I'm sorry about the colour grading, I did it on a broken old laptop whilst my computer has been in the store being repaired. It's very hard to do colour grading without my mac! :)
***** You know, I needed this video. I had a lot of scratches on my stomach and i'd be afraid to show my (ex)boyfriend so i'd keep my shirt on if we ever 'had fun'. I was so self-conscious about it, I'm so glad I'm not alone on this:P
The fact you don't notice it in a negative sense, means I'm working hard enough for it to be good enough :). You'd notice and take a stance if it was bad or not done at all! x
Love how many viewers/commenters don't have trich themselves, but still watch your videos - it just proves that people really do care about the condition and is helping me to not feel like such a freak (:
Tammy Durrant I don't have Trich, but I still watch Beckie's videos :) I'm also heavily interested in psychology and I try to learn everything I can about everything. I would never want to be that kind of person who thinks people are weird because of a condition they have. I want to be understanding of everybody :)
"battered lady garden" is such a good description. I really struggle with pulling down below bc if i have a fit of pulling then as you said it's so much easier than head hair to hide day to day- but you're so right it ends up looking like you have some kinda std!! the worst is if the pulling is localised, and then i kinda have to even everything out so i end up with no hair at all :( It's so reassuring to hear that i'm not alone in pulling other than head hair!
Alice Pumphrey I still don't feel I understand the world of STD's.... I truly don't. :(. But yes, that's been said to me before. Also, there is Trichocosis... something like that... so that's confusing! :(. xxx
If you have trich down there you should invest in something called 'Sudocrem' which is a really sensitive skin creak specifically for sensitive areas. It can be used on things like babies' nappy rashes which makes it perfect for down there. You can even get Sudocrem in tiny pots so you could carry one around w you in case something happened outside. It's just important to really take care of your lady garden and even if you are pulling down there , Sudocrem WILL keep it a lot safer and healthier as well as healthy looking. If it is bleeding, it is best to clean it first and wash away the blood,Then afterwards literally smear the cream on all painful /problematic areas. The cream is really thick and white so doesn't rub in like normal cream, but if it's under clothes it shouldn't be a problem. Xx keep safe xx
Omg right? I pull from one spot in particular and its so uneven. I actually started getting waxed just this year and it really is amazing. I really recommend trying wax if you can handle the pain/if it's in your comfort zone
I guess people don't really think how much a condition can affect every part of someones life. When it is talked about it has a much larger impact coming from someone who has experienced it rather than reading it somewhere. I think it's brave and inspirational that you share such personal situations regulary in the name of educating others. It's pretty awesome.
I don't have trich but I find these videos very interesting and somewhat useful. You're very brave for covering these topics! Keep on doing what you do x
I'm a psychologist researching about different mental conditions and fortunately stumbled upon your channel. This video is absolutely fantastic, so open, nonjudgemental and amazing. Thank you so much, you are probably doing more good than you could ever imagine.
I recently found this channel, even though I don't pull my hair out, I do have a mild condition of SPD (Skin Picking Disorder). Hearing about other people who have things like I do is great because it makes me feel like i'm not so weird or such of an outcast, Thank you for this channel Beckie. It helps us as well as you :-)
+Z Otter123 I think I do. I can't stand blemishes and need to 'get rid of them' or I just freak out. Maybe do I have a very mild term! My mum said its bad...
I'm honestly so relieved someone finally talked about this. I suffer from arachnophobia (among other less debilitating fears) and whenever I look for any videos or posts online of anyone else dealing with a phobia, nothing turns up. You talk about how there's a large trich community, I wish there was just as large of a phobia community, I think it would help a lot of people :)
Now I don't have Trich but I'm binge watching these videos to understand it better and all I'm gonna say is that I admire all people with Trich because not only must it be very hard to deal with but you are also critiqued by so many people. You have my support❤️
Thank you. I wish there were more people like you in the world instead of the hateful and cruel people who are too quick to judge people for what they look like on the outside
One of the things I love about you is that you talk about anything that you feel is important and relevant. Sex can be a very important life of many people's lives, and that is only natural, but there's a giant stigma about sex in our society, so few people are brave enough to openly talk about it. Discussing sex and getting information are crucial. So thank you so much for uploading this video. Even if I don't have trich myself, it has enlightened me and given me things to think about, and it will surely help many Trichsters. Thank you, Beckie. Please do not ever change.
This is so brilliant. Thank you so much for using your voice to bring light to these issues that often stay hidden. I'm a therapist on a university campus and have worked with a few young adults with Trich... it is so misunderstood and unknown by the majority of people, and it can be accompanied by such a sense of shame and silence... thank you for being an honest and transparent voice for this community... and I LOVE that you talked about how this impacts sex and sexual confidence!! I plan to pass on your videos as a support resource.
Dear Beckie, Thank you so much for this videos. Trich came to me, as i was 12 years old, that was 1975. My family thought i was crazy and so where my own feelings over many years. Nobody heared about Trich at this time!! The doctor told me, i was neurotic - that was realy hard! During my liftime, i learned to control my Trich for most time. But if i am in great stress or if i get triggerd by someone or something, it is a realy hard deal, to keep my hands under control. Anyhow, having Trich teached me a lot of things about me and my inner demons. And it teached me, how to get in a friendly communication with my inner side. Trich makes my life to a great adventure - it keeps me standing up, when i get down. Trich is a good teacher in my life. It helpes my now, how to take care of myself. We need understanding for our selfs and the things we can´t change - that makes sense for me. Hugs and go on with energie, because if you look arround, life has such amazing things :D Dear greetings from Bavaria - Tina
Oh you lost me at 'battered lady garden...' I kid, thank you for this video- very informative and Ii love how open you are on this subject and I hope/am sure it's been very helpful to a lot of people whether they suffer from Trich or just struggle with being so open about sex
I'm so glad you're being vulnerable with people, I'm not stricken with trich, but I appreciate the fact that you're helping people with what they're going through, you are and continue to be an inspiration of body positive speech for those struggling. Thank you, so much for doing what you do
the confidence issue is TREMENDOUS. trich for me is mostly relegated to my scalp and eyebrows now, and the damage to my self-esteem limits me in so many areas. and you're right - it's just one of those things we have to deal with. you're so beautiful, though, Becca, and I hope you find the confidence and trust in a partner that you need & deserve. thank you so much for posting about this!
Thanks for being so open and honesty and having the guts to talk about two things that are both really hard topics to tackle separately. You took the scary and brave step to put um together and that makes you awesome in my book! I do not have trich, but the subject of my mental health triggers making sex more complicated is very relevant to me. There are lots of things you talk about in terms of trich that feel relevant to feelings and experiences I have had. Thank you for talking so openly, it certainly helps me feel a little less lonely.
I'm so pleased you've made this! I appreciate sex can be a topic not many people wish to go into detail about so the fact you've laid out the basics where it concerns trich is really important. Thanks, Beckie! :)
Hi beckie. I've been watching your videos for a while now. I don't have Trich but I love seeing your progression with "losing" the urge to pull. I know its still there but you help so many other people with your experiences. It is your confidence with talking about it that will help a lot more people. Thanks
I really respect you for making such a personal and honest video. It helps people to hear your story, even if their own experience is not quite the same, because it makes us feel less alone. I could very much relate when you were talking about how your skin is affected 'down there' - I don't suffer from Trich, but I have a chronic skin condition called Hidradenitis Suppurativa which causes absesses and boils to form in areas with apocrine sweat glands (typically the armpits and around the groin). It's very painful and makes intimacy super awkward 🙈. Your advice is spot on here: it's super important to have a supportive and non-judgey partner who respects your boundaries. Plus, I totally agree that hair removal choices related to 'down there' should be driven by your own preference and comfort, not dictated by a partner (personally I'm saving for laser treatment to remove the hair and prevent flare ups of my HS). also, your makeup is really cool here xxx
imagine how many people you have helped now that they know they are not the only ones who are feeling this way. I don't suffer from this condition, but I have learned a lot from you. I respect the topics you talk about so much, and how realistic and respectful, but honest and blunt you are.
Thank you for sharing this information Beckie. I'd imagine it might of been embarassing, so kudos to you. I feel like I'm understanding Trich more and more because of your videos. I hope that one day you find that someone special who really understands your condition and accepts it, and cares for you the way you deserve.
Awesome video Becca! It's truly important to talk about sex and break all the taboos that come along with it. Most people don't have enough information especially because anyone talks about it in public, which brings many bad consequences that feeds a cicle.
Beckie, you're the best. I don't have trich, but I really appreciate what you're doing. Creating a community for something that's so hard to talk about and not very well known. You always make it very interesting and informative.
I think your very brave, Beckie to be telling the internet about two sensitive topics and i admire you for that. I, personally, do not have trich or know anyone else who does but i do admire your determination to help people with trich feel less alone and in doing so have inspired me to be a better person, thank you
Dealing with trich myself, and I agree SO DAMN MUCH about being more self aware about your pubic hair area, or anywhere else you might have pulled from that usually isn't showing. (Armpit, chesthair, thighs, you name it...) Not that I've had many experiences where I've put myself in that spot, but it's the fact that I relate so much I am writing at all. I never explained this to my partner at the time, and on second thought I don't think she was paying that much attention or cared, which I am grateful of. So grateful for her, but everything turned to a mess later on anyway but that's beside the point. It's definitely interesting hearing these topics from you as it's not something you'd normally discuss. I know this video is a bit old now but relevant nonetheless. Keep up the good work! Cheers, M.
I feel like i'm proud of you in some way, for having the courage to make and upload this video, i hope you realize how far you've come in these last few years! I wish you all the best! xo
i'm v happy that you're brave enough to talk about stuff that can be v scary ❤️ it's so good to see resources for trichers about uncommonly accessible topics
This was an informative video beckie💖Also, if anybody ever has a 'battered lady garden', PLEASE take care of it afterwards with Sudocrem. Sudocrem is good because it is sensitive and can be used for babies' nappy rashes, which makes it perfect for sensitive places. You can also purchase discreet tiny pots only slightly bigger than lip balm tubs which you could probably carry around with you in case something happens when you're out and you need it. Even if it's just after a shave or something small, it's important to put on sudocrem because it will keep your lady area a lot healthier, safer, and less battered and painful. If anyone has Trich down there, please please please go out and buy some Sudocrem. It will really help you out & keep you safe xx
Thank you, thank you, thank you for talking about the Trich aspect! You're right, no one in our community talks about it. But this video is necessary, so thank you for being brave enough to talk about it.
I just want to take a moment and both thank you for AND congratulate you on the honesty and openness of this video. Two very sensitive topics that together could potentially be the mother of all awkward videos and yet you've managed to tackle it so well. You go girl!
***** no worries! Thank you for doing this video. No mean to gush, but, thank you for all of your videos, really. Before editing, how long did it take to vlog this particular video on this subject matter? This is a great topic to talk about. I do not have Trichotillomania, nor do I want to have sex yet, but more people need to be aware and talk about this stuff! Thanks for your constant honesty :)
Maya Williams The original footage is 32 minutes long, including four minutes dedicated to my cat, two introductions and all the interruptions from my family. :).
Omg I'm so happy u made this video. I pull from my head and my pubic area. I have always worried that my partner would judge me because down stairs looks very unattractive and I'm very insecure about it. It makes me think that no one would ever want to be with me because why would anyone want to be with someone with bald spots and scabs etc etc. this video has helped me a lot and I appreciate it so much. Thank you Becky. Your amazing
"battered lady garden" omg but on a serious note i'm super glad that you talk about stuff like this. I personally don't have trich but i do have my own problems and feel more people need to talk about the "weird" sides of stuff more even though i, myself, don't want to. LOL
Wonderful video :) As someone who doesn't have trichotillomania , I find your videos very informative and I admire you so much for speaking about these topics so openly in order to help others. Yeah, you're awesome :) xx
Beckie, do you think you could do a video on how you heal or maintain "down there"? I'm having a really hard time and it's ruining my self confidence because I'm in a relationship. I am so glad you make these videos and that you are so honest. Many in the trich community aren't because it can be seen as shameful or embarrassing. I know I didn't tell anyone about my pulling for years. Thank you so much.
+kaemincha Unfortunately, no. For it is very very personal and it would cause all sorts of problems with my UA-cam channel. Doing the above video was tough enough.... I can't go any closer I'm afraid xxx
Hello there. I just wanted to let you know that you approached this topic beautifully. I am not a trichster (is that how you spell it) but I love watching your videos and learning so much about this condition. This was probably one of my favorite videos of yours. It was so well explained and very well put together. Just thought you wanted to know that a non-trichster appreciated this video very much.
Have I understood you correctly, you would pull your partner's (body) hair during sex? poor boy :/ I'm East Asian, and I have much less body hair than most European guys. I try to shave my armpits, and "downstairs" when I can find the time. However, it's difficult to find some time to shave because my family would probably ask me, 'What are you doing in the bathroom for so long?' I think I would feel embarressed, if I had to say, 'I'm shaving my private parts!'
***** it's really hard to make significant progress and build distress tolerance with that frame of mind. whether it be an automatic thought or figure of speech, intended or not. speech, thought, and emotional patterns are all interconnected, which contribute to outcomes
***** Not trying to be rude, but I honestly don't know why you think that mentality and comment is needed here. You're the one who is directing attention to the word "can't". I won't be discussing this further. If you want positivity, do that, don't be negative then :D x
All of your videos and posts on tumblr have been very interesting to me. I think I may have a mild form of trich involving primarily body hair and to hear you talk about that was very affirming. Thank you!
Thank you for talking about this. I've been pull free from my head for 8 months now but still struggle with pulling from "easier to hide" areas. In a previous relationship, I told my partner about my trich and he just laughed and said "wow, my girlfriend is crazy"... Needless to say we didn't last long after that.
hello beckie, i have trich for 7-8 years now, too. 2 years ago i decided to begin a therapy. it didn't end by now, but i've learnd to accept trich and talk about it. before that i was really ashamed. i didn't want anyone to know. i thought people would judge me but actually no one did... the most important thing i had to learned was, that with pulling my hear out a part of me is trying to tell me something and i shouldn't fight against it. i should try to understand this part of me and change something. i'm tyring my best to do that. thanks for sharing your experiences :)
The popular youtuber Arden Rose just uploaded a Q&A and said that she had trich, I hope she makes more videos about it because she didn't really discuss it but it could help more people recognise it as something than more than just "weird".
YasmineBooks She did make a video a few years ago about her eyebrows, that's how we found each other. I would love to do something with Arden about Trich... but she hasn't spoken to me/returned my messages since January :(. xxx
Thanks so much for bringing this up. I've been pulling down there for years (and even longer on my head, eyelashes -- just about everywhere) and it's made me so self-conscious I can barely even get the courage to go to the gynecologist... I feel like she's going to think I have infections or STDs (even with me being a virgin) and it's just even less pleasant than it is for non-trich people. As for waxing, I actually just tried it for the first time just yesterday. I also have a low threshold for pain but my skin where I pull a lot (I did my armpits) is so numb to that sensation already that I barely felt anything, really. If anything I would say it felt almost good. I'm not sure if I would recommend it to you (it depends on a lot of factors and could even trigger pulling elsewhere, I can't say quite yet and can't speak for you either) but I did find staring at the wax strips afterward oddly satisfying. It was covered in hair with the follicles standing up off it, and I just felt so clean and free and... relaxed by it? I almost wish I kept the strip so I could look at it when I want to pull. That sounds so disturbing but hopefully you can kind of understand :P
Thank you for talking about a topic that really isn't touched upon anywhere else! These days, my pulling is mostly localized downstairs, so I definitely resonated with that. As a side note, you look especially gorgeous in this video. :) Your eyes are stunning (both the natural color and the makeup) and that lip color is incredible on you!
I've struggled with Trich my whole life, and this is the first time I have ever not felt like a freak. These videos have touched my heart in a way you can't even imagine!
i dont have Trich but i stumbled across this video i had watched a few of your others. I just want to say that you handled this area great and you should be proud of how great you did with this
I really appreciated this video. I dont have Torch but I do have dermatillomania and my lady garden is quite scared and raw from digging and picking so much. Luckily for me my partner is aware of my condition and is quite supportive. I hope everyone can find someone like that
just search up about my 'disorder' and then I found you on your trichjournal thank you and I've subscribed to both this and your main channel? cheers! have a good one peeps
I am so happy that you talk about things that bother you. No matter what it is about! Thank you for beeing such an honest and yes! a selfconfident person!!
Thank you so much for covering this topic! I am wearing a wig while I grow my scalp out. What should I do when a guy goes to stroke my hair? I always freak out and grab their hand before they get to my wig! Also, any tips on explaining the state of my pubic hair region? (Bumps, scars, etc)
As someone has already written I would never imagine that trich can somehow affect someones sex life... Also that people with trich pull their hair everywhere not just on theirs heads... thanks for your honesty, society needs more people like you and maybe we finally start to understand people with some kind of not so obvious desease... Thanks again ☺
Sorry if I sound ignorant, but I am surprised that you said that your pain threshold is quite low. Does the relief from pulling massively outweigh the pain? I have struggled with self-harm in the past (cutting), and the pain felt good, and it felt like I needed to do more damage each time in order to get that same feeling. How does pain come into your experience of Trich? Wishing you all the best, and thank you for such informative videos.
I know this might sound pretty weird but I just try to help or tell a little something about other ppl with fetishes ... I worked as a bondage girl (at bondage workshops - not in a sexual context - just as person who got bondaged for teaching some techniques ) and over the 3 years I did this I met lots and lots of different couples from the fetish/bdsm scene. I enjoyed talking to them pretty much because it was interesting for me to hear about their stories and fetishes ect so I remember we once had a workshop with a couple (married and both around 40 yrs old) that was totally and absolutely in love with latex/rubber clothing. And when I asked what they love about it the woman told me that she just couldnt stand the feel of his body hair during sex because he had a lot of hair on his back and chest (she was repulsed by it she said) - and when they first got together yrs ago and she told him that she loved him but hated the hair he started to shave it all not wanting to lose his girlfriend - but when she saw that this whole procedure was a real pain in the ass - they started to look for compromises and they found the latex ... they experimented a lot with it and they told us pretty happily that they like the totally smooth feeling :) I know this was really long - but maybe this might help also some trichsters to deal with triggering body hair. I wish to all of you a happy free life with much love and acceptance
I like when i see open minded people to speak for topics like this (and they're no make fun of it).Good job beckie and really helpfull for those who have Trich or those who haven't!! You are awesome keep on the good work!! :)
Hair pulling isn't only a fetish... there are actually many of us in the BDSM community that have deep mental and emotional ties to our hair... you can normally spot up because we have hair down to our butts and often prefer that one asks for consent before touching it (There have even been times that I have resorted to keeping my hair in a bun so that people will leave it alone). I first found out about trich when I found out a little cousin of mine has it. It threw me off. I have such emotional ties to my hair I at first could not wrap my mind around why one would want to do that. I later found your videos, it has helped me understand what my little cousin is going through, and has strangely enough helped me embrace my own attachment to my hair. Keep being awesome Beckie, and the best of luck to you.
Well done for speaking so clearly and honestly about it. I know I personally can't talk about sex without giggling or blushing. I don't think I could do it to a camera!
I myself don't have trich, but I find it very interesting to learn about it. I'm sorry if this sounds disrespectful, but I don't mean it in that way. It's just weird that I didn't even know that this existed before. It's not widely discussed and I think it should be. I'm very sorry for everyone who is suffering from trich. It sucks. I think the trich community is very brave. I'm sorry I'm wording this so clumsily, I hope you understand that it's with the best intentions.
I may not have Trich but I do have OCD and I think you're incredibly brave for posting this video! I find hair pulling from my partner to be therapeutic and I'm lucky enough to have a partner who tries to distract or challenge my OCD. So yes people! If your partner makes you feel bad for any reason about your condition DROP THEM. You don't need that negativity in your life!
Thanks :). I have found that waxing does help keep things neater downstairs because it takes longer for the hair to grow back, so it naturally reduces pulling in that area. Also using polysporin post pulling or waxing can help reduce the red bumps/infected looking-ness.
I definitely have problems with hair pulling down there. Main areas are eyelashes, eyebrows, armpits... basically anywhere except my head. Glad you made this video 😁
YES! YES YES YES! I fully support these kind of videos! I think such honesty and openness really helps people with their own issues. Talking about it the way you do, makes other people relate and feel like they are not alone AND like it's normal. Sex is normal. Our bodies are normal, even if they're not, if you know what I'm saying. I love it! I could write an entire page on how amazing I think these videos are. It's like you are talking about things a lot of people WANT to talk about but are afraid to.
I think what you said about feeling confident in your own body when it somes to sex and relationships applies to many other conditions and people as well. Just having to expose one single scar, blemish, discoloration, etc. that you're normally able to hide is scary enough, but for people who experience all those things in more severe states, it's horrifying and embarrassing. So thank you, Beckie, for once breaking a taboo or at least loosening it a bit, because confidence, things that affect us, like these conditions and sex/relationships should be more talked of :)
Beckie, I cannot remember what the video was called, but there was a young woman who also had trich and a dog was trained to help her not pull by being taught to paw at and lick their owner when the dog saw them getting ready to pull their hair on the top of their head. I dont know if something like that would help, but animals are very theraputic, and it is amazing what that dog learned to do with the right training :)
This is very brave of you to say all of those things, I think. I like how you are open about intimacy in order to help other people. Very informative. Love from Poland
+Nicole S Yeah I just can't watch her videos anymore, she cuts after every single sentence and she sounds so fake (even though she probably isn't doing it on purpose :D), she sounds like she's trying to give a presentation to a board meeting or read the news xD
UGH YES THIS VIDEO ! Something I'd like to add to the discussion is pulling from the breasts. I have trich where I dig for hair under the skin, and have a very bad issue seeing my breasts before I shower and I try desperately not to rip at them but it's impossible usually. I am a person who really values herself as a sexy, curvy, and feminine woman, but every time I take my clothes off I feel like I've somehow shown a part of me that goes against how I usually pride myself of being. Breasts are used to feed children, attract others, and I just view my breasts as a very feminine and powerful part of my body, and my anger and shame about the blemishes and scars on them really turns me off in a sexual situation. Ugh, so frustrating.
Aya Mekhiemar I was pulling one day and then stopped myself and went "no.. this needs to stop, it's been 6 years" and I was on instagram at the time so I wrote in my bio "Pull-free since 4/15/2015" and decided that that was the last day I would ever pull :) whenever I felt the urge to pull, I would remind myself that I've been pull free for x amount of days or months and that I can't just throw all that progress away. It's been 9 months now. My suggestion is to write down somewhere today's date and decide that today is the last day that you will pull. Whenever you want to pull, look back on today's date and remind yourself that you've come so far
Did you know that Trichotillomania may in turn lead to further consequences such as social phobia , depression and anxiety, which in turn can lead to addiction, self-destruction and more. As a result of frequent twitching of hair occurs patchy baldness , local irritation and / or local skin infections including eye problems. Psychological complications of trichotillomania are: up to 50% have severe depression and / or anxiety disorders. 30 % experience some kind of phobia ( social anxiety disorder ) or generalized anxiety disorder . 20% have eating disorders . 15% have OCD. 22% have body dysmorphic disorder .
I have trich and I wear wigs all the time and I finally found a boyfriend who doesn't mind! I'm so happy! Love you beckie, i watch your video's all the time, you make me feel less alone in my disorder. Keep up the good work love
I'm so glad you brought up being triggered by a partner! My husband isn't particularly hairy, but I still constantly have to fight the urge to tweeze his entire body.
I just want to say, I've come upon your videos a couple times in the past few years, and when I first found your channel, firstly, I was amazed and happy to discover there was someone else with this condition (which I had really only just found out had a name and was an ACTUAL THING) making videos for the world to see and being open about it. But at the same time, I couldn't bring myself to watch. I don't know why, I guess I just felt uncomfortable and I guess I wanted to "hide" from the fact that I have this disorder (even though obviously nobody would be seeing me watch the videos haha). But I never could forget that you existed. And I sort of checked in on your main channel a couple times and just from seeing thumbnails and comments I wrongfully assumed you had "gotten over it". Today I don't know why, but I suddenly had the urge to find out more about trichotillomania, so I was looking around the internet for a while and, of course, I found myself at your main channel again. You looked happy and healed and gorgeous, and for some reason that always made feel shitty about myself (and I realize I shouldn't feel that way, but i did anyway). But this time I discovered this channel, and after watching your "At the Moment" video, and realizing that you are still very much suffering from this disorder, I dunno, I just felt the need to comment. Because I went from feeling embarrassed about even watching your videos, to feeling embarrassed about commenting on them, to finally leaving this long mess of a comment, and now I'm going to subscribe. I just want to thank you for making videos like these and I really just hope this will be a step in the right direction for me.
I'm sorry about the colour grading, I did it on a broken old laptop whilst my computer has been in the store being repaired. It's very hard to do colour grading without my mac! :)
the colours look amazing,don't worry :)
***** It looks beautiful, you did a good job!
***** You know, I needed this video. I had a lot of scratches on my stomach and i'd be afraid to show my (ex)boyfriend so i'd keep my shirt on if we ever 'had fun'. I was so self-conscious about it, I'm so glad I'm not alone on this:P
honestly I don't even notice colour grading... it is not one of my priorities lolz
The fact you don't notice it in a negative sense, means I'm working hard enough for it to be good enough :). You'd notice and take a stance if it was bad or not done at all! x
"My battered lady garden" Oh my lord I love that.
Love how many viewers/commenters don't have trich themselves, but still watch your videos - it just proves that people really do care about the condition and is helping me to not feel like such a freak (:
Tammy Durrant It makes me happy too! :D
Tammy Durrant I don't have Trich, but I still watch Beckie's videos :) I'm also heavily interested in psychology and I try to learn everything I can about everything. I would never want to be that kind of person who thinks people are weird because of a condition they have. I want to be understanding of everybody :)
I don’t have trich but I have been watching her channel for years! Glad to make you feel more acknowledged.
unrelated but i can't stop thinking about how much you sound like Emma Watson
+Emma Carolyn YEAH! :D
+Emma Carolyn I was about the comment the same thing omg!
I love your accent *.*
Oml I’ve been watching Becca for over a year now and I just realized that as I read your comment!!
Unrelated: what lipstick are you wearing? It's so pretty.
Ainsley Jey Rimmel, Starry Sky I think - I don't have it with me at the moment :D
This was very honest and brave of you. However...
"Battered Lady Garden" sounds like a kickass Japanese punk band.
"battered lady garden" is such a good description. I really struggle with pulling down below bc if i have a fit of pulling then as you said it's so much easier than head hair to hide day to day- but you're so right it ends up looking like you have some kinda std!! the worst is if the pulling is localised, and then i kinda have to even everything out so i end up with no hair at all :( It's so reassuring to hear that i'm not alone in pulling other than head hair!
Alice Pumphrey I still don't feel I understand the world of STD's.... I truly don't. :(. But yes, that's been said to me before. Also, there is Trichocosis... something like that... so that's confusing! :(. xxx
If you have trich down there you should invest in something called 'Sudocrem' which is a really sensitive skin creak specifically for sensitive areas. It can be used on things like babies' nappy rashes which makes it perfect for down there. You can even get Sudocrem in tiny pots so you could carry one around w you in case something happened outside. It's just important to really take care of your lady garden and even if you are pulling down there , Sudocrem WILL keep it a lot safer and healthier as well as healthy looking. If it is bleeding, it is best to clean it first and wash away the blood,Then afterwards literally smear the cream on all painful /problematic areas. The cream is really thick and white so doesn't rub in like normal cream, but if it's under clothes it shouldn't be a problem. Xx keep safe xx
*cream xD
yeah i've tried it.....thanks for the advice though (: xx
Omg right? I pull from one spot in particular and its so uneven. I actually started getting waxed just this year and it really is amazing. I really recommend trying wax if you can handle the pain/if it's in your comfort zone
I guess people don't really think how much a condition can affect every part of someones life. When it is talked about it has a much larger impact coming from someone who has experienced it rather than reading it somewhere. I think it's brave and inspirational that you share such personal situations regulary in the name of educating others. It's pretty awesome.
I don't have trich but I find these videos very interesting and somewhat useful. You're very brave for covering these topics! Keep on doing what you do x
+Evie Mae Thank you x
+Evie Mae Same here!
I"M REALLY GLAD YOU MADE THIS VIDEO
+Debra Baker THANK YOU XX
+TrichJournal how old are you?
22 I think
I'm a psychologist researching about different mental conditions and fortunately stumbled upon your channel. This video is absolutely fantastic, so open, nonjudgemental and amazing. Thank you so much, you are probably doing more good than you could ever imagine.
I have tourettes, trich sounds like a very specific strain of tourettes, is there any link?
I recently found this channel, even though I don't pull my hair out, I do have a mild condition of SPD (Skin Picking Disorder). Hearing about other people who have things like I do is great because it makes me feel like i'm not so weird or such of an outcast, Thank you for this channel Beckie. It helps us as well as you :-)
That's also referred as "dermatillomania."
I agree, I have dermatillomania as well and I love coming to this channel.. But also remember that you aren't alone in this :)
+Z Otter123 I think I do. I can't stand blemishes and need to 'get rid of them' or I just freak out. Maybe do I have a very mild term! My mum said its bad...
I'm honestly so relieved someone finally talked about this. I suffer from arachnophobia (among other less debilitating fears) and whenever I look for any videos or posts online of anyone else dealing with a phobia, nothing turns up. You talk about how there's a large trich community, I wish there was just as large of a phobia community, I think it would help a lot of people :)
"Battered lady garden." Now there's a phrase I'd never thought I'd hear. This video was great!
Now I don't have Trich but I'm binge watching these videos to understand it better and all I'm gonna say is that I admire all people with Trich because not only must it be very hard to deal with but you are also critiqued by so many people. You have my support❤️
thank you so much 💕
Thank you. I wish there were more people like you in the world instead of the hateful and cruel people who are too quick to judge people for what they look like on the outside
One of the things I love about you is that you talk about anything that you feel is important and relevant. Sex can be a very important life of many people's lives, and that is only natural, but there's a giant stigma about sex in our society, so few people are brave enough to openly talk about it. Discussing sex and getting information are crucial. So thank you so much for uploading this video. Even if I don't have trich myself, it has enlightened me and given me things to think about, and it will surely help many Trichsters. Thank you, Beckie. Please do not ever change.
This is so brilliant. Thank you so much for using your voice to bring light to these issues that often stay hidden. I'm a therapist on a university campus and have worked with a few young adults with Trich... it is so misunderstood and unknown by the majority of people, and it can be accompanied by such a sense of shame and silence... thank you for being an honest and transparent voice for this community... and I LOVE that you talked about how this impacts sex and sexual confidence!! I plan to pass on your videos as a support resource.
Dear Beckie, Thank you so much for this videos. Trich came to me, as i was 12 years old, that was 1975. My family thought i was crazy and so where my own feelings over many years. Nobody heared about Trich at this time!! The doctor told me, i was neurotic - that was realy hard! During my liftime, i learned to control my Trich for most time. But if i am in great stress or if i get triggerd by someone or something, it is a realy hard deal, to keep my hands under control. Anyhow, having Trich teached me a lot of things about me and my inner demons. And it teached me, how to get in a friendly communication with my inner side. Trich makes my life to a great adventure - it keeps me standing up, when i get down. Trich is a good teacher in my life. It helpes my now, how to take care of myself. We need understanding for our selfs and the things we can´t change - that makes sense for me. Hugs and go on with energie, because if you look arround, life has such amazing things :D Dear greetings from Bavaria - Tina
Oh you lost me at 'battered lady garden...' I kid, thank you for this video- very informative and Ii love how open you are on this subject and I hope/am sure it's been very helpful to a lot of people whether they suffer from Trich or just struggle with being so open about sex
+Laura s
it's the pulling off others down there hair that got me. I'll never look down on anyone over a mental disorder but that would hurt
I'm so glad you're being vulnerable with people, I'm not stricken with trich, but I appreciate the fact that you're helping people with what they're going through, you are and continue to be an inspiration of body positive speech for those struggling. Thank you, so much for doing what you do
the confidence issue is TREMENDOUS. trich for me is mostly relegated to my scalp and eyebrows now, and the damage to my self-esteem limits me in so many areas. and you're right - it's just one of those things we have to deal with. you're so beautiful, though, Becca, and I hope you find the confidence and trust in a partner that you need & deserve. thank you so much for posting about this!
Thanks for being so open and honesty and having the guts to talk about two things that are both really hard topics to tackle separately. You took the scary and brave step to put um together and that makes you awesome in my book! I do not have trich, but the subject of my mental health triggers making sex more complicated is very relevant to me. There are lots of things you talk about in terms of trich that feel relevant to feelings and experiences I have had. Thank you for talking so openly, it certainly helps me feel a little less lonely.
I'm so pleased you've made this! I appreciate sex can be a topic not many people wish to go into detail about so the fact you've laid out the basics where it concerns trich is really important. Thanks, Beckie! :)
Hi beckie. I've been watching your videos for a while now. I don't have Trich but I love seeing your progression with "losing" the urge to pull. I know its still there but you help so many other people with your experiences. It is your confidence with talking about it that will help a lot more people. Thanks
I really respect you for making such a personal and honest video. It helps people to hear your story, even if their own experience is not quite the same, because it makes us feel less alone.
I could very much relate when you were talking about how your skin is affected 'down there' - I don't suffer from Trich, but I have a chronic skin condition called Hidradenitis Suppurativa which causes absesses and boils to form in areas with apocrine sweat glands (typically the armpits and around the groin). It's very painful and makes intimacy super awkward 🙈.
Your advice is spot on here: it's super important to have a supportive and non-judgey partner who respects your boundaries. Plus, I totally agree that hair removal choices related to 'down there' should be driven by your own preference and comfort, not dictated by a partner (personally I'm saving for laser treatment to remove the hair and prevent flare ups of my HS).
also, your makeup is really cool here xxx
imagine how many people you have helped now that they know they are not the only ones who are feeling this way. I don't suffer from this condition, but I have learned a lot from you. I respect the topics you talk about so much, and how realistic and respectful, but honest and blunt you are.
Thank you for sharing this information Beckie. I'd imagine it might of been embarassing, so kudos to you. I feel like I'm understanding Trich more and more because of your videos. I hope that one day you find that someone special who really understands your condition and accepts it, and cares for you the way you deserve.
Thank you for the honesty and bravery to talk about this subject. It helped me see I'm not the only one struggling with this!
OMG Becky I haven't watched your videos in a while and your hair looks so much longer!! It looks a lot closer to a bob than a pixie cut now!!
Awesome video Becca! It's truly important to talk about sex and break all the taboos that come along with it. Most people don't have enough information especially because anyone talks about it in public, which brings many bad consequences that feeds a cicle.
Beckie, you're the best. I don't have trich, but I really appreciate what you're doing. Creating a community for something that's so hard to talk about and not very well known. You always make it very interesting and informative.
I think your very brave, Beckie to be telling the internet about two sensitive topics and i admire you for that. I, personally, do not have trich or know anyone else who does but i do admire your determination to help people with trich feel less alone and in doing so have inspired me to be a better person, thank you
Dealing with trich myself, and I agree SO DAMN MUCH about being more self aware about your pubic hair area, or anywhere else you might have pulled from that usually isn't showing. (Armpit, chesthair, thighs, you name it...) Not that I've had many experiences where I've put myself in that spot, but it's the fact that I relate so much I am writing at all. I never explained this to my partner at the time, and on second thought I don't think she was paying that much attention or cared, which I am grateful of. So grateful for her, but everything turned to a mess later on anyway but that's beside the point. It's definitely interesting hearing these topics from you as it's not something you'd normally discuss. I know this video is a bit old now but relevant nonetheless. Keep up the good work! Cheers, M.
I feel like i'm proud of you in some way, for having the courage to make and upload this video, i hope you realize how far you've come in these last few years! I wish you all the best! xo
this video means so much to me. Its amazing to hear someone else verbalizing my feelings.
i'm v happy that you're brave enough to talk about stuff that can be v scary ❤️ it's so good to see resources for trichers about uncommonly accessible topics
OMG - I am so thilled to have bumped into your Trich Journal. I am completely appreciative of our candor combined with humor. Thank you!
The "recommended videos" column for this video takes you to some strange places...
This was an informative video beckie💖Also, if anybody ever has a 'battered lady garden', PLEASE take care of it afterwards with Sudocrem. Sudocrem is good because it is sensitive and can be used for babies' nappy rashes, which makes it perfect for sensitive places. You can also purchase discreet tiny pots only slightly bigger than lip balm tubs which you could probably carry around with you in case something happens when you're out and you need it. Even if it's just after a shave or something small, it's important to put on sudocrem because it will keep your lady area a lot healthier, safer, and less battered and painful. If anyone has Trich down there, please please please go out and buy some Sudocrem. It will really help you out & keep you safe xx
Thank you, thank you, thank you for talking about the Trich aspect! You're right, no one in our community talks about it. But this video is necessary, so thank you for being brave enough to talk about it.
I just want to take a moment and both thank you for AND congratulate you on the honesty and openness of this video. Two very sensitive topics that together could potentially be the mother of all awkward videos and yet you've managed to tackle it so well. You go girl!
***** no worries! Thank you for doing this video. No mean to gush, but, thank you for all of your videos, really. Before editing, how long did it take to vlog this particular video on this subject matter? This is a great topic to talk about. I do not have Trichotillomania, nor do I want to have sex yet, but more people need to be aware and talk about this stuff! Thanks for your constant honesty :)
Maya Williams The original footage is 32 minutes long, including four minutes dedicated to my cat, two introductions and all the interruptions from my family. :).
Omg I'm so happy u made this video. I pull from my head and my pubic area. I have always worried that my partner would judge me because down stairs looks very unattractive and I'm very insecure about it. It makes me think that no one would ever want to be with me because why would anyone want to be with someone with bald spots and scabs etc etc. this video has helped me a lot and I appreciate it so much. Thank you Becky. Your amazing
I absolutely love your honesty and openness. Keep up the great work! ^-^
"battered lady garden" omg but on a serious note i'm super glad that you talk about stuff like this. I personally don't have trich but i do have my own problems and feel more people need to talk about the "weird" sides of stuff more even though i, myself, don't want to. LOL
Wonderful video :) As someone who doesn't have trichotillomania , I find your videos very informative and I admire you so much for speaking about these topics so openly in order to help others. Yeah, you're awesome :) xx
Beckie, do you think you could do a video on how you heal or maintain "down there"? I'm having a really hard time and it's ruining my self confidence because I'm in a relationship. I am so glad you make these videos and that you are so honest. Many in the trich community aren't because it can be seen as shameful or embarrassing. I know I didn't tell anyone about my pulling for years. Thank you so much.
+kaemincha Unfortunately, no. For it is very very personal and it would cause all sorts of problems with my UA-cam channel. Doing the above video was tough enough.... I can't go any closer I'm afraid xxx
+TrichJournal I completely understand. I'm sorry if I made you uncomfortable in any way. I am very grateful for your videos :)
kaemincha All is good!
Hello there. I just wanted to let you know that you approached this topic beautifully. I am not a trichster (is that how you spell it) but I love watching your videos and learning so much about this condition. This was probably one of my favorite videos of yours. It was so well explained and very well put together. Just thought you wanted to know that a non-trichster appreciated this video very much.
THANK YOU for addressing this. You continue to inspire honesty in myself and in the Trich community.
This is a super important thing and I am so happy you made a video of it! :)
NEW VIDEO.
***** it makes me sad that you continue to say 'i can't' so much :-(
***** ?!!!!!
Have I understood you correctly, you would pull your partner's (body) hair during sex? poor boy :/
I'm East Asian, and I have much less body hair than most European guys. I try to shave my armpits, and "downstairs" when I can find the time. However, it's difficult to find some time to shave because my family would probably ask me, 'What are you doing in the bathroom for so long?' I think I would feel embarressed, if I had to say, 'I'm shaving my private parts!'
***** it's really hard to make significant progress and build distress tolerance with that frame of mind.
whether it be an automatic thought or figure of speech, intended or not. speech, thought, and emotional patterns are all interconnected, which contribute to outcomes
***** Not trying to be rude, but I honestly don't know why you think that mentality and comment is needed here. You're the one who is directing attention to the word "can't". I won't be discussing this further. If you want positivity, do that, don't be negative then :D x
All of your videos and posts on tumblr have been very interesting to me. I think I may have a mild form of trich involving primarily body hair and to hear you talk about that was very affirming. Thank you!
Thank you for talking about this. I've been pull free from my head for 8 months now but still struggle with pulling from "easier to hide" areas. In a previous relationship, I told my partner about my trich and he just laughed and said "wow, my girlfriend is crazy"... Needless to say we didn't last long after that.
hello beckie, i have trich for 7-8 years now, too. 2 years ago i decided to begin a therapy. it didn't end by now, but i've learnd to accept trich and talk about it. before that i was really ashamed. i didn't want anyone to know. i thought people would judge me but actually no one did... the most important thing i had to learned was, that with pulling my hear out a part of me is trying to tell me something and i shouldn't fight against it. i should try to understand this part of me and change something. i'm tyring my best to do that. thanks for sharing your experiences :)
The popular youtuber Arden Rose just uploaded a Q&A and said that she had trich, I hope she makes more videos about it because she didn't really discuss it but it could help more people recognise it as something than more than just "weird".
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YasmineBooks She did make a video a few years ago about her eyebrows, that's how we found each other. I would love to do something with Arden about Trich... but she hasn't spoken to me/returned my messages since January :(. xxx
Arden does have a video about her trich, it's pretty old. Maybe that's why you haven't seen it :)
Vilma Håkansson ***** Thanks, yea I haven't seen the old video, I'll check it out. She could really make a difference
Georgia Williams what do you mean?
Your makeup is flawless!
Thanks so much for bringing this up. I've been pulling down there for years (and even longer on my head, eyelashes -- just about everywhere) and it's made me so self-conscious I can barely even get the courage to go to the gynecologist... I feel like she's going to think I have infections or STDs (even with me being a virgin) and it's just even less pleasant than it is for non-trich people.
As for waxing, I actually just tried it for the first time just yesterday. I also have a low threshold for pain but my skin where I pull a lot (I did my armpits) is so numb to that sensation already that I barely felt anything, really. If anything I would say it felt almost good. I'm not sure if I would recommend it to you (it depends on a lot of factors and could even trigger pulling elsewhere, I can't say quite yet and can't speak for you either) but I did find staring at the wax strips afterward oddly satisfying. It was covered in hair with the follicles standing up off it, and I just felt so clean and free and... relaxed by it? I almost wish I kept the strip so I could look at it when I want to pull. That sounds so disturbing but hopefully you can kind of understand :P
Thank you for talking about a topic that really isn't touched upon anywhere else! These days, my pulling is mostly localized downstairs, so I definitely resonated with that.
As a side note, you look especially gorgeous in this video. :) Your eyes are stunning (both the natural color and the makeup) and that lip color is incredible on you!
+puppysfurme
I've struggled with Trich my whole life, and this is the first time I have ever not felt like a freak. These videos have touched my heart in a way you can't even imagine!
i dont have Trich but i stumbled across this video i had watched a few of your others. I just want to say that you handled this area great and you should be proud of how great you did with this
I really appreciated this video.
I dont have Torch but I do have dermatillomania and my lady garden is quite scared and raw from digging and picking so much. Luckily for me my partner is aware of my condition and is quite supportive. I hope everyone can find someone like that
just search up about my 'disorder' and then I found you on your trichjournal thank you and I've subscribed to both this and your main channel? cheers! have a good one peeps
I am so happy that you talk about things that bother you. No matter what it is about! Thank you for beeing such an honest and yes! a selfconfident person!!
Thank you so much for covering this topic! I am wearing a wig while I grow my scalp out. What should I do when a guy goes to stroke my hair? I always freak out and grab their hand before they get to my wig! Also, any tips on explaining the state of my pubic hair region? (Bumps, scars, etc)
As someone has already written I would never imagine that trich can somehow affect someones sex life... Also that people with trich pull their hair everywhere not just on theirs heads... thanks for your honesty, society needs more people like you and maybe we finally start to understand people with some kind of not so obvious desease... Thanks again ☺
Sorry if I sound ignorant, but I am surprised that you said that your pain threshold is quite low. Does the relief from pulling massively outweigh the pain? I have struggled with self-harm in the past (cutting), and the pain felt good, and it felt like I needed to do more damage each time in order to get that same feeling. How does pain come into your experience of Trich? Wishing you all the best, and thank you for such informative videos.
I really respect you for making this video! Very brave and insightful and I'm sure this will reassure/help many people xo
thank you for being there for me, after all these years and still be helpfull
Do u reply to comments?
+Sagar Mathers Obviously, if you look! :D x
I know this might sound pretty weird but I just try to help or tell a little something about other ppl with fetishes ...
I worked as a bondage girl (at bondage workshops - not in a sexual context - just as person who got bondaged for teaching some techniques ) and over the 3 years I did this I met lots and lots of different couples from the fetish/bdsm scene.
I enjoyed talking to them pretty much because it was interesting for me to hear about their stories and fetishes ect
so I remember we once had a workshop with a couple (married and both around 40 yrs old) that was totally and absolutely in love with latex/rubber clothing. And when I asked what they love about it the woman told me that she just couldnt stand the feel of his body hair during sex because he had a lot of hair on his back and chest (she was repulsed by it she said) - and when they first got together yrs ago and she told him that she loved him but hated the hair he started to shave it all not wanting to lose his girlfriend - but when she saw that this whole procedure was a real pain in the ass - they started to look for compromises and they found the latex ... they experimented a lot with it and they told us pretty happily that they like the totally smooth feeling :) I know this was really long - but maybe this might help also some trichsters to deal with triggering body hair.
I wish to all of you a happy free life with much love and acceptance
***** that sounds like a fun job :)
I like when i see open minded people to speak for topics like this (and they're no make fun of it).Good job beckie and really helpfull for those who have Trich or those who haven't!! You are awesome keep on the good work!! :)
+Evans E Thank you x
Your welcome!! :)TrichJournal
Hair pulling isn't only a fetish... there are actually many of us in the BDSM community that have deep mental and emotional ties to our hair... you can normally spot up because we have hair down to our butts and often prefer that one asks for consent before touching it (There have even been times that I have resorted to keeping my hair in a bun so that people will leave it alone). I first found out about trich when I found out a little cousin of mine has it. It threw me off. I have such emotional ties to my hair I at first could not wrap my mind around why one would want to do that. I later found your videos, it has helped me understand what my little cousin is going through, and has strangely enough helped me embrace my own attachment to my hair. Keep being awesome Beckie, and the best of luck to you.
Well done for speaking so clearly and honestly about it. I know I personally can't talk about sex without giggling or blushing. I don't think I could do it to a camera!
I myself don't have trich, but I find it very interesting to learn about it. I'm sorry if this sounds disrespectful, but I don't mean it in that way. It's just weird that I didn't even know that this existed before. It's not widely discussed and I think it should be. I'm very sorry for everyone who is suffering from trich. It sucks. I think the trich community is very brave. I'm sorry I'm wording this so clumsily, I hope you understand that it's with the best intentions.
I may not have Trich but I do have OCD and I think you're incredibly brave for posting this video! I find hair pulling from my partner to be therapeutic and I'm lucky enough to have a partner who tries to distract or challenge my OCD.
So yes people! If your partner makes you feel bad for any reason about your condition DROP THEM. You don't need that negativity in your life!
Thanks :). I have found that waxing does help keep things neater downstairs because it takes longer for the hair to grow back, so it naturally reduces pulling in that area. Also using polysporin post pulling or waxing can help reduce the red bumps/infected looking-ness.
Hey I was wondering where I could watch the Trichster film you were in?
I definitely have problems with hair pulling down there. Main areas are eyelashes, eyebrows, armpits... basically anywhere except my head. Glad you made this video 😁
I agree about the hairy men bit, and I don't even get triggered because I don't have trich, love you Beckie xx this video was so honest and open xxx
YES! YES YES YES! I fully support these kind of videos! I think such honesty and openness really helps people with their own issues. Talking about it the way you do, makes other people relate and feel like they are not alone AND like it's normal. Sex is normal. Our bodies are normal, even if they're not, if you know what I'm saying. I love it! I could write an entire page on how amazing I think these videos are. It's like you are talking about things a lot of people WANT to talk about but are afraid to.
I think what you said about feeling confident in your own body when it somes to sex and relationships applies to many other conditions and people as well. Just having to expose one single scar, blemish, discoloration, etc. that you're normally able to hide is scary enough, but for people who experience all those things in more severe states, it's horrifying and embarrassing. So thank you, Beckie, for once breaking a taboo or at least loosening it a bit, because confidence, things that affect us, like these conditions and sex/relationships should be more talked of :)
Beckie, I cannot remember what the video was called, but there was a young woman who also had trich and a dog was trained to help her not pull by being taught to paw at and lick their owner when the dog saw them getting ready to pull their hair on the top of their head. I dont know if something like that would help, but animals are very theraputic, and it is amazing what that dog learned to do with the right training :)
This is very brave of you to say all of those things, I think. I like how you are open about intimacy in order to help other people. Very informative. Love from Poland
Where do you buy your wigs, if you don't mind me asking?
Girl you sound just like emma watson
+Nicole S Yeah I just can't watch her videos anymore, she cuts after every single sentence and she sounds so fake (even though she probably isn't doing it on purpose :D), she sounds like she's trying to give a presentation to a board meeting or read the news xD
+anfalas Most UA-camrs use jump cuts. We're not in 2006 anymore! :( x
Nothing like Emma Watson.
Your hair is gorgeous
I love your honesty x watched loads of your videos and admire your strength- keep on going!
UGH YES THIS VIDEO ! Something I'd like to add to the discussion is pulling from the breasts. I have trich where I dig for hair under the skin, and have a very bad issue seeing my breasts before I shower and I try desperately not to rip at them but it's impossible usually. I am a person who really values herself as a sexy, curvy, and feminine woman, but every time I take my clothes off I feel like I've somehow shown a part of me that goes against how I usually pride myself of being. Breasts are used to feed children, attract others, and I just view my breasts as a very feminine and powerful part of my body, and my anger and shame about the blemishes and scars on them really turns me off in a sexual situation. Ugh, so frustrating.
it is amazing how honest and open you are to us!!! That is good for us "non-tritchers" very important to hear all the little thinks :)
I almost feel distanced from the trich community, it's been so long since I've pulled
+KettiexD That's a good thing! You could be such great support now to people in the trich community!
what helped you stop pulling..please replay I'm trying everything I could but so far nothing has worked
what helped you stop pulling..please replay I'm trying everything I could but so far nothing has worked
what helped you stop pulling..please replay I'm trying everything I could but so far nothing has worked
Aya Mekhiemar I was pulling one day and then stopped myself and went "no.. this needs to stop, it's been 6 years" and I was on instagram at the time so I wrote in my bio "Pull-free since 4/15/2015" and decided that that was the last day I would ever pull :) whenever I felt the urge to pull, I would remind myself that I've been pull free for x amount of days or months and that I can't just throw all that progress away. It's been 9 months now. My suggestion is to write down somewhere today's date and decide that today is the last day that you will pull. Whenever you want to pull, look back on today's date and remind yourself that you've come so far
Did you know that Trichotillomania may in turn lead to further consequences such as social phobia , depression and anxiety, which in turn can lead to addiction, self-destruction and more. As a result of frequent twitching of hair occurs patchy baldness , local irritation and / or local skin infections including eye problems.
Psychological complications of trichotillomania are:
up to 50% have severe depression and / or anxiety disorders.
30 % experience some kind of phobia ( social anxiety disorder ) or generalized anxiety disorder .
20% have eating disorders .
15% have OCD.
22% have body dysmorphic disorder .
I have trich and I wear wigs all the time and I finally found a boyfriend who doesn't mind! I'm so happy! Love you beckie, i watch your video's all the time, you make me feel less alone in my disorder. Keep up the good work love
I love you beckie! You're such an inspiration to me and your videos on this channel are always meaningful and I love that 💕
I'm so glad you brought up being triggered by a partner! My husband isn't particularly hairy, but I still constantly have to fight the urge to tweeze his entire body.
i'm curious if you meant body hair or all hair on men was triggering?
I know this isn't exactly on topic, but your hair has grown so much! I'm hoping I can be as successful with my pulling as you are with yours:)
I just want to say, I've come upon your videos a couple times in the past few years, and when I first found your channel, firstly, I was amazed and happy to discover there was someone else with this condition (which I had really only just found out had a name and was an ACTUAL THING) making videos for the world to see and being open about it. But at the same time, I couldn't bring myself to watch. I don't know why, I guess I just felt uncomfortable and I guess I wanted to "hide" from the fact that I have this disorder (even though obviously nobody would be seeing me watch the videos haha). But I never could forget that you existed. And I sort of checked in on your main channel a couple times and just from seeing thumbnails and comments I wrongfully assumed you had "gotten over it". Today I don't know why, but I suddenly had the urge to find out more about trichotillomania, so I was looking around the internet for a while and, of course, I found myself at your main channel again. You looked happy and healed and gorgeous, and for some reason that always made feel shitty about myself (and I realize I shouldn't feel that way, but i did anyway). But this time I discovered this channel, and after watching your "At the Moment" video, and realizing that you are still very much suffering from this disorder, I dunno, I just felt the need to comment. Because I went from feeling embarrassed about even watching your videos, to feeling embarrassed about commenting on them, to finally leaving this long mess of a comment, and now I'm going to subscribe. I just want to thank you for making videos like these and I really just hope this will be a step in the right direction for me.
Your hair is coming along beautifully!
How did you get your lip stick like that?
I don't have tritch but I enjoy watching your videos. I love your honesty!