHING. INTO. WRITING.
reality is actually opposite. the women marry the men, get permanent residence, then scam the man for his properties before disappearing. the viet women are usual culprits compared to other countries. most korean dudes know the risk, they just think koran women arent worth it
🙏 amen
I disagree if you want a wife find one wives are supposed to do house work and you can't stop me or these men from marrying foreign wives men get your passports!
Why does it bother you?
@@Joshua-eo5hr exactly I'm from Iran I couldn't care less what some nationality of the opposite gender is marrying or doing. Nobody said that vietnamese women aren't strong. We know they are, That is why foreigners would rather marry them then them. Vietnamese women are just more hardworking
The Vietnamese lady at 9:02 is very frustrating 😢 Wow you’re just using your daughters as a source of income by marrying them of with foreign men 💔
lf you and your countries actually paid them the same rate you pay your own people for their labor, they wouldn't need to do that. Are you willing to pay 5x more for all your made in Asia goods? No? then stop virtue signalling
I met my wife in Vietnam and we’ve been married for 4 years now. What that lady said is true. Looking back at my wife’s village a lot of the women would marry men from China, or other first world countries.
The money that came from the marriage has brought their parents new houses, cars and more land. It’s now well known that women bring in money than the boys who struggle making a living in a mostly poor country.
As for the women, if you are beautiful, rich men will flock to you and give you what ever you want. It’s also common for women to accept being a mistress to an already married man. Very common in Asia especially in China.
@@andyo.593 To be fair , they don't even need to be that pretty. Their competitive advantage is availability, it's not cuz they're prettier than women in more developed countries. There is this misconception that they need to "beat" and "compete" with equivalent women in developed countries to get foreign men , but that's not the case, it's more that they get the men that higher-status women do not wish to compete for.
@@andyo.593 personally I married a vietnamese, but met in Vietnam. Built a house. All is good.
It’s easy to judge others through your lens…🤷♂️
Director of Wedding Trafficker: " A TOTAL NORMAL WAY TO GET MARRIED"
Men who are not capable of convincing their own women to marry them usually do not have a very compelling case. Not everyone is meant to be married.
Dude, they want to be married then get married..not all marriages are successful anyway,.US has a 50 percent divorce rate, nobody complaining..
@@garryjohnson6794 Good point but usually the results of marriage are children. I would agree with you if marriage only entails two people alone without kids but when persons without the skills to keep a marriage have children. Well I don't to describe the result, we see it on the news everyday.
Why do you care ?
Because why not?@@sneedsfeed757
So you are saying men that are compelling to persuade their women to marry them can marry with as many women as they could.
I am glad there are still people love the old traditions.
Everyone's a passport bro lol
Men stay winning.
@@jayrollo1352Lmao loser 😭
so basically desperate men
@@-_-sneezy I hear most korean women have very high standards. If you're not a chad or tyrone you're not getting any. Modern feminism is also gaining momentum there so average men have no chance haha.
@@-_-sneezy Every man is desperate for p*ssy.
Jessalia Lee speaks English, Filipino and Korean. WOW!
Might be four languages depending on what region she's from the Philippines.
I mean... meh. People can marry whom they please. Though this doesn't seem to be for love. Gives trafficking vibes
Love is one of many reasons people get married. Western hollywood movies has closed so many minds.
I feel like this is the Korea ver of America greencard😅 but instead of money the man receive a maid.
@@pdhud pretty much
It's been decades for Korean men to marry poor asian women. The difference was that before poor & middle aged men in rural area used to marry these women but now days middle-class urban men kind of prefer them. What about us? Many Korean women choose not to marry unless certain conditions are met.
U have to be young and good looking to demand those conditions.
I'm sure that there are still men out there ready to meet your needs. It might only take some time to find him.
Korean woman's have small flat butts.I prefer top quality white juicy American woman's
Sure
@cuddles1767Why do y'all want women to accept miserable marriages and suffer so badly??? Tf is wrong with y'all seriously
Looking at the street vendors making their daily living next to all the multistory buildings. These brides contestants similarly have no status but only hard life in Vietnam. That is why they go through this. But, it is just throwing a dart in the dark. Some work out, some don't. God bless them.
By developed country woman's standard, it never works out. By their standards, it works out most of the time, cuz it's all about expectations
And what percentage of marriages work out in your country?
They take their chances just like everyone else.
@@handsomeman-pm9vy We don't pay to marry here.
@@oakspines7171 Money is only one of many forms of payment. The truth is almost every marriage is transactional, whether it's financial security, emotional security, physical security, beauty, that's being exchanged.
@@ecs1e Far fetched trtuth. The brides are shown like livestocks to be picked by some strangers from afar. How sick and demeaning. So much for women rights.
Vietnamese women. Run!
Run from what the average Vietnamese man makes 3,500 a year while the average Korean man makes $35,000 a year The choice is pretty simple
But these women are not marrying “average” men.
@@user-vw8qj1en1p exactly Korean men make 20 times over then the average Vietnamese man
@@enhancedutility266but they are toxic asf. I feel sorry for these Vietnamese woman who have 0 clue in Koran culture !
@@Juuls92but Vietnamese men are more toxic and are more poor than your average Korean man in those toxic men tend to be much older younger Korean man are much more softer than the forefathers
Bride trafficking!
They are really a puppet of WEST.
No, it's called , gold-digging
oh ohh the western feminist are mad.
Looking for Korean suger daddy!
@@Joshua-eo5hr What’s so “feminist” about my comment? Marrying someone for money involves desperation to get out of financial destitution and there is a whole industry around this which hooks up desperate brides with equally if not more desperate grooms. As simple as that!
I feel like this could backfire because as I know South Korea and South Koreans look down on South East Asians (poor countries) as they say, I feel like the daughter in law won't be respected as well as a South Korean daughter in law what a shame but this is my opinion don't come for me.😅😢
We don’t want you anyway lol
No they don't. you're assuming. South Koreans love Vietnamese, Taiwanese, and other SE Asians. Meat is in the pudding. Why would they marry them? These men are not just looking for people to help, but a wife for lifetime they can love and cherish.
@frankh.5378 it's true, high class Asians (Korean, Japanese) look down on southeast Asians Vietnamese, Filipinos, Cambodians and Thai because they're poor. It's like Canadians and Americans looking down on Mexicans and Central America countries Guatemala, Honduras, El Salvador, etc.
@@redrocket604 no they don't. Men especially know they are not going to marry if they are waiting for a Korean wife. So, this is their only way to make a family. Also, Canadians and Americans do not look down on Mexicans. I am a Korean American living in the States. We think they are hard workers who are unfortunate. This is the same 'unfortunate' word to describe men who are in countryside in Korea who Korean girls do not want to marry. That is not racism. That is called life.
@frankh.5378 yes they do, I'm an American too. There's still a lot of discrimination and racial prejudice against Hispanics and Latinos alike. That includes Mexicans and folks from Central America.
Next on 24 Hour Fiancé… 👶
Finding marriage before finding love? How can that ever work?
My local hairstylist played matchmaker, introducing her sister-in-law’s sister to me. So I flew Vietnam to meet her. Nothing seemed like a dealbreaker besides a language barrier and my brief hospital visit for travelers diarrhea. So I proposed 84 hours after our first meeting. It took another 12 months for the marriage paperwork to wedding to immigration application to application approval to bringing her to Canada.
That was 18 years ago. We’re still happily married (with children), so it was for better for us. Relationships work if the chemistry is there and you’re willing to put in the work.
Love? Ha! Talk about something real, like hypergamy
@@thepassportog The man has been married for 18 years. I think he would know if he is in love or not.
And true love can end up a nightmare years down the road.
@@ml-mw7ms Or, it can be the be the best decision he ever made in his life. After 18 years, I would say he's on a good trajectory.
Arranged marriages have a very high success rate. Common in india, middle east, jews and such. Mail order brides, not so much but still worthwhile.
The Vietnamese brides divorce their Korean husbands as soon as they get citizenship then bring their lovers from vietnam over and marry them. and the korean men are left to grumble on the internet LOL.
Honestly to be single is better. Trust me 😂
Possibly, but statistics actually show that people who are married are ON AVERAGE happier, more successful financially, and healthier than their single or divorced counterparts. So if you can find the right one....seems it could be a good thing.
being single as an adult on an average income in Vietnam? Looks like you're disconnected from their reality.
@@kristinab1078for men , not for women.
If you're rich in a poor country or average in a rich country, sure , but if like them you're poor in a poor country, then no.
Women have learned that it is disastrous to become financially dependent on a husband.
This also happens to Filipinas.most of these Korean men arent even rich
Well, by South-East Asian standards, they are rich. Just cuz someone isn't rich or pretty or handsome to you, doesn't mean they aren't to some1 else.
when girls dream of marrying a korean they expected the man to look like lee min ho, instead they got a balding middle aged grandpa🤣
@@rollinghippo2940 You mean girls from developed countries, sure 100%. But girls from this part of the world, a Korean passport is all they expect.
Rich?
Rich and high class Koreans never marry to foreigners.
Brides buying was starting by rural low class men since 1990s.
so their final destinations for poor countries! That's why They can't get any Koreans or Blondes!😆😆😆
@@AznPride101 if they were really that beautiful, there is no need to travel to Korea for a guy, when you already have loads of high-value men in your own country chasing you. No girI is settling for an avg Korean guy over rich wite guys, if they had a choice. And let's not even act like foreign women have access to rich Korean guys.
This mofo only has the audacity !!!!!!!! He doesnt say im looking for love, i want company ... I WANT SOMEONE TO LOOK FOR MY AGEING PARENTS ..... he wants an hospice nurse ?😅
@@P.90.603Then men should take care of their own parents. Not by hands of a complete stranger FOR FREE.
@@user-yj6bx7md5l wt do u mean by free, who is making the money, the husband is, every man expects his wife to help him, if she doesnt want to help her husband then that is not a husband, that is a sugar daddy.
Hospice nurse you mean
@@IamHandsome4u what about women's parents?
@@hey_you. her brother's wife will take care of them.
24 hrs and getting married WOW
That Korean guy needs a helper not a wife. Imagine you will marry so someone can help in his farm and at the same time taking care of his aged parents.
@@P.90.603 the modern woman understands that marriage is a scam.
high income women won't take this marriage so u just have to choose the right wife, that's all the concept. and nothing is wrong with that
That is wt every husband expects a wife to do, help him, if a wife dont want to help her husband, then that is not a husband, that is a sugar daddy.
Ppl can do and decide whatever they want to do. Some success some fail.
@@P.90.603modern wom3n understand it pretty well. Wom3n get exploited with no pay in the name of marriage.
I just hope the SK farmer profiled was clear with his new bride about his expectations that she will help him with farming and caring for his elderly parents.
Wow if that woman couldn’t kiss that man on her wedding day, what’s going to happen on the honeymoon. Did she really got married after 24 hours of meeting him. Unbelievable 😮
Exactly, these men are naive if they think things will end well for them.
Bad breath too much kimchi garlic
@@leeanne1289😂😂😂
They don't love each other
@@sonofkars you don’t need love to kiss someone , you only need to feel some attraction and chemistry to kiss
Thank you for this video.
I think it’s hard for these men to find wives in Korea because women in Korea have higher expectations and criteria. Most don’t want to do farm work. But it’s not only women from Vietnam marrying Korean men to better their lives. Many Eastern European and Russian women try to meet Korean men through dating websites. High influx of those international marriages too.
Nah dude, wite girIs going for As'an men is extremely rare. When it happens, it's more eye-catchy cuz it's so rare.
@Ax1I-db5pu Russian women are definitely seeking Korean men. How you ever been to Busan? Lol
@@DeniDays312 Do you understand English? I never denied that it does happen, its just not "many" like this person said. You can look up the top 5 countries for foreign brides for Korean men, no wite country is in the top 5.
@Ax1I-db5pu I think it is you who doesn't understand English. He said, "Many Eastern European and Russian women try to meet Korean men...". "Many" means "Numerous." There ARE "numerous" Eastern European and Russian women that are seeking Korean men. Busan and Seoul are flooded with them. Clearly, you've never been.
@@ecs1e Not all stereotypes are true bro.
The only thing is, maybe they should help these women learn more of the Korean language and culture ahead of the marriage. Ppl marry for all sorts of reasons, this is not necessarily a terrible thing.
South korea has put tons of programs in affect over the past years. The biggest one imo, perm residency if divorced. Aboutv5 years ago a wife was tied to a husband's visa. No more.
How can a marriage work if you both speak different languages?
Like my father who married a different ethnic Asian girl said when asked a similar question; we don’t fit upstairs, but we fit down there.
Gd question 😭
Did you hear about learning ?
languages can be learned.. takes time obviously but if you're determined, you'll eventually get there
The languages are very similar
If both parties agreed to the transaction, it is what it is.
Agree..😂
You know consent isn’t that simple right? Or are you just not capable of complex thought?
@@rabiashakoor1766 we are talking about transaction not consent
@@ecs1e Because they get to go home after work and can quit if they want? What a terrible analogy ..
@@rabiashakoor1766 Does their work upgrade their citizenship to developed country? Do you honestly believe being a worker in an As'an factory is easier than a housewife? Do you think after work they have 0 housewife duties? Do you honestly think they can just quit and still have money to survive? What a poor understanding of reality in that country.
I just watched a documentary last night about something similar on the other side of the world: men from North America seeking brides from Eastern Europe. It seems to be a trend going on in a lot of places.
In countries where women have more lifestyle options outside of marriage and motherhood, either they are only interested in getting married/having children under certain conditions or they are opting out altogether. The men get frustrated by this so they go to countries where women are more financially vulnerable or have fewer options. And the usual recurring theme is these men want to be able to pick a bride the same way they'd pick out a car. No real attempt at getting to know one another and making sure they're even compatible. Most of the time they don't even care that they don't have a language in common. Why would you legally attach yourself to someone you can't even communicate with??
The foreign potential brides are looking for a better life and the men are looking for a live in maid that they don't have to pay for.
You don't have what man wants to begin with so why should a guy even bother especially when you have way too many liabilities to be asking for standards. By the way I'm not saying you but some of the women I've seen on UA-cam and other social media accounts especially the one who are overweight and have kids plus consumer debt That's a bad deal for a single childless man to deal with
No it's less about Financials and more about being with someone that's a CAPABLE wife..
You sound bitter how are men not paying for a maid when they pay all the bills?? Men don't listen to this woman get your passports get you a submissive wife today.
Amen girl! BINGO! That is why I wish these vulnerable women who have no career opportunities to stay away from predatory men like them because we all know that those kind of men search for low maintenance women who are subservient and will treat them like crap in the future of their marriage
Passport Bro ❤
They are looking for honoured maids lol
By that logic, the women are looking for passports and moneybags
It’s just seems at that moment but things will catch on.
😂😂😂😂😂 they leave there country nd men expect to be maid for another one lmao .🤣🤣😭
as a korean I am so happy to see this topic here which is surprisely always in the underearth. I feel so sad when I see a beautiful young girl from Vietnam with an old korean man. Hope they might meet their expectation in Korea
Very old 😂😅
The first didn't want a wife he wants someone to be his maid to serve him and his family and farm business
Exactly. Do we now understand why Korean women don't want to marry many of the Korean men who expect a wife to be a maid to serve him and his family and farm business? Many of these wives are mistreated as well. Domestic abuse is a problem in this very macho society.
@@lizzquainare you married to Korean guy? And he treat you like that? Lol
@@Seoul1004ever they Go by biased stats run by UN for depopulation to sow chaos
@@Seoul1004ever I'm half Korean. My Korean mother married my American father and were happily married for 50 years until he died a few years ago. She was smart to not marry a Korean guy. Too much hard work for the Korean wife to have to take care of everyone (including her husband's parents) and be treated poorly. Unfortunately Korea and Japan are very macho patriarchal societies where women have to do so much of the work and men behave badly and don't help much with the house or kids. No wonder the birth rate is declining.
@@lizzquain so you saying if you are dumb enough you probably end up with Korean guy? 😂. I love all women doesn’t matter where they from. Most of Korean guys in 30-40s we make good living and we want our wife to stay home. Most normal Korean guy don’t go for foreigners.
See I’m not defending these guys from country farmer who lives in tough life where they bring someone from oversea and don’t treat them well.
Hope you meet nice Korean guy who treat you like queen every single day like how I and rest of good Korean do to our women. We want spoil them not abuse.
Comment as a South Korean woman.
It's a bizarre marriage on the surface, but it's actually a pretty reasonable marriage.
Many Korean women choose to live in the city or to be career women, or just live alone.
This is the biggest reason why men in rural Korea are delaying marriage.
However, in the Vietnamese, Thai, and Chinese cases above, the majority of women have experienced rural life so are not opposed to it, and they need to support their families back home.
So, in my opinion, what Korea needs is not to portray their decisions as unfortunate and to passively consider their choices, but rather to respect their decisions, wish them well, and help them integrate into society. In addition, there is a growing trend of Korean women marrying men from these countries.
Someone in the comments has some sense 😂
Regarding the last sentence, an average South-East As;an man has no chance of marrying a woman from a developed country, let's just be 100% honest, he needs to have some kind of wealth, at least in the top 10-20% of these countries . A Vietnamese woman can come from a poor family, no education, no nothing and still have a reasonable chance of being accepted, for her brother, it's impossible.
@@ecs1e not true. It's quite common families sell sons for fishing boat labor to other countries or factory workers in say Britain. Look up lorry disaster Britain, and fishing boat horror stories. Sell a son 3 5 7 10 years labor on a boat.
You're making much sense and it's not a new phenomenon either there's always a need for foreign labor It's a win-win situation
@@sagepirotess6312 Exceptions exist, but exceptions don't make rules. Stop being contrarian.
This has nothing to do with Korean women, yet they(korean women) are still bothered. The man did not break any laws. Leave men alone. Are you afraid that men are happy?
You have no idea how these women are being treated here. It's because korean women knows how mysogynistic korean men are.
It does actually affect them, it's like this, if men go for foreign women, it reduces the demand for Korean women, it increases the competition for Korean men, which decreases Korean women's value and bargaining power in relationships. lt's the same in any developed country, that's why women from developed countries don't like women from poor countries.
@@Stella-yt6dpnot all of them you know,.you just portraying all of them as the same..i know some Korean that marrying Indonesian, have 3 kids and live happily..it depends on the individuals
The korean government think speed dating will fix it? How about a good salary, affordable housing and less work hours?
seems you know Korea for 100 % and how much we suffer 🤣
Thanks a lot
Man, this is beyond sad for both, the men and the women. It broke my heart.
The desperation is off the roof 😢
I think too many people will look at this and think it's only the man who's desperate, but in reality it's both.
I wish they will be both happy!
The Bride is gorgeous. I hope they over come all obstacles and live happily. Marrying within 24 hr is too fast. Indians give atleast 1 month to decide.
To all Vietnamese women --- you are strong and hard working women. If you focus on yourself you don't have to be a maid/ wife in Korea or any other country. Just see this video 😢. It's never too late.
Old news. This is been happening since 2000s.
Happening since the beginning of time, only thing changes is who's rich and who's poor, but even that hardly changes.
Marrying only after 24 hours is crazy/absurd/wild.
Now the Koreans are becoming "Passport Bros."
There was a video few years ago about Taiwanese men marrying Vietnamese
women. Looks like Vietnam's biggest export is women. Same as the Philippines.
No, I’m like passport balls to actually looking for families not just sex tourism
@@handsomeman-pm9vy huh? Vietnams top exports is literally phone parts while Philippines is Integrated Circuits
Now stop that bs
Yep exactly
@@TBGB-LM
Screw phone parts and integrated circuits.
I prefer the women.
I don’t know why most people are bitxing around. If both parties are happy and this is a match making than both will be happy. Arranged marriages work very well so far and most of you don’t complain about it
They just want men to be miserable to justify their ideology it gives them credibility
@@enhancedutility266 no most m3n make everyone else miserable.
@@manifest2203 lol right 🤣🥴 you really need to touch grass and go outside everyone is moving on with you or without you.
@@enhancedutility266 lol stop being emotional. Facts don’t care about your feelings.
@@manifest2203 what facts men are moving on if you have a issue that's your problem
I got married to a Vietnamese woman and my world has improved 200%
Did you make her work?
So you found a maid
What about her world? How much did her world improve?
@@paolanavarro6824 he made her his personal made and hole.
@@paolanavarro6824better than he found her obviously or knowing females they don’t downside
And What about the Vietnamese men? Where do they go to find their brides? Interesting how one group of people are just ignored in this report.
There are plenty to go around.
You think the Korean men are taking all their women with nothing left for Vietnamese men? 😂😂😂
These international marriages for Vietnamese women are only a tiny tiny fraction of the population, barely a drop of water in the ocean. Use your brains 🤦
LOL, this is not popular at all, there are millions of people, dont worry.
Don't worry. South East Asia has too many women compared to men
@@joanurb8015Right there's plenty to go around
Same as philippines
Never or rarely see a Filipino married to foreign woman
I see nothing wrong with adults choosing to join in the contract of marriage. Everyone is a Willing partner.
Not if there’s huge possibility of a husband turning violent.
Their divorce produces poor kids with mental health problems.
Later its their choice to leave or stay@@user-yj6bx7md5l
or the woman becomes violent feminist, annoying just like the women from the west. why do you have to blame the men for everything?@@user-yj6bx7md5l
This is nothing but exploitation of wom3n for free domestic servant, free surrogacy, free s3x work, free caretaker work for his aging parents. Plus the change for abuze is very high.
@@user-yj6bx7md5lArranged marriages are not inherently more violent then love matches, you’re just projecting
They seem like a cute couple, hopefully they remove the language barrier at some point. I don't how long ago this was filmed but I hope they're doing well and maybe we can get update on them.
Let’s face it. It’s not just Korean men. Men in countries that a little well off have been seeking women from poorer countries for a long time now. Remember those “mail order brides” magazines of the 1980’s and 90’s of American/other western men seeking brides from Asia and Eastern European countries, and it’s still happening these days via online. Men think women from those countries are more “traditional” or brought to please others, etc., and the women think they are getting a better life. Some got their their wishes but for the majority things don’t work out.
I hope they all find happiness
Arrange marriage by an agency !!
They are NOT wooed or courted lol
They are treated like commodity who can bear children, do housework and someone to bed.
sorry to break it to you but marriage is all economics not a disney fairy tale just a way to keep your lineage going
They could've been if they'd chosen their own men, why did they abandon their own men and commoditize themselves for richer men?
You could turn it around and say he is a commodity, used for a home, security, and money. That is pretty much the history of marriage. 😎
did you think the mail order bride business was a disney movie. Its purely transactional and everyone in that room is aware of that. Prince charming isnt importing his bride via speed dating i promise you.
Who in their right mind wants to get married these days????unnecessary hassle
When you find a good partner it's not a hassle.
Statistics show people who are married are ON AVERAGE happier, more successful financially, and healthier both physically and mentally than their single or divorced counterparts. So maybe there's something to it when done well.
@@kristinab1078but wom3n are more healthier, look younger and are more happier when they are single.
@@manifest2203 I got this information from statistics in the US that have been done that looked at health, happiness, and financial stability. On average married people had an advantage with all of these things.
@@kristinab1078Until the almost certain divorce knocks on their door 🤣🤣
It is a sad reality for Vietnamese men in particular and for Vietnam as a national in general
it's only sad for westernised korean women
westernised korean women?! @@miaya3898
K women just like WHITE WOMEN... the expectations are unrealistic. A twenty yr old white female on YT said her husband had to earn $200k a year. Well, only .5% do. And she was a 5/10 on looks. White men had to go to other country to find brides....so do Asian men.
@@miaya3898 lmao incel, "westernised" korean women are not losing anything only 2/10 peasants do this.
@@miaya3898 yeah so sad that they won’t be someone’s free bang maid for 60 plus years.
Recently, Vietnamese women married Korean men, obtained Korean nationality, divorced Vietnamese men, and married Vietnamese men again, resulting in Vietnam being the No. 1 international marriage partner
It’s a bit unnerving for me that the host kept saying that they were looking for love. They aren’t. It’s a transaction. Men are looking for cheap labour and sex. The women want to escape poverty. There might be love in few relationships created through this process but for the most part it’s only abusive situations.
It’s the same issue everywhere, instead of changing their wrong, dated ways men go abroad and/or find someone younger to take advantage of. Pathetic.
Well, same goes for the women, instead of actually working hard for money, they find a relatively rich man to give them a free ride, or so they think. Is that pathetic as well or it's ok for women, but not men?
Vietnamese women seeking a better life -- helping run a farm and taking care of husband's parents? NOT.
Not only Vietnam, their men are roaming across all South East Asian countries, yet they still racist to us 😂
I don't know how to describe this situation.....is it Self made slave?what is it ?
They think its better life there in Korea?even Koreans cant live in Korea.....
OMG .....look at those women they even Bleached their skins for the opportunity to meent men from Korea.....
And why in the Hotels?why not Public place?
Gosh this ia depressing for me...
Goodluck to all those Village Girls from North Vietnam.....
Most Vietnamese girls do not need to bleach their skins. They are naturally pale if they just stay out of the sun.
@@jt6231 meanwhile what they do cream and what they do with their skin and their own confession...Lol
Okay you do you dear.......
And maybe you are self-made slave to your boss at work.
Agreed. This is nothing but exploitation of wom3n for free domestic servant, free surrogacy, free s3x work, free caretaker work for his aging parents. Plus the change for abuze is very high.
Men like traditional women,what a shocker.
Many comments here seem to come from privileged families. Please understand that sometimes it's win win situation. Any woman who is opting for something like this they would not come from affluent families in any case. They see this as an escape and a way to earn money to support their parents back home. In a best case scenario both benefit from it.
It’s not a situation unique to Asia. Men of the West are resorting to the same of foreign brides.
They dont go and buy brides with no education then ship them secretly to US
Filipino woman seemed unhappy😢
They don't want Kopinos.
@@thelastdefenderofcamelot5623 hahahaha. Is that Korean + Filipino?
@@erickheredia8910 Apparently there are many of them fatherless.
Southeast asian women are in huge demand from West to east.....for passport bro's....
SEA women do. @@P.90.603
@@P.90.603 Women mostly hate the whole idea of the passport bros because it basically send the message : "I'd rather go abroad than date you" Which is ironic cause women have made a sport out of bashing men and claiming they don't need them.
Not everyone! I married because I love my husband.
@@P.90.603UA-cam isn't real life bro
Sadly but same with Eastern European women.
He’s only looking for a farm hand, housekeeper, and nurse maid. Good luck with that.
They all wanna maid but are they willing to be maid too .., cook , clean nd work . 🤷🏾♀️ I grow up working nd I ‘m used it I love it I can’t see myself sit home 24 hours cook nd clean all day ugh boring.
What are the women looking for then? How come those men don't want them?
Well , if you applied that logic to her, what's she "only" looking for as well?
@@Cxs1a3 Careful now. Forming logic is a big ask.
@@Cxs1a3 why don’t you tell me instead since you’re so smart.
Not just korean but also chinese men i heard
South korean men doing what passport bros in the USA are doing. It's amazing, love it.
10:29 her body language and what she's saying about being happy don't seem to line up. Not surprised at 11:47 about the divorce percentage. As a man, I would rather stay single than enter a marriage with someone who deep down was never naturally attracted to me, but her circumstances are pushing her to be with me.
Mostly, country side old men. (Farmer, fisherman)
Just like German farmer with east european women.
Can't blame them.
Nothing wrong with vietnamese women
@@ecs1e Subjective view
The bride from a farming village in a developing country weds a groom from a farming village in a developed country. The irony. She dreamed of the glitzy k-drama life and got the same damned life as back home, back to farming.
7:20 They met for the first time then their wedding was all happened in just 24 hours🤔, they should dated for at least one month to see if they are compatible and get comfortable with each company before getting married
It’s ok to find wives overseas if local women are not interested in you. The world is a market place. Don’t have to limit oneself.
@@peter320vnthat doesn't mean anything anymore
But wimin in developed countries have an issue with it, cuz it decreases the demand for them, increases their competition, which in turn, decreases their value.
@@Cxs1a3 That's their problem
@@Cxs1a3There's no problem, they will probably compete for a specific type of man and will indirectly end up in a harem lol😂
Exactly.
South Korean Men are marrying African American women too!
Some do but not a whole lot
@@enhancedutility266You are wrong there is a lot.
Yes we love all women!
@@FirstLadyG a lot as in how many because last time I checked African American women make up just 6% of the population in the US to and very few black women are expats or versus them staying stateside might be wrong but according to the US State department about 8.7 million Americans live overseas and a majority of them are men.
only few and the south Korean men's Parents won't even approve
She is so pretty 😍 but of course a marriage will last through time. Hopefully they don't clash on Interest and childcare. He also made it clear that he needs someone to help with his parents.
Good idea!
I am a single Korean woman. Marriage in Korea is very expensive and more like transactional. Divorce rate is probably 50%. Korean woman need to make money, serve husband and his family, have kids and raise kids all alone. So for highly educated Korean woman it is wise not to. It is critical for Korean men to choose woman for young age and pretty face.
Well it is what it is it's a win win because men get what they want and the women of developed nations can live alone with their cats and be bitter about men all day.
As a young man from india i wonder doesn't the husband in Korea also makes money and pays for the family and helps in raising kids, it's not like everything would be left to women.
I did not see any Vietnamese women in video with pretty face and the filipina was homely
And in 30s
Have children and raise them alone? So you are not married.😂😂
But you forgot to mention, kids are very expensive to raise in Korea, and women's expectation of men are way too high. After having a career, women tends to be unrealistic about criteria's for men, and end of living alone for the rest of their lives.
They’re looking for mothers to take care of them 😢
And you got women who want fathers to take care of them so what's the difference
And what are the women looking for?
the match making looks like taking a University exam.
Vietnam is a Confucian based society, and Korea is too. In Vietnam, during my parents era, it is customary especially in the more traditional rural areas, for the girl to go and live with her husband's family. She is expected to do a lot of the chores around the house, like cooking, washing etc.., to serve everyone, to give births... life was tough for the young bride. Things have changed a lot now so it's not as bad as it was in the past. Perhaps the Korean men did not seek a maid but it sort of turns out that way.
Is it a marriage or business deal ?
A lot of marriages are business deals sadly
Well marriage is a business deal indeed in a lot of ways :))
Historically marriage has been a business deal. 😎