It’s the same 50 years later ya’all…. My moms is 87. I still get anxiety when she grabs her purse…. Pretty sure that wooden spoon is in there somewhere. That purse is like a portal to hell 😂😮 I’ll say something like (when we put shopping) “I know I’m thirsty” (it’s 95 out) and she pull out half a stick of stale gum…. She say “this’ll quench your thirst”…. And I still say “yes ma’am” and I chew on the stale gum that be tasting like perfume and Ponds cold cream….. no thirst was quenched on that day…. Or ever with that gum 😂😢😮 Love to you all ❤️💕🙏🏼
I’m a Black mother and I decided before my child was born to let everyone know that there would be no continuation whatsoever of the abuse I experienced. And when I am wrong in conversations I apologize. My heart goes out to all the people who have never gotten an apology from their abusive parents. 💞
Sadly, I apologized when I was wrong with my kids. 3 walked away, no contact. My Mom, who I had a terrible relationship with, yet kept her in my life, told me to NEVER apologize. She said it handed the power over to them. My conscience is clear, but my heart is broken. I'm not sure which would hurt more.
I do not feel abused, nor would I ever accuse my mother of abuse. My mother is a strong black woman that raised four children on her own and raised them right! She is the reason I and my sister graduated from college and are productive members of society. All of her children love and emotionally support her in her elder years as she did for us as children . I feel we need to use a mix of old and new parenting, yes we can show our kids that we are human and make mistakes, but we must remain in control of our home and the rules in it and they should respect that at all times, especially if they pay no bills and are cared for , guided and loved.
same and i guess i'm one of the few who's mom apologized also. I know however, that my mom SPECIFICALLY raised us doing the opposite of what my grandmother did. We had love and affection and RESPECT AS PEOPLE from my mom as far back as i can remember. Are there times when it was 'what i say goes' in her house and in mine? yes of course, because a 5 year old is 5 years old and sometimes you don't have time to explain levels of shit to a child that small, but i've always given my daughters the chance to have a voice and to point out where i am making a mistake or just plain show me a different side.
@@boyblue3270 personally I used to want 2 kids but my bodies nervous system reacts by making me pass out whenever I get stuck by any sort or needle, and during pregnancy I would have to go to checkups and they would have to give me needles and iv needles where they leave the needle in my hand and I would pass out 😭😭😭. So no kids for me 🤗
Felt triggered...shit happened to me as a kid once but my mom only apologized 25 years later smh, but that shit still was traumatic extension cord and all.
@@birdsascarnage My brother ate a special chocolate bar made for my younger cousin that had his picture printed on it. I was 5 and he was 8. My aunt brought us all out in the morning (me, my older brother, and my other older cousin) and asked us to confess. My brother and older cousin insisted they didn't do it. I also said I didn't do it but I wasn't able to defend myself as well because I was 5. She was on the phone with a relative who convinced her to tell me I wouldn't be in trouble if I just said I did it. And naive as I was, I believed her, even though I didn't do it. And she whooped me while my older brother watched and laughed. My brother didn't admit to it until years later. For many years after that I was a pathological liar, until I eventually grew out of it in my late teen years.
Then when you done getting whooped it's a 'Stop crying before I give you something to cry about' LIKE YOU WANT ME TO BE STRAIGHT FACED WHILE YOU SMACK ME WITH A SWITCH? 😭😭😭😭😭😭
@@bunskero - it’s a play of words on the saying “I was born but not yesterday.” “I was born at night in the back of the club but certainly not last night.” would mean the same thing but you’re saying your mom is a str*pper at the club and that’s where you were born. The original phrase means I’m not stupid. 😂
Yes it is suppose to be a funny video but I hate « seeing » kids or grown people being beaten, i think you can discipline your child without beating 😢, at least that’s what I try with my kids . U take care 🫂
She offered everything, even an island, but an apology... and it's too real. I read a sentence once that said: Never trust an adult that cannot apologize to a child.
Wow. I didn’t know there was any need for that expression, but it’s good advice. And he showed her the extent of his pain by being too traumatized and scared to be around her even for those fabulous gifts.
This actually used to happen to me and when she tried making up for it i would always be hesitant about it bc that’s not the way ur supposed to apologize…
My mom or dad would beat my butt with and the threw me in my room to cry myself to sleep afterwards or if I was doing something my mom didn’t like I would get pinched hard I don’t like my mom so would try to force her religion on me and then when I say I don’t want to go she would try to guilt trip me my mom is worse than my dad
Must be from the 2000s and beyond. It was discipline not abuse for the most part back in the day. Problem is y'all got these kids telling y'all how to discipline them and being their friends first and parents second
@@MorrisB1971you wonder why these kids were violent asl 😂 it’s y’all mindset the newer gen is now having to fix and learning the best ways. It isn’t over night. Y’all couldn’t unlearn the slave mentality but we are trying .
I hate when parents believe teachers without any proof and I also hate when teachers believe students without any proof, or don’t let students defend themselves.
My 8th grade ELA teacher was like this..."I don't wanna hear what anyone else did. Tell me what you did." I used to hate that and it makes no sense cause that's how the wrong child gets in trouble. Only reason I ain't get in trouble was because another adult said he saw what actually happened.
My kids teachers hated me because I would tell them to do their job while my kid are in their care and stop calling me . Talking about she wouldn't make eye contact mofo what 😮
I remember moving to a new high school and the biology teacher pulled me aside and said she had seen me and my sister smoking outside. I denied it and the teacher doubled down. Finally I said "Call my mom" who knew me and my sister were very against smoking. The teacher backed off but never apologized. She was obviously trying to intimidate me or something because she clearly made it up that she saw me and my sister smoking. Now maybe if she saw someone smoking that looked like me that could have been an honest mistake. But someone that looked like both me AND my sister? Come on now.
My mother BELIEVED in apologizing to us! As a parent myself I know its important to be humble with children, because she showed humility with me, and she was a black mom!
Doesn't exist in an Irish mother either,. I'm 47 years old and I can STILL feel the ass whoopings from my childhood! My mum was never wrong, even when she knew she was!🤣🤣x
I am so sorry to see how many people in the comments saying that their moms don't apologize. I wonder if any of the black moms in the comments apologize to their own kids though? I know that I went out of my way to be a different parent than what I had when I was growing up. Being able to apologize was on that list. Not spanking out of anger was another. Don't get me wrong, I did spank my kids, but not like what happened in this video. A spanking is not the punishment for everything. If you do that, then it loses it power. I learned that when I was younger to the point where I would decide to do what I wanted because a spanking was just fleeting pain. Most activities/actions that got me in trouble were fun for much longer than a duration of a spanking. 😄 Therefore, I was very judicial in my spankings and was very clear about what earned one when they were little. As they got older, then I got to be creative with punishments and I am sure my kids will tell their kids about those events. LOL
@@Kattywagon29I'm a mom and I'm black. In have apologized to my kids when I'm wrong and I never spanked my kids. Didn't need to...they were well behaved.
I'm not even black but the whole apology scene with the saying no to their offers and the hiccup cry always made me cry😭. Always the bribes and we felt for them in the moment but it follows.
This got me in my feelings. Just say "I'm sorry" !!!!!!! I told my husband we aren't parenting the Nigerian way. We will apologize to these kids and no whopping like we were trying to implement capital punishment. Makes me sick!!
Love that! I think being physically violent to a child should only ever be done in an absolute emergency situation. I think a lot of people are traumatized from their childhood and don't even know it.
I got lucky. My mother was never afraid to listen, admit to being wrong or to apologize. Because she was my teacher and how the hell was I gonna learn to take accountability if she didn’t do it herself ❤
@@snail2074 Exactly. I also simply find it undesirable to have a relationship containing fear with children. Fear can lead to long-lasting trauma, especially with children. I find it better to have a beautifully nourished relationship built of respect and morals, where discipline is taught verbally rather than violently. I uphold the quote: "Do not commit an action you can not apologize for if wrong, Do not feel fear to apologizing if one has commiting a wrongdoing." It is overall a better experience for both the parent and the child to maintain a positive and mutually respectful relationship. I find it immature for a grown person to be unable to apologize.
@@tanyapeterson7873But you see how she offered Crab legs OR McDonald's then when he went for the crab legs she was like oh I was hoping you said McDonald's 😂 If he said Bahamas she probably would've offered something different like Tropical smoothie cafe 🙂 she's too funny 🙂
My best friend used to send me your videos to cheer me up. He is no longer here anymore. I still come on here to keep my head up high. Thank you for the wonderful memories with my buddy.
I'm a 48 year old white woman from the UK and my mum still acts like this🤣🤣🤣 She went ape shit at me the other day for no reason, walked out of the room then came back half an hour later with a roast chicken and a smile but no apology!🤯😂😩
@@IGot7RevtinyArmyStayOnceBlink Meh. You gotta get one butt whooping in so they don't turn out like Donald Trump. With all that mouth, he CLEARLY never got popped as a child! 😂
There’s a difference between abuse and discipline. Discipline is about learning. There’s a lesson. Abuse is about punishment and fear. Also, threatening a child is almost always abusive. Learning the distinction is very important.
No one should ever beat a person that way with such a weapon! 😢 That's bizarre! My parents were firm, with stern discipline when needed, & we all six toed the line, but that's just too much.
No she won't, not necessarily. I know a single mom who raised who boys to be respectful, and she didn't hesitate to whip them with an extension cord when they got out of line or disrespectful. Those same boys who now have their own kids and grandkids, love their mom so much. Always doing things for her, giving her money for no reason, etc. We understood whippings to be about correction.
@@clmhK5 I’m sorry, but beating a child with an extension cord leaving welts and bruises is child abuse. You’ll be hard pressed to find any jurisdiction that would argue otherwise. On top of that, the parent refused to apologize when she was wrong and just tried to bribe their children.
This may be the most important video you have ever made. Child abuse, in the name of discipline and setting examples, is abuse. A woman can abuse. A mom can abuse. She may have been abused herself. Nonetheless it is abuse. It’s a generational thing. When kids are beaten and kicked up in a room, and end up fearing and shivering and crying, curled up in a ball, that, is symptoms of an abused child. When kids are abuse and violently hit by their own mother, they are at risk to grow up to hit, smack, beat, and be physically violent to others. Child abuse in my mind is the number one problem of society. But the reason behind child abuse is too complex. Worries about money, stress, violence, etc. all contribute to child abuse by the parent. Everyone needs help. The solution is not easy.
I love the friend that Momma talks to on the phone. Hilarious. And here’s something that I always think is cool about these vids: my own mom was VERY similar…so we all have more in common together than we realize sometimes. My mom would do exactly this…not believe me, get mad, and then never apologize…but she’d ask if I wanted to go to the store and get something. Or she’d make food I liked. It’s crazy to see these Momma videos because it’s like how I grew up too despite being from a different background.
@@Issy2226-c6p Exactly. A kid like that grows up, gets into a relationship where they are yelled at or hit, but its okay because the partner brings flowers afterwards.
THE RAINBOW HAIR IS A HIT 🌈🔥 NOT I WAS BORN AT NIGHT IN THE BACK OF THE CLUB BUT NOT LAST NIGHT 😂 BLACK MOMS WILL ACT LIKE THAT WHOPPING GO TOWARD THE NEXT TIME HE DO SOMETHING WRONG BUT SORRY NOT COMING OUT 😂
My parents & grandmother did this too. Extension cords were used along with "I'm going to let you pick your own switch & it better be equal to the one she carried
A black mama cannot be vulnerable or wrong. So when it happens you best, pretend it never happened and silently accept the silent apology that they don't directly give you.
@@Alex-dg1mo who says black mamas can’t be wrong? Nobody’s perfect, and people who cannot offer a simple apology to the children they’ve wronged fall into one of two categories: sociopaths and emotionally immature adults.
Great video and very funny 🤣 “Mommy was wrong. I’m sorry. I hope you can forgive me. I will be better” also works pretty well 😘 Be human with your kids.
It’s like this with a lot of any parent who was abused themselves. Or ass whipped themselves. Abuse pass on generations. Corporal punishment is a crime, not cute, and not justified. Ever.
30 years later
"Why do my kids hate me?!"
Correct ✅
Now I understand why my parents hate the way they were raised and tried different 😢
THIS. How y'all wondering why none of your kids like you when you were emotionally AND physically abusive???
@shiannafoxx RIGHT. My grandmother is like this. She tormented her kids and me. Now I don't talk to her and she's clueless as to why.
@@nicasinclair7609 It’s that generational trauma/abuse. My parents decided to continue the cycle instead of breaking it
They hate to admit to their wrongs.
Fr like
And do
Right, like just say sorry
Yep. I'm grown, and my mom is still like that. Gifts and dinners don't mean anything to me anymore. I need to hear an apology.
Agreed.
Black moms never apologize they just make you your favorite food and be nice for a day😭
Emphasis on *a* day
Literally 24 hours then back to hell
I ain't even get that🤣
It’s the same 50 years later ya’all….
My moms is 87. I still get anxiety when she grabs her purse….
Pretty sure that wooden spoon is in there somewhere. That purse is like a portal to hell 😂😮
I’ll say something like (when we put shopping) “I know I’m thirsty” (it’s 95 out) and she pull out half a stick of stale gum…. She say “this’ll quench your thirst”…. And I still say “yes ma’am” and I chew on the stale gum that be tasting like perfume and Ponds cold cream….. no thirst was quenched on that day…. Or ever with that gum 😂😢😮
Love to you all ❤️💕🙏🏼
@@Fairyfeet2 then back up on some bs again.
That shaky crying broke my heart. A testiment to your acting!
Breaks my heart
Fabulous!
Right, it's acting and I was crying for him😢
I’m a Black mother and I decided before my child was born to let everyone know that there would be no continuation whatsoever of the abuse I experienced. And when I am wrong in conversations I apologize. My heart goes out to all the people who have never gotten an apology from their abusive parents. 💞
Sadly, I apologized when I was wrong with my kids. 3 walked away, no contact. My Mom, who I had a terrible relationship with, yet kept her in my life, told me to NEVER apologize. She said it handed the power over to them. My conscience is clear, but my heart is broken. I'm not sure which would hurt more.
@@ladyliberty5771
You should have listened. To your Mother that is and not some psycho blabble.
@@FreeYourMind590 agree to disagree.
@@ladyliberty5771your mother sounds like an abusive narcissist. Only narcissists say shit like "never apologize", even if they're in the wrong.
I do not feel abused, nor would I ever accuse my mother of abuse. My mother is a strong black woman that raised four children on her own and raised them right! She is the reason I and my sister graduated from college and are productive members of society. All of her children love and emotionally support her in her elder years as she did for us as children . I feel we need to use a mix of old and new parenting, yes we can show our kids that we are human and make mistakes, but we must remain in control of our home and the rules in it and they should respect that at all times, especially if they pay no bills and are cared for , guided and loved.
If my child throws water at a woman and she melts, I'm buying them ice cream. Out here vanquishing demons 😂
lmao
Ok?! Unda di blood!! 💃🏾
Amen 🙏
The way I screamed after reading this 😭💀😂
😂😂😂😂
The hiccup cry takes me back 😂😂
Took me all the way out 😂😂😂
Lol
Hilarious 😂😂
💯 😂
Chhhhhile the extension cord takes me back 😵
Im a black mother and I apologize to my child💪
A lot of us learned how NOT to parent being kids.
same and i guess i'm one of the few who's mom apologized also. I know however, that my mom SPECIFICALLY raised us doing the opposite of what my grandmother did. We had love and affection and RESPECT AS PEOPLE from my mom as far back as i can remember. Are there times when it was 'what i say goes' in her house and in mine? yes of course, because a 5 year old is 5 years old and sometimes you don't have time to explain levels of shit to a child that small, but i've always given my daughters the chance to have a voice and to point out where i am making a mistake or just plain show me a different side.
I apologize to my children, too…straightaway!
You are a different generation. I apologise too, my parents' gen, did not.
Congratulations you're a decent mom 🥳
That's a harrowingly realistic portrayal of child abuse, god damn
Real
@@boyblue3270 personally I used to want 2 kids but my bodies nervous system reacts by making me pass out whenever I get stuck by any sort or needle, and during pregnancy I would have to go to checkups and they would have to give me needles and iv needles where they leave the needle in my hand and I would pass out 😭😭😭.
So no kids for me 🤗
Felt triggered...shit happened to me as a kid once but my mom only apologized 25 years later smh, but that shit still was traumatic extension cord and all.
@@birdsascarnage My brother ate a special chocolate bar made for my younger cousin that had his picture printed on it. I was 5 and he was 8. My aunt brought us all out in the morning (me, my older brother, and my other older cousin) and asked us to confess. My brother and older cousin insisted they didn't do it. I also said I didn't do it but I wasn't able to defend myself as well because I was 5. She was on the phone with a relative who convinced her to tell me I wouldn't be in trouble if I just said I did it. And naive as I was, I believed her, even though I didn't do it. And she whooped me while my older brother watched and laughed. My brother didn't admit to it until years later. For many years after that I was a pathological liar, until I eventually grew out of it in my late teen years.
@@morningivy I'm so sorry to hear that and what a horrible thing to do...and to a 5 year old? My goodness I hope you are better now 💜
Then when you done getting whooped it's a 'Stop crying before I give you something to cry about' LIKE YOU WANT ME TO BE STRAIGHT FACED WHILE YOU SMACK ME WITH A SWITCH? 😭😭😭😭😭😭
@@ari.t_it8 that part
Exactly 😂
Yes as asians, my mom was the same way.
and then when you don’t cry and keep a straight face, they’re going to have a problem with that too 🫥
@@rosiesante that part
I was born at night, 'in back of a club'....but certainly not last night 😆🤣🤣
😂😂😂
That line!!!!! I will recycle it 😅
That’s so funny 😂.
im slow what does it mean
@@bunskero - it’s a play of words on the saying “I was born but not yesterday.” “I was born at night in the back of the club but certainly not last night.” would mean the same thing but you’re saying your mom is a str*pper at the club and that’s where you were born. The original phrase means I’m not stupid. 😂
My mom don’t apologize she just asks if I want dinner 🌚
SAMEE😾
Just apologizing with dinner 😭
That's their way of apologizes 😭
Lucky my mom just tell me to go to my room
❤
ik it’s supposed to be a funny video but the screams of getting beat actually made me cry..that awoke some of my trauma ngl..
2:37 him breathing like that and barely even being able to speak almost made me cry ngl. Took me back to when I was a child :(
Yes it is suppose to be a funny video but I hate « seeing » kids or grown people being beaten, i think you can discipline your child without beating 😢, at least that’s what I try with my kids . U take care 🫂
Same 😕
Agreed!
It didn't make me cry but it did make me sad for a bit :/ the video was still good tho
It’s the “let me calll let me call let me call let me call u back” THE STUTTERING 😂
I am a Black mother and admit when I’m wrong AND apologize!
Yes mam me too... No problem taking accountability
Girlfriend's voice in the phone always kills me! 😂
YUP! Me Too! Hilarious!
😂😂😂😂
Ba, ba, ba, bye!
Same!! Almost sounds like if Fat Albert was in a woman's body 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@janaadams497Alberta!
black moms and apologizing in the same sentence??? that’s crazy
Fr we all know they don't say sorry 😭
That part lol😂
😂
I always apologize to my son and articulate the issue thoughtfully.
Asian moms are the same apparently. It seems like all POC kids can relate to this.
She offered everything, even an island, but an apology... and it's too real. I read a sentence once that said: Never trust an adult that cannot apologize to a child.
Wow. I didn’t know there was any need for that expression, but it’s good advice.
And he showed her the extent of his pain by being too traumatized and scared to be around her even for those fabulous gifts.
And a Disney Land trip!
She was apologizing, but not with words, but with actions . Remember the ole adage, Actions speak louder than words!
@@colchicine1Ok but it wouldn’t have taken much for her to say “I was wrong i’m sorry baby” and then proceeded to show she was sorry with the actions.
@@colchicine1 No. Children especially need too hear the words
This was hard to watch and I wasn’t even whipped as a child 😭 My heart goes out to the ones that were.
This actually used to happen to me and when she tried making up for it i would always be hesitant about it bc that’s not the way ur supposed to apologize…
My mom or dad would beat my butt with and the threw me in my room to cry myself to sleep afterwards or if I was doing something my mom didn’t like I would get pinched hard I don’t like my mom so would try to force her religion on me and then when I say I don’t want to go she would try to guilt trip me my mom is worse than my dad
My mom almost killed me once lmao
@@naanbread7896 that's.... Not funny...
My grandma tried killing me multiple times
I’m a black mom and I apologize to my child. Not all of us are emotionally immature.
Exactly
This! I had to be the one to break the cycle. I refuse to give into the generational curse. My daughter deserves better.
I feel bad for dookie😢
Me too ☹
@@gemlayne1400me three.
Yeah this is fucked.
I had to take a dookie😢
@@gemlayne1400 Me three 😔
Abusing and traumatizing your child after something they didn’t do and then not properly apologizing is SICK work 😭😭😭
Umm this was just a skit but you don't have to get mad so MB I don't wanna be in ur business or nothing but still don't get mad over a skit
Must be from the 2000s and beyond. It was discipline not abuse for the most part back in the day. Problem is y'all got these kids telling y'all how to discipline them and being their friends first and parents second
@@MorrisB1971 I’m before 2000, it was always abusive. That’s what help make an aggressive abusive culture of people.
@corvettetate7557 the skit is based on reality, though, so... yeah.
@@MorrisB1971you wonder why these kids were violent asl 😂 it’s y’all mindset the newer gen is now having to fix and learning the best ways. It isn’t over night. Y’all couldn’t unlearn the slave mentality but we are trying .
I hate when parents believe teachers without any proof
and I also hate when teachers believe students without any proof, or don’t let students defend themselves.
My 8th grade ELA teacher was like this..."I don't wanna hear what anyone else did. Tell me what you did." I used to hate that and it makes no sense cause that's how the wrong child gets in trouble. Only reason I ain't get in trouble was because another adult said he saw what actually happened.
My kids teachers hated me because I would tell them to do their job while my kid are in their care and stop calling me . Talking about she wouldn't make eye contact mofo what 😮
As an only daughter of a single mother, even if I am not black, I witness these kind of nonsense.
Teachers were always right no matter what
I remember moving to a new high school and the biology teacher pulled me aside and said she had seen me and my sister smoking outside. I denied it and the teacher doubled down. Finally I said "Call my mom" who knew me and my sister were very against smoking. The teacher backed off but never apologized. She was obviously trying to intimidate me or something because she clearly made it up that she saw me and my sister smoking. Now maybe if she saw someone smoking that looked like me that could have been an honest mistake. But someone that looked like both me AND my sister? Come on now.
@@stitches318yeah that’s extra not you adding unnecessary details 😂
I apologize whenever I'm wrong. It builds trust and helps children understand that we're all fallible.
They deserve the same respect that we do.
«You want to take a trip to the Bahamas, I buy us a island out there, you know something, just a little som'» 😂😂😂 4:00 🤣🤣🤣
Not the teacher being the wicked witch of the west 💀
Lol fr
😂
I never see the beard bc the acting is so spot on 😍
And the walk from the back is so culturally feminine.
Facts
I'm focused on that wig!!!!😮
Right! And I always forget it’s the same person he acts so well I think a multiple actors.
Fr fr
This is exactly why so many of us grow up with deep resentment towards our parents. But that's ok, I'll be choosing my mom's rest home....
Mine isn't even getting help with that.
Lmao 🤣
I h-o-l-l-e-r-e-d!!🤣💀🤣💀🤣💀
😂😂😂
I was brought up like this but I broke the cycle with my son. He is 21 now and very protective of his good mommy.💕💕💕
Thank you ❤
adopt me
😂
My mother BELIEVED in apologizing to us! As a parent myself I know its important to be humble with children, because she showed humility with me, and she was a black mom!
help the teacher got melted 💀🙏🏾
Teacher overacting now 😭
@@highsourjamapple9141 fr like what ‼️
@@highsourjamapple9141right bc why you melting😭🙏
@@lilbabiisisshe was the wicked witch
@@lilbabiisis like how did sum water make you melt girlll..
My god the door slam, the hits brought PTSD omg
Yes 😓
That was too rough😢
And u screaming, asking them to let u go and saying u sorry 😭😭. Awoke some deep-rooted memories I thought I had locked away for good
Real shit
The word "apologize" does NOT exist in a black mothers vocabulary 😭😭
Doesn't exist in an Irish mother either,. I'm 47 years old and I can STILL feel the ass whoopings from my childhood! My mum was never wrong, even when she knew she was!🤣🤣x
Child they ain't gone tell you they sorry 😂😂
This must be a universal thing; my German mother was quick with the belt and wouldn't say sorry if she was wrong either.
I am so sorry to see how many people in the comments saying that their moms don't apologize. I wonder if any of the black moms in the comments apologize to their own kids though? I know that I went out of my way to be a different parent than what I had when I was growing up. Being able to apologize was on that list. Not spanking out of anger was another.
Don't get me wrong, I did spank my kids, but not like what happened in this video. A spanking is not the punishment for everything. If you do that, then it loses it power. I learned that when I was younger to the point where I would decide to do what I wanted because a spanking was just fleeting pain. Most activities/actions that got me in trouble were fun for much longer than a duration of a spanking. 😄
Therefore, I was very judicial in my spankings and was very clear about what earned one when they were little. As they got older, then I got to be creative with punishments and I am sure my kids will tell their kids about those events. LOL
@@Kattywagon29I'm a mom and I'm black. In have apologized to my kids when I'm wrong and I never spanked my kids. Didn't need to...they were well behaved.
I'm not even black but the whole apology scene with the saying no to their offers and the hiccup cry always made me cry😭. Always the bribes and we felt for them in the moment but it follows.
Such a good actor.. I legit forget that YOURE NOT A woman OR A little 12 year old boy! 😂❤
This got me in my feelings. Just say "I'm sorry" !!!!!!! I told my husband we aren't parenting the Nigerian way. We will apologize to these kids and no whopping like we were trying to implement capital punishment. Makes me sick!!
Love that! I think being physically violent to a child should only ever be done in an absolute emergency situation. I think a lot of people are traumatized from their childhood and don't even know it.
Got me in my feelings too. This happens too often but good on you for breaking the cycle ❤ love to you and your family
Black moms hate to admit they wrong they just be like “I’m going to the store you wanna come” or “I got food on the stove come eat”
I'm Filipino and filipino parents are the same way.
Momma is 🔥 lit with the rainbow 🌈 hair 😂🤣🤣❤️
Frrrr she pulling it off well😭😭
AND THE NAILS TOO 💅
The hair and nails are so pretty 😭
That part!!!
This was my mother growing up never admitted she was ever wrong always took us shopping or to the movies to buy our love and her forgiveness
So happy I could talk to my Black mom. I remember her fondly now that she’s gone.
There's no apologizing,just your favorite food and no being on punishment.. 🤷🏾♀️ This took me back!
I got lucky. My mother was never afraid to listen, admit to being wrong or to apologize. Because she was my teacher and how the hell was I gonna learn to take accountability if she didn’t do it herself ❤
@@HannadayFLOYes. Not everyone has parents that hold themselves accountable. Very fortunate indeed. Smh.
that part
@@HannadayFLO thank you, I know. Whenever my mother compliments me on being a good parent, I always remind her “well, I learned from the best” ❤️
There was no sorry...no apology....that's shame. . Then parents r suprised that children hate parents when they r getting old .🤦
Agreed
Right.
This is why children shouldn't be beaten. Parents can't apologize for something that makes them fear them more than they respect them...
@@snail2074 Exactly. I also simply find it undesirable to have a relationship containing fear with children. Fear can lead to long-lasting trauma, especially with children. I find it better to have a beautifully nourished relationship built of respect and morals, where discipline is taught verbally rather than violently. I uphold the quote: "Do not commit an action you can not apologize for if wrong, Do not feel fear to apologizing if one has commiting a wrongdoing." It is overall a better experience for both the parent and the child to maintain a positive and mutually respectful relationship. I find it immature for a grown person to be unable to apologize.
Beware of people who don’t apologise. Their narcissism stops them from admitting they were wrong.
Why did I have damn tears in my eyes watching him trying to stop crying, aw hell I'm to invested in this show😅😅😅
Anyone else get that refreshing feeling of relief after they just narrowly avoided the belt whooping?
Yeah, let out a sigh of relief 😭
Lucky for her he didn't call 911😂
lucky
I’m genuinely sorry you have to know that feeling. I truly am. Sending you a big hug. ❤
OMG 😳 YES. sadly it didn’t seem to make me “behave” more I just found more ways to be sneaky. That shit is traumatic..
Shidddd. I would have took that Disney World trip!😂😂
Give me the Bahamas trip 😂
@@tanyapeterson7873, OK. Me too!
Fr fr lmao 🤣🤣🤣
@@tanyapeterson7873But you see how she offered Crab legs OR McDonald's then when he went for the crab legs she was like oh I was hoping you said McDonald's 😂
If he said Bahamas she probably would've offered something different like Tropical smoothie cafe 🙂 she's too funny 🙂
@@Natasha-uz9je 🤣😂 yupp that's messed up 😁
Bloody hell, seeing his upset body and tears I felt myself well up! 🇬🇧
4:27 the singing and harmony jay😍😍😍😍😍
That 1:20 brought horrible flashbacks to me. #asswhopped 🥹🥲😟
Same 😢
Same
I know right 😭😭😭
😢 😞😞
The acting is always on point❤
Ikr! And the wigs always match the personality 😂
Fr sometimes I forget the beard is there sometimes..it’s that good🙏🏽
I would watch a movie if he was acting in it 😭
It's crazy how accurate this is. I told myself the cycle is coming to a SCREECHING HALT if I'm ever blessed with children.
And just because of that, I pray you are Blessed with children 🤲🏼🥹
They really do everything EXCEPT say sorry.
My best friend used to send me your videos to cheer me up. He is no longer here anymore. I still come on here to keep my head up high. Thank you for the wonderful memories with my buddy.
The way I had to skip past the whoopings. I really hope parents are learning not to abuse their kids these days. That shit was traumatic.
I'm a 48 year old white woman from the UK and my mum still acts like this🤣🤣🤣 She went ape shit at me the other day for no reason, walked out of the room then came back half an hour later with a roast chicken and a smile but no apology!🤯😂😩
😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Are we sister's by any chance, cos I swear your my is my mum?! 🤣
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣.
My mother would apologize for a beating by looking for me under the bed and calling me to dinner. ... sweep it under the rug!
That’s why you shouldn’t be so quick to whip your kids! Love all of his skits by the way!❤
yuppp .
you shouldn’t whip them at all.
@@MargrietSthat part a lot of them older ones aren’t ready for that convo yet tho 😂.
@@IGot7RevtinyArmyStayOnceBlink Meh. You gotta get one butt whooping in so they don't turn out like Donald Trump. With all that mouth, he CLEARLY never got popped as a child! 😂
I was saying STOP STOP because I knew she was allergic. 🎈 😂
hilarious
Screaming 😂😂😂😂
There’s a difference between abuse and discipline. Discipline is about learning. There’s a lesson. Abuse is about punishment and fear. Also, threatening a child is almost always abusive. Learning the distinction is very important.
My heart is broken for Dookie!
3:14 Love you Jay!!! Poor Baby 😢 Just applogize Mama.
And give him a hug.
Is no one gonna talk about how amazing that transition was at 1:38
Did she say do you want to go to your favorite store the Walmart ? Lol
Yep 😂😂😂😂😂
*Wal-Mart ain’t bad, though.*
My son loves Walmart !! Lol ❤
I’m weak at the Bahamas and Disney world offers!!! 😅😅
No one should ever beat a person that way with such a weapon! 😢 That's bizarre! My parents were firm, with stern discipline when needed, & we all six toed the line, but that's just too much.
This man is Genius! He had me in tears! So glad her abused son got her in the end.
2:37 The crying part is the most realistic to me.
real
2:30 it’s the crying for me 😂
It’s Literally me when I’m at the hairdressers house and it’s been like 3 hours 😭
That would have been me😂
She offered to buy him an island in the Bahamas after giving that child straight up PTSD 😂
LOL ain’t that right.
2:25 “Ok gurrr ba ba ba ba bye ba” 😂😂😂
"I was born last night at the back of a club! But certainly not last night!" 😂😂😂😂
I make a concerted effort to apologize to my kids when I’m wrong cuz I hated getting in trouble for nothing growing up.
*"Oh !I was hoping you were going to say McDonald's
"* 😂😂😂
Momma, sorry, but not crab legs, sorry 😂😂😂❤
That woman’s going to end up in the cheapest possible retirement home.
💯💯💯
😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅
Under a bridge🤫
No she won't, not necessarily. I know a single mom who raised who boys to be respectful, and she didn't hesitate to whip them with an extension cord when they got out of line or disrespectful. Those same boys who now have their own kids and grandkids, love their mom so much. Always doing things for her, giving her money for no reason, etc.
We understood whippings to be about correction.
@@clmhK5 I’m sorry, but beating a child with an extension cord leaving welts and bruises is child abuse. You’ll be hard pressed to find any jurisdiction that would argue otherwise. On top of that, the parent refused to apologize when she was wrong and just tried to bribe their children.
I can absolutely say that not only do I apologize, but I do it in writing so they can save it for posterity
Parents need to normalize apologizing for their wrongs. Being raised by a parent who refused to ever acknowledge their wrongs was horrible.
Why mama just can’t say “I’m sorry?”…phenomenal acting as usual and very accurate of our mamas
This may be the most important video you have ever made. Child abuse, in the name of discipline and setting examples, is abuse. A woman can abuse. A mom can abuse. She may have been abused herself. Nonetheless it is abuse. It’s a generational thing. When kids are beaten and kicked up in a room, and end up fearing and shivering and crying, curled up in a ball, that, is symptoms of an abused child. When kids are abuse and violently hit by their own mother, they are at risk to grow up to hit, smack, beat, and be physically violent to others. Child abuse in my mind is the number one problem of society. But the reason behind child abuse is too complex. Worries about money, stress, violence, etc. all contribute to child abuse by the parent. Everyone needs help. The solution is not easy.
I love the friend that Momma talks to on the phone. Hilarious. And here’s something that I always think is cool about these vids: my own mom was VERY similar…so we all have more in common together than we realize sometimes. My mom would do exactly this…not believe me, get mad, and then never apologize…but she’d ask if I wanted to go to the store and get something. Or she’d make food I liked. It’s crazy to see these Momma videos because it’s like how I grew up too despite being from a different background.
A parent treating a kid like that can set them up to be abused by others, while believing they are loved. Awful
@@Issy2226-c6p you’re not wrong
@@Issy2226-c6p Exactly. A kid like that grows up, gets into a relationship where they are yelled at or hit, but its okay because the partner brings flowers afterwards.
The “l-let…let me call you back” is accurate and my stepmom wasn’t even that bad
Getting hit between words as Mom is narrating the beating…this is true life. Memories. 😂
There's never an apology....
No parent ever apologizes anyway. There is too much of a backlog to even get started!
😂😂😂 The hugging himself crying on the bed stutter talking, nailed it!
THE RAINBOW HAIR IS A HIT 🌈🔥 NOT I WAS BORN AT NIGHT IN THE BACK OF THE CLUB BUT NOT LAST NIGHT 😂 BLACK MOMS WILL ACT LIKE THAT WHOPPING GO TOWARD THE NEXT TIME HE DO SOMETHING WRONG BUT SORRY NOT COMING OUT 😂
My parents & grandmother did this too. Extension cords were used along with "I'm going to let you pick your own switch & it better be equal to the one she carried
Lazy parenting
I am a white , middle class, 50 year old woman from England in the UK. Bloody hell, I love these videos ❤ they are so real, but so funny
A black mama cannot be vulnerable or wrong. So when it happens you best, pretend it never happened and silently accept the silent apology that they don't directly give you.
God bless you, son. It's white moms too though fr
I’m so sorry that some moms are like this and I really hope that you can get away as soon as possible. Sending you a hug. ❤
@@elizabeth3675omg thank you. Moms in general do that. They just don’t know how to accept when they are wrong!!!
This is sad and ugly behavior 😞😞😞
@@Alex-dg1mo who says black mamas can’t be wrong? Nobody’s perfect, and people who cannot offer a simple apology to the children they’ve wronged fall into one of two categories: sociopaths and emotionally immature adults.
Man, I always feel so sorry for lil Dookie!! 😅
The way they say I ma call you back girl 😆
Omg...that acting is dope...and he answers so politely...Mama...😂😂
Politely?! I would much rather think it is fearful but okay
Great video and very funny 🤣
“Mommy was wrong. I’m sorry. I hope you can forgive me. I will be better” also works pretty well 😘 Be human with your kids.
The teacher got melted with water? Guess she never take a bath.😅😅
Wicked witch of the west!! That's what I went by when I taught lmao😂😂😂
I'm CRYING
Teacher done melted. Got damn
0:03 the way they kept saying what's up is funny 😂😢
My dad was the one who mostly did the punishments, but when he was in the wrong, he always apologized, and I always admired him for that 🙂.
The best treat for him now would have been a hug and an apology.
Also, physical punishment was uncalled for.
Not do you want me to buy you an island 🏝️😂😂😂😂
Damn this broke my heart. Poor kid crying! Jay is such an amazing actor. Is this how it really is for black kids and their mamas?
It’s like this with a lot of any parent who was abused themselves. Or ass whipped themselves. Abuse pass on generations. Corporal punishment is a crime, not cute, and not justified. Ever.
“I was hoping you was gon say McDonalds” 😂😂😂
That hurts on so many levels!
Awww, poor Dookie! Doesn’t even know what to say yes to. Might not be ok.