How I Navigated The Dating Market As A Generous Man | What “RP” Conversations Taught Me
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- How I Navigated The Dating Market As A Generous Man | What “RP” Conversations Taught Me
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I MUST strongly disagree with the notion that her mere “presence” is a service.
In exchange for her presence, she gets the benefit of YOUR presence. Her existence is not worth more than yours.
Facts
Fair exchange isn't robbery. This dynamic makes sense.
It’s only simping if you’re giving un-reciprocated affection/other benefits.
In the scenario you posed with the empty gas tank, the 74% of men used to be acting right along with the 26% until they noticed the pattern of the dynamic development that looks like:
He gives
She takes
So you met a chick 3 or 4 times in a month, haven’t fuckd. You are going to pay to get her car washed and fill up her gas. That’s simping bro
Textbook Simping.
Outside of “house cleaning” (which was very vague) I didn’t hear 1 mention of how she was reciprocating or investing into you.
If you meet a chick 3 or 4 times in a month, no sex, but you putting gas in her car and getting a car washed. You are simping, no other way around it. Simping is a new concept now that courting doesn’t exist anymore.
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In your opinion, do you believe the only suitable and appropriate reciprocation a woman can provide you with is sex?
As a Christian man, I don't believe so. But I have been trying to create a list of ways women can give to men that are not sexual.
@@Black_Guy Absolutely not, for example let’s say that they had a really strong connection and actually would just hang out multiple times a week. And she would help out when she is at his house. Then it wouldn’t be simping. But just 3 dates in a month? That’s it??? Now you buying gas and cleaning cars?? That’s a simp
@@Black_Guyshe can do anything for you bro. Reciprocating is what matters.
I vacuumed my girls car. I never met a woman with a clean car they always got stuff in it. Trash, hella dirt on the carpet, never get oil changes or get their breaks changed. They really be lost, gotta lead them into the right direction.
What you do for your significant other is not simping. If you do all that for someone you just met, it's DTM.
Appreciate this video, Medium Man.
I was apart of the poll and was in the majority. I now thank you for the perspective as I can use it and think differently, then receive different (hopefully positive) results.
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I think the high percentage of men who would consider that simping is more due to the current dating environment we are currently in. Social media has painted it that most of these women (whether true or not) are dating multiple men and don’t want to be in the hypothetical of doing favors for a woman who then will let another man benefit from that favor. I don’t think it is simping but I also like to see investment from the woman I am dating first before i start going out of my way (with the exception of normal dates)
If she REALLY likes you, you would have already closed on the first or second date. That's no matter if she is top quality or not. A woman with true genuine desire for you will not wait.
When you choose the right women to date... the women who show genuine attraction towards you BEFORE the first date, you won't be waiting until the third date.
"Is that simping?" 😂😂😂
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Keyword, "navigated" - past tense. I'd say that was appropriate for late 90s/early 2000s. But nowadays, nah; the entitlement is too high to front-load that kind of value.
After three dates it’s really about how much we enjoy each other’s company and not what we “do” for one another so gassing her car up and getting it washed is a NO at that point for me. Women are very observant and if they feel you are giving them access to your wallet too early it has the same effect as a woman who gives a man box too soon. It not about the cost of the gesture it’s about the principle.
Do you want a honest answer or do you want the answer that you want to hear ?
Most want a laced answer so they can feel better about the life choices they continue to make. The truth hurts until it doesn't.
Fellas dont give a woman NOTHING outside of whats required for the dates until you get the box. 😂😂 Asking to get played. If you gotta shuck and jive and hand wash cars and fill up gas tanks brah you dont have game. She shouldve like you enough BEFORE all of that.
You can show youre a gentleman by paying for the dates, opening her car door, and being polite.
What’s required for you to give prior to getting the “box?”
@@mediummanI already stated it. Nothing outside what's required for dates. Your time, attention, and resources getting her to and from dates safely. I ain't never had to wash a car to get a feminine woman to like me genuinely. Now once the box is open then hell yea I'll put groceries in her house and fill up the gas tank. That must be EARNED.
@@JN-ye8qo you consider filling up a woman’s gas tank and washing her car as shuckin’ n’ givin’? Interesting…
@@mediumman That's too much only 3 dates in AND she hasn't given you any. She's gotta earn maintenance. I PROMISE YOU there are still plenty of women out there who appreciate the man getting the car door. Standing up at the table and getting the chair things like that. Leading with chilvary is totally fine. FREE shows of usefulness.
Again after she's putting out then all bets are off. Random gifts, free gas, groceries and all of that but not until she reciprocates. Again do what works for you but I PRAY the 26% change their strategy up before they get used. I've personally witnessed and been told stories of this because of men giving up too much on the front end.
@@JN-ye8qo you got it!🫡
you asked a very important question. “do you trust your judgment?” when you don’t come into a situation in good faith, you always lose.
i’ve always dated (whether casually or seriously) men who operated the way you do. and i treated them well also.
your comment section really does prove that relationships are mirrors. bare minimum begets the bare minimum. i watch a lot of your content and i’m not sure what some of these men truly want from the dating market.
Good Faith is how I try to approach it too.
That is an investment if she giving the box soon…
Naw that's soft shoe simping.😂. No cars are getting washed, no gas tanks are getting filled unless we're exclusive. Anything that comes out of my pocket before that is for dates. If you're washing a woman's car/filling her gas tank in the dating phase, she's going to feel entitled to that moving on. Only girlfriends and wives get that perk.
NOPE!!! 😤 aint don't it
It depends on the status of the relationship. Date 3 is still early so I wouldn't feel obligated. I don't believe the first time is tricking but if she is consistently asking for financial favors, she may be using you. Don't close yourself off to women but also don't give constantly if she isn't reciprocating to a relatively similar amount.
Some Women these days don't care about the cleanliness of their house or cars. Idk if I'm feeling her that much after 3 dates. The gas and car wash move at this point is slightly questionable. You have to be careful with that. Now i do think the "I'm about to wash my car, i can do yours to" is a good move. You have the evaluate how the female has been acting. I can see you asking if she needs gas the 2nd or 3rd time she drives to your house. I would hope most guys who follow channels like this, KS, or Style OG should know at this point to keep his house clean and smelling good. I still say that early on don't let it get out of control doing extra stuff for the woman
Hell nall. Im not getting cars washed and gas tanks filled and ive gotten nothing but her time.
Hell you’ve already paid for 3 dates. How much more you want to come outta pocket?
This is simping.
You can be feeling her. But what is she doing to earn these things? Just being around? Nall
Now we’re all simps 😂. I’m a married simp apparently 😂.
I'm a kind person. I like to do things for people to make them or their situation better. I can't say what I wouldn't do for a woman that I really care for. I can't say how long that care would take to accumulate. I want to do dope things for dope people.
Simping is simply energy is unappreciated and unreciprocated. Nobody signs up for this knowingly. Money and booty ain't everything. Booty is cheap. A good time filled with genuine energy is hard to put a price on.
Life ain't fair. We get what we negotiate sometimes. Most others we just get what we got coming.
Peep game. Apply it wisely.
Don't be a hater....
this is it! we should do things out of principle, not for what you can get back
People with certain principles should share their energy with those who can reciprocate them properly. Or else they'll pour their own cup dry..
Balance is key..
Now, I can understand a man doing kind gestures, if you’ve both agreed that you’re in a committed relationship! Then this would be considered “maintenance,” similar to how one must maintain a vehicle, you must perform acts of service to maintain your relationship. The behavior is considered “simping,” because you’re doing such acts for random women! The reality is, such acts are not required in today’s dating environment.
Nothing wrong with doing all that AFTER she's built up a VERY high level of investment in you. This is AFTER a couple of dates, AFTER a couple links, AFTER she passes a few compliance tests. She cook for you, bring you some food, pays for a couple of dates and you've already got the box. THEN she's earned your generosity to wash her car. If you do this too early it will make her lose attraction for you.
When you care about a woman or your woman, you are the hero in their eyes😂😂😂, especially when it comes to insects!
ID PAY FOR A CARWASH , WHATS A CARWASH 😅😅😅😅
I have always attracted a lot of women but when i got to around 23 i felt the need to eliminate most women BEFORE the first meet up. I liked to do all that get to know each other stuff by phone (actually talking) or texts too. Kept a small rotation so i could get to seduce the new women mentally. At that point giving gifts or little kind gestures come naturally. A 50 dollar perfume with a (whatever her favorite flower scent) hits hard. Women usually bring up how that stuff makes them feel well after it happens. I never spent any big money on dates..didnt have to. Women also gave me gifts. I say we should all meet as many women as we can and find the few you really mesh with. A woman that likes you foreal will melt because you got her some 5 dollar chocolates honestly. Most men won't have an issue 'simping' if we worked on chemistry with women first. We should be upping our value to attract as many as possible but only a few will really be compatible. I say out of every 10 women interested in seeing us maybe only 1 or 2 should get the opportunity. Calling a car wash simping is ridiculous.
I'm 50, Medium Man and I've had great success on the dating market and I still wouldn't do this on the 3rd date. Actually, if I haven't gotten the box by the 2nd date (which almost never happens), then I stop fooling with her. If a woman really likes you, she doesn't Wait to give you sex.
5:54: I can't agree with you on this one. 3rd date? No. 3rd month, probably. 3rd quarter, yes.
Simping is not paying for gas or Uber, car washes, etc… Fellas if you have a problem paying for minor entry level things. That’ll pay big dividends down the line. Then don’t date! What’s going to happen when you really gotta spend some bread!!?
Exactly if you are sweating a $15 car wash and vacuum that tells me you're broke 'n dusty without telling me you're broke 'n dusty. 😂
I wouldn’t say simpin or tricking BUT you a helluva lot NICER than us. lol. I had a ball on the market when I was “outside” so it’s more than one way to skin a cat
If she coming to the house you already winning. What’s gas money compared to going on a date.
This was a funny one🎉
There's a difference between being considerate and being a simp. The examples that you gave shows me that you're a considerate man rather than being a simp. But if all those actions were to get the box then maybe it's simpish. I don't see you as a simp.
Free Game.
Lowkey you are MM but you still the man bro.😂😂
Which part? Remember, there’s a huge difference between what you want to do and what you’re required to do…
It sucks you can't be nice to people without being frowned and without people trying to take advantage of you
Being genuinely nice is not simping. As long as its not putting you out your way, why not. Simping is doing something with this idea of getting something in return.
sounds like something simp would say. simps are seen as nice guys
@@Jaykan-sk8zm Being a nice guy is not synonymous with being simp. Stop letting people take your niceness as weakness. You can choose to be taken advantage of (a simp) or be in control of your benefits. I’m not gonna be an a**hole for the sake of not being labeled a simp. Mature men will understand and know the difference.
Damn… am I F**kin simp? Shucks. I’m just like medium man right now. 😂😂😂
@@SirMovies101 Nobody takes advantage of me. I dont need your advice. Dont respond back to me.
@@Jaykan-sk8zm Young man... you could learn a lot. But be blessed my guy. I'm not your enemy.
Actually it’s so cool that you can handle snakes, and spiders and bugs😂. Personally I am afraid of spiders
I don't get why do women drive till the low gas warning light come on is it that important to get were your going so bad that neglect the main thing to get you there gas
WOMEN KEEP CLOTHES AND SHOES 👞 IN THEIR APARTMENT HOME SECTION 8 / CAR😅😅😅😅😅
THATS NOT SIMPING AT ALL, PAYING OVER $125.00 + FOR DINNERS AND RECREATION NAILS WIGS WEAVES EYC. IS SIMPING AND THIRSTY 😅😅😅😅
2:50 Ha Ha Davis need to change is name to not funny Davis 👀
You can tell who’s playa in this chat. A car wash is too much for a young lady you like??
Not maybe
Explain…
Nothing wrong with simpin a little for your lady. Don't understand some of these dudes who want a woman but are willing to not give anything
Bro, stop simping. If he didn't hit yet she isn't his girlfriend. You guys are the problem.
It ain't simping if you're treating your lady but at least don't let her walk over you like a doormat
@@chattingman6777 you should read what i wrote again...
@@yourfriendlyneighbourhoodvue facts
@GuyIncognito__ bro in his scene it wasn't his girlfriend. It was just someone he was dating. The term lady is vague that's your fault for not defining what lady means.
I get what you're saying but on her part it could be a form of po'-mouthing.
Most def have done this for a Woman!!!
I think some of these dudes think that they will get a decent wife without putting in effort we can’t shame women about body count and then turn around and give them a negative point for not giving up the box fast enough
@Troystreetzproduction well said brotha you have to teach these younger generation today’s generation that advice my brotha 👊🏿💯
No, that's nowhere near SIMPIN. That's called taking care of the Good Woman you're with. Operative descriptor being, "Good Woman". Now if you were doing all that for some Hyena that don't appreciate or reciprocate, then THAT would be SIMPIN. Great video.
Too many of these brothers are gaining clarity from a position of being lost to begin with.
I don't think they know what those terms actually meant.
Fellas that's called a normal human interaction. It's a small gesture.
I've had strangers put gas in my vehicle more than once in my life and none were about sexual intentions.
Some dudes in these spaces are just miserable and can't deal with women in good faith whatsoever. Some dudes have around here have no real saying experience, yet have so much to say. I'm not even listening to the opinion of dudes like that
Bingo these are dudes that can't get any attention from females, never been in a relationship yet want to lecture the rest of us
Nothing wrong with this. This is falling into gender roles. Sometimes women will give something cute for the house like a plant or something. Small gestures. You showing you caring about how she's moving in the streets. She's caring about how you feel when you rest at home.
Love this guy. Good man here fellas. You can get right here. 🤌🥃
you asked a very important question. “do you trust your judgment?” when you don’t come into a situation in good faith, you always lose.
i’ve always dated (whether casually or seriously) men who operated the way you do. and i treated them well also.
your comment section really does prove that relationships are mirrors. bare minimum begets the bare minimum. i watch a lot of your content and i’m not sure what some of these men truly want out of the dating market.
I’m trying to figure it out…🤷🏾♂️