This is beautifully done thank you. I have been dealing with a mother who was abusive . It took so long to walk away from her and I kept holding in all the things she had done. I am now going to therapy and working on getting through it and have been more open to share with others about what happened. It's really hard but I know it was the right choice. I have been diagnosed with PTSD , depression, and anxiety. My sisters and I have been told that my mother is a covert narcissist. Even though I have a no contact with her there is so much stuffed in my head and heart that it's still hard to not feel controlled by her.
I am so sorry to hear that you’ve been dealing with an abusive mother. I imagine that to be heartbreaking to not have a connection to the one person who is supposed to love you unconditionally! I am glad to hear that you’ve been able to set boundaries and work through some of the pain and struggle from the broken relationship! I myself had to sit boundaries with my mom and had a 12 year separation from her so I know that our stories are different but I want you to know that I’m with you in this! Those voices and the emotional patterns do take a really long time to change. Thankfully, it’s getting better for me and I hope it continues to do for you :)
It's the Yeah God for me, like you made my morning. I have been listening to your videos since I woke up just showed up when I got on UA-cam and the 9-5 job quitting hit home and how God taught you to trust Him (Detach). Thank you so much Maryl. God bless🥰
Telling you what you want to hear and blame you for not fulfilling those promises. Lying, hiding, running away from responsibility and conversations. Letting you stand there with no answers and confusion…
Fruits is also their choice of words as in Matthew 12 "Either make the tree good, and his fruit good; or else make the tree corrupt, and his fruit corrupt: *for the tree is known by his fruit."* See also James 3:5-12
46 years of marriage. Divorced him once. Remarried. He’s been a heavy heavy weight around my head the entire time. I got sick in 2011. Not curable. I can’t live alone. I now just do my best to focus on his good qualities because there are. He’s a great caretaker. Great helper, loves his kids and grandkids. I’m safe physically. Financially we are in very bad shape. Just praying for God to get me to the finish line.
m so exhausted of battleing on my own, 17 years together, no marriage not kids, he is avoidant atachment type, has traumas , I always fight for our love and comitment but he avoids all, lukewarm, dosent reciprocate love. Im secure empath. He never have in family love and compassion. Almost three month a storm over our life, its so taugh, now we are celibacy beacuse I knew Lord invite me to that to cleanse. And he wants intercourse, and now is avoiding me, he is so lukewarm, Im being obedient , im also cooking for him but im tired. My partner is not newborn jet, hes lukewarm , I dont hev job so its not easy for me, its sad cause we have all memories we were besties, I know him and loved him at 16 yr age, now im 34,he 9 yrs older. I lost my confidence.Its so hard, been praying and fasting for guidance
and what if anxiety remain through months or years, and many strugles in long relationship ,but partnets didnt know it till one became newborn. And now this person has conviction to go out after over ten years? Is this Gods will, or just test?
My partner has traumas from childhood, he doesnt understand some common psihology, like something missin in his brain. Not sure how to call that, but really lack of emotional inteligence. And he always negativise himself, he dont like conflicts rather puts on carpet all. He doesnt reciprocate love, hes not romantic, (aldo he lovebombed me first 2 3 yer), and doesnt have life goals or vill to success. Also does not give compliments. It really sad and I dont feel happy or satisfied for our future😪
What are some other toxic signs you have seen?
This is beautifully done thank you. I have been dealing with a mother who was abusive . It took so long to walk away from her and I kept holding in all the things she had done. I am now going to therapy and working on getting through it and have been more open to share with others about what happened. It's really hard but I know it was the right choice. I have been diagnosed with PTSD , depression, and anxiety. My sisters and I have been told that my mother is a covert narcissist. Even though I have a no contact with her there is so much stuffed in my head and heart that it's still hard to not feel controlled by her.
I am so sorry to hear that you’ve been dealing with an abusive mother. I imagine that to be heartbreaking to not have a connection to the one person who is supposed to love you unconditionally! I am glad to hear that you’ve been able to set boundaries and work through some of the pain and struggle from the broken relationship!
I myself had to sit boundaries with my mom and had a 12 year separation from her so I know that our stories are different but I want you to know that I’m with you in this! Those voices and the emotional patterns do take a really long time to change. Thankfully, it’s getting better for me and I hope it continues to do for you :)
@@maryldemilo Thank you !
It's the Yeah God for me, like you made my morning. I have been listening to your videos since I woke up just showed up when I got on UA-cam and the 9-5 job quitting hit home and how God taught you to trust Him (Detach). Thank you so much Maryl. God bless🥰
Telling you what you want to hear and blame you for not fulfilling those promises. Lying, hiding, running away from responsibility and conversations. Letting you stand there with no answers and confusion…
Yeah for sure
Thank you so much for this, I am navigating boundaries as a believer. Maryl you helped me identify the lines God wants us to draw.
I’m so glad it was helpful! Navigating boundaries are something that takes discernment and it’s often so muddy. I’m with you there!
God definitely led me to this video, thank you 🙏❤
Oh I’m so glad to hear! What resonated with you?
Fruits is also their choice of words as in Matthew 12 "Either make the tree good, and his fruit good; or else make the tree corrupt, and his fruit corrupt: *for the tree is known by his fruit."*
See also James 3:5-12
Yes 🙌 great verses! Praise God he is so patient with us as we grow in the spirit in these areas! :) bless you!
Wish I could give this 100 thumbs up!
Aw thanks! How did it bless you?
I needed to see this video, thank you ❤
I’m so glad it was helpful!
This was GREAT!!
Thank you!
46 years of marriage. Divorced him once. Remarried. He’s been a heavy heavy weight around my head the entire time. I got sick in 2011. Not curable. I can’t live alone. I now just do my best to focus on his good qualities because there are. He’s a great caretaker. Great helper, loves his kids and grandkids. I’m safe physically. Financially we are in very bad shape. Just praying for God to get me to the finish line.
Praying for you
They're never sorry. Apologies only as it serves their interests at tge exoense of all others.
Ya true remorse and awareness of impact requires empathy and a true honesty.
Lots don’t have safety to do this… so they cannot feel sorry it’s sad!
Thank you so much xxx
You are so welcome!
m so exhausted of battleing on my own, 17 years together, no marriage not kids, he is avoidant atachment type, has traumas , I always fight for our love and comitment but he avoids all, lukewarm, dosent reciprocate love. Im secure empath. He never have in family love and compassion. Almost three month a storm over our life, its so taugh, now we are celibacy beacuse I knew Lord invite me to that to cleanse. And he wants intercourse, and now is avoiding me, he is so lukewarm, Im being obedient , im also cooking for him but im tired. My partner is not newborn jet, hes lukewarm , I dont hev job so its not easy for me, its sad cause we have all memories we were besties, I know him and loved him at 16 yr age, now im 34,he 9 yrs older. I lost my confidence.Its so hard, been praying and fasting for guidance
I’m so sorry to hear praying for God to heal!
and what if anxiety remain through months or years, and many strugles in long relationship ,but partnets didnt know it till one became newborn. And now this person has conviction to go out after over ten years? Is this Gods will, or just test?
This is a complex question
My partner has traumas from childhood, he doesnt understand some common psihology, like something missin in his brain. Not sure how to call that, but really lack of emotional inteligence. And he always negativise himself, he dont like conflicts rather puts on carpet all. He doesnt reciprocate love, hes not romantic, (aldo he lovebombed me first 2 3 yer), and doesnt have life goals or vill to success. Also does not give compliments. It really sad and I dont feel happy or satisfied for our future😪
I am sorry for this stress. I pray you get some community around you that helps you navigate the relationship.