LOBOLA IS A MARRIAGE | CUSTOMARY MARRIAGE | DIVORCE | LAW | MJOLO | Nthabiseng Dubazana

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  • @talanimunyai731
    @talanimunyai731 2 роки тому +106

    One thing I like about this channel is that it's not all about bringing the content that will uselessly attract followers. It's all about ensuring that we learn something in each and every episode. 👌🏽

    • @yonelatavern225
      @yonelatavern225 Рік тому

      Can't we just talk about the great work the Channel is doing without bringing what is done by other Channels "with content that uselessly attract followers"?...
      If we are to bring that up, at least we must recognize that there are people (like "we are people too") who are attracted to that content and constructively bring up our views about that type of content and why we feel it is not educational enough or that the learning it pushes does not add the needed value to our society (in a broader sense) in a sort'of considerate way...
      Maybe that approach can help us change the views of many content creators without them feeling we are attacking them... (I don't know)
      PLEASE FORGIVE ME IF MY MESSAGE OFFENDS YOU OR ANYONE...
      And THANK YOU for understanding... ❤

    • @sjmtsweni1238
      @sjmtsweni1238 Рік тому

      Amen 🙏🏾

  • @pholososello1299
    @pholososello1299 2 роки тому +50

    Such a matured conversation, no awkward moments, no unnecessary jokes or funny comments. I truly enjoyed this.

  • @nkhen_c357
    @nkhen_c357 2 роки тому +44

    I love this.......my sister didn't date her husband...he said he don't want dating but to marry her...her sent letter in a month and they started wedding preparations. They been married for 19 years.. They are best friends

  • @nkosingiphilemoloi7811
    @nkosingiphilemoloi7811 2 роки тому +34

    As an attorney I love this conversation. I'm super excited that the subscribers are growing. This is proper content 👌 👌 👏 👏 king David serving us.

  • @janetjohnston1702
    @janetjohnston1702 2 роки тому +47

    Thank you King for inviting people who enlighten us 👏👏 today's guest is preaching about things that engaged couples should pay attention on as much as singles because honeymoon phase is not forever. 🤔

  • @tokozilembadamana7233
    @tokozilembadamana7233 2 роки тому +56

    I wish I could drag some people here 🙆🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️. This is super informative, thank you ousie Nthabi.

  • @iamneokay
    @iamneokay 2 роки тому +18

    Lobola is marriage not engagement!!! Bathong. Those that are not enlightened ba ntjeng!🙆🙆🙆

  • @kingncaba4984
    @kingncaba4984 2 роки тому +17

    I watched the podcast last night and today this topic ya magadi was discussed at work.You should have seen me speaking with authority from a point of knowledge I just acquired 😅.

  • @lindamanamela7998
    @lindamanamela7998 2 роки тому +23

    My husband and I never dated. We met and loved each other, and he chose to marry me and i said yes. The first thing i needed to know from him was whether he knows the Lord Jesus or not. I found that he is the child of God much as i am. We discussed who we are in the Lord and our lives as persons. We had common personalities. Communication and Listening are the key. WE MADE A WEDDING AND WE ARE MORE THAN HAPPY TOGETHER. I am talking of a racial marriage here. No jolling or sleeping together took place before . We just loved one another in an overwhelming manner. It was an amazing experience. God is good, and all the times.

  • @Jazzaddict25
    @Jazzaddict25 2 роки тому +28

    I really enjoy the sober conversations that I get from this podcast. This is such valuable information, wish a whole lot of people could watch this. Nthabiseng, kudos to you, Counsel🙌🏽

  • @mosamochochoko5462
    @mosamochochoko5462 2 роки тому +10

    My first time on this street but what a sober conversation. I learnt from my hubby to ensure I don't win battles at the cost of losing a war. What a lovely soul Nthabiseng is and what refreshing and eye opening conversation 😍😍🤗

  • @gabisilem08
    @gabisilem08 2 роки тому +13

    I have shared this link with everyone. Talk about "free" true legal advice we all need to know. It's my first time on this channel and I love it here already. Subscribed.
    Thank you for such an eye opening topic. New subbie☺

  • @KaraboMasemola6408
    @KaraboMasemola6408 2 роки тому +19

    Finally, marriage is a beautiful picture of the relationship between Christ and His church. The body of believers that make up the Church are collectively called bride of Christ. As Bridegroom, Jesus gave His life for His bride, “to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word” (Ephesians 5:25-26), and His selfless act provides an example for all husbands. At the second coming of Christ, the church will be united with the Bridegroom, the official “wedding ceremony” will take place, and with it the eternal union of Christ and His bride will be actualized (Revelation 19:7-9; 21:1-2).

  • @thobilemditshwa8799
    @thobilemditshwa8799 2 роки тому +20

    Yhoo this was enlightening, the things we get ourselves in without the slightest idea of how wrong things can be. Thank you King for bringing these people

  • @mziwandilendlovu3895
    @mziwandilendlovu3895 2 роки тому +6

    What an enlightening conversation. She's whip smart and so well spoken. Looks good too. Could watch her all day

  • @dj.conkey802
    @dj.conkey802 2 роки тому +21

    I watched from start to finish. I must say this was very thought provoking & informative at the same time. Thank you for this interview 🙏🏾

  • @KaraboMasemola6408
    @KaraboMasemola6408 2 роки тому +6

    Not only does marriage teach children how to be faithful and give them a stable environment in which to learn and grow, it has a sanctifying effect on both marriage partners when they submit to God’s law (Ephesians 5). Every marriage has difficult moments or difficult dynamics. When two sinful people are trying to create a life together, they must submit to God’s command to love each another as God has loved us-selflessly (1 John 3:16). Our attempts to follow God’s commands in our own strength tend to end in failure, and that failure tends to make the believer more aware of his dependence on God and more open to the Spirit’s work in him, which tends to result in godliness. And godliness helps us to follow God’s commands. So, marriage is very helpful for the one trying to live a godly life; it helps to scrub the heart clean of selfishness and other impurities.

  • @quintongalane5960
    @quintongalane5960 2 роки тому +15

    This is so informative 🙌 . "Lobola is not engagement" Wow 36:35 Eish we totally misunderstood this.
    There're too many married people than we realize out there.

    • @tlousera8435
      @tlousera8435 Рік тому +1

      🤣🤣🤣🤣🕺🏾🕺🏾🕺🏾🕺🏾🕺🏾🕺🏾🕺🏾

  • @bonga6009
    @bonga6009 Рік тому +7

    I'm hooked on the Podcast and Nthabiseng's wisdom on marriage and her humbleness. She always gently gets the point across. Keep them coming.

  • @gracemwakyoma383
    @gracemwakyoma383 2 роки тому +8

    We saw each other and got married after a month and we married for 16 years now . So I agree with my sister our first 6 years were horrible because there's was no communication but now we do Communicate and we are best friends, we talk about everything just like the sister said

  • @neweratv6449
    @neweratv6449 2 роки тому +10

    "THE ART OF COMMUNICATION..."🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿

  • @natureandpeoplewithtaw
    @natureandpeoplewithtaw 2 роки тому +5

    I regret not watching this video in the past three or so weeks because I thought I learn nothing from it...I have been married for 20 years but geez boy oh boy have I been wrong ..find it to be a reverting,informative , easy on the ear, educational...do I have all the superlatives...Thanks David i want the second session or episode.

  • @jurryramphagaarchives2806
    @jurryramphagaarchives2806 2 роки тому +6

    Im happy i came across this one, i couldnt even skip but kept repeating listening... very useful advice and motivational..

  • @123345dk
    @123345dk 2 роки тому +28

    I really enjoyed this insightful episode and as a woman I really appreciate her objective approach to such issues and looking forward to a second session she's really a powerhouse 🙏🏽🙏🏽❤️❤️❤️ she's really driven by passion and I think it's a calling for her more than anything🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽

  • @poppyful4377
    @poppyful4377 2 роки тому +8

    Love is easy so is marriage. We just complicate things by not communicating clearly and openly. Create a friendship with your partner and learn to seek help when things starts going sour, Create fun times just for the 2 of you and learn each other's love language. Have respect for each other. I wish friends and families could really offer support to both parties when they see that things aren't going well. #ex-wife

  • @kagisomathe9033
    @kagisomathe9033 2 роки тому +8

    Bra Dave is a great Broadcaster.

  • @KaraboMasemola6408
    @KaraboMasemola6408 2 роки тому +5

    Marriage also protects individuals from sexual immorality (1 Corinthians 7:2). The world we live in is full of sexual images, innuendo, and temptation. Even if a person doesn’t pursue sexual sin, it pursues him or her, and it is very hard to escape it. Marriage provides a healthy place to express sexuality, without opening oneself up to the severe emotional (and many times physical) damage that is caused by casual, non-committed sexual relationships. It is clear that God created marriage for our good (Proverbs 18:22), to make us happy, to promote a healthier society, and to produce holiness in our lives.

    • @beewest5704
      @beewest5704 2 роки тому +1

      That how it was meant to be but we all know most marriages fail because of infidelity.

  • @EmptyStreetPodcast
    @EmptyStreetPodcast Рік тому +2

    David is a great interviewer, you make it feel like a conversation, doesn't even show that you have questions prepared. RESPECT.

  • @zaneleluhabe8863
    @zaneleluhabe8863 2 роки тому +7

    She's amazing 👏indeed.Cant wait for part 2

  • @jabubuthelezi4822
    @jabubuthelezi4822 2 роки тому +4

    So true what she said about "hinting" something and later it comes back as his idea ,I witnessed with my ex husband and now still with my brothers in business .

  • @mamagasesamuel6564
    @mamagasesamuel6564 2 роки тому +4

    Just tuned, my comment is please bring Just Ice here. We would like to know him out of radio since he's no where to be found on the socials

  • @jeromelubabalojacobs8872
    @jeromelubabalojacobs8872 2 роки тому +6

    Trolls excited that Mohale was not married must just get educated and know that boy deserves 50% of everything by virtue of our law. Whether he wants it or not is something else but he's entitled to it. I'm so glad you brought this expert.

    • @mochaleaves
      @mochaleaves 2 роки тому

      The issue with the Somizi - Mohale thing is that even with all the customary marriage requirements in place, Somizi can still claim everything was for the showmax show. Theirs is going to go on trial because both have witnesses that support each perspective.

    • @beewest5704
      @beewest5704 2 роки тому +1

      @@mochaleaves Are you serious? They will have signed contracts to air their "marriage" from Showmax which is a legal document. That legal document will not say that they acted or played a role of getting married for Showmax. Showmax can sue him for lying on them. Then he would have to pay back all the money with interest. Plus Somizi afterwards called Mohale his husband. There is proof on social media. His family & friends knew him as Somizi's husband. There person marrying them was not an actor. Do you get that it is a serious offense to lie to a court? Somizi can claim he is Father Christmas if he wants but if all the evidence shows otherwise no court will just accept a claim.

  • @makeupbynthabim4075
    @makeupbynthabim4075 2 роки тому +3

    Nthabiseng is so intelligent

  • @lucasnkgabane7679
    @lucasnkgabane7679 2 роки тому +3

    This is so good. It's way better than the three hours shows we often get here

  • @kgotlihlongwane1848
    @kgotlihlongwane1848 2 роки тому +3

    Oh my goodness, what an enlightening conversation. Thank you for sharing the wisdom my attorney ❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥

  • @zaneleluhabe8863
    @zaneleluhabe8863 2 роки тому +3

    So informative 👏. Thank you King David,ous Nthabiseng you're the light

  • @busisiwezulu7200
    @busisiwezulu7200 2 роки тому +1

    wow King David & Nthabiseng this topic is a hit, eye opene, I'm a single parent & I'm learning a lot. we need t hear this a lot as Africans & as Christians because there's a lot of confusion. i thing you can good in marriage & family councelling. thank you so much

  • @Lebo_SkinnyB
    @Lebo_SkinnyB 2 роки тому +3

    Thought provoking and informative episode. We need Nthabiseng back soon.

  • @smangelendlovu1496
    @smangelendlovu1496 2 роки тому +3

    Woow thank you , looking forward to the next podcast with the Attorney!

  • @boitshepogopane1064
    @boitshepogopane1064 2 роки тому +2

    An eye opener indeed. David o skhokho maan it's your calling bro👊🏻 keep shining 🥰🙏👊🏻

  • @znpodcast3590
    @znpodcast3590 2 роки тому +3

    My Fridays are always dope. The content on this channel is on another level.

  • @fjhkerwoiero00
    @fjhkerwoiero00 2 роки тому +5

    What the topic missed is that customary marriage was not recognized under apartheid, meaning lobola didn't mean marriage but the process towards marriage! I think the democratic government has done a poor job, especially the Department of Justice for not holding workshops in different communities and even producing booklets to explain the recognition of customary marriage vis a vi lobola!! 🤔

  • @wisemanngcobo9655
    @wisemanngcobo9655 2 роки тому +1

    This very informative,gentlemen I suggest you read this when you have time. Dankie King David!!!!

  • @sharonmohloana4494
    @sharonmohloana4494 2 роки тому +1

    This was insightful! Very informative… hoping for more episodes like this! 👌🏾

  • @rotshidzwamudzanani1210
    @rotshidzwamudzanani1210 2 роки тому +2

    Very much enlightening episode and I also like the duration it lasted, longer episodes are tiring. I wish David can keep it this short going forward.

  • @pumzamlondi8538
    @pumzamlondi8538 Рік тому +2

    This has been so informative, the legality of the subjects, but the ultimately it’s Sis’ Nthabiseng wisdom and the life experiences that shared with us. Thank you both so much.

  • @boipelomotumi4367
    @boipelomotumi4367 2 роки тому +3

    Please she's a legend 🥺❤

  • @wisemanngcobo9655
    @wisemanngcobo9655 2 роки тому +4

    I can't wait for the second part, this is very informative 🤘

  • @jeisonkunene6376
    @jeisonkunene6376 2 роки тому

    Thanks Mr. David.....for the quality and for the content!

  • @agnesmkhuzangwe7308
    @agnesmkhuzangwe7308 2 роки тому +1

    The wisdom that comes with u ntjamme, I’m glad u can save marriages on ur line of work Nthabi🌸thanks ntjamme that kwala ka hanong can really assist me a lot.

  • @nonzwakazithrusmamodise3795
    @nonzwakazithrusmamodise3795 2 роки тому +2

    What an amazing eye opening, beautiful information. Nthabiseng my darling you are my gem. You a home builder. King David woow. I love your Chanel. So informative 💙💙💙💙

  • @khethiwemethula2023
    @khethiwemethula2023 2 роки тому +2

    Thank you for this conversation.......ei this thing of building a house together meanwhile there's no agreement has hit a lot of people.

  • @rotondwamulaudzi5319
    @rotondwamulaudzi5319 2 роки тому +4

    Such an important conversation🙏🏾

  • @kingncaba4984
    @kingncaba4984 2 роки тому +2

    I’m wiser after watching this podcast 🙌🏾.

  • @pitsoostrichfarm2404
    @pitsoostrichfarm2404 2 роки тому +1

    My King! Ohhh kumkani! thank you very much for this educational and empowering content my Rebel lady is been on my case on this institution. Haaai noo we really need more enlightenment on such. Bayethe 🙌

  • @lihlenyathi732
    @lihlenyathi732 2 роки тому +3

    Thank you buti David...This interview was so informative.

  • @laurentiamohapi8628
    @laurentiamohapi8628 2 роки тому +2

    Wow Nthabi this is an eye opener The art of communication "listen and absorb". Logic - Thank you very much.

  • @siphondaba8032
    @siphondaba8032 2 роки тому +4

    David, you never disappoint...great show as always.

  • @tumelomofokeng7997
    @tumelomofokeng7997 Рік тому +1

    Ntate Mashabela can we please have a part 2, I've learned so much just from this episode.

  • @sinenhlanhlawanda3879
    @sinenhlanhlawanda3879 2 роки тому

    Thank you Mr Mashabela! This was very informative...can’t wait for Part 2!

  • @beewest5704
    @beewest5704 2 роки тому +4

    The reason ppl do not want to do premarital counseling is they know their relationship is doomed but the want to act dumb. You had a one & off relationship for 10 years where your bf had 3 kids with other women while dating, hisfamily hates your guts & hd has never provided for you but he whips out a ring & you think all your problems are going to magically dissapear.

  • @nonoenoe1755
    @nonoenoe1755 2 роки тому +1

    Wisdom. I am thankful. 👏

  • @galemosito4577
    @galemosito4577 2 роки тому +1

    I gained so much wisdom from this episode wow Thank u Mme

  • @mmapulechauke9821
    @mmapulechauke9821 2 роки тому +1

    I like this series with Nthabiseng. Looking forward to the next episode

  • @tokozanimazvimbakupa5450
    @tokozanimazvimbakupa5450 2 роки тому +2

    Woooow submission is easy to give if love is given. Profound statement. Thank you for this discussion. So real

  • @kerilengzungu8703
    @kerilengzungu8703 2 роки тому +2

    Good podcast. So interesting already waiting for 2d continuation in the near future. What is learning curve!! Kudos to both of you. 👏👏👏👌👌

  • @andrewmabuza5246
    @andrewmabuza5246 2 роки тому +4

    Wow... This woman is in God mode. Where can I marry a woman of this caliber?

    • @doreennamara5415
      @doreennamara5415 2 роки тому +1

      No angels Mr. It's a journey. It has been a journey for her too to get to this point in her marriage and life.
      Do you have the capacity to walk the journey, and match up to the caliber you seem to so desire.

  • @deekhoza3159
    @deekhoza3159 2 роки тому +1

    Wow this show was so informative, I can't wait for part 2

  • @tsholo977
    @tsholo977 2 роки тому +1

    What an informative show. Thank you

  • @barbarasehlabo8809
    @barbarasehlabo8809 2 роки тому +2

    I needed this!!! Thank you.

  • @karabomokhele2914
    @karabomokhele2914 2 роки тому +1

    Thank you king david. Can't wait for part 2.

  • @ruvimbotaringa7423
    @ruvimbotaringa7423 2 роки тому +3

    After this I now know wats marriage. I jus send the link to my fiancé. Thanks yo you guys

  • @mofokengelizabeth9796
    @mofokengelizabeth9796 Рік тому

    Thank you King, You're a LEGEND keep up the good work Ntate.
    I thank the Almighty for giving you wisdom all the time, you know you bring the relevant people to this platform.
    God Bless

  • @siphokazimayalo285
    @siphokazimayalo285 2 роки тому +1

    I am transformed 🙌. Thank u Mashabela, your guest is dealing with me manje.

  • @patiencekhumalo6116
    @patiencekhumalo6116 2 роки тому

    Thx nthabiseng…learned so much…please come back

  • @busisiwezulu7200
    @busisiwezulu7200 2 роки тому +1

    we are blessing with such wealthy conversation

  • @misst1869
    @misst1869 2 роки тому +1

    I'm loving this conversation

  • @tumelolesia5152
    @tumelolesia5152 2 роки тому +4

    Loved every single moment. ♥️

  • @cresiousmakoena7335
    @cresiousmakoena7335 2 роки тому +3

    as am about to get married, thanks for this David🙏🙏

  • @mslettiemathibe71
    @mslettiemathibe71 2 роки тому +1

    your voice King David ... i love this conversation

  • @user-dp3md6tc4e
    @user-dp3md6tc4e 5 місяців тому

    What a powerful session. Did not get bored one minute. Thank you for educating us. ❤❤❤

  • @lelethudyani4008
    @lelethudyani4008 Рік тому

    She’s so insightful and informative ❤

  • @zazampongoma7677
    @zazampongoma7677 Місяць тому

    Timeless conversation that shaped my mind. I don't know how many times I watched it. Thank you ❤

  • @makamuwatshilidzi
    @makamuwatshilidzi 2 роки тому +1

    🚁🚁🚁🚁🚁🚁🚁Mayday mayday mayday A MUST WATCH THIS ONE.THANKS DAVID

  • @cebekhulun
    @cebekhulun 2 роки тому +1

    This is very interesting , thank David

  • @tumi2610
    @tumi2610 4 місяці тому

    Thank you for introducing us to this lovely lady Mr Mashabela. Very insightful topic, especially for us future wives. Love that shes not just an attorney but also shares great advice based on her personal experiences and from what has worked in her marriage❤

  • @busidlamini5038
    @busidlamini5038 2 роки тому +2

    Wow! Guys this interview theee best, I have enjoyed it enormously. All in one educational, entertaining I got here forever baba, thanks Nthabi, I appreciate your honesty. 👌

  • @leratobela5621
    @leratobela5621 2 роки тому +1

    Nthabiseng please write a book yoh , this was really interesting.

  • @duncantsolo3273
    @duncantsolo3273 2 роки тому +3

    King David i really can't wait for u to do this type of conversation about same sex marriage, a lot of people are misinformed about that issue .
    Waiting in anticipation 😘😘😘🤗🤗🤗

  • @pontshophoku7613
    @pontshophoku7613 Рік тому

    Great conversation, flowing with ease, i learned soo much

  • @nomsamazibuko1190
    @nomsamazibuko1190 2 роки тому +1

    Ausi Nthabi's hubby sound sooo much like mine...a teacher, but i too have my own growth points need a check in. Beautiful interview...

  • @lindatafeni9402
    @lindatafeni9402 2 роки тому

    Thanks for this learning curve 🙏

  • @matshep2583
    @matshep2583 2 роки тому +1

    Matured conversation here we need part 2.

  • @sbusibiya8973
    @sbusibiya8973 2 роки тому

    Awesome conversation that it very informative. Powerful

  • @buzanin699
    @buzanin699 9 місяців тому

    I can listen to this lady forever ❤

  • @sharonfynn5809
    @sharonfynn5809 Рік тому

    Thank you king Davied
    Thank you Dr Dubazana you have just quinch my soul.

  • @msmerlinmonroe6714
    @msmerlinmonroe6714 Рік тому

    Love love love this. Thank you guys

  • @boipelomogudi6861
    @boipelomogudi6861 2 роки тому +2

    This was sooo good!!!!

  • @nicholas8875
    @nicholas8875 2 роки тому +1

    You are building the nation

  • @knoxman..
    @knoxman.. 10 місяців тому

    Went back Mr David we back ...even if it's a year ago...you did this show but made me think of marriage...
    I respect you My good sir...I have learned alot..in this interview...or rather show...May God bless you