@whocriesforbidennotme641 biological men can easily unalive biological women with their bare hands. Very few females can unalive males with their bare hands. It’s in everyone’s best interest that we take care of and are kind to little boys, so that they don’t grow up into dangerous grown men. Edited for misspellings
@whocriesforbidennotme641 I’ve never known any woman per who was violent, but that’s why I specified “without the use of any other tools and solely hand-to-hand combat”. I wasn’t talking about anything other than bare hands in my scenario, now was I?
@@anthonypettit3713Do you see loneliness as lacking potential sexual partners? Then yeah, (some) women have it easier, though the other lady already explained that a lot of women don't have pretty privilege and then become even more invisible than men. For me loneliness means not being able to genuinely connect with people around me, men or women, romantically or platonically. To always feel misunderstood and unheard. That's a feeling known to a lot of people, regardless of their gender, and it IS really painful (we are, after all, wired to be members of a tribe). Casual sex and people admiring your looks won't fix it, only finding your own trusted community will, and that can be pretty challenging - again, regardless of your gender. Worth it, though.
Wdym? There is opposition with women demanding equality. The roles don't have to be reversed. Why do you think this channel cherry picks the dumbest things some stupid women say? It's always what fits the agenda of far right wingnuts to the detriment of the rest of women. They feed the hate of stupid people by conveniently posting content that presents women in a negative light. If they can continue feeding their misogyny, they can continue making them oppose societal equality for women. And you are a good human being so you probably realized that already and know how wrong this is.
People NEVER talk about women’s mental health. You men complain and complain but your mental health month is always recognized and your mental health is always spoke about. Women’s mental health is rarely acknowledged. We have a mental health month but nobody ever talks about it. And, if you look up, according to Google we have to share our mental health month with trannys and non binaries. Because, you know, woman eraser is trending these days. Open your eyes. You men are just spoiled babies.
I mean this channel does the same with women....a woman brings up an issue that affects them? They call them woke, feminists, victims and other stuff that is meant to belittle them. There's hundreds of right wing channels dedicated to this. A person in the comments said: it's all fun and games until the roles are reversed. Well, it's all fun and games mocking women for speaking up about issues that affect them until it is the turn of men to get ridiculed the same way for talking about their problems...not fun at all huh? Let's stop ridiculing men and women for talking about serious issues that affect them. I don't even know when people became so sociopathic that there's channels dedicated to this. Time to evaluate your values and morals people.
Man created the stigma that man have to be strong and the first people to call a man "gay" or "weak" because of crying are man, as women, we appreciate man that show their emotions bc we know that it feels more human and when you bottle everything inside the only emotion u will show is anger, which is dangerous and sad...
Okay, just hush. Stop. A bunch of women who claim they care for men and their feelings will leave him the moment he shows any vulnerability. Not to mention that women contribute to this stigma too, so stop blaming everything on men and take the accountability. You're part of the problem by acting like y'all do no wrong and that it's a man's fault always. @@pxrplehairgirl5030
@@sponish022 years on this earth and in my experience men don't really want physical gifts. If I ask my dad, stepdad or boyfriend what they would like for (insert celebration) and they say nothing. Or for the sake of saying something they say a bag of chips. Same goes for other men who aren't in my life, but I've heard the experience from other females. I've realized what they actually want is experiences instead of things. My dad was always happy to just spend with his kids, my stepdad for his kids to leave him alone with his wife (my mom) and my boyfriend to get pleased in a way I'm happy to but won't mention here. Men always try ways to figure out how to make us happy and it's ofcourse important for us girls to do the same
@@Connerthespider as the comment below me suggested most men don’t want gifts like of you ask most men what do you like from a women not many will say “one who buys me small gifts” men would usually prefer a woman for example dressed up in there fav kinky outfit than a gift
@@sponish0 goodness, you still don’t get my point My point is, it isn’t about literal flowers or gifts, it’s about the thought It’s like “oh wow, you bought something for me, even though I usually do the buying, thank you!” And about the other reply, it’s because some men sure, don’t want gifts, but try out giving one to a men, because I guarantee he will ecstatically happy (Also, their reply, at the end, has the part you’re missing)
That is sad ,and I don’t want any man to feel that way , many women say they don’t need men or don’t want men but that is awful ,personally I try my best to make men feel valued because they don’t have to work and protect but they do and men need respect psychologically
Damn right. It's gone well beyond just not caring. We are in a situation today where it would be more accurate to say 'The world hates me and is trying to destroy me, so why would I not hate and destroy this world to return the favor?" A world that is cruel to men is a world that brings forth men who are cruel to the world. "Toxic masculinity" is a poison that has been brewed in the cauldrons of feminists. Now they want to ring the alarm about this poison, but ignore and hide the fact that they brewed it? I'm starting to suspect that all those women who were burned at the stakes in the witch trials of times past did ALOT more than just grow herbs and prepare medicines from them.
@@Anonymoususer08 Go date them all of them, keep them company, and leave the rest of us sane women out of it because eventually you'll see the reason why they're lonely. Being lonely is a first world issue. When women say "i don't need a man" they're speaking in dating terms, they can be independant without relying on someone else romantically to keep them afloat, don't attach your worth to other people it's just that simple.
@@claff4573 thank you for correcting me on that I shouldn’t generalized ,I have dated some awful men who have really hurt me ,the truly horrible ones should not be able to have a good woman in their life ,if you don’t want a man to date that’s completely okay, but i personally desire a man and I don’t want the good ones to suffer and I don’t want the gender war to continue
Yeah this is a universal thought shared among all humans. It's not a man thing it's a basic and very predictable reaction in a person that shows signs of depression.
Fr if you tell someone sth repeatedly they will believe it and say wait maybe i am a bad person maybe i am a criminal maybe i should accept it and be one
I just hope that men won’t be treated poorly for any longer because I can imagine how bad it would backfire, some even don’t want women to vote anymore, I just hope that the two genders can get along better soon because I want a future where I can be loved by a man and I can love a man
This phrase should be appointed towards women in taliban countries or in honduras where femicide regularly happens, not because men are lonely (for a reason)💀. Do you know how easy you have to have it to think YOU being lonely is everyone else's issue? That is a first world problem and nobody else should have to deal with it because you can't find a wife or a friend.
@@claff4573 I really do appreciate hearing your thoughts because it seems people are giving excuses to men which isn’t right either ,some men are genuinely not loved or respected but that doesn’t mean they should hurt others and stop being empathetic because it actually backfires on themselves making them more lonely
Friendly reminder that anger is a secondary emotion and most of society oppresses men from displaying vulnerable emotions which leads to them displaying anger.
I wish men would start showing their emotions to their friends. I’m a girl so I literally can’t help at all. Like, I can’t be in male spaces. It’s so weird how many men let that continue. Guys don’t seem to like change? It’s weird
@@abjectmadness1111showing emotion is really dependent on who you’re with. Mom, SO, Best Friends. We are comfortable enough to talk to them with it, and if they’re good friends they will listen. But (at least for me) we don’t really care about our emotional well being, partially because people have been submissive with it, but mainly because we just don’t care.
fr I hate that man created the masculinity stigma of being strong and not showing emotions, as a woman I feel like that's probably one of the reasons why men r most likely to commit su1c1de, the social pressure becomes overwhelming when hiding emotions becomes the normality, I wish men could openly talk about their emotions and seek for mental health help without thinking what other's would think or be guilty about it.
It doesn’t matter if it’s men or women or kids or old people, loneliness IS an issue we‘d better care. Loneliness affects us all, directly and indirectly.
@@claff4573it is a woman's issue just much as it's a man's issue, the same as women's loneliness is man's issue as much as it is a woman's. At the end of the day we're all human and in this together. You've been replying basically the same thing on so many comments and give off some low key misandrists/ modern feminist vibes.
You are one of the few reasonable people left in this world I am a female I agree with both sides of this stuff depending on the argument, I know there are other reasonable people out there but there are lots of people on the internet who aren’t
I've felt that too sometimes when watching Amala, but I think it's important to note that there are a lot of sensible people out there who are just less outspoken, especially when the loud woke left are quick to attack. My heart goes out to men who are facing these problems, not to mention the dog-piling from unsympathetic ignorant people. Easier said than done, but don't lose hope.
I want to believe there are millions of women out there like her. I almost need to believe it. I'd hope billions are secretly like her but scared to speak up and can one day find their voice.
@@johnhein2539 I also think that there must be a lot of kind guys out there that the media doesn't portray bc they are less outspoken, bad women and men are what the media shows the most but I like to believe that in real life there's still respectfull ppl from both genders that acknowledge eachother's problems :)
Women being lonely? I'd rather be lonley than with majority of modern men. Most men who are lonely are lonely for a reason. You can go date them all and put up with the,.
@@Tra982 I'm not single or lonely, and if I was I wouldn't blame half of the world for me being lonely like men do. Ironic how men would make fun of the very think they want others to care about then wonder why those people don't care about it.
Yep, and another reason mass murder attempts happen is if you look at their manifestos, a significant portion of motivation of it is so they don't feel alone in something, even in death.
@@slushyslushslushbruh: Gotta love how you & the OP are discussing how depression & anguish amongst men can lead to tragedy, arguably very much avoidable if people simply gave a damn, then the ladies *immediately* make it about them, veering off into how _women_ could have 2A & voting taken away. Actual case of "Men drowning in deep, dark despair; women most affected!" 🙄 They cannot allow guys & the issues they struggle with to be the focus for even a second, unless it's in an attempt to justify why they hate men!
@@claff4573 I'm actually trying to look for cases of a woman attempting such a thing, not just in the US, but anywhere in the world. Ill say this, though. Mass murder attempts done in other parts of the world in the modern age didn't need guns. They just needed a force multiplier. I.E. look at what happened to Kyoto Animations (arson), and how there's even a mass stabbing. These people who do this are clearly unwell, its not as simple as talking to them, as they're so deep in to their mental illnesses that they need someone not only with the level of empathy, but patience, and some level of expertise. I'll say this, self-help books and materials *stopped* working for me until I was able to connect with a therapist who cared enough to be patient and help guide me in to being whole. It wasn't because I was lazy, and if I was, I wouldn't even get a professional's help on this. Sadly, at least in my anecdotal experience, it just seems like more and more therapists just don't care, and you spend at least a year on each one and find out they're so much in to the book instead of using that as a point of reference rather than gospel. It also gets more lonely when you have friends who have taken their own lives, and the battle just feels so much worse. The least I can say to them is at least they didn't go down to drag others down like these mass murders.
@@bgrego88 Why should women care about degen men, if men not having easy access to pssy is enough to shoot up a school perhaps castrate men who show obvious signs. Many school shooters shot their female relatives before going amok
"I'm so tired of the issues that disproportionately affect women..." is also what right wingers proclaim. Same hypocritical and sociopathic behavior from liberals and conservatives.
@@claff4573 No, she's wrong and so are you. Feminists and modern women largely don't care about men's issues. Your calling loneliness a first world issue just reinforces that sentiment. Want me to call the (nonexistent) wage gap a first world issue? Because I can, and it would fit that description much more easily. Young men in particular feel isolated and ostracized mostly due to anti-male dogma perpetuated by the entertainment industry and talking heads in media. Dating apps and social media just accelerated the issue by pushing the 80/20 rule in the dating world to its extreme. That isn't nothing, and for you to sit here and say it is just exposes you as heartless. I'd say do better, but I doubt you're capable. Peace ✌️
My problem is that there is no male loneliness or female loneliness. There is just 'loneliness' and it affects us all. We live in a society that no longer encourages meaningful relationships and that is dangerous. That is where you'll find bitter women and angry men alike with tons of mental disorders.
@@nodruj8681 Loneliness is not a commodity you can measure objectively. And the root problem is the same: The hook up culture. The toxic consumerism. The hedonistic life style. The unbased belief that 'you deserve better' without 'doing any better'.
Yes. Because men turn loneliness into anger, and women into bitterness. Men turn their anger outwards, women turn it inwards. Just one of the MANY differences between the sexes, that everyone understood, until 5 minuted ago, when we decided "everyone is whatever they identify as". No, people are sex-specialized, and that is what it is. Millenia of natural selection (and partner choice) has created what we are today, regardless of whether you believe in Creation or Evolution as the starting point.
well, there was the recent statistic showing that something around 63% of young men were single while only around half of that percent for young women. not to mention the brutal dating app data. relationships for men in current society are very difficult with womens standards. girls experience loneliness as well of course, but its just not near the same degree. read some female to male transgender sentiments if youd like to hear more about how this particularly affects males. not that i dont agree with some of you said though
@@exchangAscribe Being alone and feeling loneliness are not the same. Having a boyfriend does not mean you don't feel loneliness. Girls usually tend to hang on very trashy relationships just not to be lonely. And boys do prefer one night stands instead of having meaningful relationships while feeling absolutely content with themselves. That's why I've said loneliness can not be measured. Because it is not about if you have a partner or not. It is about what you experience inside. Both men and women are told by the society that they should only trust themselves, not the others. Society nowadays finds love and marriage stupid and old fashioned. Our society values the career decisions more over having a child. And religion also is a subject of ridicule. That makes both men and women miserable and lonely besides the fact that if they have a partner or not.
I find it very hypocritical when these self-entitiled women whines and cry about their happiness, their own worth, their personal this and that and people around them should've just given it to them cause they are "women" and then treated everyone else not just men also other women like trash and don't care for other's well being but their own as if others a ment to serve them mindlesly like a spoiled child. And these women have the audacity to say they're "feminist" is what destroying the movement
Treating men like they're not human beings deserving of love and kindness really PISSES ME OFF! My sons are every bit as important as someone else's daughters!
Women arent as lonely because women keep each other company. Maybe... instead of pressuring women to hand out with guys talk to men and tell them to be better to each other?
I thank God every day for the wonderful man he allowed me to marry. It was loneliness that drove him to seeking God, and finding men with similar struggles that showed him the way to Him.
@Karasuza_soralet people believe in something if it isn't hurting anyone. We do not know a lot of stuff, higher being is one way to explain it and maybe satisfy yourself.
“A man with nothing to lose will view everything as something to take. A boy who is unembraced by the village will burn the village down, and he will stare as everything that didn’t love him back contorts and cracks, and he will ease his way into the fire…so he can finally feel some warmth.” (From “Teach a Boy To Cry” by TSleeveless)
@@claff4573it not about "getting your way" do have any clue to the emotional and mental destruction years of neglect does to person? You clearly have some issues you need to work on. Do better.
@@claff4573I can’t wait for the reaction at this point. I can’t wait until women like you get what’s coming. The status quo can’t last any longer. You’ll always keep pushing until we say enough!
@@theactionman8403 the og comment legit said if I don’t get my way and ppl pay attention to me I’ll set it on fire. And then you comment by threatening violence… can’t make this up
I have a wife and three wonderful children. I lost my best male friend last year to cancer. I'm not alone but I still feel lonely at times without him as a sounding board. The sadness persists.
Oh dear, I am sorry for your loss and wish you a lot of strength. Luckily, you seem to have a wonderful family to support you, but I know from my own experience that this is not the same as having your best friend around. The pain and sadness may never completely disappear but hopefully, it will get better as time goes by ❤
I have come to realize that being alone is not the same as being lonely. When you are happy and secure with yourself, you need no one else to be happy. I would rather have a partner because I want to be with them, rather than because I need her in order not to be lonely.
I agree. Solitude, which is inherently positive & usually a deliberate choice, is the opportunity to be at peace with yourself & no one else to worry about. Loneliness, which is negative, is cause for stress, anxiety, and depression.
Our thoughts are our own best company, and if you don't value yourself, why would anyone else want to be with you. Some of the loneliest people I know are always surrounded by people. Their wives, girlfriends, etc... There is nothing more worthless than being with people you dont truly connect with, just to avoid facing your own thoughts and the reality that we all are born alone, and will die alone.
Self discovery, learning how to practice mindfulness & staying alert to negative patterns that need to change. Everyone struggles, if you can't figure it out... That's on you. Men reject women for the very same blanket reason.
You nailed it. We need to quit telling boys, and men, we don't need them, you'de be better off as a woman, and masculinity is toxic. Let boys be boys and let men be men. They are needed and WANTED.
Men have to delve deep within themselves and realize that loneliness is much better than dealing with most people who are stupid, disingenuous, brainwashed, and selfish people of extremely bad character.
That still leaves a "me against the world" mentality and that doesn't end well at all. Sure there are many plus sides of loneliness... but that doesn't mean it's a wholly beneficial thing.
@@blondegiraffe2023 Me against the world mentality. Not really. You have to find your own purpose. Spend your time learning and striving towards becoming an expert in certain endeavors. Learn various foreign languages, travel, learn how to trade stocks, bonds, options, futures, learn programming, spend time improving your physique, learn to cook. If you do it right you won't have the time to be lonely.
You’re speaking facts bro. As someone who is an attractive male I def deal with with loneliness, because even if you do land a a woman you have to worry about her gaslighting, arguing, disrespect, cheating, talking to other men, shaming tactics, false projecting, lies, you being used. You’ll feel eve more lonely when you realize the modern feminist type of women would rather see an average man die then for him to understand himself
that's the stigma that man created and the first person to call u "gay" or "weak" for crying is a male. Please be more open w eachother about ur emotions, bc they are worth it.
@@pxrplehairgirl5030Women say they want men to open up emotionally and show vulnerability and quite often these same women will be looking to leave if you do. Catch 22.
That’s one thing that should definitely be discussed in society, men matter a lot and have a higher death rate to mental illness and if we don’t stop it ,it will worsen, women need to do their part and care for men so they are not lonely anymore
Not sure if by sound you mean the person speaking in the video reading the comment or the actual comment (I assume this) but it's taken from Shoe0nhead videos and she's reading the comment it's not her who believes it.
@oasis808 what are you even talking about? Idk where you got relationships from. I'm saying it's cruel to be unsympathetic to people, regardless of their race, gender, age, or anything
I am alone like 99% of the time & my heart is happy, very happy I hate people 😃 Being alone = Nobodys bullshit to deal with, can do whatever you want, clothing optional
There's no real reason to be lonely - reach out, join a club, talk to a stranger, take a chance, get hurt, move on, build up some scar tissue, read a book, enjoy your own company, read your own thoughts. Spend time offline. Help the sick, the ill, the poor, they desperately need it. In a bad relationship? End it. Move on. Hop on a bus. Bad parents? Ok what else is new. The human condition means you are alone with your thoughts. That's ok. There's plenty of other voices in there too. Find your own.
It's incredibly strange to me that this has been made into an issue of gender. Deep loneliness is a human problem. Tons of girls and women are lonely as well. Not saying that makes it better or okay. I feel for everyone who's lonely. But I can't pretend that men are overburdened with this when I see it universally.
After decades of being called useless, every single day of your life, and getting blamed for all the worlds problems, regardless of actual guilt, even if you are a saint... Someone will inevitably snap.
Women have problem: Government interviews, quotas, school clubs, financial aid, charities, grants, shelters etc... Men Have Problem: Fix Your Own Problems...
@@doeatwhalestry not calling them "non inclusive" and sexist and getting the government to shut them down and call them problems and "incels". Let's start with that. Try NOT invading male spaces.
@@Amandajenkins7899 But it’s okay for women to get hurt by a man in the past and parade around saying “all men are trash”, right? No, it’s not. Neither are justified, but that doesn’t mean we should ignore the mental health crisis that men are going through.
@@Amandajenkins7899How about you stop blaming victims and start helping people that need help and never get it? The main issue is self-harm, you really think it only affects others? You are connected to everyone else. Ignore the problems of others at your peril because eventually, they will knock on your door and not wait for it to open.
I come from South America- this loneliness is not common over there- I think here in the states it’s more of this selfish generation that have a sense on entitlement……
This.. this right here describes what my little brother is, will be, and is soon to become. He’s a really sensitive child who can get angered at times for no reason it seems, and this cleared my head about it, now I have a clear thought of how to help him. Thanks Amala ❤ Edit- Update! I talked with him about it, and he cried for a bit and seemed to feel safe. I think this is helping. Thanks again amala! 🎉
Alone.... Lonely..... By myself. I'll be 60 on my next birthday. My wife passed over a decade and a half ago. My children are all grown and raising their own children. I rise in the morning Alone. I go about my day Alone. I clean my home, tend to my animals, do laundry, eat my meals, and go to bed Alone. Though I go into town for such as shopping, I go many days on end without speaking to another person. Alone. Am I lonely? I tell you, I don't know. I do know I am at peace, and that is very important.
I’m glad that you feel at peace ,I hope that never changes ,it’s your choice to live the way you want and don’t ever let people tell you ,you can’t live that way
Matthew, I understand. I'm 65 and alone. Kids are grown. Most of the time I just don't think about it. Except sometimes. It feels numb and grey. I'd love to be wise enough to write something that would help you but all I have to offer are sincere best wishes for good health and continued peace. 🙏
Little boys need their fathers. They need their mothers and fathers to stay together and be committed to raising them to adulthood. We as a society have been paying the price for a while now, for the selfishness and self-centeredness of adults. Men, you don't need pity or sympathy. You need purpose and direction, strength and power. You need brotherhood.
@@smilodon87young boys NEED their fathers , and they need mothers who don't Gaslight, physically and emotionally abuse,manipulate, aren't misandrist (aka feminist), controlling, gold digging narcisissts. They need mothers who won't poison the childs minds with lies about his father and destroy her family for an affair.
@@smilodon87 it's women who do the abandoning,gaslighting, manipulating, and sidelining. It's women who break up families. It's time for the nonsense to stop. More and more men are getting sick of the b*******.
I'm a male that just turned 40. I've been alone the majority of my life, except for my parents. I've had relationships before, but they always fizzle out. I live with depression and anxiety, so that likely has something to do with it. I don't feel retaliatory towards the world. But I am very tired of being abandoned.
As a wife and mother broken men are a HUGE problem in our society it affects everyone when men come from loneliness brokenness and inability express how they feel in a healthy productive way
Wasn’t “Joker” all about beware neglecting those that are lonely, desperate for love or attention? The whole “You get what your F-in deserve” line might just happen
Get what you deserve for what? Same people calling women emotional lol. It's No one else's fault you have no friends and can't find someone romantically. "if I don't get my entitled way, destruction."
@@claff4573 Exactly. Nothing justifies aggression and violence. "Can't get a girlfriend, I might as well kill innocent women and children who knew nothing of my problems". Women are not obligated to love a lonely guy. Romance and love isn't a choice.
@@claff4573there's a difference between a reason and an excuse neglect can create feelings of anger which is heightened in men due to testosterone, not that you have the brain capacity to understand that anyway
That’s because all they have to do is wear something nice and go out in public and men will introduce themselves. There isn’t really anything similar in a man’s world unless they’re already famous.
@@brainkill7034your comment is proving OP's point. It has nothing to do with getting attention from men. Women are social with family members, friends, they join group activities. Very few men do these things for themselves alone. Men generally do those things more often to find women. Women aren't doing those group activities to find men. To equate loneliness with the ability or inability to find seggsual/dating partners are 2 different matters. Seggxual/dating opportunities are very independent from socializing bc we are social creatures.
@@brainkill7034as a lonely girl I think you misunderstand loneliness in women as well. Yeah we can wear a summer dress and get approached by men, most likely catcalled, but that's because they like our body and would like to do things with it. It's surface level attention which actually makes the loneliness worse
Finally someone with a brain. I am a woman and I feel lonley, I know 100% It is my own fault and responsability. ALL it takes is to be less self centered, less gol oriented less narsicistic and less selfish. It you put others well being first if you really care about people you can not be lonely.
Speaking as a person who has struggled with mental health her entire life, a person’s trauma does not justify them traumatizing other people. A man’s abusiveness is in no way shape or form justifiable. If they have feelings of loneliness, it’s something that they have to work on within themselves. And they clearly have worse mental problems than depression since they always take out their anger out children and women, instead of other men.....
Walking through an unlit alley in a bad part of town, in no way justifies anything that might happen to you. That doesn't make you blameless for failing to exercise wisdom and common sense. The potential attacker would be guilty of their own actions, regardless. You would be guilty of unnecessarily facilitating and encouraging it. Yes, I am saying that you don't get sympathy for bringing crap upon yourself.
Amala, at least do these things: credit shoe on head. Credit the video, "the male loneliness epidemic." And the time stamp, 8:40. Because if you had done this, you'd have shown you're speaking from someone who is in agreement with you, rather than potentially deceiving your audience. Shoeonhead is in agreement with a lot of things. Don't paint this negative picture of your allies.
Its true, men don't cry sad they cry angry. Crimes aren't done by strong men they are done by weak men. If you want to prevent crime target the root of it.
I'm a guy that's 24, I grew up with no one giving a damn about me At home I was neglected by my mom and beat by my stepdad, I was told I was worthless and unlovable by EVERYONE and that I would die alone I thought once I moved out and never looked back and left that in the past my life would turn around No, it's just got worse, I tried to make friends and develop social skills and learn to connect to people but I just get treated like a monster I have litterally no one and my life is so pathetic that I have to come on YT to oment it just so SOMEONE might see it No matter what I do ,no matter how much i focus on improving myself I'm just left in the dirt and am completely alone Gos I hate humans, I've known thousands of humans and all of them are evil and hateful for no reason, why is it so hard to find a single FUCKING PERSON I cb have a deep meaningful connection with
Men gaslight women who are lonely and tell them that they can find 5 guys on tinder to keep them terrible company. It's NO ONE ELSE'S fault you can't find a friend or someone who cares about you, it shouldn't be anyone else's problem either. Funny how men try to threaten if they don't get their way.
Patriarchy isn't something women can control, having no friends or a romantic partner is something you can control. You have to be so privileged if you think being lonley is oppression.
@@claff4573 women in America have equal if not better treatment than men, you have to so dense if you think women are oppressed here. I didn’t say they’re the same either you dolt, we’re just sick of hearing about how much women wish they were victims
@@IkesPimpHandold time feminism was just women wanting to be treated better there is nothing wrong with that the wrong thing is when one gender wants to be treated better than the other
@@IkesPimpHand in the 1800s women couldn’t drive ,couldn’t vote ,couldn’t join the army, they were abused ,thrown away by their husbands ,women started to fight for their rights as people as citizens as people who wanted to serve society, I’m sorry that certain individuals abused that to gain power but it happens everywhere by everyone, you can be a woman and care about your rights and still love and care about men because they effect each other ,and women of all people should know how it feels to be treated poorly in society
Nobody is TRYING to make male loneliness a huge societal problem, it already is and has been for a long time. Until recently, nobody cared enough about it to even mention it online.
No one forces a man to be alone. At the same time, no one should have to put up with male bs. Men have to learn that their ego is not so important. They need to learn to be social and no one is going to do it for them.
@@abjectmadness1111yes they can. Quite easily. But they won't. Due to reasons ranging from pure apathy to outright malice. Which is why we have to learn to do it ourselves. We built the society we live in. Fought prehistoric monsters with sticks and stones. And now we have the technology for artificial births. We need to embrace being alone and not needing them.
@@abjectmadness1111 Women shouldn't even be brought up in this conversation. Being lonely is a personalized issue and most people who are lonely are that way for a reason.
PARENTS are to blame, not women. Harsh truths, 25% of children have only one parent, who tries to be everything to the child including earning a living. the insanity starts there
Blame the individual men and women who are the problem and foster these awful mentalities. Stop painting with a broad brush. Women are not the problem. Men are not tbe problem. Parents are not the problem. The problems are individuals using their life for selfish evil.
@@Undomaranelstop trying to dismiss this persons comment just cause you dont understand it. Parents arent the ones to BLAME but they do partake in individuals growing up not knowing how to connect with the world. Thats only relating to dysfunctional families. I mean look at Dahmer
How about neither parents, or women are to blame. But men who can't socialize and make friends are to blame themselves. Nobody wants to blame themselves. Being lonley is a first world issue, and should remain a personalized issue. Why should women have to hear that they're at fault for men being single and lonley anyways? Can men not help one another?
I just don't know why so many people, some women especially say that men shouldn't be comforted, shouldn't cry, be sad, be in despair?. Like they are HUMAN TOO. They have FEELINGS TOO.
I was told by my mother that I would never know love and that I would have to get over it because no one cares. She was definitely right. It took my current relationship to get me out of this mindset. She just moved to this country with her family and they made me feel like family more than anyone that has been in my life. Westernized women definitely don't care and only thinks about themselves. Every ex was nothing more than someone who only used me as an ATM. For the first time in my life I come home from work with a cooked meal and a loving environment. I get a hug and kiss and asked how I'm doing. Before I got home and told to cook or get them something to eat then have to clean up the messes they made. They wouldn't work because that was the man's responsibility, wouldn't clean or cook anything because that was just feeding to the patriarchy, and was told if I didn't buy her everything she wanted and pay her bills then I'm not a man, not once did I hear from any of my exes a thankyou, I love you, or hoe was my day, and after being in my current relationship I now know, westernized women are not worth it.
Let’s not make excuses for men’s terrible behavior, though. I feel for the children, but once they’re men, they have their own means and tools to better their lives.
I agree ,however loneliness is a reason why they do these things like how a dangerous man has nothing to lose ,but he should still control himself and get help if he can if he can’t because he isn’t heard then society deals with the repercussions
@@Anonymoususer08 Imagine if women who did these things got these kind of excuses. I could go rob a bank and blame it on lonliness, All you're doing is coddling bad behaviors where these people have no accountability.
@@claff4573 I’m not saying that they can ,they made their choice, I was pointing out that loneliness is a reason but not an excuse, reasons explain certain actions while excuses make it so the person can’t help it, if someone robbed a bank loneliness could be a reason but definitely not a excuse, the person would face consequences, however if someone forced someone to rob a bank that’s a excuse because they would die if they didn’t
This absolutely breaks my heart. I wish we (the woman that don’t have this weird hate for all men) could personally tell these young men face to face how important they are, we women NEED them. How grateful we are for EVERYTHING, like what they have done / or currently doing in life, their hard work, their gentleness with us even though they can dominate and treat us as less than but instead they (not all but many) care for us and protect us from danger even willingly putting their lives at risk! Their masculinity is not a negative thing, I’m so sorry that they have to hear that day in and day out, keep in mind there ARE woman out here who think masculinity is not only sexy… but it’s vital for a strong family, society, world! So we should tell them to bask in all the “toxic” masculinity they can get, ignore the sad pathetic women trying to attack them for it and live their lives how they know in their heart is the right way to do so. I desperately hope this man hating crap gets thrown out and in place put forth woman loving, respecting, caring for, submitting too men. Hopefully i am lucky enough to see it in my lifetime
Granted, I’m a guy, and making assumptions But, I think the “weird hatred from women” is they get screwed over by a few Chads, and they make the generalization that “AlL MeN aRe BAd” So, figure out a way to either tell them Chads aren’t all men (if you can in small ways), or change Chads (if you can in small ways) to see the “weird hatred” go in your lifetime
@@abjectmadness1111 no, it ain’t I think Masculinity is being strong and protective, which the men don’t have a weird perception of What do you think it means?
@@oasis808 I mean yeah it goes both ways, and I’ve heard incels But I was talking about misandrists, so what does that have to do with the point I was making?
I moved countries twice and in order to not feel lonely I went out of my comfort zone to make new friends. Why cant men do the same? They tend to be aloof and socially awkward and dont improve themselves. I do not feel sorry for lonely men they are responsible for themselves. There is no such thing as society. Any limitations men have are their own.
ah female friend turned 40 and said it made her sad because now she will become invisible, and my wife SLAPPED ME!! for saying " welcome to how 90% of men feel "
@@Undomaranel Could you EVER be more self-centered and entitled..? Where did I mention you specifically and/or say "all women"..? I cannot write all the exceptions when I write something like that, but it still stands that men are under attack by women. Period. FFS!
@@claff4573 The moment a woman tries to attack you personally and hurt you (it works better if she knows what can really hurt you) is the moment you know you are right in the debate with her. Thank you for confirming that I am right.
@@XaarnakofOrion If you had basic common sense. You would understand that blaming all women isn't the solution. Women are not responsible for not having friends. Misogyny does not fix Misandry
Women are lonely too, they just express it in different ways. Women have embraced toxic feminism, which tells them climbing the corporate ladder is more fulfilling than taking care of a beautiful family.
I mean not everything is about family. Not everyone wants kids. Kids are hell, especially for women. They’re the ones dealing with them. Sometimes (always) serving God is the best choice
Women don’t understand that the average single male receives no female attention or affection. A small compliment from a woman will make his entire day.
Not only will it make his day, but he will literally remember it for the rest of his life because it's so rare. It's something a woman just can't understand because of the fact women are far more likely to receive compliments even if they are based on shallow things like looks.
@@GrekeFenris We're afraid to compliment men because so many men take it as sexual or romantic interest instead of just a compliment. Some men even may turn into obsessive stalkers, or glom onto the woman who complimented them and will try to pursue that woman romantically, etc. I do feel terrible for people feeling lonely...I'm lonely at times, but we shouldn't have the expectation that others need to fix it for us. It's up to ourselves to build and sustain community connections, but a lot of "lonely" men just want a female partner to fix everything for them, and that isn't fair to women. Men also need to build community with themselves and shift the tide to normalize complimenting each other. But men subconsciously view compliments as come-ons (if you didn't, it wouldn't be viewed as "gay" for men to compliment each other).
Women arent as lonely because women keep each other company. Maybe... instead of pressuring women to hang out with guys talk to men and tell them to be better to each other?
But why does it have to be from a woman? I recieve no attention from men, but have my female friends, so in the reverse why cant men support men? If there are lots of lonely men, there are plenty of people lonely men to be friends with.
Anyone chronically lonely or depressed deserves for society to be concerned about it. How about the next time that chick is feeling lonely, sad or outright depressed, everyone around her should tell her that it's not their problem and they won't want to hear her problems.
My son is 4 years old this month and my goal as a mother is never make him feel like his feeling are invalid and I will always be there, I never want him to feel this way.
most of these ‘boys’ complaining about loneliness are unbearable adult men incapable of maintaining a relationship beyond just sexual intimacy. thats why theyre lonely.
I don’t think you actually know a lot of lonely men if that’s what you think, most men want a loving relationship with a good girl, in fact it’s more often than not that men care less about the sex than women. Go outside and truly get to know some people before making judgements based on the very few people that you do know.
Wow your so shallow.. Did you even watch the video? The fact that you think men are lonely because of their s3xual desires is just sexist and stereotypical your saying that men only care about sex which is not true.
Imagine if you said this about a woman. You would probably be canceled immediately. Making your judgment of gender stereotypes. It shows how twisted and one sided our society has become.
Just to be clear though, male loneliness doesn’t make men entitled to gfs or wives. Women must still have autonomy to choose their partners and the quality of their relationships. A great way to help with male loneliness in the place of no romance/intimate partner is to become more emotionally intimate with your male friends. It’s doesn’t completely fill the void but it’s better than harming yourself or others.
dating is difficult for a lot of men these days, and maybe it wasn't meant to be easy. Maybe it was meant to take time. But that's no reason to be lonely! Men of all ages should spend plenty of time with their guy friends. Women certainly spend plenty of time with their girlfriends, so why shouldn't men do the same ? If you build your entire social network based on a relationship with one woman, then (1) your social life is going to be inadequate even if you are in a good relationship (2) you make yourself vulnerable because if the relationship falls apart you'll instantly end up alone (3) you will place far too much stress on the relationship, and if you're not in a relationship, you'll be far too desperate to get into one, which will make it so much harder to get into one. Conclusion: men should maintain a solid network of male friends, whether they are in a relationship with a woman or not.
One of my friend was trying to build help group for men that were in distress (mental health, mourning or just in need) because there wasn't any or very few. She realised that the majority won't ask for help even if they need it. Pride can be toxic when you think asking for help is seen as being weak. Everyone need a shoulder to lean on at one point.
men need a significant other that will love them. Men can solve all of these problems by simply destroying society and civilizations... subjigating women again just how it was throughout the history of human kind.. but for now maybe there's still hope that women will see how damaged men are and will take care of the men and love them even when they are at a very low point, weak, struggling and sad.
I'm convinced that what Amala says in the first part of her response is universal. Many males and females alike today are plagued with those realities. I think what differs is how each gender responds. Both become angry and arguably cynical but men are more inclined to use that anger violently where as women not so much. Me personally as a female, I may feel the urge to punch something when faced with the reality of my plight but I'm more inclined to have angry outburst or vent or be passive aggressive. I also struggle to connect with people so I find I'm often socially isolated and it only heightens the things mentioned in this video. I do think it's easier for women to initially connect with or draw to each other thus momentarily alleviating any bouts of loneliness but without lasting connections and establishment of legitimate friendships those initial connections and attractions fade and the persons involved will go their separate ways. As a person and as a woman living in modern times I find it terribly difficult to discover and know exactly what my use is. I can elaborate but this comment is already too long. People in general today are very quick to use you so it's hard to know where you belong and what you can and should do. All the social roles are so heavily blurred I find myself clueless on who I am and why I am as a woman and as a citizen. It breeds frustration, resentment and anger. Although I could spread my legs and get pregnant like a lot of women today- I don't want to get pregnant just to avoid loneliness and consequently become a single mother an entirely separate issue and whole other level of loneliness. I'm financially and relationally not in a position to bring up a child in this world. Also, I long for a lasting legitimate romantic relationship that is rooted in friendship and shared core values and belief. This is not common practice in our American society today. So I have to for now accept my aloneness and loneliness. Most days I'm either sad or pissed about it but It is what it is.
Nothing is more dangerous than men that have nothing to lose
You talking about violent incels like ER? Are you justafying this crap or what?
Yes, male violence is a bad problem
@@abjectmadness1111i sense feminism in your comment
@whocriesforbidennotme641 biological men can easily unalive biological women with their bare hands. Very few females can unalive males with their bare hands. It’s in everyone’s best interest that we take care of and are kind to little boys, so that they don’t grow up into dangerous grown men.
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@whocriesforbidennotme641 I’ve never known any woman per who was violent, but that’s why I specified “without the use of any other tools and solely hand-to-hand combat”. I wasn’t talking about anything other than bare hands in my scenario, now was I?
As a lonely girl, I don’t want more people to go through loneliness it’s one of the worst mental pains ever
A lot of them are lonely for a reason, so they blame everyone else because it makes them feel better.
At least you are female you have so many more offers than any man could ever dream of
@@anthonypettit3713no, lonely women go unnoticed. If a woman is not gorgeous,the odds are shes invisible. Loneliness is a terrible thing
@@anthonypettit3713Do you see loneliness as lacking potential sexual partners? Then yeah, (some) women have it easier, though the other lady already explained that a lot of women don't have pretty privilege and then become even more invisible than men.
For me loneliness means not being able to genuinely connect with people around me, men or women, romantically or platonically. To always feel misunderstood and unheard. That's a feeling known to a lot of people, regardless of their gender, and it IS really painful (we are, after all, wired to be members of a tribe). Casual sex and people admiring your looks won't fix it, only finding your own trusted community will, and that can be pretty challenging - again, regardless of your gender. Worth it, though.
I’m alone 99% of the time but I actually love it
Because I hate dealing with people & their bullshit. I have no need for others.
Ugh people fight for equality, but if the roles were reversed they have more problems with it
Edit: mother, I am on my way to fame and fortune
Wdym? There is opposition with women demanding equality. The roles don't have to be reversed. Why do you think this channel cherry picks the dumbest things some stupid women say? It's always what fits the agenda of far right wingnuts to the detriment of the rest of women. They feed the hate of stupid people by conveniently posting content that presents women in a negative light. If they can continue feeding their misogyny, they can continue making them oppose societal equality for women. And you are a good human being so you probably realized that already and know how wrong this is.
People NEVER talk about women’s mental health. You men complain and complain but your mental health month is always recognized and your mental health is always spoke about. Women’s mental health is rarely acknowledged. We have a mental health month but nobody ever talks about it. And, if you look up, according to Google we have to share our mental health month with trannys and non binaries. Because, you know, woman eraser is trending these days. Open your eyes. You men are just spoiled babies.
Fr
No being lonley is a first world issue
It never was and is about equality, stop spreading this misinformation
I'm tired of women who belittle men and their sufferings at every opportunity they can.
Same
I mean this channel does the same with women....a woman brings up an issue that affects them? They call them woke, feminists, victims and other stuff that is meant to belittle them. There's hundreds of right wing channels dedicated to this. A person in the comments said: it's all fun and games until the roles are reversed. Well, it's all fun and games mocking women for speaking up about issues that affect them until it is the turn of men to get ridiculed the same way for talking about their problems...not fun at all huh? Let's stop ridiculing men and women for talking about serious issues that affect them. I don't even know when people became so sociopathic that there's channels dedicated to this. Time to evaluate your values and morals people.
Thank you... 💯🙏🏻
Man created the stigma that man have to be strong and the first people to call a man "gay" or "weak" because of crying are man, as women, we appreciate man that show their emotions bc we know that it feels more human and when you bottle everything inside the only emotion u will show is anger, which is dangerous and sad...
Okay, just hush. Stop. A bunch of women who claim they care for men and their feelings will leave him the moment he shows any vulnerability. Not to mention that women contribute to this stigma too, so stop blaming everything on men and take the accountability. You're part of the problem by acting like y'all do no wrong and that it's a man's fault always. @@pxrplehairgirl5030
The first time many men would receive a flower is in their funeral.
i mean most men don't want to receive flowers tbf ive never heard a man say "4 years with my wife never once has she brought me roses"
@@sponish0it’s not the literal flowers, it’s the representation that men don’t get gifts from women very often, it’s usually the other way around
@@sponish022 years on this earth and in my experience men don't really want physical gifts. If I ask my dad, stepdad or boyfriend what they would like for (insert celebration) and they say nothing. Or for the sake of saying something they say a bag of chips. Same goes for other men who aren't in my life, but I've heard the experience from other females. I've realized what they actually want is experiences instead of things. My dad was always happy to just spend with his kids, my stepdad for his kids to leave him alone with his wife (my mom) and my boyfriend to get pleased in a way I'm happy to but won't mention here. Men always try ways to figure out how to make us happy and it's ofcourse important for us girls to do the same
@@Connerthespider as the comment below me suggested most men don’t want gifts like of you ask most men what do you like from a women not many will say “one who buys me small gifts” men would usually prefer a woman for example dressed up in there fav kinky outfit than a gift
@@sponish0 goodness, you still don’t get my point
My point is, it isn’t about literal flowers or gifts, it’s about the thought
It’s like “oh wow, you bought something for me, even though I usually do the buying, thank you!”
And about the other reply, it’s because some men sure, don’t want gifts, but try out giving one to a men, because I guarantee he will ecstatically happy
(Also, their reply, at the end, has the part you’re missing)
"If the world doesn't care about me, why should I care about the world?"
This is a universal thought among all men at one point or another.
That is sad ,and I don’t want any man to feel that way , many women say they don’t need men or don’t want men but that is awful ,personally I try my best to make men feel valued because they don’t have to work and protect but they do and men need respect psychologically
Damn right. It's gone well beyond just not caring. We are in a situation today where it would be more accurate to say 'The world hates me and is trying to destroy me, so why would I not hate and destroy this world to return the favor?"
A world that is cruel to men is a world that brings forth men who are cruel to the world. "Toxic masculinity" is a poison that has been brewed in the cauldrons of feminists. Now they want to ring the alarm about this poison, but ignore and hide the fact that they brewed it?
I'm starting to suspect that all those women who were burned at the stakes in the witch trials of times past did ALOT more than just grow herbs and prepare medicines from them.
@@Anonymoususer08 Go date them all of them, keep them company, and leave the rest of us sane women out of it because eventually you'll see the reason why they're lonely. Being lonely is a first world issue. When women say "i don't need a man" they're speaking in dating terms, they can be independant without relying on someone else romantically to keep them afloat, don't attach your worth to other people it's just that simple.
@@claff4573 thank you for correcting me on that I shouldn’t generalized ,I have dated some awful men who have really hurt me ,the truly horrible ones should not be able to have a good woman in their life ,if you don’t want a man to date that’s completely okay, but i personally desire a man and I don’t want the good ones to suffer and I don’t want the gender war to continue
Yeah this is a universal thought shared among all humans. It's not a man thing it's a basic and very predictable reaction in a person that shows signs of depression.
If you treat a group bad for long enough, it’ll backfire at some point
Fr if you tell someone sth repeatedly they will believe it and say wait maybe i am a bad person maybe i am a criminal maybe i should accept it and be one
I just hope that men won’t be treated poorly for any longer because I can imagine how bad it would backfire, some even don’t want women to vote anymore, I just hope that the two genders can get along better soon because I want a future where I can be loved by a man and I can love a man
"If I don't get my way, destruction." Same people who call women emotional lol. Yea lonely men are lonely for a reason, thanks for confirming that.
This phrase should be appointed towards women in taliban countries or in honduras where femicide regularly happens, not because men are lonely (for a reason)💀. Do you know how easy you have to have it to think YOU being lonely is everyone else's issue? That is a first world problem and nobody else should have to deal with it because you can't find a wife or a friend.
@@claff4573 I really do appreciate hearing your thoughts because it seems people are giving excuses to men which isn’t right either ,some men are genuinely not loved or respected but that doesn’t mean they should hurt others and stop being empathetic because it actually backfires on themselves making them more lonely
Friendly reminder that anger is a secondary emotion and most of society oppresses men from displaying vulnerable emotions which leads to them displaying anger.
Vulnerable emotions?
What are those kindly?
@@josephmungai1799 sadness, fear, embarrassment
I wish men would start showing their emotions to their friends. I’m a girl so I literally can’t help at all. Like, I can’t be in male spaces. It’s so weird how many men let that continue. Guys don’t seem to like change? It’s weird
@@abjectmadness1111showing emotion is really dependent on who you’re with. Mom, SO, Best Friends. We are comfortable enough to talk to them with it, and if they’re good friends they will listen. But (at least for me) we don’t really care about our emotional well being, partially because people have been submissive with it, but mainly because we just don’t care.
fr I hate that man created the masculinity stigma of being strong and not showing emotions, as a woman I feel like that's probably one of the reasons why men r most likely to commit su1c1de, the social pressure becomes overwhelming when hiding emotions becomes the normality, I wish men could openly talk about their emotions and seek for mental health help without thinking what other's would think or be guilty about it.
It doesn’t matter if it’s men or women or kids or old people, loneliness IS an issue we‘d better care. Loneliness affects us all, directly and indirectly.
To quote Bill Burr, when something shitty happens to women the get all the sympathy, something shitty happens to a man it's funny
Keep other men company and date them. Problem solved. Not women's issue.
@@claff4573it is a woman's issue just much as it's a man's issue, the same as women's loneliness is man's issue as much as it is a woman's. At the end of the day we're all human and in this together. You've been replying basically the same thing on so many comments and give off some low key misandrists/ modern feminist vibes.
@@claff4573 But you still demand men make an effort for women.
Bill Burr's the same guy who makes jokes about women being beaten. So who's turning someone's pain into "funny?" He is.
@@claff4573You comment in everything saying retarded shit.
Mem support each other more than women, who talk behind each others backs.
You are one of the few reasonable people left in this world
I am a female I agree with both sides of this stuff depending on the argument, I know there are other reasonable people out there but there are lots of people on the internet who aren’t
I've felt that too sometimes when watching Amala, but I think it's important to note that there are a lot of sensible people out there who are just less outspoken, especially when the loud woke left are quick to attack. My heart goes out to men who are facing these problems, not to mention the dog-piling from unsympathetic ignorant people. Easier said than done, but don't lose hope.
I want to believe there are millions of women out there like her. I almost need to believe it. I'd hope billions are secretly like her but scared to speak up and can one day find their voice.
@@johnhein2539they are not millions. They don't care ,only when they hit 40yrs and have 12 cats
@@johnhein2539 I also think that there must be a lot of kind guys out there that the media doesn't portray bc they are less outspoken, bad women and men are what the media shows the most but I like to believe that in real life there's still respectfull ppl from both genders that acknowledge eachother's problems :)
@@uzunaalin your becoming what you "hated", criticizing lack of empathy whilst your comment screams hurt ego,pls work on yourself and be happy.
It's all fun and games untill the role's reversed
True
Women being lonely? I'd rather be lonley than with majority of modern men. Most men who are lonely are lonely for a reason. You can go date them all and put up with the,.
The roles have been reversed in countless countries. You don't care.
@@claff4573I can tell ur single and lonely just by ur comments 💀
@@Tra982 I'm not single or lonely, and if I was I wouldn't blame half of the world for me being lonely like men do. Ironic how men would make fun of the very think they want others to care about then wonder why those people don't care about it.
One of the main reasons why us guys kill ourselves. Loneliness.
Yep, and another reason mass murder attempts happen is if you look at their manifestos, a significant portion of motivation of it is so they don't feel alone in something, even in death.
@@claff4573I agree ,I fear everyday that we are going to loss the right to vote because some men don’t like how they think we think
@@slushyslushslushbruh: Gotta love how you & the OP are discussing how depression & anguish amongst men can lead to tragedy, arguably very much avoidable if people simply gave a damn, then the ladies *immediately* make it about them, veering off into how _women_ could have 2A & voting taken away. Actual case of "Men drowning in deep, dark despair; women most affected!" 🙄 They cannot allow guys & the issues they struggle with to be the focus for even a second, unless it's in an attempt to justify why they hate men!
Wrong it gives us strength because nobody gives a fudge about mens issues.
@@claff4573 I'm actually trying to look for cases of a woman attempting such a thing, not just in the US, but anywhere in the world.
Ill say this, though. Mass murder attempts done in other parts of the world in the modern age didn't need guns. They just needed a force multiplier. I.E. look at what happened to Kyoto Animations (arson), and how there's even a mass stabbing. These people who do this are clearly unwell, its not as simple as talking to them, as they're so deep in to their mental illnesses that they need someone not only with the level of empathy, but patience, and some level of expertise.
I'll say this, self-help books and materials *stopped* working for me until I was able to connect with a therapist who cared enough to be patient and help guide me in to being whole. It wasn't because I was lazy, and if I was, I wouldn't even get a professional's help on this.
Sadly, at least in my anecdotal experience, it just seems like more and more therapists just don't care, and you spend at least a year on each one and find out they're so much in to the book instead of using that as a point of reference rather than gospel.
It also gets more lonely when you have friends who have taken their own lives, and the battle just feels so much worse.
The least I can say to them is at least they didn't go down to drag others down like these mass murders.
Ummm this is quite literally the textbook formula for the creation of school shooters.
Basically "if I don't get my way, destruction." No wonder m!s@ndr!sts exist.
And just about every other negative societal problem.
And not just men, either - women just express it differently.
@@kateshiningdeer3334see it all starts with how we are treated and what we experience. Most women dont care tho
@@bgrego88
Why should women care about degen men, if men not having easy access to pssy is enough to shoot up a school perhaps castrate men who show obvious signs.
Many school shooters shot their female relatives before going amok
So 'care about them or else'?
"I'm so tired of the focus being placed on issues that disproportionately affect men for once."
Fixed it for her.
"I'm so tired of the issues that disproportionately affect women..." is also what right wingers proclaim. Same hypocritical and sociopathic behavior from liberals and conservatives.
Yet she will soon throw a fit when one of the poor souls smash her in the face.
So yeah she clueless beyond par.
No her point was correct. Being lonely is a first world issue. Go check on your fellow man, stop making it about women.
@@claff4573 No, she's wrong and so are you.
Feminists and modern women largely don't care about men's issues. Your calling loneliness a first world issue just reinforces that sentiment. Want me to call the (nonexistent) wage gap a first world issue? Because I can, and it would fit that description much more easily.
Young men in particular feel isolated and ostracized mostly due to anti-male dogma perpetuated by the entertainment industry and talking heads in media. Dating apps and social media just accelerated the issue by pushing the 80/20 rule in the dating world to its extreme. That isn't nothing, and for you to sit here and say it is just exposes you as heartless.
I'd say do better, but I doubt you're capable. Peace ✌️
How dare men admit they're lonely@@claff4573
My problem is that there is no male loneliness or female loneliness. There is just 'loneliness' and it affects us all. We live in a society that no longer encourages meaningful relationships and that is dangerous. That is where you'll find bitter women and angry men alike with tons of mental disorders.
They are lonely for different reasons though.. and male loneliness is more common statistically
@@nodruj8681 Loneliness is not a commodity you can measure objectively. And the root problem is the same: The hook up culture. The toxic consumerism. The hedonistic life style. The unbased belief that 'you deserve better' without 'doing any better'.
Yes. Because men turn loneliness into anger, and women into bitterness. Men turn their anger outwards, women turn it inwards.
Just one of the MANY differences between the sexes, that everyone understood, until 5 minuted ago, when we decided "everyone is whatever they identify as". No, people are sex-specialized, and that is what it is. Millenia of natural selection (and partner choice) has created what we are today, regardless of whether you believe in Creation or Evolution as the starting point.
well, there was the recent statistic showing that something around 63% of young men were single while only around half of that percent for young women. not to mention the brutal dating app data. relationships for men in current society are very difficult with womens standards.
girls experience loneliness as well of course, but its just not near the same degree. read some female to male transgender sentiments if youd like to hear more about how this particularly affects males.
not that i dont agree with some of you said though
@@exchangAscribe Being alone and feeling loneliness are not the same. Having a boyfriend does not mean you don't feel loneliness. Girls usually tend to hang on very trashy relationships just not to be lonely. And boys do prefer one night stands instead of having meaningful relationships while feeling absolutely content with themselves.
That's why I've said loneliness can not be measured. Because it is not about if you have a partner or not. It is about what you experience inside. Both men and women are told by the society that they should only trust themselves, not the others. Society nowadays finds love and marriage stupid and old fashioned. Our society values the career decisions more over having a child. And religion also is a subject of ridicule.
That makes both men and women miserable and lonely besides the fact that if they have a partner or not.
It not just leads to anger and violence, but it most likely will have one turn to drug and alcohol abuse. And that can be a death sentence.
Women like the one that commented love exploiting double standards until it doesn't benefit them.
Men love blaming everyone even for faults like not being able to make friends
This is how a REAL female-meninist speaks. Amala is a beacon of hope in this bleak world. Thank you.
Let's together make the world great once.
Underrated comment this should have more likes
I find it very hypocritical when these self-entitiled women whines and cry about their happiness, their own worth, their personal this and that and people around them should've just given it to them cause they are "women" and then treated everyone else not just men also other women like trash and don't care for other's well being but their own as if others a ment to serve them mindlesly like a spoiled child.
And these women have the audacity to say they're "feminist" is what destroying the movement
'Female-meninist'? Please stop using that word. 🤦🏿♂️ They're called egalitarians.
When women are lonely they're mocked and told they can have 100 guys on tinder ready to f them.
@@claff4573 Then ARE THEY EVEN LONELY?! 🤷🏿♂️ Loneliness (actual loneliness) is not a choice, ma'am.
Treating men like they're not human beings deserving of love and kindness really PISSES ME OFF! My sons are every bit as important as someone else's daughters!
Women arent as lonely because women keep each other company. Maybe... instead of pressuring women to hand out with guys talk to men and tell them to be better to each other?
😂
Loneliness is a human problem. We have to stop the devide.
_...sitting in a pit for the majority of your life leads to things like anger..._
You literally become a pit-bull.
No one else's fault
@@claff4573wrong, feminist created this whole situation.
time to get off that butt and go touch grass
@@claff4573right because it’s mens fault they are told they are worthless…absolute mental gymnastics
Everyone needs to feel like they belong. It's so ignorant to say, " people need to stop pretending that male loneliness is a huge societal problem."
I thank God every day for the wonderful man he allowed me to marry. It was loneliness that drove him to seeking God, and finding men with similar struggles that showed him the way to Him.
@Karasuza_sora even if you don't believe in him, that's a silly thing to say.
@Karasuza_soralet people believe in something if it isn't hurting anyone. We do not know a lot of stuff, higher being is one way to explain it and maybe satisfy yourself.
@Karasuza_sora stop forcing your beliefs on us. How would you know
Bless your man
“A man with nothing to lose will view everything as something to take. A boy who is unembraced by the village will burn the village down, and he will stare as everything that didn’t love him back contorts and cracks, and he will ease his way into the fire…so he can finally feel some warmth.”
(From “Teach a Boy To Cry” by TSleeveless)
"If I don't get my way, destruction" Literal children. Same people who call women emotional lol.
@@claff4573it not about "getting your way" do have any clue to the emotional and mental destruction years of neglect does to person? You clearly have some issues you need to work on. Do better.
@@claff4573I can’t wait for the reaction at this point. I can’t wait until women like you get what’s coming. The status quo can’t last any longer. You’ll always keep pushing until we say enough!
@@claff4573ur gunna see what happens when u end up like Bianca devins gabby petito lol
@@theactionman8403 the og comment legit said if I don’t get my way and ppl pay attention to me I’ll set it on fire. And then you comment by threatening violence… can’t make this up
I have a wife and three wonderful children. I lost my best male friend last year to cancer. I'm not alone but I still feel lonely at times without him as a sounding board. The sadness persists.
Man, that's tough. My condolences on your loss.
Thank you@@spk1121
Oh dear, I am sorry for your loss and wish you a lot of strength. Luckily, you seem to have a wonderful family to support you, but I know from my own experience that this is not the same as having your best friend around. The pain and sadness may never completely disappear but hopefully, it will get better as time goes by ❤
Thank you so much. Your kind words are valued and appreciated.@@nastiavolynska
@@KDad514 You are very welcome. I am glad that my words warmed your heart ❤️🙏
I have come to realize that being alone is not the same as being lonely. When you are happy and secure with yourself, you need no one else to be happy. I would rather have a partner because I want to be with them, rather than because I need her in order not to be lonely.
I agree. Solitude, which is inherently positive & usually a deliberate choice, is the opportunity to be at peace with yourself & no one else to worry about. Loneliness, which is negative, is cause for stress, anxiety, and depression.
Our thoughts are our own best company, and if you don't value yourself, why would anyone else want to be with you.
Some of the loneliest people I know are always surrounded by people. Their wives, girlfriends, etc... There is nothing more worthless than being with people you dont truly connect with, just to avoid facing your own thoughts and the reality that we all are born alone, and will die alone.
"Fear leads to anger, anger leads to hate, hate leads to suffering." - Master Yoda.
Self discovery, learning how to practice mindfulness & staying alert to negative patterns that need to change. Everyone struggles, if you can't figure it out... That's on you. Men reject women for the very same blanket reason.
You nailed it. We need to quit telling boys, and men, we don't need them, you'de be better off as a woman, and masculinity is toxic. Let boys be boys and let men be men. They are needed and WANTED.
loneliness does not have a gender.Its the result of a dysfunctional society
Thanks, first logical comment here😢
But the outcome is different. Men tend to get violent and women to self-harm. I explicit say tend. Sure there are others, who act different.
No it's a result of a personal situation. It's no one else's fault ur lonely.
@@oOIIIMIIIOoMajority of suicides are men. Lonely men.
@@Agherosh Suicide is not the only self-harm.
Men have to delve deep within themselves and realize that loneliness is much better than dealing with most people who are stupid, disingenuous, brainwashed, and selfish people of extremely bad character.
That still leaves a "me against the world" mentality and that doesn't end well at all. Sure there are many plus sides of loneliness... but that doesn't mean it's a wholly beneficial thing.
@@blondegiraffe2023 Me against the world mentality. Not really. You have to find your own purpose. Spend your time learning and striving towards becoming an expert in certain endeavors. Learn various foreign languages, travel, learn how to trade stocks, bonds, options, futures, learn programming, spend time improving your physique, learn to cook. If you do it right you won't have the time to be lonely.
A lot of men are shallow and disgusting, yet they are too far up their own backsides to realise that this is in part why women don't respect them.
You’re speaking facts bro. As someone who is an attractive male I def deal with with loneliness, because even if you do land a a woman you have to worry about her gaslighting, arguing, disrespect, cheating, talking to other men, shaming tactics, false projecting, lies, you being used. You’ll feel eve more lonely when you realize the modern feminist type of women would rather see an average man die then for him to understand himself
Neagan from the walking dead said it best, " little A-hole's grow up to be big A-hole's".
“A child who is not embraced by the village will burn it down to feel its warmth.”
Ah yes, mental health does matter as long as the person is not male
that's the stigma that man created and the first person to call u "gay" or "weak" for crying is a male. Please be more open w eachother about ur emotions, bc they are worth it.
@@pxrplehairgirl5030Women say they want men to open up emotionally and show vulnerability and quite often these same women will be looking to leave if you do. Catch 22.
@@pxrplehairgirl5030*females
@@pxrplehairgirl5030false
That’s one thing that should definitely be discussed in society, men matter a lot and have a higher death rate to mental illness and if we don’t stop it ,it will worsen, women need to do their part and care for men so they are not lonely anymore
To be fair, the women speaking wasn't agreeing with comment, she was trying to show how absurd it was. I believe the creator was Shoeonhead.
It's so cruel to say that any kind of loneliness or pain simply "isn't a problem"🙁She sounds like a very toxic and unpleasant person...
Not sure if by sound you mean the person speaking in the video reading the comment or the actual comment (I assume this) but it's taken from Shoe0nhead videos and she's reading the comment it's not her who believes it.
@samus7415 oh, I didn't know that. I meant the actual comment btw. Thanks for telling me!
You make such a big deal out of this. Relationship is not everything. In fact they're overrated.
@oasis808 what are you even talking about? Idk where you got relationships from. I'm saying it's cruel to be unsympathetic to people, regardless of their race, gender, age, or anything
@@randomhead670 when people talk about loneliness, especially men, they mostly mean the lack of relationship.
"Men lead lives of quiet desperation" - Henry David Thoreau
Loneliness is one of the biggest issues in the world, thank you for speaking out about it
It's true, sometimes enough lonliness makes them kind of give up eventually, and turn to drinking or drugs.
I can tell you loneliness Literally feels like your heart is breaking apart...all day, every day
I am alone like 99% of the time & my heart is happy, very happy
I hate people 😃
Being alone = Nobodys bullshit to deal with, can do whatever you want, clothing optional
@@stay60feetawayfromme33can't get falsely accused if you don't go to anyone.
There's no real reason to be lonely - reach out, join a club, talk to a stranger, take a chance, get hurt, move on, build up some scar tissue, read a book, enjoy your own company, read your own thoughts. Spend time offline. Help the sick, the ill, the poor, they desperately need it. In a bad relationship? End it. Move on. Hop on a bus. Bad parents? Ok what else is new. The human condition means you are alone with your thoughts. That's ok. There's plenty of other voices in there too. Find your own.
I’ve always said heartbreak isn’t as bad as being lonely because at least with heart break you know you were once loved
Everyone deserves love. No one should be lonely.
It's incredibly strange to me that this has been made into an issue of gender. Deep loneliness is a human problem. Tons of girls and women are lonely as well. Not saying that makes it better or okay. I feel for everyone who's lonely. But I can't pretend that men are overburdened with this when I see it universally.
Men honestly need so much more love then what people now a day give them
Male loneliness is a real thing. I experience it every day. Just gotta stay positive though
Talk to other men, make friends.
After decades of being called useless, every single day of your life, and getting blamed for all the worlds problems, regardless of actual guilt, even if you are a saint... Someone will inevitably snap.
"A child that is not embraced by the village will burn it down to feel its warmth.” - supposedly African proverb but not even 70 let alone 💯 on that
Women have problem: Government interviews, quotas, school clubs, financial aid, charities, grants, shelters etc...
Men Have Problem: Fix Your Own Problems...
Exactly
i mean if u want to be less lonely you can always create your own shelter or your own school club ? wtf r women supposed to do ?
@@doeatwhalestry not calling them "non inclusive" and sexist and getting the government to shut them down and call them problems and "incels". Let's start with that. Try NOT invading male spaces.
@@IkesPimpHand WHAT IS BRO TALKING ABOUT
@@IkesPimpHand + men are invading women sports, bathrooms, beauty pageants not the other way around
These same people complain about “male aggressors” and then deny men love at a young age, and wonder where the aggression comes from.
Bullshit. Plenty of women are loving, and aggression isn't earned or justified just because someone in your past hurt you.
@@Amandajenkins7899 But it’s okay for women to get hurt by a man in the past and parade around saying “all men are trash”, right? No, it’s not. Neither are justified, but that doesn’t mean we should ignore the mental health crisis that men are going through.
@@Amandajenkins7899How about you stop blaming victims and start helping people that need help and never get it? The main issue is self-harm, you really think it only affects others? You are connected to everyone else. Ignore the problems of others at your peril because eventually, they will knock on your door and not wait for it to open.
@@chaty9903 Aggression and violence is never justified
@@hannahodedeyi9312ok u can say that it’s not gunna stop the violence from happening to u or someone u know or love ?
I come from South America- this loneliness is not common over there- I think here in the states it’s more of this selfish generation that have a sense on entitlement……
thank u sister fr fr, u went crazy for us right here,
thats rare
This.. this right here describes what my little brother is, will be, and is soon to become. He’s a really sensitive child who can get angered at times for no reason it seems, and this cleared my head about it, now I have a clear thought of how to help him.
Thanks Amala ❤
Edit-
Update! I talked with him about it, and he cried for a bit and seemed to feel safe. I think this is helping. Thanks again amala! 🎉
Alone....
Lonely.....
By myself.
I'll be 60 on my next birthday.
My wife passed over a decade and a half ago.
My children are all grown and raising their own children.
I rise in the morning
Alone.
I go about my day
Alone.
I clean my home, tend to my animals, do laundry, eat my meals, and go to bed
Alone.
Though I go into town for such as shopping, I go many days on end without speaking to another person.
Alone.
Am I lonely?
I tell you, I don't know. I do know I am at peace, and that is very important.
Go start giving people Rlly weird prophecies to spice up your life
@abjectmadness4461 Not sure I want to spice up my life.
I’m glad that you feel at peace ,I hope that never changes ,it’s your choice to live the way you want and don’t ever let people tell you ,you can’t live that way
@@matthewstolmeier752 Boring, do it anyways. Reject humanity, become wizard
Matthew, I understand. I'm 65 and alone. Kids are grown. Most of the time I just don't think about it. Except sometimes. It feels numb and grey. I'd love to be wise enough to write something that would help you but all I have to offer are sincere best wishes for good health and continued peace. 🙏
Little boys need their fathers. They need their mothers and fathers to stay together and be committed to raising them to adulthood. We as a society have been paying the price for a while now, for the selfishness and self-centeredness of adults.
Men, you don't need pity or sympathy. You need purpose and direction, strength and power. You need brotherhood.
We as a society haven't been paying the price, men, boys, children have. Society and women volunteered us into this mess.
Young boys need healthy mothers who are not abused, gaslit, abandoned, manipulated or sidelined by their husbands.
@@smilodon87young boys NEED their fathers , and they need mothers who don't Gaslight, physically and emotionally abuse,manipulate, aren't misandrist (aka feminist), controlling, gold digging narcisissts. They need mothers who won't poison the childs minds with lies about his father and destroy her family for an affair.
@@smilodon87 it's women who do the abandoning,gaslighting, manipulating, and sidelining. It's women who break up families. It's time for the nonsense to stop. More and more men are getting sick of the b*******.
@@parrotshootist3004 Men take blame for nothing, but will take all credit.
I'm a male that just turned 40. I've been alone the majority of my life, except for my parents. I've had relationships before, but they always fizzle out. I live with depression and anxiety, so that likely has something to do with it. I don't feel retaliatory towards the world. But I am very tired of being abandoned.
As a wife and mother broken men are a HUGE problem in our society it affects everyone when men come from loneliness brokenness and inability express how they feel in a healthy productive way
It's a personalized issue, it shouldn't be anyone else's problem to solve.
Wasn’t “Joker” all about beware neglecting those that are lonely, desperate for love or attention? The whole “You get what your F-in deserve” line might just happen
Get what you deserve for what? Same people calling women emotional lol. It's No one else's fault you have no friends and can't find someone romantically. "if I don't get my entitled way, destruction."
@@claff4573 Exactly. Nothing justifies aggression and violence. "Can't get a girlfriend, I might as well kill innocent women and children who knew nothing of my problems".
Women are not obligated to love a lonely guy. Romance and love isn't a choice.
@@claff4573there's a difference between a reason and an excuse neglect can create feelings of anger which is heightened in men due to testosterone, not that you have the brain capacity to understand that anyway
I think women understand loneliness differently than men.
That’s because all they have to do is wear something nice and go out in public and men will introduce themselves. There isn’t really anything similar in a man’s world unless they’re already famous.
@@brainkill7034your comment is proving OP's point.
It has nothing to do with getting attention from men.
Women are social with family members, friends, they join group activities. Very few men do these things for themselves alone. Men generally do those things more often to find women. Women aren't doing those group activities to find men.
To equate loneliness with the ability or inability to find seggsual/dating partners are 2 different matters.
Seggxual/dating opportunities are very independent from socializing bc we are social creatures.
@@brainkill7034as a lonely girl I think you misunderstand loneliness in women as well. Yeah we can wear a summer dress and get approached by men, most likely catcalled, but that's because they like our body and would like to do things with it. It's surface level attention which actually makes the loneliness worse
@@brainkill7034using that logic I’d argue women are more lonely because we crave actual intimacy and connection while men just want sex
@@CocoaPuffssfr they don't understand that women want more than just one night stand
As a man, let’s be honest with ourselves-most of our loneliness is self-inflected. If not outright preferred most of the time.
Finally someone with a brain. I am a woman and I feel lonley, I know 100% It is my own fault and responsability. ALL it takes is to be less self centered, less gol
oriented less narsicistic and less selfish.
It you put others well being first if you really care about people you can not be lonely.
Loneliness is such a common occurrence for many men that we don't even realize that we are lonely.
@Babycake. that's a terribly mean thing to say to a random person who has done nothing to you.
I'm tired of women belittling men because they don't show emotions.
I'm tired of women belittling men because they do show emotions.
Speaking as a person who has struggled with mental health her entire life, a person’s trauma does not justify them traumatizing other people. A man’s abusiveness is in no way shape or form justifiable. If they have feelings of loneliness, it’s something that they have to work on within themselves. And they clearly have worse mental problems than depression since they always take out their anger out children and women, instead of other men.....
In the US, women commit more child abuse than men. You sound like you're speaking from some kind of trauma or regurgitating really bad MSM narratives.
Walking through an unlit alley in a bad part of town, in no way justifies anything that might happen to you.
That doesn't make you blameless for failing to exercise wisdom and common sense.
The potential attacker would be guilty of their own actions, regardless.
You would be guilty of unnecessarily facilitating and encouraging it.
Yes, I am saying that you don't get sympathy for bringing crap upon yourself.
Amala, at least do these things: credit shoe on head. Credit the video, "the male loneliness epidemic." And the time stamp, 8:40. Because if you had done this, you'd have shown you're speaking from someone who is in agreement with you, rather than potentially deceiving your audience. Shoeonhead is in agreement with a lot of things. Don't paint this negative picture of your allies.
Its true, men don't cry sad they cry angry. Crimes aren't done by strong men they are done by weak men. If you want to prevent crime target the root of it.
Human decency is a VERY good reason.
I'm a guy that's 24, I grew up with no one giving a damn about me
At home I was neglected by my mom and beat by my stepdad, I was told I was worthless and unlovable by EVERYONE and that I would die alone
I thought once I moved out and never looked back and left that in the past my life would turn around
No, it's just got worse, I tried to make friends and develop social skills and learn to connect to people but I just get treated like a monster
I have litterally no one and my life is so pathetic that I have to come on YT to oment it just so SOMEONE might see it
No matter what I do ,no matter how much i focus on improving myself I'm just left in the dirt and am completely alone
Gos I hate humans, I've known thousands of humans and all of them are evil and hateful for no reason, why is it so hard to find a single FUCKING PERSON I cb have a deep meaningful connection with
Yet they've written a myriad of articles talking about how women are single and can't find a good man.
It's never a problem until it's their problem.
Men gaslight women who are lonely and tell them that they can find 5 guys on tinder to keep them terrible company. It's NO ONE ELSE'S fault you can't find a friend or someone who cares about you, it shouldn't be anyone else's problem either. Funny how men try to threaten if they don't get their way.
What a coincidence, I’m so fucking tired of people talking about the “patriarchy”
Same
Patriarchy isn't something women can control, having no friends or a romantic partner is something you can control. You have to be so privileged if you think being lonley is oppression.
@@claff4573 the “PAtRIArChy” doesn’t exist
You ain’t a victim
@@claff4573 women in America have equal if not better treatment than men, you have to so dense if you think women are oppressed here. I didn’t say they’re the same either you dolt, we’re just sick of hearing about how much women wish they were victims
@Babycake. I have no privilege because the patriarchy doesn’t exist
Nurturance and empathy is gone in this world and I am sad.
They were doomed when feminism was introduced.
@@IkesPimpHandold time feminism was just women wanting to be treated better there is nothing wrong with that the wrong thing is when one gender wants to be treated better than the other
I hope it isn’t completely gone because I believe men should be treated with love and respect, and i practice that in life
@@Anonymoususer08 feminism was NEVER about treating women right, and especially not "equally".
@@IkesPimpHand in the 1800s women couldn’t drive ,couldn’t vote ,couldn’t join the army, they were abused ,thrown away by their husbands ,women started to fight for their rights as people as citizens as people who wanted to serve society, I’m sorry that certain individuals abused that to gain power but it happens everywhere by everyone, you can be a woman and care about your rights and still love and care about men because they effect each other ,and women of all people should know how it feels to be treated poorly in society
Nobody is TRYING to make male loneliness a huge societal problem, it already is and has been for a long time. Until recently, nobody cared enough about it to even mention it online.
Amala for President 🌹🕊💙
No one forces a man to be alone. At the same time, no one should have to put up with male bs. Men have to learn that their ego is not so important. They need to learn to be social and no one is going to do it for them.
Lonely men have often been excluded/bullied by other men. Work on your own self esteem, and stop putting other men down to make yourself feel better.
Based. Women can’t fix this, men need to.
Women contribute to this too
not based, women contribute to this too@@abjectmadness1111
@@abjectmadness1111yes they can. Quite easily. But they won't. Due to reasons ranging from pure apathy to outright malice.
Which is why we have to learn to do it ourselves.
We built the society we live in. Fought prehistoric monsters with sticks and stones. And now we have the technology for artificial births. We need to embrace being alone and not needing them.
@@abjectmadness1111 Women shouldn't even be brought up in this conversation. Being lonely is a personalized issue and most people who are lonely are that way for a reason.
PARENTS are to blame, not women. Harsh truths, 25% of children have only one parent, who tries to be everything to the child including earning a living. the insanity starts there
Blame the individual men and women who are the problem and foster these awful mentalities. Stop painting with a broad brush. Women are not the problem. Men are not tbe problem. Parents are not the problem. The problems are individuals using their life for selfish evil.
Of course you mean the deadbeat parent. The one who initiated divorce and raised the child cannot be held accountable, right?
@@Undomaranelstop trying to dismiss this persons comment just cause you dont understand it. Parents arent the ones to BLAME but they do partake in individuals growing up not knowing how to connect with the world. Thats only relating to dysfunctional families. I mean look at Dahmer
✨️Amen bro
How about neither parents, or women are to blame. But men who can't socialize and make friends are to blame themselves. Nobody wants to blame themselves. Being lonley is a first world issue, and should remain a personalized issue. Why should women have to hear that they're at fault for men being single and lonley anyways? Can men not help one another?
I just don't know why so many people, some women especially say that men shouldn't be comforted, shouldn't cry, be sad, be in despair?. Like they are HUMAN TOO. They have FEELINGS TOO.
I was told by my mother that I would never know love and that I would have to get over it because no one cares. She was definitely right. It took my current relationship to get me out of this mindset. She just moved to this country with her family and they made me feel like family more than anyone that has been in my life. Westernized women definitely don't care and only thinks about themselves. Every ex was nothing more than someone who only used me as an ATM. For the first time in my life I come home from work with a cooked meal and a loving environment. I get a hug and kiss and asked how I'm doing. Before I got home and told to cook or get them something to eat then have to clean up the messes they made. They wouldn't work because that was the man's responsibility, wouldn't clean or cook anything because that was just feeding to the patriarchy, and was told if I didn't buy her everything she wanted and pay her bills then I'm not a man, not once did I hear from any of my exes a thankyou, I love you, or hoe was my day, and after being in my current relationship I now know, westernized women are not worth it.
Let’s not make excuses for men’s terrible behavior, though. I feel for the children, but once they’re men, they have their own means and tools to better their lives.
I agree ,however loneliness is a reason why they do these things like how a dangerous man has nothing to lose ,but he should still control himself and get help if he can if he can’t because he isn’t heard then society deals with the repercussions
@@Anonymoususer08 Imagine if women who did these things got these kind of excuses. I could go rob a bank and blame it on lonliness, All you're doing is coddling bad behaviors where these people have no accountability.
@@claff4573 I’m not saying that they can ,they made their choice, I was pointing out that loneliness is a reason but not an excuse, reasons explain certain actions while excuses make it so the person can’t help it, if someone robbed a bank loneliness could be a reason but definitely not a excuse, the person would face consequences, however if someone forced someone to rob a bank that’s a excuse because they would die if they didn’t
This absolutely breaks my heart. I wish we (the woman that don’t have this weird hate for all men) could personally tell these young men face to face how important they are, we women NEED them. How grateful we are for EVERYTHING, like what they have done / or currently doing in life, their hard work, their gentleness with us even though they can dominate and treat us as less than but instead they (not all but many) care for us and protect us from danger even willingly putting their lives at risk! Their masculinity is not a negative thing, I’m so sorry that they have to hear that day in and day out, keep in mind there ARE woman out here who think masculinity is not only sexy… but it’s vital for a strong family, society, world! So we should tell them to bask in all the “toxic” masculinity they can get, ignore the sad pathetic women trying to attack them for it and live their lives how they know in their heart is the right way to do so. I desperately hope this man hating crap gets thrown out and in place put forth woman loving, respecting, caring for, submitting too men. Hopefully i am lucky enough to see it in my lifetime
Granted, I’m a guy, and making assumptions
But, I think the “weird hatred from women” is they get screwed over by a few Chads, and they make the generalization that “AlL MeN aRe BAd”
So, figure out a way to either tell them Chads aren’t all men (if you can in small ways), or change Chads (if you can in small ways) to see the “weird hatred” go in your lifetime
These men’s weird perception of masculinity is what got them here.
@@Connerthespiderjust like men make generalization that "all women are trash" just because some girls rejected them lmao
@@abjectmadness1111 no, it ain’t
I think Masculinity is being strong and protective, which the men don’t have a weird perception of
What do you think it means?
@@oasis808 I mean yeah it goes both ways, and I’ve heard incels
But I was talking about misandrists, so what does that have to do with the point I was making?
I moved countries twice and in order to not feel lonely I went out of my comfort zone to make new friends. Why cant men do the same? They tend to be aloof and socially awkward and dont improve themselves. I do not feel sorry for lonely men they are responsible for themselves. There is no such thing as society. Any limitations men have are their own.
The children is not embraced by the village…will burn the village to feel its warmth
ah female friend turned 40 and said it made her sad because now she will become invisible, and my wife SLAPPED ME!! for saying " welcome to how 90% of men feel "
They are also surrounded by attacks by women on social networks, telling them that they are useless, unnecessary, loosers, simps etc.
I am a woman and have never attacked anyone like that. Please do not put blame on me for what others with the same sex do.
@@Undomaranel Could you EVER be more self-centered and entitled..? Where did I mention you specifically and/or say "all women"..? I cannot write all the exceptions when I write something like that, but it still stands that men are under attack by women. Period. FFS!
They probably are. Stop bringing women into these convo's. Not our fault you can't make friends.
@@claff4573 The moment a woman tries to attack you personally and hurt you (it works better if she knows what can really hurt you) is the moment you know you are right in the debate with her. Thank you for confirming that I am right.
@@XaarnakofOrion If you had basic common sense. You would understand that blaming all women isn't the solution. Women are not responsible for not having friends. Misogyny does not fix Misandry
Women are lonely too, they just express it in different ways. Women have embraced toxic feminism, which tells them climbing the corporate ladder is more fulfilling than taking care of a beautiful family.
I mean not everything is about family. Not everyone wants kids. Kids are hell, especially for women. They’re the ones dealing with them. Sometimes (always) serving God is the best choice
@@abjectmadness1111thank you ,I agree as woman I despise kids and I wouldn’t be good taking care of them
Lol you just gaslit all lonely women. No being free has helped women more than being under some handler. Not everyone wants a family.
Women don’t understand that the average single male receives no female attention or affection. A small compliment from a woman will make his entire day.
This saddens me ,as a woman I wish to make a man feel happy and never lonely his entire life
Not only will it make his day, but he will literally remember it for the rest of his life because it's so rare. It's something a woman just can't understand because of the fact women are far more likely to receive compliments even if they are based on shallow things like looks.
@@GrekeFenris We're afraid to compliment men because so many men take it as sexual or romantic interest instead of just a compliment. Some men even may turn into obsessive stalkers, or glom onto the woman who complimented them and will try to pursue that woman romantically, etc. I do feel terrible for people feeling lonely...I'm lonely at times, but we shouldn't have the expectation that others need to fix it for us. It's up to ourselves to build and sustain community connections, but a lot of "lonely" men just want a female partner to fix everything for them, and that isn't fair to women. Men also need to build community with themselves and shift the tide to normalize complimenting each other. But men subconsciously view compliments as come-ons (if you didn't, it wouldn't be viewed as "gay" for men to compliment each other).
Women arent as lonely because women keep each other company. Maybe... instead of pressuring women to hang out with guys talk to men and tell them to be better to each other?
But why does it have to be from a woman? I recieve no attention from men, but have my female friends, so in the reverse why cant men support men? If there are lots of lonely men, there are plenty of people lonely men to be friends with.
I started to love my loneliness. My biggest mistake ever.
Anyone chronically lonely or depressed deserves for society to be concerned about it. How about the next time that chick is feeling lonely, sad or outright depressed, everyone around her should tell her that it's not their problem and they won't want to hear her problems.
My son is 4 years old this month and my goal as a mother is never make him feel like his feeling are invalid and I will always be there, I never want him to feel this way.
most of these ‘boys’ complaining about loneliness are unbearable adult men incapable of maintaining a relationship beyond just sexual intimacy. thats why theyre lonely.
I don’t think you actually know a lot of lonely men if that’s what you think, most men want a loving relationship with a good girl, in fact it’s more often than not that men care less about the sex than women. Go outside and truly get to know some people before making judgements based on the very few people that you do know.
Wow your so shallow.. Did you even watch the video? The fact that you think men are lonely because of their s3xual desires is just sexist and stereotypical your saying that men only care about sex which is not true.
Imagine if you said this about a woman. You would probably be canceled immediately. Making your judgment of gender stereotypes. It shows how twisted and one sided our society has become.
And what caused them to grow up like that? What behaviors can we change to stop all this suffering?
are you a man or a woman?
It can very lonely at times. Always try to stay positive and have hope
Just to be clear though, male loneliness doesn’t make men entitled to gfs or wives. Women must still have autonomy to choose their partners and the quality of their relationships. A great way to help with male loneliness in the place of no romance/intimate partner is to become more emotionally intimate with your male friends. It’s doesn’t completely fill the void but it’s better than harming yourself or others.
This is your best clip. It gave me goosebumps.
Amen. They don’t deserve to be that way. No one does.
This sounds a lot like "men are lonely, women most effected"
EXACTLY!!!!! ALL TYPES OF FACTS
dating is difficult for a lot of men these days, and maybe it wasn't meant to be easy. Maybe it was meant to take time. But that's no reason to be lonely! Men of all ages should spend plenty of time with their guy friends. Women certainly spend plenty of time with their girlfriends, so why shouldn't men do the same ? If you build your entire social network based on a relationship with one woman, then (1) your social life is going to be inadequate even if you are in a good relationship (2) you make yourself vulnerable because if the relationship falls apart you'll instantly end up alone (3) you will place far too much stress on the relationship, and if you're not in a relationship, you'll be far too desperate to get into one, which will make it so much harder to get into one.
Conclusion: men should maintain a solid network of male friends, whether they are in a relationship with a woman or not.
One of my friend was trying to build help group for men that were in distress (mental health, mourning or just in need) because there wasn't any or very few. She realised that the majority won't ask for help even if they need it. Pride can be toxic when you think asking for help is seen as being weak. Everyone need a shoulder to lean on at one point.
men need a significant other that will love them. Men can solve all of these problems by simply destroying society and civilizations... subjigating women again just how it was throughout the history of human kind.. but for now maybe there's still hope that women will see how damaged men are and will take care of the men and love them even when they are at a very low point, weak, struggling and sad.
It's real. My husband faces it. Male relationships are hard to come by and most men stay lonely.
I'm convinced that what Amala says in the first part of her response is universal. Many males and females alike today are plagued with those realities. I think what differs is how each gender responds. Both become angry and arguably cynical but men are more inclined to use that anger violently where as women not so much.
Me personally as a female, I may feel the urge to punch something when faced with the reality of my plight but I'm more inclined to have angry outburst or vent or be passive aggressive. I also struggle to connect with people so I find I'm often socially isolated and it only heightens the things mentioned in this video. I do think it's easier for women to initially connect with or draw to each other thus momentarily alleviating any bouts of loneliness but without lasting connections and establishment of legitimate friendships those initial connections and attractions fade and the persons involved will go their separate ways. As a person and as a woman living in modern times I find it terribly difficult to discover and know exactly what my use is. I can elaborate but this comment is already too long. People in general today are very quick to use you so it's hard to know where you belong and what you can and should do. All the social roles are so heavily blurred I find myself clueless on who I am and why I am as a woman and as a citizen. It breeds frustration, resentment and anger. Although I could spread my legs and get pregnant like a lot of women today- I don't want to get pregnant just to avoid loneliness and consequently become a single mother an entirely separate issue and whole other level of loneliness. I'm financially and relationally not in a position to bring up a child in this world. Also, I long for a lasting legitimate romantic relationship that is rooted in friendship and shared core values and belief. This is not common practice in our American society today. So I have to for now accept my aloneness and loneliness. Most days I'm either sad or pissed about it but It is what it is.