;) Naaa it’s not a crap show. You’re just still learning. And I agree it is hilarious and it’s actually pretty healthy to be able laugh at yourself! haha 😆Xx
I found myself laughing through the NITI loop because I lived and live it !!! Thank you, you are so insightful. Hopefully I will not return to this comment and delete it, if you know what I mean.
I was gonna comment here agreeing what u say but nearly brushing my urge off bc I commented too much alr but decide to comment anw bc, u know.. lol Yea.. I edited my comment.. twice..
David Badurina got out of my 5 day loop today. I did what you said and emotioned. Lol. Usually sensory things help me but I tried emotion and it worked faster. 👍🏻 Blessings Rabbi/Yoda/Angel/Sensei...whoever you are.
Oh man. This is a little too accurate. My INTP husband doesn’t understand my INFJ explanation of the Ni Ti loop, so I will be showing him this immediately. 😁👍
"... And get out of the house." WELL ... I'm feeling called out. 😃 Loved the skit. I laughed out loud until I had tears in my eyes, because I totally relate.
I snort-laughed through the entire Ni-Ti demonstration! 😂 That was both hilarious and annoyingly accurate! I feel called out and will now go search for spider-cows in my kitchen! I discovered your channel only a few hours ago, and I’m glad I did! You do a brilliant job of breaking down INFJness! Also, I love your outtro!
Yeah I always described it as me trying to solve what lies at the innermost core of the universe and for that I simulate whole universes in my head, every day, every hour, every minute I create universes and destroy them all in my mind in the search for a link to the truth of what really holds the world together at its innermost core...meanwhile other people enjoy the movie and have time to have a good time.
@@DavidBadurina Definitely...I guess it´s something that I will have to work on. The fact that I did not think of this as in any way weird before, as in...this is just how I am and I would better stop that is quite amazing. I am slowly coming around in my journey from the last few days to grouping myself as an INFJ due to the descriptions of what they/we are and how we think and what we typically do to more solution orientated stuff so quite honestly I am overwhelmed with a lot of this, it´s gonna be a journey. Like said, I will need therapy, there isn´t even any way around that anymore. I am just happy by the prospect that I can have an influence on this thoughtprocess even tho I am not fully sure on how to yet and were I am going forward from here. uhm...I also with looking around for these videos find something that is triggering me to some degree again, there is a lot of INFJs out there it seems. Well...not really I guess, but a lot of people that either get this result or are pretending to be because it sounds cool. I am very happy having found people in these videos and in the comments that I can suddenly relate to but I know I have never met or at least never identified any person like me in my real life surrounding. This barrier is not something I would have ever wished on anyone. The notion that I could misdiagnose myself from these tests and feelings or not be that special after all is actually quite irritating. On top of that the prospect of some peoples videos that were rather aggressive at the notion of INFJ people "suddenly thinking" that they are so special or whatnot. It´s like a final FU from the world that having a surrounding like that ridicule those traits all my life but then also jumping at the possibility of inhabiting the feeling of being something special for themselves trying to take that newfound freedom away from me again. It´s just an extra layer of mistrust towards myself and wanting to hide it again...but I guess you also made a video about something like that (actually I was just about to watch your video about the imposter syndrome before I saw this popping up...I guess I should have done that first). Anyways enough of that, thank you for the videos, thanks for the answer btw that is really cool of you. I am looking forward to watching and learning the rest of it. And like said, I will need some help that I will get myself so then I will hopefully also learn to deal with...all this more coherently and get better at being a functioning human being without destroying myself in the process of it. I am happy I found your stuff.
OMG I told my husband that there is a spider in the laundry room yesterday, he asked “did you see it”, no, but it’s there, can you put it outside. He found said spider 🕷 and he put it outside, then asked “are you happy now”, yes I’m happy now,.....but it’s going to get down to freezing tonight 🥶 so...... oh gosh what if it freezes now that it’s outside, he was inside where it was warm, now it’s outside where it’s cold.....do you think you should go get it?, Really said my husband, he has never understood why, or how I would even think of such things, this gave him a new insight as to why I do what I do, we thank you 🙏 for this
I really needed a laugh this morning! True story; I had a granddaddy long leg climbing up my onsie last night while cooking. I had to stop everything, look around, run to the front door and as I was shaking Mr Spider off my body I yelled at him " this will be the last time I save your life, you are no longer allowed in my house!"...🤣
This explains the "why am I thinking about this?","where did I start thinking...oh yeah..about xyz that is nowhere near this",.. Then cat distracts me and saves my life.
Sometimes I write everything down in my journal when I'm going through one of these loops. It's hard to Fe in any meaningful way in the USA. The whole system is set up to keep us superficial and in solitary confinement....but there I go with the Ni-Ti rabbit hole. I've always felt like I'm all dressed up with nowhere to go. INFJ---very challenging in a superficial materialistic era. We once were the Shamans and sages. We were the ones who were revered. The ones with insight and vision connected to core truth, and the village looked to us for direction. One of my colleagues actually said to me that no one is interested in truth anymore. What a world. My salvation is exploring the spiritual side of things in a deep way and writing about it. Thank you for your profound insight of the INFJ world. You have helped me a lot.
Thank you for making me laugh and smile. I was so sad when I found your channel this morning. Also thank you for the visuals I learn things better with them. You have a great personality and I think you are doing a great job of helping other people understand themselves better. I dont feel as alone. May the Father bless you and your family. Our home isn't here it's with the Father. He is always with us even though we don't always feel Him.
From my point of view, the Ni-Ti combinaton is our strength as INFJ, and the problem arises (according to me) when one or both of these functions do not work (and when they are replaced by their extroverted counterparts proccessed internally - which is the key of the problem). Here, it is Ne (what if questions) and Te (wiki Information) that make things worse (as these mostly useless inputs are proccessed internally). If they were externally, they could be simply ignored or used (if they seem to be alble to play some helpful role).
You are damn good at this, whatever "this" is I cannot really define right now. Do you have acting practice as well or something? Feels like very professional delivery to me.
@@JonasAnandaKristiansson Nah, no training, I'm just an idiot with a camera and a good microphone. I'm pretty much like this in the privacy of my home 24/7 anyway. :-)
I have this conversation everyday!! The scenarios differ but the conversation is the same. Having mental illness makes it worse some days. Thanks for the knowledge!
I always felt like I am potentially prone to paranoia. Now I understand why. Understand oneself helps a lot, to not fall in these cognitive trap. Thank you for that great explanation. Take care 🍀
4 years ago I didn’t know I was an INFJ so here I’m now. That NI TI loop is so real and it’s so me right now. I’m working on getting out of it but it’s so hard
Hi David - After my cancer diagnosis ( I did chemo, radiation, and surgery and I am fine), I was stuck in Ni-Ti loop ! Without the Lord, two psychologist , Prozac, and Xanax would have not gotten out of it. One psychologist was for regular stuff and the other one was a cancer psychologist to deal with cancer issues.Loved your illustration , exactly what it was like. Sometimes the cast of characters sometimes aren't ridiculous. The spider cow was funny !
You are so funny, and that ending with puppets was priceless :). It was entertaining indeed and surprisingly I found it quite accurate as well. On a random note: you've got the kindest eyes and the warmest look on your face, I dunno it's just mesmerizing a bit.
That reminds of the night when I found a huge mantis under my bed but wasn't sure whether it would attack me so I captured it with a saucepan... googled hundreds of articles about it ("can mantises bite?") until my mum came two days later (yup, the mantis was still under that sauce pan) and just tossed it out of the window.
🤣🤣 Oh my goodness.. I'm so happy to have this explained, as an INFJ 🤯 I spend at least 85% of my day doing this!!! My husband DOES NOT get it! I loved this, new subscriber!! Thanks for the great scenario!!
Ni - Ti loop on social media, being aware of everyone who likes n watches your IG posts n stories, and then analyzing why they didnt like or watch, and also feeling obligated to watch others feeding back into an overpowering NiTi loop... great example for depression right there..
Here I go again, thanking you: I was in a giant loop for half a year, without even knowing it. My fellow INFJ friend saw it, my parents somehow thought I had anxiety (so did I, because patterns seemed to say that, on the physiological side) But I see now that it was Ni-Ti looping and I see now why me talking out my feelings with my INFJ friend or any of my friends who care about me and will listen without judgment or throw Feeling-esque bricks at my head helped me so much. I need Feeling in my life, I need the feel good kitten videos, the goofy stuff from cartoons or even (yeah, totally laughed at this video) videos like this - anything to feel...human, connected, etc. I don't mind being on my own for long periods, but I can get very stuck in my head and running in circles if I dont take the time to talk to others or at least listen to my music and dance to it like a goof and not care that I do it (no one's around anyway) You ever do stuff like that? Seems so lol. I'm not making fun of you- I just , in short, feel ...inspired and motivated by this video because it explains what happened in my head in a way that finally clicks , ya know? It's a real nifty and useful thing you're doing with these videos. I hope you keep going =)
Hey Kyle! I think we all need that good feeling stuff, because we do tend to absorb the feelings of others - good AND bad. It's powerful to know that about yourself! I'm so glad this one resonated (I had a lot of fun doing it!). Thank you so much for hanging out with me here! :-)
@@DavidBadurina And thank you for giving my comments time of day! This sort of thing is what helps me not feel like a lone wolf or an alien that no one understands =)
You're right it is essential to interrupt that Loop! And being creative is such a wonderful way to get out of the logic side of our brains! Play my favorite music while being creative is makes me twice as happy! I'm sincere!
Hi Laura! That's excellent! Thank you! I try not to get INTO the loop by having a little control over the circumstances I put myself in, but creativity has always felt like the key to escape! Thank you so much for commenting!
Glad I found this. Thank you for explaining what I'm feeling. It's really hard being an INFJ, It's tiring whenever you're with other people and they cant seem to understand what happens in your noggin'. Love this. Thank you
Would love to show this to my husband but then I'd have to deal with his rolling eyes and sighs of agony all while knowing that he'll feel like he now... "has to" watch something that I found that would be helpful for him to understand me better and then I'd start the "loop" phase again.... ;) Thanks for your videos ! You're great and you do make a difference in people's lives. Did I say thank you?! Oh, yes, I just looked back and I did. :)
I laughed and cried... such a great expression of what goes on within. And so good to see it outside myself, this will make it much easier to notice it when it happen and glad to see that what I considered nonproductive escapism was just my way of rebalancing myself.
So glad it resonated! Next time you feel yourself getting pulled in that awful loop, just think "Spidercows." Hard to take yourself seriously with a silly notion. :-) Best to you, I appreciate you!
David Badurina lol... great suggestion! I won’t forget it.🙏🏼 I already found u on FB. I truly appreciate how u mirror myself in such a brilliant way... yay... I needed the inspiration, the loop thing had me for a bit, but thanks to ur vdos it totally helped me snap out of it 😅
Can't remember when I've had such a hearty laugh - to the point of tears. Totally enjoyable "skit". And . . . totally accurate!! Thanks David for all your work on this one.
There's another theory on top of this, which is the "jumper" theory from Objective Personality. Where jumper INFJ would jumps 2nd function Fe and favor Ti as their aux function instead, of course still keeping Ni as king of the land and Se being the scary undeveloped function. I think there's some merit to this, because I would say I (an long term INFJ) have favor Ti equally and even more than Fe in the past and present.
Loved it! I didn't know where that was going to go but so right on! Crap gets weird when you try to back track... but you are so right. Keep it up and thank you for the courage to do this, seriously!
i usually agonize for about a day before i decide anything. but eventually the feelings come back in.. because they're feelings... i have to stop myself and ask myself how i "feel" about the information overall... then i can decide. but for a day? it's total agony.
Absolutely right! I can usually sense it pretty quick and identify the root cause fast enough these days. But I remember being stuck in that loop for ... far too long at times.
Wow, that's scary accurate and too close to home, especially the thought of burning down the house, sort of had plans to burn down the farm as well were the spider-cows are spawning. Thanks for the laugh and to laugh at myself actually.
And what is even worst is that I always thought it was the “normal “ way of thinking because I am so used to it .. but I got tired and overwhelmed just but watching you explaining it ... I don’t want to be myself anymore ! Please heeeelp 😭😫😫😭
i can play my violn or go do my water painting or pottery---- writing ---reading---listen to music ----cook something to eat or wash dishes ----- with attention defisit --- it will help to remember the spider cow and just --- go and do it ! 😜 thankyou david!
Thanks for having a Telecaster in the back ground. It helped grab my ESFP husband’s attention. He only gave you about 7 minutes though before asking, “Is this a long story?”... 🤷🏻♀️🤣
David Badurina I’m so proud of him for actually watching all of it. He can be such a punk...a lovable one though. The part of your skit where the sensor is drinking Vodka at 9:00 AM because he can’t handle emotions...yeah, I know that guy. 🤣 I’ve watched this video about 10 times so far and shared it with a private INFJ group on FB. Hope you got new followers. You’re good. And best of luck with your writing.
When I get stuck it is usually about something that could most likely be bad for my financial or basic living situation. Feeling that takes over is panic and anxiety. Spider cows I can change the channel on. But you totally nailed the loop.
That was hilarious! Sadly hilarious! Oh my, that was a very creative way of making a very serious issue for injf's (leads to unnecessary anxiety/depression), that pesky Ni-Ti loop. INFJ's are very much in their heads that it does take something external like Fe or Se to snap out of internal thinking loops. Thank you for making me laugh, was a definite cheer-me-upper 🙂
@@DavidBadurina keep it going David, I just watched something you said about the downside of perfectionism in your videos, but your videos have a professional, down to earth flow to them, with a side of humour. They are also succinct and straight to the point, making them informatively appealing. You'd make a great classroom teacher.
When it comes to spiders (and sadly snakes) I use the excuse that I don't have time to look at legs, colors, stripes or head size because I can't remember all of the criteria for being poisonous. Bruh, I've got only minutes to live! I'm dying.
Well it's about the only cosplaying I've ever done - I just wish I could go to a comic con as Extraverted Feeling and have people understand what I was doing haha. Thank you for watching! So glad it resonated!
I feel like I've finally found something that helps me understand my brain. Thank you so much for making sense out of a complicated personality type. The confusion is lifting. What a gift!
HOLY CRAP! I’m unhealthy INFJ 🤦🏻♀️ Your arachnid analogy speaks exactly to why I can’t get to sleep at night without popping a couple benedryls. Damn. 😕
Where I live we have just been given stay at home orders for the 5th time due to that unmentionable 2019 virus. So my "spider cows" are out of control as I am at home alone.
@@DavidBadurina Thanks, I'll try that. I'll watch more of your vids for help too. Thanks for making these and sharing this part of yourself. I don't see how you do them.
@@DamianBloodstone Right now it's just fun. I enjoy the art of editing and all that, and connecting to people from across the world is kind of cool on a strange cosmic level. It's all good! I enjoy helping others!
Shoot I am now learning I am a double over thinker since I am also a Gemini. What an unlucky break! Meditation has helped me learn how to stop the constant problem solving thinking loop. Sometimes I even sleep now. Fun video, thanks!
Thank you so much for this explanation, since I am an INFJ I didn't know that this overthinking traid was just part of my personality, and it makes me pretty received.
I got over overthinking petty things a while ago... Kind of... I think.. But I have trouble overthinking relationship issues cuz I'm afraid of doing the wrong thing.. Which then turns out badly because of overthinking it, which makes me afraid of it turning out badly again, which makes me overthink again. Relationships are really important to me and right now I'm working on recognizing the limit as to what is the healthy amount of thinking, and when I need to tell my thinking to screw off, this is a relationship not a test that requires the correct answer or you fail. Being myself is really hard in these situations
I have just discovered your channel and now I must binge all of your content because this is both excruciatingly accurate, relatable AF, and hilarious! 🥸 Well played 🧞♂️
I am currently stuck in a Ni Ti loop.... Trying hard to get out of it... But following your work... I am able to understand myself much better... Previously I thought that there is something wrong with me... But now I see that there people that think like me....
I have been doing this and never knew what it was called. I found out in 2012 I was an INFJ and still never dug into it much. Thank you for this video. I understand it better now xx
ALL THIS TIME and you are the first person to mention this! "INFJ Nickel Titanium Loop" does sound like some super science-y thing. Bravo for this pickup! :-)
This is so darn accurate. As an infj, I could relate to it. I have been through Ni-Ti loop a lot-so much overthinking. Now it’s getting better. This video was really insightful!
That's insanity! MY insanity. I'm wondering if suffering defines the INFJ. I feel we are such wonderful beings destined to stay in bed, trying to get ready for the next assault on our senses. Not fair. Today, I found it helpful to remember your video with the smashed up oatmeal (me) all over the puzzle map trying to fit in! LMAO Cracks me up every time.
Hey! I just found you, and I've watched a few of your videos in the last hour. I'm really enjoying your INFJ content. I've been stuck in my own Ni Ti loop for awhile now, as I've just begun engaging in a serious relationship, trying to navigate my own personality, trying not to ruin this beautiful thing I've found, and your videos are helping me so much this morning. I love what you're doing. Expect a lot of hits from this account in the next few days. Thank you so much!
Omg this was SO me only a few days ago. I didn't know this was an INFJ thing- I thought it was just a "weird me" thing! Thanks for telling me what this overthinking thing is called and that I'm not alone. Loved your characters. They were hilarious. Reminded me of the movie Inside Out. ❤
I literally belly laughed til my stomach hurt and had tears rolling!!😂 As an INFJ, I know this is happening, but I have a tough time getting out of the "loop." This made so much sense even in its hilarious ridiculousness. My circle of friends is small so I use creativity regularly to help me through the overthinking. I feel like my brain is on permanent process mode. Being creative actually quiets the constant processing for a moment. This video gave me permission to laugh about it all. Thank you!!🙂
Ah the paralysis of analysis
Indeed!
I will forever think of the Ni-Ti loop as the 'Spider-Cow' loop.
My work here is done. :-)
You just put my shit show of a life into hilarious perspective. Thank You Sir!
Thank you for watching! Glad we can laugh at ourselves together! Appreciate you!
;) Naaa it’s not a crap show. You’re just still learning. And I agree it is hilarious and it’s actually pretty healthy to be able laugh at yourself! haha 😆Xx
I found myself laughing through the NITI loop because I lived and live it !!! Thank you, you are so insightful.
Hopefully I will not return to this comment and delete it, if you know what I mean.
I know exactly what you mean, leave it right there! :-) Thank you for the compliment, hope you stick around and watch more here or there!
I was gonna comment here agreeing what u say but nearly brushing my urge off bc I commented too much alr but decide to comment anw bc, u know.. lol
Yea.. I edited my comment.. twice..
I like how straight forward, real, accurate and humble this is. As an INFJ, I approve
Yes me too!! I was laughing so hard, so accurate.
I wish everyone could see this so they would understand what is going on inside my head!!!! You explain things so clearly!
Thank you so much! Feel free to share of course! So glad it resonated!
How to be like you our master infj_writer? How to be expressive? I mean... theres too much in our head lmaoo
It's kind of hard to know immediately you're in the loop.. it sneaks up!! Thanks for your lovely videos
I agree :) I love his channel! Very clear and concise!
I usually freak out twice a day due to spidercows in my kitchen.
GOOD GOD, SAVE ME FROM MYSELF. It is a horrific experience. It’s so hard to explain to people. And...get out of it. Thank you!!! 😘
Thank you Michal! I appreciate you!
David Badurina got out of my 5 day loop today. I did what you said and emotioned. Lol. Usually sensory things help me but I tried emotion and it worked faster. 👍🏻 Blessings Rabbi/Yoda/Angel/Sensei...whoever you are.
Oh man. This is a little too accurate. My INTP husband doesn’t understand my INFJ explanation of the Ni Ti loop, so I will be showing him this immediately. 😁👍
Ti/Si loop is just as bad, if not worse than Ni/Ti loop. I don't know if there is anything quite as neurotic as the Ti/Si loop.
I hope that actually worked!
Kim Thomas I showed my ISTJ husband and it was like a little light bulb 💡 appeared over his head. Lol 😂
Your explanation and illustration were fantastic David. I wish someone would do similar justice to Fi-Si loops.
OMG I died when the adults took over 🤣 Yep that’s my life 🙃
Haha me too! Thank you for watching! Glad it entertained!
"... And get out of the house."
WELL ... I'm feeling called out. 😃
Loved the skit. I laughed out loud until I had tears in my eyes, because I totally relate.
Literally! Go OUT!
@@spacechampi0n (whispers) ... No.
(whispers) ... What she said ...
Same TBH. INFJ 4 life!
Me to..lol
I snort-laughed through the entire Ni-Ti demonstration! 😂 That was both hilarious and annoyingly accurate! I feel called out and will now go search for spider-cows in my kitchen!
I discovered your channel only a few hours ago, and I’m glad I did! You do a brilliant job of breaking down INFJness!
Also, I love your outtro!
The puppets! I have to re-do the outro for sure. They may make an appearance here or there! Thank you so much for watching, I appreciate you!
Yeah I always described it as me trying to solve what lies at the innermost core of the universe and for that I simulate whole universes in my head, every day, every hour, every minute I create universes and destroy them all in my mind in the search for a link to the truth of what really holds the world together at its innermost core...meanwhile other people enjoy the movie and have time to have a good time.
That's a lot of mental gymnastics right there! I hear you though! Mind on overload!
@@DavidBadurina Definitely...I guess it´s something that I will have to work on. The fact that I did not think of this as in any way weird before, as in...this is just how I am and I would better stop that is quite amazing. I am slowly coming around in my journey from the last few days to grouping myself as an INFJ due to the descriptions of what they/we are and how we think and what we typically do to more solution orientated stuff so quite honestly I am overwhelmed with a lot of this, it´s gonna be a journey. Like said, I will need therapy, there isn´t even any way around that anymore. I am just happy by the prospect that I can have an influence on this thoughtprocess even tho I am not fully sure on how to yet and were I am going forward from here. uhm...I also with looking around for these videos find something that is triggering me to some degree again, there is a lot of INFJs out there it seems. Well...not really I guess, but a lot of people that either get this result or are pretending to be because it sounds cool. I am very happy having found people in these videos and in the comments that I can suddenly relate to but I know I have never met or at least never identified any person like me in my real life surrounding. This barrier is not something I would have ever wished on anyone. The notion that I could misdiagnose myself from these tests and feelings or not be that special after all is actually quite irritating. On top of that the prospect of some peoples videos that were rather aggressive at the notion of INFJ people "suddenly thinking" that they are so special or whatnot. It´s like a final FU from the world that having a surrounding like that ridicule those traits all my life but then also jumping at the possibility of inhabiting the feeling of being something special for themselves trying to take that newfound freedom away from me again. It´s just an extra layer of mistrust towards myself and wanting to hide it again...but I guess you also made a video about something like that (actually I was just about to watch your video about the imposter syndrome before I saw this popping up...I guess I should have done that first). Anyways enough of that, thank you for the videos, thanks for the answer btw that is really cool of you. I am looking forward to watching and learning the rest of it. And like said, I will need some help that I will get myself so then I will hopefully also learn to deal with...all this more coherently and get better at being a functioning human being without destroying myself in the process of it. I am happy I found your stuff.
@@ivorytorea I gave up halfway through. 😂❤
@@ivorytorea hey man how are you doing? How things are going?
This is a very relatable scenario. The term "spider cow" has now become somewhat of a code word between my mom and I (an INFJ).
OMG I told my husband that there is a spider in the laundry room yesterday, he asked “did you see it”, no, but it’s there, can you put it outside. He found said spider 🕷 and he put it outside, then asked “are you happy now”, yes I’m happy now,.....but it’s going to get down to freezing tonight 🥶 so...... oh gosh what if it freezes now that it’s outside, he was inside where it was warm, now it’s outside where it’s cold.....do you think you should go get it?, Really said my husband, he has never understood why, or how I would even think of such things, this gave him a new insight as to why I do what I do, we thank you 🙏 for this
Ha! Thank you for watching and commenting!
I really needed a laugh this morning! True story; I had a granddaddy long leg climbing up my onsie last night while cooking. I had to stop everything, look around, run to the front door and as I was shaking Mr Spider off my body I yelled at him " this will be the last time I save your life, you are no longer allowed in my house!"...🤣
Haha! "You get ONE CHANCE Mister Spider!"
The BEST ni-ti loop video ever!
Thank you Michael! I appreciate you!
This explains the "why am I thinking about this?","where did I start thinking...oh yeah..about xyz that is nowhere near this",.. Then cat distracts me and saves my life.
Hero cat haha. Absolutely!
You described me perfectly, and I had a great laugh at myself!!! I really "feel" this!!!😂
Haha glad you enjoyed it! Thanks!
Sometimes I write everything down in my journal when I'm going through one of these loops. It's hard to Fe in any meaningful way in the USA. The whole system is set up to keep us superficial and in solitary confinement....but there I go with the Ni-Ti rabbit hole. I've always felt like I'm all dressed up with nowhere to go. INFJ---very challenging in a superficial materialistic era. We once were the Shamans and sages. We were the ones who were revered. The ones with insight and vision connected to core truth, and the village looked to us for direction. One of my colleagues actually said to me that no one is interested in truth anymore. What a world. My salvation is exploring the spiritual side of things in a deep way and writing about it. Thank you for your profound insight of the INFJ world. You have helped me a lot.
Thank you for making me laugh and smile. I was so sad when I found your channel this morning. Also thank you for the visuals I learn things better with them. You have a great personality and I think you are doing a great job of helping other people understand themselves better. I dont feel as alone. May the Father bless you and your family. Our home isn't here it's with the Father. He is always with us even though we don't always feel Him.
Hi Cindy!
I'm so glad you found me here, and I'm so thankful the videos resonate with you! I appreciate you!
From my point of view, the Ni-Ti combinaton is our strength as INFJ, and the problem arises (according to me) when one or both of these functions do not work (and when they are replaced by their extroverted counterparts proccessed internally - which is the key of the problem). Here, it is Ne (what if questions) and Te (wiki Information) that make things worse (as these mostly useless inputs are proccessed internally). If they were externally, they could be simply ignored or used (if they seem to be alble to play some helpful role).
Hhahahaha the extroverted sensing-"Character"
You are damn good at this, whatever "this" is I cannot really define right now. Do you have acting practice as well or something? Feels like very professional delivery to me.
@@JonasAnandaKristiansson Nah, no training, I'm just an idiot with a camera and a good microphone. I'm pretty much like this in the privacy of my home 24/7 anyway. :-)
infj_writer understatement
I have this conversation everyday!! The scenarios differ but the conversation is the same. Having mental illness makes it worse some days. Thanks for the knowledge!
Hope it helped! Thank you for hanging out!
I always felt like I am potentially prone to paranoia.
Now I understand why. Understand oneself helps a lot, to not fall in these cognitive trap.
Thank you for that great explanation.
Take care 🍀
Thanks Kelvin!
4 years ago I didn’t know I was an INFJ so here I’m now.
That NI TI loop is so real and it’s so me right now. I’m working on getting out of it but it’s so hard
The most descriptive and imaginable way to explain the whole functions of INFJ. Tired of reading the articles across the web to understand ourselves.
Thanks so much! I appreciate that!
Hi David - After my cancer diagnosis ( I did chemo, radiation, and surgery and I am fine), I was stuck in Ni-Ti loop ! Without the Lord, two psychologist , Prozac, and Xanax would have not gotten out of it. One psychologist was for regular stuff and the other one was a cancer psychologist to deal with cancer issues.Loved your illustration , exactly what it was like. Sometimes the cast of characters sometimes aren't ridiculous. The spider cow was funny !
Thank you Catherine! I appreciate that very much! And glad you are on the right path! Best to you!
You are so funny, and that ending with puppets was priceless :). It was entertaining indeed and surprisingly I found it quite accurate as well. On a random note: you've got the kindest eyes and the warmest look on your face, I dunno it's just mesmerizing a bit.
Thank you so much, I appreciate the compliment, and that you were digging the puppets! I have to record a new outro!
David Badurina but why? Is this one not working? I think it is hilarious )).
@@irenes8211 I built a new office, so it's a background change! Plus, I got new puppets to add in! :-D
David Badurina hahaha yaaay! Ok then ))). I say YES to the new puppets 😁👍🏻!
I also love the puppets ( and the cognitive functions as characters too!). Newly subscribed as of today, greetings from France :)
That reminds of the night when I found a huge mantis under my bed but wasn't sure whether it would attack me so I captured it with a saucepan... googled hundreds of articles about it ("can mantises bite?") until my mum came two days later (yup, the mantis was still under that sauce pan) and just tossed it out of the window.
Glad you let it live! 😁
🤣🤣 Oh my goodness.. I'm so happy to have this explained, as an INFJ 🤯 I spend at least 85% of my day doing this!!! My husband DOES NOT get it! I loved this, new subscriber!! Thanks for the great scenario!!
Thank you so much Brandi! Show him the video! And be like, "THIS" ;-)
Ni - Ti loop on social media, being aware of everyone who likes n watches your IG posts n stories, and then analyzing why they didnt like or watch, and also feeling obligated to watch others feeding back into an overpowering NiTi loop... great example for depression right there..
Yeah, I can't even with Social Media, seriously. That's instant loop if I overthink it for more than 30 seconds.
😂😂😂 so basically any and everything is related even though in reality it isn’t oh boi done that before 😭😭😭
starchild4013 lol but it is connected lol
It's definitely a thing!
Omg that was brilliant! Lol 😂 finally, someone gets how my head works!! I thought I was going insane.
Well, I'm not saying I'm NOT insane! But it IS comforting to know it's not just you, right? :-D
You have no idea how I cried watching this
This.. this is what I have been experiencing since I was a kid and nobody understood me
Nobody
I'm really glad it resonated! I appreciate you!
Here I go again, thanking you:
I was in a giant loop for half a year, without even knowing it. My fellow INFJ friend saw it, my parents somehow thought I had anxiety (so did I, because patterns seemed to say that, on the physiological side)
But I see now that it was Ni-Ti looping and I see now why me talking out my feelings with my INFJ friend or any of my friends who care about me and will listen without judgment or throw Feeling-esque bricks at my head helped me so much.
I need Feeling in my life, I need the feel good kitten videos, the goofy stuff from cartoons or even (yeah, totally laughed at this video) videos like this - anything to feel...human, connected, etc.
I don't mind being on my own for long periods, but I can get very stuck in my head and running in circles if I dont take the time to talk to others or at least listen to my music and dance to it like a goof and not care that I do it (no one's around anyway)
You ever do stuff like that? Seems so lol. I'm not making fun of you- I just , in short, feel ...inspired and motivated by this video because it explains what happened in my head in a way that finally clicks , ya know?
It's a real nifty and useful thing you're doing with these videos. I hope you keep going =)
Hey Kyle!
I think we all need that good feeling stuff, because we do tend to absorb the feelings of others - good AND bad. It's powerful to know that about yourself!
I'm so glad this one resonated (I had a lot of fun doing it!). Thank you so much for hanging out with me here! :-)
@@DavidBadurina And thank you for giving my comments time of day! This sort of thing is what helps me not feel like a lone wolf or an alien that no one understands =)
I honestly may be going through this cycle right now, I can barely focus whilst watching the video i'm overthinking even whilst writing this.
You're right it is essential to interrupt that Loop! And being creative is such a wonderful way to get out of the logic side of our brains! Play my favorite music while being creative is makes me twice as happy! I'm sincere!
Hi Laura! That's excellent! Thank you! I try not to get INTO the loop by having a little control over the circumstances I put myself in, but creativity has always felt like the key to escape! Thank you so much for commenting!
Glad I found this. Thank you for explaining what I'm feeling. It's really hard being an INFJ, It's tiring whenever you're with other people and they cant seem to understand what happens in your noggin'. Love this. Thank you
Thank you so much! INFJing can be tough especially when you are stuck deep in that loop! I hope it helps you!
@@DavidBadurina It really did help, I never thought I'm an INFJ. I just thought that something's really wrong with me.
Love this. So much. I’m an INFJ, and my good friend is also. This is also humorous enough to help us laugh while dealing with our Ni Ti loops
I'm so glad it's relatable! Thank you!
Would love to show this to my husband but then I'd have to deal with his rolling eyes and sighs of agony all while knowing that he'll feel like he now... "has to" watch something that I found that would be helpful for him to understand me better and then I'd start the "loop" phase again.... ;) Thanks for your videos ! You're great and you do make a difference in people's lives. Did I say thank you?! Oh, yes, I just looked back and I did. :)
Thank you so much Tara! Such kind words! I appreciate you! (AND MAKE HIM WATCH IT!) ;-)
I have not had thoughts on spider cow for a while. Lets hope it stays that way 😂
I LOVED this!💜
My analogy is the Wikipedia rabbit hole. I can lose myself in interesting factoids for hours.
I laughed and cried... such a great expression of what goes on within. And so good to see it outside myself, this will make it much easier to notice it when it happen and glad to see that what I considered nonproductive escapism was just my way of rebalancing myself.
So glad it resonated! Next time you feel yourself getting pulled in that awful loop, just think "Spidercows." Hard to take yourself seriously with a silly notion. :-)
Best to you, I appreciate you!
David Badurina lol... great suggestion! I won’t forget it.🙏🏼 I already found u on FB. I truly appreciate how u mirror myself in such a brilliant way... yay... I needed the inspiration, the loop thing had me for a bit, but thanks to ur vdos it totally helped me snap out of it 😅
Can't remember when I've had such a hearty laugh - to the point of tears. Totally enjoyable "skit". And . . . totally accurate!! Thanks David for all your work on this one.
Thanks so much! So glad you enjoyed it!
There's another theory on top of this, which is the "jumper" theory from Objective Personality. Where jumper INFJ would jumps 2nd function Fe and favor Ti as their aux function instead, of course still keeping Ni as king of the land and Se being the scary undeveloped function. I think there's some merit to this, because I would say I (an long term INFJ) have favor Ti equally and even more than Fe in the past and present.
So nicely explained! I loved the analogy. Never realized I've been doing this a lot and it was the NiTi loop 😂. Thank you so much.
Loved it! I didn't know where that was going to go but so right on! Crap gets weird when you try to back track... but you are so right. Keep it up and thank you for the courage to do this, seriously!
Thank you for watching! Your support means everything!
i usually agonize for about a day before i decide anything. but eventually the feelings come back in.. because they're feelings... i have to stop myself and ask myself how i "feel" about the information overall... then i can decide. but for a day? it's total agony.
Absolutely right! I can usually sense it pretty quick and identify the root cause fast enough these days. But I remember being stuck in that loop for ... far too long at times.
It all started with watching a weekend spiderthon on SciFi. Arachnophobia did it for me.
Wow, that's scary accurate and too close to home, especially the thought of burning down the house, sort of had plans to burn down the farm as well were the spider-cows are spawning. Thanks for the laugh and to laugh at myself actually.
Haha glad to hear it! I'm so glad it resonated and gave you a good laugh! I appreciate you!
You should do more of the function personifications, those were great :)
Thanks! They'll make an appearance again, I'm sure!
And what is even worst is that I always thought it was the “normal “ way of thinking because I am so used to it .. but I got tired and overwhelmed just but watching you explaining it ... I don’t want to be myself anymore ! Please heeeelp 😭😫😫😭
Awww let's try for a little more optimism than that, huh? :-)
i can play my violn or go do my water painting or pottery---- writing ---reading---listen to music ----cook something to eat or wash dishes ----- with attention defisit --- it will help to remember the spider cow and just --- go and do it ! 😜 thankyou david!
Skit was the perfect way to demonstrate this;; end was a delight to "so there's that"
Haha thanks Kalina! Sometimes I'm just not sure what to say.
Omg this was too funny cause it was sooo true. I'm def an overthinker looper. I exhaust myself sometimes.
Glad it resonated! Thank you so much for watching and commenting!
Secret handshake 😎
I'm just seeing this old comment! *waves* Hope you are well, Synthia!
Thanks for having a Telecaster in the back ground. It helped grab my ESFP husband’s attention. He only gave you about 7 minutes though before asking, “Is this a long story?”... 🤷🏻♀️🤣
Haha! Tell him to chill, I try to keep all the vids under 10 minutes. It's a small commitment to listen to someone INFJing! ;-)
David Badurina I’m so proud of him for actually watching all of it. He can be such a punk...a lovable one though. The part of your skit where the sensor is drinking Vodka at 9:00 AM because he can’t handle emotions...yeah, I know that guy. 🤣
I’ve watched this video about 10 times so far and shared it with a private INFJ group on FB. Hope you got new followers. You’re good. And best of luck with your writing.
When I get stuck it is usually about something that could most likely be bad for my financial or basic living situation. Feeling that takes over is panic and anxiety. Spider cows I can change the channel on. But you totally nailed the loop.
Well, maybe the spider cows are just a metaphor for whatever calamity is in front of you? :-) Thank you!
That was hilarious! Sadly hilarious! Oh my, that was a very creative way of making a very serious issue for injf's (leads to unnecessary anxiety/depression), that pesky Ni-Ti loop. INFJ's are very much in their heads that it does take something external like Fe or Se to snap out of internal thinking loops.
Thank you for making me laugh, was a definite cheer-me-upper 🙂
AWESOME! I'm so happy to dish out a smile or three!
@@DavidBadurina keep it going David, I just watched something you said about the downside of perfectionism in your videos, but your videos have a professional, down to earth flow to them, with a side of humour. They are also succinct and straight to the point, making them informatively appealing. You'd make a great classroom teacher.
I couldn't help but laugh so much, funny, entertaining, and clever. Thanks for this explanation, it clarified so many things! 😍
Glad you enjoyed it!
When it comes to spiders (and sadly snakes) I use the excuse that I don't have time to look at legs, colors, stripes or head size because I can't remember all of the criteria for being poisonous. Bruh, I've got only minutes to live! I'm dying.
Haha, hey if that has kept you alive from the venomous critters out there, you gotta do you!
I love the feelings guy. He’s so rational
Plus, it's a nice scarf. :-)
You are very likeable my friend, keep it up!👍
Thank you!
Wow, this was so good David! Thank you for making sense of this.
I kinda wanna dress up as the 4 cognitive functions now. Lol.
Well it's about the only cosplaying I've ever done - I just wish I could go to a comic con as Extraverted Feeling and have people understand what I was doing haha. Thank you for watching! So glad it resonated!
I feel like I've finally found something that helps me understand my brain. Thank you so much for making sense out of a complicated personality type. The confusion is lifting. What a gift!
You're so welcome!
HOLY CRAP! I’m unhealthy INFJ 🤦🏻♀️
Your arachnid analogy speaks exactly to why I can’t get to sleep at night without popping a couple benedryls. Damn. 😕
Spidercows on your mind! Maybe not unhealthy, but we all get stuck in that loop from time to time!
Where I live we have just been given stay at home orders for the 5th time due to that unmentionable 2019 virus. So my "spider cows" are out of control as I am at home alone.
Stay At Home again! Ugh!
I get this too much at times. If I don't create, plan, or layout goals, I sink into this even more.
I find that stepping back and having a broad look at the situation can help!
@@DavidBadurina Thanks, I'll try that. I'll watch more of your vids for help too. Thanks for making these and sharing this part of yourself. I don't see how you do them.
@@DamianBloodstone Right now it's just fun. I enjoy the art of editing and all that, and connecting to people from across the world is kind of cool on a strange cosmic level. It's all good! I enjoy helping others!
Shoot I am now learning I am a double over thinker since I am also a Gemini. What an unlucky break! Meditation has helped me learn how to stop the constant problem solving thinking loop. Sometimes I even sleep now. Fun video, thanks!
INFJ+Gemini... I am sharing your pain 😅
hahaaa omg the impersonations of the functions is hilarious!!
Glad you enjoyed it! :-)
Thank you so much for this explanation, since I am an INFJ I didn't know that this overthinking traid was just part of my personality, and it makes me pretty received.
Glad it resonated!
This is too funny - INFJ here and I'm fairly certain you just filmed the inside of my head for that skit
Glad you enjoyed it! :-)
I got over overthinking petty things a while ago... Kind of... I think.. But I have trouble overthinking relationship issues cuz I'm afraid of doing the wrong thing.. Which then turns out badly because of overthinking it, which makes me afraid of it turning out badly again, which makes me overthink again. Relationships are really important to me and right now I'm working on recognizing the limit as to what is the healthy amount of thinking, and when I need to tell my thinking to screw off, this is a relationship not a test that requires the correct answer or you fail. Being myself is really hard in these situations
OMG I feel that, let me tell you!
Your way of getting to spider-cows is so different than my Ne way as an INFP. Thanks for sharing your approach to life :)
You're very welcome! Now I have to look up how INFPs get to Spider Cows!
OMG....... You have so described what I go through on so many things. At least I did get a laugh at 9 am . Thank again for being understanding
I appreciate that! :-) Thank you!
Brilliant description of the loop!! I'm still pmsl at spider cows 🤣
So true, dude. I laughed so hard at the visual representation of the different parts working off each other. I'm in pain. 😂
Thanks Sarah! Glad you enjoyed! I appreciate you!
I have just discovered your channel and now I must binge all of your content because this is both excruciatingly accurate, relatable AF, and hilarious! 🥸 Well played 🧞♂️
Wow, thank you! :-)
You NAILED it! Been stuck there way too many times!
Thanks for laughter that made my stomach muscles hurt 😂
So glad to hear that! And glad I could get you to laugh today! :-)
Now i am freaked out about the swarms of thousands of frickin spider-cows ....people, there are SPIDER -COWS
Do they moo? Do they bite? I just can't.
I am laughing so hard when Ti comes in.. this is so me
Ah! Glad you enjoyed my ridiculousness!
I am currently stuck in a Ni Ti loop.... Trying hard to get out of it... But following your work... I am able to understand myself much better... Previously I thought that there is something wrong with me... But now I see that there people that think like me....
Good luck working out of it! There are so many just like you!
This made me laugh so much
I'm so glad! Thank you for watching!
I adore this lol 😆.. Excellent and very true..
Thankyou..
I have been doing this and never knew what it was called. I found out in 2012 I was an INFJ and still never dug into it much. Thank you for this video. I understand it better now xx
So glad to hear that, and thank you for watching!
Infj to an infj, knew exactly what you were talking about
Appreciate that, thank you!
Lol thank you. Sometimes I just need to laugh about my silly quirks.
Absolutely! Glad you enjoyed it!
LOL!!!! The best part is the vodka!!!!!!!!!!
Glad you liked that one! 😜
Just dam brilliant physical explanation of whats going on in our minds. Love it mate. Just brilliant. Keep it up.
Thank you so much! I'm trying! :-)
Best video about the process ever 😂 overwhelmed about small things is an understatement.
Glad you liked it!
When I saw the thumbnail on the home page, I first thought:"What do nickel and titanium have to do with this?"
ALL THIS TIME and you are the first person to mention this! "INFJ Nickel Titanium Loop" does sound like some super science-y thing. Bravo for this pickup! :-)
@@DavidBadurina lmao well, I'm rather "sciency", so it was the first thing that came to mind.
This is so darn accurate. As an infj, I could relate to it. I have been through Ni-Ti loop a lot-so much overthinking. Now it’s getting better. This video was really insightful!
Glad it was helpful!
I laughed because I do this all the time so I totally identified. Explains my anxiety overthinking issues, thanks for this video :)
Hi Amy! Thanks so much! Glad you liked it!
That's insanity! MY insanity. I'm wondering if suffering defines the INFJ. I feel we are such wonderful beings destined to stay in bed, trying to get ready for the next assault on our senses. Not fair. Today, I found it helpful to remember your video with the smashed up oatmeal (me) all over the puzzle map trying to fit in! LMAO Cracks me up every time.
Haha I'm so glad the oatmeal bit resonated! Every little thing helps! Stay strong out there!
Great illustration of over thinking. Thank you David for your interesting, funny and informative videos.
I've enjoyed each one that I have watched.
Spend more time in the loop than I wish. Makes you feel like you're in the spin cycle of these new washing machines. It can be absolutely ridiculous.
Too true, Cindy!
Hey! I just found you, and I've watched a few of your videos in the last hour. I'm really enjoying your INFJ content. I've been stuck in my own Ni Ti loop for awhile now, as I've just begun engaging in a serious relationship, trying to navigate my own personality, trying not to ruin this beautiful thing I've found, and your videos are helping me so much this morning. I love what you're doing. Expect a lot of hits from this account in the next few days. Thank you so much!
Hi Sarah! Thank you so much for that! I'm so glad they resonate and they help! I appreciate you!
LMAO! i feel attacked ...so accurate
Sorry? Thank you? I mean, I'm glad? Wait no ... Either way, I appreciate you!
I'm an INFJ. This is spot on. LOL.
:-)
Omg this was SO me only a few days ago. I didn't know this was an INFJ thing- I thought it was just a "weird me" thing! Thanks for telling me what this overthinking thing is called and that I'm not alone. Loved your characters. They were hilarious. Reminded me of the movie Inside Out. ❤
Yes! A little bit like Inside Out for sure! Hope you are clear of spider cows!
I literally belly laughed til my stomach hurt and had tears rolling!!😂 As an INFJ, I know this is happening, but I have a tough time getting out of the "loop." This made so much sense even in its hilarious ridiculousness. My circle of friends is small so I use creativity regularly to help me through the overthinking. I feel like my brain is on permanent process mode. Being creative actually quiets the constant processing for a moment. This video gave me permission to laugh about it all. Thank you!!🙂
Hi Kristina! So glad my ridiculousness proved helpful! Haha. Thank you so much for watching and commenting, I appreciate you!