As a male hairstylist i never understood it if you have cancer ok I see why but just braid it an put tracks or a wig on but to shave off all the progress even if damaged you can still save alot of it but it's their freedom their choice.
I know 2 working moms who did this. It was just easier for them to wear a wig. My mom was a working mom who was never interested in wearing her natural hair or helping us two daughters wear our natural hair. We had to go and figure it out by ourselves.
My sister wore a wig to the ER. She had to get a cat scan done. About 5 nurses came in to calmly talk her in to taking off the wig. My sister removed it without hesitation. The nurses said they did not expect her to willingly take off the wig. They explained how most women leave the hospital when requested to remove the wig. Regardless of the medical emergency, most women do not want to remove the wig! Let that sink in... I agree that there is a disconnect...
Our 5 year old ONLY sees me with my natural hair. I can not imagine me telling her that her hair is beautiful, and then I throw on a wig smh AND it's not even my texture. She loves her hair when we cuddle our fros touch, and the feeling is amazing. I can't explain it.. but it's just amazing.
My daughter could only sleep if my natural hair would rub on her whe we cuddle. You can imagine her dismay when I got locs lol. She's use to them now, but at first she was shocked.
I’m an advocate for letting people do what they want. But I do agree that once some Black women take their wig off or sew in, etc the confidence isn’t the same. It’s as if some act more humbled with their natural hair compared to if they had an install.
@@h3tur Yes! I’ve been guilty in the past of this…. I have complete freedom now with my locs. Best decision I ever made. I wish black women would take the time to really love on, nurture and grow our natural crowns!
I had one chick tell me that I had low self esteem and she wore wigs 99% of the time while I rocked my natural hair. She even mentioned that she appreciates her man for living her when she doesn’t look cute. Meaning without wigs and makeup. Um that’s how you really look sis! You’re telling on yourself! Oh and btw she’s not a bad looking girl at all!
@ of course not when used in moderation. But I don’t appreciate a chronic lace front wearer calling me “boring” or telling me my self esteem if low when she doesn’t feel cute unless she has a wig and a beat face. And like I stated before, she’s not a bad looking woman! I thinks she really pretty!
This woman makes a lot of sense. Black women spend billions on wigs and extentions. I know women who actually sleep in their wigs. I also know women who never wear their own hair. Low self-esteem may be the issue.
@justme2272 No. All your self-esteem is not about hair, but if you love your hair, you are less likely to cover it up under a wig. In contrast, when you are having a bad hair day, it affects your self-esteem and lowers your confidence for that day.
Sleeping in wigs is wild and @justme no one is saying our self esteem is only in our hair but it plays a huge role in the way a woman of all races feel about themselves and their beauty🤎
“Normalize not listening to black women who won’t wear their natural hair online”…. I think I’m going to follow this advice. But I’ll give exception to weave extensions that match her texture
Yep ive been saying that about lace fronts since they came out. Basically i refuse to take advice from a woman who walks around with an obviously fake hairline/parting/texture. How am i supposed to take you serious if you dont. And not to mention how distracting it is.
I agree. I believe we look the best and real with our natural hair. I wore a wig one time years ago and felt so uncomfortable. After all the relaxing I feel better wearing my natural hair for now 10 years. I get a lot of compliments for my kinky gray natural hair from both men and women, young and old. I try to be an example to my daughter and granddaughters to embrace our God-given unique beauty.
Stop this hair narrative hair ain plastic surgery if your ugly your ugly if your pretty your pretty hair only makes slight difference in appearance why everyone is so obsessed
5:05 I felt this part so hard. My mom is always wearing wigs or hella tight braids. She always hated natural hair. I had relaxed hair all my life but when I cut it she went mad. She called me crazy and said that my hair is ugly and it will never grow again. She was always telling me it stank and I was doing too much. A few years later all her friends are LOVING my hair and asking me what I'm doing to get my hair this "beautiful". But it was so hard seeing nobody with my hair's texture, being clowned for wearing my natural hair and being told that I should relaxe again or wear wigs
I use to support them when they said it’s protective hairstyle. But after all these years , why are some of these girlies on YT over the last decade who wear nothing but wigs ARE BALD . I’m sorry , especially those UK girlies.
@@biancalord488 This! That’s because you take care of your hair , after your protective style. These girlies neglect theirs because they soley depend on wigs . Some have zero , I mean zero knowledge on how to care for black hair . Only their 26inch Brazilian Wave , is what they can care for. I’ve been holding this in for so long . Like girl why is your hair the same length it’s been 10 years under that wig . It shows you don’t like your own natural hair , I’m sorry .
I live in the UK, wigs have them in a chokehold over here....I rotate my styles and I get the most compliments on my natural styles even if I wear kinky extensions. I don't know what it is because I was raised in the Caribbean so I'm used to seeing and wearing my natural hair and everyone around me's natural hair. However living in the UK, I met few black women who wore their natural hair. Relaxer, press, braids, straight or wavy or curly weave or wigs. That's it. I had kinky twist extensions and a lot of people (of all races) were coming up to me saying they loved my hair and asking questions about it. I had a fro-hawk last year with bleach blond highlights and a half fade with designs. People loved my hair then too because few black women wear their hair like that in London, one of the fashion capitals of the world!
Before I was married and had my daughter, I used to run to the stylist and drop hundreds of dollars every month getting back to back hair weaves. The weaves ruined my hair and left me with permanent thinning. Now that I am older, married and consider my daughter when making decisions, I literally can’t bring myself to wear anymore wigs or weaves. I would be doing a disservice to my daughter if she didn’t see me wearing my own hair. Plus, I have nieces that look up to me and I have a responsibility to show them that their own hair is beautiful. Nowadays, I keep my hair cut short in a cute pixie cut and I love it!! There’s nothing like natural hair!
I began seeing it as an issue in our community when women and girls started wearing lace front wigs. I think it looks like clownery, and people are laughing at it. The “baby hair”detached from the wig which starts in the middle of the forehead is also ridiculous. I can’t wait until this lacefront trend goes away! I do understand that some people have alopecia and other illnesses which take out hair, but there are wigs that look less like costumes that can be worn.
Wigs took my mother's hair out in the '60s and '70s in England...now wigs, gel and edge control are attacking my sibling's edges in America. I wear wigs.....I wear them 24 days out of 365! I wear Kinky twist extensions 12 weeks out of 52. I spoke to my trichologists and my stylists and they finally told me what to do and what not to do with my hair and scalp and extensions, wigs and straightening are not it for me on a regular basis! I wear my afro, flat twists, twists, finger coils, 2 or 3 french braids or a silk or satin headscarf/head wrap. I remember when wigs and weaves and presses were a special occasion thing...now the girlies wear them every day without a break as a status symbol because they have "cash to flash". They are cosplaying as celebrities but even celebrities have a breaking point.
I would like to add as a member of Gen Z, a lot of teenage girls and young adult women (16-21) prefer to wear wigs and weaves because they think it looks nicer and makes them look like a “baddie”. Gen Z especially are obsessed with trying to look like an “aesthetic”. A very popular aesthetic among young black girls is the “Instagram model” or “baddie” aesthetic.
@@shellygarland8766 But the most popular black women in the United States do not wear their natural hair. Neither do they in the UK. and well in Nigeria we had that lady say do not bring your natural hair to her event so....that tells me all I need to know.
3:05 This. They don't want to be corrected. They don't want to have a discussion about it. They want to derail, make false equivalencies, and then cry "why are we always being policed?" and "just let us do what we want". First of all, no one is stopping nor policing you, but it has to be said. It needs to be said. It needs to be discussed until this changes. Until then, it will always be a valid topic of discussion.
One of the biggest false equivalences being that "White Women wear weave and wigs too". First of all, most WW wear some form of extensions, not weave or wigs. They are not braiding up their hair and putting a wig cap over it and then putting hair on top of that or sewing hair onto their scalp. Secondly, they wear extensions that MATCH their own TEXTURE. You will never catch a WW hiding her natural hair from the world so she can put afro hair on top of her head. It isn't even remotely similar to what BW do.
She was on point...we need more emphasis on how this is harmful to the young girls. I also think the braiding is a problem because most make th braids to resemble long straight hair. On top of the fact that it pulls too much on the hair follicles and the plastics in the hair is bad for our endocrine system and are not biodegradable so they are polluting the earth. No matter how much you wash and soak the hair in vinegar it is still a toxic material.
90s and early 2k braids were completely Afrocentric which honestly looked better than these knotless bohemian braids and stitch bohemian corn rolls we rock today. What is the obsession with wanting to be biracial? It’s truly a sickness
I agree 100% I was tucking my natural unprocessed hair for 4yrs. I cut all my hair off to start over I’ve been wearing twist outs for the past 4 months. I looked in the mirror one day and said this is a mental illness and started doing my hair weekly now.
Also we are at fault for pushing our own insecurities online. With algorithms you can train them to show you empowering content. I rarely see anything but coily or kinky hair plus rarely engage in content that doesn’t serve my self esteem
Finally, something of substance and sense on UA-cam This NEEDS discussing Unfortunately, we are so resistant to even discourse on this topic Folks seem to prefer lies to truth 'Natural' nor '4c' is NOT a trend nor should it be treated as a fashion choice-It's your REAL YOU! We are FAR gone Thank you for this
My mother did not wear wigs but she had a relaxer. She once said to me and I quote “Don’t you want to your hair to swing like them white girls?” I decided at the tender age of 15 that I was going to wear my hair as it grows out of my scalp. That was the year 2000. I had to figure it out. I raised my daughter to love her hair. She loves herself. That gives me tremendous pride.
It does need to stop. It doesn't even look good or natural. It looks exactly like what it is; a wig on top of their head. Lol For some black women, wigs make them look rough.
even though I think BW should be able to wear whatever they want i am tired of the wigs too. I realized it when I went to church (a big church by the way) and BW from the young to old mostly all had wigs and fake hair on. When I went to a black function and most of the women had in braids,weave and wigs. Thats when I knew it was bad
@@Brandiisbeloved even at an African church I felt like a lost unicorn wearing my hair out 😂 at least they didn’t necessarily look at me sideways, but everyone was either relaxed, in tight braids, etc 😅
That's your opinion an ur free to that but women an people are free to do as they please alot of men an women who have long hair wear protective styles that's literally what makes the hair grow
There’s a difference between dependency and choice. I believe that difference is observable in the frequency that wigs are/are not worn, not just what an individual claims. Where there is dependency is almost always a missed opportunity to care for your real hair. Where there’s dependency is almost always some lack of self-esteem. Where there is dependency, there’s almost always significant damage happening at the scalp. That’s what I’ve observed with everyone I’ve interacted with or spoken to about wigs and weaves. Exceptions are few and far between. Just my experience.
Neglect is a smell and I smell it most often on people wearing long term protective styles in general. Wigs are no exception. That’s why I can’t believe everyone that tells me they’re not dependent-it should be evident that you’re not.
No lies coffee cutie And the whole thing about the youth seeing it is very true I was fortunate to have my parents in my life and my black bald dad went out of his way to compliment my natural hair all the time to this day my mom is a straight natural needless so say she didn’t but he reinforced it. Kids imitate what they see and do more of what they are celebrated for I go out of my way to compliment any black girl with her real hair styled or unstyled
It's not just about what goes on in the household. Most children are around their peers more so than they are around their parents. It's also about the culture and what the culture teaches.
That’s so awesome and I agree we definitely have to teach our children how to interact in different environments as well…especially in places where coily natural hair may not be the standard 🤎
She’s 💯% right, I stopped wearing wigs in March of this year however I don’t like how ppl continue to act like they don’t know why bw been doing this for years now. It’s been beat in us ppl don’t prefer us period no matter what we look like straight, blonde, real or fake hair. This of course has taken a toll on bw, some more than others. It seems like ppl talk down on bw about this but never try to understand why is this occurring only within us? Bc we’re the only race being told we aren’t beautiful as who we are. We know bw aren’t the beauty standard, and I personally think that for those bw that still wear wigs they just want to be desired like other races of women. We want to be seen. We want to be chosen
Being loved starts within.. I used to feel real down on myself seeing all those black dudes in the 2010s titled "why I don't date black women" or "I hate black women". That affected my self esteem and my reality and being left behind for someone non black. I went on searching for love outside of myself and never got it, until I realized that I have to love me and see the beauty within me before anyone can see the same. I still struggle with my hair, it's literally the last hump of insecurity Im really trying to let go of. But I went natural in 2011 but never fully accepted my hair without throwing a wig on it. But I have freeform dreads now that I started 2 months ago. I think they're cute but I'm afraid of what they look like when they get longer but I'm willing to accept my hair regardless if it's considered beautiful and socially acceptable to the world. Kuz like I said early, I'd have to love my hair first as it is truly. I wanted "neat" manicured locs but I knew that was just me trying to fit the mold. I'm choosing to be unacceptable and go against the beauty standard by creating my own. The truth is, they're jealous of us and they wish they were us. And like a bully, they tell you lies to make you believe you're deserving of the bad treatment. When they're the ones with the lowest self esteem
@@JesusLovesEVERYTHING I do realize ppl just pick on us, we are the original mothers of the earth I know that and they try to gaslight us. I agree with u that we have to take that self love journey within ourselves and it shouldn’t matter what anyone else thinks but being in a world like this that constantly makes it seems like everyone is against u, it does make me wonder sometimes
A lot of people call it self hate but is it also self hate when biracial women constantly wear their hair straight instead of curly to appeal to their other side and to increase their chances of white passing. Hence, Meghan Markle who has expressed that she gets keratin treatments because her naturally curly hair is just too much to manage. And I know someone is going to say well we aren’t talking about them. Which I understand but a lot of biracial women identify as Black and are in Black spaces. I just mentioned that because some have stated why are Black women straightening their natural hair and it’s questionable why are we the only ones that are condemned. To be honest that should be applied across the board to any ethnicity with naturally textured hair.
Hmm.. this is an interesting analysis. I think a lot of Black women are just hard on one another. Because you’re right! Every community has its insecurities. The thing is I believe a lot of them just don’t criticize or call them out as much like we do.
I see where she’s coming from. However, I would think that her being a Black woman would understand what other Black women have to go through in this world. Every time I scroll on Twitter I come across a bunch of trolls arguing with others telling Black women that they look like men with their natural hair, making fun of their hair texture, saying it looks “unkempt,” etc. It feels like the world is constantly gaslighting Black women and unfortunately I think some Black women participate in it as well. Society needs to learn to accept all hair textures and not just the type 3’s or silky 4a’s and super long 4c hair. But the big, full, and thick short 4c hair. Until then some women are going to continuously do what they have to do to survive. But let’s not act like a certain hair texture isn’t condemned that grows out of Black women’s scalp.
Listen it’s not the texture. It’s the style. Like for example if you follow this channel I said the news reporter hair looked unkempt and people took it as me saying natural hair is unkempt when that’s not what I meant. The way she wore it was unkempt. And they definitely make 4c hair extensions. If you can wear the silky straight you can wear your texture wigs. The world we live in is going to show preference to long hair. You can either play the game to win or we can keep doing what we’re doing
@ I can’t speak directly for women with 4c hair because that’s not my hair texture. However, just from growing up I’ve seen how people would treat me and compliment my natural hair versus someone who has a kinkier texture. A lot of people don’t want to talk about that. Texturism!
@@foreverthatgirl I’m not but I’m speaking from experience so we’re not constantly out here sounding victims with inferiority complexes. But if that’s the plight yall choosing then so be it
I just saw a video of a little girl and her mother doing the "We Don't Judge" challenge. In it, the child tells the mom that the latter looks better with wigs or long braids, and that the mom's natural hair in cornrows looks bad. A quick glance at their page showed me where the child got that message.
Based off the comment we also have to realized that this is a fight that we are more than likely not going to win. So many people are spiritually tied to wigs at this point and they don’t want to hear the truth. The damage is done.
Nothing wrong with it but alot of men an women who have long hair understand that protective styles actually grow the hair sn that's the ultimate goals is to have full long if not healthy hair. But people wear weaves an wigs I don't see the issue with it they just may wanna go for a different look an may not want heat damage or chemicals in their head ya know but to say it's self hate is beyond me cause most women I know who wear wigs have a head full of hair they just want growth
@ ok, what wrong with a single braid with your own hair? or 2 braids? my point is, bw for some reason always feel the need to have some glamorous hairstyle instead of just wearing their hair like a normal human being like everyone else. and stop the cap. People who have a headful of hair, that never wear their hair out, and always has it hidden under weaves or not so protective styles, either hate their hair, or they don't know how to do their hair, or maintain it on a daily basis. Talking about heat damage is a copout. You don't have to use heat to maintain your hair. you can learn how to use heat so it wont damage your hair, etc. you dont need wigs/weaves/added hair to "grow" hair.
The entire top of my mother's head is bald to the scalp. She has sisterlocks to her waist around the edges and in the back, but nothing on top. This is from a lifetime of wearing wigs and high ponytails. I personally hate seeing eurocentric wigs on black women. But then it is seriously none of my business so I keep it pushing.
She actually made some true facts in my opinion. Before I looked at this I saw yet another video short of someone going off about how they hate their natural hair. You can put whatever you want on your head but whatever it is requires maintenance and you have to deal with your natural hair. JMO
I work in customer service and the way black women would rather have a crusty, crazy looking wig or weave is embarrassing. Even putting it on the little girls...smh
Good for you. And locks are not permanent. My hair naturally matts due to having straight & kinky hair texture woven together. To separate my locks I use lots of oil.
@ctay4sho09 Thank you so much, and I am sending the love right back! This is a huge step for me in my natural journey. How have things been going for you? Do you have any tips?
@@janaem2282 I use African pride moisture miracle oil. It has castor oil, grapeseed oil, argon oil , coconut, and olive oil mixed into one. It has a nice slip. I usually saturate my hair overnight once a week with a moisturizing cap.
I agree with a few of her talking points. However, I always pause whenever someone says they are not wearing their natural hair texture whenever they wear a wig. I’m starting to think that a lot of Black people believe that only a certain aesthetic of women have 4c hair. And that thinking could be very problematic. Because I think a lot of times people are subconsciously trying to match a specific curl pattern to a specific look of a black woman. For example, a lighter skinned woman with 3c hair. And a darker skinned woman with 4c hair. When that’s not always the case. Skin complexion doesn’t dictate hair texture.
Sure. Personally I'm just annoyed at people constantly saying 4c. Just say type 4. Most black people do have type 4 hair. I don't have 4c. Every black person doesn't have 4c hair. But most black women that wear wigs in general regardless of skin tone wear straight hair. Like at least wear curly hair. At the very least.
@@LethalLemonLime Most Black people don’t even have 4c hair the way they think that they do! I understand what you’re saying but you have to remember Black people have the most versatile hair. They can wear it curly then also straighten it compared to white women who most of the time can’t even hold a curl unless they force it by using 12 different mouses and gels. A lot of this seems like a regional thing as well and where you are located. In the DMV you see more Black women wearing their natural hair, and silk presses. I can’t speak for others places.
I worked with someone that seemed to think her wig was her actual hair because she was criticizing my wearing box braids. I was like but you’re wearing a wig? 🤔
I find it so odd that women with type 4a or looser curls are at the forefront of natural beauty with be like a woman with perfect skin and a size 6 being the poster of body positivity.
That point is not lost on me but I shared because I agreed with the message but I definitely would like women of darker skin tones and coily hair to share their experiences as well🤎
That clip was raw and real. Too many of us can relate to not learning how to love our hair from our upbringing. I’ve been natural for 10 years, have countless talks with my mom about hair and all its lovely facets. She still calls hair of the looser pattern “good hair”. For some, the illness of hating our and their Coily hair will never change. And that’s the sad truth.
I agree. I’m 33 and my mother made out my hair was the devil all I remember her saying about my hair is it’s nappy, tough, dry etc but when I was older I realised it wasn’t… I didn’t relax my hair like she did and I let it do it’s thing. Up until today she hates the hair she gave me… none of my sisters hair is like mine they have probably some sort of 3 or 4a due to my father having a loose hair texture however both black and she treated me differently because I have 4c hair, laugh at my hair etc… this is deeply engraved in black people and it’s sad. I’m just glad we are speaking up and out about this!
I can understand both sides of the coin. But I do think that a lot of times natural hair can make Black women look so much younger than what they are. And some might say “well isn’t that a good thing.” Not always. Especially if you’re working in corporate, management positions, etc you want to be taken seriously. And we all should know that people already don’t respect kids, teens, or someone who they think are much younger than them.
I can see that but coily hair is so versatile I’ll rather change the style versus wearing a wig to be taken more seriously…I feel it gives off the message that you conformed to their beauty standards versus your own🤎
I just think it’s the texture part of the wig and the weaves. I don’t think it’s the weave itself I have no problem with any black woman doing what she wants with her hair, but I do agree we should wear weave that matches our hair texture. I wear weave that matches my hair texture. That’s why nobody can never tell if I have a Weave or not, and that’s the point of not being able to tell now black women who wear weaves that don’t match their hair textures I do agree they have self hate because if you know our hair versatile then what’s stopping you from buying Kinky straight or Yaki straight hair if you want a straight look, and then your hair is curly you can define your curls so why do you gotta buy water wave Brazilian?
@@CoffeeCuties777 do a video on how the world played in our face saying our hair wasn’t good enough to be in the media and we could only uncover our hair on Sunday. This world did a number on some of us to hate our hair and our color of our skin.
I have loc and I love both weave and locs (semi free form) for me I enjoy the switch up , now I don’t make my hair my personality. Having locs or Afro can be versatile, but I don’t like the same style all the time. I do both
I tried wearing a lace front …but I have oily skin, there wasn’t enough glue to keep that wig down lol … the wind nearly blew it off my head 😂… embrassing… never again … it only took that one time …for me to be like yeah this ain’t it …. Guys really don’t care about hair … at all …
Your point on the female 'extras' was 💯, you were clear but I think you were trying to be sensitive 🤭. The infiltration of gay behaviours and aesthetics into black womanhood is definitely an issue that is undermining black womanhood, it's good for the gays because we're blurring the lines between our authentic womanhood and their cos-play.
I totally agree. In my opinion, black women embrace the gay/transgender community more often than any other race of women, which speaks to why most gay/transgender, men in particular, feel they have this kindred connection with black women. Black women are who most of their aesthetic and mannerisms come from. The problem with this is bc they are men, they have to create the softness of feminine features with the illusion of makeup. Lots of makeup. Some black women, mimic this look, which gives them the opposite appearance. It hardens their features. The middle ground for both parties is that gay/ transgender men appear more feminine and black women appear more masculine, hence they look alike. I would never want to resemble a man or manly in any way. We don’t need all of the illusions. A more natural beat is so much better, in my opinion of course.
Black Transwoman and black women definitely go for the baddie esthetic. (Not all of course) I hear what you saying! And the modern day makeup is very drag vibes. It all started with makeup UA-cam and Kim Kardashian’s contouring bringing drag makeup onto the mainstream.
I’m glad you feel where I’m coming from and I agree about the Kardashians and makeup UA-cam playing a role in bringing it mainstream…I’ll also say people like Black Chyna, Nicki Minaj etc
I think it is more about the texture than the wig it self Like wearing afro textures don’t scream insecure because you’re still embracing how your hair look
I wear wigs because I like the colors and styles. I'm an Alt Blk girl and I like anime. I wear what I want. And what I buy fits my personality. My hair will never look like a rainbow unicorn and I don't plan it to be. I have many different kinds of wigs including cotton candy pink 4c and a 4a unit. I will never add color to my hair nor use a straightener because that's not what it's meant to be. So I get a wig. I do twist outs and jumbo braids (no hair added). My natural hair is arm pit length. My home girl who does my hair sometimes has asked me "how do u get ur edges so thick?". I told her I only get my hair professionally done once every two years. Otherwise I just twist it up and leave it alone. Natural hair is not "hard to manage". You wash it. Apply blue magic or sulfur 8 on the scalp. Shea butter mixed with oils on the ends to protect them. The end 😂😂 People trying turn their hair 1B 4c hair into their wigs 1a 613 and then wonder why they don't have hair or claim natural hair so hard. It will never be a 613. It will never be 1a. Gotta accept that. I also refuse to use glue because it removes your edges. I'll put a head band on with lacefronts. If you like wigs, that's the best advice I can give u.
Thanks for sharing and so many great points using weave and wigs that match your hair texture for versatility is one thing dependency is another story 🤎🤎
Some wearing wigs do have self-esteem issues. Issues that stem from constant Societal indoctrination to Hate 4c texture. Alter & or hide it to appease those in Systems of society who's decisions did & or can affect livelihoods. However, on the other side are females who thoroughly love their hair and wear wigs because they like varying styles.
I don’t wear wigs but I do have a question. So just asking, what about the women who wear wigs that actually have long beautiful hair sometimes longer than the wig but they choose to wear wigs for hairstyles they can’t wear like a bob or they don’t want to put heat on their natural long hair. What about those women?
I don’t know if anyone is in the hair industry but I’ve been working in white salons most of my career and most of these women are wearing clips in and bleaching their hair to be blonde. Now they are even beginning to wear lace front wigs but of course no one is going to think that it’s fake because a lot of people subconsciously believe it’s theirs because they are white. And I know someone is going to say they are mimicking their hair texture so it’s different. Not necessarily because we have white women who come in with the most finest and thinnest hair and snap in clips in that are too thick for their texture.
Thanks for sharing your perspective as someone who works in salons…personally I still think it’s different because they are simply changes thickness not texture 🤎
It’s been some black women with kinky clip ins that match their texture and I couldn’t tell it was fake. If you want the same advantage as those ww just wear weaves that blend with your natural leave out
My MIL went to a stylist who refused to ever show her natural hair. She didn’t want to take care of it. I can’t imagine. My has worn wigs and pieces because of alopecia she developed when she was young. I don’t blame her for not teaching me about hair, I have older sisters. But to feel like you are not feminine or not whole as a woman without a wig is so sad to me.
Yes if being natural is affecting your overall peace and well being despite coily hair being the beauty standard on my channel I would always recommend doing what brings you peace. I personally feel like if wigs or weaves work best for you atleast let them match your hair texture🤎
@@nmhoskins A lot of black women feel this way because they don’t want to look at themselves in the mirror and make that change so it’s disguised as “belittling”. We should get back to loving ourselves. ❤
That's like with makeup too....I feel a lil bougie when I have on make-up lol but that's the point. I don't wear make-up every day. I definitely don't wear wigs every day either but I understand the dependency; its vanity. I love box braids, Senegalese twist, crochet styles etc because I can still itch and grease my scalp lol wigs to me are for occasions n I be ready to take it off immediately 😂
I am going to take my hair extension course in 2025, I don't want to hear anything from anyone! Black woman can wear their hair and hair extensions and love them both! Its easy for women to speak like that also when they don't have hair and scalp problems. When other races of women are bleaching their hair, adding tape ins, micro rings and halo hair extensions, is anyone saying anything to them? When I wore my short 4C hair for 5 years straight, did black people compliment or tear me down? Guess which one! I will do what ever I want, especially as a professional hairdresser.
I’m not other races and I don’t compare myself to them. They get high off of ys wearing what resembles THEIR hair. Nah, I’m doing natural for myself and my future daughters
Why are y'all always bringing up other races of women? 🙄 It's such a lazy response. Clearly if you have health issues, no one is talking to you. However, wigs may be making your health issues worse but that's between you and your dermatologist. Lastly, how do you know what other races of women are discussing when it comes to their hair? Other races of women aren't wearing a head full of hair that looks the opposite of their natural hair. Other races of women don't brag about wearing human hair that was shaved off of a woman's head in Asia. There is something serious sick about that.
The difference is that other races of women aren’t mostly wearing full wigs to cover their hair. They are also not wearing Afro texture extensions. They wear extensions that match their hair texture. Blacks rarely wear our hair texture weave.
We wear out traditional African Caribbean styles too! Braids, locs and twists. Natural textures: We wear afros puffs and sew in too. Wash and go. Again, when a person has no hair or scalp problems. When their hair is long and thick, it's easy to talk like this!!!
I'm natural. But I don't care what someone else has on their head... You don't know what people are going through.. and just because you have a head full of hair doesn't mean you don't have other deep rooted insecurities. If you don't like someones physical appearance just be quiet because that has nothing to do with you. And yes I have a auntie with cancer and a friend with hair down to her butt and I got a bald headed cousin and a gay employee and they all wear wigs. So what?
This video is not about people dealing with illnesses …this video is addressing the hair Dysmorphia and texturism within the black community that has been a problem for decades now. Wearing wigs for versatility is one thing but dependency can be a sign of mental illness and needs to be addressed 🤎
I agree with her mostly but as long as women feel they can go farther (especially influencers), attract more ninjas, shrink their forehead, and adhere to a global beauty standard (generally) of long straight hair their gonna keep doing the same things. Relaxer, straight naturals, and wig girlies alike. Wigs especially because people are making money doing reviews/promoting different wigs. I follow 2 people who RESELL wigs. Im speaking from a perspective of a medium brown skin woman with high density hair and this woman being fair skinned also wouldnt know whats its like for a dark skin woman with fine low density, coily hair🤷🏾♀️
I have been getting other races asking me how to get a 90s blow out like mines.. i told them Its called a silk press. I ditched me wigs a few months ago because my hair grew back. I had to shave my head and start over from bad relaxers in 2021. 2024 I have bra strap length hair and it’s big and beautiful hair. Just blows in the wind. So I used the wigs until my hair grew back. I’m free now❤ no relaxers ever
People act like during their generation was so so long ago. Stop it. We only live for about 80 years. And during that time things change. I’m sure the Gen X ers did different things than the generation before them. I like the versatility of wearing my own hair and wigs. It’s up to that specific person.
I also will say when it comes down to make-up and lashes it’s not about getting it done. It’s about how it’s done you can have a full face of makeup, and it looks soft in the same way that you could have a full face of makeup and it looks heavy. and the same sense that you could have very little makeup on and the make up application looks crazy. I think it’s not fair to biological women to constantly be compared and accused of trying to look like women who aren’t biologically women all in the name of arguing for women to not wear make up all the time.
I agree. Makeup and lashes can look presentable and girly and elegant. However, my comment was pointing out how many black women go for the exaggerated look and as a result some of us end up looking like drag queens and trans women because many trans women and drag queens exaggerate their looks to come off as more feminine. A few months ago black women were mad at Kai cenat and druski because they accused a biological black woman of being a trans woman but if you go back and look at how that woman looked, she did look like a trans woman because she was so over done.
Wigs to me are more like eyelid tape than makeup. Some people consider eyelid tape makeup. This might be a cross cultural example so idk if you will get it (I live in East Asia) but basically this tape is used to change your eye shape + make your lids look double instead of getting surgery. Makeup in general isn't going to change a racial feature. Like unless you're doing white chicks make up with prosthetics and white foundation or something you're still gonna have your natural black features. However most wigs black women wear do not enhance their black features but change them. And yes, our hair is a phenotype. So no, I don't think it's the same as makeup.
I do wear my 4C hair but sometimes I need a break. People don't know how much time consuming wearing that type of hair can be. She does not pay my bill. She cannot tell me what or what not to wear i only wear textures that look like my foresee hair. As well, I don't wear this straight stringy stuff plus I protect my edges. I work stuff around my edges, when i'm wearing a wig, my edge is so good.
@CoffeeCuties777 i love wearing my natural hair because I get too hot with wigs sometimes. That's why I do wear my natural hair most of the time. Plus you have to be very careful in protecting your hair when you are a wig. Because they can also break your hair off if not careful. 👍🏽
Ya’ll do realize women of other races wear hair extensions too, right? Why don’t people want BW to have that option? Also, our naturally textured hair straightens beautifully, so straight hair is an option for BW as well. Nobody is gonna change how they choose to wear their hair or live their life based on the natural hair community’s opinion of who has high and low self esteem. Live and let live.
Can we stop lying to ourselves for once and admit most Black women hate their hair. Other races, if they get weave, get weave that mimics their own texture. Our hair is not naturally straight. We have to do alot to make it straight and keep it straight. You think thats normal?
Girl, our dependency on fake hair is on a different game. You know that. I don’t mind fake hair, but let’s also have honest conversations about this topic.
As someone who wears wigs it has nothing to do with having low self esteem. My wigs are an accessory because at the end of the day I’ll rock my natural short cut proudly too. It’s really none of your business what people do with their hair. You’re not paying for it and you don’t know these people. Let people do what makes them happy and y’all do what makes yall happy and go about your day. 💕
If you’re comfortable wearing your real hair and simply wear wigs for versatility that’s one thing and though this page centers coily hair at the end of the day bw are free to do as they please but if you can’t look at yourself and the mirror and feel comfortable and confident without a wig their maybe a bigger issue that needs to be discussed because so many black women suffer from hair Dysmorphia 🤎
@ this isn’t just a bw thing. All women do it. Which is why white women go platinum or get perms to change their texture. Or do keratin or Japanese straightening to make their hair straight and more manageable. Who’s to say a weave or wig can’t mimic black women’s hair when a good blow out or silk press can resemble Indian remy? Also, contrary to what the woman in the second video said, there are black women who are born blonde, it may not be platinum but even most ww aren’t naturally platinum. It’s rare. I just don’t think it’s right to diagnose a demographic with a mental illness due to what they decide to do with their appearance. At the end of the day it’s just hair(nails,lashes,makeup,etc) 🤷🏽♀️ it’s really not that deep.
Black women will always have ppl policing them and treating them like a child every other group can style and enhance them self except us white girls are dying their hair blonde it their not natural blonde and wearing extinction and they can be at peace black women cannot do anything
That’s like if someone had a pixie their whole life then decided to get a sew in . This lady would see that lady and be like self hate 😂smh. Even me I was curly natural until 27 then had locs for 3 years combed them out . Now I have a flat iron. Yes I will be getting a sew in soon DOESNT mean I hate my hair 😂 just tired of short hair and need a break
I think women who take time out of their day to be worried about what someone else is doing with their hair is insecure. Maybe mind your business 😂 especially us being black women. The hell?
This page is all about embracing coily natural hair as things such as texturism within the black community is a real thing so it’s definitely our business as black women🤎🤎
There are plenty of black women who wear their natural hair nobody else police 🚨 other groups of women that wear extensions look at white they are all blonde their hair nobody bother them if we wear locs it's a problem braids it's a problem weave it a problem dam!!! man it's just hair it ain surgery their is only slight changes in appearance with hair changes like Adriana lima straighten her hair or megan fox dye hers but if your ugly a wig can't save you leave ppl alone
How bothered do you have to be as a person to care if someone has a wig or not ? This is our problem we focus on shit that doesn’t even matter. White women wear wigs and they don’t tear down their own race like this. This gotta stop. It’s more important things going on in the world.
@@apinkheelI have natural red hair and I’ve always had an Afro. I recently cut my hair and I’ve have worn a shaved head , pixie cut and wigs. I wear whatever I want because I can 🤷🏽♀️.
This is about blk wmn who have low self esteem surrounding their natural hair. We shouldn't want that for us. Wigs should be an option not the 'only' option because we hate our natural hair.
Exactly, she’s a racially ambiguous preference. She does not represent/speak for me at all. She’s privileged speaking for women who cannot relate to her
Her hair is definitely not 4c not it looks like it maybe be 3c/4a mixture but regardless of her hair type I shared the video because I agreed with the talking points but I would love to have black women with 4c hair share their perspective as well to give more depth to the conversation. I also don’t consider her a “preference “ sue to being racially ambiguous because men are not the focus in my opinion when it comes to viewing yourself as a preference that confidence comes from within🤎
Shaving off your actual hair so u can wear a wig is diabolical work.
As a male hairstylist i never understood it if you have cancer ok I see why but just braid it an put tracks or a wig on but to shave off all the progress even if damaged you can still save alot of it but it's their freedom their choice.
I wonder if they do this once they've endured what they think is irrepararable damage? I've never heard of such a thing up until now.
I know 2 working moms who did this. It was just easier for them to wear a wig. My mom was a working mom who was never interested in wearing her natural hair or helping us two daughters wear our natural hair. We had to go and figure it out by ourselves.
It sure is. But luckily there are women like me, who are wearing our natural hair. So at least lil black girls can see true self confidence.
Right smh 🤦🏾♀️
My sister wore a wig to the ER. She had to get a cat scan done. About 5 nurses came in to calmly talk her in to taking off the wig. My sister removed it without hesitation. The nurses said they did not expect her to willingly take off the wig. They explained how most women leave the hospital when requested to remove the wig. Regardless of the medical emergency, most women do not want to remove the wig! Let that sink in... I agree that there is a disconnect...
wow! nope that would be coming off my head so fast!!
Wow, that's crazy!
Omg wow 😮 I’m at a loss for words😞
This is actually unsettling, imagine the internal dialogue that happens when they make the decision to leave.
@stallion9113 it is heartbreaking to hear this.
Our 5 year old ONLY sees me with my natural hair. I can not imagine me telling her that her hair is beautiful, and then I throw on a wig smh AND it's not even my texture. She loves her hair when we cuddle our fros touch, and the feeling is amazing. I can't explain it.. but it's just amazing.
That’s so sweet🤎🤎🥹🤎🤎🤎
This made me smile 🥹
Love this. I considered going natural for years. I was relaxing my hair back then. Once I had my daughter, I knew it was time. Beautiful story. ❤
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My daughter could only sleep if my natural hair would rub on her whe we cuddle. You can imagine her dismay when I got locs lol. She's use to them now, but at first she was shocked.
I’m an advocate for letting people do what they want. But I do agree that once some Black women take their wig off or sew in, etc the confidence isn’t the same. It’s as if some act more humbled with their natural hair compared to if they had an install.
Yes!
They're calling it "hair dysphoria"
dysmorphia * 🤔?
It should be diagnosed more
@@h3tur Yes! I’ve been guilty in the past of this…. I have complete freedom now with my locs. Best decision I ever made. I wish black women would take the time to really love on, nurture and grow our natural crowns!
@@h3tur I've heard both. Are they different? 🤔
I call it racial dysphoria.
I had one chick tell me that I had low self esteem and she wore wigs 99% of the time while I rocked my natural hair. She even mentioned that she appreciates her man for living her when she doesn’t look cute. Meaning without wigs and makeup. Um that’s how you really look sis! You’re telling on yourself! Oh and btw she’s not a bad looking girl at all!
So you're against wigs🤔
@ of course not when used in moderation. But I don’t appreciate a chronic lace front wearer calling me “boring” or telling me my self esteem if low when she doesn’t feel cute unless she has a wig and a beat face. And like I stated before, she’s not a bad looking woman! I thinks she really pretty!
Yeah sounds like she has a lot of negative views about herself in her natural state which is unfortunate 🤎
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This woman makes a lot of sense. Black women spend billions on wigs and extentions. I know women who actually sleep in their wigs. I also know women who never wear their own hair. Low self-esteem may be the issue.
So all your esteem is on yo head? 😂 that's wild the rest of yo body don't mean anything 😂.
Alexa 🗣play I am not my hair for all the very judgemental bw who think they have all the answers 😂
@justme2272 No. All your self-esteem is not about hair, but if you love your hair, you are less likely to cover it up under a wig. In contrast, when you are having a bad hair day, it affects your self-esteem and lowers your confidence for that day.
Sleeping in wigs is wild and @justme no one is saying our self esteem is only in our hair but it plays a huge role in the way a woman of all races feel about themselves and their beauty🤎
@@justme2272struck a nerve
“Normalize not listening to black women who won’t wear their natural hair online”…. I think I’m going to follow this advice. But I’ll give exception to weave extensions that match her texture
Yes same
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Yep ive been saying that about lace fronts since they came out. Basically i refuse to take advice from a woman who walks around with an obviously fake hairline/parting/texture. How am i supposed to take you serious if you dont. And not to mention how distracting it is.
Agreed
I agree. I believe we look the best and real with our natural hair. I wore a wig one time years ago and felt so uncomfortable. After all the relaxing I feel better wearing my natural hair for now 10 years. I get a lot of compliments for my kinky gray natural hair from both men and women, young and old. I try to be an example to my daughter and granddaughters to embrace our God-given unique beauty.
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Stop this hair narrative hair ain plastic surgery if your ugly your ugly if your pretty your pretty hair only makes slight difference in appearance why everyone is so obsessed
5:05 I felt this part so hard. My mom is always wearing wigs or hella tight braids. She always hated natural hair. I had relaxed hair all my life but when I cut it she went mad. She called me crazy and said that my hair is ugly and it will never grow again. She was always telling me it stank and I was doing too much. A few years later all her friends are LOVING my hair and asking me what I'm doing to get my hair this "beautiful". But it was so hard seeing nobody with my hair's texture, being clowned for wearing my natural hair and being told that I should relaxe again or wear wigs
I’m so sorry you had to experience that…I have a video on this topic next week so be sure to subscribe 🤎🤎🤎
I use to support them when they said it’s protective hairstyle. But after all these years , why are some of these girlies on YT over the last decade who wear nothing but wigs ARE BALD . I’m sorry , especially those UK girlies.
Always saying “i have thin edges” when its the whole perimeter of their head smh. I wonder why.
Agreed. I wish I could help. Cause wigs grew my hair from neck length to tailbone length in 4 years. Edges still in tact.
@@biancalord488 This! That’s because you take care of your hair , after your protective style. These girlies neglect theirs because they soley depend on wigs . Some have zero , I mean zero knowledge on how to care for black hair . Only their 26inch Brazilian Wave , is what they can care for. I’ve been holding this in for so long . Like girl why is your hair the same length it’s been 10 years under that wig . It shows you don’t like your own natural hair , I’m sorry .
I live in the UK, wigs have them in a chokehold over here....I rotate my styles and I get the most compliments on my natural styles even if I wear kinky extensions. I don't know what it is because I was raised in the Caribbean so I'm used to seeing and wearing my natural hair and everyone around me's natural hair. However living in the UK, I met few black women who wore their natural hair. Relaxer, press, braids, straight or wavy or curly weave or wigs. That's it. I had kinky twist extensions and a lot of people (of all races) were coming up to me saying they loved my hair and asking questions about it. I had a fro-hawk last year with bleach blond highlights and a half fade with designs. People loved my hair then too because few black women wear their hair like that in London, one of the fashion capitals of the world!
I’ve seen some bw with long hair installing weave. Which is completely weird. Why not just wear your own hair?
Before I was married and had my daughter, I used to run to the stylist and drop hundreds of dollars every month getting back to back hair weaves. The weaves ruined my hair and left me with permanent thinning. Now that I am older, married and consider my daughter when making decisions, I literally can’t bring myself to wear anymore wigs or weaves. I would be doing a disservice to my daughter if she didn’t see me wearing my own hair. Plus, I have nieces that look up to me and I have a responsibility to show them that their own hair is beautiful. Nowadays, I keep my hair cut short in a cute pixie cut and I love it!! There’s nothing like natural hair!
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I began seeing it as an issue in our community when women and girls started wearing lace front wigs. I think it looks like clownery, and people are laughing at it. The “baby hair”detached from the wig which starts in the middle of the forehead is also ridiculous. I can’t wait until this lacefront trend goes away! I do understand that some people have alopecia and other illnesses which take out hair, but there are wigs that look less like costumes that can be worn.
Wigs took my mother's hair out in the '60s and '70s in England...now wigs, gel and edge control are attacking my sibling's edges in America. I wear wigs.....I wear them 24 days out of 365! I wear Kinky twist extensions 12 weeks out of 52. I spoke to my trichologists and my stylists and they finally told me what to do and what not to do with my hair and scalp and extensions, wigs and straightening are not it for me on a regular basis! I wear my afro, flat twists, twists, finger coils, 2 or 3 french braids or a silk or satin headscarf/head wrap. I remember when wigs and weaves and presses were a special occasion thing...now the girlies wear them every day without a break as a status symbol because they have "cash to flash". They are cosplaying as celebrities but even celebrities have a breaking point.
@@marleyhill34, right! They have taken it to another level! It was never meant to be for everyday wear.
I completely agree🤎🤎🤎
I would like to add as a member of Gen Z, a lot of teenage girls and young adult women (16-21) prefer to wear wigs and weaves because they think it looks nicer and makes them look like a “baddie”. Gen Z especially are obsessed with trying to look like an “aesthetic”. A very popular aesthetic among young black girls is the “Instagram model” or “baddie” aesthetic.
They legit have the natural hair baddie aesthetic. If that your look of choice then cool: but do the natural version
@@jasminscarbrough2596there def are natural versions!
Brainwashed by social media...smh....
@@shellygarland8766 But the most popular black women in the United States do not wear their natural hair. Neither do they in the UK. and well in Nigeria we had that lady say do not bring your natural hair to her event so....that tells me all I need to know.
This! Everybody looking the same trying to bag an athlete with the IG aesthetic. 🤦🏻♀️
3:05 This. They don't want to be corrected. They don't want to have a discussion about it. They want to derail, make false equivalencies, and then cry "why are we always being policed?" and "just let us do what we want". First of all, no one is stopping nor policing you, but it has to be said. It needs to be said. It needs to be discussed until this changes. Until then, it will always be a valid topic of discussion.
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One of the biggest false equivalences being that "White Women wear weave and wigs too". First of all, most WW wear some form of extensions, not weave or wigs. They are not braiding up their hair and putting a wig cap over it and then putting hair on top of that or sewing hair onto their scalp. Secondly, they wear extensions that MATCH their own TEXTURE. You will never catch a WW hiding her natural hair from the world so she can put afro hair on top of her head. It isn't even remotely similar to what BW do.
I have to agree with her. I don’t even wear kinky wigs anymore. I made a commitment to nurture the hair God gave me.
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She was on point...we need more emphasis on how this is harmful to the young girls.
I also think the braiding is a problem because most make th braids to resemble long straight hair. On top of the fact that it pulls too much on the hair follicles and the plastics in the hair is bad for our endocrine system and are not biodegradable so they are polluting the earth. No matter how much you wash and soak the hair in vinegar it is still a toxic material.
I agree…I did a video about this on my channel a while back🤎
90s and early 2k braids were completely Afrocentric which honestly looked better than these knotless bohemian braids and stitch bohemian corn rolls we rock today. What is the obsession with wanting to be biracial? It’s truly a sickness
A white hair stylist that cut my hair into a bob suggested that I wear my hair natural most of the time to grow it out.
I agree 100% I was tucking my natural unprocessed hair for 4yrs. I cut all my hair off to start over I’ve been wearing twist outs for the past 4 months. I looked in the mirror one day and said this is a mental illness and started doing my hair weekly now.
That’s amazing you were able to notice it and make changes🤎🤎🤎
Also we are at fault for pushing our own insecurities online. With algorithms you can train them to show you empowering content. I rarely see anything but coily or kinky hair plus rarely engage in content that doesn’t serve my self esteem
I agree 💯 percent we definitely have full control of our algorithms and what type of content we choose to give our energy too🤎
Finally, something of substance and sense on UA-cam This NEEDS discussing
Unfortunately, we are so resistant to even discourse on this topic
Folks seem to prefer lies to truth
'Natural' nor '4c' is NOT a trend nor should it be treated as a fashion choice-It's your REAL YOU!
We are FAR gone
Thank you for this
I agree…thanks for watching 🤎🤎🤎
My mother did not wear wigs but she had a relaxer. She once said to me and I quote “Don’t you want to your hair to swing like them white girls?” I decided at the tender age of 15 that I was going to wear my hair as it grows out of my scalp. That was the year 2000. I had to figure it out. I raised my daughter to love her hair. She loves herself. That gives me tremendous pride.
Damn… I’m glad you broke the cycle
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I am so sick of seeing wigs and weave. When i say it people get angry but this shyt need to stop!!!
It does need to stop. It doesn't even look good or natural. It looks exactly like what it is; a wig on top of their head. Lol
For some black women, wigs make them look rough.
even though I think BW should be able to wear whatever they want i am tired of the wigs too. I realized it when I went to church (a big church by the way) and BW from the young to old mostly all had wigs and fake hair on. When I went to a black function and most of the women had in braids,weave and wigs. Thats when I knew it was bad
@@Brandiisbeloved even at an African church I felt like a lost unicorn wearing my hair out 😂 at least they didn’t necessarily look at me sideways, but everyone was either relaxed, in tight braids, etc 😅
That's your opinion an ur free to that but women an people are free to do as they please alot of men an women who have long hair wear protective styles that's literally what makes the hair grow
Why does what someone else wear bother you so much? Seek therapy hun
There’s a difference between dependency and choice.
I believe that difference is observable in the frequency that wigs are/are not worn, not just what an individual claims. Where there is dependency is almost always a missed opportunity to care for your real hair.
Where there’s dependency is almost always some lack of self-esteem.
Where there is dependency, there’s almost always significant damage happening at the scalp.
That’s what I’ve observed with everyone I’ve interacted with or spoken to about wigs and weaves. Exceptions are few and far between. Just my experience.
When I see many women lust over a wig that’s when I know we have problems
Definitely a difference between the two🤎🤎🤎
Shes right. No lies detected.
I mean… why does your hair need to be protected always? You don’t know how to take care of your hair, or you just don’t want to deal with it.
I have a view about this next week🤎
Neglect is a smell and I smell it most often on people wearing long term protective styles in general. Wigs are no exception. That’s why I can’t believe everyone that tells me they’re not dependent-it should be evident that you’re not.
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No lies coffee cutie
And the whole thing about the youth seeing it is very true
I was fortunate to have my parents in my life and my black bald dad went out of his way to compliment my natural hair all the time to this day my mom is a straight natural needless so say she didn’t but he reinforced it. Kids imitate what they see and do more of what they are celebrated for
I go out of my way to compliment any black girl with her real hair styled or unstyled
It's not just about what goes on in the household. Most children are around their peers more so than they are around their parents. It's also about the culture and what the culture teaches.
That’s so awesome and I agree we definitely have to teach our children how to interact in different environments as well…especially in places where coily natural hair may not be the standard 🤎
She’s 💯% right, I stopped wearing wigs in March of this year however I don’t like how ppl continue to act like they don’t know why bw been doing this for years now. It’s been beat in us ppl don’t prefer us period no matter what we look like straight, blonde, real or fake hair. This of course has taken a toll on bw, some more than others. It seems like ppl talk down on bw about this but never try to understand why is this occurring only within us? Bc we’re the only race being told we aren’t beautiful as who we are. We know bw aren’t the beauty standard, and I personally think that for those bw that still wear wigs they just want to be desired like other races of women. We want to be seen. We want to be chosen
Being loved starts within.. I used to feel real down on myself seeing all those black dudes in the 2010s titled "why I don't date black women" or "I hate black women". That affected my self esteem and my reality and being left behind for someone non black. I went on searching for love outside of myself and never got it, until I realized that I have to love me and see the beauty within me before anyone can see the same. I still struggle with my hair, it's literally the last hump of insecurity Im really trying to let go of. But I went natural in 2011 but never fully accepted my hair without throwing a wig on it. But I have freeform dreads now that I started 2 months ago. I think they're cute but I'm afraid of what they look like when they get longer but I'm willing to accept my hair regardless if it's considered beautiful and socially acceptable to the world. Kuz like I said early, I'd have to love my hair first as it is truly. I wanted "neat" manicured locs but I knew that was just me trying to fit the mold. I'm choosing to be unacceptable and go against the beauty standard by creating my own. The truth is, they're jealous of us and they wish they were us. And like a bully, they tell you lies to make you believe you're deserving of the bad treatment. When they're the ones with the lowest self esteem
@@JesusLovesEVERYTHING I do realize ppl just pick on us, we are the original mothers of the earth I know that and they try to gaslight us. I agree with u that we have to take that self love journey within ourselves and it shouldn’t matter what anyone else thinks but being in a world like this that constantly makes it seems like everyone is against u, it does make me wonder sometimes
Heal with mare has videos on this
@@favouro6344I have to check that out ✅
I completely agree with Jesusloveseverything and yes check out Heal with Mare…she’s awesome 🤎🤎🤎
A lot of people call it self hate but is it also self hate when biracial women constantly wear their hair straight instead of curly to appeal to their other side and to increase their chances of white passing. Hence, Meghan Markle who has expressed that she gets keratin treatments because her naturally curly hair is just too much to manage. And I know someone is going to say well we aren’t talking about them.
Which I understand but a lot of biracial women identify as Black and are in Black spaces. I just mentioned that because some have stated why are Black women straightening their natural hair and it’s questionable why are we the only ones that are condemned. To be honest that should be applied across the board to any ethnicity with naturally textured hair.
Hmm.. this is an interesting analysis. I think a lot of Black women are just hard on one another. Because you’re right! Every community has its insecurities. The thing is I believe a lot of them just don’t criticize or call them out as much like we do.
They are silent about this one
Mhm.. Nara Smith made it clear that she will NEVER wear her natural curls
kamala harris stay wearing them sleek presses 24/7
this is me unfortunately lol
I call weaves helmets.
hair hats 🤣
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It literally is though…
1st 5 min.. she ain’t lying. Message💯
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I see where she’s coming from. However, I would think that her being a Black woman would understand what other Black women have to go through in this world. Every time I scroll on Twitter I come across a bunch of trolls arguing with others telling Black women that they look like men with their natural hair, making fun of their hair texture, saying it looks “unkempt,” etc.
It feels like the world is constantly gaslighting Black women and unfortunately I think some Black women participate in it as well. Society needs to learn to accept all hair textures and not just the type 3’s or silky 4a’s and super long 4c hair. But the big, full, and thick short 4c hair. Until then some women are going to continuously do what they have to do to survive. But let’s not act like a certain hair texture isn’t condemned that grows out of Black women’s scalp.
Listen it’s not the texture. It’s the style. Like for example if you follow this channel I said the news reporter hair looked unkempt and people took it as me saying natural hair is unkempt when that’s not what I meant. The way she wore it was unkempt. And they definitely make 4c hair extensions. If you can wear the silky straight you can wear your texture wigs. The world we live in is going to show preference to long hair. You can either play the game to win or we can keep doing what we’re doing
@ I can’t speak directly for women with 4c hair because that’s not my hair texture. However, just from growing up I’ve seen how people would treat me and compliment my natural hair versus someone who has a kinkier texture. A lot of people don’t want to talk about that. Texturism!
@@foreverthatgirl it’s the styles. I have 4c hair . I’ve been loose natural, straight natural, and locs. I know what I’m talking about.
@@jasminscarbrough2596 Good for you! Love that for you! But you as “one person” are not the spoke person for everyone else neither am I.
@@foreverthatgirl I’m not but I’m speaking from experience so we’re not constantly out here sounding victims with inferiority complexes. But if that’s the plight yall choosing then so be it
I just saw a video of a little girl and her mother doing the "We Don't Judge" challenge. In it, the child tells the mom that the latter looks better with wigs or long braids, and that the mom's natural hair in cornrows looks bad. A quick glance at their page showed me where the child got that message.
Oh wow…can you email that to me if you can find it ….coffeecuties777@gmail.com🤎
Based off the comment we also have to realized that this is a fight that we are more than likely not going to win. So many people are spiritually tied to wigs at this point and they don’t want to hear the truth. The damage is done.
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Definitely low self esteem
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I need her to go viral
I agree…be sure to click the link in the description and show her love in her TikTok page🤎🤎🤎
Love that she told the whole truth no sugar coating!!
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@@CoffeeCuties777 hey coffee 😁👋🏾 hope you been good girly!
cause whats wrong with wearing your hair down, in a ponytail, cute clip, etc?
Nothing wrong with it but alot of men an women who have long hair understand that protective styles actually grow the hair sn that's the ultimate goals is to have full long if not healthy hair. But people wear weaves an wigs I don't see the issue with it they just may wanna go for a different look an may not want heat damage or chemicals in their head ya know but to say it's self hate is beyond me cause most women I know who wear wigs have a head full of hair they just want growth
@ ok, what wrong with a single braid with your own hair? or 2 braids? my point is, bw for some reason always feel the need to have some glamorous hairstyle instead of just wearing their hair like a normal human being like everyone else. and stop the cap. People who have a headful of hair, that never wear their hair out, and always has it hidden under weaves or not so protective styles, either hate their hair, or they don't know how to do their hair, or maintain it on a daily basis. Talking about heat damage is a copout. You don't have to use heat to maintain your hair. you can learn how to use heat so it wont damage your hair, etc. you dont need wigs/weaves/added hair to "grow" hair.
Now I'll wear a wig or extensions for special occasions or giving myself a break but hiding my hair 365 days is crazy
Yes versatility is one thing but dependency is another story 🤎
The entire top of my mother's head is bald to the scalp. She has sisterlocks to her waist around the edges and in the back, but nothing on top. This is from a lifetime of wearing wigs and high ponytails. I personally hate seeing eurocentric wigs on black women. But then it is seriously none of my business so I keep it pushing.
She actually made some true facts in my opinion. Before I looked at this I saw yet another video short of someone going off about how they hate their natural hair. You can put whatever you want on your head but whatever it is requires maintenance and you have to deal with your natural hair. JMO
I work in customer service and the way black women would rather have a crusty, crazy looking wig or weave is embarrassing. Even putting it on the little girls...smh
I’ve noticed that too unfortunately 😞
She isn't lying! This is why I will be loc'ing my hair in February.
Good for you. And locks are not permanent. My hair naturally matts due to having straight & kinky hair texture woven together. To separate my locks I use lots of oil.
@biancalord488 Thank you so much for letting me know! Do you have any oils that you recommend?
Sending love & support 🩵 in your future loc journey. I loc'd mine February 1st of this year using two strand twist. 😊
@ctay4sho09 Thank you so much, and I am sending the love right back! This is a huge step for me in my natural journey. How have things been going for you? Do you have any tips?
@@janaem2282 I use African pride moisture miracle oil. It has castor oil, grapeseed oil, argon oil , coconut, and olive oil mixed into one. It has a nice slip. I usually saturate my hair overnight once a week with a moisturizing cap.
The experiences of a 3a, 3b, 3C woman is different from a 4a, 4B 4C hair woman
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Yes I agree but the message still applies to both🤎🤎🤎
She is on point. I am trying to do different with my daughter nu being the example
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I agree with a few of her talking points. However, I always pause whenever someone says they are not wearing their natural hair texture whenever they wear a wig. I’m starting to think that a lot of Black people believe that only a certain aesthetic of women have 4c hair. And that thinking could be very problematic.
Because I think a lot of times people are subconsciously trying to match a specific curl pattern to a specific look of a black woman. For example, a lighter skinned woman with 3c hair. And a darker skinned woman with 4c hair. When that’s not always the case. Skin complexion doesn’t dictate hair texture.
Sure. Personally I'm just annoyed at people constantly saying 4c. Just say type 4. Most black people do have type 4 hair. I don't have 4c. Every black person doesn't have 4c hair. But most black women that wear wigs in general regardless of skin tone wear straight hair. Like at least wear curly hair. At the very least.
@@LethalLemonLime Most Black people don’t even have 4c hair the way they think that they do! I understand what you’re saying but you have to remember Black people have the most versatile hair. They can wear it curly then also straighten it compared to white women who most of the time can’t even hold a curl unless they force it by using 12 different mouses and gels. A lot of this seems like a regional thing as well and where you are located. In the DMV you see more Black women wearing their natural hair, and silk presses. I can’t speak for others places.
There are indian and other south Asian women with dark chocolate skin and naturally straight hair. Skin tone is not indicative of hair texture.
@ Is that not what I basically said.. where is it that I mentioned anything differently
@@far6311 that’s what they said.. so what are you talking about
I worked with someone that seemed to think her wig was her actual hair because she was criticizing my wearing box braids. I was like but you’re wearing a wig? 🤔
Wow 😮 smh 🤦🏾♀️
There are black women with long hair who "look like that" with a silk press. And human hair wigs do smell. Washing doesnt help.
The only thing I can say about the lady giving her opinion is that her perspective might be different based on her appearance and hair texture
I find it so odd that women with type 4a or looser curls are at the forefront of natural beauty with be like a woman with perfect skin and a size 6 being the poster of body positivity.
That point is not lost on me but I shared because I agreed with the message but I definitely would like women of darker skin tones and coily hair to share their experiences as well🤎
That looks like a braid out. 4c hair can definitely look that if that’s what you like
That clip was raw and real. Too many of us can relate to not learning how to love our hair from our upbringing. I’ve been natural for 10 years, have countless talks with my mom about hair and all its lovely facets. She still calls hair of the looser pattern “good hair”. For some, the illness of hating our and their Coily hair will never change. And that’s the sad truth.
Smh at good hair and one can only hope change is possible 🤎
I agree. I’m 33 and my mother made out my hair was the devil all I remember her saying about my hair is it’s nappy, tough, dry etc but when I was older I realised it wasn’t… I didn’t relax my hair like she did and I let it do it’s thing. Up until today she hates the hair she gave me… none of my sisters hair is like mine they have probably some sort of 3 or 4a due to my father having a loose hair texture however both black and she treated me differently because I have 4c hair, laugh at my hair etc… this is deeply engraved in black people and it’s sad. I’m just glad we are speaking up and out about this!
@miserablebeach Wow, I hate that happened to you. It’s the self hate inflicting hate towards others. It runs deep…😔
The same women will laugh at women who have four a, b, c hair woman. Do what you want but protect your natural hair
I can understand both sides of the coin. But I do think that a lot of times natural hair can make Black women look so much younger than what they are. And some might say “well isn’t that a good thing.” Not always. Especially if you’re working in corporate, management positions, etc you want to be taken seriously. And we all should know that people already don’t respect kids, teens, or someone who they think are much younger than them.
I can teach an old dog new tricks lol
I can see that but coily hair is so versatile I’ll rather change the style versus wearing a wig to be taken more seriously…I feel it gives off the message that you conformed to their beauty standards versus your own🤎
I just think it’s the texture part of the wig and the weaves. I don’t think it’s the weave itself I have no problem with any black woman doing what she wants with her hair, but I do agree we should wear weave that matches our hair texture. I wear weave that matches my hair texture. That’s why nobody can never tell if I have a Weave or not, and that’s the point of not being able to tell now black women who wear weaves that don’t match their hair textures I do agree they have self hate because if you know our hair versatile then what’s stopping you from buying Kinky straight or Yaki straight hair if you want a straight look, and then your hair is curly you can define your curls so why do you gotta buy water wave Brazilian?
I agree if you’re going to wear it atleast match your hair texture 🤎
Why is it anyone else’s business tho🤔
Because hair Dysmorphia is a real thing that affects many black women🤎
Black women are the only women that was stripped of our identity. But we are slowly becoming ourselves ❤❤❤
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@@CoffeeCuties777 do a video on how the world played in our face saying our hair wasn’t good enough to be in the media and we could only uncover our hair on Sunday. This world did a number on some of us to hate our hair and our color of our skin.
I have loc and I love both weave and locs (semi free form) for me I enjoy the switch up , now I don’t make my hair my personality. Having locs or Afro can be versatile, but I don’t like the same style all the time. I do both
I tried wearing a lace front …but I have oily skin, there wasn’t enough glue to keep that wig down lol … the wind nearly blew it off my head 😂… embrassing… never again … it only took that one time …for me to be like yeah this ain’t it …. Guys really don’t care about hair … at all …
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Your point on the female 'extras' was 💯, you were clear but I think you were trying to be sensitive 🤭. The infiltration of gay behaviours and aesthetics into black womanhood is definitely an issue that is undermining black womanhood, it's good for the gays because we're blurring the lines between our authentic womanhood and their cos-play.
I was lol 😂 I didn’t want to offend or get flagged lol 😂 but I’m glad you got my point🤎
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I totally agree. In my opinion, black women embrace the gay/transgender community more often than any other race of women, which speaks to why most gay/transgender, men in particular, feel they have this kindred connection with black women. Black women are who most of their aesthetic and mannerisms come from. The problem with this is bc they are men, they have to create the softness of feminine features with the illusion of makeup. Lots of makeup. Some black women, mimic this look, which gives them the opposite appearance. It hardens their features. The middle ground for both parties is that gay/ transgender men appear more feminine and black women appear more masculine, hence they look alike. I would never want to resemble a man or manly in any way. We don’t need all of the illusions. A more natural beat is so much better, in my opinion of course.
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Black Transwoman and black women definitely go for the baddie esthetic. (Not all of course) I hear what you saying! And the modern day makeup is very drag vibes. It all started with makeup UA-cam and Kim Kardashian’s contouring bringing drag makeup onto the mainstream.
I’m glad you feel where I’m coming from and I agree about the Kardashians and makeup UA-cam playing a role in bringing it mainstream…I’ll also say people like Black Chyna, Nicki Minaj etc
1:17 😂😂😂 I wear glueless wigs so I don’t have that problem
I’m glad you found what works for you…what are your thoughts on the overall message ?🤎🤎🤎
@ that women need to take care of their own hair under the wig 😅 there should be no reason why the edges are nonexistent because of a wig 🤣
I do both. Lets normalize it being OK to wear wigs. Her keep saying fair skinned means what?
Wearing wigs for versatility that matches your hair texture is one thing but dependency is definitely an issue🤎
In SO many WAYS IT is HONEST I FEEL Some What the same way
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Wow!! This is so shocking because it’s been something I’ve been saying for years!
Especially the big wigs and Ru Paul makeup. 😬🤷🏾♀️
Glad we’re on the same page🤎
I think it is more about the texture than the wig it self
Like wearing afro textures don’t scream insecure because you’re still embracing how your hair look
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I wear wigs because I like the colors and styles. I'm an Alt Blk girl and I like anime. I wear what I want. And what I buy fits my personality.
My hair will never look like a rainbow unicorn and I don't plan it to be. I have many different kinds of wigs including cotton candy pink 4c and a 4a unit. I will never add color to my hair nor use a straightener because that's not what it's meant to be. So I get a wig.
I do twist outs and jumbo braids (no hair added). My natural hair is arm pit length. My home girl who does my hair sometimes has asked me "how do u get ur edges so thick?". I told her I only get my hair professionally done once every two years. Otherwise I just twist it up and leave it alone.
Natural hair is not "hard to manage". You wash it. Apply blue magic or sulfur 8 on the scalp. Shea butter mixed with oils on the ends to protect them. The end 😂😂 People trying turn their hair 1B 4c hair into their wigs 1a 613 and then wonder why they don't have hair or claim natural hair so hard. It will never be a 613. It will never be 1a. Gotta accept that. I also refuse to use glue because it removes your edges. I'll put a head band on with lacefronts. If you like wigs, that's the best advice I can give u.
Thanks for sharing and so many great points using weave and wigs that match your hair texture for versatility is one thing dependency is another story 🤎🤎
Some wearing wigs do have self-esteem issues.
Issues that stem from constant Societal indoctrination to Hate 4c texture. Alter & or hide it to appease those in Systems of society who's decisions did & or can affect livelihoods.
However, on the other side are females who thoroughly love their hair and wear wigs because they like varying styles.
I agree🤎
I don’t wear wigs but I do have a question. So just asking, what about the women who wear wigs that actually have long beautiful hair sometimes longer than the wig but they choose to wear wigs for hairstyles they can’t wear like a bob or they don’t want to put heat on their natural long hair. What about those women?
I would ask What’s the point of having beautiful hair that you never show?
I don’t know if anyone is in the hair industry but I’ve been working in white salons most of my career and most of these women are wearing clips in and bleaching their hair to be blonde. Now they are even beginning to wear lace front wigs but of course no one is going to think that it’s fake because a lot of people subconsciously believe it’s theirs because they are white. And I know someone is going to say they are mimicking their hair texture so it’s different. Not necessarily because we have white women who come in with the most finest and thinnest hair and snap in clips in that are too thick for their texture.
Thanks for sharing your perspective as someone who works in salons…personally I still think it’s different because they are simply changes thickness not texture 🤎
@ agreed however people forget the “perms.” Believe it or not they still request those services as well. But it’s all love over here.
It’s been some black women with kinky clip ins that match their texture and I couldn’t tell it was fake. If you want the same advantage as those ww just wear weaves that blend with your natural leave out
My MIL went to a stylist who refused to ever show her natural hair. She didn’t want to take care of it. I can’t imagine. My has worn wigs and pieces because of alopecia she developed when she was young. I don’t blame her for not teaching me about hair, I have older sisters. But to feel like you are not feminine or not whole as a woman without a wig is so sad to me.
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i am forcing myself to be confident naturally. i do not care anymore. i am me.
Yes if being natural is affecting your overall peace and well being despite coily hair being the beauty standard on my channel I would always recommend doing what brings you peace. I personally feel like if wigs or weaves work best for you atleast let them match your hair texture🤎
I hate messages like this!!
Why?
@CoffeeCuties777 the message is belittling to black women and hypercritical to their choice on how to style their hair
@@nmhoskins A lot of black women feel this way because they don’t want to look at themselves in the mirror and make that change so it’s disguised as “belittling”. We should get back to loving ourselves. ❤
That's like with makeup too....I feel a lil bougie when I have on make-up lol but that's the point. I don't wear make-up every day. I definitely don't wear wigs every day either but I understand the dependency; its vanity. I love box braids, Senegalese twist, crochet styles etc because I can still itch and grease my scalp lol wigs to me are for occasions n I be ready to take it off immediately 😂
I am going to take my hair extension course in 2025, I don't want to hear anything from anyone!
Black woman can wear their hair and hair extensions and love them both!
Its easy for women to speak like that also when they don't have hair and scalp problems.
When other races of women are bleaching their hair, adding tape ins, micro rings and halo hair extensions, is anyone saying anything to them?
When I wore my short 4C hair for 5 years straight, did black people compliment or tear me down? Guess which one!
I will do what ever I want, especially as a professional hairdresser.
I’m not other races and I don’t compare myself to them. They get high off of ys wearing what resembles THEIR hair. Nah, I’m doing natural for myself and my future daughters
Why are y'all always bringing up other races of women? 🙄
It's such a lazy response.
Clearly if you have health issues, no one is talking to you. However, wigs may be making your health issues worse but that's between you and your dermatologist.
Lastly, how do you know what other races of women are discussing when it comes to their hair? Other races of women aren't wearing a head full of hair that looks the opposite of their natural hair.
Other races of women don't brag about wearing human hair that was shaved off of a woman's head in Asia. There is something serious sick about that.
I think the hair and scalp issue come from wearing wigs and weave so often.
The difference is that other races of women aren’t mostly wearing full wigs to cover their hair. They are also not wearing Afro texture extensions. They wear extensions that match their hair texture. Blacks rarely wear our hair texture weave.
We wear out traditional African Caribbean styles too! Braids, locs and twists.
Natural textures: We wear afros puffs and sew in too. Wash and go.
Again, when a person has no hair or scalp problems. When their hair is long and thick, it's easy to talk like this!!!
I'm natural. But I don't care what someone else has on their head... You don't know what people are going through.. and just because you have a head full of hair doesn't mean you don't have other deep rooted insecurities. If you don't like someones physical appearance just be quiet because that has nothing to do with you. And yes I have a auntie with cancer and a friend with hair down to her butt and I got a bald headed cousin and a gay employee and they all wear wigs. So what?
This video is not about people dealing with illnesses …this video is addressing the hair Dysmorphia and texturism within the black community that has been a problem for decades now. Wearing wigs for versatility is one thing but dependency can be a sign of mental illness and needs to be addressed 🤎
Nothing but facts
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I agree with her mostly but as long as women feel they can go farther (especially influencers), attract more ninjas, shrink their forehead, and adhere to a global beauty standard (generally) of long straight hair their gonna keep doing the same things. Relaxer, straight naturals, and wig girlies alike. Wigs especially because people are making money doing reviews/promoting different wigs. I follow 2 people who RESELL wigs. Im speaking from a perspective of a medium brown skin woman with high density hair and this woman being fair skinned also wouldnt know whats its like for a dark skin woman with fine low density, coily hair🤷🏾♀️
Great point…I want to find someone with dark skin and coily hair share their perspective as well because I do know some experiences are different 🤎
I have been getting other races asking me how to get a 90s blow out like mines.. i told them
Its called a silk press. I ditched me wigs a few months ago because my hair grew back. I had to shave my head and start over from bad relaxers in 2021. 2024 I have bra strap length hair and it’s big and beautiful hair. Just blows in the wind. So I used the wigs until my hair grew back. I’m free now❤ no relaxers ever
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People act like during their generation was so so long ago. Stop it. We only live for about 80 years. And during that time things change. I’m sure the Gen X ers did different things than the generation before them. I like the versatility of wearing my own hair and wigs. It’s up to that specific person.
Versatility is one thing dependency is another 🤎
I agree with the title. If you only feel confident, sexy and beautiful in a wig… you need some fixin
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I also will say when it comes down to make-up and lashes it’s not about getting it done. It’s about how it’s done you can have a full face of makeup, and it looks soft in the same way that you could have a full face of makeup and it looks heavy. and the same sense that you could have very little makeup on and the make up application looks crazy. I think it’s not fair to biological women to constantly be compared and accused of trying to look like women who aren’t biologically women all in the name of arguing for women to not wear make up all the time.
100% FACTS!!!!!
I agree. Makeup and lashes can look presentable and girly and elegant. However, my comment was pointing out how many black women go for the exaggerated look and as a result some of us end up looking like drag queens and trans women because many trans women and drag queens exaggerate their looks to come off as more feminine.
A few months ago black women were mad at Kai cenat and druski because they accused a biological black woman of being a trans woman but if you go back and look at how that woman looked, she did look like a trans woman because she was so over done.
Alot of women like bold glam thou 😂😂😂 that's the whole point of Hollywood glam it's for people to know it's make up it's glam culture
Wigs to me are more like eyelid tape than makeup. Some people consider eyelid tape makeup. This might be a cross cultural example so idk if you will get it (I live in East Asia) but basically this tape is used to change your eye shape + make your lids look double instead of getting surgery. Makeup in general isn't going to change a racial feature. Like unless you're doing white chicks make up with prosthetics and white foundation or something you're still gonna have your natural black features. However most wigs black women wear do not enhance their black features but change them. And yes, our hair is a phenotype. So no, I don't think it's the same as makeup.
I agree with that explanation…at first I was thinking what’s eyelid tape lol 😂 glad you broke it down🤎
Confidence and hair is a human problem by the way. From women to balding men. Its our own people constantly talking about whether you do or don't.
I do wear my 4C hair but sometimes I need a break. People don't know how much time consuming wearing that type of hair can be. She does not pay my bill. She cannot tell me what or what not to wear i only wear textures that look like my foresee hair. As well, I don't wear this straight
stringy stuff plus I protect my edges. I work stuff around my edges, when i'm wearing a wig, my edge is so good.
Exactly ✅
As long as there is balance and you wear your natural hair just as proudly, just as often or more… I personally think that’s ok
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I say if you’re going to wear wigs atleast much your texture and if it’s for versatility that’s one thing but if it’s dependency that another story🤎
@CoffeeCuties777 i love wearing my natural hair because I get too hot with wigs sometimes. That's why I do wear my natural hair most of the time. Plus you have to be very careful in protecting your hair when you are a wig. Because they can also break your hair off if not careful. 👍🏽
Ya’ll do realize women of other races wear hair extensions too, right? Why don’t people want BW to have that option? Also, our naturally textured hair straightens beautifully, so straight hair is an option for BW as well. Nobody is gonna change how they choose to wear their hair or live their life based on the natural hair community’s opinion of who has high and low self esteem. Live and let live.
Women of other races wear extensions that matches their natural texture and it's not a crutch.
Can we stop lying to ourselves for once and admit most Black women hate their hair. Other races, if they get weave, get weave that mimics their own texture. Our hair is not naturally straight. We have to do alot to make it straight and keep it straight. You think thats normal?
Girl, our dependency on fake hair is on a different game. You know that. I don’t mind fake hair, but let’s also have honest conversations about this topic.
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As someone who wears wigs it has nothing to do with having low self esteem. My wigs are an accessory because at the end of the day I’ll rock my natural short cut proudly too. It’s really none of your business what people do with their hair. You’re not paying for it and you don’t know these people. Let people do what makes them happy and y’all do what makes yall happy and go about your day. 💕
If you’re comfortable wearing your real hair and simply wear wigs for versatility that’s one thing and though this page centers coily hair at the end of the day bw are free to do as they please but if you can’t look at yourself and the mirror and feel comfortable and confident without a wig their maybe a bigger issue that needs to be discussed because so many black women suffer from hair Dysmorphia 🤎
@ this isn’t just a bw thing. All women do it. Which is why white women go platinum or get perms to change their texture. Or do keratin or Japanese straightening to make their hair straight and more manageable. Who’s to say a weave or wig can’t mimic black women’s hair when a good blow out or silk press can resemble Indian remy? Also, contrary to what the woman in the second video said, there are black women who are born blonde, it may not be platinum but even most ww aren’t naturally platinum. It’s rare. I just don’t think it’s right to diagnose a demographic with a mental illness due to what they decide to do with their appearance. At the end of the day it’s just hair(nails,lashes,makeup,etc) 🤷🏽♀️ it’s really not that deep.
Black women will always have ppl policing them and treating them like a child every other group can style and enhance them self except us white girls are dying their hair blonde it their not natural blonde and wearing extinction and they can be at peace black women cannot do anything
That’s like if someone had a pixie their whole life then decided to get a sew in . This lady would see that lady and be like self hate 😂smh.
Even me I was curly natural until 27 then had locs for 3 years combed them out . Now I have a flat iron. Yes I will be getting a sew in soon DOESNT mean I hate my hair 😂 just tired of short hair and need a break
Some women have illnesses and lose their hair. Thats whe. They should put on a wig
That’s true…I’m not referring to women with any type of illnesses🤎
I think women who take time out of their day to be worried about what someone else is doing with their hair is insecure. Maybe mind your business 😂 especially us being black women. The hell?
This page is all about embracing coily natural hair as things such as texturism within the black community is a real thing so it’s definitely our business as black women🤎🤎
There are plenty of black women who wear their natural hair nobody else police 🚨 other groups of women that wear extensions look at white they are all blonde their hair nobody bother them if we wear locs it's a problem braids it's a problem weave it a problem dam!!! man it's just hair it ain surgery their is only slight changes in appearance with hair changes like Adriana lima straighten her hair or megan fox dye hers but if your ugly a wig can't save you leave ppl alone
I just like to cosplay 😊
Cosplaying and versatility is one thing but dependency is a different story🤎
How bothered do you have to be as a person to care if someone has a wig or not ? This is our problem we focus on shit that doesn’t even matter. White women wear wigs and they don’t tear down their own race like this. This gotta stop. It’s more important things going on in the world.
Tell me the last time you saw a white lady in a kinky wig or Afro clip ins, I’ll wait.
Say you wear wigs without saying you wear wigs 😂 the other races at least wear hair that matches their OWN hair texture, that's the difference
@@apinkheelI have natural red hair and I’ve always had an Afro. I recently cut my hair and I’ve have worn a shaved head , pixie cut and wigs. I wear whatever I want because I can 🤷🏽♀️.
This is about blk wmn who have low self esteem surrounding their natural hair. We shouldn't want that for us. Wigs should be an option not the 'only' option because we hate our natural hair.
I agree ⬆️
She doesn't even have 4C hair so she is not the right spokesperson! I have no mental illness thank you!
Exactly, she’s a racially ambiguous preference. She does not represent/speak for me at all. She’s privileged speaking for women who cannot relate to her
Her hair was in a twist out so how can u really tell.. & What's so hard about 4c hair?
@ctay4sho09 yes, I can tell by just looking at it. It's not for 4C type of hair.
Her hair is definitely not 4c not it looks like it maybe be 3c/4a mixture but regardless of her hair type I shared the video because I agreed with the talking points but I would love to have black women with 4c hair share their perspective as well to give more depth
to the conversation.
I also don’t consider her a “preference “ sue to being racially ambiguous because men are not the focus in my opinion when it comes to viewing yourself as a preference that confidence comes from within🤎
@CoffeeCuties777 Thanks for your comment💖🙏🏽 i just want to say you do good videos. I like watching your channel. I've learned a lot.
A white hair stylist that cut my hair into a bob suggested that I wear my hair natural most of the time to grow it out.
That’s good to hear🤎